Each day I understand more and more the importance of completely removing your attention from someone who places absolutely no priority on you. She was sweet and kind and affectionate at first until I cared too much. The more you chase after someone who seems to just not care, the less she will value and respect you. It's been 7 weeks now since I've reached out to you baby. How's it feel no longer having that one person who always there for you?
Shit, I was with fiance 8 yrs. We have 4 yr old. This chic kicked me out , like a week later went made restraining order against me said I stalking her and I did not have not any contact with her what so ever, it was so crazy. We only message about daughter, this chic literally hides when me and daughter video call. I believe she sleeping with ex husband they hav ed 3 children and 12yrs respectively. It just sad, I see no answer except it is what it is. I going get coaches work books, Fuck it I guess
@LanternMatty Bear in mind that not all women are the same!!! some women cry out for a man that cares too much....so many a$$holes out there that treat women real bad and dont care.
Boy, did I ever make this mistake by seeing my man was not 100% invested & l was mot a priority. Yes now its over & l'm left in the dust . I saved this mans life when he was suicidal & this is the thanks I get.
Topkat I feel the same way. My girl left me after 4 yrs just 2 weeks ago. I helped her through med school, and was the giver in the relationship. After she moved back to her home state to start her new job, about 1 month in she felt off about us. 3 months later after trying to talk to her about us and help her figure us out she dumps me. Broke my heart and made me feel like complete crap. But everyday is a new day, and and now we have more air to breathe and love to give and laughs to laugh and it may not be with our significant others, but now we have it all for us, and more is better right? God bless and best of luck.
@@lovedog49507 that's not the right attitude. Just learn from your mistakes. I dated some one who was like that man you described. I stopped being her back up plan, and she made attempts to reach out. I responded the first couple times, but then realized she was never going to change. I had to tell her to go away, and I eventually met some one who made me her priority, and I made her mine. 😊
This was me. The less he did, the more I did. He finally dumped me despite the cruise, plays, iPad, present after present I gave. In nearly 9 months, I never got a single dinner brought home or made for me. I did everything. He developed sexual issues halfway through I tried to say it didn't matter. Now I think he was just tired of me. He finally dumped me and seems to have moved on immediately. I was/am devastated and confused. This video really explained it and while I don't like it, I finally understand it. I even told him on the day of the breakup that he needed to decide if he could make me a "priority." Instead of listening to my issue and working on it, he dumped me and blames it on the distance. My friends have called him selfish. I never saw it. I'd still go back though if he'd acknowledge the issue and worked on changing. But I'm not sure he can. It'd end badly again without serious effort on his part. I doubt he'd try to reconcile. He's probably glad I'm finally gone.
If you’re still out there…how did you get through it? I did the same things as you, went to see him, celebrated his birthday, made sure he got to see a show that he wanted to see, always told him what I enjoyed ….and I get lectures in return.
I’m honestly just so exhausted about seeing my ex prioritize her new friends over me even when I was recovering from surgery. I know things have gone wrong in the past, I have my flaws but I’m working on them and she knew that. She’s barely been able to actively work on herself and contribute in the past months. I wish she could see it, I mean I know now after we spoke when we ended it that she finally empathetically LISTENED and felt horrible about how she made me feel when I needed her most. It’s heartbreaking and even though it’s officially only been a bit over a week, seeing how she is being on social media (even though I get it can be fake) part of me just remembers how much she prioritizes having “a blast” with pals, especially now. Maybe I do deserve someone better. Maybe it’s not her as much as I wanted it to be. Maybe my person is out there somewhere and I just have to be my own person til then and after even
I better buckle up. It’ll get worse before it gets better. And I have a feeling I will only keep seeing things that upset me and make me want to be even more distant. No contact. Only replying If she says anything. So far it’s happened once this week.
I highly recommend reading The Like Switch. Its all about facial expressions, and body language. Has proved helpful in reading people especially in dating.
