I came in to check for potential IBS and she told me dismissively to stop drinking sodas and eating junk food, even though i don’t drink sodas. the funny thing is she was a very overweight woman while my weight was healthy for my height.
It's disgusting to think that people justify being rude and disrespectful towards fat people because it will encourage them to lose weight. This doesn't work and if anything it will only make the situation worse. I'm a fat person and in the process of losing weight and being around people who aren't negative and mean really helped me start the journey. Fat people know they are fat and they know the weight has to go, being mean to us isn't helpful. I really loved the interaction between these two ladies❤.
If these people really wanted to help fat people losing weight, they would become doctors or participe in campaign that help people having a healthier relationship with food but guess what? They don't, because they don't really care actually
yesss... shaming people for their weight will do more harm. just think about it: if you shame and offend someone bc theyre fat, they will most likely fall into a unhealthy mindset, they will also seek unhealthy ways to lose weight. people actually care more about whats "aesthetic pleasing/beautiful" than about mental health
Yes, thanks for that comment! People in my family were rude and disrespectful about it since my childhood (it kind of changed when I started to "actively" and successfully lose some weight, even though I've always wanted to lose weight before and hated how I looked. I had never really learned to love myself back then). Now my eating habits are pretty messed up. I have times when I eat too much and other times when I don't eat enough - that's the times when I lose weight or that at least enable me to hold my weight (which is still too much/"obese") in a certain area. During the past years I managed to lose and regain 10-25kg repeatedly. Not sure if I even need to mention that the eating behaviour of certain family members (who used to "bully" me about my weight) is fairly messed up, too. With times of unhealthy eating being followed by another diet and the other way around. The sad thing is, that some doctors will also go as far as "mocking" their patients about their weight, or aren't getting tired of mentioning it along with certain assumptions ("do you eat sweets a lot?" umm, well... no, actually. "You need to get more excercise, but you know that yourself. Why don't you start walking a bit?" Well, I walk about 4-7km each morning, thanks). When I told my GP that I had lost about 12kg over only a couple of weeks (= too much in too short a time) because of ANXIETY, she was actually pleased. I guess all she heard was "I lost 12kg"... Luckily, I was able to stop hating the way I look, or being ashamed of it. This doesn't exclude wanting to change and mangage my weight. It's just when I look at old photos I think "Why didn't I like myself back then? I was pretty!" and I don't want to think the same when I look at old photos in the future. Even though I still very much dislike my photo being taken...
When they both realized they were both former dance captains & went through the same struggles specifically in that situation- that was so precious & wholesome & lovely. I can sense a potential long lasting friendship here. They were both lighting up the whole time despite the topic of conversation
@@absolutelyashleigh Hey! I'm honored that you took the time to comment back. I'm super impressed by your Korean language skills, and truly found this to be a beautiful & timeless example of human connection. This conversation was a beautiful thing to witness & I really wish nothing but the best for both you & Jiahn. Y'all both seem like lovely, empathetic people, and I'm sending both of y'all all the love
Ashleigh’s story is very inspiring because even if she’s been bullied a lot in America, she decided to move to Korea because it was her dream. She still faces fatphobia, but she builds the life she wants.
Fatphobia xD This is sucha ignorant comment. Why when someone is being told to stop smoking it's not called cigarettephobia ? Being obese is just very dangerous for health, it's just ALL ABOUT the way you encourage someone to take action. You can be very nice and supportive ( as friend or even best friend) but you can also be a d**k for someone and bully him. I think they are both amazing and they don't deserve to be treated like that, but at the sime time when you care about someone you want them to live as long as possible with good physical condition- you don't wanna your best friend to can't move at age 40 because of obesity or have a myocardial infarction. The thing is the approach. Imagine how great it would feel if you look at your friend the end of your journey and be able to say '' thank you - you supported me whole time, helped me losing weight, motivated me. Now I feel great phicically, My health is great and my looks also improved'' INSTEAD of fake friend telling you look amazing, they all fatphobic, don't change, your health is not important'' and then waking up at 40 y.o with multiple health problems ect ...
just wait until you see our video about fat positivity taken too far in America and beauty being taken too far in Korea! i think you'll see that we share some of our views. i don't promote unhealthy behaviors; however, i was obese due to a hormonal disorder that i'm receiving treatment for (i've lost 50 pounds so far). my point is that fat people don't deserve to be ridiculed; smokers aren't ridiculed in every possible circumstance nor are their health concerns ignored with a simple "quit smoking" comment. even if someone gained weight due to food addiction, addiction is also a disease that requires support, not verbal abuse. thank you for your comment and have a good day!
@@softpinkmoonlightyes but it’s more common for people to know some English because it’s a National language essential, korean is not. Props to Ashleigh for learning Korean so well
@@absolutelyashleigh Someone already asked but I am curious how you learned Korean so fluently too. I've struggled a lot to learn. I really want to. I was adopted as a baby and would like to read, write, and speak my native language
bruhh they both look so pretty and if i get a chance to meet them i m pretty sure it will be so fun like they r so fun to hangout and obv love their personalities
악의가 없더라도 남의 외모 평가하는 문화 좀 한국에서 없어졌으면 좋겠다. 어느 나라든지 외모로 사람 평가하는 사람들이 있겠지만 한국은 너무 심해ㅠㅠ 학생들 상처 받지 말고 당당하게 지금처럼 씩씩하게 자라줘요. 지금 그대로의 내 모습을 사랑하고 인정해 주는 좋은 사람들만 만나서 행복하세요!
So grateful for you both, sharing your stories and bringing all the systemic untruths and toxic discrimination that our societies continue to tolerate... I've struggled with my own appearance & have had an eating disorder (people compliment me back then, even when I was almost hospitalised)... now I'm bigger and finally starting to accept myself 💗
As a medical student I don’t think some doctors realize that weight alone cannot be a sole factor in determining someone’s health there are other important things as-well, While weight maybe important someone who is slightly overweight should not be dismissed or misdiagnosed just solely because of their weight. I have seen so many patients who had visited a doctor who were slightly on the heavier side be misdiagnosed and doctors only recommend them to “lose some extra weight” i think more health care professionals should actually look at the patients overall condition instead of just that factor. And this is also why some people hesitate to visit the doctors which is really upsetting to see because they can’t get the right diagnosis and treatment as professionals we all need to work around this problem.
Thank you for recognizing this. I have had negative/not great experiences with far too many doctors. For the record, I'm not talking about extreme things, but mostly just doctors not showing they actually hear/are listening to what I'm saying. The worst was a doctor asking if I was a worrier. I said no because, well, I'm not. Later on I brought up a new pain near my hip. She then proceeded to say, "Oh yeah you're a worrier" and suggested that my score on the mental health assessment might be the reason for the pain 🤦🏽♀️ I bet if I had private insurance she would've taken me seriously. Please don't ever become so jaded that you dismiss your patients' concerns and be sure to treat all of your patients equally despite their income. It took me another 4 years to actually get diagnosed by a doctor who actually wanted to help me. Turns out the pain was being caused by an ovarian cyst. AND in that same process of trying to learn what the cause of the pain was I also was tested for IBS (neg) and celiac disease (pos). Your comment gives me confidence you'll be a great doctor! Take care of yourself the best you can so you can take care of your patients. Best of luck going forward 🙏🏽
@@ijustneedmyself I’m sorry to hear about your experience with your previous doctor while stress/anxiety can affect your body in different ways, the pain you described was specific which should have been looked at more clearly in the first place. Glad to hear that you finally got your proper diagnosis i have had conversations with my senior residents before, specially women tend to be more misdiagnosed and overlooked than men because there is explicit gender bias and deep beliefs although it might not be the case here but just a lack of understanding for the patient’s condition.I hope you’re doing well now. Thank you for your kind comment and encouragement I’ll try my best to do what’s good for my future patients!
@@courtneyprice4217 I understand what you’re talking about in the comment above i wrote someone who is slightly overweight. Weight is a significant factor in determining someone’s health but most doctors overlook the fact that it’s not just the main issue, misdiagnosis happens a lot of in this field due to this exact reason.Doctors can determine in a case if someone is morbidly obese or someone who is above the average weight. We have to look at each cases differently but what I described was people being overlooked due to just the “weight” reasons which can cause the actual problem to be dismissed. In a case you described the problem would not have been dismissed as the patient’s overall condition is carefully observed.Hope this clears your doubts!
I know this had a lot of difficult subjects, but I couldn't stop smiling because they both radiated so much joy. Meeting someone else with similar experiences as you can be so validating. I'm really happy for these young ladies~
Fatphobia is unfortunately a problem in the US. I hate it when beauty and health are used interchangeably. Yes being overweight/obese is bad for your health but that shouldn't deny women to see themselves as beautiful and should not be used as a reason to bully people for their weight. Equating health with beauty is like saying being skinny is healthy when that's not always the case. There are some girls and women that are too skinny to the point they get sick easily. There are also women at a healthy weight but their lifestyle choices are unhealthy (e.g. smoker, alcoholic) and get sick from that but because on the outside they're not considered fat, people will still think of them as healthy.
bro but i have seen many obese ppl in youtube viedo of America so like for country like Korea and japan where you not see not that much fat ppl it is discrimination but in us too damn
being skinny is beautiful it just doesn’t work when you compare it to someone severely skinny that’s like saying some people can’t help being fat as a comeback when majority of people don’t have complications that make them fat
Ashleigh looks like one of those types of people who you just wanna be friends with because she's so kind and gentle. I have no idea how some people can be so cruel to others. As someone who was overweight and has lost weight in these few years, the snide comments, the judgy looks, the so-called "jokes", they never truly go away. Even now that I am deemed more "pretty" and get a bit more attention than I do before, I am still so self-conscious about how I present myself because I don't ever want to experience what I did in the past. I hope for everyone struggling out there with their own body image, that you come to a point where you truly love and care for your own body. Whether it's through losing weight, maintaining a healthier diet and lifestyle, or just wearing cute clothes because you want to, I hope that you look in the mirror one day and love what you see.
