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One of my Ls? I gotchu. I met a girl at a fancy hotel bar back in 2016. I struck up a conversation and asked her what she was doing at the hotel and she told me that she had organised a conference at the hotel with all the big players in the world to talk about green energy and sustainability. She asked me what I do and I said: "I made Goat Simulator. It's a video game about being a goat." She walked away before I could even tell her about multiplayer and our latest DLC.
To be honest, explaining goat simulator to anyone who doesn’t play video games without showing them is a difficult task. How do you explain that Bugs and glitches actually increase the appeal of the game?
A girl grabbed my shoulder as I walked past her in a bar and said “damn you can’t be walking past me all handsome like that” I looked at her said “I’m sorry” and walked away. She was stunning too
@@arcanonn He did keep moving forward. That's where the regret comes from lmao. Jokes aside, I probably would've done the same ... Like spending the night after a party, and upon being invited to sleep on a mattress with a super cute girl, instead of sleeping on a couch ... I didn't wanna encroach on her comfort, so I said "no, it's okay." I hurt, thinking back on that lol
I dated a girl for 4 months only to get broken up with because her abusive ex boyfriend got out of jail and “still loved her”. Two weeks later she called me balling to let me know she was sorry, and that her abusive ex had knocked her around again and was on his way back to jail for drug possession. I almost, almost, like so close, took her back, but I managed to find the hang up button on my phone before my mouth opened and got me in trouble.
Dated a girl for a month or so in junior year, before she hit me with "I'm honestly waiting for my ex who's moving back to town". Like I was a damn placeholder smh. And honestly helps my morale to say she ended up dropping 12 more bodies before we graduated, and her ex never even looked her way again (Also he was a genuinely good person and we ended up becoming friends, initially through our mutual dislike of said girl). In all honesty you probably dodged a bullet, and learned a lesson in the type of person who isn't worth your time or effort
My biggest L that still haunts me: i had the biggest fish of my life on the line. I tried adjusting the drag on my reel and the line broke immediately.
As a man, I love these kinds of videos, I only know things from my point of view and can experience life only as a man so I think it's important for me to listen to others (in this case women) on what their struggles in life are (because we all have them) so I can understand everyone better and be a better person
Here's an L: I once told my best female friend I had developed feelings for her and thought we would make a great couple. I told her this at a small restaurant within earshot of several patrons. She started crying loudly. I was feeling a little confused and hurt and asked her why she was so upset. She said she "thought I was gay". I said I wasn't and she cried even louder. Unfortunately, I'm still not gay.
You should keep at it. No sense in giving up on something everyone around you knows was meant to be. I'm sure that, with enough practice and commitment, you can be gay one day. Good luck out there!
I can top that. First serious girlfriend everything was going fine. Suddenly she ghosts me and I hear second hand she's breaking up with me. I'm very confused and hurt. I pestered her a bit until finally she texts back: 'look, I already have a p*ssy, I don't need another one.' I was a pretty sensitive and insufferable teenager so I would have probably done the same just without hurtful words.
The women who want men to be "vulnerable" and "emotional," but then are uninterested once the man cries about his life don't want a partner with a life all his own. They want an accessory to their life.
some people just don't know what they want, for example those gurus saying that women should be ""pure" while at the same time being good on bed. It's a mixed result of parasocial relationships where the grass is always greener on the other side while having a lack of critical thinking where you only want things that someone else wants because it's the supposed norm and probably other 12 other reasons
Of course women get majorly turned off by dudes crying about shit. Men need to be able to handle their shit. This doesn’t mean never show emotion or not to open up. But you have to be in control of yourself.
My dad told me jokes that my mom used on him. He didn't know they were jokes. He only found out over a decade after she died. People can be that dense.
One of my friends got divorced because his wife was crazy. She said he played video games too much. I was like, uhhh no... this dude plays for an hour once a week. How is that too much.
@@ghin780Evolutionary. You're not allowed to have fun around your women (inc. daughters) if you're the bread winner. Why a man has to have their mancave to stay married.
my biggest L: i met a cute girl at a metal concert, we were inseparable all day, we took the bus home together when we found out we lived close to each other, i walked her home, she asked me if i wanted to come in for a coffee... it was the middle of the night, years later i really doubt she wanted to drink coffee. i just said "sorry i'm not into coffee" and walked home. i'm not mad that i lost out on sex, i'm mad because she could've been an amazing girlfriend.
My L as a man : gorgeous girl from my chem lab was walking to gym with me as I walked to library. She started telling me how she was new to the area, and lonely living in dorms and how her bed is so empty and cold. Me: at least the rent is cheap
I was once dating a girl who said she didn't care about Valentines Day and it was stupid, but then proceeded to get mad at me when I did nothing for her on Valentines Day 😐
I was that dumb a few times. As the nazis would say "You will be severely punished!" And be certain I was LOL. I did get even. And I was punished again. Its an art that must be mastered.
I had a gf in high school that said the same thing. Luckily I ignored what she said and gave her a bear with a sombrero and a big box of chocolates. She was super happy for a week. Funny/fucked up that ignoring what she said made her happy.
It's showing that you actually give a shit. Trust me, I know as another human being with his own problems + being diagnosed with ADHD from childhood; keeping contact with your loved ones is a chore (well, actually a fcking hard thing to do when you have to cope with real life at the same time as well. Google spoon theory autistm.) And if you don't have an ADHD or don't belong to any kind of autistic spectrum, ask your ADHD or autistic friend; I m sure they can broaden your viewpoint.@@HunterofWaifus
Hahaha try having a birthday on Valentines day! Previous GF's always said let's celebrate your birthday - proceeds to only care about getting spoilt and never even given a happy birthday!
My L: Asked a deaf girl on a date to see a movie. She was really good at reading lips and watched movies regularly, no issue there. The L comes from me not looking into the movie we ended up seeing, which was V for Vendetta. A solid two-thirds of that movie's dialog come from behind a mask. Also it was amazing and I only realized the issue near the end of the movie.
I'm imagining the introductory "It is my very good pleasure to meet you, and you may call me V" monolog, and her just wondering why this weird man in the mask is waving his arms around and twitching. 😂
Few issues bud. Lip reading doesn't really.. work? NOt for axctually fully deaf people. nayve hard of hearing, but those people can MODSTLY still hear - just not well. secondly, there's movies with CLOSED CAPTIONING> in fact, uh literally any movie theater has these. some offer glasses for the deaf patron to wear, which give ONLY THEM captions, so nobody else in the theater has ot be disturbed to accomodate them. thirdly, the movie provides subtitles for the masked up parts? At least the one I went to, did.
@user-xz6qc5ej2r Dunno what you want me to tell you dude, I didn't interrogate her to determine if she was lying about being able to read lips / watch movies after she said she could.
Giving a "Me or the Hobby" ultimatum will almost always end up in the man taking the hobby. She's clearly willing to end a relationship over it, so major red flag.
Ong. Pick a control freak who likes mind games or pick a little fun box that let's you play with the homies or play solo campaigns. Like why even ask. 🤦🏽♂️
yeah sh0e reacted to it as if it was the physical PS that was the prize here, if you know these cases you immediately know its not the physical appliance but the notion of gaming as a hobby that these ultimatum givers are trying to snuff out.
Yes, I’ve never threatened my Fiancés PC. The first time I told him he has a legit problem with it he got really emotional and thought I was going to take it away. I was like absolutely not, I’m trying to meet you in the middle and help you divide up your time better. You cant put off all house responsibilities because you need over 6hrs on the computer every night. It’s not healthy. It got better after four years, but ultimatums defiantly don’t get to the root of the problem.
I had severe depression in college, and the idea of anyone liking or being attracted to me was completely inconceivable. One year, a friend gave me valentine chocolate, and I turned her down because I genuinely thought she'd made a mistake. I didn't know how to deal with affection. I only found out a year later she had a massive crush on me and never told me. The L is that Depression stole my 20s from me. I'm 18 months from 40, and I finally have it in me to say "I am worthy of love," but dating in your late 30s is much, much harder, and my depression keeps trying to come back. It sucks. -_-
Same boat mate. And you know that any date will come with baggage (and that is nobody's fault. I'm not one to hate on women bc they went through shit, but it makes things difficult. Not to mention kids. Lots of single moms my age) Recent first date was a "coffee date." Just over an hour chatting. Was nice, she's a terrific woman (40, i'm 39) but she remained distant throughout (was hoping for SOME sign of potential attraction, though I'm not the sort for first date kissing, a hug or affectionate touch is always nice) and she briefly talked about past relationships. Knowing she is processing trauma from a controlling ex will make building romance more difficult, bc I already don't pressure women... and now I'll be concerned to be forward at all. My LAST set of dates was pre covid, and after months of going out nothing happened. When she called me desperate for making a *single* double entendre I gave it one last chance, bought her a thoughtful gift and when it was CLEAR she had zero respect or affection for me (beyond somebody to hang out with when convenient) I stopped asking. She was a nice girl and I hope I left a fond memory... but honestly I can not understand why a woman would agree to date and then be incapable of even offering friendship. Can only offer solidarity. It sucks. We persist.
Yep, been in a tech job for a while. Very underwhelming. When I was fixing cars and emptying recycle bins I felt much more of a purpose (too bad those did not pay very well...).
I'm a remote working software engineer who only leaves the house to buy groceries. So, I feel ya. Still, I laughed SO hard at this. As a man in captivity, I live for the moments when my wife asks me to do "man things." 😂
"Men in captivity need to feel like they have a purpose, or else they die" made me laugh out loud more than it should. I am a man who is on the computer all day, buried in Excel and other programs. And yes, it is actually very fulfilling to be able to do things for others like open jars and fix things.
I'm an IT guy. In summer my wife asked me to make her 5 garden planters. I didn't want to do it, we argued, I relented. Eventually though I really enjoyed doing it, I did a great job and got a new power tool.
I dumped a girl on April Fools Day, she thought I was joking I had to convince her I was serious. I don't regret doing it. But I do regret not waiting until April 2nd.
LMAO when I was young and stupid I made this same mistake. I’m Spanish and April Fools in Spanish culture is in December, so I left my boyfriend thrice. 28 of December (Spanish April fools), again on New Years, and then King’s day (Santa Claus day for Catholics lol). He thought I was joking the 3 times. I still cringe from not being able to realize those might have not been the best days to break up with someone, I guess I really wanted to break up with him xD to my defense I was 15
Here’s a win: A girl in Highschool befriended my brother to try to get with me, and some how got me to try and teach her how to play the violin..? Anyway she eventually confessed her feelings for me and I turned her down… Years later we reconnected and are now married with 1 beautiful baby boy, and another on the way.
"And now men are afraid of speaking to us." Yes, yes absolutely. It is not worth getting our name dragged on social media, risking our career, and adding further shame to the already unpleasant feeling of being rejected. Everytime we hear women in our lives (friends, family) mention having been approached by a man, it is depicted as an extremely horrible experience. I would hate to become the villain from those stories.
Don't worry, you're also the villain for not approaching girls too. (She gave you a very obvious 'fuck me' signal by glancing at you for 0.534 seconds longer than she normally does the men she isn't attracted to)
yeah nobody wants to be labeled as the guy that was hitting on her. "Can you believe that guy actually tried to hit on me?" as she talks to her friends.
