The Wedlock Isn’t the Issue. It Cost Less Than $100 to Get Married in Any State! So, I Don’t Get Why Ppl Think That Being Married is the Issue. Even Some Married Men Are Absent Fathers. Your Father Was Just a Coward & Didn’t Step Up to the Plate. I’m Sorry That You Went Through That in Life. But, Don’t Let His Negligence Hold You Back in Life
@@Jolie19Official no one ever holds the women accountable! Just like the woman in the video made someone a father who didn’t wanna be and expect him to pay child support and be an active father
@@Jolie19Official it IS the issue. The stats are there, until blk ppl can accept it we can’t move forward. If the man and woman aren’t committed by marriage, the children will turn out worse on average. It’s facts
Just real quick, ladies when you get on these massively public lives do NOT say where you're going. You realize it's actually live right. You giving the time and exact location you will be is dangerous. The chances of a normal man meeting you in person after watching is not as likely as someone going to see you with foul intentions. Blk women are killed ever 5.5 hours yall NEED to be more careful.
"Blk women are kiIIed ever 5.5 hours y'all NEED to be more careful."............................BIack women have a/b/o/r/t/e/d 25 million fetuses since Roe/V/Wade. That's 45 per-hour. The most dangerous place is in a bIack woman's womb.
I appreciate her honesty. But it amazes me that she thinks she wasn't mature enough for a committed relationship...but was mature enough to have children, not one, two but four. 🤔
It was immaturity and her having sexual fun that was more important! For a man to come in and settle for a woman like this is asking for trouble, she obviously likes having multiple sex partners, but the main problem is she looking for a man to take care of her and her children!😓
I hear ya - Tam Tam! After watching this, this is all I have to say… Personal Development is one of the best things you can do for yourself - because, we as human beings, we’re supposed to embrace growth! So make sure you find your Purpose in life - whatever it might be, and work on it daily, and continue to make progress, because progress is - really the key to happiness. But don’t do it for any girl or guy, make sure you’re doing it for yourself - and just be happy! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
It's crazy right! You have plan B too. It no sense in any woman in modern times of intentionally have kids before marriage or at least a real man that will be on the child's life. Sisters use birth control or force men to wear condoms. It's your responsibility to stop your eggs from getting fertilized
But that's the type of women she is, she loves kids, we cant make fun of her for that. I know alot of women in this world, they love to babysit kids, be around kids, take care of kids, she is one of those types of women!!!
@@SB-lw5xt it doesn't matter if she loves children. Children don't love being brought into broken homes. Not only that, she's teaching bm bad behavior in that she's allowing bm to get out of being accountable for their reckless sexual behavior She's dysfunctional and so are the people who agree with her behavior.
She was so offended when Kendra said you shouldn't have sex unless being in a relationship. She stressed that she have needs. Smh this is what's plaguing the black community. Everyone is so hypersexual and don't care about consequences on having sex with strangers unprotected, which contributes to a lot of single parent households.
Yes. Also having kids is taken wayyy too lightly in the black community. We got people really functioning at an almost animalistic level when it comes to sex and procreating. Only caring about today not tomorrow.
@@tatlifelover I agree black people nowadays not all black people are having kids for the wrong reasons and not being prepared like have a strong foundation and support system. In my opinion I don't think you will be 100% prepared for kids but have support systems and having some bills paid off like a car, having some savings and having your credit straight can help
She strikes me as the type of person who didn't think that she was worthy of love so she just gave herself away without requiring commitment. And she claims that it was because she didn't feel like it was necessary but I think she just didn't think she was worthy of it and now she's older and she wants to be committed to. Because regardless of what anyone says everyone wants to be loved
She was prettier, slimmer, and had it going on 4 kids before that's why she wasn't looking for a relationship. That's the bottom line, she gambled her earlier years and it didn't work out, now she wants a simp to take care of her and her 4 kids
One of her dealbreakers is "Men that dont take care of their own kids" but she had a kid with a one night stand who doesn't want anything to do with his own kid.
It really is. This is what I looks like when you have no idea what a healthy relationship looks like. Have as much fun as you want,but children deserve better.
She seemed so ashamed this whole interview. Some people shouldn't be in control of themselves, adult status isn't for everyone and those boys gotta go through all the bad decision making with her smh
I believe she used the lack of being able to hear Kendra as an excuse to bounce from the zoom chat.🤣 She heard everything Kendra was saying till it got to be too much then she created an exit to leave. Very funny.
Do you Wana know what's better than child support which is really good the child? Picking a good men to reproduce with. Not just the one that hits your guts deep. Do you wan know what 8s truly good the child? Staying with good man you picked by being a good woman to him and watch him reciprocate even more. Children need their good father so they can learn from him and become valuable citizens in the society, maybe even become millionnaires or billionaires. So you can dump your child support in the trash cuz that's is the reason why society is falling and the crime rate goes higher each year and most people have no morals and values nowadays. Hopefully your tiny mind can grasp this concept.
It is about the rent if it goes directly into the hands of the other parent AND there is no record keeping on what that money is used for. Women literally get child support and spend it on hair, nails, & other bs. We need proper record keeping of child support. They need to give child support on cards like they do for EBT. And just like you can only go certain places if you have an EBT card, the same should be true for a child support card.
@@jay-alldayywhat you’re saying is intellectually dishonest. There’s no way to use child support for yourself unless the child is being neglected. Please educate yourself
@@jay-alldayyyour late, and if you actually paid your child support you would know that it does go on a card with the child’s name on it. They’ve been doing that for yrs.
She don’t need to be looking for a man, she needs to be looking for a therapist. It’s very selfish bringing a child into the world to grow up knowing his father didn’t want him and his mother had him as a result of a one night stand.
It's become so normal. Engaging in reckless behavior that results in babies is crazy. Imagine these kids all living in the same house with multiple daddies. If one father just happens to stop by to see his kid, The other kids are going to wonder where's my daddy. Why aren't I good enough to have a daddy. The pain cause by this is going to be felt for generations. And to her, it's no big deal. She's up here like, who's got Next!!!
That's how it goes sometimes. Have a problem with men not women. It's so easy to have a problem with her cuz most men have a problem with women first over everything but considering holding men accountable to their actions.
@Hammer you are spot on with that comment. I’ve witnessed this first hand in my own family. This is viscous cycle that produces low value men that then produce single mothers who in turn raise more low value men 🤦🏾♂️
@@xmanlatter6013 I've got some gray hair on my head so I've been around awhile. I've got 4 sisters and all 4 of them are married to their original husbands. The youngest has been married for over 40yrs. Coincidence? I think not. One has 4 children and the others 2ea. Not one baby was before marriage. Coincidence? Don't think so. Luck? Nah I also have 3 brothers one has passed. The remaining 3 of us are fatherless with great careers and I made the least of my brothers at over 180k at my peak. Coincidence? My parents were married young and stayed together their entire lives. Over a 60yr marriage. I'm the youngest of the boys at 61, and have one younger sister. I've retired but my brothers continue to work. What are the odds that 4 women from the same family all happily married. No kids out of wedlock. I can very vividly remember guys coming to the house and being chased off. Think having a strong father in the home doesn't make a difference? It's ashamed how little father's are valued today.
Very true I grew up thinking my father didn’t want me I’m 40 now still have issues with it. When I was around 9 I asked my mom where my dad is she said he is a dog so I never asked again;( when I was 24 I went to go find my dad I did I finally asked him why he left he said because another man would be around this is not a valid reason in my opinion. I am going to choose stop the cycle
“It’s nothing wrong with having kids....” Sis, yes there IS something wrong with having children by random men who won’t help you or commit to you. Wtf!? She has no idea of the damage and confusion she’s causing her sons whenever someone ask him who his father is or he has to explain that relationship. “Well, my father decided he doesn’t want to be around and my mother too arrogant and proud to even ask for child support...” wtf? How do some of my ppl think like this? There is everything wrong with the choices you have made sis. Everything!
I'm not buying that part about her using protection and still resulting in kids. Nothing about her history says she is responsible when it comes to protection. The way she glossed over having 4 kids like it was no big deal, becoming defensive at Kendra's line of questions as if men won't ask her the same questions, and then hanging up when things got hot, all red flags telling men to stay away.
I don't believe she used any birth control; birth control does work. There is no possible way that with so many birth control options out here, that all of them are failing! I actually believe she wanted more babies and didn't make it known to the guy; that's why he bailed! Women have secrets in their head that men may not know about and that's why so many of them become bd's. Women get resources with babies...and they get to use the court system to control a man's wallet.
Clearly she’s ashamed of her decision to be irresponsible. She’s in a bad situation. I know one woman that got a man to marry her with 3 kids but her aesthetic is totally different. (If you get what I’m saying.)
Her being distracted for the entire interview was SO RUDE. Don’t press the request button if you are unable to give Kendra your undivided attention. She got “busy” whenever Kendra was talking, but stopped completely when it was her turn to speak, which means she is not able to completely pay attention while moving around 🙄🙄
Concerned more about what people will think as opposed to her child’s well being. Because child support is for the child and they should not be denied support from either parent.
Perhaps she doesn’t have his info so that’s not an option for her. After all a one night stand doesn’t require much info besides a phone number and a name. 🤷🏽♀️
The saddest part is that her thinking doesn't seemed to have changed much. When Kendra asked if why does she want a relationship. Her response was that she wants to try something different. ..not I want to create a better atmosphere for her children..or she wants them to have a consistent male role model in their lives. It was just about her trying it out. She likely grew up not seeing parents in the same home...or a consistent positive male role model. Even without that, I'd hope an individual takes bringing life into this world more serious than just a by product of having fun and getting your needs met. People hate looking at their true situation mirrored to them. More people should look at their situation in a mirror so they can see their actual reflection.
