People forget that a lot of people have to move back home because their parents are ill and need caregiving and they cannot afford to be put in a long-term care facility!
I taught my children Fiscal responsibility like my parents taught me and my sibling, my children are self sufficient they don't make purchases based on desire, it is based on needs and from time to time affordable luxuries and getaways. I did not raise inmmature Adults and for my Parents I have a Family Building they reside in after they Sold their Home and along with my Parents provide in home care and one of my siblings lives above my Parents Rent Free to assist during our rotational schedules when our Parents are not vacationing with us...
In our countries we joke to our parents during arguments like "we'll put you in old age homes/retirement homes just like Americans or western country peeps" coz that's what people here know about western societies view of old people, here in the many eastern countries most of the kids stay with the parents in old age to take care n giving them company, if there are multiple children then only one stay with their parents, in extreme situations nobody stays with their parents coz of job situations n locations, family issues etc etc so there are multiple types of families. But yes this is the trend nowadays in many parts of the world coz of increase in cost of living but salaries not getting the same increase too, there's so many reasons. It's not always about staying on one's own legs or getting financially independent but since western societies consider it as a weak thing many people have some form of pressure to move out during adult age, which is good in developing a human being but also if moral values are not there then these families get more isolated n fragmented. In one way kids staying with families are good for the benefit of maintaining good bonds but in other hand it can get comfortable n diminish the overall growth of the same kids, so a balance should be attained ie: financially independent but also able to assist their parents in their hour of needs, that's what humans n family stands for isn't it? to be there for each other no matter what. 👍🏼
It really is. I’m 27 and live with my sister, I want to move out but can’t because apartments in my area are $1000 rent. I only make $1200 a month doing security. I don’t want to have to get a second job just to be a blue to survive.
My sister has been living with my parents for YEARS and still has not been saving for a house. She makes my mom babysit her kid for free and treats her like crap. She didn't even help when their car broke down and she just keeps over spending.
But the real question is, how can you start your own family? Population is declining and the middle class will go extinct. There’s a reason why they’re importing immigrants for cheap labor, and they’re abundance of people from third world countries that have higher birth rates.
Literally everywhere else on earth you live at home with your parents until you can afford to move out. This idea that you need to go into greater debt and struggle to show "independent" is stupid
Yea California people don’t use logic. My dad passed in 2011. My brothers been married for 10 years and moved to Utah 3 years ago. Just me and my mom out here I work full time security on the graveyard shift and with 48 hours and also 8 hours over time coming cause someone left. Barely make enough to get a place. My brother and myself have tried getting our mom to move to Utah but she won’t budge. I don’t like the idea of her living alone but I’m so damn tired of Cali You can’t afford to live here I feel you’re single unless you live at home. Why can’t idiots grasp that?
@@James-if3kcThere is nothing wrong with you being a virgin. There is nothing wrong with you living with your mom. Call 988 if you are having suicidal ideation.
Hard times? Dude you have more access to money today then any human before you as ever had…we didn’t have our phones and computers growing up we had to find jobs the hard way and still got it done…get off your ass instead of playing video games
@@JohnMurphy-mx7pddoesn’t matter anyway. Family is family. In other nations they easily do this and it’s seen as normal and natural. Only in murican do people go homeless due to this.
Fortunately, my parents let me live with them during a period in my 30s. Very grateful to them, it let me save up money to buy a nice house with my wife…besides being able to save a large amount of money, it gave me a decade of quality time with them that I wouldn’t have had otherwise…it’s too bad that society, especially in this country, tries to shame people into not living with their parents even if they are able.
The problem is the avacado toasters the ones who say you don't live below your means. Those people have no clue about America's service economy and the fact that fast-food and star bucks survive through people rich and poor visiting them. Hell those same poor people WORK for star bucks and mcdonald's etc. I hate well off people who think they simply tell the poor to stop spending money. That's capitalist suicide to horde and not spend in a Nation that can't afford not to spend money...
I was raised by Mexican immigrants. When my 18th birthday was approaching and I asked them on advice about moving out, they laughed in my face! They asked me where I got that idea from and when I told them that I got it from my white friends, they laughed again! In our culture, kids can stay with their parents for however long they need as long as they’re not married. Once they’re married, it’s a different story. I have a few aunts and uncles who remained single and they lived with my grandparents up until they died. In fact, it’s been well over a decade since my grandparents passed away and my aunts and uncle still live in my grandparents’ house. The one time my uncle tried to get a place of his own, my grandmother got on her knees and begged him not to leave, where most American parents can’t wait to kick out their kids the moment they turn 18!
Mexican, indian, Filipino, etc all have family living with them… its very western to have that idea of moving out at 18 ( and going to college)…. Which now doesn’t fly because of soaring college costs and degrees that are worthless.
💯 % true same with Asians. No such thin as kicking your kids out once they turn 18. Until they are married still we don't kick them out. But usually once they're married especially for the girls they leave with their husband to live with their parents inlaw. Our 26 year old daughter is living with and continue her education, we are more than happy to have her live with us as long as she wants.
Well You are not an immigrant, You are American, so tell your parents that third world BS Does not work in the competitive US way of live, turn 18, get a job, get sh!t done on your own instead of living under tour mommys skirt till You are 50
THANKS U WHAT ARE THESE PEOPLE THINKING IT IS HARD OUT HERE. THESE JOBS ARE LETTING U GO. PLUS THESE JOBS DON'T PAY LIVIABLE WAGES. THEY ACT LIKE THIS IS A BOOMING ECONOMY . AMERICA IS COLLASPING
Gee I wonder if it had something to do with your over the top lifestyle? I bet what you spend today on yourself equaled about a month of my salary when I was in my early 20s.
It was tough twenty years ago! Yes, things are more expensive now Of course, but we also didn't get paid near what people get paid today. fast food for example, paid minimum wage and not a penny more. Now they pay double what minimum wage is. you just got to make sacrifices to make it and most young people are not willing to do that. I had to eat can chili and soups for a while! Buy clothes from thrift shops, rent a shitty trailer, drive a pos car but I made it! Now 25 yrs later I have a house on the lake and drive very nice vehicles. All that sacrifice and hard work makes you a better stronger person later in life!
@@JohnnyDouchbag-nr5yf From my Experience All I know cost of living in my hometown back then was very cheap my Rent for an 1 Bedroom was only $375.00 I was only making $7 an hour every 2 weeks my checks was only $480.00. One check was use for rent and the other check was use to pay my electric bill and phone bill food damn I don't even know how I live off of that but I manage. That was back in 2002 😊 Yes I had to sacrifice some things that I didn't need or want. I was in my Early 20s I'm in my 40 s now.
I barely saw my Mom since my house is in different town. Last July, she's passed away, now me with my wife and my daughter decide to move in my father house.
Some refuse to take rent money. My mom’s being one of them. So I pay for food and I give her money for smoke and I pay my phone and my Netflix and things. And then an uncle to three who if they ask for money they get it. So yea it’s not easy in cali
vietnamvet4533 Oh, really? Why are you upset? Let me guess, do you still think you could have won the Vietnam war?Or are you just upset with the Vietnamese made You look like a little bitch
In asia we live with parents as long as you are single to take care of your granparents or help your parents not send them in a facility taken care by carers. Besides life is short. I dont understant why leaving your parents house is so exciting unless you will be married or live in another place for work. You never know when will you last see your parents.
In the West, there's this obsession with wanting to seem "grown" and "successful" by [seemingly] being independent in your own apartment. Everyone thinks youre not successful if you arent paying $3000 in rent. The thing is, you can still be "independent" and successful even while living with parents. People here just wrongfully think possessions define their lives because rampant consumerism rules everything here.
Indeed. My family is from Colombia, and there are no problems living with parents there as well, in fact it is like that in all Latin America. And the reasons they move out are the same as you had explained above.
I didn't leave until i was 35. I never listen bs advice that moving out at 18 would make me a real adult. I saved and saved and now live a 1.5 million dollar house.
"Moving out", "hard work", "living with 'parents'" is all propaganda carried out by governments and various sections of societies for 80+ years. It is normal "living with parents" in rest of the world for as long as they live
I mean have you seen the prices of rent and of houses in current times? It's easy to tell someone to just get out and by a house or rent an apartment. It's harder when you're the one actually trying to do it.
Yeah? Well those "half the country" that are doing just fine with the prices are the rich, privileged people that were lucky enough to be born into families with money and no mental problems. why don't you shut up?@@CordellWallers
Well this is normal in europe and other countries so this would be more like sticking it to corp america and american society. If people normalize this, the states will be shaking in their boots more than ever and white mans boomer capitalism will be threatened. It’s already starting.
Already been told by my parents that I don’t have to leave until I get married. I pay my share to them and also am saving for the future. Rent is unaffordable for me.
@SwitchSucksAss Judging by the videos you've uploaded on RUclips, there is no doubt in my mind that you are most likely a child living with your parents.
I’m over 40 with a Master’s degree in IT living with my parents and I pay them rent and help out. That said, I would much rather have my own place to be fully independent and happier the way I want to be. For me, it’s just economics. I’ve travelled all over the world on all six continents by myself plus have visited all 50 US states, the Caribbean and other places. I like being fully on my own much better.
I understand but not everyone has that privilege to be able to stay with their parents after adult hood it’s good to have a mentality on how u will maintain and survive on ur own at a young age .
@@domanskikid how about u stfu and understand what I mean maybe ur not mature or knowledgeable enough to understand what I mean or where I’m coming from
Yea well that is the part of growing up we all went through it, it make you battle tough to do things on your own. Let mom and dad do it for you well it is kind of like, no it is so child like.
I swear, it's like they're ignoring the fact that the cost of rent, bills, etc, are raising faster than the average wage these days. Prices have skyrocketed ever since the events of 2020. It's just sad to think that it takes 2 paychecks in a single month to barely keep a roof over our heads and barely keep food on the table.
