The backstory is the beginning of the video which will help y’all understand why I feel the way I feel. It ends at 6.45 if you want to skip it. Also, thank you to everyone in advance for the prayers and support. I love y’all Vuggotta Gang ❤️🙏🏽
Hi Ron. I hope you have the patience to read this because I think it will provide you with some clarity and peace of mind. First of all, thank you so much for sharing your story. I know it must have been tough, but others will benefit from hearing it. Your father is only your father in a biological sense. He was never the dad that you needed growing up and even later into adulthood. As such, you don't owe him anything at all, not a phone call, a visit, or a letter. However, my advice to you is to call him, not for him or for closure, but to avoid the guilt you will probably feel if you don't. Not that you should feel guilty, but I can tell you're the type of sensitive person who will feel guilt that doesn't even belong to him. Make the call, listen to what he has to say, and then ask him if he needs to hear anything from you. He'll probably want your love and forgiveness. And (to prevent future guilt) you can lie to him and offer both. You may not feel great after the call, but it will take the unnecessary weight off your shoulders for the rest of your life. Finally, seek out a counselor to talk to. You're not crazy, but talking to a professional is going to help you heal yourself and live a happier life. I hope you give it a shot. Even if you decide not to call, some counseling will help you process your thoughts and feelings. On a positive note, I can tell that you grew up to be a fine young man despite your father's absence. You should be very proud of who you are and know that you have great potential. After you close this chapter, you will come out even stronger by learning how resilient you truly are.
Sorry to hear that news. I think it is always good to think about the family members that have cared for you more and be grateful for them as well as knowing that you can only get so far with other family members. You got this far not depending on anyone and you can still go way further just do what you think is best.
I understand the struggle of being estranged from a parent. My case is the same with my dad. I just pray that we can mend things before this time calls.
I’m literally in this same predicament.... my father died on August 12th & i do not know how to feel... we weren’t the closest but it’s my father so if course I’m going to feel hurt & grieve .. i just wish i had more time to build a stronger relationship with him .. regardless i love him & i wish he was still here💔 RIP DADDY. Ron love and value your father with what little time you have because when i got that call i was all the way out of the country unable to do anything 🥺
I really hope you feel better and if I could be of any comfort please let me know. My day died right before my bursary in 2018. Everything was perfect graduation from college, brought a house, got promoted at work and out of know where my dad dies. I pray you do find comfort and that your pops pull through. God bless man....
Ron I understand how you feel because I been in your situation & what made me feel at peace & have closure is i told my dad how I felt all these years before he die & now I feel at peace & my dad died in 2017 & my condolence go out to you & I will pray🙏 for you .
Death intrigues me. I have a Facebook page about understanding death that's how much it intrigues me. My advice is to embrace whatever it is you're feeling. Death is coming for all of us. Some sooner than others. Hugs to you!! Love your vids
Ron just know it’s all apart of the process or those life situations that shape you on this thing called life keep your head up and we’re praying 🙏🏽 for you and your family just know #VuggottaGang is here for the love ❤️ and support 💯
Ron I go through something very similar. But I think you should get some answers from your aunt ask her questions about your early up bring. See what you get from that then call him because it's going to be on your mind in the long run.
Stay Strong Ron! Although he was a ain’t shit father, go clear your heart if you can... and another thing don’t allow anyone or anything stop you from accomplishing what you set out to accomplish; student loans are a bitch but they’ll pay off. - Vickii
I am so sorry that you are going through this and I also started to tear up as well as I was listening to your story and I just want to say to you is to stay strong stay positive and I will always keep you in my thoughts and prayers🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
First let me say I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope you find it in your heart to go see your father and say your peace. As well as give him peace. My husband reconnected with his father that he hadn't seen since 17 when he was in his 30's and 6 months later he died of cancer while my husband was working at Fort Stewart. He still mentions how he's glad he got closure on things. Secondly, I want to shed light on how the Gi Bill works especially if it's the Post 9/11 GI Bill. Your dad earned those benefits because of his service. At some point, he had to opt to transfer those benefits to his children. some people transfer half to one child and half to another. It's free for you and would have given you other benefits like BAH or free books etc but He earned it. So I can see why he had a change of heart and to be honest it could've been handled with a simple discussion or plan to continue contact and building relationships with each other, However, I know it hurts but will it hurt more than knowing you missed your last opportunity with your dad? TBH I would find out your dad's last wishes because he may surprise you with what he has to say. As his children, if he hasn't married you may inherit other things from him or be entitled to other benefits from his estate. Please consider that this is your dads last moments and if he's asking for you, he cares. and he needs you. Trust me, I'm not discounting your feelings at all.
