@ Doamino41 I'm not justifying the hate of modern women but women today hate men because they are unable to admire them . They hate them because men do not dominate them anymore.
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I just realized that I say some of these things to my husband. My intentions were never to tear him down, but I understand how my words could be taken that way. It really hurts me to know that I hurt him. Thank you for this video.
@Satchel McQueen Video That stinks. Don't let your wife treating you like crap depress you. She is judging you as if she can read your mind which only God can do. When she puts you down stop caring. When that doesn't work for her she might wake up. But do not get offended that she thinks so low of you because if you remove the significance of the offense that stops the cycle and you can be a man that is unmovable. Your wife may be mean as hell, but she will start to respect you more. You can set boundaries and tell her that when she does or says X it makes you feel disrespected and uncared for or whatever and that you aren't ok with that. Then ask her if she thinks it is ok to talk to you like that. If she says ok then she is admitting she is a monster.
Steelmonger888 maybe so but she is holding herself accountable and I am sure she will apologize and do better. Many women are not properly instructed on how to be a good wife before getting married. I’m glad these videos exist!
@Steelmonger888 ....forgive and continue to forgive. Human are not perfect. She could be a really good person and good wife and great mother. The most important is she's willing to change and avoid to use words that Debbie's mentioned in this video.
Love him, respect him, but especially-especially show him your appreciation for all the wonderful things he does for you. Open up to him and tell him often " thank you " and "you are wonderful to me " Women can certainly do all the above and should not hesitate.
No woman is ever honest or appreciative toward their husband or partner. Then, everyone wonders why the divorce rate is so high. When a woman can't show appreciation the guy needs to say goodbye
@@Bloom2Growthere is a difference between holding someone accountable and disrespecting them. Insulting, criticizing, or abusing someone is not holding them accountable.
It's a power play, and nearly all wives who grew up in the Feminism era love to insult & joke about their husbands, and encourage their girlfriends to do it. (Mine does it, and enjoys it thoroughly.)
@@elwoodblues9613 You shouldn't have to suffer under it. Make it known to her that it is hurtful, disrespectful, humiliating, etc. (as you feel is accurate), and that you would like her to stop. If she does not love or respect you enough to stop, then I would reccomend counselling. First by a wise and trusted pastor or church friend(s) if you're Christian, but also by a professional councillor (Christian is still better here, as you'd best want one that doesn't consider divorce an option in anything but extreme cases, if you want to fix the problem). Best of luck to you. God bless you and your marriage.
I grew up in a household where the things Debbie is talking about was the norm. I married a woman that "always" did those things too... that marriage ended terribly. After learning a lot about how God created marriage and realizing His expectations for me, I was able to have the correct expectations for a wife and what characteristics to avoid in women. I'm very happily married to an amazing woman that respects me and builds me up constantly! I never knew that marriage could be so wonderful!!!
Michael C also: Proverbs 21: 9 "It is better to dwell in the corner of a housetop than in a house with a contentious woman." Proverbs 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman. Check this outruclips.net/video/IpxAcyBCEJY/видео.html
"her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them" Proverbs 5:6 STRONG accurate language from someone who had countless sexual partners and hundreds of kids.
I’m sharing this with my wife. I’ve heard some of these and many others myself. I’m the husband who works at night and comes home and there’s no meal waiting on me. I help a lot around the house but to her it’s not enough.
Same, I've heard everyone I'm sure. I'm required to come home some nights and cook a meal for the entire family. She's gotten to the point where she works only 2 days out of the week, yet we put her through master's degree so she barely doesn't have to work, WTH? I get it, I need her for our children, as I'll agree I can't provide for them like a mother can, but I'm not seeing any reason after at this point.
@@unsearchablethings8167 I wish I could say that is all I deal with but not even close. She is very upset at me for only bringing home 87k per year. It's tough.
Debbie, Awesome words of wisdom. So nice to hear a woman acknowledging this Behavior. Had to live with it for years before the ex divorce me and continues to try and keep it up to me and the children even now. I never believed any of it and neither do my children. I was lucky enough to have strong family support and Friends. Prior to being married I had 25 plus years of everybody telling me I was one of the best human beings that ever met. If it wasn't for that I probably would have bought into what she was telling me. It wasn't until about a year after she left the second time that the children's counselors brought to my attention that she was a narcissist. I honestly believe that anyone who continuously rips somebody down does it because they feel insecure about themselves and actually are jealous and feel that whoever they ripping down is a better human being than they are. Doesn't matter if it's a man woman or child there is no excuse for a constant barrage telling somebody that they can never do anything right. Hopefully more men and women will take your advice and the institution of marriage will grow strong again. God bless you for attempting to bring it to everyone's attention.
Listen to this at times, and just the thought that someone out there is even thinking the way you do helps me to find peace and happiness, thank you for your kind example.
I can’t like this enough. Lady you are influencing me to end this marriage. I’m always being put down and all these phrases are being used on me all the time. I work 90 hr weeks and provide everything for her. She hates me but loves to order me around. It’s good to know that there are clear thinking women in the world. Thank you, god bless
Be the man and put her in her place. Don't you know she is subject to you in ALL things (Ephesians 5:24)? Don't you know she must REVERENCE you (Ephesians 5:33)? Don't you know you rule over her (Genesis 3:16)?
@@kartboarder22g17 I don't care if she disagrees until she's blue in the face with orange polka-dots! As the husband, he should lovingly acknowledge her disagreement but remind her that HE is the head of the household according to Ephesians 5:23, HE rules over her according to Genesis 3:16 and that she WILL obey. If she doesn't want to obey a husband then she should have stayed single and not gotten married. Truth! 😄 I know my answer probably upset you, so go ahead and respond. 🤓
@@dennisallende7214 It doesn't mean she doesn't deal you divorce papers though, my friend thought the same thing as you and they have been divorced for years. What if you were two non-Christian people and the husband became a Christian and the Wife didn't telling her Bible text may or may not do anything for you. What if you both thought you were Christians, but didn't know the bible at least the verses you are quoting ahead of time before you got married and she doesn't care. Women have a lot of divorce power now days what do you do call her, out and then she will just say get lost?
@@kartboarder22g17 If she chooses to divorce and leave, then BYE-BYE!! SHE'LL be the one that has to stand before the Lord someday and account for divorcing her husband because of her hardened heart! WHO CARES if she has "divorce power"? 😆😆 Next question! 😎
Thank you, ma'am. As a young husband, I pray and Hope that my wife, and future children will never see me as a failure. I will do my best to be a great leader, Husband, Father, Uncle, Brother, Man, to my family. Thank you for your encouragement.
My mother belittles my father in private and in public. It makes me sick. I once made the mistake of disagreeing with my husband in front of company and vowed to myself that I would never undermine his authority in public or in the privacy of our own home front of our children, friends or family. If there is something I need to discuss with him, I do so in private between ourselves.
