Happy to see you back. However, I disagree with your opinion on moving back home with your parents for a bit. It should not be considered defeat or weak. Many people have to take a few months and move back with family just to restart and get themselves in order. It shouldn't be viewed as a failure within you, but rather as a strength in doing what is best for yourself and your life.
I think I see it as defeat because I would have to pack up all my things (+ cats) and haul everything to Missouri. Then I would probably just end up staying there because it would be too inconvenient to haul everything back to California. And you know, I left Missouri to have a better life... so going back, eh, yeah, just kinda feels like defeat for me. If my family lived within driving distance, I would definitely go crash with them for a month. But it just doesn’t seem practical in my situation.
@@KalelSumisu Why don't you just take a couple things and your cats and go crash with them in Missouri for a few months? IDK, coming from a 26yo living with her parents, it could be cleansing.
@@KalelSumisu Totally understand - moving is such a bitch! Maybe instead of actually moving back, take a vacation for a couple of weeks and stay with your family? I definitely think some quality time with them would be beneficial. BTW it made my whole day that you responded! Love you girl! ❤️
Glad your mum and dad are involved.getting back to your roots, back to basics & stripping back the shit to get to the core is what we all need sometimes.
Antidepressants do help people. I suffer from depression and I was a mess for over a decade until I finally accepted being put on antidepressants. Literally 6 weeks later I felt like a switch went on and the world had color. I regret not taking them 10 years earlier. My life is so good now.
LonelyGirl 14 I agree. The first antidepressant I tried made me feel exactly how Kalel mentioned (always tired and more unmotivated). I think the dose was too high and overall the brand didn’t work for me. I switched to a different one and I feel SO much better, I feel like myself finally. I think the brand and dose makes a huge difference in the side effects and you really need to find one that suits your body. I’m so glad you’re feeling better :)
my psychology teacher told me that anti depressants usually make you feel worse before they make you feel better ( which is why many people stop taking them ) so just keep that in mind kalel! 💓
Thank you for writing this. I've put this off for so long, I really just should accept it as nothing bad and feel better. I'm happy to hear things got better for you x
Brooke Hope the first one they usually put you on is ssri only increasing serotonin which depression is a lot of time from lack of dopamine then they tried me on snri which has crazy side effects I could never find a good happy medium :(
You have no idea how much I relate to you when you talk about depression! When you started describing how you feel, I literally had to pause the video because it honestly felt too real for me. I sometimes have trouble explaining how I feel but you nailed it! Thank you for opening up and talking about mental illness.
I love you Kalel, but please don't give the impression to people that medications are bad or don't work period. It is as you said highly individual and I think it's important to mention that alot of people really benefit from antidepressants. And it is actually really common for antidepressants to make you feel worse for a few weeks before they start working and make you feel better.
I don’t want anyone who truly needs help to hear what you’re saying about antidepressants and not want to try them. Sometimes the first prescription you get isn’t the right one for you, it might take several prescriptions to figure out what works best for your chemical imbalance and body. It can be a frustrating process and there is more to fighting depression than pills but they can play a huge role in balancing the chemicals in your brain, and can truly be life saving. Please listen to your doctors and not a youtuber with absolutely no medical background.
If someone wanted to get more information about antidepressants this isn’t the video they’d go to, it’s not even in the title. If someone truly wanted to get information they’d find the appropriate videos.
@@glo4ever17 People's opinions influence you. Things as straight forward as you say, jesus christ. And she should be considerate enough _because she's a youtuber..._ about what she says and puts out there. People are already scared and reluctant enough getting on medications, without hearing a person you watch and follow, say "oh I went on an antidepressant and it just made me worse, and I didn't even try other medications that would suit my brain's chemistry, it was a total waste of time because I did it only for 3 months LOL" and chuckling about it.
I ended up experiencing the same thing. I tried so many medications. I was switched so much because i never felt better in anyway. I was trying for almost 3 years. The constant need to sleep, the weight gain, and the zombie like emotions. I also couldnt focus at work while on them, which is dangerous because i work at a factory. I didnt enjoy it at all. I have bpd, severe depression, anger issues, and crippling anxiety. I dont think she shouldnt talk about her experience. People should know going into getting help that it may just not be for them or that those are symptoms to look for when that type of medication doesnt suit their body.
For the antidepressants, I was under one type first, I felt all tired 24/7 and they changed my medication which actually worked.. Maybe a second opinion will work for you too 🤷🏻♀️
Depression is SO hard to get out of when you're in the thick of it, I relate a lot when you talk about complete lack of motivation and isolating yourself and it's the worst honestly.. Anti-depressants didn't work for me either, but what did work was taking Vyvanse (adhd meds), it changed everything for me, gave me the motivation and energy that I needed to get back on tracks! Of course medication isn't a long term solution, but I haven't figured out how to function without them yet.. Also I will always watch your videos, no matter what kind of content you wanna post
when u take antidepressants and they have side effects you gotta let the psychiatrist do its job and change the dosage or the pill components, not just quit them..
Yeaaa, she’s gonna get depressed again and we won’t see another video in like a year tbh 🤷🏾♀️ it’s great she’s feeling better not being on them, but that doesn’t mean anything for her depression tbh.
@@Hollylovesgreen What I understood from how Aloha Miriam framed her response to Kalel's choice of action is that Kalel not only *could* but actually *should* do as Aloha Miriam suggests - engage in further psychiatrist intervention/treatment of her condition. She could do that but, given we all have free will, she can also do as she decided to do AND it might as well be the right (and healing) choice for Kalel. Or it might not - just like psychiatrist suggestions and treatments *can* help a patient or they also *can do absolutely nothing* for the patient (and there's also cases where treatments turned out to be inappropriate or harmful for the patient).
@@UrbanDecayLova247 it might not necessarily mean a definite change but experiences can alter how you see life no matter how breif they are, and that could be exactly what someone needs. yes she might want to try other meds but yes it's also okay for her to just choose that being ON and med At All isn't right for her currently
I’ve been on four different types of antidepressants, one gave me insomnia at night which resulted in me pretty much napping all day in three hour intervals. but the one i’m on now is incredible! you should try a different family of antidepressants!
