@@rosewatersweetteabecause most of the people on there are young and just there for social media fame /to go viral. It’s not a serious “show”. She was better off going on a real dating show.
I’m really starting to feel that way about Kendra G, and other shows alike. They disguise their content as genuinely interested in helping people find love and it’s really more bs than anything.
@blewgrassboy8461 That's ok. Just because I don't find someone attractive doesn't make that person ugly. Nor do I need to belittle that person or convince them they should lower their standards. Her standards were reasonable. Most of these guys are 5 and below, if she's a 3 then she's perfect for them.
being called plus sized isn’t an insult when you’re actually plus sized calling all types of fat and big backs that’s another thing. but i know that affects her because she keeps repeating it. if it bothers you change it. she’s beautiful and intelligent
so isn't it fair for men to have standards as well? she like tall men. they find her unattractive and overweight. its fair on both sides. wanting a ride or die is a standard as well whether we agree with it or not.
We want different things, and grandmother's, aunts and mothers used to teach women want men want, but now all compete for the same man because the older ladies are single and sabotage the younger ones.
Then when u get the bbl and all those surgeries they still down rate u. Simply being a black woman is a F’ing problem. Then if you black and a baddie they’ll tell u looks ain everything what do I bring to the tables they jus don’t like us but they need us. Most black mens dk how it feels to have their own place, a real legit job that actually pays the bills take care of their family etc. no matter how we conduct ourselves our melanin is going is always going to always set us back. F them all keep being you ladies
I find that a lot of men try to “humble” or drop women down a peg when they aren’t the “beauty standard/ baddie” They think they shouldn’t have standards. I think she did well, I would have even stood up for myself more. Be unapologetically confident. If they don’t like you they can keep it moving. You don’t need to belittle someone because you don’t like them.
Even when they are the beauty standard. They find some reason to shame them. Their miss, their shoes, nails, lashes, wig, job, the fact that they’re single. Whatever
@@fitzgeraldsemelfort3938 what was masculine? Y’all be misusing words. This woman is very sweet very friendly and articulate just because she’s not just being quiet and shutting the hell up and just sitting there looking pretty doesn’t make her masculine learn the real definition of that word.
If you are plus size person. And as a lady. Who doesn’t have that “hour glass” shape. Dating on these shows are gonna a tough. People can be tough on women’s shape. If she drops a few lbs. her chances would increase. I myself am overweight and working on it daily.
I disagree. This woman is not fat, she’s just very large-breasted. Her stomach is flat and she’s shapely. There are many men who would appreciate her body type
I’ve been both obese and thin. I had no problem getting someone, in fact was married, when I was obese. I agree it’s tougher to be on a dating show if you’re overweight.
Exactly. This lady did a lot of talking when the problem was obvious. She’s not the preference so therefore, she shouldn’t have been on the show. They were probably annoyed she showed up tbh. Guys who go on these weird online dating shows want someone who fits the IG look. Regular guys don’t go on these shows for a REASON. SMH I think BW gotta read the room and know which space is for you. She would probably be fine at an Afrotech event, socializing with educated dudes. Not clout chasers looking for a baddie fit for TV
this whole thread is filled with insecurity. this vid made me watch a few clips of the show and i see men going for dark skinned women. yall always gonna be blame something else instead of looking within and fixing your flaws. that is why youll more than likely never get the results you want.
@@meloran2571you’re not talking about me. I’m married to my high quality husband going on a decade. I have all of the results I want. ❤🥰 I never mentioned complexion one time, YOU did.🥴😑
Those guys were gaslighting.”ride or die “ is negative. He’s running drugs you’ll go to jail for him, he owes money to someone and you’re t turning t***ks, etc.
You’re absolutely fine for not wanting to be a “ride or die” for a boyfriend. The only time you should be loyal to a man is if there is a major commitment involved (i.e. marriage, children). But there should be boundaries. Helping your husband or the father of your children when he’s down may be an investment, especially if he has invested in you beforehand. But if he’s a lazy man who is refusing to work, a cheater, etc. you absolutely shouldn’t be with a man like this, but those qualities are on display well before marriage. Don’t let these lame men tell you that you’re wrong.
Ride or die means you are there for them. There is no misunderstanding you are plain selfish. Thinking of self. No one talked about cheating you are trying to switch it up now.
@@MorganRimming QUITE simple - other races have loyalty baked into their culture. We do not. MOST Sistas be talkin bout - (ninjas!?!?!?) ain't 💩💩💩!!! Sooo from jump, we are at a disadvantage (to a certain degree). Let's be real - ALL of us ain't on Bull-💩💩💩, right? Men have a laundry list of qualifications to even appear on a woman's radar. When we do actually qualify, we get disqualified for the dumbest things. THIS is the reason why so many of us (men?) at the top of our game are so HELLA selective - self-aware men understand the game. So do women. The problem - if you talk slick & loose & you're NOT an 8,9 or 10 (either gender) it's prolly NOT going to be a good afternoon for you with the opposite...🙊🖐🏾🤦🏾♂ Bottom line: the brothers that clowned her knew full well Sis wasn't even close to being top-shelf. NOT ugly, a little puggy, but kinda flirty. Methinks she would have had a "better" go during the event if she would have postured "better"... THAT comment bout "ride or die" - they're commin for you, Sis... 🙈👎🏾🤷🏿♂
It's a damn shame that many women cannot just accept that the man or men are simply not interested in you. No matter how great you think you are , you're not a match for everyone. You don't intimidate & your personality is not that big and strong. They just weren't interested. It's not because you're dark with a standard. They just weren't interested. Learn how to accept rejection as women.
Eh it’s def because she wasn’t the preferred looking black woman. And yes, colorism has a lot to do with it. But then again she’s also overweight. Not going to gaslight her about it, because those same men might date a white woman her size, especially if she had a good family background. I see it everyday lol
@@ninagrace-lee8323 Size and face are two entirely different things. I once dated a white woman her size because she had super attractive face. I personally don't find this woman in this video facially attractive. And just because she's thin doesn't mean she'll be attractive to everyone but she'll also prob say it's due to "colorism" if she loses weight and still gets rejected lmao. Women just need to accept the fact that not everyone will be attracted to everyone. Men get rejected dozens of times in our lifetime so we're used to it.
