Your comments are always so insightful and thought provoking! I tend too see you rather often it seems. Great job adding positivity wherever you go! It’s inspiring!
I used to think I had high emotional intelligence till I saw a few of these videos. I'm dumb as a rock about emotions, but it's never too late to learn :)
After watching some of her videos I notice these sentences in soooo many of our replies " I am as dumb as a rock".. where did we pick up these messages? Don't know but not a rock. Only human.
Yeah I hear ya. This lines up with many people who label themselves "empaths" simply being very neurotic and easily disturbed, so actually less emotionally intelligent than others.
I was very repressed by strict overprotective parents, so much so that I’ve internalized a lot of anger & was always the human doormat, even now I feel a lot of guilt/shame & second guess my emotions, it led to poor decisions.
I can relate and I'm back with them, now in our third lockdown in the UK...challenging is an understatement...no one is really talking and I just try and avoid my Dad's energy as if leaves me...I don't know but my mental health is suffering now.
I love this series. Thank you so much for releasing it for free to the public. Know that you are helping tons of people, and leveling the playing field for those who may not be able to afford plenty of psych classes, but still want to learn for their personal health!
I am being as candid as possible, I am a black female who have been in therapy for a minute. All I have ever asked for was tools to handle the experiences and I have never been provided them. I am truly thankful and I have watched a few of your videos and I have been able to assess myself, name the feeling and I am learning a lot more. I truly appreciate you. I pray that God bless you and your family. Thank you!
I had a huge anxiety attack yesterday. I woke up today with a little fear. This video helped me process think of a response and make a positive response. Yes. I do not like feeling afraid but I am happy because it’s ok to feel that way! Now I am happy because instead of dwelling I can smile and move on! Be bold as lions in your walk today! ✝️❤️
I cannot believe this. I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was in jr high. (I’m 53 now) I am on meds for anxiety. I’m overwhelmed and can’t stop crying or be overly emotional without then. The world would literally feel like sand paper. I’ve been working hard on myself recently and found this video series. I’m really hopeful to continue and work through it all. I’m so so so thankful to have found you. And thank you for offering these on youtube. Im feeling hopeful! 💞
Hi@@Michi-mv2xn ... I've been working at things a lot... and Yes.... I'm finally feeling like my new and happier self. I'm truly feeling so grateful and blessed. @MelRobbins has a new podcast too (and I did a huge group coaching session with her)... Lots of other youtube videos that are inspirational and working on change too. You can 're-wire' your brain. I didn't ever know who I'd be or if I'd still BE me if I shed my old M.O.- the sweet, caring, happy on the outside but melancholy/sad person deep inside- but things helped ... and there is hope! I haven't stopped my meds yet... but it's a possibility... but if not, I'm ok with that too. :) If you want a happier self too... don't quit... because you deserve to have your best life!
@@dbunnysport So glad to hear you've moved forward. Have you heard of Dr Joe Dispenza work? It's absolutely worth introducing to his teachings. He is a love and a practical knowledge bomb:))
That gets reinforced in my life when my brother condemns me for having any emotions he thinks are negative. I've seen him react to his own "negative" emotions in a violently angry manner but I am required to be Pollyanna.
"The more we suppress emotions, the more likely it is that our life is gonna not line up with the life we want" This was a lightbulb moment for me. Thank you for making this invaluable information available for free!
I really appreciate this video! You did a great job at describing why it’s not helpful to classify unpleasant emotions as bad. Thanks for explaining why toxic positivity doesn’t work, and why we need to be honest with ourselves and be real with our emotions.
I could never see anger as a primary emotion. It generally comes out of vulnerability; hurt, fear, shame, disappointment... Identifying which of these preceded or precipitated the 'anger leaves you more options for dealing with it
I have suppressed emotions my whole life... To the point where now 95% of the time I can't even tell myself how I feel. I've read about viewing them with curiosity and naming them... But it never really made sense till you put the example of Data!! I'm a total Trekkie and suddenly I could just... Understand!! Thank you for making a tough subject so simple!
I’ve been afraid that some emotions would over take me. Knowing that they are normal and God made them as part of life, has taught me I can still experience them and move through them. They aren’t contaminated emotions
For the most part I avoided anger and angry people, but that would come out in a passive way. If not expressed in a healthy way, they come out in a wiered way. Now I'm learning all emotions are valid as long as they are expressed in a respectful, constructive and healthy way.
I believe that anger is a huuge baddie! I get scared, even terrified into paralysis, when someone around me gets angry. As for myself, I stuff anger until I eventually explode in a verbal tirade. Also, I see fear and insecurity as unacceptable. I remember a family member scolding me for showing my fear, and that incident has really stuck with me. I find sadness quite acceptable, even poetic, but I withhold myself from expressing it to others because I am scared they will not care or respect my very intense emotions. I see as good emotions courage, confidence, and contentment. Although I rarely experience such feelings nowadays, I believe deep down that these are the only ones I can feel comfortable and safe expressing to myself and to others.
Love the story of the farmer in the beginning. It reminds me of the mindfulness practice of neither resisting nor clinging to the changes and chances of life. All pleasure and pain eventually fade.
I am currently working through lots of childhood trauma and suppressed emotions but can't afford to go see a professional. I found this video course and I love it so far. I just watched the second video but it is amazing... While doing the exercises i already cried and was able to let go some of the pressure on top of me. You are a huge help and thank you so much for making this available for free
So glad you're benefitting from this. I too am guilty of trying to suppress my emotions for all my life. I'm astonished at how open I am now towards having emotions, this is making me feel happier. Hope you find yours too in this course.
I remember the first time coming across the livestream, I saw a cat missing 1 leg, then another cat missing a leg, then Magic, who is missing both hind legs. It was so magical that these cats have a place to be cared for. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for making these videos. You have no idea how much you've improved my life. You have such a kind and gentle tone as well which makes your videos so much more palatable!
