same man, when he was talking about how they fell in love my heart sank. it was so sad that right when he felt he found the person who actually understood him, it was taken away from him just like that :(
This sucks so much. I don't think OP's cheating wife is much of an actual geek. My husband and I are in our 50s. We were geeks before it was cool. Went to all the conventions etc and started bringing our kids along as well. They are the same as us, as are their partners and all their friends. Not once has anyone in any of our, or our kids' , friend groups been a cheater. I don't believe true geeks are built to cheat. We are at heart absolute romantics and it isn't in our nature. So we don't claim this filthy wife. She's just a pretender.
It's so sad to see that he expects reddit to call him selfish for hanging up on his abusive family. It goes to show just how much he's been gaslit and manipulated, if he genuinely thinks he did anything wrong there. He's been way kinder to them than most people would. I would have left them to the bill at the restaurant, for one, without remorse.
They never allowed him to see their house I'd have done some digging if I were him, I'm betting everything they told him were lies they're not poor Dad didn't lose his job they just wanted to use OP out of spite.
I think his mother had a lot to do with his decision she was so grateful to them for making it possible for them to have a child she thought like herself they were kind, once she found out how rotten they are she stopped encouraging him to help them.
The first time was understandable, the second should have ended with "I don't normally take strangers to dinner like this, so don't expect anything else." Because at that point the emotions have run their course.
@@TheyCallMeJay Even after hanging up in his last update, he literally expected the reddit community to call him selfish for it. He's been gaslit and abused by that family to the point where he genuinely thinks he did something wrong, and that's sad. He's a doormat, but I wouldn't say it in a mean way, it's not his fault.
@@TheyCallMeJayyou do understand that people can be abused right? He was abandoned by his family & abused by them, I'm sorry someone who was abused isn't right in the head & a "doormat". He isn't a doormat, he's a abused victim who thought his parents have changed. Yeah get your head on straight & stop calling people "doormats" when they've obviously been abused
It's incredible how absolutely beyond useless some parents can be. I can't imagine discarding or abandoning my own child the future of a family of humanity. Not just like this insane level of adopting a child for no reason but even just emotionally. Unfathomable. I do understand it does happen and the mechanisms of how but still to imagine myself thinking like that is just mind numbing.
"Call me selfish all you want" Dude, you gave 20K$ to strangers. I know Reddit is a wild place, but surely not to the extend of claiming this wasn't enough?
Too many people benefit from the 'sympathy industrial complex' to leave him alone. It's never enough, they'll even make you vote for their candidates after you're already 6 feet under.
Story 2: So she claims she wants an open relationship, yet she ALSO got mad a girl flirted with him while she was already cheating... I don't believe you in any way. You didn't want him to date anyone else, and you'd make sure to block any time he might have a date, because that's how the story ALWAYS plays out.
For anyone annoyed that OP gave his old abusive family money, that’s what trauma does to you. I wish his adopted family had gotten him therapy because sadly there was always going to be a part of him hoping his bio family would accept him, hence why he kept even giving them the time of day. Was it stupid? Yes. But hopefully now he truly has learned his lesson and stays away from those toxic jerks forever.
Given how he talked about how poor they were growing up, Therapy was probably never an option for them. That would have been extremely expensive, and they barely managed to get him into school. I do enjoy that they essentially said 'You can do it if you want, but be careful' Kinda implying that they might have let him fall down and feel the pain of hitting the ground once so that he would learn immediately that doing it again would be a bad idea.
Not gonna like I kinda blame his true parents (the one who raised them). He was gonna cut his biological family off at first but then his (true/adopted) mother convinced to let bygones be bygones and even stated that she was proud of him for helping them financially in the first place. I get that they are nice people and probably believe in forgiveness but they kinda set him up to be taken advantage of by telling him to allow these types of people back into his life.
this is beyond disgusting, abandoning a child because of their gender and then expecting them to help you. Even more, telling a child if you knew their gender you would have aborted them is just even more disgusting, it takes them from horrible people to just monsters, not even something you could considered human
I think one of the worst things about OP's childhood was that his parents dressed him like a girl and opened him up to the abuse of his peers sheerly because they just couldn't be bothered to buy him boy's clothes. It wasn't even gender dysphoria or forcing him to act like a girl, they just literally could not be bothered to even buy him the right kind of clothing.
Forgiveness helps sure but blindly forgiving them is doing injustice to yourself and your soul which was traumatized by them. Forgiving abusers is not always the best thing to do, rather hold them accountable and set a line before actually forgiving them for their unremorseful and abusive actions. If you are feeling bit resentful, you might as well make life harder for them, I would do that but that's just me.