The cheek swab test saved me. It said I should have been on an SNRI, not an SSRI. I had been on the wrong type for 10 years! No wonder they didn’t do anything except cause side effects. Once I switched I felt normal again.
@@lindseystein9676 the cheek swab test? I've never heard of that. I've been on two antidepressants and they both made my obsessive thoughts worse. If I get desperate I'll try another
Ask your doctor about a check swab test for anti depressants. The results will tell you which type are comparable with your body. Certain types don’t work for certain people. After I took it, I learned I had been on the wrong type and my body wouldn’t metabolize it correctly. I was on an SSRI when I needed an SNRI. Once I switched, it was life changing
3months isnt a fair chance for anti depressants.. there are so many diff kinds and doses, it took me a year to find one that im happy with the results im feeling. and some people it takes much longer to find one that works for them
Most drugs start working within the first two weeks, and I got through it without antidepressants. She’ll be fine. If she doesn’t want to take them that’s fine. She doesn’t need to continue making herself miserable because you two seem to think you know all there is to know about them. ALSO. Just a PSA.. a lot of antidepressants can also make matters worse.
Sometimes people can feel effects within a few weeks, but it’s best to try them for at least two months. I preach to anyone unhappy with their antidepressant to ask their doctor for the cheek swab test they can do to se which anti depressants work for your body. That test was seriously life saving for me- I was on the wrong class for ten years! I needed an snri instead of the ssri. Once I made the switch, I was on them for less than a year and was able to wean off (after speaking with my psych) and have been off them for years and feel normal again. I just hope she’s not putting all her hopes on the meds, they’re not going to magically fix things. They’re supposed to make things more normal so you can get used to functioning normally again.
Lindsey Stein I did it too and literally found out that I could only properly metabolize ONE kind and I’ve been on that now for two years! It saved my life!
There's nothing "prideful" about not taking the neccessary medication for your wellbeing, that's actually really sad. If the antidepressants didn't work for you the way they're supposed to, you need to relay to your doctor and psychiatrist that the dosage/medication is not working and explain what your side effects are and how you're feeling so that they can tweak it for you. I'm someone who takes an antidepressant. Hearing you say you "gave it a chance" and quit the medication makes it seem like you really don't take mental health seriously and that the rest of us who have to take antidepressants aren't strong enough to be able to function without them like you. Your attitude when talking about that topic seemed a tad bit condescending. I'm not trying to be mean or rude, just calmly stating how it came across to someone with lifelong major depression that has to take an antidepressant.
totally. It often takes a few different rounds of things to figure it out, and often things don't get better for a few months at least. Hope she tries again.
I think telling someone what they need to do is worse than what she is doing. She is not telling you that you are not strong. Her experience is different from yours and you trying to shame her for not trying it out or sticking to it is honestly degrading and disgusting. Anyone who chooses to take medication or not take it is respected and deserves to be validated. Please don't try to shame someone for doing what they believe is best for them. You are not Kalel, and she is not you.
@@moonie3070 I never called you names nor am being rude to you. I respect everyone, however, I don't believe it is right to say Kalel is acting condescending and that she can't be prideful in what she believes in. I don't think taking antidepressants is wrong or makes you weak at all. Please think about the opinions you are putting out there with negative remarks. You could have simply said she should give another try but instead you tried putting it out there that she is condescending, that is not right. I just ask you think next time before putting that out there when she never said anything bad about someone who takes antidepressants, because there is nothing wrong with that whatsoever. Have a great day, just think next time before posting such harsh remarks :)
Yup, its quite rare for the first medication to work for that individual. It takes time to try to find the right one . Also, Kalel says that it made her very tired...completely normal side effect - when you’re depressed you’re not getting proper rest so YES your body when it’s less stressed is going to try to catch up on all of the sleep that it hadn’t been getting for YEARS
I think I just fainted !!! I am so so so happy to see your face. You look stunning as per usual and I am so glad you are going to make videos again and I love the casual old school style the best. It's way more personal. Girl you've made my day and you look like a small weight has been lifted from your shoulders. I love you and I've missed you so damn much.
Your approach to antidepressants is quite silly, surely it's a bad thing that you have too much pride to take them or figure out how to use them properly
Other people have probably said this, but each anti depressant is really so different. The first two I took were SSRIs (Zoloft and Celexa). They did nothing for me and one of them even made me worse. In May, I overdosed trying to kill myself and ended up in the hospital. The psychiatrist realized SSRIs may not be good for me. Now I am on Wellbutrin which is specifically meant to give you motivation/energy (the hardest part of my depression). I genuinely feel like it's been helping a lot! This is not to say you should ever take anti depressants again if you don't want especially if it makes you uncomfy, but just know there is probably a way better one for you out there. It can be very taxing to go through the process of finding the right one, though. Definitely always follow your instincts.
I started on SSRI (Zoloft) as well and continued to have a difficult time. My suicidal thoughts continued and I felt that I wasn't able to express my emotions, as in I couldn't cry even if I knew I needed the release. I talked to my doctor and I ended up switching to Wellbutrin. It's been several months and I finally feel motivated and my suicidal thoughts are practically non-existent. I'm also better at dealing with my anxiety and have been able to start school again. Anti-depressants are a wonderful thing and I wish I knew about them sooner in life.
i did miss you! :) i've always loved your more casual content most so i'm glad that that's what you're aiming for. don't pressure yourself too much! :)
Girl, make your coin! I’ve always found your videos entertaining whether they’re chill or not. I love to see you doing well! That’s all that matters. ❤️
I felt the same way on antidepressants. And i tried different types as well. They made me feel like a zombie and i couldn't even go to work or drive. There was only one kind that didnt make me feel sick but it still made me very sleepy and my emotions were very blah and neutral. Just didn't feel myself at all. I exercise and do yoga to cure my anxiety and depression and its helped so much.
Sarah Exactly!! I was the same! My intuition said noooooope. Now I’m hyper-focused on healing naturally and I’m making real progress! Happy that you’re on that same path! ❤️
Antidepressants helped me with my anxiety, for that exact reason. I was high strung, worrying over everything and I needed something to calm me down. But what works for my anxiety, didn't work for my friends.
