Na not really If anything the way you talk or the way you speak about is showcasing your personality and I mean your own personality. So that's why just be yourself is the best advice not necessarily be a fat loser or be the same person you can grow yourself and be the best version of yourself but it don't mean jack if you don't know how to be yourself when you talk to women or just talking to people in general instead of creating a fake version of yourself or just being a facade version of it.
I think she means in the context of a date - i.e. she is talking about Chad and not some needy beta. In that context it makes sense as she wants Chad to connect instead of ghosting after she puts out. But yeah, taken out of context it's obviously dangerous advice.
Ive found it much harder as a guy in 2024 for exqmple, than I did 10 years ago in 2014. Im now 38, but im in better shape than ever and although ive been put of a long te relationship about 2 years ago, women just seem way less receptive than they used to be. The women that said "Be yourself" and "Open up about your feelings" as dating advice for men really dont have a clue in my opinion. She wants men to play it cool, not share all their insecurities and vulnerabilities. What I think she means is thst she is attracted to masculine and stoic men who dont open up and wants to change them, not men who are open about their feelings from the get go.
They have 7-12 years of max attractiveness, but want to have their fun, and expect you to settle in year 6-11... just as you are gaining in wealth, confidence, and relative attraction compared to the guys that let themselves go. Have your fun. Do not settle for them ever, but especially not if they're settling for you only in their rapid decline.
Correct What they wants is a dik (personality), there is one exception: if she’s a confident human then yes open up. Nah, not even then Do sales people “open up”, well don’t be an idiot Be social dint open up, it’s lame, Ive done it. It’s still lame 😂
Save your time and money and go to a place where you have an advantage in the dating market, not with these stuck up western european women, let them fuck their african pets
They say face to face but in public they seem to have a shield up, as if you shouldnt talk to them. I think the woman in the white turtleneck needs to understand that when a man is never approached by women, he ends up thinking he probably doesnt deserve to date or have relationships worh women. This is something I used to struggle with. Its not like women usually look interested most of the time. Most men walk around feeling invisible.
Sad to think so many guys feel this way. Honestly I can relate BUT bros trust me when I say: focus on levelling up, reduce negative influence and quit addictive habits, on top of that develop amazing socials skills and things WILL change… Keep pushing boys! Let’s Go!!!
5:52, "...open up about your feelings." Wrong advice for men. The correct advice is for men to get women, i.e. their date, to open up about her feelings. Get her to emotionally invest.
Translation guys: She wants you to be willing to talk about HER feelings. This is really what she's saying. Women don't really want to know where your fears are where your demons lie. Any weakness you show scares them. They have affectionatly labeled this "The Ick". They want to know that you have the emotional vocabulary to sit and talk with them about their feelings. They're looking for a guy that has a high level of compassion, empathy and affirmation; you know like their girlfriends.
According to a female coworker of mine "You need a lot of money along with the abs and height". Btw, this person is the nicest in our group. Imagine the feminist ones.
What is considered height? I Find the abs thing BS because on one hand guys like fit women but if a woman is thicc we will like them too in certain situations. It's like how women like tall guys but if the guy is super packin they suddenly don't care about height so much. lol
In resume: Is a waste of time, you better save ur money and time for better things, games, books, trips etc so many good things to enjoy alone instead of wasting time in someone who is only interested on taking some advantage of you and also some benefit. Plus hurt you in the process of it, better be alone, this is the time for mens to be alone and enjoy a peaceful life alone. Leave womans. I want to add,❤️ not all woman’s are trash. There bad men’s and good men’s, and good woman’s and bad woman’s, all of us are humans and living beings after all. So if you are a nice guy, keep being you. Is better and easy to be yourself than trying to force yourself to be another person and force yourself to treat them like shit while some of they don’t really never deserve it. One day, any of you guys will meet someone, maybe good or maybe bad. But if it’s bad, you will notice right away, thanks to this videos you can know a red flag in a woman and just keep them away. But if it’s a good woman, don’t treat them like shit, some people really don’t deserve it. And even if it’s bad, Don even try anything with them, save your time and about the problem. I say this because I have a sister, she is not a bad woman, she has never drinked alcohol, she is even on her 20, she is virgin, because she is a very home person. She is nice to everyone, and love to help others and she prefers to read a book o exercise than being in a party. I wouldn’t like her to be treated like shit, or be bitten, crying. Because she doesn’t deserve it. So guys, be smart. Am not saying that all woman’s are bad. Just save your time with the ones that are bad and improve love yourself, improve yourself in the process, maybe some day you will need that good woman or men. But not everyone deserves to be treated bad. I hope you guys have read this
Remember my words, you are going places, just stay consistent. I'm 43 but when I was 17-25 i just went out, that's what everyone my generation did. For example, half off wings on Wednesdays, we talk to the girls next table or introduce ourselves to the girls in the line up (place used to be jammed) and get their numbers to hang out or have them over for a house get together. Online was practically unheard of, you had to have charm and charisma.