I commend both of these strong young women, on their ability to speak two languages, you go Ashleigh, and on feeling an optimism that can be hard to find in this world of obsessed and unrealistic beauty standards!❤️
When I was a freshman in college there was a couple on my floor in my dorm who were extremely attractive. Together and individually they were such sweet, kind, and genuine people. (We weren’t even close but the boy took me to see a group he knew he and I both liked.) This was MANY years ago and I still remember how unusual I thought they were, because people just aren’t like that. Isn’t it sad that to this I think of them as being so different than other ‘popular’ people? (One of my roommates, who was fairly pretty, was a witch.)
lol something similar happened to me too in middle-high school where this white girl i thought was super pretty but always treated me with kindness and still sometimes to this day i think i look like a frog. it was hard to believe her kindness was genuine sometimes bc i have experienced being friends with people who only wanted me as a friend to be their compliment or vent box and basically just proclaimed i’m inferior to them in looks or something and back then i did believe it but that girl was so sincere in everything she did and might’ve been my actual first true love
@@starflurries I think people like the ones we knew don’t need other people finding them physically attractive for their sense of self worth. They want to be valued for something meaningful, like a good mind and heart. I think that must have something to do with how they were raised.
It took me a second to realize you meant your roommate was mean because I'm a practicing witch and I couldn't figure out what witchcraft had to do with the rest of the comment.
I really hope these two girls stay in touch and became friends as they both understand what they have been through, how they were bullied and treated in their countries because they are larger than the average person. They seem to have got comfortable with each other really quickly and are chatting like they have known one another for years rather than minutes. It’s so sad that anyone who is different has to go through all of this. Kids (and adults) can be really cruel. Being larger, having red hair, being too skinny, having black skin etc etc is no reason for other people to put you down and make you feel inferior to other people. This world is made up of such wonderful differences which should be celebrated. I love how these two girls have bonded so beautifully. They are beautiful inside and out. ❤xx
I feel their stories so much, I'm from a small city in Italy. my city is literally my nightmare, I always been fat and chubby, but I always tried my best with diets, my first diet was around 11 years old. and since then, I tried to do sports, and eating better, but I can't. I would probably come to Korea next year, and I'm scared but at the same time exited for that, I hearing these stories makes me feel good, confortate, it's a good feeling. thank you girls, thank you for sharing your story.
Them relating over dance was really cute! It's quite harsh that there are so many little things that chip away at your confidence even outside of people being mean to you directly like not being able to comfortably go shopping. The kinds of things that others don't think about because it doesn't affect them. This was a good discussion for me to open my eyes some more
As someone who experienced bullying, pretty much her entire life, I really appreciate this video. I went through hell and back, and that’s me putting it lightly. From having my hair pulled, causing an injury that if wasn’t treated quickly and professionally, I would of had my leg ambulated due to infection, and so much more. Thank you for making this video :(
Imagine just bullying someone, being on someone's back, laughing at someone about something they don't control and stuff in this kind. What a shame. just look at these dumb"ss fighting in my comments section bro
im not bullying anyone 💀I'm just saying that they can work on it, because like being overweight isn't like the end of the world but it definetely does come with health issues if you're severely overweight and a lot of people just try to push away trying to better themselves and look for pity after years of not putting effort into themselves when they had time to work on it. I'm not saying it's easy, and I do have pcos lol but I managed to find a way to get into a healthier shape while being on birth control for it and cutting out carbs and actually exercising lol
Looking at these two beautiful personalities, I really wanna be friends with them. I always thought that I was the only one who felt left out but I am glad there are other people out there just like me. I really feel what they went through cuz once upon a time, I was just like them (the one who always left out and the ugly fat friend). Just because you are obese or skinny, no one is gonna be happy. School had always been hard for me. I would always get bullied just because I was fat. They called me ugly and that is how I lost my self confidence. I was hurt. I would always cry while coming from school. And the worst part is that it still hurts to think about that sometimes. But the years passed, I was healing for awhile. And one day, I stopped eating completely. Still, I am struggling to maintain an image in front of the society. It just hurtful when someone passes an awful comment. I am 24 now.
@@absolutelyashleigh well, it's been years now. I have over come that. The scars are still there. I am still healing slowly. Thank you for your kind words. Means a lot. I just hope that they do not suffer like I did. 😊
살집 있는 편은 아니지만 외모에 대한 이야기가 많이 공감 되네요. 오히려 저는 체중 문제가 아니라 그냥 생김새 자체로 멸시를 당하고 있어서 어떻게 해야 될 지 모르겠음.. 성형 하기엔 총체적인 골격 문제라 건드리기도 무섭고 뾰족한 수도 없어요. 저도 외모 때문에 따돌림 많이 당했어요. 중학생 때 애들이 교무실에서 제 증명사진 보면서 사람이 어떻게 이렇게 생겼냐고 욕하던 거, 그리고 그거랑 비슷한 여러 가지 일들 아직도 기억나요.
It’s really sad how shallow the world is that two kind girls would be segregated purely because if their weight. I hope they became friends they had really good vibes in this video
여기 두분 왜 이렇게 말을 잘하신대요~? 와 보는 내내 감탄하면서 봤어요. 진짜 티인의 외모에 대ㅐ해 칭찬하거나 조언하거나 평가하는 모든 행위들이 다 무례하다는 걸 다들 알았음 좋겠어요. 그냥 생각만하고 추스려야죠. 생각하는 대로 내뱉는 건 성숙한 인간의 자세가 아니니까요,,, 상처가 될 수도 있는데.
As a person who was always skinny most of their life, at 23 I lost my mother right before graduating and I got so depressed I started to self loath but before I realized it I already gained 25 kgs in a span of 2 years and let me tell you... people are BRUTAL, despite knowing what I have been through, I had to stay with my abusive father for a while too cause I didn't have any income right after graduation and he wouldn't help provide so I literally sold my belongings to get money to eat, there are days where I starved and put my siblings first since I was the eldest, and I did try to reach for family everyone avoided helping despite me telling them I will give them the money back wheb I earn, as soon as I started earning its when it began, trauma of expereicning starvation, mixed with losing my mother.... I started to comfort eat without realizing it, I became so large since I was so short too it didn't help, I didn't realize it until one day, I kinda literally woke up to it, I was rearranging my closet and discovered that my clothes don't even go past my knees, It started to mess with me every single day and to top it off people weren't kind, and just because you are fat, people treat you in ways that you are stupid or have less brain cells because you are fat, at work before gaining the weight no one questioned my judgment, listened to me complain about the most insignificant shit, when I became fat, thats a whole different world, people would question you as you were never trained for the job, get questioned for the smallest simplest things and would get told off about my feelings, always felt invalidated
It's so sad how cruel people can be...it's like they have some glasses on that make everything in their eyes look ugly. Actually if you really look at it, most things that happen in those people's lives are unfulfilling for them and they complain a lot. Because they lack kindness and compassion. If they were more compassionate, they would respect you for being so brave and strong going through the things you went through. Not just judging you based on what they see. I really hope that you'd become successful and have a lot of sincere loving people by your side❤
As a girl who suffered bullying at school and as a person in my 20's I only tell you one thing: school is a very small stage of your life, although now it seems like a world to you, be strong, you are strong, incredible things await you, you I promise, if you manage to overcome this stage of your life, everything you still have to experience will be worth it. You will be like a phoenix, you will be incredible in every way and you will realize that the people who harassed you are simply jealous and losers, try to live your life as happy as you can despite all the shit you are enduring But please, never give up. I promise you that all this ends ❤️
I love them both SO much, as someone who was also bullied (except it was for being ugly and weird/socially awkward rather than fat) i want to hug them both, it's horrible how fat people are treated like subhumans. I think they're both SO cute too, their skin is incredible and they have such bright smiles. I wanna be their friend so bad they sound so chill to hang out with
as an overweight teen, i appreciate this video. i have been called a whale in person and online and it literally hurts. seeing girls like me going through the same thing helps me have a little strength
Lmao i had a stranger called me fat..i was a teen, in my school uniform. God i was so pissed, he wasnt a supermodel either (an old 40+ year old skinny dude) to be judging others
For unpopular series i think we need unpopular people beside them. I mean as we know here and before these girls experiencing bad moments because people seeing their body. I bet this can be one of best series giggle have to continue. Love u both girl
This is brilliant, I hope more people see these videos and decide to stand up against bullying. Your both BEAUTIFUL ladies ❤️ you didn’t deserve that x God bless you both
I felt so understood watching this video. I'm always scared of going to the hospital every time that I'm sick because I always had to deal with doctors giving you a mean look while commenting about my overweight since I was a teenager. Or some of my parents passive - agressive comments about how i didn't do any exercise when I was a child since all the kids did sports or something more in their free time and I just didn't felt any attraction to other activities more than drawing and music. It's still so hard for me to accept my body because I have many insecurities since I have memory, I really don't like taking pictures of myself and no matter what my family always force me to being in them, it's just so tiring... These girls gave me some hope to one day finally accept myself as I am, thank you so much. 🖤
i’m sorry you’ve went through that 😔 you are worthy of love and respect! it’s hard to learn to love oneself despite societal expectations, but mental AND physical health are both super important!! i wish you happiness and i thank you for watching our video! ❤
I was once fat and people bullied me because of that. Sometimes even my own mom would say to me:"I wish you were skinny, so that I can dress you up nice and cute". There was a girl who was also fat, but she was more popular, probably because she was rich. I and that girl were friends when we were in kindergarten, but when we got to school, she acted like she didn't know me. It really hurt me so much that I began hating myself. After one year of school in Romania, we moved to Austria. I was still chubby, but people didn't really care. Even though they were nice to me, I just couldn't then just to compare myself with them. They were skinny and I was fat. I also go to a dance school and that time I was fat, and I had to wear a tight dress for the show, but I was really uncomfortable because my belly was showing, and the other were also wearing tight dresses, but they looked like models in them. Again, I began hating myself even more. After 4 years of school in Austria you have to change school and before changing school I lost weight and I felt much better. In my new school I felt excellent at first, but again there are girls who have an hourglass figure, and it made me jealous. From all the friends I have in school, there is one girl who is a bit chubby and I always compliment her on how good-looking she is because I don't want her to hate herself like I do. I told her about that I was in the past fat and that I hate myself for my looks, and she sees that I regret on how I lived. I tell her everyday that I'm always by her side and if she needs something, she can call me anytime. I give my best to love myself again, but it's not that easy. Being bullied and made fun of can leave someone just sad memories and hate for herself/himself.
