I've been in the similar situation I have two DNA tests prove that I am not the father. One i done it privately and one done by her at the Court. As we speak i did a protection order against her because I realized that she was too dangerous for me.
As a proud subscriber of this channel, let's learn to respect people that come to the show to educate and raise awareness of issues, Stop critiquing people as though your lives are perfect, as a consumer, your job is one, learn, do better, should they interview you today, you will be shocked by your own shananigans, be kind in your judgments please, you are not the standard of how life should be!!
I don’t know if anyone else noticed it but every now and then his voice sounded very shaky🥺this thing really hurt him. I pray for his healing❤️ And I hope he gets to be the father he has always wanted to be.
“NOTHING THAT STARTS IN DISHONOUR WILL END IN HONOUR”! This guy cheats on his partner and clearly no protection was used during coitus, and later on he has to face the consequences of his irresponsible behaviour. Someone played him the same way he played someone else. Did he miss the memo on the law of “you sow and reap what you sow”. We obviously can’t discount his pain and respect his story, hopefully he’s since become the better man he’s wanted to be. 🙌
You said it hey, I can imagine what her gf was going through when he left her because he impregnated someone else, how did he even get to do that if really he wanted to be a better man
It's Karma my guy. Happens to all of us, sometimes we leave our relationship looking out for our own best interest only to find that grass ain't green. In terms of the baby not being yours , take it as a blessing. You don't have to deal with her anymore, petty you invested so much . You are father that most woman wish the kids had . Thank you for showing that little man love , it could be what he needed as a foundation .
The relationship between Seleke and the baby was amazing , he went by the name Papa wa Panana. He loved the boy and showed it. 😍 You did ur best and we need fathers like you in this generation.
I was crossing my fingers the whole time hoping he won't cry on us because I knew it would break me further. I'm sorry bhuti. You are a good man and God will reward you for everything you did for that child.🤍🤍🤍
We keep using sex as form of entertainment. That's why so many things are turned upside down in this world. Sorry my brother for what you went through. Keep strong 💪 sir
Exactly, this is what you get for using such an intimate thing for 'fun' If it's monogamous fun then it's better, but they were both seeing multiple people. Such a reckless and irresponsible mess
@@elle_l808l next time he will stick to one partner. He was also reckless by having multiple partners and having unprotected sex with More than one partner. He should thank God he is not infected with HIV and other sexual transmitted diseases
This is so true!! Personally I don't understand how sex is just a mere thing for so many people. It's such a terrible reality, so many people have kids with people they don't even like nevermind love all because of a night or weekend or random encounters of fun
@@nolusizodlalisa5573 True, it's a shame, now he is playing a victim. Why did he had sex with her if he didn't intend to have a relationship with her. On the other hand he had was cheating on his girlfriend. This is the results of sexual immorality.
😭😭😭 I feel his pain in the end. You know what I've noticed is that if you had a traumatic childhood, you somehow also get into traumatic situations when you're an adult. It's almost as if life is playing a sick twisted game on you on purpose. I can relate to his story, but mine is opposite. Some women watch you raise a child that's not yours, and some men leave you to raise their child on your own. Life is really unfair. 💔💔💔
I could that something was not right but hade mfethu... We all want to be there for our kids, but circumstances make it difficult and unbearable for us. It's life... Stay strong my ninja
@@moosampofu622 yes true it is. It goes to show how easily parent's decisions affect their children. Unfortunately generational curses are many and some of us are fighting so many things that are sometimes beyond our control.
I really don't think I'm ready for tomorrow's episode 😭😭when he cried, I really felt it 💔 Ladies please do them all but don't lie about paternity yoh that is so inhumane 🥺🥺🥺
uMotshidisi, foist a whole child on an unsuspected crime that's like the cuckoo that invades another birds' nest and pushes on egg off off the nest and replace is it with his so that the unsuspected bird from another specy feeds. that is a whole crime. also same with dudes that hides their previous children. like you gone hide a whole human SMH ! lol!
Bro, you have an incredible amount of patience. I couldn’t even stand her while listening to you I was about to keep her out and then I realized, it’s your story
The fact that he was seeing two women at one time and has the audacity to say the other one would have been insecure 😂no sir, you were untrustworthy You were seeing more than 1 woman, so what if the pregnant lady was seeing multiple men. She should have just told you there's a possibility that you aren't the father from the beginning People are so sexually reckless and irresponsible
This is very complex. I think he tried by all means not to be like his father and that unfortunately made him miss all the red flags. This goes to show that unaddressed childhood trauma does affect your rationale. I hope he heals from this. It's not his fault.
Some woman need to be grateful when they have a man that wants to back them up In a situation like this . I take off my hat for this good hearted man. I'm so sorry for his pain..
Sidebar: I'm sure y'all can see how distressed he seems in relaying his story. You'll find it's the first time he relays the story in such detail because men are rarely given platform to express themselves.
floyd, its because we go thru cycles of mockery and in this case being assumed a cukhold. men are emasculated baaaadly. i can hear the cracks in his voice. its very raw. god bless this good dude.
