Thanks for watching! Are you planning on getting rid of the pacifier anytime soon? Don't forget to get your free Communication Milestones Chart here: brightestbeginning.com/communicationmilestoneschart/
My 3 year old child was very attached to his pacifier. We followed a very similar process to this. In case it helps anyone, we eventually got rid of it by taking him to a Build-a-bear shop, and let him put his dummy inside his new teddy bear and watch it get stuffed and sealed up. He then fell asleep with his new teddy bear. Had two nights of tears and then never looked back. He loved the idea and was very excited to get his new bear
Right at the right time. Thank you I’ve started a Faerie Jar. The longer the pacifier stays in the jar, the more money we accrue in the jar next to it. The money is for Christmas presents
Hi Emma, What to do if your toddler is completely refusing naps now that there is no pacifier? We are on day 3 and I am ready to throw in the towel lol She is 21 months.
My son weaned himself off of the dummy at 11 months. He just stopped wanting it for a few days - would immediately spit it back out, even mid-crying (think he was dealing with some teething and it just irritated his mouth), so I kinda just went with it, rather than make a rod for my own back further down the road. I chucked them in the bin and never looked back. He hasn't missed them, either. All this did surprise me, however, as he was very much a dummy baby before then.
Thanks so much for sharing! My son also did this too. He started to spit out the dummy at naps and bedtime at 5 months so I decided to remove it as he was no longer wanting it. It’s great when they give you clear signals that the dummy is no longer needed.
Emma 💖 you always post right on time for me! This is something I’m working on with my 2 year old THANK you 💖🙏💖🙏 ps CONGRATULATIONS on your new little one!
Thanks for another helpful relevant video! Do you have a suggested age that you would take the pacifier away before they get too attached? My little one is 9weeks and I’m hoping to avoid getting too reliant on it in the first place…. I have noticed that sometimes she already fusses when it drops out in early sleep in the same breath, when she gets in deep sleep she often spits it out and resettles herself. 😅 I’m confused!!
It can be really confusing. If you are open to stopping the pacifier earlier I recommend ditching it when your little one is between 4 - 6 months. At this age a baby's sleep matures and they start waking between sleep cycles and may start to wake up more frequently at night if they rely on a pacifier to fall asleep but it has fallen out during the night/nap. I hope that helps!
My son in law said it's something his baby daughter needed. And sure enough, at 2 years of age she spit the passy out and never wanted it again. Istead of her parents deciding He let his daughter decide. He was right! All her needs were met.
I was addicted to sucking on my thumb to fall asleep and developed dental problems. I also had almost a bunion on my thumb. So my mum put woolen mittens on my hands at night. Sucking on them was such a hairy experience that my habit was over in no time. For some reason I was too well behaved to take them off myself.
Hello Emma. Never commented but I am a French mom and your channel has been very usefull for us. I was wondering, what is your opinion on an added step. My son is going at daycare, and I was wondering if keeping the pacifier only at naps was a bad idea (but taking it off at night). What is you opinion? Thank you
Hi Emma, do you have any tips on getting rid of a dummy with a 4-5 months old? 😩Sleep regression has hit us hard and my son keeps waking up all night because he misses his pacifier. Falling asleep without it would probably help but I dont know how to teach him that😢
Hi! For an 18 month old you would still do the same steps - so limit the pacifier use to naps and bedtime, teach them other coping strategies (at this age it is more about you helping them calm back down by providing comfort and regulating their emotions), deciding on a date, then removing the pacifier at bedtime and helping them learn another way to fall to sleep without the pacifier.
That's exactly what I'm doing with my 1 yr old! She's getting to wear she gives me it even it's time to get out the car and when we get home, she will go toss it in the sink🥰
Hi Emma. I recently removed pacifier from my 2 year old daughter. First 2 days were smooth for nap & bed time now she cries historically and doesn’t want to even touch her bed.
My 15mo is only using his paci during naps and night. At night he sometimes wakes up if it fell out. I’m afraid he’s going to have a hard time connecting sleep cycles without it. Is it a good idea to start putting his hand to soothe him at night? He’s gotten into a hand sucking recently during the day. (Like 3-4 fingers in the mouth)
I'm lucky because without knowing I have learn my baby from the very beginning to hug and I was talking to him so I don't have a problem with pecefirer. Sometimes he doesn't use them to sleep or just put them on the side but he like to put the blanket to his mouth. Is it bed that he chew a blanket?