Not a wild guess, the perfect guess otherwise. Take for example Washington State homes prices has tripled in price from 2015 to 2024, average home in this state is around 390k and not counting mortgage, insurance, and other bullshit fees. To buy a house in Washington, you need a good standing credit score, makes at least 50k a year, and at least 25% down payment, otherwise you will be paying 3k to 5k monthly mortgage bill!!! This is a house with 3 beds, 2 bath 2k sqft on 6k sqft lot. Fucking ridiculous
Here I'm 44 and still live with my parents. Never tried to leave my comfortable home. Never landed any proper job. Still single, no wife or kids. No friend or girlfriend. Life sucks but I accepted the fate.😢
@@VisionT I too think so and this creates the hell out of me. That's why instead of lying all day long over the bed or sofa bing watching TV or RUclips or playing Video games like a parasite completely dependent over my parents for all my requirements now I am taking some baby steps to get over this situation. I am using that data to take online tutorials to learn Data Analytics and Data Science . I am now making my mind to stick with one thing for long enough to get competant in that instead of putting my head in many things all at once randomly or doing one thing for sometimes then giving up to do something else which leads me to nowhere and which is responsible for my current situation. But better late than never I am trying to make for my time in future.
@@vietnamvet4533 Excuse me I don't know what world u live in but many couples are breaking up today. Because both of their incomes are not enough. There are plenty of people are moving back home today. The cost of living is way too high today. Bare minimum u need to at least make $5000.00 a month to live on your own. Rents, is bare minimum $1500.00 plus more according to what city u live in. An remember to get a apartment it has to be double the income. Plus your car note. Insurance. Inspection for your car which comes out of your pocket. Food, personal needs. Eating bad food will make u very ill. Plus utilities bills co pay health insurance. Gas for your car. An the list goes on an on. I don't blame people 40 plus still living at home. Because u need to built a major bank account today before u more put Because u could definitely lose your job. Especially in this ERA. I left home at 26 years old and for married. But even in my ERA. My husband had two used cars dealerships an a mechanic business and he purchased 3 Large apartments buildings that had to be totally renovated. He renovated one at a time. Once he got the first one completed he did the same for the next two. I live a privilege life. But in this ERA when everything is COLLASPING and every one is losing there jobs. Even all the 99 cents store are closing down on the west Coast. An they are not paying employees no unemployment at all. Even the people who work for the 99 cents store will not be receiving unemployment. Why because the 99 cents store are private and they don't have to pay a dime. They only have to pay there last pay check. So don't be so hard on people who are 40 plus. ALOT OF these people had to move back home. An the ones who live out in there own are having it very hard with both of these INCOMES put together. I love a privilege life but I don't look down on no one at all. I have compassion for people today.
Times is rough out here. Im a guy, have a car and a job and live with my mom. If thats not acceptable by society, fine. I’d like to see where these rich ppl live. In carribean households, kids don’t leave the house when they turn 18. Only Americans do that. And sometimes, those children fail and turn to crime. Weird ritual if you ask me.
They don't necessarily turn to crime, but they simply move back home like the discussion is addressing. Many people today are doing RV, van , suv life, and I truly understand why.
We are living in Denver and things are getting rough…rent is going up, jobs pay little and my wife and I burned through our cash and some of our savings for IVF. She’s 12 weeks pregnant now and we decided to move back home to our folks. She won the coin toss and we’re gonna be with her parents who are empty nesters. I worry about being a major burden. I plan on working more than ever to pay the medical Bills and hopefully use the house more like a hotel than anything else. Plus, my wife gets the peace of mind she needs to relax and have the baby we’ve wanted and I know she’ll be safe with her family during this time. They said we could live rent free and I couldn’t really pass that up, honestly but it does feel like failing when nothing is wrong with you but society doesn’t seem to want to give you a hand. They pay too little, demand a lot and life isn’t worth it.
Don’t feel bad lol I did the same thing but then again I don’t have no kids or wife to worry about. Just gonna insulate myself and save up every penny I’m saving at home until I have the equivalent to 12 months of bills saved up and use my Va home loan to get into a crib
Okay I’m the past I use to say adults should be out n their own. Now I have changed my mind. I recently moved to Maryland from Texas and I’m so sorry to everyone in Maryland…how do you survive. I have a degree, own a business, prior military and both my husband and I bring in money and it is crazy here. We pay $3,500 a month in rent. I could go on and on but my main point is I’m looking at my teens and if they aren’t going to the military where they will have medical, dental, paid every month and continuous on the job training I’m not sure what they will transition to. I’m 100% okay with them staying home longer with a plan.
imagine how many people still think how u used too... thats why UBI and healthcare for all is so hard to get in the USA people think there so powerful ....
Being from Florida, how much rent is going is very expensive, even if you have good credit. It definitely be hard living on your own. I had seen people living in a trailer in a Uhaul storage facility because of the price of rent or mortgage. It seems there are many choices: either live with parents, live with other family members, or having roommates. Unless you are very rich, it can be hard regardless on what your career is.
I’m at Biochemist. I graduated with honors from the top University and my first job was in the big city in Denver Colorado. Let me tell you, your comment is not wrong it is 100% correct. We have been struggling to make ends meet and see some sort of traction underneath us Sure I can survive but I either choose to eat and not save or I choose to save and not eat. We don’t really have date night anymore. You need at least 80K to be “okay”. Most employers do 40K. I can’t really have a rainy day fund because I live paycheck to paycheck and I am living in income restricted low income housing. I’m doing everything I can to minimize my Spending we even commute to work together my wife and I and she also has a college degree. But the truth is they are drastically under paying everyone and the cost-of-living keeps going up. She recently got pregnant and I don’t want her to work anymore because this is her first child, and we’ve had issues with fertility, and I would much rather move in with my folks, and save some money, then lose the baby. We leave denver this weekend. I felt like a loser but thinking broadly and more strategically, this would give us time to save money, pay some medical bills down and really rebuilt from the insanity that is currently trying to make it on your own. It’s not even that we are lazy, it’s simply starting to become very impossible.
@@AlexZ-lc6nlad how the inflation and economy is fucking everyone over you Gotta be super rich to be able to make ends meet. It’s very hard times were living.
@@AlexZ-lc6nl Your doing the best you can for yourself wife and child. Many blessings to you. I would let any of my kids come home facing hardship. I am blessed enough where all of them are doing well. My kids are still young. My baby boy is 21 he is in tourism and lives in employee housing, and going on internship with school, my oldest son whom lives in Marietta GA single with a room mate, and my daughter who is 22 works two jobs. My next to oldest son lives with a roommate as he is a single father with 2 kids. As long as my kids are helping THEMSELVES we will definitely help them.
I live in Hawaii. I am 31 years old and it’s just me and my Mom with a Pomeranian dog living in a 5 bedroom house in a good neighborhood that she inherited from my father when he passed away. My 50k salary job is not going to cut it if I were to live on my own out here, it might work out if I was not single but then I would be at the mercy of my partner which is no different than having some dependence from my Mother.
@@Jaylade yes my room is in the northwest corner of the house on the second floor and my Mom’s in the master bedroom in the southern portion so there is space. The three rooms are vacant. I have my own bathroom and she has her own in the masters bedroom.
@@Jaylade my Mom already doesn’t work because she inherited other rental properties from my Dad which is sufficient to pay for living expenses. She was thinking of renting the vacant rooms in our primary residence but privacy would be an issue and because we have a dog it might be hard with some tenants. Also we want the room available when my sister visits from the mainland.
I hate the fact that I’m unable to live with parents. I can’t save a dime anymore and all my income gets wiped out by living expenses. It’s so depressing that I don’t even try to save money anymore.
@@bjrock1235 Living expenses need to be reduced. That's not something I'm in charge of. Rent, groceries, and other essentials have skyrocketed in the 5 years. My rent is "cheap" and deny myself going out to eat and so on. F*ck you. It's easy for you to say this from your mommy and daddy's basement. Go watch some anime.
Im 56 and rent is recently (March 2024) than 50% of my income…I’m lucky he said yes. But we won’t be lonely my mom died on Thanksgiving morning. He’s got 2 little dogs to train I’ll help him with everything even tho I work over 40 hours a week, I’m looking forward to my time with him…oh and planting a bigger garden currently I’m in a 3rd floor Apt he has a ranch and he told me I’ll inherit it. Win win situation. Thank you dad I love 💕 you!
They're also sweating bullets because more women are refusing to go back to work once they become mothers and they know that's one less person that they can't tax.
I’m 32 years old and still live with my mom. I can’t afford home myself because everything’s too expensive and increasingly. I take care her and help her pay bills
So true starter home when I bought my first one were 25k, you say well see so much cheaper. Oh but I was making $130 a week, but didn't treak across Europe to find myself, go to Vegas for the weekend etc .
@@okieg8960 please lmk where you are seeing 140k…you can damn near afford that house off a McDonald’s hourly pay nowadays lol that doesn’t exist anymore
"if you have a lot of debt, pay off your debt". Seriously!! We're in a silent depression and inflation is hell. Get real it's 2024, where 66% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck.
I have Muslim neighbours in South Africa all around my street they have three generations in the house.They are all successful lawyers,plumbers ,doctors close to their family and pool resources together. In western world it's a rush to leave home and move to other countries then your parents see their grandkids every second Christmas.
