Definitely agree with James when he said you can't take a break from thinking about the person and the hurt, but eventually it starts to not hurt as much. I was so sure I had met the man I was going to marry, but he broke up with me and I was heartbroken. I think it's important to know it's okay and healthy to grieve a relationship. It's a loss. You lose someone you were close to and a future you might have had. Any loss can carry grief with it (relationships, friendships, jobs, etc.)
I met the woman that was thought to be my future wife: a hot, lefty redhead. We both have nearly the same spiritual beliefs , but she broke up with me 2x, distance dating, when I visited her in Barrow, AK, with a chaperone and in-person, in Nebraska. She, with 0 legit reasons then and now, wanted to be in charge of our family, be the breadwinner, etc., -----IF----- we had married; God didn't design, intend or create women to fill that roll after marriage. That's the man's responsibility.
I'm 22 and I've never even been persued by a guy, let alone ever been in a relationship, and I often wonder if I'm even lovable... Thanks for this, it really helped.
Yes you are loveable, a special person. You are worth it. Just wanted to comment so that you know you are special and try to enjoy life even without a guy in it. And when a great one comes around, that will be an awesome experience too.
I'm so glad this could help!! I personally know quite a few women who are in the same boat as you, and have those same questions. They are AMAZING women (as I'm sure you are too!!) but it's so easy to doubt yourself in some moments. I'm praying you remember just how loved and worthy you are!! 🤗🤗
Me either. People assume just because you're nice, pretty, skinny, and outgoing, guys are knocking down your door to ask you out. Not true (in my case either). I've never really been asked out or had a bf before. Lol.
I was literally just talking to the Lord last night, and told Him how I really desire to be married and have children before he returns😂. I know it wouldn't matter to me if he did return, infact that would be great! But I just told Him how I really want to have a family of my own before he returns 😂 I also struggle with wishing I was like those really skinny outgoing girls. I'm naturally a lot more quiet and tend to not have a lot of friends because of that. And people tend to stay away from girls like me rather ther than girls who talk a lot.
That is so funny you JUST had that conversation with God! I love the timing!! 😂 And I hear you - it's so easy to wish we were like someone else! I definitely have struggled with that! Meeting James and seeing how much he liked those parts of me that I didn't, has helped so much.
"What I would say about online dating, it's kinda like shopping at the thrift store, there are some great finds there but you have to be willing to go through the rack" that was such an unexpectedly perfect analogy I snorted when I laughed
I was a judgemental person too. I used to be shallow when it comes to what type of body of women I am attracted to. Every woman's body is different, and God made them the way He wanted. He is the artist. Women are a work of His art!
So perfect! I love both you and James’ honesty! I especially love the last question and James’ assurance that God doesn’t keep you single because there’s something wrong with you! Thank you for this gift! ❤️
The anxiety/fear question could have been word for word a question my boyfriend would have asked. Well he broke up with me a week ago because he just couldn’t get peace and he was struggling to know why. I thought for sure God was bringing us together but I knew it would be tough because of some relationship trauma in his past. I don’t know if we’ll ever get back together or not but it was encouraging to me to hear someone else say that maybe they just need healing in their own heart and it’s not always the Holy Spirit telling you it’s not the right person!
That was my situation in reverse. Everything lined up and made sense, and he was sure I was the one.I just could never come to terms with spending the rest of my life with him, and didn’t have peace about it deep down. Never knew why. Breaking up with him was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, and to this day I think more highly of him than almost anyone, respect him, and care about his well-being. It’s so tough but sometimes it just doesn’t work out. Hang in there and I hope you find peace!!
And to the healing thing - yes, if I could make sure my ex-boyfriend knew one thing, it’d be that it wasn’t a deficiency in him! I had a ton of healing and growth to do and wasn’t in a good place to get married. He came into my life and started me on that journey, but unfortunately wasn’t a part of the rest of it. I so value that though and I’m sure your former s/o values you!!
Both of these videos were so refreshing! As someone who has never been on a date, I have quite a bit of anxiety about going on one. And it was encouraging to know that I’m not the only one who fantasizes and daydreams.
