It’s not as weird a phenomenon as you’d think. I know a friend who always thought he was straight then started crushing on one specific guy. He doesn’t like any other guys, just this one.
maybe she is demisexual? with repulsion to attraction before connection is made? i have no idea, but this just goes to show how truly strong her bond is with james.
@@tatsuyahiiragi416 i think that she might just have romantic but No sexual feelings for him since it's been the same man those years ago, but there's also a Chance that some of the cancer Treatment messed with her Hormones for some reason making him more attractive to her
"Seems like you're bi, isn't it..." Our new society became so attached to labels and classifications that we forgot that in the end, everyone is still human, and love is universal. It doesn't matter how you identify yourself, don't block your life from new experiences. I know it sounds easier than it is, mostly because most generations post-2000 grew up in this neo-segregated society. But look at what happened here; she had to go through cancer to understand the meaning of love.
She might be a lesbian and is a demisexual when it comes to him. Anyway, it is a pretty cute story. I hope(if this is real) they got their happy ending. ❤
@DANYELASF if you can educate me on this, it'll be greatly appreciated. I recently came out as gay and am still new to learning the sexuality spectrum.
@xandervc26 basically, the aro-ace spectrum just explains the level someone feels sexual/romantic attraction, but it doesn't change the attraction, if someone is lesbian and demisexual it mean they have little sexual attraction to women's and women's only, no attraction to men's in any format or shape , so even though she could be ace she can't be a lesbian or any other label for only loving women, because she has romantic feelings for a men
one of the reasons i’ve always struggled labelling my sexuality, i definitely have a preference for girls (also whenever I picture getting married/having a family it’s always with a woman) but at the same time I love people for their soul and their personality not their physical aspects and I have no clue who I’ll fall in love with
If your sexuality is linked to who you have and EMOTIONAL relationship with, then you can use the term Demi-sexual. I am demi-sexual and pan-romantic. This means I am only attracted to the person I have a romantic connection with, but I am capable of having a romantic relationship with any gender. But also, labels aren't anything. They are helpful for some people to communicate, but they are not necessary to have. Do what feels right to you.
She could also just be bi-romantic, or ace. The way she describes it, she could be demi too? Sexuality is a spectrum, and it’s not always one size fits all 🤷
this is exactly why in my perfect world we’d ditch labels all together. i think it’s so much less about the gender of the person and so much more about who the person is. i think it’s just so ingrained in our society that “you have to pick one”, “you have to label yourself”, “you need to know who you are”, that people end up warping their thoughts to fit that narrative.
There’s been no update on this story in a year. I fear the worst has come to pass but I hope to all that is good that she’s better and they’re just too happy and busy to update everyone.
Yes, yes it did. Though I am a proficient reader I generally limit my reading to contracts and other legal documents. However, by the time the my phone muted I was already invested too much to not know the end. Seriously am I that freaking bored?
Yes, yes it did. Though I am a proficient reader I generally limit my reading to contracts and other legal documents. However, by the time the my phone muted I was already invested too much to not know the end. Seriously am I that freaking bored?
honestly, its more about loving the person, not their gender or sex. my boyfriend isnt attracted to men at all, however he loves me, a man. even though he wouldnt date a guy he wants to be with me because he loves who i am, not the body im in. sometimes that person is just the one, even if youre not attracted to their gender, and he definitely seems to be the one for her despite her being attracted to women, she is attracted to him as a person
What ifs she’s not gay or straight why can’t she just love a certain person? Or maybe she’s not gay but she doesn’t like the thought of being with others guys other than him and got her ideas mixed up I’m just saying we don’t have to slap a label just because there are labels she’s in love with dude that’s the only thing that matters it doesn’t need a label it’s not gay straight bi or any of that crap just love simple and the truth
im worried for him because she said she is lesbian. i hope she cant love him back the same as he loves her. i dont want this mane to get hurt down the line.
Romantic and platonic love are always gonna be hard to distingushe. This sounds like playonic love mixed with presure from her family to like a man romanticaly :/
People in the comments pigeon holing OP to fit into their own little boxes of what's acceptable. Stop it. Stop forcing labels altogether, especially forcing them on others. That's not your place, nor do you have any right to get mad at someone for it.
