So take your power back and don't worry if someone doesn't text you back right away. You act like you don't care. Mirror back what they do to you. Don't keep texting! Once you know they're toxic, cut them off! We shouldn't have to chase anyone for anything! There are times people are busy but if you know you're being ignored then just end it. They don't respect you and never will!
@jennebeattie Can you elaborate? My recent ex came back around but has not responded to a couple text I sent. It’s like he comes back around wants to play with me (sex)and then put me down like a damn toy. We didn’t have sex yet again but he knows I’m open to it. It’s hard for me because I do love him and maybe trauma bonded. Smh
@@JJ-iq8mi because we’re often poor judges of our own mistakes...especially when dealing with manipulative people who are already in your mind and soul...
"My phone died" is their go to excuse. I've never understood how someone's phone can die while they're at home!!! Even it did die..plug it in and call me back! They just dissappear mid conversation, then call you back hrs later stating their phone died. They are so deceiving, manipulative and abusive.
So much anxiety and wanting and craving that text. And as soon as the message comes after long silence you get the rush of relief, but then you see it was a one word response and when you send a response to them you get nothing back at all
You have made me cry....you have explained it so well.exactly what's happening. May the Supplies be removed from their life's.May the divine intervene in our life's and give us strength
@@nazcarcup ooh same name Coincidence reason let's all putvGod first you will hear how karma gets people unexpectedly. Sad story may God lead us not into temptation
Brilliant video. 18 year entanglement with the narc. In the devaluation stage he would ignore my messages for hours when I knew his phone was an extension of his hand. I felt completely irrelevant to him. I knew he was purposely ignoring my message because there was no way he hasn’t looked at his phone at least 60 times each hour. He was just choosing not to respond to my messages. Brilliant video. A perfect articulation out of the narc’s playbook. So predictable once you know the game.
I know, or you can see that they are online but just choose not to answear out calls.... they know this is frustrating. I used to call my narc when I was depressed but he never ever answeared my calls, I could see him online.
@@maryerre7092 Block his A## immediately you'll get sicker with time if you dont. Your probs not even his primary at the moment,its complete war on your mind right now.. Do not allow it... I've been there,trust me... Get control over your own.life don't allow someone to toy with you this way..
Only hours? Mine would go for days sometimes and claim he was "stressed" with work. Had nothing to do with the other women I found out he was chasing... 🤔
This is sick.... I really appreciate you doing these video's. You are freeing so many people from a narcissists clutches. I cannot look at him the same
Control of what? They can't even control themselves. If they were in "control" they wouldn't need to dole out punishments. All they are doing is lying to cover their own lack of control. Pathetic.
If you look at it from a spiritual/religious perspective some say they are controlled by or they are demonic spirits. How else do you explain that they all have the exact same Modus Operandi across the board?
Minimum of silent treatment or ignoring someone is 3 days. This is rule of God in every religion. After that person who doing this must come back and apologize and work things out. If it's not come back within 3 days. That is not silent treatment or ignoring. That is evil and it's not accept it by any means. This is clear message to all mankind. Take it or leave it. The choice is upto you. Good luck
When I asked the mid range why he wasn't responding to my messages he said he didn't know why because the phone was always in his hand. Devaluation at it's best. This is spot on HG, thank you again.
If they don't respond to your text for days its conclusive evidence of who your dealing with. Its not like their in surgery. I see the triangulation and control of whoever texted. Power play!
The last time he decided to dish out the silent treatment I decided to play him at his own game and told him if he wants the silent treatment he can have it permanently I havent uttered a word to him in over a year and won't speak to him again not a chance in hell will I am completely and totally done with him
That's what happened to me. The last silent treatment lasted a week. I packed my stuff and left. It sure ended the silent treatment, he went nuts. That's two years ago and I'm happily single and strong. Get the occasional hoover but ignore it.
Thank you for this wonderful video. I used to think I was crazy but now I know it was all just a sick game that the exnarc played. So absolutely disgusting and childish behavior.
I looooove your voice! Perfect for audiobooks for sure. Anyhoo, I take silent treatments as a sign to move on. If you can stop talking, so if can it and cheerfully will. No one should have time for that bull.
This is exactly what mine did. He was actually married too. He texted relentlessly in the beginning, it was actually quite scary, this went on for about nine months, then overnight that changed and suddenly we were “just friends” . He would actually ask me to text, and then ignore it for hours or a day!
Mine would send me a text like “OMG! Help!” at 3am then ghost. It was next level, all about making me extremely anxious, depriving me of sleep. It amazes me how a simple text can cause so much abuse.
Uuurrrgh the triangulation! The way you tell it H.G! 😩 I dread to think that he has devalued me and smeared me to others that I may meet in our town, when I only felt love and a strange uncalculated fear of him. It’s only through all this research about his strange behaviour that I’ve discovered the truth after I went no contact initially because I was feeling so off balance psychologically and then in terrible emotional anguish during the no contact. I just couldn’t believe that someone could be so manipulative and contemptuous. The knowledge that this goes on in the world still makes me reel.
This is unbelievably accurate to what my experience was as a "friend" of a Narssist. I guess I should be relieved that he no longer felt I was worthy to give him fuel when I got angry at his lack of response, and therefore was discarded. He likely did me a HUGE favor in releasing me from my ⛽ fuel duties, permanently.