Dear Emma, thank you for the Video. My baby girl is 1 year old and I am planning to reduce the Dummy time and eventually get rid of it. It's funny how that can seem like an impossoble task, even though I have done it twice already. Thanks for the reassurance! The Plan is all set! BTW I "non-sleep-trained" Our third with the help of your tips and she is the Single Best sleeper in the World! Keep at it, love your videos!
Hi! I’m not a professional (or a parent!) But I help my little foster siblings with this kinda stuff When he/she starts sucking, don’t take it out physically, gently tell them and praise them. All. The. Time. When they don’t Lol, take my advice with a grain of salt, I’m a 14 year old but it worked for my lil foster siblings
So far the pacifier is restricted to naps and bedtime. She's been conditioned to give it back every morning. That's all I got lol throughout the day, she hugs me when she's upset
Congratulation to you & your little one Emma 🥰🎊 Pacifier doesn't work on my baby. I am only give him during bedtime but he keeps it while a second and throws it. Night he wakes up regularly between half and hour or 1 hour. Please give me solution
Hi! It's a little hard to tell you exactly why your little one is waking frequently throughout the night. One of the reasons might be because your little one uses an external sleep association to fall asleep and therefore wakes every sleep cycle to re-create that sleep association. For example if your little one is older than 4 months and needing to be fed, rocked, patted (etc) to sleep then it is highly likely your little one is waking between sleep cycles looking for this external sleep association to fall back to sleep. In this situation the way to get your little one to stay asleep for longer is to help them learn how to fall asleep without an external sleep association.
@@EmmaHubbard thank you so much. He is 5month old. Whenever he wakes up I feed him breast milk then he fall asleep , sometimes if I swing cradle then he fall asleep. Night around 10 or 10.30 he fall asleep while feeding. if he doesn't sleep then I play music (Hanuman chalis)
Great video. My almost 3 year old sleeps with a comforter (the small square blanket/ animal) and sucks on it during sleep. Any strategies on how to get rid of it? We tried once but the drama was unbearable. Is it the same as pacifier or do you have other strategies ?
Need advice. My husband unfortunately, in a fit of frustration/anger, took the pacifier away from our 2.5yo just before bedtime because she didn't want to be held by him (that's a different issue all together of her preferring me over him and it hurting his feelings). So she was forced to go to bed without. It's been a little over a week of no pacifier but she's still having a hard time at night of waking up and crying. To add to it, there have been a couple big events: she moved to a new room at daycare with new teachers, and she's recovering from a cold. It's hard to stay strong and not give in but I feel like she needs it back for just a little longer until she gets used to things again. Do I continue to stay strong even though it was so abrupt in taking it away? Or should I give it back temporarily? Please help.
My baby is addicted to pacifier since birth.. She is 10months old now and her upper lip mouth is bigger than down lip.. If I stop to give pacifier 😐is there any chance to get normal shape again? Pls reply me any one.. Sorry for my bad English
Hi Emma, I’m trying to remove the pacifier from my baby boy who just turned 5 months. Is it too soon to try to make him fall asleep at night without it? I’m still giving it to him at nap times but not at the beginning of night sleep. Also should I give it to him at night if he wakes up after 5-6 hours of sleep? He’s not feeding at night anymore but still wakes up a couple of times at night. Thanks
Babysitter/nanny here. 😊 Here's what worked for the littles I watched. In the day time tell them you want to hear them talk and that you can't understand them when they have it in their mouth. Then politely remove it and encourage them to use their words. Never understand what they are saying when it is in their mouth and magically understand them when it is out. They will get frustrated with it on their own and will stop using it by choice. At nap time? Have it in another room so you have to go and get it. In my experience it went something like this. First time you are back instantly. Second time it takes you a minute. Third time a couple minutes. Fourth time five minutes and after about a week or two they eventually fall asleep without it. Then you can tell them "Wow! You don't really need it any more because you fell asleep without it on your own last time. You're growing up so fast!" Good luck!
Thank you for this! My daughter is 8 months but she's due to have cleft surgery before she turns 1 and her surgeon has told us they would like for her to not have the dummy by the time she has her surgery. Do you have any suggestions on how to slowly take the dummy away at her age? We only use it for naps and bed time.. Thank you :)
HI Rebecca you have already achieve the first step (limiting the pacifier to naps and bedtime). which is fantastic. The next step is removing it. At this age my preferred method is to go cold turkey as it can be confusing for babies to have pacifiers for naps but not bedtime. If you would prefer to do it more slowly you can remove the pacifier for bedtime and continue to offer it for naps (as when a baby naps during the day they are in lighter sleep and it can be tricker for them to fall asleep without the pacifier). However, either way your little one is going to have to learn how to fall asleep without the pacifier. This might mean you need to develop a plan on how to help your baby learn to fall asleep without a pacifier. Hope that helps.