Emma - thank you for giving so generously of your gifts. I have been suppressing my emotions and trying to be positive all the time for years. Your teaching style is so wonderfully effective - connecting with us in a clear and practical, down-to-earth way with compassion and humor. In this way - we can truly benefit from your clinical expertise . I am practicing identifying and feeling my emotions - "naming it to tame it" - thank you!
I believed, as a child (teenager), that it is wrong to feel unpleasant emotions such as shame and worthlessness… i was bullied as a child, and it made me feel worthless. However my parents said to ignore it, and I believed that the fact that I feel shame means I’m not ignoring it - I need to not feel shame. Also it made me feel like the bullies had degraded me, like I had lost worth and was worthless. Also there was pressure on me to get the top marks - I believed it was the only way I could get some worth, and so I needed to feel ok in order to be able to do that. Also when I was a child, my Dad used to tell me off if I cried and would publicly say she looks like a cry baby. Also he would criticise me if I felt anxiety and say I should be like my brother.
me 30 minutes ago: 30 vids? time to binge watch my way to a healthy mind me three minutes into this video's exercise: absolutely bawling my eyes out, realizing what people mean when they talk about their inner child y'all do the exercises/homework, they're actually worth frfr
I’m tremendously grateful to your kind person Emma, and to this invaluable channel, and please, do keep posting informative instructive and therapeutic videos like these. They have been enormously helpful to both me and my spouse. I can’t thank you enough!
These sessions have saved me. You have no idea how many times I watch your videos on the way to work after struggling with anxiety all night. Thank you
Hi, from Texas! I just discovered this series, and your channel, through a friend. I’ve been subscribed a few weeks now. I cannot tell you how helpful this series has been for me! I’ve had to overcome a lot in my life, from abuse as a child to an abusive marriage, as an adult. My children and I were blessed to have abuse counseling, back where we used to live. It helped greatly. We moved, and I’m remarried to an amazing man. We’re both ministers. But I still want to learn about emotions and processing things in a healthy way. My hubby and I were both brought up in crazy households where we weren’t allowed to express ANY emotion, without judgement or ridicule. So we’re both now learning, as adults, the right way to process through things. This series is already opening my eyes to so much! It’s also helping me to understand our two teenage sons, and 8 year old son, to help them process through their emotions, too. They’ve overcome a lot in their lives, and I wanted to make sure to help them learn how to deal with emotions in a healthy way, since I was judged and misunderstood myself, as a child. Thank you so much for making this a free series on RUclips! I can’t wait to do the whole course! I’ve been taking a LOT of notes! I know God will help me use what I’m learning to help others, in the future. God bless you, and have a Happy New Year! 🎊
This was one of the most important things I learned in residential treatment last fall. My DBT therapist even read the same proverb at one point. As a little girl I was not allowed to feel angry - or rather, I was not allowed to express it with yelling or violence toward my little sister (because of course not). But as little kids, we don't generally know how to feel an emotion without acting on it. So I suppressed the anger whenever I felt it. I grew older and as I suppressed my anger more and more, I learned to scream into pillows and to be violent toward my own body. And then I started suppressing ALL of my "bad" emotions because I was avoiding the pain. Little did I know most of the pain was caused by letting the emotions rot and fester deep inside and whenever I was suppressing them again, oftentimes it was old stuff just leaking out again. This skill...this skill of being nonjudgmental toward my emotions was the first step to regulating my emotions when before I was just expected to skip right to regulating my (emotional) behaviors. No wonder I struggled - I was being set up for failure!
It's not for the first time that i realise that for my parents there were no "good" emtions. I got scolded both for crying too loud or laughing too loud. No emotions were good, apparently. No wonder I'm such an emotional cripple.
Thank you so much for teaching me these tools. I am in my 40's and have always stuffed my feelings. I told my therapist last year that I finally came to the realization that I have trouble feeling my feelings. These videos are really helping me. I love the fish analogy, makes so much sense. So grateful for you sharing your knowledge a d talents.
Yesterday I realized this series you created and watched the first one, then this one and catching at the end "homework". I wrote down every question you gave for this assignment but something about me wants to skip the homework and just binge watch your entire series instead. I see the value in taking the time and actually doing the work, especially since I really need to. I started weekly therapy the end of last December, it's helpful but at the same time I feel it's not because I am finding that talking about my trauma experiences is causing me a lot of confusion, changes in my thoughts, causing me to experience emotions and behavior (things I say) that is not acceptable to me. I am recognizing and reacting to triggers that I ignored or didn't see before, then overthinking the situation, then overreacting afterwards, then overthinking my negative reaction, only to realize the problems that I am causing which then causes me to emotionally dysregulate. I am not in control of myself like I used to be. I am adding more trauma on top of all my unresolved past traumas. I thought the purpose of therapy is to heal. I am not healing and talking about my traumas is certainly not helping! I liked how I was and the way I coped before I started talking about past traumas. Obviously, I ignored them and focused on life, responsibilities, family, business, and other important things that mattered. Before therapy, I thought I was a pro at being emotionally regulated, well I was and now I know why. I wasn't emotionally regulated, I just ignored my emotions, clearly is not a healthy way to be and live. Before therapy, I didn't realize that I was ignoring my emotions and feelings I think most of my life, starting in childhood. In 5 months of therapy, I go in there and talk....all over the place, never staying on a single abuse story as well as rushing through it because I have so much to unpack. Obviously, I am doing this all wrong and need to find out from the professional what I need. I plan to go through this series and your homework assignments one day at a time, it just might be a while before I start the process because I feel the need to rush through it. Thank you for your content and taking the time using your knowledge to help others.
I am so glad I discovered your channel! The content is great , and so helpful! You actually give us homework and push us to take action. It's not just motivational speeches which I am so sick of haha! Thank you for all that you do!