@@YouUnlocked100 It's all good. I live in rural Australia and by the time I sorted myself out the single women had/have moved away. I don't have the physical or mental health to move away and start over again, I have the quality of life I have because I'm debt free and own my home. I see an escort once or twice a year for some skin contact and that's been life changing.
The question of "should a guy approach first?". I've seen plenty of women, in my day to day, answer just as these women here have, that they would. But it's obvious that when YOU ask it, you're just saying "guys". When THEY answer yes, they're saying "guys that are my type". If you're their type, they're confident 2:15. If you're not their type, you'll just be considered a creep. If you're their type, then you are shy. If you're not their type, then you're just a loser or a weirdo.
In regards to opening up about feelings: Yes but match the girl’s level. If she’s opening up about something then u can open up similarly. If the exchange and conversation is lighthearted, keep it there. If a topic gets brought up and you see an opening to dive in more, ask her a question about it. But don’t just ask and move on. If she gives a good answer throw in your perspective. To me it’s about matching the energy and commitment levels whether it’s a chat, physical touch, or any interactions in between
They're still quite clueless (generally speaking). I really do wonder how long it'll take them to truly clock on. Maybe never? Ironically, they need it more than men.
The lady with the green and yellow jacket is so jenuine and beautiful. No need for a man to cheat on her. I would absolutely love to meet this woman! Men, take a wholesome lady and treat her with more dignity. Considering how poorly us men are being treated.
I am far from ugly, some probably still consider me good looking at almost 40, but I have no personality, like I am charming and romantic and thoughtful and selfless, but what I am not good at is conversation that has no intellectual purpose, off-the-cuff remarks or flirting. Seriously guys, the last thing you need is to be good looking. If you have a rough face like a mouth full of messed up teeth and you're a ginger, I promise you have a better shot at picking up than I do, I see it all the time! As soon as a girl sees you and your display of dominance and assertiveness and your social and employment power, all of a sudden she sees that face as "rugged" or whatever label she can backflip into. A bouncer that's bald and far from handsome will pull chicks all day as he gives off this tough, protector vibe, if he can just say something, *anything* interesting to the girl to get a back and forth going. Make her laugh and you are golden.
^ This man said "make her laugh" - if you're ugly and make her laugh YOU become the joke. That makes sense - you give her jokes and she spreads her legs😂😂😂😂 don't believe this nonsense
6:39 This line just sounds cheesy. Being vulnerable isn't inherently a personality trait. And about 5:49, first off it's obvious that she's thinking about the guys she's attracted. *Don't be fooled guys*, if a girl is not already really attracted to you, they're not going to become attracted by you being open about your feelings. If you don't believe me RUclips search "People on Men that Cry". That's about as open as it gets, and many women would feel uncomfortable. Also in the modern day, there's tons of men that are waiting for the chance to be vulnerable. So if this woman is having trouble getting men to open up, it means she's not creating a space where the men she entertains feel safe enough to open up. Which isn't much. So on top of guys being responsible for initiating dates, she once again puts MORE onus on men. Imagine if the genders were swapped. "Women, it's YOUR responsibility to be vulnerable to us. It doesn't matter if you don't feel safe, or if you feel embarrassed or ashamed or we might invalidate you. If YOU don't give your everything up first then WE won't be attracted to you." Sounds pretty unreasonable, doesn't it? A man not asking themselves how they could make themselves be more comfortable for a woman? But you don't hear that because men are constantly told that they have to make a woman feel comfortable. There is no rhetoric in the other direction. So much so that when You interviewed that woman, you didn't find anything wrong with what she said. No, I'm not opening up for ANY stranger unless I'm either desperate OR they've given me good reason to believe I won't be invalidated, and my time not wasted.
