In this generation yes men are very weak in that sense which I don’t mind I want to be a doctor but yeah when we talk about men not being as ambitious is mostly because society has made men more weak and have a choice to not work as hard
Ngl I think most men and women want to be farmers and have fun less stressful jobs but alas having a society has forced us into things we don't like and you can't do anything about it otherwise you'll drown.
@@geosamarymarquez8671 doesn't mean they're weak. I mean what's the deal with earning all the money to provide for a family you never actually see and that you'll get so estranged from that it endangers said family and the bonds that should exist between a man to his wife and children. Women need husband's, children need father's, not overworked ATMs that gain status by providing as husband and father but not actually being one. I'd be very lonesome in such a relationship, and I'd have been unwell with a father like that. The only couples I've ever seen where this workaholic mentality worked out were married to an equally successful woman. They either had no children or some that were raised by others, totally estranged. It worked for the adults involved but not the children.
@@Jane-ow7sr and if that office job consists of developers? (Not all offices contain idiots. I’m not a software developer, but I’m just giving an analogy)
What part of Asia? I mean when sexual equality is not really a thing you literally are commanding social roles based on sex. I'd rather not be positive what my co workers genitals look line.
@@jharrissv It’s called hard work and sacrifice. And from what I know, men don’t benefit from affirmative action and special handouts like women do.
I agree. I don’t always agree what she says but she used to talk with a question mark at the end of all her sentences. Now she says everything with a.period with more of a defining tone.
I agree. I've been a fan of Amala since she was just Will Witt's sidekick on Prager and she's gotten SO much better as a debater and a podcaster especially. She worked at it and got better it's beautiful to see
Btw a lot of those highly ambitious men that attain those high status positions suffer greatly at th cost of their family. Which sometimes results in marital affairs, children having resentment, or health related issues due to stress.
Exactly! Why should men be working 80 hour weeks and missing their families? Maybe the problem is the demand of an insane schedule. We don’t actually have to structure society like that… everyone deserves time with people they love.
Men are going to have affairs regardless of being successful, if it’s their desire they’re going to do it. Even financially unstable men find a way to “cheat” but honestly infidelity shouldn’t be involved in topics like these. That’s leaning towards more of a personal issue or communication problem within the family & relationship dynamic of a couple. There are too many factors that contribute to infidelity in relationships/marriages.
Well, just don't give their opinion a time of the day, and that solves the problem of "pick me" issue. If they insist, you can just go "well, at least I'll be picked, and you'll live with 40 cats"
A pick me is a term made by radical feminists to shame you into not following your heart for their political agenda. Dont buy their bullshit, we need real women not emasculated women. What is wrong with wanting to be picked for marriage? The fact that they want to shame that is a disgrace
She’s speaking nothing but facts. It’s not that women are INCAPABLE of doing these things; it’s that they generally don’t even possess the desire for them. And of course, without the desire, there is no drive, and without the drive, you can’t hope for these types of positions.
They are incapable. A small percentage of women actually are capable and don't crumble under stress, but a large percentage of them do crumble. They can't handle all that politics, power game and constant pulling that comes in the way to reach the top.
@@ThankYouGoogle4 can you quote some research or statistics? Because I have come across some very strong women and some men who completely broke down under stress.
She’s completely right. I would just like to add that it’s only a small minority of men that have that type of attitude and desire to work 80 hours a week and only commit to their job and nothing else
The thing is, women are just as good of leaders as men. All my best bosses have been female. But if women aren’t able to both have a career and a family, women will choose family over work a lot of the time. If we as a society want women in positions of power, we need to support female leaders, and honestly we need a different work environment. Men shouldn’t have to be working 80 hour weeks and missing every family event either! We can re-structure those demanding jobs so that people can both be leaders and have time with their families. Then we get the benefit of good leaders of both sexes, and those leaders get to enjoy happier lives. Why are we acting like an 80 hour week is INEVITABLE and unavoidable? It isn’t
Sadly with success and breaththroughs, that's not how things work. Plus, men don't build all these things for themselves. Most of what men build is for women and the children as well. It will never be equal as again you missed the point. Many women don't desire those things. Scandinavia is literally proving that.
Sounds nice but realistically the men and women that aspire to be CEO s are wired to go get those kinds of situations. Your assertion is based on the mentality that people are happier if they work less, but these CEO types will probably disagree. There are people who love their work and I’ve met them. We can’t assume that family is the one thing that makes everyone happy. Nor can we assume that working less makes everyone happy. That’s why C suite jobs are rare and are given to only those that have the type of value system to get to that position.
Agree, plus there was the lie that you could “have it all“. No, not for most. The women who do appear to have it all simply don’t raise their own children and hire a bunch of people to cook, assist, ect. They might appear to “have it all”, and it should be re-named as “outsourced it all”, more “multi-life management”. IMHO, you would be a slave to your own ambitions. No quality time with the most important parts. Completely inauthentic.
Its not just about a family or a career though because the woman doesnt need to have a family for the argument to work. Its quite literally women on average not having the biology to sustain high pressure, high intensity, very demanding jobs. The reason why leaders(men) are compensated well is because only few of them can do it WITH less cost. That means less pampering. It is absolutely unrealistic to restructure those things in an al ready established society.
It's a crime how much jubilee edited out a lot of Amala's responses to the discussion in the video. I watched because I genuinely wanted to hear her speak, can't spell jubilee without an "L"
@@dotenks Lol you thought you ate with that one. Amala actually welcomes guests with differing views on her show and voice their perspectives. Jubilee nearly had Aba and Preach's youtube channel removed recently for their views despite claiming to pursue "common ground". My point still stands.
How many male politicians have TRULY happy marriages? I'm not talking about the phoney posturing, but genuinely harmonious ones, without infidelity or divorce. DAMN FEW I'LL WAGER.
Yes and no. There are definitely biological and psychological factors at play; however, social gender roles cannot be ignored. At least in my experience. I’m Asian, and although my parents and teachers are all highly educated, as I was growing up, I was often being preached about “I’m a girl, I shouldn’t be so competitive”, “it’s more important to marry well than to have a great career”, “you will eventually have to balance between work and having kids, and since men just can’t take care of children that well, you should do it”. I’ve been hearing that shit since middle school, and it’s hard to shrug its influence off.
Female boss here: One of my biggest challenges is the expectation to be maternal and coddling by other women or female employees. The men are fine. My only issue with men is I have to repeat myself three times typically lol but overall women are 100% more difficult to work with. A lot (not all) seek direction or aren't as driven which is fine and ingrained in a lot of women but I take initiative and do push forward whereas a lot don't. They also poison the well with shit talking around a space whereas men have these extremely supportive roles with each other and collaborate so well for the greater cause of a company. I've seen it with other women at my own company but it's rare. Most just want to clock in, get a raise and seek you out as a mommy not a boss. Sorry, but it's the truth. These days I've preserved myself by going solo sans team and way happier.
I'm a woman and have worked in a professional staff setting where 75% are female. The men's behaviours are not that different, I fact a few men needed coddling and women worked together. Btw the department director is also a woman.
I guess it depends which types of jobs you have. I’m an er nurse and the females aren’t coddling or maternal-we get the job done fast because we have to. Maybe because ers are made up of over 80% females, the idea that you get special treatment from male and female employees is nonexistent. The males, however, are coddling and sweet, and usually take longer to get the same task done. The doctors won’t mess with the female nurses because they know we don’t take crap from them or the patients.
Many feminists always talk about how they want status (but clearly without the work and effort required). I have heard women on shows complain about long hours at work as a high positon, and it's like... Um, yeah. That's the tradeoff. You can't just have the status without the sacrifice.
@@nothingreallyrhymeswithora9377 they actually did studies on why women don’t succeed/like their jobs that require long hours, specially with parents. Many studies and surveys have shown that although men will make the same (or even less) than their female counterparts, they will do only 20% of the housework and childcare. People always say, “70% of women file for divorce” but then refuse to see the other side that those females filing for divorce are expected to do more housework even though they do the same amount of job hours. I love my job and I’m now a nurse practitioner, but I also don’t have kids and don’t want kids. The er nurses I work with that are married with kids have more “passive” husbands that are able to (and want to) help around the house while their wives work 12+ hour shifts. Of COURSE there are people (female and male) that will complain about a long day of work, but it really depends on the entire situation.
I climbed the corporate ladder. When my baby girl clung to her babysitter and rejected me, this momma bear tapped out. I had my babies to raise them. As important as it is that we let men know it's ok to be masculine, we need to let our daughters know that it's ok to choose family over career. We are pushed to go to college to get the best career we can get, but what if being a homemaker is where our heart is? I don't want to gain the whole world and lose my soul.
