A Reason Not to Worry What Others Think
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- We spend a little too much time worrying about how we must appear in the minds of others. However, the poignant, useful truth is that almost everyone doesn't care at all about who we are, what we're doing and how we've messed up.
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“Landscape with the Fall of Icarus is a large painting from the 1560s that hangs in Belgium’s largest museum, the Musée des Beaux Arts - and is held to be a meticulous copy of an original (now lost) work by the Flemish artist Pieter Bruegel the Elder. It shows a superficially bucolic scene: ships are taking sail, a shepherd is tending to his flock, distant cities look prosperous and ordered…”
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The School of Life Icarus was his nephew i think.
Someone said it would be in android on day 29
Please make it available on Android as well, thanks.
The School of Life this is beautiful
"We lie awake at night wondering how we could cope without the approval of people we don't even like very much."
Yes, I agree, that is a profound statement uttered within this interesting insight of thought.
My favorite statement of the film
A very accurate description of me during high school.
In other words, stop being people pleasers
fordgt402 Problem is, humans are hardwired to worry about what other people think of us. In primitive times, if members of the tribe didn’t like us we could be shunned and would die. We needed their approval in order to remain within the tribe and have the protection of being part of a group. So we worry about those who appear to dislike us, as we fear the negative consequences of their dislike.
"We suffer more often in imagination than in reality"
- Senica
This is the ultimate truth. So beautifully said. Amazing.
i really feel like that
Yes this is true now stop it everyone that reads this vow to never participate in this ever again !
Awesome quote💯
while those poeple hardly notice.
“It never ceases to amaze me: We all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.”
― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
Think about this: others people's voices were before our own. We heard others in chilhood before hearing ourselves.
Who said that we love ourselves more than other people, cause that’s nonsense
Anny mentally healthy people do for the most part
blackout2430 I’d have to disagree, even if you are mentally healthy I’d say everyone has trouble loving themselves from time to time, whether it’s how you look or a quality that you don’t believe is desirable, I think it’s something everyone struggles with
Anny which is why I said “for the most part” because it’s coming from my own experiences lol
“It’s funny how we crumble from the words of a person that hasn’t lived a second of our life”
Your name and profile pic... Im-
More like expensive coconut
@@Anny-me9ny 😂😂
i love everything about this comment
An intellectual army I see..
"We are at the center of the galaxy only in our own tortured minds."
GSP, one of the most famous MMA fighters ever, said he would go into cities and watch people in the streets go about their daily lives, just to see that he wasn't the main focus of everyone's minds all the time like his anxiety pointed to.
I guess for this we just gotta work on lessening overall anxiety levels and keep reminding ourselvds of the bullshit excessive focus on this brings, and that the proper perspective is people only judge you momentarily, when they're not too busy with their own lives.
Danni brilliant! Thank u for sharing
Danni true!
Why only be the center when you can be the whole? A silent mind is a complete one. Meditate!
J it is not easy !
""When you’re 20, you care what everyone thinks, when you’re 40 you stop caring what everyone thinks, when you’re 60, you realize no one was ever thinking about you in the first place."
harsh but reality!
And at 70, 1/3 of us won’t even remember any of the above. 😓
It doesn't feel like it when I'm walking and all the people sitting outside the restaurants and cafes are staring.
I’m 20 now and so far rings true. I’m working on caring less though
@@ederlinerosenberg6813 the good thing is that none of them will remember it the next week. everyone has more important matters on their lives
"Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner." - Lao Tzu
Could not be more accurate.
chetan sengar amazing
- social anxiety*
No one can hear what someone else is thinking
I'm in prison then
Worrying about what people think is a waste of energy.
And time
Sara Veselá but I can’t help it lmaooo
Spoopy Poop exactly
And money
@Jack No, it depends on influence.
My psychoterapist said, "if you want to defeat your shame or fear of other people's opinions, you should do little things that make you feel ashamed or scare you. Step by step, you wouldn't care anymore".
This is how I started my RUclips channel actually, I was afraid of showing myself, so I started a vlog about losing weight :)
Awwww thats awesome!! Go for it girl!
Nice!!
That's awesome, I wish you luck that it will help improve your thoughts :)
Good luck!
Keep going
Funny enough the world still remembers the fall of icarus.
Edit: i came here today because i remembered icarus! And this comment
To those whom taking my sarcastic comment seriously i assure you i didnt miss the point i only added some humor here.
I appreciate the message the school of life gives here as in every video they share, however i also see things from my own perspective as we all do..