@@EmmaHubbard I just saw this video and I am in a similar situation where my 6 mo old just gets the pacifier for naps during the day and maybe random moments (like the grocery store for example) but not bedtime. I would like to take it away completely now so do you have any suggestions on how to help him fall asleep for naps without it? Also he has recently figured out how to suck his thumb again because we accidentally left his hands uncovered for a few nights (we got rid of the thumb sucking when he was born) and would like to help that is well. We originally did it because of the idea “it’s easier to throw away a pacifier than it is to have them stop sucking their thumbs” but now we have both to work with
My daughter is 10 months old . She only needs the pacifier while sleeping,But she wakes her self up if the pacifier is not in her mouth and starts crying every time . How can I get rid of the pacifier before she becomes 1 years old?
I’m a FTM and a SAHM of a 3 month old. My baby doesn’t really use a pacifier but prefers to use my breast to soothe him. I nurse him to sleep in a swaddle for a nap but sometimes feel it would be easier if he just took a pacifier since my boob can’t always be available to him. I’m noticing he likes sucking on his hands but will sometimes start to suck his thumb. I’m not sure if it’s best to encourage him to use a pacifier for nap time or not. He was soothed by it most in the very early weeks but lately only seems to like my nipple to calm him. Any insight or advice would be appreciated since this is all new to me. Im 35 and never thought I’d have kids so I’m just kinda following his cues at this point.
Hi, were you able yo solve this issue? Asking because it literally in the same boat right now my almost 9 month old doesn't go to sleep unless I breastfeed him to sleep. I would like to wean him off and help him go to sleep without my breast but it's hard. Any suggestions? I'm also 35 ftm lol
@@littlegreendress6243 I slept with my son until he was about 10-11 months old. I started drying up around that time since he was eating more and mostly using me for comfort. After that I sleep trained him in his crib. He was used to naps in there for a few months already. And judge this method or not, I knew what my son could handle. We did the CIO method. First night he screamed 45 minutes, second night 30 minutes third night about 15 min then he was cool. He usually only cries out at night when he’s sick or in pain now. Every child is different but I just went with the flow and followed his lead. I feel like I waited until he was old enough to learn to self soothe but young enough to not have a hard habit to break. Go with your gut. Where I am now with a 20 month old is way different than when he was 3 months old. Hang in there! 9 months seems like a good time to start pushing him to be a little more independent when he sleeps. Starting with naps in the crib was helpful I think.
i apparently had a thing for bottles ( it was glass at the time) and one day my mom was driving and i was in the back ( window was down) and i decided to throw out the bottle. and my mom says bye bye bottle. she would say it again and wave at it and told me to say bye bye and wave so i did and that was the end of it 😂 thankfully my 4 month okd dont line paci anymore but wants to suck on a plush doll 🤦♀️ fml. idk how to get him to chew or suck on a silicone toy or something i can wash and sani everyday 😢😖 any advice? he is teething i can tell his gums hurt and he does these arm pulse exactly like a tooth ache pulsing. after giving him a drug free teething gel. he drinks normal again and no longer pulses or drool like crazy. its hard to keep his nail trimmed to keep him from cutting his inner mouth. any advice??????????? i dont want to take his exploration away
My baby is almost 14 months old. She already gets the pacifier only during naps and night, but I just couldn't see how to do the next step in weaning of. Do you think that explaining works at this age? I don't want to wait until 2 or 3 years of age.
The steps in this video should help you wean your little one off the pacifier. It's great that your little one has already achieve the first step which is only using it for naps and bedtime. Good luck!
Do you have any advice what to do, when Big Brother 3.5 years old keeps stealing Little Brother 1.5-year-old dummy?. we are at the stage where a big brother needs to completely stop using dummy, but I can’t keep him away from little brothers dummies….
Oh that can be really hard! My sister's older daughter would take her younger sisters pacifier, and it was so hard to stop. Is it possible to only let the 1.5 year old use a pacifier for naps and bedtime? That way you can remove all the pacifiers during the day and only give your 1.5 year old a pacifier at sleep time and then remove it and place it out of reach once the nap has finished? Alternatively are you open to removing the pacifier from the house completely and helping both children stop using the pacifier at the same time?