Have you ever thought to maybe ask the women in your life how best to approach them in order to avoid making a woman feel uncomfortable? I mean...ever? Pretty easy to figure out.
@ZiddersRooFurry Because women always tell the truth about what they desire men to do? Did you miss the part of the video where they beg men to be vulnerable and then immediately lose attraction when the men do what they asked for???
@@satyakisil9711It’s not high IQ to gain the cooperation and sacrifice of a partner for months, then instead of rewarding them, you humiliate them by revealing you tricked them with false pretenses. Or if their feelings don’t matter, exposing what a manipulator you are is still dumb.
My biggest L was my first one. When I was 13 I met a cute girl in my neighborhood. I tried to flirt by telling her I liked her accent and asked her where she was from. She said "it's not an accent. I have a lisp." I was so embarrassed I just silently turned around and went home.
I once had a girlfriend who broke up with me. I tried to convince her out of it for like an hour. At the end of the hour she said “why won’t you respect me and my decision and let me leave?” so I left her alone because I respect her. A week later she came back mad at me because I didn’t fight for her.
Women DO actually do this. Then again, they also sometimes break up with you to get with somebody else and then come crawling back when that gambit doesn't pay off.
In a nutshell, yes. As a dude who likes dudes, I don't use my balls to think about women but my brain. And a enough of them are crazy, and enough guys have had their lives ruined by false accusations, that I'm amazed any guy will go out with them. Me, I won't even share an elevator with one, or talk to one at work without witnesses, because I've heard too many laughing and admitting they've intentionally destroyed men for a power thrill. Like serialkillers without the clean up.
@@FazeParticlesman you gonna mald when a woman you're really, REALLY into leaves you for the runner-up to the danny devito impersonation contest (first place was the man himself). Bruh I'm anywhere from homely to average-looking and so many girls, even those way outta my league, got interested just because I am engaging to listen to. Charisma isn't about being pretty, it's about being able to enrich with your presence.
Yea she knows men better than me and I am one. Wtf? Its like spacemen come down on earth to teach us how to do agriculture. Thats how I felt after hearing it. Shes on another lvl
@@Jeed92 She's not on another level. If you do even the slightest research on male suicide, you will quickly come to the conclusion that a primary reason for men killing themselves is the lack of a purpose.
I gifted my girlfriend at the time a self made leather backpack for LARPing. I'm no good at finding great or even fun gifts so I was really proud of myself for thinking about it. Spend a week making it. She was speechless. - She realized in that moment that she did not love me like I did her, found that unfair and ended the relationship.
@@MR-backup dating seems good, but it can be very mentally painful and difficult to maintain, and you can end up worse off than when you started sometimes. it's not all roses and smiles, sometimes it's never that.
@@superroboguy998But in the end it’s worth it. Remember, the hardest things in life bear the most fruit. But you have to work for it and continue to water it
@@E3T7 Life is not as mechanical as you think it is. Simplifying life into "put in work, get results" fails to consider the levels of nuance that is necessary to make said work achieve results.
@@BIZaGoten Men in captivity are kept alive by hope that gives them purpose outside the goals of the captor. When the purpose is only what the captor provides, they become husks and automatons. Take a closer look at the history of slaves in the US or husbands who feel trapped and dejected.
I would bet i have one of the best Ls... I took my fiancee on vacation and inadvertently introduced her to a guy who she ended up cheating on me with and later married. Then 5 years later they got divorced and she moved back to my state and we ran into each other. She apologized to me and admitted it was a horrible thing she did. I forgave her, and we became friends. Fast forward 2 years later and we started dating again. 2 more years after that we were engaged again. I bought us a huge house, in a really nice neighborhood. 18 months later she cheated on me again with the single neighbor next door, who she once again ended up marrying. I've now introduced her to BOTH of her husbands.
Thats it. That has got to be the worst one ive heard. I thought about posting my high school, oblivious to a girl friend that has a crush on me story. I was worried of being too embarassed. But you my friend are simultaneously the biggest loser for having that story in your past, yet, the biggest winner for being bold enough to tell it online. I salute you.
@@TheodoreChin-ih7xz yes, some of us really out here work in black-and-white literal thinking. So when we say no, we mean no. When we say yes, we mean yes. When we say maybe, we mean maybe. And we will also tell a man exactly what we want, when we want it, how we want it, and be extremely clear about that. I dislike anyone - man or woman - who is passive aggressive and doesn't say what they mean (or plays guessing games where they expect you to read their minds.) My mother is a huge 'I shouldn't have to ask you, you should know based on how I'm feeling' time and istg the fights we have over it.
@@TheodoreChin-ih7xz see, I like that. I like men who don't play guessing games, don't like guessing games, and want women who don't do guessing games. It makes life a helluva lot easier. Plus when I look back, I made the "first move" by blatantly asking for what I wanted, and they made the "official first move" by doing the action. (Eg asking to be kissed so they kiss me.) I genuinely don't know why women would want something else other than they've watched one too many episodes of Riverdale.
My worst L was spending an entire day with my crush but was too scared to make a move. Hiked in the bluffs, nice dinner, all of it. Went back to her dorm, she showered and curled up next to me still in her towel. Finally, she turned my head, kissed me, and said "My God Man, read the room!" I was just trying to not make her uncomfortable in case she didn't like me back :(
common man so blind he needs the girl to brail "I like you dumbass" on her boobs and physically force his hands on there and then probably still go "I dunno man, maybe she loves me as a friend" jokes aside, lucky you my dude, and don't give up. Women do appreciate it when you show you're really working on understanding her better
They are so good at communicating that they built the pyramids, developed the scientific method, went to the moon and even marshaled complex military maneuvers throughout history…. I mean herstory
I think the most common L for me and most men is realizing that a woman was making hints for intimate engagement but we didn't pick up on it and realize it two moths later.
I got a girl through her finals, convinced her parents to let her buy a gaming pc, built the aforementioned gaming pc, provided her shelter when her mother nearly threw her out of the house, just to be left with the words 'you didn't do enough' and for her to go to the guy I was suspicious of in her friendgroup. I take that as a W because I am not with someone like that anymore
Idk man. Sounds like you’ve got a faulty red flag scanner. The red flags were there, you just didn’t see it. I’m assuming the dad isn’t around? That’s always the case with women like her.
@@brandonmcalpin9228bro wrote one comment on one random post on a random video on some social media platform on the internet and you think this absolutely microscopic piece of information in the entirety of his life and this relationship is enough evidence to make the conclusions you just did. Turn it around on yourself and ask if that would be enough knowledge for a complete stranger to do with your life. Go outside and touch some grass
About 8 years ago when I was in my early 20s I really liked this girl at the front desk where I worked. I was really shy and awkward though, so I wanted my interactions with her to be perfect. I ended up talking to a bunch of people that worked close with her to find out things like her favorite flower and color, I asked them about her favorite TV shows and her taste in music-this way when I'd talk to her, I could cater the conversation to what she liked. She still didn't really engage in the conversations, so I kept digging with others about her to find out more about her. Eventually I bought her a big bouquet of her favorite flowers and left them on the front desk with a note asking her on a date. About a week later she quit. Soon after I found out that almost none of the things I was told were correct about her, including the favorite flowers that I bought for her, and she also knew that I was asking people about her and was creeped out that I didn't just talk to her instead and ask her those things instead of asking others. Super big L, but a huge learning moment for my awkward ass.
You should just assume that she heard about everything you asked her friends about, because... women. First rule- they can't keep secrets, they gossip about *everything*, and they love ruining the lives of poor socially-inept nice guys.
That's ... probably the most cliche situation in any romance book / movie / show. That's actually sad that it backfired so spectacularly on you. That wasn't your fault necessarily, you were set up to fail. Something like that is literally the first way most people figure out how to approach someone, like in high school. And usually when the other person hears that someone has been asking around about them, they don't immediately jump to them being a stalker and moving.
yeah man not to be rude but that's deffo an L on your part lol - she was probably sketched out you were trying to stalk her or something. The only way to truly connect with someone anyway is to just find common ground in the moment about whatever - not by having lists of facts and talking points lol. But not to ramble - sounds like you got over your stuff. It's all just growing up really isn't it
I certainly prefer a guy ask me directly. I also prefer he not obsessively cater to what I like. Something nice that I like once in a while is good, but I'll start disliking even my favorite stuff if it gets blasted my way nonstop.
10:55 I like how her first response to being ghosted because she was a journalist is to behave in exactly the type of manner that makes it seem completely justified and reasonable to ghost a journalist.
The most charitable interpretation is it's a joke. Having said that, for someone that works at Jezabel, it would be hard to determine if they have a sick sense of humour or are actually bonkers.
It isn't? Seriously, there are only few jobs that have the potential to screw your life and or reputation big time than journalists. That's the same reason, you try to avoid dating a co-worker. Not for the time you are together but because there always is a breakup and then the shit show, name calling and lying begins.
@@No_Way_NO_WAY Journos don't date other journos because they are toxic people is all I got from that. Journalists say or write and do really stupid and horrific things every single day without being fired because it is literally their job to be lying scum.
The stupidest single word ever uttered by this species… it’s so disgusting, knew this girl who couldn’t even call this guy her boyfriend who she met 8 months ago and had been sleeping with every week. Didn’t know what to say, I genuinely felt bad for her because she actually liked him…
I'd been friendzoned so often in my life a girl was basically giving me directions to her cooter and I was stuck in friendzone mentality so hard I didn't see the signs.
I remember when I was 13 or 14. There was a girl on the swim team that I liked. She asked for my number and I responded with "what for?" She quit the swim team after that and I never saw her again.
One time a girl I was friends with changed her clothes in my car after homecoming senior year and said "ok don't look... Actually you can if you want too" and I just laughed it off and kept looking out the window. Didn't get it until the next day. Actually had a girl tell me to look at her while she stripped down to her underwear in my car and I still didn't get the hint.
I was talking to a female friend at a pub and she hinted she had a crush on someone. I asked who it was and she said "hes sitting on this bench" - so i looked around and assumed she meant another guy who was sat further away.
"Men in captivity need to feel like they have a purpose...or else they die." - ShoeOnHead I don't know about you, but this hits hard, especially for men who were constantly been belittled in their relationships.
When I was in highschool in a cooking class. I used to talk to this one girl just being friendly. One day she said "So yeah it sucks I don't have anyone to take me to prom." All smooth like and my response "Yeah that sucks, good luck with that." It took me 17 years to one day realize she was hinting about me taking her to prom. Man was I thick in the head back then.
You know how girls project about how guys play too many games? Well, chicks need to be more obvious with what they want. Everything to them is a damn game.
