How I Got My Ex Back After 15 Months! - Dumpee Speaks (Podcast 681)

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  • Опубликовано: 19 авг 2024
  • Dumpee speaks with me about his journey from getting dumped to getting his ex back after 15 months. If you're a dumpee and want to try to get your ex back after a breakup, you need to listen to this story of how he got his ex back.
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Комментарии • 34

  • @vincentbos
    @vincentbos  Год назад

    'GET YOUR EX BACK' Advice & Support
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  • @NanseaCarmichael
    @NanseaCarmichael Год назад +17

    I'm back together with my ex after being broken up for a year. I tried for 2 months to stay connected, then went no contact for 6 months and worked on myself. When I finally felt strong enough, I reached out to him, and he was receptive. We started hanging out, talking, and building a friendship. Four months after reconnecting he told me he wanted to get back together. The year we broke up was difficult, but ended up being a blessing because I found my worth and value. Our relationship is better than ever. Please take the time to take care of yourself. Stay strong!

  • @laithmarmarchi9635
    @laithmarmarchi9635 Год назад +18

    Tom has clearly outgrown her! Very common that the ex stays the same and does no work on themselves because they feel entitled and on the pedestal
    Great work Tom!

  • @cptheartist
    @cptheartist Год назад +13

    Tom isnt reading all her warning signs. He is expecting he's gonna receive what he is giving her. Listen, if her daughter has a cellphone that tells me she isnt a small child. That woman has time for him. He needs to stop settlling for crumbs of quality time.

  • @ncfire51
    @ncfire51 Год назад +4

    I feel this man's pain!! I was totally blindsided by a text on my birthday saying it was over, then it took 3 days just to get her to talk to me and I still don't know what happened and why and I am still stuck to this day!! Totally in the same boat this hit hard I know exactly how he felt, I bet he wasn't even interested in the women he was dating in my opinion if you're gonna break up with someone rip their heart out have the decency and courage to look them in the eye

  • @lindawells9328
    @lindawells9328 7 месяцев назад +2

    I love this video. Tom seems like a good person and I just love his voice the way he talks . He seems like he is handsome and very smart . I wish him and his ex the best . Be blessed and safe. Miss . Linda ❤🌺❤

  • @sylvainhorn7087
    @sylvainhorn7087 Год назад +14

    Dude, that was painful to hear...
    I'm sorry to be this guy but this woman sounds like a pain in the ass, and Tom is too blinded to see it. He seems to be into her waaaay more than she is into him, and he suffered for 15 months while she seemed to move on very quickly according to what he said.
    Do not forget she is a single mum, and it's way harder for them to find a replacement as they age. My intuition is she visited his dating profile because she realized she was going to end up alone, she used her daughter to "call him by mistake" so that they have an excuse to reconnect, and it seemed to work quite well since you did! Also you displayed some beta behaviors ("you're the most beautiful girl in the world, I miss you too much"... Come on man!) so she knows she can get away with anything.
    I may be wrong and I hope I am, but I don't see this reconnection lasting for very long, if you're reading this please reply to this message in 3 months 😉 All the best man!
    PS : in the end you said "Next time I won't be heartbroken" : you can't be more wrong, the 2nd time hits way harder than the first time trust me! Hope she won't take your soul out 🙏

    • @ncfire51
      @ncfire51 Год назад +4

      Totally agree with the beta part I understand he loved her and wanted her back but she should have had to earn her place back and if she was showing interest he should have met her just under her level of interest and absolutely if it fails again it will be twice as hard!! Plus in my opinion the 4 hour phone call was too much you can't give it back to them all at once too fast too quick if there are no consequences and she doesn't have to put in the work she will leave easy again. Just my opinion

  • @ULTIMATEUNITED2000
    @ULTIMATEUNITED2000 Год назад +7

    Good to hear a sucess story. Can happen 👏. Seemed like an interesting situation tho 😂 - arent they all

  • @redpug8236
    @redpug8236 2 месяца назад

    I was through the same experience and the truth is it probably won’t last considering you don’t realize. The reason she became grumpy was most likely because of the way YOU behaved. You weren’t showing up how you should in a relationship and she started to back away.

