Mandy you had me is tears at the start, I have been there and it is rubbish, until people have gone through this c..p they don’t understand. You have helped loads of your subscribers that are either starting,or going through the menopause my heart goes out to you and them. You seem a lovely person, you are well thought about on here as I read your comments, thanks for telling us how you feel,and for sharing it all with us. Take care Mandy, your not on your own.😊..see you next week.
❤ I have had similar issues until I gave my negative internal critic a name. I sat her down and had it out with her one day. I talked to her like she was a frightened child who can only bully. I thanked her for all the times she helped me through but told her that her job was to let our 7 year old out to play and stop being so nasty. When she starts up again, I remind her that she’s safe and *I* the one with big girl Pants am in charge now and her job is to go out and play, or sing a song. Then mindfulness and self care can happen while she’s in her place.
Look at what your doing on here your brilliant I always look forward to watching you the highlight of my day and I am menapausal to so chin up we all look up to you because your great xxxx
Oh Mandy, 😢 big hugs. I know where you’re coming from. Thankfully I’ve come out the other side now. But OMG was a painful time. I also lost what I thought were good friends,who didn’t understand. May I say you have been an inspiration to me and to many others. You have given me the confidence to get a Campervan which I picked up yesterday 👏 needs work but HayHo 😅 and I’m doing solo. I can’t thank you enough for what you’ve done for me. Would luv to meet up one day when we can laugh at what we women have to go through. Take care my friend, you have so much support from people you don’t even know. Xxxx
Big hugs back Mandy x i find laying still watching a good series easy watch while crocheting helps me to switch off while resting x thanks for sharing x much love
❤ Oh Mandy feel the Love❤ , I had a few teary day and worse at night, thinking they all be better of without me. Then our dog comes and shows me love and I FEEL BETTER
Awww Mandy I can relate to your feelings it’s awful isn’t it and you just have to ride the wave. I think you are a fabulous lady and wish you many happy travels ahead xx
Mandy your an AMAZING LADY your special you got this ❤as for the voice tell it to JOG ON 😊 your brilliant and strong because your sharing and helping others Love and positive hugs
Sometimes it’s hard to tell which voice I’m supposed to listen to and which one needs to jog on.. once I figure that part out it’s easier but it tends to tear me right down before I notice ❤️
One reason I like watching you is your openness and honesty and all the van stuff of course ❤️ the self doubting voice can shout very loudly at times when mine comes out she can be soul destroying but I know she will go away again in awhile and then peace returns once more and knowing this makes her easier to deal with at the time, Your not alone ❤x
Thanks for sharing your thoughts Mandy and I'm one of those men who have very little understanding of what you're going through. Keep sharing your lovely personality with us Mandy because you make me smile, and I'm sure many others too. You're a star! 🎉
Thanks lovely.. I can sit here now and say I know and am proud of all I’ve achieved and I really am! It’s just sometimes the loudest voice is heard the clearest and it’s never the good stuff shouting
Aaaah bless you darling I hope you feel brighter soon . You aren't useless you have been a massive inspiration for me since my darling hubster passed away last year😢 keep smiling beautiful lady ❤ xxxxx
Mandy,I think you are a help to many that watch you,seeing your struggles but also the good times shows that nobody is alone.I am lucky enough not to have suffered like this.I know that you won't believe it when you feel so bad but when you read these comments on a good day you will see that you are not alone.❤️
I think you are wonderful especially when you are able to do a utube on how you feel. I might not have met you but I think of you as a friend and think you are a wonderful person. I do not think that you are rubbish in any form. I send you a big virtual hug to you whenever you feel down xx
Thanks Tracey, I think I have an amazing set of online friends, it’s so heartening to know that you’re not the first and only person to suffer. My comment sections are full of such wonderful comments ❤️❤️❤️
Brilliant video and totally relatable to many including me! Those bloody voices do get in there don’t they and its so Hard to block them out i always try and think to myself and ask “what is the opposite positive thought” and try and go with that (easier said than done) I’m pleased that you got there in the end of the video clip… i do think the imminent changes and giving up the unit has some impact however I’m sure it will all work out well and i for one am very much looking forward to the adventures - stay you because you are the best you, a lot of people think and feel that xx
I think the changes are impacting things too. I used to use odds to lift me out of things so if everything felt bad or I was terribly worried about one thing I’d look for one reason why that wasn’t true - decreasing the odds to 50/50 then I’d look for another, decreasing the odds to 2/1 and so on till it was insignificant. I think all the random calculations and results occupied my mind and made me focus differently
Love the honesty in your vlogs and tomorrow i pick up my set of wheels so i can go adventuring with my fur babies on my days off. The great outdoors is my therapy and have allowed work to get in the way of that. I have now changed jobs, far less stressful, and now it’s time for me and my boys to get back out there. Mine has 2 sliding doors too. Take care.
I just want to thank you for sharing your experience about the menopause. I've been hit by it like a tonne of bricks over the past year and if it wasn't for watching you I don't think my husband would've had a clue what was going on. Strangely I've meditated for years but I'm not finding it really helps. However, I have started dancing. Like an absolute loon. I'm like a full-on teenager. My husband goes out, the music goes on, and I just dance. Often while crying. But I dance it away.
I think dancing like a loon should be on the list for things that help!! I love a good sing and mad dance around, it’s liberating and awesome stress relief. I can’t meditate at the mo either, or read long books for that matter - I hate it as those were my go to things. I’m glad my videos have helped your husband too - I’m getting lots of messages from the men who watch saying how they noticed something with their wives or daughters and it’s lovely to hear ❤️❤️
@@unadventurousmandy It’s available on audio. You can read when washing up, cleaning, in the dark etc. I’ve been using audiobooks since eye surgery over 20 years ago and never gone back. Great for long journeys.
