But it has to be a genuine man not just any man. Also, your discernment should be putting you on game because just like intuition it’s there for a reason!
Basically he’s saying have standards. Don’t change or fold for no one. If they don’t like your standards then they don’t like you. See it as a blessing and move on. How handsome he is, how rich he is, or how much you vibing should not the standard to let him enter pass security check.
The most important thing is to love yourself, know your worth, and don't be desperate. If you need a relationship, you don't need to be in a relationship. Learn yourself and get to know yourself first before you seek a partner because if you don't know who you are, you won't know who you need. I wrote a series called Love Yourself First about my journey. Stay safe out here ladies.
The question asked , what things are important in establishing relationships . expectable communication where as they comprehend what you're saying, Being open, honest, listening is just as important as the talking so that we can comprise to come to the Best decision for all whom it concerns
Tony, I told my sister this the other day, Most men are very gullible. I had a man whom thought he could really have me, and I let him believe it. Boy he was upset, but I told him a woman is only going to be with the man she wants to be with. I’m not for everyone and everyone is not for me.
I'm glad you said this Tony. I'm a witness to this and I'm glad my dad taught me about dudes before he passed away. It definitely gave me the upper hand to protect me from the dusty deadbeats. Men teach women way better in my case. Thanks!
My dad poured into me with advice n put me up on game. 14 years after I put him in the ground im still listening to his advice. Im so grateful for him.
Thank you for the tips Tony but At this point I don’t even wanna be in the game. No, thank you 😊 24 years of age, abstinent, single and happy. I would never trade this peace for anything.
If there isn’t one they’ll make it up and accuse you of having a low character or actions you didn’t even do so then they can “punish” you for something you didn’t even do! Abusers are NUTS
You are absolutely RIGHT on the money with this! Women find themselves doing things men ask, etc, believing that’s what they should do to keep them, when most times it’s tests. Depending on the man it’s levels of tests. Yes, if you do it, they’ll take it, but it was a test.
The underlying problem is women not judging men by the same standard that they get judged but instead still wanting them and trying to be picked or "chosen" by them.
I think it would be more like 0.5 men being chosen cause if we stopped the air headiness and really tuned in on everything men did they would be a turn off 😂😂😂
How about men just stop playing games? These beings are supposed to be our protectors---not predators... Christian or not...just look at how much better the animal kingdom does in protecting their own.
Thank you Tony. I hear what you're saying, but I don't care anymore. Game or no game, I'm just going to be myself and enjoy life. If you like me, God bless you. If you don't like me God bless you. All these tests and rings to jump through are annoying and tiresome.
Yes, I need to be like that again too. Coretta Scott King and Betty Shabazz did not marry again after their husbands were assassinated. I see why now. They were not going to put up with the BULL from men who couldn't measure up to their husbands. They stayed alone until they died. If they can do it so can we. Both of my grandmother's husbands died before I was born and she lived until she was 98 years old. Her daughter lived to be 96 and her husband died before I was born. We can live and be happy without the drama and hardship and games of these boys who are not real men.
My grandma heard me listening to this message and she asked me what was I watching. I handed her my phone and let her watch about 5 minutes of it. I had to take my phone back because Tony had her hooked. She told me “ All women should be watching this!” Btw… she is happily married and always has stood on business with my grandad ❤
@4:15 I had to ✋🏽. They can ask but necessarily not want. Want to put us in box ☑️. RIGHT AWY. Then comment ☝️ says he want our ♥️. Well 🤷🏽♀️. All the way bent 😢😂
Every female in the world need to hear and study words that's coming out of this man mouth. This video truly open my eyes and ears. This is Powerful!!!
Tony I got so much game from you. Luckily I was in my early 20s when I started listening to you so I’ve been able to dodge a lot of shady characters. Men get so shocked when I say to them “Just because that’s what you told me doesn’t mean it’s true”. They like “huh?! I’m not a liar!” And I have to tell them - I don’t know that yet. Don’t let them fast talk and rush y’all!
Listening to Tony is literally a part of my daily regimen. Sometimes it’s for hours…sometimes it’s only a few short videos but I have to get my daily dose.
It sucks so bad for women. They have to deal with the manipulation and have to stand guard without barking. 😂 have to be always gentle and pleasing while people play with them. When a man gets played with he ready to go to prison and most time do. Life ain't fair but women have the worst end of the bargain.
Whether or not being a woman sucks depends on your viewpoint. If we are constantly in victim mode, we will be victims. But if we take back our power as women and weild that power in the way that benefits us, we take back control.
The man code: 1. Keep her busy at all cost 2. Overwhelm her with chores, kids, and errands 3. Ask her to gain and lose weight to lower her self-esteem 4. If the V is still tight after kids, make more babies 5. Don't give her money to take care of herself 6. Act like you didn't hear 7. Tell her you are a "home-body" and an "introvert" 8. Let her manage the bills and plan everything out - overwhelm at all costs 9. Tell her she's getting old like her mother - aging is a trigger 10. Withdraw from cuddling and stop showing affection 11. Always tell her you don't have enough money 12. Don't give compliments after marriage 13. Refrain from helping with duties 14. Try not to show you're enjoying sex with her after marriage - keep her humble 15. Have sex with her on holidays or monthly instead of daily or weekly - keep her humble Don't get manipulated.
A lot of Black women have been so programmed to be the "ride or die" that we go above and beyond to get/keep a man. It's drummed into us that we have to give it up whenever a man asks. We do not believe we have the power in relationships because we have been trained that way. Please keep giving these women the game. I know you get tired and frustrated of telling the same thing over and over, but we've been so brainwashed that it may take a while for it to finally sink in. Thank you for all you do! 😊
So true. My late dad gave me a lot of good advice about men--but not the whole story. My mother knew all about men, she had a good dad--but she had 5 brothers--and they were all about one year apart in age--she and my aunts saw how they played games with women growing up--bc they were her contemporaries--she saw everything in real time.