I really like you channel. As a 48 year old man that never really took the time to understand his emotions very well, I have found your advice very enlightening. I am really learning a lot from you. Thanks.
I just heard the "We'll See" story on Bluey, and I had mad deja vu. I started this Playlist and when thus video came up, I saw that I had already liked it. I must have watched it as a stand-alone while browsing through the channel. When I heard you tell the story I was like "No way!" I'm glad I'm doing this program now and have the playlist saved, because you've clearly had an impact on me previously.
Wow, the amount of psychology content that I have waded through before encountering these instructions, it is pretty mind-boggling how arcane this knowledge is out there. Revolting! More please!
This video is unbelievably helpful. All my adult life I've been told, "deal with your feelings", or process your emotions, then move on", or "just feel and accept your feelings ". "Identify the cause. " What was never put into words was what next. "Just deal with them" leaves a void. It doesn't give validity to the informational value of emotions. It doesn't provide any guidance for those of us who never learned about "normal" development of internal pressures. I understand that this series isn't intended for huge trauma survivors, but it puts emotions on a comprehensible level for me. I have rewatched this video 7 times and put it in my watch later list. I think it will be useful to refer back in the future. Thank you from the bottom of my shriveled, twisted and growing heart.
"The more we suppress, the more pressure to explode". This blew my world apart. The health and safety of an elderly person was at stake each and every day based on unsafe actions taken by another person. Sought help from every person within the company all the way up to corporate to no avail. No one was listening or offering solutions. The only thing I know is to seek out authority yet authority failed with every phone call I made. This is happening more and more. Suppress. Seek authority assistance. Ignored or spoken over.. Explode. I'm hurt beyond. Wounded without physical wounds. I still don't follow what could have been done differently. I'm paying the price yet had the explosion not happened a life would have been lost. I kept telling myself to keep quiet because I was not a manager. 2 1/2 years later and the pain persists. I worked non-stop and no one would listen. Why are people in a bubble?
Many suffer in silence. Those have dementia can't even complain when being attacked or mistreated. Being vocal may also invite many verbal attacks on the social media. People don't like others to talk about their weaknesses but have no problems attacking others. Thank God there are people like Emma who care enough to try helping using her experiences and any resources she has to help. God bless.
"Sought help from every person within the company" "I'm paying the price yet had the explosion not happened a life would have been lost." You 1000% had more character than any person there and did the right thing. And then you suffered for doing good. You're my HERO! Anyone who doesn't care or who judges you for that is morally bankrupt and they can pound sand.
thank you sooo soo much for this..i make myself suffer all the time and recently realized how uneducated i am in terms of emotional intelligence ..i am so ready to grow into getting better at feeling and working on my relationships i cant access therapy but i realized i needed it so bad after watching this thank you.
Third video in and I'm already feeling the light of understanding and liberation touching me. I didn't know so many of those things! When I look at emotions non-judgmentally they start to feel less personal and more managable, understandable... I'm doing the full RUclips course. Thank you for making it free. Actually I cannot express how grateful I am for this. First chance I get I'm buying it and doing it again with all the supplementary materials/tasks as well.
I really liked the term "emotional muscle" which gives me the depth dimension when it comes to experiencing emotions and the idea of a muscle as an analogy of something that can be trained to be processed more effectively.
Emma, as I am navigating what I describe as one of the worst and best periods of my life, I wanted to stop by the comment sections and express my deepest gratitude for the free and much needed therapy me and hundreds of thousands of people so desperately need to become the best versions of ourselves. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!
It's surprising for me how well I understand each and every word you speak in this course. I've always suppressed my emotions (rather, tried to suppress, cause the harder I suppressed the louder they got). Why does nobody ever talk about this? Why do they tell us to avoid the feelings? Why do they think it's not okay to have feelings? Man!! If feelings are natural, you're SUPPOSED to *feel* them! I am so thankful I found this channel, now I can be non-judgmental about my so called "negative" emotions and I wil not judge my mother for having them as well, now I know how to deal with them. Gosh I was so ignorant all this time. Thank you thank you thank you soooo much!!!!
While watching this I remembered how my mom used to lock herself in her room when she was dealing with something personal. As a kid, I knew mom was upset but I didn't ever see how she became un-upset. If she was upset with her kids, we'd be scolded or yelled at or given threatening looks. I see correlations between her reactions and mine now. I've tended to either shut my mouth and lock away what I'm feeling or have angry outbursts. I'm looking forward to continuing this series and getting better at processing (not suppressing) my emotions.
Emma is so good in expressing the problem. Love when she raises her arm when talking out the problem. She's able to express as well as address the problem. I must have gone thru about 20 of her videos and all drive the point home. She was born to assist us in her therapy.
Found the story also was relatable to internal vs external validation with the farmer possessing a ‘zen’ attitude. BTW: You couldn’t have chosen a better name for your channel. 👏🏻👍🏻🙏🏻
I love your videos. 🤓They are very helpful and very insightful. 🙏🏼 - I’d say: *Suppressing your emotions is like ignoring the roadsigns. - It’ll get you in trouble.* Emotions are of great value, as they offer insight to the world inside you. And in order to best navigate in that world, one has to acknowledge the emotions, and seek to understand them. Just like when you’re learning how to drive a car, there’s a theoretical part and a practical part. There’s you, and your driving teacher. In order to get your drivers license you have to work on getting it. And that takes time and effort on your hand, in order to succeed. And then you have to actually drive for some time to get a certain amount of drivers experience. And while driving you have to be present in order to prevent doing harm to yourself and - or - others. No matter how long you have been driving for, be it one week, one year or ten years - the principle is the same - *you have to stay present.* The only way to get a hold of your emotions and try to understand them so that you can take action and create a better life for yourself, is to be present. And that takes work. Just like working out in the gym in order to get healthier and feel better. Just like getting your car fixed when something is wrong with it. 😊✨😊
I discovered you about a month ago and your videos have been so helpful, inspiring, and calming. I start most days by watching at least one. Thank you for helping me and many others.
