Breaking Generational Cycles of Trauma | Brandy Wells | TEDxKingLincolnBronzeville
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- Опубликовано: 8 дек 2019
- Brandy shares a personal story of how a 8 year old girl who felt abandonment begin her healing process because of the birth of her own daughters as an adult. She challenges the ideas and practices of generations before her, to show up for her younger self all while being conscious enough to raise daughters intentionally. The 8 year old girl as an adult makes amends with her younger self and encourages the audience to do the same! Brandy shares a personal story of how a 8 year old girl who felt abandonment begin her healing process because of the birth of her own daughters as an adult. She challenges the ideas and practices of generations before her, to show up for her younger self all while being conscious enough to raise daughters intentionally. The 8 year old girl as an adult makes amends with her younger self and encourages the audience to do the same! This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
“Going back to the place in which I was wronged as a child, and telling her ‘I’m sorry that happened to you.’” Thank you for this. I can’t explain what this did for me as soon as I heard it.
Hit like bricks
That just struck my heart. So deep.
“You cannot pour from an empty cup.” Love this.
“I refuse to leave a story written of pain”
she was nervous but kept going
such a brave person she went through so much
I love the poetic language of masking ourselves from trauma. Very touching.
3 Minutes in I can relate tremendously. The birth of my first daughter at 21 was so pivotal, never did I experience a love for another being the way I did when I first saw her. Forget "puppy love" boyfriends or "best friends", my daughter was the beginning of my healing journey and she has not a clue. I saw her look at me like I had never seen anyone look at me. She looked at me like I was the best thing God put on earth . At 21 I had such a low self esteem (of course I didnt realize it then), how could this baby think that of me. It opened up my eyes to see that I had in fact been in an emotionally abusive relationship with her biological father. She saved my life. Now, here, 8 years later I realize God put her in my life to remind me of all the suffering or traumatic moments I had experienced as a child in order to pave a new life for her and ensure she got what she deserved, the space to blossom and grow into WHATEVER makes her life fulfilling. Thank you for sharing this!
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It's time to break the cycle of generational trauma. You deserve something a lot better.
It grows one up right! Children are wonderful teachers if people will listen? a beautiful masterpiece!
She ate this whole speech 👏👏👏
A lot of things to thinks about
I needed to see this now. The universe sent me here🙏🏽
His name is YAHUAH! YAHUAH sent me here
When she said EPIGENETICS I could have fainted. Yeesss!!! Epigenetics also explains spritually inherited proclivities also.
Dammm. I can relate sooo much. I am feeling and reliving every single word of hers. The - " I was getting triggered when I saw my husband being the best one. Because "I" Wanted that". Sooo true. I get trigger when I see my brother being the best Dad to her daughter. Coz I wanted that. Nd I didn't got that. That triggers me like anything while I love my neice with all my heart 🙏🙏
took me awhile to get to this video, but the moral of the story is generational pain runs so deep its internalized in order to survive. we fear whippings so much that we become tramatized from the degree of punishment over reward. ask the reason why? help strengthen within
Love this ... one question , why don’t we have cable shows all day everyday like this ?
Keep on keeping on Brandy
I think because the TV networks can't profit if the viewers know their self worth. I am so thankful for youtube and it's content. It can be so educational when you are trying to improve yourself.
I am no good to anyone if I am no good to myself!!! ❤❤❤❤
I'm so glad you over came and thank you for sharing your story Brandee Hayes 🙏
That was beautiful and made me cry. Thank you for sharing your story!
It just 2minutes in nd I cannot tell you how relatable this looks like. Dammm😭❤
This is the most relatable speech I have ever heard. Loved this
Girl YES! I hear you. I see you. I feel you and I am with you!
Yes!!!! I’ve been waiting for this!!
This will help others in so many ways. Thank you for sharing!
Wow, I NEEDED this... So many confirmations of my own story, told through another. ✨💚✨
To just know you’re not alone in this world and you can fix so many things within . So comforting 💖. Everyday I wake up and aspire to be a better person and to run into these types of videos it’s just so powerful . I wish my parents knew all of this .
Thank you for your bravery Brandy Wells
Thanks for sharing your process. So much for me to think about. C
Thank you for your beautiful gift to the world. 🙏💕
Absolutely incredible. Thank you, Brandy!
Important work you are doing! Thank you for sharing!
Interesting n informative talk. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.
Thank you this is so helpful and I appreciate all you taught me.
I liked your talk.
on many levels.
Especially meeting kids where they learn.
resonates with me.
Thanks for your "witness" statements., and caring for community and children's development.
Profound!! It's worth the time thanks for sharing
Thank you, this was great. It really opened my mind and bettered my understanding of transgenerational trauma!
Thanks you, very inspiring ! 🙏
this is so important; thank you!
Healing in this message. Taking notes & putting it into action. Sonya.. I am proud of you for being such a dope mom. I went thru allll of the trauma at such a young age just to protect my lil princess from inheriting that trauma.
Watching this just in time. 👌
9:24 Powerful!
This was EVERYTHING! Give Thanks 👑💓💯🙏🏾
Beautiful work Brandy. Since I began following you on Instagram, I have been inspired by your words and experiences you have been transparent enough to share. I hope you continue to reach many more people who are encouraged to take action. 👏👏👏
What is her Instagram??
Beautiful words it almost feels like you’re speaking my story
Teach and model the behavior I want to see !!❤
Brilliant, love you Randy 4rm RSA Cape Town ❤️👏💕
Im just at a loss of words..this hit hard
This helped me so much
Wow. Just wow.
No facade,just the real you. Be proud,you are the only you on the face of the earth, make you as good as can be made. Its a short life.
BRAVO!
This is just gorgeous.
I'm surprised that this doesn't have more views
Me too I’m in out reach in urban
Amazing 🤍
Very touching. ***An outfit
Put on your mask FIRST! Great job lil sister!
youre beautiful brandy
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11:09
Learned behaviours
7:50 There is no scientific consensus so far that epigenetics plays any significant part in cross generational trauma, let alone in a way that resembles ADHD, ODD, or bipolar (what???).
We are in the very early days of understanding the consequences and extent of epigenetics. It _might_ cause extensive symptoms, but she should _not_ be this confident about this. We literally do not know these things yet.
I think she's right about culturally transmitted trauma across generations, but the epigenetics stuff is bs and she should know better.
I hope she's not just talking
You had to stop... using a belt?
I think that was metaphorical 😆
This helped me so much