James' words are always so filled with wisdom. I love you guys, and his insights! When he mentioned his heartbreak with the girl, it was encouraging to see that wow he went through that but look him now! He has a beauuutifuulll wife and God was faithful. And yes, thank you for saying God is not punishing us. I have believed this, for someone who is 30 years old. This is bringing freedom!
6:30 Ahh yes. Ouch. Just turned 25 yesterday and it was the hardest thing. I just feel like my life is slipping by without a deep relationship and it’s so frustrating!
That anxiety/ fear question wasn't mine, but it could've been! Word for word my situation. Thank you SO much for your transparency in your answers. Its so helpful. 💕
#3-6 😵 that’s totally me! Thank you for encouraging me! Some days it feels hopeless and I have to actively push away the enemy’s lies that I’m not worthy or good enough for someone to love me! I’m also curious about the results of the emails! It would be a great story for someone in the future 😂
Oh my goodness I hear you on that daily, actively pushing away those lies. I definitely struggled with that too. Some days are really tough!! And I will definitely keep you guys posted about the emails! I still have to finish reading them all!! hahaha
I can’t explain how much I appreciate you guys. I am not a Christian anymore, and was never really that into it before when I was a believer. I had pre marital sex with my now husband, I am bi sexual, Go out drinking often, just sin daily unapologetically (because I don’t believe in sinning) and somehow I watch you guys and absolutely love and look up to you guys. I believe in just being happy and having your own set of morals that feel best for you. Most Christian RUclipsrs especially the husbands are judgey and holier than thou. You two are awesome and James doesn’t treat you like he’s your boss and like you can’t think for yourself. You can see how much he thinks you’re so intelligent and doesn’t act like he has to think for you, and most importantly you two don’t shame others. You guys are the only hope I have for being religious again and I would want to be just like you guys. Not like girl defined or Paul and Morgan... :/ much love!
Awwww!!! This comment totally made my day! Thank you so much for sharing this with me!! I'm so glad you enjoy our videos! I definitely get super annoyed when people's husbands act like the boss of them 🙄 and I think God really wants us to ENJOY LIFE!!! Just like I want my daughter to enjoy the beautiful playroom I put together for her, and to laugh, and to be so happy. And sometimes as Christians we just get so serious and think that's what it means to be holy. Nothing could be farther from the truth!!! Thank you for sharing this!!
if you want more religious dating advice, i recommend emily wilson and jamie grace. they truly seem to care, and are humble and kind. i get wanting to avoid paul and morgan. I've never heard of girl defined, but if you put them in the same category as p&m, I'll make sure to not watch any of their videos. thanks for the warning! i prayed that you would know God's love for you♥️
So helpful. Truly advice that won't "be heard at Church." So glad I don't have to only turn to secular sources to fill a void that I want my faith to be a part of.
On Eharmony right now. I met someone and we clicked well, but I'm a little worried as she's only messaged me on average maybe once a week. I know she's got a busy schedule, but it's still a little concerning. Haven't found them on any social media, but I'm pretty sure I'm not being catfished since we've discussed things that only a local would know and stuff about her own upbringing and church which I know some guy in their mom's basement wouldn't be making up. Working through some insecurity, but I'm a lot better at that now as a result of practice with past relationships. Oh, and James was right about the online dating thrift store analogy. I either see nice looking people that don't over do the makeup that are super conservative (Which unfortunately is an indicator of who they vote for), or people who are trying way to hard with the makeup it feels so fake. Also hardly anyone does a good bio on who they are or what they are looking for, so it makes me less likely to send them a message if I don't know anything going in. And yep relationships going south are like the 5 stages of grief if you had all your eggs in that one basket and then they check out. At least James's was only 3 months. 3 years and thinking they are the love of your life takes a while to heal from.
You guys have so much wisdom to offer, and as a young Christian woman, I value that so much. These topics are not openly discussed that much, and I love your comfortable atmosphere and kind attitude.