You’re so right!!!! I learned the game now since God opened my eyes and listened to you. I only wished I wouldn’t have closed my self for so many years so I could have learned this earlier. But, now I know. Lol 😆 So, for lunch , I go to this very nice golf ⛳️ course spot at the Biltmore/ in Az. Anyways, so I’m there minding my business and eating and working online. I go here a lot for lunch because I do meet a lot of wealthy elders for my Home care business and serving the community. Anyways, This handsome man, comes up to me and gives me his number. And says,”Hey,call me.” I looked up, because I’m sitting and I smiled. I wanted to say something but proceeded to stay quiet. And he walks off. In my mind, my thoughts are ,”what the heck!. I’m sitting here eating my lunch and working on my lab-top and you gave me your number? And I’m supposed to do what with this? Call u? Hell no I won’t. First off, what I need is a man that carries leadership and courageous abilities. So, ask for my number because I don’t chase and won’t ever do it. Made that mistake once! 😆 no thanks!!! I taught my sons this. You are the man and u are a leader and have confidence. If you want a girl, you go ask her mmmk. Because a women was not made by GOD YEHOVA TO BE REJECTED AND BE THE CHASER BECAUSE IT DOES SOMETHING TO HER SOUL AND ALSO HER PSYCHY. Even though many deny this truth. GOD IS A GOD OF ORDER AND MAKES NO MISTAKES. You’ll always be the one being the Masculine in that relationship.” And Tony is right about that! So, I ripped up his number and threw it away. Buahahahhah I’m loving this Brother Tony because I’m enjoying holding my worth and value and using what I’ve learned. I didn’t give him an attitude. I was sweet and kind and smiled. I come here a lot so we will see if I see him. Buahahaha who knows But if he ask,”why didn’t you call me?” I’ll just say,”oh, I’m a Ruth and we don’t chase.” With a smile 😊 I’ll keep you guys updated I won’t ever allow anyone to hurt me and abuse me ever again. God didn’t make us to be fools and be taken advantage of. We are HIS temple and we care for it and I trust GOD WILL SEND ME THE MAN WHO WILL RESPECT ME!! Periodt! Copied that from u Tony. Buahahahah
@@tiffanyyisrael7989 Exactly!!! Because the truth is, we don’t chase and if I’m interested, I’ll let a man know in a respectful way. But, if I didn’t show no interest and minding my business And you disturb me and give me your number. Idk 🤷🏿♀️ but, that’s a red flag. 🚩 I think it seems if I did happen to call, I’ll be the one calling first and texting first when it shouldn’t be that way. Ask for my number, and if I give it to you. Call me in a reasonable time. People be really playing too much and think ,” oh, let me make her wait or let’s see who calls who first.” Too much games as if they never grew up. These are basic adult communication. What grade are you in? Stuck in HS? But, I always give a Google number first or one of those free numbers because in the past I was stalked it was so bad the guy literally was stalking me after he found my number idk how but he called and said ,”you’re my wife and we’re supposed to be together and it’s such a long story but he began to harassing me and following me that my sons had to protect a lot , went into my home a put hidden cameras 🎥/police officers found after we called because he threw a huge rock upstairs at my master bedroom and calling my job idk how he got my jobs number but he did hack my devices. Wells Fargo had to freeze my account because they saw suspicious activity from someone it wasn’t me. Long story short, this man was so dangerous that he had a high position but abused it. I called my bank and they showed me proof of this man trying to empty my account too so that I can call him and be with him. I know because he told me when he texted. He was Causing chaos purposely to get me to run to him. I was forced to go to the police after I did the Bank fraud report against him and they did their own investigation too.) Anyways, so I’m very careful with my number because there are people who also hack your phone and it’s not that I have anything to hide because I don’t. If I get a boyfriend and get married, he can take my phone look at it and even spy. I don’t care because I’m not unfaithful. But, allow me to trust and get to know you first before I give you my number. People in certain positions abuse and listen to your calls. Idk why I shared this but just wanted to point out that It’s why I don’t give my number right away. Anyways, It comes naturally and if you like the person, be authentic and no mind games but just be. The lies that SM has making people think that they have so many options is crazy. I’m healed and whole and I just don’t and won’t put up with jumping in that pool with bunch of delusional folks who are lost sadly. God told me,”continue to seek me and do what I’ve called you to do and continue to work on yourself and I’ll find you your partner.” I marry for purpose and I know and believe God has His best and love for me. And I’m also fullfilled in Him that if it doesn’t come. I’m still great! I am love ❤️ and it’s because He lives in me.
My husband waited for me. Now’I don’t know what he did in his own but we didn’t do anything until marriage. I was engaged in a year and married about 6 months later. Timeline may be off but we did not have sex. Men do not bond to you if they have sex with you before they love you.
