Thank you so much for watching and for everyone who’s shared their story in the comments of my videos recently - I try to reply to as many as I can when I get a free moment. If you need more autism memes, I’ve made a playlist: ruclips.net/p/PLEHi2YmjD7gEssdqTn0247t_niQMt2b22 I also have a video chatting to AI about autism. Some interesting takes and it even wrote an emotional story about diagnosis in adulthood for me 😂 I laughed a load! ruclips.net/video/lKJ5sUfYTGg/видео.html
When neurotypicals see a door...they just see a door. When we see a door, we see an interaction with an object. Are there signs? What do they say? What do the words and/or symbols mean? Where does door lead? Am I allowed where door leads? Is anything behind door? Is someone going to open it into my face while I'm about to go through?
I can relate to being uncomfortable with dishes or clothes everywhere. Problem is I also have ADHD, so I find it extremely difficult to find the motivation to take any action.
Having the wombo-combo of Autism and ADHD is just a constant internal war between; "Hey, we need to get stuff done and done now, because this is stressing me tf OUT", and "Oh hey! Here's a new/old thing that I was reminded of! I must now spend the next 6 hours consuming content around this thing, and only this thing" all the time. (Context because I feel its kinda necessary. I'm officially diagnosed with ADHD, but not for ASD. My half-brother is diagnosed Autistic, and has gone as far as to bet that I am on the spectrum as well. If only getting a diagnoses was easier and cheaper)
My motivation is not inconveniencing anyone so my lack of motivation is in regards to cleaning only affects the spaces that are mine alone (my bedroom and bathroom... Unless this is about if it's someone else's dishes. I personally like to help wash dishes when I know the people aren't the type fo refuse to clean up after themselves
@Womanish Thing I can understand that! Dishes can be a huge sensory thing for me, so when I go to do them, I try to do as many in one go as possible. I also find it a hell of a lot easier to clean other people's rooms/spaces. For example, I did a co-op course during highschool where I helped out at a reptilian/exotic pet store (Exotic as in he had birds, frogs, snakes, lizards, and you could also ask to buy a couple feeder mice/rats as pets if you wanted). Most of the work the owner gave me was sweeping, cleaning enclosures, and wiping down the glass tanks. I thoroughly enjoyed myself, it kept me busy and focused for a good bit. He'd also let me play with some of the snakes/lizards once it got close enough to the end of the day, I absolutely loved it there
I definitely identify with the sensory overload one. It's like...I was at a guitar trade show recently, and I had to explain to someone that I was wearing sunglasses because it was too loud. They, quite obviously, just looked at me like I'd escaped from an institution.
There's doors with a huge face level sticker (I'm short) with the word CAUTION across the middle and above and below, the two words "automatic" and "door." I know they mean "caution, automatic door." But I can't stop worrying about the nervous door that goes into caution mode automatically. Poor automatic caution door, I understand, I have anxiety too.
those doors you are not supposed to go through most doors don't have alarms on them so that is different and you don't have to worry about that ha be careful
What's really awkward is when it's a group conversation in person and it just took 20-30 seconds from when you decide to say something to when it actually pops out and people get annoyed because you're interrupting them. Not that that has repeatedly happened to me.
@@SmallSpoonBrigade oh god this is why i just stay silent... while i was working at my friend's desk with her laptop, my groupmates were near me, and as they were talking i always think of a line a bit too late so i kinda just shut myself up. The only times i answered were when they asked questions for me, or that i could answer because no one else was answering for the past 10 seconds, and i just though of the answer 😓 Edit: i'm not autistic (yet) btw, but i am very socially awkward
I usually fail by blurting out my thought right as the conversation changes topic then when everyone ignores it or changes the subject anyways, I realize "oh god what have I done"
In my experience, the unsaid point in group conversations always happen because the people participating in the conversation don't value you enough to listen to you, my great points always come through with people that do want to hear me out.
When I was growing up, I rarely spoke until I invented my current mask. I had a massive aversion to repeating myself and basically wouldn't, anybody that wanted to know what I said had to listen the first time. But, because I did speak so rarely, it meant that I could choose to speak only when I had a very good reason for doing so. Personally, I don't generally much care if people hear me, it's for their benefit that I'm speaking, if they don't want to listen, that's on them. But, I'm not responsible for the results.
My diagnosis was done in a meeting room 40 miles away. Having had to drive there I was close to meltdown. They showed me in and said they'd be back in a min. When they came back in I was found on the floor, behind the meeting table, with as much clothing as acceptable off, my back to the cold radiator, headphones in and music on. They left me alone for another 20mins. Dx done.
1:06 Makes me think of when my brother got lost at the airport and was scared of missing he flight and called our mom in a panic. The airport workers were telling him vague shit like "go that way" to find the tram/shuttle instead of "Take the stairs next to gate 13 to find the tram/shuttle that goes from terminal 5 to terminal 8" and sent him in circles for 30 minutes. Mom was like "Did you tell them you are autistic and don't understand what they mean by 'go that way'?" Him "no." After him talking in circle for a wile, Mom finally convinced him to hand the phone to an airport worker to ask for him since he clearly wasn't asking them the right questions
I do have PDA and it does suck. Any job is automatically a nightmare and even working with Disability Employment Services - they just don’t understand. The problem is, you tell anyone what you’re feeling and they just think you’re throwing a tantrum like a two year old. Like: “you don’t want to work because it hurts when they tell you what to do? Uh huh… sure buddy.” I’ve had jobs where the second I walk into the building I’m perpetually seething. Everything feels like an attack and it’s the worst. I’ve spent so much of my life explosively angry and I didn’t know why until my late diagnosis. Because I was also super polite and quiet I don’t think anyone really knew what to do with me. I didn’t match in their minds. Autism in general makes me feel like a little bit of an alien (my experience, I don’t mean to offend), but having PDA on top just makes me feel like my entire being is in antithesis to the world. Existence itself is like nails on a chalkboard. I can’t look outside or turn on the news without getting stress headaches from holding in the “how f**king dare you(s)!” Same at work.
What's funny is that I don't think I mask, and so the consequence is that I don't have many close relationships, and I am pretty sure people think I'm either an adorable quiet person or a dumb impolite weirdo. No in between, it seems.
I understand you! I have periods when i cant mask and then i am very very silent, just sit there, or i am too direct and talking way too much, overshare, can't read the room very well.
my 2 close friends think that it is very likely that i'm autistic probably because i don't really mask and look, talk, think weirdly and because of that, i am questioning if i am autistic now
Have you ever gone non-verbal and had your spouse not understand what was happening? First time it happened with me she got mad cause she didn't understand how it was that I suddenly could not make words come out of my mouth... She gets it now, 16 years later... I'll be mid phone conversation and just hand her the phone cause I can't process speech anymore....
I've always wanted to be a mom with five kids who homeschools and gardens and bakes bread and volunteers. It wasn't until after I had a newborn and a toddler that I started really researching autism and ADHD. I've learned to see and understand my limitations. Expectation management is what I call it and it is important. If I only have two kids, send them to public school, buy the bread and have a tomato plant, maybe my children and I will make it to the end of each day in some kind of happy existence and they can grow up semi untraumatized.
LMAOOOO I realized I had a 'fire door' moment a few days ago while driving! There were 2 "wrong way' signs but it was weird bc there was 1 on each side of the road but it was on the other one parallel to the one I was on and I was so confused and scared that I was driving onto oncoming traffic, when I wasn't. Also, that awkward eye contact with the person to let them know that you heard them talking is very relatable lol. Great video! I love your channel, I'm a new subscriber :)
Oh my!!!! You just gave me an anxiety attack as construction zones and those darn 'wrong way' signs do a number on me. I could actually FEEL what you were describing as I have been in that situation way too many times and it is BEYOND a horrible feeling!!! I once drove through a construction zone......and I mean I messed things up bad and ended up having to stop as the road ended in basically a cliff. The crew had to have me back up, go through the site AGAIN and then turn onto the correct path(dang road cones!) The funny thing is that the first vehicle in the opposite lane at the end was my brother......he seen me at my worst and was actually freaked out once he noticed it was me because it was a construction zone way away from home. He was doing cable and I was on my way to a music gig practically on the other side of the state. Fun times!!!
I first encountered "fire doors" in high school. Much confusion ensued. I think I had to ask a teacher about it, and I'm sure a student coming up to them to ask how a fucking _door_ works was the high point of their day. And you better believe I had follow-up questions. Luckily I asked a Science teacher, so I got a free lesson on how back-drafts happen.
My trick to getting my points heard is to slowly start nodding my head more while people are talking, then that progresses onto two or three “mhm”s after every couple of sentences, a final ramp up with “yeah” three times or so and then I bring it home with the final “oh yeah that’s really interesting because I feel…” and then go into my point. I hope this helps someone else lol.
That advice your mom gave you is something I really needed to hear and it made me quite emotional. Also, I tried caffeine recently because I was curious how I would react to it and I did not like it at all. My heart started beating really fast and I felt sick (and it didn't give me more energy or motivation). It wasn't "ending up in A&E" bad by a long shot but still, I won't repeat that experience if I can help it
I've kinda self-medicated with caffeine (mostly tea, coffee doesn't agree with my stomach) for my ADHD for the longest time, and I never got the whole "it makes you hyper and your heart beat fast" part, since my experience has always been that I literally calm down from it and it makes me chill and relaxed. Now I am on ADHD medication, and drinking caffeinated things when I've taken my meds is a completely new experience, now. I now understand what people mean by it being a stimulant, and I don't know if I like it? I don't want to get palpitations and nervous energy from a drink! I'm actually kind of sad about it, since I love tea and have collected all these fancy teas, and now I don't even want to drink them unless I skip a day of meds :/ My tea consumption went from four or five 4dl mugs a day to barely one mug a day and I am starting to worry if I'll ever be able to downsize my collection like this (even before starting the meds I thought I had too much tea in my cupboards and was planning on downsizing) 😅
8:34 This is sadly true. I’ll have a tough day and handle it pretty well without even realizing how much I’m reaching my limit. And then I have an emotional breakdown because I don’t want to use a key. 🔑
Yes, exactly. I try to (honestly) check on myself every other hour of the day. It's not always easy to change plans once I notice I should slow down or call it a day. I need to tell myself that nothing will get done right if I'm currently not up to the task, in the worst case I'll even do some damage that I'll regret. That helps a lot. But I had to learn the hard way. (That's why I have sufficient data to make a solid prognosis on the outcome of things I do when I don't have enough spoons left...)
