Guys i have had several people get their ex back but lose them because they didn't stay focused on the personal growth. Very sad. They're devastated. Please don't let that be you!
You guys missed the other side what if your where with some one for years and they ghost you?? Mine was 3 years she just blocked me... I learned what AN AVOIDANCE is to the fullest 3 years man wtf??? 🤮🤮🤮🤮hurts severely bruh!!!
I shouldn't have watched this video man... really fucked me up!!! Never had this happen to me before.... at least call me a dirt bag right? This hurts... she thinks she's all that man...karma will catch her Im sure...😢😢😢
I love how you pointed how incredibly DISRESPECTFUL ghosting is. It’s treating someone like they aren’t even a person with emotions or feelings. Total disregard for the other person. It’s far more respectful to have a 2 minute conversation where you’re hurting someone’s feelings with your honesty VS. ghosting them and causing a world of confusion and prolonged emotional turmoil. Thanks for making this video.
No contact is a RESPONSE to anothers' ending the relationship. Where a decision has been made by a partner to END things. Its a form of self, emotional preservation, a coping method of an already pre-determined fact/behavior or action of another. Ghosting can be viewed as a "pre-emptive strike " on another by disappearing, ignoring, without any type of conversation, warning, concern for another.@@dwightschrute8141
Yep It happens to me all the time It’s just happened this weekend gone 💁🏼♂️ People today have no Integrity and manners It’s disgusting behaviour! It’s true being constantly GHOSTED can lead to Suicide
If someone ghosts you, consider yourself blessed. Ghost them back and never allow them back into your life. Obviously, they were playing games with you from the beginning. A person who is grown, mature and really interested in you will not do that. I’m tired of immature/narcissistic people playing games with a person’s emotions and hearts. The funny thing is, when you have nothing to do with them because of their cruel actions, they can’t take it.
This is also a very narcissistic trait. I dated someone for over 3 years, and my ex simply ghosted when I was diagnosed with cancer. Hopefully you can speak on this topic. Narcissism is HUGE and most of us were totally unaware, until their discard.
There's no excuse to ghost these days with cellphones and texting. Anyone could easily at least send a text and simply say, "This isn't working for me", or whatever. I just got ghosted after only a couple months of dating. I know that's not long, but I feel he led me on because he kept talking about future plans, where he wanted to take me next, and said things like, "We'll have to have another date soon!!", and "Get your passport, l'll pay for it!". He even bought us concert tickets for March 2024, when it was only October 2023. So...why in the heck would he disappear without a word after that? People are so cruel. Now I don't trust anything anyone says.
If anything, ghosting allows you to see who someone is early on. Best to keep an eye out for it and move on the moment it happens. People who ghost are rarely ever long-term material.
I dunno. My case is that he had moved to my state to be with his last girlfriend. They broke up, and he dated and ghosted me after only a couple of months. He could move his whole life for one woman, but ghosted me. How can you not take it personal? If he had never had something long term, that would be one thing. But he was with her 4 years, and supposedly another girlfriend for 9.
Ghosting sadly is not just a phenomenon that occurs only in dating. My ex wife ghosted me after 15 years of marriage. She told me she had to go to another part of the country for medical care and left on my birthday, never to be heard from again. At the time I really had no clue. The worst part is she left under false pretenses and sabotaged my life in many different ways afterwards. You think you know someone when you spend years with them... but in some cases, like mine, you really don't. Some people are so closed off and avoidant that there can be a lot going on behind the scenes that you have no clue of. Be mindful, be alert, and ask questions. Your wellbeing might depend on it.
I have a similar situation, my husband ghosted me since we are doing long distance for what would be just a year or so, did she ever come back? At this point, after two months of no answer from him, i decided to move on, he read everything i send, but he doesn't answer, its the coldest meanest thing someone has ever done to me
It’s very hurtful. My relationship ended because of ghosting. I was actually a secure attached but I my anxiety got triggered after an argument about spending more time with his friends rather than with me in a long distance relationship. Now I understand more about his dismissive behavior & I noticed my mistakes too. I threatened to leave several times. Well now it’s over. I’m finally letting no contact happen.
I wonder how were you secure attached if this happened? I had some secure periods in my relationship (the first 3 years really), but I wouldn't have ever called myself someone of a secure attachment style. I was secure towards her only because she wasn't really my type at first and she was ~extremely~ needy. I just couldn't imagine her leaving me, I was actually hoping she would leave me, so I wouldn't have to dump and break her heart. Ironically after our first breakup, which was initiated by her, but was mutual and amicable, I started falling for her and 2 and a half years later I actually loved her and she broke my heart without mercy. But anyways, I wonder why would you call yourself secure if you did those things? Are you secure in all other (non-romantic) relationships?