Having never had a relationship before, your and James' responses have been addressing many of the thoughts and questions that I've often talked to God about, but felt alone in having during my own singleness. Thanks so much for these two parts (so far) - I really hope more are possible! I mean, there were 800 questions after all... ;)
" Is it wrong that I hope to get married before Jesus returns"... I have never felt less alone in my life!! I thought I was crazy for that thought. God bless you alllllll for sending that in and Tiffany for reaffirming that she did it too!!!
What about physical attraction that fluctuated? With my previous relationship, I felt attracted to him when I was happy and thriving, but sometimes when sad or stressed, I didn’t find him physically attractive. I also felt an incredibly strong connection intellectually and spiritually. But I ended up breaking it off after 15 months because I didn’t have all of the “romantic feelings” that he did. Has anyone else experienced this???🤨
That's such a great question!! I had a boyfriend that was a slightly different situation - but my emotions for him fluctuated day by day. I talk about it more in this video - hopefully it can help in some way! 🤗 - ruclips.net/video/ym2Cg3zRumE/видео.html
Wow, so much in this helps solidfy my understanding of why the man I loved so deeply gave up on our relationship and future together...the anxiety and fear masquerading as needing a sign from God. There was a lack of peace i was unaware of, on his end. I still care about him in a special way. But I can attest to the fact that online dating can work. Its not for everyone and very much like thrifting which i love lol. There are a lot of nos to root out. Just like meeting in person. And the plus is that you can ask lots of good and challenging questions before meeting up, to know if they are indeed safe to start liking and forming a bond with. Because chance meetings tend to give reign to our emotional lead very easily. Anyway. .i met a man via online dating, who is godly and kind and has been incredibly healing for my heart. We plan to get married as soon as we do some counselling with his pastor❤️ wait for the right one and dont settle and relax your standards. God is able. And no matter what, live the one life God gave you, to the full
Loved the video!! I'm 19 and have never been in a relationship but I know I'm young and I got time! Also, I don't know if you've ever done a video about this but could u do one specifically about Adult Dating. Whenever we had 'date' night at youth group and stuff we always talked about like dating in groups and about dating while young, but nothing about how to Christian date when you're older.
I had a gut feeling in my previous relationship and it turns out he wanted to break up. I really liked him, so I told God if the feeling was from him that he would have to close the door. God still speaks through gut feelings.
When I'm around guys in person I feel pretty good at letting their character define their attractiveness and not getting too hung up on their physical characteristics. That's what makes online dating so hard though! I don't know their character, barely get a hint of their personality, and am pretty much just left with a set of pictures with which to make a decision. I probably wouldn't try online dating but there are almost no single guys (less than 5) at work and church so I feel stuck.
Thank you for this wonderful video. Another question that is a lot on my mind...what if you believe you Got over someone and believe you are ready for a net relationship and in The New one you begin thinking of The former...what if you Did not get over for real?
What about when it comes to how we dress? It feels like there's more pressure on the woman to dress a certain way. I tend to be quite casual but still have somewhat of a style I like and feel good in. I'm sure everyone must have days when they're more casual than others but I've had a couple comments and it's frustrating because I don't want to be self conscious and I shouldn't have to be constantly worried if someone's going to like what I'm wearing. Of course I make effort on the right occasion like a date but I just hope I find someone who doesn't mind that I'm not a complete girly girl. Never have been but also can pull off a gorgeous dress with natural beauty, not covered in make up or jewellery.
What if it's the other way around. The person thinks you have great character and many godly qualities and absolute amazing personality (specifically, sense of humour, intelligence, selflessness, dedication and drive) that any person would admire but not attracted to you? Do you wait for that attraction to develop, focus more on your appearance, or do you just move on? Can you even change or develop attraction or is that just some innate quality you just have to have?
I think you should just move forward and just get closer with God and focus on him trust he has more for you and someone waiting specifically for you in his timing....