*Your dad is extremely immature and that is very unfortunate for both of you.. My dad was also very immature and cold blooded and so when he wanted to speak to me when he was dying I refused. He had all of those years to not be an asshole and yet he remained an ass and it was no point in speaking .. I've learned to not give a care. Its hard but sometimes we are better off not dealing with these cold hearted individuals.. Be blessed young man.. I know the hurt.. Been there..*
Keep you're head up, I understand how u feel Ron, but follow you're heart and pray about the situation. Sometimes some fathers hold grudges against the other parent and the child suffers from it. I pray it will get better for u.
I felt this soo hard my grandad just died from cancer he had it for 2 years and now he’s dead he was in and out of the hospital this whole summer and it was very hard for me and my grandma but I didn’t know how to feel about it Bc I miss him and I’m only 16😢
It may be the chemicals he was exposed to when he was in the military because ppl in the military back in the days was coming in contact with very harsh chemicals that doctors can't treat.
whats up my guy I have been in this same situation my dad treated me like shit though out my hole my life an when he was about to pass away he had ask me to come see him but just like u I had a lot going on it hurt me that he was passing but it was nothing u could say to me u had all the chances in the world to get it right with us needless to say he didn't I seen him when he passed it hurt I cried they still treated me like shit but I am good now I got every thing I wanted an needed no thanks to him just keep your head up just know better things are coming trust me in what I say to u
I understand where you're coming from but, I think you should be the bigger person and say goodbye to your dad. We only get one dad and one mother. I will pray for you. Stay strong and keep God first.
My paps is the only parent that was ever around. My mom never came around. My dad played the role of mother and father. He is in his final times now. I dont know what to do. I feelclike ive failed him. I was sucked into the streets early becuz of life choices. So caught up in trappin n making money i let the last few years i had with him slip away. Now they say he has 1-6months left and i feel like such a failure of a son. Even if thousand where against me my dad was always there. The one man i could trust with anything and everything. And i missed our last years togethor for what? For money. What a waste of time. Im just trying my best now in our last months togethor to make him feel loved and cared for. Im still yet to hear 1 person talk bad on his name. Don't make the same mistakes i did if you have a parent here now please tell them u love them. Please show them u love them. Clean their house sit down for dinner with them. Becuz when the day comes you cant do that anymore you are gonna wish you did.
I'm sorry to hear that, but worry about yourself. Now that he is dying he wants to see you. Sad father's do f up to their kid's, kid.....but do for the other one. Sorry that he is dying, but you did everything to get to know him, sad he chosen not to know you or support you financial..... especially school wise. I know your sad and most kid's wouldn't give a dame if a parent treated them like shit...they would not bother to call nor go to the funeral. But I can see it in your eye's, that you will miss him, just sad, he did everything wrong to you, now on his death bed he now wants to see you. And will be sad, if he didn't leave you anything, yet giving everything to your sister and other family members.
Call him Ron! I know you’re hesitant because you’re afraid to be hurt and disappointed by him again but fuck all that. You’re allowed to be upset or feel however and to express yourself and this is the only time ever that he’ll have to listen to you.