Anti depressent usually take about 6 weeks to really start to kick in,, for the first month i was still depressed and unmotivated and anxious asf, but after that second month my life began to feel normal again... not telling anyone to take them, but they deffinetly helped me and turned my life around
So I was in a similar Situation with depression and "OCD" two years ago. It got so bad that I was standing on a bridge one night ready to jump (sorry if that's too much to hear). But that one itty bitty tiny hope of a better life was getting me to text a friend who talked to me until I was ready to get down. That day I promised I would go to therapy and try to fix the mess. I started going regularly and it wasn't really getting better so I started taking anti depressants and they weren't really helping I was about to give up when my doctor gave me a new prescription which was the best thing because they helped me soooooo much through the first few struggles of getting better. I found out that my OCD was just my way of trying to fix my head. I always had the thought that if I just kept my surroundings clean and tidy enough my head wouldn't get messy either. But instead I just drove myself crazy with the cleaning. Now two years later I'm no longer taking the pills, I'm not a clean freak any more but instead am trying (yes trying!) to have a more healthy relationship to cleaning. And I learnt so many ways to handle a difficult situation or day. It was the best thing. What I'm trying to say is don't give up on getting better. If your anti depressants didn't work maybe they weren't on the right dosage or it wasn't the right one. Its okay to accept help if you need it. Showing "weakness" is actually not weak its strong. If you have a compulsion to clean maybe try to figure out why. What are you trying to accomplish? And if you have a mindset like I did maybe try to exchange it to something more real. Like I did change mine to: if my rooms messy I'll be fine (something like that) I'm not an expert and I'm not trying to be one. I'm just telling my experiences and my knowledge. Everyone's different and everyone has a different thing that helps
For those who are whining about her opinion on taking antidepressants- please stop complaining. It’s her journey and her experience. Like- seriously 😒- so annoying that people cling onto one thing someone says and whines about it. If they work for you, great, but don’t complain if it didn’t work for someone else and they’re sharing their experience.
I don't think people are whining and complaining, from what I've read in the comments. They just want Kalel to heed her past advice and be more sensitive when discussing topics such as mental health. It's not like she's just giving her opinion on beauty treatments and food- we're talking about depression and medications to treat depression. She just needs to watch her words a little more and realize that what she says does have an effect on her viewers, and saying things carelessly about a serious topic can be hurtful. No hate towards Kalel or anyone else : )
Thanks for coming back :) I know OCD and depression is the world's worst combo (I have to accomplish xyz so my thoughts shut up, but also why should I want to do things because I literally have no energy and am gonna die anyway) but it's great to see you powering through this. You've got this :)
Gurl... I’m here for whatever content you choose to share 🤷🏻♀️😎. You’re like a friend that I watch on the internet and it sucks that you were gone but I’m super excited that you are back 😁
Yeah the pills do make you tired but for some people (like me) the tiredness fades away... anyway when it doesn’t, you should switch pills to a different kind🤷🏻♀️ I missed you and happy you are back❤️
Scrolling through my phone and I see a notification of Kalel saying ‘did you miss me?’ YESSSS I MISSED YOU 😭 this means time for a cup of tea and cozy clothes 😻❤️
I completely understand the lack of self motivation - I've been going through this for the last couple months, and have been putting some serious thought into whether I feel I could be depressed, and whether or not I should take the step of speaking to a doctor about it. I am a mental health supporter and have always wanted to de-stigmatize mental health issues and medication as a means to treat them - though I understand method of treatment is a personal choice for everyone. I think it's SO important for people to seek some form of treatment. Whether it's counseling/therapy, medications, or other avenues.
Dissuading people from using anti-depressants (just because the one you tried didn't work for you) is irresponsible. It takes some people years to find the right combination of medication, but they save lives. This video is super insensitive. Hope you feel less "lazy". Smh.
Grace McCabe why are you and so many others taking it up the ass? She’s just giving HER EXPERIENCE with them. She’s not even saying for people to NOT try antidepressants...
I agree with you 10000%. I also thought the comment about living at home at 30 equaling defeat was shitty. I am disabled and in crazy amounts of pain. I’m also 30 and have to live at home because I require help, which isn’t the norm, but not everyone is understanding. This whole video really rubbed me wrong, as someone else that also deals with OCD.
Jonathan Torres she is an “influencer” - she has the ability to influence people to do things. If a young person sees this and is struggling, they may be less likely to get the help they need. Also - no need to be rude.
@Helena Props Same, I love Kalel too but sometimes she seems so out of touch with how normal people live? Like the vast majority of us cannot isolate ourselves for a year and not work. Antidepressants literally save lives and help me attend 9-5 jobs, go to school etc.
Thinking that pills are the only answer to these problems is irresponsible. From my personal experience of being on them almost 10 years and deciding as an adult to get off of them, they harmed me so much more than any help they gave me. Some people should take them sure, but it should never be the first go-to.
i suffer from anxiety/panic attacks and can definitely relate to feeling absolutely unmotivated. it got to the point where i couldn’t even get up to shower, eat, even hang out with friends !
I'm glad June was a month in which you were getting better, because it's been a rough one for me. At least I'm starting July better and this video just made my week. Much love! :3
It sounds like you were on lexapro or Zoloft , try Prozac :). You have to try more than one antidepressant , they are NOT all the same and affect everyone very differently . I had lots of side effects on some and none on my current
Going back home always makes you a better person! Seeing old school friends, childhood friends and family is so pure and cleansing for yourself. It is not weak in any way shape or form!❤️❤️❤️
I have depression and it took me 3 different medications and many many dosage adjustments to find the fit for me medication can and does work with enough patience and communication with your doctor. I am suprised your doctor let you be on one that wasnt working for 3 months, mine switched me after 4 weeks if I wasn't responding well. I hope you find yourself again ❤
Please post an update on the kitties! 🥰 Desperate to know about them Are you still studying? And what is your diet like now? Basically I have 100 questions 😂
Mr P-body I must have missed that video. I got back into binge watching her videos recently but a bunch were deleted again but atleast that answers one of the questions, just 99 now 😂
SO excited to have you back love! You're glowing & I can tell that you have your passion back. Quick video suggestions: skincare & hair routine showing your products and would love an update on the kitties. 💖
I think you upload when youre manic, and delete/disappear when you fall back into depression. The drugs probably didnt work because depression could be a misdiagnosis and they are only "treating" half of your manic/depressive episodes. Maybe seek a second opinion on your depression diagnosis because it seems like there could be more to it? I struggle with similar problems and behaviors and I hope you find the help and motivation youre looking for.