Can relate to the drug sensitivities. Caffeine is fine but always need to be careful with... pretty much everything else (but also started drinking coffee as a teenager = self-medicating ADHD). Except those anaesthesia shots for dental work - need twice as much of that stuff.
I was ridiculed by the dentist how can i feel pain after the shot and im making it up. Protip is to come earlier and wait like a full hour and get higher dose my dentist is open to giving me the shot taking another patient while i wait and then me
Yes! And I can't stand the numb feeling. If you have to do more, it lasts so much longer. I finally just asked for no numbing on my last deep clean. I guess I'd rather suffer thru the pain then be numb for 6 hours 😝 I don't think that will be the case for something major tho. Hate it. Hate it all.
I can definitely get the “feel my toes too much”, especially when someone mentions them. Especially when I was in school with a closed toed shoe dress code.
I think it's kind of funny because I was always the absolute opposite there, my parents would literally have to wait until I fell asleep to try and get my shoes from me and one of my earliest memories was standing behind something so I could get my shoes on before my friend could see. It's kind of funny how things like this can be so completely opposite and yet still part of the same classification.
See I'm the type of person whose brain won't quit nagging me until I've said the thing I need to say so when there is a tiny break in the convo or even if there's not I'll break in and say something like "backing up for a sec to this thing" or "hey before we get too far away from this point I wanted to mention". The people around me are used to it and just know that's how my brain works.
Super sensitive to everything I ingest. Yep, that's me. I am pretty much done with society. I'm 56 and so tired trying to fit anywhere. I have 1 friend and 1 husband (who drives me crazy with his own neuro divergence, ADHD messiness). Executive function is quite low due to gut issues. Everything I ingest seems to make me feel ill. I really appreciate your channel! Thank you for making these relatable videos!! ❤️
@Heather Petersen that is very interesting. Thank you. I'm an "old nurse" and I always thought it was the mind-body connection. I also have severe anxiety which can cause gut issues, but I am with you, I think there's more to it.
wow yeah, I am new here and have had gut issues my entire life. I was diagnosed ADHD, but never felt that was the entire picture. Autism is a new exploration for me, and I am finding it fills in all of the missing gaps that ADHD doesn''t cover. I am 37 and every year, more and more foods upset my gut. I have done cleanses that worked great and have cut out problem foods diligently, but then, more just seem to make the list the following year. It's tiresome! i hate to see others struggling, but glad to know we are not alone and can at the very least vent on RUclips so we feel a little less alone in our struggles 🥰
@@EastmanEditing thank you for your comment. I have not been able to tolerate solid food, daily for over 3 months. The gastroenterologist didn't believe me and said that I was "well nourished", a euphemism for fat, in his notes. I will never return to his office. He brushed me off at the end of January and scheduled a colonoscopy for APRIL! That will be 6 months without proper nutrition by that point. I'm finding a different doctor. One less arrogant. I was a Registered Nurse for 20 years and I know what I am talking about. If I eat, I bloat. He didn't even do a physical examination so I don't know how he knew I was "well nourished".
@@joyful_tanya Oh wow. So sorry to hear that! One of my friends recently discovered she had some sort of "bug" in her gut but it took her a few years to finally find a doctor willing to run the tests. I wish I could remember what it's called....I'll report back when she responds to my text because it sounds so similar! The bloating and being "well nourished" but unable to stomach almost anything solid...she had to go on extensive antibiotics (2 rounds) but they did eventually help her get back to "normal."
Same I’m 54 end of the month I’ve weirdly just said this to housing as I had electrical issues due to my kitchen refurbishment. I have spinal issues and I got the men to shift the fridge which was blamed for the power outage because they are flooring and decorating atm and I had to put the fridge in my bedroom. And I felt she thought is moved my fridge when the workmen did it . I said you think I shifted it on carpet. I said they moved the big electricals and it’s not my fridge turns out it was a bit overload but it was a fault in my boiler. I had a right melt down and said the crap always happens to me and let rip about being judged and tired and in pain
I was the same way with medication as a kid. It's weird knowing in retrospect all the things that well-intending adults did that actually caused me literal pain and suffering.
Since I was young, the feeling of my own toes has been something I've silently struggled with! I've tried describing it a couple of times to trusted loved ones, but after getting sincere looks of concern for my mental well being, I stopped trying to explain 😅🤣 It's also why I can only wear socks made of 75% cotton or higher! And I have to wear socks at all times or I start to focus on the feeling of my toes too much...ugh....!! Shuddering as I type this!!
I live in America and I have NEVER heard of PDA. I had to go look it up and the source I found even said it it isn't talked about outside of the UK. It absolutely blew my mind. I let people convince me I was making that up!
I relate on the caffeine issue. Once I drank over brewed black tea and got heart palpitations, and I can only drink decaf coffee if I want to avoid feeling like my heart is going to escape my chest.
i’m like a lactose intolerant person with dairy when it comes to caffeine. i feel like i’m having a heart attack and panic attack all at once but ill still drink that monster energy drink💀💀
I regularly have the issue where people don't listen to me in a conversation. I will repeat my point, and I will sometimes joke about no one ever listening to me whilst they are not listening. It is annoying as this has happened throughout my life. At work now I don't bother chatting with my colleagues because they do this, and then my manager suggests that I am not trying hard enough to make friends when I say I feel isolated.
10:23 Yo same, I reacted so bad to some medications that my doctor has them listed as "allergic" even though I'm not so she doesn't accidentally try to prescribe them to me again. Like Prozac, it made me so sick I was sleeping like 20 hours a day
I took that cat-q quiz and got a score of 148 which is like 20 points higher than the average autistic female score looool And my stomach is EXTREMELY sensitive. Like everything gives me cramps, but I ignore it because I like food lmao. And I LOVE coffee despite the fact that it definitely makes my stomach hurt almost every time I drink it Also I am 28 and still not sure how I'm going to survive in society in this mess of a country. I just recently realized that I can't do part-time or seasonal work my whole life because then I would never be able to retire since you can't get retirement from anything other than a full-time permanent job
I relate. 34 and incredibly lucky in some ways because my husband can support both of us but I cannot work or not very much and I also scored 140-something. And of course I can mask for short periods of time so no doctors believe me. So fun
@@thegracklepeck Yeah it definitely sucks sometimes. I'm planning on being a full time zookeeper, I have already worked as a zookeeper seasonally twice, and before that I did a bunch of internships at big cat sanctuaries. I have unfortunately found that it burns me out very easily and very quickly, and there are many problems with the field like low pay, often shit benefits, and overtime/evening work which all tends to be common in care/passion jobs. I'm still going to try because it really is my dream job but I know it's gonna be hard.
How do you ignore the cramps 😭 like genuinely what is your trick?? I have the same issue but I’m so in-tune with my body and it’s sensitivities and especially pain 🥲 eating is really hard for me! I also don’t like a lot of textures and most foods give me the ick
@@catz537 I used to be an animal specialist at my county animal shelter. At first, I LOVED the job and lived for all the animals I rehabilitated. Then, the people involved in said environment started to really dislike me.....I ended up having to leave due to compassion fatigue and stress of being around people that hated me to the core......all for saving animals and proving to the workers that they were actually harming the animals on many levels. People always seem to want a prize for doing something that LOOKS right......but never want to answer to their mistakes.
7:27 I really feel that. To me conversations seem to go like - everyone quickly says whatever they want to say about a specific topic at exactly the same time so no one is even listening what any of the other just said and then they immediately move on to the next topic to yet again all shout their contribution to it at the same time. And I'm just sitting there confused, with a lot of ideas but no time or space to ever voice them and then get criticised afterwards for never contributing to the conversation.
The noise at 1:54 made me jump under my covers so quickly lmao I usually just listen to videos and it’s 3 am so I thought something bad was happening x)) Anyway, good video !!
When I was a kid I distinctively remember the overwhelming energy at the tips of my toes and needing to press my toes ready hard into the ground. I still have to do it from time to time. I just remember how unsettling it was that people don't talk about it and thinking maybe it's just another thing only I do cuz I'm weird... Now knowing I'm AuDHD I have a different relationship with myself. Now I love my weird, rock my weirdness because I associate my weirdness with validation of being AuDHD and being able to celebrate my neurodivergency. I finally found a community where I feel belonging. I have been able to learn so much about myself and understand the ableism I've endured with the struggles I have faced and developed understanding, empathy, love, compassion, empowerment, confidence and appreciation for myself where I used to feel guilt, shame, pain, self hate and inadequacy.
Hahaha I cry and laugh every time I watch your videos bc it feels so good to have another person laugh and joke about things that I do and feel too. So grateful to have found you on here
I feel like in a lot of your videos there is always a nugget of wisdom that just hits me like a truck. That bit of advice from your mom about surviving is society was the nugget of this vid for me
Thank you so much for your videos 😊 I'm 34 and in the UK and have been referred for an Autism and Adhd assessment. I relate so much to everything you experience, even as a child. I have been told that the wait list is 2-4 years which is crazy and I feel bad to seek help for it when I haven't yet been diagnosed even though I know 110% that I am and it fits, if that makes sense. But yes thank you for your videos, my eldest daughter who is 11 was diagnosed on the spectrum in 2019 and my youngest daughter who is 8 is now about to go through the referral process. ✨️
I'm in the UK too and have been told it will be an 18month to 2 year wait for my autism assesment. But I was told they really don't like to refer people for both Autism and Adhd. And of course the doctor said I don't seen to have adhd as I didn't act up at school 😑
I’m in the U.K. as well. I’ve been on the ADHD list for nearly two years. I’m told that the autism list is separate (which seems crazier than I am) and I am trying to get on that too. But at least if I get on it I don’t have to start at the bottom of the ADHD one again. I have my first triage assessment in three weeks to see if I can get on the list for the appointment to get on the actual list for assessment….😵💫yes, they like to make it confusing.
