Robert is a turd receptacle. He got caught talking sh*t about his step daughter behind her back. She grew up her entire sentient life viewing him as her dad only to find out her never felt the same. With the betrayal she must have felt it's no wonder she can't "just move on." The worst part is he feels nothing about how much he hurt her.
@@rodrigorecio7715 she was hurt not stupid. Of course take the money, does not mean he has earned any respect back. H lost thst along time ago. Respect once lost can never be regained.
Robert said the quiet part out loud and it cost him big. Can't wait for part 2 when Robert gets upset when he's not allowed to see his not-his-real-grandchildren. Edit: No, she shouldn't have to pay him back for college. He would have paid if he hadn't been stupid enough to say what he did out loud. He was the one who was lying to her all her life and hurt her like that. He has only himself to blame.
@@formanga8871 So then you are saying my Brothers are not actually my Family? They are more my family than my extended "DNA Family" who are Family in Name only. Furthermore, are spouses really family then? Your mentality is a very dangerous one.
@@MWB18 Did I said you brother is not your family? But DNA absolutely determined family that's why it's used for paternity test, Also it's your opinion on blood related family not absolute norm.
@@formanga8871 I am not saying DNA is not important in determining paternity. My point is that to say that a Biological child is better or easier to love is just asinine. In this story, this person made it clear he thinks more of his biological children. In addition, there are people who say they could never love a non-biological child as much as their own biological children. This is just straight-up bigoted. I have never understood the obsession with sharing DNA.
As someone who's adopted it doesn't matter that I don't share dna with them, they're still my family. I can't even imagine what I'd feel if it ever came out that the people who loved and raised me never thought of me as their child.
The mother can not change how Robert feels. But I could not stay married to a man who raised my child for 18 years but told her she was not his "real" daughter. Mom needs a spine.They both are horrible people. Sarah overheard him say she was not his "real" child and not including her in a trip. And when they talked he destroyed the relationship completely by doubling down on it. Mom's solution was to ignore it and hope it went away. You do move on from that. She thought he loved her like his "real" daughter like she loved him as her father. However Sarah should repay him for her college etc since she views the relationship as broken.
@@formanga8871Why should she? He views her as not his "real" child, while she still feels that he's "papa" despite everything and all the hurt that causes her. He even wanted the privilege of walking her down the aisle even though he didn't view her as his.
I know that I would not love a step child the same I would love my biological children which is why I will never be a step father. What makes 0 sense is rasing someone from the age of 1 and not saying what the dude said. What a POS.
After hearing the story you have to blame the mother because she married a guy that will not accept the complete package he prefers his own blood over anything else I always will recommend people do not be in a relationship with people that have kids because who knows what might happen this is a good example just by listening to the store as well the mother was not so much infuriated just upset with her husband one mother for sure would have been pissed off knowing for a fact that her daughter is not part of the family which she is and for the daughter the daughter did right by having her uncle which is her late father's brother Walker down the aisle.
he paid for everything in her life 😂. he did everything a dad is suppose to do. she even admits this. smh u got munipulated to feel sorry for these careless women 😂
@@TrueBluntyyou act like he was the sole breadwinner and her mother was a SAHM. The mother also contributed to paying. And I do think Robert is the AH here. I do think Sarah is a bit rude for switching to first name basis, but it's a coping mechanism. She appears to treat him civil otherwise. Robert is an ah for saying she just needs to get over it.
I was on daughter side first before she said he paid for everything including her college and such and seems like taken it as granted as there is no mention of paying it back, I say it's all on the mother here as she was responsible for making sure her daughter would be also consider daughter by her husband.
women holding themself accountable?? dude what world are u in lol the only times they ever admit anything is when it is farrrrr too late and they always say "it was because" and blaim shift.