Never ever open up except to your closest 2 or 3 friends or family members. They'll use it against you, and are intentionally giving you bad advice to weed you out of the dating pool if you actually listen to them. They want a stoic man that has his life together. If you're that guy, you more than likely understand that she won't contribute to it in positive way, so you keep them at a certain distance. That you don't need them and most of all don't chase them, is what will attract them to you.
You have real emotions that you keep to yourself, as you should. They have nothing but fake emotions intended to manipulate you to gain your trust, sympathy and resources. Nothing more. They are the ones that need to keep their emotions in check, be stoic, or at least fake the best masculin traits. Which is the best they can do. If you find yourself listening to they're advice, including that of your family's, then you've lost, and they know to stay away from you.
Translation guys: She wants you to be willing to talk about HER feelings. This is really what she's saying. Women don't really want to know where your fears are where your demons lie. Any weakness you show scares them. They have affectionatly labeled this "The Ick". They want to know that you have the emotional vocabulary to sit and talk with them about their feelings. They're looking for a guy that has a high level of compassion, empathy and affirmation; you know like their girlfriends.
That awesome! I'm glad some men are having a good life. I wouldn't wish my life on anyone, bald 5' 3" and have never been on a date, I'm mid 40's now. But to be fair being bald is the least of my problems. Lol
No one help be you at the beginning of you journey but when you will did it every thing every one will say to you how so great thing take tame be patient and do hard work
It's a little misleading to talk about cold approaching without stating that there is looks/behaviour baseline. Just remember that below a certain threshold, you're in the creepy category guys.
I think what she means is open up about your interests and intentions, instead of starting to crying when she asks about your ex. Definitely don’t do that. Learnt that one the hard way.
If you wanna level up your dating life and social skills - let's chat: calendly.com/contactyouunlocked/20mins
Open up your feeling will get you rejected.
The "Just be yourself bro" advice will lead you to prison.
Na not really If anything the way you talk or the way you speak about is showcasing your personality and I mean your own personality. So that's why just be yourself is the best advice not necessarily be a fat loser or be the same person you can grow yourself and be the best version of yourself but it don't mean jack if you don't know how to be yourself when you talk to women or just talking to people in general instead of creating a fake version of yourself or just being a facade version of it.
I think she means in the context of a date - i.e. she is talking about Chad and not some needy beta. In that context it makes sense as she wants Chad to connect instead of ghosting after she puts out.
But yeah, taken out of context it's obviously dangerous advice.
dont ask fish, ask fisherman
I am the fisherman... why do you think I'm wearing that hat.
Yessir 👍🏽
But why would the fisherman wanna give you his secrets and dilute the pool? Oversaturate it with competition? Doesn't make much sense...
@@CyborganizdInc.-gc5so as long you dont fish in the same pond i think its alright, its always good to help a brother.
Exactly
Ive found it much harder as a guy in 2024 for exqmple, than I did 10 years ago in 2014. Im now 38, but im in better shape than ever and although ive been put of a long te relationship about 2 years ago, women just seem way less receptive than they used to be. The women that said "Be yourself" and "Open up about your feelings" as dating advice for men really dont have a clue in my opinion. She wants men to play it cool, not share all their insecurities and vulnerabilities. What I think she means is thst she is attracted to masculine and stoic men who dont open up and wants to change them, not men who are open about their feelings from the get go.
ALL women will say this kinda stuff but if you could see how they act privately when they think no one will find out....they are a different story
They have 7-12 years of max attractiveness, but want to have their fun, and expect you to settle in year 6-11... just as you are gaining in wealth, confidence, and relative attraction compared to the guys that let themselves go.
Have your fun. Do not settle for them ever, but especially not if they're settling for you only in their rapid decline.