Hopefully, your older sister show's him see this video, I don't want you to and you shouldn't feel bad about anything, this video is good enough testimony for him, I would call him one last time if I were you and only for you and for your peace of mind so that you know you did the right thing even if he couldn't, I've been where you are and have done that I spent the last of his life trying to get answers for only things he could answer.😒
It's not closure u want but understanding. U want to understand y he said and did what he did and said what he said. It's not about closing the relationship it's about trying to understand him. We that has grew up without one parent that still alive wants to Kno how it is growing up having that missing parent in our life. Ik I have. So call him and try to understand what he was going thru and y he said the things he said and did the things he did. Let him Kno dad u hurt me so many times and it's not me that didn't reach out it was u pushing back and wouldn't open to me. This is the time to try to understand him. And it's not about Daddy's lil girl because at the same time u Daddy's lil boy too. He only has u and her so no matter what he only has a girl and a boy. So y do so much for her when he lives with u and gets to spend all the time in the world with u but me as ur son I only get u for a short period of time but I don't ask g for nothing but when I do I must really need ur help. Just call him talk to him if he starts getting crazy with the words then u say well Dad I'll call u later and just try again the next day because what u don't want is him leaving and u have no type of understand of what was going on with him to treat u that way. One minute u want the father son relationship but when I'm giving it to u u throw it away. Nobody about to deal with somebody who they don't really know talking shit to them r telling them hatful shit. Just call him and if u can B4 he pass go see him
Well B4 I get to far into it I'll say this go visit him. Just let it b u and him nobody else. Ask all the questions u want to ask because ones he's gone u will never Kno how side r his truth about what was going on when u was younger y they had to do this and that. Get the full story because u don't want to let him go and still feel a dislike r hate r whatever about him and the truth really was something it off his control. So visit him understand where he's coming from and Kno ur back story and if u can try to get to Kno his side of the family. To understand him who he was and what he meant to his family
That hard to accept when it's something that been going on for years even B4 he was in this stage. So how can u say when he start talking crazy just accept it no because he been doing this it may be nee to y'all but it's the same thing from the same person for me for years so no i can't just accept it like y'all. Everything I try to let the shit go I get them same thing y'all want me to accept so no I can't accept it
kinda selfish tbh, my dad is in the military and he has NO OBLIGATION WHATSOEVER to give me his GI Bill. Considering that he has a a granddaughter and a daughter he could give them the GI Bill. So why is he obligated to give you, someone he barely has a relationship with, the GI Bill.
Yeah going to a PWI you really get looked down on by other races and you try as much as possible to not play into their stereotypical views. It really opens your eyes to other people. Sorry hun, we can't pick our family but we can learn from their mistakes.
Oh no, you too young to be going through this. I don’t know if knowing or not knowing is better. It sits the same with me. I’m not good st telling stories either lol.
All i seen was the title and didnt even watch the vid but all i gotta say is SUCKS FOR YOUUUU i see what u tryin to do son and this is all for clout or to have ppl sympathize for u and its sad that ppl gotta lie ab shyt to get noticed bet u thought u were gon hit a mill views bc of ur title
The backstory is the beginning of the video which will help y’all understand why I feel the way I feel. It ends at 6.45 if you want to skip it.
Also, thank you to everyone in advance for the prayers and support. I love y’all Vuggotta Gang ❤️🙏🏽
Hi Ron. I hope you have the patience to read this because I think it will provide you with some clarity and peace of mind. First of all, thank you so much for sharing your story. I know it must have been tough, but others will benefit from hearing it.
Your father is only your father in a biological sense. He was never the dad that you needed growing up and even later into adulthood. As such, you don't owe him anything at all, not a phone call, a visit, or a letter.
However, my advice to you is to call him, not for him or for closure, but to avoid the guilt you will probably feel if you don't. Not that you should feel guilty, but I can tell you're the type of sensitive person who will feel guilt that doesn't even belong to him. Make the call, listen to what he has to say, and then ask him if he needs to hear anything from you. He'll probably want your love and forgiveness. And (to prevent future guilt) you can lie to him and offer both.