Same here man same thing happened to me back in 2020 I had a girl said a similar thing to what you said but I was like “nah I just wanna get my diploma and bounce tbh I’m done with school” smh real stupid decision on my end
Was on a date with a girl and it was cold and windy outside. Also I did not know it was a date. I thought we were just getting to knoch each other a bit better because we.. idk.. work in the same building.. or something.. I didn't really think anything. I just met up with her. Anyway. After that we were texting and I said something like "it was cold outside." or something about that and she said "Yes, I saw you shivering. I was thinking about cuddling up to you to keep you warm." and I wrote back something like "Better you did not do it since I don't want to get touched by most girls." or something like that. Never heard from her again. I wonder why. :'D (To be clear though: I am way more social today... A bit more.. Enough more to not respond with that. :D)
I was dating a woman who literally pushed another man off a cliff and grievously injured him. When she first told me about it I was so lonely and desperate for affection that I didn't immediately break up with her. Surprise surprise, she was violent and abusive.
One of my biggest L was when I was dating a toxic female that was lying to me, but everyone around me was telling me the truth, and I just listen to that one chick without listening to the whole crowd of people telling me that she was an awful person until I had to get it verbally slapped into me then I broke up with her, but now it’s one of my biggest L
Nah dude, you don't need to feel bad for that. People like to shame men for not picking up on women's subtle signals, rather than shame women for not being direct and honest with what they want. If she was actually a "cool girl" who would have made a good partner, she would have been more direct and straight-forward with you. If anything, you dodged a bullet.
Met up with a girl from high school like 10 years after graduation. She admitted she had a big crush on me and when i asked her why she didn't say anything she told me " I would tell you that I liked your jacket" to be fair, it was a pretty sweet jacket.
@@mtsEnrique fucking women..... She actually thought complimenting your jacket was a clear signal. No wonder they keep ending up dating/marrying the worst dudes. Only the worst dudes would be egotistical enough that their jacket being complimented means that the girl likes them. It's almost as if women are seeking out egotistical men and that's why they continuously fail to find the right men
Look at it like this: They wanted to be completely certain, so they chose the best man they could find. When even HE couldn't get a reaction, then they were certain.
Buuuuut, as an asexual, it still means they liked you for you. Their sexuality just means they don't have as much interest in sex, it has nothing to do with you specifically...unless they're demi in which case, oof.
I've used just one mini fridge, but that's because someone else had brought my stuff in for me, so I didn't really get to use my TV much for a week or two ... haha - on the whole, it works for Q and D solution ! :)
Fridges are massive power hogs. Your powerbill at the end of the month would be enormous. Mini fridges suck up almost as much power as a regular fridge, because the technology of keeping things cold is largely the same and requires just as much energy to work. Plus... mini fridges put out a lot of heat. So, it might overheat your TV or gaming console. There is a reason why most people don't do that.
"Men were built for war and hunting […] I don't care if you could open the jar yourself, give it to him. Men in captivity need to feel like they have a purpose, or else they die." I love you, shoe, you really get us.
No you dmfk, if men were built for war then ptsd, depression, suicide wouldn't all be drastically higher for men who were in wars. This comment reads as some lost kid trying to find purpose and then gets tricked by th recruiter into becoming a grunt in the marines and then gets obliterated the first time they step foot in combat
I would say the same thing, but after having the epiphany that I've fucked up multiple friendships by my own failures, and talking to somebody who said that they like me, but it's a Jekyll and Hyde situation with me, it's a come-to-Jesus thing. first thing to change: go from "Glass half empty, life sucks and I deserve nothing but misery" to "Hey, things are tough, but I'm tougher. I can do this." This is both a message for you, and also for myself. Here's hoping that I hold true to this.
I found a girl and saved her life, but she ended up moving in with me and bossing me around all the time, even though I pay for everything. Sometimes she howls at 4 A.M. to wake me up, because she's bored. She has also torn up my blinds. Yes, she is a cat, and she is adorable, but still though.
@chandllerburse737 statistic data says the opposite. Things like upgrading a PC once a year seem expensive but they aren't much compared to spending money in a relationship.
The German exchange student walked into the library while I was trying to study. Started talking about prom and how she was so ashamed she was going alone. I agreed it was a shame then waited for her to leave.
My biggest L was probably getting asked to a Highschool dance by a girl I really liked just to spend the entire thing avoiding her because I hated myself so much.
No one who hates themselves should be dating at all. No one is going to be able to 'fix' how you feel about yourself. I'm not one of those people who believes in 'you have to love yourself before you're ready to love someone else', most people don't. Those that do tend to be narcissist's. But you have to be content with yourself/happy enough at least. Hope you don't feel that way anymore, but if you do then that's something only you can repair
Nobody is doing okay, honestly. The internet has connected all of us & ruined all of us. Everyone has a voice & a platform, which is a good thing.. & a very scary thing, lol.
This, this is it, minus the part when as kids we would get whiny with our friends we would kick each others asses until we were right with the world again.
@pieterrossouw8596 yup we are seeing what people are really about and it's scary for sure. But, I'd rather be scared and know than be oblivious and get blindsided by utterly crappy behavior constantly.
Found out my girlfriend was cheating on me after three years of being together and shortly after I had bought a ring to propose. She cheated on me with my best friend of 15 years who was a pole bearer at my 16 y.o. sister’s funeral (who had just died about a year before). Trust issues ever since…
Oh my, I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope you're ok and can heal from it as soon as possible. You deserve so much better. I assure you, you can find someone way better. And even if you don't, take yourself on a date by yourself from time to time, I promise it can help
There was a girl in highschool who regularly asked me to help with math/chem homework in the classes we shared, but she always had better grades than me. I only figured it out five years later.
Now if only she just had the guts and initiative to just *fucking tell you* that she liked you, things might have worked out for her. My god, she missed an opportunity to date someone she liked who also demonstrated that they're willing to help others without expecting anything in return.... All because she never acted on it. You didn't miss a good opportunity.... You dodged a bullet.
@@badwolf3618 How is being indecisive so bad that you think he dodged a bullet with her? I strongly disagree, some people just have low self esteem and she was probably not sure if he would even like her back.
@@ViewOf well, for starters, most women would never tolerate that same level of indecisiveness from a man. Also, being unable to go after the things you want in life is not a good trait to have. Expecting the man to do all the work is also toxic as it creates a dynamic of the man constantly having to perform in order to gain her approval and validation, which then gives her less incentive to put im equal effort. A relationship built on that kind of dynamic will mean that she will never see him as her equal. She will always see herself as the prize, and she will see him as the lucky contestant who happened to win the prize.
Social Media is the bane of all serious relationships. People who deny that just haven't had anything bad happen... yet. If you want a decent shot at having a healthy relationship, find someone who opposes it, doesn't use it at all, or at the very least has self control and scrolls for a few minutes a day and that's it. Especially if you're with a girl because if you have a bad day, she likely has an inbox full of male friends who would love to be there for her in your stead.
Once, I nervously approached a kind of cute quirky girl just to give her a compliment, but got so flustered in just talking to her that when she asked "So what are you doing later?" I LITERALLY TOLD HER WHAT I WAS DOING LATER She was like, "Oh, ok, cool" and I left quickly
One girl I really liked actually had a big crush on me but she was always saying stuff that would imply shed never date me. Sometimes she straight up say that she wouldn't date me because we're friends every time I almost asked her out. 3 weeks later when I'm finally starting to take my heart out of her hands, she admits that she had a big crush on me, and now she blames me for not seeing it. She then did everything in her power to make me feel absolutely destroyed by the fact I didn't have the balls to ask her out despite her always saying she wouldn't date me in her wildest dreams. She left me broken for weeks.
IDK if this recently happened to you, but this is a good learning opportunity for you. Chase what _you_ want; if it works out, great! If it doesn't work out, you can move on. You won't know for sure what she'll say until she says it.
After all the crazy woke shit started, girls saying they need 6.2 foot, 6 figures, saying they are a 10 even if they are obese, think body count doesnt matter - To men, it sure does! To us, women with high BC are hoes. To women, men with high BC are experienced players... after the feminism, the metoo sht, the pronoun shit, the safe spaces, the activism shit etc I dont even look at women....fuck that
Heres one of my Ls: My first girlfriend had a friend that she assured me was just a friend. I was suspicious, but i dropped it since i trusted her. A week or 2 later, she gave me and him a paper that was a "boyfriend application" thing that had questions about height and age and why i thought i should be her boyfriend. Quite unsurprisingly i had been denied and she then told me that her "friend had never been given a paper and i was predestined to be dumped. An albiet creative but cruel way to cut someone off in my opinion
My biggest L is that when I was at a wedding reception I went to the bar and asked if they had a specific brand of whiskey. The lady said “no. But I have some at home” and winked at me. I just said “oh okay. Thank you. I’ll have a rum and coke then please “. My cousin looked dumb founded at me and told me later that she was probably trying to hit me on or something
Women killers the majority of the time attack other women or children The women killers that attack guys usually are working with a guy, that's what ya gotta look out for
My L? Yea sure I broke up with a girl because I didn’t see a future with her and I wasn’t in the right place for a relationship. I got back with her. I want to break up again. *I hate myself.* Update: we had a fight and i broke up with her. Augh
My biggest L? Thinking my ex actually loved me at some point. I watched my ex's entire family choose me over her because she married someone else and didn't tell anyone. Her parents found out a week after by reading the newspaper. The saddest part was the grandmother, her Alzheimer's kept her thoughts back to when we were dating. 3 years later I was invited to be there in the grandmother's last moments she asked me to keep taking good care of her granddaughter. My ex was treating STDs like Pokemon in the meantime and sharing her stories on Facebook.
I mean...that doesn't sound like a loss to me, you're clearly a decent soul if the family accepted you to such a degree and you don't have to bang their mental offspring. Win win.
I was in choir in high school. I wore Coke bottle glasses and didn't consider myself a ladies' man in any way, but I had a crush on J, a senior who was beautiful, nice, and also on the drill team. Way out of my league on her most generous day, but always happy to say hi and such, never rude. One day we were doing basic scales in choir and J was struggling, so I got the bright idea that I'd take the chance to help her out one on one before school. I asked the director if it was ok, he said sure, so i invited her and she agreed to meet up a couple mornings later. I wrote out the scales on sheet music, had everything prepped, and was ready to gain her appreciation and respect by helping her learn her scales when I showed up early and got everything set up at the piano. She showed up on time in a fancy western shirt and tight jeans, looking like she was ready for a night out. She smiled and sat down in the chair next to me and as I started getting into things, she said, "You know, Larry, choir is just a blow off class for me and I don't really care about learning the scales." I got quiet, gathered my things and said, "Welp, I guess there's no point in being here," before I said goodbye and left to go on with my day. At no point had I considered that she might have just wanted to spend time with me. No part of me questioned why she was so dressed up to practice scales. I thought she would he happy to learn something she was strugglng with and things might go from there and when she wasn't interested in the scales, I had no alternative plan in mind. Major L on my part...
@taliaeategg2027 1 round of antibiotics for 7 days will do it. Its not herpes. Herpes you can't get rid of. There is also a new form of gonorrhea that has come about the last couple years that is resistant to antibiotics so, I told all my kids to strap up, its getting dangerous out there. Of course chlamydia is something you can catch even with protection. Its an exchange of moisture between the downstairs of each partner. I also heard syphilis is making a comeback.
i convinced an american girl i dated that in canada the left and right sides are switched so i kept making left turns every time she said turn right. its a personal L because it means i spent an extra 20 minutes in the presence of the dumbest human being i've ever met. but it was funny.
