Good morning. Thank you for this video.. I have overshared at times with other ppl. I don't think for validation. I think because I thought they needed to know the whole story. Going forward, I am not going to do that anymore. Thank you for these inspiring teachings.
Good morning! It’s wonderful that you’re reflecting on this. Sometimes, we share with good intentions, thinking it will help others understand us better or connect on a deeper level. But as the teachings in the video suggest, true connection often comes from presence and depth rather than excessive sharing. By holding back a little and being more mindful, you’re not only protecting your own peace but also creating space for others to truly appreciate the essence of who you are. Keep embracing this journey of self-awareness-you're doing amazing!
Amazing insights! May everyone watching this video find inner peace and strength by embracing the wisdom of mindful restraint and authentic connections.
As a person with autism; I am naturally a very quiet person because I do not know what I want to say most of the time for fear of misinterpretation of another person. This has led me to be loathed or resented because others of this modern age perceive silence as threatening. Often others have perceived me as being in automatic agreement with anything they say, or non-committal, shallow, fake, or stuck up and better than them, or quite simply…stupid. I resented myself for many years of my silence too; but I found that my mask of behaving ‘normally’ by society’s standards by sharing more about myself has only led me to be abused, taken advantage of, tired, exhausted, having no more faith un humanity, and hollow inside like this video revealed to me. I now understand that some people are threatened by silence are the people who live in fear of the unknown or they simply do not respect your boundaries because they have no boundaries for themselves. Those are the people who generally do not have your best interests at heart and despite all your best efforts to behave ‘normally’ they will stomp all over you anyways. Its best to say little and even less as they reveal who they really are out of irritation of you lack of engagement; then they can’t use your innermost values, fears, wants and desires against you when it suits them.
I agree with this and do not share too much. But I am a conversationalist. I have 3 friends all don’t say much at all and I get bored as they barely have an opinion and never have anything interesting or funny to say. But are lovely people.
Keeping things to yourself may protect your essence, but doesn’t it risk hindering genuine connections with others? Mystery can inspire admiration, but does it also create distance?
When you don't reveal yourself to others as they expect they'll then make it up which should remind you of the Buddha quote. Don't worry about what other people think or say about you, it's none of your business.
What do you say to the well who over shared everything to everyone (best friends and family included), but quieted and left empty, but by then who had lost its purity and given away his mystery and essence? What do you now tell him? A friend wants to know
So to me your question is: how does the well get its essence back? I'd ask the well: Why did you overshare with people? What did you hope to get in return? And how can you give to yourself the exact thing you were hoping to get from others through oversharing? 🙏
This is helpful, but what I want to know is if you overshare to everyone you know family and friends that you have nothing left, how do you start over. I can’t throw away my family. I suppose now is better than never to stop over sharing, but the danger of over sharing is that everyone already knows. I can no longer go back to being mysterious. People expect full transparency and it’s because from being in the military and having evil micro managing bosses, (me over sharing to make a point) I adapted this way of life and it eats away at me. I am trying to clean out my brain so I don’t end it because I don’t want this anymore
@@DeltaBrooks-p4i can you imagine to meet yourself with selfcompassion, self love and acceptance? Do you have an inner perfectionist who is constantly telling you how you should or shouldn't be? And if so, could it be, that this inner critic is the reason why self acceptance feels so difficult? I get you. It hurts when others seem to avoid us... But now it just is the way it is - however it is, because I don't know your situation. If you can change the way you see yourself, you will slowly start to act differently. And others will notice this. They are your family... maybe they are exhausted by you "talking too much". But do you think they will abandon you? A person who is talking cannot listen... maybe you could start to talk less and listen more. But actually... self love, self acceptance and self compassion is the way to start to feel at home inside of yourself. Then... it will feel good to not overshare. Otherwise... if it is your inner critic telling you you must not do it, it will feel bad. And the part of you who feels the urge to do it will not feel loved, understood or accepted... it is a part of you. It is there for a reason. And it needs your compassion. ❤️
Good morning. Thank you for this video.. I have overshared at times with other ppl. I don't think for validation. I think because I thought they needed to know the whole story. Going forward, I am not going to do that anymore. Thank you for these inspiring teachings.