It really depends on when you want to drop the pacifier. You could do it now which parents often do if it is causing short naps and frequent night wakings. If you choose to continue to use the pacifier I would recommend you start limiting it to naps and sleep time only (so leaving it in the cot), as being pacifier free during the day will make it easier for your little one to talk/babble and reduce the risk of dental problems in the future.
Hi Emma I have my twins born at 32 weeks so they are 3 months now .. I didn’t start tummy time as of now so when can I start or when are they going to start supporting their head also am I going to start meals for babies at 6 month from their date of birth or is it different for premies.
My little one won't take a Dummy/Pacifier at all but keeps sucking her Fingers, I try to discourage her from doing it as I am worried about her Dentition when she gets older if she doesn't stop it but she then gets upset when I do this. Have you got any tips on how to get her to take a Dummy/Pacifier please?
Hi Hannah some bubs just don’t really like a pacifier and do prefer to suck on their hands. You can try different pacifiers and see if you little one prefers a different brand. If your little one is under 4 months of age you can try activating the rooting reflex to encourage them to suck on the pacifier.
@@EmmaHubbard Thank you so much for replying ☺️ she is 10 weeks so I will definitely have to research Activating that, it's difficult for me to watch her suck her hands because I'm a Dental Nurse, so I know how hard it is to correct an Overbite with Orthodontic work. I want her to be able to take a Dummy/Pacifier because I can take that away later but of course I can't take her hand off her!
Thumb sucking can be challenging to stop as they always have access to their thumb. Generally must children will stop thumb sucking between the age of 2 - 4 years without parents needing to implement strategies to stop it.
Hi Emma.. Off topic, but my almost 4month old decided to stop drinking from my breast.. One day he decided to fuss evertime i broigjt him near my breat.. Im heart broken l. Its been two weeks.. He drinks breastmilk from bottle now..
Hi Anica I totally understand why you would be heart broken. Unfortunately, getting a little one to start breast feeding again is a little outside of my scope. A speech pathologist who specialises in feeding would be the best person to talk to. I am sorry I couldn't be of more help.
Mine stopped breastfeeding suddenly at 4months because I had a fast letdown. At this age, his brain had developed a bit more and so he figured out that the milk was choking him when the milk letdown, and was protecting himself by not breastfeeding. To fix this, I use a nipple shield to moderate the flow (baby is now nearly five months old and still breastfeeding). Thought I’d share in case it’s the same problem. I saw a lactation consultant - definitely see one if you are able to! My baby wouldn’t take a bottle, I’m glad yours does cause at least he’s fed!! Feel for you though 😢 All the best
I can only speak from my own experience, but we waited til 15 months to remove the pacifier at night. Now my son can fall asleep and stay asleep without it. You could try postponing removing it for a few more months.
I’m here because my wife thinks our child needs one of these. On the past I just threw them away in front of the kid. Or have the kid throw it away. But my wife thinks that’s to harsh. So I’m here. Sadly I can’t be the way I really want to be. Like 1920s style parenting. And my new son may become a weakling. No child of mine will become like today’s kids. Over my dead body
Thanks for watching! Are you planning on getting rid of the pacifier anytime soon? Don't forget to get your free Communication Milestones Chart here: brightestbeginning.com/communicationmilestoneschart/
In another video you said the cold Turkey approach to stopping pacifier was best, but in this one you say we need to do it gradually?
My 3 year old child was very attached to his pacifier. We followed a very similar process to this. In case it helps anyone, we eventually got rid of it by taking him to a Build-a-bear shop, and let him put his dummy inside his new teddy bear and watch it get stuffed and sealed up. He then fell asleep with his new teddy bear. Had two nights of tears and then never looked back. He loved the idea and was very excited to get his new bear
great idea
i like this, really creative
Could you do a video about signs for transitioning to a toddler bed please?
Right at the right time. Thank you I’ve started a Faerie Jar. The longer the pacifier stays in the jar, the more money we accrue in the jar next to it. The money is for Christmas presents
Hi Emma, What to do if your toddler is completely refusing naps now that there is no pacifier? We are on day 3 and I am ready to throw in the towel lol She is 21 months.
Lol I’m using this to help my lil foster sister cuz our mom won’t be bothered
Perfect timing Emma with this video! My 9 month old is ready to get rid of her pacifier.
Perfect! I hope this video helps make the process a little easier!