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Caroline Watts you're such a sweetheart you realised your mistakes. I thank you for that. & please don't worry. It's not over yet. You can make a comeback & be a wife who would admire her husband for the things he has done. But you need to hurry a little. May god bless you & bring your husband back into your arms! ❤️
Wow, this is one wonderful lady, her husband is incredibly fortunate to have such an insightful and sensitive lady for a wife! If more females were like her, the divorce rate would drastically plummet and MGTOW would cease to exist. How refreshing to see that there are some terrific women out there.... If more single females were like her guys would be entirely different. You've got to admire this sweet woman, she's nothing less than incredible! 💕😊
@Dee Cee In God's eyes , the women are guilty of filing for divorce in droves but husbands are guilty of not ruling over their wives anymore as he said in Genesis 3:16.
@Dee Cee How can you be a Christian if you cannot forgive an offense made to you ? You used the " man cheating" stuff which is not biblical in order to justify divorce , unbiblical again . This is what modern day feminized Christianity is told but this is not what the Bible teaches . If the cheating stuff harms you , you are offended . So , what should any offended Christian do ? Forgive . Divorce is the modern feminist easy way out but God does not allow women to divorce ! The one who could divorce would be the man , as head of the covenant . Yet , Christ tells him NOT to put aside what God has joined . Let alone the woman . Do you get it now ? If our husband turns to another woman once but still comes back to us , he does not divorce . So , who are we to divorce ?? We may feel offended , of course , but we have to forgive his offense . Remember that in biblical times , many men had more than one wife .
@@framboise595 that is one of the curses and consequences of Adam and Eve eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Please go back and read that in context.
My dear, coming from a man...we adore you, we love you and its people like you we will die for because you are beautiful to us and to the world. Bless you always.
You so hit that exactly right. I earn 250K a year, spend next to nothing on myself (I get my clothes and glasses at the goodwill etc) and give my wife of 35 years every penny and it is never enough. At this point we live in the same house but sleep apart. We are cordial to one another. I have never nor will I cheat on God with another because it is to Him my vows were made. However, my wife has managed to get what she wanted, a detached walking wallet. The lack of appeciation by wives today is endemic. American modern women will have God to answer to.
Jr None I'm so sorry I advise you to continue praying for your wife and for the lord to convict her heart so that his desires may become her desires for a better marriage God bless you :)
Glory Hallelujah! Thank you for this! It's because so many women don't treat their men well and don't believe in lifting up their men that I'm still single! Maybe I can find a good woman like you!
Not religious at all, but I can admire at the core what she's saying. You really shouldn't talk to EACH OTHER in that manner. I'm working hard, spending time to support my family and she is working in the home doing the same. Equal partnership. Equal respect.
The more a wife guilts a husband for not mind-reading or meeting some expectation that he never knew a thing about, the less that husband will put effort into any future of the relationship. Also, the more effort I put into something, the more there is a focus on what I failed to do.
I really believe that the Lord showed me that the absence of respect always accompanies the absence of love. No exceptions. For example, You love your child but also respect them that they are a gift from God. To love them doesn’t mean they have any authority.
Thank You wise lady your husband is extremely lucky to have you! I didn't realize how depressed I have been in my marriage, until I watched your video(denial I suppose). I actually held back a tear or 2😐, my wife(of 12 years) has been doing this to me since I can last remember...
I have an arrogant wife. It’s amazing how battle hardened you get and how you learn how to tune it all out and fear the people who can truly hurt you and not the one can only hurt you emotionally. I’ve learned over the past 20 years that women are the aggressor of the species, overall.
I left my ex wife because she did most of the things you listed here. Luckily for me, I stayed in shape and in generally good looking, so I was able to find another woman that actually respects and cherishes me.
Hello, brother! The first time I saw this video I was married, and I learned that she was not my wife. I didn't show her the video. Years later I got remarried, and now my new wife compares me to other men, especially because I don't earn much money, while her exes did. Now I feel like I didn't progress or learned anything in those years of singleness, because I'm being told the same things. So it makes me hate myself even more. I'm also thinking of putting my wife in the same category as my ex. But I don't know. Any suggestions?
Although I am not a Christian, however as Muslims, we do share many common core moral values with Jews and Christians. Thank you for sharing these valuable principles, I really appreciate it. May God continue to bless you and your husband.
I see mostly men in the comment section, but a few women also, and with positive comments, even one saying thank you and " i need to change ". Great job . God bless you.
I came across this great message in a blog I do not remember the name and I would like to share it with you : " A woman's submissive conduct can communicate in a way that reaches deeper into a man's heart and mind more deeply than words alone can accomplish and thus can achieve more than a great many words, and also that submissive obedience is extremely attractive and therapeutically calming for a troubled soul. When a man takes the headship in a relationship (i.e., he takes the role that God intended him to have) a woman will find that it creates some sort of deep resonance within her and in a similar way, when a woman takes the role God intended for her (that of submitting to her man) there will be a corresponding and undeniable resonance within the man's soul. It is something like the genuine smile, the genuine hug of affection ... you might not know or be able to articulate exactly why it should influence you positively, but something happens at a subconscious level that cannot be avoided and, ultimately, cannot be denied."
frexandbera Vinc What he said is biblically based. You cannot refute the Bible when it comes to marriage. Read all the verses on the right column in full context: www.qbible.com/references/ephesians/5-22/
***** A man must be humble enough to be ruled over by Christ ( God) and proud enough to not let his wife rule over him. A man was created by a God of ORDER as well. Men with no egos are not men anymore. They are like little boys in front of mommy wife. Male ego is necessary to hold families together.
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@@petermonn8352 you need Jesus and you need to repent of your sins and cry out to him and ask him to forgive you and give you a heart and soul and mind to him and serve him
Dear Debbie Chavez THANK YOU for your loving insights. Your insights will keep men from cheating ON their wife's. I pray THAT All people get to read and hear your insights everywhere. God bless you. Please spread the holy word THANK YOU.
@@ethiopiazoldyk4667 Yes I can. In the Bible , God takes male jealousy into account and even makes a law to regulate it but he does not care about female jealousy. Because male ego is a reflection of HIMSELF : he himself is a jealous God just like a man is jealous of his wife because she must be his and anyone else's.
@@framboise595 but I don't get it? Why is it important to acknowledge that men are jealous but don't care about female jealousy? What's making him jealous in the first place?
@@framboise595 but I don't get it? Why is it important to acknowledge that men are jealous but don't care about female jealousy? What's making him jealous in the first place?