Mandy…..you are amazing , look at what you’ve achieved over there few moths . Built a van out !!! Travelling . Move forward , we are here to support you .❤
Oh mandy , poor you, i too have been off work for 4 days due to my.head mash, and slowly coming out of a narcissistic close friendship, No one else seems to understand unless they've been there Big hugs lovely ,i rarely comment on videos but yours touched me xx
Just want to say I hear you, and agree - it's not something most people can get their head around unless they've been there. You're better off out is what i've learned over too many years. Big hugs.
I totally relate! Have you thought about getting a portable ice bucket ? Or just doing more wild swims . They are meant to be very beneficial. It's good to cry and vent also . Enjoy your adventures . My favourite snack is probably peanut butter and Nutella on toast. Or just a handful of nuts 😮
You are amazing, it’s hard isn’t it when your brain tells you these things, one minute you can be laughing the next minute crying and being angry and you don’t know why, just keep plodding and being you, lots of hugs to you💚
We are all with you. We're all in same boat. Thinking that it's gonna either sink today and maybe float the next. We and you will get through this cause your a strong lady. Menopause is not going to beat any of us!!! X
Believe me, you are normal and not useless. For one you impress me and you are inspiring. You will get over all this crap. Keep being positive, you know you can. I use to cry everyday. I can be weeks without now, even if I have to reverse up or down in a narrow winding single track road (happened today). I now see positive in every situation. Think about the future, which looks good, and think about what YOU really need.
Mandy keep talking about the Menopause- people Need to hear how it feels. Never apologise for doing so. ‘Deaf out’ ( as we say in Brum) the negative voices. You are lovely , honest and inspirational. Toast, marmite and cottage cheese with pineapple!
❤✊ Massive hugs to you, Mandy. As another over thinker with overwhelming imposter syndrome, I totally identify with what you’re saying. I can also tell you with confidence, as others have commented, you are awesome 🤩 xx
Hug! You are amazing and inspiring. And I am so grateful for how honestly you talk about your experience with menopause. It shouldn’t be a shameful secret - we need to share these stories. On another note: Strange snacks; I like to mix a can of flaked white tuna with a diced apple, garlic dill pickles, and jalapeños. Mmmmm.
Mandy. I have had issues with anxiety down days with Menopause I do all the mindfulness etc I have started on Ashwagandha and lemon balm it’s helped me so far . Take care your not alone xx
I hope today finds you in better spirits. At least when you get these grey mood days you can realise what it is and look forward to the time when you will be through the other side. 😘
Mandy, you're Awesome stop listening to your brain, you know it's only a temporary thought. Think of something else, like your happest memory or grandchildren. you are more inspirational than you realise x
Sorry to hear, Shame we don't have a mute button for our over thinking thoughts. Tidy Van Time is a way of stopping your brain over thinking (Well, for a bit). Having roots or for a short time having the unit did give you a known safe place/dumping place, but ya right, you both built the vans to travel. It sound like life is going to explode with great things, take care and thanks for sharing. We (Mad RUclipsrs) wish you both some good times in our wonderful British weather. ROLL ON FRANCE (You always start in France) Wink
I think I need to go buy myself some marmite, thanks for the tip, I can totally relate to how you were feeling. It’s even worse when you have lost someone close too.
Hari Om Oh I remember those blackhole days... all I can tell you is it does end - eventually. I'm a grazer... I like to munch down on baby spinach leaves. Like a cow. Sometimes - if they are available - I put berries in them. Blueberries and spinach, raspberries and spinach... or just more spinach. Or prunes, or figs... I know what you mean about the anchor of sticks and bricks. I;ve been back at The Hutch for a month and have barely been outside the door since. Gotta get going again... YAM xx
That’s good to know lovely ❤️ Ah I’m a muncher too, I like a mix of snacks - a snack-tapas if you will 😁 spinach is lovely to chomp on though, I love dipping it in balsamic vinegar too.. Hope you get your wheels turning again soon
Mandy, you are a Love. We your subscribers feel your pain. I can’t empathise, only sympathise. However moving on, i can still feel 50± years later the sense of freedom and anticipation when there is nothing to hold you back from new adventures, chance meetings and experiences that real un-fixedness can allow you. We are all rooted to some degree, even tenuously, but there is always a freedom of thought and experience available to those who allow it, even with the constraints of work and modern living. Let yourself go and with John enjoy the benefits of a liberated existence that you deserve. Maybe Hippyshit to some, but despite constraints, I think I tread the line! 😊
I feel for you Mandy. I wish when I was younger there were ways to talk about it and people could understand why you felt so awful about yourself. I had suicidal thoughts a lot of the time and wonder if some of my negative appraisals at work were due to the fact that I was going through the menopause. I hope you feel better soon and take care.
I’ve heard so much about how bad things used to be, if things have improved a little now let’s hope it keeps going so no one has to wonder what is going on and worry about their jobs ❤️❤️
Hi Mandy, my 10 year old daughters favourite snack is a slice of toast with marmite spread and sliced banana on top. That's pretty unusual. She says "don't knock it mum, it's ace" 😅 and yes, you are awesome Mandy. ❤
@unadventurousmandy thank you. Just folliw3d them on FB. We used to watch them all the time like we do you and John. We'd wondered how the orange donkey pronged was doing. Xx
I’m sorry to see how distressed you are but I can assure you you are not crap, you are greatly appreciated and bring many of us a lot of pleasure. My cancer treatment causes me to go through the male equivalent of the menopause, so I am very sympathetic to you girls. I pay more than I can afford to import English Marmite because Vegemite just doesn’t do it for me. Hopefully that is helping me as well. Please be aware how much your followers appreciate & respect you.
@@unadventurousmandy My treatment is working, thanks. Vegemite tastes so different & I love Marmite, hence importing it (via Amazon) two 600g tubs at a time. I particularly took on board your recipe for beans mixed with noodles from a subsequent video. I'll be giving that a go. I love your cooking spots.