The myth of icarus resonates to me very much as i also hope those around me to be content as the world is not going to stop whether we got there or not..
LMAO so true, he totally contradicts himself!!
Icarus isn't real, it's a myth taught everywhere in the world through time. You are not a famous myth, not at least a myth, you are real. School of life spoke about the paint. Remember last time someone felt in the street near you ? no, because you are focused on where you want to go, your phone, what you want to do, what your friend said. Even you saw someone fall in front of you, you would not care of it or just 3s and forget him. Just do whatever you want because people in general dont care and will forget you with time.
@@9Angelus9 so you would let people fall in front of you and not stop to see if they were okay? God, you're a prick and I hope you trip up in the street and people just walk past you so you know how it feels. People like you is how society is so messed up, shame on you and those who liked your comment. As for me, I've stopped for people who I saw fall over and when I fell over, at least someone stopped for me. I'm also guessing you also wouldn't phone the emergency services on someone else's behalf just because there's no benefit to you personally
Angeline Turner I hope the world isn’t filled with snowflakes like you throughout my lifetime.
@@angelineturner3298 What the fuck is wrong with you ? if the person isnt doing well ofc i help her. I Meant if someone stumble and has nothing. You just say shit, you speak and you don't even know me. Im really not that type of person, really far from it. It was a fucking example for the video, don't exit from the context. you speak to me like if was a devil or the world was evil. you just invented a life to me. you speak about bad people of this society. You seem to be one because you judge people and not even trying to understand them or even knowing them at least. I hope you don't do that in real life because that's what make a suicidal person commit suicide, a shy guy more shy, an introvert more introvert.
i think logically most people know this, but in practice its ingrained in all of us to want social acceptance
More than Ingrained.. its our obsession with perfection..We create an ideal world in our head based on our limited exposure and understanding of the world. While go about working hard to match the outer world with the ideal world inside. Its a recipe for suffering. If only we can let things happen without preconditions of the world to fit into our Ideal world view.
true for me indeed
Totally agree
@@VenkatPrasad bai, I'm glad you realize this about yourself. Ftm
I think the solution to this is knowing who you want acceptance from, first YOU should accept yourself as that is the most important and then your tribe will gravitate towards you! You cannot please everyone! 🧡
My friends and some family members called me”selfish”because I stopped being a pleaser and I don’t care what they think. it’s my life and I like peace of mind with no drama.
@ෆƌҼႽʈҺҼʈἱqեҼ ҠἱʈʈἱҼෆ yeah. for some reason people tend to think that's selfish, its weird
Im sorry, thats really sad to have friends and family saying that to you. I feel you
being selfish is good, it's the opposite of the "sharing" society; really, accumulate wealth for yourself and when you are a zillionaire then become a giving and sharing person, it's very noble
You are so correct!
Same
"Lol no one cares"
- School of life
I read this as he said the word "bucolic"
Mel mad at them 4 killing Jesus & not the other prophets? Mel is obviously only seeing his own limited version of things. Mel & others obviously still must not realize the harsh price to be paid for simply. Telling ppl the harsh truth & not what they want to hear. Usually= Hatred & possibly Death. The bible doesn't say the truth will set you free for nothin. Sadly most reject the harsh truth in general & prefer to replace it with untruthful lies that help them sleep it night.
I am proud to say that I am the 869th like.
Lol this comment is hilarious
Do you care? So why should others?
In short:
Don't worry about what people think about you because the fact is-they are not even thinking about you in the first place.
PERFECT!
Yeah. And if they think of you then you can just learn to laugh about it I suppose.
Abraham and even if they do it will be forgotten in due time and if that still don’t happen than they are the minority.
Not true I get bullied a lot and the bullying last for years. So people definitely are thinking of me.
think about it. you remembered that stranger you saw when you walked down the street?
"don't take criticism from people you wouldn't take advice from"
👏👏👏👏
I have the same therory with TV...I won't watch someone on TV that I wouldn't invite into my home, cos that's what you are doing.
@@standupstraight9691 damn I hope to be as disciplined one day
@@standupstraight9691 How does this manage to be the most clever and stupid thing I've read on RUclips?
At least we know Icarus didn't care about what his father thought..
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😂
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This comment is underrated
Lol
No one is keeping track of your mistakes. So just keep going.
Very well done.
Crunchy Pasta yes and no. In work people are keeping track of your mistakes. If you make too many and don’t worry about what others think you’ll get fired
Well like I said: Just keep going.
A wise man once said "The only time you fail is when you stop trying."