Right! Kendra repeated her stats to her and she was offended by her own truth. It sounds negative because it’s not good. Kendra held the 🪞 up to a few ppl and none of them liked it.
This woman is playing random select with who she lets inside her. She can't see passed the horizon of any given day, so she can't comprehend how having a consistent man in her life is beneficial.
Her being distracted during this interview is a preview of how she's distracted in life. It was under 20 minutes. You can't sit still and focus for that long? She said circumstances. It's a lack of discipline. 🚩
I noticed when Kendra was telling her the truth about her situation, she started moving things around, not looking at the camera. Like you said she called in, so why not sit still for 20 minutes.
when she said she's never been in a relationship i gasped aloud. & then when she said the reason she wants a relationship is because now she's "mature enough"... as if she isn't a mother of 4 - my jaw dropped! ... even high schoolers are in relationships. i know a lot of men complain that women are too picky, but this woman's life is the result of not being picky with anything AT ALL.
@@FLAWEDANDFOCUSEDdamn not being picky is one thing but letting men just buss and not being on birth control or telling them strap up is something different
😮💨 this was a tough one to watch. She’s not picky and she’s never been in a relationship…but has 4 kids 🤯 Side note: YOU CAN MOST CERTAINLY CONTROL WHO CREATE A CHILD WITH
Ur side note is what I've always been saying and I'm a single mom of a 18 yr old. Folks always ask my why I never had another one while my son was young and I would tell them that if I'm not fully committed or even marrie, I'm not having anymore kids......my son's father was only in his life for the last 8 yrs and now that's he's 18, he's acting sketchy once again. I never want to go through that again with another man potentially having a child who's father isn't fully present. That shit hurts the kids in so many ways. So I fully believe u can control who u procreate with 100 percent
She only belongs too the streets. She's large, has four kids, and three baby daddy's. Plus, she's named after video game, and can't accept responsibility on all her mistakes in life.
@Mimiyou're so right, but I think the main pb with our community is the fact that both men and women, specifically BW think having a kid without the right planning is normal and that is our pb. Of course accident happens, my sisters don't mind carrying a baby without Even knowing the father and this many times before they think about their child's future, emotional well-being, environment and so on. It's just Irresponsible plain and simple. And the worst is when they bring the exceptions to justify their craziness. Our kids Deserve better. All this gun violence, all this kids in jail is tiresome, and blaming the justice system, racism while the parent would pay $200 for her long nails, or more for her hair without putting the kids in a private school or a great neighborhood is very common in our community. We need to redirect the conversation and Stop having kids without the right mindset.
This is a prime example of how women give their best years to random "Ray Rays", having babies and such, then want a good man to come along to help them clean up their carnage; and she sees absolutely nothing wrong with her decision-making. #IllPass🚩
It happens a lot when there’s no guidance. I’ve been thru it but by 22 I grew up and made better choices. I get frustrated when I see adults at age 30 and still talking foolishness.
I’m young (20s) and have been abstinent for 5 years. I have protected myself from a lot of heartache by keeping my legs closed. Plenty have tried but I want something serious again before I do all that
Hold on- so is going out by yourself and dating yourself the new code word for a one night stand? Genuinely asking as I’m trying to be more out there and build my confidence and love myself so much more but I wouldn’t want men out there thinking that I’m on a hunt for some ding a ling!!! 😢
@@anm3744there's absolutely nothing wrong with learning to love yourself more. As far as this woman, it's possible that she needs to try a new approach so she doesn't have child #5 without commitment.
Just think she has FOUR boys THREE baby daddies that means off top you’re dealing with SEVEN men if you deal with her and that’s not counting her Father Grandfather and possible Brothers. That’s too many Dudes.
Having a baby by a one night stand is straight up trifling. There is no excuse especially after already being a mother. Ma'am you should have been on reliable birth control. I could never have a baby with a stranger.....Smh
Tired of your judgmental comments. No birth control is 100%. I guess you have done everything right in your life? Cnt believe there is a perfect human!
Please help me understand which part is trifling? The sex? Or the baby? Because a lot of men and women treat sex is like popping tic tacs and everyone says don't judge themtheyre grown. So here is a woman doing just that, having sex or are you of the opinion that having sex with the stranger is ok she just should have terminated the evidence and that would have been less trifling?
This sister is a perfect example of why many men aren't interested in being with single mothers. Single mothers continually expect you to be everything they never required the fathers of their children to be. It is a ridiculous and insulting expectation of men (especially men who are responsible), and there is little reason to agree to it.
💯💯💯💯💯...that's why they're alone. Regardless of what their delusional family, friends or this politically correct, a** kissing society tells them...🤬🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
They can have requirements and men don't have to date them. It's not ridiculous or insulting if you don't deal with women with children. It's not personal to you.
After seeing single mothers, divestors and delusionals on RUclips this year and last year, it’s safe to say that we need to raise awareness about mental health in the Blk community.
This one hit home. I’m a single mom of four kids. The last two have the same dad. When I was 18 I had no business having sex.. sadly he mad me feel loved.. I thought he was my future husband but he hit me one day.. I knew then there wasn’t gonna be a long future.. he began cheating (maybe he was in the beginning) now in our 30s I considered him a friend and our son just moved with him last year.. after him I want to fill whatever void I had in my heart and met my middle son’s dad.. he lied and I stupidly didn’t believe things that were honestly right in my face. We I decided to leave I had my second son by him and lost my first babygirl during the pregnancy. Then I meet my third / last two kiddos daddy. He supported me, helped me (whole time he was sleeping with other women behind my back) ..the day I had our son I said we have two kids together. I now have a total of four kids (plus my angel in heaven) I have to make this work.. I realized I was dealing with a narcissist person I left. .. I think I didn’t know value .. I didn’t know what love was. I don’t regret my kids!! I’m still learning from my choices. I know people will judge, throw rocks…tell me how stupid or disgusting I am.. but God brung me a mighty long way. With four kids..I’m not on any government assistance, no section 8.. graduated college twice.. in my career even tho I have two other jobs outside of that. The takeaway for me is to learn so I can teach my children to make better decisions, trust God, protect themselves and love themselves. I didn’t value myself.. didn’t learn but my story is deeper. And I pray young women can learn from us that fell short from grace and learn what love is suppose to feel like. I take full responsibility for everything and sometimes you just have to move forward. I pray for Gods mercy and forgiveness daily. And I’m so sorry to my kids. I tell them all the time I’m sorry. Their loves for me is amazing and out of anything I’m thankful for them.. I fkd up ..my past actions may or might already cause them pain. I am very remorseful. But I can’t lay down and pity myself.. I have to stand in my decision of bring them in this world and for any confusion I created. I can’t just die and not stay in their lives for the long run. I hurt everyday knowing I didn’t love them more to give them a happier concrete loving environment to be raised in.. I’m down don’t want to be kicked down anymore.. but I know God forgives and GOD has helped me every step of the way. If I never find true love it’s okay.I’m just blessed with the task of living to love my children.
She thought she was going to come on here an promote her business, she still will at the end when she gives her Instagram because people will go to her page
I've been thinking about this for a while. Black women love to "have their own business" because they lack accountability (believing that they won't have to answer to anyone). Unfortunately, if they aren't successful in their personal lives, they probably won't be successful in business. If this woman doesn't know that she can't afford to "take herself out", how successful could her business possibly be?
This woman strikes me as being broken and having low self esteem. She gives way too much to men without asking anything of them, she says she’s not picky and doesn’t require a commitment. She’s afraid to ask for one, probably afraid of them abandoning her. Not realizing that this behavior will cause her to be abandoned and hurt over and over again. I believe she lied about not being able to hear Kendra. Her feelings got hurt. I could see the pain in her eyes throughout Kendras interview with her. I truly hope she goes to therapy to get some help, she shouldn’t date until she does
Well having all of those children will probably age some women. I was too scared to have my one! Thank God he is an adult now! I can not imagine how these women be having so many kids! Sad, she is a nice looking lady. 😞
I think she ended the live on purpose, she sure could hear Kendra. She wanted to end it because she was feeling uncomfortable with all the questions and she was embarrassed.
Honestly I have ONE SON and I feel shame and embarrassed to even go on a date as my son is only 3, honestly it’s a lot to expect a man to come in and be a “step dad.” I also had to accept I made a bad choice in the type of man I allowed my self to get pregnant by! It takes guts to admit fault, and I honestly am scared to even go on a date as the risk of being baby mum number 2 is risky..I’m so careful now and I take full responsibility in my bad choices
I feel bad because such a decision has permanent consequences on the likelihood of marriage. I’m 30yrs old and have no children. You’d be surprised at how many single mothers throw themselves at me hoping I could be that guy…it’s pretty sad honestly. For men dating in your 30s is a nightmare which is why we choose to sleep with women in our age group and start a family with younger women. Literally every single woman in our age group is 1 of 2 things, they’re either a single mother or they’re a childless single woman that literally wants you to marry her and have children with her immediately. Be careful women in their 30s are invisible to the majority of men other than getting into your pants. It’s going to be very tough but it’s still possible for you to find a partner.
Girl, I didn't date or entertain anyone until my daughter was 5, and even that I was only comfortable with because it was long distance, and I'd known the guy since the 4th grade, so I knew who I was dealing with and the distance let us take it slow organically. This is trifling. She wants a commit now to "try it". Not because her sons need a healthy male role model, not because she wants to build a future with someone special, not because she sees how hard it is to raise kids, let alone young men ALONE. IF YOUR HAPPY CO PARENTING WITH A NANNY AND ENJOY BEING A THOT, THEN SAY THAT. Dating yourself is supposed to bring you self love and ambition for self growth. It would appear she's only dating herself so she can eat her meals without judgment. Throw the whole thot away.
