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My mom bought me journals multiple times as a kids, tried to write in them but never really got into it. My mom, who is physically unable to go a day without getting mad at someone over even the most innocuous bs, played herself. She stomped over to me one day while I was on the couch and angrily asked why I never use my journals.
I asked confused "How would you know?" and she was silent for awhile before changing the subject and yelling at me for something else.
That is one of the worst kind of people. Trying to find any possible excuse to start an argument and the worst part is that, no matter how hard one can try, they’ll never stop because they enjoy arguing with people, for some goddam reason.
The only way to live with one of those people is to make them realize that there’s no reason for them to be mad, which is exactly what you did, so good job.
My therapist told me to start journaling because I bottled up all my emotions to make sure not to upset or hurt anyone. So a journal would be a safe place to let it out without censoring myself in fear of offending someone. But my mom started reading my journal because “I never talk to her and she needs to know what’s going on with me”. I stopped journaling and was never able to do it again even after moving out. I’m sorry that you lacked privacy in you home. I hope you have a safe space now
Oh that’s sneaky, your mom bought you journals and expected you to write in something she might get angry about, but you never did. She obviously planned to read them, as she bought them.
My mom didn’t read what I wrote. She knew I wouldn’t write anything bad about her, since she had so perfectly brainwashed me, I wasn’t even able to think bad about her. My subcounciounce not so much. That’s why my mom never liked the fiction I wrote, since all the characters were parodies on my parents and my surroundings - I wasn’t even aware of that.
Also my mom got mad that I didn't open the boxes with dolls she bought from my grandparents' money, since I had grown out of it and enjoyed drawing anime fanart more.
Ooof damn you hit her hard there, when kids really think and ask the right questiones, it's one more step to freedom.
I hope you found peace later in life, and managed to get past the lackluster parenting.
We should open a hotline for victims of insane parents to call whenever their parents do something, so they can have a professional lawyer tell them if that's legal
Heck yeah
Yes please, so many people need it
i would need this a lot
@@shuu-wasseo that's sad... Do you need someone to complain to? Go ahead if you do
thehotline and childhelphotline are both websites with hotlines for people in these situatuons!
TOXIC FAMILY: *wants you out of their life*
ALSO TOXIC FAMILY: *blatantly makes it as hard as possible for you to actually leave their life*
It feels more like they just want someone to control. Or a punching bag. Leaving is bad because they're losing control, but they never treat you like a person either, because to them, you might as well not be one.
My life (no really, it's my life)
@@JustSmileyFace... That's miserable. Hope it gets better.
@@JustSmileyFace... oh my...
@@JustSmileyFace...same..
The worst thing is that these parents think their job as parents is to make sure their kids have no secrets, while in reality it should be to make sure their kids feel safe enough to not WANT to keep secrets, and feel free to talk about anything with them.
Exactly! I know a lot of people who should have never been parents.
There are also the parents who ignored all the problems that came up and also taught their children to keep secrets because their problems never mattered.
I feel very happy that i can talk to my parents about almost anything; obviously, a few things i dont trust their advice with, but i feel very glad that i can talk to them about most things
Yeah - that's what my step-mum and dad did. Just led to me keeping even more secrets.
@@PatTheCat1014 ....
*How is like to live my dream?*
and half the time it’s not even that the children are “keeping secrets” it’s that they have their own lives and not everything needs to be shared with everyone.
having a parent who doesn’t allow them to have their own private life is what makes child feel the need to keep secrets from their parents
One of these happened to me: I was just out of the mental hospital and my parents went through my phone while I was gone. Not a big deal until they slipped and made me aware that they had looked through my journals. All of them. Keep in mind, before I left for the hospital I specifically told them not to look through the journals because they were my private thoughts and feelings. My trust has never been so fast betrayed in my life. I still can’t journal anymore- which used to be a good coping mechanism- and my mental health and relationship with my parents had taken a toll ever since.
My god … violating the trust of someone coming out of psychiatric inpatient treatment?!?!?! That's so harmful to the person receiving treatment that it's potentially _lethal._
I, too, was in the behavioral health ward. Had someone violated my trust while I was in the hospital, _it would've put me right back in there,_ due to the damage it would've caused me at that time.
I hope you've managed to recover from the damage that violation did to you.
It sucks when your parents don't trust you to have your personal thoughts and emotions... These kinds of things are what make kids write on secret journals (which they keep inside the pillow, inside or under the mattress or just keep them at all times), buy secret phones (or secret phone cards) and just keeping every aspect of their life away from their family.
Since you obviously benefit a lot from writing on diaries I suggest you keep a secret diary (bonus points if you manage to keep it away from your home (like in a school locker for example))
Or if you want, go to your phone and install a diary app that you can fingerprint lock (this only works if you only have your fingerprints (and maybe even some trustworthy people))
I really hope your mental health gets better and that your parents start respecting you as you deserve
My brother leafed through the journal I was on last before landing in the hospital. He said he was checking the fonts (mine are hard to figure out, but especially when I'm nuts). What bothered me about seeing the stuff myself had been noticing I'd stopped writing 2 weeks before going in. What bothered me about his personal check with it was spotting an entry I mentioned him in.
My journals are where my negative thoughts go to be ranted about. I really don't like knowing that if I die, etc, this is their link to my life in my own words. Yikes.
It took me about half a year to do another journal. When stuff happens like this, I start in a fresh book to leave worse things behind.
I don't have enough time to black out stuff I don't want them to find. I have 3 giant rubber bins of them. One per decade. Ugh.
A note to potential parents and just everyone in general: If you want to treat your children like a Provident Fund, invest in a Provident Fund instead.
Yeah but the fund doesn't have a 0.0004% chance to become very successful and carry your sorry old ass until the end.
That's what these people bank on. And it never works, obviously. Even if they win the 0.0004%, child will most likely invest and move tf out fast and far.
Just don't have kids if you're driven by selfish reasons, such as being taken care of when you're old, or playing with a human doll, or transposing your own lost/failed dreams on your children, or stepping up the social scale. Have kids if you want to love and raise tiny humans and only if you're emotionally, financially and mentally ready.
@@melancolielupine2023 it would literally be cheaper to invest the money into an account and put it towards retirement and elder care than to have kids and hope they’ll take care of you later. You could pay trained professionals to care for your needs and it’s less stressful
@@kissit012 And to add to your last point: In some states in the US, the law _will not allow_ children to take care of elderly parents once the degree of care goes above a certain point. And the reason why the laws exist is because the adult children _are not trained professionals_ in elder-care, and therefore cannot provide the minimum care for their parents deemed necessary by the law.
@@melancolielupine2023 the human doll comment made me scrunch up my face, but it’s too true.
I love how someone mentioned in the comments once that Click telling them they smelled amazing made a huge positive impact on them, so now he keeps telling people how nice they smell. He truly pays attention to his fans.
like an odd modern day mr rogers💀💀
i find it slightly disturbing though, like dude, stop smelling me! you're invading my personal space! XD
but i guess it can't be helped since he is part youtuber part furry :')
It really is a super nice compliment. Hahaha. ❤️ It's really sweet.
I just say “dude. You need higher standards” every time he does that because I know for a fact I smell like BO. It still gets a chuckle out of me though
@@Ysckemia You probably would hate the kids' show "Bear in the Big Blue House" then. 😅My little brother (who's autisic, just like me, and used to be mostly non-verbal back then) was about 4 years old and every time at the beginning of each episode when Bear would come up close, sniff around and tell you that you smelled amazing he would giggle in pure joy. It was absolutely adorable... Click always reminds me of Bear for that reason... 😅
"As a mum I don't want my kids not to feel negative emotions when they see the message is from me" resonates so much with me, and I don't even have kids. If i ever did, I'd hate for them to feel like i felt.
