Homeless Woman Cycles Between Streets And Hotels After Husband Dies
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- Опубликовано: 11 дек 2023
- At 58, Ella's story is a stark reminder of how quickly life can change. Just last night, she braved the biting cold, sleeping outside in a chilling 30 degrees with the wind adding to the risk of death. Fortunately, she found a brief respite in a hotel, where we met her.
Life took a turn for Ella after her husband passed away. With her disability preventing her from working, she's been struggling to make ends meet. Her disability income barely covers a few hotel nights, after which she's often left to rely on the kindness of others for shelter and food. The cycle of short-term hotel stays is a harsh reality for many with limited income, making the dream of renting an apartment seem unattainable. Weekly-rate hotels often become a trap.
Ella's situation isn't unique. Senior homelessness is on the rise, just as housing costs continue to skyrocket. It's a looming crisis - a perfect storm of homelessness. We need to take action to reach out to our legislators and advocate for solutions to the affordable housing crisis for Ella and countless others in her situation.
Ella's hotel stay is provided by Paul Kruse. Paul has helped 1,800 homeless families and individuals this year. Both Paul and his wife work tirelessly to help homeless people in the Wentzville area firststepbackhome.net
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Ella just left me this message: Mark I wanted to than you for everything I wasn't really sure about how that video would help or hurt me but it ended up it was a blessing for me. Things are actually working out for the better for me and it started with the video. So I'm saying thank you I'm so very happy I ended up meeting you that nite. You are my angel and thank you to all the people who seen the video and decided to help. God bless
Because of the support you sent to Paul, Ella is no longer homeless.
I'm so happy for Ella!! I prayed for her. Thank you Mark, for all you continue to do. Be blessed.
Where is Ella going to live?
WOW! Can we PTL! Through human intervention and the ALMIGHTY ONE'S help, this sweet lady is no longer homeless! ❤🎉😊 We MUST INSIST that our CITIZENS be helped BEFORE any NON CITIZEN is housed, fed, given free medical/dental, and CASH! Are you kidding me! Wake up, fellow Americans... we have homeless CITIZENS being treated worse than animals! NO MORE!
@@ritapearl-im3wv YES!! I was floored when I heard their giving immigrants $5000 visa cards, help to get on assistance, healthcare, etc. it's so sad. I'm living in a dingy inner city and she's right they tell you "call 211" yeah, right!! You have to do the footwork every single day and if your disabled good luck! I am and I'm waiting on a decision but not holding my breath. I most likely won't get it I've heard it's very difficult. I'm so glad she's got a home now. She should be eligible for Medicaid, EBT, and housing, right? I mean she's under poverty level if she's just getting SSI and SSDI? Idk I know most aid is going to the illegal immigrants now! Screws the citizens.
looking through the comments, it seems she got an extension for a week in the hotel. she's not out of the woods.
It is an outrage that in the wealthiest country in the world this woman is living this way .
Yes, that's the way I read it.
Is your country the richest? Have you ever been one? I don't think you are.
What happens when they care more about their wars and wallets of the top rich than the people who can barely manage it.
There are millions of people living this way in America - and some are even worse off. I don't agree with her that she doesn't want her children to know how she's living. Parents take care of their children -- and children take care of their parents. We're living in the worst times - and I'm 83 yrs old. Have never seen so many people struggling - no place to live - begging for food. Many of these people worked all their lives -- are old; have been ill or disabled; no family. What happened to America????
But the truth ofcourse is much more nuanced. There is not much communism at all in europe in fact, capitalism is ruling 95% of Europe, if not more. Sure, the European countries that has stronger GDP per capita than you guys is all countries that have higher taxes than the US. Ireland, Norway and Denmark are all in the top-10 and they have in common that their taxes is (very) high, especially compared to the US. I guess that´s one of the reasons you like to think of Scandinavia as commie-nightmares, because of the taxes. Still the people in scandinavia has better economy than americans. The idea is that it is cheaper to take care of the people that "fall of" society when they are down, because it´s the humane way to do it, and in the end it´s a lot cheaper for the society that everybody chips in so we can make sure that ALL Swedes have the right to live worthy lives, no matter who you are or where you are in life. You always have the right to eat and to have somewhere to be safe and sleep at night. It´s less expensive both in the short and the long run to take care of people than it is to take care of them when they got even more damaged, or in many cases, are stuck in a circle of destruction. Homeless people cost A LOT for society to deal with, the daily crimes many of them choose to commit, short-term hospitalization and medical attention they need when they get pneumonia or hurt in the streets, as they very often do, especially woman is very prone the be hurt physically and mentally. And then ofcourse the long-term consequences of homelessness who people aquire in a very short amount of time on the street, a year on the street is enough for many to never come back to employment. So not only are they having mental issues and physical damage that will cost society a lot of many all their lives, they will also never pay taxes, and society will have to feed them. And the money the society loses on just ONE person that goes down this path is astronomical, millions and millions again. And in many cases this could have been avoided, the person didn´t need to get their body and mind trashed that badly, if they would have got support when they needed it.
This is not just speculation from my side. There is a whole lot of research made that supports what i just said about the economy of homelessness. There is consesus that this is the truth.
Americans very often speak about being angry about "lazy people that receives benefits and take advantage of the tax-payers money, they just dont want to work and the communist-government just let´s them cash out every week to buy food, drugs and ciggarettes receiving housing and everything a person can need without doing anything at all, just laughing at how dumb the system is". And people are angry about them having to pay taxes and that other people get free food-stamps. They should also work for their food like everybody else.
But they dont seem to understand what happens to THEM if you just let people starve out on the streets. They will also live beside you in your town, all your life. If you let them sleep out in the snow and starve, you create a very damaged group of people that will have very little boundries and very little concern about themselves and others. And you see this happening all over the US now, fentanyl and homelessness destroys towns everywhere.