Gosh I felt your angst xx Being neurodivergent and menopausal is such a battle at times. You may have all the tools but sometimes it’s hard to find them in all the mess up there. Have been thinking of you and John as it’s been a year since you both lost the love of your lives. Be kind to yourself sweety xx ❤
You’re so right.. I had a lovely chat with someone about us it meno or is it adhd and it was eye opening. Lots of similarities and small things made much worse by the other too.
Lovely video Mandy, truthful and gritty, then light and happy, then a little sad. A bit of a roller coaster but so well expressed. I do wonder sometimes when people post stupid comments if they have ever been paying attention, but then I remember the line from Forest Gump " stupid is as stupid does ", and I just move on. Until the next time, 👋
I always say to myself there is nothing like a good cry now and again to clear the system. At least you have not been like me recently, brain fog, left the Bloody chip pan switched on all day, thankfully I did not burn the place down, just dreading the electric bill now! My OH thinks its funny, I just wanted to cry about my stupidity. You are not alone, you are doing Good.
Oh my goodness..!!!! That would have scared me and made me so annoyed at myself too. Brain fog affects everything!!! I think it stops you from helping yourself back out of it too ❤️❤️
Make sure your water bottles aren’t in the sun Mandy..( I can hear people saying ‘What sun?’…) read something years ago about the plastic getting hot and producing carcinogens 😮…take care, love the vids ❤
You’re a separated middle aged woman living in a van. Can’t get any worse. However. You are a free woman, fit, beautiful, kind, humble, humane. Can’t get any better.
Thank you so much for the lovely sentiment in your comment however I must disagree with the first part. I’m not separated, we just live separately and I chose to live in a van and I love it - things could definitely be a whole lot worse but I am very grateful that they aren’t ❤️❤️
Windy fields ,friends ,bare foot in the grass ,coffee bike rides ,sun, rain and twinkling fairy lights life’s good your not rubbish well done to you and good luck 👍👍👍🏴🇬🇧🇨🇦
I used to say they can only do it if I let them and I bloody well let them..!! So although they do stay in my mind I take out of them whatever is good for me!! ❤️❤️
I think a lot of the nomadic RUclips influencers get burned out after several years and need to take a break and just travel. When your travel itself becomes a job, you need a vacation from time to time. Creating new content takes a lot of time and if you have a regular job too, that doesn't leave much time for the fun side of travel and being free from constraints. RUclips's algorithm seems to have changed from the viewer's side. I used to see my faves in the feed. Now i have to go to subscriptions to see who has updated. Menopause does get better, i don't think it ever completely goes away for some of us. A few of my friends say they only had about 6 months of light symptoms. I think they lie about how much they drink and the drugs they take too.
I’ve heard that a lot, that people don’t see their chosen channels new content on the Home Screen. It is a lot of work to do but as long as I continue to enjoy it then I don’t mind. It doesn’t help when RUclips has a bot account purge and you lose a ton of subs too 🤦🏼♀️
When I’m feeling shit I ask myself what I would say to someone in the same predicament and try to tell myself that. No doubt though it’s a bloody rollercoaster. I’m sure there’s a Peter Kay sketch in there somewhere. Huge hugs to you ❤
Hi mandy ref Cazp64 i dont think they really know you and johns story,if i can say u both r doing fine ! Will u both be doing france again,love it last time expecially museums and fly past ?❤
I thought that too but it sounded like she commented with the best intentions. I certainly know that I’m not in the “things can’t get any worse” category and am truly thankful for that!
Its shit isnt it(pardon my French)? BUT you are wrong and I dont mean to sound patronising or mater of factly, you are a wonderful person. Menopause (couldnt remember what it was called for 10 minutes) is so hard, and everyone is effected differently and we all feel that no one understands, and some dont. But Mandy, you are sharing this opening and honestly so how can you be useless? You are a strong, warm, honest, funny and beautiful person, please dont beet yourself up. Punch John or something when you reach those negative times, he won mind, but whatever you do dont feel that non of us are listening because we are and we care xx
Have you had your B12 levels checked? B12 deficiency can cause depression, mood swings, irritability, and memory loss especially during menopause and post menopause. It may explain what you are experiencing.
I really don't understand people that make negative comments, the old saying wrings true, "if you can't say something nice don't say anything " I just delete any, and block whoever commented negatively, unless I know them well, and tell them to 'eff off!
I do delete and block the nasty ones but this just hit a chord, not only because they were full of 💩 but because we should be travelling more.. all they need to do is pay me for it and we’re good 😂
ADHD AND Menopause is far worse than Menopause alone, Mandy. Our moods are so much higher and lower than NTs.... The mindfulness lessons often don't work for us NDs x Have you read up on RSD? It's a bugger. X
I have and I think I can pinpoint where in my childhood it came from - that on top of meno and adhd it’s a nightmare. I keep being told coffee is bad for meno but I know coffee helps calm me down if my adhd gets too bad. Can’t quiet my mind enough for yoga or anything either. I’ll find something I’m sure
Coffee is only bad if you're medicated for ADHD. It has the opposite effect on ADHD folk than others. I live on cans of coke, can drink 2 and still sleep. Enjoy your coffee Mandy ❤
Aww Mands, hoe you’re okay. If you want perspective I’ve had to rush from Filey to Doncaster at 12.30am, arriving at 2.30am, then spending 12hours and counting (I’m in the camper parked outside A&E right now), to get sorted.