In my area houses are 500,000..townhouses, not single family homes. A 1 bedroom apartment is 2000, last year it was 1725-1793. It's sometimes even more. The income is generally higher here, but if you work a minimum wage job, around 37-40 hours a week, cuz employers don't want to give insurance, after taxes you make 1800 a month after taxes. Likewise, you may work at a place understaffed and end up having only 5-10 minutes to eat, yet the employer may take 30-45 minutes out of your hours each day for your lunch..and that adds up, so you may be working 40 hours a week, but only get paid for 37 hours at these minimum wage jobs b/c the employer takes time out of your lunch, even if you only have very little time to eat. Not to mention employers at minimum wage jobs typically do not give paid sick leave or if the place is closed on holidays. Given that you"re net pay might amount to 1750 a month. Gas and food prices are insane and insurance and education costs are through the roof. It's quite literally impossible to make it. Here in this wealthy county, only the ones with money can make it, but for the minimum wage workers, they cannot make it. Before the pandemic the minimum wage was 11 an hour. I worked at this one place when I was living on my own, that would only schedule you 34 hours a week, but you're schedule and hours would change every week, that it would be difficult taking an additional job that does the same thing;changing your hours and schedule each week. You wouldn't know you're schedule until a week in advance..som minimum wage jobs I worked you didn't know you're schedule for the week until the day before the start of that work week. I don't drive, so just kept to that job. Well anyways, they would take 40 minutes out of our day for lunch when many of me and my coworkers would sometimes not start out lunch break until later, yet still have to be back on shift after only having 10-15 minutes to eat or sometimes less. Sometimes if it wasn't busy, they would send people home early. I worked nearly 34 hours, but got paid for only around 30 hours a week because they would take time out for lunch when I sometimes barely got a lunch, especially of it got busy or a bunch of customers came in. There was also no vacation time, no insurance, no paid sick leave, yet you would be scolded or written up if you called out sick. You get 3 strikes and if you call out the day of even if you're really sick, they would write you up. The turnover rate was high except for the bosses favorites.
To add to that, they would sometimes schedule/ have too many people come in and then just send some people home who've only been at work an hour. They indicated it wasn't busy enough. This happened atleast 2-3 times a month. It really annoyed me because I commute by public transit and it can take long and not to mention it costs. Now the busses are currently free here, but before that it was $2 dollars to get on the bus which would be added to your smart trip card. The $2 only lasted 2 hours and you could transfer during that time, but if you had work, you would have to pay another $2 to get home. $4 a day doesn't sound like much, but when you're at work 5 days a week, it adds up. Luckily, there was a $40 a month pass you could get, but it only was valid for the busses, not metro. However, that pass was not advertised much, so many people didn't know about it. For work some weeks were really slow, so sometimes you could be given less hours that week. I rented a small room in a rundown house that charged 790 a month (utilities included) when I was making only around $1075 after taxes depending how busy or slow business was. After paying rent($790), the bus pass ($40), my phone bill ($40), pads/tampons each month ($7), medications (i.e naseau medications, motrin, etc., occasionally allergy medication $11), chocalate ($3), shampoo, soap, toothpaste, deodorant, dish soap, laundry detergent, paper towels, toilet paper which added up. And also treating myself to only one meal and dessert out once a month ($15), I had only $150 left. I kept my groceries at $80 a month, albeit I don't eat much. After all of that, I would only have $70 left. I didn't have netflix, I didn't have UberEats or food delivery services, I didn't go to nail salons; never been to one, I didn't go to the movies, I didn't get my haircut; I hadn't had one in 10 years at that point and just cut my own hair, I hadn't seen a dentist for 11 years, I didn't buy new clothes, I didn't buy jewelry, I never took vacations; only a couple times when I was a kid, the phone I had bought was a used android phone for $45; I didn't buy a fancy expensive I-phone.. Sorry for ranting, but I think people don't understand how with minimum wage work, there is no paid sick leave or insurance, there is no vacations, there is no schedule flexibility or promotions, and after taxes you make so little, not to mention employers will cheat you and try to cut out time for your lunch break when you barely had one, you're on your feet all day, and if you don't have friends or connections or financial stability, an emergency can be the difference between being on the streets, or not eating. And people talk about services people can access, but often times, it can take awhile until stuff are approved and when you're poor and live paycheck to paycheck you don't have a while. If you work minimum wage and have a medical emergency and are out of work a week or god forbid more, there is no sick pay and some employers will penalize employees, by cutting their hours when they return to work...God forbid that employee gets sick or has a loss in their family. I just have horrible stories personal and witnessing awful incidences of callousness towards employees. What irks me the most is people who say well then just don't eat out ever, even if only ever treat yourself to a meal out once a month. Like that $10-15 meal will make a difference..like $10-15 a month will really make a difference. My one treat was getting a meal out once a month. I guess if you're poor they assume you should never treat yourself; never get yourself a cup of coffee, or a ice-cream, or a pizza, etc. Mind you these ultra rich treat themselves to lavish meals, luxurious vacations, expensive cars, the next designer watch, frivolous purchases, etc. When the pandemic hit and I lost my work, I tried to stay a float, but eventually couldn't and had to move back in for a couple months. I was so embarrassed and felt like a failure, so as soon as I started working again I moved back out. Even though minimum wage has went up, it hasn't kept up witn the cost of housing or food. Then last year, I had a realization: it doesn't matter what people who don't understand think. I ended up staying home as a family member had a medical emergency and would need care and although, they're better now, I decided to stay at home, so I can work and go back to school without the stress of the insane costs of living. But yeah, sorry for the rant..I'm just tired of people making judgements, comparisons, and criticism when they make enough and are far away from the realities of being poor in a society that keeps getting more unaffordable. I wish rich people could live these realities for a year or even a month or two
Studies once showed, multigenerational families are actually very healthy. You can learn a lot from parents and grandparents and mature uncles/aunts, it's actually the most healthiest environment to raise children. More perspectives = More wisdom It takes a village ❤
Probably because things like rent are just to expensive. Southern Pines apartments is a great reference since those apartments are not worth $864 a month for a 1 bed 1 bath and with all the crime that happens there, and to many jobs are not paying liveable wages to warrant people to move out and live by themselves.
Here in California a small 3 bed room 2 bathroom house is 1.5 million dollars and rent is off the charts you’re looking at 2000 plus a month ridiculous
@Int-sumYou nailed it man. And you know something? This could turn into a whole rabbit hole of a discussion, but I'll just say this to add to your sentiment, who the heck in this day and age can afford a house that's half a million dollars?
OMG, thank you for posting this video. You have no idea how much this helps me to not feel so down about my living situation. I'm a 35 year old living at home. I often times feel like a failure in life because of it. P.S. I live in the state of California and the rent out here is crazy. The typical apartment rent prices are between 1500- 2k.
I’m 20 and live with my parents. I have a job but they don’t make me pay for anything because they want me to save money and I think they like my company lol. Love them ❤
I moved out right before things went to crap, and now my parents are implying that they want me to come back and help with expenses. I could not imagine trying to move out for the first time now. My parents treated me very poorly, and I will never return. Be careful what you say and do to people who you think aren't "independent" enough, because one day that person may be the one with the power.
I moved out of my parents home as soon as I graduated high school. I ended up returning to their home when I was in my early thirties after my husband left me for his mistress. It was the easiest time of my life! I did pitch for groceries and did all the housework and helped my dad limb trees and replace flooring and windows. I worked hard but it was nice not worrying about bills.
Almost everyone i know in their 20s and early 30s still live with their parents. Its very simple why this is, because housing has become unaffordable. Our parents were easily able to buy their first homes and start a family in their early 20s. Now people in their 20s working full time cant even afford to rent apartments and are terrified to have children they cant provide for. Its not because they are lazy or have no desire to live on their own.
was thrown out at 18, ended getting my own house the whole 9. many years ago. cant ever go back if i could. folks who can live at home better count their blessings cause some doesnt realize how LUCKY they are.
It depends on the culture. In America you’re conditioned to be in competition with one another and families are dysfunctional, so you can’t wait to get away from each other. But I’ve seen some non American families live together in harmony without a problem. I’ve met Americans that said they rather be homeless than deal with their families.
It's definitely cultural. I've known both white and Hispanic Americans. Many white Americans detest their families while Hispanic Americans love and adore their families.
I dont why this is seen as bad, the only reason living with your parents is bad if you have an awful relationship with them or you a bum who doesn't pay anything or do anything. Other than that it is literally the smartest thing to do for both yourself and your parents if you ain't married and got kids. I mean ppl rather move out and pay someone elses mortgage instead of your parents and you pay double the amount, taking double the amount of time to do things in your life. Its okay to move with roommates and not your parents?
Nooooooo you can't use your money to help your parents! You have to give it all away to Mr. Shekelstein so you can live in a shoebox NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
A lot of people cant afford to move out. Prices these days are crazy and people are interacting face to face less and less and prefer to do it online or to talk to a machine.
@@James-if3kcI hope u found happiness mate. I’m 32, living at home and I’m carrying a very frustrating medical condition. Keep pushing through mate. Your strong.
@@James-if3kc I wouldn’t say that mate. I’ve thought about suicide many times. I’ve been carrying this awful condition since January 2023 and it’s still destroying my life.. Something must keep pushing you along.
I moved back in with my grandmother a year years ago after my ex and I broke up and I just take care of her now and work its alot cheaper to live with my grandmother than paying the dumb rent prices out here
most asian even have own house...we still stay with parents especially when they get older and weak.they need help..when i stay at my house..then it is my brother or my sisters turn to look for our old parents...it will be like that untill last of thier breath...it is common in my country..we are trained to do that...the children or grand children will help the elder to take shower even to toilet if they cant do that themself...wash thier cloth..cooking...is done by thier children's family..and we are happy to do that...we dont need elder people nursery with nurse take care of our elders...but there is also parents dont want thier children at home because they never think what happen when they get old and sick and weak....it is an embarresment for us (mostly)asian if we dont help and take care of our elders..offcourse we will hear them always angry and scolding us ..that normal ..elder get dementia.
Living at home and struggling to find a job is not easy. However, While here I started studying cybersecurity,and I am in the process of a career change.
It’s a symptom of the popular image of a nuclear family from the 50s. The cultural expectation here in the states is that every couple should strive for that. But now it’s nearly impossible.
