The honouring your body thing is so so true. A man of God who loves you will not want to sin with you and he won’t want you to sin. Anybody that wants you to sin against God and to dishonour God…ladies, run!!! Run quick!!!
Yes I just had to cut ties with the person I already knew was a counterfeit because of this and SO many other reasons that don’t line up with the list in this video.
Summary: 1. He must have a personal relationship with Christ (John 3:16) 2. He has the Fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22) 3. He honors YOUR body and his body before God 4. His intentions will be clear with you (Genesis 29:20) 5. He will make you a better person (Proverbs 27:17) 6. He will be a man of his word (1 John 2:5) 7. God will confirm it (Genesis 24)
Something confusing ... What if the person doesn't proclaim Christianity (and neither of you did) but now you do.. A family/long term relationship where the individual actually does display many of the qualities listed (faithful, a man of his word etc) I have seen stories of ladies meeting Christian men who are not what they claim to be So what are the logistics in a situation like that where U have changed path/direction spiritually
I fell for the counterfeit after being so strong on my walk and now I’m wallowing in heartbreak… if you’re strong on your walk, stay there & don’t fall for the enemy dangling the candy in your face when you know that man’s heart isn’t pursing God and if he loves sin more than God and is willing to bring you down… run. Make them come up to your level.
I’m 23 & currently in the same situation right now, & the heartbreak really hurts. I’m leaning on God right now more then ever so I don’t drown in my feelings
I pray God heals you soon. Sometimes we have to get our hearts broken to take the taste out of our mouth for certain types of men. Don’t see it as a loss, just a lesson. And thank God that it didn’t get any further or into an unhappy marriage. Take time to rebuild yourself, you’ll be okay soon mamas! And don’t make any men come up to your level, find one either on your level or (preferably) above your level so he can lead you! Speaking from experience of 3 counterfeit relationships 🫶🏾
I’ve been telling myself no pity party. Time to tighten up! Yes self growth is uncomfortable but I was miserable in the worldly relationship anyway. So I chose salvation. God came back to get me. I’m not going back to my old ways 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I always say the person you’re with should NOT make you worse. Your mental health, body, appearance, spirit, what you like, finances etc. A relationship shouldn’t CAUSE struggle.
Heavy on a man of his word. A guy I was dating told me he was a romantic guy but in the 4 weeks of dating him, not one romantic gesture was seen, he had to go.
Girl 😭 He intentionally locked me down within 2 weeks. He wants to lead and wants God to use him to fulfill His will. Ladies, the best part is the prayer over you!!! Whew chileeee 😮💨 I felt that anointing running in my bloodline. A Long distance with Jesus makes things so much better ❤ Everything you said is true! I waited years for him to come. He came when I was minding my own business lol.
Let me testify! This happened to mee in July this year. I fell for the counterfeit and I was heartbroken but the Lord kept trying to show me that he wasn’t the one. I ignored the signs. When you’re walking in the will of God, he will always put you back on track because God is so selective and picky about your life! HE WANTS THE BEST FOR YOU!!! fast forward, four months later, the Lord healed me & again enjoying my singleness in the Lord, and keeping my eyes on Jesus only! Boom the Lord brings my husband and hes so perfect in my eyes he’s more than what I asked for! The Lord forsure exceeded my expectations! I am truly so blessed for my man! An amazing man of God! Ladies PLEASE wait on the Lord and let his Will be done in your lives. His Will is perfect.
no more casual dating, situationships, sex partners they’re distractions and usually do not have our best interest at heart! ladies treat your body like the temple it is, with respect and love.
Me & God are Locked in right now. I am on my purification/celibacy journey. Nonetheless I met a guy who was extremely nice, clean cut, and seemed in some aspect a good catch but I asked him what are his beliefs. I asked if he believed in Jesus Christ and he gave me a long pause & said he believed in a higher power. All that to say that counterfeits come in many forms. The person "having a relationship with Jesus" is so key. I do pray for his Soul. But I Cannot ignore that red flag. I have dated many guys who said they were Christian or saved but they had No Relationship with God & it was evident. I cannot be with anyone like this going in future. I cannot go down that path again. It was destructive for my spirt. I enjoyed this! Thanks for sharing!
Same. However I sometimes wonder ok so there are just two sides. A big one of unbelievers and some real Christians. And it's so hard to find a real one who also fits to you, isn't it?
I just came to the realization that I never really had a true relationship. They were just sex partners, and / or I was the leader, aka mom. I have been chaste since 2014. Men approach, but I know it's not time. I am not a wife yet. I am still building like Nehemiah. Yes, that man must have a personal relationship with Jesus. No exceptions! I ain't bringing no grown man to Christ unless it is mentorship. I am glad you expressed that every man or woman dangled in your face is not for you. Women should pray before considering entertaining a man. The same for men. The whole list is 🔥 👌 🙌.
Had this realization this year. I don't think I've ever been an equal relationship. Honestly strengthening my faith and walk in Christ has been so transformative this year.
I agree. Don't entertain anyone unless the Lord says so. As I look back, every counterfeit wanted sex. Right off the bat. They would pretend to love me. Pretend to want Christ. Pretend to want marriage. I'd always pray & God would remove them. Right quick. Thank the Lord!!!
Thanks Queen This was so much needed definitely confirmation about my Boaz ❤ It took me 2 years to finally get to this point of release the old and finally letting God do his big one in my life . This is Tea
Wow. I had this realization too. I lost my virginity in 2015, so that’s almost 10 years of fornicating with men not sent by God. Something has got to change!! Cannot commit to another 10 years or even one year of living in the flesh. May the spirit lead us all ✨
A lot of relationship is Sex partners and slave partner. Remove the sex and the cooking and cleaning and no one will be in a relationship based on genuine likeness of the person.