She says: “There’s nothing wrong with having children”. She’s too defensive to listen. But she’s older and mature enough after having 4 children. “You can’t make this stuff up”.
Yes I did notice that. She talked about being a party girl and having multiple kids with multiple baby daddies, including one from a one night stand, and when Kendra told her the truth about how men think when they’re looking for a woman to provide for and how these men may view her because of her past, she got highly offended.
@@meloran2571 I expect her to behave like an adult. Be accountable. Be responsible. You can’t count on anyone to bale you out when you keep repeating the same mistake over and over and over again. “Bail”
These women want to do whatever the hell they want and not be held accountable for their actions. They also think they are entitled to men. Can't make this shyte up. Shout out to the godfather.
It's true because when I had been drinking and someone asked me about having kids I became like a parrot and downgraded having kids with the wrong person.😂😂😂 I don't understand how most women want to have kids with the bums from the corner. Lol
What I find amazing is these women fully understand it when a potential employer asks about their past work experience, credit history, and criminal background. Yet, they become unglued when a potential HUSBAND has a similar line of questioning. Yes, dear, your background, and the decisions you’ve made in your life up to this point, matter. And, like applying to work at Bain, Kleiner Perkins, or Goldman Sachs, the more prestigious the firm (husband), the more your life choices will be scrutinized. The only question is DO YOU QUALIFY for the annual family vacations to Tuscany and Grindelwald (Swiss Alps), or do you just get the day trip to the nearest Six Flags?
💯💯🎯.. it's obvious they are NOT marriage material. PERIOD! Black people have to stop with the st6pid stuff... Alot of these women are not marriage material
I agree. I do feel like ppl can change but that doesn't just wipe away yrs of h*o*-ing. It's definitely vice versa as well because some men will literally say they've been with hundreds of women like wtf...Usually the only ppl have issues with questions are the ones ashamed of what they've done in the past.
If a woman wants to" get it in" and is not intrested in a relationship why not use all forms of contraceptives? When its all said and done the children suffer.
As a child born out of wedlock and reckless sexual behavior, I condemn this woman for thinking she has the right to deny her children financial support from the father. Just bc YOU think you are financially stable, does not mean you meet the child's requirements of financial stability. Put him on child support. If he didn't want to be a father, he shouldn't have engaged in the act of creating children.
Nop I agree with her. The contract was a one night stand. If she didn't want a kid she should not have engaged in the act of creating a child. If he wanted her to end the pregnancy she like all women wouldn't take that requirement. She controls who gets access to sex and who gets born. Therefore she carries the load. Leave the man alone.
@@imdon8920 Who cares what you agree with. If she decides to bring him to court he would be financially responsible. Period. The end. He knows that he should have protected himself and wore a condom. Simple. The child is innocent and shouldn’t have to deal with the consequences of his irresponsible parents
@@KendraGMedia "who cares what you agree with" Immature emotional response. Shame He was irresponsible for not wearing protection. Of course. Conversely, she didn't and is equally responsible for not requiring him to wear protection and allowing him to access her without said protection, knowing full well she bears more risk from that behavior. Consequently, here she is with 4 kids, never had a serious relationship. Which man of value is going to take her seriously, since she is on your show wanting a serious man? She had every chance to stop this child from being born from not opening her legs to ONS, to no protection no sugar, to plan b, to ending the pregnancy. She chose none of those. Therefore, she is right to absolve the dude of CS. She must have had a plan for carrying the baby to term. This is all on her. You did a good job to hold her decisions to account and she didn't like that. But that is needed.
@@KendraGMedia and you're only saying that ish because she's a woman. I notice how you handle women with kid gloves, but when it comes to men you're full speed ahead! Nah, keep that same energy
She takes care of her children. Maybe that’s the reason WHY she doesn’t want a man that doesn’t take care of his children. That’s VERY REASONABLE AND RESPECTFUL.
It's crazy for a woman to expect another man to come into her life and be financially responsible for her 4 kids. Especially when it's not required of the father. It is completely Crazy !!
Men do it all the time they have 4-5 children by different women & expect a good woman- I’m not condoning the behavior but the spectrum of accountability is skewed
@@charityavery3275 ah yes you women love to do anything but take accountability and some kind of way make it the man’s fault grow up and take responsibility
This is what happens when father's are missing in their daughter's lives. We need to talk about this more. Edit. Pls don't misunderstand me. I'm NOT blaming men here. The men that leave their kids are definitely pieces of ish. HOWEVER, women that CHOOSE to have babies with piece of ish men are worse pieces of ish themselves. Solution: MARRY BEFORE YOU CARRY.
Why? These are grown ups,who make choices? After like a certain age your life is in your hands, your fate is your own. That’s the mentality we need to get rid of. It’s up to u. Life don’t care that ya daddy not round.
These videos generally don't disappear from the internet. Imagine 4 boys growing up to see a video of their mom literally on a dating show saying you all were pretty much a mistake from me being a reckless 304.
There is ABSOLUTELY something wrong with having four children, three baby daddies and have NEVER been in a committed relationship. Girl, don't be offended and wake up lol
-"Im taking myself on date" -Obese -31 looking all of 41 -An Event Planner who has a NANNY -3 Baby's Fathers (1 confirmed one night stand) -4 Sons (including a set of twins) ---imma head out SHE is Looking for Help like she said "a positive male role model for her boys" NOT LOVE
It’s so subjective because as a woman with no children the men I meet tell me it’s a red flag that I don’t have kids. 🤯 They ask why and want to psychoanalyze… smh I’ve never been married and made the decision not to have kids, people will find an issue with it all. She’ll meet someone but it’s rough out here for everybody, kids or no kids.
Yes, I’ve run into this too! I’m a 40 year old woman and I’ve never been married and have no children. And some people assume that there must be something wrong with me 🤣. People are always gonna have something to say.
Sorry love, you attract nug nugs if they say that. No man of quality thinks it's weird that an unmarried woman is childless. That should be the default.
Sometimes we just have to accept that our bad decisions can’t be fully repaired. She had her fun when young, had her kids, turned down potential relationships and that’s that. Women who didn’t take the same route as her are in a better position for what she wants now. It is what it is. She just gotta live her life and keep it pushing.
That’s the vibe I got from her, that she wasn’t going to lament what already happened. I could see both perspectives - hers and Kendras. The babies already here 🤷🏽♀️
Why? Who are u to tell someone that?! If you don’t want her, fine! Keep it moving. You don’t speak for every potential man on this planet. Or determine someone life. Y’all thought process is crazy.
If she had 4 children while "protecting herself", including one with a one night stand, was she really protecting herself? Most relationship-minded guys would look at her as a series of bad decisions and a short-sighted person.
Or the other 2 excuses, "I was on drugs" or "I was drinking". All scam excuses. When I am drunk or high the more I want to leave my environment and get my butt home where I am comfortable and at peace. People's minds are just corrupt.
That's EXACTLY what EVERY FEMALE that I know has done. 🤦 Then they want to look at me crazy because I refuse to follow. Been Single for about 12 Years & I'm good.
@@briasworld8 props to you! I don't understand this method of dating. Same with dudes. It is not a good idea to have a baby with everyone you date. People in my family have done it too. I can't do it or understand it
With four young kids instead of getting ready to go out to the club, she needs to stay home with her kids. Going out to the club just leads to meeting people who just want to hit it and leave. She has four kids and has never been in committed relationship, that is pretty scary to think how many people she has been with and didn’t use protection.
@@geminirising1 I take it this is what was the problem with KS? It's always been Soft approach and look where things are. KS' tone got a lot of people to wake up and pay attention.
It gets worse. She never had a committed relationship, but having babies.... I would just focus on my babies, and work on myself. That reckless behavior is not healthy....
Sadly her sons will live just as reckless but for them reckless men usually have very bad endings. Four future son-husbands with a poor upbringing. BIack children have it the worse.
@@seebzt She needs to be alone because she keep fucking up. Imagine the emotional trauma her youngest child will experience knowing they were created recklessly with a stranger
I'd be so disappointed in any man who dates her for a serious relationship. She should be disqualified from any self respecting man's standards. She's letting random men shoot the club up. She don't care about aids, pregnancy or anything. Any self respecting man should view this woman as unwifeable. But unfortunately, some clown will possibly wife her up and reinforce her bad decision making and our community will continue to suffer.
That’s crazy how do you have a kid with a one night stand? The man didn’t want a child with you and you give birth to the child. Where’s the responsibility and accountability? Having raw dog sex and signing up to be a single mother is insanity.
Kendra, you hit right in the nail! It's ironic that she works as a wedding/event planner when she didn't have a plan to protect herself against pregnancy. She could get a IUD or plan b instead of letting it pass by. She's full of excuses. She don't know what's being in a relationship and wants to "experience" it even though she fucked up on three guys. 🤷♀️ She basically didnt have boundaries.
Boundaries are important for a relationship and from experience after one heartbreak I look at what I allowed and rather being bitter I did my self love journey and now I know how to navigate. I am 26 and no kids so I have to be extremely careful.
She has no standards or boundaries. Why wouldn't she protect herself from having a kid from a one-night stand? I'm glad she is doing some self-care now. However, I wish she would have cared for herself enough to require a relationship and marriage before she started having kids. It makes me wonder how she grew up and what trauma she suffered. She definitely needs therapy. She hasn't learned from her experiences and she's 31.
I wish women and men would stop making long term commitments with short term people. Having children with people who you were not interested in having relationship with is not a flex.
I never knew how many women actually use the “ I got needs” statement. It’s so sad that some women are trying their hardest to make their choices ok and not face themselves. Just seeing this show for the first time and subscribed; praying for our black Queens!
It’s crazy how so many women are so hungry for pickle ball. Wtf most high value go getter men are usually to busy for intimacy every night. Especially when your over weight and just wanna lay there. IMO
It was refreshing to hear Kendra breakdown how child support is about the child. It's not a baby mama drama issue. And when you participate in baby-making activities, you have to be ready for the responsibilities that may come, and a one night stand still counts.