You may not feel great after the call, but it will take the unnecessary weight off your shoulders for the rest of your life.
Finally, seek out a counselor to talk to. You're not crazy, but talking to a professional is going to help you heal yourself and live a happier life. I hope you give it a shot. Even if you decide not to call, some counseling will help you process your thoughts and feelings.
On a positive note, I can tell that you grew up to be a fine young man despite your father's absence. You should be very proud of who you are and know that you have great potential.
After you close this chapter, you will come out even stronger by learning how resilient you truly are.
U might get an inheritance
My condolences
I feel you're pain Ron just keep your head up ik is hard to talk about but you a strong person
God bless you my brother
Sorry to hear that news. I think it is always good to think about the family members that have cared for you more and be grateful for them as well as knowing that you can only get so far with other family members. You got this far not depending on anyone and you can still go way further just do what you think is best.
Bro it’s gonna be okay believe it 🙏🏽 ily von
I'm sending my prayers to you, family, and friends. Continue to be strong.
I am so sorry Ron I started to tear up with you, but keep your head up sweetie
Omg I’m so sorry to hear that, I’ll keep you’ll in my prayers 🙏🏽❤️
I understand the struggle of being estranged from a parent. My case is the same with my dad. I just pray that we can mend things before this time calls.
I’m literally in this same predicament.... my father died on August 12th & i do not know how to feel... we weren’t the closest but it’s my father so if course I’m going to feel hurt & grieve .. i just wish i had more time to build a stronger relationship with him .. regardless i love him & i wish he was still here💔 RIP DADDY. Ron love and value your father with what little time you have because when i got that call i was all the way out of the country unable to do anything 🥺
Just do your part and say that you love him and you will have your peace ☮️
What are you, 7 years old? That ain't how it works booboo.
I really hope you feel better and if I could be of any comfort please let me know. My day died right before my bursary in 2018. Everything was perfect graduation from college, brought a house, got promoted at work and out of know where my dad dies. I pray you do find comfort and that your pops pull through. God bless man....
Ron I understand how you feel because I been in your situation & what made me feel at peace & have closure is i told my dad how I felt all these years before he die & now I feel at peace & my dad died in 2017 & my condolence go out to you & I will pray🙏 for you .
Death intrigues me. I have a Facebook page about understanding death that's how much it intrigues me. My advice is to embrace whatever it is you're feeling. Death is coming for all of us. Some sooner than others. Hugs to you!! Love your vids
You should call him. Not for him, but for you.
Stop with this christian crap. He has a right to feel what he's feeling.
Ron just know it’s all apart of the process or those life situations that shape you on this thing called life keep your head up and we’re praying 🙏🏽 for you and your family just know #VuggottaGang is here for the love ❤️ and support 💯
Stay strong😢
God bless u. Praying for you and peace keep motivated and do not give up on anything. The harder life gets it means you are closer to your destiny!
awe🥺 stay strong !!!
Ron I go through something very similar. But I think you should get some answers from your aunt ask her questions about your early up bring. See what you get from that then call him because it's going to be on your mind in the long run.
I am so sorry what happened
I will pray for you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😭😭
Wow wow I am so sorry I will pray for you 😭😭😭😭😭😭🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Stay strong brother. I went through the same thing.
I'm so sorry you had to experience this. 😔My condolences. Praying for you 💜 Wish I could give you a hug right now!
Stay Strong Ron! Although he was a ain’t shit father, go clear your heart if you can... and another thing don’t allow anyone or anything stop you from accomplishing what you set out to accomplish; student loans are a bitch but they’ll pay off.
- Vickii
That's sad but Stay strong 💪 and I'm praying for u...
Prayers Ron..
My thoughts and prayers are with you xXx
I am so sorry that you are going through this and I also started to tear up as well as I was listening to your story and I just want to say to you is to stay strong stay positive and I will always keep you in my thoughts and prayers🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong ❤️
First let me say I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope you find it in your heart to go see your father and say your peace. As well as give him peace. My husband reconnected with his father that he hadn't seen since 17 when he was in his 30's and 6 months later he died of cancer while my husband was working at Fort Stewart. He still mentions how he's glad he got closure on things.