< As important as it is that we let men know it's ok to be masculine,> .....have u watch Xena tv series? Or Princess and the Frog? No, I dont like Underworld. Know about Bayonetta? Lara Croft? Mulan (the cartoon) Those are badass n kickass Female character thats still feminine....
We can sit here and argue back and forth about how men and women have set personalities that make them feminine or masculine but the truth is and always will be that every single day you encounter men who behave in a stereotypical “feminine way” and women who behave in a stereotypical “masculine” way. Personality does NOT have a gender. Let’s stop teaching kids especially that they have to behave a certain way because of their gender because I think that this sort of thinking that this woman describes is the cause of this whole trans trend. Instead of telling women and men that they can be masculine and feminine, we tell them they have to be masculine to be a man and if a man is not then he gets told that maybe he was “born with the wrong gender”. This sort of thinking that this woman describes is very toxic.
Men have always made better leaders. Reason? Any matriarchal society that every existed for a short period of time has been conquered and decimated by patriarchal forces. 🎉
We need more women in politics. Men are obsessed with holding power while women care about wellbeing. Women don't start wars. Peace is what our world needs.
By nuanced do you mean making excuses while talking out of her a**? If so, I agree. She's listing opinion that there is literally contrary evidence to. This is why you never see Amala sight a source outside of the daily mail tabloids.
I don’t think women are biologically less likely to take leadership roles, I think women are socially influenced more to take on nurturing caring roles. It’s an important distinction as some people can interpret this message to mean women are biologically programmed to not be leaders which just isn’t true. Women can be leaders but they have to sacrifice family to do it whilst men can be leaders without worrying about that because women have been taught to take on those roles for them.
actually it is scientifically proven that women do how the tendencies to be more nurturing. my parents (mostly my dad) actually try to get me to do the “80-hour work-week” thing and i’d honestly rather have a family. i still want to work, just not that much, because i want time for family. and i’ve never really been affected by what society says. but this is just my personal experience and opinion
@@mad_m4x675 I think it’s just your preference on what you want to do with your life. My female friends had a different experience in which their family pressured them to get married early but they wanted more options in life other than just starting a family.
Respectfully, this way of thinking is incorrect. In countries where women are socially influenced and steered toward STEM fields, they have found that the majority of women continue to choose careers that are have more relational capacity or no career at all and have a family. Biologically, and generally, women make different choices then men and that’s okay. Both are wonderful.
@@dayspringreeves5636 I think she’s talking more of generally rather than the STEM field only. It’s true that social norms do affect women’s stance on taking higher position roles. In East Asia parents generally pressure their daughters to marry early rather than find a job or else they’ll be what society calls them the “leftovers”. This typically means that even if you do have a good career, if you’re over 29 and not married you’ll be very stereotyped against. The irony of that is women now in East Asia do not want to get married (as well as men) and these include the rapidly growing Japan and South Korea.
Those men are able to do that because they have a woman taking care of their household needs. Women are inclined to take care of household needs because historically they were not allowed to work and career growth is a new and unknown area for them. P.S: I need RUclips to stop this lady’s rants on my feed.
i personally like her content though i do agree that social norms play a huge role in woman not having more leadership roles as i am personally a feminsit. i dont agree with all things she says as well though if you dont want to see her anymore simply press the dont reccomend channel button
I think this is less of an inherent thing and more of a social influence thing. Women are influenced by their surroundings to be more kind/nurturing/feminine from a young age, but this doesn’t mean it’s something that’s completely natural (not influenced by society.) You’ll see female leaders in nature a lot (lions for example.) I think many women are very capable of being leaders, but are pushed away from the idea because the concept is not “womanly” or “feminine” enough.
Oh and women aren’t completely biologically different from men? Testosterone in high levels in men compared to estrogen in women produces completely different characteristics. And they were meant to. Men and women aren’t the same and will never be. Women want to be men.
Amd lionesses are not the leaders lol. The “Lion KING”. Btw one male lion will have a harem of lionesses following him and mating with him. Plus I’m the pride the male conquers territory and protects his women and children. The best possible example you could have given to represent true human male females dynamic.
@@shawnjames1107 Completely untrue (Plus I love how the only source you cited was a Disney movie, LOL) Lionesses are the primary hunters/leaders of the pride, while the males are simply responsible for protecting the territory. Not to mention the lion example was one small part of what I said. Don’t know how this undermines my point about women being capable leaders.
I completely agree. I think she should’ve not used the term "biologically". There is no biological basis for differentiating the personalities or tendencies of men and women.
@@bk4480 yes there absolutely is biological basis for the personality trait differences between men and women. There are so many social science studies proving this going back decades. By majority men and women are different and the hormonal biological differences between men women is what is the cause this should be common sense and used to be. That is until women started wanting to be men and by emotions tryin to manufacture their own reality
I have worked 50-70 hours a week for years in a leadership position. I also have 2 boys that I love and care for- it just depends on your family dynamics. For example, my husband works from home and is more than happy to care for our kiddos during the day, while I work about 50 hours at the actual company, I work the remainder at home after the kid's homework, dinner, Bible reading, and bedtime routine. It works for us, but may not be for everyone.
Exactly, these conversions are predicated on sweeping generalizations. People forget that this is a matter of personal choice and lifestyle, that many do what works for them even if it happens to somewhat deviate from the norm.
When I was sham I got so much backlash telling me I wasn't independent woman when in fact I was super independent. The feminist movement has got so bad 😞
@@lavieentoni7654 because I didn't go to work and my ex husband paid for my expenses I was declared not independent plus at the time didn't have my driver license, but I cooked several meals a day, cleaned, made his lunch, and did so much never asked for help. Now that I work as a mom, I can't take care of my house hardly, cook, and do the things I felt made me independent instead I depend on a job to tell me what to do and etc. I have my driver's license now but it's little stressful driving sometimes cause people can't drive anymore.
@@samanthagibson979 you were literally a dependent. You weren’t an independent woman while your husband worked and supported you. I’m an er nurse and my parents still support me. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with not being an independent person-that’s called being loved and cared for. But no, you weren’t independent. That’s the definition of dependency (but it’s okay!)
@@kruisik agree to disagree on this as I took care of my husband and if I didn't he wouldn't been able to go to work plus I raised the kids as then he would have paid someone for daycare. That's the way the system leads people to believe you depend on a spouse you aren't independent when it's team work 100%. I don't depend on family. I've done everything on my own. I work now and feel less dependent. Modern feminism has spreaded misinformation on independent woman.
@@samanthagibson979 did you get his insurance as a dependent? I’m not arguing that you weren’t a strong woman. It’s very clear you were (and still are). But you relied on him. If you’re struggling without his income, you weren’t independent. And that’s perfectly fine!
Truth. But on the other hand, when talking about different "types of marriage", the importance of the "male figure" in a child's life is constantly mentioned. Why do you cling to that argument if it actually means someone's non-participation in raising a child, the lack of a constructive element in the formation of those who remain after us? 80 hours of work a week destroys the family - that's the real problem! How many such people do you know with successful marriages? Best of all, those 80 hours do NOT have to be done by one person.
It became a topic because that lack of drive from women some took it as if women were stupid and that triggered a few, also, it kinda meant that women cannot be leaders in general and again that idea made some angry, people don't like to feel mocked, undervalued or belittled (its happened more to women throughout history than men), some just got tired of feeling like that and well, the approach they took to discuss this issue hasn't been the best though.
Yes!! Finally someone making sense. Just because men and women are different, doesn’t make one better than the other. We have to learn to respect our differences
And it's ironic because women don't start wars. WOMEN organize people, supplies, food, recourses, and protect the children. Women come together.... While men try to tear each other apart.
thats false. women start war over any shit. theyr too scared to do it in public. typicly. women are the emotional gender right? they tend to behave more off the emotions? would you like for all world leaders to be woman xD??
We dont have a problem with statistics. What we have a problem with is men not taking women who are in leadership roles seriously, as if women aren't competent as men.
Depends on how she got that leadership role. Was it by merits or equity/affirmative action. In my 25 years of working, I have yet to be amazed by a female boss. I've seen too many of them make emotional rather than logical decisions that have really messed up the work for everyone.
she's talking as if there are so little women in the workplace who are very career oriented and goal-driven, while in reality to be taken seriously they had to work twice as hard. honestly she isn't qualified to talk about this, they should gather 50 career oriented women with exceptional work ethic and listen how they are treated, espescially in the 1980s vs now, what changed and what still needs to be changed.
Well when you say “we” who are you speaking for. Because there are many many people who believe the brain is totally independent from your sex/ that women and men have the same brain and therefore same average capabilities. It’s detrimental to tell men and women that their interests are just “socially constructed”
@Original Strike 99% of men I have met have been extreamly overly emotional since in general men are more emotional then women but maybe you just had bad luck considering most of the women I know won their place in the office not by a hand out
@@oyleday0195 I don't think interests being "socially constructed" is entirely accurate. Look at the animal kingdom, for example. Many different species take on similar gender roles to humans.
