How To Manage Disrespect in your Classroom
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- Опубликовано: 19 сен 2019
- Classroom Management | How to Manage Disrespectful Student Behaviors
Are you tired of facing disrespectful behaviors in your classroom?
Today’s video is all about managing disrespectful student behaviors. If you are looking for tips and strategies on how to prevent, reduce and stop disrespectful behaviors, make sure that you watch this video!!
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By far the hardest part of being a teacher
I am a middle school student and I behave very well. But the only problem is that my classmates misbehave a lot and I am the only one in my classes that actually behaves. My teachers should see this so the kids can behave
As teachers we feel for you and are even more frustrated that we can’t teach content because we are managing behavior. I hope you’re doing better.
As a middle school teacher let me say, there is only so much we can do. 90% of middle school students nowadays are a@@holes with no discipline at home. It’s not gonna get any better
All starts in the home. Good and bad parenting echoes in the classroom
agree
So true.
Definitely not for wveryobe
It's not true at all
@@sunshinesunshine5885 it literally is though. Everything starts from home. Why else are they acting out. Yes there are.other factors but mainly from home due to lack of good parenting.
I would like to add that a teacher can do all this, but if he/she is not getting support and backup in his/her decisions from the school principal or grade-level dean, then that teacher's authority is undermined and he/she is wasting their time and effort with those students. Administrators should, at the very least, follow the School Code of Conduct when it comes to student discipline.
As our culture in the United States continues to get coarser, it seems that many students really don’t understand what kind of behavior is disrespectful. As a guest teacher I’ve suggested to more than one school counselor that they do lessons on respect to a substitute. I’m still waiting for someone to take me up on it.
Same boat, substitute here and it's gotten bad. REALLY BAD!
I agree and there needs to be follow-up for when students demonstrate sub-respect and when they don't.
Bro,just write the lesson yourself and put it out there, RUclips,suggest it to your colleagues,propose it to the headmaster if you're feeling brave
There will be like minded teachers like you who desperately need that kind of lesson to teach to their kids
It is a shame that no one cares and prior to me becoming a Teacher I was a sub. Nothing works these days and it is sad that Administration and Parents do not support or reinforce the discipline policies. It is so out of hand.
From my observation, the schools just don't have the manpower to do the many, many things that need to be done. What do you think, educators (Teachers and Subs), about bringing in to the classroom family members? To read to kiddos, help with assignments, watch the students line up for lunch or recess, take to restroom? Teacher would still be there, but this might be a source of support --
I like the tip to say, "What's another way of saying that without sounding rude?" I'm going to remember and use that one! :-)
I really appreciate that you recognize that these behaviors are allowed in the other parts of the students' lives. I think it helps a lot to remember they might just not be used to anyone taking offense to something like excessive foul language.
Wish I had looked this up sooner in my first year as a teacher.
I am a first year teacher and I struggle so much with disciplining attention seeking behavior because I always want to answer all of their questions and listen to all of their explanations. I also have a hard time disciplining task avoidance through them arguing about the task being “too hard” even after reassuring them they can do it
Create boundaries around how and when you respond to questions. You can answer a certain amount in the moment or use a timer, then have the students submit additional questions in a different way (i.e. question and answer box, on the white board, on a post on their desk) that you can review later in the day or at a review. It starts with you.
A great way to address task avoidance is to break the task into smaller tasks for the student. That way they focus only on the small task instead of the finish line. Also focus on building their confidence over time. Allow the build a visual track record of their successes for example, every time the succeed, they can color in a chart on a graph or write the accomplishment on an index card then they will have a stack of successes they can view when afraid to start new. Put index cards on a ring for easy review.
God bless you teachers 💓 Thanks for all you do.
How is this year going for you now?
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Thank you for the great tips! I am a substitute teacher and though 95% of the time I don’t have issues. I still like to learn techniques to handle behavioral issues because it does occur once in a while and the better equipped I am the more likely I will substitute again for a teacher that may have students with behavioral or special needs. Whereas my first instinct is to not sub for a challenging class again. I have a lot of patience and am educated though my degree is in HR not teaching. Thank you again, my goal is to continue learning about child/youth behavior.