Girl you speaking straight facts 💯💯💯♥️ Men need friendship accountability and mutual respect and trust with a woman before he feels a need to commit to you! A man needs a real connection and something deeper than sexual desire to cause him to want to be faithful to one woman you cannot be typical and careless with your body and life men see that and the broken ones will extort and take advantage of that move on and will not regret it or look back! 💯
You’re right Tony, (SOME) Women do not listen! I know because I navigate so many Women into their True Worth, their Purpose & into their Powerful, Prosperous Next Level! Men are SUPER STUBBORN but Women can be SOMETHING ELSE TOO🙏🏽 Praying & doing my part🙏🏽
How are we supposed to hear this and still think it is a worth while use of our time to be in relationships with men? Genuinely if all men have this capacity and just needs the right trigger, also knowing how much more labor women do in relationships than men, then isn’t it a bigger risk to our lives and mental health than it’s worth??? 😔
Tony it’s so right I’m older women I didn’t know nothing of men just recently by listening to Tony I m learning so much about men I wish I knew all about them how they played us lied us manipulate us and test us in every way possible he’s very right on this one I get tested all the time in so many ways that I m still learning ladies don’t be an open book to men that’s a test to use it against us and they don’t say It and they don’t open their life we do a lot of damage by being so naive and trusty I wish dads and brothers would protect theirs sisters and daughters my never did and I m paying the price
Thank you Tony for passing on the divine wisdom of God. Ladies Listen please! Tony knows what he is speaking of. He is trying to save you from making the mistakes so many other women he counsels have made in the past. Be blessed Tony! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Tony you have given me more game than any man in my life has. My dad was in and out of prisons and he used women for what they had. My stepfather was drug dealer and he slept with every woman round town. And he would beat my mother to a Pup anytime he got ready. My uncle who is married but would cheat on his wife right in her face and beat her to a pup and she’s still there. He still goes to the club like he’s 19. My other uncle is 50 and still out here getting women pregnant that he doesn’t want to marry. If I had your prevision about 15 years ago, I would be doing much better than I am now.
@@ieshjust16 Sadly my grandfather passed away when I was in the 8th grade but he was amazing. If I had his influence I probably would not have made some of the Mistakes I did.
Wow!! Sometimes we have to deal with Generational Curses that only Jesus Blood and Power can BREAK !! I hope and pray God will break these cycles off your Bloodline!!! 🙏🙏🙏 and bring wholeness and healing ... You can find scriptures to meditate on and get this broken off your family!! I'm glad Mr Tony gives us such great insight into the minds of many men to be better equipped these evil days we r living in!!
Anxiety activated. I'm going on my first date in 10 years. I've been watching your videos and learning. I just feel that it's soooo difficult. This is like a science project.
Well, you just helped me understand why I fail in every dating relationship I have. I have never known how to play the game. Thank you for this message. Self reflection is a beautiful thing when coupled with accountability for one's actions. Be blessed!
I think I wanna listen to Princella The Queen Maker. I'm done with men and I'm way happier than I've ever been now unfortunately. With men there are to many games being played it seems. I simply don't want to anymore. I've been meeting alot of amazing women and I'm stress free now. Thanks Tony for trying to help though. You're awesome. I'm out the game🙏🏿
I’ve listened to her before, and to be honest, it’s a bit on the toxic side in my opinion. I don’t think we should be that extreme as women, but she makes a lot of valid points
Boiiii you have one country accent lol lol I'm from the South too I hear it in ya lol lol love your messages they are well needed, Big Blessings to you
OMG!!! I have said this…most women don’t really know or understand men in general!! I am the only girl, lived with makes cousins and have a husband and sons. I have been exposed so much to men that I have insider info that it seems like other women don’t know what I know…it’s hard to convey and convince women of the very things you are saying. It’s great what you are sharing since it’s coming from a man.
You ain’t never lied. All my ex did was watch platforms that put women down and he believed everything negative thing they said about women and brought that negativity to our relationship
Tony will you please do a follow-up to this video and state some tests men do and what a proper response should be? Also, when should you visit one's house if you are living a godly life and should you go on a trip while dating?
I just love how you broke this down forwarded to my daughter's yes they do listen by God's grace. One married one to go! You spoke facts Sir! 💯 Prayers & Many Blessings to you and your Queen🙏❤
Thanks so much for posting this video brotha. I have a son who will be 3 in May and one thing I've always said even before he was conceived is that he's going to be a phenomenal dad, husband etc I am thankful that my son gets to see an incredible example of living in a stable two parent home. Where he sees divine true luv, he sees how his big sister and younger sister luv him and taught how to luv them. The way he shows his luv to his sisters and to Myself, it's truly incredible. I appreciate seeing the reflection of what he has been taught by us. I speak life into my son and because we as people have been programmed to say things like"my son gone have all the ladies" etc I vowed that my son wouldn't be taught that mentality and that he's a one woman man with self control 🌻💚💛💖🫶🏾🤙🏾
😂😂😂 when you said why Adam did what Eve asked !! I really understand better now !! You are hilarious!! Thanks for the wisdom while entertaining us too!! 😂😂😂😂
Tony! 😂 Your messages be so on point but it be the comedy in the delivery for me. "It could've been a kumquat" 😅 So funny but true! Get over the semantics people and get the message!
Your talks NEVER get old. It’s like you keep reminding us to stay strong in this here wild with all these men as lions tigers and bears 😅😂 Thanks Tony.
Hi Tony I hope you get the chance to see this comment! 😊 Thank you so much Tony I honor and appreciate you so much you're truly a blessing you've taught me some very powerful lessons that cannot be washed away or forgotten! You've also been very honest and transparent about how men have and still are abusing, disrespecting, and mistreating women and how that plays a huge part in our broken chaotic society and why it contributes to how women are behaving and moving right now! Thank you for being a valid big brother to us and trying to teach us a better way of life that leads to balance and peace we love you 🤎🙏🏾
I really enjoyed Yu ladies learn the game! It was very enlightening to me. May. God bless you 🎉🎉🎉congrats for 17 years!! Keep. Him first. You all will can work it!! Sister. Rhonda. Prater.
yeah, and aside from not believing..some women like to tease, while others get a kick out of just pushing the envelope. there are also women who feel more empowered by meeting men exactly where they are. life's not fair..good talk.