This is exactly what happened in the beginning of the interaction I had with the narcissist. We were spending time together, talking, having drinks, and someone was blowing up his phone. He responded nearly verbatim.
I was ignored often by the last narc who was a lesser. So many lame excuses. However when he was on a rampage and I didn't respond I would be subjected to verbal abuse and then some.
This was life changing, I now truly understand that I’m with a low or mid level narcissist and I never wanted to believe it because most other resources have a black and white pass/fail approach and she’s not a top tear narcissist but goes through narcissistic episodes of phases
Everybody does this to me. Its the 1 thing that fukkn destroys me. Im good to people, and they show me that they appreciate me, by ignoring my text, and then responding hours later, like it aint shit. Is it me? Am i clingy...needy? Ive told people in the beginning how i dont like the "phone games", and that i dont play them, and its like they cant wait to be like 'i'll MAKE you play phone games. You'll see' . Being ignored hurts me so bad 😖😖😖
This is so true .... it happens & you don’t even notice lol .... all is well until you become challenging... all is well since I have become challenging .... I can’t believe I got sucked in ... for so long .... 😊😊🤗thank you so much
I don’t give a damn what anyone else says, these individuals are demonically possessed. 10000000000000000% I was married & unfortunately stuck in a decade long marriage to a psychopath & a decade later I’m still recovering from it.
Thank you HG for your help. It enables us to understand these behaviours and move on in our lives, without letting these people bother us. You're a one off HG ♥️
gone through this for 2 years..so exhauating and it like life taking..so horrible..so unkind and almost like 2nd death..how can someone be so cruel and inhuman..now every thing and every action make sense ..wondering for 2 years..dealing with horrific time..god save us and those who are dealing with unkind situation
What if the empath doesn’t react to the ignored message? My texts are usually plain simple, monotone and if I’m ignored I don’t send a double text or follow up text. Then days later he would ask me why I didn’t follow up 🤣 I would say “I assumed you were busy and would respond when you’re free” 🤷🏽♀️
However while I was next to him, I would see multiple texts from the other women wondering why he wasn’t responding to them. While he’s probably thinking I’m feeling like the lucky one to be with him, I’m seeing his true colors. I know if he doesn’t respond to my first and only text, he has seen it and it choosing not to respond. Therefore I don’t react. I keep myself occupied with something or someone else even though he’s the one I’d rather be with I just can’t bring myself to give him that attention he’s seeking.
@@lolaxo3925 Good job.You've learned the ropes of dealing with these entities.I had to as well. I laugh at these children in grown bodies.You will eventually lose any real connection,attraction for them,I did.. You must allow yourself to see the truth of what they are..
I never reacted. I guess that's why I got discarded so fast lol. I wouldn't answer his calls or put him on ignore. Then he would act weird and say I'm not gonna get rid of him that easy. It was really weird.
@@melinatedvessel6840 Absolutely true, once you see them once and for all for what they really are, you can’t unsee that, it’s impossible and they look repulsive. It is a helluva epiphany.
Get this for silent treatment text messaging... I got a note from my nex in the mailbox after he knocked on my bedroom window at 4:20am after ignoring me and my first and only set of texts for 3-weeks after walking out without notice. He wrote that he deliberately hasn't topped up his mobile so he can't "bother" me with his text messages. ...eye roll... Couldn't fathom the actual wording but knowing what I do now thanks to HG it's just narcissism at it's most devaluing. Usually it's text bombing when he walks away... Now he's getting NC and I'm glad to be GOSO finally.
I feel so sorry for all these people who seem to be married to these cretins. They should all have been left on the shelf. Please fill up your own self esteem outside of relationships. You weren't born to be abused. You were born to enjoy your one and only life. And to bring love and value to others who deserve to receive it.
I dated an ultra years ago. One of the most aft up individuals I’ve ever crossed in my entire life who was probably also a psychopath. One thing he did enjoy doing was the silent treatment and ignoring your text messages and then playing dumb later.
When i left my narc husband he obviously smeared my character to my stepson who I was very close to. I tried to contact my stepson twice telling him I loved him. I got The Silent Treatment. So I let him be. He has never contacted me. He was in his 20s so was well able to make up his own mind but he knew what side his bread was buttered on. Daddy was well off. I was surprised as I thought my stepson was one of the good ones. He was so kind to me and I was kind to him. I thought he knew my character and it would sustain against any smear campaign, but I was wrong. Losing my stepson broke my heart.
He is a good one, daddy is manipulating this situation by dividing and conquering. Just remember it's not you, its not your stepson, it's the narcissist controlling the situation.
HG I will have to say that you explaine everything so brilliantly. I have learned so so much do to you. Now I need to learn or figure out how to not care about these types of people that have been in my life and that did so much damage. I know eventually I will learn by finding that right video just like this one today Thank you HG.
@@kimsikorski5691 Kim have you read HG’s book Exorcism? It’s about the emotional side that we go through once we are out and No Contact is in place. It helped me a lot. You can find it on Amazon.
This was the first stage. In the beginning of my relationship which I threw away over four years of my life on I wish I would have seen this video before that but I guess you live and learn. This is definitely the beginning of how they treat you. My one buddy said to me. That would have been enough for him. But I wanted to hang in there.
You ignore my text you never get a text from me again first. Now if you text me first I reply hours or days later. When I respond if you don't respond again quickly now I permanently block you and you lose access. I have no problem cutting people off.