Thank you for giving examples like the go to responses!
One video is not enough! This was great, however, we need more tips because my class has many many issues! Thanks
I'm a sub and have problems with students having cell phones in classrooms. You mention the fact of teachers mentioning their expectations during the beginning of the school year, I agree! But things are different for substitute teachers. They mostly get to see know the students for an hour then may never see the students again. So the full time teachers have a rapport with the students and the sub doesn't.. So kids today (2024) are different from when I last subbed in 2020. They (some) are very rude in class both males and female students alike!!! I'm teaching in grades 6-12 and in different venues of the local counties. I mostly have problems with the (🤬) cell phones and with extra unwanted talking in class. I politely request many time for them to stop but they are very disrespectful in today's world. I'm quickly getting burned out and I have only subbed for a few weeks. One school I was at, when I called down to the office asking for assistance to get the middle schoolers to quiet down, no one ever showed up, so, I'm no longer choosing to work there anymore. Please make a video with substitute teaching trainings that deal with 6th - 12th grade students! No, baby stuff like, "Ok little Johnny, we don't do that in this classroom, please go back to your seat and do your work.". I mean to have a full blown out (RESPECTFUL) arsenal to get the younger ADULTS to think about their choices better. Can you do this? I will be looking out on your channel for some help! (Cell phones and talking issues)!!! Thanks! P.S. To all teachers, parapros and subs out there...a great teacher movie to watch is, "SCHOOL OF LIFE" with Ryan Reynolds in it!!! Good Luck everyone, and Happy Teaching!!!
Hi @prof.5251 - Not gonna lie, effective classroom management strategies for substitutes in secondary is a tough order. But you are not the first one to request this. Let me see what I can do, but real talk it probably won't come out til summer.
Your video have a lot of helpful for me! I am not a teacher but a substitute educator for lunch hours. I have such minimal training (in fact the six hours) that I have lost all respect and authority. I fall short on doing like the teacher who screams, is so autoritative and if not answered they just sent to the principal. Today I talk to the social worker who had to replace in that classroom and she thought it was hell and was about to send student she grab forcefully to the principal yelling a top of her lungs fonctionning with menaces all the way. I have screamed on my first day because most of the students were just running all over the place like in a jungle because the last two subs have quit seeing that class was so difficult. I see alot of tips for class managements for a few hours in a day for sub teachers and great for days where I don't send them outside for 30 minutes and have less then 30 minutes to have them eat and ready to go outside. Your videos are the only one's who method can be applied quickly (extremely) and what to look foward rapidely. To help the teacher who I am doing lunch hour for is also VERY yelling at her students and pratically assulted one of them at one point. I can't bring myself to just throw stuff at kids yelling at them. I know it the culture of the hard neiborhoods where I live at but I find it so harsh usually painful for the student who end-ups taking it up on other kids. Thank-you for sharing all your tips!! Your saving me from quitting!
Thanks, Malika for sharing this with me. My passion is to help teachers not just survive. So this means a lot and encourages me to keep sharing. Thank you:)
Thank you for this video! I am a second year teacher, and it's nice to see helpful videos like this ❤️
It's hard... but keep going....one thing is built a strong relationship with the child it helps.
Oh thank You! I have been weeding through so many channels to find ONE who is giving me understandable information : )
Glad it was helpful!
ABC...Antecedent Behavior Consequence.... the model of applied behavior analysis. Excellent
I have had two students this year say the most disrespectful words to me. There are times where I just ignore it because I don’t want to get too triggered and I want to respond in an effective manner that holds them accountable while still maintaining compassion and showing the students dignity.
Thank you for sharing your experiences and your strategies. I love the your grace over grind poster. God Bless you! ❤
Thank you :)
I find this video still useful even though there has been about a year between the first time and the second time I watched your video! I particularly like the specificity of your suggestion to review the expectations of respect after school holidays and your straightforward suggestion to re-teach if you have to.
Glad it helped!