I needed to hear this ; the last two men I’ve met revealed their true intentions in short spans.& their intentions were not to know me but to know my body. I had to remember God is clarity & while those men seemed worthy of time, time exposed our interactions were better separated.
Satan is definitely upping the ante. Going out of his way to harm God's children. I've been thru it all. Mostly because I was ignorant and naive. The brother I like now, I don't think he'd dream of touching me unless we were married. He's very honorable. A man of integrity. I'm just waiting on God to know if he might be my person. Pray for us. I know he's very attracted to me & especially the fact that I serve Christ. We are only on the getting to know each other stage. Just friends for now. Brother & Sis.
I was driving and asking God if he sent the person I have been with, waiting on marriage or not and my RUclips selected this video and started playing it! 😳😱 Wow! 7 year relationship, no marriage proposal, I need some prayers!
Girl, you don't need prayers.. you need to run! 😭😭 S e v e n years! Do you know, statistically men know within 6 months if they want to wed a woman? And often do so within 2 years. Habibti, if you are not (a) Rachel, whom Jacob *worked* 7 years to have the opportunity to be her husband...why are you entertaining a man for almost a decade 🤔? Sincerely though, I just pray that God's will be done in your life and that He guides you through this ♡ but honestly lovely, the optics of that situation ain't looking good :((((. Surely there is a reason why it has been 7 years, I reckon. God bless you ♡
Girl you are speaking !!!!!!!!! Every woman in Christ needs to hear this !!!! So many other entities influence us women in Christ to go against what God has ordained for us. Thinking that another way or the shorter way is better and we pay for it in the long run. To all women in Christ, who are waiting for their mate, I pray God gives you peace in the season that you are in and patience to wait for the man that he has created for you and you have been created for him🙏🏽
I am crying. I was told to pray for my exhusand because he's going through some things ... but the other side of me thought because i was told to pray for him that we were supposed to be together. My God! You confirmed, he is just my assignment. He checks off ALL the red flags for a relationship, but i feel the need to keep him in prayer. God wants me to separate his SOUL from who he is to ME. JESUS. Thank you for this video for confirmation. I've been so confused about his behavior vs. the fact that I am led to pray for him.
Not trying to be messy, but who told you to pray for him? Was it God or a person? If it’s a person, test their spirit. I walked with my friend through 7 year tumultuous marriage that ended in divorce. She was doing well when her father ups and asks her to give him another chance because he did not want her to be alone. She honored her father’s request and the man brought more havoc into her life. I know her dad is a “Christian” in word but not deed. I told her to look at who told her to go back to him. The enemy used a familiar person (her father) to pursue her into letting that man back into her life. He almost destroyed her again! Now she is doing very well. She is spiritually strong and has her eyes and ears of discernment open.
This video was recommended to me when I first started dating my counterfeit man, but I ignored it and all the red flags too. I thought I could change him, but really I was just sent to minister to him. I know I’m nothing like the girls he’s dated in the past, but I also know that the way I live and love left a lasting impact on his life. So I guess it was a win-win😭
This video found me! I had a break a situationship with a “Godly man” and he gave me so much hope, broke my peace then lost interest after we had sex. It hurts. Thank you for the word I needed this!!! ❤
I’ve recently started reading the Bible. This video came out in the perfect timing too because I feel I’m in a season of detaching and really having discernment and seeing things for what it is.I’m still in Genesis but the fact that you’ve mentioned some of the messages I understood during my season of isolation. ❤️ God is love.
I encourage you to read a bit in old testament AND new testament. I encourage you to locate a solid church community or Bible study. Isolation is not God's will. Not for too long.
It’s soooooo true when you said it shouldn’t take 3 months to lock a woman down. It only took one month before my man asked me to be his woman. But I think that also has to do with STANDING on your standards and NOT budging. The right man will respect it (and you) AND will comply/act accordingly.
I just want to add to this, that this depends on the person/people. If you have previous traumas or unsecure attachment style, you just can't move too quickly, even tho the person might be right for you. So 3 months might be good for some but others it's just too short to even start trusting someone that fast.
Just ran into a counterfeit and then this popped up on my feed. I was feeling down about how he treated me but now I know the exit was so short because I was being protected.
"You cannot fake the fruit. Judge people by their fruits. Fruit never lies. "💯 This! Its a principle of nature and its so true. I paid a heavy price for getting involved with a man of God with a good heart. Of the seven characteristics you mentioned, he had three. But the fruit of his life was rotten. A harvest of righteousness is not present. His good works and servant heart caused me to ignore reality. I was so convinced he was the man for me. He was 'for' me...until he wasn't. I too became collateral damage due to the rotting fruit of his life and those he chooses to associate with. Harsh lessons learned. But now I know how to be more discerning when inspecting for the fruit of the Spirit. Thank you for this word. ❤🙏🏾
Needed thisssssss. This is so validating because it affirms my decisions to leave the situations I left. My goal now is to work to become the woman that THIS type of man deserves 🙏
First time here and I love it when someone stick to God's standards. Too many people to social media and giving advise that is not Godly. A lot of them don't tell the whole truth hence sugar coat everything. If you got married and he was not saved or had sex before marriage and it worked for you don't make it a doctrine, it might not work for someone. Let's just stick to what he word says. Lets not confuse assignment to be your spouse no matter some marriages don't last yet you were busy telling you heard from God he was the one. God is not a man that he should lie. Thank you Vanessa for your honesty.