......1 day and only 5 likes. Ummm wow. Your comment is the one I, in my basic understanding of the world, should get the most likes. I have one like for you but I'll dump 1,500 imaginary likes if I was some wizard.
I realized this when I was around 18/19 I was feed the “strong, power woman” be your own boss crap going around at the time and I tried it and it turns out, I don’t like be the main one in charge, I like to be the assistant or help…but not the main show runner. I’m a better support woman than a “boss woman”. If you want to be a boss great do your thing but I know it’s not for me
First 5 years of running my business I worked 70 to 80 hour weeks. I had 3 weekends off in the first 5 years. Once the business for up and running and successful I cut down to 45 hours a week and delegated.
Also a extremely successful woman paid the price by not having a family too. In so many cases these women never able to have family while for men it's not a case. If man only focus on career then he is providing for family but when women focus on career only she is selfish.
If a man only focuses on his career he’s missing his family and his family is missing him. Nobody should have to be working 80 hour weeks to be successful. Nobody should have to choose between providing for a family and spending time with them.
@@lovelover4408 no but that is how the world works, and Men are more equipped for it, that's just how it is. Men are built to protect and provide, they are just fulfilling their natural born duties.
@@lavieentoni7654 that is the exception not the rule. And let's be honest even though Women talk about wanting a sensitive, more feminine Man that is just talk, when faced with this they tend to walk all over them because they do not respect them. I am sorry but this is just the way it is.
Never once was this about the lack of skills as females leaders. This was why leaders weren’t always female. Sounds like you have a lot more issues than you want to disclose, and everyone sees through that. You aren’t special, edwina. You’re just a bigot.
The sad thing is that we only value people who are financially successful and disvalue homemakers or low wage workers who work relentless in pursuit of a dream that will never come true.
Men generally don't have to take care of kids. Something or someone will be neglected. You can't do it all well. After nine years old I was so proud of my mom working and being successful.
Lets be honest. Some men are willing to devote their lives to their highly demanding careers. Most of us aren't 😂. Be she is right when she said that more men than women are willing to go down that road.
My point is that the free market has been shaped for the last 100 years by the competitive nature of men. That's fine, it drives innovation, infrastructure and many other things. That's why women tend to struggle because most are not built like men (to her point). Healthcare is a great example of an industry dominated by women, there's just not an entrepreneurial model that is profitable for the things women tend to prefer.
See this sort of thinking is why we have this whole trans thing going on. Personality does not have a gender. You can be a woman that does stereotypically “masculine” things and you are still a woman. Studies show that women and men are emotional, caring beings. This has nothing to do with gender, it’s just human. Everyday you encounter people who do not fit their gender stereotype. Does that mean that they were born with the wrong gender? No, personality does not have a gender.
I dunno about that though, heck for example I respect Jordan Peterson but I don’t think he’d make a great President. Not everyone that is a good speaker should be president just because they agree with the people or aren’t trying take away rights etc.
She was an Officer in the Army who thankfully I never had to follow in Combat. Her anti 2A stance violates her Oath to support and defend the Constitution of the United States. She is a Chameleon whom Id never trust.
@@gabrieltejada1697 She doesn't need to be amazing. It is alright if she can equal George Bush. He did the job. That's all that would count for her too.
A man’s conviction is a silent deal we make with ourselves that we will move hell and earth for our families. Not everyman thinks like this but is generally the price that comes with leading a house hold. Unfortunately, as I said, most men make this a silent deal. Because we need to be tough and can’t talk about our feelings. Perhaps that mindset should change. For that, wives need to understand the hell men go through, and men need to be reminded why we choose to go through hell. A woman and man who can communicate and compromise for the sake of each other can take on the world. First though both need to acknowledge that in a relationship one is not more important than the other. As soon as you start putting your own suffering on a pedestal you become entitled, and entitlement has no place in a marriage.
Miss Ekpunobi, I am a classical liberal who is DELIGHTED to have found you. I can't tell you how refreshing it is to see young folks with genuine wisdom, but you are without a doubt one of those people. Thank you for what you're doing and keep up the incredible work!
This lady is so brave for speaking the truth. Not say woman are not capable of doing the same, but the sacrifices involved of leadership she’s speaking of are straight selfless. That’s why there is many men and women don’t do it.
What's the best is Amala IS highly motivated, educated, and most definitely COULD fit the role of boss babe C.E.O and she's already proving she's got the juice. But I think even she's getting tired of schooling goofballs and just wants to settle down and raise a family. God bless her. I've got 6 years on you Love and you've got more going on upstairs in terms of thinking than I do. Thanks. Don't stop until you get sick of it. Can't wait to see what you do moving forward. It's pretty cool to watch the transformation.
im a woman , a mother and a happily married wife. and i can tell you,theres no job in the world with no money in the world that will make me want to be a working mother. we got pregnant on accident, and not only did it make our relationship stronger and happier than ever, it also made me as a person much better and the freedom i have to do anything i want with my kiddoo is just the best. i do not want to change any of that to stay inside an office of any kind for 8 hours long✌🏾
@@TanyaJackson-no2rsThat's true. There are women who wish to have her life, there are women who wish to pursue careers. That's just common sense. She only stated that she happens to be the former kind. That's good. Playing and tending to one's kids is also very admirable.
She’s absolutely correct. The most “equitarian” societies on the planet (the countries that have, through state policies, done the most to equalize men and women) have only seen an INCREASE in the disparities between men and women in career choices. When men and women are given complete freedom in their choices of career paths, the differences become greater, not smaller. Women overwhelmingly choose career paths that are people oriented (like nursing) whereas men overwhelmingly choose careers that are object oriented (like engineering).
My mother was a CEO. She was on the clock 24 hours a day. Call came up, she had to answer, had to leave while we were having dinner? She left. She's now retired and one of her biggest regrets in her entire life is having missed my childhood. She told me she wishes she could have gone to my plays, cooked some meals, been there when I got home from school. She never did any of those, she was always working. She was hella rich, sure but I was raised by my nanny pretty much.
You are so right. In addition, there are women like myself...highly logical and analytical (62, Sr. Software Engineer), yet I am also personable with great communication skills. I am not emotional when it comes to business. I had many opportunities to move up in management. I did so for awhile, but because I wanted then had kids stepped down, then declined thereafter. Funny thing is, I never regretted it. I love what I do, I make good money working from home (which I've done so since 1999). I did not make these choices due to pressure from husband, family, or friends. Women have choices, they need to stop listening to others and look deep within themselves...do what is right for them!
My aunt was an extremely succesfull woman. She had a lead higher management position for multiple countries leading the facility managers there at a big oil company. She was never home. Always traveling and in conferences. Living out of hotel rooms. When she was at home once a week she would order takeout or go out to eat. Her kitchen never got used. After her fridge broke she didn't replace it since it was always empty anyway. She lived for her job. No kids, no husband. Completely devoted to her job. Once she was forced into early retirement she didn't know what to do with her time. Since she was quite literally alone. No real friends, no family, nothing. That's what it takes to be successful. And she was far from a CEO. Had a nice house though. Drove a big company car. Could buy nice things. It's a choice.
They are implying that there is a male powerful oppressive force that doesn't let women into leadership roles, when in fact there are a lot of women who are in leadership roles all over the world and their competence and desire is why they were able to achieve that.
It's not even for most men. I saw one guy talk about how his life was divided into 15 minute time blocks for everything. Which in itself was exhausting but then he wanted to spend time with his kid and his assistant told him that the next available 15minute time block was 2months out. He put in his resignation right there because he couldn't do it anymore. It's a VERY hard lifestyle that is for a minute group of people who are willing to sacrifice everything for it. Most men don't even want to give up their family for it let alone women
„Men are … Women are …“ Talking about high stakes careers: Some men are highly competitive, highly analytical, … to a degree that will make them throw all the possibilities of a fulfilling life away and sacrifice it for extreme success. Who in his right mind would want that, Dr. Peterson once asked. There is just fewer women who would fall into this trap.
My opinion may be unpopular but I feel there's been a conditioning since the beginning of time that men and women have experienced. Men (in general) have been taught, wired if you will, through the ages that they need to lead. Its in the media, in families, in history. Women have been and still are taught to nurture and be directed. The whole world is pretty much set up to support that angle. Think of it this way: Which race is predominantly most successful financially in America with generational wealth of ancestors and a system built for them?.... Its not that minorities aren't able or "don't have the desire" to be financially set and prosper. It's that environmental factors over the CENTURIES have made it very difficult for them to achieve the same kind of results. When the system isn't built for you...well, yeah you just go with the role that's been programmed into you and your ancestors. That's my take on it.