Thank you Emma! Very useful information. Noticing and naming seems a simple way to progressively achieve a less abrasive attitude towards uncomfortable emotions.
Dude I was already kinda doing these things but I'm glad you confirmed and clarified the "sit in your emotions " It's like just feel it until it starts to subside. Everyone is all about running away from our feelings and we forget that they're just feelings not necessarily the truth or permanent. But point is it doesn't look like I'm doing anything and I'm actually just fine mooching off my parents cause I should've been doing this at age 16 not working full time pretending I'm a grown up. So yeah. I'm doing the take no action til you want to. But I. Like the I'm sitting in my emotional energy, I'm not lazy. I'm healing and shit yo
Thank you. I feel so much lighter because I always thought the end game was always feeling happy. Thank you for the tool to process my 'negative' ones.
This is so helpful and very timely for me. We are going to talk about dealing with anger in our emotional resilience group tonight, and I'm going to be careful that we don't just call the emotion of anger bad or make ourselves feel bad for feeling it. P. S. I like the way the music was used in this video, that's perfect! And the star trek clip. 😂
Thank you so much for these videos. I'll be sure to donate in the future when possible. I am so grateful since I can't afford therapy. I push down my emotions and have bad anxiety. I know I've been needing to express sadness. Writing after this video allowed me to cry and let it out thank you. 🙏
I had really bad day and listening to you just opened my mind to new possibilities! As a little girl, I learned how to play chess, so I think my mind is more used to processing logical stuff, when it comes to emotions I just feel so dumb and unqualified. This is very helpful. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for your hard work. Really appreciate what you are doing and all the good information. Like button clicked and listen to the commercials too, so I can help support back.
Fear. I believe this is an incredibly useful emotion and has helped me become the person I am today. By facing my fears I am a better person overall. But of course fear was always avoided by me.
Thank you SO much for this, your series is really helping me & I even paid for the journaling because that's how I work better with journaling & getting things out that way. Thanks for this, you're so wonderful to help us out
I just want to thank you for this video, and your journal prompts. This homework really helped me express myself without judgement and feel liberated. It also helped me acknowledge where my self-judgement to my emotions might have derived from and how I am not evolving from them. This was a great exercise for awareness and a tool for healthier thinking.
Hello! I would just like to thank you for your videos on neuroplasticity, they helped me so much in dealing with GAD and health anxiety, I am doing great today! Sending you lots of love!
Thank you for being transparent about the cost of Better Help. But mostly thank you for your channel. I have been in therapy for 15 years. I know these things, when you say them I remind myself that I know this. I have been watching at least one a day, and have really come back to a most centered self. I had so much judgment in my life. Myself and others. I have sent a video a day to my family as well. I hope they get as much as I do.
This video specifically unlocked a new way of thinking for me. I don’t necessarily suppress things but I do often think of them as negative. I’m going to work to change my way of thinking. Because this was really helpful
10:40 I cannot agree more to this!! It was only yesterday that I experienced a strong emotion and I've recently gotten into the habit of journaling, so I journalled it. And it just... disappeared. I didn't have anything to think about it after that.
This same thing would have costed 400 bucks to hear from my therapist. Thank you for your service to others.
900 from mine in NY.
So true.
But you mean for one session..?
No therapist I know would have put this so succinctly and easily understood. It would be amorphous and take 5 weeks of 45-minute “one hour” sessions.
@@mimimi3440 200 per session, they like to break up their sessions to keep you coming back
Talk to yourself like you would a good friend - all emotions are normal and valid.
Your comments are always so insightful and thought provoking! I tend too see you rather often it seems. Great job adding positivity wherever you go! It’s inspiring!
@@obviousnames8633 thank you! So glad you think so 🤗
This made me cry ...
I have been feeling guilty about getting angry for being mistreated, disrespected..
Thank you foe your comment . i'm still crying
LaughThinkEvolve Your emotions matter and so do you ❤️ you can get through this :)
I love this comment
"IDK we'll see" - my current motto
haha yep
I second this!! .
I must say, the emotion that I am currently feeling 😌 is "Hapoy" a pleasurable emotion....not a good or bad emotion
que sera sera 😌
I really appreciate how relatable and real you are. You're such a treasure. Thank you.
I appreciate that!
true! THE WHOLE world need know about this, indeed.
I used to think I had high emotional intelligence till I saw a few of these videos.
I'm dumb as a rock about emotions, but it's never too late to learn :)
After watching some of her videos I notice these sentences in soooo many of our replies " I am as dumb as a rock".. where did we pick up these messages? Don't know but not a rock. Only human.
Yeah I hear ya. This lines up with many people who label themselves "empaths" simply being very neurotic and easily disturbed, so actually less emotionally intelligent than others.
Hahaha. Stop. You just judged yourself again. 😊
@@Christopher-md7tfnever felt so called out by a RUclips comment
@@Christopher-md7tf some ppl have no idea of meaning of the words they are using..
I was very repressed by strict overprotective parents, so much so that I’ve internalized a lot of anger & was always the human doormat, even now I feel a lot of guilt/shame & second guess my emotions, it led to poor decisions.
I can relate and I'm back with them, now in our third lockdown in the UK...challenging is an understatement...no one is really talking and I just try and avoid my Dad's energy as if leaves me...I don't know but my mental health is suffering now.
I was raised by a narcissist so my experience may be extreme. I learned about CPTSD and narcissism which illuminated everything.
@@shaundaross123 I think once we have the awareness and knowledge, healing can start.
@@Froglet1968 absolutely
Me too. Doing EMDR therapy. It is helping a lot.
"Thinking is difficult. That's why most people Judge" - Carl Jung. Thanks Emma this is very helpful!