My son weaned himself off of the dummy at 11 months. He just stopped wanting it for a few days - would immediately spit it back out, even mid-crying (think he was dealing with some teething and it just irritated his mouth), so I kinda just went with it, rather than make a rod for my own back further down the road. I chucked them in the bin and never looked back. He hasn't missed them, either. All this did surprise me, however, as he was very much a dummy baby before then.
Thanks so much for sharing! My son also did this too. He started to spit out the dummy at naps and bedtime at 5 months so I decided to remove it as he was no longer wanting it. It’s great when they give you clear signals that the dummy is no longer needed.
My son did this too 2 weeks before his 1st birthday just spat it out hasn't had it since
I needed this video! My 2 year old is obsessed with her pacifier, she loves it and asks for it all the time 😅
It's great this video has come at the right time for you! I hope it goes smoothly when you decide it is time to ditch the pacifier.
Mine too
Emma 💖 you always post right on time for me! This is something I’m working on with my 2 year old THANK you 💖🙏💖🙏 ps CONGRATULATIONS on your new little one!
Thanks so much!
Also so good to hear this video popped up at the right time for you! Hope it goes smoothly with your little one!
😂 sometimes I feel like Emma reads my mind. Every time I think of something, poof! Video appears. So grateful!
Thank you for this reasonable video!
You are so welcome!
Thanks for another helpful relevant video! Do you have a suggested age that you would take the pacifier away before they get too attached? My little one is 9weeks and I’m hoping to avoid getting too reliant on it in the first place…. I have noticed that sometimes she already fusses when it drops out in early sleep in the same breath, when she gets in deep sleep she often spits it out and resettles herself. 😅 I’m confused!!
It can be really confusing. If you are open to stopping the pacifier earlier I recommend ditching it when your little one is between 4 - 6 months. At this age a baby's sleep matures and they start waking between sleep cycles and may start to wake up more frequently at night if they rely on a pacifier to fall asleep but it has fallen out during the night/nap. I hope that helps!
My son in law said it's something his baby daughter needed. And sure enough, at 2 years of age she spit the passy out and never wanted it again. Istead of her parents deciding He let his daughter decide.
He was right!
All her needs were met.
That's fantastic!
I was addicted to sucking on my thumb to fall asleep and developed dental problems. I also had almost a bunion on my thumb. So my mum put woolen mittens on my hands at night. Sucking on them was such a hairy experience that my habit was over in no time. For some reason I was too well behaved to take them off myself.
Hello Emma. Never commented but I am a French mom and your channel has been very usefull for us.
I was wondering, what is your opinion on an added step. My son is going at daycare, and I was wondering if keeping the pacifier only at naps was a bad idea (but taking it off at night). What is you opinion?
Thank you
Hi Emma, do you have any tips on getting rid of a dummy with a 4-5 months old? 😩Sleep regression has hit us hard and my son keeps waking up all night because he misses his pacifier. Falling asleep without it would probably help but I dont know how to teach him that😢
Hey plshelp same here
hi Emma....any tips for doing this way earlier? like for an 18month old?
Hi! For an 18 month old you would still do the same steps - so limit the pacifier use to naps and bedtime, teach them other coping strategies (at this age it is more about you helping them calm back down by providing comfort and regulating their emotions), deciding on a date, then removing the pacifier at bedtime and helping them learn another way to fall to sleep without the pacifier.
I'd love for my 17 month old to not have a dummy but is it best to wait until teething is over? That's the only time other than naps she has it x
That's exactly what I'm doing with my 1 yr old! She's getting to wear she gives me it even it's time to get out the car and when we get home, she will go toss it in the sink🥰
That's so good. Sounds like you are well on the way to limiting it to sleeps only!
@@EmmaHubbard just have to figure out a date now. Might be a little difficult because I also have a 3 month old that uses one.
Hi Emma. I recently removed pacifier from my 2 year old daughter. First 2 days were smooth for nap & bed time now she cries historically and doesn’t want to even touch her bed.
My 15mo is only using his paci during naps and night. At night he sometimes wakes up if it fell out. I’m afraid he’s going to have a hard time connecting sleep cycles without it. Is it a good idea to start putting his hand to soothe him at night? He’s gotten into a hand sucking recently during the day. (Like 3-4 fingers in the mouth)
I'm lucky because without knowing I have learn my baby from the very beginning to hug and I was talking to him so I don't have a problem with pecefirer. Sometimes he doesn't use them to sleep or just put them on the side but he like to put the blanket to his mouth. Is it bed that he chew a blanket?