You think running the home and taking the main parent role isn't a leadership role? Seriously? Another aspect? Men get their sense of self through work as, to a certain extent, it's most of what defines them. Women have so much more to who they are.
It's so true like see from ancient times why men has been more powerful leaders or richest and its not like a women can't lead or be rich we have seen but it's the difference that makes both genders different but together they can be undefeated as a right women with a right men works towards better only
It's worst than that. The men are often motivated to do that to impress and provide for the women in their life. When the relationship fails the bitterness of the effort compounds because the gift of it becomes an obligation. It's about the most demoralising thing you can do.
The point is that companies that produce stuff for women are often owned by women. Even in the Victorian era, women's stuff sold a lot and the womens in charge became super rich because of it. It's not about society anymore, is just that not everyone want the same kind of responsability and it's fine
I think it's important to add in these types of discussions that there is absolutely nothing wrong with the tendency of women to make these different life balance choices. It is in no way a failing, nor is it a given that the 80 hr a week CEO is happier.
I understand why women would want to see other women succeed in these central leadership roles, but like Amala said, they are time consuming jobs which require so much attention and in all honesty, we all know that for the most part the content of the jobs aren’t very appealing to women. I’ve become interested in politics just in the last 6+ months. Any time before then I would have looked at anyone sideways if they tried to talk politics with me. It had nothing to do with the kind of career paths that interested me and I’ve always known how demanding a job like a politician would be. Even now understanding the world to a higher extent, i do not want to be a “girl boss” ceo and neither do majority of the women I do know. Saying that we need more women in Parliament and those kinds of jobs is a lie. People who hold passion for these kinds of works are the ones who should be there based off of skill and work ethic, not merit due to their race, gender or identity. Having a woman suddenly as Prime Minister or President will not change anything ‘dramatically’ (and I say it like this because it may very well inspire some) . At the end of the day your gender has nothing to do with what you bring to the table as an individual and that’s how it should be. We focus so much on watching the stats for women and men in the work place but it’s time to accept that at least for now, these kinds of jobs aren’t appealing to this current audience.
"Man of the house," it's a saying because men are meant to be the leaders. They generally do more rational thinking than women do. Women are more emotional thinkers, and that fogs up rational thinking for us.
80 hour weeks are also an aftereffect of narcistic behaviour... Today there are a lot "leaders" saying: I have to be there! Only I can lift it! I have to go to 150 meetings a day look how important I am!But they are totally unable to go out into the facility line looking where things need to be optimized and improved.
Anyone ever notice Ross (a victim of cheating) cheats a lot. He cheated on Julie with Rachel, he cheated on Rachel with Copy place girl, cheated on Bonnie with Rachel and than emotionally cheated on Emily with Rachel? Why isn't he in therapy?
You need to work 60+ hours a week to make it to the top. Once you’re at the top you’re basically just delegating, attending meetings and signing off on things. Obviously stressful because you essentially never take time off, and because there are so many incompetent employees in this world hiring the wrong people will be any CEO’s downfall.
In a non-Muslim country in Asia, women had a high degree of leadership in business, some or few even held CEO positions but tend to lean towards family by which is more important than top positions in a company giving more time to be home when she is needed in the home.....
The only thing is that decisions and judgements on an individual should not be influenced by their gender. Because there are exceptions in both occasions. Yes, these are all true facts, but should there be a woman that is capable of being a good leader, she should not be inhibited simply because she is a woman. She should be allowed to prove herself on the same level a man would.
A little history lesson. Queen Elizabeth the first, she is a ruler a queen she still ask her generals and courtiers for helping her make the rational decisions. Also to add as well. Around her time as Queen many Rulers from other countries wanted to marry her with of course ulterior motives of being a part as king in her country. The best course of action is not marrying any of the Kings from other countries due to them being jealous or join forces to conquer her and whom she marry. With she great decision she was able to be alliances with these countries and kept peace.
Very true. My older sister and younger sister are perfect examples of this. My older sister is highly educated, well traveled, unmarried without children and works very hard, becoming a department director at a HBU. My younger sister has continued to further her education but did so to supplement her husband's income once he left the military but split that between being a mother of the boys, now grown men. Interestingly, my older sister assumed many of the parental duty of my youngest nephew who greatly resembles her. Her saying he is the closest to having a child of her own.
Even for those of us who are highly logical and competitive women, and career driven, it seems like we are not driven by status as much as men are (I want to bring good ideas and do the best work, rather than being specifically at the top of a hierarchy), at least in the workforce. I like working on my engineering projects, but I (like many women) crave a balance in life, between work and hobbies and friends/loved ones. I do like how this is one of the only channels I have seen that recognizes diversity in women while still talking about sex differences on average. It seems like most channels talk about these average sex differences as if they are absolute, for everyone, and they extrapolate that to what all men or all women should do. And then there’s the opposite extreme, where they say sex differences don’t even exist (obviously also BS).
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Men and women are wired differently..it’s just a fact.
Lmao right. Like why is this simple fact a source of contention nowadays
It's something western feminists don't get!
Totally agree, jigsaw pièces that fit together in life perfectly if allowed
Yup. Plenty of guys go decades without crying and we are perfectly fine. I don't know of many gals like that. We are definitely not the same.
as simple as that
Most men don't even want to do those demanding careers. It takes a very special breed to go to those extremes
In this generation yes men are very weak in that sense which I don’t mind I want to be a doctor but yeah when we talk about men not being as ambitious is mostly because society has made men more weak and have a choice to not work as hard
Ngl I think most men and women want to be farmers and have fun less stressful jobs but alas having a society has forced us into things we don't like and you can't do anything about it otherwise you'll drown.
@@geosamarymarquez8671 doesn't mean they're weak. I mean what's the deal with earning all the money to provide for a family you never actually see and that you'll get so estranged from that it endangers said family and the bonds that should exist between a man to his wife and children. Women need husband's, children need father's, not overworked ATMs that gain status by providing as husband and father but not actually being one. I'd be very lonesome in such a relationship, and I'd have been unwell with a father like that. The only couples I've ever seen where this workaholic mentality worked out were married to an equally successful woman. They either had no children or some that were raised by others, totally estranged. It worked for the adults involved but not the children.
@Ivy Love of course it's stressful but tbh I'd rather be a farmer than having to talk to idiots all day and work in a dysfunctional office job.
@@Jane-ow7sr and if that office job consists of developers?
(Not all offices contain idiots. I’m not a software developer, but I’m just giving an analogy)
Thank God I'm from asia 😭
What even is a cis women
Well, a cyst is a bad thing in a less bad thing, and a woman, is like a bad thing, and bad things get removed. 😊
@@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395 cis in Latin means cutting and killing. In word scissors there is cis and in many other words
@@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395 what? Your math ain't mathing for me...
A cis(gendered) woman is someone that was born as and identify as a woman, in terms of their gender identity.
What part of Asia? I mean when sexual equality is not really a thing you literally are commanding social roles based on sex. I'd rather not be positive what my co workers genitals look line.
And its not even "men" in general.
Its the tiniest minority, willing and able to do all that.
Yet the point still stands it’s still men overwhelmingly doing those jobs.
@@jharrissvbecause of men's drive and ability to perform well due to physical and mental disposition that very few women have.
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It’s called hard work and sacrifice. And from what I know, men don’t benefit from affirmative action and special handouts like women do.
I admire her❤ You can see she has improved in her speech and confidence 👏
I agree. I don’t always agree what she says but she used to talk with a question mark at the end of all her sentences. Now she says everything with a.period with more of a defining tone.
@@abskndkdk6888 👏
I agree. I've been a fan of Amala since she was just Will Witt's sidekick on Prager and she's gotten SO much better as a debater and a podcaster especially. She worked at it and got better it's beautiful to see
For sure! Even more, I'm loving that she seems to be making her rounds. I'm seeing her everywhere and I'm all for it!
I was just thinking the same, she's is brilliant at getting her point across
Btw a lot of those highly ambitious men that attain those high status positions suffer greatly at th cost of their family. Which sometimes results in marital affairs, children having resentment, or health related issues due to stress.
Exactly! Why should men be working 80 hour weeks and missing their families? Maybe the problem is the demand of an insane schedule. We don’t actually have to structure society like that… everyone deserves time with people they love.
Very very true
Men are going to have affairs regardless of being successful, if it’s their desire they’re going to do it. Even financially unstable men find a way to “cheat” but honestly infidelity shouldn’t be involved in topics like these. That’s leaning towards more of a personal issue or communication problem within the family & relationship dynamic of a couple. There are too many factors that contribute to infidelity in relationships/marriages.
@jla3729 your comment is interesting since when I wrote I meant affairs as in women committing them due to lack of attention from husband.