생리불순은 스트레스로도 오는 것이고 평소에 괜찮았으면 더더욱 학창시절의 스트레스인경우가 태반인데 다짜고짜 살때문이라니 어이없네요.. 모든 것에 이유로 외형을 댈 이유도 욕해도 되는 이유도 없는데 쟐 살아가다가 이런 경험들이 오히려 오기가 생기게하고 트라우마만 만드는 것 같다는 생각이 드네요
I can relate to both of them a lot, I used to and still am treated poorly or bullied because of my weight. I'm trying to lose weight, but before trying to achieve that, I should improve my mental health first. People are really mean, they really should just keep their opinion to themselves. Sending all my love to Jiahn, Ashleigh and anyone who has had people treat them badly because of their weight or appearance. ❤❤
thank you so much! i agree on focusing on your mental health first!! i did that and it helps a lot with dealing with all of the struggles that come along with weight loss and overcoming trauma. i wish you good physical and mental health and am sending love right back at you!!
I love the sisterhood energy throughout the end of the video. As the bigger kid too, hitting obese last january was my wakeup call to start changing my life. People who make rude remarks about the body should know that overweight/obese peeps have hidden struggles that they wanted to overcome too. Rubbing it into their faces does not help
Fat phobia is a real discriminatory issue that needs to be taken seriously and addressed I’ve known people who have taken their lives due to the bullying they faced yet the world continues to turn a blind eye to it either deflecting from the issue, not saying anything at all, or outright expressing their fat phobia a person should not be judged or treated differently just because of their weight….
It goes without saying that being overweight is very unhealthy. But at the same time, bullying people who are overweight is still wrong. It’s not only nasty, but also isn’t gonna help them lose weight. It’ll only make them feel worse.
I've been following Jiahn for a while now and i really relate to her and ashleigh. These two individuals have such amazing personalities and the only reason they're considered unpopular is because of their weight. People are cruel, and treat people who arent super model skinny as sub-human and its tiring. I know how it feels to get made fun of for my weight and for being a POC and stuff liek this takes a toll on your mental health and your relationship with food.
외모 보다 저 언어능력과 공감능력 저 나이에 통찰력에 박수쳐주고 싶어요. You are so beautiful the way you are. It is true that if you are smaller, you might be healthier. At the same time, your weight should never be the one factor to cast a shade on your happiness.
I wanna be friends with both of them, they seem so nice and great to talk to! Also I think they're both so pretty in that preppy style. I love Korean fashion~
Fat people are people. They are humans who feel and have experiences. Realize that you’re not making anyone’s life easier by ostracizing them and if you think you are you need to look in the mirror. People can lose weight, but you will always be a nasty, disgusting person regardless of your muscle and skinniness. Be kind. Fat people know they’re fat and many want to change. So, there’s no need to tell them that they need to lose weight or that they’re unhealthy. Either mind your business or provide encouragement when asked for it.
Key word: “when asked for” you can’t control anyone’s life and you’re believing you’re this significant figure with so much power to impact someone by insulting and degrading them when you’re just a bully.
"Fat people are fat and many want to change" makes me feel icky. I know you mean well OP and I agree with everything else you've said, but that sentence is like saying that the bullies should take it easy on us because us fat people want to conform to societal norms. And fat people feeling pressured to do so is the problem. If you want to lose weight, that's fine if it's for yourself and not for others, that I'm not arguing against. But that sentence just makes it sound as if we know we're a blemish in society or something.
I gained over 30 kg at a time I was severely depressed, because I had to start taking antipsychotics and they increase your hunger and weight a LOT. I was never particularly skinny, but never overweight either, so when I reached 95 kg it was shocking how people would treat me, and mind you, I’ve had already been bullied before that at school. So you might guess how it went. It’s as if people don’t see you as human, even my parents said awful things to me. Only my sister, even being really skinny, was kind to me at home. I lost a lot of that weight now, and everyone who changed their behaviour to me do not impress me, because I know it’s not genuine. I’m thankful for my best friends, they never mentioned my weight once, and my boyfriend always made me feel beautiful, even at my heaviest weight. I’m glad you two found each other and hope you treasure each other’s friendship. The friends I value the most are mostly the ones who’ve felt my pain in some depth. I have awesome friends and an awesome boyfriend, also a few awesome family members. So I know you both will not only be happy, but offer happiness to others, and all the love you were not allowed to give or take. Step away from shallow people, they are truly the worst and only care about image/appearance, not deep bonds. Got inspired by this video, thank you girls!
It's so cute hearing the other speak in the latter's language. They both sound very confident (especially JiAhn speaking English). Also, it's crazy how they have the same look in each other's eyes. It's a quiet strength, but also really good listener skill in their eyes. It's hard to explain. They both seem comfortable in their bodies, but I hope they can continue to be strengths for each other and just be close friends. They have great chemistry.
Exactly what Jiahn said near the end. I have heard too many people make comments about how they are justified to judge someone for their weight, because it reflects poor health choices etc. But not only do you not know their life or health conditions, but making a comment serves no purpose other than bullying them. Of course we are aware of our own weights, and no doubt people make comments. So making unsolicited judgmental comments serves no purpose other than being hurtful.
These girls are really so beautiful and also they do speak so well ,i am sorry the world has been so harsh to you :( you dont have to change anything ,i love you both
I'm also overweight and a boy called me fat in school,i heard him say behind me"don't you see how fat she is"and after School i went home crying,and i didn't have a lot friends back then,i used to think the girls didn't like me since they were a group and I was darker,fat and a hijabi ,but I've come to realize we just didn't have a lot of contact with each other and one of them always hugs me,and i hate how Ashleigh was just told"try losing some weight"in America and in Korea she was told"you're severely obese,you could die"and it's amazing how fluent Ashleigh is in korean before i watched the video i thought there would be a translator or something
my heart goes out to these girls havng to endure such nasty words and behavior said and done to them their entire life, I hope they're healing and doing so so much better now and hope those terrible people learn to use their brains
even tho i was not that fat, but at school people did made fun of me. my physics teacher took me as an example and called me an elephant in from of whole class, and the whole class erupted in laughter. he called me names of many animals who are like heavy, this gave chance to my class mates to make fun of me as well. i was in tears, but i tried to hide them and he did not noticed how much that was hurting me. even tho in next class i said to him i wasn't comfortable and he was like, ''damn, stop it don't act like a kid...it happens and it wasn't anything serious''. 2 years later, now i am self conscious of my very much that i don't step out from my house. now i feel like all eyes are only on me and everyone is judging me. i can't even tell how my friend treated me after that incident. i used to cry each and every day after school 😔 but now i am happy in my room alon 24/7 ;) atleast there is nobody to judge me😮💨
@@TheKlore omfg ??? im so sorry such a situation ever happened to you that's beyond extremely unprofessional for that teacher and just plain bullying by an adult done to a child wtf?? i hope you know that there was, is and never will be anything wrong with you or your weight or how you look !! i learned this from my social anxiety: that it's gonna feel like ppl are staring at you judging you 24/7 and whether they actually are or not has nothing to do with you bcs if they need to pick apart at others in order to feel better about themselves then that's a personal problem within their own selves. im glad youre happy now but i hope one day you are able to have the courage to be yourself fearlessly anywhere you decide to go
@@jongseobsmom tysm for showing this much support. due to this incident, my grades declined and neither my parents understood me. i just used to cry by myself, i got soo used to being called this way by my teacher and student and due to my declining grades, i also used to get ton of taunts from my parents and teachers. those past two years i wasn't able to study properly too. even tho now i am at home, i took a gap year to study the loss happened in the previous two years and built my confidence. i am going to apply for ivy league, Harvard or MIT. only this can prove myself to my Asian parents that i wasn't lying the reason behind my sudden grade drop. i am not a disappointment. this December would be my 18th birthday and i don't think i would be able to celebrate it. idk why people don't understand how tormenting it is for a kid to being bullied this way. at that point, my father also used to point out that i am gaining weight, it was the most heartbreaking thing i heard. now he stopped saying that...maybe he somehow figured out that i was suffering
I am so glad they shared their story. I can completely relate to this and feel very relieved that I have someone I can relate to. Some people really do suck. Growing up, I was also tall and on the heavy side. When you’re like that people really do see you or it as manly. To this day it has affect me and never knew why my gender and body dysmorphia got bad whenever I wore “boyish” or unisex. I’m hyperfeminine because I was constantly bullied about how “manly” I looked, spoke, etc. people suck and it does effect people in the long run
This is correct now I've gained weight due to my recovery of my eating disorder. The unlimited hunger I feel now is just unimaginable. I wonder what the reason of these two is, whether it's the bullying or something else. It's just so disrespectful to treat people like that. They're both super intelligent and also very kind people. It's a shame, but I experience this a lot too.