She's a gem, ain't she? Thanks for all you do ✌❤
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I love this series. Thank you so much for releasing it for free to the public. Know that you are helping tons of people, and leveling the playing field for those who may not be able to afford plenty of psych classes, but still want to learn for their personal health!
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I am being as candid as possible, I am a black female who have been in therapy for a minute. All I have ever asked for was tools to handle the experiences and I have never been provided them. I am truly thankful and I have watched a few of your videos and I have been able to assess myself, name the feeling and I am learning a lot more. I truly appreciate you. I pray that God bless you and your family.
Thank you!
I had a huge anxiety attack yesterday. I woke up today with a little fear. This video helped me process think of a response and make a positive response. Yes. I do not like feeling afraid but I am happy because it’s ok to feel that way! Now I am happy because instead of dwelling I can smile and move on!
Be bold as lions in your walk today! ✝️❤️
After ignoring myself for years, I’m slowly working through these videos. They are fantastic. Thank you!!
Thank you for hope it can change ❤
I cannot believe this. I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was in jr high. (I’m 53 now) I am on meds for anxiety. I’m overwhelmed and can’t stop crying or be overly emotional without then. The world would literally feel like sand paper.
I’ve been working hard on myself recently and found this video series. I’m really hopeful to continue and work through it all.
I’m so so so thankful to have found you. And thank you for offering these on youtube.
Im feeling hopeful! 💞
I'm curious if it's been helping?
Hi@@Michi-mv2xn ... I've been working at things a lot... and Yes.... I'm finally feeling like my new and happier self. I'm truly feeling so grateful and blessed. @MelRobbins has a new podcast too (and I did a huge group coaching session with her)... Lots of other youtube videos that are inspirational and working on change too. You can 're-wire' your brain.
I didn't ever know who I'd be or if I'd still BE me if I shed my old M.O.- the sweet, caring, happy on the outside but melancholy/sad person deep inside- but things helped ... and there is hope! I haven't stopped my meds yet... but it's a possibility... but if not, I'm ok with that too. :)
If you want a happier self too... don't quit... because you deserve to have your best life!
@@dbunnysport So glad to hear you've moved forward.
Have you heard of Dr Joe Dispenza work? It's absolutely worth introducing to his teachings. He is a love and a practical knowledge bomb:))
2 years later... has it been helping?
@@eliserobinson8240
I’m making great progress and encourage others to never give up hope. 💞 you are deserving of love and every blessing. ❤️
"Many of us have been taught... to never make anyone else feel bad..."
*intense revelation*
That gets reinforced in my life when my brother condemns me for having any emotions he thinks are negative. I've seen him react to his own "negative" emotions in a violently angry manner but I am required to be Pollyanna.
"The more we suppress emotions, the more likely it is that our life is gonna not line up with the life we want"
This was a lightbulb moment for me. Thank you for making this invaluable information available for free!
I really appreciate this video! You did a great job at describing why it’s not helpful to classify unpleasant emotions as bad. Thanks for explaining why toxic positivity doesn’t work, and why we need to be honest with ourselves and be real with our emotions.
Glad it was helpful!
I found that helpful too.
I could never see anger as a primary emotion. It generally comes out of vulnerability; hurt, fear, shame, disappointment... Identifying which of these preceded or precipitated the 'anger leaves you more options for dealing with it
We should all come together ❤ for this Gem 💎 and send her some blessings and an abundance of love 💘
I have suppressed emotions my whole life... To the point where now 95% of the time I can't even tell myself how I feel. I've read about viewing them with curiosity and naming them... But it never really made sense till you put the example of Data!! I'm a total Trekkie and suddenly I could just... Understand!! Thank you for making a tough subject so simple!
I’ve been afraid that some emotions would over take me. Knowing that they are normal and God made them as part of life, has taught me I can still experience them and move through them. They aren’t contaminated emotions
For the most part I avoided anger and angry people, but that would come out in a passive way. If not expressed in a healthy way, they come out in a wiered way. Now I'm learning all emotions are valid as long as they are expressed in a respectful, constructive and healthy way.
Me too, Becky
@@samk.970 So true.
I believe that anger is a huuge baddie! I get scared, even terrified into paralysis, when someone around me gets angry. As for myself, I stuff anger until I eventually explode in a verbal tirade. Also, I see fear and insecurity as unacceptable. I remember a family member scolding me for showing my fear, and that incident has really stuck with me. I find sadness quite acceptable, even poetic, but I withhold myself from expressing it to others because I am scared they will not care or respect my very intense emotions. I see as good emotions courage, confidence, and contentment. Although I rarely experience such feelings nowadays, I believe deep down that these are the only ones I can feel comfortable and safe expressing to myself and to others.
Love the story of the farmer in the beginning. It reminds me of the mindfulness practice of neither resisting nor clinging to the changes and chances of life. All pleasure and pain eventually fade.
I am currently working through lots of childhood trauma and suppressed emotions but can't afford to go see a professional. I found this video course and I love it so far. I just watched the second video but it is amazing... While doing the exercises i already cried and was able to let go some of the pressure on top of me. You are a huge help and thank you so much for making this available for free
So glad you're benefitting from this. I too am guilty of trying to suppress my emotions for all my life. I'm astonished at how open I am now towards having emotions, this is making me feel happier. Hope you find yours too in this course.
Thank you. “You won’t just feel better, you will get better at feeling.” Love it!
I remember the first time coming across the livestream, I saw a cat missing 1 leg, then another cat missing a leg, then Magic, who is missing both hind legs. It was so magical that these cats have a place to be cared for. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for making these videos. You have no idea how much you've improved my life. You have such a kind and gentle tone as well which makes your videos so much more palatable!
Wow, thank you!