Love your videos! You're so easy to watch and listen to. My 18 yr old son is being assessed for autism and my daughter has anxiety, although after listening to you, I'm questioning whether she may be masking. Thanks for your honesty and humour! ❤
Always, with medications, if there's a rare side effect, I will get it. I also did not participate in society for nearly a decade. I bought an RV and lived in a national forest. One more (although there are many) I had a bit of an argument with my therapist about masking when I said that masking sounds like you're putting something on whereas I feel like I turn my personality off. I'm nearly 53 and still undiagnosed but I finally have an assessment in July!
Omg yes Catcher In The Rye! I loved Holden and really related to him and was confused why people didn't like him, haha. I love the advice your mother gave you! I'm trying to figure out my own way to survive in society. I wish I didn't have to participate, but I gotta support me and my kids!
coming to this a year later. the first one about people giving directions on how to get to places within buildings. I always end up having a breakdown because I forget and honestly need someone to lead me around the building a few times before I am comfortable enough in my knowledge to get from point A to point B. It also reminds me of a time when I was working and someone was asking me for directions on how to get to the store I managed and I had a panic attack because they lived in a different part of the city than I was from and I had no idea what streets they were talking about. Especially when people want me to relay them directions in cardinal points.. my husband teases me about it because he learned how to navigate by cardinal points so he thinks its not so hard to learn.. I always just used maps.. and absolutely loved when GPS on smartphones started coming out.
Instant sub!😂😂😂 You're great! I'm glad tou had a supportive mom. Mine was sort of narcissistic, with me being undiagnosed Aspie. In fact because of her I had been misdiagnosed with all sorts of things, before I found what made sense, and a doctor who agreed that it made a lot more sense than what she was reading in my file. Since learning this, I began masking a lot less. A friend from first grade stopped talking to me over it... it's absurd... but Im a lot less exhausted all the time.
I'm writing a lot here lol...but I'm a newbie and just grateful to feel understood and seen! In response to @7:22, the "failing to extrovert" meme, I have a very well meaning extroverted friend (like, level 11 out of 10 extrovert) who encouraged me to speak up during a creative writers meeting I'm a part of, even though I usually just send my ideas and notes via email afterwards lol. Well, I THOUGHT I saw the *perfect* opening to insert an idea I've had for a comedy sketch, so I blurted something out right as the group leader was saying, "ok, well we need to move on now because we're getting short on time, so..." but then she stopped and told me to go ahead and continue my thought. I felt so pressed for time that I think I spoke 100x faster than usual and couldn't look at anyone at all...I just kept looking at the floor and ceiling and waving my hands around. When I was done, I finally looked at the leader and everyone was silent. I saw one person smile and nod enthusiastically, and a few others muttered, "yeah that could be great for a future project for sure..." and then that was it. The leader said, "ok, so moving on, we need to figure out a date for..." I could have actually died in that moment and I wanted to give my extroverted friend the death stare but didn't have the energy to do it. I am still reliving this single moment over and over and over, 7 months later. lol. Ugh.
7:13 yeah and then 5 minutes later when the topic has changed and everyone is quiet I just put in my thing. Then everyone starts laughing and I just say “well y’all wouldn’t shut up!!” Also I don’t mask too much because I get so tired of it and my friends are very accepting to the autistic community, so I don’t feel like I have to too much. Also I see no need to hide myself just because society is judgy.
I am autistic, and I have to say this here. I had my first edible within the last month, and it was actually incredible. The anxiety which I normally experience was just not there for about a day, and my mom said I seemed much happier and smiley compared to usual.
11:40 This is hilarious because I was literally one of only two people in my English class that enjoyed reading Catcher In The Rye and I was the only person who liked the Holden character too, and I always felt completely alone in that 😂 That should've been the first damn sign for me because I went nail and tooth to defend his character arc, like "No you just don't understand it! It makes more sense if you think about it like this-" My teacher should've pulled me aside right there and then for an assessment 🤣
The bit about drugs is very interesting to me, because most drugs barely have any effect on me which I attribute to my autistic brain. Like I've tried things like weed, psychedelics etc with friends before and saw their behavior distinctively changing, while I was sitting there mostly in my own thoughts going "huh, is something supposed to happen?"
Yes to the group meme about waiting till the “unspoken rule”of the right time to share a point, but then seeing the conversation move on and no one even notices I’m there. 😮😂 And also the fabled door handles with items of clothing…. Just why? How does whatever I’m wearing magically attach itself when I’m in a rush or preoccupied with something that requires all of my energy? 😂
The only thing the door reminded me of was when there was a psychology class in my highschool and a bunch of ppl announced us to go to the auditorium during lunch and some girl was screaming at ppl directing them to go through certain doors and it was stressful and I didn't want to be threatened so I went through the door I was told and we all sat down and they said over speakers it was a social experiment of some kind and some kid said the equivalent of "y'all sheeple" or something and it was just very distressing and made me want to stay home even more than I already did.
I was considered strange because I never drank coffee, and if asked about it I would tell them that I could count on one hand the cups I have drank. Since my diagnosis I can now say: "The only times I have ever drank coffee was when I was unknowingly trying to blend in among the people around me. In fact, I find the smell and flavor repulsive." 🤔Now all I have to figure out is how to politely discuss "coffee breath". 🤢 🤮- 🎩
(ADHD, not autistic myself) I don't mind the smell of coffee, but I can't stand the taste whatsoever. Mocha something? Why has someone ruined the chocolate? Caffeine doesn't do much, maybe make me focus just slightly better, but otherwise, no effect, but I just don't do coffee. Tea, that is always good, though I don't like my black tea as much. Tanins in black tea, tanins in coffee, tanins are bitter... Probably related.
@@amayasasaki2848 My daughter started drinking coffee as a teenager because her friends did, and you can hang out in a coffee shop for hours with only a little money. She hasn't expressed an interest in getting tested, though I suspect she's on the spectrum. I suspect that I suffer from Dyscalculia and ADHD also. I usually get my caffeine from Mango Venom or soft drinks lately, but I've always enjoyed several different kinds of teas. Teas can smell like a lot of things. Coffee always smells like coffee to me regardless of how its prepared. What I know about tanins I picked up while watching Conan O'Brian visiting a coffee shop. Very funny. Clearly, I need to study tanins more. Thank you for the Info. - 🎩 ☮
To be fair, most coffee tastes dreadful because the recipe is wrong. That being said, you might still dislike it even then,but the typical brews that people use are very bitter to begin with and if you're already sensitive to bitter, it can be a massive problem.
9:00 I used to don't like coffee as well, until I found some good beans that taste so good, maybe you haven't found one you like. If you would like a bit of adventure, maybe ask some roasters or barista, they might be able to recommend something you enjoy. My brother used to really hate coffee, but he found the right beans and now is obsessed with making coffee.
8:40 I can't do coffee either but for a different reason. It was semi force-fed to me throughout my entire childhood every time I had an asthma attack because the caffeine helps with oxygen transport, but that did mean I got a really negative association with it which doesn't help with me liking coffee.
Noise cancelling headphones definitely make such a difference. I strongly dislike having to go any amount of time without mine, and I've only had them a couple of weeks. I charge them at night when I'm doing something else on my computer. Only have to charge every 3-4 days. Charges in less than 2 hours. As for sensory overload - yeah. I got irrate with my passengers for being noisy while I was trying to drive (focus), and they laughed and told me that I wasn't seeing with my ears. Like, okay, but with the bright headlights already being overstimulating, I need to be able to focus!
Similar to the coffee point, but I was shaking so much Friday morning because I'd had a panic attack on the road the day before and missed dinner, and I proceeded to drop two breakfasts in a row and almost lost it.
at 4:22 its esspecially relavent at least to me because i am quite litterally OBSESSED with computers and tech and it constantly feels like im running that program so yeah lol
I remember deciding I was going to: Step 1: write a novel, Step 2: ???, Step 3: the royalties would cover my most very basic expenses and I'd work part-time to support my hobbies and save for adventures (but know that if they fired me for no apparent reason other than my anxiety/awkwardness, I'd still be able to survive). Writing was a short-lived interest for me, because the following year I developed an interest in psychology and therapy which persisted for years.
Constantly feel my feet too much. I refuse walking on a salted road and I will cry if I have to walk over certain carpets. I prefer sleeping with my legs raised so my feet won't rest of the mattress. I'm not diagnosed with autism, though I do have ADHD and I often wonder if I am on the autism spectrum too. Oh, I completely zoned out to write that comment about my feet (Didn't think I would ever write that!) and I havn't heard a word in the video since so now I guess I'll rewatch 🤷♀ Love your videos kbye 💜
Corded headphones being yanked off or pulled out after getting caught on cabinet door...or worse...vacuum handle. Then you get that horrible feeling while a vacuum is yelling at you
0:24 I DID THIS AT A HOTEL A FEW WEEKS AGO 😭 the elevator was being worked on so i had to take the stairs down and when i got to the bottom the door to the lobby had a firedoor please keep closed sign and i stood in the stairwell for at least a MINUTE before realizing im allowed to open the only doors to leave the stairs
I can relate with that fire door story 😄 Those signs should be written using the most unambiguous formulation possible, by the way. "Keep closed when unused" would have been a better formulation. Also, althought the message doesn't say if there were other possible paths (probably not), some fire doors trigger an alarm when opened so you can't use them as normal doors.
I can drink things with a lot of caffeine, but coffee makes me physically ill. I get ocular and classic migraines and I think my blood pressure drops because I get so sleepy that I can’t stay awake no matter what I do. But drinking a caffeinated soda or like an energy drink is no problem.
2:15 Yes, I feel my toes too much. I don't like wearing sock at home or house slippers, but wrong kind of flooring textures or tiniest little feeling of grimy floor always annoy me, the dilemma.
I haven't tried getting tested so I don't know if I am autistic or have adhd or not but when you talked about the toe polish removing I knew exactly what you were talking about, and I hate it. I get sensory overload really bad and have to have sunglasses and earplugs to help with it sometimes. Had to immediately start typing in the comments so I don't forget what I was going to say, and when you mentioned CAT-C had to pause the video and take it right away before I forgot. I got pretty high numbers on that, so I should probably get tested, but that requires interacting with people I don't know, going somewhere with noises, smells, and bright lights and I'm likely going to drag my feet for a long time about it. Also, now my toes don't feel right because I'm thinking too much about them and can't stop. I constantly think "how do I show someone I'm interested in what they are saying or feeling empathy for their problem?" when I know without conscious effort it will seem like I don't care, even though I do. I have serious problems wanting to interrupt people, and sometimes do it without thinking because if I don't say the thing right away, I'm going to forget, or sometimes because whatever the person is talking about I don't know what to respond and all I can think to do is change the subject. I freaked out over the way my daughter was breading chicken the other day and had to leave the room because I just couldn't handle watching her do it a way I wouldn't do it. Losing things? omg, I will not be able to stop thinking about the thing for days till I find it. I will tear apart my entire house, forgetting to do any of the things I'm supposed to be doing, and get more upset by the minute, often breaking down into tears or screaming into my pillow. It doesn't even have to be something important. If I'm not autistic, and this stuff is even worse for people who are, idk how you get anything done.
