Why Are Some People So Annoying?
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- Опубликовано: 28 июл 2020
- We all have pet peeves. We all get annoyed by things that really don’t matter much, whether it’s someone chewing with their mouth open, or someone whispering the Rosary in an Adoration chapel-which are two things that used to be pet peeves for Fr. Mike. But he learned a better way to deal with annoyances.
Why do we get so annoyed by such petty things? It’s because being annoyed is a choice.
Fr. Mike tells a quick story about prisoners of war in Vietnam. They were put in a really small cell where they were so close together they had to sleep touching each other. The prisoners came to an agreement that if they were annoyed by something another prisoner does, the one who is annoyed is the one at fault. This helped them rise about their situation.
There are four possible choices when you’re annoyed:
1. I can choose to be annoyed. This is not recommended.
2. I can actively choose to rise above the annoyance and grow in patience.
3. I can do something about it and let it move me to positive action.
4. Instead of saying that person annoys me, I can say that person sanctifies me.
Next time you get annoyed, try numbers two through four.
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Let's all annoy the devil by praying the rosary. Who's in
Heck yeah, check out Queen of Peace Media’s RUclips channel, they’re leading a Rosary Novena for peace in our world and country from August 15- October 7th
@@jacknowak2547 Thanks for sharing! Have been wanting to do a novena for a while now
@@jacknowak2547 thanks so much!
@@richardmagale8405 If there are enough of us!!!
Well I guess annoying some people is bad.
Regardless, LOL.
When you're looking for an answer and this popped on. ☝️
Ikr!! Lol
What anime are you into
Same!
@@andrewprahst2529 hahaha. That's a random question. But yeah, my favorite is Erased. May God Bless you bro. 🙏
Bro yes! I am getting annoyed by everything and it’s really affecting me.
As soon as I saw the title I exactly thought about St. Josemaria Escriva:
"Don't say: 'That person gets on my nerves.' Think: 'That person sanctifies me.'
I literally just did a report on him; I love him.
I needed this.
That's why I annoy my friends, to sanctify them :D
🤣😂
Only if they let you.... see what I did there? 😂
@@misterhot9163 😁
Bahahaha!
Exactly! We are instruments of God 😇
Don’t worry Fr. Mike, you are not annoying.
Was gonna go off on you thought you said he was annoying
Agreed! I enjoy "my" wink at the end of Fr. Mike's videos - it emboldens me 😁.
@good listener lol exactly. We as people are an obnoxious breed overall, all of us. Some more than others in terms of degree and frequency.
The video just started and I'm already annoyed by that man.
@@SatanenPerkele You chosed to get annoyed.
When your mind is focused on God and on God only, you can’t focus on other’s defects. Sometimes it’s other people’s imperfections that highlights your vices. As an anxious introvert, spending time with my very loud and sinful family is a cross, and I realized I wasn’t patient enough. I have chosen to stay calm, accept their defaults, pray for them and spend more time with them while preaching and now they’re better catholics, praise the Lord. Or this one day I was deeply in adoration in front of the tabernacle and this lady came « whispering » her rosary super loud right next to me, I knew my patience was being tempted because I couldn’t focus well. So I have chosen to stay calm, especially in front of the tabernacle, and went back to my sit even though I would have loved to stay in the presence of my Lord a little more. Things like that, where I am being tested, make me a better catholic. I’m trying to be a saint, so I see temptation as a gift. You can’t wait for others to be perfect to be a saint. You have to accept their defaults and be patient. That’s how you change your vices into virtues. It’s always your will, your choice to overcome temptation and it only makes you spiritually stronger. Also, I’ve realized that I sin only when I am not thinking of Jesus. This is why contemplation is important. Think of Him all the time, especially when you’re tempted, and you won’t fall.
Thank you for your testimony. 👍🏻 I needed Fr. Mike’s message severely. God bless
Well said brother...💖
I have the same problem with my family, but what am I supposed to do when one of them is so blatantly sinful and agressive ?