@@NadeenHope first, if you are here un this video like us means that you are a good and emotional girl. Second, youre stunning girl. I was in NC for 5 months, i broke it, seeing her for 3 months and helping her with her during brother death of cancer, and now 3 weeks ago she ghosted me after a small argument. I apologized, called her, left her a birthday cake in her house door yesterday, and nothing. Im feeling Like total s**t now. Im a good man and love her. But like i see, her new friends of 7 months deserve more being with her in her birthday like me. Sorry for my bad english im spanish and 30 YO, but you deserve better, youre a good girl, Dont worry i know too much people who KILL for being with a woman like you. Be strong. Everything will be ok for us...i feel like Dying right now
One person I was interested in ghosted me because my friend at the time threw herself at him and he went for it. Of course he never told me the truth and she lied a lot, but their photos were on social media. To make matters worse, she told my coworkers (we worked together) and I was made to be the laughing stock at work. That was one example of how ghosting was traumatizing for me. It was a stark reminder of how I was always made to be the ugly girl that nobody wanted as well as someone being "better" than me. I deal with it better now, but it still haunts me to this day.
I was ghosted and blocked on social media for no reason. Really messed me up and I'm still trying to get through it. It's hard because part of you not only wonders what it was about but also if they'll ever come back. She was the greatest, sweetest girl I ever met and we never had any problems. It's so weird, if I text her (which I haven't done in some weeks, and 2 months before that) she'll read it. Why read it? I don't understand. It has truly been a very traumatic thing for me to experience.
@@smith5o7 I got over her by the end of 2021 and deleted her number and texts, everything. She stalked my social media stories for awhile with fake accounts but I blocked them so I could finally move on, and because it wasn't fair for someone who wanted to ditch me to see what was going on in my life but never want to speak. She is seeing another guy now from what I saw on HER social media, but he is a serious downgrade. Which just shows me even more that she's not someone I would even want to get back with.
Thanks for this video. This really helped me alot. I was ghosted by 1 ex which devastated me. I've never encountered a woman like her. Being ghosted was the ultimate form of disrespect in a relationship. I'd rather deal with an abusive, controlling, and jealous girlfriend because at least she wants me and gives me attention. You don't have that certainty with someone who ghosts you. I was left asking "why? Everything was going good so what did i do wrong?" I was looking for break-up advice and they weren't very helpful. That was until i came across your channel which answered all of my questions. I breathed a sigh of relief knowing it's not my fault my ex ghosted me. It's fair to say i did the best i could to make her happy.
Right, she often said she was too busy to talk to me. I stopped believing her after seeing her talk to her friends on social media day after day. I figured she had a conflict with me, but didn't wanna confront me so she avoided me altogether. I got frustrated because all she had to do was tell me what was bothering her and we would've fixed it.
Ghosted last year after 3 years together. Very painful experience. Even though deep inside I knew he was emotionally and mentally abusive. It’s been a year and I’m actually very happy. I wish I would have gotten the closure but I feel a lot of hope for the future and I’m finally ready to start dating again
My ex ghosted me after being with me in a relationship for 11 years! This was the most hurtful thing that anyone did to me.He wasn’t man enough to face me to deal with whatever problems that was going on to talk about it. I call this childish and very selfish and disrespectful! Found out he got into a rebound relationship that same day. I believe if he did this to me he’ll do it to the next!
I was in a 2 year relationship. He was stationed in another country that was unaccompanied. He had not called me for 3 months but did text daily. The text became less and very short. I asked if everything was okay and he said he was super focused on his job. Which I understood but I didn’t understand why he couldn’t call me but had time to be on fb and like his ex gfs pics. Then 5 hours later text me...sooo then he ghosted me. 🙄I’m over these cowardly moves.
I’m just kind of thinking now It’s best just to be on your own these days Some or Many People are just not like they used too be In fact they’re not even people they’re just a vision of empty souls It’s really sad !
Ya'll completely missed talking about people ghosted by long term partners.. Who cares if a tinder ghosts you after 3 dates, have some self esteem and move on, you're going to be ghosted more than not ghosted there. And most of you sad over it have probably ghosted someone yourself on tinder. It's the ghosting after years and being in a serious relationship that is traumatizing. I couldn't even tell you how many times I've been ghosted by 1date-3month Tinder dates. Probably hundreds, what-ever, next.
... and another reason is that they *lied SO much* ... to the point of *pretending* to be in a relationship that was *never* real... that they just couldn't tell you the truth. Maybe they were just keeping you as an option the whole time, while working things out with someone else... and making you believe in a *whole fake reality* . If someone ghosts you... there is something really serious they are hiding. The other "conflict fears" could be easily solved with one damn simple text message.
When my ex first broke up with me, it was amicable, I was damn proud we could stop it on such good terms. Second time she was trying to ghost, then got furious when I didn't leave it that and I found out she was cheating on me. You speak the truth. They ghost when they don't want to face how low they have sunk.
Yes It’s hurtful when someone ghost you. After getting into an argument with my ex of 3 years he ghosted me . My ex didn’t like arguments . I Haven’t seen him in 2 years. Really sucks
He's slooowly stopped replying to me. I became increasingly anxious, sad and confused. That made things worse. I finally accepted his decision and said so. Then he panics that I'm saying goodbye and we see each other again. This has been the dance for a year. Lather, rinse, repeat. I've asked him numerous times for my clothes when he's disappeared again. Then He panics that I'm saying goodbye. He never gives me my stuff, and when he reaches out again, it's "Hello, how are you doing"? I wait, respond briefly. Ask how he is. Silence. It's exhausting. Your videos are so helpful to me. Thank you. This all started, I believe, from his opening up to me, saying he feels close to me and trusts me. And then he ran. I think he has Asperger's as well.