Nope, this guy was once on a Twitter space and opened up about this matter, nna its not the first time I hear him relay this story. Still really sad to hear though😞
A guy i really fancied told me he has impregnated someone & he has to concentrate on the coming baby so we had to break up.A few years later he had a DNA test which excluded him as the father .He contacted & told me but it was late to rekindle .It happens
Guys like him have no respect for their loving and loyal partners. Karma is real my dear. You reap what you sow in this life. May God bless this guy and heal him completely.
Oh shem!! Didn't want a child out of wedlock but had sex out of wedlock. Lady was not fair to lie to him but people reap what they sow. May this be a cautionary tale for men out there!!
This episode is a sad reality for majority of men. Good men still exist and he loved his "son" with all his heart. Am so glad he talks about it openly and I hope that one day he can heal from this painful ordeal💔
This gent here is a real man, doing everything in his power to nurture, protect and provide for his offspring. I applaud him for all his efforts in trying to be a present, hands-on dad. Rotten tomatoes to the conniving mom who did everything in her power to use her child as a bargaining tool to have her way. Boo-hoo to her and all her kind.
You cheated and on top of that you were reckless. Furthermore, you broke someone's heart & left them to pick up the pieces. Wathola abangangawe. Hope you learnt your lesson. ❤
@@tebooho8582 right? It's sad yea but I'm having a very hard time feeling sorry for him.. hai some men. He must take it as Karma and move on with his life nje
@@Kamo27944 i couldn't feel sorry for him either. And unfortunately what he went through is too common idk if i should say in africa or just certain parts of africa. He should have put his excitement aside and done a dna test from the get go
As a teenager growing up without a father figure it's really heartbreaking. He's still alive but don't even care about what I'm eating, I'm a still fine or what. And seeing such man's that take everything and anything to give they children what they've never had feed us up too .🥺I'm inspired that such man's still exist
Shame man, I can't imagine what it's like. Have you ever approached your mom on the circumstances of you coming to being? I think it'll shed a lot of light on maybe why he's distant (not and excuse) but at least you'll have context.
Witchcraft is not people magically entering your house at midnight and giving you Segateletsi (sleep paralysis), witchcraft is what that woman did! That weekend she was with him she was screening him for the role of father to a child she was already pregnant with and aware!
a good guy.. he had learned an very expensive lesson by playing around...imagine the girl he was in relationship with here this side....unfortunately karma..
It’s his voice it the emotional breakdown that makes him to sound like this 🤔🙆🏾♂️🥺 This guy is deeply hurt👀 may God work on him because he seem to be good guy and deserve the best🙌🏾
It's more common than you'd think. Utatakho has shown the dark side of the other gender. They even protest against mandatory DNA testing at birth. No accountability at all.
As a woman, I can safely I DO NOT CARE about the circumstances that led to the how the baby was conceived because that is a different story from what is being relayed today. My heart truly breaks for all men who are loving fathers and do their best to be there and fully supportive and give their hearts to the child only to find out that they are not the father....it's a type of pain I cannot begin to comprehend because fortunately for me as a woman I will always have the clarity that I am the mother. If you find yourself in a situation where you are not sure of the paternity of the child, rather don't tell the men until a child is born and you can honestly ask for a paternity test. Or tell them from the word go that there is more than 1 possible father.
i feel like usually when the extended family is around. they can spot that sheiiit miles way. ain't no way a chile developing from toddler to infant that isn't mine wouldn't get found out. every woman in my family has carried my babies and they are all astute observers. if sum like this happens to me. God help the thot. because i onno what i'd finna do her. Because this is gone end multiple ways of bad. I am NOT the type to do this to.
This reminds me of my brother's story. His live-in girlfriend refuses to take a DNA test. The child looks nothing like my brother or the rest of our family. The months don't add up because she was gone for a year, came back and claimed to be pregnant. She also claimed she that the clearblue pregnancy test that I bought her did work (liar). 3 times we offered to pay for a DNA test because as siblings, we take care of each others children financially. Times are hard, we can't take care of someone who might not be our blood.
@@rojamillerover Agreed. He has a right to do it alone because why is she refusing? The truth will ALWAYS come out. Tell your brother to order a DNA test kit online. He can administer it himself and get the results and then confront her.
Just liking comments today. Most times we don't see the impact of our actions when we are upset. Most times the images of the anger reactions still with us.
It breaks my heart that this brother had to experience such fraud acts. Be strong brother and I can assure you that God is watching, you might have been drained emotionally and financially out of this process but you will get your reward one day. God bless🙏🏼
1. In UK it was found that so many middle kids in family that has 3kids, so many aint of the husband. 2. A nigerian pastor in Nigeria did make a plea for men to do DNA tests cos he got too many cases of men raising kids they thought were theirs. Ive been saying this. Immediatly after delivery and before birth certificate is issued, there has to be proof of paternity cos so many men and innocent kids are traumatized by the women's deception.
I see some comments about the karma the guy got because of him being a player.....well guess who is the innocent victim in everything? The child! A parent should ALWAYS have their child at mind, both parents. You can hurt a guy by lying about the paternity of a child but using a child to hurt someone is up there with the highest level of EVIL.
Seleke has always been a sweet, respectful & gentle person…we put ourselves in situations that alter the rest of our lives. It’s a tough life experience that he went through.
