As a married female ENTP I find that people aways think I'm flirting, but I'm not. I have absolutely no romantic interest in whoever I'm talking to, i just am intellectually curious in who people are. I really like engaging with people. I actually get surprised when people get the wrong idea. I'm just here to talk and discover. It took a long time for me to realize people are not like that.
Same here, same here. Can't tell you (but you'd understand) how much trouble I've been in because I have attracted attention when I haven't intended to. Just through being interested in people. I am 49 now and the penny only dropped, 10 years ago maybe hahahah.
Yes i agree im the same, iv had female friends who said to there other female friends that they will get inloved in me because im so charmy, and i am like lol wtf are u saying? and there like no way i dont fall for anyone and when they meet me they just melt, but thats what i heard my female friend say to her friend, anyway the reason we are like that is because we are curious and want to analyse people and the more "open we are" the more open they will become so that is a trick we use to make them "reveal" them self
@@elliotspangler3152 😆 I messaged my INTJ boyfriend and was immediately like "omg you're soooo cool, literally everything about you is 😍". They're pretty slow on the draw and I'm hella impatient.
@@safiaelbiaze7258 You know, there's a meme that says ENTPs' worst fear is to fall in love with an INFP hahahha. I guess that's true. I have an ENTP friend who's been casually complimenting me this days but I'm not sure if it's flirting or being simply charming as usual. Today my ENFP friend said to him: "lately you are dressing well!" Aaand I thought that's because he maybe likes me... But I don't want to assume things. And I don't want to date him because we go at the same college. Also I'm REALLY good in my eternal single state... Btw, how is it going with your ENTP?
Lol it's impossible to have a "short term fling" with an infj. If that's what you're after, infjs will never let the relationship start in the first place :P but this was interesting insight to entp.
As for making people laugh, that's totally true for me. I like to make people laugh, and if I can't, then I won't be able to get along with the person. Seriously. Nothing is worse than shooting a bunch of jokes and them completely missing every time. Not to mention, I have a pretty dry and sometimes dark sense of humor, so naturally my jokes are either total miss or huge hit depending on the person. That's usually the first thing I test the waters with.
I second that. Dark and dry XD EXACTLY right. And yeah, everything you say is true to my experience. In fact I'm sure I must be a reincarnation of an old Vaudeville comedian - "leave 'em laughin!"
remember though- with humor a l;ot of times its just timing. Ive had It really depends on the persons mood etc- if someone is sort of mulling over some relationship breakup, life problem etc with friends and someone comes over and makes a dirty joke, it can really um, fall flat and put the person off. It's happened to me. First, try to read the room. Humor and joking has a lot to do with context. An objectively funny joke can still not have its intended consequences to someone you tell it to if they are distracted, in a poor mood, etc
I thought I was odd that I have such a darker sense of humour than others. Usually don’t share cus I know others wouldn’t find it funny 😂 my parents would absolutely hate my really sense of humour as they barely like hearing swears
You're right on the dot with the flirting. As an ENTP I always find myself fliritng and its not even always just flirting but also being somewhat charming. I believe ENTPs not only flirt to have fun and build comfort but also to test and learn a lot about the girl.
Entp girl here, 100% agree on the pushing people to their limits thing, it's the most fun I can have could it also be that we're narcissistic? I love the BS that comes out of my mouth that fits ever so perfectly as a response to whatever the other person has said. It's so fun to see how they respond to certain things I say, whether it'd be a compliment or a judgement.
You probably are just a narcissist, yourself. I am not a narcissist. You are lacking Ti principle. Although I relate to you with the liking to hear myself talk. It's a beautiful thing being so glib.
§öphişt I think she's actually got a point. Though the reason especially in a flirting context is different. First of all we enjoy interacting with a new idea. when you speak the idea actually becomes something that exists in the real world and not just your mind. The other major reason is it gives us a marker. Depending on the reaction we can make a gague of the ability of whoever we're talking to to both understand information and the creative capacity that they have to give us new information of their own. figured it was interesting.
I'm an ENFP girl and I always crush hard on ENTP guys. What I particularly like about you is that you never take things personally, you're the opposite of butthurt. We can debate about anything for hours and with total freedom of speech, and disagreements often end up as a competition of (dumb) puns. You're the most intellectually stimulating people I know!
i'm an infj and i notice i gravitate more towards flirty people because honestly, it's really hard to get to know me and i think it kind of breaks the ice and makes you feel nice i think that's why entps + infjs people rave about not because we perhaps need to lean on each other but i think we just hit it off easier infjs also hate small talk and will pretty much immediately dismiss anyone who does it (at least i do) and a lot of times we need someone ballsy enough to approach us and make the first move because we rarely do so being extroverted paired with being flirty and hating small talk/seeking intelligence will make infjs warm up to entps easier because other personalities are either too shy or too shallow when you first meet and we're picky with who we give our attention to so if you can't make that first impression you're likely out i do agree that you don't NEED a certain relationship/mbti type but i think the compatibility is there just telling us some types have an easier time and i do think that's true but as always, easier doesn't mean better
I absolutely agree with you on the flirting part. I am an ENTP and if I find a guy attractive I will confidently walk up to him and flirt by making him laugh, being sarcastic, teasing him or just entertaining him in general. It gives us magnetism and grabs their attention.
