no i so get her. even until now, as a 23 year old, it feels like im walking on eggshells when i talk to my parents. my mom doesn’t even talk to me ever since i came out to her. i’m heartbroken. i still love her though, but i think i’m gonna hold resentment for a long time
@@xxtiffanylexx There's pros and cons and why there's different approaches. A lot of Asian diaspora grow up thinking the grass is greener with that method. It's been studied that when you break that authoritative role in your relationship, children are less likely to listen to you. That is a familiar stereotype of white families who often act like friends with their children. It's similar to why they coach managers/bosses to never get too friendly with their employees. In school it was similar. The young fresh uni graduate teachers trying to be chummy got walked all over by the boys but the silence was deafening with anyone else. I'm a bit older than most of Miyoungs fans and as I've observed it seems better to establish that authoritative role when they're young since they don't know better. As they get older you become closer as friends. I see a lot of Asian families turn out this way including my own. It's better than having those rebellious kids acting out in public throwing food at people. Those kids will be playing a dangerous game with the wrong man one day.
Does anyone else feel like me? That you don't really care about hanging out with your family, because when you are with them you don't really do anything? I have no issues with my parents or siblings, but neither do I have any strong feelings for them at all. If they would just stop making contact with me, I wouldn't mind at all, not even really notice it. Right now I only hang out with my parents sometimes for their sake; and nephews and nieces; and then only for a couple of hours and because I live close by.
I’m very introverted and it’s hard for me I don’t really care to reach out (not sure but my feelings right now) to them. I definitely do feel like I’m always like the odd one out even if I try to fit into the family dynamic or even my friends. 😅
I love my family, but I seem to be the only introvert among them. So, I barely talk to them, and self-isolate in family events. To make matters worse, they all drink and smoke. I don't. Sometimes I think I got switched at birth or something. That has to be it.
I do feel isolated even when I’m with my family or with my friends I feel sometimes I’m a stranger just trying to fit in somewhere. A lot of people say I’m not aware of my surroundings, but I feel like I am way too aware of it. 😅
Just talk to them, try to find commonalities instead of differences and be chill dont take any bad reaction as a sleight just use it as practice to talk to other people
Get addicted to hard drugs. Than use it when youre with them. That way you would have no other choice but to enjoy those time with them feeding your addictions. I should write a book.
Lol everyone is saying typical Asian/Korean household but I’m Black and this is the exact same for me. We only eat at the same time on holidays other than that we don’t have meals together. I personally dont talk much especially with my mom because if the conversation goes on for more than 5 minutes it’s going to lead downhill somehow (me crying probably). I’m 22, in uni, and love my family but I think we all just need our own space since we’re all getting older and have our own needs. I’m hoping to move out next year into a studio after I graduate & find work. Definitely 2026 if anything because it’s mentally & physically draining living with them and I dont want to build a hatred towards the people I love most. Edit: We do have our good times and that’s why I love them. My mom is a single mother but my dad was rather present in my life and both gave me a great childhood and still good to me till this day. We just have our off days and living in an apartment along with my older sister, it’s hard having space to breathe on your own. I wouldn’t say it’s a toxic household, I feel things will improve once me and my sister set off on our own and grow further as individuals.
This happens to any race. This just got more associated to asians because of how toxic the education culture is in asia. In east asia, most students still have cram school after normal classes. It got so bad, china even banned/restricted after school tutoring activities. Because of this toxic education system, kids barely have time for family. They pretty much just go home to sleep. Or they are home but busy with online classes. Combined with the fact that so many asian parents being "tiger moms", many asian kids share this trauma.
It's just Asian diaspora being pick mes. It isn't an Asian thing. It's an immigrant mentality. You could have 10 asians say "yeah I didn't experience that and neither did my friends" and as soon as one did one will go "Classic Asian parents". Toxicbunny or w/e did the same thing. I'm Asian and I fully expected someone in chat to do it and they did. The only respite is that Miyoung was smart enough not to stereotype herself. Got a lot of MENA and black immigrant friends who had strict parents though. Half the time their complaints have nothing to do with the parent being Asian or Asian cultured. That's the real therapy they need to get. Cultural inferiority complex.
classic Asian parenting, man am i grateful to be in a Hispanic kinda modern household, my parents loved me and gave me everything they could and i still hold trauma but not from my parents, i loved them unconditionally and it feels so good
Love and hate are very closely linked emotions for a reason and again: Only because they are family doesn't mean that you gotta keep close to you, when they actively hurt you either physically or mentally.