(I am a man). I clicked on your video for fun, ok let's hear this, lol...but after listening to what you had to say...Wow, I have to thank you for all of mankind. Thanks. You speak wise words and I agreed with everything you said. I wasn't expecting that but...you stand out in the crowd. Most women do not talk like you do. What're you, some sort of Proverbs 31 Wife or something? I've never actually seen one of those before. All women should watch your video. Does your husband know what he has? Ohh but he's a lucky man. Not even 95K views in over 4 years?! Oh come on on now girls, this video is gold. Thank you, Mam. :)
I think most important thing is a take care of each other. They have to show up there feelings to each other. Arrogance and proudness will never last your family. Family means a team and you should both need to be faced challenges togather.
Where can I find a woman like THIS??!!!??? I will take a plane to anywhere I can meet women with these values. @ long last... We need more good women like this one. Respect.
Amen! Here’s the truth, “from the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”. Talking down, insulting, name calling, disrespect, lack of love, attention, and support... men will put up with it for a while. Once they’ve had enough, they will leave. One thing my wife does is say “you guys” and then goes on to say something “corrective”, while taking to me and my teenage son. She lumps me into the mix like I’m one of the children. My reply is usually “There is no ‘you guys’, I’m not a child. So if you have something you need to say to me, then say it to me. But don’t lump he and I together, because you’re not talking to two children.” Always, every, and never are universals and, frankly, they’re lazy. When my wife uses these words with me I simply say “that’s not true. You’re using that as a universal term in order to exaggerate this single issue.” At the heart of a lack of disrespect is really a lack of love and gratitude.
I am now a disrespectful wife but I had respect for him until he broke my heart. Now I don't know how to respect him again or show him respect. I feel awful after i say terrible things to him.
@@cmthoughts4803 Thank you. I don't know how to manage this pain but I don't want to be so mean either. The things that I have said diminishes my femininity. So I end up being disappointed in myself n still being angry at him. I will try.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@cmthoughts4803 Thank you you are exactly right. I need to take a breath n sometimes just don't speak until I get control over my emotions. So I won't have to feel so guilty n make him feel so bad. 🙏🏾
My mother is a contentious woman and I pray to the Lord to wash away all the things that I learned from my mother and make me a wise woman with quiet and gentle spirit. Thank you for this 💓💓💓 because the elder woman must teach the ways to younger woman. 13 Oct 2024
My husband talks to me like this! It’s been 14 years of my love, respect and dedication. Divorce is the best solution in my case. Toxic people, men or women should ended up all alone! 😏🇧🇷
My wife has said so many things to me that I would never say to her. I’ll admit that I have not always been the best husband and father , I have adhd and my wife has high anxiety and she says I’m never going to change my attitude. I’m trying to be a chef and I work about 86 to 94 hours a week I was over looked for a promotion that I deserved. I come home and the son is out of control and the wife is not happy with herself and it feels like I can never make myself feel better. I feel valued at work but not anymore and now when I go home I never expect my wife to be in a good mood or happy about the house idk. I take medication but I still feel like I’ll never be the person she wants. I’m man enough to admit that I mess up a lot and dont think correctly. I’m never touched or hugged I feel or pulled over for a kiss. Son won’t get off his iPad ever and wo t listen. I’m told by her that how can she be nice to me when she says I’m not nice to her. I’m nice and then she finds something that makes her upset and angry or the house doesn’t look messy out to her it’s a disaster. I’m not going to let my family break. Idk why but she always says when he’s 18 she’s leaving me. And she doesn’t care if she says this stuff infront of him….I’ll make the changes that I need to.
Guy here My situation was not as bad as yours However lots of similarities Mine X had ADHD so I do get you I cut her alot of slack at certain times of the day as I figured out her med regime Yes, I too made mistakes Tried to own up to them whether she pointed them out to me or not Anyway, we are not together anymore I never wanted this divorce So many inconsistencies Blessings to You on Your Journey 😢😢
Things that aren't said.. Neglect Rejection Ignore Loss of affection Or just playing on your phone when I walk in the door after work and not even looking up to say (how was your day) Or (Glad you are home) Damm right I am planning an exit strategy!!!!!!!
Marriage is work you have to ask yourself wither your making time to be together too, and if its just he talk to her as one adult to another and see what the problem is, modern technology is just a new challenge for relationships not every handles well, Ive played LOL man! If all else fails then seek divorce (im not assuming you have tried these things)
@@framboise595 I thought the womans meant to be the master of the house lol but cut the crap power shouldn't be given to one, all that's needed is mutual respect, communication and co-operation, its how so many people have relationships now, the divorce rates gone down to early 40% by the way.
@@informationyes A wife is to submit o to her husband in everything because the husband IS the head of the wife . Mutual respect , communication and cooperation never work with no head ! f the man is not in control , the woman will usurp the power seat very quickly and things will get awful . There is nothing funny . When a man lets his wife be the master of the house , he gets into big troubles and is no man anymore. Don't ever expect a woman who does not regard you as the head of the house to respect you because she will automatically feel superior . Women need to be in subjection , to be subjugated _ literally sub_jugated ie under the yoke - to respect and love a man .
I remain against divorce because the Word of God is against divorce, allowing it reluctantly in only two cases. However, there is a point in a toxic marriage where one needs to ask which is the lesser of two evils: being divorced, or staying in a marriage that cannot please God. For that reason, I don't criticize divorced Christians, because I don't know the back story, and I may have reacted the same way.
Respectfully, She Is Right. Kindly, Wives / Mates, Should Be The Soft Place For Your Husband To Land, Trust, Cherish & Passionately Embrace. Thank You For Reminding Us. :)
Never ever say you should have done x. Should have is in the past and none of us can change that. Your either working WITH your husband, or, your working against him.
I’ve said ALL of those words to my husband. We’ve been together for 16yrs & sadly, our marriage is hanging by a thread. Asking for prayers & that I may make a rapid change to be a Godly wife. I struggle with pride & it’s hurting our relationship.
Men: do everything you can to become financially independent as soon as possible so you won't have to think about unimportant things. Hint: 'unimportant things'.
My wife and I were out with a group of friends, and because I didnt cut short my conversation with a friend and jump to the bar to fetch her another drink (everybody else had 1/2 to 3/4 of theirs left by the way) I was told I was an embarrassment to be out with, because she was left without a drink when everybody else had one.
My wife does those kind of things in different ways. I think it's their deep insecurity issues and constant need to feel validated. They need to seek that from God.
Over the years my wife supported other side in my conflicts and disputes even if i was a victim in the scenario. Sometimes by giving a negative statements about my point of view or the way i dealt with situations or encouraging the other person or opinion . Which made felt bad . Sometimes I felt that may be Im a failure . Till I realized That I am in a relation with a toxic person but it was quite late . Now i don’t damn care . As i don’t share any personal info as well as my opinion to her . I feel happy snd more comfortable . I always felt need of sharing ideas and discussion but that was my bad.