@@ninagrace-lee8323not one thing you said had ANYTHING to do with why the men werent interested. Her WORDS got her rejected. Majority of the men held on to their balloons until damn near the end.
1. I think she did great! Has dating always been this complicated?? It’s like you have to be f****** perfect! Once she made the ride or die comment, they formed their responses immediately and totally ignored her explanation. 2. Y’all also gotta stop going on these platforms that advertise trying to help people look for love when they’re really for entertainment purposes. This kinda content is a hot commodity right now.
We can’t use “intimidated” all of the time. They just didn’t like her. Seems like the balloons popped based on what she said and not so much how she looks. And that’s fine. Her match was not there. She seems pretty levelheaded and knows what she wants. I wish her the best.
Those ninjas are looking for pickmesha that they can use and abuse with no brain. They tried to make her feel like it something was wrong with her. She is beautiful.
@@bigtank6465A woman that will do absolutely anything for a man whether or not he’s attracted to her and even if she has to sacrifice her own health and well being. Some examples include, dating an able bodied man with no job because he’s attractive, going through a man’s phone to check if he’s cheating, having seggs for fun because men do it and making your career your entire personality to make it seem like you’re better than other women.
I don’t feel like this show is good for women’s self esteem, I feel like some men get off on trying to tear a woman down. It’s the environment that we’re in today, some men would rather be sassy than respectful.
She did great and articulated herself well in that moment with calm respectful tone too- And love Ash advice about still being yourself but learning to read a room 👏🏾
I’m 42 and I look younger than her. That’s a hard 27, I am also about 75 lbs lighter. Atlanta is not the place for her to find love, to much competition.
She wasn’t masculine at all. Her mannerisms and voice is feminine like what 😭. They really trying to play in her face, I hate that for her. She was talking very articulately and intelligent. They were just mad that she wouldn’t put up w their shit.
a women get on a dating show in front of what she claim to be decent looking men, says she's strong and want to lead in the relationship sometimes, isn't masculine? no wonder so many of yall can't and will never find a high quality man long term. she's actually the one who's mad because everyone there decided not to deal with her ish.
You talk like it calling people mad when they are not attracted to a woman. It's a reason you like her but men don't. Does she want men or women@@lw5820
Ladies, men love women with confidence, but we don't want to have to "conquer" your strong personality. We battle the outside world, we don't want to have to come home to battle you also.
@@Dallas_214-wy1ix Never said that, we are talking about her saying she has a strong personality. I am addressing that. Her strong personality is for her against the world, but a strong personality doesn't help you in dating! Facts
@@_astraeus_9045 not as lame as the men. They pick the men straight off the streets it seems. Most of them are unattractive and don’t even have a real career. I get they super young but sheesh get it together. I be embarrassed for them.
she was upset because there was a couple of men. She was very interested in, and because they pop their balloon due to the ride or die comment. She just came on there to vent because she was upset. And then talking about her having a strong personality it had nothing to do with that or her weight. From watching the full segment, it was a veryintellectual conversation very calm collective and everyone had different perspectives on life and that’s OK. But she was upset and wanted to come on to Ashley to vent.
I got married before finding Ashley's channel. Now I know better! I settled and was drained. I'm getting my shimmy back now. There is always hope and we don't have to take crumbs anymore.
That’s sad that she was that desperate to go on a show like that.Those shows are very low brow.She seems like a nice lady but she definitely talks too much.
I remember this episode! Sis if you’re watching the comments, you came across SO well! If you’re not finding a man, it means it’s the WRONG environment. Let me just say, a pop the balloon show where everyone is consistently plugging their businesses and popping because of someone’s shoes is not going to yield the results. The right man who is willing to have an educated conversation with nuances is out there 🙏🏾
They wanted her to be willing to suffer for them. Sis ain't willing to suffer. I am so proud of her for not being willing to suffer for a man that is doing wrong.
I saw her episode and she articulated herself well. However, the men in that lineup felt she didn't have the aesthetic to make the requests she was making. I like her hair and outfit better here than on the show. You could tell she kept repeating herself they heard what they wanted to hear. She is a bit quick to be offended but she seems like a genuine person.
Women don’t seem to give other women actual advice; it’s all cheerleading because they in-turn, have to push a product. Ashley needs to simply say “maybe you’re the problem”. But if she does that, other women will stop booking sessions. It’s a tough game. 🤷🏾♂️
that whole forgot her name thing was unnecessary and pretty rude. if she's not a 3, fat or whatever people said in the comments, then why is she still trying to get on all these dating shows? she could simply go out there and compete with other women, and get the man she think she deserve. the best thing she can do is prove those men wrong.
This one took a lot out of me lol i had to break it up in 3 parts lol. You can tell she was either anxious or didn't have someone to talk with to express how she felt about the experience. she kept going and going lol. I really hope she finds someone soon
I did find the video where she participated in the balloon popping game with a group of guys. Surprisingly, they were educated and well-rounded, which isn't usually the case in such games. When her balloon popped, she immediately asked if it was because she was dark-skinned, but the guy denied it, stating it was solely based on looks. Throughout the video, they were quite respectful; no one called her a "3". She also popped some balloons herself. She connected with one guy but mentioned she likes to be the alpha. Eventually, others popped their balloons too. I think her comments were misleading. Nobody called her fat. She asked them about their type, and only one guy mentioned preferring women who go to the gym, but he didn't pop her balloon afterward. No one said she was a "three". You guys should watch the video.
I think she carried herself well, set her boundaries, standards, and expectations from the beginning. #1 Never sway with you're values because that's when you lower what's meant for you. You are so much more, and I think the boys knew you were nothing to play with. All that and a bag of Chips. God bless you and your journey ❤❤
This woman talks way too much. This segment lasted 17:32. She talked for 16 of those minutes and didn't seem interested in anything the host said. That is a turnoff to most men. If that is part of her "strong" personality, she may never find a longterm partner.
There is ZERO reason for a woman in her 20’s with no kids to be overweight! The caliber of men these women desire don’t match up to their waistline! I met my wife she was 27, 5’7” 120-125lbs. After having 2 kids and over 20yrs later she’s 135lbs Her absolute fittest she was 125lbs alternating hot yoga and Pilates in her 40’s! Y’all young ladies need to stop eating and drinking and get in the gym!