Being a teacher that started with BD kids this was done well.
I like your suggestions. I primarily serve as a college instructor, but I have been substitute teaching (usually at grade levels 2-6) for the past couple of decades. Lately, I've noticed an overall decline in student behavior. It seems students are emulating behavior seen on social media, in public, and even at home. It's very difficult to remain calm when you have a full class of 25+ third graders with some students who are outrageously disrespectful. I recently had a third grader tell me she wanted to bring a gun to school to hurt me, herself, and others. The admins response was less than desirable - they only talked to her for 10 minutes before letting her back into class. This is not okay and I feel the educational system needs to be updated to match this growing problem with such young children acting outrageous and making threats.
I agree. I do not feel like the school system has caught up to what many teachers are facing in the classrooms.
I'm with you on that. I have a 10 year old student who repeatedly threatens to hurt me with knives and hammers and says things to me like "why are you still alive?" Or "you do know, nobody likes you". Thankfully my school don't stand for the behaviour and will exclude permanently if the need arises, but it shouldn't be happening at all. It would have never happened when I was in school.
This is why I want out. I’m tailoring my resume for an academic advisor job. As a college professor, if you have any tips, I’d love them!
You are spot on! Thank you, very informative! I am sharing this with my staff! Keep striving!
Thank you! Will do!
Thanks so much for taking the time to create this video, and especially for all your helpful advice!
Glad it was helpful!
Great short video and straight to the point! Love your ideas! Thank you!
Appreciated the feedback!
God bless you! I'm a new tchr, 5 wks., w no experience, non ed. related degree, temp. certificate, and Eng. is my 2nd. lang. It is challenging to come mid of yr., short staffed schl., and take over 7 gr. kids in pandemic, misbehavior, 122 kids ... I apply ur tips, learn to teach and have strucure/routine to have less misbehavior, tune out, not to be drained.... I read ur replies to comments. Thank u for helping us.
You're welcome. I am so glad to hear my videos are helpful. Thanks for watching!!
Great video! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for this video. I will try to use your tips for my class.
Thank you so much, I've been looking all over for these answers, so well put together and giving out more practical advice that I definitely needed
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you for getting straight to the point, organized presentation with clear examples. I loved the Q and A segment.
Agreed!
Thank you. I’ll be binge watching your videos over next several days.
Awesome. I hope they are helpful.
Your videos are really good. I love the specific examples you give of exactly what to say to a student. Thank you.
Sure, I'll add it to my video list. Look for it this month.
It would be super helpful if you showed an actual demonstration of how you implement your teaching strategies in your classroom. I find it better to watch the classroom management in action to help me model how to do the same.
I learn more through these videos than a PD session!
Thank you for your video it really opened my eyes to learning better practices for disruptive behavior in the classroom and as an elementary school teacher and a male it is very hard
Thanks so much Chris. Be encouraged:)
Amazing video and explanation! Thank you for posting :)
Thank you! I particularly liked your "go-to-responses".
You're welcome!
Thank you!!! I needed to hear this.
Hello, You are so welcome
Great video, thank you!
Thanks well done.
Thanks for the tips!
I'm working on supporting teachers with challenging classrooms and this was such a great, succinct video to be able to share!
Thank you:)
❤ excellent Pr
In the district I work in it’s so stressful. Throughout our school students are just out of control teen boys brutally beat up girls, and girls provoking boys. I’m really close to quitting.
Wow! I feel you and have been where you are. I KNOW it is not easy. What helped me was finding community within the school and out of the school I could lean on, evaluating why I teach and making sure I focus on the positive moments in my day and week. I am rooting for you.
You drop everything and call the police and file charges against the boys beating up the girls. The principal is not a reliable leader and is not enforcing the rules against violence, harassment, and abuse. Parents expect the adults to protect their kids in school and to hold perpetrators responsible. Calling the police sends the message that you will not tolerate abusers and bullies in the school environment and you are standing up to protect the victims.