Secondly, I want to shed light on how the Gi Bill works especially if it's the Post 9/11 GI Bill. Your dad earned those benefits because of his service. At some point, he had to opt to transfer those benefits to his children. some people transfer half to one child and half to another. It's free for you and would have given you other benefits like BAH or free books etc but He earned it. So I can see why he had a change of heart and to be honest it could've been handled with a simple discussion or plan to continue contact and building relationships with each other, However, I know it hurts but will it hurt more than knowing you missed your last opportunity with your dad? TBH I would find out your dad's last wishes because he may surprise you with what he has to say. As his children, if he hasn't married you may inherit other things from him or be entitled to other benefits from his estate. Please consider that this is your dads last moments and if he's asking for you, he cares. and he needs you. Trust me, I'm not discounting your feelings at all.
*Your dad is extremely immature and that is very unfortunate for both of you.. My dad was also very immature and cold blooded and so when he wanted to speak to me when he was dying I refused. He had all of those years to not be an asshole and yet he remained an ass and it was no point in speaking .. I've learned to not give a care. Its hard but sometimes we are better off not dealing with these cold hearted individuals.. Be blessed young man.. I know the hurt.. Been there..*
Keep you're head up, I understand how u feel Ron, but follow you're heart and pray about the situation. Sometimes some fathers hold grudges against the other parent and the child suffers from it. I pray it will get better for u.
I felt this soo hard my grandad just died from cancer he had it for 2 years and now he’s dead he was in and out of the hospital this whole summer and it was very hard for me and my grandma but I didn’t know how to feel about it Bc I miss him and I’m only 16😢
you should do storytimes, your life seems interesting !
It may be the chemicals he was exposed to when he was in the military because ppl in the military back in the days was coming in contact with very harsh chemicals that doctors can't treat.
whats up my guy I have been in this same situation my dad treated me like shit though out my hole my life an when he was about to pass away he had ask me to come see him but just like u I had a lot going on it hurt me that he was passing but it was nothing u could say to me u had all the chances in the world to get it right with us needless to say he didn't I seen him when he passed it hurt I cried they still treated me like shit but I am good now I got every thing I wanted an needed no thanks to him just keep your head up just know better things are coming trust me in what I say to u
I’m sending you so much love
The Lighting is perfect 👌🏽 nothing like natural light when recording content 🙌👏
Call him or go to see him. Its important. You will be sorry if you don't. Be a bigger man than he is and show him you are bigger than him.
I understand where you're coming from but, I think you should be the bigger person and say goodbye to your dad. We only get one dad and one mother. I will pray for you. Stay strong and keep God first.
My paps is the only parent that was ever around. My mom never came around. My dad played the role of mother and father. He is in his final times now. I dont know what to do. I feelclike ive failed him. I was sucked into the streets early becuz of life choices. So caught up in trappin n making money i let the last few years i had with him slip away. Now they say he has 1-6months left and i feel like such a failure of a son. Even if thousand where against me my dad was always there. The one man i could trust with anything and everything. And i missed our last years togethor for what? For money. What a waste of time. Im just trying my best now in our last months togethor to make him feel loved and cared for. Im still yet to hear 1 person talk bad on his name. Don't make the same mistakes i did if you have a parent here now please tell them u love them. Please show them u love them. Clean their house sit down for dinner with them. Becuz when the day comes you cant do that anymore you are gonna wish you did.
I'm sorry to hear that, but worry about yourself. Now that he is dying he wants to see you. Sad father's do f up to their kid's, kid.....but do for the other one. Sorry that he is dying, but you did everything to get to know him, sad he chosen not to know you or support you financial..... especially school wise. I know your sad and most kid's wouldn't give a dame if a parent treated them like shit...they would not bother to call nor go to the funeral. But I can see it in your eye's, that you will miss him, just sad, he did everything wrong to you, now on his death bed he now wants to see you. And will be sad, if he didn't leave you anything, yet giving everything to your sister and other family members.