Ofcourse everyone should have to work for their food. But if a person are diagnosed with a temporary or chronic health issue by the doctor and isn´t able to provide for themselves, then that´s how it is and we have to trust the doctors, right? The question really is what a human is worth and how we want our mother/sister/wife/daughter get taken care of if i pass away and she becomes sick for example, do we think that she should have a safe bed to sleep in and food every day or do we think she should be left on the streets by herself to deal with her mental illness or whatever it might be? Drugaddiction. Cancer. Do we think every daughter in our country should have a bed and food every day? No matter who they are and what their history is, does it matter or do want our daughters to have that no matter what happens? A bed and food? Is it worth to give away half a percent of our income to guarantee that all our daughters have that in case things happen? Half a percent and we know that our daughter and our neighbours daughter too never will have to sleep on a train getting used and abused by the creatures of night? What do we think our people is worth? Is the money the most important thing? That everyone who work get as many dollars and cents as possible for themselves and their daughters? Or is the daughters the most important thing? Are our daughters worth food and not being r*ped on the subway no matter what they do or not in life? Or not?
Because... The argument kinda eats itself in a way. When you say that you dont want to work hard every day and see some lazy jerk go collect his food-stamps for the week. That´s not have you want to spend your hard owned money, and that is very understandable. But. If the money is the important thing here, and you dont care if some lazy jerk who doesn´t want to work because of some PTSD he blames his lazyness on, let him sleep in the snow hungry until he learns a lesson. Thats not my problem. I´ve worked for everything i have in life and he should too! IF i should pay taxes then i want them to go to the old americans who worked for this country all their lives and now they are 95 and haven´t enough pension to get themselves new glasses so they cant even read or watch tv anymore! That´s where the money should go!!
If that´s your opinion. That you want your society to have a better economy so it can help people who deserves it. A very valid opinion.
If my mom was homeless, I would take her in a heartbeat! And let me tell you, I did not have a good relationship with her either. But to see her homeless? No way. The two of us together can do better than by yourself. It would kill me to know my mom was sleeping on the street! Kids, take your mom in! Blood means something!
Well your a sweetheart, a lot of family don’t care
god bless you when you take care your parents. sorry I use that word, the right word is Yahweh bless you when you respect your parents.
@@robertcolacino7310 Or they're struggling themselves and she doesn't want to burden them.
That's what mothers do she definitely wants to be the caretaker no matter how old her kids are but still the kids should try and take care of mom in this desperate situation @@deborahcurtis1385
Absolutely
I’m a 70yo Disabled Veteran and every month I get my Social Security check and I do the same as this poor woman. I stay in the cheapest motel until the money runs out and then I sleep in the woods. It truly sucks. I’ve registered with the VA for housing and I’m on the list. They told me it will probably take a year to move to the top of the list. I left NYC when the Mayor told us to get out and made room for the illegal immigrants. At least I’m a man this poor woman is in danger.
Thank you for your service--I'm sorry to hear how hard your situation is.
Yes this country is in sad shape but Biden want more war and more immigrants! If people want things better, they are going to have to vote for Trump! He can fix it.
God bless you and find you a home asap.greetings from england
go talk to someone, there is no need for the choices you are makiing
Get a roommate to share the burdens.
This happened to my friend earlier this year when her husband died of cancer. She was homeless for about a month until my wife and I found out. She lives with us now and we couldn't be happier to have her here and she feels like she's part of our family now, which she is. I will pray for a quick resolution to your housing and security problems. Godspeed.
Bless you and your wife for your good hearts.
Now, That's the way to do it! Thank you so much and God bless you richly!
Blessings to your beautiful hearts
@@simone222 Thank you very much. We are blessed so we pass it on whenever we can. I have been helped many times in my life so helping our friend is just the natural thing to do. My wife and I aren't special just blessed enough to be able to share as God wants us to do. The Golden Rule applies to her situation too.
@@gardenjoy5223 Thank you, and God is already blessing us through our friend because she acts as a liaison between my wife and I, so lately we have been getting along better than before. God works in mysterious ways.
I would never let my mom become homeless. I'd make sure she comes move in with me!!! That's the right thing to do! ❤
I feel thet same! You Never know someones story about why they are in the state of being homeless MY HEART IS BROKEN WHEN I SEE THIS!!! :( I hope the people that are watchingcan help send her a few dollars or whatever they can to help her! Again sending much needed loving energy to her 👏
I know a woman whose wealthy grown kids feel too poor to help her, with spendy wives or expensive divorce going on and their own kids at expensive college and she tells them, everything. The county cut her food stamps, again. A cousin then came to visit her and lo and behold, he talked her into visiting a Rehab place, for a "rest." Now, she is stuck in there but still thinks her house will be there, if she decides to go, home. Meanwhile, she doesn't know where the cousin is and her kids, still don't call her. But, at least she is not on the street. You see, there are many ways to hell in retirement!
Exactly what I said!
Yes! Me and my young family are fixing to build our house next year, and the basement will be another living quarters if any parents need to move in for free. Wish i could help all these good people.
My adult children would never help me they'd probably let me die on the street.
Not all children grow up to be nice people.
We lost everything this year. My husband was diagnosed with end stage kidney failure and it progressed extremely fast. I couldn't make enough to pay rent. We had to move in with my dad. We had been long haul truckers and we didn't see this coming. It hit hard and fast. I couldn't go back out and leave him behind. I completely understand that homelessness isn't always related to drugs. Please don't feel ashamed to ask family for help.
Sorry for your struggles. I have kidney disease got the update in 2022 after my near death experience. prayers to your husband for healing and peace. one thing I dislike the most is fatigue comes on fast and then I am okay for awhile. Seems to come in waves. Again prayers for your family.
@@Inf7cted
Find a functional medicine doctor. This can be reversed.