Number 4 is a big one!!! I refuse to wait 6 months for a guy to ask me to be his “girlfriend”. With intentionality it should take no more than 3 months
The brother I like is a true brother. A real Christian. We are friendly. He's been caring, kind...thoughtful but he's moving slow. He doesn't do casual dating. Neither do I. We are both abstinent. He hasn't asked for coffee or invite to church YET. It's only been a few weeks. Am I being impatient? He's made it clear he's attracted to me.
Very wise words and all true. I didn’t trust God when he was showing me the signs and it just extended the time spent with someone not for me. GOD IS NOT THE AUTHOR OF CONFUSION. PLEASE trust God in ALL THINGS
This happened to me , I married him , all the red flags , every one of them& now I’m absolutely going through one of the hardest things 😢 I feel stuck & like I’m drowning. All because I idolized & rushed.
Lol i love this! Its very true! My boyfriend made me his girlfriend on the third date💕 you never have to wonder where you stand with the man God has for you!
I really needed to hear this because for a long time now i have been settling for less. I have made a decision to start over and try again but with God this time around, and I believe God brought me to this video.
I'm literally in the midst of planning out a Word for women of God and dating. This video...just wow! God is so intentional. I love Him! Thank you for this video. So many great notes! I may need you at the conference!!!!
Thank you, Thank you; this video is a blessing and I pray people will listen; it will help stop a lot of Domestic Violence and Single parents and Vulnerable Children suffering from not having both parents together in their lives. ❤️
I needed this I met a seemingly great guy. Financially stable and comfortable, handsome. He talks about wanting the same things I do and he’s respectful but I don’t know if it’s my fears or my intuition telling me that he is judgemental and probably has a secret issue in terms of personality or behaviour that has delayed him finding a wife
Ugh he has been acting quite odd since our last phone call but it’s our first date today so god willing I am able to discern what this situation is and will be
@@jadajjlakee dont go into the date trying to find something wrong just be open minded and enjoy yourself. When you pray God will answer you don’t need to go on a date on guard sis
I’m so thankful for this video popping up. I’m beyond heartbroken- was blindsided this weekend with a breakup text. We just came back from a vacation in Hawaii and I thought this was my best relationship ever. We were only together for a year but I finally thought I met my man of God…I know God has good plans but it hurts. God bless you ❤️
I do talk to God about who comes into my life. God showed me past relationships and it was a deal breaker. I also know that men play games. But the Bible says 1 Corinthians 7:9 But if they cannot contain let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. So I did meet someone, and I am praying to hear from God.
This video was so good, I had to log in and leave a comment. I was SO BLESSED by this video! Thank you for ministering to my heart in such a lovely way. I really enjoyed this video and appreciate your content. Thank you and may God bless you, sister! 💖✝
Pray for me I’m stuck dealing with my counterfeit right now. I started praying fasting giving my life back to god and he revealed this man isn’t for me I tried to stick it out because I thought I crazy. we live together separated now i just want my own space and be free to praise the lord.
I will come back here very often to listen to this! Thank you very much because I know that I am not crazy and that my priority is to seek to honor GOD and therefore I must seek a person whose priority is to honor GOD. These points spoke to me a lot! may GOD bless you ❤ new subscriber here🎉❤
The husband I had did all this but as we got to know each other his true colors came,he uplifted me but he also ignored my feelings he did a lot of gaslighting , deflecting was nice and lovable to everyone else but changed with me .
GOD is not a author of confusing, you said this two times, I am currently in a confusing relationship, I kept repeating those words before I watched this video when I think about the relationship ... Am so weak , am not strong enough to walk away 😭 I always feel like am settling but GOD I need your strength
Words cannot express how much I appreciate your video! I truly believe God allowed me to see this specific video at this specific time! Thank you for the clarity and wisdom provided in your video! ❤ I am glad I found your channel!
God Bless you Vanessa!!🙏🏼❤❤💫 You are doing the Lord's work and it's so evident! Spreading the truth and wise counsel straight from the Word!! I watched the whole video because I was curious and I already have peace that my fiancé is from God but your video confirmed even further ☺❤🙏🏼
Thank you soo much for your obedience. This message really hits home with the last dating experience I just had. Thankfully the Holy Spirit revealed his true intentions before I got locked in
That's it *Iron sharpen iron* . If it is from God, everything that the man do really in allignment in what God said in His Word. Thanks You sis❤. God bless you abundantly 🙏
Yes, this was a blessing to hear I've been in prayer about this topic, and literally the signs are very clear no settling and no counterfeit are welcome we need to choose wisely
wow, that's a good word. Thank you sister in Christ. I am in a single season and this is confirming past relationships. I am glad I dipped. God bless you!
Honestly, this touched me on a much deeper level than I expected. It answered so many questions I had, and I’ve been replaying the video over and over. Thank you so much for sharing this, it means a lot.
Thank you so much for your video. I was with a guy and broke up with him recently, he is a non Christian. God has shown me that He does not want me with a man who is not christian, I made a mistake in the relationship, I then said that I wouldn't do it again but the guy I was seeing didn't understand why i was abstaining and it caused so much upset. It was so evident that I shouldn't be with him, but I wonder if I am there to show him God's love as he was never churched. Your video has been so helpful. Thank you. Have a lovely Christmas and many blessings to you and your family. ❤
This is sooo good, and right on time for my situation 😫 thank you so much! We’re both still in each other’s lives just as friends and we’re choosing to become the man and woman God rlly is calling us to be. We’re not necessarily waiting on each other but if we end up together after maturing and growing in Christ, then so be it. I feel like this is a good idea, but I’m not sure, like maybe it’s possibly faulty idk 😭.
