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my ex and i started talking every single day a week after the break up. i have asked to call him but he let me down. i have asked me meet up several times but he said no.
It sounds like your ex may not be emotionally ready yet to have that level of conversation yet. For now, you can continue using a platform that is working for both of you.
My ex hmu after 3 years, we had 2 conversations (over text) over a month (which went very well) and on the second one I suggested meeting up to which she agreed but wanted to talk first. I can across way too needy and pushy to work things out on the phone. To which she responded with ghosting. It’s been 5 weeks and I just broke no contact and apologized for not being myself and she seemed unbothered, still sending messages. How do I suggest a meet up after that happened? And how long should I wait before asking?
Its work for 2time break up??? Last time i do some bad thing and she said never ever talk about realationship but if you have some question about some issue, you can ask, we arent enemy
It may work for a second breakup as long as you have worked on the core issues that affected the breakup. In that way, you both would avoid having another echo breakup.
I feel like it’s too late. I’ve been in communication with her multiple times, but eventually it has always ended badly. Most of the time it hasn’t been my fault, but last time it was.
Clay Andrews I apologised for everything that I’ve done, she forgave me and now we’re on good terms. Although I’m thinking I should go back into active no contact for a while. She opened up to me about a few things today, overall how she’s been feeling. I had a few friends of hers tell me she was doing great, but as it turns out that’s not true. But I do think this is probably a one day thing, and that she will fail to initiate contact unless I give her space. I’ve currently been left “read” and have no interest in forcing a response.
@Fuzzywuzz71 it seems like there's still an opportunity for us to work on your communication with her and gain her confidence back towards you. Would you like us to share some info on how you can do that?
Clay Andrews That would be great, Thanks. Although it really just seems like she wants nothing more than a friendship. It’s gnawing at my mind a little, she’s showing very little signs of sexual interest, and she’s overall just nice to everyone. It’s hard to find signs and trust them because everything just links to “she’s just being nice”. She knows I want more than a friendship, so maybe that’s the issue.
We talked twice after the no contact and had fun trough texting but now I don’t have any reasons to meet up with her, we were in a long distance relationship...
Hi my ex who I’ve been with for 2 years broke up with me in early June and it’s now late September he finally reached out for my birthday and we had a good conversation but he didn’t initiate again so his birthday is a week after mine so I wished him a happy birthday and again a good conversation but every time I bring up hanging out he dodges it and he still hasn’t initiated I have a feeling he is talking to other women should I continue to initiate or what
I met up with my ex 3 weeks ago she told me the things she has done she feels has put a nail on our relationship and if we try again she feels it will be the same....she brought that up not me... I told her you dont it will be the same shes also in a rebound....so that really confused what do I do??
Focus on the emotional connection. That is just how she feels now. Don’t worry about being in a relationship. Just be with them now. Let her know that isn’t on your agenda so she can feel okay interacting with you as a friend
@@feef5524 but she's in a rebound.... I feel like that day we met up and talked she was testing the waters? She admitted her faults and then said if we get back together she feels it will be the same. The thing is I have done alot of work on myself ....if she cant see that then that's something she will always question . I have tried to talk with but then she throw curves balls at me with mixed signals
Also why would she bring the relationship up?? Like why would she bring up IF we get back together she feels it will be the same if she wasnt having second thoughts..... she pretty much fed me breadcrumbs ..
Hi @Juan. before a meetup can happen, you have to be sure that you have gained the confidence and trust of your ex. Meaning, you have to go through interaction first before a possible meetup in the future can come into fruition. :-)
Thanks for watching. I know it's not for everyone, but here's where you can get in touch with me about the Communication Clinic: modlove.typeform.com/to/bnlHIr
my ex and i started talking every single day a week after the break up. i have asked to call him but he let me down. i have asked me meet up several times but he said no.
It sounds like your ex may not be emotionally ready yet to have that level of conversation yet. For now, you can continue using a platform that is working for both of you.