Hi Craig. Another coach talks about once a person forms an opinion of you, that they're emotionally conditioned to you acting a certain way, it's hard and sometimes impossible to re-attract them, even when you do the correct behaviors 100% of the time from that point forward. And if she is seeing someone else while you're trying to re-attract them, if they're doing things right your ex will chose them as she knows what you're like... if this is the case, what is the point of even trying to re-attract an ex, especially if you had a lot of unattractive anxious behaviors that turned them off, emotionally hurt them, and pushed them away?...
I’m scared this might be true. But then again if you had a strong relationship in the past that was mainly good than bad , I’d assume she’d eventually remember those good times with you as well.
I have watched the video, and I can relate extremely well to this video . I have always been the giver in my relationships. I do have attachment issues and abandonment issues. I long for commitment, but fear being left as I do have ptsd, and bpd, and extreme anxiety when I get triggered.
every time i feel omg what;s going on with the world??! i watch one of your videos and i feel like: awww ok, i am not thw crazy one, my guy is just not the one... thank you coach
She was my high school love, my first kiss. I haven't seen or spoken to her in over 20 years. We never had sex. We almost got together ten years ago. When I reached out recently on fbIM every time I tried to be verbally intimate she made distancing gestures (brought up other exes, would not answer her phone). I called her out on not being a priority, an argument ensued and we in no contact. I expected better due to our history (teenage glory days of love), more respect. Very hurtful experience. Moral: Be careful when reaching out to exes. Contacting them can reopen old wounds especially if they are not the person you once knew.
I don't think there was another guy stalking her, I think she was trying to pick a fight with him to get him to break up with her. He way over did it saying "I love you" so much, when she didn't reciprocate. That puts pressure on her. And if he thinks she loves him, he has a warped view of love. She treats him like crap and her still pursues her. He doesn't respect himself and women are repulsed by men who don't respect themselves and will chase a girl that treats him like crap. I don't think no contact will work here because he kept professing his love. If she thought he was unsure of her, she might stay open minded to it. But she knows right where he stands and its way more than she feels for him.
Hi Keeper of Knowledge I need advice if can help me out.. I wish to know how we Man should react with words or respond with action 1) on my Birthday she did not get me a Birthday Gift and only a Slice cake that clearly she didnt prepare in advance I react badly by saying where is my Birthday present and why my Birthday is miserable with just a slice cake… What i did for her Birthday I spend $$$ and a proper Birthday with fireworks candle ..by the sea front …she was very happy …but I told her I didnt buy her any Birthday gift because she didnt even bother to reciprocate I know I feel like Shit and act like Shit What should I had said and do? 2) One day I went haircut she got herself a Take Out fast food for herself ..she used to include dinner for me but this comeback together after the breakup..she didn’t invest much on me and put little effort. I called her out where is my dinner that she got for herself only …I felt so bad she used to share and we eat together Take Out but this time unlike all our 7 years she prefer to go home and eat alone ….leaving myself to eat alone and get my own take out..I am ok but I felt Bitter why she said she love me but her action is Not much In the past 7 years it very natural to date and text her …but now she withdraw 80% .. 3) she told me she would be sociable when I saw one her picture in her phone she with a guy in the gym What would a Alpha Musculine man do ? Please help..Thank you
I don't know if this means I'm not a priority, I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over a year and most the time we only see each other on the weekends. She's a single mother and is very active with her sons education. She also has a very stressful job. She tells me that she doesn't like to do anything on the week days because of this. We do text every day otherwise. Most coaches say that if a woman is interested no matter what she will find a way to see you. I'm not so sure this is always true.When her son is with her ex-husband we do see each other a little bit more during the week. I have a tough time dealing with the anxiety of not seeing her during the week sometimes and don't know how to handle it.
....or guy to guy! I disregarded the red flags early on and thought my unconditional love & support would change her ways & desires. I was 100% wrong. Never again will I ignore a woman’s past behavior, which is the best predictor of her future behavior.