Honestly, because of my mom and prior roommates, it used to be that anytime I see a long text message no matter who it’s from I immediately panicked and went into fight or flight. Like my world was crumbling every time, because that’s what people in the past did to me. It took me a lot of therapy to get over that trigger
@@riverstein7251 Uff, i feel that so much :(
Hope you're doing better and got far far away from this.
I panic whenever either of my parents text me, or call me cause I’m assuming I’m in trouble for something stupid
Me in an Office like family therapy:
"What I would like for my kid when they get older? Well I'd hope they wouldn't dreads coming back and would see it as a nice thing to see us whenever they have the time"
The therapists/guidance peoples faces were priceless, seems like an answer they were not prepared for. Especially right before the holidays. So yeah.. i feel this, but I have a kid. (Family guidance/therapy because we are working on being better, doing better, not because it's bad - we just don't want it to get bad)
@@navnher1135 Being able to talk very open to a colleague (who's a mother around my mother's age without knowing my mother) has given me so much perspective. She's one of the few who'll talk about how she'd feel if her son felt that way, rather than saying what my mum has done is unforgivable. (And it might be, but with boundaries I'm open for a relationship with her.) She makes both my feelings valid, but also show how much a little openness from my side might mean for my mother nowadays even if she messed up badly in the past.
When I was a kid and I had to go to school sick cuz I was "faking", or if my teacher wouldn't let me call home cuz I was "faking", I always felt kinda satisfied when I ended getting everyone else sick. It was proof I wasn't lying.
I feel like that teach has major trust issues and shouldn't even teaching if they think you are faking something that could potentially be serious.
@@scarlettboggs6381 Most of my parents and teachers didn't think it was okay to stay home unless you had a fever or were puking. We didn't have a school nurse or anything like that either.
Same.
did the teacher let the other students home when they got sick because of you?
@@yongqianchen4037 Sometimes. It would depend on the teacher and how bad the symptoms were. It's hard to assume a student is lying when everyone is getting sick around the same time, but every so often you'd get that one teacher who won't let kids call home unless they're half dead.
Remembering when my adoptive mom would call me emotionless and a husk when she would scream at me whenever I showed any emotion, and then complain to her friend that I just always smiled and look dead on the inside doing it.
“I bet your kid isn’t a psychopath like mine” was the straw that broke the camel’s back, and why I show no emotion
I hope you've completely cut that woman out of your life.
It infuriates me that gay couples I know have to jump through all sorts of hoops just to be approved to be allowed to adopt, when cvnts like the woman who adopted you can just go and get a kid easy-peasy, then emotionally and psychologically abuse them like she did to you.
🫂 here buddy get a hug
🫂
They don't get to tell you who you are.
🫂
I'm so, so sorry she treated you that way. You're worth so much more than that.
The first time I tried making a diary, the very next day I opened it and found my mom left a "cute" note in the first page for me. She thought it was innocent, but I immediately gave up on the idea of having a diary because I felt like my privacy could be violated at any time after that event.
Same thing for me, but it didn't write, I drew what I was feeling and how I was feeling, woke up next day to see all censored and she said "a good Christian don't think like this"
So no more drawing diary
There are diarys with a lock on it.
So much for respecting privacy...
God i would be furious..i hate it when people just do something permanent on my personal things without permission...even my test papers. We used to have tests checked by other students and this girl just doodles everywhere...pisses me off...i was 9 but i would really show them the disappointed eyes if someone do that to me in adulthood now
Honestly! My first diaries as a kid were always pretty innocent stuff but I knew my mom went through them, so when I got access to phones and computers I started doing my journaling there instead, but that wasn’t safe either. When I was 14 my mom snooped through all my devices, found out I was questioning my sexuality and my gender identity, and grounded me for (I’m not even exaggerating) three years. She changed all of my passwords, wouldn’t let me so much as touch a device without her looking over my shoulder, and basically just kept me locked in my room until I finally got put into foster care at 17. Journaling had been the only coping skill that worked for me, and to this day I still don’t feel 100% safe writing any of my private thoughts down, even though she hasn’t been in my life since I was put in foster care.
@@gracen8010 If it makes you feel safer you could just write it down and then burn it.
OMG my mother used to believe her belongings were being stolen everytime she misplaced something. I (as an adult) remember telling her something akin to "Yes, someone broke into the house, went into your room, just to steal your laptop mouse. Then they snuck out without taking anything else and leaving no trace."
My dad was like that but he always thought it was me
Jeezus that’s insane. Why the heck can’t some people understand that things just get misplaced. Not everything is nefarious. 🤦♂️
I don't think parents should be parents if this keeps happening.
Agreed. Btw, congrats on being the 20th comment!
I think it's a post that people should apply for. Before then, we shall refer to them as birth giver and sperm donator.
The laat time we tried regulating bloodlines didn't go so well...
i haven't watched the video yet... and this comment is so non-specific, but I'm guessing this applies to the entire thing xD
You're right about that. These people are not parents.
Man, the thing about privacy just reminds me how my sister read my messages at 14 and found out I got SA'd, and then... she made the confrontation all about her just because she also found out I'm gay because of it.
I separated myself from my abuser on my own. She did nothing to help. All she did was rip me out of the closet and made it all about how hurt she was that I didn't tell her.🙃
That’s so terrible wtf. I hope you’re doing better now and happy pride month
@@nikiski6142 Oh yeah, I'm better. We're on better terms and I know she was at least concerned and stuff, but god it was a shitty experience to have your coming out all about someone else, and done so unwillingly
By "nothing", I mean that she didn't even block the dude even thought she had access to my phone 😂. My abuser and I talked for a while after that, but when he got a boyfriend, he just dropped me lol.
When my sister in law was younger, she kept a private journal. Not only did her mother read the journal, but she actually wrote notes and comments in it like "That never happened", "You have no right to feel that way", "Don't talk like that", ect. She would also yell at and lecture her over it.
Oh my god what a nightmare
Get in contact with your SIW and convince her to call the cops on the parents
That is madness
The one person's grandma who gave them covid during Christmas just because 'this is how we used to do it' gives me very strong Typhoid Mary vibes.
My grandma invited my sister and I (diff moms) to her house one weekend to make me get chicken pox because that was how they did it. I never got it and she got shingles instead
@@kissit012 i remember that growing up .
i grewup in the early 1970s.@@kissit012
Fun animal fact: Honeypot ants have to be seen to be believed. During wet season, certain ants consume huge amounts of nectar, making their abdomens swell up to the size of a grape. Then, during dry season, they provide the other ants with food by throwing the nectar back up again
Nice! Also you are the 12th comment!
supposedly, they're pretty tasty too, since they're so swollen with sugarry nectar. best enjoyed dipped in chocolate.
Interesting and fascinating. Thank you!
Quite an odd Social Stomach. As AntsCanada taught me is called XD
I read about them in elementary school :) my personal favorite, I forget what they’re called, but they’ll build their nests near the nests of other ants and tunnel to the other ants’ nest to steal food from them. The thing is, the thieving ants are so small, they don’t build very big tunnels, so the other ant colony can’t pursue or really retaliate
@@Roadent1241 I watch AntsCanada too!
Click laughing at his own jokes just makes them funnier
Hello! Sorry for a non-personalized reply, but I'm too tired to bother right now.
So, I'm going through the first 69 comments, and telling them what placement they are! Like, first, second, third, 4th, 5th, etc. As for you, you are the 28th
You a bot? This comment just seems botty
No
@@salmonofknowledge3229 who, me? No. Just a random teen that has too much time on my hands
Yep.
Sometimes he's funny for taking things too seriously.
Sometimes he's laughing at other people being ridiculous.
Sometimes his own material is genuinely funny.
Sometimes he's funny for laughing at his own jokes.