When Ashleigh mentioned not being able to wear kids clothes like her peers, that made me think of US stores that cater to larger ladies. They seem to all carry the same, oddly specific style of clothes (you know, "suburban mom clothes": wide collars, sequins, stitching...). Imagine being a hip 20 year old who wants to hang out with her friends, but the only type of clothes you can find are the same kind your mom wears. As a man, I'm thankful that most department stores have "big and tall" sections of regular clothes for men. Why don't they do that for woman too? 🤷♂
This blows my mind… as a fat person myself I’ve been teased and bullied but 90% of it ended in Elementary school. When I was in HS and wanted to go on a roller coaster but was to heavy for it (the seats weren’t big enough) ppl around me were outraged and said ‘everyone deserves to ride these rides.’ Hearing other people’s stories makes me realize how blessed I was to have amazing people around me. Of course I was still picked on our snide comments were thrown my way but it was nothing like these two girls and some of the people in the comments. 🤦🏽♀️ as a society we need to do better. We need to raise our children or even younger siblings to know you treat people how you want to be treated. I hope these girls will forever be happy going forward and a friendship emerges 😊
Seeing this, there are a lot of things that are similar for people who are fat all around the world. I am from India and I have always been "chubby", "healthier than others", "obese" and "fat". It wasn't to a big extent until like 4th grade. For me too things like going to the doctors would result in just one comment that it was due to my weight, going for shopping but being internally scared that the clothes won't fit, getting told by others that if I just lost a little bit weight i would be prettier etc. One of the things that annoyed me the most used to be when people would say that I have a pretty enough face it is just my weight that is the problem. But there are differences too. I don't think in my whole school life there has been an incident where I was discriminated against just for being fat. I used to play sports, dance, play keyboard, got good enough grades, had good friends and have lots of good memories from school. I think i have been blessed in a way that I never had to go through tough situations like bullying or being isolated (I have a very strong character and since I used to learn martial arts, people were just instinctively aware enough to not say anything but no one treated me much differently for it). True I didn't have "male attention" but I did have a solid group of friends who just were always there for me especially my bff (we have known each other for like 13 years). I would say more than any stranger, the people who have ever made me feel conscious of my weight are either my family members( My mom says it for health purpose and my brother and father used to just tease me. Here I mean extended family like grandparents etc) or relatives whom I don't even know properly. Regardless I think I grew up well with a fairly positive mindset and I would say till the time you make yourself useful as in find a purpose, no one can say anything to hurt you. I know this is long but I just wanted to share my story too.
Love this. I think it would be fun to get all different sizes of women. There are indeed mean people all over the world and many people no matter their figure get criticism a lot. I think you are doing a great thing. Keep it up. ❤
Some people, especially kids think that it's cool or okay to bully people who are different from them. It doesn't matter which country it is. Unfortunately we are all experiencing the same things. Bullies' children also become bullies and this terrible cycle never ends.
OMG @ 4:57 성인병 does not mean “venereal disease”. It means disease in later life. I was like wtf are they saying obese people can have more venereal diseases?!?!? 😂😂😂 PLEASE editors change that caption for these girls sakes!’
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The world can be so cruel... No one deserves to be treated this way.
Ifkr
That is so true
Yeah u r right and also u r so beautiful ❤️
Yeah may Allah punish those type of people who treat others like trash
For real it’s so sad ☹️
For me the worst thing to hear was that doctors completely dismissed their health concerns and just lazyly blamed it on their weight.
Thinking you're lazy while lazily blaming everything on their weight. IRONIC
More common than you think. Many people especially women have died because of this
I came in to check for potential IBS and she told me dismissively to stop drinking sodas and eating junk food, even though i don’t drink sodas. the funny thing is she was a very overweight woman while my weight was healthy for my height.
@@sillyyyluvr Oh that’s awful! Not to mention extremely unprofessional.
Not surprised, even normal weight, doctors be like "It's in your head." "It's not that bad."
It's disgusting to think that people justify being rude and disrespectful towards fat people because it will encourage them to lose weight. This doesn't work and if anything it will only make the situation worse. I'm a fat person and in the process of losing weight and being around people who aren't negative and mean really helped me start the journey. Fat people know they are fat and they know the weight has to go, being mean to us isn't helpful. I really loved the interaction between these two ladies❤.
Thank you for your comment ❤❤ I agree
If these people really wanted to help fat people losing weight, they would become doctors or participe in campaign that help people having a healthier relationship with food but guess what? They don't, because they don't really care actually
yesss... shaming people for their weight will do more harm. just think about it: if you shame and offend someone bc theyre fat, they will most likely fall into a unhealthy mindset, they will also seek unhealthy ways to lose weight.
people actually care more about whats "aesthetic pleasing/beautiful" than about mental health
Good luck on your jurney, loosing exess weight fees so good afterwards, it's really worh it
Yes, thanks for that comment! People in my family were rude and disrespectful about it since my childhood (it kind of changed when I started to "actively" and successfully lose some weight, even though I've always wanted to lose weight before and hated how I looked. I had never really learned to love myself back then). Now my eating habits are pretty messed up. I have times when I eat too much and other times when I don't eat enough - that's the times when I lose weight or that at least enable me to hold my weight (which is still too much/"obese") in a certain area. During the past years I managed to lose and regain 10-25kg repeatedly. Not sure if I even need to mention that the eating behaviour of certain family members (who used to "bully" me about my weight) is fairly messed up, too. With times of unhealthy eating being followed by another diet and the other way around. The sad thing is, that some doctors will also go as far as "mocking" their patients about their weight, or aren't getting tired of mentioning it along with certain assumptions ("do you eat sweets a lot?" umm, well... no, actually. "You need to get more excercise, but you know that yourself. Why don't you start walking a bit?" Well, I walk about 4-7km each morning, thanks). When I told my GP that I had lost about 12kg over only a couple of weeks (= too much in too short a time) because of ANXIETY, she was actually pleased. I guess all she heard was "I lost 12kg"...
Luckily, I was able to stop hating the way I look, or being ashamed of it. This doesn't exclude wanting to change and mangage my weight. It's just when I look at old photos I think "Why didn't I like myself back then? I was pretty!" and I don't want to think the same when I look at old photos in the future. Even though I still very much dislike my photo being taken...
When they both realized they were both former dance captains & went through the same struggles specifically in that situation- that was so precious & wholesome & lovely. I can sense a potential long lasting friendship here. They were both lighting up the whole time despite the topic of conversation
thank you so much! i enjoyed our conversation so much!
@@absolutelyashleigh Hey! I'm honored that you took the time to comment back. I'm super impressed by your Korean language skills, and truly found this to be a beautiful & timeless example of human connection. This conversation was a beautiful thing to witness & I really wish nothing but the best for both you & Jiahn. Y'all both seem like lovely, empathetic people, and I'm sending both of y'all all the love
Ashleigh’s story is very inspiring because even if she’s been bullied a lot in America, she decided to move to Korea because it was her dream. She still faces fatphobia, but she builds the life she wants.
I appreciate that! Just gotta keep moving forward! ❤❤ Thank you for your comment!
Fatphobia xD This is sucha ignorant comment. Why when someone is being told to stop smoking it's not called cigarettephobia ? Being obese is just very dangerous for health, it's just ALL ABOUT the way you encourage someone to take action. You can be very nice and supportive ( as friend or even best friend) but you can also be a d**k for someone and bully him. I think they are both amazing and they don't deserve to be treated like that, but at the sime time when you care about someone you want them to live as long as possible with good physical condition- you don't wanna your best friend to can't move at age 40 because of obesity or have a myocardial infarction. The thing is the approach. Imagine how great it would feel if you look at your friend the end of your journey and be able to say '' thank you - you supported me whole time, helped me losing weight, motivated me. Now I feel great phicically, My health is great and my looks also improved'' INSTEAD of fake friend telling you look amazing, they all fatphobic, don't change, your health is not important'' and then waking up at 40 y.o with multiple health problems ect ...
just wait until you see our video about fat positivity taken too far in America and beauty being taken too far in Korea! i think you'll see that we share some of our views. i don't promote unhealthy behaviors; however, i was obese due to a hormonal disorder that i'm receiving treatment for (i've lost 50 pounds so far). my point is that fat people don't deserve to be ridiculed; smokers aren't ridiculed in every possible circumstance nor are their health concerns ignored with a simple "quit smoking" comment. even if someone gained weight due to food addiction, addiction is also a disease that requires support, not verbal abuse. thank you for your comment and have a good day!