Really interesting to see the varying degrees of sensitivity to substances in the comments haha. I'm also on the spectrum, but fortunately not predisposed to any other underlying conditions that tend to trigger under the influence. From what I've heard from others on the spectrum, LSD tends to have less of a visual effect, but you do become a lot more introspective / capable of managing your emotions in the afterglow, at least for a couple days. It's made my life a lot less stressful, I think. #notanendorsementdoyourresearch
My (autistic diagnosed) brother an I (not officially diagnosed) struggle a lot with clipping our nails, specially toe nails. I usually postpone it way too much. We are in our twenties, but sometimes our mom just ends up helping us cut our nails because we never seem to get to the point to where we can do it ourselves
I can't relate to all of these, but I can relate to several of these. I just got the call yesterday letting me know they wanted to send me pre-assessment paperwork! That will hopefully be completed in the next couple months 🤞
i feel the exact same with the meme @ 4:20 & with the multiple tabs i have atleast 90 on my phone and on pc atleast around 200 its bonkers and more memes ples
Omg the cofee spilling one. I have both, AuDHD, and I like getting my coffee from either starbucks or a local coffee place, and of couse I choose the drive-thru cause no way in hell I'm going inside to order. I'm a little bit a speed demon sometimes, I guess cause it gives me my much needed dopamine to live on the edge like that idk. Point is, sometimes I go a little faster than I intend. When I tell you, the pure rage that happens when I take a sharp turn a little took quickly and my coffee cup has the AUDACITY to follow the laws of physics and spill over a little... oh man. That emotional regulation that I've worked so hard to have, doing meditation, aligning my chakras, opening my third eye, is just completely gone and non existent! That thread I'm hanging on to for dear life is so thin.
I am quite sensitive to a lot of things that I ingest as well! if I get a Coke from a restaurant and it doesn’t have a lot of ice, it’s syrup is too thick and makes my throat sore. A really big one was being treated for ADHD. Although I did reap benefits from each of the ones I tried, they were all way too powerful for my system even if I took half of the smallest dose! Another one: Some people can eat food that’s a week old not me. Also, certain cold meds make me feel worse.
I am the same way with nail polish remover! (it also doesn't help the sound/texture of cotton balls/swabs is horrible for me). I don't mind a hot shower, though, and (since I use a top coat with my polish) it usually peels off fairly nicely in one piece if I peel it off with my fingernails towards the end of a shower. (I'm sure there are better ways to do it w/o polish remover and cotton balls/swabs, but this is what has been working for me)
I have NEVER drank coffee, or tea (I just wake up grumpy and take 2 hours to be in functioning mode. But even the smell of coffee gives me shivers, and because a single can of Coke keeps me up all night, I know caffeine and me are not to be! And Oh yes that dream job!!! #lifegoals ❤
I keep being irritated by unconsciously reading transparent signs on glass doors facing the other way. Sometimes doors have a green sticker for push but the red one is missing then you can see the wrong one through the glass.
the amount of times my parents have walked in on me sitting in the most uncomfortable twisted up position possible (my favorite is facing backward and leaning against the chair back) (it’s so comfy i love it) (typing this while sitting like that lol)
6:47 I did this with my introverted friend and it turns out she might wanna go get tested lmao Also 7:55 my ADHD deffo covers up the fact that I don't know when I'm supposed to jump in, I just have a thought and blurt it or stop listening to everyone else and get lost in my own thought... But on the bright side, this combined with me being awkward about when to jump in means that I can usually find the other ND person who isn't as obnoxious and loud-mouthed as me, so I'll give them the space to jump in. Even if I'm the only one who heard, I'll bring the group's attention to it by rephrasing it and crediting the person for it. IDK I'm socially awkward and an introvert but god do I love to talk and have no volume control in groups
Omg the ad that came right after the chocolate chip cookie part was for chocolate chip cookies and it said “love at first bite” or something like that 😂
I have the toes thing in a way. My feet are size 9 and I've been wearing size 11 shoes since I was first allowed to get shoes on my own. If my toes aren't free I feel trapped. Like panic inducing trapped.
I was also confused by the doors that say "keep closed at all times". But then I thought "heck the police, I need to go this way" and opened it anyway.
The point of the conversation and where to bring in the point I wanna say: It used to be so frustrating and confusing and I just didn't understand when I'd get the feedback that everyone had already moved on: "You're still stuck on that point?" / "Oh, you are still on the topic of 15 minutes ago?!" 😰
Watching this video wearing my old headphones without noise cancellation, even though I recently bought myself noise cancelling ones, and being really overwhelmed and feeling attacked by all the background noise around me…
The electric clock in the living room... I could hear the little gears turning in it, from my bedroom. Took the batteries out. That fixed the sound, but then I had a clock that was only right twice a day. Just gave it away.
I love your very autistic reaction to the cookie meme. You aren’t quite sure what your husband meant, so you instantly came up with like 25 different possibilities.
My son is also 4. I just got my diagnosis. These things are related. It's really distressing, though, how intensely disrupted my research life as a hisorian has been by extended time with a tiny human shouting at me about tractors is.
I refuse to have beeping household appliances. When I bought a new microwave, one requirement was that it goes *bling*, not *BEEEEP!!!! BEEEEP!!!! BEEEEP!!!!*.
Funnily enough, coffee I've found actually helps with my chronic fatigue/energy loss, at least in terms of productivity. Like I stay way too focused, finishing tests or other work I need to do for college in half the time I normally would take. And it makes me feel not as much general body pain which is honestly just a regular thing at this point. It's really strange just how drugs can have a vastly different effect on different autistic people. Like for example I'm super resilient to things like anesthesia, to the point where I will still feel what's going on while it's happening if I'm conscious, or I can drink a decent amount of alchohol without becoming drunk. But both of my families have an extended history of drug abuse so I'm at high risk to fall into those habits, and pain meds cause frequent full body reactions (like I'll shut down and get VERY paranoid for some reason after taking some of them). I can only take like very light pain meds for some reason and I'm just like ??? why am I like this
I retired early, due to a really bad autistic burnout. After 2 years alone, I am finally being able to relax. The PTSD we get from masking/trying to do more than we can; is brutal.
I'm super late to this video but 11:47 Also-fucking-lutely. I LOVE _The Catcher in the Rye_ and I love Holden Caulfield. I have seen and heard from people who hated it and hated Holden. In response to such people I have smashed keyboards, yelled at college classmates, probably challenged a few people to a duel, and I ain't taking any of it back. Honestly I don't get how someone _wouldn't_ like Holden. He's such a good-hearted kid who's just tired of people's bullshit and, on top of that, is also depressed and s**cidal because no one will help him deal with his grief for Allie. And although the terminology didn't exist in 1951, I absolutely headcanon Holden as neurodivergent. Like, let's look at the signs: he's smart but can't seem to work the system to succeed, he's got really high empathy for other people but struggles to communicate it, he's got zero tolerance for bullshit, he speaks his mind super readily, and (because in the spirit of _The Catcher in the Rye_ I gotta make some cynical points about what society does to folks like us) he's anxious, depressed, and s**cidal. Literally those are all diagnostic criteria if autistic people were the ones who wrote the diagnostic criteria! But anyway, yeah. I have fought people for Holden Caulfield and I will continue to fight anyone who speaks ill of him. Because NOBODY slanders my emo-punk son!
Thank you so much for watching and for everyone who’s shared their story in the comments of my videos recently - I try to reply to as many as I can when I get a free moment.
If you need more autism memes, I’ve made a playlist: ruclips.net/p/PLEHi2YmjD7gEssdqTn0247t_niQMt2b22
I also have a video chatting to AI about autism. Some interesting takes and it even wrote an emotional story about diagnosis in adulthood for me 😂 I laughed a load!
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In short, the best song to sum up this entire video is "Follow Your Arrow" by Kacey Musgraves.
When neurotypicals see a door...they just see a door. When we see a door, we see an interaction with an object. Are there signs? What do they say? What do the words and/or symbols mean? Where does door lead? Am I allowed where door leads? Is anything behind door? Is someone going to open it into my face while I'm about to go through?
were so alike overanalyzing about every little detail than overanalyzing about overanalyzing
I can relate to being uncomfortable with dishes or clothes everywhere. Problem is I also have ADHD, so I find it extremely difficult to find the motivation to take any action.
Having the wombo-combo of Autism and ADHD is just a constant internal war between; "Hey, we need to get stuff done and done now, because this is stressing me tf OUT", and "Oh hey! Here's a new/old thing that I was reminded of! I must now spend the next 6 hours consuming content around this thing, and only this thing" all the time.
(Context because I feel its kinda necessary. I'm officially diagnosed with ADHD, but not for ASD. My half-brother is diagnosed Autistic, and has gone as far as to bet that I am on the spectrum as well. If only getting a diagnoses was easier and cheaper)
@@samanthafaenovale2463 me too, also autistic and ADHD.
That sound a lot like being autistic and being married to someone with ADHD, only it's not your dishes and clothes everywhere.
My motivation is not inconveniencing anyone so my lack of motivation is in regards to cleaning only affects the spaces that are mine alone (my bedroom and bathroom...