I remember back in late 2000s when my high school teacher was like "this online dating thing is going to become the new way to date and soon meeting people in public and hitting on them and asking them out is going to be considered creepy and stalkerish, and that the strangers online to meet up with will not be considered creepy and be normalized"... damn, was he right 🤣
Actually back in the late 90s when the internet wasn't at every persons finger tips. Online dating was frowned upon. So many what ifs. And as your teacher predicted it's the normal
One time I was ordering at a fast food joint. The cute cashier told me that I have such a soothing voice. Thought she was just being nice and thanked her, thinking nothing more of it. She seemed a little flustered and just disappeared in to the kitchen. Realised way too late she was flirting with me and I never saw her again.
It's almost like waiting to give yourself to your spouse till after you're married after getting to know them well is a good idea. Oh, and being kind to others, even those you don't like and those who won't do anything for you.
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@@hooliganfanatic7241dude...
@@hooliganfanatic7241bros geeking 😭😭
NO
OK I WILL ANYTHING FOR YOUUUUU
ok maybe
One of my Ls? I gotchu.
I met a girl at a fancy hotel bar back in 2016. I struck up a conversation and asked her what she was doing at the hotel and she told me that she had organised a conference at the hotel with all the big players in the world to talk about green energy and sustainability. She asked me what I do and I said: "I made Goat Simulator. It's a video game about being a goat." She walked away before I could even tell her about multiplayer and our latest DLC.
Massive W for making Goat Sim tho.
To be honest, explaining goat simulator to anyone who doesn’t play video games without showing them is a difficult task.
How do you explain that Bugs and glitches actually increase the appeal of the game?
Goat Sim is a gem, thank you for your contribution to videos game history.
If what you are saying is true... she walked away from a millionaire.
that tiny L is nothing compared to the gargantuan W of creating goat sim
A girl grabbed my shoulder as I walked past her in a bar and said “damn you can’t be walking past me all handsome like that” I looked at her said “I’m sorry” and walked away. She was stunning too
relatable
Don’t be discouraged, dude. It happens to the best of us. What’s important is that you keep moving forward. :]
@@arcanonn why would it be discouraging. i thought she was complimenting him by calling him handsome?
@@lenaalt2387 I meant him having that reaction, like, if he wasn’t confident receiving a compliment
@@arcanonn He did keep moving forward. That's where the regret comes from lmao. Jokes aside, I probably would've done the same ... Like spending the night after a party, and upon being invited to sleep on a mattress with a super cute girl, instead of sleeping on a couch ... I didn't wanna encroach on her comfort, so I said "no, it's okay."
I hurt, thinking back on that lol
I dated a girl for 4 months only to get broken up with because her abusive ex boyfriend got out of jail and “still loved her”. Two weeks later she called me balling to let me know she was sorry, and that her abusive ex had knocked her around again and was on his way back to jail for drug possession. I almost, almost, like so close, took her back, but I managed to find the hang up button on my phone before my mouth opened and got me in trouble.
Good job u deserve someone better
@@chrismaxie2864 agreed
many people are proud of you rn
Dated a girl for a month or so in junior year, before she hit me with "I'm honestly waiting for my ex who's moving back to town". Like I was a damn placeholder smh. And honestly helps my morale to say she ended up dropping 12 more bodies before we graduated, and her ex never even looked her way again (Also he was a genuinely good person and we ended up becoming friends, initially through our mutual dislike of said girl).
In all honesty you probably dodged a bullet, and learned a lesson in the type of person who isn't worth your time or effort
@@sanejenkemenjoyer the good ending
With a triple digit body count, how did she even notice that someone had ghosted her?
Ong😂
@@landenroberts6710 Prlly wanted to date that one guy
The fact she didn't say 100 also makes me think Holy crap it's probably 200-300.
@@DirectorHMAN or beyond...
Sounds like sex work to me
My biggest L that still haunts me: i had the biggest fish of my life on the line. I tried adjusting the drag on my reel and the line broke immediately.
L
I feel you bro. Got my fish to the shore, held the spool so he wouldnt go anywhere, he jerked his head and snapped my line.
a moment of prayer for this lad 😔🙏
this is the most man L ever
@@Shoe0nHeadFish want me, women fear me
because I fuck the fish.
Finally, the sequel no one asked for but half of us needed
As a man, I love these kinds of videos, I only know things from my point of view and can experience life only as a man so I think it's important for me to listen to others (in this case women) on what their struggles in life are (because we all have them) so I can understand everyone better and be a better person
Oh I was asking for it but I knew I didn’t need it lol
Hear hear!
Almost half
I want another sequel to this one lol
Here's an L:
I once told my best female friend I had developed feelings for her and thought we would make a great couple. I told her this at a small restaurant within earshot of several patrons. She started crying loudly. I was feeling a little confused and hurt and asked her why she was so upset. She said she "thought I was gay". I said I wasn't and she cried even louder. Unfortunately, I'm still not gay.
You should keep at it. No sense in giving up on something everyone around you knows was meant to be.
I'm sure that, with enough practice and commitment, you can be gay one day. Good luck out there!
Everyone knows being gay is a choice bro, just flip the switch. Head is head after all
I can top that. First serious girlfriend everything was going fine.
Suddenly she ghosts me and I hear second hand she's breaking up with me. I'm very confused and hurt.
I pestered her a bit until finally she texts back: 'look, I already have a p*ssy, I don't need another one.'
I was a pretty sensitive and insufferable teenager so I would have probably done the same just without hurtful words.
Didn't you know according to the Internet everybody has a little bit of gay in them. No one is truly straight. I would flip the switch 😂😂
@serendipityx being friends with women means you are a pussy, being friends with men means you are gay and having no friends means you are a loser
The women who want men to be "vulnerable" and "emotional," but then are uninterested once the man cries about his life don't want a partner with a life all his own. They want an accessory to their life.
@@shill9516 so what you're saying is it's about evaluating/critiquing us more than it is about genuine emotional connection?
some people just don't know what they want, for example those gurus saying that women should be ""pure" while at the same time being good on bed. It's a mixed result of parasocial relationships where the grass is always greener on the other side while having a lack of critical thinking where you only want things that someone else wants because it's the supposed norm and probably other 12 other reasons
@@lucky6961 you just explained the entire "internet bleeding into our lives" phenomenon so well.
Of course women get majorly turned off by dudes crying about shit. Men need to be able to handle their shit. This doesn’t mean never show emotion or not to open up. But you have to be in control of yourself.
thats ALL women dude, dont cry in front of her until you are engaged... if then
If a woman’s been with me for over a decade, she’d know better than to give me the “me vs PlayStation” ultimatum
Exactly. When Shoe said that, I said out loud "Nah, ANY ultimatum, you choose the other thing. Period."
My dad told me jokes that my mom used on him. He didn't know they were jokes. He only found out over a decade after she died. People can be that dense.
One of my friends got divorced because his wife was crazy. She said he played video games too much. I was like, uhhh no... this dude plays for an hour once a week. How is that too much.
@@ghin780Evolutionary. You're not allowed to have fun around your women (inc. daughters) if you're the bread winner. Why a man has to have their mancave to stay married.
@@Technoanima you're supposed to be grinding to support a woman 24/7, if you're having time to yourself it's bad
Men and women hurting each other because they’ve been wronged in the past by the opposite sex is so tragic. The cycle of trauma really does persist.
Well, at least someone got the point of this video. Maybe there is hope in this world…
Those people are weak, strong people break the cycle and heal the trauma
Nah, it's like 15% of the top 10% of men hurting women, who then take it out on the bottom 90% of men
I knew this for a while now. That’s why I’m not eager on dating.
This is why religions have it right when they push people to marry young and stigmatize divorce unless under extreme circumstances
my biggest L: i met a cute girl at a metal concert, we were inseparable all day, we took the bus home together when we found out we lived close to each other, i walked her home, she asked me if i wanted to come in for a coffee... it was the middle of the night, years later i really doubt she wanted to drink coffee. i just said "sorry i'm not into coffee" and walked home. i'm not mad that i lost out on sex, i'm mad because she could've been an amazing girlfriend.
"Coffee? This late?" :D
You are literally George Costanza
I essentially did the same thing in very early college. She asked me in for coffee and I declined. What an idiot.
I always say yes to everything for this reason. And no I will not lick peanut butter off your toes.@@SF-fb6lv
Hot coffee mod
My L as a man : gorgeous girl from my chem lab was walking to gym with me as I walked to library.
She started telling me how she was new to the area, and lonely living in dorms and how her bed is so empty and cold.
Me: at least the rent is cheap
You can still save...
You coulda turned it into a rizz line by saying: "At least the rent is cheap... cuz I am 100% free, and *definitely* free later."
Nah you dodge a thot. Big W king.
That hurt to read 😢
@@gk7695 that's what is said 5 hours later to the shampoo bottles
I’m diagnosed autistic, and the fact that many women are telling men the exact opposite of what they want terrifies to date even further
switch to men
@@KookieKutter111hell yeah brother
Just be gay… duh!
if they tell the exact opposite - isn't it obvious to figure it out?
From autist to autist, date a neurotypical person, its so much nicer
Edit: I meant neurodivergend and now I ruined the comments
I was once dating a girl who said she didn't care about Valentines Day and it was stupid, but then proceeded to get mad at me when I did nothing for her on Valentines Day 😐
I was that dumb a few times. As the nazis would say "You will be severely punished!" And be certain I was LOL. I did get even. And I was punished again. Its an art that must be mastered.
like shoe said... dont ever believe when gyal say ish like that dawg...they always care...every time
I had a gf in high school that said the same thing. Luckily I ignored what she said and gave her a bear with a sombrero and a big box of chocolates. She was super happy for a week.
Funny/fucked up that ignoring what she said made her happy.
It's showing that you actually give a shit. Trust me, I know as another human being with his own problems + being diagnosed with ADHD from childhood; keeping contact with your loved ones is a chore (well, actually a fcking hard thing to do when you have to cope with real life at the same time as well. Google spoon theory autistm.) And if you don't have an ADHD or don't belong to any kind of autistic spectrum, ask your ADHD or autistic friend; I m sure they can broaden your viewpoint.@@HunterofWaifus
Hahaha try having a birthday on Valentines day! Previous GF's always said let's celebrate your birthday - proceeds to only care about getting spoilt and never even given a happy birthday!
"The Internet will never know when I'm pregnant" said the pregnant woman
My L: Asked a deaf girl on a date to see a movie. She was really good at reading lips and watched movies regularly, no issue there. The L comes from me not looking into the movie we ended up seeing, which was V for Vendetta. A solid two-thirds of that movie's dialog come from behind a mask. Also it was amazing and I only realized the issue near the end of the movie.
I'm imagining the introductory "It is my very good pleasure to meet you, and you may call me V" monolog, and her just wondering why this weird man in the mask is waving his arms around and twitching. 😂
🤣🤣🤣
Oh noooo 😭😭😭
Few issues bud.