  • @richardthompson2563
    @richardthompson2563 Год назад +2

    Tom, I am so incredibly happy for you. I'm sure you feel like you beat the odds and I'm amazed that you hung in there. God knows I've been criticized for that. However, it seems as if you took Vincent's advice and tried hard, but you were also not willing to deny how you really feel inside and I give you a lot of credit because I'm sure there was pressure from your friends to move on and forget about her and she's no good and a lot of other things that they've said to try to get you to not love her the way you do. Congratulations and I hope this works. Congratulations again for keeping the faith in the face of what looks like or look like a really impossible situation. 🙏👍🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @1991windsor
    @1991windsor 3 месяца назад +1

    I think Tom's ex was using her daughter's phone to text him. I don't think it was the daughter texting him at all. I sensed that from the minute she lied about joining a dating app to spy on him. I agree that not getting closure is the worst. It basically leaves you stuck in dating purgatory.

  • @user-ue2wd8dh9z
    @user-ue2wd8dh9z 2 месяца назад +1

    @vincentbos great video. Any chance you can do a follow up with Tom to see where hes at now?

  • @tonyglobal1537
    @tonyglobal1537 Год назад +1

    This is an amazing story its been over a year for me and i'm still waiting for my ex to contact me. Ive just been working on myself since. Personally i think the missed phone call that came from her daughter was not a mistake!

  • @DeadMysticx
    @DeadMysticx Год назад +5

    I am here at 15 months and nothing 😂

    • @pinkydev4943
      @pinkydev4943 Год назад +1

      Same 😢

    • @ULTIMATEUNITED2000
      @ULTIMATEUNITED2000 Год назад

      ​@pinkydev4943 what was your situation? Did u do no contact?

    • @DeadMysticx
      @DeadMysticx Год назад

      @@ULTIMATEUNITED2000 yes for 15 months. I never contacted him, he was stalking my whatsapp stories for the first 8 months daily. After that I had enough and deleted him and his reaction was to block me. Kind of confusing, he was the dumper. He also showed jealousy, blocking, unblocking and blocking during the first 8 months

  • @Liz-dragon-street.
    @Liz-dragon-street. Год назад +2

    Wouw i love this story❤

  • @abdulmalik-jk5ck
    @abdulmalik-jk5ck Год назад +3

    Was she in a relationship while you were separated?

  • @HeadlinersCuttingZone
    @HeadlinersCuttingZone Год назад +1

    Omg tom this whole story you talked about i went threw the same thing my ex and i dated a 1-1/2 & she was all about her family first she put me second well she left me said i was the problem i screwed everything up well anyways she wind up getting back with her kids dad lasted a year with him , she came looking for me she text for a good week straight she wanted to see me well it went in from there i took her back this time i did alot more for her she did it again to me she chose her family before me we lasted 10months well i did no contact and she did try working her way back in couple times i said to leave me alone and know its been a year again & know she is dating someone else

  • @lisalamphier1410
    @lisalamphier1410 10 месяцев назад +1

    This is not going to end well.

  • @kokakoalak
    @kokakoalak Год назад +6

    Sounds like shes a narcissist...

  • @bagofnutscrew
    @bagofnutscrew Год назад +4

    She texted him from her phone

  • @pinkydev4943
    @pinkydev4943 Год назад

    Wow I am so happy for you Tom 😊

  • @adrianaforte5775
    @adrianaforte5775 Год назад

    Am I still in time... after almost two years?!🤔

  • @fireblade8905
    @fireblade8905 Год назад

    But I’m happy being single

  • @jimmyrivera9415
    @jimmyrivera9415 11 месяцев назад +3

    Sorry vincent, but this dude is chasing for validation. All that talk of regret and explaining for hours why he spoke to her daughter is bullshit. If our friend doesnt continue to focus on his purpose, this couple will end up in the same situation. Kick her to the curb brother.

  • @1991windsor
    @1991windsor Месяц назад

    It really sounds like she could be a narcissist. I wish more relationship coaches really knew about narcissistic personality disorder.

  • @DonRomero-hy2vl
    @DonRomero-hy2vl 2 месяца назад

    I think that grass in not greener on the other side, and yur her best option..15 months? are you kidding me!?

  • @CryptoTaurusMoon
    @CryptoTaurusMoon 2 месяца назад

    Sounds like a Dismissive Avoidant, and he was too fixated on how she was showing up versus not giving a f