Freddy Mercury's relationships were complicated as well. Messy, doesn't mean bad in this case. Love will find a way. Yeah, I know, super corny. But when the words fit, they fit. 😊
@@ilksmi Dear God, what did I do to deserve this man? I teared up again and he held me one last time. Then the doctors came in. He kissed me goodnight. We both said I love you but it felt so different. It's never felt so good to say or hear those words. Then he smiled at me and left. I was so excited the first thing I did was call mom and she was just ecstatic. I think she might be happier than me, which is saying something lol. As soon as I told her what happened and that James and I are together she just started crying and talking about what a good boy he is, how she just knew this would happen and that she can rest easy now because she knows I will always be loved and taken care of. Plenty of her "destiny" talk which usually gets on my nerves but honestly I was so happy tonight, fuck it I'm on board. Maybe it was destiny. I guess sometimes mom really does know best. I feel like a teenager again. I never thought I'd feel this way again in my life. I never even imagined if I did it would be for a man. God I love him so much. Now I can't understand what I was ever worried about or why I didn't do this years ago. Thanks so much to everyone who read my story and helped give me the perspective and courage I needed to finally do what I should've done years ago. Now as long as my health cooperates… I'll be one of the lucky ones too, because I am his Awww this is so nice. The writer in me is also very happy the formatting on my first post was fixed here, because I couldn't edit it in my original post and it was all messed up =(. I guess as another small update -- things are going pretty well for me considering the circumstances. Oncologist is still very optimistic and I am feeling better (not at the moment, but that's because of chemo last week). I'm responding very well to treatments and things are continuing to look better and better on the health front. And James has just been the absolute best. He was already such a huge source of support for me before I told him how I felt and we became a couple -- but since then... man, there's no words for it. I guess he feels like he doesn't have to hold back on the affection/support and it's been absolutely wonderful being cradled in his love basically every hour of the day. I feel so lucky and I am so glad I told him, and so thankful to everyone who responded to my post and helped me muster the courage to do so.
@@ilksmimy ckmment is ops most recent update and by the way, these videos leave out a lot to make it shorter and sometimes harder for people to find so if you want ypu can search up “I am battling cancer. I’m gay but i realized i have loved my best friend of 25 years. I need to vent and am looking for advice on whether to tell him or not” everything about the story will be on bestofredditorsupdates
Whoes breaking it to her she is pansexual? Like she’s not attracted to men she’s attracted to this person and women. Seriously though I’m so happy for them I hope they make it
I think the problem is that we’re so quick to prescribe labels but sexuality is different for everyone and people should be allowed to identify with whatever they feel best represents them or forgo it altogether
Life is more complicated than that, and while some people want to have labels all figured out some people don’t mind the gray areas. I think op can still totally ID as a lesbian, no problem. She isn’t “actually” anything, and doesn’t have to change it if she doesn’t feel awkward with the label. It’s up to her to decide (if she even wants to think about it more deeply) not us randos on the internet :-) I’m just glad they’re happy! Queer people come in all styles!
I'd say that too but at the end of the day , sexualities don't need labels , I don't like labels but I use them to make it easier for others to understand
Bro, take it from me, a bisexual, it's totally possible to feel this way. Bisexualilty doesnt even have to mean liking all genders equaly and in the same way, fx., I have a preference for Men, and I am also more demisexual when it comes to women. Still gay tho
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they sound like good people hopefully she makes it
Not to burst your bubble but these stories are Ai generated
@@Lucius2toxicWAIT FR???? BROOOOO 😭😭😭
@@Lucius2toxicno theyre not, i saw the reddit post itself of this story
@@kakyointenmei2898nah the man's wrong idk why he thinks the story is ai generated 😭 the voice is but not the story
@@imwierdandimproud202 most of them are
and THIS is why i don’t label myself. i just love who i love :)
Dear god please don’t let this be fake 🥺 it’s enough to make a grown-ish man cry 😭
Im not crying you are
@@mikeafton3539(pats shoulder) its ok we all are crying
@@commanderexplosive4235 yep
“I’m not attracted to men except the man I am attracted to”
It’s not as weird a phenomenon as you’d think. I know a friend who always thought he was straight then started crushing on one specific guy. He doesn’t like any other guys, just this one.
maybe she is demisexual? with repulsion to attraction before connection is made? i have no idea, but this just goes to show how truly strong her bond is with james.