gitsum some of the members of my middle eastern family are agressive as well and it’s a lot of suffering. Back then, when I would not accept it, I ended up suffering from 7 years of depression. But now I think of the saints (St Thérèse of Lisieux, St Gemma) and how they asked to suffer because it purifies/sanctifies your soul. It can be a reparation for your past sins. For Thérèse of Lisieux, suffering is a gift. It’s collecting treasures for eternity because in heaven these sacrifices turn into joy you enjoy for eternity. More suffering on earth more joy in heaven (remember the 8 beatitudes). St Teresa of Calcutta said the true way to humility is accepting injustice. My parents are very severe and everything they say would make anyone angry. Sometimes it looks as if they act this way only to make me go crazy. But I just laugh and even ask for more of their unjust reprimands while trying to enjoy these like St Thérèse. Plus, they’re the family God gave me, I have to deal with it with respect and patience in order to help them become saints too. God is just and He will reward us for all these efforts. Finally, remember following Christ is following Him on the cross. An agressive family like St Rita’s husband, is a cross. Take it and embrace it, you’ll be rewarded. Think of saints, read their stories, most of them suffered and had multiple crosses.
@@spicyrosie2 your writing helped me to strenghten my spirit! God bless😇
I say “I am sure they are doing the best they can. I wish them well.” It makes think differently
We are studying humans in my university here in Mars and this just helped with my thesis a lot.
I'm intrigued.
Hey buddy,
Human 101
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The Church is now “Universal” in every sense
It’s the worst when someone constantly tries to annoy you on purpose. My brother literally told me that he makes it a point to annoy me as much as possible.
In that case my whole family is like that and wonder why I stop talking to them as much. Maybe its you who the problem.
Thank you Father Mike, you make great points as usual. When a noise begins to annoy me, I thank God for the ability to hear and within minutes, I am no longer annoyed. Even if the noise continues.
He makes the most complicated things sound simple and ends the video by saying "maybe the wink is annoying." How can I be as simple as him? Love you Father.
"Why would I let that steal my peace?
I can rise above it.
I can exercise patience and understanding.
I can do somth about it.
Let it move it into something positive.
That person SANCTIFIES me."
We all have our limits, a breaking point. Why do I have to be broken? BTDT
I am a Protestant. And I love the Lord. I just feel really lost and discouraged. I don’t understand Catholicism. But I want to follow the Lord. And if that’s his church I need to convert.
Right now our church needs good faithful people. May you open your heart and hear the Lord. Ask him to guide you to a good place to start. May I suggest you pick up a catechism of the Catholic church. It will help you with all the lies about our faith. (It includes lots of scripture) God bless
@@toynoob2051 lies about the faith ???
bernice canty I mean I’m clueless about what the Catholic Church teaches.
toynoob I feel like if I don’t find Gods true church I would become agnostic. Because I was so happy in my church but I don’t know something in me said something is missing. Hopefully I understand everything soon.
@@bernicecanty721 you have never been told Catholics worship Mary, worship idols, don't read the Bible, are satanic, etc? Really? I mean there are books of lies written against Catholics, what planet you live on?
Fr. Mike always has the best thumbnail faces.
Just got really annoyed with my mom two seconds before this popped up...that is Gods Grace man! Thank you!
Me too! Just got annoyed by a classmate, and this pop up in my feed. It's God's grace! After watching this video, I prayed Hail Mary 3 times and I felt so much better..! Thank you Fr Mike!
Been getting very annoying of late , with 🌍 matters but it creeps onto loved ones ... God's Grace.
My students would say “you are making me salty” 🤣. My husband and I use the term sanctifying when we annoy each other. And then I say-“thanks for making me Holy!”😇
I think my constant annoyance with others for various reasons is related to my lack of humility. A Priest told me about the Litany of Humility (a short prayer) to pray when I have these feelings.
@Deary Me Exactly humility is not being a doormat
@Deary Me Thank you for pointing out my shortcomings and lack of humility. I apologize to you and all others for my egotistical slant. As you can see, it is a constant battle for me!
Maybe I need that since I find people who seem less intelligent annoying.
Yes, I struggle terribly with pride and I am frequently annoyed with people.
What I’ve come to learn is that my pride makes me feel as though people should treat me like a special princess. Therefore, if someone does something that bothers me, I’m like HOW DARE YOU!!!! I am the great princess of the land!!!
Humility and therefore obedience are difficult for me.
I’m annoyed being annoying
Ughh Fr. Mike how do you just know???!! The very thing that I struggle with on the daily only to realize that I have allowed the action instead of practicing patience or better understanding of why it has become annoying.
Remember we ourselves do things that annoy others. We all have to look at the beam in our own eyes.
"This person sanctifies me." - Jose Maria Escriva. Thank you, Fr. Mike Schmitz.