I agree, MBTI isn’t everything, for sure! ☺️ Personally, as an INFJ, I find an intelligent sense of humor/flirty banter INCREDIBLY attractive. I’ve only been able to find that in ENFPs or ENTPs and I love them for this reason. That and our conversations can go on for days about practically anything non-surface level. In my experience, we educate each other and that’s SO fun.
Yes i'm an ENTP and I agree that flirting is really fun, but i like to consider it just being playfully nice or I like what someone else said "charming", cuz I would do it to anyone regardless of their gender or my interest in them, though I will tone it down if I want them to know I'm not interested. If I'm not interested I'm just kinda low-key rude and passive.
THANK YOU someone who gets it! As an ENTP dude I know exactly what you mean and so many people mistake it. Also yeah giving rude vibes to people you don't like is a GREAT way to get them to leave ya alone
I disagree with your opinion of complimentary types being only for the immature. Those who are immature would actually dislike the complimentary types due to their insecurity. Their insecurity will not allow them to appreciate the strength of the compliment because it brings to light of their weakness. I feel that only when one matures will one actually appreciate a person of a compliment. One would feel secure in oneself enough to understand one's weaknesses & find someone who can make up for what they lack. That's how a couple can be a power couple! They both teach each other how to strengthen each other's weaknesses as well as.
Thanks dude. What you said it all makes sense. We ENTP gets very bored with people who don't display intellectual charisma. MBTI community should start researching geographic location where we can move and find our compatible partner. And I can definitely say if you are an ENTP living in ireland then it is going to be difficult for you.
@@wirsehenuns8780 yeah. Welcome to ENTP lives. We COULD lie to women like all other types and create successful, long term relationships that are perfect. BUT we cant, cuz wed rather die than say anything dishonest for even a second
Entps are awesome!!! Very insightful video. I hate small talk it's the worst. That being said your ability to skip through the small talk to engage in real ,deep and complex conversations is really cool and I find myself so taken aback by how exhilarating you entps are. There's only one problem that I do have with you guys and it's not really an entp problem but an infj (that would be me) problem. As an Infj I am heavily guarded about sharing my inner world so to avoid small talk I probably wouldn't speak to someone as willingly as the next person. So when an entp comes along with their intoxicating ability to knock down my walls causing me to be more open , in my mind I'm like what am I doing!!! . I easily open up to entps (well open up more then usual ,not completely) this makes it hard when you guys leave because I find that I've probably shared apart of myself to someone who probably just wanted stimulating conversation in that moment rather then a longer lasting connection (be it friendship or romantically) . To whoever read this infj ramble, thanks I guess.
Yeah they can have narcissistic traits and can knowingly (or unknowing) eat up years of your life if you let them and if they really find you to be fascinating.
That's a real INFJ there!! I appreciate a lot lot lot your honesty, do know that please! ENTP female here. I just totally love you, you are so rare, you sure soo authentic, we ENTPs greatly admire that! And if it was a valuable part of your inner world you are sharing I would know how to treasure it by keep coming back and wanting you to be a steady part of my life because you are just so awesomely only by the way you opened yourself to us here too!
I'm really sorry to hear this has happened to you. I'm an ENTP and my INTJ ex did the exact same thing to me too. But we need to move on and find someone who's there to stay for us. And there is definitely that someone, be fully aware of this.
Im an INFP married to an ENTP. We have had our share of communication errors. I had to learn that he is not as cold as he seems, and he had to learn my emotions and inner world often influence my choices. We had to find balance and clarity. I ask him when I need a more intellectual and broad opinion on matters and I often can explain things he does not understand about emotions. Its crazy...I hate debate and arguing yet I marry the Great Debator!. Lolol. I like to believe we balance one another.
I never flirt. I just joke around. Looking at their reaction makes me laugh. And everyone knows that I'm joking. But I don't know why everyone is shipping me with everyone.
I'd definitely have to agree with you on the complementary type point. as an ENTP myself I've found that it's better to keep complementary types as friends. because they ultimately allow you to engage yourself without any added expectations. Having someone with a similar personality type allows for confusion in general to be stripped away because it allows for less time to be spent on explaining how you achieve a conclusion due to the similarities in thought process.