TOPICS IN THE VID: 1. 3:49 he has a personal relationship with god. 2. 4:49 he has the fruit of the spirit. (love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control) 3. 8:30 he honors your body. 4. 11:59 his intentions with you are clear. 5. 14:50 he will make you a better person “iron sharpens iron” 6. 16:49 he is a man of his words. 7. 19:55 god will confirm the relationship to you and him that you’re for each other.
i have currently been with my significant other for 4 years, we are both furthering our journey with god. he introduced the love of god. we live together but before that we weren’t faithful. now my biggest thing in life is to honor god & at least marry or engage but his main thing is money to afford a ring or too feel more manly. we are currently abstinent, we still sleep in the same bed. i just feel he doesn’t understand the fact that i want to do this the right way & i understand we are growing as individuals. i believe & have faith he’s the one for me but i don’t know how to get him to understand. & then i feel wrong because my main focus should be god right now & waiting until marriage finds me. because it’s not that he doesn’t respect me, or value me, i feel like we got caught up in society instead of spirituality.
@@khyiathekreatourSame. My boyfriend and I are growing our faith. But we both have been sinning and I don’t want that. We’re trying to grow our faith individually and together. I just need him just to put more energy into God so he can better our relationship spiritually. Physically and worldly he’s perfect but he just needs more faith. Faith to lead me. I don’t know what to do.
@@khyiathekreatour me personally will not live with a man that I’m not married to that never really works out you end up having to wait longer for the ring even if his intentions is to marry you, he will come up with excuses because not having a rain is just an excuse. You can literally go to the courthouse and get married without a ring and get the ring later if this is really love and you want to honor God with your relationship we have to stop making excuses because we want something so bad. This is not an alignment with God‘s word, and I would strongly suggest that you pray and listen to what exactly the Holy Spirit gives you and act and move quickly when God answers your questions because you have to think about it if God tells you to leave this relationship, would you wanna leave or would it be a stronghold for you to leave , you’ll risk being disobedient to God to please your flesh
My beautiful sister, you must get away. Do not put yourself in a tempting position. Fornication is very grave. I appreciate your candor. Pray. God will give you a way out. Let the Lord deal with your ex.
The honouring your body thing is so so true. A man of God who loves you will not want to sin with you and he won’t want you to sin. Anybody that wants you to sin against God and to dishonour God…ladies, run!!! Run quick!!!
Amen to this I will NOT sin against my body anymore.
Yes I just had to cut ties with the person I already knew was a counterfeit because of this and SO many other reasons that don’t line up with the list in this video.
Yes that's the man thing ❤
Thank you for this video. Such confirmation for me.
@@chantemckeithan372amén
Summary:
1. He must have a personal relationship with Christ (John 3:16)
2. He has the Fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22)
3. He honors YOUR body and his body before God
4. His intentions will be clear with you (Genesis 29:20)
5. He will make you a better person (Proverbs 27:17)
6. He will be a man of his word (1 John 2:5)
7. God will confirm it (Genesis 24)
Something confusing ...
What if the person doesn't proclaim Christianity (and neither of you did) but now you do..
A family/long term relationship where the individual actually does display many of the qualities listed (faithful, a man of his word etc)
I have seen stories of ladies meeting Christian men who are not what they claim to be
So what are the logistics in a situation like that where U have changed path/direction spiritually
I fell for the counterfeit after being so strong on my walk and now I’m wallowing in heartbreak… if you’re strong on your walk, stay there & don’t fall for the enemy dangling the candy in your face when you know that man’s heart isn’t pursing God and if he loves sin more than God and is willing to bring you down… run. Make them come up to your level.
@@itstaylourmade you’re learning so count that for something
I’m 23 & currently in the same situation right now, & the heartbreak really hurts. I’m leaning on God right now more then ever so I don’t drown in my feelings
THIS!!!
me too.
I pray God heals you soon. Sometimes we have to get our hearts broken to take the taste out of our mouth for certain types of men. Don’t see it as a loss, just a lesson. And thank God that it didn’t get any further or into an unhappy marriage. Take time to rebuild yourself, you’ll be okay soon mamas!
And don’t make any men come up to your level, find one either on your level or (preferably) above your level so he can lead you! Speaking from experience of 3 counterfeit relationships 🫶🏾
I’ve been telling myself no pity party. Time to tighten up! Yes self growth is uncomfortable but I was miserable in the worldly relationship anyway. So I chose salvation. God came back to get me. I’m not going back to my old ways 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I like your mindset!
@@AT-pw9dx thank you. I’m learning to find my rainbow in every situation!
It's OK to cry sometimes. It's healing & healthy. Jesus wept. Sooo..weep & then carry on.
@@danilaroche1156 yes I’m not holding back anymore 🙏🏾
Amen! ❤
I always say the person you’re with should NOT make you worse. Your mental health, body, appearance, spirit, what you like, finances etc. A relationship shouldn’t CAUSE struggle.
PREACH
This! A relationSHIP is a journey. You should constantly be on the wave towards progression. If it’s not building you up it’s tearing you down.
Heavy on a man of his word. A guy I was dating told me he was a romantic guy but in the 4 weeks of dating him, not one romantic gesture was seen, he had to go.
@@tresbellestudio oh uhuh lollll a liar
Girl 😭 He intentionally locked me down within 2 weeks. He wants to lead and wants God to use him to fulfill His will. Ladies, the best part is the prayer over you!!! Whew chileeee 😮💨 I felt that anointing running in my bloodline. A Long distance with Jesus makes things so much better ❤ Everything you said is true! I waited years for him to come. He came when I was minding my own business lol.