Good morning! It’s wonderful that you’re reflecting on this. Sometimes, we share with good intentions, thinking it will help others understand us better or connect on a deeper level. But as the teachings in the video suggest, true connection often comes from presence and depth rather than excessive sharing. By holding back a little and being more mindful, you’re not only protecting your own peace but also creating space for others to truly appreciate the essence of who you are. Keep embracing this journey of self-awareness-you're doing amazing!
Thanks so much for watching 🙏
Amazing insights! May everyone watching this video find inner peace and strength by embracing the wisdom of mindful restraint and authentic connections.
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This is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you so much 🥰
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As a person with autism; I am naturally a very quiet person because I do not know what I want to say most of the time for fear of misinterpretation of another person. This has led me to be loathed or resented because others of this modern age perceive silence as threatening. Often others have perceived me as being in automatic agreement with anything they say, or non-committal, shallow, fake, or stuck up and better than them, or quite simply…stupid. I resented myself for many years of my silence too; but I found that my mask of behaving ‘normally’ by society’s standards by sharing more about myself has only led me to be abused, taken advantage of, tired, exhausted, having no more faith un humanity, and hollow inside like this video revealed to me.
I now understand that some people are threatened by silence are the people who live in fear of the unknown or they simply do not respect your boundaries because they have no boundaries for themselves. Those are the people who generally do not have your best interests at heart and despite all your best efforts to behave ‘normally’ they will stomp all over you anyways. Its best to say little and even less as they reveal who they really are out of irritation of you lack of engagement; then they can’t use your innermost values, fears, wants and desires against you when it suits them.
You seem self aware. Learn to strike a balance.
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I agree with this and do not share too much. But I am a conversationalist. I have 3 friends all don’t say much at all and I get bored as they barely have an opinion and never have anything interesting or funny to say. But are lovely people.
Thanks so much for watching
Thank you for this, sir.
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Keeping things to yourself may protect your essence, but doesn’t it risk hindering genuine connections with others? Mystery can inspire admiration, but does it also create distance?
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When you don't reveal yourself to others as they expect they'll then make it up which should remind you of the Buddha quote. Don't worry about what other people think or say about you, it's none of your business.
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What do you say to the well who over shared everything to everyone (best friends and family included), but quieted and left empty, but by then who had lost its purity and given away his mystery and essence? What do you now tell him? A friend wants to know
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So to me your question is: how does the well get its essence back? I'd ask the well: Why did you overshare with people? What did you hope to get in return? And how can you give to yourself the exact thing you were hoping to get from others through oversharing? 🙏
This is helpful, but what I want to know is if you overshare to everyone you know family and friends that you have nothing left, how do you start over. I can’t throw away my family. I suppose now is better than never to stop over sharing, but the danger of over sharing is that everyone already knows. I can no longer go back to being mysterious. People expect full transparency and it’s because from being in the military and having evil micro managing bosses, (me over sharing to make a point) I adapted this way of life and it eats away at me. I am trying to clean out my brain so I don’t end it because I don’t want this anymore
@@DeltaBrooks-p4i can you imagine to meet yourself with selfcompassion, self love and acceptance? Do you have an inner perfectionist who is constantly telling you how you should or shouldn't be? And if so, could it be, that this inner critic is the reason why self acceptance feels so difficult?
I get you. It hurts when others seem to avoid us... But now it just is the way it is - however it is, because I don't know your situation. If you can change the way you see yourself, you will slowly start to act differently. And others will notice this. They are your family... maybe they are exhausted by you "talking too much". But do you think they will abandon you? A person who is talking cannot listen... maybe you could start to talk less and listen more. But actually... self love, self acceptance and self compassion is the way to start to feel at home inside of yourself. Then... it will feel good to not overshare. Otherwise... if it is your inner critic telling you you must not do it, it will feel bad. And the part of you who feels the urge to do it will not feel loved, understood or accepted... it is a part of you. It is there for a reason. And it needs your compassion. ❤️