Thank you for this. I needed it. I truly think I’m affected by misophonia and happen to be married to someone who is just noisy for no reason; chews with mouth open, rattles the ice in his glass with every sip, smacks his lips after every sip, yawns loudly, etc. I’m annoyed with anyone who does this but living with it drives me nuts! 😂😂😂
These videos come right when I need them. I have been praying and praying for an answer to the struggle I have with patience and it’s hard but it is a choice. God bless
When I get annoyed, I offer it up to our Lord along with my other sufferings, joys, works and prayers of my day.
Fr Mike. I have been battling with getting annoyed by the smallest things. Thank you for this. God bless you.
I am hyper aware of my kids' behavior in church. Several people have told me they enjoy seeing my family. However, 20+ years ago, I apologized to the elderly man behind me for the kids being rowdy. He chewed me out as if I was doing nothing to curb the wiggles. It has caused me to be more defiant about remaining in the church with my kids, and when I see other parents struggle, it causes me to offer up prayers for them to retain their patience and peace. And I have gone up to them to encourage them to keep bringing the kids. Eventually they learn.
God allows us to choose,our actions & it's consequences make us accountable. Thank you Fr. Mike😃🕊
🤩🤩🤩 Soooo true and just what I needed, thank you Fr Mike!!!
I'm sorry I often mouth words while praying but now I feel very self conscious 😂😂 I have some trouble keeping attention and it helps a lot, otherwise my thoughts will just fly and I can't focus. But I'll try to be 100% quiet guys lol
Makes me think of a really interesting experience from a silent retreat. I'm pretty sensitive when it comes to receiving 'vibes' from others, and I don't know how much of that is kind of real chemistry and how much it's "just me". However, at this retreat there was another person who really got under my skin. Being on a retreat, I brought this up with God, and tried to transform the disturbance into a prayer for that person.
But after a few days I almost began feeling stalked. It's like no matter where I went to pray, they'd show up soon after. So I began staying in my room to pray. The other person wasn't noisy or anything, their presence just got to me in a way that made it hard to me to focus. And I couldn't really bring it up, because it was a silent retreat and it would also be rude. Staying in my room was just the best option.
But then the last full morning I noticed the other person arriving to breakfast just as I was leaving. So I immediately went to my favorite praying spot of the retreat center. A few minutes later, the other person was there, too, and at that point I really got annoyed. I saw them arrive to have breakfast but then they'd obviously changed their mind.
Well, so I prayed a lot for that other person - again - to keep myself from getting all negative about it. And then, when the silence ended the next day, that person came to me and told me that they were so happy to see me again that morning that they'd decided to postpone breakfast to pray close to me:
"You were nowhere to be found for several days, but I noticed the first days when we where always praying at the same places, that my prayers were so peaceful and rewarding. I really missed that and tried to find you, so I'm happy I finally did. I'm sure that God was leading me to you. Did you have the same experience?"
That was a difficult question to answer because I didn't want to tell them that I got close to the point of feeling stalked and violated. I was relieved that I wasn't sending them "f*ck off"-vibes but it was a bit scary to learn that they'd followed me because I somehow enhanced their prayers while I basically just felt disturbed.
So I guess that although I agree that we can choose how to react, we can't just choose how we feel - only how we deal with what we feel. And when we can feel annoyed by one person and not another one doing the same it might not be just a matter of our own choices but also some differences in these "vibes" between people.
but you were right, that person was low key stalking.
Thank you father Mike🙏🏼❤️ I NEEDED THIS!! I struggle with being easily annoyed by people!
Father I canNOT picture you being easily annoyed! Lol oh my goodness you literally just described my experience being annoyed in Adoration with the annoying lip smacking 🤣🤣🤣 I needed your truth today🙏
Another helpful thought- meditate on how frequently you annoy others.
I had a smile on my face the entire time that I watched... When people annoy you. Thank you for your words of wisdom, I will give it a try. YOU ROCK!! May God bless you and keep you healthy, safe and strong in body, mind and Spirit.
This is so comforting to know even you can get annoyed at silly things too!! Thank you!!
I think another tip is to remember that we most likely have something annoying about ourselves and should show the same patience, tolerance and understanding to others that we'd want to be shown.
I think we can all relate!! Great video father!! 🙌🏼❤️🙏🏼
So needed to hear this! Have been annoyed for a week about something out of my control.
Thank you Fr. Mike! ❤❤❤
Thanks Father Mike, i needed that. Came at the right time. God bless
This particular video is soooooo appropriate for me today. Definitely applies to me personally today. Thank you Father Mike
Thank you Fr. Mike, this is what I needed to listen. I'm not a patient person anymore, great advice.
