Raw Truths for Men: Uncensored | Part 2 | Iman Cave with Sh. Abdullah Oduro
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- Опубликовано: 12 июн 2024
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I’m married, but now the spark is gone. My wife doesn’t respect me. How can I fix my marriage? Is divorce the solution? Join us for part 2 of 3 of this special Iman Cave deep-dive into divorce with Sh. Abdullah Oduro, joined by behavior therapist and counsellor Faizan Majid and licensed marriage and family therapist Usman Mughni, as they discuss the issues that may lead to divorce during marriage.
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I will be bold and say, I want to thank you for all the sisters who are listening to the Iman cave. We are learning so much and it helps us to be better wives, better mothers and daughters. JazakAllahu khair!
Yes!! I agree. I love these discussions as a woman. Alhamdulilah. Jazak Allah Khair Yaqeen and team for yet another amazing series mashaAllah.
I appreciate there being brothers in the room that don’t allow for a generalized discussion - specifically brother Usman who consistently leads with this. Thank you for prioritizing the individualizations & nuances approach to these topics.
My dad always says that after deen, men dictate how men behave far more than women ever could - whether it’s at home, in society or on their own when they think no one is looking. He says he’s so disappointed to hear that if you ask brothers today why the companions were able to be soft, emotional, empathetic, affectionate and kind to each other and the people around them, the rebuttal is always based on how the women were at that time and what they deserved etc, but never about the fact that the brotherhood required it. Alhamdulillah for a father like mine.
Couldn’t have been said better.
Jazakum Allah Khair. I’m really enjoying this topic. It is very important to cover in detail. Could you please touch base on a husband that spends too much time away from the family home and responsibilities and leaves the wife alone most of the time with the kids. Whether he is at work or out with friends and family, he relies heavily on the wife and doesn’t think he is doing anything wrong.
“By Time! Indeed mankind is in loss. Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds, and advised each other to the truth and perseverance.” (Quran 103: 1-3) 🤍
Jazakallahu khairun for the shout out Usman. Hopefully this episode will benefit people and Muslims will feel more comfortable to speak and deal with intimacy issues like how our pious predecessors did. Sadly, many Muslims are suffering in silence.
"Have a level of charisma" exactly. A good qawwamah would have a level of charisma and understanding and management ability.
Man, brother I remember you spoke to me about 16 years ago, and I didn't take your advice and went downhill from there. So now I am taking it all in, mashallah, we need more of this men Topics, we can't keep learning from non Muslims. Mashallah, loved it
JazakhAllah khair for your effort of creating thought-provoking content for men and women. I have really gained a lot of knowledge from your episodes. I wanted to mention that in regards to men just going to ‘talk to someone’ should be more specific as unfortunately men may talk to other men but it is important to talk and seek advice from men that will give them sound advice and guidance. It is assessing your friends and making sure you are discussing sensitive issues like marriage problems etc with people of knowledge and God-conscious individuals. If I may also mention, I think this particular episode was a bit more scattered than the previous one. I hope you don’t mind giving this feedback. I really hope and pray you continue to do this work and it benefits many more people. JazakhAllah khair
Marriages don't go wrong, they have started wrong in the first place. Beside going into marriage for the wrong reasons or ignoring red flags and your gut feeling, there are plenty more reasons why people fail to choose the right person for themselves.
100% true
True , trauma from past with people less love received causes loneliness that why people fall for glitz and glamour although their intentions are not the same before marriage
Reminds me of the famous Tolstoy quote: "All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way"
AsSalaamuAlaikum and Jazaakallahu Khayr. I really appreciate this series so much. My concern is that, like so many spaces involving mental health, the audience is predominately women. I have turned this on with my husband in the room and recommended a couple episodes that he might enjoy. But, I find it difficult to cultivate and sustain 'respect' which I know he craves when I don't see or feel a sense of leadership from him. Not in one, but in many aspects. I would appreciate a discussion regarding this. How can we motivate them to get into a circle of good men? I maintain and take counsel from a circle of high quality friends and I pray about it. I feel it will come off as fake to 'ego boost' when I'm not seeing it. I have tried 'fake it until you make it". AllahuAlim
I would really be interested in seeing a female version of this series as well
Alhamdulillah in Shaa Allah.
I know who can lead this
Sister Tasneem, and sister Yasmin. Mogahed
They copied the female circle conversation a few years ago. But difference is they brought in a divorce lawyer.
I am so happy to see this kind of content. Even though I am a woman and single, it highlighted me a lot about so many things concerning men and relationships. It will be so good if we could have the same program version women too.
You were asking for feedback at the end. I think it could be really beneficial to have a format where you include a sister in the conversation. Maybe a more mature person with some life experience. I think seeing male and female interaction about difficult subjects in a mature and calm way can serve as a kind of role model.
And thanks a lot for this series! I am benefiting from this as a woman and a mother. May Allah be pleased with you.