@@unadventurousmandy it’s my mums COPD and dementia . They were very busy and we spent 14hrs in a and e. I don’t know where I’d be without my little camper, and my online work. Being able dash door to door across the country and work from The tiny micro camper for a couple of weeks at s time has been a good send. I discovered a park4night in the Toby carvery on bawtry road which is excellent (CCTV, night watchman, flat level parking, bins, really good food at feasible prices, and the staff are very welcoming and have no issues with staying overnight). Been a life saver!! These coassions have been constant and of course are not likely to improve. I am giving serious thought about chucking in my house rental and just living out of the van (as tiny as it is). Hmmm
Oh I’m so sorry. My dad has dementia and it’s the cruelest thing isn’t it? I love it when our little tiny houses come in to their own and become our life rafts too ❤️ glad the Toby carvery worked out well too. I think a whole lot of them are campervan friendly if you eat there - I adore their carvery so would be the size of my van. It sounds like it might be worth looking at renting your house. Even short term. Would you want to get anything bigger or are you more than happy with your micro camper? What do you have?
Maybe the change of circumstances in leaving your “place to return to” flipped your brain for a while. Hormones are just a b!tch! Money grabbing!……..what was he smoking for breakfast? The only time I can think of money being mentioned was when you spoke of some shops not accepting cash.
For what it’s worth Mandy, I think you are awesome ❤
Completely agree. I am so grateful for Mandy speaking out like this. It is really helpful as so many of us suffer in our way with menopause symptoms.
Thank you so much 🥰🥰
Love ya ❤
Love ya too ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Mandy you had me is tears at the start, I have been there and it is rubbish, until people have gone through this c..p they don’t understand.
You have helped loads of your subscribers that are either starting,or going through the menopause my heart goes out to you and them.
You seem a lovely person, you are well thought about on here as I read your comments, thanks for telling us how you feel,and for sharing it all with us.
Take care Mandy, your not on your own.😊..see you next week.
Thank you June, that’s lovely ❤️❤️ although I am sorry I made you cry
11:07 I would have thought most people had to work for travel! Ignore him!
And Mandy, you are a lovely person.
❤ I have had similar issues until I gave my negative internal critic a name. I sat her down and had it out with her one day. I talked to her like she was a frightened child who can only bully. I thanked her for all the times she helped me through but told her that her job was to let our 7 year old out to play and stop being so nasty. When she starts up again, I remind her that she’s safe and *I* the one with big girl
Pants am in charge now and her job is to go out and play, or sing a song.
Then mindfulness and self care can happen while she’s in her place.
That sounds like a great way to handle things ❤️❤️
Look at what your doing on here your brilliant I always look forward to watching you the highlight of my day and I am menapausal to so chin up we all look up to you because your great xxxx
Thank you ❤️❤️ I get the best comments to fill my soul from here
Oh Mandy, 😢 big hugs. I know where you’re coming from. Thankfully I’ve come out the other side now. But OMG was a painful time. I also lost what I thought were good friends,who didn’t understand. May I say you have been an inspiration to me and to many others. You have given me the confidence to get a Campervan which I picked up yesterday 👏 needs work but HayHo 😅 and I’m doing solo. I can’t thank you enough for what you’ve done for me. Would luv to meet up one day when we can laugh at what we women have to go through. Take care my friend, you have so much support from people you don’t even know. Xxxx
Ah how exciting!!! Get the work done and get out there.. it’s a amazing!! I’m glad you are out of the other side now ❤️❤️
It's horrid but please just remember how amazing you are and such an inspiration to many ladies. Keep your chin up and know how much you are loved 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
The menopause has a lot to answer for!! Hate to see you having a tough time of it. You are an amazing lady and we all love you ❤
Thank you Tony, that’s so lovely ❤️❤️
@@unadventurousmandy I hope in the difficult times, you can draw strength from everyone's lovely comments.
Love & hugs to you 🤗
Big hugs back Mandy x i find laying still watching a good series easy watch while crocheting helps me to switch off while resting x thanks for sharing x much love
I’ve just found a couple of old series I’ve never watched before to get through, it definitely helps.. I need to get the water colours out I think
HUGE hugs Mandy. Stay strong. You are a massive inspiration to everyone. I hope you feel much better very soon.
Thank you ❤️
❤ Oh Mandy feel the Love❤ , I had a few teary day and worse at night, thinking they all be better of without me. Then our dog comes and shows me love and I FEEL BETTER
You just made me miss my little Westie a little bit more. They sense when we’re a bit down and they always love you no matter what.
