I preached on spiritual abuse and a pastor had my preach removed from the site. Why, because he felt it targeted him. As the old saying goes... If the cap fits then wear it. He used gossip accusations as a tool of control.
@@FRemyD Thank you Brother. Yes we have move on and even though the search for a new church isn't over it is narrowing. We have made some good friends in Christ on our journey so what the enemy intended for bad our sovereign Lord has turned to good. Praise His holy name 🙏
Thank you for sharing this information and I may consider getting the book because the title is very on point in areas I’ve struggled with already. I am now seeking some type of guidance or help having to leave a Bible study group where the leader there was a woman; I am a woman as well, and what’s happened was absolutely horrific. I was there for nearly 5 1/2 years and I became very close with her And she was doing what she called counseling. I have past traumatic issues anyways and I had already been through counseling, but this was not really counseling. I so I try to learn how to trust I went so far to trust and then to believe some things, and then I was manipulated towards the end under nothing shy of a spirit of Jezebel, and a very narcissistic behavior. But now!!! Father God help me, I’m struggling so hard and need help. So much more to this seeing it did not end well with try to cast a demon out of me when I was in my right mind 😔
I'm sorry to hear this. It doesn't sound like your group is a healthy one for you to be a part of. I hope you find the courage to leave. At least take a break to gain perspective. Check out my other videos on spiritual abuse. Here's one that might help: ruclips.net/video/5DK0unMtYXw/видео.html
Gently discussed with 2 women (Pastor's wife and worship leader) about an obligation they made without informing the people involved with actually performing that obligation until literally the day of. I thought it would be a simple private conversation but afterwards these 2 went into full victim mode and used their standing to attempt to attack and hurt me in various obvious ways. A discussion with the Pastor (who claimed to have no knowledge of what was being done to me) only made things worse. I finally left and received a few texts expressing doubts of my "spirituality" and quoting "love never fails." I never retaliated or acted unlovingly through it all, I actually tried to endure but it was only getting worse. It started from such a simple and obvious matter, I had no idea it was an excuse to go on the attack.
I'm sorry to hear about this June. Hopefully, it's an isolated case that can be resolved? Or is it a sign of a deeper toxic culture? Love never fails but people often fail to love.
Had one say we slandered him while not even knowing the meaning of the word. We never stated anything false and we never spoke to anyone in the church except our concerns to the Pastor's mom. This was after two elders sat the pastor down and confronted him over him taking shots at people from the pulpit. With the slander accusations we knew it was time to leave.
My former pastor told me to take the plank out of my own eye after I left spiritual legalism that was dividing my marriage to my husband , he will point out talking about narcissist behavior when he acts narcissistic wanting full control of everything in the church and wanting to be in charge of the music ministry ,the preaching and teaching , allows his yes men and women to rat on those with different opinions it's almost ruined my marriage :(
I'm sorry that happened to you. It's so sad that a church would have that kind of impact on a marriage. I'm glad you moved on. I hope you find healing for your marriage.
@@FRemyD thank you Dr I really like your teaching I did not know those accusing orhers of the gossip are the ones in leadership are the ones that are deflecting this to others as a cover up ? Wow that really clears it up now . Thank you I will be buying your book Its really helping me to see it was ok to leave ,my heart is still broken cause I love them but my pastor in Ohio told me to guard my heart and renew my mind I'm also reading Philippians it's a great book on being anxious for nothing .God bless you Mate 🐨🦘🇦🇺
I preached on spiritual abuse and a pastor had my preach removed from the site. Why, because he felt it targeted him. As the old saying goes...
If the cap fits then wear it.
He used gossip accusations as a tool of control.
Sorry to hear about this, Martyn. Are you moving on from that church? Thanks for sharing your story.
@@FRemyD Thank you Brother. Yes we have move on and even though the search for a new church isn't over it is narrowing. We have made some good friends in Christ on our journey so what the enemy intended for bad our sovereign Lord has turned to good. Praise His holy name 🙏
Work and family have also done this
I can understand exactly how annoying this unnecessary background gossiping distance people close people.. irs just form of harashment
Yes, indirect harassment, but harassment nonetheless. Thanks for sharing.
@@FRemyD very true indirect harrashment
Thank you for sharing this information and I may consider getting the book because the title is very on point in areas I’ve struggled with already. I am now seeking some type of guidance or help having to leave a Bible study group where the leader there was a woman; I am a woman as well, and what’s happened was absolutely horrific. I was there for nearly 5 1/2 years and I became very close with her And she was doing what she called counseling. I have past traumatic issues anyways and I had already been through counseling, but this was not really counseling. I so I try to learn how to trust I went so far to trust and then to believe some things, and then I was manipulated towards the end under nothing shy of a spirit of Jezebel, and a very narcissistic behavior. But now!!! Father God help me, I’m struggling so hard and need help. So much more to this seeing it did not end well with try to cast a demon out of me when I was in my right mind 😔
I'm sorry to hear this. It doesn't sound like your group is a healthy one for you to be a part of. I hope you find the courage to leave. At least take a break to gain perspective. Check out my other videos on spiritual abuse. Here's one that might help: ruclips.net/video/5DK0unMtYXw/видео.html
Gently discussed with 2 women (Pastor's wife and worship leader) about an obligation they made without informing the people involved with actually performing that obligation until literally the day of. I thought it would be a simple private conversation but afterwards these 2 went into full victim mode and used their standing to attempt to attack and hurt me in various obvious ways. A discussion with the Pastor (who claimed to have no knowledge of what was being done to me) only made things worse. I finally left and received a few texts expressing doubts of my "spirituality" and quoting "love never fails."
I never retaliated or acted unlovingly through it all, I actually tried to endure but it was only getting worse. It started from such a simple and obvious matter, I had no idea it was an excuse to go on the attack.
I'm sorry to hear about this June. Hopefully, it's an isolated case that can be resolved? Or is it a sign of a deeper toxic culture? Love never fails but people often fail to love.
True. They are hurt that you would dare to set a boundary with them.
Truth! We should definitely speak the truth.
Thanks for watching and commenting, Lori.
Had one say we slandered him while not even knowing the meaning of the word. We never stated anything false and we never spoke to anyone in the church except our concerns to the Pastor's mom. This was after two elders sat the pastor down and confronted him over him taking shots at people from the pulpit. With the slander accusations we knew it was time to leave.
Good decision. It sounds like the slander was coming from the pulpit. Thanks for commenting.
My former pastor told me to take the plank out of my own eye after I left spiritual legalism that was dividing my marriage to my husband , he will point out talking about narcissist behavior when he acts narcissistic wanting full control of everything in the church and wanting to be in charge of the music ministry ,the preaching and teaching , allows his yes men and women to rat on those with different opinions it's almost ruined my marriage :(
I'm sorry that happened to you. It's so sad that a church would have that kind of impact on a marriage. I'm glad you moved on. I hope you find healing for your marriage.
@@FRemyD thank you Dr I really like your teaching I did not know those accusing orhers of the gossip are the ones in leadership are the ones that are deflecting this to others as a cover up ? Wow that really clears it up now . Thank you I will be buying your book Its really helping me to see it was ok to leave ,my heart is still broken cause I love them but my pastor in Ohio told me to guard my heart and renew my mind I'm also reading Philippians it's a great book on being anxious for nothing .God bless you Mate 🐨🦘🇦🇺
Good teaching brother!
Hey, thanks for watching and commenting!