Lip reading doesn't really.. work? NOt for axctually fully deaf people. nayve hard of hearing, but those people can MODSTLY still hear - just not well.
secondly, there's movies with CLOSED CAPTIONING> in fact, uh literally any movie theater has these. some offer glasses for the deaf patron to wear, which give ONLY THEM captions, so nobody else in the theater has ot be disturbed to accomodate them.
thirdly, the movie provides subtitles for the masked up parts? At least the one I went to, did.
@user-xz6qc5ej2r Dunno what you want me to tell you dude, I didn't interrogate her to determine if she was lying about being able to read lips / watch movies after she said she could.
Giving a "Me or the Hobby" ultimatum will almost always end up in the man taking the hobby. She's clearly willing to end a relationship over it, so major red flag.
Ong. Pick a control freak who likes mind games or pick a little fun box that let's you play with the homies or play solo campaigns. Like why even ask. 🤦🏽♂️
yeah sh0e reacted to it as if it was the physical PS that was the prize here, if you know these cases you immediately know its not the physical appliance but the notion of gaming as a hobby that these ultimatum givers are trying to snuff out.
Yes, I’ve never threatened my Fiancés PC. The first time I told him he has a legit problem with it he got really emotional and thought I was going to take it away. I was like absolutely not, I’m trying to meet you in the middle and help you divide up your time better. You cant put off all house responsibilities because you need over 6hrs on the computer every night. It’s not healthy. It got better after four years, but ultimatums defiantly don’t get to the root of the problem.
If someone makes you choose between them and someone else, choose the person who did not make you choose.
Kinda L to realise all those years amount not even to PlayStation
I had severe depression in college, and the idea of anyone liking or being attracted to me was completely inconceivable. One year, a friend gave me valentine chocolate, and I turned her down because I genuinely thought she'd made a mistake. I didn't know how to deal with affection. I only found out a year later she had a massive crush on me and never told me. The L is that Depression stole my 20s from me. I'm 18 months from 40, and I finally have it in me to say "I am worthy of love," but dating in your late 30s is much, much harder, and my depression keeps trying to come back. It sucks. -_-
Good luck mate o7
Single or not don't forget that you do have worth.
Happy to hear you're in a better place, bud! Much love!
Same boat mate.
And you know that any date will come with baggage (and that is nobody's fault. I'm not one to hate on women bc they went through shit, but it makes things difficult. Not to mention kids. Lots of single moms my age)
Recent first date was a "coffee date."
Just over an hour chatting.
Was nice, she's a terrific woman (40, i'm 39) but she remained distant throughout (was hoping for SOME sign of potential attraction, though I'm not the sort for first date kissing, a hug or affectionate touch is always nice) and she briefly talked about past relationships. Knowing she is processing trauma from a controlling ex will make building romance more difficult, bc I already don't pressure women... and now I'll be concerned to be forward at all.
My LAST set of dates was pre covid, and after months of going out nothing happened. When she called me desperate for making a *single* double entendre I gave it one last chance, bought her a thoughtful gift and when it was CLEAR she had zero respect or affection for me (beyond somebody to hang out with when convenient) I stopped asking. She was a nice girl and I hope I left a fond memory... but honestly I can not understand why a woman would agree to date and then be incapable of even offering friendship.
Can only offer solidarity.
It sucks. We persist.
That is me right now, ive never dated. Never will either.
I’m almost done with my 20’s and I have nothing in my life. I attribute it to crippling anxiety and depression so I understand.
"How can womens standard be so high and still so low" a question I have asked a long time now 🤣
Simple, the standard for attractiveness is so high and the standard for being a decent person is so low
"Men in captivity need to feel like they have a purpose, or else they die." As a man who does computer work, this one cut me to the core.
Do you feel you have purpose with your computer work? Just curious.
Yep, been in a tech job for a while. Very underwhelming. When I was fixing cars and emptying recycle bins I felt much more of a purpose (too bad those did not pay very well...).
@@anaa9245 Not really, but it pays well. I used to do welding and machining work and felt a much greater sense of purpose.
I'm a remote working software engineer who only leaves the house to buy groceries. So, I feel ya. Still, I laughed SO hard at this. As a man in captivity, I live for the moments when my wife asks me to do "man things." 😂
Hello kindred spirit.
"Men in captivity need to feel like they have a purpose, or else they die" made me laugh out loud more than it should. I am a man who is on the computer all day, buried in Excel and other programs.
And yes, it is actually very fulfilling to be able to do things for others like open jars and fix things.
I really want a guy like that lol.
I'm an IT guy. In summer my wife asked me to make her 5 garden planters. I didn't want to do it, we argued, I relented. Eventually though I really enjoyed doing it, I did a great job and got a new power tool.
@@Littletime839 the new power tool is just icing on the cake. you can buy something you might not really need but..
Whenever a woman asks me to open a jar, I just strut up to her and say in my deepest most manly voice, "I've got this."
Data Scientist here. I felt that comment pretty heavy as well.
I dumped a girl on April Fools Day, she thought I was joking I had to convince her I was serious. I don't regret doing it. But I do regret not waiting until April 2nd.
😂😂😂
Or March 31st
Then you call her on April fool's and say April fool's!
LMAO when I was young and stupid I made this same mistake. I’m Spanish and April Fools in Spanish culture is in December, so I left my boyfriend thrice. 28 of December (Spanish April fools), again on New Years, and then King’s day (Santa Claus day for Catholics lol). He thought I was joking the 3 times. I still cringe from not being able to realize those might have not been the best days to break up with someone, I guess I really wanted to break up with him xD to my defense I was 15
Here’s a win:
A girl in Highschool befriended my brother to try to get with me, and some how got me to try and teach her how to play the violin..? Anyway she eventually confessed her feelings for me and I turned her down…
Years later we reconnected and are now married with 1 beautiful baby boy, and another on the way.
Absolute big Ws for ya my good sir.
Lovely story, I hope you’re all doing well!! 💖💖
Damn, I was hoping for her to get with your brother ...
Anyway, congratulations and all the best! 🙂
MY Biggest L? Believing the shit I was taught as a kid about how life would be when I grew up. Society ripped me off and I want my money back.
Truest L there is
Yeah I want my money back also
I feel the same way, but if I want to be happy I need to stop blaming societal messaging, parents, siblings, friends and teachers from my childhood
Fuck the money, I want the years and my youth back!
@@Theomite I'd take money as a metaphor for your the years tbh but yeah. I want them back as well
"And now men are afraid of speaking to us."
Yes, yes absolutely. It is not worth getting our name dragged on social media, risking our career, and adding further shame to the already unpleasant feeling of being rejected. Everytime we hear women in our lives (friends, family) mention having been approached by a man, it is depicted as an extremely horrible experience. I would hate to become the villain from those stories.
Don't worry, you're also the villain for not approaching girls too. (She gave you a very obvious 'fuck me' signal by glancing at you for 0.534 seconds longer than she normally does the men she isn't attracted to)
yeah nobody wants to be labeled as the guy that was hitting on her. "Can you believe that guy actually tried to hit on me?" as she talks to her friends.
Have you ever thought to maybe ask the women in your life how best to approach them in order to avoid making a woman feel uncomfortable? I mean...ever? Pretty easy to figure out.
@ZiddersRooFurry Because women always tell the truth about what they desire men to do? Did you miss the part of the video where they beg men to be vulnerable and then immediately lose attraction when the men do what they asked for???
@@ZiddersRooFurry Don't do that, they'll lie to you. Don't ever listen to a women on dating advice.
Getting your sub gf to work out by framing it as BDSM is an absolutely galaxy brain move
Yo that's some quantum level shit
For the first time I'm proud of this species. I doubt any sentient being can do such a high iq move.
He shouldn't have given away the plot though. Just say his taste changed and he's into something else now, get her to learn all kinds of new things!
@@satyakisil9711It’s not high IQ to gain the cooperation and sacrifice of a partner for months, then instead of rewarding them, you humiliate them by revealing you tricked them with false pretenses. Or if their feelings don’t matter, exposing what a manipulator you are is still dumb.
Women love dudes that play tricks and games because women play tricks and games. Despite claiming the contrary.
"They ll have to assume i just eating real good"
> 8 mo later
"Yeah I have a baby"
Oh shit so not fries?
"I am afraid we have Metoo-ed, a little too close to the sun"
I love this quote more than I should
My biggest L was my first one. When I was 13 I met a cute girl in my neighborhood. I tried to flirt by telling her I liked her accent and asked her where she was from. She said "it's not an accent. I have a lisp." I was so embarrassed I just silently turned around and went home.
lmao
😭🤣
Ah! She was probably from Castille in Spain ;-)
@@izzyrazzbuffnik2326lol bro you beat me to it
I'm 42 and did this no less than 1 year ago....
Sigh.
I once had a girlfriend who broke up with me. I tried to convince her out of it for like an hour. At the end of the hour she said “why won’t you respect me and my decision and let me leave?” so I left her alone because I respect her. A week later she came back mad at me because I didn’t fight for her.
Got to the end of the video. I’m supposed to post an L. I took her back afterwards.
@@GreyGreenGod oooffff i feel for you on that one
This is weird.
Women DO actually do this. Then again, they also sometimes break up with you to get with somebody else and then come crawling back when that gambit doesn't pay off.
women amirite fellers xD
"We have me too'd a little too close to the sun and now men are afraid of speaking to us." Literally, that's it.
To be fair, young men are terrified of women by default, me tooing like crazed shebeasts was just some gasoline for the fire.
No, it's really because you won't stop saying "literally."
@mtthwpnn you're literally right. 😂
In a nutshell, yes. As a dude who likes dudes, I don't use my balls to think about women but my brain. And a enough of them are crazy, and enough guys have had their lives ruined by false accusations, that I'm amazed any guy will go out with them. Me, I won't even share an elevator with one, or talk to one at work without witnesses, because I've heard too many laughing and admitting they've intentionally destroyed men for a power thrill. Like serialkillers without the clean up.
God bless Shoe for trying to bridge the gap between men and women by posting their varied romantic failures!
the below average attractive people need to date each other and stop chasing people who will never take them seriously other than for recreation.
@@FazeParticlesman you gonna mald when a woman you're really, REALLY into leaves you for the runner-up to the danny devito impersonation contest (first place was the man himself).
Bruh I'm anywhere from homely to average-looking and so many girls, even those way outta my league, got interested just because I am engaging to listen to. Charisma isn't about being pretty, it's about being able to enrich with your presence.
@@chukyuniqul good one uggo
@@chukyuniqullmao cope
fr..what a W elder sister responsible empath energy she has
“Men need a purpose while in captivity or else they die” 😂😂 as a man, this is so true and hilarious
Hits a little too close to home for my taste.
Yea she knows men better than me and I am one. Wtf?
Its like spacemen come down on earth to teach us how to do agriculture. Thats how I felt after hearing it.
Shes on another lvl
Hell yeah 🍻
@@Jeed92 She's not on another level. If you do even the slightest research on male suicide, you will quickly come to the conclusion that a primary reason for men killing themselves is the lack of a purpose.
this is gold 🤣
I gifted my girlfriend at the time a self made leather backpack for LARPing. I'm no good at finding great or even fun gifts so I was really proud of myself for thinking about it. Spend a week making it. She was speechless. - She realized in that moment that she did not love me like I did her, found that unfair and ended the relationship.