Tell that to Kevin Spacey. :)
Crunchy Pasta I will definitely put that on my yearbook since Ive been using _"Try and try until you die. If you died, atleast you tried."_ for years and this one sounds good and elegant than the one I use lmao
The school system is
In my early 30's I went to nice restaurants by myself without anything to read or do. I'd ask the maitre for a table for one, read the menu and basically just sit there waiting for food. Enjoy my meal, pay and leave. I did this because I liked eating in nice restaurants and wanted to enjoy the experience without having to find someone enjoyable to go with. But I learned a lot more. The world didn't end. As I looked around at other tables I noticed no one cared. I just had to get pass the waiters asking "Are you waiting for someone?" They didn't care. They just wanted to know when to proceed. And if anyone did care why should that matter to me?
It was one of the most uncomfortable things I ever did but ended up improving my life more than I would have thought. It was years before I even realized how that experience had changed me. I'd go back to it as proof to me that others don't really care that much about others...not in a negative way. People help others when needed, but they don't obsess on every detail of other peoples lives. They may make a comment but a minute or two later they forget they even made the comment.
I'm 63 now. What a wonderful life I'm having.
The internet wasn't around when I was young. I wonder if I'd had all this good info like this video if I would have believed it? Probably not. Seems we all have to find our own way in our own way.
This is wonderful.
Beautiful
Thank you for this beautiful comment 🙏🏾💕
Thank you for this.
It is touching story... Thank you for sharing this.
When x amount of people judge you, the same amount of people respect you more for being yourself
StoneDank And the ones that judge you wish they had the balls to do what they want, as you do
Thanks for the words, fam! 🙋
Never thought about it that way before, great wisdom my dude!
grilleddoughface He did earn respect from his countrymen no?
Well said
This Channel is a teenagers life saver.. Seriously, it seems like every time that some issue is bothering me, SchoolOfLife is there to address it
Not just teenagers.
Angel Dust Of course not. This is just how I view it being a teenager :)
Unfortunately the “teenage” issues continue throughout the adult life 😑
I just thought about it and BAM! Schooloflife video covering this exact thought uploaded
+Daniel Corsel Same here! That's a little bit scary, don't you think?
"The world is still filled with humans who haven't heard of us, and never will."
That one hits hard
A little sad tbh
Except for famous people 👀
@@rawr8487 even them
@@begood4786 yeah
"The person who is angry at you now will have forgotten about you soon"
Me: *Remembers random people I once had an argument with online 7 years ago that I never saw again*
Saaame here 😭😭
Yeah you might remember, but do you care about it anymore?
@@finthehuman3649 Yeah, because I was actually wrong. Feels bad.
Emo to the Extremo lololololololol
FinTheHuman If I answer that honestly I will look very pathetic
“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”
Withholding a thumbs up 🥴
@@classygary I did for you. 🤗
And hi Roydammana, some people have grudges their whole life, about you leaving their prison. They than do everything to make your life miserable . Stalking and slandering me, it seems like till they die...😱
I'm very happy I left, but its kind of frightening me. I wished it didnt bother me..
@@mdmmalou Thanks 😊😎
@@mdmmalou Then I suggest that you’re still in the prison you make reference to, so I’d also suggest, you escape, while you still are able to . As for me I can’t afford to give a hoot one way or another, as it’ll kill me, and I’ll be damned if I’m gonna allow that, gnomesayin ???
😎👉🏽👊🏽👁!!!
Great point!
Wise but difficult. I wasted my teens and twenties doing nothing because I feared what others thought. I'm an extreme case, but someone has to be. Now I'm 31 and it's too late.
You HAVE to go ahead and do what you believe will ultimately make you confident enough to do what will make your life better. I was EXACTLY like this, though in only 22. You are no doubt more experienced than me in many ways, but the truth is I said exactly what you said at the end of high school when I felt I hadn't done enough, and that I was the same old sack of shit. I said it was too late but off to college I went. Nothing changed for a long time until I hit rock bottom and stopped caring about myself altogether. Once I didn't care I couldn't take it anymore, I ran outside and tried to be what I wanted to, only a few months ago. I found that even if you don't fit with your identity initially, you'll grow into it as you become more confident, and it'll be natural. Be yourself, but be the best version you can make. The fact is that however late it is now, you will have wished you'd done better the last time you decided it was to late to do whatever you wanted. If you don't get better now at 31, you will ask yourself why you sat idly by when you turn 41. If you say it's too late now, you will regret this inaction in a few years, and the cycle will repeat. I understand the stigma of being 30, but youre still plenty young to evolve.