I trust your word Tony. I'm reading Single Is Not A Curse. There's a new guy in my life. I know him from high school, but we didnt really interact with each other. I'm taking my time. He passed my first set of boundaries, so I allowed him closer to me. Just texting, he has my number. There's much to learn and I'm not rushing anything. His vibe is cool, I dont feel anxious when I talk to him. I been using my time better, refusing to sit by the phone for him, bettering myself in my free time. It feels good to be in control. When I feel out of control, I journal about what I'm feeling. And find a video of yours to watch on it.
We don’t need to be in a relationship for being happy, man and woman need need to be happy with themselves and then share that happiness with their partners!! Once you understand you are enough and you are all you need, you will always protect yourself and wan will have to respect your Boundaries…
Tony!! Can you talk about the 4b movement happening in South Korea right now?? Women are refusing to Be in relationships with men and to have their children!
Yes ive noticed even a man of God will test a woman’s character. Grown Boys do it more to play games. But even Grown men do it once or twice during courtship. It’s annoying to a woman like myself because I’m a very straight forward person. But I do understand it’s their way of “Testing every spirit”. And I trust my character to pass.
Young ladies need help learning how to set boundaries and what to set boundaries about. Many women have not been taught and don't know better and in addition, many women have self worth issues they need to resolve to understand they are worth setting the boundaries that they learn.
“A man works for a woman’s heart” PERIOD!!!!
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Agreed this is why I don’t do anything pertaining to a man.
@@tlashai9902 Yesssssss
That part! I’m not matching a man’s energy
If the heart is pure. Most of yall come with previous baggage attitude in your heart
As a woman who actually listens to men, men will put you on game if you are willing to listen to them.
They sure will.
But it has to be a genuine man not just any man. Also, your discernment should be putting you on game because just like intuition it’s there for a reason!
This the problem
It’s all a game, no one wants to play anymore
Be old af talking about he just gave me some game
Old= sit down
@@Lifeisinside who old?
@@PassportBrosAndBlondeManWeaves any man that’s not attracted to you will drop a gem or two if you’re willing to listen.
Basically he’s saying have standards. Don’t change or fold for no one. If they don’t like your standards then they don’t like you. See it as a blessing and move on. How handsome he is, how rich he is, or how much you vibing should not the standard to let him enter pass security check.
The most important thing is to love yourself, know your worth, and don't be desperate. If you need a relationship, you don't need to be in a relationship. Learn yourself and get to know yourself first before you seek a partner because if you don't know who you are, you won't know who you need. I wrote a series called Love Yourself First about my journey. Stay safe out here ladies.
Best advice! Thank you.
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The question asked , what things are important in establishing relationships . expectable communication where as they comprehend what you're saying, Being open, honest, listening is just as important as the talking so that we can comprise to come to the Best decision for all whom it concerns
That undercover cop analogy is genius!! Men judge women more than you think ladies. Be smart! Tony Gaskins is on point!
It's a man's world with game. Ladies value yourself, God does
Tony, I told my sister this the other day, Most men are very gullible. I had a man whom thought he could really have me, and I let him believe it. Boy he was upset, but I told him a woman is only going to be with the man she wants to be with. I’m not for everyone and everyone is not for me.
I'm glad you said this Tony. I'm a witness to this and I'm glad my dad taught me about dudes before he passed away. It definitely gave me the upper hand to protect me from the dusty deadbeats. Men teach women way better in my case. Thanks!
Yes but not men. Only your dad and brothers if they’re healthy themselves.
So true! My father taught me how to be a lady.
This is facts !! My daddy taught me this too!! 💯
My dad poured into me with advice n put me up on game. 14 years after I put him in the ground im still listening to his advice. Im so grateful for him.
Love this! fathers are so important. @@sheliamlightell4559
Thank you for the tips Tony but At this point I don’t even wanna be in the game. No, thank you 😊 24 years of age, abstinent, single and happy. I would never trade this peace for anything.
Amen. I hope you continue to have that mindset as you continue your journey of peace. Bless you
I’m 49 and I live in this space after divorcing at 26. No drama no kids and not having to navigate this space!
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A lot of women are adopting this mindset now and I’m not surprised.
I'm with you. I'll be 31 GOD Willingly on July 31st and I can honestly say I'm not fit for it. I belong to GOD & ONLY GOD
That's because some men just want that "EXCUSE" to do disrespectful stuff!💯
Boom!!!
It's called plausible deniability. 😏
Yup! They do these tests to get what they want and then degrade you for giving it to them and use it to judge you
If there isn’t one they’ll make it up and accuse you of having a low character or actions you didn’t even do so then they can “punish” you for something you didn’t even do! Abusers are NUTS
You are absolutely RIGHT on the money with this! Women find themselves doing things men ask, etc, believing that’s what they should do to keep them, when most times it’s tests. Depending on the man it’s levels of tests. Yes, if you do it, they’ll take it, but it was a test.
The underlying problem is women not judging men by the same standard that they get judged but instead still wanting them and trying to be picked or "chosen" by them.
If women judged men as harshly as men judge women only 1% of men would get chosen 😂 I agree women overlook too many things just to get a relationship
I think it would be more like 0.5 men being chosen cause if we stopped the air headiness and really tuned in on everything men did they would be a turn off 😂😂😂
The pick-meisha in me hears this & def agrees 😮💨😫
How about men just stop playing games? These beings are supposed to be our protectors---not predators... Christian or not...just look at how much better the animal kingdom does in protecting their own.
Truth
That will never happen
Yes it is exhausting
I agree 100% why all the games life is about choices people make life not fair when they play games.
Yes! Unfortunately, men, including Tony prefer to speak to women than correct men. It's exhausting.