P.S. Congratulations on your newborn! ❤
Thanks so much. Life is certainly a lot busier!
Dear Emma, thank you for the Video. My baby girl is 1 year old and I am planning to reduce the Dummy time and eventually get rid of it. It's funny how that can seem like an impossoble task, even though I have done it twice already. Thanks for the reassurance! The Plan is all set!
BTW I "non-sleep-trained" Our third with the help of your tips and she is the Single Best sleeper in the World!
Keep at it, love your videos!
Hi! My baby is 16 months old and i have cut the pacifier it’s been a week now but now the problem is he crys a lot while sleeping what to do??😊
Hi Emma! Always enjoy your content! Any tips for how to get toddlers to stop finger sucking? 😅
Hi!
I’m not a professional (or a parent!)
But I help my little foster siblings with this kinda stuff
When he/she starts sucking, don’t take it out physically, gently tell them and praise them. All. The. Time. When they don’t
Lol, take my advice with a grain of salt, I’m a 14 year old but it worked for my lil foster siblings
So far the pacifier is restricted to naps and bedtime. She's been conditioned to give it back every morning. That's all I got lol throughout the day, she hugs me when she's upset
Congratulation to you & your little one Emma 🥰🎊
Pacifier doesn't work on my baby. I am only give him during bedtime but he keeps it while a second and throws it. Night he wakes up regularly between half and hour or 1 hour. Please give me solution
Hi! It's a little hard to tell you exactly why your little one is waking frequently throughout the night. One of the reasons might be because your little one uses an external sleep association to fall asleep and therefore wakes every sleep cycle to re-create that sleep association. For example if your little one is older than 4 months and needing to be fed, rocked, patted (etc) to sleep then it is highly likely your little one is waking between sleep cycles looking for this external sleep association to fall back to sleep. In this situation the way to get your little one to stay asleep for longer is to help them learn how to fall asleep without an external sleep association.
@@EmmaHubbard thank you so much. He is 5month old. Whenever he wakes up I feed him breast milk then he fall asleep , sometimes if I swing cradle then he fall asleep. Night around 10 or 10.30 he fall asleep while feeding. if he doesn't sleep then I play music (Hanuman chalis)
Great video. My almost 3 year old sleeps with a comforter (the small square blanket/ animal) and sucks on it during sleep. Any strategies on how to get rid of it? We tried once but the drama was unbearable. Is it the same as pacifier or do you have other strategies ?
I would recommend you use the same strategies for the comforter as you would for the pacifier. I hope these tips help!
Need advice. My husband unfortunately, in a fit of frustration/anger, took the pacifier away from our 2.5yo just before bedtime because she didn't want to be held by him (that's a different issue all together of her preferring me over him and it hurting his feelings). So she was forced to go to bed without. It's been a little over a week of no pacifier but she's still having a hard time at night of waking up and crying. To add to it, there have been a couple big events: she moved to a new room at daycare with new teachers, and she's recovering from a cold. It's hard to stay strong and not give in but I feel like she needs it back for just a little longer until she gets used to things again. Do I continue to stay strong even though it was so abrupt in taking it away? Or should I give it back temporarily? Please help.
My baby is addicted to pacifier since birth.. She is 10months old now and her upper lip mouth is bigger than down lip.. If I stop to give pacifier 😐is there any chance to get normal shape again? Pls reply me any one.. Sorry for my bad English
Hi Emma,
I’m trying to remove the pacifier from my baby boy who just turned 5 months. Is it too soon to try to make him fall asleep at night without it? I’m still giving it to him at nap times but not at the beginning of night sleep. Also should I give it to him at night if he wakes up after 5-6 hours of sleep? He’s not feeding at night anymore but still wakes up a couple of times at night. Thanks
My 16 months old already takes pacifier for naps and bedtime but im unable to get rid 😫
Babysitter/nanny here. 😊
Here's what worked for the littles I watched.
In the day time tell them you want to hear them talk and that you can't understand them when they have it in their mouth. Then politely remove it and encourage them to use their words. Never understand what they are saying when it is in their mouth and magically understand them when it is out. They will get frustrated with it on their own and will stop using it by choice.
At nap time? Have it in another room so you have to go and get it. In my experience it went something like this.
First time you are back instantly. Second time it takes you a minute. Third time a couple minutes. Fourth time five minutes and after about a week or two they eventually fall asleep without it. Then you can tell them "Wow! You don't really need it any more because you fell asleep without it on your own last time. You're growing up so fast!"