You are so remedial. Not all males want a female who's 135 pounds and not every female secretly wants to be 135 pounds and not every female wants a muscular or fit male. It's a shame that you've made 4out to adulthood and you still have to be told this. Work on yourself!
She looks different, didn’t recognize her. She keeps saying men are intimidated by her. Men will always step up & rise to the occasion for the woman they want. I can’t believe she traveled to be on that show.
@@rosewatersweettea Men are not intimidated by women & do not care about your accomplishments, degree, money, house, car. etc. those things do not make you a good mate. She was dating someone making $150k, was he intimidated too? I believe she said he just wasn’t interested
@@Risha-Renemen do get intimidated I don't know who started the whole men don't get intimidated nonsense. I've literally had a man tell me he was intimidated by me cause I had my stuff together, was he lying?
@@Divinatonio anecdotal experience is NOT the rule, Sis. He wasn't lying. He prolly was honest bout keeping up with your high-powered career path. Also, typically - when women have THAT talk bout "having their $h1t together & you (men) don't...we understand that also means the "shot clock" has started (specifically for divorce...) 💔💔💔 Just like if he made triple the money you were making & one day he decides he wants a younger, hotter, HELLA-less traumatized female that you can't compete with. Would YOU be intimidated? 🤔🤔🤔 I'll wait...😏😏😏
@@Divinatonio so that means you were dating someone that didn’t have their stuff together? I don’t comment on those men. When I talk about men I’m talking about men with careers, status & can provide for a family if they choose to. You clearly don’t date those men
@@Risha-Rene where did I say that 😂😂. How do you know who I date? You don't know me 😭😭. He has all his stuff together and because I do too he knew that alone wasn't gonna impress me, all dudes are like this.
Men are extremely visual and most are not attracted to obese women. We think it's unfair b/c we highlight our personalities and achievements, but those are no substitute. Humans likely evolved like this b/c how we look is a good indicator of health and fertility, for example obesity is an unconscious signal that the person has a metabolic disorder such as diabetes (which is mean disease, btw). There's also something in women called the waist to hip ratio, a 2:3 measurement excites males the most, and the sexier more fertile guys have a V shaped body. Of course as we age, our bodies move away from the unconscious ideal, but if we are young adults we increase the odds of a attracting a larger dating pool. Investing in a personal trainer and going to a dietician and working a program consistently is the healthiest way get healthy, otherwise most people end up battling their foodie addictions until their health declines. Good luck.
Oddly enough it seems like all the so called obese ladies/ big mamas are having the babies so that theme is off. I studied the body ratio in school and totally understand where your thought process is from but when it’s an obese dude ladies are told to accept them. We’re just a bunch of mean people that want perfection but we are void of it ourselves.
We need more healthy relationships period and may be off topic but older women love to harp on older men's ED but that's only due to poor diet and lack of exercise on the man's part lack of blood flow. So when you cooking all that bad and greasy food you feeding him remember that.
She has clearly explained. She has her views and it is not only her who thinks this way. In other cultures this is okay but as she is a black woman they are getting mad.
I think in the energy in the room made her "ride or die" comment worse. I understand why men could take it the wrong way. And the format of the show does not give her an opportunity to fully explain herself.
Any men looking for a ride or die are insecure about their capabilities. You shouldn't want your woman to struggle with you. You should work hard to make sure it will never happen, because she was fine without you. Don't make her suffer because she is with you.
Completely misrepresenting how the show actually went. The men outlined exactly what they meant by "ride or die" they even gave examples and said cheating or mistreating her AS WELL AS BEING A LOW LIFE DIDNT COUNT. Shes used to dating Pookies so she refused to let go of those examples and chose to die on this hill. 2 examples the MEN gave were if he lost his job or a limb would she be looking to jump ship instantly and she basically said she wasnt with sticking around for that either. Also not one man on the panel disrespected her in ANY way or insulted her looks.
Yeah, she's letting hating comments and dudes that women hating dudes get to her. Like keep it moving ma. Dude tried to shade you, you shaded him back good. F him. Why you still talking to dude still? Cmon now.
I mean the men who don't know her will give her an relatively honest ranking of where she stands in the sextual market place. You can think your a 10 but do men think the same. Sometimes you have to listen to folks outside of your echo chamber
She seems like a lovely, self aware lady but they were trying to play her because she has boundaries and a belly, simple as that. Men are shallow and selfish so it was never gonna work.
It's the balloon 🎈 popping shows fault, she is still single, has been on the Ashley Dalton show twice, and the men are wrong. Who is the common denominator in this equation? HER!
Coming off Strong doesn’t make a man intimidated. It turns him off. They just don’t wanna deal with it. It has nothing to do with intimidation. we needed KS so bad, it doesn’t make any sense.
She is absolutely beautiful and explained herself very clearly and in an open matter. The problem is that even tho she’s so beautiful, men only see one thing when it comes to women. Shape and status. She looks like she has too much 💰to be easily impressed and they don’t think it’s worth it
Shes just not attractive and overweight.. so she's delusional if she thinks a man on the level she wants will consider settling for her when he can find a woman with enough discipline to go to the gym and not stuff her face all day
After watching a lot of these shows, men and women have very different expectations for mates. I see it more in the 20s-40s. The older men are pretty much the same, not much changed over the years.
for her to be a grown woman, she letting comments in the comment section dictate how she feel. The men on that show in real life in her face didn’t pop their balloon because of her weight. She looked great on the show. She looks great now she needs to be more secure on herself. They let comments of people who would probably be all up in her face in real life dictate how she feels. Like girl.
I enjoyed her part on the show but let’s be honest Alexis, you been on a couple of dating vids and you did gain a generous amount of weight. Honest advice is get healthier and always stand firm on what you believe. I just don’t think it’s fair that she brought up this Specific episode and not the other ones. Nonetheless hope everything works out for her
She hit all the buzz words I felt the men were intimidated Colorism played a part They called me fat. Aside from that cute chick, solid body imo.... BUT not all men are gonna be into that, so no point in hyper focusing on it.
She's receptive and reflective to feedback and looking to improve her position so it sounds like she should be able to find a decent partner. All the best to her.