I will disagree, as there is a difference between forgiving, and being a doormat. Forgiving would be to let go of the negative feelings towards someone, and not letting them live in his head. Being a doormat would be to return to the abuse. How do I know? I dealt with major issues with extended family, and shit so bad it could make someone spin. I spent a number of years just angry at them, that I only ended up wasting that time on nothing, but being a leech. It took me years to realize that I couldn't just stay where I was, so I had to let go, and move on, so that way I didn't have to live angry and resentful. I forgave them, but I've never called them back. I have no interest to, and I don't need them. Just because someone forgives another, doesn't mean they have to become a doormat. There's a difference between Harlequin from Batman "forgiving" Joker and constantly going back to his abuse, and Mary Jane Parker forgiving her narcissistic father who lived in California, and returning to live with her husband Spider-Man and never even bothering to see him ever again.
Maybe in a Small Way, Mary was too naïve to think that Opie’s parents would change when they didn’t. Maybe marie just wanted OP to not have hate in his heart which I can understand, but I wouldn’t consider Mary evil. She was probably just so naïve she didn’t know any better, but thankfully went nope he said everything it brought her back to reality.
@@cocoino2307 Agreed. Many people misunderstand the word "forgiveness". They think it's a synonym for the word "doormat". They don't understand the battle to find peace of mind afterwards, and letting go of the wrong that was done towards a person. Forgiveness is about the person him or herself. Not the person who committed the crime.
This guys biological family (especially the mother) actually need to be taken out back and taught a lesson. This is genuinely infuriating to listen to.
I would have told him very rudely "Don't touch me EVER" and I would follow up by saying "You are not my father nor do you have the right to be proud." And them tell him "LEAVE" They made their bed, now they have to sleep in it.
If I were the guy in the first story I’d think twice before sending them any amount money . Or at least send them like 1 grand instead of 20k out of pity and that’d be the end of it. And the fact those parents had the audacity to tell the dude that they deserved it cause they’re the ones that found him good guardians - I’d legit ask them why they even had to find the guardians in the first place.
Hearing about how happy his family was to give him away made me break down in tears. How horrible. I’m so glad OP found a family that loves him for who he is. No little boy or girl deserves to go through that. I hugged my own after listening to that story.
these parents are horrible people, and I hope they are reading this. they don't deserve to be parents, they shouldve saved their son from their horrible parenting and put him up for adoption from birth, and not ruin his early childhood with their exsistance
Story 1: Dude was way more polite than I would have been. Seriously, I would have turned them down at the first request for money. I have no brain to mouth filter and the shit that would have came out of my mouth would have been acidic and venomous.
Those new parents ofc taught you to be the bigger man. Thank God for that, that’s very admirable and even if your old family ended up proving you right. Not many people take the time to be the bigger person and I’m happy for you
Why in the blue blazes would OP from Story #1 think people would call him cruel for not giving money to the family that abandoned him? If anything, people would be mad if he DID give them money. Let the little "princesses" work for college like everyone else. Or go to trade school as a cheaper alternative. Either way those two aren't OP's sisters and are not his responsibility. The abandoning, attempted prodigal parents CERTAINLY are not his responsibility either. Sucks to suck!
There are a lot of people in the world that think you should love, respect and be grateful to blood relatives, regardless of what they may have done to you. And if that has been drilled into you when you've been young, it can be hard to let go off.
"I was thinking about ghosting them at the restaurant before the bill, but that would have been too severe." *NO IT WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN* They abandoned you for 20 YEARS! That would have been a deserved punishment for a first date where someone starts acting like this - these people have done far, far worse!
This sucks, and ironically, it's similar to what happened to one of my friends (except they disowned her when she was 14). She's Indian (to give some cultural context, but disclaimer: not all Indians are like this), and they were very upset when they realised they gave birth to a girl. The constantly tried to hide her, but my country's policy is it is a legal requirement for kids to attend school until they are 16, so she had to go to school. They tried their best to disrupt her homework and keep her at home without being allowed to visit friends etc. When they found out at school she wanted to be an engineer, and was getting better grades than her older brother was when he was in her year level, they tried to pull her out of school. When she refused and became oppositional, not doing as she was supposed to at home etc they disowned her. One of our other friends' family took her in, raised her, helped her with schooling and practically became her parents. She didn't want to be a burden on them and became self-sufficient, moving out when she graduated high school, and is now in her last year of studying engineering. She is doing a final internship and has a position waiting for her when she graduates. Times are tough here (my country is about to enter a recession, and some measures such GDP per capita say we're already in a recessions) and so her brother lost his job. They contacted her for the first time since disowning her just over 10 years ago and asked if she could help him get a job at that company. Or if not, if she could send him money since he's struggling to provide for his SAH wife. My friend is different though- she said "might as well call another stranger and ask the same thing", hung up and blocked them and other numbers from extended family that continued to try to call her for the next few weeks. She says she's just repaying them back for the past 10 years and said in 10 years time she'll consider helping them, but she's sure they won't need her in 10 years time.