I really miss that ❤️ Coopy gave the best cuddles and I loved burying my face in his fluffy ears
Awww Mandy I can relate to your feelings it’s awful isn’t it and you just have to ride the wave. I think you are a fabulous lady and wish you many happy travels ahead xx
Thank you so much Joanne ❤️❤️
Bless you Mandy. You are awesome, sending virtual hugs. ❤
Thank you ❤️❤️
Mandy your an AMAZING LADY your special you got this ❤as for the voice tell it to JOG ON 😊 your brilliant and strong because your sharing and helping others Love and positive hugs
Sometimes it’s hard to tell which voice I’m supposed to listen to and which one needs to jog on.. once I figure that part out it’s easier but it tends to tear me right down before I notice ❤️
I am so sorry you are going through this awful illness is what it is you are a massive inspiration to so many of us stay strong sending hugs ❤ xx
Thanks Kenny ❤️
One reason I like watching you is your openness and honesty and all the van stuff of course ❤️
the self doubting voice can shout very loudly at times when mine comes out she can be soul destroying but I know she will go away again in awhile and then peace returns once more and knowing this makes her easier to deal with at the time,
Your not alone ❤x
That’s a good way of thinking ❤️ sometimes I think the more you fight it, the harder it is. Sending hugs
You are awesome! Very relatable to my own menopause journey. The warmth and joy you give can be felt far and wide so thank you ❤
Au thank you Tracey ❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing your thoughts Mandy and I'm one of those men who have very little understanding of what you're going through. Keep sharing your lovely personality with us Mandy because you make me smile, and I'm sure many others too. You're a star! 🎉
Ah thank you so much.. I think it’s nice for everyone to know a little about things that affect the people around you where possible ❤️❤️
Big hugs right back at you. Thank you for being brave and sharing. You are amazing and we love you 💙💙
Thank you 🥰🥰
I had three daughters under ten and work to go to as well they kept me grounded please don’t listen the voice it is depression shouting
What you have done in making your van and then getting on the road whilst working too is what some people only dream of. You did it. Go girl. 👍🥳🚌
Thanks lovely.. I can sit here now and say I know and am proud of all I’ve achieved and I really am! It’s just sometimes the loudest voice is heard the clearest and it’s never the good stuff shouting
Aaaah bless you darling I hope you feel brighter soon . You aren't useless you have been a massive inspiration for me since my darling hubster passed away last year😢 keep smiling beautiful lady ❤ xxxxx
I am so sorry ❤️❤️ I’m glad to have helped even a tiny bit
@@unadventurousmandy more than you will ever know sweetheart ❤️xxx
Mandy,I think you are a help to many that watch you,seeing your struggles but also the good times shows that nobody is alone.I am lucky enough not to have suffered like this.I know that you won't believe it when you feel so bad but when you read these comments on a good day you will see that you are not alone.❤️
It’s been so lovely to read them that I’ve had to do it in batches so I don’t dehydrate from all the crying ❤️❤️❤️
Look what you have accomplished with your van. You are so far from being rubbish I can’t believe you would even think it. Sending hugs xx
Thanks Gill ❤️
I think you are wonderful especially when you are able to do a utube on how you feel. I might not have met you but I think of you as a friend and think you are a wonderful person. I do not think that you are rubbish in any form. I send you a big virtual hug to you whenever you feel down xx
Thanks Tracey, I think I have an amazing set of online friends, it’s so heartening to know that you’re not the first and only person to suffer. My comment sections are full of such wonderful comments ❤️❤️❤️
Mandy I see you. I hear you. I can relate!
However….: defo can’t relate to your marmite thing LOL yuck!! ❤
@@HappyinmyautotrailYeh, sorry Mandy, I’m in the no marmite crowd. 🤢
Thank you ❤️❤️
Hahaha.. it’s awesome!! It just tastes like dark salt 😂
Brilliant video and totally relatable to many including me! Those bloody voices do get in there don’t they and its so Hard to block them out i always try and think to myself and ask “what is the opposite positive thought” and try and go with that (easier said than done) I’m pleased that you got there in the end of the video clip… i do think the imminent changes and giving up the unit has some impact however I’m sure it will all work out well and i for one am very much looking forward to the adventures - stay you because you are the best you, a lot of people think and feel that xx
I think the changes are impacting things too. I used to use odds to lift me out of things so if everything felt bad or I was terribly worried about one thing I’d look for one reason why that wasn’t true - decreasing the odds to 50/50 then I’d look for another, decreasing the odds to 2/1 and so on till it was insignificant. I think all the random calculations and results occupied my mind and made me focus differently
💐 glad that voice buggered off!
Me too..! ❤️
Love the honesty in your vlogs and tomorrow i pick up my set of wheels so i can go adventuring with my fur babies on my days off. The great outdoors is my therapy and have allowed work to get in the way of that. I have now changed jobs, far less stressful, and now it’s time for me and my boys to get back out there. Mine has 2 sliding doors too. Take care.
Ah how exciting!!! I hope you have the very best of times doing what you love
I just want to thank you for sharing your experience about the menopause. I've been hit by it like a tonne of bricks over the past year and if it wasn't for watching you I don't think my husband would've had a clue what was going on. Strangely I've meditated for years but I'm not finding it really helps. However, I have started dancing. Like an absolute loon. I'm like a full-on teenager. My husband goes out, the music goes on, and I just dance. Often while crying. But I dance it away.
I think dancing like a loon should be on the list for things that help!! I love a good sing and mad dance around, it’s liberating and awesome stress relief. I can’t meditate at the mo either, or read long books for that matter - I hate it as those were my go to things. I’m glad my videos have helped your husband too - I’m getting lots of messages from the men who watch saying how they noticed something with their wives or daughters and it’s lovely to hear ❤️❤️
Your inspirational and I really enjoy spending time with you via you tube. 😊 a good reminder for me is - this too shall pass - ❤
Thank you so much ❤️❤️ I need to remember that more often
Mandy, your not 💩. You're amazing ❤
Thank you ❤️
I’m no one to talk but “ The Power of Now” is a good book, sometimes it helps sometimes it doesn’t! I love you Mandy you are amazing. 🎉
I’ll have to look at that.. can’t seem to read well lately as my mind is buzzing
@@unadventurousmandy It’s available on audio. You can read when washing up, cleaning, in the dark etc. I’ve been using audiobooks since eye surgery over 20 years ago and never gone back. Great for long journeys.
Mandy…..you are amazing , look at what you’ve achieved over there few moths . Built a van out !!! Travelling . Move forward , we are here to support you .❤
Thanks Chris ❤️
You are a wonderful person x
Thank you Hazel ❤️
Common Mandy, stay strong life is for living ❤fitness is good for the mind and sole and having positive people around you......😊
It certainly is and it absolutely makes all the difference ❤️❤️
Big hugs Mandy. ❤️
Thank you ❤️
I can completely relate with this. We all love ya. Mahoosive Hugs Mandy. ❤
Thanks lovely ❤️
Oh mandy , poor you, i too have been off work for 4 days due to my.head mash, and slowly coming out of a narcissistic close friendship,
No one else seems to understand unless they've been there
Big hugs lovely ,i rarely comment on videos but yours touched me xx
Just want to say I hear you, and agree - it's not something most people can get their head around unless they've been there. You're better off out is what i've learned over too many years. Big hugs.