Good luck!
Thank you for this! My daughter is 8 months but she's due to have cleft surgery before she turns 1 and her surgeon has told us they would like for her to not have the dummy by the time she has her surgery. Do you have any suggestions on how to slowly take the dummy away at her age? We only use it for naps and bed time..
Thank you :)
HI Rebecca you have already achieve the first step (limiting the pacifier to naps and bedtime). which is fantastic. The next step is removing it. At this age my preferred method is to go cold turkey as it can be confusing for babies to have pacifiers for naps but not bedtime.
If you would prefer to do it more slowly you can remove the pacifier for bedtime and continue to offer it for naps (as when a baby naps during the day they are in lighter sleep and it can be tricker for them to fall asleep without the pacifier).
However, either way your little one is going to have to learn how to fall asleep without the pacifier. This might mean you need to develop a plan on how to help your baby learn to fall asleep without a pacifier. Hope that helps.
@@EmmaHubbard I just saw this video and I am in a similar situation where my 6 mo old just gets the pacifier for naps during the day and maybe random moments (like the grocery store for example) but not bedtime. I would like to take it away completely now so do you have any suggestions on how to help him fall asleep for naps without it? Also he has recently figured out how to suck his thumb again because we accidentally left his hands uncovered for a few nights (we got rid of the thumb sucking when he was born) and would like to help that is well. We originally did it because of the idea “it’s easier to throw away a pacifier than it is to have them stop sucking their thumbs” but now we have both to work with
My daughter is 10 months old . She only needs the pacifier while sleeping,But she wakes her self up if the pacifier is not in her mouth and starts crying every time . How can I get rid of the pacifier before she becomes 1 years old?
I’m a FTM and a SAHM of a 3 month old. My baby doesn’t really use a pacifier but prefers to use my breast to soothe him. I nurse him to sleep in a swaddle for a nap but sometimes feel it would be easier if he just took a pacifier since my boob can’t always be available to him. I’m noticing he likes sucking on his hands but will sometimes start to suck his thumb. I’m not sure if it’s best to encourage him to use a pacifier for nap time or not. He was soothed by it most in the very early weeks but lately only seems to like my nipple to calm him. Any insight or advice would be appreciated since this is all new to me. Im 35 and never thought I’d have kids so I’m just kinda following his cues at this point.
Hi, were you able yo solve this issue? Asking because it literally in the same boat right now my almost 9 month old doesn't go to sleep unless I breastfeed him to sleep. I would like to wean him off and help him go to sleep without my breast but it's hard. Any suggestions? I'm also 35 ftm lol
@@littlegreendress6243 I slept with my son until he was about 10-11 months old. I started drying up around that time since he was eating more and mostly using me for comfort.
After that I sleep trained him in his crib. He was used to naps in there for a few months already. And judge this method or not, I knew what my son could handle. We did the CIO method. First night he screamed 45 minutes, second night 30 minutes third night about 15 min then he was cool. He usually only cries out at night when he’s sick or in pain now.
Every child is different but I just went with the flow and followed his lead. I feel like I waited until he was old enough to learn to self soothe but young enough to not have a hard habit to break.
Go with your gut. Where I am now with a 20 month old is way different than when he was 3 months old. Hang in there! 9 months seems like a good time to start pushing him to be a little more independent when he sleeps. Starting with naps in the crib was helpful I think.
i apparently had a thing for bottles ( it was glass at the time) and one day my mom was driving and i was in the back ( window was down) and i decided to throw out the bottle. and my mom says bye bye bottle. she would say it again and wave at it and told me to say bye bye and wave so i did and that was the end of it 😂 thankfully my 4 month okd dont line paci anymore but wants to suck on a plush doll 🤦♀️ fml. idk how to get him to chew or suck on a silicone toy or something i can wash and sani everyday 😢😖 any advice? he is teething i can tell his gums hurt and he does these arm pulse exactly like a tooth ache pulsing. after giving him a drug free teething gel. he drinks normal again and no longer pulses or drool like crazy. its hard to keep his nail trimmed to keep him from cutting his inner mouth. any advice??????????? i dont want to take his exploration away
My baby is almost 14 months old. She already gets the pacifier only during naps and night, but I just couldn't see how to do the next step in weaning of. Do you think that explaining works at this age? I don't want to wait until 2 or 3 years of age.
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So glad you found this video at the right time
I want my baby to get rid of the pacifier. He is 10 month and half. How can I do it? He uses it just nap times and during the night
The steps in this video should help you wean your little one off the pacifier. It's great that your little one has already achieve the first step which is only using it for naps and bedtime. Good luck!