It's sad how "having fun" could come with such heavy hurts in life, mistakes happen, but what that girl did is Evil, ladies may we do better, if you not sure who the father is, wait till baby is here and do paternity, although that is going to expose you, deal with your shananigans alone, we cannot be raising broken generation over n over Again.
I relate so much to his situation, I am still in process to get paternity tests done, been looking on the internet to speak to someone with experience of such an event of accepting a child and in the long run you start getting doubts due to events that took place during and before pregnancy. I wish people could share their experience and advice others.
when they say Karma know everyone's address this is what it means, the guy was a player and a womanizer , coming here to play a victim is not how you get away with things, we sometimes do things out of desperation and later they catch up with us, yall sees him as a good man , kanti nix, zamkhalela, he could have been a good man to the girlfriend he dumped for a this lady , even better they could have had a child together and be a good father he wanted. the girlfriend he dumped for all this is now Married and happy, nice neh!
He was not a good man but he was definately trying to be a better father and own up to his mistakes. It was a messy situation from the get-go but he didn't deserve this. That lady is nasty because not only did she hurt this man, she hurt her child aswell. How messed up can people be?
I'm a women but that lady will be punished for her actions, and she knew very well is just she took the advantage of the situation now she must feed her child alone that's when she will realize her stupidity, I can't wait for part 2, be strong my brother some of us we're raising the kids alone
A couple of lessons from this but I not here to judge. I hope both parties have moved on and the child has stability. Poor child will have a tough time adjusting to a new dad now.
Are we supposed to feel bad for this man? He shouldn't have been reckless and irresponsible 🤷🏽♀️ why are you in a relationship and 'having fun' AKA CHEATING, with some random girl you don't know that well
Verbal abusers should know that the horrible words they utter are going no where. No matter how many times they apologize. It's better to be quiet when you angry. And try to address your issues when calm
Lebo, can I please suggest that you incorporate some more feel good stories also just so that your channel doesn't only focus on negative stories. Great work by the way, you are such an awesome host!!
Ohh Seleka, my heart bleeds for you. I witnessed you being a father and how you enjoy being “Papa Panana “🥺. I am so sorry you had to go through this. May you find strength. I know good deeds never go unnoticed, you are deserving and all that you do is happening in your life even during such hard times. I am sooo shocked.😔
Had he not cheated then none of this would have happened. He brought this unto himself by cheating on his girlfriend and not using protection. Then we must feel sorry for him hell no. You reap what you sow, karma Sir.
Karma yazi it's served him ryt... what about the pain he has caused for the other lady 🤔? Shame uyalayeka nje uzenzile...I sometimes wonder if man do feel pain ngendlela legender echeater ngayo..
Beware of manipulative people, they will ruin your life and affect the lives of your loved ones. Also, think thrice before you get naked with someone. I feel so sorry for this guy and all the people who end up in this kind of situation. 🥺
This guy is a typical example of “A great father but terrible partner”. Hamba juba boyokuxutha phambili, he cheated and suffered terrible consequences.
My friend went through a similar situation. It took him more than 5 years to recover from that. My brother's friend went through the same thing (+13 years) and he hasn't recovered to date.
I find it crazy that women would do this. I have a loving hubby and we have a 3 year old who is his twin...I never even imagined having a child with any other man because he fits the mould of what I want in a man...to lie about the paternity of a child should be a crime in my opinion.
Oh Mr Ramatlotlo, what a sad story, wish I could come and give you a hug, eish, most man suffer in silence, truly a child is a mother's baby and a Father's maybe, stay strong my brother stay blessed always
The topic is so sad and I really sympathize with him, I'm not takingaway that this women was very selfish and most men go through this kind of behaviors. I was pick some of things up though, there is something I don't understand about men when they say a relationship was not serious with someone else was that agreed upon that it was not serious. Secondly getting a women pregnant the day you officially meet up is insane what happend on getting to know someone before having sex. Thirdly I was also raised by my grandmother, as the name say Grandmother are not babysitters they can help when they can when she raise me now raise my children that unfair guyz plus our mothers advice they word are not last. Let know the role of our mothers when we adults. Fourthly providing financial, physical and emotionally it both parents responsibility we have normalize that it the mother responsibility and a mother should be grateful I sincerely don't agree. All he was doing that how the father suppose to be involve in child's life and that doesn't need a medal. I'm so sorry what you went through and have strength to talk about it, it going to help so many people to be not ashamed and other do differently.
32.41 eish, this guy just made me cry😭 Sorry dear, you really did yr part and remain blessed. You will be the best husband to yr future wife for sure. Sending you love from Namibia 🇳🇦
This woman sounds like the most selfish,cruel and rude human being. She never loved this guy but only used him. This should teach men to do a paternity test when they have doubts, it also should teach us ladies not to take it personal when someone requests for a paternity test .We need to think of how we would feel if our own brother, uncle or son was in the same position. May he find peace in his life🙏🏻
Yho I can’t deal when he says “my mother raised and took good care of us” and “she would raise the child well” … yet he had a traumatic childhood in which his mom heavily contributed to through her choices… gosh I’m seeing this as a 2 way story… his character was mostly the reason she tricked him… aai this guy is just not the kinda fella I’d vibe with not even as a friend.