Pretty sure it's not okay when you've been together for a year and a half. Ghosted for 2 weeks, then broken up with a Dear John letter. All while trying to get them to open up and talk, and reassuring since we love each other, it's a safe space. 🤔
This video seems to cover about when you get ghosted at the beginning stages of dating or just meeting someone first couple of dates. Could you do a video about getting ghosted during a long term relationship. Year or longer. Where you don’t even know if the relationship is over or not. Just left in limbo. They just one day stopped talking to you. I’m anxious she was dismissive avoidant. She avoids conflict or difficult conversations. If you try to explain or talk things out she would accuse you of arguing even though you were trying to find a mutual solution together and approach those convos from a place of understanding or open to being wrong. Normally if we have a falling out I’d over pursue make all the mistakes beg pled cry become over emotional. This time I didn’t. I see ghosting as disrespectful. Immature. Especially after years of being together. No plans to reach out. Idk if I’d ignore if she reaches out but don’t really know what would be the appropriate way to respond. If she reaches out and doesn’t address it, wouldn’t that be enabling being treated badly? But if I bring it up I’ve seen on your videos you suggest not bringing up feelings or negative convos when the ex reaches out. Being with a dismissive avoidant can be so exhausting. As exhausting perhaps as it must be to be with an anxious pre occupied I suppose. Thank you for the great videos.
if an avoidant feels to close & ghosts you, would they confide in you etc and then maybe move onto a new relationship again and again to avoid that attachment?
Just happened to me with a guy and just as Craig said, it really stings but thankfully I've only met this guy once so if we met more times, it would feel even shittier
I haven’t seen a video about where both people are ghosting each other. Like..... one is waiting for the other one to message but you don’t want to be the one to message first so it feels like ghosting
hope somebody can tell me if i have a problem myself. So I kind of "ghosted" my girl because back in March i found out she was cheating on me with a coworker. they kiss and hugged, and sex was on the table. from March to July I was constantly trying to make things work out between us. She did not apologized, i didn't feel like she regretted doing it. I communicated with her and i tried to end things a few times but she asked me to stay and I just couldn't see myself without her. Last day of July i tried to kiss her and pressed her lips against each other clearly not wanting to kiss me. My heart has been torned all these past months and i felt as if i was trying to swim against the current. So August 1 I went into "no contact," not telling her anything. We recently started talking again... is there an issue with my by not telling her i was not going to continue trying to fix things?
I was super excited about the date I was supposed to have this week and the one mistake I made was saying let's set it up when you get back in town instead of just setting it then but the person ghosted me so
I have been ghosted its been a month now. Do you think I should write him and tell him how he hurt me? We were in a relationship and had agreed to be exclusive so it was more than just dating.
Coach craig, I'm hoping you could do a video about stonewalling cause my bf would always ignore me for days after an argument. Also, does no contact work if you're still together? Thank you
A ghoster can go into online conversations to hide and respond back during the conversation. The ghoster can start trouble in the conversation with others in it. That is what I been experiencing. And the ghoster gave me hints to whom it is.
My ex gf broke up with me one month ago. I posted a few stories where I was hanging out with friends and with some girls. She unfollowed me. Why is that ?
@@paulasmith3577 @bloodysh Or hurting. People often regret their decisions after the fact. Seeing you out having fun with friends and showing that you're able to live life without them is a shot to the ego, particularly if they're having doubts about the breakup or haven't been coping particularly well once the infamous 'relief' stage wears of. Hold the course, keep living life for you, and let them make the next move
Is this ghosting, manipulation, narcissism or she likes me? She started a conversation with me. Throw the bait to see my reaction. Then she starts chatting casually about everything with me. She Just asks questions and makes you talk about myself. Gathers information about me. Then she stops communicating for no reason. She gives the impression that she is angry, arrogant and rude. After a while it was as if nothing had happened. No more talking, but just say hello when we meet. I found out she has a boyfriend all the time.
@@Johnny-sn2ls Definitely manipulation. I would hazard a guess and say that she is using you for an ego boost when she feels that she isn't getting sufficient attention from her boyfriend. Some people really do want their cake and eat it
Why would someone you dated ghost you, yet still be putting likes on your social media? I finally unfriended him because...wtf is that!? You stop talking to me and asking me out yet you still wanna interact on my Facebook like nothing happened.?
I have unintentionally hurt my ex so bad and now they blocked me everywhere.. I realize I ruined all my chances on getting them back but I just want to make up for my mistakes.. what should I do?
Put that energy into working on yourself. If your actions and mistakes have cost you a chance with your ex, make it worth it. Own your mistakes and put the effort into making it so that in future relationships, those same mistakes don't happen again. Whether that future relationship is with your ex, or another, nobody can say right now. But give her time and space. As Coach Craig say, feelings change, but you have to give them time. In the meantime, make sure that the person they could potentially come back to has put the work into personal growth and bettering themselves, so that if they do decide to see how you are doing, you can present them with the best possible version of yourself. If they decide not to revisit things with you, then you still get something out of the experience as you are a better person than you were at the breakup and can carry those lessons forward
What I would do: I would talk to my ex about my child and respect her as if she was a distant acquaintance, but I would never ask about her day, feelings or life in general. If she asked about my life or started telling me about hers, I would respectfully ask her to stop. If she would continue, I would ask her to respect this simple request. This is basically no contact, because you don't know what's going on eachother's lives except the child.