Or sexuality attracted to women and romanticaly attracted to men
My thinking too. Lesbian but also demisexual
What I thought lol
Bi, with a preference in men so specific he is the only one to fill the criteria
@@tatsuyahiiragi416 i think that she might just have romantic but No sexual feelings for him since it's been the same man those years ago, but there's also a Chance that some of the cancer Treatment messed with her Hormones for some reason making him more attractive to her
"Its not Men.. its just him"
"Seems like you're bi, isn't it..." Our new society became so attached to labels and classifications that we forgot that in the end, everyone is still human, and love is universal. It doesn't matter how you identify yourself, don't block your life from new experiences. I know it sounds easier than it is, mostly because most generations post-2000 grew up in this neo-segregated society. But look at what happened here; she had to go through cancer to understand the meaning of love.
Or sexuality is fluid and the gay black hole theory is and has always been nonsense.
oh my fucking god im literally bawling this is such a beautiful story😭😭 i need a man like this😭🙏
This needs to be made into a movie istg 😭
This is story book love. It’s so rare for it to be so perfect
She didn't just find his soulmate, she found his guardian angel
She might be a lesbian and is a demisexual when it comes to him. Anyway, it is a pretty cute story. I hope(if this is real) they got their happy ending. ❤
That's not how it works
@DANYELASF if you can educate me on this, it'll be greatly appreciated. I recently came out as gay and am still new to learning the sexuality spectrum.
@xandervc26 basically, the aro-ace spectrum just explains the level someone feels sexual/romantic attraction, but it doesn't change the attraction, if someone is lesbian and demisexual it mean they have little sexual attraction to women's and women's only, no attraction to men's in any format or shape , so even though she could be ace she can't be a lesbian or any other label for only loving women, because she has romantic feelings for a men
@@DANYELASF so is she Bi maybe?
@xandervc26 since she hasn't chosen a specific label we could use the umbrella term that is multisexual
one of the reasons i’ve always struggled labelling my sexuality, i definitely have a preference for girls (also whenever I picture getting married/having a family it’s always with a woman) but at the same time I love people for their soul and their personality not their physical aspects and I have no clue who I’ll fall in love with
same
Maybe you're just bi?
@@freegirl3786 for me, yea i think i fall under bi umbrella but its just confusing why i can only imagine being in relationship with womans
If your sexuality is linked to who you have and EMOTIONAL relationship with, then you can use the term Demi-sexual. I am demi-sexual and pan-romantic. This means I am only attracted to the person I have a romantic connection with, but I am capable of having a romantic relationship with any gender. But also, labels aren't anything. They are helpful for some people to communicate, but they are not necessary to have. Do what feels right to you.
She could also just be bi-romantic, or ace. The way she describes it, she could be demi too? Sexuality is a spectrum, and it’s not always one size fits all 🤷
Yeah, I agree
Def sounds like demi
this is exactly why in my perfect world we’d ditch labels all together. i think it’s so much less about the gender of the person and so much more about who the person is. i think it’s just so ingrained in our society that “you have to pick one”, “you have to label yourself”, “you need to know who you are”, that people end up warping their thoughts to fit that narrative.
@@ny13cthat is so true
If it needs a name it's Homoflexible, but I think it's just...love. that's the only label it needs.
There’s been no update on this story in a year. I fear the worst has come to pass but I hope to all that is good that she’s better and they’re just too happy and busy to update everyone.
Audio cut out completely for me and never came back. Anyone else? 5:06
Me too
Same
Same
Yes, yes it did. Though I am a proficient reader I generally limit my reading to contracts and other legal documents. However, by the time the my phone muted I was already invested too much to not know the end. Seriously am I that freaking bored?
Yes, yes it did. Though I am a proficient reader I generally limit my reading to contracts and other legal documents. However, by the time the my phone muted I was already invested too much to not know the end. Seriously am I that freaking bored?
Ok but why does this sound like a movie fr
Make this a movie 🗣️🗣️🔥🔥
Defo worth paying the overpriced ticket to go watch this if it were to turn into a movie but it’s gotta to have likeable actors
Jesus Christ. I want James!