Thank u very much. The message u gave definitely applies both ways though. A man should build up and respect his lady as well. And he shouldn't say those type of things to her either
I'm not married, but I think this should go both ways. Underappreciation seems to be a big marriage killer, although too much attention might also be bad.
Bonnie Franklin ( R. I. P) always gave good advice on her show "One Day At A Time" and still does today from the afterlife, as seen on this video. Thank you!
Wow- my ex wife was guilty of all the demeaning things mentioned in the video. Most had no idea just how mean my ex was. I left her. She was also cheating on me again-yes 'again'. Some months after, she apologized. She regretted her bad choices. We are least on friendly terms but her sorrows are hers alone to bear. I am free.
Debbie, you should do another version of this now that Covid-19 has created a lot of jobless husbands who are stuck at home. The whole “you NEVER”... “you don’t make enough money...” and the like is probably destroying a lot of men’s spirits. Another line is “you are USELESS”. That one is a killer.
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The only time I feel like a failure is when I would think of he woman I CHOOSE to marry. It's the ONLY thing I really failed at in life. Other than that I succeeded.
I'm going through this right now. Don't know what to do. So I had to swallow my pride and call my day last night just to tell me that it's normal and I shouldn't worry. I can relate.
This is where 99% of our fights start. I rarely initiate a fight with my wife. It usually begins with my wife scolding me about something, or strongly questioning me about something. The way a mother questions a teen who was out late.
@ Andrew Pena It is always women who initiate fights because they are psuhed to challenge their husband's authority instead of submitting and surrendering. The war of the sexes is a woman's thing , not a man's thing. It started in Eden with the woman usurping the man's authority and screwing our earthly paradise.
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I’ve said those words ans the reason I was watching this video was because I felt horrible for saying them. I needed a reminder. Thank you for this video.
Wow! I have told my wife soooo many times that I have concluded I can make a million dollars a month and it wont be enough. I have told her I can't work any more constant overtime than I am right now. I made more money last year than I ever in my life thought I would and still feel financially strapped. The pressure to provide and grow a carrier for those at home. Still I feel I'm only just the family member that goes to work to provide while family takes place while I'm gone. It's like a marriage that's just a financial agreement roommate type understanding.
In a world full of women that hate men, I'm so glad there are still women that still appreciate men who really do try their best.
AMEN!
@Eseme Unuavworho
Some do, some don't. Please re-read my comment SMH
@@Doamino41 us women however are confronted with men bashing us...treating us like shit
So so true.
@ Doamino41
I'm not justifying the hate of modern women but women today hate men because they are unable to admire them . They hate them because men do not dominate them anymore.
I don't know her husband, but he is married to a smart woman
In need of a understanding women like her.
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She said good stuff.Does she actually live this? Does her husband really benefit ftom her knowledge? Have we been fooled before? Still, good words.
Absolutely, luckiest man alive.
Your hubby is very blessed to have you.
I just realized that I say some of these things to my husband. My intentions were never to tear him down, but I understand how my words could be taken that way. It really hurts me to know that I hurt him. Thank you for this video.
@Satchel McQueen Video That stinks. Don't let your wife treating you like crap depress you. She is judging you as if she can read your mind which only God can do. When she puts you down stop caring. When that doesn't work for her she might wake up. But do not get offended that she thinks so low of you because if you remove the significance of the offense that stops the cycle and you can be a man that is unmovable. Your wife may be mean as hell, but she will start to respect you more. You can set boundaries and tell her that when she does or says X it makes you feel disrespected and uncared for or whatever and that you aren't ok with that. Then ask her if she thinks it is ok to talk to you like that. If she says ok then she is admitting she is a monster.
Ashley Liu at least you realise that. Some women never apologise
Steelmonger888 maybe so but she is holding herself accountable and I am sure she will apologize and do better. Many women are not properly instructed on how to be a good wife before getting married. I’m glad these videos exist!
@Steelmonger888 ....forgive and continue to
forgive. Human are not perfect. She could be a really good person and good wife and great mother. The most important is she's willing to change and avoid to use words that Debbie's mentioned in this video.
@Steelmonger888 You .must. be glad that you're perfect!
So true. For a man his sense of self-worth is tied hugely into the respect shown by those closest to him
Love him, respect him, but especially-especially show him your appreciation for all the wonderful things he does for you. Open up to him and tell him often " thank you " and "you are wonderful to me "
Women can certainly do all the above and should not hesitate.
johnny wilbanks well, thats's pretty sweet too - thank you! 😊
popkahchin that's right
No woman is ever honest or appreciative toward their husband or partner. Then, everyone wonders why the divorce rate is so high. When a woman can't show appreciation the guy needs to say goodbye
Nobody says all wants to get only. And when you ask for a word of appreciation they say it's your responsibility. We are doing also the same...
Its the healthiest when it goes both ways value eachother
This is why my wife is now my ex-wife. I don't need to be beat up at home. I get enough of that from everyone else all day long.
Oh stop all you guys do is whine when we hold you accountable
@@Bloom2Grow 😂😂😂 chiiiilll
@@Bloom2Grow you're absolutely right. We need to suck it up and just deal with it.
@@Bloom2Grow You must be a single mom.
@@Bloom2Growthere is a difference between holding someone accountable and disrespecting them. Insulting, criticizing, or abusing someone is not holding them accountable.
A big one not on your list: engaging in put-downs of your husband in front of friends and family. Absolutely inexcusable nor tolerable.
And yet so many do exactly that... when caught, they lie and turn it back on you.
@@robertsenior8330 I would think the majority wouldn't do that just as men wouldn't put down their wife in front of others
It's a power play, and nearly all wives who grew up in the Feminism era love to insult & joke about their husbands, and encourage their girlfriends to do it. (Mine does it, and enjoys it thoroughly.)
@Genius Idiot You seem to have been wounded grievously by this era.
@@elwoodblues9613 You shouldn't have to suffer under it.
Make it known to her that it is hurtful, disrespectful, humiliating, etc. (as you feel is accurate), and that you would like her to stop.
If she does not love or respect you enough to stop, then I would reccomend counselling. First by a wise and trusted pastor or church friend(s) if you're Christian, but also by a professional councillor (Christian is still better here, as you'd best want one that doesn't consider divorce an option in anything but extreme cases, if you want to fix the problem).
Best of luck to you.
God bless you and your marriage.
I grew up in a household where the things Debbie is talking about was the norm. I married a woman that "always" did those things too... that marriage ended terribly. After learning a lot about how God created marriage and realizing His expectations for me, I was able to have the correct expectations for a wife and what characteristics to avoid in women. I'm very happily married to an amazing woman that respects me and builds me up constantly! I never knew that marriage could be so wonderful!!!
glad someone has a happy ending... finding a virtuous woman is tough!