I really don't think people's responses to rejection is any reason. Not everyone is the same. Giving women a pass is not acceptable. Especially when the expectations of society are on men to initiate and make a move.
This just happened to me. Grrr Coach Craig, I wish I could afford coaching. It's more expensive because I'm in Australia and I am out of work because of COVID here. But my ex reached out after 3-months of me doing NC. I spent Easter weekend at her house. We slept in her bed, but she wouldn't be intimate. I was playful, cheeky with a couple of comments about her sexy legs and trying to put my hand on her thigh while sitting on the lounge next to her The conversation was amicable and relaxed. Now for no apparent reason, she has ignored me for a week.
Dear Craig & beautiful co....how would you explain that the very same person who ghosted you might be stalking you in social media later? Does not make sense at all but It is happening! 😱
Sir.. I appreciate your videos they help a lot.... But there are some coaches on youtube who say that no contact won't work on ex back.... Just wait one week and contact them with confidence..... In their opinion, No contact doesn't work becoz the ex moved on and doesn't have any feeling for you and no contact just makes it worse and easy for them to move on, so it's better you improve yourself in 1-2 week and contact them agian..... What do you say coach ?
Any improvements that you make in a week or two are going to be trivial at best. Real change takes time, and if it is change that it needed in order to have a more secure relationship, then all you're doing is kicking that can further down the road. People with genuine feelings and attachment don't move on after a week or two, it just doesn't happen unless they are narcissistic, have other mental health issues, or genuinely didn't care in the first place. Even people who have been building up to a breakup for months beforehand will have difficulty living in the new reality unless the relationship was abusive, as up until the breakup, it was entirely conceptual. Actions need to have consequences. Besides, no contact shouldn't be 'just' for getting your ex back, but to get you back. Why would your ex want to come back to the very thing that they left in the first place?
I ghosted 3 people last two or three weeks not because I am afraid to be vulnerable or I am avoidant. But because one person I disappointed for asking favor materially and financially(i am not a low-value woman to ask that so fast). Another person I ghosted because his emotions are too strong for me as healed AP(He flirt and tell his feeling on the first day of chatting with me). The third person is asking the same topic and I don't feel connected to his topic although I answered his question I felt boring.
You asked for help financially within a very short time of knowing someone? That does make you a low value woman. High value men know to run at that point.
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Guys i have had several people get their ex back but lose them because they didn't stay focused on the personal growth. Very sad. They're devastated. Please don't let that be you!
Good advice!
You guys missed the other side what if your where with some one for years and they ghost you?? Mine was 3 years she just blocked me... I learned what AN AVOIDANCE is to the fullest 3 years man wtf??? 🤮🤮🤮🤮hurts severely bruh!!!
We didn’t miss avoidant partners. I said it myself. And yes, that would hurt a lot
I shouldn't have watched this video man... really fucked me up!!! Never had this happen to me before.... at least call me a dirt bag right? This hurts... she thinks she's all that man...karma will catch her Im sure...😢😢😢
When is email coaching back?
There are plenty of children walking around in adult bodies
Exactly!
Truth
Isn't no contact similar to ghosting?
Yea my ex
You are very right
I love how you pointed how incredibly DISRESPECTFUL ghosting is. It’s treating someone like they aren’t even a person with emotions or feelings. Total disregard for the other person. It’s far more respectful to have a 2 minute conversation where you’re hurting someone’s feelings with your honesty VS. ghosting them and causing a world of confusion and prolonged emotional turmoil. Thanks for making this video.
Isn't no contact similar to ghosting?
No contact is a RESPONSE to anothers' ending the relationship.
Where a decision has been made by a partner to END things.
Its a form of self, emotional preservation, a coping method of an already pre-determined fact/behavior or action of another.
Ghosting can be viewed as a "pre-emptive strike " on another by disappearing, ignoring, without any type of conversation, warning, concern for another.@@dwightschrute8141
@@dwightschrute8141 no
People that ghost are the sick ones.. they need help cowards
Ghoster are afraid of confrontations. Cowards and immature.
@@rebeccajohnson5658 all Facts!
So true! They need help, that’s not how you treat someone!
This is one of the meanest things you can do to someone. Seems to be so popular too. Lame
Yep
It happens to me all the time
It’s just happened this weekend gone 💁🏼♂️
People today have no Integrity and manners
It’s disgusting behaviour!
It’s true being constantly GHOSTED can lead to Suicide
Isn't no contact similar to ghosting?
@@dwightschrute8141 no..no contact happens when someone breaks up with you the right way
Aw RIP coach Margaret, used to watch you back in the day when dealing with an ex. Hope you’re at peace x
If they ghost!! Let them go! Next
The torture of wondering what you did wrong, maybe nothing at all; and they’re not even willing to talk about it.
Mental abuse.
Ghosting is a huge form of cowardice.
To just walk away without a reason or discussion is downright cruel.
Beware of a person who does this.
If someone ghosts you, consider yourself blessed. Ghost them back and never allow them back into your life. Obviously, they were playing games with you from the beginning. A person who is grown, mature and really interested in you will not do that.