I'm a straight man, and even I want James now 😅
Me too 😭
honestly, its more about loving the person, not their gender or sex. my boyfriend isnt attracted to men at all, however he loves me, a man. even though he wouldnt date a guy he wants to be with me because he loves who i am, not the body im in. sometimes that person is just the one, even if youre not attracted to their gender, and he definitely seems to be the one for her despite her being attracted to women, she is attracted to him as a person
Bros so smooth he turned a gay women straight
Did the audio stop for anyone else at 5:06?
Yeah
Yeah
Yeah
mhm
Yeah, then it came back on right at the end just to say: this man
even if this maybe fake it makes me feel so lonely😭😭
Great now I’m crying I want love like this T_T
Love can be complicated but worth it.
Not me sobbing
That’s a beautiful story.
The whole story is about a dude who had so much rizz he reset his girl to default settings
Bro😂😂😂😂💀💀💀
im trying to keep quiet here at 1am and you're not helping!
Bro im literally crying this is beautiful 😢😭
This made me cry!!! It’s so wholesome and cute!!! 😫🥹
What ifs she’s not gay or straight why can’t she just love a certain person? Or maybe she’s not gay but she doesn’t like the thought of being with others guys other than him and got her ideas mixed up I’m just saying we don’t have to slap a label just because there are labels she’s in love with dude that’s the only thing that matters it doesn’t need a label it’s not gay straight bi or any of that crap just love simple and the truth
I hope she survives it and they’re happy together! ❤❤❤ such a beautiful story!
im worried for him because she said she is lesbian. i hope she cant love him back the same as he loves her. i dont want this mane to get hurt down the line.
💀💀💀
Love is love. It doesn't have to be romantic or sexual. They are chosen family. That's all that matters!
Romantic and platonic love are always gonna be hard to distingushe. This sounds like playonic love mixed with presure from her family to like a man romanticaly :/
I mean she could be bi, there can be preferences to only sexual or romantic attraction to each gender
She could be a bi-romantic lesbian,
She could be bisexual with demi-sexual attraction towards men.
I hope she knows that labels don’t matter. But also, there’s other labels that this sounds like, but still. I hope she gets better soon
She is most likely Bai but only for one man.
The real bisexual women experience - being attracted to every woman and then 1-4 weird men
Can somebody link the original post? I wanna see if she got better
They sound like they're a lovely couple, let's hope that she does make it and be together for good measure.
this makes me feel like autumn and finny if they worked out
It sounds like bestie is ace spec
Platonic love is real
I WANT TO BELIEVE THIS IS FAKE BUT I CANT UGHHHH
He is the type of boy I was but I changed for that one girl and is hurts me 😢😢
Love is a gift and a cursed man
I am SOBBING
I just want to be loved like this 😭
Why did the audio cut off?!?!?!
I cried. It was soooo sweet!
Stop I'm literally crying 😭
Im not crying you are
Yes I am
Why can’t he be my man damn
Shi hits a lil too close to home
Not trying to make this seem bad but this sounds like one of the GOOD and I quote gacha story 😭
My heart 🥹💙
My bro is the lesbian cure lol
She’s bi
I feel like the labels don't really mean much. Love is very complicated, and just chalking it up to gender is a vast oversimplification.
Tell him you love him your life might be short he needs to know but if you don’t make it tell him you want him to move on
I love this
Same I cried a little at the end. Hope she gets better
People in the comments pigeon holing OP to fit into their own little boxes of what's acceptable. Stop it. Stop forcing labels altogether, especially forcing them on others. That's not your place, nor do you have any right to get mad at someone for it.
I NEED ME SOME LOVE LIKED THIS😢😭
Freddy Mercury's relationships were complicated as well. Messy, doesn't mean bad in this case. Love will find a way. Yeah, I know, super corny. But when the words fit, they fit. 😊
god i need me someone like james :(
I’m not crying
Uh.. Anyone know the ending after the continuation vid..?
What do you mean?
@@rilienalike technically doesn’t anyone know of any updates after the updates in this video ^^
@@ilksmi
Dear God, what did I do to deserve this man? I teared up again and he held me one last time. Then the doctors came in. He kissed me goodnight. We both said I love you but it felt so different. It's never felt so good to say or hear those words. Then he smiled at me and left.