As a girl who has been single since birth, this is a fear, especially in 2020 with all the crap going on. I hope it is not the start of the end. Furthermore, all my friends in my young adult group are starting to couple up. I am content in the Lord, but it hurts when girls younger than me are chosen. I am skinny and outgoing too, but no dates. I am 5’10 and I feel like the guys like the shorter, curvy girls. Nothing against them by the way. Also, I feel like there are WAYY more girls than guys in Christian circles. Maybe I should try online dating once Covid is over? I am an almost twenty three year old graduate student.
Girl! You got time! I’m about to be 33 and still single. Before it use to bother me but now it’s been the best thing! Go take cooking or dance classes; travel (when covid is gone); finish grad school; get your career, save money, and do anything for self development. Use up your singleness to do as much as possible. You got your whole future to be with someone. Don’t postpone adventures until you find the right one. Make memories and stories to tell him when you guys begin dating.
Ester I love this!! - "Don’t postpone adventures until you find the right one. Make memories and stories to tell him when you guys begin dating." - Amazing advice!!
Mary T I’ve heard and met people who have had their disadvantages in many areas but still managed to do what they want. The limitation at times depends on your perspective.
lol, I actually had that same mind set for a long time too. But then just few months ago I had this huge crush on a guy from my youth and I prayed about it for weeks and I felt like God was telling me I needed to tell him how I felt, so I did and it went great!
A bunch of you ladies!! Now I need to finish reading them (amazing emails!) and find some more bachelors in other parts of the country/world to auction off 😍😍
Lovely message. Whoever is reading this God is going to break every chain that has been hindering your progress Trust and have faith in Him
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thank you for this message of encouragement!
I receive it in the name of Jesus!!
Thanks for saying that God is not punishing you with Singleness so you can work on yourself. Needed to hear that!
Right?! I needed to hear that too when I was in my single 20s!!
I totally agree! We can definitely use our time of singleness to work on area we need to grow in, but that’s not the reason we’re single!
Kinda random but I love how comfortable you two are with talking about your past relationships in front of each other
Yup
Awww thank you!! 🤗🤗
Definitely agree with James when he said you can't take a break from thinking about the person and the hurt, but eventually it starts to not hurt as much. I was so sure I had met the man I was going to marry, but he broke up with me and I was heartbroken. I think it's important to know it's okay and healthy to grieve a relationship. It's a loss. You lose someone you were close to and a future you might have had. Any loss can carry grief with it (relationships, friendships, jobs, etc.)
I love how you said this: "I think it's important to know it's okay and healthy to grieve a relationship. It's a loss." YES!!
I met the woman that was thought to be my future wife: a hot, lefty redhead. We both have nearly the same spiritual beliefs , but she broke up with me 2x, distance dating, when I visited her in Barrow, AK, with a chaperone and in-person, in Nebraska. She, with 0 legit reasons then and now, wanted to be in charge of our family, be the breadwinner, etc., -----IF----- we had married; God didn't design, intend or create women to fill that roll after marriage. That's the man's responsibility.
Would you still love James if he was impotent? I've lost alot bc of that
I'm 22 and I've never even been persued by a guy, let alone ever been in a relationship, and I often wonder if I'm even lovable... Thanks for this, it really helped.
Yes you are loveable, a special person. You are worth it. Just wanted to comment so that you know you are special and try to enjoy life even without a guy in it. And when a great one comes around, that will be an awesome experience too.
I'm so glad this could help!! I personally know quite a few women who are in the same boat as you, and have those same questions. They are AMAZING women (as I'm sure you are too!!) but it's so easy to doubt yourself in some moments. I'm praying you remember just how loved and worthy you are!! 🤗🤗
Haha, oh man. Thing is I'm skinny and outgoing and I seriously never get asked out. So that whole things not always true for us either.
That's such a great point!! Thank you so much for sharing and adding this!!
I used to be skinny and didnt get asked out by any christian guys lol
Me either. People assume just because you're nice, pretty, skinny, and outgoing, guys are knocking down your door to ask you out. Not true (in my case either). I've never really been asked out or had a bf before. Lol.