I’m tired of immature/narcissistic people playing games with a person’s emotions and hearts. The funny thing is, when you have nothing to do with them because of their cruel actions, they can’t take it.
Yes, they have no sense of commitment.
Agree
This is also a very narcissistic trait. I dated someone for over 3 years, and my ex simply ghosted when I was diagnosed with cancer. Hopefully you can speak on this topic. Narcissism is HUGE and most of us were totally unaware, until their discard.
Agree
How hurtful it must have been.
I can feel your pain.
Stay strong.
May God bless you❣️
I never knew Narcissist can be a ghoster. Thanks for the information appreciate it. I knew stalkers can be a ghoster.
That person is a piece of shit!
U deserve the world and more. ❤
I Hope that you're okay now🌹🌹🌹🌹
I agree... Can we say, “narcissist?” I was ghosted after TEN years.
There's no excuse to ghost these days with cellphones and texting. Anyone could easily at least send a text and simply say, "This isn't working for me", or whatever.
I just got ghosted after only a couple months of dating. I know that's not long, but I feel he led me on because he kept talking about future plans, where he wanted to take me next, and said things like, "We'll have to have another date soon!!", and "Get your passport, l'll pay for it!". He even bought us concert tickets for March 2024, when it was only October 2023. So...why in the heck would he disappear without a word after that? People are so cruel. Now I don't trust anything anyone says.
If anything, ghosting allows you to see who someone is early on. Best to keep an eye out for it and move on the moment it happens. People who ghost are rarely ever long-term material.
Sounds like it....
I never thought about that. Never thought rarely ever long term material
Especially ghosting someone for someone straight out of Highschool! How sick can someone be?
I dunno. My case is that he had moved to my state to be with his last girlfriend. They broke up, and he dated and ghosted me after only a couple of months. He could move his whole life for one woman, but ghosted me. How can you not take it personal? If he had never had something long term, that would be one thing. But he was with her 4 years, and supposedly another girlfriend for 9.
People who ghost are cowards and disrespectful!
Ghosting is the cowards way out, just say "Thanks but no thanks"
Totally agreed!
Ghosting sadly is not just a phenomenon that occurs only in dating. My ex wife ghosted me after 15 years of marriage. She told me she had to go to another part of the country for medical care and left on my birthday, never to be heard from again. At the time I really had no clue. The worst part is she left under false pretenses and sabotaged my life in many different ways afterwards. You think you know someone when you spend years with them... but in some cases, like mine, you really don't. Some people are so closed off and avoidant that there can be a lot going on behind the scenes that you have no clue of. Be mindful, be alert, and ask questions. Your wellbeing might depend on it.
I have a similar situation, my husband ghosted me since we are doing long distance for what would be just a year or so, did she ever come back? At this point, after two months of no answer from him, i decided to move on, he read everything i send, but he doesn't answer, its the coldest meanest thing someone has ever done to me
It’s very hurtful. My relationship ended because of ghosting. I was actually a secure attached but I my anxiety got triggered after an argument about spending more time with his friends rather than with me in a long distance relationship. Now I understand more about his dismissive behavior & I noticed my mistakes too. I threatened to leave several times. Well now it’s over. I’m finally letting no contact happen.
I wonder how were you secure attached if this happened? I had some secure periods in my relationship (the first 3 years really), but I wouldn't have ever called myself someone of a secure attachment style. I was secure towards her only because she wasn't really my type at first and she was ~extremely~ needy. I just couldn't imagine her leaving me, I was actually hoping she would leave me, so I wouldn't have to dump and break her heart. Ironically after our first breakup, which was initiated by her, but was mutual and amicable, I started falling for her and 2 and a half years later I actually loved her and she broke my heart without mercy. But anyways, I wonder why would you call yourself secure if you did those things? Are you secure in all other (non-romantic) relationships?
Friends?
Who the hell dump you?? Man...
@@mandelcanario5226 why?
@@NadeenHope first, if you are here un this video like us means that you are a good and emotional girl. Second, youre stunning girl. I was in NC for 5 months, i broke it, seeing her for 3 months and helping her with her during brother death of cancer, and now 3 weeks ago she ghosted me after a small argument. I apologized, called her, left her a birthday cake in her house door yesterday, and nothing. Im feeling Like total s**t now. Im a good man and love her. But like i see, her new friends of 7 months deserve more being with her in her birthday like me. Sorry for my bad english im spanish and 30 YO, but you deserve better, youre a good girl, Dont worry i know too much people who KILL for being with a woman like you. Be strong. Everything will be ok for us...i feel like Dying right now
It's not what they say its what they do.
You're NOT their priority or point of interest so just move on and let them miss you when you're gone
One person I was interested in ghosted me because my friend at the time threw herself at him and he went for it. Of course he never told me the truth and she lied a lot, but their photos were on social media. To make matters worse, she told my coworkers (we worked together) and I was made to be the laughing stock at work. That was one example of how ghosting was traumatizing for me. It was a stark reminder of how I was always made to be the ugly girl that nobody wanted as well as someone being "better" than me. I deal with it better now, but it still haunts me to this day.