It just popped in my head that you’re maybe just a high sensitive person. I recommend researching HSP and HSS if you haven’t already (also what food does with you if you have this tendencies). It’s hard to find a balance if you don’t really know how you’re body, mind and spirit works. And just remember this, at the end of the day you’re not crazy, just different 😘.
I soooo respect how you can laugh at yourself. 😂 Glad you’re making videos (again) and I truly hope you’ll stick with it because I sincerely enjoy your videos and your sense of humor.
With my depression and anxiety, I have such an aversion to checking mail and email, like I feel like something bad will come. I can also relate to the cleaning aspect too.
wow when you were talking about how nothing fazed you on your ADs i had to pause it brought me back 😭it's the weirdest/uncomfiest feeling to not have any emotion toward anything at all and no one gets that til they've felt it too and was one of the reasons i got off mine but not all are the same! im glad you're back and doing better cant wait for your videos 💞
i have horrible ocd and anxiety and i dont know about depression but i think it could be there because of how my intrusive thoughts and anxiety has isolated me and made me feel. anti depressants helped me for a bit, but i gained weight and became actually depressed. i went off and lost weight. but now the anxiety and ocd is worse. idk what to do bc i do not want to ever gain that weight back bc idk what i will do if that happens im just scared of living like this
You are absolutely gorgeous, and look at you pulling yourself up. That is a huge accomplishment. That alone takes so much so no matter how many times you need to take a break, take them. I will definitely be here to support no matter what.
Happy to see you back. However, I disagree with your opinion on moving back home with your parents for a bit. It should not be considered defeat or weak. Many people have to take a few months and move back with family just to restart and get themselves in order. It shouldn't be viewed as a failure within you, but rather as a strength in doing what is best for yourself and your life.
I literally thought the same thing. If you need help, then you need help
she feels that for herself, she probably doesn't mean that how others have to feel that way. she is talking about how she feels.
I think I see it as defeat because I would have to pack up all my things (+ cats) and haul everything to Missouri. Then I would probably just end up staying there because it would be too inconvenient to haul everything back to California. And you know, I left Missouri to have a better life... so going back, eh, yeah, just kinda feels like defeat for me.
If my family lived within driving distance, I would definitely go crash with them for a month. But it just doesn’t seem practical in my situation.
@@KalelSumisu Why don't you just take a couple things and your cats and go crash with them in Missouri for a few months? IDK, coming from a 26yo living with her parents, it could be cleansing.
@@KalelSumisu Totally understand - moving is such a bitch! Maybe instead of actually moving back, take a vacation for a couple of weeks and stay with your family? I definitely think some quality time with them would be beneficial.
BTW it made my whole day that you responded! Love you girl! ❤️
Okay but I MISS your “What I eat in a day” type of videos. They’re always sooo relaxing to watch. I binge watch them all
PREEEEACCHHHH
HoeFabulous101 YESS SUPER AESTHETIC. she’s back ladiessss!
Ask why she deletes her old videos and insta?
Lmaaaoo same sis😂😂
Yessss !! These videos were my favorite !! Love watching Kalel cook :)
Glad your mum and dad are involved.getting back to your roots, back to basics & stripping back the shit to get to the core is what we all need sometimes.
Antidepressants do help people. I suffer from depression and I was a mess for over a decade until I finally accepted being put on antidepressants. Literally 6 weeks later I felt like a switch went on and the world had color. I regret not taking them 10 years earlier. My life is so good now.
LonelyGirl 14 I agree. The first antidepressant I tried made me feel exactly how Kalel mentioned (always tired and more unmotivated). I think the dose was too high and overall the brand didn’t work for me. I switched to a different one and I feel SO much better, I feel like myself finally. I think the brand and dose makes a huge difference in the side effects and you really need to find one that suits your body. I’m so glad you’re feeling better :)
my psychology teacher told me that anti depressants usually make you feel worse before they make you feel better ( which is why many people stop taking them ) so just keep that in mind kalel! 💓
Thank you for writing this. I've put this off for so long, I really just should accept it as nothing bad and feel better. I'm happy to hear things got better for you x
Finding the right medication for you is also quite a journey. You have to try out some stuff before you find the right thing for your symptoms.
Brooke Hope the first one they usually put you on is ssri only increasing serotonin which depression is a lot of time from lack of dopamine then they tried me on snri which has crazy side effects I could never find a good happy medium :(
Honestly I don’t care how many times you disappear and comeback. As long as you comeback I will always support you Kalel. I hope you keep on surviving
Wave I wholeheartedly agree
I’ve always enjoyed her videos, so I feel the same way. As long as the quality of the content is still high, I’ll keep watching.
Wave, you're a fucking fool then.
This!!! I’m so happy to see her ❤️
SAME!!
You have no idea how much I relate to you when you talk about depression! When you started describing how you feel, I literally had to pause the video because it honestly felt too real for me. I sometimes have trouble explaining how I feel but you nailed it! Thank you for opening up and talking about mental illness.
LovesU2727 i feel this same exact way as i was watching this!!!
Same
Get your coin sis 👏 Ive watched your content since your cosplay days & I'm not gonna stop now....cant wait to see your future videos. Happy 4th
Getting a young Jennifer Anniston vibe with this look Kalel. You look great xx
My EXACT same thought lol
I agree!!
I think a regular job with regular hours would help you a lot. You'd get a rythm and things to look forward to.
I agree. I think structure really benefits people and it teaches discipline.
Laure that’s a nightmare. Why would someone want a regular job if they didn’t have to?
@@Lisa_Uncensored Because it can give you much needed structure especially if you lack that.
I love you Kalel, but please don't give the impression to people that medications are bad or don't work period. It is as you said highly individual and I think it's important to mention that alot of people really benefit from antidepressants. And it is actually really common for antidepressants to make you feel worse for a few weeks before they start working and make you feel better.
Your long hair is so gorgeous on you!
cokecrazy08 thank youuu ❤️
You don't look like Jennifer Aniston but your look outfit and hair you're give me Rachel vibes
@AsHLiegH-MaRie HoPe what are you talking about??