So true....I also cringed because I kept thinking that his mom was also not a good candidate after subjecting her own kids to such a terrible childhood. But O guess in this context the other party wouldn't have known. The guy though needs serious healing
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Paternity Fraud affects three people at minimum. The child, the father and the biological father. Extended families 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
Profound!!
This comment 😭
I've been in the similar situation I have two DNA tests prove that I am not the father. One i done it privately and one done by her at the Court. As we speak i did a protection order against her because I realized that she was too dangerous for me.
As a proud subscriber of this channel, let's learn to respect people that come to the show to educate and raise awareness of issues, Stop critiquing people as though your lives are perfect, as a consumer, your job is one, learn, do better, should they interview you today, you will be shocked by your own shananigans, be kind in your judgments please, you are not the standard of how life should be!!
La Masango, whew Chile ! you had a lot on your mind, mama. speak on it .
💯 thank you. couldn’t have said it better. Let’s be kind!!
I agree
I don’t know if anyone else noticed it but every now and then his voice sounded very shaky🥺this thing really hurt him. I pray for his healing❤️
And I hope he gets to be the father he has always wanted to be.
The pain is still raw😢
I thought I'm the only one who noticed that..it's sad
at first i even thought its nerves of the camera
This wanted to cry in those moments. This is so unfair
This is traumatic. Unfortunately alot of men go through this
Seeing such men like this gentleman who put family first is a blessing in this country.
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Too bad he got punished for it, or maybe it's just his karma coming back to him.
I think he is a narcissist who plays victim. I don't feel sorry for him even a little bit. He's a cheat.
“NOTHING THAT STARTS IN DISHONOUR WILL END IN HONOUR”!
This guy cheats on his partner and clearly no protection was used during coitus, and later on he has to face the consequences of his irresponsible behaviour. Someone played him the same way he played someone else.
Did he miss the memo on the law of “you sow and reap what you sow”.
We obviously can’t discount his pain and respect his story, hopefully he’s since become the better man he’s wanted to be. 🙌
Eish. 💔💔💔
The condom may have broke / had a hole? Not discounting him cheating though . But possibly that part could have been another angle .
@@nikkiejonathan7514 that's true, condoms can be faulty but hai, he created his own mess
My good mam u too the words out my mouth..😐😐😐well said hope its a learning lesson for those who live dubiously 😑😑😑😑
You said it hey, I can imagine what her gf was going through when he left her because he impregnated someone else, how did he even get to do that if really he wanted to be a better man
Just of many things that Men go through but suffer in silence. Strength to you kind Sir 🙏🏼
Lmfao ,i feel absolutely nothing for this guy. He cheated ,ba mo tshwarisa handsball ,the universe is such a marvelous equalizer. Love it ❤
Girrrrl! The moment I realized that nami, I was like, "Shosho!👏🏽" Cheating is a foul action that deserves foul consequences.
😂😂😂😂 Hands ball, the universe is punishing him for cheating that lady, lmao.
That poor lady he dumped was probably gonna carry his real child.🙈
That's his fault, he cheated so this is what he gets
😩😂😂😂
Serves him right
Sinaaaaaaazo!!!! 😂😂😂
The lady dodged the bullet 😅
It's Karma my guy. Happens to all of us, sometimes we leave our relationship looking out for our own best interest only to find that grass ain't green.
In terms of the baby not being yours , take it as a blessing. You don't have to deal with her anymore, petty you invested so much . You are father that most woman wish the kids had . Thank you for showing that little man love , it could be what he needed as a foundation .
The relationship between Seleke and the baby was amazing , he went by the name Papa wa Panana. He loved the boy and showed it. 😍
You did ur best and we need fathers like you in this generation.
I was crossing my fingers the whole time hoping he won't cry on us because I knew it would break me further. I'm sorry bhuti. You are a good man and God will reward you for everything you did for that child.🤍🤍🤍
His voice was breaking the whole time and my heart was just shattered😪😪😪😪😪
We keep using sex as form of entertainment. That's why so many things are turned upside down in this world. Sorry my brother for what you went through. Keep strong 💪 sir
True..he was having sex with this side check while he had a girlfriend. Our black man use unprotected sex to intertain themselves
Exactly, this is what you get for using such an intimate thing for 'fun'
If it's monogamous fun then it's better, but they were both seeing multiple people. Such a reckless and irresponsible mess
@@elle_l808l next time he will stick to one partner. He was also reckless by having multiple partners and having unprotected sex with More than one partner. He should thank God he is not infected with HIV and other sexual transmitted diseases
This is so true!! Personally I don't understand how sex is just a mere thing for so many people. It's such a terrible reality, so many people have kids with people they don't even like nevermind love all because of a night or weekend or random encounters of fun
@@nolusizodlalisa5573 True, it's a shame, now he is playing a victim. Why did he had sex with her if he didn't intend to have a relationship with her. On the other hand he had was cheating on his girlfriend. This is the results of sexual immorality.
Shew! It's sad how it turned out when it started out as fun.
I will wait for my favorite Relebogile question "Where are you today?"
Also love that question. 😊
😭😭😭 I feel his pain in the end. You know what I've noticed is that if you had a traumatic childhood, you somehow also get into traumatic situations when you're an adult. It's almost as if life is playing a sick twisted game on you on purpose.