Almost the same as my situation. I helped her overcome her fear of blood and wounds and even her insecurities as she helped me overcome mine as well. My ex spends most of her time with her girl bff and always say to my face that she doesn't care whatever she looses as long as she had her beside. I accepted that and go all along hoping that someday she will realize my worth( btw they we're seen as lesbians by other people due to being clingy with each other so I ask her family and close friends telling me they're not) our 4 month relationship ended more than 3 weeks ago due to a simple misunderstanding. She was so down that time and I was there checking her through text after a week of no communication with her. I gave her advice but she took it the wrong way and lashed out of me and dumped me out of nowhere. I tried to explain but she cursed me and it got through my nerve and fought back telling her that I wasted my time, effort, love and money on her. (I can't hold back my anger and I know it's a bad thing to mention about money when it comes to relationship). She blocked me on messenger. After that I posted a lot of her misgivings to me on fb. She saw all my posts and after a week she unfriended me on fb. One of my colleagues and friends asked her what happened. She told them that she admitted that it's her mistake and it can be fixed but due to what I said to her and posted it gotten worse, also she doesn't want to be disturbed coz she got a new bf. I was shocked so I went to her house after a week and just said sorry and ask if we could talk on private. My eyes were a bit teary while she said to me that she's busy and she'll just text me or text her some other time. After that I didn't bother her anymore and went no contact. I loved her so much and everything was fine until her bff changed location and her friend abroad went home and they start to hang out and drink liquor almost every weekends. I let her enjoy coz it's her right but everytime I ask her on a date she would say to me that she's busy, she's not on the mood, and worst is that she's uncomfortable going out with me like wth?! I'm in NC on her for almost a month now. (Btw I remembered that she told me long ago her bff was selfish and possessive so she want me to adjust for her until she would be fine with our relationship. Also our one and only date was after a week she said yes to me and brought her to my house to meet my mom.)
Also everytime we argue,she always brought up to me that I should break up with her but I don't because I want to prove to her that I am serious with her and I want to work it out and marry her when the right moment comes.
Yea My ex girl told me she is busy and would tell me when she is free to meet up but guess what that just means I got better things to do than meeting up witj me and it hurts so bad its brutal and its been a month now she didnt replied what a pain guys
Taimur Mughal - When you asked your ex when she is free, were you the one that contacted her? Or did she contact you? I'm assuming you contacted her which is why she rejected you.
so Craig, I did what you advised me to do in our Skype coaching. I brought Facebook back, posted pics of things I was doing in that month and a half, changed My profile picture to me with 2 of my female friends out at a club... and my ex blocked me. we have spoken since. she texted me about bills. work brought us together 2 weeks ago. I'm not reaching out to her at all. so now I'm just a little shaken. in the middle of moving into my new place so I can't sign up for another coaching just yet. but I will have an opportunity to actually work with my ex for about 2 weeks here while another manager is on vacation. I'm going to apply all I've learned from you and keep my confidence up and my anxiety and emotions in control. hopefully she will see my changes. this may be for the better since I can demonstrate all I've been working on. wish me luck!
Sometimes I know my girlfriend will text her friends (women) in the morning before me. Is this an example of not being a priority? It feels like it to me.
Hey craig I just have to ask something Is this no contact and all ur stuff work after 2 months of Begging and arguments Plz repond I doin no contact sine 3/4 weeks
Hey Craig☺ i was in a relationship for about two years.My ex girlfriend broke up with me two weeks ago because she thinks I cheated on her but then I never cheated on her .Out of my anxiety I made a mistake in pleading her to be like a friend which she rejected.She said shell never get back to me.so I maintained no contact. After few days of no contact she started texting me saying she wants to be like a friend just like i asked her in the past. But then I realised being friends is more painful and I gently said no to her . Do you think I made the right move.? Will she come back to me? How long do you think I should stick to my strategy?