Ready To Love 💕🙌🙌 If you truly going on that show. I will support you because it's a fresh start. Be Humble and stop 🛑 Popping back at the Men. Be Graceful and let people love you for the authentic you and not your Mouth 🤭☺️
Both of you ladies are BEAUTIFUL! I do think that the woman who went on the dating show, should tone up her body. Her standards are completely fine and I agree with her with the ride or die thing!
I have always thought the reality tv type of dating shows like the bachelor, ready to love, pop the balloon, those shows usually favour mostly people who society consider physically attractive. In reality dating is not really like that because usually with shows like this there are a lot of options to choose from at once and so the people who are considered conventionally attractive get the upper hand. Meanwhile in reality she may be able to get a man even before other ladies society consider more attractive. This go for men too. If he is not a certain height, doesn’t look a certain way or is not dressed a certain way women on shows like this don’t like them.
She seems lovely and I hope she finds love. She came across classy on Pop the Ballon. I think sometimes, some men see a women who comes across confident with boundaries and they just feel the need to ‘humble’…. Weird
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Pop the ballon show is an entertainment show its not the type of place you go if you're serious about finding a real relationship.
Why don’t you think it’s serious? Physical attraction is the first step to dating.
I don't like that show
@@rosewatersweetteabecause most of the people on there are young and just there for social media fame /to go viral. It’s not a serious “show”. She was better off going on a real dating show.
I’m really starting to feel that way about Kendra G, and other shows alike. They disguise their content as genuinely interested in helping people find love and it’s really more bs than anything.
@@tasintamron I think Kendra's show is an accurate depiction of the dating market. A 💩 show.
She explained herself very well. Some people are committed to misunderstanding.
So she isn't a 3 when she is exactly a 3
Yeah that one guy in the white was just ready to argue.
@dondattaford5593 A lot of people are 3 including your mother but yet someone looked past that and here you are.
Honestly I think her personality has nothing to do with it. It was her looks.
@blewgrassboy8461 That's ok. Just because I don't find someone attractive doesn't make that person ugly. Nor do I need to belittle that person or convince them they should lower their standards. Her standards were reasonable. Most of these guys are 5 and below, if she's a 3 then she's perfect for them.
being called plus sized isn’t an insult when you’re actually plus sized calling
all types of fat and big backs that’s another thing. but i know that affects her because she keeps repeating it. if it bothers you change it. she’s beautiful and intelligent
She thinks she’s skinny
She is not beautiful. Wish you females would stop lying to each other.
@@HottSundaeshe's not skinny and she's not fat
@@caramelAquariusbut she could lose some pounds. Lbfr
@@caramelAquarius she is beautiful kinda looks like nicki manaj and a body with a bust over a size D just reads plus size.
She presented her self very well on the show. Not getting any masculine vibes at all. She looks beautiful. I hope she finds who she's looking for.
Man we must have watched a different show.
@Ripside2 Yeah, because she is masculine
😂yeah cuddling her.
The men say otherwise
A lot of men are just super soft these days
When you don’t have what they consider perfection they believe you shouldn’t have ANY standards at all.
so isn't it fair for men to have standards as well? she like tall men. they find her unattractive and overweight. its fair on both sides. wanting a ride or die is a standard as well whether we agree with it or not.
Exactly. When you don’t fit societal beauty standards they expect you to accept dirt!
We want different things, and grandmother's, aunts and mothers used to teach women want men want, but now all compete for the same man because the older ladies are single and sabotage the younger ones.
Then when u get the bbl and all those surgeries they still down rate u. Simply being a black woman is a F’ing problem. Then if you black and a baddie they’ll tell u looks ain everything what do I bring to the tables they jus don’t like us but they need us. Most black mens dk how it feels to have their own place, a real legit job that actually pays the bills take care of their family etc. no matter how we conduct ourselves our melanin is going is always going to always set us back. F them all keep being you ladies
You can have standards but that doesn't mean you will get what you want
Her current hairstyle is 1,000 times more flattering than when she was on the show.
I don’t think so, it’s giving auntie vibes and not in a good way. On the show she looks 32 with the new hair she looks 35.
she had straight hair on the show.....here she has ramen noodles.
@@itypethetruthnobshere8975 you dont like curls ?
@@melaninmonroeeee they like it on non black women
She still a 3.5 😂😂😂 Erica
I find that a lot of men try to “humble” or drop women down a peg when they aren’t the “beauty standard/ baddie” They think they shouldn’t have standards. I think she did well, I would have even stood up for myself more. Be unapologetically confident. If they don’t like you they can keep it moving. You don’t need to belittle someone because you don’t like them.
Masculine 🙅🏿
Who hurt you
@@shynebayarea510what worthless wm failed to swallow you
Even when they are the beauty standard. They find some reason to shame them. Their miss, their shoes, nails, lashes, wig, job, the fact that they’re single. Whatever
@@fitzgeraldsemelfort3938 what was masculine? Y’all be misusing words. This woman is very sweet very friendly and articulate just because she’s not just being quiet and shutting the hell up and just sitting there looking pretty doesn’t make her masculine learn the real definition of that word.
If you are plus size person. And as a lady. Who doesn’t have that “hour glass” shape. Dating on these shows are gonna a tough. People can be tough on women’s shape. If she drops a few lbs. her chances would increase.
I myself am overweight and working on it daily.
I disagree. This woman is not fat, she’s just very large-breasted. Her stomach is flat and she’s shapely. There are many men who would appreciate her body type
@@stinedange9152 she literally has a belly. she is overweight
She’s beautiful but she IS indeed plus size
That’s not always true I kno plenty of fat girls thats 10’s in the face that never had a problem getting a man & can get any man they want
I’ve been both obese and thin. I had no problem getting someone, in fact was married, when I was obese. I agree it’s tougher to be on a dating show if you’re overweight.
They just didn’t like her and were not physically attracted to her. The misunderstanding was intentional. Lol smh
agree, she wasn't a skinny light skin woman so they try to tear her down even though she's beautiful
@@monharris28right! That’s exactly what it was. She’s very beautiful and down to earth and seems very friendly.
Exactly. This lady did a lot of talking when the problem was obvious. She’s not the preference so therefore, she shouldn’t have been on the show. They were probably annoyed she showed up tbh. Guys who go on these weird online dating shows want someone who fits the IG look. Regular guys don’t go on these shows for a REASON.