I can relate to his story, but mine is opposite. Some women watch you raise a child that's not yours, and some men leave you to raise their child on your own.
Life is really unfair.
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I could that something was not right but hade mfethu... We all want to be there for our kids, but circumstances make it difficult and unbearable for us. It's life... Stay strong my ninja
It's a generational curse
@@moosampofu622 yes true it is. It goes to show how easily parent's decisions affect their children. Unfortunately generational curses are many and some of us are fighting so many things that are sometimes beyond our control.
I really don't think I'm ready for tomorrow's episode 😭😭when he cried, I really felt it 💔
Ladies please do them all but don't lie about paternity yoh that is so inhumane 🥺🥺🥺
uMotshidisi, foist a whole child on an unsuspected crime that's like the cuckoo that invades another birds' nest and pushes on egg off off the nest and replace is it with his so that the unsuspected bird from another specy feeds.
that is a whole crime.
also same with dudes that hides their previous children. like you gone hide a whole human SMH ! lol!
Bro, you have an incredible amount of patience. I couldn’t even stand her while listening to you I was about to keep her out and then I realized, it’s your story
Bruh 😭 😭 he is very patient 💔
He cheated on his gf, I don't get why y'all think he is amazing.
@@kumajoey6031 , He cheated and the consequences of his wrongdoings are catching up with him.
@@pikotshaka2331 haibo njani guys , the trauma of raising a child that's not yours yes he cheated kodwa this is wrong
Even his childhood was so hectic 🥴
The fact that he was seeing two women at one time and has the audacity to say the other one would have been insecure 😂no sir, you were untrustworthy
You were seeing more than 1 woman, so what if the pregnant lady was seeing multiple men. She should have just told you there's a possibility that you aren't the father from the beginning
People are so sexually reckless and irresponsible
Was about to say. Mother probably didn’t know either.
@@moe_ramz she probably didn't know and just went for the guy who was showing interest in taking care of the child
I took that as well haibo amadoda anjani kanti? Hee but he went through a lot shame yazi u bhuti.
And the 10 years age gap.
I don't feel sorry for him,I hope he has learnt not to be reckless with other people's hearts
This is very complex. I think he tried by all means not to be like his father and that unfortunately made him miss all the red flags. This goes to show that unaddressed childhood trauma does affect your rationale. I hope he heals from this. It's not his fault.
You nailed your observation. Sometimes whilst trying to avoid something from the past, you actually miss out on the important things in front of you.
Perfect analysis of the situation.
That’s what I noticed
This woman did this guy wrong, especially because he desperately wanted to be a better man and father despite his own up bringing. Cold and heartless.
My old primary school classmate from Iketsetseng Primary School in Thabong...such a humble soul...strongs Seleke...don't ever change ...
Yeah we are all from Iketsetseng, I was in the same class with him. Lok
Some woman need to be grateful when they have a man that wants to back them up In a situation like this . I take off my hat for this good hearted man. I'm so sorry for his pain..
You take off your hat for a cheater?!, let us not normalize things that are not normal.
women wanna be backed up...but just not by the man they do not want. he was being used as a scape goat...heart shuttered to pieces
This is sad
@@pikotshaka2331 spot on! 👏
Sidebar: I'm sure y'all can see how distressed he seems in relaying his story.
You'll find it's the first time he relays the story in such detail because men are rarely given platform to express themselves.
floyd, its because we go thru cycles of mockery and in this case being assumed a cukhold. men are emasculated baaaadly. i can hear the cracks in his voice. its very raw. god bless this good dude.
Nope, this guy was once on a Twitter space and opened up about this matter, nna its not the first time I hear him relay this story. Still really sad to hear though😞
Be strong brother, you're a good man and you played an outstanding role of a father to the boy.
A guy i really fancied told me he has impregnated someone & he has to concentrate on the coming baby so we had to break up.A few years later he had a DNA test which excluded him as the father .He contacted & told me but it was late to rekindle .It happens
Why was it too late?
Guys like him have no respect for their loving and loyal partners. Karma is real my dear. You reap what you sow in this life. May God bless this guy and heal him completely.
Oh shem!! Didn't want a child out of wedlock but had sex out of wedlock. Lady was not fair to lie to him but people reap what they sow.
May this be a cautionary tale for men out there!!
Absolutely
Most definitely
Sex without protection, with a stranger at that.
@@Yassmiinn. imagine
And now he comes here telling his one sided story… yet not addressing why he had sex out of wedlock in the first place 😳.
This episode is a sad reality for majority of men. Good men still exist and he loved his "son" with all his heart. Am so glad he talks about it openly and I hope that one day he can heal from this painful ordeal💔
Sis Relebogile is brilliant 🙌🙌🙌I wish she could interview me 😅😅
Hey. Feel free to email the team your story to info@unpackedshow.co.za
"Little things would make me happy"🙌♥️....And to think he would do anything for this child, only to find out child is not his....Aiiiii💔😩😩😩
Shame the story is so sad,but this guy is too soft for my liking.
