One thing about friendships and dating with adhd is that i often tend to hold back a lot of my personality in order to not be annoying or weird but i get tired of doing that and after starting to reveal my real me talkative and hyperactive i constantly overthink if i am annoying and if ppl hate me
So, I totally get this and to some it will be too much but to others it will be just right and your quirks are what actually attract them. I’ve been to the doctor and am potentially starting adhd medication but reflecting, all the guys I’ve dated had adhd. weird to a lot of people but it just clicked that I’m not to all the adhd men I’ve dated. There are definitely people out there for you and to the rest, eff ‘em.
Many of us internalize our ADHD, we have more internalized and inattentive ADHD than we do being outwardly hyperactive. It's hard to diagnose people who internalize it because the show no outward symptoms like being hyperactive
My boyfriend has adhd, we r both 16 n he has fallen deep deep in love. I love him too, but scared he will leave me if the relationship gets too much... any advice?
Zora Price if hes anything like me he could be impulsive and make seemingly unreasonable decisions or be unaware of his bad time management, idk if its add or just me but its also hard to show emotions so my ex always thought i was just empty and would get upset
i tend to scare people away because i fall to fast and open up to fast and the fact that i am very wierd and clumsy in nature just tends to scare people away for romatic potential way before you even get the chance to "make a move"
Just happend to me again and I am fucking done with it, this keeps fucking me up so bad, I just wanna give love but constantly scare people away. So tired
Yeah I totally get this. I have adhd and I do fall in love really fast. That’s why I always control myself when it comes to that all because I know love is a serious commitment and I need to make sure if I actually like that person or not.
"Adhd is not bad." Thats a really arrogant statement. I haven't felt truly happy for as long as I remember because of how I acted, talked, and let's not get started with concentrating. It made my life 10x harder than it was supposed to be. I only realized how much easier it could have been after taking medication for it. From not being able to socialize, do daily tasks, or study. To constantly being drained, anxious, and fidgety from all the overthinking. Most frustrating of all was not being able to put my thoughts and feelings into words whenever I spoke. Please never speak on mental health disorders like that again, it's embarrassing.
@@musicby001 I have severe adhd and right now i move to slow. I feel like im going to mess up in one way or another or that they aren't ready so *I* dont wanna mess up.
The problem with slowing down is that it can also back fire in that the other person doesn't understand the holding back. In effect the person may think your abandoning them. So if you are ADHD or a wave(dating type) you need to find out your status in the relationship as well as communicate plans directly with the person you're involved with. That why nobody pulls away and or gets abandoned.
If people can’t accept me for who I am I rather not have them in my life. Vice versa I don’t want to mask or have anyone in my life feel uncomfortable…
@@Itgworll we ended up breaking up cuz he was unfaithful and lied. I don’t think that directly has to do with his adhd though, other than impulsiveness.
I don't have these problems.. I actually take longer when it comes to serious relationships. However friendships I dive in and fall out fast. I think im just rude because this video made me mad they talk slow and none of it I understand. Genuinely don't have these problems with dating maybe just friendships but friends are kinda everywhere and no where at the same time? Oh the video ended while I was typing....why did I even click on this I was trying to clean my room
I always feel like I'm going to make them uncomfortable, like I'm going to say something wrong or overstep. In the past tense, I'm hypercritical of what I did say. Rough
Same ❤ ...but 20 years later I met my Prince Charming and we were married within months. My husband is GORGEOUS and SO FUNNY! I have a bigger crush on him than anyone EVER, he's better than the sexiest celebrity and he's all mine! He loves that I'm not "normal" and I'm the most exciting person he's ever met. And we think our baby is probably ADHD too so never a dull moment.
For me it was not the right move to learn how to hold back, rather to learn to accept that I can not be friends or in a relationship with people who can't deal with the way my brain works. I hate small talk and enjoy getting deep into topics and also personal things, so I don't want people around me who are overwhelmed by relevant things.