Damn I was almost forced to give up my baby, simply because the father was psycho, controlling possessive and abusive and valued the fetus as an object and wanted it dead over having no control over it. I had him put in jail after the final beating and only left for the survival of the child, and then my sister and family started pressuring me for abortion, and knowing that my ex would eventually come out of jail, I tried planning out going to women's shelters and mind started to think I wasn't gonna make it on my own long term and finally had to consider adoption. But because this was days after that attack my body couldn't handle the stress and I lost it. I lost my mind too, would've done anything to keep that baby, just didn't know that evil man would be the one I'd conceive my first with. Sometimes parents don't want to give up their kids and would risk everything to keep them and it sucks that they did this to you over a petty stupid thing like "Oh I don't want a boy." Babies and human life are not pets idiots! Sometimes like in my case the wrong pair of losers get together and shouldn't be allowed to reproduce period.
Honestly, I'd have been open to reconciling with the sisters, but the events at the restaurant show they've grown up to be like their parents unsurprisingly.
Can’t help but imagine someone like perhaps Dee Bradley Baker saying something like “I’m a clone trooper, not a marriage counselor or Doctor Phil, I’m signing out!”
1st story: OP should’ve just calculated how much money they spent on him in that 6 years (won’t be much anyways as they didn’t treat him well), thrown it at their face and said “Thank you for the courier service. Package delivered properly” cause that’s what they were.. a friggin UPS from birth to 6 years.
Seriously giving your child for adoption just because he's a boy???? I shouldn't even think you should have paid them 20k and then they ask u like to pay a bill At a restaurant with the father saying "My SoN iS A BIg mAN now". Then ask u to pay for ur sisters college is Crazy
If OP wants to help their egg and sperm donors, he should tell them he'll do it under these conditions: 1. To pay back the money they want to repay from the friends they borrowed from, he'll write each one a check if they tell them WHY they kicked him out in his presence to ensure honesty. 2. His sisters' education will only be paid with him present to ensure he only gives the exact amount to pay it and nothing else.
"i go home and tell mary about my greedy family she the urges me not to be a fool again" mfer mary u was the one who told him to forgive his family and give them money to help. smh
@@linefire9870This. Mary clearly has never seen the true darkness of humanity. This is why some people don’t believe survivors of abuse. Because they think it’s a rare thing you just see on tv or the news but they can’t actually imagine it happening in real life.
Story 1's bio parents didn't understand the assignment. It wasn't their responsibility to FIND good guardians for their son. It was their responsibility to BE good guardians for their son.
Forgiveness is a difficult topic. One thing is sure however, that anyone who has wronged you who wishes to mend, must start with an apology without any conditions or strings attached. To precede any mending with a request for money is a clear sign that person is not penitent.
I was born in to a family of all girls, my sister was 1 year older than me and my aunt is 4 months younger than men. And for the first 5 years I was dressed as a girl, all my family in clouding my sister would tell me that I didn't have parents and they found in a trash can, I got picked on cause my skin color. Finally moved to another country with my mom and stepdad. My mom was so so with me, but would move heaven and earth for my sister. Stepdad champ to me I call him dad to this day, even after him and my mom has been split for over a decade.
So they didn't bother contacting him for 20 years and when they finally do, the first thing it's about money? How can you be so easily manipulated and emotionally abused, that's sad for a grown adult.
Story 1: Never loan money to anyone without a contract. Personal loan agreements are important to protect both the person giving and the person receiving the loan. Don't let family try to pull that attachment bs. Never put yourself in a worse situation for others that wouldn't do the same for you.
Me and husband also gamers, we met through MMORPG. The furthest we ever got with cheating was me with my husbandos and him with the cat. I also call the cat his mistress. Recently she disappeared for quite sometime only to come back to drop her 4 kittens on us and expect me to adopt them. The nerve.
Mate why would you give them money. They hated you. If leaving you with some random poor family wasn’t proof enough. I mean yeah they turned out to be good people but they didn’t know in hine sight. For all they cared they got rid of you and they were glad with that. Whatever happens afterwards it’s no their problem
Somehow, the awful title doesn't do the story enough justice... man, OP was punished on so many levels just for EXISTING! John and Mary are true angels and saviors.
@@sarahgimas fair enough, but 90% of stories in this channel are from the US, kinda convenient, also OP did not mention the legal aspect of adoption, also adopted family was so poor OP couldn’t go to school but they paid college for OP and had saving for him?
@@F40PH-2CAT But the character's behaviors are legit synchronizing with the current standards of the people. Even if the story seems fake, there are people who actually have these behavior
What a couple of disgusting people.. good god don’t give them money don’t call them. Mary and Jon raised you loved you and took care of you. They are your mother and father
Story two, did happen, not as it as clean or neat as it sounded. Security was called to escort them out. The talent was Mat Mercer and Tara Strong. They left because they were in honest fear for their safety since 'OP in Story 2' and his wife sounded unhinged. This happened Pre-Covid.