@@Inf7ctedI will say a prayer for you 🙏
@@ChasityMorgan368 I agree with you about asking family for help. But, my family is the least compassionate, and the most aggravated, and the least understanding. They judge me and want to investigate my finances, then are VERY CRITICAL of me. It’s almost not worth it. Thank the Good Lord I am not Homeless. But, if something doesn’t change soon, I will be. After working 30+ years at just 1 job, now at 67 I’m looking for a job I can actually handle. I’ve had 7 spine/back surgeries, and in both my shoulders, my Rotator cuffs are torn. Therefore I’m very limited as to what I can physically do. I had a decent savings, but my ex took 1/2 of it when we divorced, after his many affairs. My life went straight downhill from there. We had to sell our home because I couldn’t make the payments AND pay him $800.00month for child support. My Sons chose to live with him. It’s been a very difficult battle for me to stay afloat. I feel certain that it won’t be long, I WILL be on the street. But all Thanks to the Lord, I have a roof over my head right now. So you are so right Ella, DO NOT JUDGE THE HOMELESS!!! You don’t know their struggles, or their story!
I don't have any living family left, and my birthday is on Christmas.
I'm a 63-year-old widow who is also houseless due to the loss of my husband. I live in a small travel trailer and find work on the road as a workamper. I'm sorry to hear what you are going through, Ella. While this is not a solution for right now, when you turn 60 you can get Social Security survivor benefits. Please look into it as soon as you can, it takes a while to get it set up. My heart goes out to you. ❤
Great advice!
Forgive my ignorance, but I do not understand why you become homeless after you husband passed away. Don't you have a house that you co-owned before he died?
@@morriselee Usually without a secondary income they can't afford the mortgage or property taxes so they lose it to the bank/government. Women are allowed to work these days but make no mistake, the onus to prop up the household is still on men ...
@@morriselee Medical debt can also wipe out people's entire life savings in the blink of an eye and still not be enough heh
@@morriselee this is all bullshit ....don't believe anything this woman says
A lot of grandparents live with their children and help cook, clean, and babysit for them. She shouldn't feel bad for asking her kids to help.
@@kellitrevino650Parents who raised and loved their children will never be or look like a burden to their children. Times have become hard to survive for everyone and families must pull to gather as units so the quality of everyone’s life in the situation is better. I know my son is my ride or die. If I’m in the streets he is their with me. If either of us is housed we will both be housed. Love is never a burden.
If you raised your kids right then you should not have to ask, they should help you regardless. I will do what I can to help my parents if they ever get in trouble. @@kellitrevino650
🎉 i agree parents and grandparents should be living with family.... that's the way its supposed to be
@@Littlepaw7I have siblings that rarely go see our mother, so it’s hard to get them to do anything to help her. Only a few out of her 7 kids actually help. Sad when parents raise their children, and the kids don’t care enough to help their elderly parents out 😢
@@joycebegnaud9645 I am sorry to hear that and feel very grateful my son and I are thick as thieves. If he needs I give. If I need he gives💓
They need to have a place for seniors like her to live.
There are places, Biden put immigrants in them he doesn't care if our elderly die.
I don't think that at 58 she's even considered a senior.
I’ve seen videos on skid row, there’s disabled people living on the streets, people in wheelchairs, I mean how do they manage.
58 isn't considered a senior; but, you're right that there should definitely be affordable housing...that doesn't take years to get into.
@@jacquelinestewart3820 They're human, and we humans are pretty adaptable. Plus the kindness of strangers is more prevalent than our greedy masters would have us believe :)
She has three children and none will take her in? There is more to her story.
Yes she's a scammer she went thru a million dollars after her husband passed playing on boat and she is all full of shit everything she said is a lie
Im her step-son, she won the lottery...received a sizable inheritance after my grandpa and fathers deaths...and blew through it all within a year...she is a drug addict...liar...scammer. She abused her kids for years and now they want nothing to do with her.
Im her stepson, she abused her children for decades...they want nothing to do with her...connie here is her cousin she is telling the truth... she hit the lottery and received hundreds of thousands of dollars in inheritance from the deaths of my grandfather and father, she blew it all on drugs and the casino within a year...she is a liar, thief.
i can smell the meth and alcohol emanating from my tv...also the interviewer is leading a lot with suggestions on how she can elaborate on her story and giving examples in which she just nods and go along with it...everything feels very questionable
exactly, there are very important things she did not tell us.
You can see the pain in her eyes, bless her I’m so happy she isn’t homeless anymore, thank you for helping her !
My heart goes out to this women. Knowing she is not alone and this is all to common nowadays. But we can give billions to a war that’s not ours. So sad
Well said
Thousands being put in hotels and fed while this woman is on the streets
Unbelievable she has to be homeless our government is absolutely evil to hand illegals the red carpet and turn their back on their Americans
Don't forget, In 2020 the gop passed a law that Trump signed that have gave a trillion dollars in tax cuts to the ultra rich. That's a thousand billion. Don't see you mentioninh that but you'd be happy to hand over the bread basket of Europe and long time to a guy who just poisons the people he doesn't like to death, wherever they are in the world.
Just how they wanted it. Soldiers in nice homes, working people on the streets.
We can spend billions housing and feeding illegals who haven't pd a dime on taxes. But this woman gets nothing
Someone needs to find her kids and send them this video. They have a right to know. If she committed suicide and they saw this after.. omg.. they deserve to know. They deserve the option to decide to help
She could be childfree by choice not all women want kids
@@beaulieuc8910She stated that she has kids.
They know. They may have gotten a life insurance policy on her. Suicidal and homeless? How long she gonna last?
@@beaulieuc8910 Why do you keep on repeating this comment? She HAS grown children. Do you think she or women SHOULD be child free??? Pushing an agenda or what?
Don’t you think they already know .?where does she take them to visit the Park? No there is more to it
I lost my husband in April of 2019. It’s the hardest most terrifying thing to deal with!