What ridiculous, childish games you Narcissist play. The rules/reasons/excuses, about anything and everything. How is any normal person(or, empath), supposed to know why you do the things you do, if you don't ever say it/explain it/just be honest about it. I can handle the truth/the lies, control, and manipulation confuse me. Responding to phone calls, emails, texts...is "common courtesy." Takes, seconds/a simple yes or no, will do. That you find such pleasure in your perverted ways is beyond me. That we took the time to even text, you should be thankful for. Don't worry, I won't bother texting...so that you can purposely ignore me/while boasting about it with your other source. All, so stupid/disrespectful. When you've burned/ignored every "bridge"...you'll eventually run out. Empaths, are not stupid. Thank you for the information, though.
It took me 43 years to know this ... when you call someone healthy minded once or twice they will reply to you the minute they see missed call but anything else is belong narc world
God help me please.us All We are such great hurt warriors.am so saddened that a mature human being can treat another human being like some piece of s.....
Way to much work...That is why I don't take the person I deal with serious... he never knows how to handle me... hummmmm, maybe I'm the ULTRA? Kidding...👑
I would love to hear from anyone who has watched this behavior get handed down from one generation to the next. My son is exhibiting this behavior. I recognized it in my ex. We got divorced. My children were alienated from me. Now my son is exhibiting the same behavior. I was able to identify this behavior in my ex after years and years. Thanks to HG but I was not picking up on the fact that my son was doing this as a weapon as well. I thought my son was just angry about the divorce and I knew he was being told things he shouldn’t know about the divorce by my ex and his girlfriend who is also a narcissist. Now, I realize that my son has either learned these behaviors and or learned them and there is a genetic are component. Has anyone else experienced this?
Got silent treatment 3 weeks (long time ago), then I asked him whether he was still interested, no answer, the result was that I split up, discarded him and blocked him at all connections (possibly he had sorted me out in the meantime)
Just wow! I had an idea but never really thought how intentional it was...Sinister even. Interesting though, when i was out (and he knew it), he'd reach out to me. Or, would ask to see me right after my outing. This is too much.
yep out of no where he would pick a fight and when I got mad and defend myself poof he would go silent hours or days and days no text back or answer any calls then out of the blue he would re surface like nothing's wrong
So how do we know if he is intentionally ignoring our texts to make us feel insignificant and to assert emotional control over us and make us chase him vs he just doesn't want to talk to me bc he isn't in the mood (his explanation for ignoring my texts when I have confronted him on this in person). He claims he never intends to hurt me but he just doesn't like texting. Yet before we met and the first year he initiated conversations by text much more often. This is long distance situationship and since he's a player I definitely do not take him seriously nor want a relationship with him anymore, the ignoring text or only responding with one or two words or an emoji is just so rude and he doesn't appreciate me.
Year ago I met Ultra. From the start it didn't feel right. I remember that hipnotic stare and egoistical stories. When I became primal source she was intense with messages and suddenly go silent even for 7 days. I didn't recognize it then but I would give her 5 days of my silent because something told me that there was much more than others obligation and interest. It helped a bit. I withdraw after while, but she would even today give me some crumbs from social media to se if I would bite. No sir!
Bro just went threw this.Texy her and told her I have had enough.Going on a date tonight.Im handsome she not even on my level.So ashamed at how this woman pulled one over on me.To be honest after this O just do not feel like dating anymore WTF is the use?I can not find the woman I am looking for?I rather be single than do this shit going to focus on me.Shit at this point might as well get a call girl at least that way no feelings
HG thanks for posting this video it covers a lot of territory. I currently have been dealing with one of your kind that loves to use words out of context. I have saved the texts from May until present (November). There's a definite pattern indicated in the entirety. Perhaps you know of this and what is is they're attempting to accomplish other than what I presently think which is they're diminished in mental capacity or wish me to think that. It's like dealing with a small child in a way only a child learns and progresses in the growing up if you will. This person seems to be stuck where they are at and are unable to learn and grow. Thanks again To add: as HG may not have time to respond anyone else is welcome to weigh in with advice or experience with this as learning and growing is very important to me.
If you call out a narc on his/her words not making sense in the sentence, ie using words out of context (often part of word salad), the narc will not be able to answer to your query. But hold him/her accountable, keep asking. Look up the word if need be. Narc considers this an assault to his "intelligence", which is not nearly as high as he/she pretends. This causes a narc "injury". Get ready for a silent treatment or narc rage. But who cares? You can revel in the fact that he knows you are on to his/her nonsense. And that's exactly what it is, utter nonsense.
I had a situationship where the other person didn’t respond to my texts for several hours because they were at Target and “the power was out”-which doesn’t affect cellphone signal 😒 Shortly after, I met my husband and deleted this person from my life.
My friend did this alot so I blocked and deleted her.. mind games.. my neighbour text me and because my phone isn t stuck to my hand she deleted it so I left it when she saw me she said I deleted it because you didn't reply I said give me a chance. Both now blocked
thank you HG TUDOR, yes, he complained to the new supply that i was psycho and couldn't let go. he had vanished, so it's normal that i would text him a few times trying to understand his disappearance ! if he ever hoovers (he won't; it has been 3 months of silence from him, AND he blocked me), i will stonewall him right back. he manipulated me to assert control over me, with intent to make the new supply see him as even more worthy.