Story 2: a lot of people confuse having a lot in common with someone for love. My experience is that sharing a ton of common interests is where friendships get started, not loving relationships. The people who love you tend to be people who don’t have as much in common with you, but their love for you causes them to find out about your interests and participate, and vice versa. Find you a girl who you like enough that you’ll watch Bravo with her and who loves you enough she’ll be an extra player for board game night without complaints. The person who just shares every hobby you have tends to either 1) ditch you when they find someone who gives them the actual thunderbolt or 2) be faking it so he/she can be your “perfect one”
Any time friends or relatives who have had little or no contact with you and/or have abused you in any way ask you for money for bills, tell them you will help them but you will pay the bills directly to the company/doctor/hospital, and see how they react. If they throw a fit, they're giving you a sob story to get money. If they are ok with you paying the bills directly, make sure you limit your help otherwise they will just expect you to pay those bills all the time, forever.
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In the second story, when OP said "She was my player 2...", that just broke my heart. I wish him the best of luck in the journey of genuine love.
same man, when he was talking about how they fell in love my heart sank. it was so sad that right when he felt he found the person who actually understood him, it was taken away from him just like that :(
Bro he said they discussed one piece if she didn’t cheat that be the best match
@@Giyus_Solo_Texts One Piece wasn't enough for her
@@guyjackson1261 fr annoying bi
This sucks so much. I don't think OP's cheating wife is much of an actual geek. My husband and I are in our 50s. We were geeks before it was cool. Went to all the conventions etc and started bringing our kids along as well. They are the same as us, as are their partners and all their friends. Not once has anyone in any of our, or our kids' , friend groups been a cheater. I don't believe true geeks are built to cheat. We are at heart absolute romantics and it isn't in our nature. So we don't claim this filthy wife. She's just a pretender.
It's so sad to see that he expects reddit to call him selfish for hanging up on his abusive family. It goes to show just how much he's been gaslit and manipulated, if he genuinely thinks he did anything wrong there. He's been way kinder to them than most people would. I would have left them to the bill at the restaurant, for one, without remorse.
They never allowed him to see their house I'd have done some digging if I were him, I'm betting everything they told him were lies they're not poor Dad didn't lose his job they just wanted to use OP out of spite.
Can we connect OP's biological parents to some very skilled scammers? Get his bio parents to be scammed into bankruptcy.
This ain't some Reddit stories, just a made up stories putting anything that might sound good
This could not be more true.
They hated you and by your admission, showed 0 remorse. By agreeing to still throw money at them despite this, you are approving their behavior.
I think his mother had a lot to do with his decision she was so grateful to them for making it possible for them to have a child she thought like herself they were kind, once she found out how rotten they are she stopped encouraging him to help them.
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He threw money at them to see if they have actually changed, because it had been years. It was a test. The second time was more like a bruh moment.
@@sugakookie7985 I don't see how she could've thought they were kind if they gave him up for adoption for no reason.
@@Ebunoluwa13 we do not know what the dad told them why he wannt to give op away. i would bet on some sad story of , to poor bla bla bla
did anyone else get really annoyed that he kept giving his money to his family
Yeah, I said 'doormat' out loud a few times lol
The first time was understandable, the second should have ended with "I don't normally take strangers to dinner like this, so don't expect anything else." Because at that point the emotions have run their course.
@@TheyCallMeJay Even after hanging up in his last update, he literally expected the reddit community to call him selfish for it. He's been gaslit and abused by that family to the point where he genuinely thinks he did something wrong, and that's sad.
He's a doormat, but I wouldn't say it in a mean way, it's not his fault.
@cocogoat2131 I agree he's been manipulated but as an adult and someone who clearly has his head on his shoulders, it shouldn't of got to that point
@@TheyCallMeJayyou do understand that people can be abused right?
He was abandoned by his family & abused by them, I'm sorry someone who was abused isn't right in the head & a "doormat".
He isn't a doormat, he's a abused victim who thought his parents have changed.
Yeah get your head on straight & stop calling people "doormats" when they've obviously been abused
It's incredible how absolutely beyond useless some parents can be. I can't imagine discarding or abandoning my own child the future of a family of humanity. Not just like this insane level of adopting a child for no reason but even just emotionally. Unfathomable. I do understand it does happen and the mechanisms of how but still to imagine myself thinking like that is just mind numbing.
Its incredible how some people can belive that this story isn't fake
@@Blanquefort It's incredible how sheltered you are to think nothing bad ever happens.
Remember, everyone... Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child.
@@Seafor-v4lHis adoptive parents deserved him. I wonder if the reason they adopted him was because they knew how he was treated.
i havent even finished the story but the title already tells about their damn audacity
I haven't started the story but I can already tell it's the fakest fake story that ever was fake.
@Shonem it's turbo fake. Don't worry you guessed right.
@@Dangerpurple These things can happen in real life people are crazy
@@dankmemes8619These things can happen in real life people are crazy
@@goodside1807 fax *mechanical whirring ensues* (i have a curse that anything i say comes to life)
"Call me selfish all you want"
Dude, you gave 20K$ to strangers. I know Reddit is a wild place, but surely not to the extend of claiming this wasn't enough?
It only goes to show how gaslit this guy has been. He genuinely thinks he did something wrong.