I’m praying for you and please try and hang in there. 🙏🏻💕
Your beautiful for your age
This poor woman. Sending love and prayers🙏❤️🙏
When my grandma got old, she moved in with one of her seven daughters. But all of her daughters pitched in to help, financially, the older she got. When my mom got older, she moved in with me. This is common in my family with my siblings and cousins. We’ve been taking in our elderly for generations because they took care of us. It really isn’t an intrusion but it is a mindset. If my parent or child were homeless and they were living on the streets instead of coming to me for help, I’d be so extremely heart broken.
I agree as well.
Many people out there unfortunately haven't the heart you and your lovely family have.
We ask in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior for mercy upon all that are struggling for guidance to show them where to go and pray God loves all from the two sisters with God's love ❤ 💘 amen
Totally agree!
Not everyone have extended families.
Not everyone have good relations with their extended families.
Not everyone's extended families can afford it, nor willing to.
You're fortunate enough if you don't fall into these categories.
Ella's hotel stay is provided by Paul Kruse. Paul has helped 1,800 homeless families and individuals this year. Both Paul and his wife work tirelessly to help homeless people in the Wentzville area firststepbackhome.net UPDATE: Thanks to your donations to Paul, Ella is now in the hotel for a week. Both Paul and Ella are extremely grateful.
There used to be a commenter from Missouri directing folks to cheap apartments in that state. In the $450 rent per month range! I forget her exact credentials, she may have worked for one of the management companies. Something like that. I remember having a type-chat with her on the video for an older woman who was living alone in her car in an officially-sanctioned overnight parking lot in California.
thankyou from my heart !!!!! ❤
love from new zealand 🌵🌵🌵
She should look into staying on a cruise ship. I’ve heard it’s actually cheap.
@@vanessamccollum9169 - Not cheap, not possible on what she gets.
DOING GODS WORK!
My mom kind of went through the same thing when my dad died very suddenly in 1978 from a heart attack. She was a high school drop out with little work experience because she became a housewife shortly after marrying my dad in 1953. She hadn't worked outside the home or finished school so when he died leaving us in debt with no life insurance, my mom, sister and I lived in her station wagon until we could get to my grandma's. It was a frightening experience and my heart breaks for anyone who has to live like this.
thank you, that is why the ladies get into financial problems. Thy are not able to finance their own life. And they never thought about the possibility that the husband might die someday. But this happens half of the time. At least fifty percent chance.
I went to school and got myself prepared when my son was two years old. My husband died totally broke. His death did’t affect me at all.
I'm 59 on disability also. My husband was killed 2 years ago on the 14th. He was ran over by our neighbor while cleaning the windows of our van. The neighbors had meth in his system along with other drugs, he received 5 years probation. I lost everything. I live in a travel trailer that I'm still paying on, going from yard to yard. I can't make the payment this month due to heating costs. I feel Ella's pain all the way around. I worked hard all of my life and now I'm facing sleeping in the street. I have 2 stepchildren and I feel the same way Ella. Grieving this type of loss and struggling to live at our age , they are no words to describe it. I'm so sorry Ella, you are in my prayers. I'm here if you want to talk.
Can you park 🏞️ at family members house 🏠 and try to save
"hold fast"! (1 Thess 5 :21)
Sorry, but i'm in shock. In Russia it's a nounsence, you can't be on a street, if you non deep alcoholic. You situation is unhumanity. Government must give you a help, a home.
Hope you be alright
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Maybe her kids are in a caravan park or place with no parking or something. So hope it works out for her and others on this thread too. If my husband dies I'll be nervous too as he does errands for me. I'll have to lean on Jesus even more. It'd be a terrible situation with a partner dying. I just prayed for all in this lady's predicament.
My boys have babies and toddler and I'm an oldie. I have a caring older son and I get nervous sometimes thinking that if anything happens to him I will be done for as he's not too well. Still, I might die before my husband.
My heart hurts for so many. My husband isn't in very good health.
@@condemime1America is not the safe place people are told it is. There's been a permanent housing shortage for 42 years. It's also caused the homeless situation, because of the high rents,which was caused by apartments stopped getting built by 1980. Only commercial buildings, and luxury apartments are built. I hope that Ella will sign up for affordable housing for seniors ! It's subsidized housing actually. The only way to end homelessness is to have a massive building campaign to build apartments all over America,from one coast to the other. Neoliberalism for 42 years created this crisis.
She’s so strong, when I was homeless I had escaped from a house of horrors situation with my family where my siblings controlled the environment in that home and the parents were the enablers, just to explain I was attacked daily, almost stabbed on several occasions, had heavy metal canned goods thrown past my head, my food was poisoned various times, my lights were taken out my room, my windows were covered, my door had a makeshift lock on the outside to keep me locked in, I had to pee in a bucket, I couldn’t come out unless I was being monitored.. I was verbally abused, called an “IT,” and that I wasn’t human and that I deserved to be unalived, so when I did escape I was homeless for a year.. It’s not just drugs or alcohol for my situation it was abuse and being homeless as hard as it is, was better than constantly being abused and attacked, homelessness is very hard because I didn’t trust too many after getting out that home but I had to couch surf with the craziest people one of them being a verbally abusive alcoholic that would peek in on me while I was showering, he was awful.. I was in the same situation as her I was staying in a hotel or couch surfing.. The shelters are a scarier than being on the street sometimes because there’s actual women in that place who’ll rob or attack you and I agree with her, she loss her husband and loss everything after that.. I had to escape from a family that abused me😢 please never judge a book by the cover, like she said, I hope people reach out to her and help, she’s a strong woman and I know how hard it is sweetie❤ I’m in a good place now and I no longer am homeless, I’m thankful but I try to help other homeless people because I was once in their shoes and I know how hard it is being homeless 😢
I agree she is a really strong woman while going through homelessness. As I'm sure you know, the crisis is so huge and the pain so horrible it's hard to look and find hope. Ella is an extremely strong woman for surviving homelessness. I know it's hard to see it now, but I really believe Ella will find a pass through this madness. We all need to help the people like Ella in the world.