Thank you Tony. I hear what you're saying, but I don't care anymore. Game or no game, I'm just going to be myself and enjoy life. If you like me, God bless you. If you don't like me God bless you. All these tests and rings to jump through are annoying and tiresome.
Yes, I need to be like that again too. Coretta Scott King and Betty Shabazz did not marry again after their husbands were assassinated. I see why now. They were not going to put up with the BULL from men who couldn't measure up to their husbands. They stayed alone until they died. If they can do it so can we. Both of my grandmother's husbands died before I was born and she lived until she was 98 years old. Her daughter lived to be 96 and her husband died before I was born. We can live and be happy without the drama and hardship and games of these boys who are not real men.
My grandma heard me listening to this message and she asked me what was I watching. I handed her my phone and let her watch about 5 minutes of it. I had to take my phone back because Tony had her hooked. She told me “ All women should be watching this!”
Btw… she is happily married and always has stood on business with my grandad ❤
Your mom is right !! 😊
And I’m glad you found Tony first; he drops invaluable jewels. Stay steady 😊
Men do test us. Thanks for the reminder!!! ❤
@4:15 I had to ✋🏽. They can ask but necessarily not want. Want to put us in box ☑️. RIGHT AWY. Then comment ☝️ says he want our ♥️. Well 🤷🏽♀️. All the way bent 😢😂
Every female in the world need to hear and study words that's coming out of this man mouth. This video truly open my eyes and ears. This is Powerful!!!
facts!!
Tony I got so much game from you. Luckily I was in my early 20s when I started listening to you so I’ve been able to dodge a lot of shady characters. Men get so shocked when I say to them “Just because that’s what you told me doesn’t mean it’s true”. They like “huh?! I’m not a liar!” And I have to tell them - I don’t know that yet. Don’t let them fast talk and rush y’all!
Any men out there NOT playing games??
lol no it’s all a game women do it too
I think its just their nature... to push boundaries, test your standards...
Stand on your values and morals
Listening to Tony is literally a part of my daily regimen. Sometimes it’s for hours…sometimes it’s only a few short videos but I have to get my daily dose.
Same. And I’m wide awake and taking notes.
You be on point every time. We have to set boundaries or men will try you.
It sucks so bad for women. They have to deal with the manipulation and have to stand guard without barking. 😂 have to be always gentle and pleasing while people play with them. When a man gets played with he ready to go to prison and most time do. Life ain't fair but women have the worst end of the bargain.
What are you taking about. You have a skewed vission there 😂
Whether or not being a woman sucks depends on your viewpoint.
If we are constantly in victim mode, we will be victims.
But if we take back our power as women and weild that power in the way that benefits us, we take back control.
I thank God I’m a woman
Gentle and pleasing. Not me!
The man code:
1. Keep her busy at all cost
2. Overwhelm her with chores, kids, and errands
3. Ask her to gain and lose weight to lower her self-esteem
4. If the V is still tight after kids, make more babies
5. Don't give her money to take care of herself
6. Act like you didn't hear
7. Tell her you are a "home-body" and an "introvert"
8. Let her manage the bills and plan everything out - overwhelm at all costs
9. Tell her she's getting old like her mother - aging is a trigger
10. Withdraw from cuddling and stop showing affection
11. Always tell her you don't have enough money
12. Don't give compliments after marriage
13. Refrain from helping with duties
14. Try not to show you're enjoying sex with her after marriage - keep her humble
15. Have sex with her on holidays or monthly instead of daily or weekly - keep her humble
Don't get manipulated.
A lot of Black women have been so programmed to be the "ride or die" that we go above and beyond to get/keep a man. It's drummed into us that we have to give it up whenever a man asks.
We do not believe we have the power in relationships because we have been trained that way.
Please keep giving these women the game. I know you get tired and frustrated of telling the same thing over and over, but we've been so brainwashed that it may take a while for it to finally sink in.
Thank you for all you do! 😊
So we are trained to be victims seeking love from predators ? No wonder our race is behind, we self destruct.
Thank you Tony for giving us ladies free game. I’m listening.
I am to the point where i just don't care anymore. I cannot live up to man's expectations, so singlehood it is 😂
I don't care anymore either.
Don’t miss the signs and the tests. 🙌🏾
i learned that hard lessons smh many times the hard way
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So true. My late dad gave me a lot of good advice about men--but not the whole story.
My mother knew all about men, she had a good dad--but she had 5 brothers--and they were all about one year apart in age--she and my aunts saw how they played games with women growing up--bc they were her contemporaries--she saw everything in real time.
Mind sharing some of the good advice from your dad?
@@asha4189 P*ss a new man off early in the relationship to see if they are crazy!😂😄😄
If a man asks you for anything like that too soon then that's a red flag and don't deal with him anyway.
Exactly ✅
"Point blank periYOD!"
"Listen tuh me nie!" (Listen to me now)
Tony dropping a gem that you need to take heed to.💯
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You’re so right!!!! I learned the game now since God opened my eyes and listened to you. I only wished I wouldn’t have closed my self for so many years so I could have learned this earlier. But, now I know. Lol 😆
So, for lunch , I go to this very nice golf ⛳️ course spot at the Biltmore/ in Az. Anyways, so I’m there minding my business and eating and working online.
I go here a lot for lunch because I do meet a lot of wealthy elders for my Home care business and serving the community.
Anyways, This handsome man, comes up to me and gives me his number. And says,”Hey,call me.”
I looked up, because I’m sitting and I smiled. I wanted to say something but proceeded to stay quiet. And he walks off.