Proof, God is not perfect. He invented marriage.
@@anthonyblow100 One big key to finding one, is finding a woman Who believes on the Lord! and cares about his words that he spoke.
@@ateam388 you stupid
I'm jealous
Proverbs 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
Or her tongue.
Dan... let the ignorant be ignorant still. God has written his words down in those books... you know what I mean.
Boats n hoes you will regret that later
Michael C also:
Proverbs 21: 9 "It is better to dwell in the corner of a housetop than in a house with a contentious woman."
Proverbs 21:19
It is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman.
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"her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them" Proverbs 5:6
STRONG accurate language from someone who had countless sexual partners and hundreds of kids.
I'm not even married. But I can tell you are a freakin God sent. God bless you and all women like you. You are a rare breed indeed.
You are a real woman. God bless you. God definitely blessed your husband.
I am Muslim and i really appreciate your speech and i think so you are a good Christian. God bless you.
I’m sharing this with my wife. I’ve heard some of these and many others myself. I’m the husband who works at night and comes home and there’s no meal waiting on me. I help a lot around the house but to her it’s not enough.
Amen Brother. My wife says just about every single thing mentioned
That's so sad! So much good wifes have bad husbands so divorce her and marry them
Same, I've heard everyone I'm sure. I'm required to come home some nights and cook a meal for the entire family. She's gotten to the point where she works only 2 days out of the week, yet we put her through master's degree so she barely doesn't have to work, WTH? I get it, I need her for our children, as I'll agree I can't provide for them like a mother can, but I'm not seeing any reason after at this point.
@@kartboarder22g17 I feel your pain.
@@unsearchablethings8167 I wish I could say that is all I deal with but not even close. She is very upset at me for only bringing home 87k per year. It's tough.
Happened to me just less than an hour ago. Came here for understanding and comfort. Thank you.
I feel u bro.......thanks for sharing
Debbie,
Awesome words of wisdom. So nice to hear a woman acknowledging this Behavior. Had to live with it for years before the ex divorce me and continues to try and keep it up to me and the children even now. I never believed any of it and neither do my children. I was lucky enough to have strong family support and Friends. Prior to being married I had 25 plus years of everybody telling me I was one of the best human beings that ever met.
If it wasn't for that I probably would have bought into what she was telling me.
It wasn't until about a year after she left the second time that the children's counselors brought to my attention that she was a narcissist.
I honestly believe that anyone who continuously rips somebody down does it because they feel insecure about themselves and actually are jealous and feel that whoever they ripping down is a better human being than they are.
Doesn't matter if it's a man woman or child there is no excuse for a constant barrage telling somebody that they can never do anything right.
Hopefully more men and women will take your advice and the institution of marriage will grow strong again.
God bless you for attempting to bring it to everyone's attention.
Listen to this at times, and just the thought that someone out there is even thinking the way you do helps me to find peace and happiness, thank you for your kind example.
I can’t like this enough. Lady you are influencing me to end this marriage. I’m always being put down and all these phrases are being used on me all the time. I work 90 hr weeks and provide everything for her. She hates me but loves to order me around. It’s good to know that there are clear thinking women in the world.
Thank you, god bless
Be the man and put her in her place. Don't you know she is subject to you in ALL things (Ephesians 5:24)? Don't you know she must REVERENCE you (Ephesians 5:33)? Don't you know you rule over her (Genesis 3:16)?
@@dennisallende7214 What if she disagrees? then end it like he's going to?
@@kartboarder22g17 I don't care if she disagrees until she's blue in the face with orange polka-dots! As the husband, he should lovingly acknowledge her disagreement but remind her that HE is the head of the household according to Ephesians 5:23, HE rules over her according to Genesis 3:16 and that she WILL obey.
If she doesn't want to obey a husband then she should have stayed single and not gotten married. Truth! 😄
I know my answer probably upset you, so go ahead and respond. 🤓
@@dennisallende7214 It doesn't mean she doesn't deal you divorce papers though, my friend thought the same thing as you and they have been divorced for years. What if you were two non-Christian people and the husband became a Christian and the Wife didn't telling her Bible text may or may not do anything for you. What if you both thought you were Christians, but didn't know the bible at least the verses you are quoting ahead of time before you got married and she doesn't care. Women have a lot of divorce power now days what do you do call her, out and then she will just say get lost?
@@kartboarder22g17 If she chooses to divorce and leave, then BYE-BYE!! SHE'LL be the one that has to stand before the Lord someday and account for divorcing her husband because of her hardened heart! WHO CARES if she has "divorce power"? 😆😆
Next question! 😎
Thank you for this! My poor husband has certainly heard some of these. It's important to treat people like you would want to be treated
Thank you, ma'am. As a young husband, I pray and Hope that my wife, and future children will never see me as a failure. I will do my best to be a great leader, Husband, Father, Uncle, Brother, Man, to my family. Thank you for your encouragement.
Good luck i hope you find her 💓
My mother belittles my father in private and in public. It makes me sick. I once made the mistake of disagreeing with my husband in front of company and vowed to myself that I would never undermine his authority in public or in the privacy of our own home front of our children, friends or family. If there is something I need to discuss with him, I do so in private between ourselves.
Sis, I agree with you more than 💯! May I add one more?NEVER correct your husband in public! It's about respect in public or private!!!!!!!!
Even if what he's saying is truly wrong and needs to be corrected ASAP?
What about him correction her in public??? Does he have the right? Last time I checked, they both are ADULTS and should be treated as such!
@@SamHoward281 This applies to wives as well. If you notice the topic is about husbands so I responded to the topic.
@@ajarts3 You still don't correct publicly.
@@elmyra.jackson even something that must be stopped at that moment??
I am guilty of so many of these 😢
Thank you so much for this video Debbie...I will watch this over and over
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Caroline Watts you're such a sweetheart you realised your mistakes. I thank you for that. & please don't worry. It's not over yet. You can make a comeback & be a wife who would admire her husband for the things he has done. But you need to hurry a little. May god bless you & bring your husband back into your arms! ❤️
Wow, this is one wonderful lady, her husband is incredibly fortunate to have such an insightful and sensitive lady for a wife! If more females were like her, the divorce rate would drastically plummet and MGTOW would cease to exist. How refreshing to see that there are some terrific women out there.... If more single females were like her guys would be entirely different. You've got to admire this sweet woman, she's nothing less than incredible! 💕😊
Dee Cee No argument here...
@Dee Cee
In God's eyes , the women are guilty of filing for divorce in droves but husbands are guilty of not ruling over their wives anymore as he said in Genesis 3:16.
@Dee Cee
How can you be a Christian if you cannot forgive an offense made to you ?