@@davidshirz4351 i hope you can archive whatever is your goal ❤️
There is no such thing as fat phobia…
Wow! The girl in beige vest is just amazing to speak Korean so fluently.
thank you so much! ❤
so is the Korean girl for her level of English
@@softpinkmoonlightyes but it’s more common for people to know some English because it’s a National language essential, korean is not. Props to Ashleigh for learning Korean so well
@@absolutelyashleigh May I ask, how did you become so fluent in Korean ?
@@absolutelyashleigh Someone already asked but I am curious how you learned Korean so fluently too. I've struggled a lot to learn. I really want to. I was adopted as a baby and would like to read, write, and speak my native language
I loved these two together. They get on so well, personality wise and shared experiences
They were so fun to watch conversing ❤ agree
Yeah I like to see both having a great time and feeling comfortable with each other, I would like to see more videos of them more often!
자신이 존중 받으려면 타인을 존중할 줄 아는 마음부터 가져야 한다고 생각합니다. 사회의 편견과 편협한 시선에 맞선 두 분 그리고 지금도 비슷한 상황에 놓인 분들 항상 응원하겠습니다.
bruhh they both look so pretty and if i get a chance to meet them i m pretty sure it will be so fun like they r so fun to hangout and obv love their personalities
aww thank you! ❤
that was also my first thought. "They're both so pretty!" and "Wow they're both so articulate!"
they seem so wholesome & vibrant to be around like id seriously love to hang out with them 🩷
YES EXACTLY. I just feel so comfortable when I hear them speak
악의가 없더라도 남의 외모 평가하는 문화 좀 한국에서 없어졌으면 좋겠다. 어느 나라든지 외모로 사람 평가하는 사람들이 있겠지만 한국은 너무 심해ㅠㅠ 학생들 상처 받지 말고 당당하게 지금처럼 씩씩하게 자라줘요. 지금 그대로의 내 모습을 사랑하고 인정해 주는 좋은 사람들만 만나서 행복하세요!
그런게 없어질거같음?
당장 님도 잘생기거나 이쁜사람 좋아하지
못생긴사람 좋아함? ㅋㅋㅋ
@@명장갓명보 그렇게 삐딱한 생각을 들고 살면 널 좋아해주는 사람은 평생 너의 부모님밖에 없을거다.
윗댓들 무례함을 정당화 하네…머릿속으로 생각하는걸 뭐라하냐? 사람이면 겉으로 티내지말라고
@@user-sb1xz5dn2x익명뒤에서 남을 헐뜯어서 자존감 채우는 인간들인지라 상대하지않는게 정신건강에 좋습니다
한국이 심하다 생각하는구나 음 우물안 개구리
So grateful for you both, sharing your stories and bringing all the systemic untruths and toxic discrimination that our societies continue to tolerate... I've struggled with my own appearance & have had an eating disorder (people compliment me back then, even when I was almost hospitalised)... now I'm bigger and finally starting to accept myself 💗
I also struggled with an ED in middle school. I am now beginning to accept myself too! I wish you happiness and good health!!
Poor babies no one deserves to be bullied they're super cute
Totally agree! They’re both lovely girls, those bullies clearly didn’t develop an ounce of empathy…
TRUE
I mean no one should be bullied even if they are conventionally cute or ugly or just average lookingz
As a medical student I don’t think some doctors realize that weight alone cannot be a sole factor in determining someone’s health there are other important things as-well, While weight maybe important someone who is slightly overweight should not be dismissed or misdiagnosed just solely because of their weight. I have seen so many patients who had visited a doctor who were slightly on the heavier side be misdiagnosed and doctors only recommend them to “lose some extra weight” i think more health care professionals should actually look at the patients overall condition instead of just that factor. And this is also why some people hesitate to visit the doctors which is really upsetting to see because they can’t get the right diagnosis and treatment as professionals we all need to work around this problem.
Thank you for recognizing this. I have had negative/not great experiences with far too many doctors. For the record, I'm not talking about extreme things, but mostly just doctors not showing they actually hear/are listening to what I'm saying. The worst was a doctor asking if I was a worrier. I said no because, well, I'm not. Later on I brought up a new pain near my hip. She then proceeded to say, "Oh yeah you're a worrier" and suggested that my score on the mental health assessment might be the reason for the pain 🤦🏽♀️ I bet if I had private insurance she would've taken me seriously.
Please don't ever become so jaded that you dismiss your patients' concerns and be sure to treat all of your patients equally despite their income. It took me another 4 years to actually get diagnosed by a doctor who actually wanted to help me. Turns out the pain was being caused by an ovarian cyst. AND in that same process of trying to learn what the cause of the pain was I also was tested for IBS (neg) and celiac disease (pos).
Your comment gives me confidence you'll be a great doctor! Take care of yourself the best you can so you can take care of your patients. Best of luck going forward 🙏🏽
@@ijustneedmyself I’m sorry to hear about your experience with your previous doctor while stress/anxiety can affect your body in different ways, the pain you described was specific which should have been looked at more clearly in the first place. Glad to hear that you finally got your proper diagnosis i have had conversations with my senior residents before, specially women tend to be more misdiagnosed and overlooked than men because there is explicit gender bias and deep beliefs although it might not be the case here but just a lack of understanding for the patient’s condition.I hope you’re doing well now.
Thank you for your kind comment and encouragement I’ll try my best to do what’s good for my future patients!
common kaworu pfp W
@@courtneyprice4217 I understand what you’re talking about in the comment above i wrote someone who is slightly overweight. Weight is a significant factor in determining someone’s health but most doctors overlook the fact that it’s not just the main issue, misdiagnosis happens a lot of in this field due to this exact reason.Doctors can determine in a case if someone is morbidly obese or someone who is above the average weight. We have to look at each cases differently but what I described was people being overlooked due to just the “weight” reasons which can cause the actual problem to be dismissed. In a case you described the problem would not have been dismissed as the patient’s overall condition is carefully observed.Hope this clears your doubts!
@@kirbu2747 we love kaworu indeed :) ❤️
I know this had a lot of difficult subjects, but I couldn't stop smiling because they both radiated so much joy. Meeting someone else with similar experiences as you can be so validating. I'm really happy for these young ladies~
Thank you so much!! I really enjoyed meeting someone who really got what I felt!!
아픈 얘기를 카메라 앞에서 아무렇지 않게 얘기하는 모습들이 멋있네요. 내면이 단단한 대화들 들으며 많은 걸 느끼고 갑니다.
감사합니다!!!
Fatphobia is unfortunately a problem in the US. I hate it when beauty and health are used interchangeably. Yes being overweight/obese is bad for your health but that shouldn't deny women to see themselves as beautiful and should not be used as a reason to bully people for their weight. Equating health with beauty is like saying being skinny is healthy when that's not always the case. There are some girls and women that are too skinny to the point they get sick easily. There are also women at a healthy weight but their lifestyle choices are unhealthy (e.g. smoker, alcoholic) and get sick from that but because on the outside they're not considered fat, people will still think of them as healthy.
You worded all my thoughts perfectly
bro but i have seen many obese ppl in youtube viedo of America so like for country like Korea and japan where you not see not that much fat ppl it is discrimination but in us too damn
being skinny is beautiful it just doesn’t work when you compare it to someone severely skinny that’s like saying some people can’t help being fat as a comeback when majority of people don’t have complications that make them fat
Preach
@@mangamaniac7432 being overweight is a product of environment what your getting confused with is big boned
Ashleigh looks like one of those types of people who you just wanna be friends with because she's so kind and gentle. I have no idea how some people can be so cruel to others. As someone who was overweight and has lost weight in these few years, the snide comments, the judgy looks, the so-called "jokes", they never truly go away. Even now that I am deemed more "pretty" and get a bit more attention than I do before, I am still so self-conscious about how I present myself because I don't ever want to experience what I did in the past. I hope for everyone struggling out there with their own body image, that you come to a point where you truly love and care for your own body. Whether it's through losing weight, maintaining a healthier diet and lifestyle, or just wearing cute clothes because you want to, I hope that you look in the mirror one day and love what you see.
thank you so much!! i hope your relationship with your body image continues to grow healthier and your comment made my day!!
사랑스런 두 친구... 저도 혐오와 편견을 없애기 위해서 열심히 살게요 가르침을 주셔서 너무 감사해요.
감사합니다
I commend both of these strong young women, on their ability to speak two languages, you go Ashleigh, and on feeling an optimism that can be hard to find in this world of obsessed and unrealistic beauty standards!❤️
thank you so much!
When I was a freshman in college there was a couple on my floor in my dorm who were extremely attractive. Together and individually they were such sweet, kind, and genuine people. (We weren’t even close but the boy took me to see a group he knew he and I both liked.) This was MANY years ago and I still remember how unusual I thought they were, because people just aren’t like that. Isn’t it sad that to this I think of them as being so different than other ‘popular’ people? (One of my roommates, who was fairly pretty, was a witch.)
lol something similar happened to me too in middle-high school where this white girl i thought was super pretty but always treated me with kindness and still sometimes to this day i think i look like a frog. it was hard to believe her kindness was genuine sometimes bc i have experienced being friends with people who only wanted me as a friend to be their compliment or vent box and basically just proclaimed i’m inferior to them in looks or something and back then i did believe it but that girl was so sincere in everything she did and might’ve been my actual first true love
@@starflurries I think people like the ones we knew don’t need other people finding them physically attractive for their sense of self worth. They want to be valued for something meaningful, like a good mind and heart. I think that must have something to do with how they were raised.