@@rhythmsnblues 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 yeessssss I’m so happy for you and I pray God continues to cover you both in the courting stage
Let me testify! This happened to mee in July this year. I fell for the counterfeit and I was heartbroken but the Lord kept trying to show me that he wasn’t the one. I ignored the signs. When you’re walking in the will of God, he will always put you back on track because God is so selective and picky about your life! HE WANTS THE BEST FOR YOU!!! fast forward, four months later, the Lord healed me & again enjoying my singleness in the Lord, and keeping my eyes on Jesus only! Boom the Lord brings my husband and hes so perfect in my eyes he’s more than what I asked for! The Lord forsure exceeded my expectations! I am truly so blessed for my man! An amazing man of God! Ladies PLEASE wait on the Lord and let his Will be done in your lives. His Will is perfect.
@@briannagardea yesssss and congratulations 🫶🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Amen
“That’s illegal covenant” immediately subscribed 😂😂😂
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Frr
She indeed did eat with that one!!!
no more casual dating, situationships, sex partners they’re distractions and usually do not have our best interest at heart! ladies treat your body like the temple it is, with respect and love.
@@laneem9746 yesssss
Me & God are Locked in right now. I am on my purification/celibacy journey. Nonetheless I met a guy who was extremely nice, clean cut, and seemed in some aspect a good catch but I asked him what are his beliefs. I asked if he believed in Jesus Christ and he gave me a long pause & said he believed in a higher power. All that to say that counterfeits come in many forms. The person "having a relationship with Jesus" is so key. I do pray for his Soul. But I Cannot ignore that red flag. I have dated many guys who said they were Christian or saved but they had No Relationship with God & it was evident. I cannot be with anyone like this going in future. I cannot go down that path again. It was destructive for my spirt. I enjoyed this! Thanks for sharing!
me too, you worded this perfectly!!
@@laneem9746 thank you 😊
Same. However I sometimes wonder ok so there are just two sides. A big one of unbelievers and some real Christians. And it's so hard to find a real one who also fits to you, isn't it?
Sometimes saying no too that is the final test
@@raemahhenderson1602 Amen 🙏🏾
Guys we need God! Please seek God & develop a relationship with God!God will never do you wrong 💖!
Amen glory to god
"Sometimes that's not your man but your assignment" 😂
@@Tortilla1111 you’re laughing but it’s the truth
😂😂😂😂
Amen!!!!!
I just completed my “assignment” 😂😭
@ same 🤣
I just came to the realization that I never really had a true relationship. They were just sex partners, and / or I was the leader, aka mom. I have been chaste since 2014. Men approach, but I know it's not time. I am not a wife yet. I am still building like Nehemiah. Yes, that man must have a personal relationship with Jesus. No exceptions! I ain't bringing no grown man to Christ unless it is mentorship. I am glad you expressed that every man or woman dangled in your face is not for you. Women should pray before considering entertaining a man. The same for men. The whole list is 🔥 👌 🙌.
Had this realization this year. I don't think I've ever been an equal relationship. Honestly strengthening my faith and walk in Christ has been so transformative this year.
I agree. Don't entertain anyone unless the Lord says so. As I look back, every counterfeit wanted sex. Right off the bat. They would pretend to love me. Pretend to want Christ. Pretend to want marriage. I'd always pray & God would remove them. Right quick. Thank the Lord!!!
Thanks Queen This was so much needed definitely confirmation about my Boaz ❤ It took me 2 years to finally get to this point of release the old and finally letting God do his big one in my life . This is Tea
Wow. I had this realization too. I lost my virginity in 2015, so that’s almost 10 years of fornicating with men not sent by God. Something has got to change!! Cannot commit to another 10 years or even one year of living in the flesh. May the spirit lead us all ✨
A lot of relationship is Sex partners and slave partner. Remove the sex and the cooking and cleaning and no one will be in a relationship based on genuine likeness of the person.
I needed to hear this ; the last two men I’ve met revealed their true intentions in short spans.& their intentions were not to know me but to know my body. I had to remember God is clarity & while those men seemed worthy of time, time exposed our interactions were better separated.
@@shelbyspellman3046 hellooooooo and I’m so happy you didn’t fall for the bait
Right. These counterfeits want to get physical quickly. Nooooo....
@@danilaroche1156 and it was so scary because one of em’ said he was in his Word… I’m thinking to myself 🤔 “what Word you in?”
Satan is definitely upping the ante. Going out of his way to harm God's children. I've been thru it all. Mostly because I was ignorant and naive. The brother I like now, I don't think he'd dream of touching me unless we were married. He's very honorable. A man of integrity. I'm just waiting on God to know if he might be my person. Pray for us. I know he's very attracted to me & especially the fact that I serve Christ. We are only on the getting to know each other stage. Just friends for now. Brother & Sis.
@@danilaroche1156 awwww I love that for you… praying God reveals if that’s your person or not 🙏🏾
I just simply bring up that I’m abstinent until marriage that gets rid of 90% of men who “claim” to be men of God
@@kittenmayz611 hello bc the real one will stay
Yep ❤
We don't casually date or do situationships here at Camp Jesus. No way!
@@danilaroche1156 hellooooo🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
Camp JESUS 😂😂😂❤
I was driving and asking God if he sent the person I have been with, waiting on marriage or not and my RUclips selected this video and started playing it! 😳😱 Wow! 7 year relationship, no marriage proposal, I need some prayers!
@@annadeines7767 no more signs
Girl, you don't need prayers.. you need to run! 😭😭 S e v e n years! Do you know, statistically men know within 6 months if they want to wed a woman? And often do so within 2 years. Habibti, if you are not (a) Rachel, whom Jacob *worked* 7 years to have the opportunity to be her husband...why are you entertaining a man for almost a decade 🤔?