I was literally just talking to the Lord last night, and told Him how I really desire to be married and have children before he returns😂. I know it wouldn't matter to me if he did return, infact that would be great! But I just told Him how I really want to have a family of my own before he returns 😂
I also struggle with wishing I was like those really skinny outgoing girls. I'm naturally a lot more quiet and tend to not have a lot of friends because of that. And people tend to stay away from girls like me rather ther than girls who talk a lot.
That is so funny you JUST had that conversation with God! I love the timing!! 😂 And I hear you - it's so easy to wish we were like someone else! I definitely have struggled with that! Meeting James and seeing how much he liked those parts of me that I didn't, has helped so much.
"What I would say about online dating, it's kinda like shopping at the thrift store, there are some great finds there but you have to be willing to go through the rack" that was such an unexpectedly perfect analogy I snorted when I laughed
Hahahaha!! I'm so glad!!
I was a judgemental person too. I used to be shallow when it comes to what type of body of women I am attracted to. Every woman's body is different, and God made them the way He wanted. He is the artist. Women are a work of His art!
I love that - "He is the artist. Women are a work of His art." Beautiful!
If god chooses someone for you,he will definitely make sure your attracted to them
These questions were the EXACT questions that I've had but didn't know how to ask and you answered wonderfully. Thank you!
Ohhh yay!! That makes me so happy!!
So perfect! I love both you and James’ honesty! I especially love the last question and James’ assurance that God doesn’t keep you single because there’s something wrong with you! Thank you for this gift! ❤️
I'm so glad it could encourage you! that makes me so happy!!
“I didn’t ask you those questions” ohhh 🙌🙌🙌 so Good! God is good.
The anxiety/fear question could have been word for word a question my boyfriend would have asked. Well he broke up with me a week ago because he just couldn’t get peace and he was struggling to know why. I thought for sure God was bringing us together but I knew it would be tough because of some relationship trauma in his past. I don’t know if we’ll ever get back together or not but it was encouraging to me to hear someone else say that maybe they just need healing in their own heart and it’s not always the Holy Spirit telling you it’s not the right person!
That was my situation in reverse. Everything lined up and made sense, and he was sure I was the one.I just could never come to terms with spending the rest of my life with him, and didn’t have peace about it deep down. Never knew why. Breaking up with him was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, and to this day I think more highly of him than almost anyone, respect him, and care about his well-being. It’s so tough but sometimes it just doesn’t work out. Hang in there and I hope you find peace!!
And to the healing thing - yes, if I could make sure my ex-boyfriend knew one thing, it’d be that it wasn’t a deficiency in him! I had a ton of healing and growth to do and wasn’t in a good place to get married. He came into my life and started me on that journey, but unfortunately wasn’t a part of the rest of it. I so value that though and I’m sure your former s/o values you!!
Both of these videos were so refreshing! As someone who has never been on a date, I have quite a bit of anxiety about going on one. And it was encouraging to know that I’m not the only one who fantasizes and daydreams.
You're definitely not alone - either in the anxiety area, or the daydream area! So glad this could encourage you! 🤗
These two videos have been so encouraging to me!! Thank you so so much!
I'm so glad!!! 🙌🙌
I love your openness and transparency. It’s so needed in the Christian community.
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Great message great to see both of you are doing good. You both seem you love each other very much.
James' words are always so filled with wisdom. I love you guys, and his insights! When he mentioned his heartbreak with the girl, it was encouraging to see that wow he went through that but look him now! He has a beauuutifuulll wife and God was faithful. And yes, thank you for saying God is not punishing us. I have believed this, for someone who is 30 years old. This is bringing freedom!
YES I'm so happy this could bring FREEDOM! It's so easy to think we're being punished but we're not!!
6:30 Ahh yes. Ouch. Just turned 25 yesterday and it was the hardest thing. I just feel like my life is slipping by without a deep relationship and it’s so frustrating!
I'm 38 and never been in a relationship. I mean I literally don't get asked out which is a surprise to people.
That anxiety/ fear question wasn't mine, but it could've been! Word for word my situation. Thank you SO much for your transparency in your answers. Its so helpful. 💕
I'm so glad it was helpful!! That makes me so happy!!