Don't rule out the hoover - they can point their vacuums over a year after a break. Just get ready to shove a sock in the nozzle should it arise. They deserve nothing less 😁
@@Joanna7428 HAHA I like that. Well, I am on a mission to block him from ever being able to hoover. It's taking me days because he has multiple accounts. I hope to never see or hear from him again.
Even in the golden. I don't text back and forth like a teenager all day long it's immature and unnecessary I know assholes that are together for 8 hours and as soon as they separate for 15 minutes they get on the phone and say what are you doing I don't play that game I tell him what the f*** you think I was doing same thing as I was doing 15 minutes ago leave me the f*** alone I tell him in the beginning go text someone that gives a f*** and it has time for that s*** you got to nip it in the bud you got to set boundaries in the beginning you got to let people know that you're too busy for the endless chatter
Mine described me as a "crazy ex" to his new supply after I sent her a message on IG after seeing a suspicious message on one of his posts...turned out he was screwing her. I was his girlfriend of 2 years and he'd been seeing this new woman for one month.
Mine finally texted me back days later after i texted him saying he and his baby had the flu.... getting much better at not biting the bait and didnt respond....Theres always a lame excuse.!!!!
So take your power back and don't worry if someone doesn't text you back right away. You act like you don't care. Mirror back what they do to you. Don't keep texting! Once you know they're toxic, cut them off! We shouldn't have to chase anyone for anything! There are times people are busy but if you know you're being ignored then just end it. They don't respect you and never will!
Mine always said to me I’m a mirror I’m a mirror !! Pathetic
the only way to win - is to not play
Live and learn.
Like HG states remove yourself from the battlefield. Zero Impact.
Amen!
"If your text messages are not being answered, you are being manipulated." Let that sink in. #GOSO👌🏻
@jennebeattie Can you elaborate? My recent ex came back around but has not responded to a couple text I sent. It’s like he comes back around wants to play with me (sex)and then put me down like a damn toy. We didn’t have sex yet again but he knows I’m open to it. It’s hard for me because I do love him and maybe trauma bonded. Smh
@@citichic2311 he is hoovering you. Making you hope...playing with you and then back to silence
@@citichic2311 Why do you need someone to elaborate when you clearly already know what is going on!?
@@JJ-iq8mi because we’re often poor judges of our own mistakes...especially when dealing with manipulative people who are already in your mind and soul...
@@lottesrensen8004 smh so sad.
"My phone died" is their go to excuse. I've never understood how someone's phone can die while they're at home!!! Even it did die..plug it in and call me back! They just dissappear mid conversation, then call you back hrs later stating their phone died. They are so deceiving, manipulative and abusive.
So much anxiety and wanting and craving that text. And as soon as the message comes after long silence you get the rush of relief, but then you see it was a one word response and when you send a response to them you get nothing back at all
You have made me cry....you have explained it so well.exactly what's happening. May the Supplies be removed from their life's.May the divine intervene in our life's and give us strength
Same name, same struggle 👊🏽
@@nazcarcup ooh same name Coincidence reason let's all putvGod first you will hear how karma gets people unexpectedly. Sad story may God lead us not into temptation
@@nazasha5584 crying real tears while listening to this. My God i just cant wait to be divorced
The divine did intervene, he gave us HG 😇
@@youtubediva7236 Second that
Brilliant video. 18 year entanglement with the narc. In the devaluation stage he would ignore my messages for hours when I knew his phone was an extension of his hand. I felt completely irrelevant to him. I knew he was purposely ignoring my message because there was no way he hasn’t looked at his phone at least 60 times each hour. He was just choosing not to respond to my messages. Brilliant video. A perfect articulation out of the narc’s playbook. So predictable once you know the game.
I know, or you can see that they are online but just choose not to answear out calls.... they know this is frustrating. I used to call my narc when I was depressed but he never ever answeared my calls, I could see him online.
@@maryerre7092 Block his A## immediately you'll get sicker with time if you dont.
Your probs not even his primary at the moment,its complete war on your mind right now..
Do not allow it...
I've been there,trust me...
Get control over your own.life don't allow someone to toy with you this way..
Only hours? Mine would go for days sometimes and claim he was "stressed" with work. Had nothing to do with the other women I found out he was chasing... 🤔
@@maryerre7092 Omg, yes!! This used to hurt so badly.
@@melinatedvessel6840 ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Such great advice.
This is sick.... I really appreciate you doing these video's. You are freeing so many people from a narcissists clutches. I cannot look at him the same
They make time for whoever is their priority and it obviously isn't us
100%
💯 i called mine a cummy sock 😂
Control of what? They can't even control themselves. If they were in "control" they wouldn't need to dole out punishments. All they are doing is lying to cover their own lack of control. Pathetic.
Yes. That’s what he’s saying
Yep!!
It’s emotional control. They know how infuriating and frustrating it can feel to be ignored.
Lol ikr
No lies told here
There is a part of me that just wishes my ex husband would drop dead.
Me too!!!
Mine actually did!
@@azsunburns Omg lucky you!!
He's a corpse.
Take solace in the fact that one day he will ❤️
I can not believe how accurate this video is! How is it possible, for narc's to all share the same play book?
we say they all went to the same school. HG knows his stuff.
They're robots, pre programmed. Not human.
They are mere shadows of everything. Nothing original ewwww
If you look at it from a spiritual/religious perspective some say they are controlled by or they are demonic spirits. How else do you explain that they all have the exact same Modus Operandi across the board?