My family is similar, but we don't fight as much as Miyoung's family, and we actually talk to each other excluding my dad. I understand my parents, but they were just so strict about it
Christmas just doesn't mean the same or as much to Chinese, Koreans, Japanese, and Asians in general. To them it's a night where lovers spend a night together rather than something familial. They don't even get a day off from work for it and it's not really a holiday they cherish if it's even one. I think the Philippines is one of the exceptions in Asia where Christmas is celebrated to the same extent as the west does , because of its history as a Spanish Colony. There might be more asian countries but i'm not sure.
It’s not how it works. Asian parents will be mad until you financially support them. It’s normal. They just don’t want their children to end up hopeless. For example, a lot of chinese people says they never ever heard their parents say “ily” ever. It’s just how it is.
Relatable. I hope you are doing fine and well. Yeah I heard the same sentiment in the memoirs on “The Glass Castle” by Jeannette Walls and “Educated” by Tara Westover Both written by women and actually quite well written and relatable (not the woke or feminist kind we often get so negatively) but the women just write as human beings not as feminist. The childhood lives and growing into adulthood experiences are relatable to us but the dysfunction of their family are extreme. The reason why the book is so relatable despite the extreme circumstances of the two authors is that all families have some degree of dysfunction or all dysfunctional the only the differences is the varying degrees. These books are a tear jerkers and insightful and cathartic regardless of race or age or whether you like video games or is a youtuber or not. They are one of the best books if you dont want to feel so alone with your family problems and the negative emotions you sometimes feel with beloved family members. Our emotions are never pure and that is fine. We often dont acknowledge the ambivalence of our emotions. Loving or liking someone always entails later on some negative emotion towards them. It is what being human is.
that uhhhh isnt healthy at all basically paying her family to stop being mean to her and leave her alone. Heres a hint: you can stop talking to them AND not give them money for being bad parents.
I used to avoid family just because I recognize it didn't make me happy and instead stressed me out so why bother. I didn't resent them or anything though..
Imo that just shows her maturity. You can understand how the behavior was toxic but nevertheless still recognize and appreciate the sacrifices they made to raise you in time, money, and energy. At the end of the day they are just human too. My dad was a terrible parent. But I can relate to him as a fellow human being and understand how he never was able to learn how to be a good parent because his dad died when he was a child and how he was not able to live with his mom because of war. And I can see how even now he is trying to be a good parent but he doesn't know how.
That's just how korean families are. If you are actively choosing to not see your family, that directly contradicts loving them. You don't hold resentment over people you love. If you love them, you forgive and move forward. You're only lying to yourself by saying you still love them because your actions clearly say otherwise
as a korean myself, i think this thinking is a pretty toxic part of our culture. you can still love someone even if you arent actively meeting them. like she said in the video, she supports them financially
Love doesn't mean allowing someone to walk all over you unconditionally. Just because "that's how they are" doesn't make it ok You can love someone but still recognize their flaws. Ignoring their flaws because you're "supposed to" isn't love, that's subservience
This kind of thinking just perpetuates the cycle. If you grow up in this type of family and then have kids of your own with this mindset, don’t be shocked if your kids end up expressing similar sentiments as Miyoung
This is a very strange way of thinking. It's been well known and often stated that feelings of hate are much closer tied to feelings of love than anything else. The people who we love are the ones who tend to piss us off the most and hurt us the most, and we tend to hurt and piss off the ones we love right back. You know what the real opposite of love is? Indifference. If someone does something bad to you and you don't even really care, that's probably not someone you love. A random guy on the street can say all kinds of nasty things to me, at the end of the day I don' really give a damn lol. I'm gonna go home and forget about that guy. My significant other or family member who said something insensitive towards me tho? I'm definitely going to remember that and me and them are gonna have to work through that. You don't always LIKE or feel fuzzy feelings for the people you love, sometimes you are really angry and resentful towards them. Sometimes that resentment and angry feelings last for a long time depending on the severity of what happened to cause them. Yet at the end of the day I am still going to be seeing and contacting my family in 5 years, even if I don't see them every holiday or whatever. I'm still going to love those people, even if they sometimes (or oftentimes) piss me off the most.