Emma - thank you for giving so generously of your gifts. I have been suppressing my emotions and trying to be positive all the time for years. Your teaching style is so wonderfully effective - connecting with us in a clear and practical, down-to-earth way with compassion and humor. In this way - we can truly benefit from your clinical expertise . I am practicing identifying and feeling my emotions - "naming it to tame it" - thank you!
I believed, as a child (teenager), that it is wrong to feel unpleasant emotions such as shame and worthlessness… i was bullied as a child, and it made me feel worthless. However my parents said to ignore it, and I believed that the fact that I feel shame means I’m not ignoring it - I need to not feel shame. Also it made me feel like the bullies had degraded me, like I had lost worth and was worthless. Also there was pressure on me to get the top marks - I believed it was the only way I could get some worth, and so I needed to feel ok in order to be able to do that. Also when I was a child, my Dad used to tell me off if I cried and would publicly say she looks like a cry baby. Also he would criticise me if I felt anxiety and say I should be like my brother.
That's why mindful meditation is incredible. You just let everything be without separating from it and recognize awareness of the present moment.
me 30 minutes ago: 30 vids? time to binge watch my way to a healthy mind
me three minutes into this video's exercise: absolutely bawling my eyes out, realizing what people mean when they talk about their inner child
y'all do the exercises/homework, they're actually worth frfr
You should allow for the creation of subtitles. This needs to be shared across the globe.
I’m tremendously grateful to your kind person Emma, and to this invaluable channel, and please, do keep posting informative instructive and therapeutic videos like these. They have been enormously helpful to both me and my spouse. I can’t thank you enough!
Thanks Ather! Will do!
These sessions have saved me. You have no idea how many times I watch your videos on the way to work after struggling with anxiety all night. Thank you
Hi, from Texas! I just discovered this series, and your channel, through a friend. I’ve been subscribed a few weeks now. I cannot tell you how helpful this series has been for me! I’ve had to overcome a lot in my life, from abuse as a child to an abusive marriage, as an adult. My children and I were blessed to have abuse counseling, back where we used to live. It helped greatly. We moved, and I’m remarried to an amazing man. We’re both ministers. But I still want to learn about emotions and processing things in a healthy way. My hubby and I were both brought up in crazy households where we weren’t allowed to express ANY emotion, without judgement or ridicule. So we’re both now learning, as adults, the right way to process through things. This series is already opening my eyes to so much! It’s also helping me to understand our two teenage sons, and 8 year old son, to help them process through their emotions, too. They’ve overcome a lot in their lives, and I wanted to make sure to help them learn how to deal with emotions in a healthy way, since I was judged and misunderstood myself, as a child. Thank you so much for making this a free series on RUclips! I can’t wait to do the whole course! I’ve been taking a LOT of notes! I know God will help me use what I’m learning to help others, in the future. God bless you, and have a Happy New Year! 🎊
This was one of the most important things I learned in residential treatment last fall. My DBT therapist even read the same proverb at one point. As a little girl I was not allowed to feel angry - or rather, I was not allowed to express it with yelling or violence toward my little sister (because of course not). But as little kids, we don't generally know how to feel an emotion without acting on it. So I suppressed the anger whenever I felt it. I grew older and as I suppressed my anger more and more, I learned to scream into pillows and to be violent toward my own body. And then I started suppressing ALL of my "bad" emotions because I was avoiding the pain. Little did I know most of the pain was caused by letting the emotions rot and fester deep inside and whenever I was suppressing them again, oftentimes it was old stuff just leaking out again. This skill...this skill of being nonjudgmental toward my emotions was the first step to regulating my emotions when before I was just expected to skip right to regulating my (emotional) behaviors. No wonder I struggled - I was being set up for failure!
I cry after every video with hope and joy, because this is what I have been looking for for decades and many years of therapy. Thank you, Emma!
It's not for the first time that i realise that for my parents there were no "good" emtions. I got scolded both for crying too loud or laughing too loud. No emotions were good, apparently. No wonder I'm such an emotional cripple.
As a Trekkie myself I sooo appreciate you included that short snippet of Data ♡
I love how your explain things. I ve learned so much from your channel
Thank you so much for teaching me these tools. I am in my 40's and have always stuffed my feelings. I told my therapist last year that I finally came to the realization that I have trouble feeling my feelings. These videos are really helping me. I love the fish analogy, makes so much sense. So grateful for you sharing your knowledge a d talents.
Been crying to God for help. You are His answer to me. Thank you!
Yesterday I realized this series you created and watched the first one, then this one and catching at the end "homework". I wrote down every question you gave for this assignment but something about me wants to skip the homework and just binge watch your entire series instead. I see the value in taking the time and actually doing the work, especially since I really need to.
I started weekly therapy the end of last December, it's helpful but at the same time I feel it's not because I am finding that talking about my trauma experiences is causing me a lot of confusion, changes in my thoughts, causing me to experience emotions and behavior (things I say) that is not acceptable to me. I am recognizing and reacting to triggers that I ignored or didn't see before, then overthinking the situation, then overreacting afterwards, then overthinking my negative reaction, only to realize the problems that I am causing which then causes me to emotionally dysregulate. I am not in control of myself like I used to be. I am adding more trauma on top of all my unresolved past traumas.
I thought the purpose of therapy is to heal. I am not healing and talking about my traumas is certainly not helping! I liked how I was and the way I coped before I started talking about past traumas. Obviously, I ignored them and focused on life, responsibilities, family, business, and other important things that mattered. Before therapy, I thought I was a pro at being emotionally regulated, well I was and now I know why. I wasn't emotionally regulated, I just ignored my emotions, clearly is not a healthy way to be and live.
Before therapy, I didn't realize that I was ignoring my emotions and feelings I think most of my life, starting in childhood. In 5 months of therapy, I go in there and talk....all over the place, never staying on a single abuse story as well as rushing through it because I have so much to unpack. Obviously, I am doing this all wrong and need to find out from the professional what I need. I plan to go through this series and your homework assignments one day at a time, it just might be a while before I start the process because I feel the need to rush through it. Thank you for your content and taking the time using your knowledge to help others.