@@InvisiblePeopleI agree we do!!! ❤ Thank you for sharing her story with us ❤ it important to help one another, she’s surviving this all alone, with no one to help her in her golden years and the strength after losing her husband is truly remarkable!! She’s definitely a warrior for sure ❤
I'm so glad you escaped the abuse to live life in the sun. God bless you.
❤🙏
Good bless you and be blessed.
This happened to me too. I was lucky enough to move in with my elderly parents that needed help so we are helping each other. I lost my job of 20 years due to missing work for my sick parents. I finally am turning 60 and I've been told I will be able to get widow benefits. God is looking over me is all I can say!
❤I will pray for all those that are experiencing a similar situation. I have been homeless for about 13 days and it left an indelible impression on me. I fear that it coud happen again.
I'm sorry, but SHAME on her kids for not taking her in! What kind of monsters would let their mother sleep on the streets? What is wrong with this younger generation?
Kids are either Horribly Treacherous and Cruel. Or... there's Another story. I can't imagine neglecting my aging parents AND DIDN'T.
@@user-kf8wb2cq4f I don't get along with my mother at all, but I would not hesitate to take her in if she were in any kind of trouble. It's just heartbreaking to see this woman not wanting to "bother" her children. Why aren't they asking if she's alright?
They may not know, she said she didn't want to tell them.
@@powderandpaint14 They should be asking. Especially after she lost her husband. None of them are asking where she's living? None of them are asking her over for Christmas?
@@gardyloo3093 sons don't always do that. But maybe they don't have the closest or best relationship.
This is what I'm afraid of! If my husband dies I'm screwed. He is the main bread winner and I'm getting up there in age.
He just took out some life insurance and I would have to rent rooms out to afford the mortgage. It is very scary in the day and age! I feel for her! I hope she finds security and stability ❤
Thank goodness I making options...life insurance, and even if rent rooms You won't be Homeless..... that's a blessing ❤
I grew up with failed men…I would never depend on one
@@carmelinhawaii I'm sorry to hear that. I've been married to an amazing man for over 30 years. And I've had physical health issues all my life, so had it not been for the stability of my husband I would be screwed lol
Get a job or some source of income.
@@ihama99 I already have a job. I'm just not the main bread winner. I also have a child with medical issues that will never leave or home or move out. My husband and I juggle her care with me being the main source of care.
I'm sure I would be ok and figure it out. I would most likely move in a few roommates and try and work more of that ever happened. Honestly I hope I go before he does!
Ella, if you read this, please let your kids know how bad it is. My dad didnt let us know how bad he was doing and he died suddenly of a heart attack due to the stress and I wish more than anything that he would have told us so we could have helped him. Please please please let your kids know. They can at least let you move in temporarily to save up your check and get a camper or van so you have a safer and warmer place to sleep than the streets. Take care of yourself. Your kids still need you and your grandkids too.
This is why everyone should NOT depend or rely on another person 100% of the time. Plan for the worst case scenario always!
I totally agree. Women should always habe the finances in their mind. Not depend on a husband. Bad idea
I completely get she doesnt wanna expose herself or " bother" her kids but this is an extreme Situation she's in.
Unless you've been there, you don't understand..
But she chooses to "expose" herself to RUclips media ??
@@danling9308 She doesn't know the people watching does she ? Perhaps it may be that her viewers have more compassion than her kids.
thats not how family is supposed to work tho. shes not being truthful about the disconnect
I agree, I just wrote a similar comment, but I suppose we don't know what her relationship is with her kids. Families are complicated, i mean I'm close to my mum but my dad is a nightmare and would be impossible to live with
I am praying for you. I am a senior citizen and I was in the same position you are in. Very scary, but I prayed constantly and finally got help.🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️
Yes Prayers work ! Psalm 91.
I was homeless too. Different motels and friends places, temporarily. It was a nightmare and I'm over 60. I have a beautiful place now. Turn to Jesus. Jesus will help.
I spent three years in my car...living homeless with a small income is a nightmare...especially as a elder woman.
My heart goes out to her. Please help her Lord...❤
SHE IS SCAMMING ALL OF YOU !!!!!!
First time I've visited this channel. What an amazing man Paul and his wife are helping the homeless. God Bless you Ella, Paul and his wife. I hope things get better for you soon ❤
This is so unacceptable. Seniors should not have to suffer like this. It's heartbreaking.
Many people become homeless & lose their homes thru no fault of their own. I feel for this lady, I know how she feels.
UPDATE, Thanks to God, Paul Kruse, and Invisible People, Ella has a secure place until she finds a permanent home. I was able to reach out to her through Pauls ministry. She got her dog back, she is a beautiful dog, Crystal. She is doing good. I consider her my friend. I was happy I could do what I could do for her. I am very relieved for her, but most important, she's relieved. I hope she finds a place up near where I live. Keep praying for Ella and her companion, Chrystal. There was something about her that told me I had to reach out to her. That's how God works. I'll meet her face-to-face someday when she gets settled.
God Bless you!!! Great news!
She won the lottery, and receieves hundreds of thousands of dollars in inheritance from the deaths of her father in law ans husband all within the past 2 year, she blew all of that money at the casino and on drugs. She is a liar. Thief, and now she is scamming all of you.
I was homeless sleeping in my car - finally got the balls to call my mother and she sent me money via Western Union. That was over 15 years ago. Now I have a wife and kids, own a few properties, I live a good life. I don’t know what would have happened to me if I didn’t get that money wired to me from my mom. I was lucky to have support, other folks aren’t so lucky.
I took care of my disabled mother for almost 20 years and I was living paycheck to paycheck. She need to ask her kids to help her, not strangers. I'm sure they have a couch she can sleep on and she can pay for her food and even contribute financially to the kids who help her. This is pathetic.
You're dreaming. It's 2023.
It was great to hear she DID have some family, sons whom she raised. That age and pride in not wanting to ask for help could kill her. It is also a bit unfair she is not being honest with her sons, if anything does happen to her and they find out, the guilt would be immense. It is admirable she does not want to disrupt their homes or lives, but DAMN if it is a matter of life or death or danger... She should at least give them the benefit of the doubt and ask. Her sons may even know of someone else who has a spare room.. I don't get it.