The fix is, so normies doesn't get scared away, you text them few messages and then you find youself another one to keep on texting with while the first one recovers from the witty line that you hot her with, and you do that back and forth so you don't over saturate their feeble little normie heart
My boyfriend is such a lovely person I never thought I’d be able to handle someone like that but he’s a person and yes he does have trouble from time to time but he tries really hard and I appreciate his effort that he puts in everyday he didn’t think we would last cause we went on a second date and thought it would never happen and now we’re dating they are just people not aliens patience and understanding is key
One thing about friendships and dating with adhd is that i often tend to hold back a lot of my personality in order to not be annoying or weird but i get tired of doing that and after starting to reveal my real me talkative and hyperactive i constantly overthink if i am annoying and if ppl hate me
Also happens to me :/
So, I totally get this and to some it will be too much but to others it will be just right and your quirks are what actually attract them. I’ve been to the doctor and am potentially starting adhd medication but reflecting, all the guys I’ve dated had adhd. weird to a lot of people but it just clicked that I’m not to all the adhd men I’ve dated. There are definitely people out there for you and to the rest, eff ‘em.
Many of us internalize our ADHD, we have more internalized and inattentive ADHD than we do being outwardly hyperactive. It's hard to diagnose people who internalize it because the show no outward symptoms like being hyperactive
My daughter is dating a young man with ADHD and he's delightful and she liked him just as he is.Don't ever doubt your worth just because you have adhd
My boyfriend has adhd, we r both 16 n he has fallen deep deep in love. I love him too, but scared he will leave me if the relationship gets too much... any advice?
Zora Price if hes anything like me he could be impulsive and make seemingly unreasonable decisions or be unaware of his bad time management, idk if its add or just me but its also hard to show emotions so my ex always thought i was just empty and would get upset
Awwwww, that’s so sweet
@@liamnitro2707 same for me just do you’re research you won’t feel so crazy or sad or alone if you get a better understanding of yourself
Thank you. I needed to hear that.
i tend to scare people away because i fall to fast and open up to fast and the fact that i am very wierd and clumsy in nature just tends to scare people away for romatic potential way before you even get the chance to "make a move"
I feel u 🙌🏽
Same.
Same here
Just happend to me again and I am fucking done with it, this keeps fucking me up so bad, I just wanna give love but constantly scare people away. So tired
Same.
Yeah I totally get this. I have adhd and I do fall in love really fast. That’s why I always control myself when it comes to that all because I know love is a serious commitment and I need to make sure if I actually like that person or not.
Im happy that i think different
Adhd is not bad.
Plus never defind your self as a ADHD.
Your a person
And that what matters.
ADHD is bad 👎
I feel you… I think of it as a superpower we observe things differently
"Adhd is not bad." Thats a really arrogant statement. I haven't felt truly happy for as long as I remember because of how I acted, talked, and let's not get started with concentrating. It made my life 10x harder than it was supposed to be. I only realized how much easier it could have been after taking medication for it. From not being able to socialize, do daily tasks, or study. To constantly being drained, anxious, and fidgety from all the overthinking. Most frustrating of all was not being able to put my thoughts and feelings into words whenever I spoke. Please never speak on mental health disorders like that again, it's embarrassing.
I laughed at this sooo hard we do move too fast that’s so true AHAHAHAHAAJJA 🥳🥳🥳🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
AHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAA IM CHOKING 🥳🥳🤣🤣🤣
Aaja?
@@musicby001 I have severe adhd and right now i move to slow. I feel like im going to mess up in one way or another or that they aren't ready so *I* dont wanna mess up.
Is moving too fast a good thing though?
The problem with slowing down is that it can also back fire in that the other person doesn't understand the holding back. In effect the person may think your abandoning them. So if you are ADHD or a wave(dating type) you need to find out your status in the relationship as well as communicate plans directly with the person you're involved with. That why nobody pulls away and or gets abandoned.
I sort of when found out , I stopped to date completely.