Big hugs right back atcha lovely ❤️ no one possibly can but you’ve done the right thing, you have to put yourself first ❤️❤️❤️
I totally relate! Have you thought about getting a portable ice bucket ? Or just doing more wild swims . They are meant to be very beneficial. It's good to cry and vent also . Enjoy your adventures . My favourite snack is probably peanut butter and Nutella on toast. Or just a handful of nuts 😮
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Writing/Journalling, your thoughts can help put them into perspective, really helps me.
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Big hug xx
I do have a lovely leather journal.. I should use it ❤️
You are amazing, it’s hard isn’t it when your brain tells you these things, one minute you can be laughing the next minute crying and being angry and you don’t know why, just keep plodding and being you, lots of hugs to you💚
Thanks Vivienne, it’s so awful that we are capable of being this awful to ourselves ❤️❤️
You are awesome Mandy, Big Hugs back xx
Thank you ❤️
We are all with you. We're all in same boat. Thinking that it's gonna either sink today and maybe float the next. We and you will get through this cause your a strong lady. Menopause is not going to beat any of us!!! X
It really isn’t.. 💪 we have to keep on going but try and help each other along the way
Oh Mandy my heart goes out to you ❤ I am glad you are feeling a bit more you. Onwards & upwards ❤
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Thanks Rachel 🥰
Believe me, you are normal and not useless. For one you impress me and you are inspiring. You will get over all this crap. Keep being positive, you know you can. I use to cry everyday. I can be weeks without now, even if I have to reverse up or down in a narrow winding single track road (happened today). I now see positive in every situation. Think about the future, which looks good, and think about what YOU really need.
I always look for the positive in every situation as it really does change your perspective ❤️❤️ I’m glad the tears have subsided for you now
Sending this 🫂 and this 💕
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Need to hear how it feels. Never apologise for doing so. ‘Deaf out’ ( as we say in Brum) the negative voices. You are lovely , honest and inspirational.
Toast, marmite and cottage cheese with pineapple!
Thanks Sarah.. I think I need to as I get such a lovely response when I do ❤️❤️
Red clover is good too. Really tasty tea. X
Ah ok, I’ll look into that, thank you
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Massive hugs to you, Mandy.
As another over thinker with overwhelming imposter syndrome, I totally identify with what you’re saying.
I can also tell you with confidence, as others have commented, you are awesome 🤩 xx
Thank you ❤️❤️ I don’t have to know you to know you are too.. we need to not be our own worst enemies
I hear you xx😢
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Hug! You are amazing and inspiring. And I am so grateful for how honestly you talk about your experience with menopause. It shouldn’t be a shameful secret - we need to share these stories.
On another note: Strange snacks; I like to mix a can of flaked white tuna with a diced apple, garlic dill pickles, and jalapeños. Mmmmm.
Oh my goodness that sounds amazing!! I love those little mix “salads” that you eat with just a fork 😁❤️
Big Higs Mandy your an awesome person
Thank you ❤️
Glad you’re feeling brighter Mandy 😀 I remember reading that silly comment and thinking “what a wassock” 😂
They were in full on wazzock mode weren’t they?
Mandy. I have had issues with anxiety down days with Menopause I do all the mindfulness etc I have started on Ashwagandha and lemon balm it’s helped me so far .
Take care your not alone xx
Ah, I’m glad you’ve found something that works ❤️❤️
You are doing all the right things for you. The world is your oyster!! Thanks for the marmite tip! Xx
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Massive hugs. Thoes patches of depression suck. We loves you. ❤
The do suck..!! Thank you ❤️❤️
Mandy keep chin up love you ❤❤❤
Thanks Pam ❤️
I hope today finds you in better spirits. At least when you get these grey mood days you can realise what it is and look forward to the time when you will be through the other side. 😘
That is true, thank you ❤️
Mandy, you're Awesome stop listening to your brain, you know it's only a temporary thought. Think of something else, like your happest memory or grandchildren. you are more inspirational than you realise x
Thanks Mindy ❤️
Sorry to hear, Shame we don't have a mute button for our over thinking thoughts.
Tidy Van Time is a way of stopping your brain over thinking (Well, for a bit).
Having roots or for a short time having the unit did give you a known safe place/dumping place, but ya right, you both built the vans to travel.
It sound like life is going to explode with great things, take care and thanks for sharing.
We (Mad RUclipsrs) wish you both some good times in our wonderful British weather. ROLL ON FRANCE (You always start in France) Wink
We might be heading north first but yes, defo France next 😂 thank you ❤️
I think I need to go buy myself some marmite, thanks for the tip, I can totally relate to how you were feeling. It’s even worse when you have lost someone close too.
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Oh I remember those blackhole days... all I can tell you is it does end - eventually.
I'm a grazer... I like to munch down on baby spinach leaves. Like a cow. Sometimes - if they are available - I put berries in them. Blueberries and spinach, raspberries and spinach... or just more spinach. Or prunes, or figs...
I know what you mean about the anchor of sticks and bricks. I;ve been back at The Hutch for a month and have barely been outside the door since. Gotta get going again... YAM xx
That’s good to know lovely ❤️
Ah I’m a muncher too, I like a mix of snacks - a snack-tapas if you will 😁 spinach is lovely to chomp on though, I love dipping it in balsamic vinegar too..
Hope you get your wheels turning again soon
Mandy, you are a Love. We your subscribers feel your pain. I can’t empathise, only sympathise. However moving on, i can still feel 50± years later the sense of freedom and anticipation when there is nothing to hold you back from new adventures, chance meetings and experiences that real un-fixedness can allow you. We are all rooted to some degree, even tenuously, but there is always a freedom of thought and experience available to those who allow it, even with the constraints of work and modern living. Let yourself go and with John enjoy the benefits of a liberated existence that you deserve. Maybe Hippyshit to some, but despite constraints, I think I tread the line! 😊
Not hippyshit at all..! A beautiful reminder of why we do what we do ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I feel for you Mandy. I wish when I was younger there were ways to talk about it and people could understand why you felt so awful about yourself. I had suicidal thoughts a lot of the time and wonder if some of my negative appraisals at work were due to the fact that I was going through the menopause. I hope you feel better soon and take care.