I totally needed this.I don't recall being annoyed by little things all the time, but ever since going back to work after quarantine I feel like I lose it over the smallest things.
Thank you Father Mike! Words of wisdom
As a person that struggles with anger...thank you
Thank you Fr. Mike! I'm blessed to hear this one.
"It's my fault in getting annoyed." - will take it by heart
Father Mike you are hysterical....I was not annoyed by this message but it hit home. Thank you for this 🙏🏼
Wooww!! I just needed to hear this RN during Quarantine. Thank you so much FR. this really makes a lot of sense.
So helpful for me today. Something just happened that made me annoyed at someone. You're right. I need to make a conscious choice to not be annoyed. Thanks so much!
Awesome advice and very timely I might add! Bless you Fr Mike for your wonderful guidance. ✝️💜
Thank you Fr Mike. I needed this! God bless
Fr Mike, I *needed* this video today. Thank you!!
Thank you... Fr Mike ✝️🙏🏻
Excellently said and presented, Fr. Mike! Thank you.
I was so annoyed with my neighbour and listening to you, Fr Mike, just changed my perspective of the whole incident. You are right, allowing someone to annoy you is a choice, and I can do something about it. Thank you! God bless you!
I found myself coming back to this video a couple times as reminders for myself, I've found myself easily annoyed by people around me. Thanks Father Mike!
Good advice Father! I have really worked on not getting annoyed by people who talk super fast, like a preteen at the mall, whom I can hardly understand, because they talk so fast that it sounds like mumbling.. I have decided to rise above it, and that is why I was able to listen to this very good advice! 👍🏼
Beloved Fr. Mike , Thanks for using every gift and countless talents the Blessed Lord has given to You, for the building up of the Kingdom of Heaven on Earth! An Outstanding Shepard for the Lord ! I just sent this podcast on being annoyed by others, to my ten year old Grandson . John Paul is annoyed far to often by those around him! This message will surely help Him overcome it! John Paul reminds me of You , Talks fast, he’s an actor, handsome and Loves the Lord! All Gods Greatest Blessings ! Very grateful In Jesus & Mary , Kathy
I am easily annoyed, but father is right, being annoyed is reaction to others behavior, it's a choice. Basically, one can change one's own behavior, but not others, so what's the point. God bless you!
Hi fr. Mike so good to hear u now and then. Ú r so practical. The talks r so very practical and inspiring. Thanks father.
Dear Fr. Mike, thank you for this video. I really needed to hear it.
God bless you Father Mike. My family and I are so blessed to hear your sermons and seminars over the past many months. Thank you for your intelligent, insightful and most spiritually moving talks that you do. As a mother with a child with cerebral palsy I have learned so much about patience and compassion. I am so blessed that God has put me on this path alongside my son. I have grown so much closer to the Lord since the moment he gifted me with Bryson and I will forever be grateful and know he is so very real. ✝️💜 Our God is Awesome!!!
Thank you Father Mike!
Clicked instantly 😂
Exactly, when you are annoyed, it's not them it's you.
Such great advice to rise above...not easy, but nothing ever worth it is...
I needed to hear this right now. Apparently, I annoyed someone at work when trying to help out the team during a stressful situation; the annoyed person spoke out against me in front of another coworker, who later told me that they did not like what the annoyed person said.
It helps me to see it from my annoyed coworker's point of view, and it reminds me to rise above it and not allow it to take away peace. And I'm hopeful that it'll help sanctify me to move past it and continue to love my annoyed coworker. Great advice to carry in our daily lives! Thanks for making this video!
Well, wasn’t this the perfect topic as we are all in the Twilight Zone of Coronavirus! Luckily, I can escape upstairs to create jewelry. My hubby goes biking, running or puttering in his garage fixing bikes. When he first retired, I had a big problem with annoyance. I could have used this video back then!
Listening to your words intently as my cat meows at me insistently! 😂🤣 love your videos Padre! God bless.