It's true what you say only of the mother has the integrity to give that money only to the child and you know damn well these women are giving their kids the bare necessities while the mother is cashing in on herself
Why isn’t the woman held accountable after birth if she doesn’t want the child anymore. She can take the child to a fire dept, police station, or give it up for adoption and no one bats an eye. She’s not held financially accountable at all but you hold men accountable if they don’t want the child regardless
She was offended because Kendra was talking about commitment. Having kids with no commitment is a negative. I don't care how you slice it.
Seriously you can’t be out here reckless having babies. No commitment at all.
@@ChasityXoxo I have two. 15 and 21. I can't imagine having four!
Agreed
Poor babies. Came into the world w/o a stable relationship with the dads.
Dead ass, unacceptable
She let a one night stand hit raw, bust inside, and have his child... But she doesn't want to be judged 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️ FOH
That part!
She claimed they wore a condom and she took a Plan B.
I can’t even imagine that 🤢 a total stranger idk if he looks like Tyson,Morris or Jason. 🤦🏽♀️ with u.
Bet she refused to take a plan B too!
Right just sad 😞
I was born out of wedlock and the dude who made me ran off. People have no ideal how this hurts as you go through life. Having no dad is tough
The Wedlock Isn’t the Issue. It Cost Less Than $100 to Get Married in Any State! So, I Don’t Get Why Ppl Think That Being Married is the Issue. Even Some Married Men Are Absent Fathers. Your Father Was Just a Coward & Didn’t Step Up to the Plate. I’m Sorry That You Went Through That in Life. But, Don’t Let His Negligence Hold You Back in Life
Women don't care. They gon fuk. If your father was a coward so was your mother because she choose him.
@@Jolie19Official no one ever holds the women accountable! Just like the woman in the video made someone a father who didn’t wanna be and expect him to pay child support and be an active father
@@Jolie19Official it IS the issue. The stats are there, until blk ppl can accept it we can’t move forward. If the man and woman aren’t committed by marriage, the children will turn out worse on average. It’s facts
@shadae68 or maybe he couldnt stand the mother that happens a lot
The saddest part is , she still doesn’t get it. Prayers for her and her children
She has all boys. That’s the precedent set.
Just real quick, ladies when you get on these massively public lives do NOT say where you're going. You realize it's actually live right. You giving the time and exact location you will be is dangerous. The chances of a normal man meeting you in person after watching is not as likely as someone going to see you with foul intentions. Blk women are killed ever 5.5 hours yall NEED to be more careful.
"Blk women are kiIIed ever 5.5 hours y'all NEED to be more careful."............................BIack women have a/b/o/r/t/e/d 25 million fetuses since Roe/V/Wade. That's 45 per-hour. The most dangerous place is in a bIack woman's womb.
She probably said it intentionally to me so she can meet up with her next baby daddy.
@@sacoope1 🤣🤣🤣
Good looking out!! Great observation
Please share your source for this data? Also, women kill as well. Not just men.
Men aren’t watching Kendra G to go and kill women. Stop the madness.
I appreciate her honesty. But it amazes me that she thinks she wasn't mature enough for a committed relationship...but was mature enough to have children, not one, two but four. 🤔
Hi, I’m a doula too!
Great point.
She ain't done having kids yet
It was immaturity and her having sexual fun that was more important! For a man to come in and settle for a woman like this is asking for trouble, she obviously likes having multiple sex partners, but the main problem is she looking for a man to take care of her and her children!😓
I don't think she had the children on purpose but they were a result of her being immature sexually
This is the problem with coddling ppl & not telling ppl when they're in the wrong. She spent the whole vid rationalizing all her decisions.
Boooomm exxxxactly. Talking about she can't hear She didn't want to listen to the conversation no more that's what it was
😆😂😂😆 right, wooooo Kendra G is sounding more and more like Kevin Samuels.
@@elijahshabazz1806 Not yet but a marked improvement
@@ud558 🎯
@@elijahshabazz1806 I don’t think she’s sounding like Kevin Samuels! Kendra is merely stating facts and the girl has a lot of excuses
She heard you. She just needed a reason to end the call because she realized a lot of what she was saying didn’t make sense😂
Facts
This was sad to watch because she just wasn’t getting it.
Not at all
Facts
@@Slow-Rolling Society of n*******
I hear ya - Tam Tam! After watching this, this is all I have to say…
Personal Development is one of the best things you can do for yourself - because, we as human beings, we’re supposed to embrace growth!
So make sure you find your Purpose in life - whatever it might be, and work on it daily, and continue to make progress, because progress is - really the key to happiness.
But don’t do it for any girl or guy, make sure you’re doing it for yourself - and just be happy!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Yup, she was saying that she was never ready for a relationship but popping out babies is noooo big deal at all :(
Sometimes I feel as if I’m the only person in the world who’s heard of birth control.
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It's crazy right! You have plan B too. It no sense in any woman in modern times of intentionally have kids before marriage or at least a real man that will be on the child's life. Sisters use birth control or force men to wear condoms. It's your responsibility to stop your eggs from getting fertilized
Lol and there’s like 20 options these days
I was just thinking this 😂
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She's going to end up with a couple more kids and still won't be in a relationship or be married. Her thought process is chaotic & deeply delusional.
But that's the type of women she is, she loves kids, we cant make fun of her for that. I know alot of women in this world, they love to babysit kids, be around kids, take care of kids, she is one of those types of women!!!
@@SB-lw5xt At some point she has to think of what’s best for her child “before” she gets pregnant.
Talk about self-centered behavior!
@@SB-lw5xt it doesn't matter if she loves children. Children don't love being brought into broken homes. Not only that, she's teaching bm bad behavior in that she's allowing bm to get out of being accountable for their reckless sexual behavior She's dysfunctional and so are the people who agree with her behavior.
Agreed 💯.
@@SB-lw5xt having kids is a huge deal!!!! Kids need two parents in the home. The more you have the harder it is!
She's more concerned with "looking" bad, then "making" bad choices!
That's most people
She was so offended when Kendra said you shouldn't have sex unless being in a relationship. She stressed that she have needs. Smh this is what's plaguing the black community. Everyone is so hypersexual and don't care about consequences on having sex with strangers unprotected, which contributes to a lot of single parent households.
Yes. Also having kids is taken wayyy too lightly in the black community. We got people really functioning at an almost animalistic level when it comes to sex and procreating. Only caring about today not tomorrow.
@@tatlifelover explain "animalistic level". U sound like a racist troll.
Yess finally somebody said it the black community I way too focus on sex and not focus how am I mentally prepared for what comes with sex
@@tatlifelover I agree black people nowadays not all black people are having kids for the wrong reasons and not being prepared like have a strong foundation and support system. In my opinion I don't think you will be 100% prepared for kids but have support systems and having some bills paid off like a car, having some savings and having your credit straight can help
We need to say marry before you carry 1st off
She intentionally disconnected from Kendra because she was tired of answering her questions. Lol
right lol ..Kendra took away her delusions lol
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I was looking for this comment lol
She seemed "To busy from the beginning "🤣 when she came on she was doing makeup I'm telling you guys sisters like this "FREAKS & CRAZY AS FUCK!!!🤣🙏🏽
Right i thought the samething lol
It was her acting like the service was bad at the end for me #toughmedicine
she had enough😭😂😂
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@@JDMHaze She was getting that accountability...aka Kryptonite🪨. She couldn't stand it.
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@@JDMHaze big facts 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Sex without commitment is the worst deal a woman can possibly make.
Shut up.
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Facts
She strikes me as the type of person who didn't think that she was worthy of love so she just gave herself away without requiring commitment. And she claims that it was because she didn't feel like it was necessary but I think she just didn't think she was worthy of it and now she's older and she wants to be committed to. Because regardless of what anyone says everyone wants to be loved
Everyon wants to be loved but everyone wont be, especially if you made mistakes that the next person you get with has to deal with.
Sis didn't require SHIT. She's every fuckboys dream
There's a man for her but first she needs to heal
Still a major red flag. Her and her children are a liability not an asset.
She was prettier, slimmer, and had it going on 4 kids before that's why she wasn't looking for a relationship. That's the bottom line, she gambled her earlier years and it didn't work out, now she wants a simp to take care of her and her 4 kids
How someone who never experienced being in a committed relationship, have 4 kids? This is a upside-down world.
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She loves the "D-RAW"!!
Wait til those boys become teens. She has no idea what she is in for ..
IRRESPONSIBLY SLEEPING AROUND.
Rights thats so messed up
You can't control every aspect of life but you can control getting pregnant it can be done 🤷🏽♀️
Word
I have one who is 23 about to be 24. Ive never been pregnant since.
I agree!
Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!🤣😂 the biggest thing you can control about sex
Facts.
Thank you because many women think otherwise.
One of her dealbreakers is "Men that dont take care of their own kids" but she had a kid with a one night stand who doesn't want anything to do with his own kid.
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Idk get why keep the baby from a 1 night stand and already have kids.smh that’s stupid
I tell my 25 year old, unmarried daughter... unplanned pregnancy is 100% preventable!😮
@@JustBree716 FACTS💯
Amen
The lack of accountability is downright SICKENING!!!
Same goes for the father's
@@winning3329 but we’re not talking about the fathers here. This one is about the mother.
Exactly!!!
It really is. This is what I looks like when you have no idea what a healthy relationship looks like. Have as much fun as you want,but children deserve better.
@@winning3329SHE MUST BE YOUR MENTAL AND SPIRITUAL TWIN… DEFECTION IS AN ATTRIBUTE OF THE WICKED ONE…
It’s TRAGIC that A LOT of women realize what they’re looking for or want AFTER having children OUT OF WEDLOCK.
