I used to be married to someone like you're describing around 4:00 or so. Arguments were so convoluted I would usually just agree with him to make him shut up. He was very overt, I was fooled for 25 years. In fact, I feel like a fool. But lately I've realized I have a narc mom who is very covert, so perhaps something in my ex's behavior seemed comfortable and familiar. Or maybe I just didn't believe I deserved someone who treated me well.
Dealing with a narc is like a near death experience, very dark but enlightening in the end. Know one understands it unless they've experienced it themselves. Narcs brains are wired different, they do not see, feel for, or understand anyone but themselves, they're always plotting and planing to drag you down because you care for them they can use your love to abuse you and they get high from it, eventually they treat you worse and worse using all your weaknesses to destroy you. They can't change, so please don't waste your time trying to change them. Good video, thank you xX
A real Narc is Machiavellian 100% there is no lesser form of a narc. They're plotting way ahead of time to destroy, ruin, crumble. Yet, to a wise person they're seen as thick as shit, because when questioned or confronted they hide, run, divert or even worse, lol. Please do not give a narc an inch, if you're a bit simple they will drain you to your death, making you believe it's all your fault. xX
Could the spectrum be associated with low functioning autism? He has a son who is low functioning- I can’t tell if it’s real in the consequences of his choices- by choice? Or he really doesn’t put it together- I’m tired, exhausted & near bout ready to die!! I didn’t realize this was from from years ago….still valid today!!
@zeonhealey1770 Anti-anxiety medication has done a good job of helping my husband. I made him take it after letting him in on my plans to leave and decimate his world of lies if he didn’t. Now he is doing so much better in his career he swears that he will never go off.
Please help me
So so helpful! My exact experience!
This explains my husband to a T!
My husband won't resolve anything. He deflects, Denise and blames me. It's always my fault
I used to be married to someone like you're describing around 4:00 or so. Arguments were so convoluted I would usually just agree with him to make him shut up. He was very overt, I was fooled for 25 years. In fact, I feel like a fool. But lately I've realized I have a narc mom who is very covert, so perhaps something in my ex's behavior seemed comfortable and familiar. Or maybe I just didn't believe I deserved someone who treated me well.
Dealing with a narc is like a near death experience, very dark but enlightening in the end. Know one understands it unless they've experienced it themselves. Narcs brains are wired different, they do not see, feel for, or understand anyone but themselves, they're always plotting and planing to drag you down because you care for them they can use your love to abuse you and they get high from it, eventually they treat you worse and worse using all your weaknesses to destroy you. They can't change, so please don't waste your time trying to change them. Good video, thank you xX
Super!! thank you; very helpful.
Thank you once again for very helpful and empathy building (towards the difficult partner) teaching!
A real Narc is Machiavellian 100% there is no lesser form of a narc. They're plotting way ahead of time to destroy, ruin, crumble. Yet, to a wise person they're seen as thick as shit, because when questioned or confronted they hide, run, divert or even worse, lol. Please do not give a narc an inch, if you're a bit simple they will drain you to your death, making you believe it's all your fault. xX
You definitely have the draining part right. I'm exhausted and it's not just because I have four kids lol.
Could the spectrum be associated with low functioning autism? He has a son who is low functioning- I can’t tell if it’s real in the consequences of his choices- by choice? Or he really doesn’t put it together- I’m tired, exhausted & near bout ready to die!! I didn’t realize this was from from years ago….still valid today!!
Help me I wana change I admit I think I'm a narc. do u do online chat videos I will pay credit card. It's a battle from within I lose on the daily.
@zeonhealey1770 Anti-anxiety medication has done a good job of helping my husband. I made him take it after letting him in on my plans to leave and decimate his world of lies if he didn’t. Now he is doing so much better in his career he swears that he will never go off.