What a beautiful, informative program, Masha Allah!! There is so much to learn, even if one has been married for more than 20 years. May Allah bless the whole team with all His blessings and rehma. Ameen. May Allah help our community to be united, more attentive listening, and empathetic way, and allow someone to vent out; we are so busy with our own problems and stop listening to others Subhan Allah. May Allah give us tougher to follow His messenger's footsteps how he treated his wives. Ameen
Such an amazing episode Jazakhallahkheir
MASH Allah tabaraka Allah amazing effort 🙏👌👍👌 may Almighty Allah bless all of you always and protect all of you always all the best 👌👍👌♥️♥️♥️
Can you talk about men purposely using obediance against women and saying they should never speak or share their opinion as they should only be a support to their husband?
Jazakum llahu khairan for this beautiful episode pls we need more of this
Asalam alaykum ❤ please do more of these. Jazak’Allah Khayr. Loved the video
An honest qurstion here. How long is the man cave supposed to last? Some men neglect their wives snd kids to prioritize these cages or hide behind this idea while neglecting family duties..
I am glad to come across this topic and it gave me a hint to wear the shoes of my husband and to know how he is holding up....
Mashallah Nice episode I like how you went into detail this time and spoke on some sensitive topics.
I have 1 thing however I wonder about when listening to this talk. Particularly the ayah of Jacob AS in Quran when he says قَالَ إِنَّمَاۤ أَشۡكُوا۟ بَثِّی وَحُزۡنِیۤ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ وَأَعۡلَمُ مِنَ ٱللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعۡلَمُونَ﴿ ٨٦ ﴾
• Abdul Haleem:
He said, ‘I plead my grief and sorrow before God. I have knowledge from God that you do not have.
Yūsuf, Ayah 86
Also when it said the Prophet would go into Prayer when in hard times. I feel you guys made a lot of useful points but wondered were Allah came into it when going through hardships. Are we as Muslims supposed to complain about our situations to others? Or rather ask for advice and describe our weakness and complaints to Allah in prayer dua etc. I got a lot of benefit from your ideas/points just this main issue of venting to someone had me questioning since I was of understanding Muslim does complain of his situation to people.
Thank you Sheikh May Allah SWT bless you and your family
Allahumma Aamen 🤲
Allahumma Aamen 🤲. Wa'alaykum Salam warahmatullah wabarakatu
Big Jazakumllahu Khairan
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Respect doesn’t mean slavery or ownership
Subhan Allah, the coolest Muslim on earth😎
Masha Allah I really enjoyed the programme, and I just wanted to add something a little. Sometimes some things bothers you and you reach out to a friend or a family member but he ends up giving you advice based on his little experience and it ends up making the situation worse. Or he ends up going behind your back and screws you and that is alot common from where I am. Or the ELDERS that have wisdom and are tauted to be Wise and they are mostly biased towards that Cultural thing just like you mentioned in the First Show the change in pattern when selecting a spouse between the older generation and the Younger Generation. In that situation, what do you advice pls? I really want to hear your thoughts. Please reply. Jaza kallah khairan.
Men want respect and they want to be the leader, of the family, the master of the house but some of them are hardly a Musa ‘alayhi a salam. look at how the prophet Mohamad saw treated his wife’s. Subhan Allah, just follow his sunna and you’ll be Allright
How can I (a girl) tell my brother (who is about to get married) to be considerate towards his potential spouse and "Be A Man"?
Send him this video!
SALAAM ALAIKUM 🤗
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Thank you very much ! Another gift with another emotion. Totally afraid of the subject but all we want is the UNTOLD truth Allahou Akbar.
Allahou Akbar
Allahou Akbar.
May Allah ease the marital life for us and help us to have the best behaviour in order to have a happy home in this life and happy home in the Paradise. THANKS AGAIN .
It's great to listen to this podcast as a female ... it is a bit problematic because it's conclusions based on one sided narrative, and one sided understanding of islam .. here is what I heard:
1-Nothing against the show ... but the host has the personality that will lead not just his wife not just women but all men ... and as a result he is drawing conclusions and tying it with islam based on his personality ...
2- Many men are confusing their wife with other female .. I Will NEVER be obedient to a man ... not at work and not to any man ever especially when it's my lane ... when it is not... I will be humble and definitely listen to someone who is more experienced ..
NOT all men all leaders ... and NOT all women all leaders ... it is NOT an islamic concept to generalize that all men must be leader and all women obedient ... in every scenario. If I let a stranger be a leader.. it is either he's more knowledgeable in that area, or I just don't care about the whole situation and just want the responsibility off my shoulders ... But this is just me .. not all women are like this .. not all women like to be leaders .. just like not all men are leaders or like to leaders.
Shaykh, it’s not beer. It’s barbican. Barbican belly, barbican in the garage 😂
All the comments I’ve read so far are from women 😂 are there any men watching this? Cuz it can’t just be us woman trying to learn and be better 🤷♀️
1. Too macho to look for advice 2. Too shy to leave a comment and risk getting caught
That's why don't force married that it it easy to get divorce when flake love that it😂
Now im married:
1. World comes to an end and akhira seems destroyed.
Or
2. New beginnings and bright akhira.