He helped pay, meaning the mother also paid probably half. Considering the fact that they are married in a country that doesn't believe in divorce, there is a good chance that it might have out of social obligation/pressure. Besides I don't think it'd make sense for her to be given away by Robert. Traditionally it's about the father/family giving away their daughter to be under the care and protection of her new husband. Robert made it clear he doesn't really see her as family, so it only makes sense for the uncle that is part of the family to do it.😊
@@dude2215 It's didn't matter if they didn't belive in divorce as mom shouldn't have even marry a guy before making sure he would treat her daughter the same of the rest. Also they can still get divorce or at least annulment, Daughter said they can but Robert is rich and her mother is some teacher which shows money is also an issue why they around Robert in the first place. Also yeah have the obligation to pay for her as her father by law but if she do not consider her as father anymore then she shouldn't have received the benefits of being his daughter also, That's just an hypocrite behavior. It's literally having their cake and eat it too. By the way if there is obligation to pay for collage then surely there is obligation to pay for her wedding too, Which though not mentioned here but I am sure Robert also paid as I said obligation which given there is no mention of rejection daughter also recived too. Yeah it would be her wedding but only when she stick to her beliefs, Not like I don't see you nor consider as my father Mr. Robert but here are bills and things you should pay as it's your obligation of being my father, Like what the F wrong with them. Daughter said she is greatful he help her with her college money but then again there was not even slightest mention to give it back as by her own words that money should have come from some stranger not her father.
@@formanga8871 I never heard her say Robert is rich. He was an accountant and had his own commercial space. That does implying having a good standard of living, but not rich. The mom was a physical therapist and teaches at a college. That's a bit more than some random teacher's salary.
@@formanga8871 You are being ridiculous. Imagine a single mother who loves a guy, and knows that by marrying him she can make her children's lives DRAMATICALLY better, even though he will love his biological children more. You want the mother to deliberately make her life and her children's lives dramatically worse because there will be a difference in the degree of attachment the man feels between his biological and step children? Poor child. 18 years of love. College and other adult expenses paid for. But she overheard him say that he cares more about his biological children. That is such a raw deal. If only she could have grown up poor, with only one overstressed mother who was often not present due to work, and entered adult life with massive college loans. That would have been way better than having a father who cares slightly more for his bio-kids.
Yeah, but he also played favorites. This is no different from preferring one kid over another due to gender, similar interests, etc. You can provide materially yet be neglectful in all other ways.
@@narliehs1648 your statement would've made sense if all the kids weren't his genetically. I can see someone favoring their biological kids more than the step kid. This isn't out of the ordinary. Respectfully, what is your overall point?
@@ketienne1021 Well, that point would be that genetics don't make a family. Love does. Hence my family consisting of more people that I have no biological relation to than those I do, because a large percentage of said bio relatives are toxic/abusive. Let's put it another way. Let's say that Sarah was adopted and OP loved her as her own daughter while Robert pretended to do so for decades before the truth came out- that he only provided for her out of obligation rather than actual care and concern for her wellbeing. It's essentially the same thing. The only thing changed is the terminology of "adopted" and "step." If he only wanted kids he was biologically connected to, he shouldn't have gotten involved with OP to begin with. This is entirely on him.
@@narliehs1648What are talking about? Stay on this topic. To adopt you would have to make the conscious decision to raise that child. There's process to make sure if THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT. OP came as a packaged deal with the wife, and HAD NO CHOICE but to raise her if he wanted to marry his now wife. Then there are the KIDS HE PLANNED TO HAVE WITH HIS WIFE. His stance is understandable. I played the fatherly role, but that isn't my real daughter in my eyes.
@@ketienne1021 Ouch for your kids, then. And yeah, it's very much the same thing. He made the conscious decision to marry OP, knowing that, as you said, she came as a "package deal." It'd be a different thing if Sarah didn't see him as her father or, worse, was disrespectful and hostile. But that wasn't the case. She adored and looked up to him as the only father she's ever known. Robert didn't care about her because he didn't have sex to create her, yet he wants the perks of being recognized as her father when he feels like it. He's an an entitled AH.
I feel terrible for the stepfather. Imagine being a great father for 18 years, and making one mistake with your daughter, and having that relationship forever ruined. Children make catastrophic mistakes all the time, and there is absolutely no question that we expect parents to continue loving them with all their hearts. This includes criminal behavior, wrecking marriages, and telling their parents that they hate them and want nothing to do with them. Yet a single overheard comment by a parent is enough for the child to permanently unfather the man who raised her? It seems very unfair to me. I'm not going to say the daughter has done anything wrong. She is allowed to feel as she does. But it is a raw deal for the parent. If I were considering getting a stepchild by marriage, and I read this post, it would make me very hesitant both to enter the marriage and then to put my all into loving the child. All parents screw up. My wife (actual biological mother) has said something worse directly to my kids. Who wants to put that much love into a person when the whole relationship can be undone by a single overheard comment?