It took me a second to realize you meant your roommate was mean because I'm a practicing witch and I couldn't figure out what witchcraft had to do with the rest of the comment.
@@g5rearea Sorry! I meant no disrespect. I was trying to avoid the B word for all the sensitive souls on this app (lol)
@@mochimochi82 No worries! I had a good laugh at myself.
I really hope these two girls stay in touch and became friends as they both understand what they have been through, how they were bullied and treated in their countries because they are larger than the average person. They seem to have got comfortable with each other really quickly and are chatting like they have known one another for years rather than minutes. It’s so sad that anyone who is different has to go through all of this. Kids (and adults) can be really cruel. Being larger, having red hair, being too skinny, having black skin etc etc is no reason for other people to put you down and make you feel inferior to other people. This world is made up of such wonderful differences which should be celebrated. I love how these two girls have bonded so beautifully. They are beautiful inside and out. ❤xx
I feel their stories so much, I'm from a small city in Italy. my city is literally my nightmare, I always been fat and chubby, but I always tried my best with diets, my first diet was around 11 years old. and since then, I tried to do sports, and eating better, but I can't. I would probably come to Korea next year, and I'm scared but at the same time exited for that, I hearing these stories makes me feel good, confortate, it's a good feeling. thank you girls, thank you for sharing your story.
tony soprano?
ti capisco tantissimo, amo la Corea ma ho davvero paura di andarci per paura di non essere accettata...
In italy people also does discriminate big people….
힘든 일 많았을텐데 두분 다 밝게 자라서 다행이예요!!❤
앞으로는 세상이 더 좋아져서 행복한 일이 더 많아졌으면 좋겠어요
Them relating over dance was really cute!
It's quite harsh that there are so many little things that chip away at your confidence even outside of people being mean to you directly like not being able to comfortably go shopping. The kinds of things that others don't think about because it doesn't affect them.
This was a good discussion for me to open my eyes some more
As someone who experienced bullying, pretty much her entire life, I really appreciate this video. I went through hell and back, and that’s me putting it lightly. From having my hair pulled, causing an injury that if wasn’t treated quickly and professionally, I would of had my leg ambulated due to infection, and so much more. Thank you for making this video :(
Imagine just bullying someone, being on someone's back, laughing at someone about something they don't control and stuff in this kind. What a shame.
just look at these dumb"ss fighting in my comments section bro
they can control it tho lol
@@zombie2183Do you have PCOS... No weight loss is very hard.
@@zombie2183looks like you are the bully.
@@zombie2183 Not everyone can, and even if they are able to they still don't deserve to be bullied and harassed.
im not bullying anyone 💀I'm just saying that they can work on it, because like being overweight isn't like the end of the world but it definetely does come with health issues if you're severely overweight and a lot of people just try to push away trying to better themselves and look for pity after years of not putting effort into themselves when they had time to work on it. I'm not saying it's easy, and I do have pcos lol but I managed to find a way to get into a healthier shape while being on birth control for it and cutting out carbs and actually exercising lol
Looking at these two beautiful personalities, I really wanna be friends with them. I always thought that I was the only one who felt left out but I am glad there are other people out there just like me. I really feel what they went through cuz once upon a time, I was just like them (the one who always left out and the ugly fat friend). Just because you are obese or skinny, no one is gonna be happy. School had always been hard for me. I would always get bullied just because I was fat. They called me ugly and that is how I lost my self confidence. I was hurt. I would always cry while coming from school. And the worst part is that it still hurts to think about that sometimes. But the years passed, I was healing for awhile. And one day, I stopped eating completely. Still, I am struggling to maintain an image in front of the society. It just hurtful when someone passes an awful comment. I am 24 now.
i’m so sorry you went through that 😔
i hope that things have gotten better and you are worthy of love and respect!! ❤❤
@@absolutelyashleigh well, it's been years now. I have over come that. The scars are still there. I am still healing slowly. Thank you for your kind words. Means a lot. I just hope that they do not suffer like I did. 😊
살집 있는 편은 아니지만 외모에 대한 이야기가 많이 공감 되네요. 오히려 저는 체중 문제가 아니라 그냥 생김새 자체로 멸시를 당하고 있어서 어떻게 해야 될 지 모르겠음.. 성형 하기엔 총체적인 골격 문제라 건드리기도 무섭고 뾰족한 수도 없어요. 저도 외모 때문에 따돌림 많이 당했어요. 중학생 때 애들이 교무실에서 제 증명사진 보면서 사람이 어떻게 이렇게 생겼냐고 욕하던 거, 그리고 그거랑 비슷한 여러 가지 일들 아직도 기억나요.
아이고..저도 그런거 봤어요.. 못생긴 사람일 수록 더욱 꾸미지 않으면 외면당하는게 현실이죠..내면을 잘 갈고 닦읍시다
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저도 골격이 문제여서 결국 외모지상주의에 눈이 멀어서 성형 했는데 부작용 장난 아니네요. 평생을 재수술 걱정에 살아가야 하고.
중요한건 멘탈과 좋은사람들 만나는 것입니다. 어차피 학교 졸업하면 아무도 그런 말 안함..
어릴때 괜히 군중심리 때문에 그랫던 거임
저도 외모때문에 남자애들한테 비난 많이 받았어요 자기들딴에는 장난이랍시고 얘기하지만 진짜 큰 상처가 돼서 돌아오는.. 저도 골격이 문제라 성형한다고해도 크게 바뀌는 거 없어서 성형도 포기했습니다.. 진짜 공감되네요
좀 못생기면 어때요 지들이 뭘 할 수 있는데 ㅋㅋ 외모로 사람 차별하는게 얼마나 유치한 짓인지도 모르는 인간들일걸요
I liked their chemistry
It’s really sad how shallow the world is that two kind girls would be segregated purely because if their weight. I hope they became friends they had really good vibes in this video
여기 두분 왜 이렇게 말을 잘하신대요~? 와 보는 내내 감탄하면서 봤어요. 진짜 티인의 외모에 대ㅐ해 칭찬하거나 조언하거나 평가하는 모든 행위들이 다 무례하다는 걸 다들 알았음 좋겠어요. 그냥 생각만하고 추스려야죠. 생각하는 대로 내뱉는 건 성숙한 인간의 자세가 아니니까요,,, 상처가 될 수도 있는데.
Yes i agree
As a person who was always skinny most of their life, at 23 I lost my mother right before graduating and I got so depressed I started to self loath but before I realized it I already gained 25 kgs in a span of 2 years and let me tell you... people are BRUTAL, despite knowing what I have been through, I had to stay with my abusive father for a while too cause I didn't have any income right after graduation and he wouldn't help provide so I literally sold my belongings to get money to eat, there are days where I starved and put my siblings first since I was the eldest, and I did try to reach for family everyone avoided helping despite me telling them I will give them the money back wheb I earn, as soon as I started earning its when it began, trauma of expereicning starvation, mixed with losing my mother.... I started to comfort eat without realizing it, I became so large since I was so short too it didn't help, I didn't realize it until one day, I kinda literally woke up to it, I was rearranging my closet and discovered that my clothes don't even go past my knees, It started to mess with me every single day and to top it off people weren't kind, and just because you are fat, people treat you in ways that you are stupid or have less brain cells because you are fat, at work before gaining the weight no one questioned my judgment, listened to me complain about the most insignificant shit, when I became fat, thats a whole different world, people would question you as you were never trained for the job, get questioned for the smallest simplest things and would get told off about my feelings, always felt invalidated
As far as words from strangers go 😭 I’m so sorry you went through that, best of wishes ❤
@@bellakamiya5652 thank you, I truly appreciate it ❤🙏
It's so sad how cruel people can be...it's like they have some glasses on that make everything in their eyes look ugly. Actually if you really look at it, most things that happen in those people's lives are unfulfilling for them and they complain a lot. Because they lack kindness and compassion. If they were more compassionate, they would respect you for being so brave and strong going through the things you went through. Not just judging you based on what they see. I really hope that you'd become successful and have a lot of sincere loving people by your side❤
@@justacarat2638 your comment made me cry so hard, thank you kind stranger, you have no idea how your words impacted me ❤
@@boogalooloo i hope life treats you kindly from now on
As a girl who suffered bullying at school and as a person in my 20's I only tell you one thing: school is a very small stage of your life, although now it seems like a world to you, be strong, you are strong, incredible things await you, you I promise, if you manage to overcome this stage of your life, everything you still have to experience will be worth it. You will be like a phoenix, you will be incredible in every way and you will realize that the people who harassed you are simply jealous and losers, try to live your life as happy as you can despite all the shit you are enduring But please, never give up. I promise you that all this ends ❤️
thank you so much!! i appreciate your kind words and advice! ❤
정말 유튜브고 뭐고를 떠나서 그 둘이 같이 이야기 한 시간만으로도 각자에게 정말 행복한 시간이었을 것 같다
All I see is two beautiful human beings. I'm sorry you had to go through that... Just know that you are unique the way you are!
thank you so much! ❤
I love them both SO much, as someone who was also bullied (except it was for being ugly and weird/socially awkward rather than fat) i want to hug them both, it's horrible how fat people are treated like subhumans. I think they're both SO cute too, their skin is incredible and they have such bright smiles. I wanna be their friend so bad they sound so chill to hang out with
thank you so much!
@@absolutelyashleighdefinitely, you both are great!
as an overweight teen, i appreciate this video. i have been called a whale in person and online and it literally hurts. seeing girls like me going through the same thing helps me have a little strength
you didn't and don't deserve that abuse. stay strong! it will get better, i promise (even though it never feels that way in the moment).
