Mercy mercy never heard this in 54 years! If every married women followed this advice there would a lot of very very happy men praising God. Men have 20 times more testosterone than women. It's painful for husbands to sleep next to there wives and not desire them sometime during the night. My understanding is women give themselves physically (need to draw from God) while men must learn to give themselves emotionally (need to draw from God) to there wives.
Proverbs, written by Solomon, the man who God supposedly bestowed all riches and wisdom too! Many people of faith struggle with sex, even with their spouses. This is a great, great scripture to make couples more comfortable with the physical part of their relationship! Thanks for sharing your videos! Also, you are clearly a great example of why women SHOULD read and study the Word. Unlike other religions that seem to keep their women down out of fear. The bible is actually a great tool for equality and respect!
Yes this is pretty spot on. I would like to comment a bit. 1. Be careful about surprising him. If he just happens to not be in the mood, this is a long lasting cold bucket of water on intimacy. As to avoiding this see #2. 2. Debbie mentioned planned sex. I cannot over emphasize how romantic planned sex can be. Both spouses are freed: to think about appreciation for past events (think encouraging him to continue doing something you liked), to get in a radiant mood, to be inventive etc. In contrast both spouses tend to walk on eggshells to make sure they are not feeling rejected for "spontaneous sex". The virtues of spontaneous sex is, in my mind are overblown if not a downright myth. 3. While I did not relate at all, to compliments about muscles. Admiration for any of a myriad of things is definately something women just do not understand the importance of. My three big keys for women are admiration, trust (mutual trust, forebearance, reliability, etc,) and romance (sex and all the bonding that goes with it) in terms of hitting the needs of a husband. 4. As implied, Christan Bible reading couples have such a leg up on a happy marriage. Just becoming Christian gives one a proper sense of humility that avoids many marriage pitfalls, and things spiral up from there.
She's right on it. This is all a wife needs to do to keep their husbands happy. Most don't do this, which is why most men are miserable & hate being married.
So blessed that after 40 years my husband is still intoxicated with me . I love to surprise him and keep things interesting . Like Debbie said keep his love tank full and you most likely want have to worry about him going astray . And pray and read your bibles together every day as you draw closer to God you will draw closer to one another.
This is great wisdom but is important that the man also do his part; if he is lazy and only wants to watch TV, will be hard to the wife to be intoxicating lovely
The power of choice! To fill or to withhold. To hold on to self or to deny .To fleshly justify or to be owned by his will. Freedom of choice is always a priviledge , right or wrong. Don't waste your time , use offences,rejection and sorrow as stepping stones to help others. Debbie you're on the building crew! Accepting the inevitable and falling in love with the eternal has brought me great peace and satisfaction far from myself.Keep building the walls surrounding marriage and the gates of it's Joy! God bless you and your marriage!
I was intoxicated with my wife way before we got married and still am if not more so. Some things get better with age after 39 years. My wife is not intoxicated or anything close nor does she understand how intoxicated I am I know self discipline is in order it’s difficult at times....
Cant' really address your situation directly as I do not know it. But sometimes women exhaust themselves doing things that do not matter to him. I would suggest having a bit of courage and asking him what would make his head spin/ and there is room in that conversation to help him see what he may be taking for granted that he should not. And of course the whole conversation has to apply to you also or you lose your credibility.
Husband and wife are joined in marriage covenant (commitment) as planned by our God. Godly marriage is different from ungodly marriage. In my words, ungodly marriage is a marriage that people do without taking God into consideration. Some marriage may not start in a Godly way, but then eventually end up being Godly. Therefore, whatever the marriage is, whether Godly or ungodly, in faith in our God, I believe our Loving God would support the marriage (or the union) according to His plans. Therefore, I am not making any judgement here. After the couple is in Godly marriage, they must realize that they are ONE BODY. They should gradually keep forgetting seeing them as two different beings and/or two different individuals. This is what happens with any loving couple, because I believe, this is how our God has planned this to be. If he and/or she (respectfully and/or prayerfully) meditates often enough all the verses related to Marriage (or about a husband&wife) from the Bible, and think about his/her spouse as the same body, then lots of wonderful blessings and joy will fill their relationship. This must eventually lead them to a better spiritual life. Good wishes to you in the love of God
I'm so sorry it took me forever to get to answering your question. My talk show co-host and I finally addressed your question on this morning's podcast. Here is the link to the podcast: thedebbiechavezshow.com/2017/01/26/empty-nest-lonelinesshandling-wait-to-find-husband-podcast/ We answered it as the 2nd question on the show. Hope it is helpful!
It's not that I don't find my husband attractive - I work as an RN full time, have a household to run. I'm just tired. There are only so many hours in the day. If hubby would be on board to me working less hours (which he is not) or getting some paid help cleaning maybe our intimate life would improve.