When she talked to him about what she heard, he told her she was not his real child and loved her differently. That was not a mistake. That was a choice he made and how he felt. He may feel remorse and embarrassment, but I doubt his "real" feelings have changed. She loved him as her father but he did not love her as a "real" daughter.
That was not a mistake, HE doesn't think it was a mistake, he is not even sorry about it and think it was not a big deal, and she should have long since moved on from that. On the mom or daughter's post, there was no mention of him even trying to make amends at all.
@@Ducilios And should he do that? Real often used as Bio parent, And he was right she was his stepdaughter not daughter and treated her like such and still care for her above and beyond then he should.
Since she doesnt recognize her stepfather as her father she should pay him back all the money spent on that brat. Of course blood matter more either you want to accept or not. As for her mother she went for wrong guy making her daughter fatherless, both of them(mom and dauhter) should have been very gratefull for another man taking the father role lol.
she enjoy daughter benefit but she still feel resentment being compared with bio child, it's quite ah.. the name calling is deserved but stepdad deserve to walk her down the aisle for being her father all this time. What did uncle do other than emotional support?
The step dad isn't an AH he has rights to feel how he wants. The child was not his biologically bit when he had bis own the twins. He felt more for them than for a child who wasn't his. It's his rights to feel that way and yet everyone calls him the AH
"I'm not his real daughter it, wouldn't make sense for him to walk me down the aisle."
Man i dont think there's enough ice to cool THAT burn.
Robert is a turd receptacle. He got caught talking sh*t about his step daughter behind her back. She grew up her entire sentient life viewing him as her dad only to find out her never felt the same. With the betrayal she must have felt it's no wonder she can't "just move on." The worst part is he feels nothing about how much he hurt her.
Not hurt enough to not use his money
@@rodrigorecio7715 she was hurt not stupid. Of course take the money, does not mean he has earned any respect back. H lost thst along time ago.
Respect once lost can never be regained.
Well, if you raised kids fpr 10+ years and prefer one over another, there will always be a backlash from unloved kids.
Robert said the quiet part out loud and it cost him big. Can't wait for part 2 when Robert gets upset when he's not allowed to see his not-his-real-grandchildren.
Edit: No, she shouldn't have to pay him back for college. He would have paid if he hadn't been stupid enough to say what he did out loud. He was the one who was lying to her all her life and hurt her like that. He has only himself to blame.
I will never understand the obsession with biological children. DNA does not determine family, love does.
@@MWB18 DNA absolutely determined family.
@@formanga8871 So then you are saying my Brothers are not actually my Family? They are more my family than my extended "DNA Family" who are Family in Name only. Furthermore, are spouses really family then? Your mentality is a very dangerous one.
@@MWB18 Did I said you brother is not your family? But DNA absolutely determined family that's why it's used for paternity test, Also it's your opinion on blood related family not absolute norm.
@@formanga8871 I am not saying DNA is not important in determining paternity. My point is that to say that a Biological child is better or easier to love is just asinine. In this story, this person made it clear he thinks more of his biological children. In addition, there are people who say they could never love a non-biological child as much as their own biological children. This is just straight-up bigoted. I have never understood the obsession with sharing DNA.
As someone who's adopted it doesn't matter that I don't share dna with them, they're still my family. I can't even imagine what I'd feel if it ever came out that the people who loved and raised me never thought of me as their child.
The mother can not change how Robert feels. But I could not stay married to a man who raised my child for 18 years but told her she was not his "real" daughter. Mom needs a spine.They both are horrible people. Sarah overheard him say she was not his "real" child and not including her in a trip. And when they talked he destroyed the relationship completely by doubling down on it. Mom's solution was to ignore it and hope it went away. You do move on from that. She thought he loved her like his "real" daughter like she loved him as her father. However Sarah should repay him for her college etc since she views the relationship as broken.
@@mimiwhite1963 Exactly, There was no mention about paying him back.
@@formanga8871 yes lol typical cake eater moment for me
@@formanga8871Why should she? He views her as not his "real" child, while she still feels that he's "papa" despite everything and all the hurt that causes her. He even wanted the privilege of walking her down the aisle even though he didn't view her as his.
Divorce is illegal there
And if the daughter doesnt have a problem w it why should they break up
This topic is incredibly heartfelt and emotional. How did you manage to navigate through such challenging family dynamics?