You're no different to most people, crippled with insecurities. It's not until you get older when you usually stop caring and realise what's important, so never think it's too late. Your best years are no doubt ahead of you. Go and grab life by the balls!!
It's never too late
Nooo it's not too late! Go live your life!
It's not too late
"Dont care about what others think because no one cares about you" :(..
People do care about you, but they are mostly preoccupied with themselves and their problems to focus solely on your errors.
If someone does truly care about you, that's the one time that you should care about what they think.
STRANGERS or people who you don't like don't care about you.
Correct - most people are simply preoccupied with themselves. Like grown infantile children in their own sandbox of life.
They sure as hell care about starting shit with people, i deal with neighbors that are constantly talking shit about me outside my window.
"Stop caring about Instagram" - Albert Einstein
I remember him saying that.
He did say that?😅
Lol , but David Goggins in fact said that.
Instacrap
😂😂😂
In other words, live your life for yourself, because nobody else cares like you do.
King Аt Life Exactly
King Аt Life such is life!
King Аt Life He isn't saying 'Don't care', he's saying 'stop obsessing about what others think.
King Аt Life No ones cared about what I've had to say yet. And thus the opportunities they've missed out on are beyond huge.
“You probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do.”
I already didn’t care, I just needed a reason. Thanks
The reason is that they dont think about their issues in you, minding you connecting with their lives would be a waste for them. in the end they dont think about you
It's stupid to care what people think, because everyone have their own opinion and perspective, making it hard for them to really know you in the first place. I do whatever I want and sometimes people look at me like I'm an idiot but I know that they don't even know me so who cares.
My father told me when i was young about to do a recital presentation in class to just think that people in front of you are dogs so i wouldn't worry. Best advise i ever had. 😂
Well that's dope! 🤣
That aged well
Mine said think of them as sheep LOOOL
oof mine was cats because but was from my grandpa. I always feel calm when around with cats
@@sassk6283 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I’m gonna start thinking that now hahhahahaha
It's very difficult to stop being obsessively self conscious once you've become accustomed to thinking like that. But try to think of a time where you saw somebody else do something so inexplicably embarrassing. You probably have seen it, but you almost definitely don't remember it and if you do, you RARELY think of it. I myself can't recall any instance. Putting things in perspective often times helps us understand who we are better.
Good point.
Well said.
"You'll fail many times but who's counting?" Prince EA
Clarissa Beatriz my parents
@@Alyssa18633
Turn it on them!!! - make them feel insecure about what you'll think of THEM lol
my anxiety
my depression and anxiety
strawbxrry hey nobody cares!
It's kinda scary to make mistakes nowadays compared to the past because of social media. Like you might get to see yourself became a meme, a laughing stock.
@@sarahy.2442 Not always, that's why it's sometimes called "a fate worse than death"
Especially for younger people. Then again, memes come and go. You might become a meme now but in a few weeks, someone else will replace you. Memes don't last forever.
Memes come and go. What's the big deal?
@@migspeculates when they come, you're a laughing stock. and when they go, you're simply a dead meme and that's all you'll be known for, that one dead meme.
@@sarahy.2442 there are fates much worse than death.
I used to be people pleaser.
My family (not all) is very critical of me, they'll get mad at me whenever I made a slight mistake. This caused me to be a people pleaser. I kept thinking about how people judge me, I tried to be the person everyone like, I tried to follow what other people say in order to be liked. The result? It made me unhappy and instead of getting liked by everyone, alot of people were disappointed when they know my real self and started to distance themselves from me, instead of a friend, people sees me as someone who will do what they say, a slave.
After I graduated from middle school (the education system in my country have 3 years of middle school then followed by 3 years of high school), I moved to another city and decided to cut ties with my toxic family members. I stopped being a people pleaser. Now I have a group of friends that actually like me for who I am, not because I'm nice and will do anything they say. I often still help people like I used to do before as a people pleaser but I learned to say no sometimes. I've never been this happy before. Sure, some people dislike me but there's always someone who dislike you and compared to the amount of people who dislike me when I was a people pleaser with now, the amount of people who dislikes me now is way lesser than before.
And for other people pleaser who read this, don't be afraid to be yourself. I know that opening yourself is scary and challenging so take it little by little. You don't have to change in an instant, just change yourself in your own pace. You can do it! ❤
First of all, thanks for sharing your story, I really can relate with this. Secondly, my English is not very good, in case you see any grammatical error.