I'm sorry what? You realize nearly all Americans celebrate Christmas not just Christians right? It was very much popularized and pushed my major corporations into the big national holiday that it is today.
no i so get her. even until now, as a 23 year old, it feels like im walking on eggshells when i talk to my parents. my mom doesn’t even talk to me ever since i came out to her. i’m heartbroken. i still love her though, but i think i’m gonna hold resentment for a long time
My parents are definitely like your my child and I’m your parent type of role not like other families where I see them act like best friends 😅
@@xxtiffanylexx There's pros and cons and why there's different approaches. A lot of Asian diaspora grow up thinking the grass is greener with that method. It's been studied that when you break that authoritative role in your relationship, children are less likely to listen to you. That is a familiar stereotype of white families who often act like friends with their children. It's similar to why they coach managers/bosses to never get too friendly with their employees. In school it was similar. The young fresh uni graduate teachers trying to be chummy got walked all over by the boys but the silence was deafening with anyone else.
I'm a bit older than most of Miyoungs fans and as I've observed it seems better to establish that authoritative role when they're young since they don't know better. As they get older you become closer as friends. I see a lot of Asian families turn out this way including my own. It's better than having those rebellious kids acting out in public throwing food at people. Those kids will be playing a dangerous game with the wrong man one day.
😂😂😂 you can’t change you’re gender
hah gayyyyyy..
jokes aside that sucks. at least you're independent now
OTV & friends: the T stands for Trauma
a black man aint finna take that like them
Does anyone else feel like me?
That you don't really care about hanging out with your family, because when you are with them you don't really do anything? I have no issues with my parents or siblings, but neither do I have any strong feelings for them at all. If they would just stop making contact with me, I wouldn't mind at all, not even really notice it. Right now I only hang out with my parents sometimes for their sake; and nephews and nieces; and then only for a couple of hours and because I live close by.
Family is more than blood. I have deeper relationships with some of my friends than I do with some of my family members.
I’m very introverted and it’s hard for me I don’t really care to reach out (not sure but my feelings right now) to them. I definitely do feel like I’m always like the odd one out even if I try to fit into the family dynamic or even my friends. 😅
I love my family, but I seem to be the only introvert among them. So, I barely talk to them, and self-isolate in family events. To make matters worse, they all drink and smoke. I don't.
Sometimes I think I got switched at birth or something. That has to be it.
I do feel isolated even when I’m with my family or with my friends I feel sometimes I’m a stranger just trying to fit in somewhere. A lot of people say I’m not aware of my surroundings, but I feel like I am way too aware of it. 😅
Just talk to them, try to find commonalities instead of differences and be chill dont take any bad reaction as a sleight just use it as practice to talk to other people
Get addicted to hard drugs. Than use it when youre with them. That way you would have no other choice but to enjoy those time with them feeding your addictions. I should write a book.
Too relatable haha
Lol everyone is saying typical Asian/Korean household but I’m Black and this is the exact same for me. We only eat at the same time on holidays other than that we don’t have meals together. I personally dont talk much especially with my mom because if the conversation goes on for more than 5 minutes it’s going to lead downhill somehow (me crying probably). I’m 22, in uni, and love my family but I think we all just need our own space since we’re all getting older and have our own needs. I’m hoping to move out next year into a studio after I graduate & find work. Definitely 2026 if anything because it’s mentally & physically draining living with them and I dont want to build a hatred towards the people I love most.