#3-6 😵 that’s totally me! Thank you for encouraging me! Some days it feels hopeless and I have to actively push away the enemy’s lies that I’m not worthy or good enough for someone to love me!
I’m also curious about the results of the emails! It would be a great story for someone in the future 😂
Oh my goodness I hear you on that daily, actively pushing away those lies. I definitely struggled with that too. Some days are really tough!! And I will definitely keep you guys posted about the emails! I still have to finish reading them all!! hahaha
So glad to see you are holding up Tiffany :) stay blessed!
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I can’t explain how much I appreciate you guys. I am not a Christian anymore, and was never really that into it before when I was a believer. I had pre marital sex with my now husband, I am bi sexual, Go out drinking often, just sin daily unapologetically (because I don’t believe in sinning) and somehow I watch you guys and absolutely love and look up to you guys. I believe in just being happy and having your own set of morals that feel best for you. Most Christian RUclipsrs especially the husbands are judgey and holier than thou. You two are awesome and James doesn’t treat you like he’s your boss and like you can’t think for yourself. You can see how much he thinks you’re so intelligent and doesn’t act like he has to think for you, and most importantly you two don’t shame others. You guys are the only hope I have for being religious again and I would want to be just like you guys. Not like girl defined or Paul and Morgan... :/ much love!
Awwww!!! This comment totally made my day! Thank you so much for sharing this with me!! I'm so glad you enjoy our videos! I definitely get super annoyed when people's husbands act like the boss of them 🙄 and I think God really wants us to ENJOY LIFE!!! Just like I want my daughter to enjoy the beautiful playroom I put together for her, and to laugh, and to be so happy. And sometimes as Christians we just get so serious and think that's what it means to be holy. Nothing could be farther from the truth!!! Thank you for sharing this!!
if you want more religious dating advice, i recommend emily wilson and jamie grace. they truly seem to care, and are humble and kind.
i get wanting to avoid paul and morgan. I've never heard of girl defined, but if you put them in the same category as p&m, I'll make sure to not watch any of their videos. thanks for the warning!
i prayed that you would know God's love for you♥️
I SO relate to this😂😂 THANK YOU!!! so helpful as usual👏🏼❤
I'm so glad!! That makes me so happy!!
So helpful. Truly advice that won't "be heard at Church." So glad I don't have to only turn to secular sources to fill a void that I want my faith to be a part of.
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Sad. The church should be tackling these sorts of things.
On Eharmony right now. I met someone and we clicked well, but I'm a little worried as she's only messaged me on average maybe once a week. I know she's got a busy schedule, but it's still a little concerning. Haven't found them on any social media, but I'm pretty sure I'm not being catfished since we've discussed things that only a local would know and stuff about her own upbringing and church which I know some guy in their mom's basement wouldn't be making up. Working through some insecurity, but I'm a lot better at that now as a result of practice with past relationships.
Oh, and James was right about the online dating thrift store analogy. I either see nice looking people that don't over do the makeup that are super conservative (Which unfortunately is an indicator of who they vote for), or people who are trying way to hard with the makeup it feels so fake. Also hardly anyone does a good bio on who they are or what they are looking for, so it makes me less likely to send them a message if I don't know anything going in.
And yep relationships going south are like the 5 stages of grief if you had all your eggs in that one basket and then they check out. At least James's was only 3 months. 3 years and thinking they are the love of your life takes a while to heal from.
You guys have so much wisdom to offer, and as a young Christian woman, I value that so much. These topics are not openly discussed that much, and I love your comfortable atmosphere and kind attitude.
That makes me SO happy to hear!! Thank you for sharing this!! 🤗🤗
Thanks! Love you guys, we (the single ones) need to heare more of this things.🙌
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Having never had a relationship before, your and James' responses have been addressing many of the thoughts and questions that I've often talked to God about, but felt alone in having during my own singleness. Thanks so much for these two parts (so far) - I really hope more are possible! I mean, there were 800 questions after all... ;)
I'm so glad these have helped!! We do have another video planned in a week or two... based on a question TONS of you asked!!