I was so excited the first thing I did was call mom and she was just ecstatic. I think she might be happier than me, which is saying something lol. As soon as I told her what happened and that James and I are together she just started crying and talking about what a good boy he is, how she just knew this would happen and that she can rest easy now because she knows I will always be loved and taken care of. Plenty of her "destiny" talk which usually gets on my nerves but honestly I was so happy tonight, fuck it I'm on board. Maybe it was destiny. I guess sometimes mom really does know best.
I feel like a teenager again. I never thought I'd feel this way again in my life. I never even imagined if I did it would be for a man. God I love him so much. Now I can't understand what I was ever worried about or why I didn't do this years ago. Thanks so much to everyone who read my story and helped give me the perspective and courage I needed to finally do what I should've done years ago. Now as long as my health cooperates… I'll be one of the lucky ones too, because I am his
Awww this is so nice. The writer in me is also very happy the formatting on my first post was fixed here, because I couldn't edit it in my original post and it was all messed up =(.
I guess as another small update -- things are going pretty well for me considering the circumstances. Oncologist is still very optimistic and I am feeling better (not at the moment, but that's because of chemo last week). I'm responding very well to treatments and things are continuing to look better and better on the health front.
And James has just been the absolute best. He was already such a huge source of support for me before I told him how I felt and we became a couple -- but since then... man, there's no words for it. I guess he feels like he doesn't have to hold back on the affection/support and it's been absolutely wonderful being cradled in his love basically every hour of the day. I feel so lucky and I am so glad I told him, and so thankful to everyone who responded to my post and helped me muster the courage to do so.
@@ilksmimy ckmment is ops most recent update and by the way, these videos leave out a lot to make it shorter and sometimes harder for people to find so if you want ypu can search up “I am battling cancer. I’m gay but i realized i have loved my best friend of 25 years. I need to vent and am looking for advice on whether to tell him or not” everything about the story will be on bestofredditorsupdates
@@yes-indeed TYSMMMM
Whoes breaking it to her she is pansexual? Like she’s not attracted to men she’s attracted to this person and women.
Seriously though I’m so happy for them I hope they make it
Bro shut up
I think the problem is that we’re so quick to prescribe labels but sexuality is different for everyone and people should be allowed to identify with whatever they feel best represents them or forgo it altogether
Life is more complicated than that, and while some people want to have labels all figured out some people don’t mind the gray areas. I think op can still totally ID as a lesbian, no problem. She isn’t “actually” anything, and doesn’t have to change it if she doesn’t feel awkward with the label. It’s up to her to decide (if she even wants to think about it more deeply) not us randos on the internet :-)
I’m just glad they’re happy! Queer people come in all styles!
I'd say that too but at the end of the day , sexualities don't need labels , I don't like labels but I use them to make it easier for others to understand
@@gsic_hookup4784 Look at youuu so proud being an A hole :-)
Its love true love
Sounds too fantastic to be real.
PLEASE BE BI WITH A PREFERENCE!!! YOU ARE MAKING THE RAGE COME OUT
You have issues.
@@jenni5104 I always have 💜💜💜
I need an update, please 🙏
As a Christian I can’t say her sexuality is aligned with my beliefs but I hope she is happy.
Please teach me master to be like you
This is God at work! Praise Christ
then.... she wasn't a lesbian
More than likely homoflexible. Where a gay man or lesbian woman feels occasional attraction towards the opposite gender, or sex in some cases.
@@skylarhoward4483or maybe bisexual
@@aspa11I agree with that. I’m bisexual, but more attracted to men than women. So she’s more attracted to women than men.
I hope he got some kids out of this
No sounds
So in other words she isn’t gay but just can’t admit it. Heterophobia.
No?
She is exploring her identity
Is that a crime?
No, a more accurate thing would be "so in other words she loves him romantically but isn't attracted to him or his gender as a whole"
Or yk she could be bi
Bro, take it from me, a bisexual, it's totally possible to feel this way. Bisexualilty doesnt even have to mean liking all genders equaly and in the same way, fx., I have a preference for Men, and I am also more demisexual when it comes to women. Still gay tho
No… she’s dated women and she knows she likes women. It’s just her best friend who is a man that she likes.