Unless this is about if it's someone else's dishes. I personally like to help wash dishes when I know the people aren't the type fo refuse to clean up after themselves
@Womanish Thing I can understand that! Dishes can be a huge sensory thing for me, so when I go to do them, I try to do as many in one go as possible. I also find it a hell of a lot easier to clean other people's rooms/spaces. For example, I did a co-op course during highschool where I helped out at a reptilian/exotic pet store (Exotic as in he had birds, frogs, snakes, lizards, and you could also ask to buy a couple feeder mice/rats as pets if you wanted). Most of the work the owner gave me was sweeping, cleaning enclosures, and wiping down the glass tanks. I thoroughly enjoyed myself, it kept me busy and focused for a good bit. He'd also let me play with some of the snakes/lizards once it got close enough to the end of the day, I absolutely loved it there
I definitely identify with the sensory overload one. It's like...I was at a guitar trade show recently, and I had to explain to someone that I was wearing sunglasses because it was too loud. They, quite obviously, just looked at me like I'd escaped from an institution.
😂😅 Yesss, I relate!! You just need everything to calm down a bit!
I relate with this so much :')
No, I get it. Sometimes my wife will turn the music down so she can see better. She's not autistic though. As far as we know.
@@RaunienTheFirstthis is a well recorded phenomenon. People in their car get lost and turn the radio down so they can see better
@@RaunienTheFirstthat one is much easier to explain as driving requires more focus and active thought that music can mess with
There's doors with a huge face level sticker (I'm short) with the word CAUTION across the middle and above and below, the two words "automatic" and "door." I know they mean "caution, automatic door." But I can't stop worrying about the nervous door that goes into caution mode automatically. Poor automatic caution door, I understand, I have anxiety too.
😂😂😂
I feel like I automatically go into caution mode when I step out the front door.
There's an entire subreddit dedicated to signs similar to the "Automatic CAUTION Door" one you mentioned. Its called r/AutomatiCautionDoor
those doors you are not supposed to go through most doors don't have alarms on them so that is different and you don't have to worry about that ha be careful
I shuddered recalling all the times I've awkwardly failed to interject in group conversations when that was mentioned 😂
What's really awkward is when it's a group conversation in person and it just took 20-30 seconds from when you decide to say something to when it actually pops out and people get annoyed because you're interrupting them. Not that that has repeatedly happened to me.
@@SmallSpoonBrigade oh god this is why i just stay silent... while i was working at my friend's desk with her laptop, my groupmates were near me, and as they were talking i always think of a line a bit too late so i kinda just shut myself up. The only times i answered were when they asked questions for me, or that i could answer because no one else was answering for the past 10 seconds, and i just though of the answer 😓
Edit: i'm not autistic (yet) btw, but i am very socially awkward
I usually fail by blurting out my thought right as the conversation changes topic then when everyone ignores it or changes the subject anyways, I realize "oh god what have I done"
In my experience, the unsaid point in group conversations always happen because the people participating in the conversation don't value you enough to listen to you, my great points always come through with people that do want to hear me out.
When I was growing up, I rarely spoke until I invented my current mask. I had a massive aversion to repeating myself and basically wouldn't, anybody that wanted to know what I said had to listen the first time. But, because I did speak so rarely, it meant that I could choose to speak only when I had a very good reason for doing so.
Personally, I don't generally much care if people hear me, it's for their benefit that I'm speaking, if they don't want to listen, that's on them. But, I'm not responsible for the results.
My diagnosis was done in a meeting room 40 miles away. Having had to drive there I was close to meltdown. They showed me in and said they'd be back in a min. When they came back in I was found on the floor, behind the meeting table, with as much clothing as acceptable off, my back to the cold radiator, headphones in and music on. They left me alone for another 20mins. Dx done.
back on cold radiator sounds soothing...
1:46 that sudden random sound effect crazy in the videos sometimes rofl abrupt
1:06 Makes me think of when my brother got lost at the airport and was scared of missing he flight and called our mom in a panic. The airport workers were telling him vague shit like "go that way" to find the tram/shuttle instead of "Take the stairs next to gate 13 to find the tram/shuttle that goes from terminal 5 to terminal 8" and sent him in circles for 30 minutes. Mom was like "Did you tell them you are autistic and don't understand what they mean by 'go that way'?" Him "no." After him talking in circle for a wile, Mom finally convinced him to hand the phone to an airport worker to ask for him since he clearly wasn't asking them the right questions
I do have PDA and it does suck. Any job is automatically a nightmare and even working with Disability Employment Services - they just don’t understand. The problem is, you tell anyone what you’re feeling and they just think you’re throwing a tantrum like a two year old. Like: “you don’t want to work because it hurts when they tell you what to do? Uh huh… sure buddy.” I’ve had jobs where the second I walk into the building I’m perpetually seething. Everything feels like an attack and it’s the worst.
I’ve spent so much of my life explosively angry and I didn’t know why until my late diagnosis. Because I was also super polite and quiet I don’t think anyone really knew what to do with me. I didn’t match in their minds.
Autism in general makes me feel like a little bit of an alien (my experience, I don’t mean to offend), but having PDA on top just makes me feel like my entire being is in antithesis to the world. Existence itself is like nails on a chalkboard. I can’t look outside or turn on the news without getting stress headaches from holding in the “how f**king dare you(s)!” Same at work.
You are speaking my language and experience, kind friend!!!!!!!!
It makes me feel like an alien too! Like I'm simply not a human.
What's funny is that I don't think I mask, and so the consequence is that I don't have many close relationships, and I am pretty sure people think I'm either an adorable quiet person or a dumb impolite weirdo. No in between, it seems.
You _don't mask?_ Ever? I am intrigued. Generating questions.
I understand you! I have periods when i cant mask and then i am very very silent, just sit there, or i am too direct and talking way too much, overshare, can't read the room very well.
my 2 close friends think that it is very likely that i'm autistic
probably because i don't really mask and look, talk, think weirdly
and because of that, i am questioning if i am autistic now
Have you ever gone non-verbal and had your spouse not understand what was happening? First time it happened with me she got mad cause she didn't understand how it was that I suddenly could not make words come out of my mouth... She gets it now, 16 years later... I'll be mid phone conversation and just hand her the phone cause I can't process speech anymore....
I tried telling my husband but it usually happens when I've gone to be alone so he doesn't notice.
I've always wanted to be a mom with five kids who homeschools and gardens and bakes bread and volunteers. It wasn't until after I had a newborn and a toddler that I started really researching autism and ADHD. I've learned to see and understand my limitations. Expectation management is what I call it and it is important. If I only have two kids, send them to public school, buy the bread and have a tomato plant, maybe my children and I will make it to the end of each day in some kind of happy existence and they can grow up semi untraumatized.
LMAOOOO I realized I had a 'fire door' moment a few days ago while driving! There were 2 "wrong way' signs but it was weird bc there was 1 on each side of the road but it was on the other one parallel to the one I was on and I was so confused and scared that I was driving onto oncoming traffic, when I wasn't. Also, that awkward eye contact with the person to let them know that you heard them talking is very relatable lol. Great video! I love your channel, I'm a new subscriber :)
Oh my!!!! You just gave me an anxiety attack as construction zones and those darn 'wrong way' signs do a number on me. I could actually FEEL what you were describing as I have been in that situation way too many times and it is BEYOND a horrible feeling!!! I once drove through a construction zone......and I mean I messed things up bad and ended up having to stop as the road ended in basically a cliff. The crew had to have me back up, go through the site AGAIN and then turn onto the correct path(dang road cones!) The funny thing is that the first vehicle in the opposite lane at the end was my brother......he seen me at my worst and was actually freaked out once he noticed it was me because it was a construction zone way away from home. He was doing cable and I was on my way to a music gig practically on the other side of the state. Fun times!!!
I first encountered "fire doors" in high school. Much confusion ensued. I think I had to ask a teacher about it, and I'm sure a student coming up to them to ask how a fucking _door_ works was the high point of their day. And you better believe I had follow-up questions.
Luckily I asked a Science teacher, so I got a free lesson on how back-drafts happen.
My trick to getting my points heard is to slowly start nodding my head more while people are talking, then that progresses onto two or three “mhm”s after every couple of sentences, a final ramp up with “yeah” three times or so and then I bring it home with the final “oh yeah that’s really interesting because I feel…” and then go into my point. I hope this helps someone else lol.
That advice your mom gave you is something I really needed to hear and it made me quite emotional.
Also, I tried caffeine recently because I was curious how I would react to it and I did not like it at all. My heart started beating really fast and I felt sick (and it didn't give me more energy or motivation). It wasn't "ending up in A&E" bad by a long shot but still, I won't repeat that experience if I can help it
I've kinda self-medicated with caffeine (mostly tea, coffee doesn't agree with my stomach) for my ADHD for the longest time, and I never got the whole "it makes you hyper and your heart beat fast" part, since my experience has always been that I literally calm down from it and it makes me chill and relaxed. Now I am on ADHD medication, and drinking caffeinated things when I've taken my meds is a completely new experience, now. I now understand what people mean by it being a stimulant, and I don't know if I like it? I don't want to get palpitations and nervous energy from a drink! I'm actually kind of sad about it, since I love tea and have collected all these fancy teas, and now I don't even want to drink them unless I skip a day of meds :/ My tea consumption went from four or five 4dl mugs a day to barely one mug a day and I am starting to worry if I'll ever be able to downsize my collection like this (even before starting the meds I thought I had too much tea in my cupboards and was planning on downsizing) 😅
I had such a similar reaction to her mom's advice and even just hearing how supportive and calming her mom seems to be 🥺🥺🥺
8:34 This is sadly true. I’ll have a tough day and handle it pretty well without even realizing how much I’m reaching my limit. And then I have an emotional breakdown because I don’t want to use a key. 🔑
Yes, exactly. I try to (honestly) check on myself every other hour of the day. It's not always easy to change plans once I notice I should slow down or call it a day. I need to tell myself that nothing will get done right if I'm currently not up to the task, in the worst case I'll even do some damage that I'll regret. That helps a lot. But I had to learn the hard way. (That's why I have sufficient data to make a solid prognosis on the outcome of things I do when I don't have enough spoons left...)
@@smule77 Spoons! I use the spoons. It really helped me explain to my wife why I was suddenly unable to do things I can do at other times.
Can relate to the drug sensitivities. Caffeine is fine but always need to be careful with... pretty much everything else (but also started drinking coffee as a teenager = self-medicating ADHD). Except those anaesthesia shots for dental work - need twice as much of that stuff.