Sometimes he's funny, for laughing at himself for thinking that what he just said would be funny.
Net result: 90% of the time, Click is funny. If Click ever isn't funny, it's because he's being too wholesome to be considered funny rn.
I felt the privacy thing. I have learnt that the key to getting ur boundaries respected is being known for going batsh1t crazy when they're not. I would throw the worst fits and the biggest tantrums and didn't care about the consequences any time anyone touched my diary. They stopped doing it.
Genius, why didn’t I think of that?
*if it's safe to do so
For that story where they ask the child for the lawyers info, they could have just said “so you are attempting to blackmail me into violating someone’s right to privacy?” I think that would have shut them up
I swear privacy was a foreign concept to my parents. It didn't help that we lived in a very small house and you could hear everything anyone was doing regardless of where they were in the house. Everything I did in my bedroom with the door closed could be heard throughout the house. If I tried watching TV at night, my dad could hear it and would get irate unless I turned it down until it's so quiet I couldn't even hear it unless my face was right up next to it. My mom never knocked on my door, she would just come right in. She would go through all my stuff. It was awful.
Invasions of privacy only lead to a huge lack of trust and you just feel like you can't be yourself (I imagine)
My suggestion is to just be upfront about it. Tell your parents that it's not right for them to go through your stuff. It's YOUR stuff! Also, make sure to tell them that when parents get too controlling over their kid's lives, it just makes them hide stuff more (of course, it's best not to say this if you have anything to hide)
Tell them that they need to trust you and let you have your own things
Hope everything works out for you!
Unfortunately, I can relate. My family even went through my garbage before it was allowed out of the house.
@@readmore-THAT IS STRIAGHT BS ON YOUR PARENTS PART HOLY FUC
I still maintain that with all of the adorable designs submitted after the original video, Click should do an entire line of Emotional Support Demons
If you collect them all, put them in a circle around a pentagram and speak Swedish, you can summon the Click directly to you for a hug and/or to tell you you smell dandyfinalicious today!
After a line of Collegic Style "Click Academy" Merch
How about an emotional support demon of every color in a rainbow, and then an ultimate one that is rainbow colored... that would get real expensive, but damn if I don't want it.
Please. I love the thought of a line of emotional support demons.
This is a good sales pitch
@@justaperson4656 Thank you!
So Long one but the story about the person getting their journal read really got to me. I grew up in a lot of abuse. Often we didn't even have enough room for everyone to sleep, let alone private space. My mother gave me a journal and I started writing in it seriously when I was about 8( I don't mean that the context was all that serious but that I looked at it as something to confide in so I was serious about it). I wrote about a boy I liked and one day my mother stole it. She read it out loud to the family and everyone made fun of me for having a crush. That hurt but I did pick back up writing. It was such a savior for me. I usually either kept it with me or I would hide it in my room really well. But then again when I was 17, working and doing everything I could to support myself and our house, I made the mistake of leaving it out on the kitchen table and running to grab the bus to work. I started walking to the stop and realized I didn't have it ( so like 2-3 mins had gone by) and I ran back really quick to grab it. I come in to find my mother reading it and she knew what it was. Even if she didn't know when she picked it up she knew opening it. See I made a habit of leaving a general note at the start of each of my journals, saying that if someone read it who wasn't supposed to they should stop and leave it alone. That if they kept going I would NOT take responsibility for how it made them feel. I said whatever I needed to in there, from thoughts of how things were going in my family, to anger, sadness and even a bit of teenage steamy stuff. So it was clearly not something I was ok with her picking up and reading at will. She didn't understand why I was so upset that she was reading it. I didn't ask for it back when I found her with it, I snatched it back from her! She's given me many issues and insecurities regarding my view of the world and my writing but I've kept going.
I kept every journal I ever wrote from 14 on, for a very long time. Sometimes I would go back and reread them. But just two years ago I decided it was time to start letting go so after I went through them to make sure there wasn't any poetry or other writing I wanted to keep, my family and I made a fire and we burned them all. My daughter even joined in and burned some of hers. It felt good to be able to do that. It's horrible not to be able to trust but PLEASE keep trying! It can get better. And you're not alone.
Sorry if this was too personal for some but this felt too real not to talk about. Hearing some of the comments made my heart hurt and just incase someone needed to see this I wanted to share. I hope you all have a wonderful day.
I went through similar, yet my grandmother ALWAYS read my stuff. And in my teens my mother throw it all away
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It helps for me to read these because I need to know that others have felt this pain too. It gives me hope that it's getting better. I have made a huge difference in my family. All of my immediate family are going through therapy. The most difficult thing was recognizing the abuse and then not tolerating it. I hope that you are well as can be today and that life continues to get better each day for you.
@@sarahthesarah2850 it helps read these and talk about it. Because I never had people who would understand. Hope all is well with you also. ❤️
My mom used to do the same thing, then confront me after she’d find something she didn’t like. She’s also tell other people about what she read. She regularly went through my things (that I still used) and threw them away and act like she didn’t know what happened, then get angry at me after she’d confess to doing it like I shouldn’t be upset. Constantly acted like she didn’t understand why I didn’t trust her or why I have such strong boundaries with her now (currently no contact).
@@kissit012 That sounds terrible I'm so sorry. I know I don't know you but I'm so proud of you for going NC. Been four years for me with my mom....it's hard and hurts but keep your chin up!
Speaking of privacy, my mom once read the confidential questionnaires I filled in for my therapist, at a time when I was very depressed. And then she yelled at me for not telling her about my mental health struggles 😀🙃
(I'm fine now and NC with my mom for over 3 years)
I hate when parents yell at their children about mental health.
A parents response should always be to calmly talk to their child, make sure they know their heard, and try to get to the root of the problem and start fixing it.
Every time I see this subreddit being covered, the more I realize how much of a legend my own mom is.
I really only found out about this as an adult, but we were not exceptionally wealthy. We barely had enough to make ends meet. My mom worked her ass off to keep my sister and me in the best life possible because our dad couldn't hold down a job because of his attitude. Needless to say, they got a divorce when I was in high school.
My mom remarried back in '04, and recently lost her 2nd husband last October after he underwent surgery. She's living alone, but still being strong. I would do anything for her because I know now, she sacrificed a lot in order to keep her kids happy.
ur lucky
Mom with a capital M ❤️
I'm a mom, and I can tell you that your comment is a love letter. Show it to her, if you're comfortable. It will mean the world to her.
I'm a mom too and that's future relationship goals with my kids right there. ❤️
Same
I get the journal thing because even after buying a straight up industrial lock at like 7 for my journal before even being confident enough to use it, my mother still pried open the journal enough for her to read it and I immediately got in trouble for writing something along the lines of "I hope now my mother won't be nosey and read my things"
You were in the right. Your mother was in the wrong.
Try writing in a code, and/or getting one of those invisible ink pens. With the pen, though, be careful not to press too hard or it’ll indent the paper and still be visible. One more idea I’ll give you- make an email account without telling anyone, and write things down on a google doc. I’ve done all of these at some point in my life, and they all work. Hope this is helpful. From one internet stranger to another, hope you have a lovely day
@@rynzlrthesynth5758 Thankfully, I don't have to worry about this anymore, but these are very good recommendations and I did eventually do something of the such with writing in code, though that was more because of my obsession with the Vladimir Tod books than preventing anymore invasions of my privacy.
@@vanillathebard Glad to hear (well, read, technically) that you don't have to live like that anymore. With any luck, anyone currently in a situation like that sees my suggestions, and/or someone else's, and gets any help they need. Love that name and profile pic, by the way.
something similar happened to me as a child my mom bought me a diary with a padlock on the front for my b-day a few months later I woke up to the lock broken.