AsHLiegH-MaRie HoPe Idiot.
AsHLiegH-MaRie HoPe how do you even take a shit on your own?
You legit look excited and happy in this video and not forced and that makes me happy and excited for you!
Marisa C she looks refreshed! She deserved a lil break!
I don’t want anyone who truly needs help to hear what you’re saying about antidepressants and not want to try them. Sometimes the first prescription you get isn’t the right one for you, it might take several prescriptions to figure out what works best for your chemical imbalance and body. It can be a frustrating process and there is more to fighting depression than pills but they can play a huge role in balancing the chemicals in your brain, and can truly be life saving. Please listen to your doctors and not a youtuber with absolutely no medical background.
She's talking about her experience with them, not saying to people don't use them.
If someone wanted to get more information about antidepressants this isn’t the video they’d go to, it’s not even in the title. If someone truly wanted to get information they’d find the appropriate videos.
Her experience is 3 short months. that's not even close to a therapeutic treatment plan.
@@glo4ever17 People's opinions influence you. Things as straight forward as you say, jesus christ. And she should be considerate enough _because she's a youtuber..._ about what she says and puts out there. People are already scared and reluctant enough getting on medications, without hearing a person you watch and follow, say "oh I went on an antidepressant and it just made me worse, and I didn't even try other medications that would suit my brain's chemistry, it was a total waste of time because I did it only for 3 months LOL" and chuckling about it.
I ended up experiencing the same thing. I tried so many medications. I was switched so much because i never felt better in anyway. I was trying for almost 3 years. The constant need to sleep, the weight gain, and the zombie like emotions. I also couldnt focus at work while on them, which is dangerous because i work at a factory. I didnt enjoy it at all. I have bpd, severe depression, anger issues, and crippling anxiety. I dont think she shouldnt talk about her experience. People should know going into getting help that it may just not be for them or that those are symptoms to look for when that type of medication doesnt suit their body.
For the antidepressants, I was under one type first, I felt all tired 24/7 and they changed my medication which actually worked.. Maybe a second opinion will work for you too 🤷🏻♀️
kalel is like that mom that pops into ur room and asks if u want snacks
jason you boys wanna come on down im cutting some strawberries
This is so true holy shit
I don't get it
Lol perfect analogy.
playandrepeat Like Regina George’s mom in Mean Girls. She’d just be a cool, fun mom. Issa vibe
Is this even a question, Kalel?! Of course we missed you! Also, I love your hair! ✨🖤
Everyone is happy to have you back!! 🎉 ...also “this ones for you mom” love it!! 😍
Fly With Stella I love Stella
Totally!!!! Would love any kind of content, when seeing you happy!!! Have a great 4th of July!!!
So glad you're feeling better, but can we talk about how nice your hair looks????
its extensions
b it still looks good
I can't believe that's her natural hair color. It's so nice
Depression is SO hard to get out of when you're in the thick of it, I relate a lot when you talk about complete lack of motivation and isolating yourself and it's the worst honestly.. Anti-depressants didn't work for me either, but what did work was taking Vyvanse (adhd meds), it changed everything for me, gave me the motivation and energy that I needed to get back on tracks! Of course medication isn't a long term solution, but I haven't figured out how to function without them yet..
Also I will always watch your videos, no matter what kind of content you wanna post
when u take antidepressants and they have side effects you gotta let the psychiatrist do its job and change the dosage or the pill components, not just quit them..
Aloha Miriam you might not believe but you actually can quit them :)))
@@drsalka they're saying that quitting isn't the only option, not that she can't quit them ahahah
Yeaaa, she’s gonna get depressed again and we won’t see another video in like a year tbh 🤷🏾♀️ it’s great she’s feeling better not being on them, but that doesn’t mean anything for her depression tbh.
@@Hollylovesgreen What I understood from how Aloha Miriam framed her response to Kalel's choice of action is that Kalel not only *could* but actually *should* do as Aloha Miriam suggests - engage in further psychiatrist intervention/treatment of her condition. She could do that but, given we all have free will, she can also do as she decided to do AND it might as well be the right (and healing) choice for Kalel. Or it might not - just like psychiatrist suggestions and treatments *can* help a patient or they also *can do absolutely nothing* for the patient (and there's also cases where treatments turned out to be inappropriate or harmful for the patient).
@@UrbanDecayLova247 it might not necessarily mean a definite change but experiences can alter how you see life no matter how breif they are, and that could be exactly what someone needs. yes she might want to try other meds but yes it's also okay for her to just choose that being ON and med At All isn't right for her currently
I’ve been on four different types of antidepressants, one gave me insomnia at night which resulted in me pretty much napping all day in three hour intervals. but the one i’m on now is incredible! you should try a different family of antidepressants!
The cheek swab test saved me. It said I should have been on an SNRI, not an SSRI. I had been on the wrong type for 10 years! No wonder they didn’t do anything except cause side effects. Once I switched I felt normal again.
@@lindseystein9676 the cheek swab test? I've never heard of that. I've been on two antidepressants and they both made my obsessive thoughts worse. If I get desperate I'll try another
Thank you for pointing this out. 🙌
Madison A it’s a genetic test!
Ask your doctor about a check swab test for anti depressants. The results will tell you which type are comparable with your body. Certain types don’t work for certain people. After I took it, I learned I had been on the wrong type and my body wouldn’t metabolize it correctly. I was on an SSRI when I needed an SNRI. Once I switched, it was life changing
3months isnt a fair chance for anti depressants.. there are so many diff kinds and doses, it took me a year to find one that im happy with the results im feeling. and some people it takes much longer to find one that works for them
Seriously.. 3 months is such a short amount of time..
Most drugs start working within the first two weeks, and I got through it without antidepressants. She’ll be fine. If she doesn’t want to take them that’s fine. She doesn’t need to continue making herself miserable because you two seem to think you know all there is to know about them. ALSO. Just a PSA.. a lot of antidepressants can also make matters worse.