Happy belated birthday
Sorry 2 hear ur dad is dying & U are torn about talking or going 2 see him.😄
Call him Ron! I know you’re hesitant because you’re afraid to be hurt and disappointed by him again but fuck all that. You’re allowed to be upset or feel however and to express yourself and this is the only time ever that he’ll have to listen to you.
Hopefully, your older sister show's him see this video, I don't want you to and you shouldn't feel bad about anything, this video is good enough testimony for him, I would call him one last time if I were you and only for you and for your peace of mind so that you know you did the right thing even if he couldn't, I've been where you are and have done that I spent the last of his life trying to get answers for only things he could answer.😒
It's not closure u want but understanding. U want to understand y he said and did what he did and said what he said. It's not about closing the relationship it's about trying to understand him. We that has grew up without one parent that still alive wants to Kno how it is growing up having that missing parent in our life. Ik I have. So call him and try to understand what he was going thru and y he said the things he said and did the things he did. Let him Kno dad u hurt me so many times and it's not me that didn't reach out it was u pushing back and wouldn't open to me. This is the time to try to understand him. And it's not about Daddy's lil girl because at the same time u Daddy's lil boy too. He only has u and her so no matter what he only has a girl and a boy. So y do so much for her when he lives with u and gets to spend all the time in the world with u but me as ur son I only get u for a short period of time but I don't ask g for nothing but when I do I must really need ur help. Just call him talk to him if he starts getting crazy with the words then u say well Dad I'll call u later and just try again the next day because what u don't want is him leaving and u have no type of understand of what was going on with him to treat u that way. One minute u want the father son relationship but when I'm giving it to u u throw it away. Nobody about to deal with somebody who they don't really know talking shit to them r telling them hatful shit. Just call him and if u can B4 he pass go see him
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Well B4 I get to far into it I'll say this go visit him. Just let it b u and him nobody else. Ask all the questions u want to ask because ones he's gone u will never Kno how side r his truth about what was going on when u was younger y they had to do this and that. Get the full story because u don't want to let him go and still feel a dislike r hate r whatever about him and the truth really was something it off his control. So visit him understand where he's coming from and Kno ur back story and if u can try to get to Kno his side of the family. To understand him who he was and what he meant to his family
That hard to accept when it's something that been going on for years even B4 he was in this stage. So how can u say when he start talking crazy just accept it no because he been doing this it may be nee to y'all but it's the same thing from the same person for me for years so no i can't just accept it like y'all. Everything I try to let the shit go I get them same thing y'all want me to accept so no I can't accept it
I wanna hug you 😔
Sorry bro
kinda selfish tbh, my dad is in the military and he has NO OBLIGATION WHATSOEVER to give me his GI Bill. Considering that he has a a granddaughter and a daughter he could give them the GI Bill. So why is he obligated to give you, someone he barely has a relationship with, the GI Bill.
I understand Ron I really do 💯💯
What happen to Don? Are you going to do a video with an update on your relationship?
Come visit me in Florida
Yeah going to a PWI you really get looked down on by other races and you try as much as possible to not play into their stereotypical views. It really opens your eyes to other people. Sorry hun, we can't pick our family but we can learn from their mistakes.
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Oh no, you too young to be going through this. I don’t know if knowing or not knowing is better. It sits the same with me. I’m not good st telling stories either lol.
That can't be happening
For the brakes lol I'm RUclips how to fix them that's i do. Go to metro for a phone until u can do better
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All i seen was the title and didnt even watch the vid but all i gotta say is SUCKS FOR YOUUUU i see what u tryin to do son and this is all for clout or to have ppl sympathize for u and its sad that ppl gotta lie ab shyt to get noticed bet u thought u were gon hit a mill views bc of ur title