Correct
What they wants is a dik (personality), there is one exception: if she’s a confident human then yes open up. Nah, not even then
Do sales people “open up”, well don’t be an idiot
Be social dint open up, it’s lame, Ive done it. It’s still lame 😂
dont waste your time guys save your money
Save your money and time, they are just playing with all of us
Save your time and money and go to a place where you have an advantage in the dating market, not with these stuck up western european women, let them fuck their african pets
They say face to face but in public they seem to have a shield up, as if you shouldnt talk to them. I think the woman in the white turtleneck needs to understand that when a man is never approached by women, he ends up thinking he probably doesnt deserve to date or have relationships worh women. This is something I used to struggle with. Its not like women usually look interested most of the time. Most men walk around feeling invisible.
Sad to think so many guys feel this way. Honestly I can relate BUT bros trust me when I say: focus on levelling up, reduce negative influence and quit addictive habits, on top of that develop amazing socials skills and things WILL change… Keep pushing boys! Let’s Go!!!
And I mean not levelling up in terms of physique but your attitude and mindset towards goals and life are very important you meant that.
Juice ain't worth to squeeze fellas ! Just make money, travel and enjoy
100% correct
If it’s true love and meant to be, status, money, abs, any of that superficial shit doesn’t matter
5:52, "...open up about your feelings." Wrong advice for men. The correct advice is for men to get women, i.e. their date, to open up about her feelings. Get her to emotionally invest.
Translation guys: She wants you to be willing to talk about HER feelings. This is really what she's saying. Women don't really want to know where your fears are where your demons lie. Any weakness you show scares them. They have affectionatly labeled this "The Ick". They want to know that you have the emotional vocabulary to sit and talk with them about their feelings. They're looking for a guy that has a high level of compassion, empathy and affirmation; you know like their girlfriends.
Your comment is bang-on correct@@jamesdeubanks!
According to a female coworker of mine "You need a lot of money along with the abs and height". Btw, this person is the nicest in our group. Imagine the feminist ones.
What is considered height? I Find the abs thing BS because on one hand guys like fit women but if a woman is thicc we will like them too in certain situations. It's like how women like tall guys but if the guy is super packin they suddenly don't care about height so much. lol
In resume: Is a waste of time, you better save ur money and time for better things, games, books, trips etc so many good things to enjoy alone instead of wasting time in someone who is only interested on taking some advantage of you and also some benefit. Plus hurt you in the process of it, better be alone, this is the time for mens to be alone and enjoy a peaceful life alone. Leave womans.
I want to add,❤️ not all woman’s are trash. There bad men’s and good men’s, and good woman’s and bad woman’s, all of us are humans and living beings after all. So if you are a nice guy, keep being you. Is better and easy to be yourself than trying to force yourself to be another person and force yourself to treat them like shit while some of they don’t really never deserve it. One day, any of you guys will meet someone, maybe good or maybe bad. But if it’s bad, you will notice right away, thanks to this videos you can know a red flag in a woman and just keep them away. But if it’s a good woman, don’t treat them like shit, some people really don’t deserve it. And even if it’s bad, Don even try anything with them, save your time and about the problem. I say this because I have a sister, she is not a bad woman, she has never drinked alcohol, she is even on her 20, she is virgin, because she is a very home person. She is nice to everyone, and love to help others and she prefers to read a book o exercise than being in a party. I wouldn’t like her to be treated like shit, or be bitten, crying. Because she doesn’t deserve it. So guys, be smart. Am not saying that all woman’s are bad. Just save your time with the ones that are bad and improve love yourself, improve yourself in the process, maybe some day you will need that good woman or men. But not everyone deserves to be treated bad. I hope you guys have read this
How many women hurt you g? 😭
@ Could be surprising but, Zero. I just heard other people bad experiences. That’s it ;)
@@elfua7347 so you've never actually even tried? Did you get your T levels checked? No offense.
You are correct.
@@inSynced yep! :)
Asking the fish how to get fishes 😂
Remember my words, you are going places, just stay consistent. I'm 43 but when I was 17-25 i just went out, that's what everyone my generation did. For example, half off wings on Wednesdays, we talk to the girls next table or introduce ourselves to the girls in the line up (place used to be jammed) and get their numbers to hang out or have them over for a house get together. Online was practically unheard of, you had to have charm and charisma.