I actually need to add something. the Meyers Brigs community has been terrible about the concept of personality types that are complimentary and their play into relationships. however even with this oversight as you eloquently pointed out they are incredibly good at making an accurate determination of types that should under no circumstance be in a relationship. mostly because the amount of internal conflict of beliefs and ways of acquiring a conclusion are not only contradictory but antithetical. but that's just my experience with the issue
Hay man it's nice to hear you. You reminde me very much of myself, that digging for the exact idea (I'm an ENTP if this is not obvious). Two points about what you have said: 1. Flirting is fun, but for me the most important question when I'm talking to a girl is if she able to have DEEP conversation. If she won't challenge me intellectually with deep philosophical ideas, and if she won't surprise me with creative thoughts i have no interest in her. So after some flirting usually i am trying to start a deeper conversation and see if she likes it. Of not I'm usually giving up at that point. 2. I think personality types is nice and interesting, but i also think that it could be wrong to rely on it too much. Especially when it's about finding a life partner. In the end this is just a way ro categories people but it's not like the wrold is actually deviated to 16 personality typea. Its just a way to look at people. What I'm trying to say is that everybody is an individual, and has his own traits. And looking at people as ENTP, INFJ, ENFP and whatever might make you see people as bunch of letters and not as unique individuals. So I'm hoping i made myself clear. Anyway thanks for the video.
I met an entp. He's my friend now. We seem to enjoy talking and he asks me deep questions. When I try to say i need to sleep now he'll suddenly ask me a question and I'll be talking for hours. 😂 He also told me he drops his guard down with me. And he's always grateful that i listen to him. He also listens to me. He's very smart and i love that he's helpful to people. Anyway, i don't really know if he's thinking of me romantically or just being happy that i am nice to him. 😅 I gotta admit i enjoy talking to him a lot and my day is incomplete when we don't talk 🥵 -infp
I can relate w the last part and i am so confused how they feel about me but they give mixed signs so i can not decide bc once he is very active in conversations and looking for me all the time, but then he ignores me for a week and being mean💀 Can anyone give me an advice?:)
@@katatoth3596 Just don't care. Let him live the way he wants and don't take what he does personally. This may not be a good advice since I'm a INFJ. 😂 But still hope it helps.
I completely agree with finding a similar type as a mature relationship . INTP here married to an ENTP. We are so similar on so many levels and have the same interests. It is easy to understand one another and we have just the right amount amount of difference to compliment one another.
I'm not agree with that. I'm an INTJ female and i enjoy talking and hanging up with ENTPs, they know how to keep the conversation and always makes me laugh. But i understand that maybe the part of being too "flirty" is a little issue for us if we're looking for a serious relationship. Eventhough, i feel that we're very compatible :) never get bored with ENTPs (the only bad thing that i see in them is that they always want to be right and well... to be honest, they're not always right and sometimes they just want to annoy you because for them is just fun, i've been there hahahaha)
Natasha I wouldn’t consider it flirting. We are just very intimate people who are very aware of the range of the human emotion, we know that there is a way/a grey area to interact with people(especially of the opposite sex) without seeming malicious or indifferent. ‘Flirting’ is a pretty shallow game, it’s all about personal developments for ENTPs. Social behavior for ENTPs(personally speaking) is not about the process, it’s about the result and if an ENTP has no interest in the first place, then the result would be that a romantic relationship would not even initiate with the person we are ‘flirting’ with.
Flirting does not mean we're cheaters... I've never cheated on anyone in my life, my integrity is rock solid and I'll never let anything compromise that. It is a major point of pride for me. My INTJ boyfriend and I are rock solid and loyal to the end, never had a relationship with such solid integrity in my life.
ENFP here and i don't flirt with most people but they think i am which sucks so bad mostly i'm just being nice which to me nice = attention to make other people feel like i'm focusing on them it isn't that i like them and i send mixed signals often accidentally but if i like someone its similar to the entp's but if someone is flirting with me i can be so oblivious to it because again nice = attention so if your paying me lots of attention i just think your trying to be kind and not that your flirting with me. If i really like some one normally i'll say, " hey I like you you wanna hang out sometime 😉"
Yes yes, pretty much everything you said rings true to me as an entp. I did marry, unknowingly, an infj. We have been friends for over 15 years and together for over 6 years of that time. If you spend enough time with anyone, you will understand how they work, even if they aren't the same type. You know, I really don't think I learned and grew too terribly much from him though, so perhaps you have a point there! I grew and matured by observing how my own behaviors affected my life and the people around me, which was painful at times lol!! And I'm sure there will be plenty more as I continue to grow. I will say, there are some perks of having a complimentary type for the lomg term though. One of the bigest ones I can think of is our roles as parents. Uugh if there were two of me raising our kids it would be insanity! I think as a family unit, there is a huge benifit to us being complimentary. It just makes for an easy home life, which I wanted this, so its benificial to my/our situation. I have dated another enpt...yes, I did find one once! It was a very, very fun relationship and I still look back on it fondly. It was just too much work though and ended up being a mental drain eventually. A very fun and exciting start the the relationship, I felt like I had found my sole mate! But after awhile, it just got exhausting. It was perfect for my life at the time, early 20s, but we eventually became too much for each other. I still absolutely adore this person, but I'm glad I went with a complimentary -even if it was unintended. We compliment each other in ways that make real life go smoothly, I think saying that we grow off each other is stretching it though!! Support in day to day activities would be much more accurate imo, I love how well greased 'the machine' is around here. It really is the perfect environment for me, personally, to do all my weird entp things that I enjoy doing. -maybe some would consider that growing from each other, I see more an enabling myself.