Hi Michele. I addressed your concern on my talk show this morning :) Here is the link to the podcast: thedebbiechavezshow.com/2017/05/01/handling-anxiety-producing-relative-too-tired-for-sex-with-husband-podcast/ We addressed your question about 40 minutes into the podcast. Hope this is helpful!
WOW! If my wife EVER done this I'd probably die. Hell my wife wants her space so much she only wants me to sit still and watch her shows without saying or doing anything. Heaven forbid I say or even wink at her. God has to protect me from her scorn. Lol it wasn't that way for at least 3 or 4 years. But then one day. (Light bulb) she switched off. Its over Jack. Nada no more. My question to you is how do I get her to watch any of your videos?? My wife is the opposite of everything you are trying to tell the ladys in your video. Maybe I'm an ol softy but I want her to spend our money. I don't mind getting her anything she wants. Hell, we've spent over $280,000.00 in 1 1/2 years on furniture for 2 houses. The 2nd house is not rented. No-one lives there. She even states while chewing on my butt that she wants to go live there without me. God is my Shepard. I only want piece in my life. One day. And it's looking sooner than later ill let her have it and ill move away to let her pay all the taxes and insurance and gas and food. Heck, we spend over $120.00 almost every night to eat out cause she don't want to cook. And she's a fantastic cook. Oops I'm off the subject. Lol just where were you when I was looking to make a home and family? Lol oh well. I'm here and I'm going to follow you. Thank you for your insight. God Bless all.
widow maker you need to stop allowing this. IF you’re financially well off and the main breadwinner especially, you need to set your foot down brother. You allowed this behavior. Don’t be mean or rude to her but be firm.
I agree with Dream Media. You can be firm & loving at the same time. Don't let her be just a taker. Love should always be reciprocated from time to time. I truly believe that and I'm a women telling you this.
Oh how Christian women NEED to hear this !! Thank You Debbie.
Mercy mercy never heard this in 54 years! If every married women followed this advice there would a lot of very very happy men praising God. Men have 20 times more testosterone than women. It's painful for husbands to sleep next to there wives and not desire them sometime during the night. My understanding is women give themselves physically (need to draw from God) while men must learn to give themselves emotionally (need to draw from God) to there wives.
Proverbs, written by Solomon, the man who God supposedly bestowed all riches and wisdom too! Many people of faith struggle with sex, even with their spouses. This is a great, great scripture to make couples more comfortable with the physical part of their relationship! Thanks for sharing your videos!
Also, you are clearly a great example of why women SHOULD read and study the Word. Unlike other religions that seem to keep their women down out of fear. The bible is actually a great tool for equality and respect!
This is some of the best marriage advice I've ever heard. Wives everywhere need to hear this video.
Yes this is pretty spot on. I would like to comment a bit.
1. Be careful about surprising him. If he just happens to not be in the mood, this is a long lasting cold bucket of water on intimacy. As to avoiding this see #2.
2. Debbie mentioned planned sex. I cannot over emphasize how romantic planned sex can be. Both spouses are freed: to think about appreciation for past events (think encouraging him to continue doing something you liked), to get in a radiant mood, to be inventive etc. In contrast both spouses tend to walk on eggshells to make sure they are not feeling rejected for "spontaneous sex". The virtues of spontaneous sex is, in my mind are overblown if not a downright myth.
3. While I did not relate at all, to compliments about muscles. Admiration for any of a myriad of things is definately something women just do not understand the importance of. My three big keys for women are admiration, trust (mutual trust, forebearance, reliability, etc,) and romance (sex and all the bonding that goes with it) in terms of hitting the needs of a husband.
4. As implied, Christan Bible reading couples have such a leg up on a happy marriage. Just becoming Christian gives one a proper sense of humility that avoids many marriage pitfalls, and things spiral up from there.
This lady had to experience a ruff marriage.Plus mentor/counsel a lot of couples, & individuals. To have this much knowledge and wisdom.
GREAT ADVICE!
She's right on it. This is all a wife needs to do to keep their husbands happy. Most don't do this, which is why most men are miserable & hate being married.
So blessed that after 40 years my husband is still intoxicated with me . I love to surprise him and keep things interesting . Like Debbie said keep his love tank full and you most likely want have to worry about him going astray . And pray and read your bibles together every day as you draw closer to God you will draw closer to one another.
This is great wisdom but is important that the man also do his part; if he is lazy and only wants to watch TV, will be hard to the wife to be intoxicating lovely
The power of choice! To fill or to withhold. To hold on to self or to deny .To fleshly justify or to be owned by his will. Freedom of choice is always a priviledge , right or wrong. Don't waste your time , use offences,rejection and
sorrow as stepping stones to help others.