You used the " man cheating" stuff which is not biblical in order to justify divorce , unbiblical again .
This is what modern day feminized Christianity is told but this is not what the Bible teaches .
If the cheating stuff harms you , you are offended . So , what should any offended Christian do ? Forgive .
Divorce is the modern feminist easy way out but God does not allow women to divorce !
The one who could divorce would be the man , as head of the covenant . Yet , Christ tells him NOT to put aside what God has joined .
Let alone the woman .
Do you get it now ?
If our husband turns to another woman once but still comes back to us , he does not divorce . So , who are we to divorce ??
We may feel offended , of course , but we have to forgive his offense .
Remember that in biblical times , many men had more than one wife .
@@framboise595 that is one of the curses and consequences of Adam and Eve eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Please go back and read that in context.
Good Job Debbie. I like it very much. So any wife suppose to be in full support of her husband no matter what. Jesus bless you and your work.
Every good man deserves a good self aware woman like this
My dear, coming from a man...we adore you, we love you and its people like you we will die for because you are beautiful to us and to the world. Bless you always.
You so hit that exactly right. I earn 250K a year, spend next to nothing on myself (I get my clothes and glasses at the goodwill etc) and give my wife of 35 years every penny and it is never enough. At this point we live in the same house but sleep apart. We are cordial to one another. I have never nor will I cheat on God with another because it is to Him my vows were made. However, my wife has managed to get what she wanted, a detached walking wallet. The lack of appeciation by wives today is endemic. American modern women will have God to answer to.
@ Jr None
Maybe men will have God to answer to for not correcting their wives and let them run the show ...
Jr None praying for you... I hope things are getting better now
Here Comes the Light
Things will NEVER get better as long as men will grovel to their wives instead of firmly rebuking and discipline them .
Jr None I'm so sorry I advise you to continue praying for your wife and for the lord to convict her heart so that his desires may become her desires for a better marriage God bless you :)
Jr None just a question but did your wife not have a career and if so did you know if she had no intention of getting one when you married her?
I always say to him: You are amazing. And he is. He works hard, comes home to me, and gives me good cuddling and loving'.
Glory Hallelujah! Thank you for this! It's because so many women don't treat their men well and don't believe in lifting up their men that I'm still single! Maybe I can find a good woman like you!
Any luck? I’ve been single almost 8 years after my wife died and have no prospects.
Sadly they know that this hurts and is why it's used as a weapon.
I agree
Yes
@@gatorroll5126 curious. Do these statements really hurt that bad? Jw. They don't seem that bad lol
Lady, I wish all the women in the universe could see this video. 99% of the divorces would not happen. God bless you.
Not religious at all, but I can admire at the core what she's saying. You really shouldn't talk to EACH OTHER in that manner. I'm working hard, spending time to support my family and she is working in the home doing the same. Equal partnership. Equal respect.
Equal partnership, equal respect, but NOT equal authority. That's what many wives don't like to hear!
Wow! Thank you. You nailed it. I wish every man and woman could hear this.
You are awesome. . Thanks for the uplifting words . There is a woman that has a heart ❤️.
The more a wife guilts a husband for not mind-reading or meeting some expectation that he never knew a thing about, the less that husband will put effort into any future of the relationship. Also, the more effort I put into something, the more there is a focus on what I failed to do.
I really believe that the Lord showed me that the absence of respect always accompanies the absence of love. No exceptions. For example, You love your child but also respect them that they are a gift from God. To love them doesn’t mean they have any authority.
Thank You wise lady your husband is extremely lucky to have you! I didn't realize how depressed I have been in my marriage, until I watched your video(denial I suppose). I actually held back a tear or 2😐, my wife(of 12 years) has been doing this to me since I can last remember...
I have an arrogant wife. It’s amazing how battle hardened you get and how you learn how to tune it all out and fear the people who can truly hurt you and not the one can only hurt you emotionally. I’ve learned over the past 20 years that women are the aggressor of the species, overall.
You need to put her in her place. Remember, according to Genesis 3:16, you rule over her.
I left my ex wife because she did most of the things you listed here. Luckily for me, I stayed in shape and in generally good looking, so I was able to find another woman that actually respects and cherishes me.
Hello, brother! The first time I saw this video I was married, and I learned that she was not my wife. I didn't show her the video. Years later I got remarried, and now my new wife compares me to other men, especially because I don't earn much money, while her exes did. Now I feel like I didn't progress or learned anything in those years of singleness, because I'm being told the same things. So it makes me hate myself even more. I'm also thinking of putting my wife in the same category as my ex. But I don't know. Any suggestions?
@@aramisy.cajigas744 what do you do? How much do you roughly earn per year?
A few words for a woman who talks to me like that:
“Pack your things, get out and don’t come back.”
When you said: ' You always & you never '
I felt sooooo convicted. I need to work on myself , thank you , im messed up 💚
You are so right. Words can build up and words can tear down because words are powerful. God bless you for sharing.
It's so nice to see and hear a wise woman on u tube.
Although I am not a Christian, however as Muslims, we do share many common core moral values with Jews and Christians. Thank you for sharing these valuable principles, I really appreciate it. May God continue to bless you and your husband.
This is a very nice comment. Bless you too, sir!
Amen, respect goes along ways and as a man we dont ask for anything but respect and to be acknowledged when necessary
I respect you 💯 times over i wish more women where like you god bless you and your family
I see mostly men in the comment section, but a few women also, and with positive comments, even one saying thank you and " i need to change ". Great job . God bless you.
Little do woman know. This is the key Jesus Christ has given them to fix all these things that are broken.
You are an amazing person. If more females had your philosophy so many relationships would not end
I came across this great message in a blog I do not remember the name and I would like to share it with you :
" A woman's submissive conduct can communicate in a way that reaches deeper into a man's heart and mind more deeply than words alone can accomplish and thus can achieve more than a great many words, and also that submissive obedience is extremely attractive and therapeutically calming for a troubled soul.
When a man takes the headship in a relationship (i.e., he takes the role that God intended him to have) a woman will find that it creates some sort of deep resonance within her and in a similar way, when a woman takes the role God intended for her (that of submitting to her man) there will be a corresponding and undeniable resonance within the man's soul. It is something like the genuine smile, the genuine hug of affection ... you might not know or be able to articulate exactly why it should influence you positively, but something happens at a subconscious level that cannot be avoided and, ultimately, cannot be denied."
frexandbera Vinc What he said is biblically based. You cannot refute the Bible when it comes to marriage. Read all the verses on the right column in full context:
www.qbible.com/references/ephesians/5-22/
Prohib
Please , it is not he but she !
I'm a woman !
*****
A man must be humble enough to be ruled over by Christ ( God) and proud enough to not let his wife rule over him.
A man was created by a God of ORDER as well.