Reddit: you will never find a more wretched hive of villainy and scum!
This shows how f-ked up someone can be...
Too many people benefit from the 'sympathy industrial complex' to leave him alone. It's never enough, they'll even make you vote for their candidates after you're already 6 feet under.
Story 2: So she claims she wants an open relationship, yet she ALSO got mad a girl flirted with him while she was already cheating... I don't believe you in any way. You didn't want him to date anyone else, and you'd make sure to block any time he might have a date, because that's how the story ALWAYS plays out.
Not to defend the cheater but he didn't mention she was mad about it, could have been she said it like "Damn that girl all over you😂"
he said she got frustrated.@@asnalem4391
@@asnalem4391 he did say she was frustrated, but that could be like, hey someoes ito him i can use this as a point to openghe relatioship
Story 2: OP totally pulled an Order 66 on those two... Palpatine would be proud.
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Op is really a saint. His heart is really made of gold may god bless him
For anyone annoyed that OP gave his old abusive family money, that’s what trauma does to you. I wish his adopted family had gotten him therapy because sadly there was always going to be a part of him hoping his bio family would accept him, hence why he kept even giving them the time of day. Was it stupid? Yes. But hopefully now he truly has learned his lesson and stays away from those toxic jerks forever.
Given how he talked about how poor they were growing up, Therapy was probably never an option for them. That would have been extremely expensive, and they barely managed to get him into school. I do enjoy that they essentially said 'You can do it if you want, but be careful' Kinda implying that they might have let him fall down and feel the pain of hitting the ground once so that he would learn immediately that doing it again would be a bad idea.
Well john and mary probably couldn't afford it
Trauma doesn't do that to people, cowardice and stupidity does.
Because at his core, that's who/what he is: a stupid coward.
Not gonna like I kinda blame his true parents (the one who raised them). He was gonna cut his biological family off at first but then his (true/adopted) mother convinced to let bygones be bygones and even stated that she was proud of him for helping them financially in the first place. I get that they are nice people and probably believe in forgiveness but they kinda set him up to be taken advantage of by telling him to allow these types of people back into his life.
whats his number, i need money too
this is beyond disgusting, abandoning a child because of their gender and then expecting them to help you. Even more, telling a child if you knew their gender you would have aborted them is just even more disgusting, it takes them from horrible people to just monsters, not even something you could considered human
I think one of the worst things about OP's childhood was that his parents dressed him like a girl and opened him up to the abuse of his peers sheerly because they just couldn't be bothered to buy him boy's clothes. It wasn't even gender dysphoria or forcing him to act like a girl, they just literally could not be bothered to even buy him the right kind of clothing.
agreed, that horrible @@TsukaiStarburst
It makes you not feel sorry when their house gets plagued (Shakespearean context)
@@notproductiveproductions3504 what, why are you saying it in a Shakespearean context, that just makes you sound pretentious
@@LandonPoland if you found something as simple as specifying a certain type of context “pretentious” that says more about you
Forgiveness helps sure but blindly forgiving them is doing injustice to yourself and your soul which was traumatized by them. Forgiving abusers is not always the best thing to do, rather hold them accountable and set a line before actually forgiving them for their unremorseful and abusive actions. If you are feeling bit resentful, you might as well make life harder for them, I would do that but that's just me.
I will disagree, as there is a difference between forgiving, and being a doormat.
Forgiving would be to let go of the negative feelings towards someone, and not letting them live in his head.
Being a doormat would be to return to the abuse.
How do I know? I dealt with major issues with extended family, and shit so bad it could make someone spin. I spent a number of years just angry at them, that I only ended up wasting that time on nothing, but being a leech. It took me years to realize that I couldn't just stay where I was, so I had to let go, and move on, so that way I didn't have to live angry and resentful. I forgave them, but I've never called them back. I have no interest to, and I don't need them.
Just because someone forgives another, doesn't mean they have to become a doormat. There's a difference between Harlequin from Batman "forgiving" Joker and constantly going back to his abuse, and Mary Jane Parker forgiving her narcissistic father who lived in California, and returning to live with her husband Spider-Man and never even bothering to see him ever again.
For me "Forgiveness" would be something similar to Consider Them to be Dead.
I mean, you aren't expected to "forgive" something that Doesn't Exist...
I know Mary is probably just a sweet old lady that doesn't like confrontation but preassuring OP to forgive is evil.
Maybe in a Small Way, Mary was too naïve to think that Opie’s parents would change when they didn’t. Maybe marie just wanted OP to not have hate in his heart which I can understand, but I wouldn’t consider Mary evil. She was probably just so naïve she didn’t know any better, but thankfully went nope he said everything it brought her back to reality.
He can forgive them and will give him peace of mind but he shouldn't interact or help them in any way
@@cocoino2307 Agreed. Many people misunderstand the word "forgiveness". They think it's a synonym for the word "doormat". They don't understand the battle to find peace of mind afterwards, and letting go of the wrong that was done towards a person. Forgiveness is about the person him or herself. Not the person who committed the crime.