I know that I would not love a step child the same I would love my biological children which is why I will never be a step father. What makes 0 sense is rasing someone from the age of 1 and not saying what the dude said. What a POS.
It was believable until daughters response... 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
He really felt the need to say that he didnt love as much as the others? K owing her father is dead? Nah he a bad person I don't care
@@huh5950 she really felt entitled to his money
*Where's The Video With The Rest Of The Updates!*
the post is literally one day old.
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After hearing the story you have to blame the mother because she married a guy that will not accept the complete package he prefers his own blood over anything else I always will recommend people do not be in a relationship with people that have kids because who knows what might happen this is a good example just by listening to the store as well the mother was not so much infuriated just upset with her husband one mother for sure would have been pissed off knowing for a fact that her daughter is not part of the family which she is and for the daughter the daughter did right by having her uncle which is her late father's brother Walker down the aisle.
he paid for everything in her life 😂. he did everything a dad is suppose to do. she even admits this.
smh u got munipulated to feel sorry for these careless women 😂
@@TrueBluntyyou act like he was the sole breadwinner and her mother was a SAHM. The mother also contributed to paying. And I do think Robert is the AH here.
I do think Sarah is a bit rude for switching to first name basis, but it's a coping mechanism. She appears to treat him civil otherwise. Robert is an ah for saying she just needs to get over it.
But she said at the beginning that he always treated as a daughter, and that's why it came as a surprise what he said
He never told anyone that he didn't see as a daughter,
@@TheEster3376 he did, he told Sarah
robert crossed the line thats all im saying
I was on daughter side first before she said he paid for everything including her college and such and seems like taken it as granted as there is no mention of paying it back, I say it's all on the mother here as she was responsible for making sure her daughter would be also consider daughter by her husband.
women holding themself accountable?? dude what world are u in lol the only times they ever admit anything is when it is farrrrr too late and they always say "it was because" and blaim shift.
He helped pay, meaning the mother also paid probably half. Considering the fact that they are married in a country that doesn't believe in divorce, there is a good chance that it might have out of social obligation/pressure.
Besides I don't think it'd make sense for her to be given away by Robert. Traditionally it's about the father/family giving away their daughter to be under the care and protection of her new husband. Robert made it clear he doesn't really see her as family, so it only makes sense for the uncle that is part of the family to do it.😊
@@dude2215 It's didn't matter if they didn't belive in divorce as mom shouldn't have even marry a guy before making sure he would treat her daughter the same of the rest.
Also they can still get divorce or at least annulment, Daughter said they can but Robert is rich and her mother is some teacher which shows money is also an issue why they around Robert in the first place.
Also yeah have the obligation to pay for her as her father by law but if she do not consider her as father anymore then she shouldn't have received the benefits of being his daughter also, That's just an hypocrite behavior.
It's literally having their cake and eat it too.
By the way if there is obligation to pay for collage then surely there is obligation to pay for her wedding too, Which though not mentioned here but I am sure Robert also paid as I said obligation which given there is no mention of rejection daughter also recived too.
Yeah it would be her wedding but only when she stick to her beliefs, Not like I don't see you nor consider as my father Mr. Robert but here are bills and things you should pay as it's your obligation of being my father, Like what the F wrong with them.
Daughter said she is greatful he help her with her college money but then again there was not even slightest mention to give it back as by her own words that money should have come from some stranger not her father.
@@formanga8871 I never heard her say Robert is rich. He was an accountant and had his own commercial space. That does implying having a good standard of living, but not rich.
The mom was a physical therapist and teaches at a college. That's a bit more than some random teacher's salary.
@@formanga8871 You are being ridiculous. Imagine a single mother who loves a guy, and knows that by marrying him she can make her children's lives DRAMATICALLY better, even though he will love his biological children more. You want the mother to deliberately make her life and her children's lives dramatically worse because there will be a difference in the degree of attachment the man feels between his biological and step children?
Poor child. 18 years of love. College and other adult expenses paid for. But she overheard him say that he cares more about his biological children. That is such a raw deal. If only she could have grown up poor, with only one overstressed mother who was often not present due to work, and entered adult life with massive college loans. That would have been way better than having a father who cares slightly more for his bio-kids.
Nah we can't have it both ways, when kids don't claim the step parents it's ok, but cry foul in reverse? He performed all fatherly duties still.