I’ve heard so much about how bad things used to be, if things have improved a little now let’s hope it keeps going so no one has to wonder what is going on and worry about their jobs ❤️❤️
Hi Mandy, my 10 year old daughters favourite snack is a slice of toast with marmite spread and sliced banana on top. That's pretty unusual. She says "don't knock it mum, it's ace" 😅 and yes, you are awesome Mandy. ❤
Oooh with banana too?? Interesting!
You are so genuine and real. You are "woke", which is a good thing despite what gullible people believe. Keep being you. 💪😊
Thanks Chris ❤️
It is hard I was 32 when I was it in to menopause now 65 and still have sweats
As a fellow catastrophically big hugs. We were only wondering what had happened to Courts and Meeks yesterday. X
They’re still on insta and Facebook but have decided to focus on enjoying their travels rather than travelling for content
@unadventurousmandy thank you. Just folliw3d them on FB. We used to watch them all the time like we do you and John. We'd wondered how the orange donkey pronged was doing. Xx
I’m sorry to see how distressed you are but I can assure you you are not crap, you are greatly appreciated and bring many of us a lot of pleasure. My cancer treatment causes me to go through the male equivalent of the menopause, so I am very sympathetic to you girls. I pay more than I can afford to import English Marmite because Vegemite just doesn’t do it for me. Hopefully that is helping me as well. Please be aware how much your followers appreciate & respect you.
I hope all is going well with your treatment ❤️❤️ Vegemite is the marmite of marmite isn’t it? 😂
@@unadventurousmandy My treatment is working, thanks. Vegemite tastes so different & I love Marmite, hence importing it (via Amazon) two 600g tubs at a time. I particularly took on board your recipe for beans mixed with noodles from a subsequent video. I'll be giving that a go. I love your cooking spots.
Gosh I felt your angst xx
Being neurodivergent and menopausal is such a battle at times. You may have all the tools but sometimes it’s hard to find them in all the mess up there. Have been thinking of you and John as it’s been a year since you both lost the love of your lives. Be kind to yourself sweety xx ❤
You’re so right.. I had a lovely chat with someone about us it meno or is it adhd and it was eye opening. Lots of similarities and small things made much worse by the other too.
Lovely video Mandy, truthful and gritty, then light and happy, then a little sad. A bit of a roller coaster but so well expressed. I do wonder sometimes when people post stupid comments if they have ever been paying attention, but then I remember the line from Forest Gump " stupid is as stupid does ", and I just move on. Until the next time, 👋
That is one of my favourite lines - so simple yet so perfect!
Random snack for me .. crisps with coleslaw and sliced chilly cheese. Also soft cheese and hoolahoops ( fill each one)
Oooh I love the hoopla hoop one - with garlic and herb Philly and salted hoops.. droooooool!!
I snack on quavers and smoked cheese slices and sweets called drumstick squashies xx
Oooh - all the cheese! I love it
I always say to myself there is nothing like a good cry now and again to clear the system. At least you have not been like me recently, brain fog, left the Bloody chip pan switched on all day, thankfully I did not burn the place down, just dreading the electric bill now! My OH thinks its funny, I just wanted to cry about my stupidity. You are not alone, you are doing Good.
Oh my goodness..!!!! That would have scared me and made me so annoyed at myself too. Brain fog affects everything!!! I think it stops you from helping yourself back out of it too ❤️❤️
I cried tears for nothing I was a lot better when I was loosed tablets to help
Venting your feelings does no harm Mandy. Sending you love and positive times for you and John. ❤ ps Vegetable curry sandwich! 😂
Veg curry sandwich.. ooooooooohhhhhh…!!!! Leftovers or fresh? Thanks Linda ❤️
@@unadventurousmandy leftovers!
Make sure your water bottles aren’t in the sun Mandy..( I can hear people saying ‘What sun?’…) read something years ago about the plastic getting hot and producing carcinogens 😮…take care, love the vids ❤
Yes I heard that too.. they’re usually covered by a bag to keep the sun off them - thank you ❤️❤️
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You’re a separated middle aged woman living in a van. Can’t get any worse. However. You are a free woman, fit, beautiful, kind, humble, humane. Can’t get any better.
Thank you so much for the lovely sentiment in your comment however I must disagree with the first part. I’m not separated, we just live separately and I chose to live in a van and I love it - things could definitely be a whole lot worse but I am very grateful that they aren’t ❤️❤️
Not really sure this was a helpful comment. Even if you meant it kindly. 😮
@@unadventurousmandy No offence intended. I was playing devils advocate.
Windy fields ,friends ,bare foot in the grass ,coffee bike rides ,sun, rain and twinkling fairy lights life’s good your not rubbish well done to you and good luck 👍👍👍🏴🇬🇧🇨🇦
Ah the voice.......I know it well xxx
You’d think we’d be better at telling it to do one eh?
@@unadventurousmandy everyday learning to be a smidge better and more aware that the voice chats 💩💩💩💩💩💩💩💩
People always pull People Down. But chin up keep smiling
I had a day like that today. 😢 I hate it. At least youre not alone. Thanks for sharing. Youre brilliant. ❤
I used to say they can only do it if I let them and I bloody well let them..!! So although they do stay in my mind I take out of them whatever is good for me!! ❤️❤️
Hope today has been better ❤️
I think a lot of the nomadic RUclips influencers get burned out after several years and need to take a break and just travel. When your travel itself becomes a job, you need a vacation from time to time. Creating new content takes a lot of time and if you have a regular job too, that doesn't leave much time for the fun side of travel and being free from constraints. RUclips's algorithm seems to have changed from the viewer's side. I used to see my faves in the feed. Now i have to go to subscriptions to see who has updated.