SMH I think BW gotta read the room and know which space is for you. She would probably be fine at an Afrotech event, socializing with educated dudes. Not clout chasers looking for a baddie fit for TV
this whole thread is filled with insecurity. this vid made me watch a few clips of the show and i see men going for dark skinned women. yall always gonna be blame something else instead of looking within and fixing your flaws. that is why youll more than likely never get the results you want.
@@meloran2571you’re not talking about me. I’m married to my high quality husband going on a decade. I have all of the results I want. ❤🥰 I never mentioned complexion one time, YOU did.🥴😑
Those guys were gaslighting.”ride or die “ is negative. He’s running drugs you’ll go to jail for him, he owes money to someone and you’re t turning t***ks, etc.
You’re absolutely fine for not wanting to be a “ride or die” for a boyfriend. The only time you should be loyal to a man is if there is a major commitment involved (i.e. marriage, children). But there should be boundaries. Helping your husband or the father of your children when he’s down may be an investment, especially if he has invested in you beforehand. But if he’s a lazy man who is refusing to work, a cheater, etc. you absolutely shouldn’t be with a man like this, but those qualities are on display well before marriage. Don’t let these lame men tell you that you’re wrong.
Ride or die means you are there for them. There is no misunderstanding you are plain selfish. Thinking of self. No one talked about cheating you are trying to switch it up now.
@@vc391 thank you...👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾
Why is it only black men who use this ride or die term within their community of women? I've never heard of other races doing this. It's just yall.
@@MorganRimming QUITE simple - other races have loyalty baked into their culture. We do not. MOST Sistas be talkin bout - (ninjas!?!?!?) ain't 💩💩💩!!! Sooo from jump, we are at a disadvantage (to a certain degree).
Let's be real - ALL of us ain't on Bull-💩💩💩, right? Men have a laundry list of qualifications to even appear on a woman's radar. When we do actually qualify, we get disqualified for the dumbest things. THIS is the reason why so many of us (men?) at the top of our game are so HELLA selective - self-aware men understand the game. So do women. The problem - if you talk slick & loose & you're NOT an 8,9 or 10 (either gender) it's prolly NOT going to be a good afternoon for you with the opposite...🙊🖐🏾🤦🏾♂
Bottom line: the brothers that clowned her knew full well Sis wasn't even close to being top-shelf. NOT ugly, a little puggy, but kinda flirty. Methinks she would have had a "better" go during the event if she would have postured "better"...
THAT comment bout "ride or die" - they're commin for you, Sis... 🙈👎🏾🤷🏿♂
@@MorganRimming Ride or die means a wife that will not steal half of a man's assets and his children. She isn't it.
Very beautiful & Intelligent woman. They weren’t the right crowd for her
Yall call every other female beautiful. Exactly why yall are terrible judges. Most to all men won't call her beautiful.
Beautiful according to who?
@@garygreen7104 women are terrible judges.
She needs to stay in her lane
@@garygreen7104Such an immature response. 🙄
Wait…yall going on the balloon show dead serious trying to find a real date? BFFR
Exactly!!- I thought that isht was for pure entertainment 😂😂
I thought the show was fake! 😅 til just now seeing this
😂😂😂😂
😂🤣
A couple just got engaged from there
It's a damn shame that many women cannot just accept that the man or men are simply not interested in you. No matter how great you think you are , you're not a match for everyone. You don't intimidate & your personality is not that big and strong. They just weren't interested. It's not because you're dark with a standard. They just weren't interested. Learn how to accept rejection as women.
facts. funny how they always project their own insecurities onto other people lol.
Eh it’s def because she wasn’t the preferred looking black woman. And yes, colorism has a lot to do with it. But then again she’s also overweight. Not going to gaslight her about it, because those same men might date a white woman her size, especially if she had a good family background. I see it everyday lol
@@ninagrace-lee8323 Size and face are two entirely different things. I once dated a white woman her size because she had super attractive face. I personally don't find this woman in this video facially attractive. And just because she's thin doesn't mean she'll be attractive to everyone but she'll also prob say it's due to "colorism" if she loses weight and still gets rejected lmao. Women just need to accept the fact that not everyone will be attracted to everyone. Men get rejected dozens of times in our lifetime so we're used to it.
@@ninagrace-lee8323stop with the colorist talk when black women are the biggest colorist EVER.
@@ninagrace-lee8323not one thing you said had ANYTHING to do with why the men werent interested. Her WORDS got her rejected. Majority of the men held on to their balloons until damn near the end.
I loved her on that episode. I think she did amazing! They didn’t understand what she meant.
Yes they did.
She was wrong.
She missed the point.
Only one definition of ride or die.
They understood her perfectly. They wanted a stupid young girl who would accept cheating and being broke.
@@tmcurly clearly there can be an interpretation
@@tmcurlydo you like women?
1. I think she did great! Has dating always been this complicated?? It’s like you have to be f****** perfect! Once she made the ride or die comment, they formed their responses immediately and totally ignored her explanation.
2. Y’all also gotta stop going on these platforms that advertise trying to help people look for love when they’re really for entertainment purposes. This kinda content is a hot commodity right now.
Men's standards aren't really that high
Don't be "big"
Don't have kids
Don't be mean
That's really it
We can’t use “intimidated” all of the time. They just didn’t like her. Seems like the balloons popped based on what she said and not so much how she looks. And that’s fine. Her match was not there.
She seems pretty levelheaded and knows what she wants. I wish her the best.
Those ninjas are looking for pickmesha that they can use and abuse with no brain. They tried to make her feel like it something was wrong with her. She is beautiful.
Do you see how brutal the females be on their I think it’s fair
What is "Pickmesha"??
Men tell you what they want, only 2% of men want BBW.
exactlyyyyy!!!!!
@@bigtank6465A woman that will do absolutely anything for a man whether or not he’s attracted to her and even if she has to sacrifice her own health and well being. Some examples include, dating an able bodied man with no job because he’s attractive, going through a man’s phone to check if he’s cheating, having seggs for fun because men do it and making your career your entire personality to make it seem like you’re better than other women.
I don’t feel like this show is good for women’s self esteem, I feel like some men get off on trying to tear a woman down. It’s the environment that we’re in today, some men would rather be sassy than respectful.