@@lovelover4408 It's not that they are required, they just tend to specially for men or women that's on the higher ups. They just can't help it.
Well said. It ain't about better or worse! Just different goals and aspirations.
Exactly!!
Well put!
Completely agree, but you'll get called a pick me for stating that opinion
Well, just don't give their opinion a time of the day, and that solves the problem of "pick me" issue. If they insist, you can just go "well, at least I'll be picked, and you'll live with 40 cats"
A pick me is a term made by radical feminists to shame you into not following your heart for their political agenda. Dont buy their bullshit, we need real women not emasculated women. What is wrong with wanting to be picked for marriage? The fact that they want to shame that is a disgrace
Pick-me girls get picked. Never forget that.
Truth is what’s important
@@arphod Pick me guys get picked. Never forget that
She’s speaking nothing but facts. It’s not that women are INCAPABLE of doing these things; it’s that they generally don’t even possess the desire for them. And of course, without the desire, there is no drive, and without the drive, you can’t hope for these types of positions.
They are incapable. A small percentage of women actually are capable and don't crumble under stress, but a large percentage of them do crumble. They can't handle all that politics, power game and constant pulling that comes in the way to reach the top.
@@ThankYouGoogle4 can you quote some research or statistics? Because I have come across some very strong women and some men who completely broke down under stress.
@@sameenshahid7457 there is no proof of what he said, he’s speaking from his behind
I appreciate you saying this. Good explanation, people tend to not understand this.
@@ThankYouGoogle4 agreed
She’s completely right. I would just like to add that it’s only a small minority of men that have that type of attitude and desire to work 80 hours a week and only commit to their job and nothing else
The thing is, women are just as good of leaders as men. All my best bosses have been female. But if women aren’t able to both have a career and a family, women will choose family over work a lot of the time. If we as a society want women in positions of power, we need to support female leaders, and honestly we need a different work environment. Men shouldn’t have to be working 80 hour weeks and missing every family event either! We can re-structure those demanding jobs so that people can both be leaders and have time with their families. Then we get the benefit of good leaders of both sexes, and those leaders get to enjoy happier lives. Why are we acting like an 80 hour week is INEVITABLE and unavoidable? It isn’t
Sadly with success and breaththroughs, that's not how things work. Plus, men don't build all these things for themselves. Most of what men build is for women and the children as well. It will never be equal as again you missed the point. Many women don't desire those things. Scandinavia is literally proving that.
Sounds nice but realistically the men and women that aspire to be CEO s are wired to go get those kinds of situations. Your assertion is based on the mentality that people are happier if they work less, but these CEO types will probably disagree. There are people who love their work and I’ve met them. We can’t assume that family is the one thing that makes everyone happy. Nor can we assume that working less makes everyone happy. That’s why C suite jobs are rare and are given to only those that have the type of value system to get to that position.
Agree, plus there was the lie that you could “have it all“. No, not for most. The women who do appear to have it all simply don’t raise their own children and hire a bunch of people to cook, assist, ect. They might appear to “have it all”, and it should be re-named as “outsourced it all”, more “multi-life management”. IMHO, you would be a slave to your own ambitions. No quality time with the most important parts. Completely inauthentic.
Its not just about a family or a career though because the woman doesnt need to have a family for the argument to work. Its quite literally women on average not having the biology to sustain high pressure, high intensity, very demanding jobs.
The reason why leaders(men) are compensated well is because only few of them can do it WITH less cost. That means less pampering.
It is absolutely unrealistic to restructure those things in an al ready established society.
tl:dr
“women are just as good of leaders as men”
They are not on average if put in the same circumstance.🤷♂️
It's a crime how much jubilee edited out a lot of Amala's responses to the discussion in the video. I watched because I genuinely wanted to hear her speak, can't spell jubilee without an "L"
You can’t spell Amala without an L either…
@@dotenks Lol you thought you ate with that one. Amala actually welcomes guests with differing views on her show and voice their perspectives. Jubilee nearly had Aba and Preach's youtube channel removed recently for their views despite claiming to pursue "common ground". My point still stands.
How many male politicians have TRULY happy marriages? I'm not talking about the phoney posturing, but genuinely harmonious ones, without infidelity or divorce. DAMN FEW I'LL WAGER.
The Cl1nt0ns.....
r/sarcsm....
Yes and no. There are definitely biological and psychological factors at play; however, social gender roles cannot be ignored. At least in my experience. I’m Asian, and although my parents and teachers are all highly educated, as I was growing up, I was often being preached about “I’m a girl, I shouldn’t be so competitive”, “it’s more important to marry well than to have a great career”, “you will eventually have to balance between work and having kids, and since men just can’t take care of children that well, you should do it”. I’ve been hearing that shit since middle school, and it’s hard to shrug its influence off.
Those things are true. Speaking from a male pov- We are repelled by competitive and combative women. No attraction happens towards them.
Female boss here: One of my biggest challenges is the expectation to be maternal and coddling by other women or female employees. The men are fine. My only issue with men is I have to repeat myself three times typically lol but overall women are 100% more difficult to work with. A lot (not all) seek direction or aren't as driven which is fine and ingrained in a lot of women but I take initiative and do push forward whereas a lot don't. They also poison the well with shit talking around a space whereas men have these extremely supportive roles with each other and collaborate so well for the greater cause of a company. I've seen it with other women at my own company but it's rare. Most just want to clock in, get a raise and seek you out as a mommy not a boss. Sorry, but it's the truth. These days I've preserved myself by going solo sans team and way happier.
I'm a woman and have worked in a professional staff setting where 75% are female. The men's behaviours are not that different, I fact a few men needed coddling and women worked together.
Btw the department director is also a woman.
I guess it depends which types of jobs you have. I’m an er nurse and the females aren’t coddling or maternal-we get the job done fast because we have to. Maybe because ers are made up of over 80% females, the idea that you get special treatment from male and female employees is nonexistent. The males, however, are coddling and sweet, and usually take longer to get the same task done. The doctors won’t mess with the female nurses because they know we don’t take crap from them or the patients.
I wonder tho, some things could be cutural (?, like those women shit-talking. More than a gender thing, seems like a cultural thing, idk.
Many feminists always talk about how they want status (but clearly without the work and effort required). I have heard women on shows complain about long hours at work as a high positon, and it's like... Um, yeah. That's the tradeoff. You can't just have the status without the sacrifice.
@@nothingreallyrhymeswithora9377 they actually did studies on why women don’t succeed/like their jobs that require long hours, specially with parents. Many studies and surveys have shown that although men will make the same (or even less) than their female counterparts, they will do only 20% of the housework and childcare. People always say, “70% of women file for divorce” but then refuse to see the other side that those females filing for divorce are expected to do more housework even though they do the same amount of job hours. I love my job and I’m now a nurse practitioner, but I also don’t have kids and don’t want kids. The er nurses I work with that are married with kids have more “passive” husbands that are able to (and want to) help around the house while their wives work 12+ hour shifts. Of COURSE there are people (female and male) that will complain about a long day of work, but it really depends on the entire situation.
I climbed the corporate ladder. When my baby girl clung to her babysitter and rejected me, this momma bear tapped out. I had my babies to raise them. As important as it is that we let men know it's ok to be masculine, we need to let our daughters know that it's ok to choose family over career. We are pushed to go to college to get the best career we can get, but what if being a homemaker is where our heart is? I don't want to gain the whole world and lose my soul.
Good for you thank goodness you took a step into prioritizing your family, hope everything works out 🙏🏼
< As important as it is that we let men know it's ok to be masculine,>
.....have u watch Xena tv series? Or Princess and the Frog?
No, I dont like Underworld.
Know about Bayonetta? Lara Croft? Mulan (the cartoon)
Those are badass n kickass Female character thats still feminine....
We can sit here and argue back and forth about how men and women have set personalities that make them feminine or masculine but the truth is and always will be that every single day you encounter men who behave in a stereotypical “feminine way” and women who behave in a stereotypical “masculine” way. Personality does NOT have a gender. Let’s stop teaching kids especially that they have to behave a certain way because of their gender because I think that this sort of thinking that this woman describes is the cause of this whole trans trend. Instead of telling women and men that they can be masculine and feminine, we tell them they have to be masculine to be a man and if a man is not then he gets told that maybe he was “born with the wrong gender”. This sort of thinking that this woman describes is very toxic.
Totally agree. Glad someone articulated it
Most Men behave in a Masculine way and most women behave in a feminine way.
Leadership has no sex.
Leadership all comes down to the mind and his/her ability to lead and guide his/her people
Men's minds are more suited to leadership roles. Just a fact.
Men have always made better leaders. Reason? Any matriarchal society that every existed for a short period of time has been conquered and decimated by patriarchal forces. 🎉
The only sensible comment here
It is literally proven that testosterone makes people more competitive, so she's 1000% right
There’s no evidence of this.