This one was eye-opening and heartbreaking. How people in our world treat each other always shocks me 💔
This gent here is a real man, doing everything in his power to nurture, protect and provide for his offspring. I applaud him for all his efforts in trying to be a present, hands-on dad. Rotten tomatoes to the conniving mom who did everything in her power to use her child as a bargaining tool to have her way. Boo-hoo to her and all her kind.
You cheated and on top of that you were reckless. Furthermore, you broke someone's heart & left them to pick up the pieces. Wathola abangangawe. Hope you learnt your lesson. ❤
If the girl gets raped, are you then going to say it's her karma cause she lied about the paternity of child?
😢😢😢😢Aow Mara Yazi you can feel the pain in his voice... I'm so sorry bhuti for what you went through🌸
Yes yhaz it's so sad
You’re a good man my brother, that’s why she weighed options and gave you the child
This could have all been avoided had he not cheated on the other lady. Haike but anyways, may he find healing....
The truth other people seem to ignore. He should have been faithful 🤞🏼
Period!
@@tebooho8582 right? It's sad yea but I'm having a very hard time feeling sorry for him.. hai some men. He must take it as Karma and move on with his life nje
@@Kamo27944 yep he should
@@Kamo27944 i couldn't feel sorry for him either. And unfortunately what he went through is too common idk if i should say in africa or just certain parts of africa. He should have put his excitement aside and done a dna test from the get go
As a teenager growing up without a father figure it's really heartbreaking. He's still alive but don't even care about what I'm eating, I'm a still fine or what. And seeing such man's that take everything and anything to give they children what they've never had feed us up too .🥺I'm inspired that such man's still exist
They've always existed.
Shame man, I can't imagine what it's like. Have you ever approached your mom on the circumstances of you coming to being? I think it'll shed a lot of light on maybe why he's distant (not and excuse) but at least you'll have context.
Witchcraft is not people magically entering your house at midnight and giving you Segateletsi (sleep paralysis), witchcraft is what that woman did! That weekend she was with him she was screening him for the role of father to a child she was already pregnant with and aware!
True hey!! She knew he is kind and wanted to take advantage of him.. evil evil
a good guy.. he had learned an very expensive lesson by playing around...imagine the girl he was in relationship with here this side....unfortunately karma..
cheating is really not good but I feel his pain.
A hard lesson indeed, he must wake up and never play dangerous
It’s his voice it the emotional breakdown that makes him to sound like this 🤔🙆🏾♂️🥺
This guy is deeply hurt👀 may God work on him because he seem to be good guy and deserve the best🙌🏾
It's more common than you'd think. Utatakho has shown the dark side of the other gender. They even protest against mandatory DNA testing at birth. No accountability at all.
black italian should intervene😂😂😂😂😂
@@eddymakua2175 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
I ❤ this guy. What a man! I pray he finds a fabulous lady who truely loves him.
Your prayer was heard😍🥰, he got a fabulous lady who truly loves him🤗❤️😍. Check his IG
@@bongiwemotloung3074they have a son now even .
As a woman, I can safely I DO NOT CARE about the circumstances that led to the how the baby was conceived because that is a different story from what is being relayed today. My heart truly breaks for all men who are loving fathers and do their best to be there and fully supportive and give their hearts to the child only to find out that they are not the father....it's a type of pain I cannot begin to comprehend because fortunately for me as a woman I will always have the clarity that I am the mother.
If you find yourself in a situation where you are not sure of the paternity of the child, rather don't tell the men until a child is born and you can honestly ask for a paternity test. Or tell them from the word go that there is more than 1 possible father.
i feel like usually when the extended family is around. they can spot that sheiiit miles way. ain't no way a chile developing from toddler to infant that isn't mine wouldn't get found out.
every woman in my family has carried my babies and they are all astute observers.
if sum like this happens to me. God help the thot. because i onno what i'd finna do her. Because this is gone end multiple ways of bad. I am NOT the type to do this to.
This reminds me of my brother's story. His live-in girlfriend refuses to take a DNA test. The child looks nothing like my brother or the rest of our family. The months don't add up because she was gone for a year, came back and claimed to be pregnant. She also claimed she that the clearblue pregnancy test that I bought her did work (liar).
3 times we offered to pay for a DNA test because as siblings, we take care of each others children financially. Times are hard, we can't take care of someone who might not be our blood.
U can do the test in secret
Omg! Is this still happening? Unfortunately you'll have to do it on the low, in secret
Your brother can take the child to a doctor, alone... For a DNA test... It is legal
Well he can take the child for dna by himself
@@rojamillerover Agreed. He has a right to do it alone because why is she refusing? The truth will ALWAYS come out. Tell your brother to order a DNA test kit online. He can administer it himself and get the results and then confront her.
I salute you Brother for being the man you are.
Lol what did he expect from a one weekend stand with a girl attending a church conference for that same weekend 👀
Exactly, he has to take responsibility for his actions as well. He brought this upon himself. Also,.... Two women at the same time?
I feel so bad for the child but this is hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Exactly u took the words right out of my mouth
tlogelang Relebogile Mabotsa👌👌👌 . Mo Petori re re Odese ka Content.
Waitse keng .. Bosso ke Relebogile... strue.
Men need to stop sleeping around, learn to practice safe sex and also learn to have self control.