Ok, something is not adding up here. She doesn’t want to ask her kids, but goes global on RUclips so that the whole world would know about it. Isn’t that now burden for her kids? And humiliation? Maybe she did ask her kids, but the refused to help. Or she has mental issues that America as a country cruelly ignores. God forbid Trump and his ilk come, disability checks will be gone too!!!
Some wives of sons though might not be accommodating and it could cause problems in the son's marriage. It's up to the sons knowing she is widowed to at least check on her circumstances and try to find her a room close by. I wish families lived together like some do overseas with generations under the same roof. I guess we don't know if a parent has a booze problem or
mental disorder or suchlike.
@@ritapearl-im3wvyou got that right! When I discussed with my older daughter how my dad took care of my grampa in the 50’s, carrying him to the bathtub etc she replied “ Ya well this is different times”. These dang ungrateful kids just don’t care and don’t want to be bothered. This woman’s kids are probably the same shyte.
If she has a good relationship with her children, she shouldn’t feel ashamed to ask them for help. I am taking care of my mother. It is an honor to do so. Even if she can’t work, she can help with cleaning, cooking, caring for grandkids.
Who knows the family dynamics I’m sure the kids will help
She said they were newly married. Having trouble themselves and help when they can.
Maybe the son has roommates. Son and wife can have roommates as well.
Maybe they live long distances.
Maybe they do not get along under the same roof.
Maybe the child has a mental or addiction issue.
Maybe the son is on ssdi and cant have her there are will lose their living situation.
You can love your child and not want to live with them.
Also her husband has been gone a year. If they wanted her they would of taken her in. She is on both ssdi and ssi.
I'm assuming mentally living with them also is not healthy for her and them. (Assuming because I have many senior friends who would fight if they lived together with adult kids. Being treated as a servent or being treated as a inconvenience or being generally mistreated as a human, happens often with adult kids. Not everyone ones home is like the waltons. )
very nice you feel "honoured" to take care for your parents. May I ask: do you work fulltime? Because if not you yourself are dependent on other peoples money. Not every woman can do this. Or wants to do this. I am working and saving for my own retirement. My parents took care of themselves (financially). That ist the right thing to do.
Poor poor darling what a very cruel country.
I am so sorry. This is awful that you can't even survive on disability which doesn't even make sense! 😢💔
Even before now that wasn't enough for anyone to survive they always plan on people working another part-time job or having a spouse. And we know that's not always possible.
HUGS! It's not her fault and society is punishing her. Hard to keep strength when you don't even have food. Disability isn't enough for the cost of living. I hope someone connects with her.
Multigenerational homes NEED to become the norm again, it's a win-win for the family. We've all been brainwashed to give our wealth away to everyone else, rather than keep it within the FAMILY.
It won't work - most folks at that time was rural and was involved in farming - with the industrial revolution it begat the nuclear family.
@@tibbydudeza sure it will work. Both sides of my family did it all the way up to my parents generation. My great grandmother lived with my aunt. My mother grew up with her tantas (4 of them! Spinsters.) My grandmother lived with her father, husband and kids. I now live with my mother. My brother is welcome to move in with his wife after my mother passes, if he wants. His daughter in college just moved home to start her unpaid 2 year internship. It's just about love and caring for FAMILY FIRST. And all these generations were city dwellers with good jobs and incomes.
Sadly people just don’t get along with each other! That is a major reason why! Me and my son could move back in with my mom but we argue too much! It’s her space.
@@brittanyb5942 I moved in w/ my mom during my divorce and it was VERY rocky and hard to adjust to. Thankfully in retrospect it forced me to learn how to deal with the situation. Because now I am her caregiver, and I wouldn't want it any other way. I think we're both surprised and grateful to how it's all turned out. Our relationship is stronger than ever before. Just my experience.
@@angelacahill9460sadly those days are long gone. Cost of living and the fact younger people on both sides of marriage have to work full time to stay above water it's just how it is now. All around the world has become more individualistic.
So sad. Hopefully she will find the necessary resources to help her. God Bless.
Much love to this beautiful woman, I pray she is in a house now, healing, safe & warm ♥️♥️♥️🌎♥️♥️♥️
Thanks to your donations to Paul, Ella is now in the hotel for a week. Both Paul and Ella are extremely grateful. firststepbackhome.net
Please let Ella know I'm praying for her and I'm happy to donate to her for the next 3-5 months. I just donated what I could to the site above and put a note it's for her. I am praying for her!
Thanks for just caring ❤
😇💞
Looking to donate how do we do it?
May God bring relief and blessings to this dear lady. I too am a widow. I am not homeless at this time, but I fear for what the future may bring. With the economy the way that it is it is frightening to be alone and not to have any way of knowing what the future my hold. Stay strong Ella. Believe me the last thing that your children would want is to loose you. Paul, please keep us updated about Ella. 🕯🙏
Did i say at this point i am sick and i cry out for this lady God come in and help her put her on the right path
I made sure she could stay in the hotel for another week, I wish I could do more than that. It is heartbreaking honestly. But her story hits close to home, my husband is going through chemo, not able to work. We don't have much but I wanted her to know someone cared. I pray they will find a shelter for her or family for friends can help her. God Bless her and all the others out there.
where is she and what hotel?
God Bless you more
how can we help?
How can we help her??? Is there a go fundme??
This Country and Our Government SHOULD BE ASHAMED!
The souls of wealthy pastors and policiticans will spend eternity in hell for this.
This is why we need universal basic income
@@ImabeBunnyI think if that were to happen and it was enough to keep a roof over people's heads and pay for all basic needs, people would choose not to work and the economy would suffer a huge implosion. I don't think we'll ever see UBI. I just don't see how it could be implemented that doesn't disrupt the fabric of society too much.