She seems so sweet💞💞 and she is extremely straightforward and I understood her well even on the show…. Smfh
Your explanation of “ride or die” was perfect though!
She did great and articulated herself well in that moment with calm respectful tone too- And love Ash advice about still being yourself but learning to read a room 👏🏾
I’m 42 and I look younger than her. That’s a hard 27, I am also about 75 lbs lighter. Atlanta is not the place for her to find love, to much competition.
Lol same thing I said I thought she was in her 40s I couldn’t believe she’s my age mate
She also needs a bra.
Idk why these women keep coming on this show bra-less.
Whew that was a very lemony bitter mean snakey comment. Your soul must stank
Exactly my thought she look wayyyyy.!! Older than her age and I’m 34
She’s beautiful, what’s the issue ?
She wasn’t masculine at all. Her mannerisms and voice is feminine like what 😭. They really trying to play in her face, I hate that for her. She was talking very articulately and intelligent. They were just mad that she wouldn’t put up w their shit.
a women get on a dating show in front of what she claim to be decent looking men, says she's strong and want to lead in the relationship sometimes, isn't masculine? no wonder so many of yall can't and will never find a high quality man long term. she's actually the one who's mad because everyone there decided not to deal with her ish.
They weren’t attracted to her
Go date her
@@shynebayarea510 not gay 😘
You talk like it calling people mad when they are not attracted to a woman. It's a reason you like her but men don't. Does she want men or women@@lw5820
Ladies, men love women with confidence, but we don't want to have to "conquer" your strong personality. We battle the outside world, we don't want to have to come home to battle you also.
Why do men say they battle the outside world as if women don’t??? I don’t understand why men say this
@@Dallas_214-wy1ix Never said that, we are talking about her saying she has a strong personality. I am addressing that. Her strong personality is for her against the world, but a strong personality doesn't help you in dating! Facts
@@Dallas_214-wy1ixOf course women “battle” too. He’s saying take off your armor when you get home.
@@Gotinks okay I understand now
Where’s the battle? Having a brain 🧠
i love how she speaks its very proper and she articulates very well. i loved her hair in the pop the balloon clip
Most of the men that go on the show lame as h*ll. If you ever seen an episode of that show, you would understand.
So are the women too
@@_astraeus_9045 not as lame as the men. They pick the men straight off the streets it seems. Most of them are unattractive and don’t even have a real career. I get they super young but sheesh get it together. I be embarrassed for them.
@@_astraeus_9045 were not talking about the women, only the men please stay on point.
True but I've seen a gem or 2
@@kujas so why women keep going on the show if all the men lame ?? why not save their time
She’s such a pretty lady. Love her personality.
She talks ALOT ! How you ask for advice yet barely let Ashley talk ? I can only imagine how conversations with men go
she was upset because there was a couple of men. She was very interested in, and because they pop their balloon due to the ride or die comment. She just came on there to vent because she was upset. And then talking about her having a strong personality it had nothing to do with that or her weight. From watching the full segment, it was a veryintellectual conversation very calm collective and everyone had different perspectives on life and that’s OK. But she was upset and wanted to come on to Ashley to vent.
I got married before finding Ashley's channel. Now I know better! I settled and was drained. I'm getting my shimmy back now. There is always hope and we don't have to take crumbs anymore.
That’s sad that she was that desperate to go on a show like that.Those shows are very low brow.She seems like a nice lady but she definitely talks too much.
I remember this episode! Sis if you’re watching the comments, you came across SO well! If you’re not finding a man, it means it’s the WRONG environment. Let me just say, a pop the balloon show where everyone is consistently plugging their businesses and popping because of someone’s shoes is not going to yield the results. The right man who is willing to have an educated conversation with nuances is out there 🙏🏾
Right and talking about people calling her plus size. That’s a lie. None of them. Men talked about her weight at all.
In a room full of decent men, "ride or die" has a different context than what you may believe. Either way, that dude was corny with that name ish.
They wanted her to be willing to suffer for them. Sis ain't willing to suffer. I am so proud of her for not being willing to suffer for a man that is doing wrong.
I saw her episode and she articulated herself well. However, the men in that lineup felt she didn't have the aesthetic to make the requests she was making. I like her hair and outfit better here than on the show. You could tell she kept repeating herself they heard what they wanted to hear. She is a bit quick to be offended but she seems like a genuine person.
Women don’t seem to give other women actual advice; it’s all cheerleading because they in-turn, have to push a product. Ashley needs to simply say “maybe you’re the problem”. But if she does that, other women will stop booking sessions.
It’s a tough game. 🤷🏾♂️
Yes I notice this too... she don't be helping them fr .
There’s a lot of money in pandering to black women’s delusions. Ask Derick Jaxson 😅
@@Bluntgirly cause she need her mulah
that whole forgot her name thing was unnecessary and pretty rude. if she's not a 3, fat or whatever people said in the comments, then why is she still trying to get on all these dating shows? she could simply go out there and compete with other women, and get the man she think she deserve. the best thing she can do is prove those men wrong.
Women always tell themselves that rejection was really men being intimidated. WHEN WILL THEY LEARN.
Women can't handle rejection. The Bumble app toyed with this concept and failed miserably.
That show should have a more diverse set of candidates.
THIS
This one took a lot out of me lol i had to break it up in 3 parts lol. You can tell she was either anxious or didn't have someone to talk with to express how she felt about the experience. she kept going and going lol. I really hope she finds someone soon
I did find the video where she participated in the balloon popping game with a group of guys. Surprisingly, they were educated and well-rounded, which isn't usually the case in such games. When her balloon popped, she immediately asked if it was because she was dark-skinned, but the guy denied it, stating it was solely based on looks. Throughout the video, they were quite respectful; no one called her a "3". She also popped some balloons herself. She connected with one guy but mentioned she likes to be the alpha. Eventually, others popped their balloons too. I think her comments were misleading. Nobody called her fat. She asked them about their type, and only one guy mentioned preferring women who go to the gym, but he didn't pop her balloon afterward. No one said she was a "three". You guys should watch the video.
Interesting…I’m going to go watch the video
I watched the episode, too, and she was misleading how she came off. There was a more chocolate woman who was so bubbly that no one popped.