I agree but there but the blk population would drastically decrease since the BM dont like getting married. *shrugs*
multiple kids out of wedlock is crazy...i can see one but four i can not
She seemed so ashamed this whole interview. Some people shouldn't be in control of themselves, adult status isn't for everyone and those boys gotta go through all the bad decision making with her smh
I'm 33 kid free by choice. And I think some ppl have to learn harsh lessons in order to "get it".
This is so true
I believe she used the lack of being able to hear Kendra as an excuse to bounce from the zoom chat.🤣 She heard everything Kendra was saying till it got to be too much then she created an exit to leave. Very funny.
Yeah as an actress myself, it definitely looked like a lie
4 kids by 3 different men - "I'm not picky". Well no shit!
Good afternoon Kendra, I just wanted to thank you for saying, " child support is NOT about the parent, it's for the CHILD. Hugs from Detroit 😎
Do you Wana know what's better than child support which is really good the child? Picking a good men to reproduce with. Not just the one that hits your guts deep.
Do you wan know what 8s truly good the child? Staying with good man you picked by being a good woman to him and watch him reciprocate even more. Children need their good father so they can learn from him and become valuable citizens in the society, maybe even become millionnaires or billionaires.
So you can dump your child support in the trash cuz that's is the reason why society is falling and the crime rate goes higher each year and most people have no morals and values nowadays. Hopefully your tiny mind can grasp this concept.
It is about the rent if it goes directly into the hands of the other parent AND there is no record keeping on what that money is used for. Women literally get child support and spend it on hair, nails, & other bs. We need proper record keeping of child support. They need to give child support on cards like they do for EBT. And just like you can only go certain places if you have an EBT card, the same should be true for a child support card.
@@jay-alldayywhat you’re saying is intellectually dishonest. There’s no way to use child support for yourself unless the child is being neglected. Please educate yourself
@@jay-alldayyyour late, and if you actually paid your child support you would know that it does go on a card with the child’s name on it. They’ve been doing that for yrs.
@@jay-alldayyabsolutely agree
She don’t need to be looking for a man, she needs to be looking for a therapist. It’s very selfish bringing a child into the world to grow up knowing his father didn’t want him and his mother had him as a result of a one night stand.
It's become so normal. Engaging in reckless behavior that results in babies is crazy.
Imagine these kids all living in the same house with multiple daddies. If one father just happens to stop by to see his kid, The other kids are going to wonder where's my daddy. Why aren't I good enough to have a daddy.
The pain cause by this is going to be felt for generations. And to her, it's no big deal. She's up here like, who's got Next!!!
That's how it goes sometimes. Have a problem with men not women. It's so easy to have a problem with her cuz most men have a problem with women first over everything but considering holding men accountable to their actions.
@Hammer you are spot on with that comment. I’ve witnessed this first hand in my own family. This is viscous cycle that produces low value men that then produce single mothers who in turn raise more low value men 🤦🏾♂️
@@xmanlatter6013 I've got some gray hair on my head so I've been around awhile. I've got 4 sisters and all 4 of them are married to their original husbands. The youngest has been married for over 40yrs. Coincidence? I think not.
One has 4 children and the others 2ea. Not one baby was before marriage. Coincidence? Don't think so. Luck? Nah
I also have 3 brothers one has passed. The remaining 3 of us are fatherless with great careers and I made the least of my brothers at over 180k at my peak. Coincidence?
My parents were married young and stayed together their entire lives. Over a 60yr marriage.
I'm the youngest of the boys at 61, and have one younger sister. I've retired but my brothers continue to work.
What are the odds that 4 women from the same family all happily married. No kids out of wedlock.
I can very vividly remember guys coming to the house and being chased off. Think having a strong father in the home doesn't make a difference?
It's ashamed how little father's are valued today.
Very true I grew up thinking my father didn’t want me I’m 40 now still have issues with it. When I was around 9 I asked my mom where my dad is she said he is a dog so I never asked again;( when I was 24 I went to go find my dad I did I finally asked him why he left he said because another man would be around this is not a valid reason in my opinion. I am going to choose stop the cycle
She's planning everyone else's wedding but not hers😂.
The irony
Lmfaoooooo FR 😂😂😂
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Same as women who are always the brides maid but never the bride.
That's wild 😜
“I wasn’t mature enough for a relationship”
-Single Mother of 4 children
“It’s nothing wrong with having kids....” Sis, yes there IS something wrong with having children by random men who won’t help you or commit to you. Wtf!? She has no idea of the damage and confusion she’s causing her sons whenever someone ask him who his father is or he has to explain that relationship. “Well, my father decided he doesn’t want to be around and my mother too arrogant and proud to even ask for child support...” wtf? How do some of my ppl think like this? There is everything wrong with the choices you have made sis. Everything!
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Sperm donors are real
Women get seeds from sperm banks everyday
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People die everyday
Like relax
Step in and help or chill out 🤗⭕️🪬
@@arielmaliha Excuse me? I am relaxed, and nobody needs to step in and help out with them kids, but their fathers. 🥰♥️
4 kids and in her 30s and now she wants to try a committed relationship "for the experience " does no one else think this is out of order?
Insane
And the key word she used a lot was “try”
She’s delusional 😂
AMEN! Totally out of order
That women is walking red flag!!!!
I'm not buying that part about her using protection and still resulting in kids. Nothing about her history says she is responsible when it comes to protection. The way she glossed over having 4 kids like it was no big deal, becoming defensive at Kendra's line of questions as if men won't ask her the same questions, and then hanging up when things got hot, all red flags telling men to stay away.
I don't believe she used any birth control; birth control does work. There is no possible way that with so many birth control options out here, that all of them are failing! I actually believe she wanted more babies and didn't make it known to the guy; that's why he bailed! Women have secrets in their head that men may not know about and that's why so many of them become bd's. Women get resources with babies...and they get to use the court system to control a man's wallet.
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I bet she’s the same type of woman in the comments with the disparaging remarks towards good black men (that may not look flashy).
Clearly she’s ashamed of her decision to be irresponsible. She’s in a bad situation. I know one woman that got a man to marry her with 3 kids but her aesthetic is totally different. (If you get what I’m saying.)
Def was cap
"Can you hear me? " oldest trick in the book🤣
lmaoo right and she replied too at one point
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Right. She was done with getting chewed out so she acted as if there was a disconnect.
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Her being distracted for the entire interview was SO RUDE. Don’t press the request button if you are unable to give Kendra your undivided attention. She got “busy” whenever Kendra was talking, but stopped completely when it was her turn to speak, which means she is not able to completely pay attention while moving around 🙄🙄
Short attention span
Many come on to promote whatever business they have
@@misslove7698 right. That’s all.
@@misslove7698 Exactly and Kendra shut that down real quick
@@ud558 I was surprised she didn't dismiss her. I thought she would. Good she stayed cos she made for a good conversation hereafter.
Her excuse for letting the man off the hook financially is crazy…poor and broke mentally as well as physically
Concerned more about what people will think as opposed to her child’s well being. Because child support is for the child and they should not be denied support from either parent.
Perhaps she doesn’t have his info so that’s not an option for her. After all a one night stand doesn’t require much info besides a phone number and a name. 🤷🏽♀️
She must not really know him or how to locate him since she stated it was a one-night stand
What about the other two guys? She didn't know them either?
The saddest part is that her thinking doesn't seemed to have changed much. When Kendra asked if why does she want a relationship. Her response was that she wants to try something different. ..not I want to create a better atmosphere for her children..or she wants them to have a consistent male role model in their lives. It was just about her trying it out. She likely grew up not seeing parents in the same home...or a consistent positive male role model. Even without that, I'd hope an individual takes bringing life into this world more serious than just a by product of having fun and getting your needs met. People hate looking at their true situation mirrored to them. More people should look at their situation in a mirror so they can see their actual reflection.
is is the living in most inner cities ..numerous kids no marriage and choas and confusion.. four kids no relationships or never been married is insane
Preach.... look n da mirror n get dey self together.... comment clearly went over they heads🤔💯💯💯🎯🎯🎯
@@helena3631 preach...love seeing woman talk with common sense n maturity value!!!!
Right! Kendra repeated her stats to her and she was offended by her own truth. It sounds negative because it’s not good.
Kendra held the 🪞 up to a few ppl and none of them liked it.
This woman is playing random select with who she lets inside her.
She can't see passed the horizon of any given day, so she can't comprehend how having a consistent man in her life is beneficial.
Her being distracted during this interview is a preview of how she's distracted in life.
It was under 20 minutes. You can't sit still and focus for that long?
She said circumstances.
It's a lack of discipline. 🚩
She’s another bull headed Aries. She does only whatever she wants to do.
I noticed when Kendra was telling her the truth about her situation, she started moving things around, not looking at the camera. Like you said she called in, so why not sit still for 20 minutes.
ADHD
Definitely a defense mechanism
She could have ADHD. We can’t concentrate and are very fidgety…oh and impulsive.
when she said she's never been in a relationship i gasped aloud. & then when she said the reason she wants a relationship is because now she's "mature enough"... as if she isn't a mother of 4 - my jaw dropped! ... even high schoolers are in relationships. i know a lot of men complain that women are too picky, but this woman's life is the result of not being picky with anything AT ALL.