I struggle to feel like anyone would want to be with me. Being alone for decades and getting to middle aged without being on a date tends to do that.
Hey Tim, sorry to hear that. Feel free to book a call with me via the link in the description and let's see if I can help.
@@YouUnlocked100 It's all good. I live in rural Australia and by the time I sorted myself out the single women had/have moved away.
I don't have the physical or mental health to move away and start over again, I have the quality of life I have because I'm debt free and own my home. I see an escort once or twice a year for some skin contact and that's been life changing.
A lot of men are lost because abuse women don’t need us. But a lot of men’s motivation is women.
The question of "should a guy approach first?". I've seen plenty of women, in my day to day, answer just as these women here have, that they would. But it's obvious that when YOU ask it, you're just saying "guys". When THEY answer yes, they're saying "guys that are my type".
If you're their type, they're confident 2:15. If you're not their type, you'll just be considered a creep.
If you're their type, then you are shy. If you're not their type, then you're just a loser or a weirdo.
In regards to opening up about feelings:
Yes but match the girl’s level. If she’s opening up about something then u can open up similarly. If the exchange and conversation is lighthearted, keep it there. If a topic gets brought up and you see an opening to dive in more, ask her a question about it. But don’t just ask and move on. If she gives a good answer throw in your perspective.
To me it’s about matching the energy and commitment levels whether it’s a chat, physical touch, or any interactions in between
Follow the 2/3 (or golden ratio rule). When the woman says 3 positive things/emotes/opens up you reply with 2. You ALWAYS have to emote less!
Honestly the way you chat them up is a tutorial on it's own Rizzman
They're still quite clueless (generally speaking). I really do wonder how long it'll take them to truly clock on. Maybe never? Ironically, they need it more than men.
The lady with the green and yellow jacket is so jenuine and beautiful. No need for a man to cheat on her. I would absolutely love to meet this woman! Men, take a wholesome lady and treat her with more dignity. Considering how poorly us men are being treated.
Genuine
I am far from ugly, some probably still consider me good looking at almost 40, but I have no personality, like I am charming and romantic and thoughtful and selfless, but what I am not good at is conversation that has no intellectual purpose, off-the-cuff remarks or flirting.
Seriously guys, the last thing you need is to be good looking. If you have a rough face like a mouth full of messed up teeth and you're a ginger, I promise you have a better shot at picking up than I do, I see it all the time! As soon as a girl sees you and your display of dominance and assertiveness and your social and employment power, all of a sudden she sees that face as "rugged" or whatever label she can backflip into. A bouncer that's bald and far from handsome will pull chicks all day as he gives off this tough, protector vibe, if he can just say something, *anything* interesting to the girl to get a back and forth going. Make her laugh and you are golden.
^
This man said "make her laugh" - if you're ugly and make her laugh YOU become the joke. That makes sense - you give her jokes and she spreads her legs😂😂😂😂 don't believe this nonsense
does anyone know the song playing in the background at 4:05?
"be yoURSElF."
"oPEN Up aBouT YOuR FEELInGS."
Horrible advice
How to get girls? Now it's impossible for me. I will have more luck finding an example of dark matter.
I’m sorry to hear that buddy. Definitely consider watching more videos then.
Bro, you are gonna ger to 1 million so fast
@@mostafa.hoseinimanesh thanks brother, appreciate the encouragement
So they want us to approach them?
Dont
6:39 This line just sounds cheesy. Being vulnerable isn't inherently a personality trait. And about 5:49, first off it's obvious that she's thinking about the guys she's attracted. *Don't be fooled guys*, if a girl is not already really attracted to you, they're not going to become attracted by you being open about your feelings. If you don't believe me RUclips search "People on Men that Cry". That's about as open as it gets, and many women would feel uncomfortable.
Also in the modern day, there's tons of men that are waiting for the chance to be vulnerable. So if this woman is having trouble getting men to open up, it means she's not creating a space where the men she entertains feel safe enough to open up. Which isn't much. So on top of guys being responsible for initiating dates, she once again puts MORE onus on men.