I think a potential problem with a same type relationship could be that you might always be aware of their negative qualities, because those are the qualities that you see in yourself at your worst. When people say "have the potential to grow" it doesn't imply you can't grow on your own, but there is no denying other people are stronger in other areas than you. When in a relationship, that can be particularly beneficial, but also challenging. Just my opinion.
HAHAHAHA I can totally relate to the part where you start thinking how to formulate a statement that sounds well thought but you can't find the right words.
(ENTP) I agree with most all your points. I don't out rightly approach girls without vetting them for certain traits: appearance, intelligence, like interests, etc. (This isn't always the case, as I will approach strangers at a bar as it's likely my only opportunity) Once I engage them, I come off as upbeat and attentive. I can't help myself but engaging in witty banter and jokes. There are few questions as suffocating as "Come here often?" or "Damn, you're really cute." I'm always attempting to "change the game," or say something that would set me apart from the rest and show interest as well as a brainy bend. Once I get the number, it's all about getting to know more about the girl, checking her interests and opinions, then setting up the date if I find her interesting enough. This is one of the most destructive and limiting factors to my approach. I can become bored easily with certain types of girls and can't justify pursuing them further if they don't meet a preset criteria. As limiting as it is, there is also wisdom in it. I don't seem to get in many relationships that blow over quickly. We know what we want, and we won't settle for less. I also agree with your point on not limiting your dating to certain types. Firstly, because it makes you seem superstitious to girls that don't subscribe to MBTI. Some may consider you a weirdo, so don't necessarily go asking types. Also, I've met many INFJs that I absolutely couldn't see myself lasting long with. I'm always able to crack them up, but sometimes they have hard, feeling oriented opinions on things that can't hold up to logic which can be extremely frustrating. Also, we can step on their toes (bigtime) without even noticing. It's a better idea to get to know a girl and see how well you vibe, regardless of their type, and decide whether or not there's something there in that way.
Not every INFJ and ENTP will be a good match of course, but it sounds like these girls you speak of may not be INFJ. These "feeling oriented opinions" sound characteristic of introverted feeling (Fi) types, such as INFP. FJ and TP types actually share the same extroverted feeling/ introverted feeling axis, and are more logic oriented. Everything is in the functions, so look those up. INFJ's and ENTP's are actually way more similar than you think once you analyze the functional breakdown.
yeah, I (entp) agree with that but how I suppose to find somebody on Tinder then? I hate Tinder because I can only judge people (mostly) on the outside. I am not really good interacting with guys in real life.
@@christypiper it's an interesting pattern I've observed with INFJs online, where INFJs automatically attribute any and all faults associated with their type to mistyped INFPs. They don't even seem to consider the perspective of the other side and automatically try to deflect any constructive feedback and attribute their shortcomings onto INFPs. I think you guys need to take a step back and look at the other side of the coin and also investigate your own shortcomings more honestly before dismissing them and shifting the critique onto other types.
I'm an INFP guy and an ENTP girl that I like is definitely observing me and judging my behaviour and intelligence. She also tried to test my confidence several times. But she's extremely extroverted so maybe she just does it with everyone, I can't be really sure. And sometimes she seems to be more emotional than me which is curious. I have to invite her out to make it clear
Intelligence is key to all of the Analyzing types. I’m an INTJ and currently like someone who is an ENTP. Complimentary types, it wasn’t that I was looking out for that(didn’t even know about MBTI months later). But because we both match 90% of the descriptions we learnt so much more about eachother in an instant. If it won’t be more, we will surely stay friends for a long time.
I am an ENTP 19 year old male. I only started dating when I turned 18. My first Girlfriend I believe was ESTP and I never saw a long term relationship with but I wanted to understand what a relationship was like. She was way to physical and controlling. I dated her for 4 months. I dated an ENFP long distance for 5.5 months. We dated long distance from the beginning and I truly saw a future with her. ENFPs tend to be my favorite type to have as a friend. I have about 10 great ENFP friends. She broke up with me because she couldnt handle my ti and argumentative nature despite me being extremely kind to her every other time. Im currently trying to find the best girl for me for long term marriage.
I was going to say "I flirt in joke form" but you eventually wrapped around to that. I think I do it because serious intimate emotions are not my forte... I can be a very serious person at times, but when it comes to actually "liking" someone and forming that initial bond, I don't want it to be too serious.
I am totally addicted to my ENTP bestie. He has the sexiest brain ever and I love how we can go for hours and hours discussing and debating every topic under the sun. He is an introverted extrovert and told me this is the first time he has connected with anyone so deeply. I feel so very honoured and blessed :) ENTJ female here!