Evidence? Source?
@@rpedits4507 u can look it up xx
We need more women in politics. Men are obsessed with holding power while women care about wellbeing. Women don't start wars. Peace is what our world needs.
Facts on fact
Amala is nuanced and I appreciate that.
By nuanced do you mean making excuses while talking out of her a**? If so, I agree. She's listing opinion that there is literally contrary evidence to. This is why you never see Amala sight a source outside of the daily mail tabloids.
The real feminist is full of nuances. And not fool :)
Nah. She just parrots basic right-wing talking points.
I don’t think women are biologically less likely to take leadership roles, I think women are socially influenced more to take on nurturing caring roles. It’s an important distinction as some people can interpret this message to mean women are biologically programmed to not be leaders which just isn’t true. Women can be leaders but they have to sacrifice family to do it whilst men can be leaders without worrying about that because women have been taught to take on those roles for them.
actually it is scientifically proven that women do how the tendencies to be more nurturing. my parents (mostly my dad) actually try to get me to do the “80-hour work-week” thing and i’d honestly rather have a family. i still want to work, just not that much, because i want time for family. and i’ve never really been affected by what society says. but this is just my personal experience and opinion
@@mad_m4x675 I think it’s just your preference on what you want to do with your life. My female friends had a different experience in which their family pressured them to get married early but they wanted more options in life other than just starting a family.
Respectfully, this way of thinking is incorrect. In countries where women are socially influenced and steered toward STEM fields, they have found that the majority of women continue to choose careers that are have more relational capacity or no career at all and have a family. Biologically, and generally, women make different choices then men and that’s okay. Both are wonderful.
@@dayspringreeves5636 I think she’s talking more of generally rather than the STEM field only. It’s true that social norms do affect women’s stance on taking higher position roles. In East Asia parents generally pressure their daughters to marry early rather than find a job or else they’ll be what society calls them the “leftovers”. This typically means that even if you do have a good career, if you’re over 29 and not married you’ll be very stereotyped against. The irony of that is women now in East Asia do not want to get married (as well as men) and these include the rapidly growing Japan and South Korea.
@@veroniyu2807 yeah that makes sense, i agree
Those men are able to do that because they have a woman taking care of their household needs. Women are inclined to take care of household needs because historically they were not allowed to work and career growth is a new and unknown area for them.
P.S: I need RUclips to stop this lady’s rants on my feed.
i personally like her content though i do agree that social norms play a huge role in woman not having more leadership roles as i am personally a feminsit. i dont agree with all things she says as well though if you dont want to see her anymore simply press the dont reccomend channel button
I think this is less of an inherent thing and more of a social influence thing. Women are influenced by their surroundings to be more kind/nurturing/feminine from a young age, but this doesn’t mean it’s something that’s completely natural (not influenced by society.) You’ll see female leaders in nature a lot (lions for example.) I think many women are very capable of being leaders, but are pushed away from the idea because the concept is not “womanly” or “feminine” enough.
Oh and women aren’t completely biologically different from men? Testosterone in high levels in men compared to estrogen in women produces completely different characteristics. And they were meant to. Men and women aren’t the same and will never be. Women want to be men.
Amd lionesses are not the leaders lol. The “Lion KING”. Btw one male lion will have a harem of lionesses following him and mating with him. Plus I’m the pride the male conquers territory and protects his women and children. The best possible example you could have given to represent true human male females dynamic.
@@shawnjames1107 Completely untrue (Plus I love how the only source you cited was a Disney movie, LOL) Lionesses are the primary hunters/leaders of the pride, while the males are simply responsible for protecting the territory. Not to mention the lion example was one small part of what I said. Don’t know how this undermines my point about women being capable leaders.
I completely agree. I think she should’ve not used the term "biologically". There is no biological basis for differentiating the personalities or tendencies of men and women.
@@bk4480 yes there absolutely is biological basis for the personality trait differences between men and women. There are so many social science studies proving this going back decades. By majority men and women are different and the hormonal biological differences between men women is what is the cause this should be common sense and used to be. That is until women started wanting to be men and by emotions tryin to manufacture their own reality
I have worked 50-70 hours a week for years in a leadership position. I also have 2 boys that I love and care for- it just depends on your family dynamics. For example, my husband works from home and is more than happy to care for our kiddos during the day, while I work about 50 hours at the actual company, I work the remainder at home after the kid's homework, dinner, Bible reading, and bedtime routine. It works for us, but may not be for everyone.
Exactly, these conversions are predicated on sweeping generalizations. People forget that this is a matter of personal choice and lifestyle, that many do what works for them even if it happens to somewhat deviate from the norm.
It’s like you didn’t listen to what she said at all.
@@michael13419 How do you figure that?
@@michael13419 I don't understand what you mean in relationship to the conversation above it all
@@dragonsandscotch looks like I replied to the wrong comment. Please disregard my original reply.
When I was sham I got so much backlash telling me I wasn't independent woman when in fact I was super independent. The feminist movement has got so bad 😞
Can you explain more in depth? 🙁
@@lavieentoni7654 because I didn't go to work and my ex husband paid for my expenses I was declared not independent plus at the time didn't have my driver license, but I cooked several meals a day, cleaned, made his lunch, and did so much never asked for help. Now that I work as a mom, I can't take care of my house hardly, cook, and do the things I felt made me independent instead I depend on a job to tell me what to do and etc. I have my driver's license now but it's little stressful driving sometimes cause people can't drive anymore.
@@samanthagibson979 you were literally a dependent. You weren’t an independent woman while your husband worked and supported you. I’m an er nurse and my parents still support me. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with not being an independent person-that’s called being loved and cared for. But no, you weren’t independent. That’s the definition of dependency (but it’s okay!)
@@kruisik agree to disagree on this as I took care of my husband and if I didn't he wouldn't been able to go to work plus I raised the kids as then he would have paid someone for daycare. That's the way the system leads people to believe you depend on a spouse you aren't independent when it's team work 100%. I don't depend on family. I've done everything on my own. I work now and feel less dependent. Modern feminism has spreaded misinformation on independent woman.
@@samanthagibson979 did you get his insurance as a dependent? I’m not arguing that you weren’t a strong woman. It’s very clear you were (and still are). But you relied on him. If you’re struggling without his income, you weren’t independent. And that’s perfectly fine!
Clear thinker, beautiful, and seems to be raised with morals. Someone better snatch her up quick, if she’s not taken already.
Truth. But on the other hand, when talking about different "types of marriage", the importance of the "male figure" in a child's life is constantly mentioned. Why do you cling to that argument if it actually means someone's non-participation in raising a child, the lack of a constructive element in the formation of those who remain after us? 80 hours of work a week destroys the family - that's the real problem! How many such people do you know with successful marriages? Best of all, those 80 hours do NOT have to be done by one person.
THIS
My favorite part and Amala's calmed and level-headed delivery. So on point!
I can’t believe this has to be debated. 10 years ago this was common sense
It became a topic because that lack of drive from women some took it as if women were stupid and that triggered a few, also, it kinda meant that women cannot be leaders in general and again that idea made some angry, people don't like to feel mocked, undervalued or belittled (its happened more to women throughout history than men), some just got tired of feeling like that and well, the approach they took to discuss this issue hasn't been the best though.
Common sense doesn’t exist. 🙈
Men also know that women are typically selecting them for being a provider, which is why they tend to choose occupations that pay more.
Yes!! Finally someone making sense. Just because men and women are different, doesn’t make one better than the other. We have to learn to respect our differences
And it's ironic because women don't start wars. WOMEN organize people, supplies, food, recourses, and protect the children.
Women come together.... While men try to tear each other apart.
Statistically, female leaders start wars more often than men do.
you lack knowlege and dont even know history.
thats false. women start war over any shit. theyr too scared to do it in public. typicly. women are the emotional gender right? they tend to behave more off the emotions? would you like for all world leaders to be woman xD??
That question should be aimed at women. It's got nothing to do with men.
We dont have a problem with statistics. What we have a problem with is men not taking women who are in leadership roles seriously, as if women aren't competent as men.
Depends on how she got that leadership role. Was it by merits or equity/affirmative action. In my 25 years of working, I have yet to be amazed by a female boss. I've seen too many of them make emotional rather than logical decisions that have really messed up the work for everyone.
she's talking as if there are so little women in the workplace who are very career oriented and goal-driven, while in reality to be taken seriously they had to work twice as hard. honestly she isn't qualified to talk about this, they should gather 50 career oriented women with exceptional work ethic and listen how they are treated, espescially in the 1980s vs now, what changed and what still needs to be changed.