My ex hmu after 3 years, we had 2 conversations (over text) over a month (which went very well) and on the second one I suggested meeting up to which she agreed but wanted to talk first. I can across way too needy and pushy to work things out on the phone. To which she responded with ghosting. It’s been 5 weeks and I just broke no contact and apologized for not being myself and she seemed unbothered, still sending messages. How do I suggest a meet up after that happened? And how long should I wait before asking?
8:36 I like that you commemorate your grandmother.
Its work for 2time break up??? Last time i do some bad thing and she said never ever talk about realationship but if you have some question about some issue, you can ask, we arent enemy
It may work for a second breakup as long as you have worked on the core issues that affected the breakup. In that way, you both would avoid having another echo breakup.
@@ClayAndrews tnx man 🙏🌹 but when she said you can ask me if you have question, its means shes dosent want to having distanse with me?
I feel like it’s too late. I’ve been in communication with her multiple times, but eventually it has always ended badly. Most of the time it hasn’t been my fault, but last time it was.
I'm sorry to hear about that @Fuzzywuzz71 . It seems like we need to work on communication skills so we can develop healthy dynamics with her.
Clay Andrews I apologised for everything that I’ve done, she forgave me and now we’re on good terms. Although I’m thinking I should go back into active no contact for a while. She opened up to me about a few things today, overall how she’s been feeling. I had a few friends of hers tell me she was doing great, but as it turns out that’s not true. But I do think this is probably a one day thing, and that she will fail to initiate contact unless I give her space. I’ve currently been left “read” and have no interest in forcing a response.
@Fuzzywuzz71 it seems like there's still an opportunity for us to work on your communication with her and gain her confidence back towards you. Would you like us to share some info on how you can do that?
Clay Andrews That would be great, Thanks. Although it really just seems like she wants nothing more than a friendship. It’s gnawing at my mind a little, she’s showing very little signs of sexual interest, and she’s overall just nice to everyone. It’s hard to find signs and trust them because everything just links to “she’s just being nice”. She knows I want more than a friendship, so maybe that’s the issue.
@@Fuzzywuzz71 If she's not in the same emotional level as you, you can't expect sexual interests. @eli is right about working on communication first.
We talked twice after the no contact and had fun trough texting but now I don’t have any reasons to meet up with her, we were in a long distance relationship...
Hi my ex who I’ve been with for 2 years broke up with me in early June and it’s now late September he finally reached out for my birthday and we had a good conversation but he didn’t initiate again so his birthday is a week after mine so I wished him a happy birthday and again a good conversation but every time I bring up hanging out he dodges it and he still hasn’t initiated I have a feeling he is talking to other women should I continue to initiate or what
I met up with my ex 3 weeks ago she told me the things she has done she feels has put a nail on our relationship and if we try again she feels it will be the same....she brought that up not me... I told her you dont it will be the same shes also in a rebound....so that really confused what do I do??
Focus on the emotional connection. That is just how she feels now. Don’t worry about being in a relationship. Just be with them now. Let her know that isn’t on your agenda so she can feel okay interacting with you as a friend
@@feef5524 well I have tried that but I seem to be the one putting in the effort.....
Kel'se Breedlove that is how it is supposed to be at first. You are the one who wants the relationship back. They have moved on.
@@feef5524 but she's in a rebound.... I feel like that day we met up and talked she was testing the waters? She admitted her faults and then said if we get back together she feels it will be the same. The thing is I have done alot of work on myself ....if she cant see that then that's something she will always question . I have tried to talk with but then she throw curves balls at me with mixed signals
Also why would she bring the relationship up?? Like why would she bring up IF we get back together she feels it will be the same if she wasnt having second thoughts..... she pretty much fed me breadcrumbs ..
How can you meet with out a conversation
Hi @Juan. before a meetup can happen, you have to be sure that you have gained the confidence and trust of your ex. Meaning, you have to go through interaction first before a possible meetup in the future can come into fruition. :-)
Clay you look tired af! And you're gonna run a workshop on top of it? You need a break lol.
Thanks for your concern, ZW :-)
You made this March 2020. What a great time to meet up with someone in person. Not!