Craig, you always say whenever an ex-girlfriend contacts you (often with indirect/direct approach), you should assume she wants the guy to ask her to get together. What about the ex-boyfriend? Should a woman take the chance and ask him out, or is it better to let him do it because of different social expectations?
Andre Best I've been watching the videos carefully. Craig says that you should wait for them to contact you first. Then you can assume they are contacting you because they're interested and are testing the waters. So he says the man can suggest that they meet up. I was wondering if the same applies to women, or is it better to just show the man you're not opposed to the idea, and let him do the job.
SingingCrowie, my understanding is that this is virtually always irrespective of sex. It's about being dumped or being the dumper. If you were dumped and your ex boyfriend is doing the indirect/direct contacting, then do as Craig advises - send a couple texts back and forth and segue into stating about getting together to hangout. If he doesn't show interest then say it was nice chatting, gotta go. He wasn't interested.
SingingCrowie - Being direct, decisive, and getting to the point is a masculine trait. So when a woman puts herself into a mans orbit, i.e. reaches out, then he must assume that she wants to see him then make a date, regardless of whether this is a new relationship, or whether he was dumped. This creates attraction in a woman. However, I would say if it is the other way around, and the ex boyfriend reaches out after you were dumped, you want to be nice, sweet, playful, and open to recieve him, but at the same time you're unaffected by being dumped and you're busy. Opening up to recieve is a feminine trait. I'd send no more than 3-4 messages back and forth, and if he hasn't asked you out by then leave the conversation. "It was nice hearing from you. I've got to go, but we should catch up sometime :)" This communicates that you're open to recieving him, but you're not being direct and asking him out. That's his job. Some people may think that by saying this, you're communicating that you're waiting around for him. But that's not the case. The fact that you never contact him communicates that you are not waiting around for him, and that will make him anxious if he cares. The message will just help him to relax and go for it if he wants you back.
please, right now guys I don't have any single female friends because of my hubby. Am just kind of jealous if they may snatch him away for me,that's my fear. And my hubby has already noticed it,he was trying to make the matter worst whenever he see me chatting with any of them he will like to come and greet them.Maybe he don't want me to have friends or something. please, advise me on what to do.tnx
Your insecurities are the one that’s going to push him away put yourself in his shoes would you like that behavior on him when all you want is to be with friends?
Yup people can be cruel! Looking back my ex showed the same behavior. And then I saw that she changed my name in her phone to a females name w my real last name. She said it was so her kids (14 & 11). It’s obvious now that she was cheating on me. F-her!
That woman isn't selfish. Woman never need to call to a man. Why didn't man call to her? Man is chaser not a woman. Get a balls man! Man doesn’t need to be number 1 priority for woman.
Each day I understand more and more the importance of completely removing your attention from someone who places absolutely no priority on you. She was sweet and kind and affectionate at first until I cared too much. The more you chase after someone who seems to just not care, the less she will value and respect you. It's been 7 weeks now since I've reached out to you baby. How's it feel no longer having that one person who always there for you?
Matty Matt update?
I made the same mistake, Matt. I treated her like a rock star, and she treated me like a groupie.
I did exactly the same. We were together for 3 years and engaged. Now she’s with another guy 3 weeks after we broke up.
Shit, I was with fiance 8 yrs. We have 4 yr old. This chic kicked me out , like a week later went made restraining order against me said I stalking her and I did not have not any contact with her what so ever, it was so crazy. We only message about daughter, this chic literally hides when me and daughter video call. I believe she sleeping with ex husband they hav ed 3 children and 12yrs respectively. It just sad, I see no answer except it is what it is. I going get coaches work books,
Fuck it I guess
@LanternMatty Bear in mind that not all women are the same!!! some women cry out for a man that cares too much....so many a$$holes out there that treat women real bad and dont care.