I was ghosted and blocked on social media for no reason. Really messed me up and I'm still trying to get through it. It's hard because part of you not only wonders what it was about but also if they'll ever come back. She was the greatest, sweetest girl I ever met and we never had any problems. It's so weird, if I text her (which I haven't done in some weeks, and 2 months before that) she'll read it. Why read it? I don't understand. It has truly been a very traumatic thing for me to experience.
any update? did another guy come back into the picture?
@@smith5o7 I got over her by the end of 2021 and deleted her number and texts, everything. She stalked my social media stories for awhile with fake accounts but I blocked them so I could finally move on, and because it wasn't fair for someone who wanted to ditch me to see what was going on in my life but never want to speak. She is seeing another guy now from what I saw on HER social media, but he is a serious downgrade. Which just shows me even more that she's not someone I would even want to get back with.
Thanks for this video. This really helped me alot. I was ghosted by 1 ex which devastated me. I've never encountered a woman like her. Being ghosted was the ultimate form of disrespect in a relationship. I'd rather deal with an abusive, controlling, and jealous girlfriend because at least she wants me and gives me attention. You don't have that certainty with someone who ghosts you. I was left asking "why? Everything was going good so what did i do wrong?" I was looking for break-up advice and they weren't very helpful. That was until i came across your channel which answered all of my questions. I breathed a sigh of relief knowing it's not my fault my ex ghosted me. It's fair to say i did the best i could to make her happy.
Right there man... wow, I'm the same way man.....she was never happy at all....
Right, she often said she was too busy to talk to me. I stopped believing her after seeing her talk to her friends on social media day after day. I figured she had a conflict with me, but didn't wanna confront me so she avoided me altogether. I got frustrated because all she had to do was tell me what was bothering her and we would've fixed it.
Ghosted last year after 3 years together.
Very painful experience. Even though deep inside I knew he was emotionally and mentally abusive.
It’s been a year and I’m actually very happy. I wish I would have gotten the closure but I feel a lot of hope for the future and I’m finally ready to start dating again
Got ghosted 4 months ago by a guy I was seeing from a dating app. Still not over it either.
Take care of yourself girl they are not worthy 🙂
I have no sympathy for those that ghost. We are all adults leave ghosting for the kids in hs
My ex ghosted me after being with me in a relationship for 11 years! This was the most hurtful thing that anyone did to me.He wasn’t man enough to face me to deal with whatever problems that was going on to talk about it. I call this childish and very selfish and disrespectful! Found out he got into a rebound relationship that same day. I believe if he did this to me he’ll do it to the next!
11 years?! Wow, even after all that time you can't really know a person. Relationships are brutal now.
Chile it ain’t just dating it’s just people out here ghosting they bf/gf it’s really sad
I was in a 2 year relationship. He was stationed in another country that was unaccompanied. He had not called me for 3 months but did text daily. The text became less and very short. I asked if everything was okay and he said he was super focused on his job. Which I understood but I didn’t understand why he couldn’t call me but had time to be on fb and like his ex gfs pics. Then 5 hours later text me...sooo then he ghosted me. 🙄I’m over these cowardly moves.
I’m just kind of thinking now
It’s best just to be on your own these days
Some or Many People are just not like they used too be
In fact they’re not even people they’re just a vision of empty souls
It’s really sad !
Wow... yep... Im almost there.. Om numb right now...
I’ve also wondered if they do it to leave the door open.
Yes!
Ya'll completely missed talking about people ghosted by long term partners.. Who cares if a tinder ghosts you after 3 dates, have some self esteem and move on, you're going to be ghosted more than not ghosted there. And most of you sad over it have probably ghosted someone yourself on tinder. It's the ghosting after years and being in a serious relationship that is traumatizing. I couldn't even tell you how many times I've been ghosted by 1date-3month Tinder dates. Probably hundreds, what-ever, next.
All ghosting is hurtful, but yes long term would be traumatizing and would hurt for longer.
... and another reason is that they *lied SO much* ... to the point of *pretending* to be in a relationship that was *never* real... that they just couldn't tell you the truth. Maybe they were just keeping you as an option the whole time, while working things out with someone else... and making you believe in a *whole fake reality* .
If someone ghosts you... there is something really serious they are hiding. The other "conflict fears" could be easily solved with one damn simple text message.
When my ex first broke up with me, it was amicable, I was damn proud we could stop it on such good terms. Second time she was trying to ghost, then got furious when I didn't leave it that and I found out she was cheating on me. You speak the truth. They ghost when they don't want to face how low they have sunk.
Yes It’s hurtful when someone ghost you. After getting into an argument with my ex of 3 years he ghosted me . My ex didn’t like arguments . I Haven’t seen him in 2 years. Really sucks
Mine too. Been 1 year 2 months
Wow.... been 4 months for me she so close to me too.... its jacked up..
Did he block u too from all social media ?
@@youcantseeme.8349 it’s commendable that u don’t wanna visit his social media 😊
Yep almost 4 years with SO she told me she needed a break after a fight and just disappeared….as unrespectful as someone can be
He's slooowly stopped replying to me. I became increasingly anxious, sad and confused. That made things worse. I finally accepted his decision and said so. Then he panics that I'm saying goodbye and we see each other again. This has been the dance for a year. Lather, rinse, repeat. I've asked him numerous times for my clothes when he's disappeared again. Then He panics that I'm saying goodbye. He never gives me my stuff, and when he reaches out again, it's "Hello, how are you doing"? I wait, respond briefly. Ask how he is. Silence. It's exhausting. Your videos are so helpful to me. Thank you. This all started, I believe, from his opening up to me, saying he feels close to me and trusts me. And then he ran. I think he has Asperger's as well.