In my mind, my thoughts are ,”what the heck!. I’m sitting here eating my lunch and working on my lab-top and you gave me your number? And I’m supposed to do what with this? Call u? Hell no I won’t. First off, what I need is a man that carries leadership and courageous abilities. So, ask for my number because I don’t chase and won’t ever do it. Made that mistake once! 😆 no thanks!!! I taught my sons this. You are the man and u are a leader and have confidence. If you want a girl, you go ask her mmmk. Because a women was not made by GOD YEHOVA TO BE REJECTED AND BE THE CHASER BECAUSE IT DOES SOMETHING TO HER SOUL AND ALSO HER PSYCHY. Even though many deny this truth. GOD IS A GOD OF ORDER AND MAKES NO MISTAKES. You’ll always be the one being the Masculine in that relationship.” And Tony is right about that!
So, I ripped up his number and threw it away. Buahahahhah I’m loving this Brother Tony because I’m enjoying holding my worth and value and using what I’ve learned. I didn’t give him an attitude. I was sweet and kind and smiled.
I come here a lot so we will see if I see him. Buahahaha who knows
But if he ask,”why didn’t you call me?” I’ll just say,”oh, I’m a Ruth and we don’t chase.” With a smile 😊
I’ll keep you guys updated
I won’t ever allow anyone to hurt me and abuse me ever again. God didn’t make us to be fools and be taken advantage of.
We are HIS temple and we care for it and I trust GOD WILL SEND ME THE MAN WHO WILL RESPECT ME!! Periodt! Copied that from u Tony. Buahahahah
Good for you sis! That's my test, the minute a man gives me his number without asking for mine, it's a wrap. I hold a funeral for him in my head. 🥴😂
@@tiffanyyisrael7989 Exactly!!! Because the truth is, we don’t chase and if I’m interested, I’ll let a man know in a respectful way. But, if I didn’t show no interest and minding my business And you disturb me and give me your number. Idk 🤷🏿♀️ but, that’s a red flag. 🚩 I think it seems if I did happen to call, I’ll be the one calling first and texting first when it shouldn’t be that way. Ask for my number, and if I give it to you. Call me in a reasonable time. People be really playing too much and think ,” oh, let me make her wait or let’s see who calls who first.” Too much games as if they never grew up. These are basic adult communication. What grade are you in? Stuck in HS?
But, I always give a Google number first or one of those free numbers because in the past I was stalked it was so bad the guy literally was stalking me after he found my number idk how but he called and said ,”you’re my wife and we’re supposed to be together and it’s such a long story but he began to harassing me and following me that my sons had to protect a lot , went into my home a put hidden cameras 🎥/police officers found after we called because he threw a huge rock upstairs at my master bedroom and calling my job idk how he got my jobs number but he did hack my devices. Wells Fargo had to freeze my account because they saw suspicious activity from someone it wasn’t me. Long story short, this man was so dangerous that he had a high position but abused it. I called my bank and they showed me proof of this man trying to empty my account too so that I can call him and be with him. I know because he told me when he texted. He was Causing chaos purposely to get me to run to him. I was forced to go to the police after I did the Bank fraud report against him and they did their own investigation too.) Anyways, so I’m very careful with my number because there are people who also hack your phone and it’s not that I have anything to hide because I don’t. If I get a boyfriend and get married, he can take my phone look at it and even spy. I don’t care because I’m not unfaithful. But, allow me to trust and get to know you first before I give you my number.
People in certain positions abuse and listen to your calls. Idk why I shared this but just wanted to point out that It’s why I don’t give my number right away.
Anyways, It comes naturally and if you like the person, be authentic and no mind games but just be. The lies that SM has making people think that they have so many options is crazy.
I’m healed and whole and I just don’t and won’t put up with jumping in that pool with bunch of delusional folks who are lost sadly.
God told me,”continue to seek me and do what I’ve called you to do and continue to work on yourself and I’ll find you your partner.” I marry for purpose and I know and believe God has His best and love for me.
And I’m also fullfilled in Him that if it doesn’t come. I’m still great!
I am love ❤️ and it’s because He lives in me.
Yesssszz this all of this !!! I love this because first of all why get your number when you should have mines if I who you trying to pursue ..💯
@tiffanyyisrael7989 my thoughts exactly 💯
My husband waited for me. Now’I don’t know what he did in his own but we didn’t do anything until marriage. I was engaged in a year and married about 6 months later. Timeline may be off but we did not have sex. Men do not bond to you if they have sex with you before they love you.
Women don’t understand. Waiting is not having sex with no one
“Men do not bond to you if they have sex before they love you”!!!
@@ThatGirlMoi it’s true. They release testosterone if they don’t love you. If they do love you they release oxytocin the love/ bonding hormone.
Girl you speaking straight facts 💯💯💯♥️ Men need friendship accountability and mutual respect and trust with a woman before he feels a need to commit to you! A man needs a real connection and something deeper than sexual desire to cause him to want to be faithful to one woman you cannot be typical and careless with your body and life men see that and the broken ones will extort and take advantage of that move on and will not regret it or look back! 💯
Wait until marriage also filter a lot of toxic man too
Man always go to women who easier to use
You’re right Tony, (SOME) Women do not listen! I know because I navigate so many Women into their True Worth, their Purpose & into their Powerful, Prosperous Next Level! Men are SUPER STUBBORN but Women can be SOMETHING ELSE TOO🙏🏽 Praying & doing my part🙏🏽
MOST don't listen...
How are we supposed to hear this and still think it is a worth while use of our time to be in relationships with men? Genuinely if all men have this capacity and just needs the right trigger, also knowing how much more labor women do in relationships than men, then isn’t it a bigger risk to our lives and mental health than it’s worth??? 😔
It’s not unless you meet a top 1% man who sees you as his wife and is willing to do the work.