@@cocoino2307, you don’t have to forgive them to gain peace of mind.
@@Keiji555, ye, no. You can still gain peace of mind without forgiving them. You can just forget about them.
This guys biological family (especially the mother) actually need to be taken out back and taught a lesson.
This is genuinely infuriating to listen to.
I can't believe how delulu they were..
Story 2: Where's that video of him confronting his ex wife?
5 MONTHS LATER GUYS WHERE IT AT 😭
I would have told him very rudely "Don't touch me EVER" and I would follow up by saying "You are not my father nor do you have the right to be proud." And them tell him "LEAVE" They made their bed, now they have to sleep in it.
Well john wouldn't have ordered "most expensive dish" coz he knows the hard work that went behind the money😊😊
Wow, the unmitigated gall of those bio-parents in the first story!!! The narcissism is unbelievable.
I cannot say a bad word about OP, John and Mary are the most loving parents ever.
If I were the guy in the first story I’d think twice before sending them any amount money . Or at least send them like 1 grand instead of 20k out of pity and that’d be the end of it.
And the fact those parents had the audacity to tell the dude that they deserved it cause they’re the ones that found him good guardians - I’d legit ask them why they even had to find the guardians in the first place.
Hearing about how happy his family was to give him away made me break down in tears. How horrible. I’m so glad OP found a family that loves him for who he is. No little boy or girl deserves to go through that. I hugged my own after listening to that story.
these parents are horrible people, and I hope they are reading this. they don't deserve to be parents, they shouldve saved their son from their horrible parenting and put him up for adoption from birth, and not ruin his early childhood with their exsistance
Story 1: Dude was way more polite than I would have been. Seriously, I would have turned them down at the first request for money. I have no brain to mouth filter and the shit that would have came out of my mouth would have been acidic and venomous.
op1 so afraid that the internet will dislike him for being heartless that he forces everyont to dislike him for being a spineless doormat
Those new parents ofc taught you to be the bigger man. Thank God for that, that’s very admirable and even if your old family ended up proving you right. Not many people take the time to be the bigger person and I’m happy for you
Why in the blue blazes would OP from Story #1 think people would call him cruel for not giving money to the family that abandoned him? If anything, people would be mad if he DID give them money.
Let the little "princesses" work for college like everyone else. Or go to trade school as a cheaper alternative. Either way those two aren't OP's sisters and are not his responsibility. The abandoning, attempted prodigal parents CERTAINLY are not his responsibility either. Sucks to suck!
There are a lot of people in the world that think you should love, respect and be grateful to blood relatives, regardless of what they may have done to you. And if that has been drilled into you when you've been young, it can be hard to let go off.
"I was thinking about ghosting them at the restaurant before the bill, but that would have been too severe."
*NO IT WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN* They abandoned you for 20 YEARS! That would have been a deserved punishment for a first date where someone starts acting like this - these people have done far, far worse!
You can’t blame him for destroying the clothes anymore
some people should not be allowed to become parents
This sucks, and ironically, it's similar to what happened to one of my friends (except they disowned her when she was 14). She's Indian (to give some cultural context, but disclaimer: not all Indians are like this), and they were very upset when they realised they gave birth to a girl. The constantly tried to hide her, but my country's policy is it is a legal requirement for kids to attend school until they are 16, so she had to go to school. They tried their best to disrupt her homework and keep her at home without being allowed to visit friends etc. When they found out at school she wanted to be an engineer, and was getting better grades than her older brother was when he was in her year level, they tried to pull her out of school. When she refused and became oppositional, not doing as she was supposed to at home etc they disowned her. One of our other friends' family took her in, raised her, helped her with schooling and practically became her parents. She didn't want to be a burden on them and became self-sufficient, moving out when she graduated high school, and is now in her last year of studying engineering. She is doing a final internship and has a position waiting for her when she graduates. Times are tough here (my country is about to enter a recession, and some measures such GDP per capita say we're already in a recessions) and so her brother lost his job. They contacted her for the first time since disowning her just over 10 years ago and asked if she could help him get a job at that company. Or if not, if she could send him money since he's struggling to provide for his SAH wife. My friend is different though- she said "might as well call another stranger and ask the same thing", hung up and blocked them and other numbers from extended family that continued to try to call her for the next few weeks. She says she's just repaying them back for the past 10 years and said in 10 years time she'll consider helping them, but she's sure they won't need her in 10 years time.
She's badass
"Selfish, Cruel"
Badass. That was badass.
Overdue is what it was.
Oh my God…OP, if you have a middle name, it would be “Welcome”. They _abandoned_ you! You owe them nothing! They were abusive!
At the end of story 1 i was like: Damn, this is what you should have done in the first place
The POV handled this a lot nicer than I would have
Op in story 1 was such a doormat. At least he snapped out of it at the end.