@@BrowncoatGofAZ I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
26 - 41 Living with you're parents is "Normal" in California!!! Rent and Home Owner ship in CA is ridiculous!! I am saving for a house CASH before I move out of my parents house and I give them Rent money. Rather give Rent money to your family than some greedy apartment owner.
I dont understand why people wants to stay in cali, 1.5+ million for a house there u r literally tring to be a debt slave for rest of ur live. get out of cali and move to cheaper state, where housing still affordable at 500k ish in the suburb.
@@laujack24500k is not affordable. 50k is affordable. Nowhere in America is cheap. Only cheap way is to move out of the country. I been to other countries in South America and saw 3 bedroom homes on the market for 56k. Way cheaper than what you can get in America.
@@ca60453 no where in the first world today where housing is 50k and u get to a job pay u the same salary as first world presume u got a jobs that worth a fuck in field that r some what with a upward mobility like startup or IT giant. you could always move to south america or thailand etc. if u retired with a good income source from ur saving or pension. working there for a living ya no
Personally, it's kind of our culture to stay at home until you get married. And it's rather embarrassing, when you're getting older and you're not married and still living with your parents. However, in a way, it can actually be a blessing, because when your parents are gone, you can reflect on the good times and the good laughs that you had with your parents. It's inevitable though, you WILL get on your parents nerves though and vice versa but in the end, it truly is a blessing to be with them ❤
I’m the youngest of three brothers. My two older brothers went to live together so as not to depend on our parents and because it was the quickest way to do it as soon as possible. I hope to do the same when I finish my studies and get a girlfriend. It’s simple. Independence isn't accessible to everyone.
@@James-if3kc Sometimes you just need the resolve to do it. I live in Northeastern Brazil. Not because it was easy, but because every since my Brazilian second mother became a part of the family I resolved to move to Brazil and retire. When my father passed at 99 we honored his only request that we take care of his wife and we brought her back to her homeland. Was it easy, Were there challenges, Was it was accessible. NO, but we had the RESOLVE to do it.😎
I hear ya. It almost feels like you’re going backwards. After my divorce I moved back in with my parents and I can’t begin to tell you how much it sucks. Then again we never really had a good relationship in the first place..
whats the point in making the government and banks richer? if you get along with your parents, and the wife doesnt have a problem, its a blessing to live with them.
why not..i am happy when my children age 25 n 27 stay at my house for two week when they do their WFH n i prepare them meals ..no problem..i love to have them around..other weeks they are in other cities, 3 hours drive fr mine
Works both ways. Some parents like renting basement/ attack/ spare bedroom because THEY need the money too. If thats the case and its cheaper than rent and the kids are using the opportunity to save in other investment's its win/win.
In addition to the high cost of living, I'm back home because my father passed away and I took over the tasks that he left behind. My mom can't get up and mow the lawn, she can't really move around outside too much without the fear of falling.
Lived at home until I was 28. Owned my older model car, paid it off when I was 22. Left college after three years of JC (Free then) Got my Associates Degree but did not attend university having already seen the devaluation of the college degree through people I was working with. Did work several blue collar jobs before settling in to an entry level position in medical billing at 26 that paid off. Didn't date a lot, stayed single (No kids) and saved the money until I moved out at 28. Never went back. I feel very fortunate I grew up when I did. The world gets more complicated every year.
Not only has it become a necessity for alot of people, but it should be a thing in America anyways. Lots of other cultures around the world do it and it makes for better community and connection, which is good for against how much loneliness is in society today.
I’m 28 and i had a house for two months but the bills were to hard to do on my own and i got very lonely, that’s my reason i do plan on moving out again (with a roommate) eventually
I was on my own about two decades, moved back in 2 years ago - divorce, debt, mental breakdown I suppose - kicking things back into gear. Fitness is absolutely crucial - often there are mental health challenges with being in a situation of living with parents past 30 - engage more BDNF in the mind to help support goals to get back on track. Come to terms with all the mental and physical conditions, embrace them authentically yet be mindful of limiting thought patterns as well, most are not really necessary. It's just my mom here, she's battling cancer and is a widow in her last years - I'd absolutely have to hire help if I moved, so there's that as well. Glad it's me and I'm not living in another state hiring a full-time nurse. Glad to be there for my family, certainly keeps the emotions positive to help others in greater need.
If you’re in your 40’s and your old, stay with your parents. They’re old and you never know when they’ll need you. I don’t necessarily mean free load, but pay the bills. And take care of them. Nothing wrong with that.
People forget that a lot of people have to move back home because their parents are ill and need caregiving and they cannot afford to be put in a long-term care facility!
Let them pull themselves by the bootstraps..
@@RedEyeificationI can tell you and your parents don't love each other😂 you was definitely one of those kids that were put out the house at 18😂
I taught my children Fiscal responsibility like my parents taught me and my sibling, my children are self sufficient they don't make purchases based on desire, it is based on needs and from time to time affordable luxuries and getaways. I did not raise inmmature Adults and for my Parents I have a Family Building they reside in after they Sold their Home and along with my Parents provide in home care and one of my siblings lives above my Parents Rent Free to assist during our rotational schedules when our Parents are not vacationing with us...
In our countries we joke to our parents during arguments like "we'll put you in old age homes/retirement homes just like Americans or western country peeps" coz that's what people here know about western societies view of old people, here in the many eastern countries most of the kids stay with the parents in old age to take care n giving them company, if there are multiple children then only one stay with their parents, in extreme situations nobody stays with their parents coz of job situations n locations, family issues etc etc so there are multiple types of families. But yes this is the trend nowadays in many parts of the world coz of increase in cost of living but salaries not getting the same increase too, there's so many reasons. It's not always about staying on one's own legs or getting financially independent but since western societies consider it as a weak thing many people have some form of pressure to move out during adult age, which is good in developing a human being but also if moral values are not there then these families get more isolated n fragmented.
In one way kids staying with families are good for the benefit of maintaining good bonds but in other hand it can get comfortable n diminish the overall growth of the same kids, so a balance should be attained ie: financially independent but also able to assist their parents in their hour of needs, that's what humans n family stands for isn't it? to be there for each other no matter what. 👍🏼
@@P1995. you must be Indian i guess
Living with family is cheaper than living on your own because rent is too damn expensive!!
It really is. I’m 27 and live with my sister, I want to move out but can’t because apartments in my area are $1000 rent. I only make $1200 a month doing security. I don’t want to have to get a second job just to be a blue to survive.
Excuses
@@lamontsreallifestruggle5621not. But lucky you for being able to get out of the house! Congrats !
Is cheaper on money but it sucks the life from you..
@@lamontsreallifestruggle5621 👈 suspected boomer
if salaries kept up with rent, id be out by now.
You're saving money to buy your own place someday....right?
You will not be able to save enough to keep up with the price of housing until the correction and then you will look like a genius.
And that’s your parents problem? Get a roommate and work a second job
@@sandtoy11510lol rich comment
@@sandtoy11510 Yeah, people should wear themselves down to nothing just to be able to survive. You are d!sgusting,
I see nothing wrong with living with your family if you have enough room.
You help them and they help you.
Its a community and security.
My sister has been living with my parents for YEARS and still has not been saving for a house. She makes my mom babysit her kid for free and treats her like crap. She didn't even help when their car broke down and she just keeps over spending.
I only wish they'd kick her out so my husband and I could move in and take care of my parents.
Nope
But the real question is, how can you start your own family?
Population is declining and the middle class will go extinct. There’s a reason why they’re importing immigrants for cheap labor, and they’re abundance of people from third world countries that have higher birth rates.
@@youtubecommentator6023 OP literally wrote "You help them and they help you." Tough luck for your sister, I can only wish you well.
Literally everywhere else on earth you live at home with your parents until you can afford to move out. This idea that you need to go into greater debt and struggle to show "independent" is stupid
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
Yea California people don’t use logic. My dad passed in 2011. My brothers been married for 10 years and moved to Utah 3 years ago. Just me and my mom out here I work full time security on the graveyard shift and with 48 hours and also 8 hours over time coming cause someone left. Barely make enough to get a place. My brother and myself have tried getting our mom to move to Utah but she won’t budge. I don’t like the idea of her living alone but I’m so damn tired of Cali
You can’t afford to live here I feel you’re single unless you live at home. Why can’t idiots grasp that?
@@James-if3kcThere is nothing wrong with you being a virgin. There is nothing wrong with you living with your mom. Call 988 if you are having suicidal ideation.
Omg i was thinking this
@@James-if3kcyou still have hope bro please dont give up. I'm 40 this year and have similar situation with you
I’d rather be with my parents then crying alone in a couch
Yeah a lot better then say living in your car or van
Why is that your choices? Lol
@@CordellWallers why is your lowlife mother not making my sandwich
This video triggered you parent moocher 😂😂😂😂
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
During these hard times I don't think that it is a bad idea living with your parents at all .
Times ain't hard . Unemployment is 3 % . Wages are @ an all time high #GetReal
Hard times? Dude you have more access to money today then any human before you as ever had…we didn’t have our phones and computers growing up we had to find jobs the hard way and still got it done…get off your ass instead of playing video games
@@JohnMurphy-mx7pddoesn’t matter anyway. Family is family. In other nations they easily do this and it’s seen as normal and natural. Only in murican do people go homeless due to this.
Fortunately, my parents let me live with them during a period in my 30s. Very grateful to them, it let me save up money to buy a nice house with my wife…besides being able to save a large amount of money, it gave me a decade of quality time with them that I wouldn’t have had otherwise…it’s too bad that society, especially in this country, tries to shame people into not living with their parents even if they are able.
Unemployment rate is a joke. Wages are stagnant. Those jobs added pay shit and mostly retail.
I'm 27 and I still live with my folks. Hell, I take care of them and pay some bills for them!
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
@@James-if3kcdon’t, life gets better
Not for me it doesn't.@@Matthew.Garland
The problem is the avacado toasters the ones who say you don't live below your means.