I was ridiculed by the dentist how can i feel pain after the shot and im making it up. Protip is to come earlier and wait like a full hour and get higher dose my dentist is open to giving me the shot taking another patient while i wait and then me
Yes! And I can't stand the numb feeling. If you have to do more, it lasts so much longer. I finally just asked for no numbing on my last deep clean. I guess I'd rather suffer thru the pain then be numb for 6 hours 😝 I don't think that will be the case for something major tho. Hate it. Hate it all.
I can definitely get the “feel my toes too much”, especially when someone mentions them. Especially when I was in school with a closed toed shoe dress code.
I can’t get through the day of school or work without removing my shoes.
Toes are the worst, especially when you have socks squeezing them in on eachother. Biggest reason that I hate socks (and sneakers).
You just got to *ahem*... _toe_ the line!
@@TheCimbrianBull booooo /j
I think it's kind of funny because I was always the absolute opposite there, my parents would literally have to wait until I fell asleep to try and get my shoes from me and one of my earliest memories was standing behind something so I could get my shoes on before my friend could see.
It's kind of funny how things like this can be so completely opposite and yet still part of the same classification.
See I'm the type of person whose brain won't quit nagging me until I've said the thing I need to say so when there is a tiny break in the convo or even if there's not I'll break in and say something like "backing up for a sec to this thing" or "hey before we get too far away from this point I wanted to mention". The people around me are used to it and just know that's how my brain works.
Super sensitive to everything I ingest. Yep, that's me. I am pretty much done with society. I'm 56 and so tired trying to fit anywhere. I have 1 friend and 1 husband (who drives me crazy with his own neuro divergence, ADHD messiness). Executive function is quite low due to gut issues. Everything I ingest seems to make me feel ill.
I really appreciate your channel! Thank you for making these relatable videos!! ❤️
@Heather Petersen that is very interesting. Thank you. I'm an "old nurse" and I always thought it was the mind-body connection. I also have severe anxiety which can cause gut issues, but I am with you, I think there's more to it.
wow yeah, I am new here and have had gut issues my entire life. I was diagnosed ADHD, but never felt that was the entire picture. Autism is a new exploration for me, and I am finding it fills in all of the missing gaps that ADHD doesn''t cover. I am 37 and every year, more and more foods upset my gut. I have done cleanses that worked great and have cut out problem foods diligently, but then, more just seem to make the list the following year. It's tiresome! i hate to see others struggling, but glad to know we are not alone and can at the very least vent on RUclips so we feel a little less alone in our struggles 🥰
@@EastmanEditing thank you for your comment. I have not been able to tolerate solid food, daily for over 3 months. The gastroenterologist didn't believe me and said that I was "well nourished", a euphemism for fat, in his notes. I will never return to his office. He brushed me off at the end of January and scheduled a colonoscopy for APRIL! That will be 6 months without proper nutrition by that point. I'm finding a different doctor. One less arrogant. I was a Registered Nurse for 20 years and I know what I am talking about. If I eat, I bloat. He didn't even do a physical examination so I don't know how he knew I was "well nourished".
@@joyful_tanya Oh wow. So sorry to hear that! One of my friends recently discovered she had some sort of "bug" in her gut but it took her a few years to finally find a doctor willing to run the tests. I wish I could remember what it's called....I'll report back when she responds to my text because it sounds so similar! The bloating and being "well nourished" but unable to stomach almost anything solid...she had to go on extensive antibiotics (2 rounds) but they did eventually help her get back to "normal."
Same I’m 54 end of the month I’ve weirdly just said this to housing as I had electrical issues due to my kitchen refurbishment. I have spinal issues and I got the men to shift the fridge which was blamed for the power outage because they are flooring and decorating atm and I had to put the fridge in my bedroom. And I felt she thought is moved my fridge when the workmen did it . I said you think I shifted it on carpet. I said they moved the big electricals and it’s not my fridge turns out it was a bit overload but it was a fault in my boiler. I had a right melt down and said the crap always happens to me and let rip about being judged and tired and in pain
I was the same way with medication as a kid. It's weird knowing in retrospect all the things that well-intending adults did that actually caused me literal pain and suffering.
Tablets gave you pain ?
Since I was young, the feeling of my own toes has been something I've silently struggled with! I've tried describing it a couple of times to trusted loved ones, but after getting sincere looks of concern for my mental well being, I stopped trying to explain 😅🤣 It's also why I can only wear socks made of 75% cotton or higher! And I have to wear socks at all times or I start to focus on the feeling of my toes too much...ugh....!! Shuddering as I type this!!
Feet can be problematic. I have always hated socks, seams in all the wrong places.
I don’t like socks😢
I’ve got chilblains (again) now and I can REALLY feel my toes. Driving me crazy. And putting shoes on with them like this is torture.
I live in America and I have NEVER heard of PDA. I had to go look it up and the source I found even said it it isn't talked about outside of the UK. It absolutely blew my mind. I let people convince me I was making that up!
The cookie thing: person is saying they look boring, but they're not, and in fact they are kinda extra. Lol i can relate. 😂
I relate on the caffeine issue. Once I drank over brewed black tea and got heart palpitations, and I can only drink decaf coffee if I want to avoid feeling like my heart is going to escape my chest.
Wow, I seem to be the complete opposite caffeine has hardly any effect on me I can fall asleep after it and everything.
@@tracik1277 you must be my dad then 😂 /j
@@thecolorjune lol
i’m like a lactose intolerant person with dairy when it comes to caffeine. i feel like i’m having a heart attack and panic attack all at once but ill still drink that monster energy drink💀💀
@@illuminaticonfirmed1389 Only coffee and tea for me, thanks. That sweet fizzy stuff gives me cystitis. Perhaps have a Coke maybe 3 or 4 times a year.
I regularly have the issue where people don't listen to me in a conversation. I will repeat my point, and I will sometimes joke about no one ever listening to me whilst they are not listening. It is annoying as this has happened throughout my life. At work now I don't bother chatting with my colleagues because they do this, and then my manager suggests that I am not trying hard enough to make friends when I say I feel isolated.
10:23 Yo same, I reacted so bad to some medications that my doctor has them listed as "allergic" even though I'm not so she doesn't accidentally try to prescribe them to me again. Like Prozac, it made me so sick I was sleeping like 20 hours a day
I took that cat-q quiz and got a score of 148 which is like 20 points higher than the average autistic female score looool
And my stomach is EXTREMELY sensitive. Like everything gives me cramps, but I ignore it because I like food lmao. And I LOVE coffee despite the fact that it definitely makes my stomach hurt almost every time I drink it
Also I am 28 and still not sure how I'm going to survive in society in this mess of a country. I just recently realized that I can't do part-time or seasonal work my whole life because then I would never be able to retire since you can't get retirement from anything other than a full-time permanent job
I relate. 34 and incredibly lucky in some ways because my husband can support both of us but I cannot work or not very much and I also scored 140-something. And of course I can mask for short periods of time so no doctors believe me. So fun
@@thegracklepeck Yeah it definitely sucks sometimes. I'm planning on being a full time zookeeper, I have already worked as a zookeeper seasonally twice, and before that I did a bunch of internships at big cat sanctuaries. I have unfortunately found that it burns me out very easily and very quickly, and there are many problems with the field like low pay, often shit benefits, and overtime/evening work which all tends to be common in care/passion jobs. I'm still going to try because it really is my dream job but I know it's gonna be hard.
How do you ignore the cramps 😭 like genuinely what is your trick?? I have the same issue but I’m so in-tune with my body and it’s sensitivities and especially pain 🥲 eating is really hard for me! I also don’t like a lot of textures and most foods give me the ick
@@that.neurodivergent I'm just used to them. Maybe yours are worse than mine, and that's why you can't just ignore them?
@@catz537 I used to be an animal specialist at my county animal shelter. At first, I LOVED the job and lived for all the animals I rehabilitated. Then, the people involved in said environment started to really dislike me.....I ended up having to leave due to compassion fatigue and stress of being around people that hated me to the core......all for saving animals and proving to the workers that they were actually harming the animals on many levels. People always seem to want a prize for doing something that LOOKS right......but never want to answer to their mistakes.
7:27 I really feel that. To me conversations seem to go like - everyone quickly says whatever they want to say about a specific topic at exactly the same time so no one is even listening what any of the other just said and then they immediately move on to the next topic to yet again all shout their contribution to it at the same time. And I'm just sitting there confused, with a lot of ideas but no time or space to ever voice them and then get criticised afterwards for never contributing to the conversation.
As always you are utterly hilarious about what are such challenging situations, which we all face so we relate soooo well! Pure talent.
The noise at 1:54 made me jump under my covers so quickly lmao
I usually just listen to videos and it’s 3 am so I thought something bad was happening x))
Anyway, good video !!
When I was a kid I distinctively remember the overwhelming energy at the tips of my toes and needing to press my toes ready hard into the ground. I still have to do it from time to time. I just remember how unsettling it was that people don't talk about it and thinking maybe it's just another thing only I do cuz I'm weird... Now knowing I'm AuDHD I have a different relationship with myself. Now I love my weird, rock my weirdness because I associate my weirdness with validation of being AuDHD and being able to celebrate my neurodivergency. I finally found a community where I feel belonging. I have been able to learn so much about myself and understand the ableism I've endured with the struggles I have faced and developed understanding, empathy, love, compassion, empowerment, confidence and appreciation for myself where I used to feel guilt, shame, pain, self hate and inadequacy.
Hahaha I cry and laugh every time I watch your videos bc it feels so good to have another person laugh and joke about things that I do and feel too. So grateful to have found you on here
I feel like in a lot of your videos there is always a nugget of wisdom that just hits me like a truck. That bit of advice from your mom about surviving is society was the nugget of this vid for me
Thank you so much for your videos 😊 I'm 34 and in the UK and have been referred for an Autism and Adhd assessment. I relate so much to everything you experience, even as a child. I have been told that the wait list is 2-4 years which is crazy and I feel bad to seek help for it when I haven't yet been diagnosed even though I know 110% that I am and it fits, if that makes sense.
But yes thank you for your videos, my eldest daughter who is 11 was diagnosed on the spectrum in 2019 and my youngest daughter who is 8 is now about to go through the referral process. ✨️
I'm in the UK too and have been told it will be an 18month to 2 year wait for my autism assesment. But I was told they really don't like to refer people for both Autism and Adhd. And of course the doctor said I don't seen to have adhd as I didn't act up at school 😑
I’m in the U.K. as well. I’ve been on the ADHD list for nearly two years. I’m told that the autism list is separate (which seems crazier than I am) and I am trying to get on that too. But at least if I get on it I don’t have to start at the bottom of the ADHD one again. I have my first triage assessment in three weeks to see if I can get on the list for the appointment to get on the actual list for assessment….😵💫yes, they like to make it confusing.