Sucks, but move on and don't think about it. Her loss, you would have given her everything.
@@scambaitspidey3470 Hey thanks! That was almost 20 years ago though.. I'm married with kids now.
@@KarlSanathosthat's a delightful response
@@KarlSanathos that’s great! Y’know I’d like to think things happen for a reason. It was meant to be so you could be where you are today
@@KATinBLACK I like to think that things happen for no "greater good"-reason at all. Makes things a lot easier to cope with.
7:22 This is kind of ironic because she was actually pregnant at the time💀💀💀💀
I began writing my L story but then I realised it doesn't need to be seen by anyone and that's what separates me from these people.
W
Dew it...
Oh sure, make _me_ feel like a dipshit.
Good choice.
I backspaced it too
As a man who constantly takes dating L’s I see this vid as an absolute win
Bro, you're dating: You're drowning in W's.
@@MR-backup dating seems good, but it can be very mentally painful and difficult to maintain, and you can end up worse off than when you started sometimes. it's not all roses and smiles, sometimes it's never that.
@@superroboguy998But in the end it’s worth it. Remember, the hardest things in life bear the most fruit. But you have to work for it and continue to water it
@@E3T7 Life is not as mechanical as you think it is. Simplifying life into "put in work, get results" fails to consider the levels of nuance that is necessary to make said work achieve results.
@@ninjacats1647 Sometimes you can put in all the hard work and just be unlucky.
"Men in captivity need to feel they have a purpose, or else they die"
Dang... Shoe understands us better than we understand ourselves.
Feel sorry for you youngins that you have been so fkd over by the lefts brainwashing that you dont even know that about yourself.
No, it isn't. History mostly records evidence of the contrary.
@@markverani5088Tf ?
Yeah that line hit hard and it's 100% correct.
@@BIZaGoten Men in captivity are kept alive by hope that gives them purpose outside the goals of the captor. When the purpose is only what the captor provides, they become husks and automatons. Take a closer look at the history of slaves in the US or husbands who feel trapped and dejected.
I would bet i have one of the best Ls... I took my fiancee on vacation and inadvertently introduced her to a guy who she ended up cheating on me with and later married. Then 5 years later they got divorced and she moved back to my state and we ran into each other. She apologized to me and admitted it was a horrible thing she did. I forgave her, and we became friends. Fast forward 2 years later and we started dating again. 2 more years after that we were engaged again. I bought us a huge house, in a really nice neighborhood. 18 months later she cheated on me again with the single neighbor next door, who she once again ended up marrying. I've now introduced her to BOTH of her husbands.
Thats it. That has got to be the worst one ive heard. I thought about posting my high school, oblivious to a girl friend that has a crush on me story. I was worried of being too embarassed. But you my friend are simultaneously the biggest loser for having that story in your past, yet, the biggest winner for being bold enough to tell it online. I salute you.
You are now lord simp.
Wtf
Oh no! 😂 I'm laughing with...btw
Dude there's NO way I can believe this, that girl cannot exist without spontaneously combusting or something
dont know if i would say "best"...
If a woman ditches you for ASKING WHAT SHE WANTS then it's for the best, it's like trash taking out itself, you don't need her in your life
This is bad advice if we're talking about a first date. It's good advice if you're already in a relationship with her.
I think you didn't understand the video. Women don't know what they want so you can't give them a choice.
@@TheodoreChin-ih7xz yes, some of us really out here work in black-and-white literal thinking. So when we say no, we mean no. When we say yes, we mean yes. When we say maybe, we mean maybe. And we will also tell a man exactly what we want, when we want it, how we want it, and be extremely clear about that. I dislike anyone - man or woman - who is passive aggressive and doesn't say what they mean (or plays guessing games where they expect you to read their minds.) My mother is a huge 'I shouldn't have to ask you, you should know based on how I'm feeling' time and istg the fights we have over it.
@@TheodoreChin-ih7xz see, I like that. I like men who don't play guessing games, don't like guessing games, and want women who don't do guessing games. It makes life a helluva lot easier. Plus when I look back, I made the "first move" by blatantly asking for what I wanted, and they made the "official first move" by doing the action. (Eg asking to be kissed so they kiss me.)
I genuinely don't know why women would want something else other than they've watched one too many episodes of Riverdale.
@@Moon0525_ please marry me
My worst L was spending an entire day with my crush but was too scared to make a move. Hiked in the bluffs, nice dinner, all of it. Went back to her dorm, she showered and curled up next to me still in her towel. Finally, she turned my head, kissed me, and said "My God Man, read the room!"
I was just trying to not make her uncomfortable in case she didn't like me back :(
Hopefully you finally read the room
common man so blind he needs the girl to brail "I like you dumbass" on her boobs and physically force his hands on there
and then probably still go "I dunno man, maybe she loves me as a friend"
jokes aside, lucky you my dude, and don't give up. Women do appreciate it when you show you're really working on understanding her better
Aww, that’s actually adorable
@@Bacontruffle lol sounds like some shit out of an anime
Any updates?
Women: constantly say things they don't mean.
Also women: "women are just way better at communicating"
They are so good at communicating that they built the pyramids, developed the scientific method, went to the moon and even marshaled complex military maneuvers throughout history…. I mean herstory
@@Yeetus223none of those are achievements of communication though.
@@thewingedone1172 If you think you can do any of that without communication, you really should have paid attention in school/life.
@@thewingedone1172Think about what you said once again...
@@thewingedone1172 smh....
Conclusion: no one is okay
I think the most common L for me and most men is realizing that a woman was making hints for intimate engagement but we didn't pick up on it and realize it two moths later.
Two months? I realized like 5 years later
Yea, make that "years" and I found out from someone else. Mind blown
Agree completely.
But you did get two moths out of it.
That's pretty cool. They're like goth butterflies
Yeah bud see my comment I just posted earlier lol
I got a girl through her finals, convinced her parents to let her buy a gaming pc, built the aforementioned gaming pc, provided her shelter when her mother nearly threw her out of the house, just to be left with the words 'you didn't do enough' and for her to go to the guy I was suspicious of in her friendgroup. I take that as a W because I am not with someone like that anymore
Nah that's an L. Same thing basically happened to me. Yea I am glad that toxic bitch is gone, but it is far from a W for me.
Yeah.
Idk man. Sounds like you’ve got a faulty red flag scanner. The red flags were there, you just didn’t see it. I’m assuming the dad isn’t around? That’s always the case with women like her.
@@brandonmcalpin9228bro wrote one comment on one random post on a random video on some social media platform on the internet and you think this absolutely microscopic piece of information in the entirety of his life and this relationship is enough evidence to make the conclusions you just did. Turn it around on yourself and ask if that would be enough knowledge for a complete stranger to do with your life. Go outside and touch some grass
Bro did you at least keep the PC?
I was dead ass ready to take this seriously and hear you out on women’s problems and you hit me with this 😂
so you liked it?
7:22 “the internet will never know when im pregnant” SHE WAS LITERALLY PREGNANT WHEN THIS WAS UPLOADED CONGRATULATIONS SHOE
Giant W for Shoe.
About 8 years ago when I was in my early 20s I really liked this girl at the front desk where I worked. I was really shy and awkward though, so I wanted my interactions with her to be perfect. I ended up talking to a bunch of people that worked close with her to find out things like her favorite flower and color, I asked them about her favorite TV shows and her taste in music-this way when I'd talk to her, I could cater the conversation to what she liked. She still didn't really engage in the conversations, so I kept digging with others about her to find out more about her. Eventually I bought her a big bouquet of her favorite flowers and left them on the front desk with a note asking her on a date. About a week later she quit. Soon after I found out that almost none of the things I was told were correct about her, including the favorite flowers that I bought for her, and she also knew that I was asking people about her and was creeped out that I didn't just talk to her instead and ask her those things instead of asking others. Super big L, but a huge learning moment for my awkward ass.
You should just assume that she heard about everything you asked her friends about, because... women. First rule- they can't keep secrets, they gossip about *everything*, and they love ruining the lives of poor socially-inept nice guys.
That's ... probably the most cliche situation in any romance book / movie / show. That's actually sad that it backfired so spectacularly on you. That wasn't your fault necessarily, you were set up to fail.
Something like that is literally the first way most people figure out how to approach someone, like in high school. And usually when the other person hears that someone has been asking around about them, they don't immediately jump to them being a stalker and moving.
yeah man not to be rude but that's deffo an L on your part lol - she was probably sketched out you were trying to stalk her or something. The only way to truly connect with someone anyway is to just find common ground in the moment about whatever - not by having lists of facts and talking points lol. But not to ramble - sounds like you got over your stuff.
It's all just growing up really isn't it
I certainly prefer a guy ask me directly. I also prefer he not obsessively cater to what I like. Something nice that I like once in a while is good, but I'll start disliking even my favorite stuff if it gets blasted my way nonstop.
Oof. Can relate.
10:55 I like how her first response to being ghosted because she was a journalist is to behave in exactly the type of manner that makes it seem completely justified and reasonable to ghost a journalist.
The most charitable interpretation is it's a joke. Having said that, for someone that works at Jezabel, it would be hard to determine if they have a sick sense of humour or are actually bonkers.
comedy GOLD xD
It isn't?
Seriously, there are only few jobs that have the potential to screw your life and or reputation big time than journalists.
That's the same reason, you try to avoid dating a co-worker. Not for the time you are together but because there always is a breakup and then the shit show, name calling and lying begins.
@@No_Way_NO_WAY
Journos don't date other journos because they are toxic people is all I got from that. Journalists say or write and do really stupid and horrific things every single day without being fired because it is literally their job to be lying scum.
@@kamu38 No one who works at Jezebel has a sense of humor. Not a chance.
Nothing like hearing "situationship" to make me feel even more like the oldest young person on the planet.
Anyone who uses that to me is a nasty bitch, monogamy is sexy
Lol same
hearing that made me physically flinch and double check the video.
Sounds like another word to dodge personal accountability
The stupidest single word ever uttered by this species… it’s so disgusting, knew this girl who couldn’t even call this guy her boyfriend who she met 8 months ago and had been sleeping with every week. Didn’t know what to say, I genuinely felt bad for her because she actually liked him…
I'd been friendzoned so often in my life a girl was basically giving me directions to her cooter and I was stuck in friendzone mentality so hard I didn't see the signs.
Many such cases.
I remember when I was 13 or 14. There was a girl on the swim team that I liked. She asked for my number and I responded with "what for?" She quit the swim team after that and I never saw her again.
oof
ooooof
What fer??
Dodged a bullet probably bro. If she couldn't handle that rejection she can't handle life
I feel like every man has lived this experience.
One time a girl I was friends with changed her clothes in my car after homecoming senior year and said "ok don't look... Actually you can if you want too" and I just laughed it off and kept looking out the window. Didn't get it until the next day.
Actually had a girl tell me to look at her while she stripped down to her underwear in my car and I still didn't get the hint.
you made the right choice brother
Me
Had a few similar experiences when I was younger and dumber. Youth really is wasted on the young.
@@edvaedan9161 Youth really is wasted on the young, that's a surprisingly striking thing to say, I wonder why I haven't ever heard it before
Oh boy, that's an "L"
"I claimed my territory" is legit a great comeback from such an awkward situation.