I hope that person who had their credit maxed out by their parent sues them because that is such a common thing and it's fraud. Also I had a similar situation as OP with my "parents" holding my stuff hostage. I ended up just not bother with it since is was dangerous and the cops refused to help (they stopped care once they found I was trans)
Yeah this happened to me, and I didn't sue we came to an agreement and she continued to steal from me. I thought if I sued or pursued outside help I would be homeless as I lived with her. But I often wonder if it would have been better to have her out of my life and if I really would have been homeless or if I would have been able to survive if she wasn't stealing from me. Turned out that as soon as she couldn't steal money from me anymore she kicked me out and kept and sold a lot of my stuff. So I ended up homeless for a time anyway, and I was way less prepared and way more broke.
Suing your parents isn’t easy since , companies don’t pursue relatives. Also, I wanted to take my mom to court for stealing my identity but it wasn’t worth the $hit my family would give me for doing so….. just had to fix my credit and move on
Ah, gotta love how worthless the police are. I'm sorry you're going through that, I hope you can get out soon.
Reddit taught me that I actually have a very nice structured family with parents that love and respect me.
Is the cat alive?
@@mikethegoo I have to open the box to check
@@Raaslen But you are the box...
I'm so glad you have a nice, loving family! Make sure to always show them how much you love them 😄✨
I wasn’t aware that this was even an option.
Must be nice 😅 cherish it
The one about the son getting dropped off the parents' health insurance policy hit so hard. My ex insisted I had Munchhousers (that's probably not how you spell it, sorry) by proxy so he dropped our daughter off his health insurance without telling me. Turned out she has a rare condition called autoimmune encephalitis and needed very expensive treatment. Long story short, by the time we realized he'd dropped her off the insurance so I'd "quit taking her to all these appointments she doesn't need", the bill I received from the hospital was $280,000 USD and she's not even finished her treatments yet. It's about $20,000 USD per treatment and she'll need a total of 15 to 18 additional treatments yet.
i had to go back and make sure that said "ex" because holy shit
You should talk to a lawyer, because that sounds like deliberate neglect of the child. Also any doctors' offices/clinics/hospitals should've made you aware if they weren't able to bill insurance after being provided with insurance information.
(It's "Munchausen" btw)
Honestly the diary thing is why I always have my phone on me and hate leaving tabs open at the computer. I'm rarely doing anything worthy of hiding, but my parents have snooped into my stuff and gotten irrationally upset a few too many times.
Holy shit are we twinning?
But in all seriousness, that sucks bro
I now can't give my phone to anyone for fear they look at my deleted search history of gallery and find out anything about me. (I have major trust issues from my parents)
My mother looked through my Chromebook without asking or telling me, lied when I asked her if she'd looked at it, and later admitted to looking at it and going through my tabs... (the funny thing is that she didn't know how to use it and had gone through my bookmarks instead, I knew someone had been on it so I could ask her because all my bookmarked pages had been opened and every time I pressed the back button it would take me to my next bookmark lmaooooo)
Everytime I think my parents are bad, I watch videos like this. I realise they aren't that bad after all.
I understand, but make sure ur not downplaying urself.
They can still be bad, just not by comparison, which is how a lot of parents get away with abuse
That can be true, but even if it's not as huge as these stories it can still be abuse
That may be true, but you still have the right to improve your own situation. "Not as bad as terrible people" doesn't mean it isn't bad though.
Kinda wish my sister would see these. She thinks my mom has been absolutely terrible and refuses to let my mom have contact with her grandchildren.
This is the woman who raised us single handedly after my father left the picture around middle school after having to find a job for the first time ever since my dad wanted to be SoLe PrOViDeR for the family 🙄.
When my sister got pregnant at 19 with her abusive ex she didn't kick her out. She helped get things for the new baby. Helped pick my niece up from child care when my sister couldn't because she was trying to work. Helped with home repairs and the moving processes when my sister finally got her own place. Continued to offer "phone babysitting" when my sister moved out of the city and my preschool aged neice had to sit in the employee room while my sister worked to keep my niece entertained. Canceled plans last minute to babysit.
My mom wasn't perfect, no parent is. But she did her best to be supportive and let my sister make her shitty decisions without judgment while letting her know that mom would be there to help wherever she needed it. But apparently that was all toxic behavior on my mom's part.
The password journal one hit wayyyy too close to home. I had a locked journal entry online that was somehow attached to my email and my parents (who shouldn't have been in my email/gmail, didn't tell me they had access to my email, and definitely shouldn't have been reading my private notes) read it. I was about 12 and had written about how hard and confusing it is to be abused by a father and family you still manage to love. They immediately confronted me about it and not only gaslit me by telling me what I lived through "wasn't" abuse, but told me never to tell anyone what was going on because it "could get them sent to jail". 7 years later, my mother is only JUST starting to admit that my dad is abusive (and my brother is following in his footsteps) and that my trauma is, in fact, trauma. I myself am only beginning to stop gaslighting myself and call things for what they are. I really regret not sticking to my gut feelings; the fact that my dad at least appeared to genuinely think he could be arrested for "not" abusing me should have raised red flags. Emotional abuse is still abuse. I'm glad I haven't let myself ignore that.
Congrats on the award, Click! You earned it. c:
On a more serious note, my deepest sympathies to anyone that has to suffer with parents like those shown in this video. Just know that you're more valuable than they will ever admit and you deserve better. Hang in there and build a support network with those you can trust to fill the role your parents aren't fit for.
thanks voretias
@@strangevol5264haha, *funny*
@@Aaron_NEO It made me laugh so they've got that going for them. lol
Hello! Sorry for a non-personalized reply, but I'm too tired to bother right now.
So, I'm going through the first 69 comments, and telling them what placement they are! Like, first, second, third, 4th, 5th, etc. As for you, you are the 41st
@@Just_a_commenterlol
When my grandfather found my diary he forced me to read it out loud and then forced me to tear it up. I didn't keep a journal again until I moved out. This was not even the worse thing he did to me growing up, so you can imagine how unsympathetic and indifferent I feel to hear his health is failing now he has entered his 70's after decades of chain smoking and alcoholism. I'm just waiting for the good news at this point.
It’s hard to believe parents like these exist. I am now reconsidering every time a classmate told me they wished my parents were their parents because I always took it as a joke. Looking back, it was always some moment where my mom or dad would do something nice that I took for granted as being a normal parent thing that I couldn’t fathom other kids didn’t get from theirs.
As someone with an uncommon, non-english name I feel very secure knowing he will never uncomfortably, flirtily say my name and stare at the camera.
Or will he?
@@ameliasellers6396 [insert the rock raising an eyebrow with that overbearing sound effect]
Same
I kind of can relate to the journal thing. My parents are far away from abusive, but it did happen that they found my notes and private stuff and read it and then i got in trouble. So i text everything important to my best friend, the only one i would trust with that. Basically i use this chat as a journal and show it to my therapist when needed. This is the best solution i could come up with and it works just fine for me
Dear, ruining your child's privacy is a type of mental abuse. I hope you're doing better now
My family has a great way of dealing with lights/doors/tech being left idle or in some unsatisfactory way. Gremlins. We pretend that little creatures changed things rather than blame anyone in the family. The most common was saying that the Gremlins had turned up the car radio inbetween drives. Even though everyone knew who was driving and blasting it last. It meant we could all laugh about it rather than get salty at each other.
I say ghosts did it. Everyone forgets something small at some point in time, I don't understand how yelling about it will fix anything.
My mom should have the spotlight in this. You wouldn’t believe how much of a emotionally/mentally abusive, and a controlling mother she is. I’m 18 and I’m too scared to make my own decisions because of her and yes, she drives me insane. I’m grateful for the videos you post though, they bring much joy to me, like a light shining through a dark tunnel. You’re amazing, you definitely deserved the reward.