Do you have any advice what to do, when Big Brother 3.5 years old keeps stealing Little Brother 1.5-year-old dummy?. we are at the stage where a big brother needs to completely stop using dummy, but I can’t keep him away from little brothers dummies….
Oh that can be really hard! My sister's older daughter would take her younger sisters pacifier, and it was so hard to stop.
Is it possible to only let the 1.5 year old use a pacifier for naps and bedtime? That way you can remove all the pacifiers during the day and only give your 1.5 year old a pacifier at sleep time and then remove it and place it out of reach once the nap has finished? Alternatively are you open to removing the pacifier from the house completely and helping both children stop using the pacifier at the same time?
I got rid of the pacifier and my baby girl uses her thumb. I don't know what to do anymore
When is the right time to try this? My babe is about to be 1 too soon or?
It really depends on when you want to drop the pacifier. You could do it now which parents often do if it is causing short naps and frequent night wakings. If you choose to continue to use the pacifier I would recommend you start limiting it to naps and sleep time only (so leaving it in the cot), as being pacifier free during the day will make it easier for your little one to talk/babble and reduce the risk of dental problems in the future.
Hi Emma I have my twins born at 32 weeks so they are 3 months now .. I didn’t start tummy time as of now so when can I start or when are they going to start supporting their head also am I going to start meals for babies at 6 month from their date of birth or is it different for premies.
Thank you my daughter is 2 years old and want to start getting her off ur video was helpful
Glad it was helpful!
My little one won't take a Dummy/Pacifier at all but keeps sucking her Fingers, I try to discourage her from doing it as I am worried about her Dentition when she gets older if she doesn't stop it but she then gets upset when I do this. Have you got any tips on how to get her to take a Dummy/Pacifier please?
Hi Hannah some bubs just don’t really like a pacifier and do prefer to suck on their hands. You can try different pacifiers and see if you little one prefers a different brand. If your little one is under 4 months of age you can try activating the rooting reflex to encourage them to suck on the pacifier.
@@EmmaHubbard Thank you so much for replying ☺️ she is 10 weeks so I will definitely have to research Activating that, it's difficult for me to watch her suck her hands because I'm a Dental Nurse, so I know how hard it is to correct an Overbite with Orthodontic work. I want her to be able to take a Dummy/Pacifier because I can take that away later but of course I can't take her hand off her!
What if he starts to suck his thumb instead:(?
Thumb sucking can be challenging to stop as they always have access to their thumb. Generally must children will stop thumb sucking between the age of 2 - 4 years without parents needing to implement strategies to stop it.
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Hi Emma.. Off topic, but my almost 4month old decided to stop drinking from my breast.. One day he decided to fuss evertime i broigjt him near my breat.. Im heart broken l. Its been two weeks.. He drinks breastmilk from bottle now..
Hi Anica I totally understand why you would be heart broken. Unfortunately, getting a little one to start breast feeding again is a little outside of my scope. A speech pathologist who specialises in feeding would be the best person to talk to. I am sorry I couldn't be of more help.
Mine stopped breastfeeding suddenly at 4months because I had a fast letdown. At this age, his brain had developed a bit more and so he figured out that the milk was choking him when the milk letdown, and was protecting himself by not breastfeeding. To fix this, I use a nipple shield to moderate the flow (baby is now nearly five months old and still breastfeeding). Thought I’d share in case it’s the same problem. I saw a lactation consultant - definitely see one if you are able to! My baby wouldn’t take a bottle, I’m glad yours does cause at least he’s fed!! Feel for you though 😢 All the best
My baby weaned himself off the pacifier at 3 months old once he discovered he had lips that he could suck on 😂 then it was bye bye paci
My daughters and grandson never used a pacifier. They didn't want it.
My 10 month old only uses it at night to fall asleep. I’ve tried but he just cries to the point of vomiting if he doesn’t have it.
I can only speak from my own experience, but we waited til 15 months to remove the pacifier at night. Now my son can fall asleep and stay asleep without it. You could try postponing removing it for a few more months.
I’m here because my wife thinks our child needs one of these. On the past I just threw them away in front of the kid. Or have the kid throw it away. But my wife thinks that’s to harsh. So I’m here. Sadly I can’t be the way I really want to be. Like 1920s style parenting. And my new son may become a weakling. No child of mine will become like today’s kids. Over my dead body