They help The Ukrainians and Israelis, but not our own citizens. We need a massive change quick!
Exactly, you nailed it.....
My heart goes out to Ella. It's so sad. Thank goodness for those rare people like Paul Kruse.
The system needs to change!!! Better lives for all of us.
Thank you so much for posting this. I hope some of the judgmental people she refers to can see this and learn that homelessness isn't caused by personal failings or personal faults but by happenstance.
She's the exception, usually is it a choice, drugs, selfishness...
Well even people with personal failings deserve compassion also because you never know their history either. They shouldn't be thrown away.
yes, yes but she herself never told us how she got into this situation. Those "judgemental people" you refer to should learn how she got there.
Housing should be declared a human right!
It is indeed according to the post-war declaration of human rights.
Absolutely right.
Chairman Mao's "iron rice-bowl" Chinese Communist party. Not knocking it, just saying.
I excelled in capitalist, business math in college, and I can tell you that the economic math is not working because of massive corruption in DemocratRepublican, bipartisan-incumbent, party-politics.
The Federal, DemocratRepublican government is the opposite of moral high-ground with ethical-superiority.
The Holy Bible says to take the moral high-ground with ethical-superiority to win wars. Need you wonder why the US has lost every war since Vietnam?
Government of war-criminals by war-criminals and for war-criminals.
@@nadeembitar5292While Communism isn't the answer, certainly strong safety nets are ! America became Neoliberal in 1981, our good jobs and manufacturing were sent overseas without our consent, apartments stopped getting built by that year,too. This set the US up for massive amounts of homelessness.
That doesn't mean anything. Houses are not free and magically fall from the sky. Such a declaration would not magically end homelessness.
Ive been homeless, both while single and with wife and children...always i figured God would send help, as long as i hung in there. It was scarey while with 6 children, but God always sent help in time. Thank you for being so compassionate to this dear lady in her plight of sudden trauma and dire need. ❤
Please reach out to your kids! It's okay in many other cultures around the globe! You took care of them, they can take care of you!
It used to be the norm in our culture, too, until 75 years ago! We’ve all been bamboozled into divided families!
To turn down their help and live like this is crazy. Live with your kids until you can get your husband‘s Social Security, save, and find a low income apartment. It’s necessary.
Did anyone noticed that she had her nails done! Like wtf?!
The stigma is to ensure that landlords make money.
@@ajsans9161those nails she has are self stick from $1 store. Something what make her feel better!
She has a lot to offer her children, she could even help them out with rent, food etc. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Don’t you mean they could help her out?
good idea
This is so so sad. Families are so fractured today. God Bless all of America and her people.
Why are families fractured?
Beautiful interview.
So sorry for her. God be with you and keep you.
She raised them, and her kids need to step up and care for their mother. It's called role-reversal.
She's afraid their wives won't be happy about this.
She had her nails done! 🤔
No one owes their parents
Do you realize that having kids is a choice and being born isn't?
If you're only having kids so they can take care of you later in life, then you're having them for the wrong reasons
This poor women, her poor sweet heart is hurting and you can see it in her eyes. I am crying with her, she deserves so much more in this world. :-(
I feel so sorry for Ella. I am surprised her sons let her go through this alone. I wouldn't let my mum go through this at all. It is our duty to take care of our parents when they grow old.
I disagree. For example I am an only child. Then my mother fell ill and died. Immediately after this my father too fell ill an is now in a care home.Year now he needs care 24/7. As the daughter I only take care of the organisation. I have to work and earn money for my own living.
I'm living right now on airbnb's and although I'm not on the street yet, the insecurity of my situation is taking a toll on me.
I can relate..
Wow, that's expensive! You must be loaded, how dare you complain. Shame
@@yesterdayseyes she's not complaining. Just stating her predicament. She is vulnerable too because the air b and b accommodation will not last long.
@@yesterdayseyesdon’t act like a jerk. She’s saying she’s about to be homeless. She needs help and understanding, not rude judgment
We as elderly people have helped our children sometimes they need to help us
Agree
😭😭😭😭 I feel your pain so much...from experience😭😭😭
I personally know feeling my husband died as well lost everything God bless this woman
it’s no
more a burden to have your kids feed & shelter you when needed then it was for you to be the vessel for the gift of life, feed, and shelter them.
I am happy she gets a hotel, your not alone .. . .I am over 60 worked here all my life got sick and within 6 years I now will be homeless. I am a grown man crying for your situation and please ask you to ask Jesus directly for help, please give him a chance. I had nothing to loose and so much to gain and he has done so much for me while this world had taken everything from me please ....its our only chance for peace. Praying for you sister...
Thank you for this wonderful reminder. I have to keep telling myself, “when God is all you have, you realize He’s all you need.” God has gotten me out of lots of situations, like almost running out of gas in the middle of nowhere. You are right. This evil world wants to see us fail. But greater is He who is in us, than he who is in the world.
@@annaburns2865 Amen sister, keep your chin up in my world your a queen above men, I will continue to pray.......much love and respect..
AMEN dear one.. HE IS OUR ONLY CHANCE for anything in this life and the one after. Praise Jesus
@@CanadianMapleleafCan you apply for affordable housing where you are living ? Subsidized affordable housing is the only way to avoid being trapped in the streets by homelessness. Most likely you'll need to contact a caseworker to get this started. Either through the housing authority,or DPSS.
@@JulieSevelson-nb9nj Theres a two year waiting list for housing
This breaks my heart.
Poor darling
What a gentle & sweet lady !! Hope she finds a way out of her bad situation first God🌷
I'm in the same predicament for a year myself after my wife left me. I did keep a roof over my head for four years till work ran out, so did money now I live in a tent work 50+ hours a week and can't find another apartment. But I've struggled ever since my divorce. My wife and I where together for 25 years
Where I’m from my family have a “family home” it’s a place where my grandpa, and unmarried aunts lived. When my grand pa passed away my unmarried sick with cancer uncle moved in. No one ask to be cared for. We pooled our money together to live. We still have that property today and two of my aunts live there. I want to keep this tradition in my family. Having a place where we can come together and support one another.✌🏾
That's wonderful, I wish everyone would think like you.❤
God bless her soul. I understand how she feels as I'm dealing with a similar situation. There's a paralyzing effect that's hard to describe. I'll pray for her.