U lacks common sense
I’ve met so many woman like this. They bounce from dick to dick every 2-3 months. No guy want to commit just smash and dash.
right ! But she did say she was never Picky
@@FLAWEDANDFOCUSEDdamn not being picky is one thing but letting men just buss and not being on birth control or telling them strap up is something different
A woman with 4 kids can’t tell no man he has to make her his girl first… the reality is she has NO leverage
😮💨 this was a tough one to watch. She’s not picky and she’s never been in a relationship…but has 4 kids 🤯
Side note: YOU CAN MOST CERTAINLY CONTROL WHO CREATE A CHILD WITH
Accountability is totally lost with her,,, she will only get a pookie or Ray Ray.. she done cooked finished
Ur side note is what I've always been saying and I'm a single mom of a 18 yr old. Folks always ask my why I never had another one while my son was young and I would tell them that if I'm not fully committed or even marrie, I'm not having anymore kids......my son's father was only in his life for the last 8 yrs and now that's he's 18, he's acting sketchy once again. I never want to go through that again with another man potentially having a child who's father isn't fully present. That shit hurts the kids in so many ways. So I fully believe u can control who u procreate with 100 percent
She only belongs too the streets. She's large, has four kids, and three baby daddy's. Plus, she's named after video game, and can't accept responsibility on all her mistakes in life.
That last part! So tired of single mother'/father's saying multiple pregnancies were "accidents"
@Mimiyou're so right, but I think the main pb with our community is the fact that both men and women, specifically BW think having a kid without the right planning is normal and that is our pb. Of course accident happens, my sisters don't mind carrying a baby without Even knowing the father and this many times before they think about their child's future, emotional well-being, environment and so on. It's just Irresponsible plain and simple. And the worst is when they bring the exceptions to justify their craziness. Our kids Deserve better. All this gun violence, all this kids in jail is tiresome, and blaming the justice system, racism while the parent would pay $200 for her long nails, or more for her hair without putting the kids in a private school or a great neighborhood is very common in our community. We need to redirect the conversation and Stop having kids without the right mindset.
Kendra: "Can you hear me?"
Babymama: "No, I can't!"
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LOL SHE AINT SAY THAT
@@JimmyStruthers1000 Oh, yes she did! Click this time stamp: 19:33
Maybe she read Kendra's lips. 😁
This is a prime example of how women give their best years to random "Ray Rays", having babies and such, then want a good man to come along to help them clean up their carnage; and she sees absolutely nothing wrong with her decision-making. #IllPass🚩
Ray Ray is great man. You don’t ever see random Ray complaining about these broads
It happens a lot when there’s no guidance. I’ve been thru it but by 22 I grew up and made better choices. I get frustrated when I see adults at age 30 and still talking foolishness.
That’s not true
@@kxo1038 True. Which is why you start to see more Ray Ray's now and less marriages.
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Ray Ray not for Play play.
I’m young (20s) and have been abstinent for 5 years. I have protected myself from a lot of heartache by keeping my legs closed. Plenty have tried but I want something serious again before I do all that
Good job that’s very mature you need to teach these people!
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the irony. she's getting dressed to go out by herself to a bar which is usually how most ppl move when they're on that one night stand energy lol
You said it😲🤦🏾♂️
Damn I just realized that 😩😂
Hold on- so is going out by yourself and dating yourself the new code word for a one night stand? Genuinely asking as I’m trying to be more out there and build my confidence and love myself so much more but I wouldn’t want men out there thinking that I’m on a hunt for some ding a ling!!! 😢
@@anm3744there's absolutely nothing wrong with learning to love yourself more. As far as this woman, it's possible that she needs to try a new approach so she doesn't have child #5 without commitment.
“There’s nothing wrong with being an adult and being sexually actively and protecting yourself”
**gets pregnant by a one night stand**
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😂😂😂right she is a mess .smh
Can’t make this shit up
-Kevin Samuels
Condoms are NOT even 100%
Just think she has FOUR boys THREE baby daddies that means off top you’re dealing with SEVEN men if you deal with her and that’s not counting her Father Grandfather and possible Brothers. That’s too many Dudes.
Many won't get this. Which is SAD SMH
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@@kevinlee9929 Facts… it’ll fly right over their heads 💀💡💀💡
@@Mike_M. All those different personalities you’d be verbally disrespected daily at a minimum GUARANTEED!
Her mother didn’t know how to pronounce “charisma” 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Having a baby by a one night stand is straight up trifling. There is no excuse especially after already being a mother. Ma'am you should have been on reliable birth control. I could never have a baby with a stranger.....Smh
Yea she clearly didn't care. If a woman chooses to be a hoe she should use birth control. No way in hell I would have a baby with a stranger....
She has four son-husbands who will take care of her for life, she don't need a man. Her sons are doomed.
Tired of your judgmental comments. No birth control is 100%. I guess you have done everything right in your life? Cnt believe there is a perfect human!
Please help me understand which part is trifling? The sex? Or the baby? Because a lot of men and women treat sex is like popping tic tacs and everyone says don't judge themtheyre grown. So here is a woman doing just that, having sex or are you of the opinion that having sex with the stranger is ok she just should have terminated the evidence and that would have been less trifling?
@@seebzt Abstinence is 100%, and that’s what people should be doing if they are too uneducated to know how to use other forms of contraception.
This sister is a perfect example of why many men aren't interested in being with single mothers. Single mothers continually expect you to be everything they never required the fathers of their children to be. It is a ridiculous and insulting expectation of men (especially men who are responsible), and there is little reason to agree to it.
The reason I don’t mess with single moms is to be one less man keeping her running from working it out with the childrens father
There are categories of single moms. Some are divorced with college-aged kids and in a good place.
💯💯💯💯💯...that's why they're alone. Regardless of what their delusional family, friends or this politically correct, a** kissing society tells them...🤬🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
@Ambo
I see people not married and done with eachother before the baby is even born. They don’t even try.
They can have requirements and men don't have to date them. It's not ridiculous or insulting if you don't deal with women with children. It's not personal to you.
After seeing single mothers, divestors and delusionals on RUclips this year and last year, it’s safe to say that we need to raise awareness about mental health in the Blk community.
We also need to shun CASUAL SEX. That is ours, men and women’s, biggest issue.
@Rudy O'Brien Huh?
Don't forget to mention those who support red pills and manospheres
@Rudy O'Brien Great, complaining about the issues without extending a hand to help will keep us right where we are.
@@k.nicolexoxo9732 how about we just say they protect themselves contraceptives
This one hit home. I’m a single mom of four kids. The last two have the same dad. When I was 18 I had no business having sex.. sadly he mad me feel loved.. I thought he was my future husband but he hit me one day.. I knew then there wasn’t gonna be a long future.. he began cheating (maybe he was in the beginning) now in our 30s I considered him a friend and our son just moved with him last year.. after him I want to fill whatever void I had in my heart and met my middle son’s dad.. he lied and I stupidly didn’t believe things that were honestly right in my face. We I decided to leave I had my second son by him and lost my first babygirl during the pregnancy. Then I meet my third / last two kiddos daddy. He supported me, helped me (whole time he was sleeping with other women behind my back) ..the day I had our son I said we have two kids together. I now have a total of four kids (plus my angel in heaven) I have to make this work.. I realized I was dealing with a narcissist person I left. .. I think I didn’t know value .. I didn’t know what love was. I don’t regret my kids!! I’m still learning from my choices. I know people will judge, throw rocks…tell me how stupid or disgusting I am.. but God brung me a mighty long way. With four kids..I’m not on any government assistance, no section 8.. graduated college twice.. in my career even tho I have two other jobs outside of that. The takeaway for me is to learn so I can teach my children to make better decisions, trust God, protect themselves and love themselves. I didn’t value myself.. didn’t learn but my story is deeper. And I pray young women can learn from us that fell short from grace and learn what love is suppose to feel like. I take full responsibility for everything and sometimes you just have to move forward. I pray for Gods mercy and forgiveness daily. And I’m so sorry to my kids. I tell them all the time I’m sorry. Their loves for me is amazing and out of anything I’m thankful for them.. I fkd up ..my past actions may or might already cause them pain. I am very remorseful. But I can’t lay down and pity myself.. I have to stand in my decision of bring them in this world and for any confusion I created. I can’t just die and not stay in their lives for the long run. I hurt everyday knowing I didn’t love them more to give them a happier concrete loving environment to be raised in.. I’m down don’t want to be kicked down anymore.. but I know God forgives and GOD has helped me every step of the way. If I never find true love it’s okay.I’m just blessed with the task of living to love my children.
Sorry for all the typos.
You are an 😇 angel 💓💓💓
@@beb5407 aww thanks. You also for such a sweet comment.
Baaaaam and there it is there,, I'm so proud of you, Beautifully said, THANK YOU FOR THIS. I Completely understand.
@@Kalani_2 thanks
4 kids born out of no serious relationships...... that is troubling to say the least.
This woman has no time to date. She already has two full time jobs: "event planner" and mother of four! Completely crazy!
She was getting ready to take herself on one during the interview
She thought she was going to come on here an promote her business, she still will at the end when she gives her Instagram because people will go to her page
I've been thinking about this for a while. Black women love to "have their own business" because they lack accountability (believing that they won't have to answer to anyone). Unfortunately, if they aren't successful in their personal lives, they probably won't be successful in business. If this woman doesn't know that she can't afford to "take herself out", how successful could her business possibly be?
This woman strikes me as being broken and having low self esteem. She gives way too much to men without asking anything of them, she says she’s not picky and doesn’t require a commitment. She’s afraid to ask for one, probably afraid of them abandoning her. Not realizing that this behavior will cause her to be abandoned and hurt over and over again. I believe she lied about not being able to hear Kendra. Her feelings got hurt. I could see the pain in her eyes throughout Kendras interview with her. I truly hope she goes to therapy to get some help, she shouldn’t date until she does
This !!!!!
What does she give them some ass? She give no commitment
Wait, she wasn't mature enough to be in a relationship at the time, but she was mature enough to have kids?
She looks older than 31! I thought she was about 40!
4 kids 3 baby daddies will do that to you
3baby daddies two 5 years old Twins
She could be lying.