Those people have no clue about America's service economy and the fact that fast-food and star bucks survive through people rich and poor visiting them. Hell those same poor people WORK for star bucks and mcdonald's etc.
I hate well off people who think they simply tell the poor to stop spending money. That's capitalist suicide to horde and not spend in a Nation that can't afford not to spend money...
If you aren't rich, life isn't worth living anyway@@James-if3kc
I was raised by Mexican immigrants. When my 18th birthday was approaching and I asked them on advice about moving out, they laughed in my face! They asked me where I got that idea from and when I told them that I got it from my white friends, they laughed again!
In our culture, kids can stay with their parents for however long they need as long as they’re not married. Once they’re married, it’s a different story. I have a few aunts and uncles who remained single and they lived with my grandparents up until they died. In fact, it’s been well over a decade since my grandparents passed away and my aunts and uncle still live in my grandparents’ house. The one time my uncle tried to get a place of his own, my grandmother got on her knees and begged him not to leave, where most American parents can’t wait to kick out their kids the moment they turn 18!
Mexican, indian, Filipino, etc all have family living with them… its very western to have that idea of moving out at 18 ( and going to college)…. Which now doesn’t fly because of soaring college costs and degrees that are worthless.
than your brought your bf and they cried
💯 % true same with Asians. No such thin as kicking your kids out once they turn 18. Until they are married still we don't kick them out. But usually once they're married especially for the girls they leave with their husband to live with their parents inlaw. Our 26 year old daughter is living with and continue her education, we are more than happy to have her live with us as long as she wants.
Well You are not an immigrant, You are American, so tell your parents that third world BS Does not work in the competitive US way of live, turn 18, get a job, get sh!t done on your own instead of living under tour mommys skirt till You are 50
poverty culture lol
Because the cost of living is expensive.
Its not like how it was 20 years ago.
THANKS U WHAT ARE THESE PEOPLE THINKING IT IS HARD OUT HERE.
THESE JOBS ARE LETTING U GO. PLUS THESE JOBS DON'T PAY LIVIABLE WAGES.
THEY ACT LIKE THIS IS A BOOMING ECONOMY . AMERICA IS COLLASPING
Gee I wonder if it had something to do with your over the top lifestyle? I bet what you spend today on yourself equaled about a month of my salary when I was in my early 20s.
@@vietnamvet4533 i guess when I was in my Early 20s I was only making $7 an hour my rent was only $375.00 that was 20 years ago
It was tough twenty years ago! Yes, things are more expensive now Of course, but we also didn't get paid near what people get paid today. fast food for example, paid minimum wage and not a penny more. Now they pay double what minimum wage is. you just got to make sacrifices to make it and most young people are not willing to do that. I had to eat can chili and soups for a while! Buy clothes from thrift shops, rent a shitty trailer, drive a pos car but I made it! Now 25 yrs later I have a house on the lake and drive very nice vehicles. All that sacrifice and hard work makes you a better stronger person later in life!
@@JohnnyDouchbag-nr5yf From my Experience
All I know cost of living in my hometown back then was very cheap my Rent for an 1 Bedroom was only $375.00 I was only making $7 an hour every 2 weeks my checks was only $480.00.
One check was use for rent and the other check was use to pay my electric bill and phone bill food damn I don't even know how I live off of that but I manage.
That was back in 2002 😊
Yes I had to sacrifice some things that I didn't need or want.
I was in my Early 20s I'm in my 40 s now.
I barely saw my Mom since my house is in different town. Last July, she's passed away, now me with my wife and my daughter decide to move in my father house.
I’m moving back in with my dad for the same reason, mom passed away a few weeks ago.
@@jubileelennon I can totally understand moving back for reasons such as this,
As long as your working a job, paying your parents your share of rent or mortgage. No shame living with your parents for that time being.
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
Some refuse to take rent money. My mom’s being one of them. So I pay for food and I give her money for smoke and I pay my phone and my Netflix and things. And then an uncle to three who if they ask for money they get it. So yea it’s not easy in cali
@@James-if3kc Going to be hard to get poosais
I already know that. It's impossible.
@@James-if3kcJ chill. Someone else out there would wish to take your place. Go out & talk to ladies
I love living with my mom and I'll always be there with/for her forever!
Of course you do it is like stay at a hotel you whole life.
vietnamvet4533 Oh, really?
Why are you upset? Let me guess, do you still think you could have won the Vietnam war?Or are you just upset with the Vietnamese made You look like a little bitch
If it's mom than ok if your dad is around you don't have to look after her yes you can look after her
You have my support dude.
In asia we live with parents as long as you are single to take care of your granparents or help your parents not send them in a facility taken care by carers. Besides life is short. I dont understant why leaving your parents house is so exciting unless you will be married or live in another place for work. You never know when will you last see your parents.
In the West, there's this obsession with wanting to seem "grown" and "successful" by [seemingly] being independent in your own apartment. Everyone thinks youre not successful if you arent paying $3000 in rent.
The thing is, you can still be "independent" and successful even while living with parents. People here just wrongfully think possessions define their lives because rampant consumerism rules everything here.
Indeed. My family is from Colombia, and there are no problems living with parents there as well, in fact it is like that in all Latin America. And the reasons they move out are the same as you had explained above.
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
@@James-if3kcnooo dont, there's still hope 😢
No there's not.@@glockt3ch968
I didn't leave until i was 35. I never listen bs advice that moving out at 18 would make me a real adult. I saved and saved and now live a 1.5 million dollar house.
Perfect!
"Moving out", "hard work", "living with 'parents'" is all propaganda carried out by governments and various sections of societies for 80+ years. It is normal "living with parents" in rest of the world for as long as they live
I mean have you seen the prices of rent and of houses in current times?
It's easy to tell someone to just get out and by a house or rent an apartment.
It's harder when you're the one actually trying to do it.
Yeah and guess what? Half the country is doing just fine with the prices…it’s the other half that are fine dying in their parent’s basement smh
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
Yeah? Well those "half the country" that are doing just fine with the prices are the rich, privileged people that were lucky enough to be born into families with money and no mental problems. why don't you shut up?@@CordellWallers
@ MorriseyTheSnakeRoberts
Not everyone had their mommy and daddy fund their college, like you did, you stupid cunt. 😂
@@James-if3kcNooooo what r u thinking go get so therapy. Think about your love ones.
THERE NOTHING WRONG WITH IT, VERY COMMON IN ASIA AND THE MIDDLE EAST. AND THIS IS HOW PEOPLE USE TO LIVE, IN THE SAME HOUSE IN EXTENDED FAMILY
Cope harder and stop mooching off your parents and get a job kid hahahaha
This video has you triggered hahaha
Yea well we don't live there and neither do you.
No one cares except you. Take your inflated weak ego some where else. @@vietnamvet4533
Its the same thing here where I am in mexico we all take care of each other and look for one another and just enjoy life
@SwitchSucksAss this sounds like it was written by a 12-year-old.
If society normalizes this, it is a way to fight the housing market. Stick the middle finger to rising rents and help your family.
They need to pin this comment
Lies again? HDB Paris USD SGD
This is TRUE
Well this is normal in europe and other countries so this would be more like sticking it to corp america and american society. If people normalize this, the states will be shaking in their boots more than ever and white mans boomer capitalism will be threatened. It’s already starting.
Yep really showing the man by living in mommy's basement 😂
Already been told by my parents that I don’t have to leave until I get married. I pay my share to them and also am saving for the future. Rent is unaffordable for me.
Tough S*** !!!!! Get out
Poor baby mooching off your parents hahaha
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
@SwitchSucksAss Judging by the videos you've uploaded on RUclips, there is no doubt in my mind that you are most likely a child living with your parents.
ive seen this same comment posted a billion times..
I’m over 40 with a Master’s degree in IT living with my parents and I pay them rent and help out. That said, I would much rather have my own place to be fully independent and happier the way I want to be. For me, it’s just economics. I’ve travelled all over the world on all six continents by myself plus have visited all 50 US states, the Caribbean and other places. I like being fully on my own much better.
Nobody cares. Quit bragging.
@@James-if3kcwow I keep seeing your comments every where. I hope you get help.
No you don't, Susie.
@@James-if3kc you want to lose your virginity? Il help you. Upload a picture to your Google account, I want to see you .
He/she prob eat steak and lobster on weekdays too.
I’d rather be living with my parents than being broke and paying for a property that isn’t mine…doing the same thing.
I understand but not everyone has that privilege to be able to stay with their parents after adult hood it’s good to have a mentality on how u will maintain and survive on ur own at a young age .
@ johanruiz3422
You type like you’re 10. You have no room to be giving life advice. 🙄
@@domanskikid how about u stfu and understand what I mean maybe ur not mature or knowledgeable enough to understand what I mean or where I’m coming from
Yea well that is the part of growing up we all went through it, it make you battle tough to do things on your own. Let mom and dad do it for you well it is kind of like, no it is so child like.
@@domanskikid u replied without answering my question so gtfo. 😂
And take care parents too. 👍 I don’t care people judged of adults still living with parents. As long lives and true loves.
Super agree!!
I'm going to take a wild guess and say it might possibly be due to the high rate of housing costs!!
I swear, it's like they're ignoring the fact that the cost of rent, bills, etc, are raising faster than the average wage these days. Prices have skyrocketed ever since the events of 2020. It's just sad to think that it takes 2 paychecks in a single month to barely keep a roof over our heads and barely keep food on the table.
Not a wild guess, the perfect guess otherwise. Take for example Washington State homes prices has tripled in price from 2015 to 2024, average home in this state is around 390k and not counting mortgage, insurance, and other bullshit fees. To buy a house in Washington, you need a good standing credit score, makes at least 50k a year, and at least 25% down payment, otherwise you will be paying 3k to 5k monthly mortgage bill!!!
This is a house with 3 beds, 2 bath 2k sqft on 6k sqft lot. Fucking ridiculous
It's normal in many countries to live in multi-generational households... moving out at 18 is an American thing.
