Victimhood is a form of power that Keeps the “victim” from discovering and developing their potential. Even worse this dynamic damages the “victim’s” target distracts them from their potential.
Well, thanks for the spinach waterboarding 💚 Mom always took care of everyone and everything before taking care of my brother and I, never mind herself. I used to feel as tho she didn’t love us, as we were so far down her list of priorities. But that actually wasn’t the truth. I have learned that she loved us so much that she had us on her list right where she placed herself. She felt guilty if she gave in to her wish to spend her time on us or herself instead of keeping her nose to the grindstone of the extended family/farm for which she found herself responsible. I learned this when I found myself doing exactly as she had. So much sorting out to be done in our lives to be able to heal. And actually accept the healing, take the lesson, forgive others and yourself, and finally let it all be done with... and move forward toward developing our gifts and living free.
I've been a people pleaser all my life. I give almost everything I have in my pocket. But when I hear there's still a bad thing with me, I cursed and get rage 😐 I realized getting older you need to know to say No and put yourself first.
Perfectly said yes. The inability to say no has catastrophic consequences intellectually, emotionally, relationally, physically, there’s a direct correlation to our health and the inability to say no. It’s a key skill we all need to develop
Same here! Finally able to say NO to my over critical mom & demanding sister, claiming my help URGENTLY @ chaotic holidays: never drama free is draining. Dumped a parasite boyfriend, who isolated me from friends I knew > 25 years, Franky fought for my attention with my teenage daughter ? No pictures of me on his phone was a red flag: I threw his cellphone on his eye socket when he was asleep texting he planned to elope to Brighton, UK due to unpaid bills as he beat-up a man who ended-up in a wheelchair (football is war?). Now I realize spoiling him with expensive gifts and clothes as he was broke doesn't entitle me to rage. I got furious at age 28: spouce of a close friend rather be dead than waking up next to her. I addressed him in person: he got scared as I seemed so cute? No boundaries during childhood, not able to describe my emotions to my psychologist in 2022. Working hard on my hot/cold behaviour diagnosed ADD/ADHD in July 2023. Cognitive therapy only is insufficient after > 50 years of narcisistic abuse an empath will loose my temper if you keep on pushing my buttons.
I had to think many times "I am the Narcisist", but the answer was always, no the Narcisist would never admit or even think this. But for me that was not possible, I have my part too, I love the idea how you explain it, to do it from the low place ... THANKS I can accept that and I think it is simply more onest!, thank you. It will take me a while to see it right away, but I am on the way. I love peace and have read everything (more or less) about it, I found out for myself that we all, especially people in important possisions (teacher and politiks ecc) should do Shadow work, to eneable themself to be onest, at least to themselfs, instead of reacting from an unconscious place and do unsane actions. GREAT EXPLANATION
I agree completely!! I think believe we should not resist or deny negative but embrace it. With this perspective I have realized that all my life problems are solved!
Very insightful. I'm pretty amazed by how you managed to get through that delicate theme with such lightness and optimistic take. Thanks a lot for that, God bless you
01:01:23 Releasing striving boundage from the worse day cycle To start thriving healing the hurt process Blame Shame avoiding help &/or pleasure Codependency as we learn in childhood to depend on our parents for help &/or pleasure We learn we give in society without question We end up feeling resentful/power struggles/ bitter /angry /losing our authenticity No wonder the importance of being honest about our own personal thoughts/feelings To begin the healing process from our own victimhood striving to thriving Awesome Thank you Kenny Weiss Enjoy the journey Again Happy 2023 all 365 days
@@kennyweiss im an recovering addict working a 12 step program 8yrs now ..alot of writing involved i use what we call a flat book..i notice alot of similar correspondence in your work,have you ever used this book..Its an N/A BOOK..I also like to say your videos knowledge plus the inside work i do in my writing has been a tremendous eye opener and help thank you...Onward on the Journey.
@@frankmazzie4855 I’m not familiar with a flat book? I have been sober from many addictions for a long time. I have done a lot of twelve-step work in the past but none of my material consciously is inspired by 12 step programs. I’m sure it has influenced aspects of it.
Victimhood is a form of power that Keeps the “victim” from discovering and developing their potential. Even worse this dynamic damages the “victim’s” target distracts them from their potential.