Thank you Fr. Mike
Appreciate your time & videos
Blessings
very convicting. I really needed this message
My friend irritates me to the point she's actually lucky to be alive. While we're sitting having a good conversation over a cup of coffee she will start tapping on the table tap-tap tap-tap-tap on and on and getting louder as she emphasises a point. I have even resorted to grabbing her hands and holding them still. But she's such a wonderful person and one of my closest friends and I love her to bits so I have not caused her any physical harm. Lord have mercy and help me to be gentle, patient and kind
Very applicable to me, lol. The noise of people’s lips moving when they’re praying is my fingernails on the chalkboard noise, it agitates me so much. I try to focus on praying for the person when it happens so I can be somewhat constructive.
you are lucky to have such tiny problems to live with.
That really annoys me too, I’ve even took earplugs to the chapel before now. 😉
Sometimes I felt like Father mike is my guardian angel.
He hears my prayers and giving me the response through ascension presents words of wisdom..
Thank you father mike ❤
If. U. Say. So
Thanks Father Mike! Very good examples of what annoy us and how we should react!! Greetings from Panama!!!
Love you Fr. Mike!
Something my confessor told me once was, I brought up the problem of me being annoyed by things and how I pray for patience, but it seems to never be enough. He told me I didn’t need to pray for patience rather for love. We need more love in our hearts, it’s been so life changing to pray with that! I hope this helps someone :)
Thank you!! I struggle with this and question why I am annoyed at these petty things!
Thank you Father Mike I love it!🌻♥️
This video made me feel better, I thought I was the only one that get annoyed and is trying to work on it.
Can totally relate...I suffer from misophonia disorder. It was only triggered really by a certain way my mom would pronounce certain words. It absolutely killed me and I never told her because I didn't want her to feel uncomfortable around me, I loved her too much. Sometimes I couldn't help but express some kind of annoyance and I felt so horrible about it because I could tell she would notice. She never said anything about it. My mom passed away a month ago so I figure now she knows why and I've said sorry to her during my prayers for her soul on a few occasions. It is a horrible thing to have. Sometimes I wish she was still alive, well I wish she was still alive regardless, but I also wish she was still here to say certain words that triggered me so I could offer up the suffering I was feeling for something good. I think I wasted a lot of those opportunities. But I agree annoyance can be a choice, but having misophonia makes it EXTREMELY difficult. But yes, choosing not to be annoyed can be done at the end of the day.
My condolences, may she rest in peace.
I sympathize. I have this condition as well and it is VERY difficult. We can only do so much. God knows our ailment which in turn affects our culpability. Don't be so hard on yourself and do the best you can.
Is there a way not to get annoyed at an action with Misophonia? I think I have it too and I hate mouth noises and it angers me so much that it hurts…
Your mother loved you. She would not want you to think she's carrying anger about that. She's in a peaceful place now and all she is thinking of is her love for you.
Great message dear Father.
If people are annoying,it’s a aspect in one self unresolved
Thanks father i needed to hear that. god bless. We love you.
Thank you Father Mike, this is very helpful!🙂🙏
Annoyance takes place as a way for God to reveal the imperfections in our lives... those things that we need to become aware when we’re not loving. Be aware of those situations and annoyance will go away. He will bring another annoyance for you to work on. This is a life long journey for us to see our imperfections. Without them we never grow in holiness.
Ugh. Makes me feel terrible. To think about how many times I didnt choose love. I'm such an imperfect being 😭😢 Lord have mercy on my soul.
Thank You Father I needed to hear this today.
So grateful for your videos!
Inspiring as always ! Thank you Ascension Presents Team for always teaching me a lot of useful and amazing things. My favorite channel!
Father you taught me a lesson today📝. Will follow ✝️your guidance 🌹. Thank you Father Mike🙏. God bless you💒.
Great advice, thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you so much for another super super helpful talk. Love it. Using the times when I’m annoyed (which sadly happens a lot in my work) to ask God to use it to sanctify me. 💛🙏 Thank you 🙏 ☺️
Thanks FR Mike 😁
Thank you!! This was top notch. I will try this approach next time I'm around an annoying person.
Father Mike you are so right!!!!!! Gracias father!!!! I love to hear your Beautiful advice and knowledge! God bless you!!!!!!
😳 Wow! I need to watch this many times. Thanks Father Mike 😊
Woah, that's a really good topic to tell and lean, because as people that we are get annoyed by something so little is soo easy ,but we need to grow in patience, and tolerance of the things other people do using that for the better and growing on the lord.
Advice I needed.... thank you. And something I need to work on. I am not there yet but I will try.... thank you Father Mike.
You speak about all things that concern humans and do it in such a funny way...May The Lord pour all His Blessings on you.
Excellent advise, very useful! Thank you Father. Anna