Damn I was almost forced to give up my baby, simply because the father was psycho, controlling possessive and abusive and valued the fetus as an object and wanted it dead over having no control over it. I had him put in jail after the final beating and only left for the survival of the child, and then my sister and family started pressuring me for abortion, and knowing that my ex would eventually come out of jail, I tried planning out going to women's shelters and mind started to think I wasn't gonna make it on my own long term and finally had to consider adoption. But because this was days after that attack my body couldn't handle the stress and I lost it. I lost my mind too, would've done anything to keep that baby, just didn't know that evil man would be the one I'd conceive my first with. Sometimes parents don't want to give up their kids and would risk everything to keep them and it sucks that they did this to you over a petty stupid thing like "Oh I don't want a boy." Babies and human life are not pets idiots! Sometimes like in my case the wrong pair of losers get together and shouldn't be allowed to reproduce period.
Absolutely disgusting. These parents are the worse.
Story 1= That was what I wanted you to say!!! Pretend you have NO IDEA about THEM!!!!
An "open relationship" is not a relationship.
Honestly, I'd have been open to reconciling with the sisters, but the events at the restaurant show they've grown up to be like their parents unsurprisingly.
Can’t help but imagine someone like perhaps Dee Bradley Baker saying something like “I’m a clone trooper, not a marriage counselor or Doctor Phil, I’m signing out!”
1st story: OP should’ve just calculated how much money they spent on him in that 6 years (won’t be much anyways as they didn’t treat him well), thrown it at their face and said “Thank you for the courier service. Package delivered properly” cause that’s what they were.. a friggin UPS from birth to 6 years.
Seriously giving your child for adoption just because he's a boy???? I shouldn't even think you should have paid them 20k and then they ask u like to pay a bill At a restaurant with the father saying "My SoN iS A BIg mAN now". Then ask u to pay for ur sisters college is Crazy
SMH this one pissed me off, I would never help someone who kicked me while I was down..
If OP wants to help their egg and sperm donors, he should tell them he'll do it under these conditions:
1. To pay back the money they want to repay from the friends they borrowed from, he'll write each one a check if they tell them WHY they kicked him out in his presence to ensure honesty.
2. His sisters' education will only be paid with him present to ensure he only gives the exact amount to pay it and nothing else.
Selfish? No. A little stupid? Absolutely.
"i go home and tell mary about my greedy family she the urges me not to be a fool again"
mfer mary u was the one who told him to forgive his family and give them money to help.
smh
I don't think she knew they were rotten at that time
some ppl are so pure, they don't know how shitty other people can be.
@@linefire9870This. Mary clearly has never seen the true darkness of humanity. This is why some people don’t believe survivors of abuse. Because they think it’s a rare thing you just see on tv or the news but they can’t actually imagine it happening in real life.
Story 1's bio parents didn't understand the assignment. It wasn't their responsibility to FIND good guardians for their son. It was their responsibility to BE good guardians for their son.
Bro got the doctor doofinshmertz beginning
Im rather shocked child services weren't called on the parents for the abuse. Hell even the school should of taken notice and done somthing
They don't lern when they don't see the consequences.
lol bro said "whatever you call me, selfish, cruel" like bro I don't think I would be able to stay that calm😅
Proud of this dude man.
Forgiveness is a difficult topic. One thing is sure however, that anyone who has wronged you who wishes to mend, must start with an apology without any conditions or strings attached. To precede any mending with a request for money is a clear sign that person is not penitent.
Story 1: op is the ah, but for wasting 20k on those heartless people.
Honestly, when they had pulled that restaurant crap I would've dipped after reminding them to pay up the 20 grand.
You mean "everyone sucks here" (except for john and mary)
I support you brother you did the right thing
That mother never deserved to be a mother
As a guy who literally does 150 push ups per day for 100 days I can say
It's fuckin painful
huh
Reduce it to a 100, and add 100 sit-ups, 100 squats, and 10 km run. Do it every day for a year and a half.
@@prophetofthemightysquirrel5434
I love the reference 😂
@@samariumproductions5287 yes my for amrs hurt so does my biceps
I don’t believe you
I was born in to a family of all girls, my sister was 1 year older than me and my aunt is 4 months younger than men. And for the first 5 years I was dressed as a girl, all my family in clouding my sister would tell me that I didn't have parents and they found in a trash can, I got picked on cause my skin color. Finally moved to another country with my mom and stepdad. My mom was so so with me, but would move heaven and earth for my sister. Stepdad champ to me I call him dad to this day, even after him and my mom has been split for over a decade.
Some of these stories make you wonder if you live on the same planet as them
First story sounds like shit outta Disney 💀
Dude, Cinderella evil step mom vibes
ChatGPT has lots of sources.
Unfortunately there are situations like the first OP's that happens in reality. It's an evil world we live in lad.
At least he wasn’t raised by ocelots 😂
So they didn't bother contacting him for 20 years and when they finally do, the first thing it's about money? How can you be so easily manipulated and emotionally abused, that's sad for a grown adult.