Exactly shes trying to weaponize the public against those men when those men, aside from MAYBE one, were extremely respectful and never insulted her
I also think she maybe referring to the comments and not so much the show itself.
The people in the comments of those videos called her those things.
A successful Caribbean man would appreciate her more. Mostly black countries understand our hair, sizes, features and show it.
Yup!!
I could have sworn she came to get advice from Ashley. She barely stopped talking.
came to complain pretty much. as if that will help her going forward
@@meloran2571well she has something on her mind and she wanted to get it out
Masculine
@@fitzgeraldsemelfort3938 please learn what that word means before you miss use it😂
19:38 It's fair to want what you want, but does who you want want you too? That's the real question
Facts. Until women accept their reality, they will always be at war with themselves. At the end of the day, the "market" decides.
She has to find a man willing to present her as his girl that’s why women like this in up with ppl who just get out of jail
Alexis you were very respectful, you are beautiful and none of those guys deserved you. You carried yourself like an intelligent woman. ❤
Ashley wear the cutest blouses! Hey girl!
I think she carried herself well, set her boundaries, standards, and expectations from the beginning. #1 Never sway with you're values because that's when you lower what's meant for you. You are so much more, and I think the boys knew you were nothing to play with. All that and a bag of Chips. God bless you and your journey ❤❤
This woman talks way too much. This segment lasted 17:32. She talked for 16 of those minutes and didn't seem interested in anything the host said. That is a turnoff to most men. If that is part of her "strong" personality, she may never find a longterm partner.
I made a mistake. The video lasted 22 minutes and she talked for 19 minutes.
Some people choose to not understand things! It was very easy to understand she used very simple language and she was not running on!
She bad built
She’s beautiful, articulate, but kinda draining. She’s seeking reassurance, which she ultimately needs to find within herself. Best wishes to her.
There is ZERO reason for a woman in her 20’s with no kids to be overweight! The caliber of men these women desire don’t match up to their waistline! I met my wife she was 27, 5’7” 120-125lbs. After having 2 kids and over 20yrs later she’s 135lbs Her absolute fittest she was 125lbs alternating hot yoga and Pilates in her 40’s! Y’all young ladies need to stop eating and drinking and get in the gym!
You are so remedial.
Not all males want a female who's 135 pounds and not every female secretly wants to be 135 pounds and not every female wants a muscular or fit male.
It's a shame that you've made 4out to adulthood and you still have to be told this. Work on yourself!
She looks different, didn’t recognize her. She keeps saying men are intimidated by her. Men will always step up & rise to the occasion for the woman they want. I can’t believe she traveled to be on that show.
@@rosewatersweettea Men are not intimidated by women & do not care about your accomplishments, degree, money, house, car. etc. those things do not make you a good mate. She was dating someone making $150k, was he intimidated too? I believe she said he just wasn’t interested
@@Risha-Renemen do get intimidated I don't know who started the whole men don't get intimidated nonsense. I've literally had a man tell me he was intimidated by me cause I had my stuff together, was he lying?
@@Divinatonio anecdotal experience is NOT the rule, Sis. He wasn't lying. He prolly was honest bout keeping up with your high-powered career path. Also, typically - when women have THAT talk bout "having their $h1t together & you (men) don't...we understand that also means the "shot clock" has started (specifically for divorce...) 💔💔💔
Just like if he made triple the money you were making & one day he decides he wants a younger, hotter, HELLA-less traumatized female that you can't compete with. Would YOU be intimidated? 🤔🤔🤔
I'll wait...😏😏😏
@@Divinatonio so that means you were dating someone that didn’t have their stuff together? I don’t comment on those men. When I talk about men I’m talking about men with careers, status & can provide for a family if they choose to. You clearly don’t date those men
@@Risha-Rene where did I say that 😂😂. How do you know who I date? You don't know me 😭😭. He has all his stuff together and because I do too he knew that alone wasn't gonna impress me, all dudes are like this.
Men are extremely visual and most are not attracted to obese women. We think it's unfair b/c we highlight our personalities and achievements, but those are no substitute. Humans likely evolved like this b/c how we look is a good indicator of health and fertility, for example obesity is an unconscious signal that the person has a metabolic disorder such as diabetes (which is mean disease, btw). There's also something in women called the waist to hip ratio, a 2:3 measurement excites males the most, and the sexier more fertile guys have a V shaped body. Of course as we age, our bodies move away from the unconscious ideal, but if we are young adults we increase the odds of a attracting a larger dating pool. Investing in a personal trainer and going to a dietician and working a program consistently is the healthiest way get healthy, otherwise most people end up battling their foodie addictions until their health declines. Good luck.
Right! Alot young ppl are out shape that's men and women.
There are men who plus women and others that don't. People need to date who they like and move on. Everyone doesn't have to be your type.
Oddly enough it seems like all the so called obese ladies/ big mamas are having the babies so that theme is off. I studied the body ratio in school and totally understand where your thought process is from but when it’s an obese dude ladies are told to accept them. We’re just a bunch of mean people that want perfection but we are void of it ourselves.
We need more healthy relationships period and may be off topic but older women love to harp on older men's ED but that's only due to poor diet and lack of exercise on the man's part lack of blood flow. So when you cooking all that bad and greasy food you feeding him remember that.
So you want her to lose weight to get a man when most men are broke?Make that make sense.If she chooses to do that it should be for herself only.
OMG she said the worst of the worst and it perfectly fits her
She has clearly explained. She has her views and it is not only her who thinks this way. In other cultures this is okay but as she is a black woman they are getting mad.
I love when single women say men are intimidated ....live on that island
I think in the energy in the room made her "ride or die" comment worse. I understand why men could take it the wrong way. And the format of the show does not give her an opportunity to fully explain herself.
All of those men are fit. Like elite fitness. She needed to be on a dating show with men who are fat, short, bald, and way older.
😂😂😂
You need to embrace a person spirit rather than superficial thing’s because the exterior will most definitely change
@@Hatha-m1w I agree. If she does that she will have better results. All those men look the same. It's shallow.
Yea because women do that 😆 🤣. Otherwise you wouldnt have needed to challenge OP leveling the playing field.