@@enqvida Guessing he will reply to your comment, eventually..
yes yes yes
OMG I can't believe how well you described my previous relationship
Me and my crush has ADHD just I also have artisum OCD and anxiety
My boyfriend has adhd and we have known for years, sometimes I forget he even has it😅. His so sweet❤
"Hold back a little bit"
Me: just dont be obsessed, in order to do not be lets just get awayy
great video ! i really recommend more of these for us young women who are struggling thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I have ADHD but never let it take over me.
I still have control over my body so i constantly pick only the good sides of ADHD and dump the bad side
Yes try and learn to take your time but holding back aspects of yourself sounds like masking.
If people can’t accept me for who I am I rather not have them in my life. Vice versa I don’t want to mask or have anyone in my life feel uncomfortable…
Me and this guy I started dating both have ADHD. Lol it’s already been a rollercoaster 😝
What is it like?
@@Itgworll we ended up breaking up cuz he was unfaithful and lied. I don’t think that directly has to do with his adhd though, other than impulsiveness.
I don't have these problems.. I actually take longer when it comes to serious relationships. However friendships I dive in and fall out fast. I think im just rude because this video made me mad they talk slow and none of it I understand. Genuinely don't have these problems with dating maybe just friendships but friends are kinda everywhere and no where at the same time? Oh the video ended while I was typing....why did I even click on this I was trying to clean my room
😂😂
Lol I am cleaning my room too
In my case, I reveal too much or go too deep too fast. I'm learning to control that.
I always feel like I'm going to make them uncomfortable, like I'm going to say something wrong or overstep. In the past tense, I'm hypercritical of what I did say. Rough
Me and my girlfriend have ADHD and I feel we do have to talk a lot about how we feel for keeping to ourselves
What do u mean?
@@Itgworllyeah i dont get it either
My high school crunch hated me and said I wasn’t normal HAHAHAHAHAHAHUHUHUHIHEEEEHHH
Same ❤ ...but 20 years later I met my Prince Charming and we were married within months. My husband is GORGEOUS and SO FUNNY! I have a bigger crush on him than anyone EVER, he's better than the sexiest celebrity and he's all mine! He loves that I'm not "normal" and I'm the most exciting person he's ever met. And we think our baby is probably ADHD too so never a dull moment.
Crunch
Well she's right because you're like superman an alien ^^
@@pbj4142dyslexia exists lol
Crunch 😂sorry for laughing but this gets me laughing 💀
its crush
I mean, this is lovely and well-meant but there's quite a lot of late-dx peeps like me - the idea of "roleplay with a friend" is haunting!
For me it was not the right move to learn how to hold back, rather to learn to accept that I can not be friends or in a relationship with people who can't deal with the way my brain works. I hate small talk and enjoy getting deep into topics and also personal things, so I don't want people around me who are overwhelmed by relevant things.
Most of the time you don't even understand what people are saying and I'm not even talking about lengthy conversations
Oh so the video isn’t about never being sure if/how much you like someone or if its just the hyperfocus du jour.
The fix is, so normies doesn't get scared away, you text them few messages and then you find youself another one to keep on texting with while the first one recovers from the witty line that you hot her with, and you do that back and forth so you don't over saturate their feeble little normie heart
really emotional 😢
I agree 💯.
well... well no shit
This isnt a thing, geez.
For me it’s like dating sounds like too much work. So I’ve just avoided it entirely
@@NateBroyah!
😭😭
They can't remember anything, have anger problems and can be abusive.
@@OlariMC The ones I encountered.
Sounds like you know bad people.
Kitty Digs wow. EXTREMELY controversial. Do NOT group everyone in 😡
Indeed I cannot trust myself to last a year with a relationship.
My boyfriend is such a lovely person I never thought I’d be able to handle someone like that but he’s a person and yes he does have trouble from time to time but he tries really hard and I appreciate his effort that he puts in everyday he didn’t think we would last cause we went on a second date and thought it would never happen and now we’re dating they are just people not aliens patience and understanding is key