Lmao i had a stranger called me fat..i was a teen, in my school uniform. God i was so pissed, he wasnt a supermodel either (an old 40+ year old skinny dude) to be judging others
두 분 다 앞으로의 생활에 행운이 가득하기를 바라고 표정이 너무 귀여우시네요!
감사합니다!
They both seem so genuine and sweet. It's a shame people are treated so poorly
For unpopular series i think we need unpopular people beside them. I mean as we know here and before these girls experiencing bad moments because people seeing their body. I bet this can be one of best series giggle have to continue.
Love u both girl
I hope those two stay in contact! They get along so well, It’s so sweet to see
they look so pretty 💗💗💗
This is brilliant, I hope more people see these videos and decide to stand up against bullying.
Your both BEAUTIFUL ladies ❤️
you didn’t deserve that x
God bless you both
I felt so understood watching this video.
I'm always scared of going to the hospital every time that I'm sick because I always had to deal with doctors giving you a mean look while commenting about my overweight since I was a teenager. Or some of my parents passive - agressive comments about how i didn't do any exercise when I was a child since all the kids did sports or something more in their free time and I just didn't felt any attraction to other activities more than drawing and music.
It's still so hard for me to accept my body because I have many insecurities since I have memory, I really don't like taking pictures of myself and no matter what my family always force me to being in them, it's just so tiring...
These girls gave me some hope to one day finally accept myself as I am, thank you so much. 🖤
i’m sorry you’ve went through that 😔 you are worthy of love and respect! it’s hard to learn to love oneself despite societal expectations, but mental AND physical health are both super important!! i wish you happiness and i thank you for watching our video! ❤
It's sad because both of them are so intelligent and genuine. I'd always pick a friend like that over someone who's shallow.
thank you so much!!
It's so cool that they can both speak to each other's languages. They're both so fluent.
그런일에 대해 말했다는거 자체가 성장하였고 이겨냇다고 생각해요 대단하고 너뮤 밝아보아셔서 조아요! ㅎㅎ
너무 감사합니다!
I was once fat and people bullied me because of that. Sometimes even my own mom would say to me:"I wish you were skinny, so that I can dress you up nice and cute".
There was a girl who was also fat, but she was more popular, probably because she was rich. I and that girl were friends when we were in kindergarten, but when we got to school, she acted like she didn't know me. It really hurt me so much that I began hating myself.
After one year of school in Romania, we moved to Austria. I was still chubby, but people didn't really care. Even though they were nice to me, I just couldn't then just to compare myself with them. They were skinny and I was fat.
I also go to a dance school and that time I was fat, and I had to wear a tight dress for the show, but I was really uncomfortable because my belly was showing, and the other were also wearing tight dresses, but they looked like models in them. Again, I began hating myself even more.
After 4 years of school in Austria you have to change school and before changing school I lost weight and I felt much better. In my new school I felt excellent at first, but again there are girls who have an hourglass figure, and it made me jealous.
From all the friends I have in school, there is one girl who is a bit chubby and I always compliment her on how good-looking she is because I don't want her to hate herself like I do. I told her about that I was in the past fat and that I hate myself for my looks, and she sees that I regret on how I lived. I tell her everyday that I'm always by her side and if she needs something, she can call me anytime.
I give my best to love myself again, but it's not that easy. Being bullied and made fun of can leave someone just sad memories and hate for herself/himself.
생리불순은 스트레스로도 오는 것이고 평소에 괜찮았으면 더더욱 학창시절의 스트레스인경우가 태반인데 다짜고짜 살때문이라니 어이없네요.. 모든 것에 이유로 외형을 댈 이유도 욕해도 되는 이유도 없는데 쟐 살아가다가 이런 경험들이 오히려 오기가 생기게하고 트라우마만 만드는 것 같다는 생각이 드네요
그러게요 내가 다 화나네
ㅜㅜㅜㅜ 인정해요 ㅜㅜ 너무 답답해요
I can relate to both of them a lot, I used to and still am treated poorly or bullied because of my weight. I'm trying to lose weight, but before trying to achieve that, I should improve my mental health first. People are really mean, they really should just keep their opinion to themselves. Sending all my love to Jiahn, Ashleigh and anyone who has had people treat them badly because of their weight or appearance. ❤❤
thank you so much! i agree on focusing on your mental health first!! i did that and it helps a lot with dealing with all of the struggles that come along with weight loss and overcoming trauma. i wish you good physical and mental health and am sending love right back at you!!
Everyone is beautiful in their own way..
I love the sisterhood energy throughout the end of the video. As the bigger kid too, hitting obese last january was my wakeup call to start changing my life. People who make rude remarks about the body should know that overweight/obese peeps have hidden struggles that they wanted to overcome too. Rubbing it into their faces does not help
지안님같은 마인드 진짜 너무 가지고 싶네요ㅠㅠ 지안님 진짜 너무 멋져요!! 앞으로는 지안님 하고 싶은거 모든걸 다 순조롭게 할 수 있음 좋겠어요🩷🩷
그리고 지안님같은 언니 있음 좋을 것 같다는 생각이 들어욧🩷🩷
님도 돼지?
It is so cute that they both understand
Fat phobia is a real discriminatory issue that needs to be taken seriously and addressed I’ve known people who have taken their lives due to the bullying they faced yet the world continues to turn a blind eye to it either deflecting from the issue, not saying anything at all, or outright expressing their fat phobia a person should not be judged or treated differently just because of their weight….
It goes without saying that being overweight is very unhealthy. But at the same time, bullying people who are overweight is still wrong. It’s not only nasty, but also isn’t gonna help them lose weight. It’ll only make them feel worse.
한국인 여자분 그 진용진 양파에 나오는 배우분 아니신가…? 그때 연기 진짜 잘해서 감탄하면서 봤었는데 여기서 다보네 대박
they're so cuteeeeeee, i love seeing people realize they aren't alone, it feels so warm
yes!! it felt so warm and fuzzy meeting Jiahn!!
They are both so incredibly sweet and gentle. I have experienced their pain. I hope they stay longtime friends.
thank you so much!
애쉴리! 한국말 정말정말 잘한다. 한국어 배우기 쉽지 않았을텐데 대단하다 정말
감사합니다!!!
I've been following Jiahn for a while now and i really relate to her and ashleigh. These two individuals have such amazing personalities and the only reason they're considered unpopular is because of their weight. People are cruel, and treat people who arent super model skinny as sub-human and its tiring. I know how it feels to get made fun of for my weight and for being a POC and stuff liek this takes a toll on your mental health and your relationship with food.
so true 😢 i’m sorry that you’ve had similar experiences
also thank you so much! ❤
Their presence,way of interacting and understanding is just so pure and beautiful to watch. Genuine and gorgeous ladies. much love!
순수한 여학생 둘이 밝게 수다떠는 모습이 보기 좋네요. 😄
They're both so sweet and people tried so hard to crush their spirit...
change the title to "teenage girls vs the rampant fatphobia and bullying they go through all over the world"
so true 😢
외모 보다 저 언어능력과 공감능력 저 나이에 통찰력에 박수쳐주고 싶어요. You are so beautiful the way you are. It is true that if you are smaller, you might be healthier. At the same time, your weight should never be the one factor to cast a shade on your happiness.
I wanna be friends with both of them, they seem so nice and great to talk to! Also I think they're both so pretty in that preppy style. I love Korean fashion~
Same! Korean fashion is super cute, always!
thank you so much!!
Fat people are people. They are humans who feel and have experiences. Realize that you’re not making anyone’s life easier by ostracizing them and if you think you are you need to look in the mirror. People can lose weight, but you will always be a nasty, disgusting person regardless of your muscle and skinniness. Be kind. Fat people know they’re fat and many want to change. So, there’s no need to tell them that they need to lose weight or that they’re unhealthy. Either mind your business or provide encouragement when asked for it.
Key word: “when asked for” you can’t control anyone’s life and you’re believing you’re this significant figure with so much power to impact someone by insulting and degrading them when you’re just a bully.
"Fat people are fat and many want to change" makes me feel icky. I know you mean well OP and I agree with everything else you've said, but that sentence is like saying that the bullies should take it easy on us because us fat people want to conform to societal norms. And fat people feeling pressured to do so is the problem. If you want to lose weight, that's fine if it's for yourself and not for others, that I'm not arguing against. But that sentence just makes it sound as if we know we're a blemish in society or something.
thank you for your comment! i agree that the content of one’s character is most important! ❤
@@whoandwhyareyouhere um girl…that is scientifically false. 💀
I love them :'(
hope people can learn to be nicer and what you do and say will always have some sort of impact.
They’re both so beautiful
I gained over 30 kg at a time I was severely depressed, because I had to start taking antipsychotics and they increase your hunger and weight a LOT. I was never particularly skinny, but never overweight either, so when I reached 95 kg it was shocking how people would treat me, and mind you, I’ve had already been bullied before that at school. So you might guess how it went. It’s as if people don’t see you as human, even my parents said awful things to me. Only my sister, even being really skinny, was kind to me at home. I lost a lot of that weight now, and everyone who changed their behaviour to me do not impress me, because I know it’s not genuine. I’m thankful for my best friends, they never mentioned my weight once, and my boyfriend always made me feel beautiful, even at my heaviest weight. I’m glad you two found each other and hope you treasure each other’s friendship. The friends I value the most are mostly the ones who’ve felt my pain in some depth. I have awesome friends and an awesome boyfriend, also a few awesome family members. So I know you both will not only be happy, but offer happiness to others, and all the love you were not allowed to give or take. Step away from shallow people, they are truly the worst and only care about image/appearance, not deep bonds. Got inspired by this video, thank you girls!