Well when you say “we” who are you speaking for. Because there are many many people who believe the brain is totally independent from your sex/ that women and men have the same brain and therefore same average capabilities. It’s detrimental to tell men and women that their interests are just “socially constructed”
@Original Strike 99% of men I have met have been extreamly overly emotional since in general men are more emotional then women but maybe you just had bad luck considering most of the women I know won their place in the office not by a hand out
@@oyleday0195 I don't think interests being "socially constructed" is entirely accurate. Look at the animal kingdom, for example. Many different species take on similar gender roles to humans.
He makes the living and she makes the living worthwhile.
......1 day and only 5 likes.
Ummm wow.
Your comment is the one I, in my basic understanding of the world, should get the most likes.
I have one like for you but I'll dump 1,500 imaginary likes if I was some wizard.
I'm surprised I've never heard that phrase before. That is definitely a quotation to remember.
Instead of complaining every feminist has the opportunity to become CEO or president.
Everything in life has a tradeoff, and many women are not willing to pay the price (to be a female CEO type).
I realized this when I was around 18/19 I was feed the “strong, power woman” be your own boss crap going around at the time and I tried it and it turns out, I don’t like be the main one in charge, I like to be the assistant or help…but not the main show runner. I’m a better support woman than a “boss woman”. If you want to be a boss great do your thing but I know it’s not for me
First 5 years of running my business I worked 70 to 80 hour weeks. I had 3 weekends off in the first 5 years. Once the business for up and running and successful I cut down to 45 hours a week and delegated.
Also a extremely successful woman paid the price by not having a family too. In so many cases these women never able to have family while for men it's not a case. If man only focus on career then he is providing for family but when women focus on career only she is selfish.
Yes exactly 💯 👏
What if you have a husband whose a stay at home man cuz he’s more nuturing?
If a man only focuses on his career he’s missing his family and his family is missing him. Nobody should have to be working 80 hour weeks to be successful. Nobody should have to choose between providing for a family and spending time with them.
@@lovelover4408 no but that is how the world works, and Men are more equipped for it, that's just how it is. Men are built to protect and provide, they are just fulfilling their natural born duties.
@@lavieentoni7654 that is the exception not the rule. And let's be honest even though Women talk about wanting a sensitive, more feminine Man that is just talk, when faced with this they tend to walk all over them because they do not respect them. I am sorry but this is just the way it is.
I'm a woman and prefer male leaders. Not offended.
Never once was this about the lack of skills as females leaders. This was why leaders weren’t always female. Sounds like you have a lot more issues than you want to disclose, and everyone sees through that. You aren’t special, edwina. You’re just a bigot.
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And no one cares about you not caring
@skyhigh696 keep a tab on this comment, all the likes she's gonna get will set a count of people who care 😂.
@@ThankYouGoogle4 hilarious that you think I comment for likes.
No one asked you edwina
The sad thing is that we only value people who are financially successful and disvalue homemakers or low wage workers who work relentless in pursuit of a dream that will never come true.
Men generally don't have to take care of kids. Something or someone will be neglected. You can't do it all well. After nine years old I was so proud of my mom working and being successful.
Lets be honest. Some men are willing to devote their lives to their highly demanding careers. Most of us aren't 😂. Be she is right when she said that more men than women are willing to go down that road.
To a large extent, Men have made it that way though. Women need to figure out how to make compassion profitable.
Maybe our entire culture needs to work on that
My point is that the free market has been shaped for the last 100 years by the competitive nature of men. That's fine, it drives innovation, infrastructure and many other things. That's why women tend to struggle because most are not built like men (to her point). Healthcare is a great example of an industry dominated by women, there's just not an entrepreneurial model that is profitable for the things women tend to prefer.
my favorite kind of video is a group telling those in the topic group what they should be doing. and how to be.
See this sort of thinking is why we have this whole trans thing going on. Personality does not have a gender. You can be a woman that does stereotypically “masculine” things and you are still a woman. Studies show that women and men are emotional, caring beings. This has nothing to do with gender, it’s just human. Everyday you encounter people who do not fit their gender stereotype. Does that mean that they were born with the wrong gender? No, personality does not have a gender.
Women and men are different. We have completely different functions and purposes.
Depending of the context i agree
All I have to say about this subject of successful female leadership is Tulsi Gabbard. She would have been an amazing president.
Yeah she betrayed the working class
Still could be 🤷🏻♀️
I dunno about that though, heck for example I respect Jordan Peterson but I don’t think he’d make a great President. Not everyone that is a good speaker should be president just because they agree with the people or aren’t trying take away rights etc.
She was an Officer in the Army who thankfully I never had to follow in Combat. Her anti 2A stance violates her Oath to support and defend the Constitution of the United States. She is a Chameleon whom Id never trust.
@@gabrieltejada1697 She doesn't need to be amazing. It is alright if she can equal George Bush. He did the job. That's all that would count for her too.
Women have the right to vote, it's up to them to elect female leaders and they haven't chosen to.
People don't seem to get that CEOs are the owners of the company so if you want more female CEOs more females so you can build their own business
I love that women. Bless her
I love listening to Amala. She speaks so well 😍❤
New Zealand's previous prime minister was a woman who did incredible work for NZ. She resigned in January this year.
She was woke and pathetic.
A man’s conviction is a silent deal we make with ourselves that we will move hell and earth for our families. Not everyman thinks like this but is generally the price that comes with leading a house hold. Unfortunately, as I said, most men make this a silent deal. Because we need to be tough and can’t talk about our feelings. Perhaps that mindset should change. For that, wives need to understand the hell men go through, and men need to be reminded why we choose to go through hell. A woman and man who can communicate and compromise for the sake of each other can take on the world. First though both need to acknowledge that in a relationship one is not more important than the other. As soon as you start putting your own suffering on a pedestal you become entitled, and entitlement has no place in a marriage.
FACTS. This is why more men need to be men and teach boys how to be men and women need to be women and teach girls how to be women. Simple as that.
Someone tell that echo to quiet down please. Amala did not ask for an amen.
Miss Ekpunobi, I am a classical liberal who is DELIGHTED to have found you. I can't tell you how refreshing it is to see young folks with genuine wisdom, but you are without a doubt one of those people. Thank you for what you're doing and keep up the incredible work!
This lady is so brave for speaking the truth. Not say woman are not capable of doing the same, but the sacrifices involved of leadership she’s speaking of are straight selfless. That’s why there is many men and women don’t do it.
What's the best is Amala IS highly motivated, educated, and most definitely COULD fit the role of boss babe C.E.O and she's already proving she's got the juice.
But I think even she's getting tired of schooling goofballs and just wants to settle down and raise a family.
God bless her. I've got 6 years on you Love and you've got more going on upstairs in terms of thinking than I do.
Thanks. Don't stop until you get sick of it. Can't wait to see what you do moving forward. It's pretty cool to watch the transformation.
im a woman , a mother and a happily married wife. and i can tell you,theres no job in the world with no money in the world that will make me want to be a working mother. we got pregnant on accident, and not only did it make our relationship stronger and happier than ever, it also made me as a person much better and the freedom i have to do anything i want with my kiddoo is just the best. i do not want to change any of that to stay inside an office of any kind for 8 hours long✌🏾
thats your opinion. so what? not every woman wants your life.
@@TanyaJackson-no2rsThat's true. There are women who wish to have her life, there are women who wish to pursue careers. That's just common sense. She only stated that she happens to be the former kind. That's good. Playing and tending to one's kids is also very admirable.
She’s absolutely correct. The most “equitarian” societies on the planet (the countries that have, through state policies, done the most to equalize men and women) have only seen an INCREASE in the disparities between men and women in career choices. When men and women are given complete freedom in their choices of career paths, the differences become greater, not smaller. Women overwhelmingly choose career paths that are people oriented (like nursing) whereas men overwhelmingly choose careers that are object oriented (like engineering).
She misses the point completely.
My mother was a CEO. She was on the clock 24 hours a day. Call came up, she had to answer, had to leave while we were having dinner? She left. She's now retired and one of her biggest regrets in her entire life is having missed my childhood. She told me she wishes she could have gone to my plays, cooked some meals, been there when I got home from school. She never did any of those, she was always working. She was hella rich, sure but I was raised by my nanny pretty much.
You are so right. In addition, there are women like myself...highly logical and analytical (62, Sr. Software Engineer), yet I am also personable with great communication skills. I am not emotional when it comes to business. I had many opportunities to move up in management. I did so for awhile, but because I wanted then had kids stepped down, then declined thereafter.
Funny thing is, I never regretted it. I love what I do, I make good money working from home (which I've done so since 1999). I did not make these choices due to pressure from husband, family, or friends.
Women have choices, they need to stop listening to others and look deep within themselves...do what is right for them!