Exactly, because at this point…it’s better to stay single.
@@la6136 Pray to God for this kind of man. Otherwise, you will meet the DEVIL in disguise.
Tony it’s so right I’m older women I didn’t know nothing of men just recently by listening to Tony I m learning so much about men I wish I knew all about them how they played us lied us manipulate us and test us in every way possible he’s very right on this one I get tested all the time in so many ways that I m still learning ladies don’t be an open book to men that’s a test to use it against us and they don’t say It and they don’t open their life we do a lot of damage by being so naive and trusty I wish dads and brothers would protect theirs sisters and daughters my never did and I m paying the price
The right man will wait for sex until marriage. I have had guys move on cause Ididn't give it up, and that was more than ok by me!
Congratulations on 17 years! That's awesome Tony! Thankyou for your wisdom and guidance.
May the Lord bless you Tony, and your wife, kids, family as well!
I've been watching you since I was 22 Tony. I'm 31 now. Thank you for your words & wisdom. May God bless you and yours.
Amen to this ‼️‼️‼️I can relate to this comment. SAME...I'll be 31 in July and still watching.
Best of luck on your journey friend! I'll be 32 in July ♡
@@dayipeliroja No Luck Only God In It & HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY TO YOU ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I'LL BE BACK IN JULY GOD WILLING TO WISH YOU A HAPPY BIRTHDAY.
Thank you Tony for passing on the divine wisdom of God. Ladies Listen please! Tony knows what he is speaking of. He is trying to save you from making the mistakes so many other women he counsels have made in the past. Be blessed Tony! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
" It can cost you your life." This is the truth
Tony you have given me more game than any man in my life has. My dad was in and out of prisons and he used women for what they had. My stepfather was drug dealer and he slept with every woman round town. And he would beat my mother to a Pup anytime he got ready. My uncle who is married but would cheat on his wife right in her face and beat her to a pup and she’s still there. He still goes to the club like he’s 19. My other uncle is 50 and still out here getting women pregnant that he doesn’t want to marry. If I had your prevision about 15 years ago, I would be doing much better than I am now.
Dang, I'm glad I have an amazing grandfather.
@@ieshjust16 Sadly my grandfather passed away when I was in the 8th grade but he was amazing. If I had his influence I probably would not have made some of the Mistakes I did.
I’m sorry for the stuff you saw growing up😢
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Wow!! Sometimes we have to deal with Generational Curses that only Jesus Blood and Power can BREAK !! I hope and pray God will break these cycles off your Bloodline!!! 🙏🙏🙏 and bring wholeness and healing ... You can find scriptures to meditate on and get this broken off your family!! I'm glad Mr Tony gives us such great insight into the minds of many men to be better equipped these evil days we r living in!!
Anxiety activated. I'm going on my first date in 10 years. I've been watching your videos and learning. I just feel that it's soooo difficult. This is like a science project.
Be strong! Let us know how it goes… take your time and love yourself. Know your boundaries 💪🏾💯
Well, you just helped me understand why I fail in every dating relationship I have. I have never known how to play the game. Thank you for this message. Self reflection is a beautiful thing when coupled with accountability for one's actions.
Be blessed!
Just need to understand some rules but that's why ur here
(Tony) it is of the essence that a man works for a woman's heart ♥ THAT PART!!!....🎤💯💎 I couldn't agree with you more! Thank you
Lol...Gaskins is crazy "just climbed outta there"... funny!
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Right lol
Yes, 😂😂😂. I’m at work, trying to keep from hollering laughing 😂 ❤❤❤
Know your worth! Too God be all the honor and glory. Thanks Tony
Tony, it's crazy how wise you are at our age! We need more wise men!
In NYC, a 19 year lost her life recently because she told the guy no.
That's sad.
He killed her and her twin sister 😔
I’m sorry that happened but I’m still going to say no
Omg😢 this world.😢
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Congratulations on 17 years ....The Gaskin Family.
I think I wanna listen to Princella The Queen Maker. I'm done with men and I'm way happier than I've ever been now unfortunately. With men there are to many games being played it seems. I simply don't want to anymore. I've been meeting alot of amazing women and I'm stress free now. Thanks Tony for trying to help though. You're awesome. I'm out the game🙏🏿
I’ve listened to her before, and to be honest, it’s a bit on the toxic side in my opinion. I don’t think we should be that extreme as women, but she makes a lot of valid points
Boiiii you have one country accent lol lol I'm from the South too I hear it in ya lol lol love your messages they are well needed, Big Blessings to you
Thank you brother Tony. Never underestimate anyone with stock in you. This is so true. Amen 🙏🏿
OMG!!! I have said this…most women don’t really know or understand men in general!! I am the only girl, lived with makes cousins and have a husband and sons. I have been exposed so much to men that I have insider info that it seems like other women don’t know what I know…it’s hard to convey and convince women of the very things you are saying. It’s great what you are sharing since it’s coming from a man.
You ain’t never lied. All my ex did was watch platforms that put women down and he believed everything negative thing they said about women and brought that negativity to our relationship
Tony will you please do a follow-up to this video and state some tests men do and what a proper response should be? Also, when should you visit one's house if you are living a godly life and should you go on a trip while dating?
I just love how you broke this down forwarded to my daughter's yes they do listen by God's grace. One married one to go! You spoke facts Sir! 💯 Prayers & Many Blessings to you and your Queen🙏❤
Thanks for giving us the game, Tony.
I just stumbled across your channel today and you have a wealth of knowledge.