Ella,
My heart breaks for you 💔
You are worthy of love & shelter.
God bless you 🙏
A woman should start out at a young age to never depend or rely on a man or someone else to be their sole support in life, must plan ahead for old age and be able to always support yourself.
Exactly!!
I'm a Christian with a big heart...but it's hard for me to have empathy in this situation. Why didn't this couple save or invest? Why didn't her husband have life insurance? Why wasn't she working as well?
I had an elderly roommate like this one time. She was in her 60's yet lived on $1100/month. I don't know how she did it! I finally introduced her to nannying. She started to make $20/hr and was able to get some dental work done and save.
There is no reason to be broke when you are elderly!!!
true but it was easy years ago now people can hardly afford a house and rent but the rent goes up and not the income. i stayed home with my children which made my SSI very low i could become homeless any month if i got sick and could not work, my family would not help
I totally agree. And every mother should educate her daughters accordingly.
Honor to Paul & wife. 🐬
I am so sorry for your situation. May God bless you.
God Bless this poor woman with shelter food and help and the love of God Prayers go out to her and many blessings
I lost everything and was homeless for 3yrs, i understood completely about how quickly you can loose it all
I just got a newsletter from the organization "First Step Back Home." I had contributed to this cause, they were the organization helping Ella. They do great work. They found her an apartment, so now she is housed. God bless her..glad she was able to get back on her feet.
very good. Now she herself should do something to help herself. So that she must not depend on others open end.
Thank you for assisting these people, I work for an MCO, and se this daily. God bless u!
She should not be ashamed to ask her own children for help, especially if things have gotten this bad. I hope she finds the help she needs.
We live in a sick sick society.
Support the Democrats and you will be even sicker.
Yes we do. What's wrong with this country. Everyone is me me me. I am 56 years old and barley make 24,000 a year. I got help to side my house thankfully. I was so grateful. I have heard from so many people asking how come I got help it's not fair I get help. My own brother asked whose paying for this? My taxes? I was embarrassed and felt so bad. I will never ask for help again
She needs to let her family know the truth about her situation.
This hurts to see... if she was my mom or grandma there's no way I could ever not take her in.
I do not believe you.
She is amazingly strong. I don't know if I would be as resilient if the rolls were reversed. She hit the nail on the head when she says that we don't know how or why people are where they are. I can almost guarantee that when people are kids that anyone would aspire to be in a situation like this. Compassion should always be our number one thought and priority. Ella, please keep on keeping on. No matter what anyone says, you are a valuable member of this world.
Heartbreaking to see this in what is supposed to be the greatest country.
It's time for this country to step up and finally take care of our own people !!!
Couple of homeless women get together and share the hotel bill
Wow very sad to see this woman going through this.
This woman evidently needs support and psychological help. She hasn’t gotten past her husband‘s death and she couldn’t deal with everyday life after his passing. Where were her kids/relatives/friends and neighbors? How many of „her“ are out there? She doesn’t know how to take care of herself.
yes, her real problem is her attachement to her husband. She cannot let her husband go. Financial problem is just very minor. I enperienced her problem when I was 30s. It would be better to experice hardship when a person is still young. So when he/she is old, wisdom learned in youth can help alone.
totally right. But she is a grown up person an not mentally ill it seems. She has to take care of herself. For help she needs a social worker. To help her helping herself.
❤ please, go to your children. They wouldn't be "taking care of you." You have wonderful gifts of wisdom, life experience, running a household, raising children. You can be with the baby when they shop, have date night, need time alone, or go back to work.
It's cheaper to add a person to a household than for one person to create and maintain a household. Your Income can help support the intergenerational household of you, your child, in-law, and grandchild.
I pray your family sees this video! And you become safe.
Another example of: "There but for the grace of God go I".
I agree 100% !! ❤❤❤
Perfectly explained!
Even if u sleep on a sofa with your family surely will be better than this life🙏🏻🙏🏻.. Bless you love from UK..❤️❤️🙏🏻🫂
Sweet Lady: Tell your children. You have a check coming in. You can probably help one of them by babysitting, paying some rent. Families need to stick together.
good idea, yes she has to do something too.
I want to help this poor lady 😢
God bless you, lady.
If you can afford it, get a life insurance policy for your spouse, so that they don't end up like this, if you die first.
God Bless Her 🙏🙏🙏🙏
She has serious psychiatric issues that need to be addressed. It is so difficult to lose someone but a healty minded person gets through it with time. I lost my partner of 14 years 1.5 years ago but I never relied on him to take care of me as I've ALWAYS been independent. I know how to do Everything and what I don't know, I learn. I make adjustments to changes because I have to. How does one live such a long life and have no friends or family. In NYC, no one should ever go hungry. I walk outside and there are are food pantries in every single direction. There are soup kitchens and places giving meals. Good luck to her. Jesus!!! Your husband is NOT EVER COMING BACK LADY. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! She sure has her nails done for someone giving up. Be strong! Be brave! I'd take my mom in and help her in a heartbeat - I wish she were here. My brothers were mommas boys and would do anything for their mom. We help each other. I don't get this.
I noticed she recently had her nails done. That money would have bought a lot of food. Or why doesn’t she get food stamps? All cities have soup kitchens.
Agreed
You can get nail polish at the dollar store so stop it.
It does happen to us. It happened to me, too. 59yr old woman alone, lost everything due to 2 heart attacks. You are in my heart. ♥
Women have to look after themselves you can't depend on anyone.
I totally agree. If you do not work and/or have your own financial ressources this can always happen to you. If so, it is your own responsibility if you did not plan ahead.