So timely! I feel overwhelmed because I'm trying to accomplish what God has for me, but I feel like everyone expects me to drag them along with me. I'm the "responsible one" out of 7 children. So everyone, including my parents, come to me when they can't figure something out. Its exhausting carrying my load along with their expectation for me to fix everything.
Your message was on point for me. I told myself last week, i need to learn how to shut my mouth, mind my own business and close my pocket book!! Thank you for this confirmation that applies for in my personal life and my business too. Awesome message keep them coming.
this came right on time. I have this problem at work. I always seem to be the "go to" or "get it done" person at work. They all know that i will get the job done, but in reality I am enabling the others from doing what they need to do. It was really confirmed when my coworker that i sit next to had a client with her and they were filling out an application for a volunteer position for him to apply. She asked me to re read what they wrote as a summary for the position. When i read it i noticed that something needed to be changed in the verbiage. As i (we) were sitting there trying to figure out what needed to be changed, i noticed she (coworker) really sat back (not trying to assist with figuring out what was missing) waiting for me to figure it out. When i noticed this, i just said yeah theres something missing and got up and left the room. She clearly was waiting on me to fix. This happens to me a lot at work. I am now trying to be more aware of this and stay in my own lane. Thank you i needed this.
Great video! There have been moments when I am with a group of people (starting a new inter-department work project) who I have never met before and they all stop and look at me when the question comes up "who wants to take the lead?" Also I have been volunteered repeatedly for the worst work tasks by management, which has given me a reputation to finish things. I was given a leadership position two weeks into a new job--everyone has been there at least 15 years longer than I have been. I am not afraid of confrontation and I always say "someone else can do it", "I am not your only employee", "this has to stop, I am overwhelmed", "I can't oversee my teammates, I am not a manager." and the list goes on and on.
Don't enable others or hold them back Allow others to be responsible Avoid confrontation- acknowledge it and have the conversation Resentful or bitter- unexpressed anger Respect the #boundaries
This was so helpful. I worry myself sick over my younger sister and the problems in her life; her husband and daughter with mental health issues which are causing huge financial issues for her. I need to step back and mind my own business and take care of myself and let her take care of herself and her family. I’m not married and don’t have children. I’m 65 and she’s 59. Enough right? She’s a big girl and has survived without me butting in for all of these years. 😊. Time to focus on me and get myself together. So glad I found your videos. Do you by any chance have a podcast?
You have such great messages. Have you ever thought of going live on Periscope? or even asking for a like,share & subscribe? Your channel is needed by so many. Anyway , thanks for the help you give to so many.
i’m the youngest sibling of 6 and everything is put on me to get done. i mean i even have to feed these people. what do i do? my parents tell me i do to much but they are working and nothing gets done around here! i mean i go grocery shopping and the only person who ever feed THEIR pets!!! what do i do??
if i just stop then they will tell me i need to do it and what do i say to them? dishes wouldn’t get done, laundry would be everywhere, and they’ll be buying out because i’ll stop cooking that garbage will pile up
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So timely! I feel overwhelmed because I'm trying to accomplish what God has for me, but I feel like everyone expects me to drag them along with me. I'm the "responsible one" out of 7 children. So everyone, including my parents, come to me when they can't figure something out. Its exhausting carrying my load along with their expectation for me to fix everything.
"Resentment is nothing more than anger that has not been expressed." thank you
Your message was on point for me. I told myself last week, i need to learn how to shut my mouth, mind my own business and close my pocket book!! Thank you for this confirmation that applies for in my personal life and my business too. Awesome message keep them coming.
this came right on time. I have this problem at work. I always seem to be the "go to" or "get it done" person at work. They all know that i will get the job done, but in reality I am enabling the others from doing what they need to do. It was really confirmed when my coworker that i sit next to had a client with her and they were filling out an application for a volunteer position for him to apply. She asked me to re read what they wrote as a summary for the position. When i read it i noticed that something needed to be changed in the verbiage. As i (we) were sitting there trying to figure out what needed to be changed, i noticed she (coworker) really sat back (not trying to assist with figuring out what was missing) waiting for me to figure it out. When i noticed this, i just said yeah theres something missing and got up and left the room. She clearly was waiting on me to fix. This happens to me a lot at work. I am now trying to be more aware of this and stay in my own lane. Thank you i needed this.
Great video! There have been moments when I am with a group of people (starting a new inter-department work project) who I have never met before and they all stop and look at me when the question comes up "who wants to take the lead?" Also I have been volunteered repeatedly for the worst work tasks by management, which has given me a reputation to finish things. I was given a leadership position two weeks into a new job--everyone has been there at least 15 years longer than I have been. I am not afraid of confrontation and I always say "someone else can do it", "I am not your only employee", "this has to stop, I am overwhelmed", "I can't oversee my teammates, I am not a manager." and the list goes on and on.
This is what I feel sometimes, I get overwhelmed.
"Resentment is anger that hasn't been expressed."
Don't enable others or hold them back
Allow others to be responsible
Avoid confrontation- acknowledge it and have the conversation
Resentful or bitter- unexpressed anger
Respect the #boundaries
Such an insightful perspective for parents!!!! Valorie you need to take this perspective to Tedx
Thank you so very much, I drank it all.
Spot on!!! especially #6..Thanks
Wow she just woke me up to why I feel like I do about feeling put on, thank you 🙏🏼
This was so helpful. I worry myself sick over my younger sister and the problems in her life; her husband and daughter with mental health issues which are causing huge financial issues for her. I need to step back and mind my own business and take care of myself and let her take care of herself and her family. I’m not married and don’t have children. I’m 65 and she’s 59. Enough right? She’s a big girl and has survived without me butting in for all of these years. 😊. Time to focus on me and get myself together. So glad I found your videos. Do you by any chance have a podcast?
I really can rexognize this in myself. My mother gave me way too much responsibility in my family.
Very helpful perspectives! Thank you!!🌟
This video hit the spot, thanks so much.
You have such great messages. Have you ever thought of going live on Periscope? or even asking for a like,share & subscribe? Your channel is needed by so many. Anyway , thanks for the help you give to so many.
Very well said. Thanks
Thank you soo much 💓 dear 💗 do make such videos 📹 more
Have clear #boundaries that are respected.
yep i am, totally stress, this is blocking me to get promotion. All wat you said is 100% true
Nice one 👍👌
i’m the youngest sibling of 6 and everything is put on me to get done. i mean i even have to feed these people. what do i do? my parents tell me i do to much but they are working and nothing gets done around here! i mean i go grocery shopping and the only person who ever feed THEIR pets!!! what do i do??
if i just stop then they will tell me i need to do it and what do i say to them? dishes wouldn’t get done, laundry would be everywhere, and they’ll be buying out because i’ll stop cooking that garbage will pile up
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