Unfortunately I realized I was a pleaser too late I believe (at 19) and I used to act like that because of the way I was raised. Now, I'm trying little by little to show my family and friends who I am. 🙌🏾👏🏾❤
i have the same problem tooo..now everyone has left me..i am alone now.now got to learn how to survive alone
Jen the first paragraph describes me to a tee! Thank you! I’m not alone...
Thank you!
such a beautiful words★☆♥♡♥♡☆★thank you
This is why we read the comments before finishing the video.
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ΣHAANTI Πες τα
mind = blown
i stopped reading the comments because of yours :p
😂
I always care what people think! Im always looking around to make sure nobody is staring at me!
Same. Have you ever caught someone staring at you? It's scares the heck out of me.
@@mryup6100 Yeah i give them the evil smile and they turn their head! Lol
815 people voted this video down, not knowing how futile their disapproval was.
Socks With Sandals fax
Them: "I don't like it"
This video: "I'm pretty sure that's not my problem.."
Genius comment
@@user-fs1lc2cj5s i am wearing socks with sandals right now for the 1st time in my life. 😮
Thanks socks with sandals..
Most if not all of my anxiety comes down to this point...I'm thankful I have gotten to the point to see how little people truly care about you lol, it's liberating, be yourself! Sure some people will dislike you, but there will be others that like you for being you...but you can't find those amazing people unless you start living authentically
These are the facts of life my friend.
So true. And most people don't even care enough about you to invest necessary amount of time and effort to make a judgement that is even close to the truth. Right now people's opinions about me can be divided to completely contadictive opposites and I'm still the same person with pretty well developed personality. Later on those opinions will even furteher radicalize, living me with absolutely no control over it. Trying to appeal to others expectations and hoping to achive certain opinion is pointless. That would involve expecting them to treat you fairly.
Exactly, I believe in order for us to truly and utterly be introspective within ourselves we must stop trying to live up to others and live by our own creed. This is hard to be accepted by many because of being ridiculed or being outcasted. We have all struggled with this. From my perspective when I was growing up(More common now) being a metalhead at an all-black school and even being poor effected my mentality as I was expected to wear and be a certain way because of my environment. That fear of being"the black sheep" looms over many. The few of us who can step outside understand the importance of not only caring less about others opinions of us, but that our own pursuit of happiness is the most vital.
yes so true
+The Unenthusiastic Gaming Black Guy
yes Sir! 👍
"We lie awake at night wondering how we can cope without the approval of people....We don't even like very much."
That hit me in my soul.
this voiceover is the most soothing thing ever lmao
It's amazing
😴yea
What about the woman on Psych2Go?🤔
I think it’s Alanin De Botton
I Swear
Comforting, yet depressing.
The Divine Rod Welcome to the School of Life! Lol
Yup! I kind of needed more closure...
"depressing: causing or resulting in a feeling of miserable dejection." sorry for being a smart-ass, but it is. there's a difference between feeling depressed and having depression.
The Divine Rod my thoughts exactly lol
Claire Otto in this context conceptually it is not but for the purpose of the metaphor, it is
"I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is Character."
-Theodore Roosevelt
People with social anxiety:
Nope...
Lol same. We can't do anything no matter how positive we get, it's always there.
@M H yeah man same. I've just accepted this like whatever.
Mashable don’t cut yourself short man. You can overcome almost anything you just have to try and make an effort, do things differently
True, if only it was that easy to just let things go and not care what others think...oh how I try
@@mashable8759 same fr, I used to want to be around people,have friends,a boyfriend maybe,but I was just so exhausting and people are messy and hurtful. I've found it's much nicer to chill alone,it's alot more peaceful
We are all the same sack of cells flesh blood and bone living out our lives on this floating rock in space not really knowing wtf we're doing. 0ur lifetime is just a millisecond on a galactic timescale and when its done we'll all just be a memory, and after a few more people's lifetimes after our death we wont even be a memory coz everyone who knew us like kids grandkids, people we walked this earth with would be dead too.. i always zoom out of my body and this planet and remind myself how silly it is to stress out about what other people think about me especially strangers., its freaking ridiculous in the grand scheme of things..
ennaira oniqua you just wrote exactly what i was thinking.. thanks!
ennaira oniqua My thoughts exactly.
What you wrote makes sense for me :)
I literally think this everyday. Just do you. People who think like us are different.
unless your hitler
“You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” - Elenor Roosevelt.
tbh im not even surprised that this is in my recommended
Love your cute pusheen pic
Haha same
>:3
I used to be a people pleaser and used to worry what others think until I was 17 but I changed this year. It's hard but its amazing experience
U used to be a people pleaser the turned into a ghoul at 17 and killed ur closest friend. AMAZING EXPERIENCE INDEED.