Love your videos! You're so easy to watch and listen to. My 18 yr old son is being assessed for autism and my daughter has anxiety, although after listening to you, I'm questioning whether she may be masking. Thanks for your honesty and humour! ❤
Always, with medications, if there's a rare side effect, I will get it. I also did not participate in society for nearly a decade. I bought an RV and lived in a national forest. One more (although there are many) I had a bit of an argument with my therapist about masking when I said that masking sounds like you're putting something on whereas I feel like I turn my personality off. I'm nearly 53 and still undiagnosed but I finally have an assessment in July!
Omg yes Catcher In The Rye! I loved Holden and really related to him and was confused why people didn't like him, haha. I love the advice your mother gave you! I'm trying to figure out my own way to survive in society. I wish I didn't have to participate, but I gotta support me and my kids!
coming to this a year later. the first one about people giving directions on how to get to places within buildings. I always end up having a breakdown because I forget and honestly need someone to lead me around the building a few times before I am comfortable enough in my knowledge to get from point A to point B.
It also reminds me of a time when I was working and someone was asking me for directions on how to get to the store I managed and I had a panic attack because they lived in a different part of the city than I was from and I had no idea what streets they were talking about. Especially when people want me to relay them directions in cardinal points.. my husband teases me about it because he learned how to navigate by cardinal points so he thinks its not so hard to learn.. I always just used maps.. and absolutely loved when GPS on smartphones started coming out.
4:06 That is so me. I sometimes even forget to turn it off when I'm at home by myself and just relax.
Instant sub!😂😂😂
You're great! I'm glad tou had a supportive mom. Mine was sort of narcissistic, with me being undiagnosed Aspie. In fact because of her I had been misdiagnosed with all sorts of things, before I found what made sense, and a doctor who agreed that it made a lot more sense than what she was reading in my file. Since learning this, I began masking a lot less. A friend from first grade stopped talking to me over it... it's absurd... but Im a lot less exhausted all the time.
Thank you for your little message at the end there! Something I haven't heard anyone say before so thank you!
I'm writing a lot here lol...but I'm a newbie and just grateful to feel understood and seen! In response to @7:22, the "failing to extrovert" meme, I have a very well meaning extroverted friend (like, level 11 out of 10 extrovert) who encouraged me to speak up during a creative writers meeting I'm a part of, even though I usually just send my ideas and notes via email afterwards lol. Well, I THOUGHT I saw the *perfect* opening to insert an idea I've had for a comedy sketch, so I blurted something out right as the group leader was saying, "ok, well we need to move on now because we're getting short on time, so..." but then she stopped and told me to go ahead and continue my thought. I felt so pressed for time that I think I spoke 100x faster than usual and couldn't look at anyone at all...I just kept looking at the floor and ceiling and waving my hands around. When I was done, I finally looked at the leader and everyone was silent. I saw one person smile and nod enthusiastically, and a few others muttered, "yeah that could be great for a future project for sure..." and then that was it. The leader said, "ok, so moving on, we need to figure out a date for..." I could have actually died in that moment and I wanted to give my extroverted friend the death stare but didn't have the energy to do it. I am still reliving this single moment over and over and over, 7 months later. lol. Ugh.
7:13 yeah and then 5 minutes later when the topic has changed and everyone is quiet I just put in my thing. Then everyone starts laughing and I just say “well y’all wouldn’t shut up!!”
Also I don’t mask too much because I get so tired of it and my friends are very accepting to the autistic community, so I don’t feel like I have to too much. Also I see no need to hide myself just because society is judgy.
I am autistic, and I have to say this here. I had my first edible within the last month, and it was actually incredible. The anxiety which I normally experience was just not there for about a day, and my mom said I seemed much happier and smiley compared to usual.
I'm autistic and also a big (bit picky) foodie. The munchies moment has been one of the must sublime moments of my life
11:40 This is hilarious because I was literally one of only two people in my English class that enjoyed reading Catcher In The Rye and I was the only person who liked the Holden character too, and I always felt completely alone in that 😂
That should've been the first damn sign for me because I went nail and tooth to defend his character arc, like "No you just don't understand it! It makes more sense if you think about it like this-"
My teacher should've pulled me aside right there and then for an assessment 🤣
The bit about drugs is very interesting to me, because most drugs barely have any effect on me which I attribute to my autistic brain.
Like I've tried things like weed, psychedelics etc with friends before and saw their behavior distinctively changing, while I was sitting there mostly in my own thoughts going "huh, is something supposed to happen?"
Yes to the group meme about waiting till the “unspoken rule”of the right time to share a point, but then seeing the conversation move on and no one even notices I’m there. 😮😂
And also the fabled door handles with items of clothing…. Just why? How does whatever I’m wearing magically attach itself when I’m in a rush or preoccupied with something that requires all of my energy? 😂
The only thing the door reminded me of was when there was a psychology class in my highschool and a bunch of ppl announced us to go to the auditorium during lunch and some girl was screaming at ppl directing them to go through certain doors and it was stressful and I didn't want to be threatened so I went through the door I was told and we all sat down and they said over speakers it was a social experiment of some kind and some kid said the equivalent of "y'all sheeple" or something and it was just very distressing and made me want to stay home even more than I already did.
I was considered strange because I never drank coffee, and if asked about it I would tell them that I could count on one hand the cups I have drank. Since my diagnosis I can now say: "The only times I have ever drank coffee was when I was unknowingly trying to blend in among the people around me. In fact, I find the smell and flavor repulsive." 🤔Now all I have to figure out is how to politely discuss "coffee breath". 🤢 🤮- 🎩
(ADHD, not autistic myself) I don't mind the smell of coffee, but I can't stand the taste whatsoever. Mocha something? Why has someone ruined the chocolate? Caffeine doesn't do much, maybe make me focus just slightly better, but otherwise, no effect, but I just don't do coffee. Tea, that is always good, though I don't like my black tea as much. Tanins in black tea, tanins in coffee, tanins are bitter... Probably related.
@@amayasasaki2848 My daughter started drinking coffee as a teenager because her friends did, and you can hang out in a coffee shop for hours with only a little money. She hasn't expressed an interest in getting tested, though I suspect she's on the spectrum.
I suspect that I suffer from Dyscalculia and ADHD also.
I usually get my caffeine from Mango Venom or soft drinks lately, but I've always enjoyed several different kinds of teas. Teas can smell like a lot of things. Coffee always smells like coffee to me regardless of how its prepared.
What I know about tanins I picked up while watching Conan O'Brian visiting a coffee shop. Very funny. Clearly, I need to study tanins more. Thank you for the Info. - 🎩
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Yes!!!! 🤮
To be fair, most coffee tastes dreadful because the recipe is wrong. That being said, you might still dislike it even then,but the typical brews that people use are very bitter to begin with and if you're already sensitive to bitter, it can be a massive problem.
The do not enter signs on the highway Ramps in Kansas always get me.
Oh gosh! I can imagine!!
Your transitions are so nice 🌻
Whoa, that thing you said about trying to look like you are understanding someone and then not being able to remember what they said. Same.
9:00 I used to don't like coffee as well, until I found some good beans that taste so good, maybe you haven't found one you like. If you would like a bit of adventure, maybe ask some roasters or barista, they might be able to recommend something you enjoy. My brother used to really hate coffee, but he found the right beans and now is obsessed with making coffee.
I don't paint my nails, because when they are painted, I can feel my nails, when I am not touching them and it doesn't feel good.
the theatre thing made me remember that one time I went into a morgue while looking for the exit :D
8:40 I can't do coffee either but for a different reason. It was semi force-fed to me throughout my entire childhood every time I had an asthma attack because the caffeine helps with oxygen transport, but that did mean I got a really negative association with it which doesn't help with me liking coffee.
Noise cancelling headphones definitely make such a difference. I strongly dislike having to go any amount of time without mine, and I've only had them a couple of weeks. I charge them at night when I'm doing something else on my computer. Only have to charge every 3-4 days. Charges in less than 2 hours. As for sensory overload - yeah. I got irrate with my passengers for being noisy while I was trying to drive (focus), and they laughed and told me that I wasn't seeing with my ears. Like, okay, but with the bright headlights already being overstimulating, I need to be able to focus!
Similar to the coffee point, but I was shaking so much Friday morning because I'd had a panic attack on the road the day before and missed dinner, and I proceeded to drop two breakfasts in a row and almost lost it.
at 4:22 its esspecially relavent at least to me because i am quite litterally OBSESSED with computers and tech and it constantly feels like im running that program so yeah lol
I remember deciding I was going to: Step 1: write a novel, Step 2: ???, Step 3: the royalties would cover my most very basic expenses and I'd work part-time to support my hobbies and save for adventures (but know that if they fired me for no apparent reason other than my anxiety/awkwardness, I'd still be able to survive). Writing was a short-lived interest for me, because the following year I developed an interest in psychology and therapy which persisted for years.
Constantly feel my feet too much. I refuse walking on a salted road and I will cry if I have to walk over certain carpets. I prefer sleeping with my legs raised so my feet won't rest of the mattress.
I'm not diagnosed with autism, though I do have ADHD and I often wonder if I am on the autism spectrum too.
Oh, I completely zoned out to write that comment about my feet (Didn't think I would ever write that!) and I havn't heard a word in the video since so now I guess I'll rewatch 🤷♀
Love your videos kbye 💜
the trick to those doors is even though i expect to get it wrong ive managed to cultivate an attitude of not caring whether it goes wrong or right.
Corded headphones being yanked off or pulled out after getting caught on cabinet door...or worse...vacuum handle. Then you get that horrible feeling while a vacuum is yelling at you
I saw at one point that my pencils got stolen so I threatened the vice principal with a scissors
0:24 I DID THIS AT A HOTEL A FEW WEEKS AGO 😭 the elevator was being worked on so i had to take the stairs down and when i got to the bottom the door to the lobby had a firedoor please keep closed sign and i stood in the stairwell for at least a MINUTE before realizing im allowed to open the only doors to leave the stairs
Oh noo!! These signs are not autism friendly! We need to start a petition 😂
I can relate with that fire door story 😄
Those signs should be written using the most unambiguous formulation possible, by the way. "Keep closed when unused" would have been a better formulation.