Hugs for you
I had so little privacy as a child that I never felt that I could keep a journal for fear of my parents reading it and get angry over me having feelings. I also can't have a conversation on the phone about personal things around other people cause one time I tried to tell a friend about an abusive situation and after I got off the phone I found out my parents had over heard and yelled at me for it.
My dad would always poke at my insecurities in front of my siblings, but not when we were alone. He would joke and say I was fat, ugly, dumb, female in all kinds of ways. And whenever I almost cried, he would say "looks like someone's on their period!" Then if no one else was laughing, he'd say "come on, it was a joke." And at the end of the day by ourselves, he'd say "you know I still love you right?" Somehow that just broke me. I'm glad I'm not young and questioning myself anymore.
It's terrible that you had to go through that. It sounds so demoralizing and hostile. I'm glad that you believe yourself. Recovering from those attacks is a trial in itself. I hope that you are as well as can be. Take care.
That man whose DNA you have sounds like Utter Garbage.
I hope you are recovering. And I believe that you are totally within your rights to cut contact with him.
You are loved, you are valued and you deserve better, I hope you find/have found that betterness. ❤
Jesus
Holy sh*t. That’s horrible-I really hope he mends his ways- mental abuse is the opposite of what parents ought to be doing. Hope you are in a better situation now, and are happy!
bro my parents constantly went through my phone and messages and would yell at me for shit, then even smashed my phone in front of me. out of there now but jeez that was hell. still trying to get to where i can talk to people comfortably again. been almost 2 years that ive been moved out now. shit gets better people, dont give in
Jeez. Glad you got out !!
Don't feel bad if you still struggle with everyday tasks or socialisation or whatever. It's only been 2 years. You have decades of trauma and struggles to overcome.
Don't beat yourself too hard, your pace is yours alone, and as long as you're constantly getting better and improving, then the pace is fine by all means.
@@GreyPunkWolf thank you, thats super comforting :))
My "parents" did similar shit. I feel bad how much I still tense up whenever someone, even my partner, touches my stuff on how much trauma of them not letting me have that privacy caused. Being able to socialize with others somewhat "comfortably" took many years of being out of that situation. I hope things continue to get better for you
@@randomtinypotatocried oh yeah i understand that, hope it continues to get better you as well
One thing that can help with recovering the ability to socialize is to put yourself in small, low-stakes situations for socializing.
If you have a friend you trust and who'll help you, tell them about what your "parents" did to you and ask for some assistance practicing socializing.
You want to replace those bad experiences with successes, and small successes are good at laying a foundation.
this has been repeated countless times but we gotta say it again for the people in the back,
all kids deserve parents, some parents don't deserve kids
Not-so-fun diary related story: I was a very troubled teenager with a huge inferiority complex, as a result my diary was pretty scandalous, partly because I really was a little shit, but mainly because it was massively exaggerated, more a reflection of what I wished I was cool enough to do than an accurate description of reality. Anyway, it turned out my mother regularly read it, but never said anything, which must have taken enormous restraint. The problem came when she was dying and I was supposed to go live with my aunt and uncle as I'd only just turned 16. I know my mother read the diary because she told my aunt about it, who read it and kicked me out literally the day of the funeral 3 days after Xmas and I haven't had a family ever since. I guess my mother massively overestimated how much my aunt loved me and was willing to accept. So yeah, that's how a largely fabricated journal destroyed what was left of my life.
I'm so sorry.
I hope you've been able to recover from it. And succeed.
And when that particular aunt of yours is in the hospital dying, may I suggest you go and visit her, and tell her that she's a massive cvnt for throwing a 16 year old out on the street 3 days after their mother died. I believe that would be considered child-abuse in several states in the US.
You said the story was fun :(
@@John_Weiss I'm British, here you're considered responsible for yourself at 16, which I'd just turned. It was really bad timing. Made worse by it all being kinda sprung on me as my mother didn't tell me she was dying til like 2 days before (to be fair, I definitely should have known, in hindsight it was very obvious, but she told me she was going to be ok and I for some reason believed that completely, I was not a smart child). Thank you, I'm ok, it was a long time ago now, I've more or less made my peace with it.
@@SoVidushi meh, it's *kinda* funny in a very dark way, a made up diary I didn't even know anyone knew about doing so much damage, but I actually did genuinely mean to put quotation marks around "fun"😂
@@laurabXOTWOD i guess it is funny, still sorry that happened, hope ure okay. Take care
Oh god, my old roommate blamed us for something going missing once, and spelled out "thief" with my fridge magnets instead of being an adult about it. The airpod mom made me full blown flashback lmao
...
The idea of an Emotional Support Demon in a D&D campaign is tempting...
A non-hostile demon creature that steals souls, only to find out what ails them most and give the souls back with those worries missing. Or rather than fight with fire and hell-spawn, they 'attack' with warm hugs and counceling.
And it ends up as basically a therapy dog for the party
Maybe it comes to the party in one of the player's downest days. Say they finished a dungeon, and the barbarian only got a +1 hand axe, while the fighter got a +2 longsword, and all the spellcasters either got a +2 spellcasting focus or a necklace of fireballs or something.
The dm asks the barb player, commenting on seeing them down when they completed a difficulty higher than what they should have been dungeon, and the barb tells them that he was expecting something cool. This barb also has dipped into a phantom rouge, and has the maximum soul trinkets they have.
The next session, they come across a hell metal and brimstone carriage that stops next to them. As expected, when you see a demon, everyone attacks, but all the attacks just phase through it, maybe small petty revenge for teasing the barb damages the players, but the demon disarms the barb of his +1 hand axe
And gives him back a +3 battle-axe, or a +2 b-a and a ring of psychic resistance or something, then initiative stops forcibly. He tells the party that he will sell his wares to them for personal trauma stories, their deepest fears and experience them in a extra dimensional pocket, being let out when they ask for help, or the typical souls of the wicked. While the others may or may not share those things, the barb has souls to trade, and gets some other good stuff, or stuff that helps build a particular build they've been trying at for the longest while.
After all is said and done, the carriage burns to nothing... As are their fears, trauma, and burdens of the blood on their hands
This was good for me right now. I have just cut contact with my family for the time being, and it does make me feel a bit lonely. These posts remind me that I made the right decision. I am autistic with more support needs than many autists you meet in the wild, and between my mother constantly telling me every thing I am doing wrong, and my father complaining that I am not getting better, I am just drained. I had a house fire last week (nothing bad, but still a big shock), and spending a weekend with my family was just too much.
Just remember, when/if you do get in contact with them again, it's very important to let them know how they make you feel when they say harmful things to you. If you do that and they keep pulling their BS, that'll make the decision to permanently cut ties with them much easier.
If you do ever make contact with them again (which is entirely optional), be sure to set boundaries and let them know your limits. Best of luck to you.
Honestly, I understand the person who is trying out pronouns. My parents are very homophobic and I was thinking of trying out she/they. I am also a lesbian and asexual.
Thank you for being respectful and supportive of everyone. You always cheer me up and make me feel better about myself.
Thank you and congratulations on your award＼(^o^)／
Edit: thank you all for the likes!!!
bUt WhAt If ItS jUsT a PhAsE?!!!
Don't you know that trying out pronouns causes a slow horrible death if you later choose that wasn't right for you and you go back or try something else lol
Yooo I’m ace too! Keep going pal, you’re doing great despite your situation!
@@Scarlett.Granger are you being satire or..?
@@Yu-jiSenna I'm so happy to see someone else who's ace, thanks for the support!
@@Scarlett.Granger o_o
I never kept a journal because I'm trans and queer and have always known. My parents snooped heavily already and I was terrified to write most of my true thoughts and feelings down with how evangelical my parents were/are. It was for these same reasons I always resisted anesthesia whenever possible. I didn’t want to say anything that would expose myself as who I was accidentally while coming out of it.