Well, thanks for the spinach waterboarding 💚 Mom always took care of everyone and everything before taking care of my brother and I, never mind herself. I used to feel as tho she didn’t love us, as we were so far down her list of priorities. But that actually wasn’t the truth. I have learned that she loved us so much that she had us on her list right where she placed herself. She felt guilty if she gave in to her wish to spend her time on us or herself instead of keeping her nose to the grindstone of the extended family/farm for which she found herself responsible. I learned this when I found myself doing exactly as she had. So much sorting out to be done in our lives to be able to heal. And actually accept the healing, take the lesson, forgive others and yourself, and finally let it all be done with... and move forward toward developing our gifts and living free.
I've been a people pleaser all my life. I give almost everything I have in my pocket. But when I hear there's still a bad thing with me, I cursed and get rage 😐 I realized getting older you need to know to say No and put yourself first.
Perfectly said yes. The inability to say no has catastrophic consequences intellectually, emotionally, relationally, physically, there’s a direct correlation to our health and the inability to say no. It’s a key skill we all need to develop
Same here! Finally able to say NO to my over critical mom & demanding sister, claiming my help URGENTLY @ chaotic holidays: never drama free is draining.
Dumped a parasite boyfriend, who isolated me from friends I knew > 25 years, Franky fought for my attention with my teenage daughter ? No pictures of me on his phone was a red flag: I threw his cellphone on his eye socket when he was asleep texting he planned to elope to Brighton, UK due to unpaid bills as he beat-up a man who ended-up in a wheelchair (football is war?). Now I realize spoiling him with expensive gifts and clothes as he was broke doesn't entitle me to rage.
I got furious at age 28: spouce of a close friend rather be dead than waking up next to her. I addressed him in person: he got scared as I seemed so cute?
No boundaries during childhood, not able to describe my emotions to my psychologist in 2022. Working hard on my hot/cold behaviour diagnosed ADD/ADHD in July 2023.
Cognitive therapy only is insufficient after > 50 years of narcisistic abuse an empath will loose my temper if you keep on pushing my buttons.
I had to think many times "I am the Narcisist", but the answer was always, no the Narcisist would never admit or even think this. But for me that was not possible, I have my part too, I love the idea how you explain it, to do it from the low place ... THANKS I can accept that and I think it is simply more onest!, thank you. It will take me a while to see it right away, but I am on the way.
I love peace and have read everything (more or less) about it, I found out for myself that we all, especially people in important possisions (teacher and politiks ecc) should do Shadow work, to eneable themself to be onest, at least to themselfs, instead of reacting from an unconscious place and do unsane actions. GREAT EXPLANATION
I agree completely!! I think believe we should not resist or deny negative but embrace it. With this perspective I have realized that all my life problems are solved!
Giving with expectations for a certain response is a premeditated resentment in the making.
Very insightful. I'm pretty amazed by how you managed to get through that delicate theme with such lightness and optimistic take.
Thanks a lot for that, God bless you
thanks for being true to everyone, keep up the good work, some people wake up late, like me. thanks, thanks 🙏
OMG this video. Knocking it out of the park! Seriously, this is a home run truth bomb right here.
But if no one is asking, stop.
01:01:23
Releasing striving boundage from the worse day cycle
To start thriving healing the hurt process
Blame Shame avoiding help &/or pleasure
Codependency as we learn in childhood to depend on our parents for help &/or pleasure
We learn we give in society without question
We end up feeling resentful/power struggles/ bitter /angry /losing our authenticity
No wonder the importance of being honest about our own personal thoughts/feelings
To begin the healing process from our own victimhood striving to thriving
Awesome
Thank you
Kenny Weiss
Enjoy the journey
Again Happy 2023 all 365 days
Another great insight, Kenny! ❤️ Thank you ‼️
Such GOOD STUFF HERE ☺️☺️
Glad you enjoyed it!
Just ordered your book Mr. Weiss
Woohoo 👏👏🎉
@@kennyweiss finally..i had a question if i may
@@frankmazzie4855 I will do my best to answer your question. :-)
@@kennyweiss im an recovering addict working a 12 step program 8yrs now ..alot of writing involved i use what we call a flat book..i notice alot of similar correspondence in your work,have you ever used this book..Its an N/A BOOK..I also like to say your videos knowledge plus the inside work i do in my writing has been a tremendous eye opener and help thank you...Onward on the Journey.
@@frankmazzie4855 I’m not familiar with a flat book? I have been sober from many addictions for a long time. I have done a lot of twelve-step work in the past but none of my material consciously is inspired by 12 step programs. I’m sure it has influenced aspects of it.
My pleasure nowadays is to listen to you 😆
I love the tv show, “My Crazy X-Girlfriend” is a beautiful representation of being codependent/ borderline.
Wow!!!!👏
I hope it helped you😁