Here I'm 44 and still live with my parents. Never tried to leave my comfortable home. Never landed any proper job. Still single, no wife or kids. No friend or girlfriend. Life sucks but I accepted the fate.😢
What's your plan for when your parents are gone? If you can't land a proper job by 44 you're going to have a very difficult time.
@@VisionT I too think so and this creates the hell out of me. That's why instead of lying all day long over the bed or sofa bing watching TV or RUclips or playing Video games like a parasite completely dependent over my parents for all my requirements now I am taking some baby steps to get over this situation. I am using that data to take online tutorials to learn Data Analytics and Data Science . I am now making my mind to stick with one thing for long enough to get competant in that instead of putting my head in many things all at once randomly or doing one thing for sometimes then giving up to do something else which leads me to nowhere and which is responsible for my current situation. But better late than never I am trying to make for my time in future.
Hell he is not alone. Many adults over 40 still lives home. They move out but the cost of living is way out of hand.
Well if you are 44 and still home with mom I can understand why no women would want to be with you, at least you are honest.
@@vietnamvet4533 Excuse me I don't know what world u live in but many couples are breaking up today.
Because both of their incomes are not enough. There are plenty of people are moving back home today.
The cost of living is way too high today. Bare minimum u need to at least make $5000.00 a month to live on your own.
Rents, is bare minimum $1500.00 plus more according to what city u live in.
An remember to get a apartment it has to be double the income. Plus your car note. Insurance. Inspection for your car which comes out of your pocket. Food, personal needs.
Eating bad food will make u very ill. Plus utilities bills co pay health insurance. Gas for your car. An the list goes on an on.
I don't blame people 40 plus still living at home. Because u need to built a major bank account today before u more put
Because u could definitely lose your job.
Especially in this ERA. I left home at 26 years old and for married. But even in my ERA.
My husband had two used cars dealerships an a mechanic business and he purchased 3 Large apartments buildings that had to be totally renovated.
He renovated one at a time. Once he got the first one completed he did the same for the next two.
I live a privilege life. But in this ERA when everything is COLLASPING and every one is losing there jobs.
Even all the 99 cents store are closing down on the west Coast. An they are not paying employees no unemployment at all.
Even the people who work for the 99 cents store will not be receiving unemployment.
Why because the 99 cents store are private and they don't have to pay a dime. They only have to pay there last pay check.
So don't be so hard on people who are 40 plus. ALOT OF these people had to move back home.
An the ones who live out in there own are having it very hard with both of these INCOMES put together.
I love a privilege life but I don't look down on no one at all. I have compassion for people today.
Blame the housing market
Times is rough out here. Im a guy, have a car and a job and live with my mom. If thats not acceptable by society, fine. I’d like to see where these rich ppl live. In carribean households, kids don’t leave the house when they turn 18. Only Americans do that. And sometimes, those children fail and turn to crime. Weird ritual if you ask me.
They don't necessarily turn to crime, but they simply move back home like the discussion is addressing. Many people today are doing RV, van , suv life, and I truly understand why.
Answer: The High Cost of Living?
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
@@James-if3kc Same here....46 a Virgin...I work in fast food.....and I am gonna marry my cousin. Life is GOOD!!!
I don't even have a job, and I don't even have a cousin I can marry.
@@James-if3kc Dang dude....I have lots of cousins you can marry, I will hook you up.
Or better yet the high cost of you generations life style.
We are living in Denver and things are getting rough…rent is going up, jobs pay little and my wife and I burned through our cash and some of our savings for IVF. She’s 12 weeks pregnant now and we decided to move back home to our folks. She won the coin toss and we’re gonna be with her parents who are empty nesters. I worry about being a major burden. I plan on working more than ever to pay the medical
Bills and hopefully use the house more like a hotel than anything else. Plus, my wife gets the peace of mind she needs to relax and have the baby we’ve wanted and I know she’ll be safe with her family during this time. They said we could live rent free and I couldn’t really pass that up, honestly but it does feel like failing when nothing is wrong with you but society doesn’t seem to want to give you a hand. They pay too little, demand a lot and life isn’t worth it.
The world's on fire and we are edging toward WWIII and you're out here forcing nature's hand to add more stress to the system... Good fuckin job!
Don’t feel bad lol I did the same thing but then again I don’t have no kids or wife to worry about. Just gonna insulate myself and save up every penny I’m saving at home until I have the equivalent to 12 months of bills saved up and use my Va home loan to get into a crib
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
Hang in there, Thats Humbling of you.
Shut up.@@Invertmini1212
Okay I’m the past I use to say adults should be out n their own. Now I have changed my mind. I recently moved to Maryland from Texas and I’m so sorry to everyone in Maryland…how do you survive. I have a degree, own a business, prior military and both my husband and I bring in money and it is crazy here. We pay $3,500 a month in rent. I could go on and on but my main point is I’m looking at my teens and if they aren’t going to the military where they will have medical, dental, paid every month and continuous on the job training I’m not sure what they will transition to. I’m 100% okay with them staying home longer with a plan.
imagine how many people still think how u used too... thats why UBI and healthcare for all is so hard to get in the USA people think there so powerful ....
Is Maryland a democratic city?
If so then that explains everything, Republican cities are cheaper
Being from Florida, how much rent is going is very expensive, even if you have good credit. It definitely be hard living on your own. I had seen people living in a trailer in a Uhaul storage facility because of the price of rent or mortgage. It seems there are many choices: either live with parents, live with other family members, or having roommates. Unless you are very rich, it can be hard regardless on what your career is.
I’m at Biochemist. I graduated with honors from the top University and my first job was in the big city in Denver Colorado. Let me tell you, your comment is not wrong it is 100% correct. We have been struggling to make ends meet and see some sort of traction underneath us Sure I can survive but I either choose to eat and not save or I choose to save and not eat. We don’t really have date night anymore. You need at least 80K to be “okay”. Most employers do 40K. I can’t really have a rainy day fund because I live paycheck to paycheck and I am living in income restricted low income housing. I’m doing everything I can to minimize my Spending we even commute to work together my wife and I and she also has a college degree. But the truth is they are drastically under paying everyone and the cost-of-living keeps going up. She recently got pregnant and I don’t want her to work anymore because this is her first child, and we’ve had issues with fertility, and I would much rather move in with my folks, and save some money, then lose the baby. We leave denver this weekend. I felt like a loser but thinking broadly and more strategically, this would give us time to save money, pay some medical bills down and really rebuilt from the insanity that is currently trying to make it on your own. It’s not even that we are lazy, it’s simply starting to become very impossible.
@@AlexZ-lc6nlad how the inflation and economy is fucking everyone over you Gotta be super rich to be able to make ends meet. It’s very hard times were living.
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
I might try to buy a big pickup truck cash and live in that lol.
@@AlexZ-lc6nl Your doing the best you can for yourself wife and child. Many blessings to you. I would let any of my kids come home facing hardship. I am blessed enough where all of them are doing well. My kids are still young. My baby boy is 21 he is in tourism and lives in employee housing, and going on internship with school, my oldest son whom lives in Marietta GA single with a room mate, and my daughter who is 22 works two jobs. My next to oldest son lives with a roommate as he is a single father with 2 kids. As long as my kids are helping THEMSELVES we will definitely help them.
Rent too dam high, food price too dam high, fake job posting.
I am a childfree household, we don't have kids staying with us and it's great.
I live in Hawaii. I am 31 years old and it’s just me and my Mom with a Pomeranian dog living in a 5 bedroom house in a good neighborhood that she inherited from my father when he passed away. My 50k salary job is not going to cut it if I were to live on my own out here, it might work out if I was not single but then I would be at the mercy of my partner which is no different than having some dependence from my Mother.
Its just the two of you in a 5 bedroom?
@@Jaylade yes my room is in the northwest corner of the house on the second floor and my Mom’s in the master bedroom in the southern portion so there is space. The three rooms are vacant. I have my own bathroom and she has her own in the masters bedroom.
@@jon6309 Wow, im Hawaii that's amazing. You could probably rent out the other rooms and you and your mom wouldn't even have to work.
@@Jaylade my Mom already doesn’t work because she inherited other rental properties from my Dad which is sufficient to pay for living expenses. She was thinking of renting the vacant rooms in our primary residence but privacy would be an issue and because we have a dog it might be hard with some tenants. Also we want the room available when my sister visits from the mainland.
@@jon6309 Wow. Sounds like you're set for life. Lol "Might be hard with some tenants". Incredible.
I hate the fact that I’m unable to live with parents. I can’t save a dime anymore and all my income gets wiped out by living expenses. It’s so depressing that I don’t even try to save money anymore.
Reduce your living expenses then.
@@bjrock1235 Living expenses need to be reduced. That's not something I'm in charge of. Rent, groceries, and other essentials have skyrocketed in the 5 years. My rent is "cheap" and deny myself going out to eat and so on. F*ck you. It's easy for you to say this from your mommy and daddy's basement. Go watch some anime.
Rich people purchased all the houses so they could sell or rent them at high prices. 🤬
Nope
The Government gave them the power to do so with Socialism
This wouldn't happen under free market capitalism
Rich corporations more like it. There’s less than 1% rich individuals where as I’d say theirs 10% corporations that buy up land.
Im 56 and rent is recently (March 2024) than 50% of my income…I’m lucky he said yes. But we won’t be lonely my mom died on Thanksgiving morning. He’s got 2 little dogs to train I’ll help him with everything even tho I work over 40 hours a week, I’m looking forward to my time with him…oh and planting a bigger garden currently I’m in a 3rd floor Apt he has a ranch and he told me I’ll inherit it. Win win situation. Thank you dad I love 💕 you!
The system is failing
I love this statement
Real estate corporations and Republicans.
"why aren't people buying or renting? Also have MORE kids!!"