Boy, did I ever make this mistake by seeing my man was not 100% invested & l was mot a priority. Yes now its over & l'm left in the dust . I saved this mans life when he was suicidal & this is the thanks I get.
Topkat I feel the same way. My girl left me after 4 yrs just 2 weeks ago. I helped her through med school, and was the giver in the relationship. After she moved back to her home state to start her new job, about 1 month in she felt off about us. 3 months later after trying to talk to her about us and help her figure us out she dumps me. Broke my heart and made me feel like complete crap. But everyday is a new day, and and now we have more air to breathe and love to give and laughs to laugh and it may not be with our significant others, but now we have it all for us, and more is better right? God bless and best of luck.
I been there hun. When his male friends dumped his ass. He crys on my shoulders.
@@lovedog49507 that's not the right attitude. Just learn from your mistakes. I dated some one who was like that man you described. I stopped being her back up plan, and she made attempts to reach out. I responded the first couple times, but then realized she was never going to change. I had to tell her to go away, and I eventually met some one who made me her priority, and I made her mine. 😊
This was me. The less he did, the more I did. He finally dumped me despite the cruise, plays, iPad, present after present I gave. In nearly 9 months, I never got a single dinner brought home or made for me. I did everything. He developed sexual issues halfway through I tried to say it didn't matter. Now I think he was just tired of me. He finally dumped me and seems to have moved on immediately. I was/am devastated and confused. This video really explained it and while I don't like it, I finally understand it. I even told him on the day of the breakup that he needed to decide if he could make me a "priority." Instead of listening to my issue and working on it, he dumped me and blames it on the distance. My friends have called him selfish. I never saw it. I'd still go back though if he'd acknowledge the issue and worked on changing. But I'm not sure he can. It'd end badly again without serious effort on his part. I doubt he'd try to reconcile. He's probably glad I'm finally gone.
Yes Dear he's a taker. Be happy you're free if him, there's someone out there who will love you for being you ♥️
Kinda my story
If you’re still out there…how did you get through it? I did the same things as you, went to see him, celebrated his birthday, made sure he got to see a show that he wanted to see, always told him what I enjoyed ….and I get lectures in return.
@@seeflow that’s awful, how are people so unappreciative these days?
I’m honestly just so exhausted about seeing my ex prioritize her new friends over me even when I was recovering from surgery. I know things have gone wrong in the past, I have my flaws but I’m working on them and she knew that. She’s barely been able to actively work on herself and contribute in the past months. I wish she could see it, I mean I know now after we spoke when we ended it that she finally empathetically LISTENED and felt horrible about how she made me feel when I needed her most. It’s heartbreaking and even though it’s officially only been a bit over a week, seeing how she is being on social media (even though I get it can be fake) part of me just remembers how much she prioritizes having “a blast” with pals, especially now. Maybe I do deserve someone better. Maybe it’s not her as much as I wanted it to be. Maybe my person is out there somewhere and I just have to be my own person til then and after even
I better buckle up. It’ll get worse before it gets better. And I have a feeling I will only keep seeing things that upset me and make me want to be even more distant. No contact. Only replying If she says anything. So far it’s happened once this week.
I cared so much for her and I loved her so much. We had arguments and we both made mistakes. It's so painful because I cant imagine life without her😭
I highly recommend reading The Like Switch. Its all about facial expressions, and body language.
Has proved helpful in reading people especially in dating.
It hurts and I know you don't want to do it. But just walk away. If you met anything to her. She will miss you and in time she will reach out
I love that saying, about a man not throwing away his only pair of his shoes. nice one Craig
Hi Craig. Another coach talks about once a person forms an opinion of you, that they're emotionally conditioned to you acting a certain way, it's hard and sometimes impossible to re-attract them, even when you do the correct behaviors 100% of the time from that point forward. And if she is seeing someone else while you're trying to re-attract them, if they're doing things right your ex will chose them as she knows what you're like... if this is the case, what is the point of even trying to re-attract an ex, especially if you had a lot of unattractive anxious behaviors that turned them off, emotionally hurt them, and pushed them away?...