But as a man I'm asking WHEN WILL WE GET A DISNEY *PRINCE* WITH A *PERSONALITY???*
Man! This is what I have been thinking all along. I really like how you articulate and you're absolutely right!
My aunt was an extremely succesfull woman. She had a lead higher management position for multiple countries leading the facility managers there at a big oil company. She was never home. Always traveling and in conferences. Living out of hotel rooms. When she was at home once a week she would order takeout or go out to eat. Her kitchen never got used. After her fridge broke she didn't replace it since it was always empty anyway. She lived for her job. No kids, no husband. Completely devoted to her job. Once she was forced into early retirement she didn't know what to do with her time. Since she was quite literally alone. No real friends, no family, nothing. That's what it takes to be successful. And she was far from a CEO. Had a nice house though. Drove a big company car. Could buy nice things. It's a choice.
They are implying that there is a male powerful oppressive force that doesn't let women into leadership roles, when in fact there are a lot of women who are in leadership roles all over the world and their competence and desire is why they were able to achieve that.
It's not even for most men.
I saw one guy talk about how his life was divided into 15 minute time blocks for everything. Which in itself was exhausting but then he wanted to spend time with his kid and his assistant told him that the next available 15minute time block was 2months out. He put in his resignation right there because he couldn't do it anymore.
It's a VERY hard lifestyle that is for a minute group of people who are willing to sacrifice everything for it. Most men don't even want to give up their family for it let alone women
„Men are … Women are …“ Talking about high stakes careers: Some men are highly competitive, highly analytical, … to a degree that will make them throw all the possibilities of a fulfilling life away and sacrifice it for extreme success. Who in his right mind would want that, Dr. Peterson once asked. There is just fewer women who would fall into this trap.
My opinion may be unpopular but I feel there's been a conditioning since the beginning of time that men and women have experienced. Men (in general) have been taught, wired if you will, through the ages that they need to lead. Its in the media, in families, in history. Women have been and still are taught to nurture and be directed. The whole world is pretty much set up to support that angle. Think of it this way: Which race is predominantly most successful financially in America with generational wealth of ancestors and a system built for them?.... Its not that minorities aren't able or "don't have the desire" to be financially set and prosper. It's that environmental factors over the CENTURIES have made it very difficult for them to achieve the same kind of results. When the system isn't built for you...well, yeah you just go with the role that's been programmed into you and your ancestors. That's my take on it.
This woman is the one of the exceptional women she's talking about.
Bless her.
Exactly!! Stand for equal opportunities but equal outcomes
You think running the home and taking the main parent role isn't a leadership role? Seriously?
Another aspect? Men get their sense of self through work as, to a certain extent, it's most of what defines them. Women have so much more to who they are.
We need more women like you who can speak up and spit out logical facts without demeaning the woke people
It's so true like see from ancient times why men has been more powerful leaders or richest and its not like a women can't lead or be rich we have seen but it's the difference that makes both genders different but together they can be undefeated as a right women with a right men works towards better only
It's worst than that. The men are often motivated to do that to impress and provide for the women in their life.
When the relationship fails the bitterness of the effort compounds because the gift of it becomes an obligation.
It's about the most demoralising thing you can do.
The point is that companies that produce stuff for women are often owned by women. Even in the Victorian era, women's stuff sold a lot and the womens in charge became super rich because of it. It's not about society anymore, is just that not everyone want the same kind of responsability and it's fine
I think it's important to add in these types of discussions that there is absolutely nothing wrong with the tendency of women to make these different life balance choices. It is in no way a failing, nor is it a given that the 80 hr a week CEO is happier.
I have been seeing more and more shorts of her around my recommendations, and I'm not disappointed
I understand why women would want to see other women succeed in these central leadership roles, but like Amala said, they are time consuming jobs which require so much attention and in all honesty, we all know that for the most part the content of the jobs aren’t very appealing to women.
I’ve become interested in politics just in the last 6+ months. Any time before then I would have looked at anyone sideways if they tried to talk politics with me. It had nothing to do with the kind of career paths that interested me and I’ve always known how demanding a job like a politician would be. Even now understanding the world to a higher extent, i do not want to be a “girl boss” ceo and neither do majority of the women I do know.
Saying that we need more women in Parliament and those kinds of jobs is a lie. People who hold passion for these kinds of works are the ones who should be there based off of skill and work ethic, not merit due to their race, gender or identity. Having a woman suddenly as Prime Minister or President will not change anything ‘dramatically’ (and I say it like this because it may very well inspire some) . At the end of the day your gender has nothing to do with what you bring to the table as an individual and that’s how it should be. We focus so much on watching the stats for women and men in the work place but it’s time to accept that at least for now, these kinds of jobs aren’t appealing to this current audience.
I do enjoy how articulate you are. Very precise. Be blessed!
"Man of the house," it's a saying because men are meant to be the leaders. They generally do more rational thinking than women do. Women are more emotional thinkers, and that fogs up rational thinking for us.
I have to say I as an older woman am very proud to see young women who have got a good grasp on reality in 2023
Fathers are important too though
80 hour weeks are also an aftereffect of narcistic behaviour... Today there are a lot "leaders" saying: I have to be there! Only I can lift it! I have to go to 150 meetings a day look how important I am!But they are totally unable to go out into the facility line looking where things need to be optimized and improved.
Anyone ever notice Ross (a victim of cheating) cheats a lot. He cheated on Julie with Rachel, he cheated on Rachel with Copy place girl, cheated on Bonnie with Rachel and than emotionally cheated on Emily with Rachel? Why isn't he in therapy?
I was in Girl Scouts, and it was always: “be a leader!” And we were just supposed to accept that. Like that’s just not for me.
You need to work 60+ hours a week to make it to the top. Once you’re at the top you’re basically just delegating, attending meetings and signing off on things. Obviously stressful because you essentially never take time off, and because there are so many incompetent employees in this world hiring the wrong people will be any CEO’s downfall.
In a non-Muslim country in Asia, women had a high degree of leadership in business, some or few even held CEO positions but tend to lean towards family by which is more important than top positions in a company giving more time to be home when she is needed in the home.....
The only thing is that decisions and judgements on an individual should not be influenced by their gender. Because there are exceptions in both occasions. Yes, these are all true facts, but should there be a woman that is capable of being a good leader, she should not be inhibited simply because she is a woman. She should be allowed to prove herself on the same level a man would.
A little history lesson. Queen Elizabeth the first, she is a ruler a queen she still ask her generals and courtiers for helping her make the rational decisions. Also to add as well. Around her time as Queen many Rulers from other countries wanted to marry her with of course ulterior motives of being a part as king in her country. The best course of action is not marrying any of the Kings from other countries due to them being jealous or join forces to conquer her and whom she marry. With she great decision she was able to be alliances with these countries and kept peace.
Very true. My older sister and younger sister are perfect examples of this. My older sister is highly educated, well traveled, unmarried without children and works very hard, becoming a department director at a HBU. My younger sister has continued to further her education but did so to supplement her husband's income once he left the military but split that between being a mother of the boys, now grown men.
Interestingly, my older sister assumed many of the parental duty of my youngest nephew who greatly resembles her. Her saying he is the closest to having a child of her own.
I just started watching your videos, and Thank you for Your absolute honesty, and seeing everything the way it truly is!! ❤
Even for those of us who are highly logical and competitive women, and career driven, it seems like we are not driven by status as much as men are (I want to bring good ideas and do the best work, rather than being specifically at the top of a hierarchy), at least in the workforce. I like working on my engineering projects, but I (like many women) crave a balance in life, between work and hobbies and friends/loved ones.
I do like how this is one of the only channels I have seen that recognizes diversity in women while still talking about sex differences on average. It seems like most channels talk about these average sex differences as if they are absolute, for everyone, and they extrapolate that to what all men or all women should do. And then there’s the opposite extreme, where they say sex differences don’t even exist (obviously also BS).
if I saw you in public I may ask for a hug, I don’t even need a picture. This world has enough phone addicted people. But I like to think that your videos don’t count. I watch them for a few reasons. I don’t want to make you read a whole book, but basically, I watch your videos for entertainment, for a wake up, call, and to learn. Your videos are so inspiring in your messages, and topics are so powerful, and the topics that we need to focus on more in the real world. The topics that aren’t commonly talked about and if we ignore the fact that there are problems out there, there will never be any change. And I believe that you were going to be the reason for a lot of change in the world in the future. You change everyone’s life that you encounter. Your positive messages have made an amazing impact in my life. I can’t thank you enough. I really hope you get to see this message. I will copy it and try to get you to see it. But this is my original message. So thank you for everything. You make living in such a corrupt world almost bearable. 💗lots of love
People need to understand its all CHOICE! feminism was meant to give women their CHOICE!!
Very well said! It's not discrimination. It's a choice!