That genuinely made me laugh. That's keeper material.
I lol'd. That was indeed funny xD
Literally would have proposed in that moment. What a proposal story to tell the kids!
Keeper.
Agreed, I would've lol'd if it was me and tell her not to worry about it
Here in August after Shoe had a baby - turns out she wasn't lying at 7:23
Was looking for this comment 😂
I was talking to a female friend at a pub and she hinted she had a crush on someone. I asked who it was and she said "hes sitting on this bench" - so i looked around and assumed she meant another guy who was sat further away.
But she meant you I guess?👀👀👀
I would think same😂
We've all been there
@@andymcclurg9916 men speak our mind,women in innuendos,and some speak so vague even god would miss it.
And you are absolutely correct unless your name is
Lord Nigel Dollarsworth II. Jr.
Or maybe she is a medium and is seeing Ghosts..
"Men in captivity need to feel like they have a purpose...or else they die."
- ShoeOnHead
I don't know about you, but this hits hard, especially for men who were constantly been belittled in their relationships.
100%
I always say men should never get married, have a family, or have kids. It's a trap, be smart and single for life
Or they fight back. Or destroy... which is what we're seeing today.
who fucking told her
Nick F might steal that.
“It is not a fetish, it came free with your genetics”
What a bar
Oh my god she really didn’t tell the internet she was pregnant
I don't use Instagram, so thank you for letting me know lol. I didn't know she got married, either
People on the internet keeping their private life private.
It happens rarely, but it happens
My comment probably disappeared but I think you can still find it in your gmail.
When I was in highschool in a cooking class. I used to talk to this one girl just being friendly. One day she said "So yeah it sucks I don't have anyone to take me to prom." All smooth like and my response "Yeah that sucks, good luck with that." It took me 17 years to one day realize she was hinting about me taking her to prom. Man was I thick in the head back then.
You know how girls project about how guys play too many games? Well, chicks need to be more obvious with what they want. Everything to them is a damn game.
@Gyrfalcon312 You think that's bad, I had a girl literally take her pants off in my bedroom, and I still didn't get the hint.
Social cues are not easy, don't be hard on yourself.
Same here man same thing happened to me back in 2020 I had a girl said a similar thing to what you said but I was like “nah I just wanna get my diploma and bounce tbh I’m done with school” smh real stupid decision on my end
Was on a date with a girl and it was cold and windy outside. Also I did not know it was a date. I thought we were just getting to knoch each other a bit better because we.. idk.. work in the same building.. or something.. I didn't really think anything. I just met up with her.
Anyway. After that we were texting and I said something like "it was cold outside." or something about that and she said "Yes, I saw you shivering. I was thinking about cuddling up to you to keep you warm." and I wrote back something like "Better you did not do it since I don't want to get touched by most girls." or something like that. Never heard from her again. I wonder why. :'D (To be clear though: I am way more social today... A bit more.. Enough more to not respond with that. :D)
"Men in captivity need to feel like they have a purpose or else they die" is so real thank you for this quote.
If it's hard on you, flee from captivity, you can get a divorce over mental abuse.
Ken behavior
@@joka_jinx🤡
Not all of them will die. The strongest one's will make they own purpose, which usually involves violence👌
@@Roger-fs5yoThen they go to Prison 😀
I was dating a woman who literally pushed another man off a cliff and grievously injured him. When she first told me about it I was so lonely and desperate for affection that I didn't immediately break up with her. Surprise surprise, she was violent and abusive.
Nah that's crazy. Hope you doing better now
wow bro 🤣
Damn
Should have chosen better through, right?
One of my biggest L was when I was dating a toxic female that was lying to me, but everyone around me was telling me the truth, and I just listen to that one chick without listening to the whole crowd of people telling me that she was an awful person until I had to get it verbally slapped into me then I broke up with her, but now it’s one of my biggest L
Been there done that. It´s an expierence. One knows better now how to defend against these people.
Realizing later that a cool girl was showing interest in me while I was too spaced out to notice is always one of the worst feelings.
Nah dude, you don't need to feel bad for that. People like to shame men for not picking up on women's subtle signals, rather than shame women for not being direct and honest with what they want. If she was actually a "cool girl" who would have made a good partner, she would have been more direct and straight-forward with you. If anything, you dodged a bullet.
you do realize that every man has that happen to them like 10 times.
and they did not even notice.
@@brusso456 when walking by and looking is apparently a subtle hint
Met up with a girl from high school like 10 years after graduation. She admitted she had a big crush on me and when i asked her why she didn't say anything she told me " I would tell you that I liked your jacket" to be fair, it was a pretty sweet jacket.
@@mtsEnrique fucking women..... She actually thought complimenting your jacket was a clear signal. No wonder they keep ending up dating/marrying the worst dudes. Only the worst dudes would be egotistical enough that their jacket being complimented means that the girl likes them. It's almost as if women are seeking out egotistical men and that's why they continuously fail to find the right men
My L as a man:
My last two serious girlfriends broke up with me because I "helped them discover their sexuality"
They're both asexual now
Oh my God I'm so sorry bro
Look at it like this: They wanted to be completely certain, so they chose the best man they could find. When even HE couldn't get a reaction, then they were certain.
@@paulgibbon5991this is a really good point actually
Buuuuut, as an asexual, it still means they liked you for you. Their sexuality just means they don't have as much interest in sex, it has nothing to do with you specifically...unless they're demi in which case, oof.
Damn bro, just think of it as them never washing their hand after shaking yours. It is a compliment :)
I honestly never considered using ‘two’ mini fridges as a tv stand, before…
Mind. Blown.
i mean one mini-fridge is obvious.... keeps the drinks cold. but two?? YOU COULD PUT SNACKS IN THAT ONE!!
I've used just one mini fridge, but that's because someone else had brought my stuff in for me, so I didn't really get to use my TV much for a week or two ... haha - on the whole, it works for Q and D solution ! :)
Fridges are massive power hogs. Your powerbill at the end of the month would be enormous. Mini fridges suck up almost as much power as a regular fridge, because the technology of keeping things cold is largely the same and requires just as much energy to work. Plus... mini fridges put out a lot of heat. So, it might overheat your TV or gaming console.
There is a reason why most people don't do that.
New product idea
It really is big brain. Like I get why people would feel that way but….
"Men were built for war and hunting […] I don't care if you could open the jar yourself, give it to him. Men in captivity need to feel like they have a purpose, or else they die."
I love you, shoe, you really get us.
I was built for war and hunting... and you're about to be on the receiving end of that@anonymousone6075
Yes
thats made me feel better I cant take the lids off anymore and feel a nuisance asking
I don't really get it. I'm ok with smoking joints and studying for college, I don't need to be performing some use and shi lol.
No you dmfk, if men were built for war then ptsd, depression, suicide wouldn't all be drastically higher for men who were in wars.
This comment reads as some lost kid trying to find purpose and then gets tricked by th recruiter into becoming a grunt in the marines and then gets obliterated the first time they step foot in combat
My L as a man: just.... everything. My whole life. In its entirety.
I would say the same thing, but after having the epiphany that I've fucked up multiple friendships by my own failures, and talking to somebody who said that they like me, but it's a Jekyll and Hyde situation with me, it's a come-to-Jesus thing.
first thing to change: go from "Glass half empty, life sucks and I deserve nothing but misery" to "Hey, things are tough, but I'm tougher. I can do this."
This is both a message for you, and also for myself. Here's hoping that I hold true to this.
Damn
I found a girl and saved her life, but she ended up moving in with me and bossing me around all the time, even though I pay for everything.
Sometimes she howls at 4 A.M. to wake me up, because she's bored. She has also torn up my blinds.
Yes, she is a cat, and she is adorable, but still though.
😆
😁
You get one like.
She owns you now, deal with it 😂
You can't claim saved because she got off drugs. That's not saving someone
"Men in captivity need to have a purpose or else they will die" is the single best quote I've heard all year.
There is something very true about it. Like look how economists are worried about single men not spending any money.
That's why they think they're alpha males because the term was born out of animals in captivity observed and labelled
true.
Or they start wars. Either option is not very good.
@chandllerburse737 statistic data says the opposite. Things like upgrading a PC once a year seem expensive but they aren't much compared to spending money in a relationship.
"Men in captivity need to feel like they have a purpose or they die"
Thanks, Shoe. Thanks for understanding.
The German exchange student walked into the library while I was trying to study. Started talking about prom and how she was so ashamed she was going alone. I agreed it was a shame then waited for her to leave.
I feel it
That is not an L, king, it's a W for the entire autist Chad race
That's not on you, she shouldn't have been playing games and just asked you.
@@joekenorerEh, it’s a little on both. It sounds obvious enough
SAVAGE
my biggest W is that i convinced a woman that i'm not a depraved maniac. 4 kids and 27 years in and she still hasn't figured it out.
LOL
Weird as a normal man I have to try and convince women that I'm actually a depraved maniac to get them to care about me at all.
Score!
Lmaoo
@@FringeWizard2Except the news is full of depraved male maniac murderers so...
My biggest L was probably getting asked to a Highschool dance by a girl I really liked just to spend the entire thing avoiding her because I hated myself so much.
I feel that 😢
Same happened to me except I said no to both girls because I convinced myself they were rucking with me
No one who hates themselves should be dating at all. No one is going to be able to 'fix' how you feel about yourself. I'm not one of those people who believes in 'you have to love yourself before you're ready to love someone else', most people don't. Those that do tend to be narcissist's.
But you have to be content with yourself/happy enough at least. Hope you don't feel that way anymore, but if you do then that's something only you can repair
🫂
@@alephnull8377 I did the exact same thing the one time a girl showed interest in me. To this day I'm not even sure she wasn't messing with me.
Bro I had a cute nerdy girl who liked me and tried to flirt with me and I brushed it off not recognizing what it was till a year later💀💀
and now you'll remember your L for the rest of your life
I have an L like that also. It's the worst.
Nobody is doing okay, honestly. The internet has connected all of us & ruined all of us. Everyone has a voice & a platform, which is a good thing.. & a very scary thing, lol.
This, this is it, minus the part when as kids we would get whiny with our friends we would kick each others asses until we were right with the world again.
the best thing about the internet is everyone gets a voice.
the worst thing about the internet is everyone gets a voice.
I am doing pretty fine :D
@pieterrossouw8596 yup we are seeing what people are really about and it's scary for sure. But, I'd rather be scared and know than be oblivious and get blindsided by utterly crappy behavior constantly.
Actually, I think the worst part is unhappy shallow people posted on Instagram they are happy.
Found out my girlfriend was cheating on me after three years of being together and shortly after I had bought a ring to propose. She cheated on me with my best friend of 15 years who was a pole bearer at my 16 y.o. sister’s funeral (who had just died about a year before). Trust issues ever since…
Oh my, I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope you're ok and can heal from it as soon as possible. You deserve so much better. I assure you, you can find someone way better. And even if you don't, take yourself on a date by yourself from time to time, I promise it can help
The red flags were there bro. You just didn't see em
Its more common than youd think dont beat yourself up to hard about it
Holy shit dude I’m so sorry
Welcome to the rabbit hole. Almost all women are narricist usually covert you were obviously dating one. I'm sorry and good luck
"Men in captivity need to have purpose or else they die"
This is the most hilarious true thing.