@@SusieQ1971 nothing to do with demons. The brain is all very human.
Minimum of silent treatment or ignoring someone is 3 days. This is rule of God in every religion. After that person who doing this must come back and apologize and work things out. If it's not come back within 3 days. That is not silent treatment or ignoring. That is evil and it's not accept it by any means.
This is clear message to all mankind. Take it or leave it. The choice is upto you. Good luck
Yessss!!!! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
When I asked the mid range why he wasn't responding to my messages he said he didn't know why because the phone was always in his hand.
Devaluation at it's best.
This is spot on HG, thank you again.
Wow!
If they don't respond to your text for days its conclusive evidence of who your dealing with. Its not like their in surgery. I see the triangulation and control of whoever texted. Power play!
100000000%
The last time he decided to dish out the silent treatment I decided to play him at his own game and told him if he wants the silent treatment he can have it permanently I havent uttered a word to him in over a year and won't speak to him again not a chance in hell will I am completely and totally done with him
That's what happened to me. The last silent treatment lasted a week. I packed my stuff and left. It sure ended the silent treatment, he went nuts. That's two years ago and I'm happily single and strong. Get the occasional hoover but ignore it.
He lodges with my neighbours since I threw him out of my house 2 years ago he can rot there for all I care I don't acknowledge him at all now
You know the world is a mess when a Narcsassist wants to stay away from you...😂
😂😂😂😂👍
BS that just means they're grooming the next victim
It is more of a power/control tactic.
That's a good one.... it's a the world upside down 🤣🤣🤣
Lmfao!!
My Nex was BIG on silent treatment & ignoring my texts!!!! Thank you for the video! ❤
You are welcome.
Mine too. Took me two years and one silent treatment too many to escape.
Thank you for this wonderful video. I used to think I was crazy but now I know it was all just a sick game that the exnarc played. So absolutely disgusting and childish behavior.
I looooove your voice! Perfect for audiobooks for sure. Anyhoo, I take silent treatments as a sign to move on. If you can stop talking, so if can it and cheerfully will. No one should have time for that bull.
This is exactly what mine did. He was actually married too. He texted relentlessly in the beginning, it was actually quite scary, this went on for about nine months, then overnight that changed and suddenly we were “just friends” .
He would actually ask me to text, and then ignore it for hours or a day!
Please tell me you went no contact and stay no contact.These losers are pathetic.
Married? Nine months? His wife was pregnant.... He was just looking for an ego boost while she was in that delicate stage.
This is my narc mother. Texts then when i text back doesnt read it for DAYS.
Thanks HG ❤
Just block them and move on. Life is too short and there’s 8 billion people in the world.
Know your worth and don’t settle for crumbs
This makes my blood boil....
I go through this.
It’s sick isn’t it. Really really sick.
Narc: "Text me when you get home" .. IPPS/IPSS 20 mins later? " I'm home baby, miss you love you" ..Narc: crickets crickets crickets.
Literally happened to me
Mine would send me a text like “OMG! Help!” at 3am then ghost. It was next level, all about making me extremely anxious, depriving me of sleep. It amazes me how a simple text can cause so much abuse.
Wtfff ,this is sooooo weirddd
What a perfect day for you to post on this subject. Thank you HG
Uuurrrgh the triangulation! The way you tell it H.G! 😩 I dread to think that he has devalued me and smeared me to others that I may meet in our town, when I only felt love and a strange uncalculated fear of him.
It’s only through all this research about his strange behaviour that I’ve discovered the truth after I went no contact initially because I was feeling so off balance psychologically and then in terrible emotional anguish during the no contact.
I just couldn’t believe that someone could be so manipulative and contemptuous. The knowledge that this goes on in the world still makes me reel.
This is unbelievably accurate to what my experience was as a "friend" of a Narssist. I guess I should be relieved that he no longer felt I was worthy to give him fuel when I got angry at his lack of response, and therefore was discarded. He likely did me a HUGE favor in releasing me from my ⛽ fuel duties, permanently.
This is exactly what happened in the beginning of the interaction I had with the narcissist. We were spending time together, talking, having drinks, and someone was blowing up his phone. He responded nearly verbatim.
The validation you require through the excellent accuracy of my work.
@@hgtudor-theultra Wow. Narc much? Ha ha ha...
@@hgtudor-theultra You love our fuel, don't you?😂
Same. He would even go as far to call me or screen shot another womens text and call her crazy
@@aminasalipada4569exactly. But at least we learn something from his need for fuel!
I was ignored often by the last narc who was a lesser. So many lame excuses. However when he was on a rampage and I didn't respond I would be subjected to verbal abuse and then some.
This was life changing, I now truly understand that I’m with a low or mid level narcissist and I never wanted to believe it because most other resources have a black and white pass/fail approach and she’s not a top tear narcissist but goes through narcissistic episodes of phases
Everybody does this to me. Its the 1 thing that fukkn destroys me. Im good to people, and they show me that they appreciate me, by ignoring my text, and then responding hours later, like it aint shit. Is it me? Am i clingy...needy? Ive told people in the beginning how i dont like the "phone games", and that i dont play them, and its like they cant wait to be like 'i'll MAKE you play phone games. You'll see' . Being ignored hurts me so bad 😖😖😖
This is so true .... it happens & you don’t even notice lol .... all is well until you become challenging... all is well since I have become challenging .... I can’t believe I got sucked in ... for so long .... 😊😊🤗thank you so much
There is not an individual personality inside the Narcissist because they all act in the same predictable manner..