ENTP or not, the science of flirting is supposed to be a very laid back game where you challenge and also show relaxed confidence, and most importantly having fun! That is how you flirt, you show relaxed genuine confidence, have fun and charm people, I think this applies to whatever personality type you are and necessary universal tools to have to reach your top flirt game. About the complimentary type, this is not just a recommendation in this community, but for people in general, the universal saying says: "Opposites attract", and it doesn't necessarily have to do with "growing", but just that there is always something new to learn, new angles analyze and some mystery to interact with and understand, this makes the dynamics very interesting, so I can understand the whole "complimentary" logic. I would personally be kind of bored if I had a partner that work and think exactly like me, because I would understand EVERYTHING so there would be no mystery, no challenge and everything would get too predictable very fast. Now about the growing part, I agree, growing should be a part of you no matter if you have a relationship or not, but take in mind, that growing never stops, if you ever think that you are finished growing, that just means that you have a lot more to learn. Most adults are not grown in themselves, in matter of fact most "mature" adults are quite insecure about themselves. Most people never reach their full potential in life, even if they can display some maturity. So having someone to challenge you and your ways of thinking might be a good thing in life, because life is too short already. But hey, I'm an ENTP and I actually just try to find some counter backs just for fun haha. Maybe I'm not even right in my arguments, just doing these for fun. Liked the video! :)
You hit pretty much everything right on the nose bruh. I flirt with everyone women, gay men it doesn't really matter. I do it because its fun, its good practice, and most importantly, people have developed this awful idea that compliments and making other people feel good is something to be hoarded. They even do this in relationships and it makes absolutely no sense to me. I can't stand it. So as long as I am not in a bad mood or really don't like you, I'm gonna flirt or give compliments to spread positivity and good feelings. Its also interesting that you focus on personality over looks. You classify it as different types of intelligence but I find personality is a much better way to classify people primarily because of how many different types of intelligence there is. You can be book smart but have no street smarts. You can have both of those intelligence traits but lack the common sense that arguably should go hand in hand with intelligence. Most importantly, so many people define intelligence in so many ways when often the things that we care about the most are the things we can engage in deep discussions and thoughts about. A body builder focused on how creatine affects the body and pinpointing the minutest metabolism needs necessary for optimum performance that doesn't know the capital of south korea. A scientist focused on breakthroughs that doesn't understand the importance of showing the people in their life they care about them. The bottom line is you tend to know a lot about what you really care about and people often just don't care about the stuff us entp folk think are important. Every girl I ever fell for was stunning from a personality standpoint and they could relate with what I had to say instead of listening without input. I got into this stuff with 16 personalities instead of mbti but I think the forer effect may explain why you have a knee jerk reaction to being told a certain type is right for you. It doesn't make a lot of sense to me for entp's to follow anyone's rationale if it wants us to walk only one path. After all the only end to a single path is stagnation. I just want to say how amazing it is to find so many people who have a somewhat similar thought process to me even though a lot of us follow that thought process in a million different directions like missles fired in Macross. Thank you for your observations, I enjoyed this discourse. Also fuck grammar, rules, indentations and having a problem with misspellings.
As a female ENTP i have noticed that i somehow almost always end up making the first step when it comes to flirting. Maybe that’s because i tend to go for shy ppl or maybe that’s just due to me flirting in almost 90% of conversations. 🤷🏼♀️
As a female entp, I agree with you about how to know an entp likes you. In the past, like you, I did not believe in we should find an infj Or intj. Until recently, I am in a love with an infj, which even scares me because I never expect myself to love a man so much.
I never flirt. As a male, with flirting I think it initially depends on what you look like, or moreover: what you seem like. I tend to give an impression that isnt especially attractive, untill I get to know a person. I also tend to chase girls that are "out of my league" looks wise. For those reasons it is detrimental for me to just go and make obvious flirtation, it would probably be scary for them haha. Instead I will wait for opportunistic moments to arrive, where I can make conversation. After doing that a couple of times I may take another opportunity to have a small conversation. At all times being the first person to leave/stop talking. Even then I wont flirt in an obvious way, I will just take opportunities to test body contact, like a touch on the shoulder, and see if it is received well or not. I'll see how they react to the idea of doing something together. And then one day I'll just ask them to go get a coffee. At this point it will be obvious to them that I'm interested, but I will never have done anything overtly flirty. It will be almost... old fashioned I suppose, but not in the lame way that sounds haha.
I personally hate being an ENTP. I hate being able to adapt to anyone, I hate not having a stance on things for a good reason, just whatever’s optimal. I’m both proud and ashamed of what I am. Not that it’s a generalization of all of us but it’s effected me a great deal personally. When I reflect on myself I don’t know if I’m adapting myself to me when I do it. I don’t know if I’m wearing a “mask” with myself without any real reason to just so I feel a sense of identity.