" Is it wrong that I hope to get married before Jesus returns"... I have never felt less alone in my life!! I thought I was crazy for that thought. God bless you alllllll for sending that in and Tiffany for reaffirming that she did it too!!!
HAHAHA!!! You're definitely not alone - I totally thought that ALL THE TIME!! 🤗🤗🤗
What about physical attraction that fluctuated? With my previous relationship, I felt attracted to him when I was happy and thriving, but sometimes when sad or stressed, I didn’t find him physically attractive. I also felt an incredibly strong connection intellectually and spiritually. But I ended up breaking it off after 15 months because I didn’t have all of the “romantic feelings” that he did. Has anyone else experienced this???🤨
That's such a great question!! I had a boyfriend that was a slightly different situation - but my emotions for him fluctuated day by day. I talk about it more in this video - hopefully it can help in some way! 🤗 - ruclips.net/video/ym2Cg3zRumE/видео.html
I don’t think it’s the skinny that guys go for,I think it’s the outgoing part,it makes approaching them easier.
That's a good point!!
Wow, so much in this helps solidfy my understanding of why the man I loved so deeply gave up on our relationship and future together...the anxiety and fear masquerading as needing a sign from God. There was a lack of peace i was unaware of, on his end. I still care about him in a special way. But I can attest to the fact that online dating can work. Its not for everyone and very much like thrifting which i love lol. There are a lot of nos to root out. Just like meeting in person. And the plus is that you can ask lots of good and challenging questions before meeting up, to know if they are indeed safe to start liking and forming a bond with. Because chance meetings tend to give reign to our emotional lead very easily. Anyway. .i met a man via online dating, who is godly and kind and has been incredibly healing for my heart. We plan to get married as soon as we do some counselling with his pastor❤️ wait for the right one and dont settle and relax your standards. God is able. And no matter what, live the one life God gave you, to the full
Thank you so much for sharing your story!! So beautiful 🤗🤗
Thank you for making these videos. A lot of the questions I have you answered, but too nervous to ask because of the repercussions.
I'm so glad!! 🤗🤗🤗
Loved the video!! I'm 19 and have never been in a relationship but I know I'm young and I got time! Also, I don't know if you've ever done a video about this but could u do one specifically about Adult Dating. Whenever we had 'date' night at youth group and stuff we always talked about like dating in groups and about dating while young, but nothing about how to Christian date when you're older.
Thank you SO much for answering my question ! 🥰 I appreciate your advice so much
I'm so glad!! 🤗🤗
I had a gut feeling in my previous relationship and it turns out he wanted to break up. I really liked him, so I told God if the feeling was from him that he would have to close the door. God still speaks through gut feelings.
Absolutely!!!! Thank you for sharing this example from your own life!!❤️❤️
When I'm around guys in person I feel pretty good at letting their character define their attractiveness and not getting too hung up on their physical characteristics. That's what makes online dating so hard though! I don't know their character, barely get a hint of their personality, and am pretty much just left with a set of pictures with which to make a decision. I probably wouldn't try online dating but there are almost no single guys (less than 5) at work and church so I feel stuck.
This 2 videos have been amazing! Thank you Tiffany and James!
I'm so glad!! 🤗🤗
Watching from South Africa and I love your videos.
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Loved this so much!!!! Thank you for the helpful advice and insight.
I'm so glad it could encourage you!! 🤗🤗
Perfect timing with this video!! Seems like that happens a lot ❤️❤️
I'm so glad!! 🤗🤗
Loved this video!
I love all the questions and the answers! I know a lot of people who feel like this.
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Tiffany is me , I am Tiffany ! I bet so nervous around guys !
I totally can relate to this video.
What if you have that attraction but he's 15 years older (28 and 43) and he is Godly otherwise? But you just feel anxiety about the future?
Thank you for this wonderful video. Another question that is a lot on my mind...what if you believe you Got over someone and believe you are ready for a net relationship and in The New one you begin thinking of The former...what if you Did not get over for real?