@@Hatha-m1wattractiveness is what's get you in the door first....if it's not there, forget..... Attraction is very important especially for us guy's
Any men looking for a ride or die are insecure about their capabilities. You shouldn't want your woman to struggle with you. You should work hard to make sure it will never happen, because she was fine without you. Don't make her suffer because she is with you.
Caring for a man when he is sick, or on hard times is extremely important to men.
Exactly, especially if they want the same thing in return.
Completely misrepresenting how the show actually went. The men outlined exactly what they meant by "ride or die" they even gave examples and said cheating or mistreating her AS WELL AS BEING A LOW LIFE DIDNT COUNT. Shes used to dating Pookies so she refused to let go of those examples and chose to die on this hill. 2 examples the MEN gave were if he lost his job or a limb would she be looking to jump ship instantly and she basically said she wasnt with sticking around for that either. Also not one man on the panel disrespected her in ANY way or insulted her looks.
Yeah, she's letting hating comments and dudes that women hating dudes get to her. Like keep it moving ma. Dude tried to shade you, you shaded him back good. F him. Why you still talking to dude still? Cmon now.
Her being in Atlanta says it all!
I mean the men who don't know her will give her an relatively honest ranking of where she stands in the sextual market place. You can think your a 10 but do men think the same. Sometimes you have to listen to folks outside of your echo chamber
Sexual market will lead you to hell.
Marriage first.
Women do not date men based on “sexual market”
@AChebby ill take it you don't know what the sextual market is lol. It's pretty much the dating spectrum that consist of all people of legal age.
She seems like a lovely, self aware lady but they were trying to play her because she has boundaries and a belly, simple as that. Men are shallow and selfish so it was never gonna work.
You did nothing wrong, stand on your standards that God places inside you ❤ Godbless.
It's the balloon 🎈 popping shows fault, she is still single, has been on the Ashley Dalton show twice, and the men are wrong. Who is the common denominator in this equation? HER!
Why do you need an ambitious man if you’re a nail tech? You’re not ambitious.
Right woman, wrong environment. Period.
That BF- GF stuff is for the young. You hitting 30 and above you need to stop play dating and get a real relationship that leads to marriage.
Coming off Strong doesn’t make a man intimidated. It turns him off. They just don’t wanna deal with it. It has nothing to do with intimidation. we needed KS so bad, it doesn’t make any sense.
She is absolutely beautiful and explained herself very clearly and in an open matter. The problem is that even tho she’s so beautiful, men only see one thing when it comes to women. Shape and status. She looks like she has too much 💰to be easily impressed and they don’t think it’s worth it
Have confidence - sometimes it’s due to the environment when the flower doesn’t bloom
She’s more suitable for an average man. Making average income. She’s over valuing herself.
Most do. Entitled and think they are gods gift to the world.
I loved her on that show. She was straight forward and gave grown woman who knows what she wants.
THAT GIRL SAID NOTHING WRONG ON THAT SHOW!🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
Shes just not attractive and overweight.. so she's delusional if she thinks a man on the level she wants will consider settling for her when he can find a woman with enough discipline to go to the gym and not stuff her face all day
She was out of their league plain simple this woman is beautiful,confident and knows what she wants.
You won’t get the outcome you want until you give the men what they want.
Her first mistake was going through with it when they switched the script on her. She is beautiful and accomplished am sure she will find her match.
Awwwww she’s gonna get the guy she wants soon. ❤ keep going. He’s watching you.
After watching a lot of these shows, men and women have very different expectations for mates. I see it more in the 20s-40s. The older men are pretty much the same, not much changed over the years.
People watch the episode she is distorting the truth of what happened. Preston was really nice about it.
With all due respect but black American men are different...What she is expecting is the bare minimum🤦
I saw the episode.
She was totally a turn off
An she is not my type physically
for her to be a grown woman, she letting comments in the comment section dictate how she feel. The men on that show in real life in her face didn’t pop their balloon because of her weight. She looked great on the show. She looks great now she needs to be more secure on herself. They let comments of people who would probably be all up in her face in real life dictate how she feels. Like girl.
Your that size at 27, add on a baby weight shell be bigger than previous, so no
That first guy was very combative.
To me not being a ride or die means that you have boundaries. Nothing is wrong with that. Also she was well spoken and beautiful
I enjoyed her part on the show but let’s be honest Alexis, you been on a couple of dating vids and you did gain a generous amount of weight. Honest advice is get healthier and always stand firm on what you believe. I just don’t think it’s fair that she brought up this Specific episode and not the other ones. Nonetheless hope everything works out for her
man, just be yourself, if that means being alone so be it
She hit all the buzz words
I felt the men were intimidated
Colorism played a part
They called me fat.
Aside from that cute chick, solid body imo.... BUT not all men are gonna be into that, so no point in hyper focusing on it.
Men will lose what to say they don’t deserve fat women
She's receptive and reflective to feedback and looking to improve her position so it sounds like she should be able to find a decent partner. All the best to her.
Ready To Love 💕🙌🙌
If you truly going on that show. I will support you because it's a fresh start. Be Humble and stop 🛑 Popping back at the Men. Be Graceful and let people love you for the authentic you and not your Mouth 🤭☺️
Both of you ladies are BEAUTIFUL! I do think that the woman who went on the dating show, should tone up her body. Her standards are completely fine and I agree with her with the ride or die thing!
I have always thought the reality tv type of dating shows like the bachelor, ready to love, pop the balloon, those shows usually favour mostly people who society consider physically attractive.
In reality dating is not really like that because usually with shows like this there are a lot of options to choose from at once and so the people who are considered conventionally attractive get the upper hand. Meanwhile in reality she
may be able to get a man even before other ladies society consider more attractive. This go for men too. If he is not a certain height, doesn’t look a certain way or is not dressed a certain way women on shows like this don’t like them.
She seems lovely and I hope she finds love. She came across classy on Pop the Ballon. I think sometimes, some men see a women who comes across confident with boundaries and they just feel the need to ‘humble’…. Weird
Honestly, it was because she’s plus sized. If she were thin they wouldn’t have fought her on her preferences
This is very true like the slimmer you are the more understanding men are about what you prefer in a partner x
Give her some valuable advice and recommend a good gym. She talked so much to avoid talking about losing weight, accountability and eating better.
She didn’t miss out on anything, all these men are losers
Ashley is so lovely! ❤