I'm a 41 year old ENTP. I've put a ton of HONEST self work on myself the past few years discovering that with enough data and running ALL scenarios so no matter what there won't be any surprises. With this I know now I have a amazing talent of allowing a woman (people in general) I have interest in becoming extremely comfortable with me in a very short timeframe. I've also believe being truly honest with all in my life myself included has given me a freedom to live without fear. I have a saying Cut the cancer... Why take the chance of suffering for years with chemo just to die invisible death when he can just chop the leg off work through it and live apply that to everything in life.
Im ENTP and I tend to be narcissistic. Sometimes I find Im so perfect that I have to remind myself of my flaws. I think ENTPs in general are the most complete of MBTI, we function well in the social world but were still insightful and Deep. And we know a fuck ton of shit.
Your comment is also de funniest ive ever Heard man, I literally almost get a heart attack from the laughter when I read your comment. You must be for sure a profesional commedian.
I am convinced I am objectively perfect and it makes no sense that I am single at almost 30 lollll 😅😅😅 I think it might be because most guys are pussies who can't argue for shit 🤷♀️
Yyaaaassssss this has been a thorn in my side all my life. And watching this and reading all the comments here, it's so awesome to think "I am not alone!!!" I am honestly shocked when engaging with someone (and day to day I engage with a lot of someones my workplace is big) leads to them thinking I am pursuing them in some way or romantically interested. I've had some all but run away from me when they see me approach because they think I'm "after" them. It has made me really unhappy in the past, thinking there is something wrong with me to get people to react that way. But now I understand - it's because my ENTP is shining bright, and they can suck it ;D ;D ;D
ENTP is very fascinating. The combination of extroversion and being so analytical is interesting to me. The way he said he wants to make people laugh because it is scientifically advantageous. Lol.
Yes, I'm an ENTP and I often find myself flirting both consciously and unconsciously and I've also been called a tease as a result. Also agree that primary interest (once you get passed looks) is intelligence. Looks are important, in terms of what I'm personally attracted to, but lack of mental vitality is a deal breaker.
9:40 You nailed it! Intelligence is 🔑! I can't stand a female that can't think for herself or tells everybody she's "Smart" but then asks you to proofread her 📝 and it's absolute garbage. Then they backtrack and say "Well I'm just not good at writing.. But algebra is my THING." You catch my drift. I think personally I love to be intellectually stimulated and need the women I'm interested in to be able to allow constructive criticism and not be offended if I give advice. She also needs to be able to hold a conversation with me and ALWAYS keep an open mind. Drive.. that's another trait I find attractive! When a woman is self motivated and driven towards small/large goals and has the other traits I mentioned, she could be a 6-10 and still find me interested. Thx for the video man! I found out my personality type last week and have been fascinated by it! I could not stop reading "The visionary " packet because it nailed me! I took the test 3 times to be 100% I am ENTP. Have a great day everyone!
Interesting video, not only content wise but also seeing how your thought process works. I find ENTPs fascinating and am always happy to learn about your type.
I believe that any type can work together regardless. It doesn't matter about similarities it just matters if you care enough and try enough, most people can work together very well regardless of differences
Mine are a complete disaster all the time, yes. Picking, biting...I do it when I'm desperately bored but forcing myself to participate, out of some social compliance reason >.> Some things you can't squirm out of. I do it less if I'm allowed to move around freely/constantly.
I really enjoyed this video :) thank you for sharing your perspective and some insight into the mind of an ENTP! I could instantly tell you are an ENTP by how fast your thoughts were moving and the rants you went on. ;) I did want to debate one point..I understand where you are coming from in terms of the complementary types..but I have a different perspective to argue your statement on being emotionally mature, and dating the same type. I believe we will never reach a point where we fully mature or know ourselves if we stop growing then we are basically dying. There is always more to learn always more to grow from..If we attempt to be in a relationship with someone of our same MBTI type there will be no contrast to continue growing on this journey! And how boring that would get after so long...so when we have a complementary type how exciting it makes life! Almost as if seeing it through a different lens.. Speaking as a mature INFJ currently in a relationship with a very mature ENTP. We complement each other so well to the point where everything that has been said about complementary types just makes sense! That's not to say it should be the only standard to search for our complementary type, love can grow anywhere. But it is interesting seeing how well it does work when you actually enter that situation..
ENTP here and i flirt with literally anyone and everyone(men,women,your grandma,uncle joe,the girl at MacDonalds...). I flirt for fun, to lighten the mood,to get things i want, because I like someone,etc. Ill flirt for pretty much any reason. Its classy flirting though. Flirting with people's minds. Never dirty or uncomfortable. You are a very normal ENTP in that way I think.
Love flirting too as an ENTP. You hit the head in the nail. Not a deep conversation but more than small talk. And yes, it’s a game I guess... never really thought of it that way. I have no intent or end game in my flirting. Anyhow, all you said it true of me. ENTP girl who loves to make ppl laugh.
Thanks for addressing the issues with the relationship typing stuff!! I don't really find people who are supposedly my complimentary types to be attractive that way and prefer people who think more similarly to me and understand me well more than people with the complete opposite functions as i do!!!