Yash Keni May I ask what you did to help yourself change?
do you have any tips? :)
How?
Kenyce I’m proud of you for achieving that point at such a young age! I’m 25 and just now really getting there. Keep doing you!
Embracing our own meaninglessnesses is one of the most liberating things we can do to ourselves
“What others think about you is none of your business” think about it
Adrian Derrett it kinda is your business tho. If your Boss thinks “Damn Tom is a pretty shitty worker” and fires you subsequently, how is that none of your business? Or when your class thinks you are a weirdo so they bully you, even though you did nothing wrong, how is that none of your business?? It actually affects you quite a bit
@@katenka_ana3997 "Thinking" alone and "thinking + actions" are two different things. If people's "thoughts" will be affecting you (externally; not your own thoughts about what they think of you) , then it is your business. Otherwise, I kinda agree with the quote.
Hazelnut ice cream I don’t think it’s any of our business what others think about us because if we think too much about it that can cause us anxiety and stress there will always be people who dislike us and we just have to accept that we can prove them wrong or we can just move on and not care essentially
@@katenka_ana3997 This quote is in reference to living your truth. There is only one of you and you are on your own personal journey in life. If you make decisions based on what other people might think or want, you'll never fulfill your true destiny. Now when it comes to your job, spouse, family and best friends, of course you have to take their thoughts and feelings into consideration if you want to keep your job and having meaningful relationships. But at the end of the day, it's still your choice. It's like the quote, " A lion doesn't concern itself with the thoughts of the sheep." If an animal cared about the feelings of its prey, it would soon starve and die. It has to be its true self to live. Ever wonder why so many humans have starving souls? They care too much what others think.
I kinda disagree because the truth is, other people shape our identity. What others say still affect our mental, emotional, and social being. Like, when we post something on Instagram, don't you think we only post those that make us look good? We adapt to society. And part of that adaptation is to learn what others around you does and doesn't do. And if we commit a mistake, other's judge us as someone who didn't live up to the expectations of society. Then we'll feel bad. Thus, we do anything to make us seem normal and to 'belong'. We didn't became who we are without them. Admit it or not, we rely on others' opinion about us to build our self-concept.
Now I can feel less paranoid about my messed up haircut
aboy darren Lmao I had to go to school with a messed up hair cut once it was embarrassing
just wear a hat or hoodie
shave it off
aboy darren I like your profile picture :)
yeah we will probably just take one good look at your hair and move on with our lives lol
It's never easy to not care what others think of us. People intentionally try to disrespect, mock and insult us when they feel sense of jealousy or competition. We try to ignore but it certainly affects because they always find ways to disturb our sanity until we retaliate.
Def Agree!
Everyone always says don’t worry about what others think until it affects your money.
Yea have that same energy at work and get fired 😂😂
Or social life,or love life.
I don’t know why but before I hit my 20s I always used to think what others thought of me especially in high school. As soon as I entered college I had a different mindset thinking that everything u do in life...no one truly cares except the people who actually care about u. I just graduated, found a decent paying job, bought a new car and about to buy a new house all on my own with someone who always cared about me. “Only those who care about you ,can hear you when your quiet”
Ride on monsieur. Good to know you're living your life
Bought a new car huh? Not an economics major I guess. Brag on brother and remember no one hears you when you yell either.
Nobody denies the logic in this. It's convincing the emotional / limbic side of you to internalize this.
Thanks RUclips you know what kind of recommendations I need!
"A person should never care what others say if its not adding improvemet to hes life"
-A wise man
I feel like my soul just got lighter
(P.s. who agrees that his voice is so soothing?)
Where the hell were you 16 years ago when I needed this shit.
blink182izawsm a very convenient excuse :)
Most 'ignored truth' of our lives.. beautifully depicted
i am in my bed crying disappointed with myself and very annoyed with how i am constantly judged, and my self-esteem is getting lower and lower, i go on youtube and this is the first video i see. good job youtube, good job 👏
Stay strong fella. Try to develop a habit of positivity in all spheres of your life.
Basically think of the atmosphere around you floating with positive and negative bubbles so once you consciously try to be positive you will automatically attract more positivity towards you.
It might seem difficult in the beginning but as they say - "Rome wasn't built in a day."