Edit: We do have our good times and that’s why I love them. My mom is a single mother but my dad was rather present in my life and both gave me a great childhood and still good to me till this day. We just have our off days and living in an apartment along with my older sister, it’s hard having space to breathe on your own. I wouldn’t say it’s a toxic household, I feel things will improve once me and my sister set off on our own and grow further as individuals.
This happens to any race. This just got more associated to asians because of how toxic the education culture is in asia. In east asia, most students still have cram school after normal classes. It got so bad, china even banned/restricted after school tutoring activities. Because of this toxic education system, kids barely have time for family. They pretty much just go home to sleep. Or they are home but busy with online classes. Combined with the fact that so many asian parents being "tiger moms", many asian kids share this trauma.
It's just Asian diaspora being pick mes. It isn't an Asian thing. It's an immigrant mentality. You could have 10 asians say "yeah I didn't experience that and neither did my friends" and as soon as one did one will go "Classic Asian parents". Toxicbunny or w/e did the same thing. I'm Asian and I fully expected someone in chat to do it and they did. The only respite is that Miyoung was smart enough not to stereotype herself. Got a lot of MENA and black immigrant friends who had strict parents though.
Half the time their complaints have nothing to do with the parent being Asian or Asian cultured. That's the real therapy they need to get. Cultural inferiority complex.
classic Asian parenting, man am i grateful to be in a Hispanic kinda modern household, my parents loved me and gave me everything they could and i still hold trauma but not from my parents, i loved them unconditionally and it feels so good
Love and hate are very closely linked emotions for a reason and again: Only because they are family doesn't mean that you gotta keep close to you, when they actively hurt you either physically or mentally.
She's just like me fr.
Definitely relatable
Yeah. That’s what we call “Asian parenting trauma”
My family is similar, but we don't fight as much as Miyoung's family, and we actually talk to each other excluding my dad. I understand my parents, but they were just so strict about it
@ yeah unfortunately some of us aren’t that lucky to have more understanding parents even after growing up ☹️
I love how Miyoung is so transparent and honest even when she knows her mom watches her streams
clip it and ship it to family
That's right, if you pay you can do whatever you want.
Christmas just doesn't mean the same or as much to Chinese, Koreans, Japanese, and Asians in general. To them it's a night where lovers spend a night together rather than something familial. They don't even get a day off from work for it and it's not really a holiday they cherish if it's even one. I think the Philippines is one of the exceptions in Asia where Christmas is celebrated to the same extent as the west does , because of its history as a Spanish Colony. There might be more asian countries but i'm not sure.
Asian family dynamics are so sad
i feel you
i can relate as a korean
classic "asian" families, I can relate to this lol
I dont have to see my family cause I support them.. Weird flex. I back it
that means you love your family for the fights ? if that is love, then you love to fight not your family. You should fight more then
Be honest 😂 Miyoung, u don't love ur family, ur just obligated 😂😅
OP how do I contact u I have huge video idea (possibly a million views)
Classic asian
So the family that gets mad at her she financial supports to ease her guilt on brushing them off and her isolation from her toxic family. Holy crap
It’s not how it works. Asian parents will be mad until you financially support them. It’s normal. They just don’t want their children to end up hopeless. For example, a lot of chinese people says they never ever heard their parents say “ily” ever. It’s just how it is.
@@HipHopTheme it doesnt make it right or excuse a behavior. that is really messed up.
Relatable. I hope you are doing fine and well. Yeah I heard the same sentiment in the memoirs on “The Glass Castle” by Jeannette Walls and “Educated” by Tara Westover Both written by women and actually quite well written and relatable (not the woke or feminist kind we often get so negatively) but the women just write as human beings not as feminist. The childhood lives and growing into adulthood experiences are relatable to us but the dysfunction of their family are extreme. The reason why the book is so relatable despite the extreme circumstances of the two authors is that all families have some degree of dysfunction or all dysfunctional the only the differences is the varying degrees. These books are a tear jerkers and insightful and cathartic regardless of race or age or whether you like video games or is a youtuber or not. They are one of the best books if you dont want to feel so alone with your family problems and the negative emotions you sometimes feel with beloved family members. Our emotions are never pure and that is fine. We often dont acknowledge the ambivalence of our emotions. Loving or liking someone always entails later on some negative emotion towards them. It is what being human is.
yes
so tru :c
that uhhhh isnt healthy at all
basically paying her family to stop being mean to her and leave her alone. Heres a hint: you can stop talking to them AND not give them money for being bad parents.