This is what mystifies me. They all share the same behavior patterns. I tending to think narcissism is genetic.
I don’t give a damn what anyone else says, these individuals are demonically possessed. 10000000000000000%
I was married & unfortunately stuck in a decade long marriage to a psychopath & a decade later I’m still recovering from it.
Pretty much all evil
Thank you HG for your help. It enables us to understand these behaviours and move on in our lives, without letting these people bother us. You're a one off HG ♥️
gone through this for 2 years..so exhauating and it like life taking..so horrible..so unkind and almost like 2nd death..how can someone be so cruel and inhuman..now every thing and every action make sense ..wondering for 2 years..dealing with horrific time..god save us and those who are dealing with unkind situation
Same. Can't believe I put up with it so long.
Looking back on the last 4 years..finally I know with whom I was dealing with..a monster!
What if the empath doesn’t react to the ignored message? My texts are usually plain simple, monotone and if I’m ignored I don’t send a double text or follow up text. Then days later he would ask me why I didn’t follow up 🤣 I would say “I assumed you were busy and would respond when you’re free” 🤷🏽♀️
However while I was next to him, I would see multiple texts from the other women wondering why he wasn’t responding to them. While he’s probably thinking I’m feeling like the lucky one to be with him, I’m seeing his true colors. I know if he doesn’t respond to my first and only text, he has seen it and it choosing not to respond. Therefore I don’t react. I keep myself occupied with something or someone else even though he’s the one I’d rather be with I just can’t bring myself to give him that attention he’s seeking.
@@lolaxo3925 Good job.You've learned the ropes of dealing with these entities.I had to as well.
I laugh at these children in grown bodies.You will eventually lose any real connection,attraction for them,I did..
You must allow yourself to see the truth of what they are..
Empath aware everything around them.
I never reacted. I guess that's why I got discarded so fast lol. I wouldn't answer his calls or put him on ignore. Then he would act weird and say I'm not gonna get rid of him that easy. It was really weird.
@@melinatedvessel6840 Absolutely true, once you see them once and for all for what they really are, you can’t unsee that, it’s impossible and they look repulsive. It is a helluva epiphany.
You have just confirmed everything I needed to know thank you
You are welcome.
Get this for silent treatment text messaging... I got a note from my nex in the mailbox after he knocked on my bedroom window at 4:20am after ignoring me and my first and only set of texts for 3-weeks after walking out without notice. He wrote that he deliberately hasn't topped up his mobile so he can't "bother" me with his text messages. ...eye roll... Couldn't fathom the actual wording but knowing what I do now thanks to HG it's just narcissism at it's most devaluing. Usually it's text bombing when he walks away... Now he's getting NC and I'm glad to be GOSO finally.
Goso is the best way to go, if you aren't feeling it just yet, you will soon feel great again, you get your power back and it's brilliant! 💪
These behavioral patterns are some severe mental issues.
They all make me sick it's as if they never matured past 3 years old. My goodness are they ever pathetic. 💋🙏 Keep up your good deed 👍 in educating us.
That is a huge insult to most 3 year olds. These people are fkn deranged.
He even texted me out of the blue a few weeks ago - just so he could then ignore me when I replied 😂
Wow what a creeeeeepy world we live in lol as this is spot on
the ex is a mid-range narcissist. the silent treatment is his primary expertise.
Mine too !
I also got that for hours, days and weeks, so freakin done, last insult was ripping me off 🤬
I feel so sorry for all these people who seem to be married to these cretins. They should all have been left on the shelf. Please fill up your own self esteem outside of relationships. You weren't born to be abused. You were born to enjoy your one and only life. And to bring love and value to others who deserve to receive it.
@@metastract thank you for saying all of that❤. I'm 16 years into the cycle & wish HG videos were around before I said "I do" 💔
I love silent treatments from narcs. It's like a nice vacation.
This helped me IMMENSELY
I dated an ultra years ago. One of the most aft up individuals I’ve ever crossed in my entire life who was probably also a psychopath. One thing he did enjoy doing was the silent treatment and ignoring your text messages and then playing dumb later.
Going through this now with a she-narc. Is there anyone out there who’s just NORMAL?
New appliance, wow that hits hard ....
Life changing information. Can't thank you enough
“Grappling an alligator” 😄
When i left my narc husband he obviously smeared my character to my stepson who I was very close to. I tried to contact my stepson twice telling him I loved him. I got The Silent Treatment. So I let him be. He has never contacted me. He was in his 20s so was well able to make up his own mind but he knew what side his bread was buttered on.
Daddy was well off. I was surprised as I thought my stepson was one of the good ones. He was so kind to me and I was kind to him. I thought he knew my character and it would sustain against any smear campaign, but I was wrong. Losing my stepson broke my heart.
He is a good one, daddy is manipulating this situation by dividing and conquering. Just remember it's not you, its not your stepson, it's the narcissist controlling the situation.
There was a tone of fake messages, and I have stopped responding
“As you can tell, she’s rather keen on me…” 🤣. That’s a good one, HG!
Good old me always falling into the toxic void of a narcissist 🤣
HG I will have to say that you explaine everything so brilliantly.
I have learned so so much do to you. Now I need to learn or figure out how to not care about these types of people that have been in my life and that did so much damage.