I am so glad I discovered your channel! The content is great , and so helpful! You actually give us homework and push us to take action. It's not just motivational speeches which I am so sick of haha!
Thank you for all that you do!
I really like you channel. As a 48 year old man that never really took the time to understand his emotions very well, I have found your advice very enlightening. I am really learning a lot from you. Thanks.
I just heard the "We'll See" story on Bluey, and I had mad deja vu.
I started this Playlist and when thus video came up, I saw that I had already liked it. I must have watched it as a stand-alone while browsing through the channel. When I heard you tell the story I was like "No way!" I'm glad I'm doing this program now and have the playlist saved, because you've clearly had an impact on me previously.
These videos are so helpful. Thank you!
Glad you like them!
SHE IS WONDERFUL, I LOVE THIS WOMAN SO KNOWLEDGABLE!
Love it. She is so authentic 💗
Thanks Maria
I do not just FEEL fortunate, I AM fortunate I found you!
Wow, the amount of psychology content that I have waded through before encountering these instructions, it is pretty mind-boggling how arcane this knowledge is out there.
Revolting! More please!
This video is unbelievably helpful. All my adult life I've been told, "deal with your feelings", or process your emotions, then move on", or "just feel and accept your feelings ". "Identify the cause. " What was never put into words was what next. "Just deal with them" leaves a void. It doesn't give validity to the informational value of emotions. It doesn't provide any guidance for those of us who never learned about "normal" development of internal pressures. I understand that this series isn't intended for huge trauma survivors, but it puts emotions on a comprehensible level for me. I have rewatched this video 7 times and put it in my watch later list. I think it will be useful to refer back in the future. Thank you from the bottom of my shriveled, twisted and growing heart.
"The more we suppress, the more pressure to explode". This blew my world apart. The health and safety of an elderly person was at stake each and every day based on unsafe actions taken by another person. Sought help from every person within the company all the way up to corporate to no avail. No one was listening or offering solutions. The only thing I know is to seek out authority yet authority failed with every phone call I made. This is happening more and more. Suppress. Seek authority assistance. Ignored or spoken over.. Explode. I'm hurt beyond. Wounded without physical wounds. I still don't follow what could have been done differently. I'm paying the price yet had the explosion not happened a life would have been lost. I kept telling myself to keep quiet because I was not a manager. 2 1/2 years later and the pain persists. I worked non-stop and no one would listen. Why are people in a bubble?
Many suffer in silence. Those have dementia can't even complain when being attacked or mistreated. Being vocal may also invite many verbal attacks on the social media. People don't like others to talk about their weaknesses but have no problems attacking others. Thank God there are people like Emma who care enough to try helping using her experiences and any resources she has to help. God bless.
"Sought help from every person within the company"
"I'm paying the price yet had the explosion not happened a life would have been lost."
You 1000% had more character than any person there and did the right thing. And then you suffered for doing good. You're my HERO! Anyone who doesn't care or who judges you for that is morally bankrupt and they can pound sand.
thank you sooo soo much for this..i make myself suffer all the time and recently realized how uneducated i am in terms of emotional intelligence ..i am so ready to grow into getting better at feeling and working on my relationships i cant
access therapy but i realized i needed it so bad after watching this thank you.
Third video in and I'm already feeling the light of understanding and liberation touching me. I didn't know so many of those things! When I look at emotions non-judgmentally they start to feel less personal and more managable, understandable...
I'm doing the full RUclips course. Thank you for making it free. Actually I cannot express how grateful I am for this. First chance I get I'm buying it and doing it again with all the supplementary materials/tasks as well.
Love the fact that I have to literally take notes and quote your sentences in my journal. Thank you so much for creating this. ❤️
I really liked the term "emotional muscle" which gives me the depth dimension when it comes to experiencing emotions and the idea of a muscle as an analogy of something that can be trained to be processed more effectively.
Emma, as I am navigating what I describe as one of the worst and best periods of my life, I wanted to stop by the comment sections and express my deepest gratitude for the free and much needed therapy me and hundreds of thousands of people so desperately need to become the best versions of ourselves. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!
It's surprising for me how well I understand each and every word you speak in this course. I've always suppressed my emotions (rather, tried to suppress, cause the harder I suppressed the louder they got). Why does nobody ever talk about this? Why do they tell us to avoid the feelings? Why do they think it's not okay to have feelings? Man!! If feelings are natural, you're SUPPOSED to *feel* them!
I am so thankful I found this channel, now I can be non-judgmental about my so called "negative" emotions and I wil not judge my mother for having them as well, now I know how to deal with them. Gosh I was so ignorant all this time. Thank you thank you thank you soooo much!!!!
Emma, You are really helping me through a difficult time right now. Thank you and God bless you.
While watching this I remembered how my mom used to lock herself in her room when she was dealing with something personal. As a kid, I knew mom was upset but I didn't ever see how she became un-upset. If she was upset with her kids, we'd be scolded or yelled at or given threatening looks.
I see correlations between her reactions and mine now. I've tended to either shut my mouth and lock away what I'm feeling or have angry outbursts. I'm looking forward to continuing this series and getting better at processing (not suppressing) my emotions.
The best therapist on RUclips! No psychobabble BS
Emma is so good in expressing the problem. Love when she raises her arm when talking out the problem. She's able to express as well as address the problem. I must have gone thru about 20 of her videos and all drive the point home. She was born to assist us in her therapy.
Found the story also was relatable to internal vs external validation with the farmer possessing a ‘zen’ attitude.
BTW: You couldn’t have chosen a better name for your channel. 👏🏻👍🏻🙏🏻
Thanks :)
Instead of judging emotions... Describe them.