I like how you mentioned the "if you are feeling iffy, than just stay home" comment. Our kids have had one bad school year so far and the high school was upset that we were keeping our kid home because they were coughing and had no energy, we tested and not covid but the school was seriously threatening us with truancy if she didn't get back within a set time limit. Today our child wasn't feeling that great but the fever was gone and I said to go and if they still didn't feel to good after a while to go to the nurse and call us to come get them. The nurse made them stay at school. I am kinda pissed about this, considering how we still have a big issue in the US.
Ah, the American Dream. Doesn't matter if they're sick and dying, they can be sick and die at school. Our school had a cancer patient and the principal got unreasonably upset that she would have to miss time for treatments. Obviously, he couldn't do shit. But he hated her for no reason, and would make snide remarks towards her 'lack of attendance'
Whenever Click mentions how he was a teacher, I can't help but imagine him going into a classroom like: "Hello class I'm Clickky Thicchy Witty UWU".
Hello! Sorry for a non-personalized reply, but I'm too tired to bother right now.
So, I'm going through the first 69 comments, and telling them what placement they are! Like, first, second, third, 4th, 5th, etc. As for you, you are the 59th!
@@kittydemonoverkill me 😂😂😂😂
@@kittydemonoverkill but... Why?
My bio mom is an insane parent, she blamed I missed my abuser (ex step dad) and that's why I was uncomfortable with my brothers talking to him over the phone.
Thanks mom, that was in 2019, I haven't forgotten about those words you said 🤗💜 (Also I'm fine, I live with my bio dad now)
I'm glad you're in a better environment now! I hope he's a good parent.
The first one's mother has been probably told off by that person's brother and father, so now she's looking for the next victim
I came from a family where my dad was the guy who said "Happy 18th birthday, all the bills are in your name". He also preached that whole responsibility, job, etc... like all dads do. Every time I went out for a job, he did his thing telling me how horrible the place I was applying to was while also saying how great it was that I was seeking employment there in a way where I decided to just throw the application out... so he could keep being oh-so-helpful in supporting me. Fast forward a bit. Each time one of us turned 18, the same thing. It turned out, my dad stole every one of our identities and used it, more than just transferring bills, decades "before it was cool". When I finally broke away from my dad, on top of some eh... issues... related to my falling apart, I also had to file bankruptcy for far more money than I currently make in several years' pay. Finding any landlord that would rent to me was quest on its own because my name was obvious that I was my dad's firstborn son. I lived a lot of my life as a criminal, outside of the system, with my dad's encouragement, so going straight was a hard transition and I didn't even know how badly he legally f^cked me for a LOT of years. When I was 18 to 24, I didn't legally exist except for what he was using my identity for. He did the same to my younger brothers.
When I turned my life around to become a boring tax-paying square after I got help for a HUGE moment of falling apart, he tried guilting me for "making him look bad" by flagging my ID as stolen to try to recover it... that's how I found out he was the ID thief. There, to this day, is a LOT more stink because he still (from time to time) tries to use my name, SSN, and DOB to leech from that.
Those insane parents are funny, some are POS's. Try being the son of a Dr.Workhorse / Mr. Hyde Scammer who was 27 when you were born who also felt like beating his oldest kid was okay (not spanking, literally kicking his ^ss) and defending pervert relatives who abuse you because somehow it's your fault.
Yeah, having most of these parents would be an upgrade for me. I'd have to say this positive thing about my dad. He was an awesome, perfect 10/10 dad... for the kind of total POS he was who should not even be trusted with the life of a pet, even a goldfish, that he was and is.
When I was a teenager, I kept a journal and a few vent drawings in my closet because I was struggling mentally, but I was trying to work it out on my own before I sought out help. My mother decided to snoop and she found it, and the way she went about confronting it was having her friend tackle me (which gave me permanent rib damage) and force me to talk about it with them. I get the concern but that’s not the way to go about it man
Hope you doing better,Do you still taik to your parents?
@@villaintoon2350 I do, they’re getting better but I’m still pissed off for how they handled it 😭
@@lemonwhipp As you should be.
They had no right to do that to you.
rib damage… 💀
those are really bad parents if they break your bones/limbs for having personal stuff
When I went off to college, me and my mom's relationship got strained for a little bit as we tried to balance out this new step in my life. It took some time (almost my entire first year), but we now have gotten back to having a good relationship. Being able to mature and change your relationship with your children is so, so important. If that relationship had continued, I probably would've cut my mom out of my life eventually, but I'm so thankful that I now have a good relationship with her.
Everyone, once they're living on their own as an independent adult, needs to renegotiate their relationship with their parents from "parent-child" to "adult-adult".
It also didn't help that I'm more independent then my older sibling. She treated us both like adults, but my sibling needed more help then me in general. Once we found a rhythm that was right for both of us was when our relationship got better.
The screenshot of the mother complaining about her kids not wanting to take pictures is a scary combination of my parents. My parents aren’t too bad, but my mom constantly acts like a victim when I don’t want to take pictures, and my father has continuously threatened to take away all of the Christmas presents and donate them if my siblings and I don’t behave. Not to mention he has physically abused me on multiple occasions, not to mention treating me like a ten year old since the age of 12. I’m almost 16 and a half. Last year, when he found out I was watching RUclips, he attacked me and literally gave me a panic attack. Not to mention that they made me delay my schoolwork because of this whole thing. It’s exhausting having to walk on eggshells around him.
It sounds like they are too bad
@@Alexander59059 I second that.
I promise that you won't feel this powerless forever. 😞 just survive each day the best you can, and if they do something to you that you aren't sure is legal, tell your most trusted teacher or another adult, anyone who can help you figure it out. Hang in there. 🖤
My parents are like this, can’t ask them a questions or socialize with them without feeling like I should be guilty about a questioning I’m asking
I feel that, and now I don't celebrate christmas with my parents anymore
Bro when Click starts laughing it always makes me explode a lung trying not to laugh with him. If I laugh my grandmother will be like, "DO YOUR SCHOOLWORK", so I just sit here and die.
Hello! Sorry for a non-personalized reply, but I'm too tired to bother right now.
So, I'm going through the first 69 comments, and telling them what placement they are! Like, first, second, third, 4th, 5th, etc. As for you, you are the 54th!
@@kittydemonoverkill Not necessarily the earliest I've ever been, but I'm glad I got here before 100. Also, go get some rest. You deserve it.
@@rottenriver394 I'll finish the video first, but thank you! I am actually in achool right now, though, so I gotta get through that before I can rest.
@@kittydemonoverkill Well, good luck with school, and have a good day. :)
*Well, if you insist~*
God, about the journals, recently my mother found out I hear voices. I never told her about them and never wanted to since all the trauma and issues were caused by her and it’s her voice that always haunts me. I didn’t want to talk to her and just avoided talking to her by going to work early. She then called me, and left a voice mail threatening to drive to my work, force me out and force me into a mental institution if I don’t talk to her about. I explained to her I just don’t want to talk. The next day she pulled me into her room and tried to get me to talk about it again claiming that “it involves her cause I live in her house and could be about her safety”. I still refused to talk to her and she’s now extremely offended. She’s assuming I’m schizophrenic and that my therapist isn’t diagnosing me properly and should get a new one. I played her voicemail for my therapist and he couldn’t even finish it and called my mother abusive and said I had reasonable grounds to call the cops for adult abuse. I am 25.
Yes I have issues and A LOT of them but I work on them and regularly talk to a therapist.
holy shit i hope you took the therapist up on their offer
@@CakeofRage i understand how shes treated me is not right and can’t be justified but at the end of the day, shes still my mom. She’s not perfect. She has her own demons and trauma she deals with in her own way. I believe it’s how your raised and the time era she grew up with. I can’y defend her actions but slowly im putting my foot down on things in a way she’ll slowly be able to see and understand.