Sincerely though, I just pray that God's will be done in your life and that He guides you through this ♡ but honestly lovely, the optics of that situation ain't looking good :((((. Surely there is a reason why it has been 7 years, I reckon. God bless you ♡
@@priscille1577 It is extremely complicated....lots of life & God in the mix of my story. I appreciate the comment so much!! 🤍🤍
Helppp the crying part 😂😂 not me forcing myself to think someone who makes me feel so anxious is from God
heavy on the forcing myself amen! 😭
Me too. My God
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Girl you are speaking !!!!!!!!!
Every woman in Christ needs to hear this !!!! So many other entities influence us women in Christ to go against what God has ordained for us. Thinking that another way or the shorter way is better and we pay for it in the long run.
To all women in Christ, who are waiting for their mate, I pray God gives you peace in the season that you are in and patience to wait for the man that he has created for you and you have been created for him🙏🏽
“Put your flesh under submission” is KEY!!!
I am crying. I was told to pray for my exhusand because he's going through some things
... but the other side of me thought because i was told to pray for him that we were supposed to be together. My God! You confirmed, he is just my assignment. He checks off ALL the red flags for a relationship, but i feel the need to keep him in prayer. God wants me to separate his SOUL from who he is to ME. JESUS. Thank you for this video for confirmation. I've been so confused about his behavior vs. the fact that I am led to pray for him.
Not trying to be messy, but who told you to pray for him? Was it God or a person? If it’s a person, test their spirit. I walked with my friend through 7 year tumultuous marriage that ended in divorce. She was doing well when her father ups and asks her to give him another chance because he did not want her to be alone. She honored her father’s request and the man brought more havoc into her life. I know her dad is a “Christian” in word but not deed. I told her to look at who told her to go back to him. The enemy used a familiar person (her father) to pursue her into letting that man back into her life. He almost destroyed her again! Now she is doing very well. She is spiritually strong and has her eyes and ears of discernment open.
This video was recommended to me when I first started dating my counterfeit man, but I ignored it and all the red flags too. I thought I could change him, but really I was just sent to minister to him. I know I’m nothing like the girls he’s dated in the past, but I also know that the way I live and love left a lasting impact on his life. So I guess it was a win-win😭
This video found me! I had a break a situationship with a “Godly man” and he gave me so much hope, broke my peace then lost interest after we had sex. It hurts. Thank you for the word I needed this!!! ❤
I’ve recently started reading the Bible. This video came out in the perfect timing too because I feel I’m in a season of detaching and really having discernment and seeing things for what it is.I’m still in Genesis but the fact that you’ve mentioned some of the messages I understood during my season of isolation. ❤️ God is love.
I encourage you to read a bit in old testament AND new testament. I encourage you to locate a solid church community or Bible study. Isolation is not God's will. Not for too long.
@@danilaroche1156TRUE!! 🙌🏾💯💯💯
@danilaroche1156 how do you know isolation may not be His will for HER? Everyone's journey is different, my walk may not look like yours. 🤍
It’s soooooo true when you said it shouldn’t take 3 months to lock a woman down. It only took one month before my man asked me to be his woman. But I think that also has to do with STANDING on your standards and NOT budging. The right man will respect it (and you) AND will comply/act accordingly.
I just want to add to this, that this depends on the person/people. If you have previous traumas or unsecure attachment style, you just can't move too quickly, even tho the person might be right for you. So 3 months might be good for some but others it's just too short to even start trusting someone that fast.
Just ran into a counterfeit and then this popped up on my feed. I was feeling down about how he treated me but now I know the exit was so short because I was being protected.
@@sunnni_ yesss Gods loves you that much
"You cannot fake the fruit. Judge people by their fruits. Fruit never lies. "💯 This! Its a principle of nature and its so true. I paid a heavy price for getting involved with a man of God with a good heart. Of the seven characteristics you mentioned, he had three. But the fruit of his life was rotten. A harvest of righteousness is not present. His good works and servant heart caused me to ignore reality. I was so convinced he was the man for me. He was 'for' me...until he wasn't. I too became collateral damage due to the rotting fruit of his life and those he chooses to associate with. Harsh lessons learned. But now I know how to be more discerning when inspecting for the fruit of the Spirit. Thank you for this word. ❤🙏🏾
Needed thisssssss. This is so validating because it affirms my decisions to leave the situations I left. My goal now is to work to become the woman that THIS type of man deserves 🙏
“What is gonna keep you ?” “You have to have the fear of the Lord.” That part ! This video is an answered prayer. Thanks sis 💕🫡
First time here and I love it when someone stick to God's standards. Too many people to social media and giving advise that is not Godly. A lot of them don't tell the whole truth hence sugar coat everything. If you got married and he was not saved or had sex before marriage and it worked for you don't make it a doctrine, it might not work for someone. Let's just stick to what he word says. Lets not confuse assignment to be your spouse no matter some marriages don't last yet you were busy telling you heard from God he was the one. God is not a man that he should lie. Thank you Vanessa for your honesty.
Number 4 is a big one!!!
I refuse to wait 6 months for a guy to ask me to be his “girlfriend”. With intentionality it should take no more than 3 months
No even that long
He aligns with all 6 values in this video. I’m so sure it’s him. I just keep praying for confirmation. It’s been 5 months.
@@Ffa2003 see what God says
Are you a worthwhile woman…
Your channel is helping me get back in alignment. Thank you for your obedience!
@@rheadreid God is so good🥹🙌🏾🫶🏾
The brother I like is a true brother. A real Christian. We are friendly. He's been caring, kind...thoughtful but he's moving slow. He doesn't do casual dating. Neither do I. We are both abstinent. He hasn't asked for coffee or invite to church YET. It's only been a few weeks. Am I being impatient? He's made it clear he's attracted to me.