Sometimes people can feel effects within a few weeks, but it’s best to try them for at least two months. I preach to anyone unhappy with their antidepressant to ask their doctor for the cheek swab test they can do to se which anti depressants work for your body. That test was seriously life saving for me- I was on the wrong class for ten years! I needed an snri instead of the ssri. Once I made the switch, I was on them for less than a year and was able to wean off (after speaking with my psych) and have been off them for years and feel normal again. I just hope she’s not putting all her hopes on the meds, they’re not going to magically fix things. They’re supposed to make things more normal so you can get used to functioning normally again.
Lindsey Stein I did it too and literally found out that I could only properly metabolize ONE kind and I’ve been on that now for two years! It saved my life!
January Embers LOL what. Internet doctors, i swear to god.
There's nothing "prideful" about not taking the neccessary medication for your wellbeing, that's actually really sad. If the antidepressants didn't work for you the way they're supposed to, you need to relay to your doctor and psychiatrist that the dosage/medication is not working and explain what your side effects are and how you're feeling so that they can tweak it for you. I'm someone who takes an antidepressant. Hearing you say you "gave it a chance" and quit the medication makes it seem like you really don't take mental health seriously and that the rest of us who have to take antidepressants aren't strong enough to be able to function without them like you. Your attitude when talking about that topic seemed a tad bit condescending. I'm not trying to be mean or rude, just calmly stating how it came across to someone with lifelong major depression that has to take an antidepressant.
totally. It often takes a few different rounds of things to figure it out, and often things don't get better for a few months at least. Hope she tries again.
I think telling someone what they need to do is worse than what she is doing. She is not telling you that you are not strong. Her experience is different from yours and you trying to shame her for not trying it out or sticking to it is honestly degrading and disgusting. Anyone who chooses to take medication or not take it is respected and deserves to be validated. Please don't try to shame someone for doing what they believe is best for them. You are not Kalel, and she is not you.
mister palacios I stated my opinion in a civil manner :) I advise you do the same and not call someone names or rude things.
@@moonie3070 I never called you names nor am being rude to you. I respect everyone, however, I don't believe it is right to say Kalel is acting condescending and that she can't be prideful in what she believes in. I don't think taking antidepressants is wrong or makes you weak at all. Please think about the opinions you are putting out there with negative remarks. You could have simply said she should give another try but instead you tried putting it out there that she is condescending, that is not right. I just ask you think next time before putting that out there when she never said anything bad about someone who takes antidepressants, because there is nothing wrong with that whatsoever. Have a great day, just think next time before posting such harsh remarks :)
I had to try 4 different antidepressants, during a years period, until I found the one that worked for me.
@@ElizabethAndHerMonsters Please do. You deserve to feel amazing and happy.
Yup, its quite rare for the first medication to work for that individual. It takes time to try to find the right one . Also, Kalel says that it made her very tired...completely normal side effect - when you’re depressed you’re not getting proper rest so YES your body when it’s less stressed is going to try to catch up on all of the sleep that it hadn’t been getting for YEARS
Hello! My girlfriend has requested cat updates. I'm glad you're making videos again but don't ever feel pressured by anyone. But seriously. Cats.
Steve Morrow this is the cutest comment ever
“girlfriend” 🐱
I think I just fainted !!! I am so so so happy to see your face. You look stunning as per usual and I am so glad you are going to make videos again and I love the casual old school style the best. It's way more personal. Girl you've made my day and you look like a small weight has been lifted from your shoulders. I love you and I've missed you so damn much.
I was expecting a black screen video omg BUT NOW I’m excited
Your approach to antidepressants is quite silly, surely it's a bad thing that you have too much pride to take them or figure out how to use them properly
Other people have probably said this, but each anti depressant is really so different. The first two I took were SSRIs (Zoloft and Celexa). They did nothing for me and one of them even made me worse. In May, I overdosed trying to kill myself and ended up in the hospital. The psychiatrist realized SSRIs may not be good for me. Now I am on Wellbutrin which is specifically meant to give you motivation/energy (the hardest part of my depression). I genuinely feel like it's been helping a lot!
This is not to say you should ever take anti depressants again if you don't want especially if it makes you uncomfy, but just know there is probably a way better one for you out there. It can be very taxing to go through the process of finding the right one, though. Definitely always follow your instincts.
Wellbutrin is the only that helped me, but here in the UK GP cannot prescribe it so I would have to go to a private psychiatrist
Yes, totally agree...finding the right antidepressant can be downright DANGEROUS!
I started on SSRI (Zoloft) as well and continued to have a difficult time. My suicidal thoughts continued and I felt that I wasn't able to express my emotions, as in I couldn't cry even if I knew I needed the release. I talked to my doctor and I ended up switching to Wellbutrin. It's been several months and I finally feel motivated and my suicidal thoughts are practically non-existent. I'm also better at dealing with my anxiety and have been able to start school again. Anti-depressants are a wonderful thing and I wish I knew about them sooner in life.
Strangely Wellbutrin didn't work for me at all yet Celexa worked wonders
I went to the doctor who invented wellbutrin and even he couldn't help me so that's when you know you're fucked
I don’t care what you post I’ll still watch it lol
Jess same lol. I love Kalel 💙
Jess omg literally SAME. I’ve watched all of her videos ( + her old videos if I could find them :((( hehehe )
i did miss you! :) i've always loved your more casual content most so i'm glad that that's what you're aiming for. don't pressure yourself too much! :)
Please update us on your new kitty, and how your cats are getting along. :)
You mean the one she replaced her previous cat with from a breeder?
@@rachelmeatte6413 WORD.
Glad to have stuck around for all the versions of Kalel, excited for version 25. Hope life treats you well girl.
I’m so happy through these years and ups, and downs. That Joey has always been there for you. Love it ❤️
This made my day!!!!!!! I'm sooooo happy to see an upload from you girl!!!! I missed you!!!💕💕💕
i'm laying on my side just as kalel is laying on her side and it's like we're best friends in bed and she's catching me up i love it
Weird
Wychix GGX you may not like it but kalel did so it’s all gucci
we’re besties just catching up!
Wychix GGX u the weird
Girl, make your coin! I’ve always found your videos entertaining whether they’re chill or not. I love to see you doing well! That’s all that matters. ❤️
I felt the same way on antidepressants. And i tried different types as well. They made me feel like a zombie and i couldn't even go to work or drive. There was only one kind that didnt make me feel sick but it still made me very sleepy and my emotions were very blah and neutral. Just didn't feel myself at all. I exercise and do yoga to cure my anxiety and depression and its helped so much.