Story 1: Never loan money to anyone without a contract. Personal loan agreements are important to protect both the person giving and the person receiving the loan. Don't let family try to pull that attachment bs. Never put yourself in a worse situation for others that wouldn't do the same for you.
11:25 u have nothing to do huh?
Leave them with the f-ing bill and RUN
RUN BOY GO GO
Op congratulations on putting those evil people in your rear view mirror live happily
Don't enable them, dude. They literally threw you away like trash, but then you gave them money like an award for being """best parents on Earth"""??
0:34 *the sentiments of bad parents, in no circumstance should you mistreat your child because they were unplanned
Me and husband also gamers, we met through MMORPG. The furthest we ever got with cheating was me with my husbandos and him with the cat. I also call the cat his mistress. Recently she disappeared for quite sometime only to come back to drop her 4 kittens on us and expect me to adopt them. The nerve.
Bruh
How did you both met through an MMORPG game and met irl wtf 😭
so they hated him because he was a boy? parents had major issues
Mate why would you give them money. They hated you. If leaving you with some random poor family wasn’t proof enough. I mean yeah they turned out to be good people but they didn’t know in hine sight. For all they cared they got rid of you and they were glad with that. Whatever happens afterwards it’s no their problem
Somehow, the awful title doesn't do the story enough justice... man, OP was punished on so many levels just for EXISTING!
John and Mary are true angels and saviors.
I love the fact that he said wrong number sorry lady to her mom😂
11:49 Oh my gods, you goddamn doormat.
(In the US) you’re not allowed to simply give your kid up...
That's the thing, I don't think this was in the US.
@@sarahgimas fair enough, but 90% of stories in this channel are from the US, kinda convenient, also OP did not mention the legal aspect of adoption, also adopted family was so poor OP couldn’t go to school but they paid college for OP and had saving for him?
This story is fake so don't think too much about it.
You can indeed sign over your parental rights to others, but it isn't easy.
The story might be fake for you but it isnt it happen in real life@@F40PH-2CAT
@@F40PH-2CAT But the character's behaviors are legit synchronizing with the current standards of the people. Even if the story seems fake, there are people who actually have these behavior
He should've sued & prosecuted his parents.
“Trying for a child”
What a couple of disgusting people.. good god don’t give them money don’t call them. Mary and Jon raised you loved you and took care of you. They are your mother and father
20 grand for groceries--what are they eating for dinner every night? Wagyu steak?
He gave money to people who abandoned him 😂😂😂😂😂😂 noway he runs 3 successful cafe's without a spine
15:48 omg I literally love BOTW😂
Onepiece
Doofenschmidt is that you? 😢
Stand proud brother you are mentally strong
His mom loathed his existence. Also…. Ready Player One? Figured someone could use a laugh since Player Two cheated…imma head out lol
Mary and John are the true parents and goats
Story two, did happen, not as it as clean or neat as it sounded. Security was called to escort them out. The talent was Mat Mercer and Tara Strong. They left because they were in honest fear for their safety since 'OP in Story 2' and his wife sounded unhinged. This happened Pre-Covid.
do you have the link to the video?
Aint no way. Need proof on this
Yo give us the video's name
I really hate when people don’t have backbones. I simply cannot comprehend how someone can be so stupid.
Literally
Then you need to educate yourself on the lasting effects of abuse or poor self esteem. It has nothing to do with intelligence.
Story 2: a lot of people confuse having a lot in common with someone for love. My experience is that sharing a ton of common interests is where friendships get started, not loving relationships. The people who love you tend to be people who don’t have as much in common with you, but their love for you causes them to find out about your interests and participate, and vice versa. Find you a girl who you like enough that you’ll watch Bravo with her and who loves you enough she’ll be an extra player for board game night without complaints.
The person who just shares every hobby you have tends to either 1) ditch you when they find someone who gives them the actual thunderbolt or 2) be faking it so he/she can be your “perfect one”
He was waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too nice to his "family" that abandoned him.
They wouldn’t of gotten a dollar. Once i saw what was happening at the restaurant i woulda got up and left
that insane friggin abuse in the first story. being forced to dress as a girl, being bullied for it, then abandoned because he lashed out...
im sorry man but the second OP sounded like a real geek
You needed a written confession and apology for the way you were treated before you paid them a cent.
chad: just be nice to everyone
2nd chad: hell yeah
How could anyone do this to a kid?! That is heartless!
Any time friends or relatives who have had little or no contact with you and/or have abused you in any way ask you for money for bills, tell them you will help them but you will pay the bills directly to the company/doctor/hospital, and see how they react. If they throw a fit, they're giving you a sob story to get money. If they are ok with you paying the bills directly, make sure you limit your help otherwise they will just expect you to pay those bills all the time, forever.
Story 2: Kinda wanna see that video, tbh.
Fr. But I think it is a fake story or it would have went viral
He's got a boatload of unresolved issues about his early childhood and abandonment.
Seeking therapy and counseling should be a priority.