Yeah for real. They raised you? Ha you never asked to be born so they don't deserve a dime. So irritating logic
Nah this too real miyoung 😂
Asia debuff
😅 Dr Miyoung
w miyoung
does eating meals together count as sitting at table together but kinda just eating and not talking much lmao
Common Asian household of kids carrying their parents on their back
sounds like a typical korean family lol
That's miserable, so sad 😥
Asian families am i right...
tldr - asian parents
Some resentment? Brother you arent spending christmas with them lol.
Tell us you have a decent relationship with your family without saying you have a decent relationship with your family lol.
@@jt3.well this is clear. But Daniel is pointing out that she’s making an understatement..
I used to avoid family just because I recognize it didn't make me happy and instead stressed me out so why bother. I didn't resent them or anything though..
Asian households
why she so cute doe..
I'll never understand this. Her family treated her like shit but she still supports them financially? Like, why though?
Imo that just shows her maturity. You can understand how the behavior was toxic but nevertheless still recognize and appreciate the sacrifices they made to raise you in time, money, and energy. At the end of the day they are just human too. My dad was a terrible parent. But I can relate to him as a fellow human being and understand how he never was able to learn how to be a good parent because his dad died when he was a child and how he was not able to live with his mom because of war. And I can see how even now he is trying to be a good parent but he doesn't know how.
korean things
So they're just normal parents
That's miserable family
Asian parents not normal parents
That's just how korean families are. If you are actively choosing to not see your family, that directly contradicts loving them. You don't hold resentment over people you love. If you love them, you forgive and move forward. You're only lying to yourself by saying you still love them because your actions clearly say otherwise
as a korean myself, i think this thinking is a pretty toxic part of our culture. you can still love someone even if you arent actively meeting them. like she said in the video, she supports them financially
Love doesn't mean allowing someone to walk all over you unconditionally. Just because "that's how they are" doesn't make it ok
You can love someone but still recognize their flaws. Ignoring their flaws because you're "supposed to" isn't love, that's subservience
This kind of thinking just perpetuates the cycle. If you grow up in this type of family and then have kids of your own with this mindset, don’t be shocked if your kids end up expressing similar sentiments as Miyoung
This is a very strange way of thinking. It's been well known and often stated that feelings of hate are much closer tied to feelings of love than anything else. The people who we love are the ones who tend to piss us off the most and hurt us the most, and we tend to hurt and piss off the ones we love right back.
You know what the real opposite of love is? Indifference. If someone does something bad to you and you don't even really care, that's probably not someone you love. A random guy on the street can say all kinds of nasty things to me, at the end of the day I don' really give a damn lol. I'm gonna go home and forget about that guy. My significant other or family member who said something insensitive towards me tho? I'm definitely going to remember that and me and them are gonna have to work through that.
You don't always LIKE or feel fuzzy feelings for the people you love, sometimes you are really angry and resentful towards them. Sometimes that resentment and angry feelings last for a long time depending on the severity of what happened to cause them. Yet at the end of the day I am still going to be seeing and contacting my family in 5 years, even if I don't see them every holiday or whatever. I'm still going to love those people, even if they sometimes (or oftentimes) piss me off the most.
These OTV gals gonna all be the crazy cat lady from the simpsons
Miyoung isn't OTV, she's just Asian 🤷♀️
They getting there lol
Men too lol
@@kira-yf6qgI disagree. The guys are more stable compared to the gals
Better than looking for different guys to Collab with for an onlyfans 😂
Is she even Christian?
I'm sorry what? You realize nearly all Americans celebrate Christmas not just Christians right? It was very much popularized and pushed my major corporations into the big national holiday that it is today.
chopped shyt final boss
sez u
Chopped where
@@yomulv max level parasocial right here
No real. That is dysfunctional. Be the better woman and find a way.