Can you make a video on how friends may manipulate your partner to not be with you?
Pretty sure it's not okay when you've been together for a year and a half. Ghosted for 2 weeks, then broken up with a Dear John letter. All while trying to get them to open up and talk, and reassuring since we love each other, it's a safe space. 🤔
I sooooo needed this video today, many thanks!
Me too!
It’s incredible how these videos appear when you are in a vulnerable relevant situation
My ex came back after a month of ghosting ❤️
I hope we can make things work now
Did your ex apologize?
Why would you take them back?
@@xMikeyHardyx because l love him, this whole channel is about dating and no contact and getting your ex back, right? I waited this episode out ❤️
@@lols5851 Yeah, he said sorry, then gave me time to decide if l still wanted him ❤️
@@lenaschaef6714 You think you’re only worth someone who will ghost your ass for a month?
This video seems to cover about when you get ghosted at the beginning stages of dating or just meeting someone first couple of dates. Could you do a video about getting ghosted during a long term relationship. Year or longer. Where you don’t even know if the relationship is over or not. Just left in limbo. They just one day stopped talking to you. I’m anxious she was dismissive avoidant. She avoids conflict or difficult conversations. If you try to explain or talk things out she would accuse you of arguing even though you were trying to find a mutual solution together and approach those convos from a place of understanding or open to being wrong. Normally if we have a falling out I’d over pursue make all the mistakes beg pled cry become over emotional. This time I didn’t. I see ghosting as disrespectful. Immature. Especially after years of being together. No plans to reach out. Idk if I’d ignore if she reaches out but don’t really know what would be the appropriate way to respond. If she reaches out and doesn’t address it, wouldn’t that be enabling being treated badly? But if I bring it up I’ve seen on your videos you suggest not bringing up feelings or negative convos when the ex reaches out. Being with a dismissive avoidant can be so exhausting. As exhausting perhaps as it must be to be with an anxious pre occupied I suppose. Thank you for the great videos.
Margaret looks like my mom thats dead so sometimes i come on here just to look at her
Awwww🥺
if an avoidant feels to close & ghosts you, would they confide in you etc and then maybe move onto a new relationship again and again to avoid that attachment?
If they ghost you Respect the dead
Maybe I should just send this video to last girl who ghosted me
Ghosting horrible to do
Ghosting is the way of the immature coward,
In a nutshell
Just happened to me with a guy and just as Craig said, it really stings but thankfully I've only met this guy once so if we met more times, it would feel even shittier
It's a kick to the nuts every time
I haven’t seen a video about where both people are ghosting each other. Like..... one is waiting for the other one to message but you don’t want to be the one to message first so it feels like ghosting
hope somebody can tell me if i have a problem myself. So I kind of "ghosted" my girl because back in March i found out she was cheating on me with a coworker. they kiss and hugged, and sex was on the table. from March to July I was constantly trying to make things work out between us. She did not apologized, i didn't feel like she regretted doing it. I communicated with her and i tried to end things a few times but she asked me to stay and I just couldn't see myself without her. Last day of July i tried to kiss her and pressed her lips against each other clearly not wanting to kiss me. My heart has been torned all these past months and i felt as if i was trying to swim against the current. So August 1 I went into "no contact," not telling her anything. We recently started talking again... is there an issue with my by not telling her i was not going to continue trying to fix things?
I was super excited about the date I was supposed to have this week and the one mistake I made was saying let's set it up when you get back in town instead of just setting it then but the person ghosted me so
There goes the one person I'm attracted to per year if that
Nah that’s not your fault bro, not at all. People just suck
One of my questions for long time and ,thanks for the answers ! You guys awesome ❤
I have been ghosted its been a month now. Do you think I should write him and tell him how he hurt me? We were in a relationship and had agreed to be exclusive so it was more than just dating.
Coach craig, I'm hoping you could do a video about stonewalling cause my bf would always ignore me for days after an argument. Also, does no contact work if you're still together? Thank you
This passive aggressive respond is a 🚩
A ghoster can go into online conversations to hide and respond back during the conversation. The ghoster can start trouble in the conversation with others in it. That is what I been experiencing. And the ghoster gave me hints to whom it is.
@@enduranceleoendy7253 stop it. What's up App is a spying app for stalkers and exes
My ex gf broke up with me one month ago. I posted a few stories where I was hanging out with friends and with some girls. She unfollowed me. Why is that ?
She’s jealous.
@@paulasmith3577 @bloodysh Or hurting. People often regret their decisions after the fact. Seeing you out having fun with friends and showing that you're able to live life without them is a shot to the ego, particularly if they're having doubts about the breakup or haven't been coping particularly well once the infamous 'relief' stage wears of. Hold the course, keep living life for you, and let them make the next move
people who ghost people are really mean, omg how they can do it! emotionally inmature i believe
Is this ghosting, manipulation, narcissism or she likes me?