Thank you ❤
I’m so naive even if I see the red flags. I need to step back even if they are interested and inconsistent, I need to set boundaries
Very wise words and all true. I didn’t trust God when he was showing me the signs and it just extended the time spent with someone not for me. GOD IS NOT THE AUTHOR OF CONFUSION. PLEASE trust God in ALL THINGS
This happened to me , I married him , all the red flags , every one of them& now I’m absolutely going through one of the hardest things 😢 I feel stuck & like I’m drowning. All because I idolized & rushed.
@@ohkay1976 good thing is now you know, run to God for healing and start taking care of you
This is me…
Whew I needed this sis. The celibacy journey is not easy but it’s worth it.
This came at a great time for me. I love that this is only enforcing my beliefs.
Lol i love this! Its very true! My boyfriend made me his girlfriend on the third date💕 you never have to wonder where you stand with the man God has for you!
I love this! Thanks for breaking it down. I’ve had so many counterfeits in my past life! Thank God for spiritual growth and healing. ❤
I really needed to hear this because for a long time now i have been settling for less. I have made a decision to start over and try again but with God this time around, and I believe God brought me to this video.
@@MbiyoMubita amen 🙌🏾🫶🏾
I'm literally in the midst of planning out a Word for women of God and dating. This video...just wow! God is so intentional. I love Him! Thank you for this video. So many great notes! I may need you at the conference!!!!
Thank you, Thank you; this video is a blessing and I pray people will listen; it will help stop a lot of Domestic Violence and Single parents and Vulnerable Children suffering from not having both parents together in their lives. ❤️
I needed this I met a seemingly great guy. Financially stable and comfortable, handsome. He talks about wanting the same things I do and he’s respectful but I don’t know if it’s my fears or my intuition telling me that he is judgemental and probably has a secret issue in terms of personality or behaviour that has delayed him finding a wife
Ugh he has been acting quite odd since our last phone call but it’s our first date today so god willing I am able to discern what this situation is and will be
@@jadajjlakee pray to God about it whatever is a secret will be revealed
@@jadajjlakee dont go into the date trying to find something wrong just be open minded and enjoy yourself. When you pray God will answer you don’t need to go on a date on guard sis
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I’m so thankful for this video popping up. I’m beyond heartbroken- was blindsided this weekend with a breakup text. We just came back from a vacation in Hawaii and I thought this was my best relationship ever. We were only together for a year but I finally thought I met my man of God…I know God has good plans but it hurts. God bless you ❤️
@@veronicat.3422 I’m so sorry but I want you to go into prayer about this relationship ask God the questions that on your heart
I do talk to God about who comes into my life. God showed me past relationships and it was a deal breaker. I also know that men play games. But the Bible says 1 Corinthians 7:9 But if they cannot contain let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. So I did meet someone, and I am praying to hear from God.
Your videos are so good!
Men are MADE to take responsibility of their women and family from the Day 1. If he cannot, he's not the one.
My name is RacheLeah…. My man is going to to WORK FOR ME PERIOD. He who finds a wife, finds a GOOD THING!
I wish I could like this video a miilion times! Thank you for speaking to my soul! SUBSCRIBEDDDD
The amount of peace this just brought to my spirit- thank you.
This video was so good, I had to log in and leave a comment. I was SO BLESSED by this video! Thank you for ministering to my heart in such a lovely way. I really enjoyed this video and appreciate your content. Thank you and may God bless you, sister! 💖✝
Pray for me I’m stuck dealing with my counterfeit right now. I started praying fasting giving my life back to god and he revealed this man isn’t for me I tried to stick it out because I thought I crazy. we live together separated now i just want my own space and be free to praise the lord.
I will come back here very often to listen to this! Thank you very much because I know that I am not crazy and that my priority is to seek to honor GOD and therefore I must seek a person whose priority is to honor GOD. These points spoke to me a lot! may GOD bless you ❤ new subscriber here🎉❤
The husband I had did all this but as we got to know each other his true colors came,he uplifted me but he also ignored my feelings he did a lot of gaslighting , deflecting was nice and lovable to everyone else but changed with me .
GOD is not a author of confusing, you said this two times, I am currently in a confusing relationship, I kept repeating those words before I watched this video when I think about the relationship ...
Am so weak , am not strong enough to walk away 😭
I always feel like am settling but GOD I need your strength
Sis you better teach! Amen. Let the Lord use you! This is good and well-needed for women!
Words cannot express how much I appreciate your video! I truly believe God allowed me to see this specific video at this specific time! Thank you for the clarity and wisdom provided in your video! ❤ I am glad I found your channel!
Halleluyaaaaah, praise the Lord!🎉🙌🏾☦... Shoutout to our wisdom, more marriages and fruitful relationships 🌟🤍
I am married and some of these hit home to me😢
Idk how I stumbled upon this video but it was in time. Thank you ❤
@@TheeDr.T Gods timing is perfect
#6 felt that one fr , what kinda father you want for your kids 🙌🏾
@@Africanbaddie bigggggggggg facts
God Bless you Vanessa!!🙏🏼❤❤💫 You are doing the Lord's work and it's so evident! Spreading the truth and wise counsel straight from the Word!! I watched the whole video because I was curious and I already have peace that my fiancé is from God but your video confirmed even further ☺❤🙏🏼
@@beatricederossi1601 praise God and congratulations 💕
This video clocked my tea so BAD !! Everything you listed was either happening to me or what I have been doing. Thank you
This came right on time!!! Only God’s timing ❤
Thank you soo much for your obedience. This message really hits home with the last dating experience I just had. Thankfully the Holy Spirit revealed his true intentions before I got locked in
So glad this came on my recommended videos page!