Imagine if the genders were swapped. "Women, it's YOUR responsibility to be vulnerable to us. It doesn't matter if you don't feel safe, or if you feel embarrassed or ashamed or we might invalidate you. If YOU don't give your everything up first then WE won't be attracted to you." Sounds pretty unreasonable, doesn't it? A man not asking themselves how they could make themselves be more comfortable for a woman? But you don't hear that because men are constantly told that they have to make a woman feel comfortable. There is no rhetoric in the other direction.
So much so that when You interviewed that woman, you didn't find anything wrong with what she said. No, I'm not opening up for ANY stranger unless I'm either desperate OR they've given me good reason to believe I won't be invalidated, and my time not wasted.
Never ever open up except to your closest 2 or 3 friends or family members. They'll use it against you, and are intentionally giving you bad advice to weed you out of the dating pool if you actually listen to them.
They want a stoic man that has his life together. If you're that guy, you more than likely understand that she won't contribute to it in positive way, so you keep them at a certain distance. That you don't need them and most of all don't chase them, is what will attract them to you.
You have real emotions that you keep to yourself, as you should.
They have nothing but fake emotions intended to manipulate you to gain your trust, sympathy and resources. Nothing more.
They are the ones that need to keep their emotions in check, be stoic, or at least fake the best masculin traits. Which is the best they can do. If you find yourself listening to they're advice, including that of your family's, then you've lost, and they know to stay away from you.
Literally british version of me. Finally someone who is not corny, pushy, clown etc.
Let him cook
Is there a "Asking Guys - How To Get Guys In 2024" version?
No, should we do it?
@@YouUnlocked100 Its a must do I think.
@@YouUnlocked100yeah the other way around would be great !
@ampotant We’re doing it! Dropping Jan 2025! Have a great Christmas holiday brother
Translation guys: She wants you to be willing to talk about HER feelings. This is really what she's saying. Women don't really want to know where your fears are where your demons lie. Any weakness you show scares them. They have affectionatly labeled this "The Ick". They want to know that you have the emotional vocabulary to sit and talk with them about their feelings. They're looking for a guy that has a high level of compassion, empathy and affirmation; you know like their girlfriends.
Correct. Been married thirty years. A man doesn’t want to worry his woman with insecurities and doubts. It is unmanly to burden them with this crap.
She just fancies you, big time!
"Dont waste a woman's time"....dont waste your own either....bedroom fun only bros.
6’ 4 bald and built here 👋 life is good 😎
That awesome! I'm glad some men are having a good life.
I wouldn't wish my life on anyone, bald 5' 3" and have never been on a date, I'm mid 40's now. But to be fair being bald is the least of my problems. Lol
@ hit the gym my friend its all in the attitude gym will give you confidence. Chics will come. Quit feeling sorry for yourself remember you the man!!
@@Frizzlefrail Lift each other up. Love to see it
Good keep going
Thank you brother! More to come
No one help be you at the beginning of you journey but when you will did it every thing every one will say to you how so great thing take tame be patient and do hard work
The one wearing the Ferrari jacket seems like a great woman. A rare sight these days in Western countries. I hope she finds a great husband.
wait until you hear her body count...
It's a little misleading to talk about cold approaching without stating that there is looks/behaviour baseline. Just remember that below a certain threshold, you're in the creepy category guys.
Be a handsome over 6 feet tall guy with toxic traits
How To Get Girls In 2024: Don't....
girl in the ferrari jacket marry me omfg
For reals. At the very least, I would like to take that Ferrari for a test drive or 2.
I'd appreciate if the guy is nervous, but no I wont date him because he dosnt believe in himself. Hahahaha😂
I need an accent.... and a lot of $$$.... but she needs to already be rich..... yeah...I'm shallow. (and that Ferrari jacket)
You don't want to get them.
Women like friendly men.
Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat😂
You're joking right?
Friendly, funny, good-natured yes. Doormats and wimps no.
@@zdlax 🤡 You forgot attractive before everything else
be tall and have money haha
Be more of a man, but open up about your feelings
I think what she means is open up about your interests and intentions, instead of starting to crying when she asks about your ex. Definitely don’t do that. Learnt that one the hard way.
@@YouUnlocked100 oh crap, so crying about my ex isn't good?! Goddammit. You live and learn