I love your videos. 🤓They are very helpful and very insightful. 🙏🏼
- I’d say: *Suppressing your emotions is like ignoring the roadsigns. - It’ll get you in trouble.*
Emotions are of great value, as they offer insight to the world inside you. And in order to best navigate in that world, one has to acknowledge the emotions, and seek to understand them.
Just like when you’re learning how to drive a car, there’s a theoretical part and a practical part. There’s you, and your driving teacher. In order to get your drivers license you have to work on getting it. And that takes time and effort on your hand, in order to succeed. And then you have to actually drive for some time to get a certain amount of drivers experience.
And while driving you have to be present in order to prevent doing harm to yourself and - or - others. No matter how long you have been driving for, be it one week, one year or ten years - the principle is the same - *you have to stay present.*
The only way to get a hold of your emotions and try to understand them so that you can take action and create a better life for yourself, is to be present. And that takes work. Just like working out in the gym in order to get healthier and feel better. Just like getting your car fixed when something is wrong with it.
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you make some good points :)
I discovered you about a month ago and your videos have been so helpful, inspiring, and calming. I start most days by watching at least one. Thank you for helping me and many others.
I love how pedagogical her explanation is !! The last scene was so nice!!
You are amazing. Thank you for saving lives. We are a big fan of you.
Thanks Abdul!
Thank you Emma! Very useful information. Noticing and naming seems a simple way to progressively achieve a less abrasive attitude towards uncomfortable emotions.
Yes!
Dude I was already kinda doing these things but I'm glad you confirmed and clarified the "sit in your emotions "
It's like just feel it until it starts to subside. Everyone is all about running away from our feelings and we forget that they're just feelings not necessarily the truth or permanent.
But point is it doesn't look like I'm doing anything and I'm actually just fine mooching off my parents cause I should've been doing this at age 16 not working full time pretending I'm a grown up.
So yeah. I'm doing the take no action til you want to. But I. Like the I'm sitting in my emotional energy, I'm not lazy. I'm healing and shit yo
Thank you. I feel so much lighter because I always thought the end game was always feeling happy. Thank you for the tool to process my 'negative' ones.
This is so helpful and very timely for me. We are going to talk about dealing with anger in our emotional resilience group tonight, and I'm going to be careful that we don't just call the emotion of anger bad or make ourselves feel bad for feeling it. P. S. I like the way the music was used in this video, that's perfect! And the star trek clip. 😂
Thanks :)
Thank you so much for these videos. I'll be sure to donate in the future when possible. I am so grateful since I can't afford therapy. I push down my emotions and have bad anxiety. I know I've been needing to express sadness. Writing after this video allowed me to cry and let it out thank you. 🙏
These videos deserve so much for hype or something, really related and am engaged in this. Lots of things I struggle with emotionally
...I very recently lost a dear doggie-friend...the grief I feel is a reflection of the love we shared, I would not want it any other way...
Thanks Emma for offering these to us for free. They ate helping me soooo much. I wish I could have you as my personal therapist.
I had really bad day and listening to you just opened my mind to new possibilities! As a little girl, I learned how to play chess, so I think my mind is more used to processing logical stuff, when it comes to emotions I just feel so dumb and unqualified. This is very helpful. Thank you so much!
These videos are great. Thank you for adding the Star Trek clip. It warms my geeky heart.
Thank you so much for your hard work. Really appreciate what you are doing and all the good information. Like button clicked and listen to the commercials too, so I can help support back.
Thank you! That does help
This is why we need those kind of talks in shool. Mental health should be on par with physical health.
Emma is one of the best RUclips channels I've come across, such valuable in depth content. A blessing 🙏
Fear. I believe this is an incredibly useful emotion and has helped me become the person I am today. By facing my fears I am a better person overall. But of course fear was always avoided by me.
Your videos helps me so much during tough times. It's so interesting to learn more bout ourselves
Thank you 🙏🏼 you have no idea how much your content has been helping me ❤ God bless you dear 🙏🏼
My therapist put me on to you. Watching your videos is my homework
Thank you SO much for this, your series is really helping me & I even paid for the journaling because that's how I work better with journaling & getting things out that way. Thanks for this, you're so wonderful to help us out
I just want to thank you for this video, and your journal prompts. This homework really helped me express myself without judgement and feel liberated. It also helped me acknowledge where my self-judgement to my emotions might have derived from and how I am not evolving from them. This was a great exercise for awareness and a tool for healthier thinking.
Thank you for this I’m crying 😢 finally able to help myself
Hello! I would just like to thank you for your videos on neuroplasticity, they helped me so much in dealing with GAD and health anxiety, I am doing great today! Sending you lots of love!
Thank you for being transparent about the cost of Better Help. But mostly thank you for your channel. I have been in therapy for 15 years. I know these things, when you say them I remind myself that I know this. I have been watching at least one a day, and have really come back to a most centered self. I had so much judgment in my life. Myself and others. I have sent a video a day to my family as well. I hope they get as much as I do.
OMG... You are amazing! Thank you so much for hepling me get through a tough part of my life!:)
This video specifically unlocked a new way of thinking for me. I don’t necessarily suppress things but I do often think of them as negative. I’m going to work to change my way of thinking. Because this was really helpful
I start to feel real progress in my OCD battle. I struggle for years, thank you very much!
Thank you so much for this series
Love the way of your counseling, very personable, thank you 🙏🏼
I just adore her! I learn so much in each video. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Your awesome Emma. So very helpful to mental health.
10:40 I cannot agree more to this!! It was only yesterday that I experienced a strong emotion and I've recently gotten into the habit of journaling, so I journalled it. And it just... disappeared. I didn't have anything to think about it after that.
Thank you for this course. It’s really awesome. I’ve been struggling with my emotions ever since i was a kid. This is really helpful
The way you describe things always gets to me ❤️
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