She is and always will be my hero. I’d rather try to take things slow and work it out together
I used to keep journals as a kid, but my brother would find and look through them, we shared a room so no matter where I hid them, he would always find it and read it. I wrote down all my secrets and feelings in my journal and so it crushed me when he looked into it and told all his friends. I never kept journals since then
8:25 really hit home. Privacy is such an issue for me because my parents wouldn’t let me have it. I still get anxious when people look over my shoulder just cuz I feel like I’m being evaluated
The sadness that comes with having a one of a kind name, knowing Cliky wicky will never comment on how amazing Voiden smells :'(
you never know...
@@idislikemints That sounds so oddly ominous. I'm suddenly afraid.
Time to boost this comment by another reply--
Well, while you're waiting for your dedicated intro we all know that Voiden looks and smells absolutely amazing today :)
@@isacocca3187 well looks like I've chosen death by wholesomeness /lh
26:52 Translation: "I tried to force my kids to put on a Happy Family act and fake smiles for a picture to post on Facebook, but they showed their real feelings of annoyance at being pulled around like puppets, and now I'm pissed! How DARE they have thoughts and act on their own?! How am I supposed to get validation if I don't post a bunch of fake happy pictures to get likes??"
I know this because my mom did the same fuckin' thing. I hated my step dad and didn't like my step brothers, she knew it, but still made us pose for Christmas pictures every year. I look dead inside in every single one.
My parents got me a therapist that would come to my school and one time he gets this pained look on his face and pulls out MY FREAKING JOURNAL and says that my folks want me to talk about certain issues.
He handed it back and told me to maybe hide it better.
So after that I did hide it much better but I also kept a false journal out for them to find.
It was literally filled with gibberish and the most bizarre and random nonsense.
Thanks for the advice Mike 😂
He was an awesome therapist, and a good person.
There are parents who look through their kids’ journals, and it’s such a trust-destroying invasion of privacy, but can we just talk about how that one grandmother took a knife to a password-protected journal because she was just *that* obsessed with knowing everything about a child’s personal life?
There’s obsessive and over-protective helicoptering, and then there’s THAT. I really hope that poster has gotten the chance to enter therapy, because you know that’s not anywhere close to the worst thing that grandmother did.
My grandma said something that has always stuck in my head to the principal at my high school when a teacher i was questioning what he was saying the he saw as me jusy disrespecting his authority.And i hope more people can learn this because its helpful. When explaining what happened i didnt lie or omit any part i didnt have to lie to her. And that was "i trust my granddaughter and you guys didnt disagree with what she said happened.Since shes right, i think the lesson here is for your teacher to learn that STANDING UP FOR YOURSELF TO AUTHORITY DOESN'T EQUAL DISRESPECT. Adults are wrong all the time and you shouldn't be able to make up new rules because you don't like being challenged, If you want respect show respect. Just because youre an adult doesnt mean you shouldnt show children especially teens respect. if you dont all youre showing them how to to give respect but not how to recieve respect and how to know when to draw the line and standup for themselves, and i am NOT going to have a socially anxious and people pleasing grandchild that would rather be walked all over than stand up for herself." It was amazing i got moved from that teacher to another class. Turns out he was singling me out because i look exactly like my mom and he assumed i was just like her and that i was slower than the rest of the class without realizing because i went to a french school till the 10th grade and in some subjects never learned the english equivalent words that arent typically used. Sure i know all the parts of a cell just not in english and since the teacher didnt know french it looked like gibberish to him and he assumed i was making stuff up. French was only offered as an elective at my new school and the stuff they were learning in grade 12 i learned in grade 5, but no teenager is taking the time to translate everything and doing effectively double homework.
Just Remember: It has been shown that there is a correlation between being monolingual and developing dementia.
If you could find that teacher, and track down one of the studies, and you want to put in the effort, send him that study with a letter saying, "Thank you so much for assuming I was stupid because I'm bilingual but only knew the French scientific terms. But I take consolation in this study, knowing that I'm less likely to develop dementia than your arrogant monolingual ass. Have fun getting old!"
But, that's just me.
You hit the nail on the head click, it really "clicked" when you were talking about the bad actors(groomers in the case of some parts of the LGBT movement) going into a movement and using it for their own nefarious ends. It happens a lot and really exemplifies the old phrase "one bad apple spoils the bunch"; sometimes it can be more than one group infiltrating even.
Seriously I was trying to come up with a succinct way of saying it and you did it, thanks!
When I was younger, my mom tried to get me into journaling. SHE never read them, but my sister would take both my used and unused journals and read them and draw in them and tear them apart, and then tell my mom what she'd read. I remember one time, after my mom got me an Elsa journal for Christmas(my sister got an Anna one, it's not like she didn't have one) and my sister had opened it, broken the pens in the pack, and drawn in and torn apart the journal. I remember crying and showing it to my mom, and she was upset at my sister, but she didn't punish her because she was 'so little and didn't know better'
She was 7.
Ahh. The trials and tribulations of the elder child. I feel you.
7:55 my step mother did the same thing. I didnt know she was reading my journal (that she got for me) until she went to my dad crying about how i wrote step mother when talking about her instead of mom/mother. I was forced to apologize to her for hurting her feelings in my own journal.
This incident was my first realization that i couldn't trust her. And i never did after, and i have been unable to write in journals since
Hi Click. I've been subscribed to your channel since late 2019, these insane parents videos made me realize how abusive my parents have always been towards me. It's much worse now that I'm standing my ground but at least I no longer feel guilty over being a bad daughter like they made me believe my whole life. Thank you so much, click 💗
You are not a bad daughter.
They are bad parents.
@@John_Weiss thank you, I see that now
"I wasn't even serious" is a horrible excuse. My parents, especially my mom would make fun of me all the time, but once I grew older and called them out for it, they shamed me for being upset and thinking that they were actually serious.
There is a way to go about having a child without them having secrets from you, without invading their privacy. It's called being a really good parent, despite the world. I've been through a lot in the 16 years of my life, but not a single negative thing in relation to my parents. They were the only supports through all of it, and even in times where I was in the wrong, they supported me, got me out of the situation whilst still helping me to improve, making sure I know what I did was wrong.
In other words, to have your child keep no secrets from you, without invading their privacy, you have to do what it takes to have them truly trust you, and trust you enough to let you see their secrets. Sometimes, they might keep it to themself for a bit before sharing it with you, and when that happens, don't pry. Support them in their hurt, even if you don't know why they're hurting.
Not gonna lie, those journal stories reminded me of the time my sister read my diary and then proceeded to say ''There wasn't even anything interesting'' when I confronted her about it. Sure, I was young, so it was true, but that doesn't mean she had any right to do it, I've kept my thoughts and feelings to myself ever since.
…sis is that you? XD
I pulled this shit when I was a kid- elementary school. Obviously I learned but dang if I don’t feel bad remember this. Oof.
@@SyIzumakai Honestly, the fact that you learned already tells me you aren’t her. I actually confronted her about it after some years because I couldn’t help but feel like I couldn’t trust her still, not only did she continue to think she did nothing wrong, my family all sided with her and one of them even laughed at me. Still, I’m glad someone else who went through it was able to have some semblance of closure.