Yaaasss :) Mature type of an ENTP here, on one way I’m very charming, sophisticated, have social and other intelligence; very fun and entertaining, but in the same time I’m entrepreneur (I have 2 companies, 1 that mostly use skills, and another is with designing/creativity). And I have ideas and capacity for more! I am very independent but can be caring. Well rounded individual... in the same time strong but sophisticated and I exactly know when to push which button, not to mention how much I pick up clues about other people. I can be like ,,devil’s advocate” as needed. I like verbal and mental stimulation a lot, it’s like a game of words, intelligence and wit, and when people think I’m slightly arguing, I’m actually just having fun and want to feel mentally connected and to explore endless possibilities in verbal and other ways of expressions. 😉 I think I mostly like INTP men. Open for other types as well as I’m currently single). I have noticed that I don’t like overly ENTJs and INFJs. I see them as slightly closed minded or stubborn.
I didn't realize how much I flirt until someone told me. I just can't stop, it just comes out in the presence of women. Being cheeky, teasing, entertaining, telling stories, it just excites me.
Agreed, especially flirting with girls I find cute but have no intention of asking out. It's a challenge and we're wierd that way. We love testing and experimenting with people. Gotta make sure we aren't jerks and accidentally manipulating people.
There's a guy in my class who I like, and I cold-read him as ENTP, and I think he likes me back. He always smiles and laughs at things and he really listens when I talk and remembers things I say. Plus, I'm an ENTJ, and I have the traits ENTPs seem to be attracted to, so the puzzle fits!!! Bam!
Yeah, I can agree, flirting is EASY, conversations are easy, I observe too first, interested in what's upstairs more than everything else. We all age, looks deteriorate, personality remains. I enjoy a good flirtatious banter, though it's hard to find any one very good at it anymore. As time goes on, other things take priority. But if I find someone that peaks my interest, I am usually game to see if they are a good fit and a good flirt.
my entp crush were bullying me all the time then i figured out he was trying to flirt with me lol i was infp at that time(now i’m infj) and we were always playing mind games i was enjoying it but it was affecting my mental health in a very bad way. i didn’t fully realize at that time he actually didn’t mean to hurt me but it was too late i guess. one day i started crying after he said something and he was so sorry and tried to relieve me and hugged me like i know he didn’t realize that i was hurting till that point. we were close friends and never confessed each other because sooo many crazy shit happened, it was wrong time but right person i guess. i miss arguing and challenging with him tho.
I have 5 sisters and they always accused me of flirting. Also I have a science degree so this stuff interests me. I like pretty women and they like me too, until they ask others, especially gossip geeks. Agree with you on the Soto intelligent people. Agree with your MBTI community issue, I think there is a long way to go in society about relationships. ... complemental type is evil :) !
I’m also very flirtatious but I find it hard to flirt with girls that don’t know me very well or that I find attractive. I tend to flirt with either girls that like me or that I’m good friends with and less my own personal love interests.
i do agree with most of your points except for 2 things: 1) i've seen a lot of entp guys who are in the immature category and i found a lot of entp girls to be in the rather mature category. maybe try not to say 'girls especially' because you haven't met with all entps and that comment is, i have to be blunt, borderline sexist. (not saying you are sexist, but it does insinuate such). 2) i don't know if this is actually what you are trying to say, but i do find that it is no matter that the signs are complementary or not to you, as long as you are happy with the relationship, then go with it regardless of what people of any level of MBTI understanding will think.
ENTP female here, and funnilly enough, I love me some ESTJs, perhaps because I've never worked under one, lol. They're great friends. Exacting, detailed, particular, all the things that usually annoy me, but paired with their unflappable rationale, good humor, and drama free predictability makes them a breath of fresh air. I've never been with a male one, but I'm so ready for him, lol. My NF friends, however, are basket cases. My INFP one's a moody bastard, my ENFP one is unyielding chirpy optimism AT ALL TIMES, my ENFJ one is an emotionally manipulative bitch often, and my INFJ one is my bestie, but a fragile, sensitive, foreign creature often enough to fuck with my Fe for days afterward. (How anyone could match me to that last one is insane.) Pretty sure I'm not meant to be with an idealist. Or a feeler, period. Even ESFJs and ISFJs are iffy. Other rationals are so hard to come by IRL (INTPs live online or in a desert cave making a robot from a box of scraps, ENTP males want to see if they can provoke me to react emotionally, ENTJs would rather make fun of my life choices than date me, and I'm pretty sure INTJs don't actually exist outside of Jason Bateman). But ESTJs are everywhere! And normal! Only roadblock I have with this type is how set they can be in their ways. Some things, regardless of logic, will never, ever change, and change is my middle name, and arguing for it comes to me like breathing, but they simply refuse to engage, and I contest that in itself, and round the vicious circle it goes until I break and give up (the ESTJ will is stronger than mine, lol). I think it's the "traditionalism" kicking in.