They're also sweating bullets because more women are refusing to go back to work once they become mothers and they know that's one less person that they can't tax.
Republicans aren’t the ones making cheap quality super expensive apartments. That’s the democrat politicians.
I wouldn’t have any problems with my kids moving home.
I’m 32 years old and still live with my mom. I can’t afford home myself because everything’s too expensive and increasingly. I take care her and help her pay bills
If you get on well with your family and you pull your weight around the house then its the perfect scenario.
Has nothing to do with starter homes being over 140k
So true starter home when I bought my first one were 25k, you say well see so much cheaper. Oh but I was making $130 a week, but didn't treak across Europe to find myself, go to Vegas for the weekend etc .
In my city a starter home starts at 1 million
Starter homes for $140k where is this exactly? Starter homes all around me start at $200k and a decently habitable one is $250K-$450K range.
@@okieg8960 please lmk where you are seeing 140k…you can damn near afford that house off a McDonald’s hourly pay nowadays lol that doesn’t exist anymore
"if you have a lot of debt, pay off your debt". Seriously!! We're in a silent depression and inflation is hell. Get real it's 2024, where 66% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck.
I have Muslim neighbours in South Africa all around my street they have three generations in the house.They are all successful lawyers,plumbers ,doctors close to their family and pool resources together. In western world it's a rush to leave home and move to other countries then your parents see their grandkids every second Christmas.
It’s all about economics. Inflation is terrible.
I can't imagine what it's like for people who don't have family to fall back on. What happens to the people who age out of foster care?
Homeless
Trap house or living in a absuive relationship
There are some places for aged out people, but they usually only go to a certain age…
There is no money!!! $250,000 for a House?? $1500.00 for rent?? Is Not for me.
In my area houses are 500,000..townhouses, not single family homes. A 1 bedroom apartment is 2000, last year it was 1725-1793. It's sometimes even more. The income is generally higher here, but if you work a minimum wage job, around 37-40 hours a week, cuz employers don't want to give insurance, after taxes you make 1800 a month after taxes. Likewise, you may work at a place understaffed and end up having only 5-10 minutes to eat, yet the employer may take 30-45 minutes out of your hours each day for your lunch..and that adds up, so you may be working 40 hours a week, but only get paid for 37 hours at these minimum wage jobs b/c the employer takes time out of your lunch, even if you only have very little time to eat. Not to mention employers at minimum wage jobs typically do not give paid sick leave or if the place is closed on holidays. Given that you"re net pay might amount to 1750 a month. Gas and food prices are insane and insurance and education costs are through the roof. It's quite literally impossible to make it. Here in this wealthy county, only the ones with money can make it, but for the minimum wage workers, they cannot make it. Before the pandemic the minimum wage was 11 an hour. I worked at this one place when I was living on my own, that would only schedule you 34 hours a week, but you're schedule and hours would change every week, that it would be difficult taking an additional job that does the same thing;changing your hours and schedule each week. You wouldn't know you're schedule until a week in advance..som minimum wage jobs I worked you didn't know you're schedule for the week until the day before the start of that work week. I don't drive, so just kept to that job. Well anyways, they would take 40 minutes out of our day for lunch when many of me and my coworkers would sometimes not start out lunch break until later, yet still have to be back on shift after only having 10-15 minutes to eat or sometimes less. Sometimes if it wasn't busy, they would send people home early. I worked nearly 34 hours, but got paid for only around 30 hours a week because they would take time out for lunch when I sometimes barely got a lunch, especially of it got busy or a bunch of customers came in. There was also no vacation time, no insurance, no paid sick leave, yet you would be scolded or written up if you called out sick. You get 3 strikes and if you call out the day of even if you're really sick, they would write you up. The turnover rate was high except for the bosses favorites.
To add to that, they would sometimes schedule/ have too many people come in and then just send some people home who've only been at work an hour. They indicated it wasn't busy enough. This happened atleast 2-3 times a month. It really annoyed me because I commute by public transit and it can take long and not to mention it costs.
Now the busses are currently free here, but before that it was $2 dollars to get on the bus which would be added to your smart trip card. The $2 only lasted 2 hours and you could transfer during that time, but if you had work, you would have to pay another $2 to get home. $4 a day doesn't sound like much, but when you're at work 5 days a week, it adds up. Luckily, there was a $40 a month pass you could get, but it only was valid for the busses, not metro. However, that pass was not advertised much, so many people didn't know about it. For work some weeks were really slow, so sometimes you could be given less hours that week. I rented a small room in a rundown house that charged 790 a month (utilities included) when I was making only around $1075 after taxes depending how busy or slow business was. After paying rent($790), the bus pass ($40), my phone bill ($40), pads/tampons each month ($7), medications (i.e naseau medications, motrin, etc., occasionally allergy medication $11), chocalate ($3), shampoo, soap, toothpaste, deodorant, dish soap, laundry detergent, paper towels, toilet paper which added up. And also treating myself to only one meal and dessert out once a month ($15), I had only $150 left. I kept my groceries at $80 a month, albeit I don't eat much. After all of that, I would only have $70 left. I didn't have netflix, I didn't have UberEats or food delivery services, I didn't go to nail salons; never been to one, I didn't go to the movies, I didn't get my haircut; I hadn't had one in 10 years at that point and just cut my own hair, I hadn't seen a dentist for 11 years, I didn't buy new clothes, I didn't buy jewelry, I never took vacations; only a couple times when I was a kid, the phone I had bought was a used android phone for $45; I didn't buy a fancy expensive I-phone.. Sorry for ranting, but I think people don't understand how with minimum wage work, there is no paid sick leave or insurance, there is no vacations, there is no schedule flexibility or promotions, and after taxes you make so little, not to mention employers will cheat you and try to cut out time for your lunch break when you barely had one, you're on your feet all day, and if you don't have friends or connections or financial stability, an emergency can be the difference between being on the streets, or not eating. And people talk about services people can access, but often times, it can take awhile until stuff are approved and when you're poor and live paycheck to paycheck you don't have a while. If you work minimum wage and have a medical emergency and are out of work a week or god forbid more, there is no sick pay and some employers will penalize employees, by cutting their hours when they return to work...God forbid that employee gets sick or has a loss in their family. I just have horrible stories personal and witnessing awful incidences of callousness towards employees. What irks me the most is people who say well then just don't eat out ever, even if only ever treat yourself to a meal out once a month. Like that $10-15 meal will make a difference..like $10-15 a month will really make a difference. My one treat was getting a meal out once a month. I guess if you're poor they assume you should never treat yourself; never get yourself a cup of coffee, or a ice-cream, or a pizza, etc. Mind you these ultra rich treat themselves to lavish meals, luxurious vacations, expensive cars, the next designer watch, frivolous purchases, etc. When the pandemic hit and I lost my work, I tried to stay a float, but eventually couldn't and had to move back in for a couple months. I was so embarrassed and felt like a failure, so as soon as I started working again I moved back out. Even though minimum wage has went up, it hasn't kept up witn the cost of housing or food. Then last year, I had a realization: it doesn't matter what people who don't understand think. I ended up staying home as a family member had a medical emergency and would need care and although, they're better now, I decided to stay at home, so I can work and go back to school without the stress of the insane costs of living. But yeah, sorry for the rant..I'm just tired of people making judgements, comparisons, and criticism when they make enough and are far away from the realities of being poor in a society that keeps getting more unaffordable. I wish rich people could live these realities for a year or even a month or two
@@Lucky77772 where do you live?
And then you have $1,500 of other bills you have to pay
Studies once showed, multigenerational families are actually very healthy. You can learn a lot from parents and grandparents and mature uncles/aunts, it's actually the most healthiest environment to raise children.
More perspectives = More wisdom
It takes a village ❤
Probably because things like rent are just to expensive. Southern Pines apartments is a great reference since those apartments are not worth $864 a month for a 1 bed 1 bath and with all the crime that happens there, and to many jobs are not paying liveable wages to warrant people to move out and live by themselves.
im in south florida 1bd 1200
NY 1900 for 1 bedroom
Central Florida $2000 for rent for 2 bedroom. Heck the only cheapest room for rent is $1000 and half of the population cannot afford that.
Here in California a small 3 bed room 2 bathroom house is 1.5 million dollars and rent is off the charts you’re looking at 2000 plus a month ridiculous
@Int-sumYou nailed it man. And you know something? This could turn into a whole rabbit hole of a discussion, but I'll just say this to add to your sentiment, who the heck in this day and age can afford a house that's half a million dollars?
Because when the parents die, they get a mortgage free house. Its the best plan.
OMG, thank you for posting this video. You have no idea how much this helps me to not feel so down about my living situation. I'm a 35 year old living at home. I often times feel like a failure in life because of it.
P.S. I live in the state of California and the rent out here is crazy. The typical apartment rent prices are between 1500- 2k.
I’m 20 and live with my parents. I have a job but they don’t make me pay for anything because they want me to save money and I think they like my company lol. Love them ❤
I rather be homeless than to live with my parents again
I moved out right before things went to crap, and now my parents are implying that they want me to come back and help with expenses. I could not imagine trying to move out for the first time now. My parents treated me very poorly, and I will never return. Be careful what you say and do to people who you think aren't "independent" enough, because one day that person may be the one with the power.
Nothing wrong with it
Agree.
Yea until you want to be intimate with someone….
@@SoulReaperSlayer19I can't speak for women, but young male virginity has skyrocketed in just the past 15 years.
@@SoulReaperSlayer19 do at motel/hotel/park/forest/parking lots/mountain/valley/desert
I moved out of my parents home as soon as I graduated high school. I ended up returning to their home when I was in my early thirties after my husband left me for his mistress. It was the easiest time of my life! I did pitch for groceries and did all the housework and helped my dad limb trees and replace flooring and windows. I worked hard but it was nice not worrying about bills.