Just liking comments today.
Most times we don't see the impact of our actions when we are upset. Most times the images of the anger reactions still with us.
It breaks my heart that this brother had to experience such fraud acts. Be strong brother and I can assure you that God is watching, you might have been drained emotionally and financially out of this process but you will get your reward one day. God bless🙏🏼
1. In UK it was found that so many middle kids in family that has 3kids, so many aint of the husband.
2. A nigerian pastor in Nigeria did make a plea for men to do DNA tests cos he got too many cases of men raising kids they thought were theirs.
Ive been saying this. Immediatly after delivery and before birth certificate is issued, there has to be proof of paternity cos so many men and innocent kids are traumatized by the women's deception.
I see some comments about the karma the guy got because of him being a player.....well guess who is the innocent victim in everything? The child! A parent should ALWAYS have their child at mind, both parents. You can hurt a guy by lying about the paternity of a child but using a child to hurt someone is up there with the highest level of EVIL.
Seleke has always been a sweet, respectful & gentle person…we put ourselves in situations that alter the rest of our lives.
It’s a tough life experience that he went through.
The best interviewer....Lebo🥰🥰🥰
Hey fellow Unpackers 🥰
Hello👋😊
@@perfectlyimperfect6127 hey Zee 👋🏾🙂
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This broke me ... how can a woman be so cruel.
Papa panana💔💔 I'm so sorry you went through this Seleke. Stay strong and I hope you are healing from this traumatic experience.
It's sad how "having fun" could come with such heavy hurts in life, mistakes happen, but what that girl did is Evil, ladies may we do better, if you not sure who the father is, wait till baby is here and do paternity, although that is going to expose you, deal with your shananigans alone, we cannot be raising broken generation over n over Again.
I relate so much to his situation, I am still in process to get paternity tests done, been looking on the internet to speak to someone with experience of such an event of accepting a child and in the long run you start getting doubts due to events that took place during and before pregnancy.
I wish people could share their experience and advice others.
when they say Karma know everyone's address this is what it means, the guy was a player and a womanizer , coming here to play a victim is not how you get away with things, we sometimes do things out of desperation and later they catch up with us, yall sees him as a good man , kanti nix, zamkhalela, he could have been a good man to the girlfriend he dumped for a this lady , even better they could have had a child together and be a good father he wanted. the girlfriend he dumped for all this is now Married and happy, nice neh!
He was not a good man but he was definately trying to be a better father and own up to his mistakes. It was a messy situation from the get-go but he didn't deserve this. That lady is nasty because not only did she hurt this man, she hurt her child aswell. How messed up can people be?
Karma never forgets your address. This is what you get for cheating.
True... yena ayakwin🤞
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@@rirhandzungobeni9582 😂😂😂😂😂
Rele, you are killing us 😭. Please upload 1 and 2 same day. How can it end when it gets to the meat of the story? So unfair.
2 parts will never go out on the same day. Askies…
@@relebogilemabotja215 just feeling anxious, Queen. Your show is A* 💯👌🏾
sometimes in life, the efforts we put in aren't aligned to outcomes.
What happens when things are like this, do u continue being a father to the boy or you distance yourself 😭😔this has to be the saddest thing ever
My brother distanced himself after raising someone else's child for 6 years. Better keep his distance.
You move on.. Before killing each other 😫😫😫
This is heart wrenching 💔. Love & healing Abuti
paternity tests should be mandatory after birth, married or not !!!
Busi, only on request because you know the Gov steals our DNA material. see. now we don't want that .
100% agree
I'm a women but that lady will be punished for her actions, and she knew very well is just she took the advantage of the situation now she must feed her child alone that's when she will realize her stupidity, I can't wait for part 2, be strong my brother some of us we're raising the kids alone
Parenting please. Lord help us to do it right🙏
Awwwww......this is so sad, but he should have listened to his mom when she told him to take a paternity test.....
"Hanging on to childhood trauma defeats us."
Church conference ngapha ngumdavazo.. Aw Nkos!
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Heei😂😩😩😩
😂😂😂😂 hectic
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God help us!
A couple of lessons from this but I not here to judge. I hope both parties have moved on and the child has stability. Poor child will have a tough time adjusting to a new dad now.
Are we supposed to feel bad for this man? He shouldn't have been reckless and irresponsible 🤷🏽♀️ why are you in a relationship and 'having fun' AKA CHEATING, with some random girl you don't know that well
And in an unprotected sex manner😮
I don't even feel sorry for him. Karma!.
Its the result of cheating shem🤞🏼
But he cheated and he wants to make things right
You sound really stupid
Oh Ms Relebogile is so beautiful ❤️
You can hear the pain in his voice, this is so cruel💔. I hope he heals♥️
Ukubona indoda ikhala at the end that’s deep men go through the most
But how is he not happy if he didn’t use a condom? Hao, njani.
I'm asking myself the same question 😕.
Verbal abusers should know that the horrible words they utter are going no where. No matter how many times they apologize. It's better to be quiet when you angry. And try to address your issues when calm
Lebo, can I please suggest that you incorporate some more feel good stories also just so that your channel doesn't only focus on negative stories. Great work by the way, you are such an awesome host!!