This happened a year an a half ago, but I am still really angry about it. I was invited to live with my gf and her parents for six months, but because their house was small, I only packed one small suitcase so I wouldn't take up too much space. Anways, two weeks into the trip I noticed something is off about my bag, my clothes and items are differnet to how I fold them. My gf's mother was talking to us and was like: "Oh yeah, the dog went through your bag so I rearranged everything" while giving me the "challenge me eyes". I didn't believe her for a second, and she knew it. Fast forwards to after my stay, she yells at my gf about how disrespectful it was to have me stay for 6 months without permission (again i had permission, and we had proof of text) and about the contents I had in my bag. I had some adult fun time toys (my gf and I were suppose to go on a romantic alone trip for a weekend, and they were very, very well hidden and deep into the suitcase, under many many layers). She also yelled because "I only brought one bag and it was dispresctful to wear the same few outfits for six months." My gf asked how she knew about the fun toys and the fucking mother yelled how she "Looked through my bag because it's her right, and she can do whatever she wants in her house". Both of us were fucking livid. So much more shit happened there, but if I ever see her again, I'm going to toss my bag on her lap and say: "Since you like going through other people's bags without permission, I thought I'd save you the trouble to wait." I will probably be screamed at, but I am still so fucking angry. She had no fucking right to go through my fucking stuff. If I had done that to her, she would have fucking murdered me. Luckily we are no low-contact due to her being an absuive, manipulative, narcassistc c**t, but it makes my blood boil. She still thinks what she did was okay. I am really glad though that I had put my passport and documents hidden, that way she wasn't able to get them. She's the kind of person to cut up documents/passports and place victim. I apologise if my english isn't the best, not my first langauage.
The award you got for the most plushies sold really made my day a lot better. Despite not being able to purchase one, I'm still happy knowing your happy & everyone else who bought one is happy ^^
i got one of those girltech voice protected password journals when i was like, 8
it was my prized possession for like a week before i found out my mom was mimicking my voice and guessing my passwords, she would ask me why i drew or wrote certain things, and when i asked her to stop she said i didn't need privacy. when i said i'd find out a password she couldn't guess, everyone laughed while she guessed different passwords i would use and mimicked my voice.
i had such a hard time writing down my feelings, which was the only way i could really verbalize them at all at the time. even when i started writing vents online, i kept getting afraid my mom would somehow find out and so I deleted them. i held my sketchbook close at all times and no one was allowed to touch it (nearly had a panic attack one time I realized I left it alone with another family member), and had secret complicated hiding places for all my drawings.
i only started to get completely comfortable writing down my thoughts when i finally got my second phone at 16-17, nearly a YEAR after I put my own password and fingerprint on it.
so yeah, don't go through your kids diaries lmao-
I don't know the whole story, but the way my dad explained it was when my grandparents passed away, they didn't leave a will behind and my mom has seven siblings, so all of em, excluding my mom and her younger sister, were basically at each other's throats trying to figure out who gets the money/property/stuff they left behind. This was around 6 or 7 years ago. And we still only have a positive relationship with my youngest aunt. The others haven't spoken to us since lol
I love insane parents posts. It's "uplifting" to know that there are people who are crazier than my parents. And it's good to listen to those stories to get some ideas on how to deal with my insane parents.
Yeah, it helped me realized my parents are just a bit crazy, not insane.
I have a diary story as well. Years ago when I was 15/16, I was really down. I had spend 3 months in a psychiatry due to depression and an unaliving attempt. It didn't really help me other than teaching me to mask it better but I had always been honest to my diary, which I kept in a bag inside another bag in my closet. a few months after I was back home my dad and stepmum sat me down and talked about how they considered sending me back for all the things I wrote in that book. I started writing pretend happier entries until I stopped completely. Needless to say I moved out when I was 18
Every kid deserves a parent
But not every parent deserves a kid
CLICCY
My bunny likes your voice, so we put on your vods when we have to leave the house so that he doesn't feel alone
It actually helps him a lot :)
Hello! Just wanted to say; that's adorable! Also, I'm going through the first 69 comments, and telling them what placement they are! Like, first, second, third, 4th, 5th, etc. As for you, you are the 51st!
that's adorable
BNUUYYYY
Or you could be a good bunny owner and get him actual company in the former of at least another bunny… keeping very social animals like bunnies as single animals is abuse.
@@gamingkitty6744 I didn't realize that with rabbits. I knew it was the case for ferrets
7:53 That’s such an unreal invasion of privacy. Thank you, Grandma, for the trust issues.
ive had a similar experience with the journal thing where i wasnt particularly good at expressing myself clearly, so my mum used to make me write a diary every day and read it out loud to her (good intentions not so good actions)
i probably express myself way worse now omg-
congrats for ur award :3 and everyone hope ur having a great day
Congrats on the award!!!
I’m looking forward to the rerelease of Mango too!!!
Also, as a parent, I was never this toxic. I did my best. My daughters are adults now and say I do a good job at loving them where they are, and not pressuring them to do more. Yes, I got us all emotional support demons and will be getting all three of us Mango.
My mom locking me into a room with her and refusing to let me leave until I told her what was "bothering me" is the reason why, to this day, over a decade later, I still can't spend any time alone with her. I have a visceral reaction where I go into fight or flight an had to actively try not to puke.
There’s community support and there’s getting an award for having a proactive fan base.
1:00 "Get Stuffed Today!!" Specifically by an emotional support demon uwu
Sending support to all in these comments who were forced to go NC with abusive parental units. Please know that you are not alone, and that it does get better!
So many parents seem to think “I am your parent so I own you”
15:25 I looked up Death by Toys, they make custom action figures, like Deadbeat Dad (an empty package) and post mugging Martha & Thomas Wayne (Batman's parents).
The only connection to this rant was probably their Adam & Steve action figure set.
Okay but this man is the only one who has gotten me to buy a plushie by just being so handsome, nice & making my days better
When he said we should get stuffed by the emotional support demon I truly felt something awaken inside me
Ah yes, the emotional support demon
The message at the end was so important. It really is so rare that a parent openly acknowledges that they are not entitled to their kids. As obvious as it seems, many just don’t act like seeing their kids is a privilege that their children have the right to withdraw. If I ever have kids, I really hope that I’m able to show them this, and reassure them that our relationship’s value comes from how we treat one another, not because their “supposed” to love me.
15:51 to 16:37 is such an amazing point. So many out groups get ridiculed by others due to this sort of thing. I’ve always tried to argue that you can’t let an individual’s actions speak for the whole of the group, and this point you made fits that very well.
9:20 I didn’t keep a diary until about November last year, because the last time I had one was 10 years ago, my mum found it, most the entries were about how she made me feel, she tore it up, screamed at me for making her out to be so horrible, and demanded I write nicer stuff about her
Thanks to Reddit posts like these I can actually see how awesome my parents are. I think the only thing that has even happened in my family that was negative was before my dad was medicated for depression and anxiety. He would commonly have huge outbursts of rage towards me, my sisters, and my mom. That went on until I was like 9 maybe? Even me and mom still occasionally talk about how calm he is now and how we don't have to be afraid to talk back to him as much. He still gets mad, sure, but everyone does. He just doesn't blow up and knows when to separate himself from the situation physically. Now I know I can tell him to cool off without being scared of getting yelled at.
Therapy and getting professional help is not only beneficial to you, but possibly to others around you. Don't be afraid to reach out.
I know for a fact that my parents would never go through my journal, but just hearing these stories (along with having anxiety) makes me feel so freaked out that someone else might do this to me. ;-;
"Smile for the photo!"
"You look like you're dying, actually smile"
I don't really like smiling for photos or being in them at this point.
Who else here hates being in photos?
I am so, so glad that I got a pair of completely reasonable and rational parents, but I still hate doing things like keeping journals or talking about my feelings because of how easy it would be for someone to find it, even if they wouldn’t care. My mom has tried to convince me to make a journal several times, but the most I ever wrote about in it was the day’s events, and I have always HATED talking about my emotions (especially after getting tangled up with a friend who turned out to be an incredibly toxic person)
How can someone so curse be so completely wholesome and supportive? You are amazing, my good man. Keep up the good work, never stop being awesome