Lmao
Well having all of those children will probably age some women. I was too scared to have my one! Thank God he is an adult now! I can not imagine how these women be having so many kids! Sad, she is a nice looking lady. 😞
If his past matters so does hers.
That part!!
Kendra wrote that, I never said that.
She needs to take the convicted killer and run with it. Lol. His murders could have been a "misunderstanding" just like her "mistakes".😂
I think she ended the live on purpose, she sure could hear Kendra. She wanted to end it because she was feeling uncomfortable with all the questions and she was embarrassed.
It's time to bring shame back to our community
Exactly! I can tell she was getting agitated by Kendra's questions. They were hitting her where it hurt, and she couldn't take that heat!
I agree with you. It’s a strange coincidence that she lost her connection when the questions became uncomfortable.
Same thing I said. I'm glad she was embarrassed.
She def didn’t go out after this 🤣
I can't help but feel sad for this woman's kids.
Honestly I have ONE SON and I feel shame and embarrassed to even go on a date as my son is only 3, honestly it’s a lot to expect a man to come in and be a “step dad.” I also had to accept I made a bad choice in the type of man I allowed my self to get pregnant by! It takes guts to admit fault, and I honestly am scared to even go on a date as the risk of being baby mum number 2 is risky..I’m so careful now and I take full responsibility in my bad choices
Damn...I never thought I'd hear this
I feel bad because such a decision has permanent consequences on the likelihood of marriage. I’m 30yrs old and have no children. You’d be surprised at how many single mothers throw themselves at me hoping I could be that guy…it’s pretty sad honestly. For men dating in your 30s is a nightmare which is why we choose to sleep with women in our age group and start a family with younger women. Literally every single woman in our age group is 1 of 2 things, they’re either a single mother or they’re a childless single woman that literally wants you to marry her and have children with her immediately. Be careful women in their 30s are invisible to the majority of men other than getting into your pants. It’s going to be very tough but it’s still possible for you to find a partner.
The sexiest attribute a woman can show to a man is accountibility...you wont stay single for long.
Girl, I didn't date or entertain anyone until my daughter was 5, and even that I was only comfortable with because it was long distance, and I'd known the guy since the 4th grade, so I knew who I was dealing with and the distance let us take it slow organically. This is trifling. She wants a commit now to "try it". Not because her sons need a healthy male role model, not because she wants to build a future with someone special, not because she sees how hard it is to raise kids, let alone young men ALONE. IF YOUR HAPPY CO PARENTING WITH A NANNY AND ENJOY BEING A THOT, THEN SAY THAT. Dating yourself is supposed to bring you self love and ambition for self growth. It would appear she's only dating herself so she can eat her meals without judgment. Throw the whole thot away.
At least you’re self-aware and not delusional.
She says: “There’s nothing wrong with having children”.
She’s too defensive to listen.
But she’s older and mature enough after having 4 children.
“You can’t make this stuff up”.
Well people kept lying and telling her children are a blessing so what do you expect?
Yes I did notice that. She talked about being a party girl and having multiple kids with multiple baby daddies, including one from a one night stand, and when Kendra told her the truth about how men think when they’re looking for a woman to provide for and how these men may view her because of her past, she got highly offended.
@@meloran2571 I expect her to behave like an adult. Be accountable. Be responsible.
You can’t count on anyone to bale you out when you keep repeating the same mistake over and over and over again. “Bail”
These women want to do whatever the hell they want and not be held accountable for their actions. They also think they are entitled to men. Can't make this shyte up. Shout out to the godfather.
@@thegulfcoaststandard71 bail****
How is it humanly possible to not be interested in a man for a relationship, but interested in creating a human with that person? It can't be.
Bet those men were married men.
It's true because when I had been drinking and someone asked me about having kids I became like a parrot and downgraded having kids with the wrong person.😂😂😂 I don't understand how most women want to have kids with the bums from the corner. Lol
I was a 304 but now I'm not so come and take care of me and my 4 kids with 3 baby daddies.
What I find amazing is these women fully understand it when a potential employer asks about their past work experience, credit history, and criminal background. Yet, they become unglued when a potential HUSBAND has a similar line of questioning. Yes, dear, your background, and the decisions you’ve made in your life up to this point, matter. And, like applying to work at Bain, Kleiner Perkins, or Goldman Sachs, the more prestigious the firm (husband), the more your life choices will be scrutinized. The only question is DO YOU QUALIFY for the annual family vacations to Tuscany and Grindelwald (Swiss Alps), or do you just get the day trip to the nearest Six Flags?
💯💯🎯.. it's obvious they are NOT marriage material. PERIOD! Black people have to stop with the st6pid stuff... Alot of these women are not marriage material
She wouldn't even qualify for a day trip to six flags, u mean a night trip to the nearest club for drinking before sex that's about it
I agree. I do feel like ppl can change but that doesn't just wipe away yrs of h*o*-ing. It's definitely vice versa as well because some men will literally say they've been with hundreds of women like wtf...Usually the only ppl have issues with questions are the ones ashamed of what they've done in the past.
Sayyy that!!!!
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If a woman wants to" get it in" and is not intrested in a relationship why not use all forms of contraceptives? When its all said and done the children suffer.
From experience I will say most women are extremely irresponsible when it comes to sex, especially in the bIack community.
Instant gratification over long term thinking
she's just reckless, simple
Idk dis too much
Yep that's all they have to do. Make that man strap up, and be on an IUD....
As a child born out of wedlock and reckless sexual behavior, I condemn this woman for thinking she has the right to deny her children financial support from the father. Just bc YOU think you are financially stable, does not mean you meet the child's requirements of financial stability. Put him on child support. If he didn't want to be a father, he shouldn't have engaged in the act of creating children.
Nop I agree with her. The contract was a one night stand. If she didn't want a kid she should not have engaged in the act of creating a child.
If he wanted her to end the pregnancy she like all women wouldn't take that requirement. She controls who gets access to sex and who gets born. Therefore she carries the load. Leave the man alone.
@@imdon8920 Who cares what you agree with. If she decides to bring him to court he would be financially responsible. Period. The end. He knows that he should have protected himself and wore a condom. Simple. The child is innocent and shouldn’t have to deal with the consequences of his irresponsible parents
@@KendraGMedia "who cares what you agree with"
Immature emotional response. Shame
He was irresponsible for not wearing protection. Of course. Conversely, she didn't and is equally responsible for not requiring him to wear protection and allowing him to access her without said protection, knowing full well she bears more risk from that behavior. Consequently, here she is with 4 kids, never had a serious relationship. Which man of value is going to take her seriously, since she is on your show wanting a serious man? She had every chance to stop this child from being born from not opening her legs to ONS, to no protection no sugar, to plan b, to ending the pregnancy. She chose none of those. Therefore, she is right to absolve the dude of CS. She must have had a plan for carrying the baby to term. This is all on her.
You did a good job to hold her decisions to account and she didn't like that. But that is needed.
You gotta be the damnedest fool in the world! That man specifically told her that he DID NOT want that baby. So ALL financial responsibility is on HER
@@KendraGMedia and you're only saying that ish because she's a woman. I notice how you handle women with kid gloves, but when it comes to men you're full speed ahead! Nah, keep that same energy
She doesn’t want a man that doesn’t take care of their kids, but her BD’s don’t take care of her sons! Please make it make sense!
I was thinking the same thing. All she did was make excuses.
It's a cycle of young men being raised by women and THEN women out here saying that some men are too soft or feminine
Gurllll...
She takes care of her children. Maybe that’s the reason WHY she doesn’t want a man that doesn’t take care of his children. That’s VERY REASONABLE AND RESPECTFUL.
But she’s not with him.
It's crazy for a woman to expect another man to come into her life and be financially responsible for her 4 kids. Especially when it's not required of the father.
It is completely Crazy !!
I agree
Men do it all the time they have 4-5 children by different women & expect a good woman- I’m not condoning the behavior but the spectrum of accountability is skewed
@@charityavery3275
Yeah it's skewed.
But you don't complain when it's skewed in the woman's favor.
@@charityavery3275 If you don’t condone it, what’s the point in bringing up men’s faults? Just curious.
@@charityavery3275 ah yes you women love to do anything but take accountability and some kind of way make it the man’s fault grow up and take responsibility
This is what happens when father's are missing in their daughter's lives. We need to talk about this more.
Edit.
Pls don't misunderstand me. I'm NOT blaming men here.
The men that leave their kids are definitely pieces of ish.
HOWEVER, women that CHOOSE to have babies with piece of ish men are worse pieces of ish themselves.
Solution: MARRY BEFORE YOU CARRY.
Speak on it 💯💯💯 exactly why I'm heavily involved in my daughter's life now
Talk about it ? Umm 🤔
I don’t think will help much but something is better than nothing !😩😩🥺
Why? These are grown ups,who make choices? After like a certain age your life is in your hands, your fate is your own. That’s the mentality we need to get rid of. It’s up to u. Life don’t care that ya daddy not round.
Agreed 👍
Uncovered women!
Kendra is sloooowwwly starting to hold these women accountable and asking them questions that challenge their reasoning.
I wonder what trauma she experienced in her youth that allowed her to have the mindset she has regarding relationships.
I was wondering the same thing. She seems detached.
You required nothing, you got nothing. You expect to get a different outcome with the same actions. INSANITY...
she had sex 3months ago she might be pregnant now. she don't have no commitment or requirements to the men she have sex with.
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This is the best comment
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@@TheJalesa1207 the best one summed it up in 2 sentences
Kendra : Can you hear me ?
Her : No I can’t hear you
😂😂😂😂😂😂
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Lol, right she replied" no"😂
Which means she can hear 😂😂😂😂
These videos generally don't disappear from the internet. Imagine 4 boys growing up to see a video of their mom literally on a dating show saying you all were pretty much a mistake from me being a reckless 304.
Exactly. Smdh.