Also, althought the message doesn't say if there were other possible paths (probably not), some fire doors trigger an alarm when opened so you can't use them as normal doors.
7:30 I think that's an ADHD sadness, too 😞
I can drink things with a lot of caffeine, but coffee makes me physically ill. I get ocular and classic migraines and I think my blood pressure drops because I get so sleepy that I can’t stay awake no matter what I do.
But drinking a caffeinated soda or like an energy drink is no problem.
Catcher in the Rye was one of my favorite books through high school… maybe I should reread it too. What an interesting connection for me!
2:15 Yes, I feel my toes too much. I don't like wearing sock at home or house slippers, but wrong kind of flooring textures or tiniest little feeling of grimy floor always annoy me, the dilemma.
I haven't tried getting tested so I don't know if I am autistic or have adhd or not but when you talked about the toe polish removing I knew exactly what you were talking about, and I hate it. I get sensory overload really bad and have to have sunglasses and earplugs to help with it sometimes. Had to immediately start typing in the comments so I don't forget what I was going to say, and when you mentioned CAT-C had to pause the video and take it right away before I forgot. I got pretty high numbers on that, so I should probably get tested, but that requires interacting with people I don't know, going somewhere with noises, smells, and bright lights and I'm likely going to drag my feet for a long time about it. Also, now my toes don't feel right because I'm thinking too much about them and can't stop. I constantly think "how do I show someone I'm interested in what they are saying or feeling empathy for their problem?" when I know without conscious effort it will seem like I don't care, even though I do. I have serious problems wanting to interrupt people, and sometimes do it without thinking because if I don't say the thing right away, I'm going to forget, or sometimes because whatever the person is talking about I don't know what to respond and all I can think to do is change the subject. I freaked out over the way my daughter was breading chicken the other day and had to leave the room because I just couldn't handle watching her do it a way I wouldn't do it. Losing things? omg, I will not be able to stop thinking about the thing for days till I find it. I will tear apart my entire house, forgetting to do any of the things I'm supposed to be doing, and get more upset by the minute, often breaking down into tears or screaming into my pillow. It doesn't even have to be something important. If I'm not autistic, and this stuff is even worse for people who are, idk how you get anything done.
Really interesting to see the varying degrees of sensitivity to substances in the comments haha.
I'm also on the spectrum, but fortunately not predisposed to any other underlying conditions that tend to trigger under the influence.
From what I've heard from others on the spectrum, LSD tends to have less of a visual effect, but you do become a lot more introspective / capable of managing your emotions in the afterglow, at least for a couple days. It's made my life a lot less stressful, I think. #notanendorsementdoyourresearch
5:30 This is how i feel...so tired all the time. Unforunately in a bid to cope it led me to taking drugs to try and get by...
My (autistic diagnosed) brother an I (not officially diagnosed) struggle a lot with clipping our nails, specially toe nails. I usually postpone it way too much. We are in our twenties, but sometimes our mom just ends up helping us cut our nails because we never seem to get to the point to where we can do it ourselves
I can't relate to all of these, but I can relate to several of these. I just got the call yesterday letting me know they wanted to send me pre-assessment paperwork!
That will hopefully be completed in the next couple months 🤞
The losing things is so real, I’ve had meltdowns my whole life over losing things, and I lose things a lot due to adhd 😭
i feel the exact same with the meme @ 4:20 & with the multiple tabs i have atleast 90 on my phone and on pc atleast around 200 its bonkers and more memes ples
Omg the cofee spilling one. I have both, AuDHD, and I like getting my coffee from either starbucks or a local coffee place, and of couse I choose the drive-thru cause no way in hell I'm going inside to order. I'm a little bit a speed demon sometimes, I guess cause it gives me my much needed dopamine to live on the edge like that idk. Point is, sometimes I go a little faster than I intend. When I tell you, the pure rage that happens when I take a sharp turn a little took quickly and my coffee cup has the AUDACITY to follow the laws of physics and spill over a little... oh man. That emotional regulation that I've worked so hard to have, doing meditation, aligning my chakras, opening my third eye, is just completely gone and non existent! That thread I'm hanging on to for dear life is so thin.
I am quite sensitive to a lot of things that I ingest as well! if I get a Coke from a restaurant and it doesn’t have a lot of ice, it’s syrup is too thick and makes my throat sore. A really big one was being treated for ADHD. Although I did reap benefits from each of the ones I tried, they were all way too powerful for my system even if I took half of the smallest dose! Another one: Some people can eat food that’s a week old not me. Also, certain cold meds make me feel worse.
I am the same way with nail polish remover! (it also doesn't help the sound/texture of cotton balls/swabs is horrible for me). I don't mind a hot shower, though, and (since I use a top coat with my polish) it usually peels off fairly nicely in one piece if I peel it off with my fingernails towards the end of a shower. (I'm sure there are better ways to do it w/o polish remover and cotton balls/swabs, but this is what has been working for me)
I have NEVER drank coffee, or tea (I just wake up grumpy and take 2 hours to be in functioning mode. But even the smell of coffee gives me shivers, and because a single can of Coke keeps me up all night, I know caffeine and me are not to be!
And Oh yes that dream job!!! #lifegoals ❤
I keep being irritated by unconsciously reading transparent signs on glass doors facing the other way.
Sometimes doors have a green sticker for push but the red one is missing then you can see the wrong one through the glass.
The taking things is so relatable. I'm tipsy after a single serving of alcohol and some friends don't believe me.
the amount of times my parents have walked in on me sitting in the most uncomfortable twisted up position possible (my favorite is facing backward and leaning against the chair back) (it’s so comfy i love it) (typing this while sitting like that lol)
6:47 I did this with my introverted friend and it turns out she might wanna go get tested lmao
Also 7:55 my ADHD deffo covers up the fact that I don't know when I'm supposed to jump in, I just have a thought and blurt it or stop listening to everyone else and get lost in my own thought... But on the bright side, this combined with me being awkward about when to jump in means that I can usually find the other ND person who isn't as obnoxious and loud-mouthed as me, so I'll give them the space to jump in. Even if I'm the only one who heard, I'll bring the group's attention to it by rephrasing it and crediting the person for it. IDK I'm socially awkward and an introvert but god do I love to talk and have no volume control in groups
Omg the ad that came right after the chocolate chip cookie part was for chocolate chip cookies and it said “love at first bite” or something like that 😂
I have the toes thing in a way. My feet are size 9 and I've been wearing size 11 shoes since I was first allowed to get shoes on my own. If my toes aren't free I feel trapped. Like panic inducing trapped.
I was also confused by the doors that say "keep closed at all times". But then I thought "heck the police, I need to go this way" and opened it anyway.
The point of the conversation and where to bring in the point I wanna say:
It used to be so frustrating and confusing and I just didn't understand when I'd get the feedback that everyone had already moved on: "You're still stuck on that point?" / "Oh, you are still on the topic of 15 minutes ago?!" 😰
Watching this video wearing my old headphones without noise cancellation, even though I recently bought myself noise cancelling ones, and being really overwhelmed and feeling attacked by all the background noise around me…
The electric clock in the living room... I could hear the little gears turning in it, from my bedroom. Took the batteries out. That fixed the sound, but then I had a clock that was only right twice a day. Just gave it away.
I love your very autistic reaction to the cookie meme. You aren’t quite sure what your husband meant, so you instantly came up with like 25 different possibilities.
My son is also 4. I just got my diagnosis. These things are related.
It's really distressing, though, how intensely disrupted my research life as a hisorian has been by extended time with a tiny human shouting at me about tractors is.
I refuse to have beeping household appliances. When I bought a new microwave, one requirement was that it goes *bling*, not *BEEEEP!!!! BEEEEP!!!! BEEEEP!!!!*.
Funnily enough, coffee I've found actually helps with my chronic fatigue/energy loss, at least in terms of productivity. Like I stay way too focused, finishing tests or other work I need to do for college in half the time I normally would take. And it makes me feel not as much general body pain which is honestly just a regular thing at this point. It's really strange just how drugs can have a vastly different effect on different autistic people. Like for example I'm super resilient to things like anesthesia, to the point where I will still feel what's going on while it's happening if I'm conscious, or I can drink a decent amount of alchohol without becoming drunk. But both of my families have an extended history of drug abuse so I'm at high risk to fall into those habits, and pain meds cause frequent full body reactions (like I'll shut down and get VERY paranoid for some reason after taking some of them). I can only take like very light pain meds for some reason and I'm just like ??? why am I like this
I retired early, due to a really bad autistic burnout. After 2 years alone, I am finally being able to relax. The PTSD we get from masking/trying to do more than we can; is brutal.
I saw a T-shirt that had this on it: “Raisin cookies that look like chocolate-chip cookies are why I have trust issues.”
I should’ve bought it.
I'm super late to this video but 11:47 Also-fucking-lutely. I LOVE _The Catcher in the Rye_ and I love Holden Caulfield. I have seen and heard from people who hated it and hated Holden. In response to such people I have smashed keyboards, yelled at college classmates, probably challenged a few people to a duel, and I ain't taking any of it back. Honestly I don't get how someone _wouldn't_ like Holden. He's such a good-hearted kid who's just tired of people's bullshit and, on top of that, is also depressed and s**cidal because no one will help him deal with his grief for Allie. And although the terminology didn't exist in 1951, I absolutely headcanon Holden as neurodivergent. Like, let's look at the signs: he's smart but can't seem to work the system to succeed, he's got really high empathy for other people but struggles to communicate it, he's got zero tolerance for bullshit, he speaks his mind super readily, and (because in the spirit of _The Catcher in the Rye_ I gotta make some cynical points about what society does to folks like us) he's anxious, depressed, and s**cidal. Literally those are all diagnostic criteria if autistic people were the ones who wrote the diagnostic criteria! But anyway, yeah. I have fought people for Holden Caulfield and I will continue to fight anyone who speaks ill of him. Because NOBODY slanders my emo-punk son!
I gotta try reading catcher in the rye, I started but didn't finish. I haven't thought to try to read it with a Neurodivergent lens.