Menopause does get better, i don't think it ever completely goes away for some of us. A few of my friends say they only had about 6 months of light symptoms. I think they lie about how much they drink and the drugs they take too.
I’ve heard that a lot, that people don’t see their chosen channels new content on the Home Screen. It is a lot of work to do but as long as I continue to enjoy it then I don’t mind. It doesn’t help when RUclips has a bot account purge and you lose a ton of subs too 🤦🏼♀️
When I’m feeling shit I ask myself what I would say to someone in the same predicament and try to tell myself that. No doubt though it’s a bloody rollercoaster. I’m sure there’s a Peter Kay sketch in there somewhere. Huge hugs to you ❤
I’ve been giving out advice that I know helps me while struggling to use it myself - it’s ridiculous. You’re absolutely right though
@@unadventurousmandy sometimes you just have to hunker down until the storm passes ❤️ be kind to yourself
As it goes I had to try and be kind to myself last night…bleurg!!!
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Hi mandy ref Cazp64 i dont think they really know you and johns story,if i can say u both r doing fine ! Will u both be doing france again,love it last time expecially museums and fly past ?❤
I thought that too but it sounded like she commented with the best intentions. I certainly know that I’m not in the “things can’t get any worse” category and am truly thankful for that!
Its shit isnt it(pardon my French)? BUT you are wrong and I dont mean to sound patronising or mater of factly, you are a wonderful person. Menopause (couldnt remember what it was called for 10 minutes) is so hard, and everyone is effected differently and we all feel that no one understands, and some dont. But Mandy, you are sharing this opening and honestly so how can you be useless? You are a strong, warm, honest, funny and beautiful person, please dont beet yourself up. Punch John or something when you reach those negative times, he won mind, but whatever you do dont feel that non of us are listening because we are and we care xx
Thank you for your lovely words, I don’t mind being told when I’m wrong especially for lovely reasons like that ❤️❤️❤️
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Thanks Lee
Have you had your B12 levels checked? B12 deficiency can cause depression, mood swings, irritability, and memory loss especially during menopause and post menopause. It may explain what you are experiencing.
That’s next on my list with cortisol too as I think I have a spike in the morning
Mandy It's good to vent, go find John and have a good chat x
Thank you.. we’re always chatting, he could tell something was wrong mid ride and have me a big ole hug afterwards
Fried egg sandwich with Branston pickle in
Oh I’ve never tried that!! Sounds lush
I really don't understand people that make negative comments, the old saying wrings true, "if you can't say something nice don't say anything "
I just delete any, and block whoever commented negatively, unless I know them well, and tell them to 'eff off!
I do delete and block the nasty ones but this just hit a chord, not only because they were full of 💩 but because we should be travelling more.. all they need to do is pay me for it and we’re good 😂
ADHD AND Menopause is far worse than Menopause alone, Mandy. Our moods are so much higher and lower than NTs....
The mindfulness lessons often don't work for us NDs x
Have you read up on RSD? It's a bugger.
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I have and I think I can pinpoint where in my childhood it came from - that on top of meno and adhd it’s a nightmare. I keep being told coffee is bad for meno but I know coffee helps calm me down if my adhd gets too bad. Can’t quiet my mind enough for yoga or anything either. I’ll find something I’m sure
Coffee is only bad if you're medicated for ADHD. It has the opposite effect on ADHD folk than others. I live on cans of coke, can drink 2 and still sleep. Enjoy your coffee Mandy ❤
Salami wrapped round Gurken 🎉
Oooh spicy or normal?
@@unadventurousmandy either so yummy with lidl pickled gurkins
Ahhh 😢 it’s so hard to not listen to that inner monologue, bloody menopause has a lot to answer for, hope you find a better voice to listen too soon x
Thank you, I’m getting there ❤️
Think of people who have terminal illness, homeless, disfigured,it might make your problems seem not so big,,
I know John.. ❤️ Unfortunately mental health issues don’t allow you to think rationally.
hi mandy what do you do as a job? mark
Hi Mark, I’m a bookkeeper and tax adviser 😁
How can I talk to you in private?
Aww Mands, hoe you’re okay. If you want perspective I’ve had to rush from Filey to Doncaster at 12.30am, arriving at 2.30am, then spending 12hours and counting (I’m in the camper parked outside A&E right now), to get sorted.
Oh my goodness.. are you ok? That must have been awful ❤️❤️
@@unadventurousmandy it’s my mums COPD and dementia . They were very busy and we spent 14hrs in a and e.
I don’t know where I’d be without my little camper, and my online work. Being able dash door to door across the country and work from
The tiny micro camper for a couple of weeks at s time has been a good send.
I discovered a park4night in the Toby carvery on bawtry road which is excellent (CCTV, night watchman, flat level parking, bins, really good food at feasible prices, and the staff are very welcoming and have no issues with staying overnight). Been a life saver!!
These coassions have been constant and of course are not likely to improve.
I am giving serious thought about chucking in my house rental and just living out of the van (as tiny as it is). Hmmm
Oh I’m so sorry. My dad has dementia and it’s the cruelest thing isn’t it?
I love it when our little tiny houses come in to their own and become our life rafts too ❤️ glad the Toby carvery worked out well too. I think a whole lot of them are campervan friendly if you eat there - I adore their carvery so would be the size of my van.
It sounds like it might be worth looking at renting your house. Even short term. Would you want to get anything bigger or are you more than happy with your micro camper? What do you have?
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Maybe the change of circumstances in leaving your “place to return to” flipped your brain for a while. Hormones are just a b!tch!
Money grabbing!……..what was he smoking for breakfast? The only time I can think of money being mentioned was when you spoke of some shops not accepting cash.
I couldn’t figure it either.. 🤷♀️ I think you might be right