Thank you@@constanza1379
Great tips! I also believe it starts in the home. Unfortunately, adults have failed to be what children needed them to be. It's been a vicious cycle of broken adults producing broken children who grow up as broken adults and so on... Thank God for people who have the insight to address these issues. Modeling is important. We can't ask children to do what we as adults cannot/do not do: not only is it hypocritical but, without modeling, it's the [proverbial] "do as I say and not as I do" which has not worked in most cases.
Thank you for your insight :)
@@FeedTheirNeeds Thank you, too! May God’s Grace and Mercy keep you going. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
Awesome ❤
Thanks so much for this video. I will be model of respect.
Great! We need more of you :)
Great video!
Thank you !
Very helpful - thank you!!
So glad to hear to it!
Thank you for creating this content!
You're welcome
Great insight. My family is full of teachers, and I will share this with them.
Please do!
Thank you for this video! Great content!
My pleasure!
Thanks a lot!
Wish I knew this back when I came in as a new teacher last semester of last school year for a group of 15 year olds with very disrespectful culture in their classroom...😖 This year I'm taking over a 6th grade class with 10 students, we will practise respect from day one! I can't wait!! 😁😁😁
Glad it was helpful. Come back and let me know how it goes:)
How’s it going for you so far?? I’m a new teacher so I would like to know your update!
Thank you for sharing your expertise. Please do make videos for student supervisors. I can tell that you have a list of great strategies. Thank you once again 🙂
Can you tell me, what are student supervisors?
This is awesomely amazing!
Thank you so much!
Excellent!! Thank you 😊
Glad it was helpful!
good presentation
Thank you!!!
You are so welcome!
This was a great video! Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it!
I've had students ask questions in an attempt to "stump" me in front of the class. I'm pretty sure a few of them were looking stuff up on google during class. It becomes immediately obvious when I try to clarify what the students are asking about, or when I start to answer their question, and they immediately lose interest as soon as they realize I know the answer.
This generation of children are NOT taught to respect adults. They THRIVE and are REWARDED for RUDE and MANIPULATIVE behavior at home, and bring it to the classroom. A teacher’s job should be to teach, not to deal with behaviors all day. So many kids aren’t used to having structure, so teachers have to constantly battle the bad behavior the kids are learning at home.
Have the student research their question and then present the response to the class.
As a former substitute teacher and going back to it I developed what I call emotional triage helping them realize the reason for their behavior and whether they wanted to remain a slave to the reason or become the master over it and no longer have it control them. emotional triage you do what is called the WHY interview you ask yourself (each student) would do this why am I doing this that's of course if they show any interest that have it as a point of discovery learning and enjoyment
David, this sounds similar to my reflection sheet/conversation questions. I ask 4 questions: What happened? Why do you think this happened? What could you have done differently? and How can I help?
Thank you- nice work!
Thank you too!
Thank you!!
You're welcome!
Great information.
Thank you :)
Thank you for this video I feel it is going to help me so so much ❤❤❤❤❤
You're so welcome!
Thankyou so much I will try this with my students who are disrespectful
Please do
Thank you so much for the tips.i will like if possible to see in a video how you handle disrepects in the class room
Thanks for the idea! I will add it to the list. Look for it next month:)
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Lovely and wise tips thanks 🙏 from Australia
Thanks
You’re a gift to the next generation 🙏
Thank you so much!!
I appreciate the perspective and advice. I am wondering what advice you would give for an ingrained culture of disrespect that has occurred over years. I am a 1st year teacher at a school, where there is a culture of disrespect. I have actually practiced the methods you mentioned, but they seem more resistant to consequences and redirection, as time goes on. This is not the disposition of my entire class, but one or two students that impact the whole. Any advice there?
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Hi, sorry about the late late response. I hope you were able to find a solution with those students. But I will say what caught my attention was that you mentioned that they became more resistant as time went on. If you still have questions about that, let me know.
I would like your lesson plans on teaching respect and you whole system. Do you sell it somewhere, like Teachers Pay Teachers?
Could you do a video about substitute teachers, as the level of disrespect of really bad with some pupils. I am in the UK. I had a pupil refuse to follow my instructions and they said "you are not a proper teacher". Or another "I don't respect you, I behave because I respect other teachers". While on supply teaching long term.