I’m scared this might be true. But then again if you had a strong relationship in the past that was mainly good than bad , I’d assume she’d eventually remember those good times with you as well.
I’m in the same boat. I was given two chances and still my alcohol was an issue. It’s doomed now and he will never come back
I have watched the video, and I can relate extremely well to this video . I have always been the giver in my relationships. I do have attachment issues and abandonment issues. I long for commitment, but fear being left as I do have ptsd, and bpd, and extreme anxiety when I get triggered.
every time i feel omg what;s going on with the world??! i watch one of your videos and i feel like: awww ok, i am not thw crazy one, my guy is just not the one... thank you coach
14:09 *"A woman doesn't throw away her only pair of shoes"*
She was my high school love, my first kiss. I haven't seen or spoken to her in over 20 years. We never had sex. We almost got together ten years ago. When I reached out recently on fbIM every time I tried to be verbally intimate she made distancing gestures (brought up other exes, would not answer her phone). I called her out on not being a priority, an argument ensued and we in no contact. I expected better due to our history (teenage glory days of love), more respect. Very hurtful experience. Moral: Be careful when reaching out to exes. Contacting them can reopen old wounds especially if they are not the person you once knew.
I don't think there was another guy stalking her, I think she was trying to pick a fight with him to get him to break up with her. He way over did it saying "I love you" so much, when she didn't reciprocate. That puts pressure on her. And if he thinks she loves him, he has a warped view of love. She treats him like crap and her still pursues her. He doesn't respect himself and women are repulsed by men who don't respect themselves and will chase a girl that treats him like crap. I don't think no contact will work here because he kept professing his love. If she thought he was unsure of her, she might stay open minded to it. But she knows right where he stands and its way more than she feels for him.
Hi Keeper of Knowledge
I need advice if can help me out..
I wish to know how we Man should react with words or respond with action
1) on my Birthday she did not get me a Birthday Gift and only a Slice cake that clearly she didnt prepare in advance
I react badly by saying where is my Birthday present and why my Birthday is miserable with just a slice cake…
What i did for her Birthday I spend $$$ and a proper Birthday with fireworks candle ..by the sea front …she was very happy …but I told her I didnt buy her any Birthday gift because she didnt even bother to reciprocate
I know I feel like Shit and act like Shit
What should I had said and do?
2) One day I went haircut she got herself a Take Out fast food for herself ..she used to include dinner for me but this comeback together after the breakup..she didn’t invest much on me and put little effort.
I called her out where is my dinner that she got for herself only …I felt so bad she used to share and we eat together Take Out but this time unlike all our 7 years she prefer to go home and eat alone ….leaving myself to eat alone and get my own take out..I am ok but I felt Bitter why she said she love me but her action is Not much
In the past 7 years it very natural to date and text her …but now she withdraw 80% ..
3) she told me she would be sociable when I saw one her picture in her phone she with a guy in the gym
What would a Alpha Musculine man do ?
Please help..Thank you
Good to see you back, Craig! I'm going to check out this video soon, but I need to wash my hair first.
Lol 😁
Chris Slonske 😀
I don't know if this means I'm not a priority, I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over a year and most the time we only see each other on the weekends. She's a single mother and is very active with her sons education. She also has a very stressful job. She tells me that she doesn't like to do anything on the week days because of this. We do text every day otherwise. Most coaches say that if a woman is interested no matter what she will find a way to see you. I'm not so sure this is always true.When her son is with her ex-husband we do see each other a little bit more during the week. I have a tough time dealing with the anxiety of not seeing her during the week sometimes and don't know how to handle it.
We almost have the same story. I gave up already.
do you think some people are just addicted to the chase and go from women to women?
....or guy to guy!