Almost everyone i know in their 20s and early 30s still live with their parents. Its very simple why this is, because housing has become unaffordable. Our parents were easily able to buy their first homes and start a family in their early 20s. Now people in their 20s working full time cant even afford to rent apartments and are terrified to have children they cant provide for. Its not because they are lazy or have no desire to live on their own.
was thrown out at 18, ended getting my own house the whole 9. many years ago. cant ever go back if i could. folks who can live at home better count their blessings cause some doesnt realize how LUCKY they are.
Isn't the police involved when people are "thrown-out" at "18"?
@@FHi349 no because you are an adult at 18
It depends on the culture. In America you’re conditioned to be in competition with one another and families are dysfunctional, so you can’t wait to get away from each other. But I’ve seen some non American families live together in harmony without a problem. I’ve met Americans that said they rather be homeless than deal with their families.
It's definitely cultural. I've known both white and Hispanic Americans. Many white Americans detest their families while Hispanic Americans love and adore their families.
Damn America. The rest of the world is fine with living with their parents at any age 😂
Woman demonize it they won’t date you if you live with mommy now adays
@@JeremyTheEntrepreneurThat why I don't date American women.
It's because there is no money out there it's all a lie
No point in leaving if you don't have children or a spouse.
Jobs suck economy sucks that's why
Make families great again
It's not just poor people that live in the basement of their moms house either. I've known very wealthy people that lives in their parents basement.
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
Well we have to hide the bodies somewhere.
I dont why this is seen as bad, the only reason living with your parents is bad if you have an awful relationship with them or you a bum who doesn't pay anything or do anything. Other than that it is literally the smartest thing to do for both yourself and your parents if you ain't married and got kids. I mean ppl rather move out and pay someone elses mortgage instead of your parents and you pay double the amount, taking double the amount of time to do things in your life. Its okay to move with roommates and not your parents?
*In short:* We’re being paid a lot less.
Living with family means it’s easy to buy a single house or mansion if pay and live together. Bigger family means bigger house.
Nooooooo you can't use your money to help your parents! You have to give it all away to Mr. Shekelstein so you can live in a shoebox NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
THis guy gets it.
Based
A lot of people cant afford to move out.
Prices these days are crazy and people are interacting face to face less and less and prefer to do it online or to talk to a machine.
I freaking hated living at home
I left when I was 23
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
@@James-if3kcI hope u found happiness mate.
I’m 32, living at home and I’m carrying a very frustrating medical condition.
Keep pushing through mate. Your strong.
@@TheSouthsboy14 No I'm not. I'm still exactly the same and always will be. There's hope for you but not for me.
@@James-if3kc I wouldn’t say that mate.
I’ve thought about suicide many times. I’ve been carrying this awful condition since January 2023 and it’s still destroying my life..
Something must keep pushing you along.
@@TheSouthsboy14 What condition is it?
Nothing is wrong with that.Its about family.
I agree only reason they think that they think adult children might end up being homeless if the parents die
In India too many adults above 50 living with parents
Unfortunately i have no parents to move back in with.
I moved back in with my grandmother a year years ago after my ex and I broke up and I just take care of her now and work its alot cheaper to live with my grandmother than paying the dumb rent prices out here
most asian even have own house...we still stay with parents especially when they get older and weak.they need help..when i stay at my house..then it is my brother or my sisters turn to look for our old parents...it will be like that untill last of thier breath...it is common in my country..we are trained to do that...the children or grand children will help the elder to take shower even to toilet if they cant do that themself...wash thier cloth..cooking...is done by thier children's family..and we are happy to do that...we dont need elder people nursery with nurse take care of our elders...but there is also parents dont want thier children at home because they never think what happen when they get old and sick and weak....it is an embarresment for us (mostly)asian if we dont help and take care of our elders..offcourse we will hear them always angry and scolding us ..that normal ..elder get dementia.
Living at home and struggling to find a job is not easy. However, While here I started studying cybersecurity,and I am in the process of a career change.
Well I don’t know what is the big deal here it is normal in some cultures
It’s a symptom of the popular image of a nuclear family from the 50s. The cultural expectation here in the states is that every couple should strive for that. But now it’s nearly impossible.
@@BrowncoatGofAZ I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
27M and there's nothing wrong living with parents. The financial stability is pretty good especially being single.
26 - 41 Living with you're parents is "Normal" in California!!! Rent and Home Owner ship in CA is ridiculous!! I am saving for a house CASH before I move out of my parents house and I give them Rent money. Rather give Rent money to your family than some greedy apartment owner.
I dont understand why people wants to stay in cali, 1.5+ million for a house there u r literally tring to be a debt slave for rest of ur live. get out of cali and move to cheaper state, where housing still affordable at 500k ish in the suburb.
@@laujack24500k is not affordable. 50k is affordable. Nowhere in America is cheap. Only cheap way is to move out of the country. I been to other countries in South America and saw 3 bedroom homes on the market for 56k. Way cheaper than what you can get in America.
@@ca60453 no where in the first world today where housing is 50k and u get to a job pay u the same salary as first world presume u got a jobs that worth a fuck in field that r some what with a upward mobility like startup or IT giant. you could always move to south america or thailand etc. if u retired with a good income source from ur saving or pension. working there for a living ya no
Personally, it's kind of our culture to stay at home until you get married. And it's rather embarrassing, when you're getting older and you're not married and still living with your parents.
However, in a way, it can actually be a blessing, because when your parents are gone, you can reflect on the good times and the good laughs that you had with your parents.
It's inevitable though, you WILL get on your parents nerves though and vice versa but in the end, it truly is a blessing to be with them ❤
I’m the youngest of three brothers. My two older brothers went to live together so as not to depend on our parents and because it was the quickest way to do it as soon as possible. I hope to do the same when I finish my studies and get a girlfriend. It’s simple. Independence isn't accessible to everyone.
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
Don´t write the ending before the story begins. If you are striving for Independence, be positive that it IS ACCESSIBLE!😎
Not for me it's not.@@RoddieSimmons
@@James-if3kc Sometimes you just need the resolve to do it. I live in Northeastern Brazil. Not because it was easy, but because every since my Brazilian second mother became a part of the family I resolved to move to Brazil and retire. When my father passed at 99 we honored his only request that we take care of his wife and we brought her back to her homeland. Was it easy, Were there challenges, Was it was accessible. NO, but we had the RESOLVE to do it.😎
I'm not able to do anything though.@@RoddieSimmons
I take care of my parents and pay their bills.
I am almost 40 years old. I will never live with my parents.
I'm 41, a virgin, and still live with my mom. No job and no friends. It's completely hopeless for me and I think I'm going to end it all.
Yep, I wish!
@James-if3k: enough that's all you say😵💫 say something else
I hear ya. It almost feels like you’re going backwards. After my divorce I moved back in with my parents and I can’t begin to tell you how much it sucks. Then again we never really had a good relationship in the first place..
@@SoulReaperSlayer19You can start to be gentle with your parents, some good vibes will come out eventually.
People would be buying houses for 45k 20 years ago, now the prices are quadrupled 😂
Cant even rent an apartment without having a roommate or sharing with a bf/gf to cover the rent 😒 not all of us want to live with others.
I would not want to live with another person either unless it was a significant other in a committed relationship.
whats the point in making the government and banks richer? if you get along with your parents, and the wife doesnt have a problem, its a blessing to live with them.
why not..i am happy when my children age 25 n 27 stay at my house for two week when they do their WFH n i prepare them meals ..no problem..i love to have them around..other weeks they are in other cities, 3 hours drive fr mine
Their kind of in a visiting status from time to time , not really there all the time. It's like that for me as well, and it is nice.
Works both ways. Some parents like renting basement/ attack/ spare bedroom because THEY need the money too. If thats the case and its cheaper than rent and the kids are using the opportunity to save in other investment's its win/win.
Everything is expensive these days.
In addition to the high cost of living, I'm back home because my father passed away and I took over the tasks that he left behind. My mom can't get up and mow the lawn, she can't really move around outside too much without the fear of falling.
Harder to return home at 41 with two kids feels like highschool all over again
I'm 41 and a virgin and will never have kids. Quit complaining.
@@James-if3kc don't be a snob .
@@Mira-pm3ni How the hell am I being a snob???
Lived at home until I was 28. Owned my older model car, paid it off when I was 22. Left college after three years of JC (Free then) Got my Associates Degree but did not attend university having already seen the devaluation of the college degree through people I was working with. Did work several blue collar jobs before settling in to an entry level position in medical billing at 26 that paid off. Didn't date a lot, stayed single (No kids) and saved the money until I moved out at 28. Never went back. I feel very fortunate I grew up when I did. The world gets more complicated every year.
Not only has it become a necessity for alot of people, but it should be a thing in America anyways. Lots of other cultures around the world do it and it makes for better community and connection, which is good for against how much loneliness is in society today.
I’m 28 and i had a house for two months
but the bills were to hard to do on my own
and i got very lonely, that’s my reason
i do plan on moving out again (with a roommate) eventually
Living with boomers = Nightmare.
I was on my own about two decades, moved back in 2 years ago - divorce, debt, mental breakdown I suppose - kicking things back into gear.
Fitness is absolutely crucial - often there are mental health challenges with being in a situation of living with parents past 30 - engage more BDNF in the mind to help support goals to get back on track. Come to terms with all the mental and physical conditions, embrace them authentically yet be mindful of limiting thought patterns as well, most are not really necessary.
It's just my mom here, she's battling cancer and is a widow in her last years - I'd absolutely have to hire help if I moved, so there's that as well. Glad it's me and I'm not living in another state hiring a full-time nurse. Glad to be there for my family, certainly keeps the emotions positive to help others in greater need.
If you’re in your 40’s and your old, stay with your parents. They’re old and you never know when they’ll need you. I don’t necessarily mean free load, but pay the bills. And take care of them. Nothing wrong with that.
Nothing wrong with that. They are our children as long they are single .nothing wrong with that.