I know eventually I will learn by finding that right video just like this one today
Thank you HG.
Thank you. You will receive unrivalled accuracy here, use it to your advantage and share it with others.
@@hgtudor-theultra don't have to worry about that, I tell everyone about you.
@@kimsikorski5691 Kim have you read HG’s book Exorcism? It’s about the emotional side that we go through once we are out and No Contact is in place. It helped me a lot. You can find it on Amazon.
@@narcsitereader3844 no unfortunately I haven't. I wish it was audible because I hate to read. Lol
Im right back here same thing same person one year later smh
Better Call HG and make sure you are not in the same place in a years time narcsite.com/private-audio-consultation/
Leave and save yourself
Me too 😩
ME too🙄
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This nails it to a T , control and or punishment to gain back control .
This was the first stage. In the beginning of my relationship which I threw away over four years of my life on I wish I would have seen this video before that but I guess you live and learn. This is definitely the beginning of how they treat you. My one buddy said to me. That would have been enough for him. But I wanted to hang in there.
You ignore my text you never get a text from me again first. Now if you text me first I reply hours or days later. When I respond if you don't respond again quickly now I permanently block you and you lose access. I have no problem cutting people off.
Please explain the phone that is completely void of any sounds or rings. Locked up tighter than Heavily guarded. Face down.
You already know what that means
What ridiculous, childish games you Narcissist play. The rules/reasons/excuses, about anything and everything. How is any normal person(or, empath), supposed to know why you do the things you do, if you don't ever say it/explain it/just be honest about it. I can handle the truth/the lies, control, and manipulation confuse me.
Responding to phone calls, emails, texts...is "common courtesy." Takes, seconds/a simple yes or no, will do. That you find such pleasure in your perverted ways is beyond me. That we took the time to even text, you should be thankful for. Don't worry, I won't bother texting...so that you can purposely ignore me/while boasting about it with your other source. All, so stupid/disrespectful. When you've burned/ignored every "bridge"...you'll eventually run out. Empaths, are not stupid.
Thank you for the information, though.
it's demonic possession. they will be judged
Thanks for this video. Now i know why he's ignoring my messages. He's a narc.He wants me to chase him. But then i get upsett to him.
Just walk away. No game playing, you will regret it.
You not alone . I get it from her in bed too. Always I got to do everything
It took me 43 years to know this ... when you call someone healthy minded once or twice they will reply to you the minute they see missed call but anything else is belong narc world
Me too!!!!!
God help me please.us All We are such great hurt warriors.am so saddened that a mature human being can treat another human being like some piece of s.....
They're not mature or human beings. That's where you got it wrong.
Well done H.G !! This was " Brilliant" if I do say so myself.
Thank you.
If a secondary/DLS they've got notifications muted whilst they're with the IPPS
Way to much work...That is why I don't take the person I deal with serious... he never knows how to handle me... hummmmm, maybe I'm the ULTRA? Kidding...👑
Those narco pauses in the presentation are well worth the material. Thanks for the videos. 😂😂🙏☺️🤗👏🏼🙌🏿
Whoa 😳, accuracy.
Good grief. What a way to exist
I would love to hear from anyone who has watched this behavior get handed down from one generation to the next. My son is exhibiting this behavior. I recognized it in my ex. We got divorced. My children were alienated from me. Now my son is exhibiting the same behavior. I was able to identify this behavior in my ex after years and years. Thanks to HG but I was not picking up on the fact that my son was doing this as a weapon as well. I thought my son was just angry about the divorce and I knew he was being told things he shouldn’t know about the divorce by my ex and his girlfriend who is also a narcissist. Now, I realize that my son has either learned these behaviors and or learned them and there is a genetic are component. Has anyone else experienced this?
Got silent treatment 3 weeks (long time ago), then I asked him whether he was still interested, no answer, the result was that I split up, discarded him and blocked him at all connections (possibly he had sorted me out in the meantime)
It's a sick effing game.
I've lived it. Shame on me for not figuring it out before this point in life.
Just wow! I had an idea but never really thought how intentional it was...Sinister even. Interesting though, when i was out (and he knew it), he'd reach out to me. Or, would ask to see me right after my outing. This is too much.
Is the silent treatment also done by the narcissist causing an argument and then going off into not replying?
the silent treatment is the silent treatement. They do lots of shit on purpose before the silent treatment including instigating arguments.
Yeah my ex would start a row then ignore me for days
@@beccareynolds4625 same as mine call me names attack my character then just dissappear for days so I couldn't reply
yep out of no where he would pick a fight and when I got mad and defend myself poof he would go silent hours or days and days no text back or answer any calls then out of the blue he would re surface like nothing's wrong
So how do we know if he is intentionally ignoring our texts to make us feel insignificant and to assert emotional control over us and make us chase him vs he just doesn't want to talk to me bc he isn't in the mood (his explanation for ignoring my texts when I have confronted him on this in person). He claims he never intends to hurt me but he just doesn't like texting. Yet before we met and the first year he initiated conversations by text much more often. This is long distance situationship and since he's a player I definitely do not take him seriously nor want a relationship with him anymore, the ignoring text or only responding with one or two words or an emoji is just so rude and he doesn't appreciate me.
It's been a long time since I've watched or even seen any H.G.Tudor videos being offered at all. Probably about a year ago now...