I disregarded the red flags early on and thought my unconditional love & support would change her ways & desires. I was 100% wrong. Never again will I ignore a woman’s past behavior, which is the best predictor of her future behavior.
Almost the same as my situation. I helped her overcome her fear of blood and wounds and even her insecurities as she helped me overcome mine as well. My ex spends most of her time with her girl bff and always say to my face that she doesn't care whatever she looses as long as she had her beside. I accepted that and go all along hoping that someday she will realize my worth( btw they we're seen as lesbians by other people due to being clingy with each other so I ask her family and close friends telling me they're not) our 4 month relationship ended more than 3 weeks ago due to a simple misunderstanding. She was so down that time and I was there checking her through text after a week of no communication with her. I gave her advice but she took it the wrong way and lashed out of me and dumped me out of nowhere. I tried to explain but she cursed me and it got through my nerve and fought back telling her that I wasted my time, effort, love and money on her. (I can't hold back my anger and I know it's a bad thing to mention about money when it comes to relationship). She blocked me on messenger. After that I posted a lot of her misgivings to me on fb. She saw all my posts and after a week she unfriended me on fb. One of my colleagues and friends asked her what happened. She told them that she admitted that it's her mistake and it can be fixed but due to what I said to her and posted it gotten worse, also she doesn't want to be disturbed coz she got a new bf. I was shocked so I went to her house after a week and just said sorry and ask if we could talk on private. My eyes were a bit teary while she said to me that she's busy and she'll just text me or text her some other time. After that I didn't bother her anymore and went no contact. I loved her so much and everything was fine until her bff changed location and her friend abroad went home and they start to hang out and drink liquor almost every weekends. I let her enjoy coz it's her right but everytime I ask her on a date she would say to me that she's busy, she's not on the mood, and worst is that she's uncomfortable going out with me like wth?! I'm in NC on her for almost a month now. (Btw I remembered that she told me long ago her bff was selfish and possessive so she want me to adjust for her until she would be fine with our relationship. Also our one and only date was after a week she said yes to me and brought her to my house to meet my mom.)
Also everytime we argue,she always brought up to me that I should break up with her but I don't because I want to prove to her that I am serious with her and I want to work it out and marry her when the right moment comes.
Yea My ex girl told me she is busy and would tell me when she is free to meet up but guess what that just means I got better things to do than meeting up witj me and it hurts so bad its brutal and its been a month now she didnt replied what a pain guys
Taimur Mughal - When you asked your ex when she is free, were you the one that contacted her? Or did she contact you? I'm assuming you contacted her which is why she rejected you.
She has to wash her friends baby dolls hair 😂
I didn’t get the comment til I reached the part of the video now I’m laughing so hard 😂😂
so Craig, I did what you advised me to do in our Skype coaching. I brought Facebook back, posted pics of things I was doing in that month and a half, changed My profile picture to me with 2 of my female friends out at a club... and my ex blocked me. we have spoken since. she texted me about bills. work brought us together 2 weeks ago. I'm not reaching out to her at all. so now I'm just a little shaken. in the middle of moving into my new place so I can't sign up for another coaching just yet. but I will have an opportunity to actually work with my ex for about 2 weeks here while another manager is on vacation. I'm going to apply all I've learned from you and keep my confidence up and my anxiety and emotions in control. hopefully she will see my changes. this may be for the better since I can demonstrate all I've been working on. wish me luck!
How's it going buddy? Any nuggets you want to share? It might help a lot of us.
Sometimes I know my girlfriend will text her friends (women) in the morning before me. Is this an example of not being a priority? It feels like it to me.
Hey craig
I just have to ask something
Is this no contact and all ur stuff work after 2 months of
Begging and arguments
Plz repond
I doin no contact sine 3/4 weeks
Karma is a real thing. The universe has a way of paying back people like the woman in this video.
