INFP & ESTJ Couple - Very Incompatible
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- Опубликовано: 23 сен 2024
- Junon Macéus, the author of "Truth & Empathy - How to Find Your Soulmate", explores the INFP - ESTJ romantic compatibility.
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This is 💯 accurate. Great job.
Hi @Sarei93,
I'm glad that you strongly resonate with the video!
J.M.
Great topics!!
"Amen!" to time alone for INFPs.
I love being around people and being energized , instructed or giving help to others; however, then I literally need a few days to "recover", in near silence. 😂
"Partners", in the past, took my need for "me time" as rejection (or with sceptism that it was necessary).
So, naturally I've been single for a looong-looong time.
Also, I was the youngest child (and only INFP) in a fam of ISTJ parents and ESTJ siblings. Thus, being a bit of a "scapegoat" has followed me into school, and then later into diff. workplace situations. I am working on not caring what others think so much. Also I learned, recently, that emotional detachment is very freeing!! But its taken nearly a lifetime to really learn those concepts; and apply what "others" seemed to know already in "grade school". Life is beautiful every day, and I am grateful for every sunrise, sunset, and rainy day to rainbows which I get to experience. 🙏 🕊
Loving your content!!
Hi gilded.cherub,
Thank you for leaving a comment about this video.
It's good that you resonate with my channel's content.
Statistically, there are more extroverts than introverts. Therefore, most introverts feel alienated.
It seems that you found your voice and are confident in embracing your true nature. Power to you!
J.M.
I'm an INFP who had a good friend who was ESTJ (not a romantic involvement). I think we admired each other. I liked that he could be very uninhibited and outspoken, not afraid to speak his mind even to complete strangers. I wanted some of that assertiveness! And I think he felt calmed by my presence, like I was an emotional support puppy.
Hi @bakarka,
Based on your description, it seems that the person you're referring to may be an ESTP. Although ESTJs are extroverts, they are usually very traditional in their relationships - especially with strangers. Furthermore, like attracts like, and they wouldn't consider an INFP a good friend because these two personality types are too different.
J.M.
@@practicalspirituality7447 He's the only person I knew who I was sure was an ESTJ, because I tested him myself. Long story, but I think I was his only friend. He was very direct and unfiltered, also very ill, and died after about a year of friendship. I guess we got close because I went into "helper mode" as he started to depend on me more and more as his illness progressed. Like a "good INFP" I tried to be there for him, compatible or not. ;).
Hi @@bakarka,
It's difficult for me to comment because I don't know your level of MBTI expertise.
A true friendship (like any other type of personal relationship) has to be mutual. The fact that he was very different from you and quite unwell means that he couldn't reciprocate and be a friend to you.
J.M.
@@practicalspirituality7447 I guess my point is that sometimes circumstances and shared interests bring people together who might not have compatible personalities (we both played the same unusual musical instrument). He was healthy enough at first to reciprocate, and I found him highly entertaining, but who knows, had he lived we might not have stayed friends for very long. This video is about romance and it definitely wasn't that! But the title captured my attention. Thanks for your reply!
@@bakarka O.k. You're welcome!
J.M.
Infp and estj are really incompatible..
INFP dating male ESTJ 5 years now.... also his best male friend is INFP. I think it works well. Like the boss and the eager pleaser. Dad's ESTJ and it's familiar to me. I need someone strong and structured. They need someone soft and flexible.
Hi @Helium333-pj2jt,
As a rule of thumb, Thinkers can't meet Feelers' emotional and spiritual needs, which is the core of any romantic relationship.
You seem to be in a fulfilling romantic relationship - so enjoy it! However, this is the exception, not the rule.
J.M.
@practicalspirituality7447 oh he doesn't meet those needs at all no. Neither do my friends. I have to look after myself on that front. Everyone expects me to care for them and are usually outraged when I expect emotional support myself. This has been my experience my whole life.
@@practicalspirituality7447 a possible reason I talk to God more than anyone else.
@@Helium333-pj2jt A truly compatible romantic partner should meet your core emotional and spiritual needs as a Feeler.
J.M.
I'm going to have to disagree. Let me explain.
Lets adress the mbti style first.
Introversion vs extroversion is about whether one looks inward or outward, in the most basic terms. That has nothing to do with how outgoing someone is. This is one my core fundamental issues with mbti. They adopted the big 5's definition over jungian perspectives.
Next is the j/p arguement. The j and p are suppossed to represent originally whether someone had a judging or perceiveing function first, it had nothing do with how people act. The thing that makes it harder in mbti is someone decided to call infp infp because they share similar functions to the enfp, which makes it honestly much harder to understand the theory in general.
They are extremely compatible. Estj has childlike fi, therefore absorbs fi with little to no resistance, infp absorbs te with no resistsance. This does not mean these this type of relationship comes without arguements, but instead arguements are easily resolved.
Also Ne and Si are absolute perfection together.
It drives me nuts when im around another Ne user. Everytime they propose something and they keep making the proposal, im going to have to do it, even if i made the first proposal.
Si on the other hand, you make a preposal and stuff gets done, Si wants comfy envornment, Ne reaches for comfy, therefore combo keeps enviornment comfortable, and prevents outside infuence from impacting it.
And oh boy, Si is fun to flirt with. I can just glance at an si user in a funny way, and they'll playfully throw crap at me, and the conversations a comedy routine.
Hi WarmPolar,
I would suggest watching this "MBTI Typing" playlist to better understand my point of view on MBTI romantic compatibility: ruclips.net/p/PLr3DOYXKkchlotud03gT6sVvip-B26uE3
J.M.
Hi. What other mbti types have one of the best energies, besides INFPs?
Hi Aziatix'11,
Here are the MBTI personality types listed from the highest to the lowest subtle energy:
(INFJ, ENFJ, INFP, ENFP)
(INTJ, ENTJ, INTP, ENTP)
(ISFP, ESFP, ISTP, ESTP)
(ISFJ, ESFJ, ISTJ, ESTJ)
Therefore, INFJs have the highest energy, and ESTJs have the lowest.
J.M.
I’m INFP Enneagram 954 man. I’m most attracted to Ni INFJs but the energies keep us distant but strong feelings. Would ENFJ be a better match?
What do you mean by distant? I feel like if an INFJ has strong feelings for you, they would stay up all night to talk to you.
Hi Keith,
A person's sex has a minor impact on their personality type.
I recommend that long-term, like attracts like. Therefore, your most compatible romantic match would be another INFP or an ENFP. Furthermore, NFJs are very rare - especially INFJs. You have a better chance of encountering an NFP.
J.M.
@@practicalspirituality7447 i understand what you mean but these similar type relationships are very shallow and they cant give what the other craves because both have same functions. Ni seeks Ne and vice versa. Two NFPs wouldnt be satisfied together although they can have a good relationship.
Hi @@Sarei93
At least 95% of close relationships end because of irreconcilable differences. The problem has never been that people are too similar because even identical twins raised together exhibit differences in personality.
The problem is that most people are emotionally and spiritually unhealthy which puts unnecessary strain on their relationships. That's why in my book "Truth & Empathy - How to Find Your Soulmate" I suggest a variety of natural means to improve one's overall health before starting a romantic relationship.
J.M.