Sarah Exactly!! I was the same! My intuition said noooooope. Now I’m hyper-focused on healing naturally and I’m making real progress! Happy that you’re on that same path! ❤️
Antidepressants helped me with my anxiety, for that exact reason. I was high strung, worrying over everything and I needed something to calm me down. But what works for my anxiety, didn't work for my friends.
I'm proud of you!!! but can I also just say your hair looks beautiful!!
Welcome back! Also, your hair (length & color) is GOALS. I love it!
Anti depressent usually take about 6 weeks to really start to kick in,, for the first month i was still depressed and unmotivated and anxious asf, but after that second month my life began to feel normal again... not telling anyone to take them, but they deffinetly helped me and turned my life around
So I was in a similar Situation with depression and "OCD" two years ago. It got so bad that I was standing on a bridge one night ready to jump (sorry if that's too much to hear). But that one itty bitty tiny hope of a better life was getting me to text a friend who talked to me until I was ready to get down. That day I promised I would go to therapy and try to fix the mess. I started going regularly and it wasn't really getting better so I started taking anti depressants and they weren't really helping I was about to give up when my doctor gave me a new prescription which was the best thing because they helped me soooooo much through the first few struggles of getting better. I found out that my OCD was just my way of trying to fix my head. I always had the thought that if I just kept my surroundings clean and tidy enough my head wouldn't get messy either. But instead I just drove myself crazy with the cleaning.
Now two years later I'm no longer taking the pills, I'm not a clean freak any more but instead am trying (yes trying!) to have a more healthy relationship to cleaning. And I learnt so many ways to handle a difficult situation or day. It was the best thing.
What I'm trying to say is don't give up on getting better. If your anti depressants didn't work maybe they weren't on the right dosage or it wasn't the right one. Its okay to accept help if you need it. Showing "weakness" is actually not weak its strong. If you have a compulsion to clean maybe try to figure out why. What are you trying to accomplish? And if you have a mindset like I did maybe try to exchange it to something more real. Like I did change mine to: if my rooms messy I'll be fine (something like that)
I'm not an expert and I'm not trying to be one. I'm just telling my experiences and my knowledge. Everyone's different and everyone has a different thing that helps
For those who are whining about her opinion on taking antidepressants- please stop complaining. It’s her journey and her experience. Like- seriously 😒- so annoying that people cling onto one thing someone says and whines about it. If they work for you, great, but don’t complain if it didn’t work for someone else and they’re sharing their experience.
I don't think people are whining and complaining, from what I've read in the comments. They just want Kalel to heed her past advice and be more sensitive when discussing topics such as mental health. It's not like she's just giving her opinion on beauty treatments and food- we're talking about depression and medications to treat depression. She just needs to watch her words a little more and realize that what she says does have an effect on her viewers, and saying things carelessly about a serious topic can be hurtful. No hate towards Kalel or anyone else : )
Ure looking good Kalel 25.0! question is how do u stay lookin so fit when u do nth all day hahaha glad ure back
my love is back ❤️ so happy you’re doing so well :’)) happy for mama
thank you so much for being raw & real with us. i definitely missed you. i love these unedited videos, it is so much easier to relate to you.
Thanks for coming back :) I know OCD and depression is the world's worst combo (I have to accomplish xyz so my thoughts shut up, but also why should I want to do things because I literally have no energy and am gonna die anyway) but it's great to see you powering through this. You've got this :)
This is relatable as fuck. The numbness while on medication helped the anxiety when I was at my worst but it felt awful not feeling my true emotions.
Oh wait but mostly importantly: how are your cats???????
Alice Kellogg I know right!!!!!
Gurl... I’m here for whatever content you choose to share 🤷🏻♀️😎. You’re like a friend that I watch on the internet and it sucks that you were gone but I’m super excited that you are back 😁
Kelsey Warren real supporters will support whatver she wants to do!
Yeah the pills do make you tired but for some people (like me) the tiredness fades away... anyway when it doesn’t, you should switch pills to a different kind🤷🏻♀️
I missed you and happy you are back❤️
You described depression really well. Antidepressants/antianxiety drugs really helped me out. I was finally myself again. I hope you're well.
Thank you for this video!!! Many times pills don’t help. When I was on them i was even more numb, more tired, more not caring about anything.
I have never seen u this happy and excited before and it put a huge smile on my face!!! I hope this amazing Kalel stays 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I'm glad you're back!! I always love seeing you no matter what version of you we're on lol
OF COURSE I MISSED YOU WE ALL MISSED YOU GIRL IM SO HAPPY YOU SEEM SO HEALTHY AND GLOWY IM SO READY FOR KALEL 25.0
You sound exactly like me. 100% me. I just went off all my meds and I’ve struggled with depression for most of my life.
Do some volunteer work once a week. Get out the house and do something good for the soul 😀
honestly, i love how kalel posts randomly instead of on a schedule because theyre more authentic
Saw this in my subscriptions and dropped my phone from excitement. Glad you're back!
Scrolling through my phone and I see a notification of Kalel saying ‘did you miss me?’ YESSSS I MISSED YOU 😭 this means time for a cup of tea and cozy clothes 😻❤️
where is Buki ? And what do you eat these days ?? Great you are back
You look so good! Thank you for your openness. Not feeling like yourself is truly terrible and it's nice to know you aren't alone!
You seem so much more relaxed and chill about filming this video. That's super! Go girl
Glad to see you again. Advice: Don't take life seriously and don't lead your life to impress others.
I loved your videos in 2013 and 2014! Those were my favorite. I honestly loved the minimal editing.
I completely understand the lack of self motivation - I've been going through this for the last couple months, and have been putting some serious thought into whether I feel I could be depressed, and whether or not I should take the step of speaking to a doctor about it. I am a mental health supporter and have always wanted to de-stigmatize mental health issues and medication as a means to treat them - though I understand method of treatment is a personal choice for everyone. I think it's SO important for people to seek some form of treatment. Whether it's counseling/therapy, medications, or other avenues.