Great video!❤😊
Thanks
maam pls share more a teaching strategy in dealing with physically or mentally challenged learners without disrupting other learners during teaching learning process of the lesson.
Got it. See my earlier reply.
Great topic ! I’d really like to learn some effective ways to address that situation….
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What do you do when students see consequences as "me disrespecting them"? I can't tell if it's an authentic perception or if it's a bad faith attempt to manipulate or gaslight me? If not, how can I change their perception? As far as I can tell, I was clear and specific with expectations and consequences from day one. Each time we try to have a conversation I get interrupted and disrespected even more, so before we can address the original disrespect, there's already more on top of it.
the consequences should only be seen as you disrespecting them IF the student hasn't done anything wrong. but if the student has done something wrong then giving out consequences doesn't count as disrespect and if they say it is they either have a trash view, or they are trying to gaslight you. you can explain to them why what they did is disrespectful and see if that works and changes their perception.
I’ve had this happen to me multiple times. I think it is best to say, “If you feel like I am the one being disrespectful, then you should make a report to the counselor or principle.” Or you can say, “let’s talk more about this after school for 5 min” or if they continue to be disrespectful to tou when you are trying to talk to them, by talking over you, accusing you, saying your crazy or whatever, call for reinforcements/send them to the office. Have a follow up about why you had to send them to the office.
At the end of the day, you can open the door but you can’t make them walk through. Good luck out there!
Will this work for disrectpect co-workers?
If only modelling respect worked for all students. Im a 1:1 teaching assistant and the more respectful i am towards him, or the more i remind him to be respectful the more disrespectful he is. Consequences just make him aggressive both verbally and physically, and has been excluded 6 times in 3 years.
Hi, I am not suggesting that only modeling works. It takes a combination of strategies to be effective. Regarding your student, I am familiar with the behaviors you described. He sounds like he needs a detailed plan. I offer teacher consultations if you are interested: www.feedtheirneeds.com/consultations
Thanks for your video. But I need some example of "consequences" for mibehaviour. Thanks
Hi Lucrezia! Here are a few examples of some effective consequences. These consequences are not designed to punish, but to deter future misbehavior and often provide an alternative way to behave.
(1)Verbal redirection or correction (2) Change of seat (3) Think or reflection sheet (4) Push back (5) 1:1 Teacher Conference (6) Owed time or points (7) Chill out
@@FeedTheirNeeds what happens when those consequences don't work?
Hii mam I m from India... I like ur video.. I have some questions I'm 25 yr old I don't know how to handle 16-18yr teenagers they are very disrespectful to elder people pls give some tips to handle them
Hi Priya, I will add this to my list. Look for it in 1-2 weeks
HI! It would be really helpful if you went into detail regarding "exactly" what you say about disrespectful behaviour. Those go to comments you are talking about. Exactly WHAT are those go-to comments? I would find that really helpful. Much THANKS! L
Thanks for the video idea, Lynda :)
It starts in the home. So many people are having children but letting tv and peers raise them instead of teaching them
Manners, respect, going to church, and disciplining at home. If the kids grew up like this there is very little that teachers can do about it
Hi :) I actually disagree. There is a lot teachers can do in their class environments. Students can learn how to behave in different settings and not behave in others. I have taught children and youth for many years who have very little to no teaching at home. My approach has been they may have come to me without the tools, but they will definitely leave me with some tools. It's starts with the mindset of the teacher :)
please show examples what exactly you did.
In the country i live in, teachers are legally allowed to smack kids if they disrespect the teacher or misbehave in class.
Now we have the most polite kids ever.
I wish it was legal here as well
What country is it ?
I’m curious… what country do u live in ?
Very true. African, Caribbean and South Asian countries. Legally they can beat the students in class.
Hello, I just wanted to find out if in the elementary school does a teacher get to choose the grade they teach?
Most of the time, no. The grade level you teach is typically based on the need of the school or admin choice.