Ohh Seleka, my heart bleeds for you. I witnessed you being a father and how you enjoy being “Papa Panana “🥺. I am so sorry you had to go through this.
May you find strength. I know good deeds never go unnoticed, you are deserving and all that you do is happening in your life even during such hard times. I am sooo shocked.😔
Your a good man, u will get someone who deserve u brother
Had he not cheated then none of this would have happened. He brought this unto himself by cheating on his girlfriend and not using protection. Then we must feel sorry for him hell no. You reap what you sow, karma Sir.
Karma yazi it's served him ryt... what about the pain he has caused for the other lady 🤔? Shame uyalayeka nje uzenzile...I sometimes wonder if man do feel pain ngendlela legender echeater ngayo..
Just cause he cheated, he deserves hands ball?
Beware of manipulative people, they will ruin your life and affect the lives of your loved ones. Also, think thrice before you get naked with someone. I feel so sorry for this guy and all the people who end up in this kind of situation. 🥺
Sis how do you handle heavy interview?? I can see that sometimes you feel like crying you hold it back
When can we expect part 2 ? I can’t wait
Tomorrow 17h30
@@relebogilemabotja215 Hoping So🤣🤣
Seleke’s hands movements was the 1st thing I noticed. Was he nervous or there’s more to the story
My heart breaks for this man.
Narcissism is going to be the end of this planet
This guy is a typical example of “A great father but terrible partner”. Hamba juba boyokuxutha phambili, he cheated and suffered terrible consequences.
this made my heart ache . 🥺
This is painful bathong I'm so sorry abuti seleke for wat you went thru some woman are cruel straight
My friend went through a similar situation. It took him more than 5 years to recover from that. My brother's friend went through the same thing (+13 years) and he hasn't recovered to date.
I find it crazy that women would do this. I have a loving hubby and we have a 3 year old who is his twin...I never even imagined having a child with any other man because he fits the mould of what I want in a man...to lie about the paternity of a child should be a crime in my opinion.
@@keepitfrankwithfentse Generation traumas might be the main contributor
@@tumeloseadira8224 You're right. It's definitely a factor.
Oh Mr Ramatlotlo, what a sad story, wish I could come and give you a hug, eish, most man suffer in silence, truly a child is a mother's baby and a Father's maybe, stay strong my brother stay blessed always
The topic is so sad and I really sympathize with him, I'm not takingaway that this women was very selfish and most men go through this kind of behaviors. I was pick some of things up though, there is something I don't understand about men when they say a relationship was not serious with someone else was that agreed upon that it was not serious. Secondly getting a women pregnant the day you officially meet up is insane what happend on getting to know someone before having sex. Thirdly I was also raised by my grandmother, as the name say Grandmother are not babysitters they can help when they can when she raise me now raise my children that unfair guyz plus our mothers advice they word are not last. Let know the role of our mothers when we adults. Fourthly providing financial, physical and emotionally it both parents responsibility we have normalize that it the mother responsibility and a mother should be grateful I sincerely don't agree. All he was doing that how the father suppose to be involve in child's life and that doesn't need a medal. I'm so sorry what you went through and have strength to talk about it, it going to help so many people to be not ashamed and other do differently.
The truth in your statement.. People always like blaming and being victims. He did it to himself
Yho guys angaba ngu Good Husband wam Lomntu. ndiyamthanda yhoo😍
The pain in this guy's voice yoooooh, ke nnete fa ba re legodu ga le batle go utswetswa. They played each other too bad!
32.41 eish, this guy just made me cry😭
Sorry dear, you really did yr part and remain blessed. You will be the best husband to yr future wife for sure.
Sending you love from Namibia 🇳🇦
He cheated too,how about the other girl,crying for what
This is heartbreaking
This woman sounds like the most selfish,cruel and rude human being. She never loved this guy but only used him. This should teach men to do a paternity test when they have doubts, it also should teach us ladies not to take it personal when someone requests for a paternity test .We need to think of how we would feel if our own brother, uncle or son was in the same position. May he find peace in his life🙏🏻
I am here for the girl he cheated on😊
What goes around, comes around✊. I'm here for her too
Eish
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@@semakalengmasemola7188 😂no one cares about the hurt he's caused, only his tears. I am here for ngwana o mong shem
@@theSANewsnow 😂😂😂he shot himself in the foot
Real men still do exist here's a testimony.
He cheated on his girlfriend.
@@pikotshaka2331 Exactly!
@@pikotshaka2331 they were just talking not in a serious relationship that's why it was easy to break/cut that person easily...
@@pikotshaka2331 okay.
Yho I can’t deal when he says “my mother raised and took good care of us” and “she would raise the child well” … yet he had a traumatic childhood in which his mom heavily contributed to through her choices… gosh I’m seeing this as a 2 way story… his character was mostly the reason she tricked him… aai this guy is just not the kinda fella I’d vibe with not even as a friend.
So true....I also cringed because I kept thinking that his mom was also not a good candidate after subjecting her own kids to such a terrible childhood. But O guess in this context the other party wouldn't have known. The guy though needs serious healing
An excellent man indeed
Aus Lebo can we please have a topic ya " I diddnt know i was pregnant until it was time to give birth ". ♥️
It was done before