Dude, prozac saved my life, if I listened to someone like you I would've died 3 years ago. You know nothing.
I love your hair! You look like Rachel from Friends :)
Yes, I was thinking the same!
Omg I was gonna say that. But I thought I was imagining it lol
Omg was just thinking about you literally THIS morning and wondering how you were doing, love you kalel
Same 😂
Yayyyy! So glad everything is ok! Always miss you - the most real RUclipsr, you always make me feel like it’s ok to be authentic and I love that! 💖
Dissuading people from using anti-depressants (just because the one you tried didn't work for you) is irresponsible. It takes some people years to find the right combination of medication, but they save lives. This video is super insensitive. Hope you feel less "lazy". Smh.
Grace McCabe why are you and so many others taking it up the ass? She’s just giving HER EXPERIENCE with them. She’s not even saying for people to NOT try antidepressants...
I agree with you 10000%. I also thought the comment about living at home at 30 equaling defeat was shitty. I am disabled and in crazy amounts of pain. I’m also 30 and have to live at home because I require help, which isn’t the norm, but not everyone is understanding. This whole video really rubbed me wrong, as someone else that also deals with OCD.
Jonathan Torres she is an “influencer” - she has the ability to influence people to do things. If a young person sees this and is struggling, they may be less likely to get the help they need. Also - no need to be rude.
@Helena Props Same, I love Kalel too but sometimes she seems so out of touch with how normal people live? Like the vast majority of us cannot isolate ourselves for a year and not work. Antidepressants literally save lives and help me attend 9-5 jobs, go to school etc.
Thinking that pills are the only answer to these problems is irresponsible. From my personal experience of being on them almost 10 years and deciding as an adult to get off of them, they harmed me so much more than any help they gave me. Some people should take them sure, but it should never be the first go-to.
i suffer from anxiety/panic attacks and can definitely relate to feeling absolutely unmotivated. it got to the point where i couldn’t even get up to shower, eat, even hang out with friends !
I'm glad June was a month in which you were getting better, because it's been a rough one for me. At least I'm starting July better and this video just made my week. Much love! :3
always gonna watch your comeback videos! i feel like they keep me going ahah
It sounds like you were on lexapro or Zoloft , try Prozac :). You have to try more than one antidepressant , they are NOT all the same and affect everyone very differently . I had lots of side effects on some and none on my current
Going back home always makes you a better person! Seeing old school friends, childhood friends and family is so pure and cleansing for yourself. It is not weak in any way shape or form!❤️❤️❤️
I have depression and it took me 3 different medications and many many dosage adjustments to find the fit for me medication can and does work with enough patience and communication with your doctor. I am suprised your doctor let you be on one that wasnt working for 3 months, mine switched me after 4 weeks if I wasn't responding well. I hope you find yourself again ❤
Please post an update on the kitties! 🥰 Desperate to know about them
Are you still studying? And what is your diet like now? Basically I have 100 questions 😂
Mr P-body oh I must have missed that comment! My bad!
Mr P-body I must have missed that video. I got back into binge watching her videos recently but a bunch were deleted again but atleast that answers one of the questions, just 99 now 😂
Mr P-body yeah, some of them get re uploaded on the a Kalel deleted video page. But that’s mostly what I eat in a day’s.
SO excited to have you back love! You're glowing & I can tell that you have your passion back. Quick video suggestions: skincare & hair routine showing your products and would love an update on the kitties. 💖
SHE SAID SHE WOULD SEE US ALL NEXT WEEK Y’ALL looking forward to it 😊👍🏽
Marja1992 oh honey I’ve been paying attention since her Queenbeeuty days 🤗 just showing my love and support
this is SO fucking relatable. Love you kalel! Missed you ❤️
I watch you because I worry about you and alternatively, find you quite inspirational and real.
So happy you are back! Hope all has been well. Sending so much love 💛💛
I think the throwback video style to 2009 is a great idea!!!
Totally agree!
I think you upload when youre manic, and delete/disappear when you fall back into depression.
The drugs probably didnt work because depression could be a misdiagnosis and they are only "treating" half of your manic/depressive episodes.
Maybe seek a second opinion on your depression diagnosis because it seems like there could be more to it?
I struggle with similar problems and behaviors and I hope you find the help and motivation youre looking for.
Aww your mom sounds so sweet 💕
It just popped in my head that you’re maybe just a high sensitive person. I recommend researching HSP and HSS if you haven’t already (also what food does with you if you have this tendencies). It’s hard to find a balance if you don’t really know how you’re body, mind and spirit works. And just remember this, at the end of the day you’re not crazy, just different 😘.
So happy to See You back! I have been watching You for so many years that I actually did miss You! 😊 ❤️
I soooo respect how you can laugh at yourself. 😂 Glad you’re making videos (again) and I truly hope you’ll stick with it because I sincerely enjoy your videos and your sense of humor.
I was checking your channel last night. Glad you're back
With my depression and anxiety, I have such an aversion to checking mail and email, like I feel like something bad will come. I can also relate to the cleaning aspect too.
Hailey Peterson sane with me for the emails...
Yay! Welcome back! Sorry to hear you went through a depression and disassociation. You look very healthy. Good for you to take time for your self xo
Love you girlie pants!! I’ve been watching you for 8 or 9 years, and I’m still here. Sending you lots of love 💜😘
Happy to see you back!! Always will be here as a fan and excited to see what you do next 🐱💕
wow when you were talking about how nothing fazed you on your ADs i had to pause it brought me back 😭it's the weirdest/uncomfiest feeling to not have any emotion toward anything at all and no one gets that til they've felt it too and was one of the reasons i got off mine but not all are the same! im glad you're back and doing better cant wait for your videos 💞
i have horrible ocd and anxiety and i dont know about depression but i think it could be there because of how my intrusive thoughts and anxiety has isolated me and made me feel. anti depressants helped me for a bit, but i gained weight and became actually depressed. i went off and lost weight. but now the anxiety and ocd is worse. idk what to do bc i do not want to ever gain that weight back bc idk what i will do if that happens im just scared of living like this
You are absolutely gorgeous, and look at you pulling yourself up. That is a huge accomplishment. That alone takes so much so no matter how many times you need to take a break, take them. I will definitely be here to support no matter what.