What rewards and positive reinforcment do you give during the first month of the respect culture practice?
For the first month of school, I tend NOT to go big. I start off small and low key with my reinforcements so that I can get an idea of how effective they are.
Depending on the grade level, I use verbal praise, shout outs, certificates and points that can earn an activity at the end of the week.
All the best!
The disrespectful behaviour MOST probably does not begin in the classroom; it has its origins from the children's families. I am interested in how you would manage this aspect of the situation. How do you undo the skewed mentality of the disruptive child? You teach respectfulness but how do you actually sustain this in a child? After a few weeks, you saw positive results? And then from that point, supervision becomes minimal? How is that to be construed as sustainability? Thanks.
My method of "undoing the mentality of the disruptive student" has been to (1) Teach replacement behavior (and provide realistic reasons on how the replacement will positively impact their lives) (2) Allow the students to practice the replacement behavior in theclass setting with support (feedback, correction, encouragement) (3) Respond as they progress with verbal and other rewards/incentives (there are various ways to do this) (4) Fade frequency of feedback to allow history of success to build ...there are a few more steps, but I hope you get the gist. Yes, I say positive results in weeks in multiple classrooms, in multiple schools, and the sustainability part is the disrespectful behaviors would come back occasionally, but rarely. I would say because the students gained, based on need, awareness, motivation and a new way to communicate (at least in the classroom setting). Key factors are teacher mindset, focus, flexibility, a strategic plan, and consistency.
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I would love to. What are some of your challenges?
Never mind, I see that you did already? You're good. Look for a video on the week after Thanksgiving:)
More black educators on RUclips!
I wish you had examples of reward/discipline
I do provide examples in other videos.
My kids school is amazing but i do find that the teachers do scream and shout alot at the children. Especially my daughters class who are 6 years old...how do kids show respect to a teacher who stresses out alot?
Also...i do find that some teachers are very bios...they tend to pick on the kids who get into trouble alot by disbelieving them over the person who actually did the wrong. I have witnessed myself 4 or 5 teachers admonishing a child who is 9 years old because he has a habit of turning around alot in class and talking because other students get distracted. The parent of the child was present who i could see was overwhelmed by all this and started crying.
Is this allowed? To confront a child about his behave infront of the head his 2 main teachers and 2 other teachers who monitors the school? This was to show the child that his behaviour isnt acceptable. I know the parent and she gets anxiety now when she hears about his behaviour. His not naughter as such he just distracts his friends when doing work by talking or turning around....he has a lot of energy which the school dont understand. Every misbehaviour they send the kids to the head...which i find silly.
Great question:)
As a student, I think the best expression of respect is to politely listen and respond to the teacher, participate in lessons and activities and follow class rules & expectations.
As a parent of the student, sometimes sending an encouraging note or communication can be helpful.
I have found that some teachers lack the tools and skillset to manage student misbehaviors well. That’s why provide the content that I do, to help support teachers with a different perspective, plus tips/strategies that can help with the overwhelm, struggle, and stress.
His behavior contribute s to confusion in class
What’s an anchor chart ?
An anchor chart is a tool used to "anchor" learning for students. Basically, it's a chart you create with your students that captures/documents content or strategies you want them to learn. If you Google it, especially the images, you will see a lot of great examples.
I had a burping epidemic in my class. First yr teacher here ugh
Been there 😂!
Can we see the classroom of students and who was disrespecting you?
Getting cameras in classrooms, plus sharing it on the internet is a challenge.
I AM a Substitute Teacher in a poverty stricken area of rural South Carolina. I appreciate your efforts, however what you're doing in my opinion is not the responsibility of the Teacher. Discipline begins at home. What happened to this?
Hi Donzella! Yes, I agree with you. Discipline should start at home. However, it has been in my experience that is it NOT happening on a large scale in our current US communities.
So what should a teacher do? Hope that one day, the student will come to school equipped by their home or other living situation environments? I have found that if we want to experience positive teaching experiences and provide productive learning experiences for our students, we will have to teach and reinforce behavior and social skills for most of my classes.
Hi