Loved this video! Does James’ brother speak Spanish too? I wonder if he can communicate with my family lmao
He and James actually traveled around South America for a year!! So he's got some basic Spanish communication!
What’s with all the bots in the comments 😬
Yeah I just noticed them... what a going on lol
I know!! There have been so many lately for some reason!! I just removed them from the comments. So strange!
This is so helpful, Thank you!
That makes me so happy!!
What about when it comes to how we dress? It feels like there's more pressure on the woman to dress a certain way. I tend to be quite casual but still have somewhat of a style I like and feel good in. I'm sure everyone must have days when they're more casual than others but I've had a couple comments and it's frustrating because I don't want to be self conscious and I shouldn't have to be constantly worried if someone's going to like what I'm wearing. Of course I make effort on the right occasion like a date but I just hope I find someone who doesn't mind that I'm not a complete girly girl. Never have been but also can pull off a gorgeous dress with natural beauty, not covered in make up or jewellery.
LOL. I love the thrift store analogy. I actually love going to the thrift store but hate online dating!!
Hahaha!! That's too funny!
Sometimes it's better to rent vs buy. 😘
Thank you for this video it was very helpful☺
I'm so glad!! 🤗🤗
What if it's the other way around. The person thinks you have great character and many godly qualities and absolute amazing personality (specifically, sense of humour, intelligence, selflessness, dedication and drive) that any person would admire but not attracted to you? Do you wait for that attraction to develop, focus more on your appearance, or do you just move on? Can you even change or develop attraction or is that just some innate quality you just have to have?
I think you should just move forward and just get closer with God and focus on him trust he has more for you and someone waiting specifically for you in his timing....
6:37 I have been asking myself this question for quite some time 😮 hahaha
I'm so glad it wasn't just me!! That question really got under my skin!
Good luck to you 2.
I thought my ex was the one but now he just won’t talk to me.
4.57 - is this guy/girl the right one? am I going to marry them? dont think too far ahead either....only test of time will tell 😊
Yes!! Such good advice!!
Online dating is a joke.. great video!!
As a girl who has been single since birth, this is a fear, especially in 2020 with all the crap going on. I hope it is not the start of the end. Furthermore, all my friends in my young adult group are starting to couple up. I am content in the Lord, but it hurts when girls younger than me are chosen.
I am skinny and outgoing too, but no dates. I am 5’10 and I feel like the guys like the shorter, curvy girls. Nothing against them by the way.
Also, I feel like there are WAYY more girls than guys in Christian circles.
Maybe I should try online dating once Covid is over? I am an almost twenty three year old graduate student.
Girl! You got time! I’m about to be 33 and still single. Before it use to bother me but now it’s been the best thing! Go take cooking or dance classes; travel (when covid is gone); finish grad school; get your career, save money, and do anything for self development. Use up your singleness to do as much as possible. You got your whole future to be with someone. Don’t postpone adventures until you find the right one. Make memories and stories to tell him when you guys begin dating.
Ester I love this!! - "Don’t postpone adventures until you find the right one. Make memories and stories to tell him when you guys begin dating." - Amazing advice!!
Thank you so much for sharing this!! I always felt like there were so many more girls than guys in Christian circles too. 🤗
Story of MY LIFE!!!!
Mary T I’ve heard and met people who have had their disadvantages in many areas but still managed to do what they want. The limitation at times depends on your perspective.
Question #3!!! Ditto
How do you deal with lust in a God honouring way? What is the different between lust and sexual desire?
The thing is im not going to tell a guy a like him😅😂 ill need someone to tell me first
lol, I actually had that same mind set for a long time too. But then just few months ago I had this huge crush on a guy from my youth and I prayed about it for weeks and I felt like God was telling me I needed to tell him how I felt, so I did and it went great!
miss sud aww thats great🥰
So who sent her a email for his brother?
A bunch of you ladies!! Now I need to finish reading them (amazing emails!) and find some more bachelors in other parts of the country/world to auction off 😍😍
Try one or two out of thousands 🤣
Its written in the bible about loud women.