Debbie you're on the building crew! Accepting the inevitable and falling in love with the eternal has brought me great peace and satisfaction far from myself.Keep building the walls surrounding marriage and the gates of it's Joy! God bless you
and your marriage!
On the muscle thing,it's not necessarily the physical muscle but just letting him know he is a strong man in General
I was intoxicated with my wife way before we got married and still am if not more so. Some things get better with age after 39 years. My wife is not intoxicated or anything close nor does she understand how intoxicated I am I know self discipline is in order it’s difficult at times....
Amen I have 5 beautiful kids 😂
Love this!
Wish all the effort mattered to my husband.
Cant' really address your situation directly as I do not know it. But sometimes women exhaust themselves doing things that do not matter to him. I would suggest having a bit of courage and asking him what would make his head spin/ and there is room in that conversation to help him see what he may be taking for granted that he should not. And of course the whole conversation has to apply to you also or you lose your credibility.
Amen!
I’m intoxicated with her but she repels it....
Husband and wife are joined in marriage covenant (commitment) as planned by our God. Godly marriage is different from ungodly marriage. In my words, ungodly marriage is a marriage that people do without taking God into consideration. Some marriage may not start in a Godly way, but then eventually end up being Godly. Therefore, whatever the marriage is, whether Godly or ungodly, in faith in our God, I believe our Loving God would support the marriage (or the union) according to His plans.
Therefore, I am not making any judgement here.
After the couple is in Godly marriage, they must realize that they are ONE BODY. They should gradually keep forgetting seeing them as two different beings and/or two different individuals. This is what happens with any loving couple, because I believe, this is how our God has planned this to be.
If he and/or she (respectfully and/or prayerfully) meditates often enough all the verses related to Marriage (or about a husband&wife) from the Bible, and think about his/her spouse as the same body, then lots of wonderful blessings and joy will fill their relationship.
This must eventually lead them to a better spiritual life.
Good wishes to you in the love of God
Hi Debbie, any advice for single christian women waiting for a spouse?
I'm so sorry it took me forever to get to answering your question. My talk show co-host and I finally addressed your question on this morning's podcast. Here is the link to the podcast: thedebbiechavezshow.com/2017/01/26/empty-nest-lonelinesshandling-wait-to-find-husband-podcast/
We answered it as the 2nd question on the show. Hope it is helpful!
@Cathy B lol you again.
@Barbara Freeman she said C h r i s t i a n women!
"intoxicate your husband" - Sorry, I hate beer, and wine isn't meant to drink fast :-O
It's not that I don't find my husband attractive - I work as an RN full time, have a household to run. I'm just tired. There are only so many hours in the day. If hubby would be on board to me working less hours (which he is not) or getting some paid help cleaning maybe our intimate life would improve.
Hi Michele. I addressed your concern on my talk show this morning :) Here is the link to the podcast: thedebbiechavezshow.com/2017/05/01/handling-anxiety-producing-relative-too-tired-for-sex-with-husband-podcast/ We addressed your question about 40 minutes into the podcast. Hope this is helpful!
Yeah the nagging isn't at all intoxicating. Unless you turn to drink to deal with it.
WOW! If my wife EVER done this I'd probably die. Hell my wife wants her space so much she only wants me to sit still and watch her shows without saying or doing anything. Heaven forbid I say or even wink at her. God has to protect me from her scorn. Lol it wasn't that way for at least 3 or 4 years. But then one day. (Light bulb) she switched off. Its over Jack. Nada no more. My question to you is how do I get her to watch any of your videos?? My wife is the opposite of everything you are trying to tell the ladys in your video. Maybe I'm an ol softy but I want her to spend our money. I don't mind getting her anything she wants. Hell, we've spent over $280,000.00 in 1 1/2 years on furniture for 2 houses. The 2nd house is not rented. No-one lives there. She even states while chewing on my butt that she wants to go live there without me. God is my Shepard. I only want piece in my life. One day. And it's looking sooner than later ill let her have it and ill move away to let her pay all the taxes and insurance and gas and food. Heck, we spend over $120.00 almost every night to eat out cause she don't want to cook. And she's a fantastic cook. Oops I'm off the subject. Lol just where were you when I was looking to make a home and family? Lol oh well. I'm here and I'm going to follow you. Thank you for your insight. God Bless all.
widow maker you need to stop allowing this. IF you’re financially well off and the main breadwinner especially, you need to set your foot down brother. You allowed this behavior. Don’t be mean or rude to her but be firm.
Azul Dream Media lol. I'm having fun. My wife and I have spent more than a half million since 2000. I want my wife to enjoy herself. Lol
I agree with Dream Media. You can be firm & loving at the same time. Don't let her be just a taker. Love should always be reciprocated from time to time. I truly believe that and I'm a women telling you this.