It's almost like listening to Jordan Peterson 🤯😂
Why is it funny?
son, you ever been to a turkish prison?
@@somethingedgy2185its funny because its true 😂 bit sad innit?
@@manboy4720 What about them pa?
That “warsh me holes” shit had me laughing out loud. I don’t even know what I would do if a shorty told me that.
The more I watch these women tell on themselves, the better I feel about myself, despite my chronic illness and body that wants me dead.
That sounds horrible. Stay strong ❤
I scrolled to find the most relatable comment as a femanon and here we are
There was a girl in highschool who regularly asked me to help with math/chem homework in the classes we shared, but she always had better grades than me.
I only figured it out five years later.
Now if only she just had the guts and initiative to just *fucking tell you* that she liked you, things might have worked out for her. My god, she missed an opportunity to date someone she liked who also demonstrated that they're willing to help others without expecting anything in return.... All because she never acted on it.
You didn't miss a good opportunity.... You dodged a bullet.
@@badwolf3618
How is being indecisive so bad that you think he dodged a bullet with her? I strongly disagree, some people just have low self esteem and she was probably not sure if he would even like her back.
@@ViewOf Plus they were in high school. I think we can forgive teenagers for not being dating experts.
@@ViewOf well, for starters, most women would never tolerate that same level of indecisiveness from a man. Also, being unable to go after the things you want in life is not a good trait to have. Expecting the man to do all the work is also toxic as it creates a dynamic of the man constantly having to perform in order to gain her approval and validation, which then gives her less incentive to put im equal effort. A relationship built on that kind of dynamic will mean that she will never see him as her equal. She will always see herself as the prize, and she will see him as the lucky contestant who happened to win the prize.
She got that from Mean Girls if you're younger.
I can't stress enough how important it is to not have social media. Tiktok is absolutely ruining lives. It's a trap.
AGREED and people always think im "brainwashed conservative" when i tell them that. Whos brainwashed again?
Women are just revealing their true nature. Have at it.
everyone i know thinks im crazy for not having tiktok or any dating apps installed. kinda sad
Social Media is the bane of all serious relationships.
People who deny that just haven't had anything bad happen... yet.
If you want a decent shot at having a healthy relationship, find someone who opposes it, doesn't use it at all, or at the very least has self control and scrolls for a few minutes a day and that's it.
Especially if you're with a girl because if you have a bad day, she likely has an inbox full of male friends who would love to be there for her in your stead.
What a boomer thing to say
Women post L’s because they get sympathy.
Men don’t because they get mocked and told to pull themselves up by their bootstraps.
Once, I nervously approached a kind of cute quirky girl just to give her a compliment, but got so flustered in just talking to her that when she asked "So what are you doing later?" I LITERALLY TOLD HER WHAT I WAS DOING LATER
She was like, "Oh, ok, cool" and I left quickly
uh what's the problem here ?
Hahaha lol
@@jeanperdsmesbras5720 Opportunity to hang out with the girl, maaaaaybe. But to think of that in the moment is hard when the anxiety hits.
So what were you doing? 🤔
@@sweebos we must know
One girl I really liked actually had a big crush on me but she was always saying stuff that would imply shed never date me. Sometimes she straight up say that she wouldn't date me because we're friends every time I almost asked her out. 3 weeks later when I'm finally starting to take my heart out of her hands, she admits that she had a big crush on me, and now she blames me for not seeing it. She then did everything in her power to make me feel absolutely destroyed by the fact I didn't have the balls to ask her out despite her always saying she wouldn't date me in her wildest dreams. She left me broken for weeks.
She did that because you are better than her and knew you’d break up with her pig ass as soon as you grow some balls and realize how powerful you are
IDK if this recently happened to you, but this is a good learning opportunity for you. Chase what _you_ want; if it works out, great! If it doesn't work out, you can move on. You won't know for sure what she'll say until she says it.
You avoided a tsundere 😆
Thank god you dodged _that_ bullet! Can you imagine the mindgames if you had ended up with her?
She belongs to the streeets!
As a women I’m so glad that I married my husband 20 years ago. I cannot imagine dating these days.
I don't believe it exists anymore, at least not in the traditional sense.
@@ryzikx 🤣🤣🤣🤣
After all the crazy woke shit started,
girls saying they need 6.2 foot, 6 figures,
saying they are a 10 even if they are obese,
think body count doesnt matter - To men, it sure does! To us, women with high BC are hoes.
To women, men with high BC are experienced players...
after the feminism, the metoo sht, the pronoun shit, the safe spaces, the activism shit etc
I dont even look at women....fuck that
If I became single again I don't think I would get married again. Not worth the risk
@@randobad What doesn't exist anymore?
Heres one of my Ls:
My first girlfriend had a friend that she assured me was just a friend. I was suspicious, but i dropped it since i trusted her. A week or 2 later, she gave me and him a paper that was a "boyfriend application" thing that had questions about height and age and why i thought i should be her boyfriend. Quite unsurprisingly i had been denied and she then told me that her "friend had never been given a paper and i was predestined to be dumped. An albiet creative but cruel way to cut someone off in my opinion
I almost blew my drink out my nose when you called us men in captivity.
lol
"Try going somewhere without money. "
- Bill Hicks
Society has indeed neutered the man whose primal desire is war and conquest, sadge.
it's like a zoo lol
exactly.
My biggest L is that when I was at a wedding reception I went to the bar and asked if they had a specific brand of whiskey. The lady said “no. But I have some at home” and winked at me. I just said “oh okay. Thank you. I’ll have a rum and coke then please “. My cousin looked dumb founded at me and told me later that she was probably trying to hit me on or something
You're not obligated to sleep with a stranger. Especially if she wasn't attractive to you
A random lady you've never met wanted to take you home? My dude, that's a serial killer.
Women killers the majority of the time attack other women or children
The women killers that attack guys usually are working with a guy, that's what ya gotta look out for
That's nasty, though. If a stranger said that to me I'd be grossed out and even a bit offended.
Yeah man that’s not cool. Who does she think she is making those suggestions to you a guy she doesn’t know. Thats sexual harassment for sure
“Tell me some of your biggest Ls”
No. I promised myself I’m taking that to the grave 😂
Difference between men and women.
Ah-yup! I think the matrix has enough information already!
My L? Yea sure
I broke up with a girl because I didn’t see a future with her and I wasn’t in the right place for a relationship. I got back with her. I want to break up again. *I hate myself.*
Update: we had a fight and i broke up with her. Augh
My biggest L? Thinking my ex actually loved me at some point.
I watched my ex's entire family choose me over her because she married someone else and didn't tell anyone. Her parents found out a week after by reading the newspaper. The saddest part was the grandmother, her Alzheimer's kept her thoughts back to when we were dating. 3 years later I was invited to be there in the grandmother's last moments she asked me to keep taking good care of her granddaughter.
My ex was treating STDs like Pokemon in the meantime and sharing her stories on Facebook.
Dang dude...
That's called being blessed, Dude. You dodged a bullet.
Sheesh and yikes
I mean...that doesn't sound like a loss to me, you're clearly a decent soul if the family accepted you to such a degree and you don't have to bang their mental offspring. Win win.
Massive dub
I was in choir in high school. I wore Coke bottle glasses and didn't consider myself a ladies' man in any way, but I had a crush on J, a senior who was beautiful, nice, and also on the drill team. Way out of my league on her most generous day, but always happy to say hi and such, never rude.
One day we were doing basic scales in choir and J was struggling, so I got the bright idea that I'd take the chance to help her out one on one before school. I asked the director if it was ok, he said sure, so i invited her and she agreed to meet up a couple mornings later.
I wrote out the scales on sheet music, had everything prepped, and was ready to gain her appreciation and respect by helping her learn her scales when I showed up early and got everything set up at the piano.
She showed up on time in a fancy western shirt and tight jeans, looking like she was ready for a night out. She smiled and sat down in the chair next to me and as I started getting into things, she said, "You know, Larry, choir is just a blow off class for me and I don't really care about learning the scales."
I got quiet, gathered my things and said, "Welp, I guess there's no point in being here," before I said goodbye and left to go on with my day.
At no point had I considered that she might have just wanted to spend time with me. No part of me questioned why she was so dressed up to practice scales. I thought she would he happy to learn something she was strugglng with and things might go from there and when she wasn't interested in the scales, I had no alternative plan in mind.
Major L on my part...
brutal
Uff
L for both parties. He didn't notice, she didn't try to salvage the obliviousness.
Ouch 😬
OOOF
idk why I thought the first thing she would say is "War. War never changes."
I honestly didn't know you could get rid of chlamydia fast enough to catch it twice in a single year.
Skill and practice.
@taliaeategg2027 1 round of antibiotics for 7 days will do it. Its not herpes. Herpes you can't get rid of. There is also a new form of gonorrhea that has come about the last couple years that is resistant to antibiotics so, I told all my kids to strap up, its getting dangerous out there. Of course chlamydia is something you can catch even with protection. Its an exchange of moisture between the downstairs of each partner. I also heard syphilis is making a comeback.
You can, I had it at least four times in one year.
@@fullserviceportlandstorytime? 🍿🙂
New goal for 2024 😂
i convinced an american girl i dated that in canada the left and right sides are switched so i kept making left turns every time she said turn right. its a personal L because it means i spent an extra 20 minutes in the presence of the dumbest human being i've ever met. but it was funny.
When I was I kid I didn't know what the n word meant so I would say it all the time. My dad just said it was a bad word.
nux jumpscare
omg. been forever bro. how have u been. I haven't watched ur channel in a while but may be I will now.
I’m surprised you haven’t done this exact video on your own channel. Shit’s right up your alley
Lol saw this video then your reaction and I had to see if you really posted this lmao
I remember back in late 2000s when my high school teacher was like "this online dating thing is going to become the new way to date and soon meeting people in public and hitting on them and asking them out is going to be considered creepy and stalkerish, and that the strangers online to meet up with will not be considered creepy and be normalized"... damn, was he right 🤣
Man really did read the future
takes all the meat out of the equation, 100% complete brain-to-brain interfacing
Actually back in the late 90s when the internet wasn't at every persons finger tips.
Online dating was frowned upon. So many what ifs. And as your teacher predicted it's the normal
I remember seeing the first touch screen phone...with internet! I knew it was over.
One time I was ordering at a fast food joint. The cute cashier told me that I have such a soothing voice. Thought she was just being nice and thanked her, thinking nothing more of it. She seemed a little flustered and just disappeared in to the kitchen. Realised way too late she was flirting with me and I never saw her again.
Based on this and the men loneliness epidemic I’ve considered that people are all broken
No wonder. Look at the state of family and marriage today. Broken homes and broken parents make for broken children who then go and repeat the cycle.
What if everyone is just mentally ill in some way? Hell, I wouldn't even be surprised
Social media ruins society.
It's almost like waiting to give yourself to your spouse till after you're married after getting to know them well is a good idea. Oh, and being kind to others, even those you don't like and those who won't do anything for you.
No
Women ruined it