Thanks so much for posting this video brotha. I have a son who will be 3 in May and one thing I've always said even before he was conceived is that he's going to be a phenomenal dad, husband etc I am thankful that my son gets to see an incredible example of living in a stable two parent home. Where he sees divine true luv, he sees how his big sister and younger sister luv him and taught how to luv them. The way he shows his luv to his sisters and to Myself, it's truly incredible. I appreciate seeing the reflection of what he has been taught by us. I speak life into my son and because we as people have been programmed to say things like"my son gone have all the ladies" etc I vowed that my son wouldn't be taught that mentality and that he's a one woman man with self control 🌻💚💛💖🫶🏾🤙🏾
😂😂😂 when you said why Adam did what Eve asked !! I really understand better now !! You are hilarious!!
Thanks for the wisdom while entertaining us too!! 😂😂😂😂
Thank you Tony! For all that you do. I definitely share your videos with my nieces because they don't have any male influences in their life.
Tony! 😂 Your messages be so on point but it be the comedy in the delivery for me. "It could've been a kumquat" 😅 So funny but true! Get over the semantics people and get the message!
Tony is spot on I just love these videos from men talking the truth love it.
Your talks NEVER get old. It’s like you keep reminding us to stay strong in this here wild with all these men as lions tigers and bears 😅😂 Thanks Tony.
Tony have you ever thought about doing stand up Comedy as a little Side Hustle, because you are always Dropping Knowledge and Jokes! 😄
I said that too! I wondered why he won't do stand-up comedy lol
Great talk of knowledge. Thanks
Hi Tony I hope you get the chance to see this comment! 😊
Thank you so much Tony I honor and appreciate you so much you're truly a blessing you've taught me some very powerful lessons that cannot be washed away or forgotten!
You've also been very honest and transparent about how men have and still are abusing, disrespecting, and mistreating women and how that plays a huge part in our broken chaotic society and why it contributes to how women are behaving and moving right now!
Thank you for being a valid big brother to us and trying to teach us a better way of life that leads to balance and peace we love you 🤎🙏🏾
I really enjoyed Yu ladies learn the game! It was very enlightening to me. May. God bless you 🎉🎉🎉congrats for 17 years!! Keep. Him first. You all will can work it!! Sister. Rhonda. Prater.
I agree. Thanks!
Thank you, blessings 😊
yeah, and aside from not believing..some women like to tease, while others get a kick out of just pushing the envelope. there are also women who feel more empowered by meeting men exactly where they are.
life's not fair..good talk.
I understand that people are liars and they always bring their representative. Trust God people.
Thank you so much Tony ! That was so informative!
I trust your word Tony. I'm reading Single Is Not A Curse. There's a new guy in my life. I know him from high school, but we didnt really interact with each other. I'm taking my time. He passed my first set of boundaries, so I allowed him closer to me. Just texting, he has my number. There's much to learn and I'm not rushing anything. His vibe is cool, I dont feel anxious when I talk to him. I been using my time better, refusing to sit by the phone for him, bettering myself in my free time. It feels good to be in control. When I feel out of control, I journal about what I'm feeling. And find a video of yours to watch on it.
Thank you. I can't hear this enough.
Congratulations in advance to you and your wife for 17 years of marriage!🎊🎉💐😍
Thanks for this video and message! 🙏🏽
We don’t need to be in a relationship for being happy, man and woman need need to be happy with themselves and then share that happiness with their partners!!
Once you understand you are enough and you are all you need, you will always protect yourself and wan will have to respect your Boundaries…
Thank you Tony! This is so needed.
Some men believe what they hear about and some don’t.
Some women don’t believe what they hear about men, and some do.
It always goes both ways.
God bless u, Tony Gaskins! U and ur wife, family, and experiences continue to truly bless us. 🙌💛💛
Needed this message. Thank you 🙏🏽
This is so true! I peep game. I learned from the last relationship I had. Any man who tests me, ain't the one fuh me! Period!
Wow ! Thank you Tony
4:51 Makes sooooo much sense. Mind games. They want to see how far you'll go. In other words.
So true..woman listen to this message MEN are either Constructive or DESTRUCTIVE no in between
Tony!! Can you talk about the 4b movement happening in South Korea right now?? Women are refusing to Be in relationships with men and to have their children!
Women in traditional cultures are fed up with patriarchal nonsense. It’s happening all over the world.
I have been married 30 year…this man is dropping so much wisdom.
I’m the only girl in my family I know exactly how a man is and how he thinks growing up with brothers taught me so much about men I thank God 🙌🏽😂
If you don't mind could you elaborate??
Yes ive noticed even a man of God will test a woman’s character. Grown Boys do it more to play games. But even Grown men do it once or twice during courtship. It’s annoying to a woman like myself because I’m a very straight forward person. But I do understand it’s their way of “Testing every spirit”. And I trust my character to pass.
Yes USING IT PURELY FOR PROTECTION BECAUSE THATS EXACTLY WHAT GOD WAS TELLING ME! Preach it!!!
I watch for red flags .God reveals things to me then I'm gone.
God show me red flags and then I disappear
Thank you Tony, This is so valuable.🔥
TG I'm smart enough and for what I'm dealing with then men just think they too smart. Thanks a lot for the truth
You done told me the truth about a man before and. I didn’t listen cuz I didn’t want to. But I knew you were right.
Absolutely ❤❤❤this man is speaking facts and is being led by the Holy Spirit ❤❤❤I am a Muslim woman 👩🏾 and approve this message
Young ladies need help learning how to set boundaries and what to set boundaries about. Many women have not been taught and don't know better and in addition, many women have self worth issues they need to resolve to understand they are worth setting the boundaries that they learn.
Great video!! This is helping me understand "The Game."Keep doing the pop-up videos. Especially on this subject.👍❤️
Men believe the negative things they hear about women.