Well said Vanessa, thanks for sharing this with us🙏🏿🙏🏿❤️❤️
That's it *Iron sharpen iron* . If it is from God, everything that the man do really in allignment in what God said in His Word. Thanks You sis❤. God bless you abundantly 🙏
Yes, this was a blessing to hear I've been in prayer about this topic, and literally the signs are very clear no settling and no counterfeit are welcome we need to choose wisely
After this video, I think this was confirmation. It is comforting to know that this time, I don't have to stress that he's a counterfeit.
If I could like this video 100 times I would. This was needed 🙏🏾
You’re a blessing and reminder sis, thank you❤
@@nikkisosedity5500 😘😘
@@nikkisosedity5500 thank you 😊
wow, that's a good word. Thank you sister in Christ. I am in a single season and this is confirming past relationships. I am glad I dipped. God bless you!
@@KatKnwsBest 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Honestly, this touched me on a much deeper level than I expected. It answered so many questions I had, and I’ve been replaying the video over and over. Thank you so much for sharing this, it means a lot.
This was sooo good!! ‼️‼️
Video starts at 3:50
My shopping is at a virtual halt now.I tell God how I feel.
Thank you so much love your talks and u are truly a sister in Christ 🎀💖
@@Anikaluna555 thank you sister
I love this so much thank you sister!!♥️ “enough is enough wake up” Amen!!
Thank you so much for your video. I was with a guy and broke up with him recently, he is a non Christian. God has shown me that He does not want me with a man who is not christian, I made a mistake in the relationship, I then said that I wouldn't do it again but the guy I was seeing didn't understand why i was abstaining and it caused so much upset. It was so evident that I shouldn't be with him, but I wonder if I am there to show him God's love as he was never churched. Your video has been so helpful. Thank you. Have a lovely Christmas and many blessings to you and your family. ❤
Thank you for the message amen much needed
I have to come back to watch this completely
Thank you for Boaz checklist..🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
Am watching this again and again .. Coz I need it to sink so deep.. Deep down in my Soul❤💯📌📌🥺🙌🏽🙌🏽
This is sooo good, and right on time for my situation 😫 thank you so much!
We’re both still in each other’s lives just as friends and we’re choosing to become the man and woman God rlly is calling us to be. We’re not necessarily waiting on each other but if we end up together after maturing and growing in Christ, then so be it. I feel like this is a good idea, but I’m not sure, like maybe it’s possibly faulty idk 😭.
This was fireeeeeeee!!! I enjoyed every second ❤❤❤❤
“ I experienced it, I don’t like it , don’t recommend” 😭😂💯
God bless you for this video ❤ God answered my questions ♥️
I am a new subscriber! This video was amazing!
@@Yaya_____ thank you
I dealt with a guy in an illegal covenant. Never again. The truth is always in how they behave towards you.
This is a blessing! Great points you pointed out WOG & toped it off with the Word of God, which is exactly what we need! Glory To God!
@@MsTBrown07 🩷😘🙌🏾
@@MsTBrown07 thank you
@@Vanessa_Elaine Yes ma’am, you’re welcome! Bless you! 💕🙏🏾
And even before marriage you still have to go to counseling for three to six weeks. And if it is meant for the couple to marry that it will be.
Very insightful.❤
thank you i needed this
You are on point. 💯
TOPICS IN THE VID:
1. 3:49 he has a personal relationship with god.
2. 4:49 he has the fruit of the spirit. (love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control)
3. 8:30 he honors your body.
4. 11:59 his intentions with you are clear.
5. 14:50 he will make you a better person “iron sharpens iron”
6. 16:49 he is a man of his words.
7. 19:55 god will confirm the relationship to you and him that you’re for each other.
i have currently been with my significant other for 4 years, we are both furthering our journey with god. he introduced the love of god. we live together but before that we weren’t faithful. now my biggest thing in life is to honor god & at least marry or engage but his main thing is money to afford a ring or too feel more manly. we are currently abstinent, we still sleep in the same bed. i just feel he doesn’t understand the fact that i want to do this the right way & i understand we are growing as individuals. i believe & have faith he’s the one for me but i don’t know how to get him to understand. & then i feel wrong because my main focus should be god right now & waiting until marriage finds me. because it’s not that he doesn’t respect me, or value me, i feel like we got caught up in society instead of spirituality.
moral of the story we both need to mature
@@khyiathekreatourSame. My boyfriend and I are growing our faith. But we both have been sinning and I don’t want that. We’re trying to grow our faith individually and together. I just need him just to put more energy into God so he can better our relationship spiritually. Physically and worldly he’s perfect but he just needs more faith. Faith to lead me. I don’t know what to do.
@@kemiajohnson107 girlll, i don’t want to be the spiritual leader; thats your job. to love him is to love me better.
@@khyiathekreatour me personally will not live with a man that I’m not married to that never really works out you end up having to wait longer for the ring even if his intentions is to marry you, he will come up with excuses because not having a rain is just an excuse. You can literally go to the courthouse and get married without a ring and get the ring later if this is really love and you want to honor God with your relationship we have to stop making excuses because we want something so bad. This is not an alignment with God‘s word, and I would strongly suggest that you pray and listen to what exactly the Holy Spirit gives you and act and move quickly when God answers your questions because you have to think about it if God tells you to leave this relationship, would you wanna leave or would it be a stronghold for you to leave , you’ll risk being disobedient to God to please your flesh
My beautiful sister, you must get away. Do not put yourself in a tempting position. Fornication is very grave. I appreciate your candor. Pray. God will give you a way out. Let the Lord deal with your ex.
How do i like this a 100 times❤. 100% true!
This is crazy, the timing!! I was just praying about this
You gained a new subscriber! You broke it down so clearly. Thank you for sharing 💕
Thanks for subbing!💕🫶🏾 welcome to the family