‘장난’이라는 거는 서로가 재밌어하는 거지 일방적으로 ‘난 장난이었어’하는 건 놀리는 거죠..주변 친구들이 너무했네요..ㅡㅡㅜㅜ
지안? 학생 얘기도 너무 잘 들어주고 리액션 너무 좋고 유쾌하시네요! 항상 당당하게 사시길
It's so cute hearing the other speak in the latter's language. They both sound very confident (especially JiAhn speaking English). Also, it's crazy how they have the same look in each other's eyes. It's a quiet strength, but also really good listener skill in their eyes. It's hard to explain. They both seem comfortable in their bodies, but I hope they can continue to be strengths for each other and just be close friends. They have great chemistry.
thank you so much!
Exactly what Jiahn said near the end.
I have heard too many people make comments about how they are justified to judge someone for their weight, because it reflects poor health choices etc.
But not only do you not know their life or health conditions, but making a comment serves no purpose other than bullying them.
Of course we are aware of our own weights, and no doubt people make comments. So making unsolicited judgmental comments serves no purpose other than being hurtful.
they're both so real
I want to be friends with them. They seem so nice and funny!
❤
It's so sweet to see them get excited about having similar experiences
These girls are really so beautiful and also they do speak so well ,i am sorry the world has been so harsh to you :( you dont have to change anything ,i love you both
thank you so much ❤❤❤❤
This video was fascinating.
Also I wanna be fluent like her!!
thank you so much! ❤❤❤
I hope they'll stay friends, they're both so sweet People ❤
I hope they continue to talk and become friends 😊
I'm also overweight and a boy called me fat in school,i heard him say behind me"don't you see how fat she is"and after School i went home crying,and i didn't have a lot friends back then,i used to think the girls didn't like me since they were a group and I was darker,fat and a hijabi ,but I've come to realize we just didn't have a lot of contact with each other and one of them always hugs me,and i hate how Ashleigh was just told"try losing some weight"in America and in Korea she was told"you're severely obese,you could die"and it's amazing how fluent Ashleigh is in korean before i watched the video i thought there would be a translator or something
These girls seem like they would be great friends, their energy and their chemistry is very well-matched
외모로 차별하는 건 한국이나 미국이나 에휴ㅠㅠ 어릴 때 상처 많이 받았네요. 누구나 모델같은 몸매를 가질 수는 없는데 가슴이 아프네요.
0:57 꼭 가야징~ cute
my heart goes out to these girls havng to endure such nasty words and behavior said and done to them their entire life, I hope they're healing and doing so so much better now and hope those terrible people learn to use their brains
even tho i was not that fat, but at school people did made fun of me. my physics teacher took me as an example and called me an elephant in from of whole class, and the whole class erupted in laughter. he called me names of many animals who are like heavy, this gave chance to my class mates to make fun of me as well. i was in tears, but i tried to hide them and he did not noticed how much that was hurting me. even tho in next class i said to him i wasn't comfortable and he was like, ''damn, stop it don't act like a kid...it happens and it wasn't anything serious''. 2 years later, now i am self conscious of my very much that i don't step out from my house. now i feel like all eyes are only on me and everyone is judging me. i can't even tell how my friend treated me after that incident. i used to cry each and every day after school 😔 but now i am happy in my room alon 24/7 ;) atleast there is nobody to judge me😮💨
@@TheKlore omfg ??? im so sorry such a situation ever happened to you that's beyond extremely unprofessional for that teacher and just plain bullying by an adult done to a child wtf?? i hope you know that there was, is and never will be anything wrong with you or your weight or how you look !! i learned this from my social anxiety: that it's gonna feel like ppl are staring at you judging you 24/7 and whether they actually are or not has nothing to do with you bcs if they need to pick apart at others in order to feel better about themselves then that's a personal problem within their own selves. im glad youre happy now but i hope one day you are able to have the courage to be yourself fearlessly anywhere you decide to go
@@jongseobsmom tysm for showing this much support. due to this incident, my grades declined and neither my parents understood me. i just used to cry by myself, i got soo used to being called this way by my teacher and student and due to my declining grades, i also used to get ton of taunts from my parents and teachers. those past two years i wasn't able to study properly too. even tho now i am at home, i took a gap year to study the loss happened in the previous two years and built my confidence. i am going to apply for ivy league, Harvard or MIT. only this can prove myself to my Asian parents that i wasn't lying the reason behind my sudden grade drop. i am not a disappointment.
this December would be my 18th birthday and i don't think i would be able to celebrate it.
idk why people don't understand how tormenting it is for a kid to being bullied this way. at that point, my father also used to point out that i am gaining weight, it was the most heartbreaking thing i heard. now he stopped saying that...maybe he somehow figured out that i was suffering
I am so glad they shared their story. I can completely relate to this and feel very relieved that I have someone I can relate to. Some people really do suck. Growing up, I was also tall and on the heavy side. When you’re like that people really do see you or it as manly. To this day it has affect me and never knew why my gender and body dysmorphia got bad whenever I wore “boyish” or unisex. I’m hyperfeminine because I was constantly bullied about how “manly” I looked, spoke, etc. people suck and it does effect people in the long run
This is correct now I've gained weight due to my recovery of my eating disorder. The unlimited hunger I feel now is just unimaginable. I wonder what the reason of these two is, whether it's the bullying or something else. It's just so disrespectful to treat people like that. They're both super intelligent and also very kind people. It's a shame, but I experience this a lot too.
They're both so beautiful
When Ashleigh mentioned not being able to wear kids clothes like her peers, that made me think of US stores that cater to larger ladies. They seem to all carry the same, oddly specific style of clothes (you know, "suburban mom clothes": wide collars, sequins, stitching...). Imagine being a hip 20 year old who wants to hang out with her friends, but the only type of clothes you can find are the same kind your mom wears.
As a man, I'm thankful that most department stores have "big and tall" sections of regular clothes for men. Why don't they do that for woman too? 🤷♂
so true!! thank you for your comment!
This blows my mind… as a fat person myself I’ve been teased and bullied but 90% of it ended in Elementary school. When I was in HS and wanted to go on a roller coaster but was to heavy for it (the seats weren’t big enough) ppl around me were outraged and said ‘everyone deserves to ride these rides.’ Hearing other people’s stories makes me realize how blessed I was to have amazing people around me. Of course I was still picked on our snide comments were thrown my way but it was nothing like these two girls and some of the people in the comments. 🤦🏽♀️ as a society we need to do better. We need to raise our children or even younger siblings to know you treat people how you want to be treated. I hope these girls will forever be happy going forward and a friendship emerges 😊
Seeing this, there are a lot of things that are similar for people who are fat all around the world. I am from India and I have always been "chubby", "healthier than others", "obese" and "fat". It wasn't to a big extent until like 4th grade. For me too things like going to the doctors would result in just one comment that it was due to my weight, going for shopping but being internally scared that the clothes won't fit, getting told by others that if I just lost a little bit weight i would be prettier etc. One of the things that annoyed me the most used to be when people would say that I have a pretty enough face it is just my weight that is the problem.
But there are differences too. I don't think in my whole school life there has been an incident where I was discriminated against just for being fat. I used to play sports, dance, play keyboard, got good enough grades, had good friends and have lots of good memories from school. I think i have been blessed in a way that I never had to go through tough situations like bullying or being isolated (I have a very strong character and since I used to learn martial arts, people were just instinctively aware enough to not say anything but no one treated me much differently for it). True I didn't have "male attention" but I did have a solid group of friends who just were always there for me especially my bff (we have known each other for like 13 years).
I would say more than any stranger, the people who have ever made me feel conscious of my weight are either my family members( My mom says it for health purpose and my brother and father used to just tease me. Here I mean extended family like grandparents etc) or relatives whom I don't even know properly. Regardless I think I grew up well with a fairly positive mindset and I would say till the time you make yourself useful as in find a purpose, no one can say anything to hurt you.
I know this is long but I just wanted to share my story too.
Love this. I think it would be fun to get all different sizes of women. There are indeed mean people all over the world and many people no matter their figure get criticism a lot. I think you are doing a great thing. Keep it up. ❤
Some people, especially kids think that it's cool or okay to bully people who are different from them. It doesn't matter which country it is. Unfortunately we are all experiencing the same things. Bullies' children also become bullies and this terrible cycle never ends.
“they think it’s just a joke, but it stays with me” that sentence was so powerful
두 사람 모두 너무 아름다워요! 피부는 어떻게 관리하신 건지 꿀피부..! 용기내서 말해줘서 고마워요. 앞으로 모든 사람들이 차별받지 않는 세상이 왔으면 좋겠네요. Happy new year!
감사합니다! 새해 복 많이 받으세요!!
AWW THEY BOTH ARE SO CUTE
thank you!!! ❤❤❤
OMG @ 4:57 성인병 does not mean “venereal disease”. It means disease in later life. I was like wtf are they saying obese people can have more venereal diseases?!?!? 😂😂😂
PLEASE editors change that caption for these girls sakes!’
Thank you for pointing out this mistranslation! I was like ‘what the heck, that is nonsense!’😮😮
two of the bravest girls I've ever watched... thank you for sharing your experiences