Take small steps and be positive. Good luck and have a good life ahead. 🙏😊
@@vijayippagunta8683 thank you 💖
@@shaggysgf9270 no worries mate. If my words, thoughts can make you feel that much more better then am glad I could be of some use. 😊
Do remember you are not alone. There are millions who feel the same way. We all are fighting our small little battles and there are many who could relate to you.
So if we can help each other out... The faster we see a change for good. 😊
Keep the faith alive and keep marching forward. 👏👏👏👏
@@vijayippagunta8683 amen!
THAT WAS FANTASTIC - It puts every venture into perspective. Life is short, live it and don't worry if you mess up along the way, nobody is that interested.
I watch this video whenever I’m really feeling embarrassed of something and it really helps
Indeed, “we are at the center of the galaxy in our own tortured minds.” I love that thinking. So thoughtful.
As long as we don't harm people they will likely not notice us or remember us. Maybe a fleeting thought for a couple of moments every now and then; not more, not less. It's indeed sad but simultaneously liberating.
I think this exposes the problem of social media. Where as in the past things were forgotten with time, now everything is documented so an embarrassing or unhappy moment from the past can still come back to haunt you if someone chooses to see it. The quest to be perceived in the perfect way has become a lot worse because of this
I thought you have to worry about what people think of you because you always think good of yourself but sometimes you have to look from an other perspective to be able to rightfully determine whether what you are doing is right (what is right depends on your principles). However it is true that in doing so you might lose your confidence and start questioning yourself. I think this is what causes anxiety and depression - having no one that can relate to you.
Thanks for taking the time to read this.
Thank you for this...I'm going through this .I want to get out of this
Thanks for this video exactly what I needed right now.😊
Is there anyone else in here who has people bringing up random embarrasing shit they did 5 years ago?
heck i had one who a couple of years ago brought up some silly joke i had made back when i was a child. an 8 years old child. that person when she did that is way older than myself btw
I don't know anybody who haven't had failure in some way or the other even "embarassing shit" as you say
@@markk9840 no shit sherlock. Im talking bout having other people bringing it up
For me even less than a year lol
The other day my best friend reminded me of a time in year 8 Camp when I was the slowest eater and everyone was done and I said "I have to eat slowly cos I choke all the time"
3 minutes of liberation, just what I needed! Thank you so much for this freeing thought!
Mikael Åmark great. Now you're cured
You are weird
Stay that way
Amen
WOW, that that response must have took you a lot of time to come up with.....Idiot....
Wrong. Improvement is the key. No one said one should deny themselves.
I shower in the dark
Raul J how??
How did we come all the way to this?
Egotistical beings pretending to care about others just for the sake of ourselves. It's sad in every way.
That's why it's important to be free and not care what others think! Everyone is too worried about their own life troubles to even think about others!!
Can you please make a series on painting analysis’, that have greater ideas; like this one?
PANTHER PANTS yes please
YESSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!
Instantly fell in love with that painting
‘Therefore do not be ashamed of the testimony of our Lord, nor of me His prisoner, but share with me in the sufferings for the gospel according to the power of God’
Summary: Don’t care about what people think, because no one notices you
Not sure if i should be offended or inspired
asami. It's more like: Dont care about what people think, because no one notices you more than they notice themselves. You are still important in the eyes of the people around you, but the only thing that truly matters is that YOU acknowledge your worth, and that will carry you far as the eye can see. You deserve to have confidence, my friend!
i'm the worst student in my class for over 2 years and my friend told me that when I'm not around they overwhelm him with questions like; "why is he like that?", "what is his problem?, What's wrong with him?" I asked my friend who exactly was curious about that. His answer; "Literally erveryone in class asked me already". They clearly notice
I've never really cared what people think of me. I'm more worried about what my loved ones think of me. I just live a good life, full of honesty and integrity.:)
Unless of course, after 5 decades thinking that your “loved” ones loved you, your rose- colored glasses were finally knocked off your face & it became clear that you’ve been living with a group of narcissistic sociopaths. They actually hate me & have been doing a slow emotional rape. Let the smear campaign continue. I will not let them kill me. Karma.
Dmomjs, do you live in japan? From you description it has to be Japan or jahell is what I call it.
Liar
"We surrender our freedom to the verdicts of strangers" that's powerful
I feel so profoundly free all of a sudden.
can relate...
I had once heard a quote saying:
"I am not what I think I am,
I am not what you think I am,
I am what I think you think I am".
very intuitive
I love how the video is explaining that no one cares about no one, and still manages to make it a relief ! Seriously though , i love this channel
What an insightful way to start a video, the biggest proof of everyday issues, immortalized for the ages to come, a painting. Very descriptive and true to life at the moment. A reminder of what society is at said time.