Lol
Straight foolishness! I know my son would have been embarrassed
@@mama2flythesidehustlequeen164 I think any child would. But either some of these women don't care of they're just that selfish.
Sad!!!!!! I'm a mom of a 10 y.o boy😳
There is ABSOLUTELY something wrong with having four children, three baby daddies and have NEVER been in a committed relationship. Girl, don't be offended and wake up lol
-"Im taking myself on date"
-Obese
-31 looking all of 41
-An Event Planner who has a NANNY
-3 Baby's Fathers (1 confirmed one night stand)
-4 Sons (including a set of twins)
---imma head out
SHE is Looking for Help like she said "a positive male role model for her boys" NOT LOVE
The "Nanny" is her oldest son! Willing to bet my life on it. 🤞🏿
@@ChilesSupportTV the 8 year old????
Taking herself on a date means going out alone and hoping some guy comes up to talk to her
@@ChilesSupportTV i thought the same 😭
Shes 31?! Yeah i dont believe her
She's reckless! I feel sorry for the children. She has no business going on dates. If I had a son, I would teach him to stay away from women like her.
@Mr.Rollins hahaha! That's true!
@Mr.Rollins 🤣🤣
She's for the streets.
@Mr.Rollins you never know though, she definitely could lmao
@Mr.Rollins 😅😅🤣🤣
She sounds so immature, she still hasn’t learned
It’s so subjective because as a woman with no children the men I meet tell me it’s a red flag that I don’t have kids. 🤯 They ask why and want to psychoanalyze… smh I’ve never been married and made the decision not to have kids, people will find an issue with it all. She’ll meet someone but it’s rough out here for everybody, kids or no kids.
Please let Kendra know please. Everyone is being judged 😂
This is true. I have never been pregnant and some men try to belittle me for not having children.
How old are you? I feel like you should probably run from guys that say that to you 😂
Yes, I’ve run into this too! I’m a 40 year old woman and I’ve never been married and have no children. And some people assume that there must be something wrong with me 🤣. People are always gonna have something to say.
Sorry love, you attract nug nugs if they say that. No man of quality thinks it's weird that an unmarried woman is childless. That should be the default.
Sometimes we just have to accept that our bad decisions can’t be fully repaired. She had her fun when young, had her kids, turned down potential relationships and that’s that. Women who didn’t take the same route as her are in a better position for what she wants now. It is what it is. She just gotta live her life and keep it pushing.
That way of thinking is exactly why she’s fatherless for those babies. Stop having kids by trying it out men. 🙄
That’s the vibe I got from her, that she wasn’t going to lament what already happened. I could see both perspectives - hers and Kendras. The babies already here 🤷🏽♀️
Why? Who are u to tell someone that?! If you don’t want her, fine! Keep it moving. You don’t speak for every potential man on this planet. Or determine someone life. Y’all thought process is crazy.
Facts. Sometimes you just have to accept the consequences of your life decisions
@@prosperousk5477 Mindsets like this how so many women get in bad situations SMFH
This is so nasty& trifling. As a Black woman this is further confirmation that we are a deluded bunch. Please ladies do better than this.
And our options are ABSOLUTE trash too; of our own. Especially where Im from in NY
@@LotusDavis absolutely agreed that’s why I left.
We as men have to do better as well. Our DECISION MAKING!!!
@@LotusDavis no it’s not your just good garbage lady that’s all.
@@LotusDavis your choices are trash
Didnt require marriage, 4 kids out of wedlock, older, but now she wants to be ''picky''. Smdh
Right? The nerve and delusion of these women... 😤
IKR....lol! What it do, dawg? 😂💪🏾🔥👍🏾🤣
It doesn’t matter mind your business
@@mercedes5206 It's here on RUclips for the public to see. So it is our business dummy!
@@ChilesSupportTV 😂😂🤣🤣
Lord I wish someone would make up a bunch of rules for me to be with them after letting everyone else have fun with bare minimum work lmao
If she had 4 children while "protecting herself", including one with a one night stand, was she really protecting herself?
Most relationship-minded guys would look at her as a series of bad decisions and a short-sighted person.
Amazing! Not ONE of these gals ever admits to any fault other than picking the wrong men and “I was young”!
Every time! It never fails! That is their go-to response smh
Or the other 2 excuses, "I was on drugs" or "I was drinking". All scam excuses. When I am drunk or high the more I want to leave my environment and get my butt home where I am comfortable and at peace. People's minds are just corrupt.
Stop giving every guy you're in relationship a baby 🤦🏿♂️. Going 3 for 3 or 4 for 4 is just insane to me
That's EXACTLY what EVERY FEMALE that I know has done. 🤦 Then they want to look at me crazy because I refuse to follow. Been Single for about 12 Years & I'm good.
Y’all BM are the most judgmental towards BW, but y’all preferences & y’all be the most F’ups with who you really chose.
@@rosery80 what does that have to do with not giving every guy you date a baby?
@@briasworld8 props to you! I don't understand this method of dating. Same with dudes. It is not a good idea to have a baby with everyone you date. People in my family have done it too. I can't do it or understand it
@@rosery80 and BW like you are just as delusional as this woman.
With four young kids instead of getting ready to go out to the club, she needs to stay home with her kids. Going out to the club just leads to meeting people who just want to hit it and leave. She has four kids and has never been in committed relationship, that is pretty scary to think how many people she has been with and didn’t use protection.
Kendra, your interviews are always 🔥
You always ask the the right questions. 💙
She's no where near Kevin Samuels but she's coming around a little bit.
@@joeblow6384 Sis understands her assignment.
RIP Kevin S. I loved his content, too.
@@geminirising1 she is running into the stuff Kevin was always holding women accountable for.
@@imdon8920 Exactly! Her approach is much softer. ✨
@@geminirising1 I take it this is what was the problem with KS? It's always been Soft approach and look where things are. KS' tone got a lot of people to wake up and pay attention.
It gets worse. She never had a committed relationship, but having babies.... I would just focus on my babies, and work on myself. That reckless behavior is not healthy....
That’s your choice. Why should she have to be alone b/c she made less than favorable choices in the past?
Sadly her sons will live just as reckless but for them reckless men usually have very bad endings. Four future son-husbands with a poor upbringing. BIack children have it the worse.
@@seebzt She needs to be alone because she keep fucking up. Imagine the emotional trauma her youngest child will experience knowing they were created recklessly with a stranger
I'd be so disappointed in any man who dates her for a serious relationship. She should be disqualified from any self respecting man's standards. She's letting random men shoot the club up. She don't care about aids, pregnancy or anything. Any self respecting man should view this woman as unwifeable. But unfortunately, some clown will possibly wife her up and reinforce her bad decision making and our community will continue to suffer.
@@jaefreeman3086 name one community in this world that doesnt have issues like this???
That’s crazy how do you have a kid with a one night stand? The man didn’t want a child with you and you give birth to the child. Where’s the responsibility and accountability? Having raw dog sex and signing up to be a single mother is insanity.
What should she do to hold herself accountable? What type of punishment should she inflict on herself?
Lol see how woman don’t think that it’s their responsibility 🤦🏽♀️
Children need good fathers in their life and stability. It really does make a difference.
Kendra, you hit right in the nail! It's ironic that she works as a wedding/event planner when she didn't have a plan to protect herself against pregnancy. She could get a IUD or plan b instead of letting it pass by. She's full of excuses. She don't know what's being in a relationship and wants to "experience" it even though she fucked up on three guys. 🤷♀️ She basically didnt have boundaries.
It’s just like ppl who become a therapist and their own personal life is upside down. Make it make sense lol
Dang! You breaking sister code, holding a woman responsible. You about to get cancelled.
Boundaries are important for a relationship and from experience after one heartbreak I look at what I allowed and rather being bitter I did my self love journey and now I know how to navigate. I am 26 and no kids so I have to be extremely careful.
She has no standards or boundaries. Why wouldn't she protect herself from having a kid from a one-night stand? I'm glad she is doing some self-care now. However, I wish she would have cared for herself enough to require a relationship and marriage before she started having kids. It makes me wonder how she grew up and what trauma she suffered. She definitely needs therapy. She hasn't learned from her experiences and she's 31.
Because she irresponsible
Stay away from this lady, she needs deep Therapy, she is taking no accountability none so ever.
I wish women and men would stop making long term commitments with short term people. Having children with people who you were not interested in having relationship with is not a flex.
She wasn’t mature enough for a relationship, but she was mature enough to have a baby. 🤦🏾♂️
I never knew how many women actually use the “ I got needs” statement. It’s so sad that some women are trying their hardest to make their choices ok and not face themselves. Just seeing this show for the first time and subscribed; praying for our black Queens!
And take back control over our sexual energy then those needs can be better controlled
It’s crazy how so many women are so hungry for pickle ball. Wtf most high value go getter men are usually to busy for intimacy every night. Especially when your over weight and just wanna lay there. IMO
It was refreshing to hear Kendra breakdown how child support is about the child. It's not a baby mama drama issue. And when you participate in baby-making activities, you have to be ready for the responsibilities that may come, and a one night stand still counts.
only if she knows his real name lol. Never tell ya real name on a one night stand 😂
It's true what you say only of the mother has the integrity to give that money only to the child and you know damn well these women are giving their kids the bare necessities while the mother is cashing in on herself
Why isn’t the woman held accountable after birth if she doesn’t want the child anymore. She can take the child to a fire dept, police station, or give it up for adoption and no one bats an eye. She’s not held financially accountable at all but you hold men accountable if they don’t want the child regardless
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hell na fck dat yo
I think the seat got too hot for her so she played the “I can’t hear you” escape plan 😂
💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾😂😂😂😂😂😂
I feel like her parent(s) named her that because they saw the word “charisma” and thought it was pronounced that way.
LMAOOOO