She started a conversation with me. Throw the bait to see my reaction. Then she starts chatting casually about everything with me. She Just asks questions and makes you talk about myself. Gathers information about me. Then she stops communicating for no reason. She gives the impression that she is angry, arrogant and rude. After a while it was as if nothing had happened. No more talking, but just say hello when we meet. I found out she has a boyfriend all the time.
@@notherejusthere3324 OK, thank you. 🙂
@@Johnny-sn2ls Definitely manipulation. I would hazard a guess and say that she is using you for an ego boost when she feels that she isn't getting sufficient attention from her boyfriend. Some people really do want their cake and eat it
@@Phoenix_440 OK, thank you. 🙂
Why would someone you dated ghost you, yet still be putting likes on your social media?
I finally unfriended him because...wtf is that!? You stop talking to me and asking me out yet you still wanna interact on my Facebook like nothing happened.?
Great video. Very informative & relatable.
Glad you found it helpful!
Hi Craig,
Could you please do a video about the coronavirus lockdown effect of relationships? It’s causing a lot of breakups.
My wife ghosted me, then filed for divorce. Her loss!
I have unintentionally hurt my ex so bad and now they blocked me everywhere.. I realize I ruined all my chances on getting them back but I just want to make up for my mistakes.. what should I do?
Put that energy into working on yourself. If your actions and mistakes have cost you a chance with your ex, make it worth it. Own your mistakes and put the effort into making it so that in future relationships, those same mistakes don't happen again. Whether that future relationship is with your ex, or another, nobody can say right now. But give her time and space. As Coach Craig say, feelings change, but you have to give them time. In the meantime, make sure that the person they could potentially come back to has put the work into personal growth and bettering themselves, so that if they do decide to see how you are doing, you can present them with the best possible version of yourself. If they decide not to revisit things with you, then you still get something out of the experience as you are a better person than you were at the breakup and can carry those lessons forward
Great video!
It was just launched 14 seconds ago lol. Did you come from the future?
@@CoachCraigKenneth Just had a feeling coach Kenneth
@@TheNlinger His name is Craig lol
@@rwentfordable Coach Kenneth buddy lol
What do I do if no contact isn’t an option because we have a child together? Am I doomed?
What I would do:
I would talk to my ex about my child and respect her as if she was a distant acquaintance, but I would never ask about her day, feelings or life in general. If she asked about my life or started telling me about hers, I would respectfully ask her to stop. If she would continue, I would ask her to respect this simple request. This is basically no contact, because you don't know what's going on eachother's lives except the child.
I really don't think people's responses to rejection is any reason. Not everyone is the same. Giving women a pass is not acceptable. Especially when the expectations of society are on men to initiate and make a move.
This just happened to me. Grrr Coach Craig, I wish I could afford coaching. It's more expensive because I'm in Australia and I am out of work because of COVID here. But my ex reached out after 3-months of me doing NC. I spent Easter weekend at her house. We slept in her bed, but she wouldn't be intimate. I was playful, cheeky with a couple of comments about her sexy legs and trying to put my hand on her thigh while sitting on the lounge next to her The conversation was amicable and relaxed. Now for no apparent reason, she has ignored me for a week.
I really needed this
Dear Craig & beautiful co....how would you explain that the very same person who ghosted you might be stalking you in social media later?
Does not make sense at all but It is happening! 😱
Coward
I was ghosted 👻 and idc.
Sir.. I appreciate your videos they help a lot.... But there are some coaches on youtube who say that no contact won't work on ex back.... Just wait one week and contact them with confidence..... In their opinion, No contact doesn't work becoz the ex moved on and doesn't have any feeling for you and no contact just makes it worse and easy for them to move on, so it's better you improve yourself in 1-2 week and contact them agian.....
What do you say coach ?
Any improvements that you make in a week or two are going to be trivial at best. Real change takes time, and if it is change that it needed in order to have a more secure relationship, then all you're doing is kicking that can further down the road. People with genuine feelings and attachment don't move on after a week or two, it just doesn't happen unless they are narcissistic, have other mental health issues, or genuinely didn't care in the first place. Even people who have been building up to a breakup for months beforehand will have difficulty living in the new reality unless the relationship was abusive, as up until the breakup, it was entirely conceptual. Actions need to have consequences. Besides, no contact shouldn't be 'just' for getting your ex back, but to get you back. Why would your ex want to come back to the very thing that they left in the first place?
@@Phoenix_440 Perfectly said.
Every relationship is build by love and if u love them no matter what happen they will never leave you
Not true but ok 😂
Not true at all.
Not true.
I completely agree.
I agree to certain extent, as every person is different & every relationship is different.
Most people leave when they find someone better.
What if the one I loved had bipolar disorder
That's not your problem. And we can't fix people nor change them.
You should be glad they are gone
I ghosted 3 people last two or three weeks not because I am afraid to be vulnerable or I am avoidant. But because one person I disappointed for asking favor materially and financially(i am not a low-value woman to ask that so fast).
Another person I ghosted because his emotions are too strong for me as healed AP(He flirt and tell his feeling on the first day of chatting with me).
The third person is asking the same topic and I don't feel connected to his topic although I answered his question I felt boring.
You asked for help financially within a very short time of knowing someone? That does make you a low value woman. High value men know to run at that point.
Isn't no contact similar to ghosting?
No, because you reply if you get a message in NC. Ghosting is permanent.
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