I think my case is 100% hopeless, like I just loose faith
Hey Craig☺ i was in a relationship for about two years.My ex girlfriend broke up with me two weeks ago because she thinks I cheated on her but then I never cheated on her .Out of my anxiety I made a mistake in pleading her to be like a friend which she rejected.She said shell never get back to me.so I maintained no contact. After few days of no contact she started texting me saying she wants to be like a friend just like i asked her in the past. But then I realised being friends is more painful and I gently said no to her . Do you think I made the right move.? Will she come back to me? How long do you think I should stick to my strategy?
Amazing digging the wallpaper🙃
This guy goes hot and cold and I am sick of it.
the washing the hair thing got me lmao!!!!! babydoll :D
Awesome work
I'm in Tampa let's have a beer buddy you deserve it.
I love this video! Some of it sounds familiar!
Craig, you always say whenever an ex-girlfriend contacts you (often with indirect/direct approach), you should assume she wants the guy to ask her to get together. What about the ex-boyfriend? Should a woman take the chance and ask him out, or is it better to let him do it because of different social expectations?
SingingCrowie, CK says that if you were dumped, then they need to make all the effort. This is regardless of male/female expectations.
Andre Best I've been watching the videos carefully. Craig says that you should wait for them to contact you first. Then you can assume they are contacting you because they're interested and are testing the waters. So he says the man can suggest that they meet up. I was wondering if the same applies to women, or is it better to just show the man you're not opposed to the idea, and let him do the job.
SingingCrowie, my understanding is that this is virtually always irrespective of sex. It's about being dumped or being the dumper. If you were dumped and your ex boyfriend is doing the indirect/direct contacting, then do as Craig advises - send a couple texts back and forth and segue into stating about getting together to hangout. If he doesn't show interest then say it was nice chatting, gotta go. He wasn't interested.
SingingCrowie - Being direct, decisive, and getting to the point is a masculine trait. So when a woman puts herself into a mans orbit, i.e. reaches out, then he must assume that she wants to see him then make a date, regardless of whether this is a new relationship, or whether he was dumped. This creates attraction in a woman. However, I would say if it is the other way around, and the ex boyfriend reaches out after you were dumped, you want to be nice, sweet, playful, and open to recieve him, but at the same time you're unaffected by being dumped and you're busy. Opening up to recieve is a feminine trait. I'd send no more than 3-4 messages back and forth, and if he hasn't asked you out by then leave the conversation.
"It was nice hearing from you. I've got to go, but we should catch up sometime :)"
This communicates that you're open to recieving him, but you're not being direct and asking him out. That's his job. Some people may think that by saying this, you're communicating that you're waiting around for him. But that's not the case. The fact that you never contact him communicates that you are not waiting around for him, and that will make him anxious if he cares. The message will just help him to relax and go for it if he wants you back.
Thank you Cheese Face, that really makes sense
Scary what men put up with for some p. Why would a man want to be with someone who doesn't love them? For p.
P?
please, right now guys I don't have any single female friends because of my hubby. Am just kind of jealous if they may snatch him away for me,that's my fear. And my hubby has already noticed it,he was trying to make the matter worst whenever he see me chatting with any of them he will like to come and greet them.Maybe he don't want me to have friends or something. please, advise me on what to do.tnx
Does he flirt with them or just act neutrally friendly? It makes an important difference.
Your insecurities are the one that’s going to push him away put yourself in his shoes would you like that behavior on him when all you want is to be with friends?
Good content
Yup people can be cruel! Looking back my ex showed the same behavior. And then I saw that she changed my name in her phone to a females name w my real last name. She said it was so her kids (14 & 11). It’s obvious now that she was cheating on me. F-her!
Sounds just like my now ex husband…I’m so glad he left. 😅
How do I be a priority to someone
Walk away....
That woman isn't selfish. Woman never need to call to a man. Why didn't man call to her?
Man is chaser not a woman. Get a balls man! Man doesn’t need to be number 1 priority for woman.
Jesus, WTF is wrong with these people?!