Year ago I met Ultra. From the start it didn't feel right. I remember that hipnotic stare and egoistical stories. When I became primal source she was intense with messages and suddenly go silent even for 7 days. I didn't recognize it then but I would give her 5 days of my silent because something told me that there was much more than others obligation and interest. It helped a bit. I withdraw after while, but she would even today give me some crumbs from social media to se if I would bite. No sir!
Bro just went threw this.Texy her and told her I have had enough.Going on a date tonight.Im handsome she not even on my level.So ashamed at how this woman pulled one over on me.To be honest after this O just do not feel like dating anymore WTF is the use?I can not find the woman I am looking for?I rather be single than do this shit going to focus on me.Shit at this point might as well get a call girl at least that way no feelings
HG thanks for posting this video it covers a lot of territory.
I currently have been dealing with one of your kind that loves to use words out of context. I have saved the texts from May until present (November). There's a definite pattern indicated in the entirety. Perhaps you know of this and what is is they're attempting to accomplish other than what I presently think which is they're diminished in mental capacity or wish me to think that. It's like dealing with a small child in a way only a child learns and progresses in the growing up if you will. This person seems to be stuck where they are at and are unable to learn and grow.
Thanks again
To add: as HG may not have time to respond anyone else is welcome to weigh in with advice or experience with this as learning and growing is very important to me.
If you call out a narc on his/her words not making sense in the sentence, ie using words out of context (often part of word salad), the narc will not be able to answer to your query. But hold him/her accountable, keep asking. Look up the word if need be. Narc considers this an assault to his "intelligence", which is not nearly as high as he/she pretends. This causes a narc "injury". Get ready for a silent treatment or narc rage. But who cares? You can revel in the fact that he knows you are on to his/her nonsense. And that's exactly what it is, utter nonsense.
I had a situationship where the other person didn’t respond to my texts for several hours because they were at Target and “the power was out”-which doesn’t affect cellphone signal 😒 Shortly after, I met my husband and deleted this person from my life.
What does doing these things to the different levels of narcissists do?
My friend did this alot so I blocked and deleted her.. mind games.. my neighbour text me and because my phone isn t stuck to my hand she deleted it so I left it when she saw me she said I deleted it because you didn't reply I said give me a chance. Both now blocked
HG it must be exhausting being a narcissist, thank you for the insights though..
Not at all. We are made this way, it is natural for us, it seems exhausting to you because you are not us. You are welcome, thank you for watching.
Victor, stop flirting with me you big tart.
@hgtudor-theultra would you lose interest of any source of supply eventually? And does it bother if a situationship end?
@@hgtudor-theultra😂😂😂😂
This one is really good to know about, thank You HG, I Enjoy your podscasts all of them,of course I do Love your beatuful voice 🥰🤗👍❣️❣️
Mine is a mid ranger, absolutely. And that desire to understand, oh how that resonates!!
Thank you Mr Tudor. Just thank you.
thank you HG TUDOR, yes, he complained to the new supply that i was psycho and couldn't let go. he had vanished, so it's normal that i would text him a few times trying to understand his disappearance !
if he ever hoovers (he won't; it has been 3 months of silence from him, AND he blocked me), i will stonewall him right back.
he manipulated me to assert control over me, with intent to make the new supply see him as even more worthy.
He will Hoover it’s only been 3 months so he’s love bombing the new supply.. She’s headed to the devalue stage that’s when he will Hoover!! Jerks!!
Don't rule out the hoover - they can point their vacuums over a year after a break. Just get ready to shove a sock in the nozzle should it arise. They deserve nothing less 😁
@@Joanna7428 HAHA I like that. Well, I am on a mission to block him from ever being able to hoover. It's taking me days because he has multiple accounts. I hope to never see or hear from him again.
He may have used a flying monkey 😞
3 months? That's nothing to a narc. Got my first hoover just over a year.
When you have had a ultra/greater.. the lesser is a breeze😮💨
Even in the golden. I don't text back and forth like a teenager all day long it's immature and unnecessary I know assholes that are together for 8 hours and as soon as they separate for 15 minutes they get on the phone and say what are you doing I don't play that game I tell him what the f*** you think I was doing same thing as I was doing 15 minutes ago leave me the f*** alone I tell him in the beginning go text someone that gives a f*** and it has time for that s*** you got to nip it in the bud you got to set boundaries in the beginning you got to let people know that you're too busy for the endless chatter
So, can a narcissist ever be satisfied in a relationship or is only when they are in control?
Narcs are just one big black hole 🕳
They are NEVER satisfied, fulfilled, content.
No matter how much fuel they are given.
What a sad existence.
Childish behaviour!
This sounds is so diabolical !
Mine described me as a "crazy ex" to his new supply after I sent her a message on IG after seeing a suspicious message on one of his posts...turned out he was screwing her. I was his girlfriend of 2 years and he'd been seeing this new woman for one month.
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So true..my ND and NM are good in this..now I know so I don't even bother to send a message anymore.
Don't worry at all.
He blocked me on social media but hasn’t blocked from the phone. I guess I know why now. Thanks
It would be funny if it wasn't so nauseating. Such appallingly insane behavior. And so very true.
I feel like an idiot believing lies over and over. Never again though, thank you.
There was a boy who cried wolf 3 times. And died finally. What if it happens to you sir when you really need ?
Mine finally texted me back days later after i texted him saying he and his baby had the flu.... getting much better at not biting the bait and didnt respond....Theres always a lame excuse.!!!!