Yeah, but he also played favorites. This is no different from preferring one kid over another due to gender, similar interests, etc. You can provide materially yet be neglectful in all other ways.
@@narliehs1648 your statement would've made sense if all the kids weren't his genetically. I can see someone favoring their biological kids more than the step kid. This isn't out of the ordinary. Respectfully, what is your overall point?
@@ketienne1021 Well, that point would be that genetics don't make a family. Love does. Hence my family consisting of more people that I have no biological relation to than those I do, because a large percentage of said bio relatives are toxic/abusive.
Let's put it another way. Let's say that Sarah was adopted and OP loved her as her own daughter while Robert pretended to do so for decades before the truth came out- that he only provided for her out of obligation rather than actual care and concern for her wellbeing. It's essentially the same thing. The only thing changed is the terminology of "adopted" and "step."
If he only wanted kids he was biologically connected to, he shouldn't have gotten involved with OP to begin with. This is entirely on him.
@@narliehs1648What are talking about? Stay on this topic. To adopt you would have to make the conscious decision to raise that child. There's process to make sure if THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT.
OP came as a packaged deal with the wife, and HAD NO CHOICE but to raise her if he wanted to marry his now wife.
Then there are the KIDS HE PLANNED TO HAVE WITH HIS WIFE. His stance is understandable. I played the fatherly role, but that isn't my real daughter in my eyes.
@@ketienne1021 Ouch for your kids, then.
And yeah, it's very much the same thing. He made the conscious decision to marry OP, knowing that, as you said, she came as a "package deal." It'd be a different thing if Sarah didn't see him as her father or, worse, was disrespectful and hostile. But that wasn't the case. She adored and looked up to him as the only father she's ever known. Robert didn't care about her because he didn't have sex to create her, yet he wants the perks of being recognized as her father when he feels like it. He's an an entitled AH.
I feel terrible for the stepfather. Imagine being a great father for 18 years, and making one mistake with your daughter, and having that relationship forever ruined.
Children make catastrophic mistakes all the time, and there is absolutely no question that we expect parents to continue loving them with all their hearts. This includes criminal behavior, wrecking marriages, and telling their parents that they hate them and want nothing to do with them.
Yet a single overheard comment by a parent is enough for the child to permanently unfather the man who raised her?
It seems very unfair to me. I'm not going to say the daughter has done anything wrong. She is allowed to feel as she does. But it is a raw deal for the parent.
If I were considering getting a stepchild by marriage, and I read this post, it would make me very hesitant both to enter the marriage and then to put my all into loving the child. All parents screw up. My wife (actual biological mother) has said something worse directly to my kids. Who wants to put that much love into a person when the whole relationship can be undone by a single overheard comment?
When she talked to him about what she heard, he told her she was not his real child and loved her differently. That was not a mistake. That was a choice he made and how he felt. He may feel remorse and embarrassment, but I doubt his "real" feelings have changed. She loved him as her father but he did not love her as a "real" daughter.
@@mimiwhite1963 Yes cause she is his step daughter, Of course he loves her but it would be obviously different from his biological children.
That was not a mistake, HE doesn't think it was a mistake, he is not even sorry about it and think it was not a big deal, and she should have long since moved on from that. On the mom or daughter's post, there was no mention of him even trying to make amends at all.
@@Ducilios And should he do that? Real often used as Bio parent, And he was right she was his stepdaughter not daughter and treated her like such and still care for her above and beyond then he should.
@@formanga8871 Then why is he upset he is not treated as her father then?
Since she doesnt recognize her stepfather as her father she should pay him back all the money spent on that brat. Of course blood matter more either you want to accept or not.
As for her mother she went for wrong guy making her daughter fatherless, both of them(mom and dauhter) should have been very gratefull for another man taking the father role lol.
Don't be stupid
How stupid can you be
she enjoy daughter benefit but she still feel resentment being compared with bio child, it's quite ah.. the name calling is deserved but stepdad deserve to walk her down the aisle for being her father all this time. What did uncle do other than emotional support?
Uncle needs to mind his business. Your family are all Fd up!! I feel bad for the step dad.
The step dad isn't an AH he has rights to feel how he wants. The child was not his biologically bit when he had bis own the twins. He felt more for them than for a child who wasn't his. It's his rights to feel that way and yet everyone calls him the AH
You cant be this stupid??? So why is he mad because the uncle walk her down??? Like you said he isnt her "real father" u got to be trolling