Our fears are nothing new.
But it's hard to not think it's just us.
Thanks for sharing this. I needed it. I'll be confident enough, to make my own center of the universe at peace.
I always look for these comments...they're sooo positive! 😭
"We surrender our freedom to the verdicts of strangers"
I saw that part while looking at your comment-
@@aysthx same, I was shook lol
If you don't want to be criticised stop seeking people's approval.
and end up in prison !
@@aysthx same here aswell.
People are jerks- I never care what they think!
honeymoon not even a single F are given to them
I can see that you've never been bullied before
@@acewing3889 xDD love it
I think you're an idiot.
Scumos unaffordable Australia Why?
"Life it's too short to waste your time living what people want us to live, time goes by, and at the end of your life you'll realize you never lived"
-me lol
nice quote buddy!
I'm a girl, but thank u anyway :D
@@スイカ-w1s oh sorry, my bad 😅
@@knzdespair haha, no need to worry♡
watching the school of life is like having a really good friend who you can talk to, about anything
I'm addicted to this channel :) Where else can you find such a concept be portrayed with this much creativity and comprehensiveness?
I like how art is compared to our own narrow way of thinking
I agree with the point of this video.
Some people will see this and come to the conclusion of, YOLO, f-it!!!
There is a difference between not caring what others think of you, and not caring about others.
That distinction is absolutely necessary to be acknowledged and explained to a great number of people in today’s society.
Many people reading these words will have already understood this...
You worry that your business won't succeed; instead your health breaks down. Worrying is the one game in which if you guess right, you don’t get any satisfaction out of your genius.
@Facing Your Dragons: The Beginning Pointless is pointless. Life inherently is pointless.
Sad thing is, I am aware of this yet I’m bad at practicing it my life...
how is it today?
" people might notice for a moment then swiftly move on to the next thing" 💚
Let's make something clear. There is a reason why all of us, I repeat, all of us care about what others think. Allow me to use the example of clothes. Why do we even wear them when we go out? If we truly didn't care about what others thought of us, why would we wear clothes? Sure, you can argue that we would get into trouble with the law if we did that, but nobody would say that the reason they wear clothes in public is to make sure they don't get arrested. Now, imagine a scenario involving a million dollar business deal. Two people who turn up include a fine gentleman dressed like a million bucks and another person wearing a beanie, a tank top, cargo shorts and of course, socks with sandals. Who earns more respect, and gets a better name and image? Obviously the first man. What this means is that caring about what others think is a hardwired way for us to improve upon ourselves. But the key is moderation. Too much and it becomes like a bloodsucking leech. Too less, and you don't stand a chance against life. So an imbalance, as you can see creates the opposite effect of what nature seems to have intended. If you have ever met people who claim that they truly care absolutely nothing about what others think, they are bloody liars😂. Either they have a terrible present which they seem to be happy with, they want to give you wrong information to drag you down, or there is something quite wrong. At the same time, don't ever let other's judgements brijg you down and keep you from enjoying the gift of life. If that's what the person meant, then great. Now, when it comes to people who want to criticize about certain aspirations of yours, take my advice. Listen to them. Not blindly, but observantly. You never know what sort of priceless information they might give you. You always have the option to ignore them if they only talk nonsense. But please don't give up anything awesome you had dreamt of just because some other person thought it wasn't good or whatnot. So, have a great day, and I hope this may have helped someone in confusion. Don't forget, moderation is key.
The Great Rad K.A you reaching fam ...
This is good, man. Keep it up.
The Great Rad K.A you know what a fucking tab button is?
Hell, I dress like a slob and make more money in a week than most people make in a lifetime.
TLDR...Learn how to type in paragraphs. I don't care what you think if you don't care about my eye health.
If you live your life worrying about what others think about you, you will not have a very happy or fun life.
I think it is an especially important lesson for today with the obsessive need for likes and approval via social media.
" No plough stops for the dying man. "
Peace....
Moral of the story: don't use wax to attach your wings.
Lols!
🤣🤣
And avoid that lucky ol sun. Wonder if the boy put on sun scream? He made a big splash though...
Hmm. Your "wings" can represent pride, where Sun represents the harsh reality itself which eventually brings us down.
Well, if you do, don't fly too close to the sun, no matter how tempting...
because you have the most resources of anyone ever and will always make the best decision
"We are at the centre of the universe only in our own tortured mind". Nicely said!
Can you please do more painting-related lessons? I LOVE these!