Men with no egos are not men anymore. They are like little boys in front of mommy wife.
Male ego is necessary to hold families together.
Isabelle M - Your wisdom dear Sister on this issue is graceful. May God ALMIGHTY help you and use you to revive so many marriages.
If only wise women as yourself we're more prevalent in my generation
Well said... women/wives who say these things usually end up being the reason the marriage falls apart.
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@@petermonn8352 you need Jesus and you need to repent of your sins and cry out to him and ask him to forgive you and give you a heart and soul and mind to him and serve him
Dear Debbie Chavez THANK YOU for your loving insights. Your insights will keep men from cheating ON their wife's. I pray THAT All people get to read and hear your insights everywhere. God bless you. Please spread the holy word THANK YOU.
@ Sonofgod Jesuschrist
Do you realise there is no such thing as "husband cheating on wife" in the Bible and in God'seyes ?
@@framboise595 can you explain?
@@ethiopiazoldyk4667
Yes I can. In the Bible , God takes male jealousy into account and even makes a law to regulate it but he does not care about female jealousy.
Because male ego is a reflection of HIMSELF : he himself is a jealous God just like a man is jealous of his wife because she must be his and anyone else's.
@@framboise595 but I don't get it?
Why is it important to acknowledge that men are jealous but don't care about female jealousy?
What's making him jealous in the first place?
@@framboise595 but I don't get it?
Why is it important to acknowledge that men are jealous but don't care about female jealousy?
What's making him jealous in the first place?
What most women don't seem to know about men is that they actually have feelings that can be hurt. Yep we have feelings.
(I am a man). I clicked on your video for fun, ok let's hear this, lol...but after listening to what you had to say...Wow, I have to thank you for all of mankind. Thanks. You speak wise words and I agreed with everything you said. I wasn't expecting that but...you stand out in the crowd. Most women do not talk like you do. What're you, some sort of Proverbs 31 Wife or something? I've never actually seen one of those before.
All women should watch your video. Does your husband know what he has? Ohh but he's a lucky man.
Not even 95K views in over 4 years?! Oh come on on now girls, this video is gold.
Thank you, Mam. :)
A woman who knows God and believes on his words. Who can find her? Her price is far above jewels.
You deserve a salute ,Lady.
I think most important thing is a take care of each other. They have to show up there feelings to each other. Arrogance and proudness will never last your family.
Family means a team and you should both need to be faced challenges togather.
I love this woman!
Where can I find a woman like THIS??!!!??? I will take a plane to anywhere I can meet women with these values. @ long last... We need more good women like this one. Respect.
Amen! Here’s the truth, “from the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”. Talking down, insulting, name calling, disrespect, lack of love, attention, and support... men will put up with it for a while. Once they’ve had enough, they will leave.
One thing my wife does is say “you guys” and then goes on to say something “corrective”, while taking to me and my teenage son. She lumps me into the mix like I’m one of the children. My reply is usually “There is no ‘you guys’, I’m not a child. So if you have something you need to say to me, then say it to me. But don’t lump he and I together, because you’re not talking to two children.”
Always, every, and never are universals and, frankly, they’re lazy. When my wife uses these words with me I simply say “that’s not true. You’re using that as a universal term in order to exaggerate this single issue.”
At the heart of a lack of disrespect is really a lack of love and gratitude.
Put her in her place - you have the authority to do so (Genesis 3:16).
you are a good woman, thanks for putting this video out there. more woman need to hear you. God bless aloha
To all hurt men , God will bless you with a wonderful woman one day. 👏
I am now a disrespectful wife but I had respect for him until he broke my heart. Now I don't know how to respect him again or show him respect. I feel awful after i say terrible things to him.
@@DreamChaser415 Sit down and talk to him , let him know you are still hurt. I’m sorry Sis 💖
@@cmthoughts4803 Thank you. I don't know how to manage this pain but I don't want to be so mean either. The things that I have said diminishes my femininity. So I end up being disappointed in myself n still being angry at him. I will try.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@DreamChaser415 Healing takes time Sis, don’t force it. If you feel angry it’s best to not say anything until you are calm.
@@cmthoughts4803 Thank you you are exactly right. I need to take a breath n sometimes just don't speak until I get control over my emotions. So I won't have to feel so guilty n make him feel so bad. 🙏🏾
My mother is a contentious woman and I pray to the Lord to wash away all the things that I learned from my mother and make me a wise woman with quiet and gentle spirit.
Thank you for this 💓💓💓 because the elder woman must teach the ways to younger woman.
13 Oct 2024
Ya show these to women and they'll get defensive cause they know she's right God bless her seeing men's point of view.
Seeing mens point of view? this is based on the living Gods very words.
great video! your channel is a blessing to all of us aspiring to be good godly women
This woman is amazing. Would love to have a wife exactly like her. I would treat her like royalty.
I really appreciate your video... you have no idea how powerful it is.
Her husband must have done some good deeds in his previous life that he got such an understanding wife.
Hahaha
My husband talks to me like this! It’s been 14 years of my love, respect and dedication. Divorce is the best solution in my case. Toxic people, men or women should ended up all alone! 😏🇧🇷
My wife has said so many things to me that I would never say to her. I’ll admit that I have not always been the best husband and father , I have adhd and my wife has high anxiety and she says I’m never going to change my attitude. I’m trying to be a chef and I work about 86 to 94 hours a week I was over looked for a promotion that I deserved. I come home and the son is out of control and the wife is not happy with herself and it feels like I can never make myself feel better. I feel valued at work but not anymore and now when I go home I never expect my wife to be in a good mood or happy about the house idk. I take medication but I still feel like I’ll never be the person she wants. I’m man enough to admit that I mess up a lot and dont think correctly. I’m never touched or hugged I feel or pulled over for a kiss. Son won’t get off his iPad ever and wo t listen. I’m told by her that how can she be nice to me when she says I’m not nice to her. I’m nice and then she finds something that makes her upset and angry or the house doesn’t look messy out to her it’s a disaster. I’m not going to let my family break. Idk why but she always says when he’s 18 she’s leaving me. And she doesn’t care if she says this stuff infront of him….I’ll make the changes that I need to.
i read this amd i just feel so bad for you. i really hope things have changed for you since then
Guy here
My situation was not as bad as yours
However lots of similarities
Mine X had ADHD so I do get you
I cut her alot of slack at certain times of the day as I figured out her med regime
Yes, I too made mistakes
Tried to own up to them whether she pointed them out to me or not
Anyway, we are not together anymore
I never wanted this divorce
So many inconsistencies
Blessings to You on Your Journey 😢😢
Things that aren't said..
Neglect
Rejection
Ignore
Loss of affection
Or just playing on your phone when I walk in the door after work and not even looking up to say
(how was your day)
Or
(Glad you are home)
Damm right I am planning an exit strategy!!!!!!!
Marriage is work you have to ask yourself wither your making time to be together too, and if its just he talk to her as one adult to another and see what the problem is, modern technology is just a new challenge for relationships not every handles well, Ive played LOL man! If all else fails then seek divorce (im not assuming you have tried these things)
@ Richard Myhan
How come men today cannot have their will done in their own house ?
@@framboise595 I thought the womans meant to be the master of the house lol but cut the crap power shouldn't be given to one, all that's needed is mutual respect, communication and co-operation, its how so many people have relationships now, the divorce rates gone down to early 40% by the way.
@@informationyes
A wife is to submit o to her husband in everything because the husband IS the head of the wife .
Mutual respect , communication and cooperation never work with no head !
f the man is not in control , the woman will usurp the power seat very quickly and things will get awful .
There is nothing funny . When a man lets his wife be the master of the house , he gets into big troubles and is no man anymore.
Don't ever expect a woman who does not regard you as the head of the house to respect you because she will automatically feel superior .
Women need to be in subjection , to be subjugated _ literally sub_jugated ie under the yoke - to respect and love a man .
I remain against divorce because the Word of God is against divorce, allowing it reluctantly in only two cases. However, there is a point in a toxic marriage where one needs to ask which is the lesser of two evils: being divorced, or staying in a marriage that cannot please God. For that reason, I don't criticize divorced Christians, because I don't know the back story, and I may have reacted the same way.
Wow! Don't know you. But I must say your sweetheart is one LUCKY man.
Wow!!!!
Ss
Respectfully, She Is Right. Kindly, Wives / Mates, Should Be The Soft Place For Your Husband To Land, Trust, Cherish & Passionately Embrace.
Thank You For Reminding Us. :)
Never ever say you should have done x. Should have is in the past and none of us can change that. Your either working WITH your husband, or, your working against him.
Because hindsight is a wonderful thing only possessed by women.
Really convicting!! I want so much to be a good support to my husband.
I’ve said ALL of those words to my husband. We’ve been together for 16yrs & sadly, our marriage is hanging by a thread. Asking for prayers & that I may make a rapid change to be a Godly wife. I struggle with pride & it’s hurting our relationship.
Read Genesis 3:16, Ephesians 5:24, 33.
She has spoken the Absolute truth!!! Bless her heart!!!
Men: do everything you can to become financially independent as soon as possible so you won't have to think about unimportant things. Hint: 'unimportant things'.
CauseAndEffect MGTOW
We need more teaching on the definition of respect. We can not respect anyone that isn’t respectable.
My wife and I were out with a group of friends, and because I didnt cut short my conversation with a friend and jump to the bar to fetch her another drink (everybody else had 1/2 to 3/4 of theirs left by the way) I was told I was an embarrassment to be out with, because she was left without a drink when everybody else had one.
My wife does those kind of things in different ways. I think it's their deep insecurity issues and constant need to feel validated. They need to seek that from God.
Are you still married
This video is so on point! The first ones, yes! Those are called “absolute statements”. To quote Star Wars,: “only a Sith deals in absolutes”
Over the years my wife supported other side in my conflicts and disputes even if i was a victim in the scenario. Sometimes by giving a negative statements about my point of view or the way i dealt with situations or encouraging the other person or opinion . Which made felt bad . Sometimes I felt that may be Im a failure .
Till I realized That I am in a relation with a toxic person but it was quite late .
Now i don’t damn care . As i don’t share any personal info as well as my opinion to her .
I feel happy snd more comfortable .
I always felt need of sharing ideas and discussion but that was my bad.
Thank God for this video! Im guilty ! 🥺
But thank God for this im going to tell my husband Hes So Appreciated here . 😭❤️
Thank u very much. The message u gave definitely applies both ways though. A man should build up and respect his lady as well. And he shouldn't say those type of things to her either
This man knows you are 100% correct. Thank you.
I feel like my wife would curse me out if I showed her this video.
You need to put her in her place - you have the authority to do so (Genesis 3:16).
I'm not married, but I think this should go both ways. Underappreciation seems to be a big marriage killer, although too much attention might also be bad.
I thought our marriage was "fire-proof" - she left me in 2012 after 28 years an I didn't see it coming!
@@ateam388 are you still married? Marriage is rough
Bonnie Franklin ( R. I. P) always gave good advice on her show "One Day At A Time" and still does today from the afterlife, as seen on this video. Thank you!
Wow- my ex wife was guilty of all the demeaning things mentioned in the video. Most had no idea just how mean my ex was. I left her. She was also cheating on me again-yes 'again'. Some months after, she apologized. She regretted her bad choices. We are least on friendly terms but her sorrows are hers alone to bear. I am free.
Did you find someone else
I just want to say great video. This is the best advice regardless what religion. Now I'm gonna leave it out for my wife to see.
Debbie, you should do another version of this now that Covid-19 has created a lot of jobless husbands who are stuck at home. The whole “you NEVER”... “you don’t make enough money...” and the like is probably destroying a lot of men’s spirits. Another line is “you are USELESS”. That one is a killer.
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So very true, this reveals a very prideful
spirit in a wife, possibly a Jezebel spirit leading her around on a leash
The only time I feel like a failure is when I would think of he woman I CHOOSE to marry. It's the ONLY thing I really failed at in life. Other than that I succeeded.
I'm going through this right now. Don't know what to do. So I had to swallow my pride and call my day last night just to tell me that it's normal and I shouldn't worry. I can relate.
This is where 99% of our fights start. I rarely initiate a fight with my wife. It usually begins with my wife scolding me about something, or strongly questioning me about something. The way a mother questions a teen who was out late.
@ Andrew Pena
It is always women who initiate fights because they are psuhed to challenge their husband's authority instead of submitting and surrendering.
The war of the sexes is a woman's thing , not a man's thing.
It started in Eden with the woman usurping the man's authority and screwing our earthly paradise.
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Put her in her place - you have that authority (Genesis 3:16).
I’ve said those words ans the reason I was watching this video was because I felt horrible for saying them.
I needed a reminder.
Thank you for this video.
She nailed it!!!!🙏💗💙💚💖
Wow! I have told my wife soooo many times that I have concluded I can make a million dollars a month and it wont be enough. I have told her I can't work any more constant overtime than I am right now. I made more money last year than I ever in my life thought I would and still feel financially strapped. The pressure to provide and grow a carrier for those at home. Still I feel I'm only just the family member that goes to work to provide while family takes place while I'm gone. It's like a marriage that's just a financial agreement roommate type understanding.
You need to put her in her place - Genesis 3:16.
All these words used by my wife in daily life which i think is gonna spoil 18 yrs of marriage soon
Debbie... your husband is a fortunate and a blessed man.