I completely understand what he's saying at the end about finding his complimentary mbti type, I see it from his propective, and respect it. However, I did want to point out that he's ignoring at least in this video that the reason why they pair people up in that manner isn't because they would valence each other out but because there are more things in common in these types that meets the eye. For example entp and infj sounds like they wouldn't get along at all on paper right? Nothing in common except the letter n. But if you look at the function stack, entp: extraverted intuition, interverted thinking, extraverted feeling followed by introverted sensing. Then infj stack: introverted intuition, extraverted feeling, introverted thinking, extraverted sensing. Then it's a lot more clear of why they would get along. I can see he's pulling from the prospectives he's had in real life and in all honesty infjs and intjs are quite rare so it does not surprise me whatsoever that he believes that. He vary well may not have ever a ligit infj or INTJ. But I did want to throw out that caviate from an infj propective. But agian, I humbly respect his propective, I have met a few entps but nether worked not because we weren't compatible, but because of where they were in incompatible stages in life. So he's definitely has some truth to his point.
My ENTP husband of 24 years is the kindest, smartest, and most talented person I've ever met. I just discovered MBTI this year so it's very surprising to me that our marriage is so easy. I'm an ESFJ. We have completely opposite skills so we tease that we are one complete person between the two of us. It works well as he creates while I pick up his socks.
I have been consistently told I am Charming so that’s what I would get for flirting. It’s always been there since forever and any new person I meet always picks up on it.
ENTP girl - 21 yrs old: I dont consider myself very social, but on most of the parties I can interract with people pretty smoothly. When I become drunk, and I lose my self-restrain, I cab play on people like instruments. I dont know why, but Entps have this natural mischievous charm, which others find very interesting. They find it very weird, how the child-like honest attitude gets mixed with the cold, rationalist core.
I only recently found out I am an infj....well that explains a lot. 🙄 Like getting the owners manual of a appliance that has been giving you grieve for years. "Oh is that what that button is for ....fascinating. Oh is that why it makes that noice...my bad". And looking back I am a entp magnet...yeah cliche I know.😜 They somehow always find me no matter how low key I am. 🤷♀️Just some things scream entp to me now; * I normally dress to go to work to not stand out...I dress what people wanna see...BUT I keep a little thing thats authentically me (like happy socks or something). Its an infj thing...you would think people see through it but they don't...it makes life easier if people see what they wanna see and don't question it. I am just out there playing the little chameleon.....but who am I really?😈 No one knows...no one sees. Only my friends and family get behind my layers. 😏 But I met an entp that was looking back clearly observing me (which explains the starring)...I must have been like a little rubics cube for him to crack. He complimented me on the 1 authentically me thing I was wearing. 😳 The fact that he spotted it...Well thats impressive. 😀 To an infj thats like wearing your invisibility cloak but all of a sudden Dumbledore walks by going "hi there harry". WTF!😱 The fact that he not only realised it is an invisibility cloak to begin with. And he spotted "me" behind it. And had the balls to let me know he spotted me. The fact that he knew what I was doing and called me out on it. 🤯 * yeah funny intellectual banter trying to get my attention. Yeah I like guys that try to outtalk me....they won't but I like to watch them try. I can do the verbal pingpong match and they don't see it coming. 😜😂 No matter how fast you serve your funny flirty comment...I can put you in your place in a heartbeat. But again I like a brain that can think fast and outside of the box or twist something ordinary to make it funny in seconds...I love black humor as well.....bring it and I will serve it back to you. Thats what I appreciate about the entp...they can actually keep up with me and like the pingpong match as much as I do. Not many guys can do that and it makes me feel like I have to d*mb myself down to function at their speed. Its nice to find another person who takes the speed limit off and just goes racing. Its freeing. That and the type of humor thats....as an infj I see hidden meanings...to find someone that cracks a joke but the rest doesn't realise it is a joke cause it goes over their heads..inside jokes just cause your brain thinks the same way...but the rest have no clue. Thats funny. * A guy thats not complimenting my appearance but an actual personality treat not valued/seen by most. 👍😀 Someone complimented me on my social intelligence and self-control. When dealing with a screaming A-hole on the phone he could tell the guy p!ssed me off...he would p!ss anyone off. But my voice didn't change...no effect on my behavior what so ever. Like thats gonna scare me.🙄😂🤣 I stay calm cause I know when I loose control of my emotions I loose control of the conversation...not happening. Let the guy go mental, it means he lost control and I can steer the conversation easier. I have them right where I want them and I can control the screaming A-hole and do so with a smile. They think they dominate me with their screaming but in fact....yeah you are my b!tch. 😈 I was gonna me empathic and play the shrink and gently advice you. But now I steer you instead like a dog on a leash. I may look soft and shy but I can handle the biggest badest A-hole...not a problem. And for someone to notice that cause he understands what I was doing....impressive and actually a better compliment than saying I look good. Looking back on my life I seem to attract the entp...never dated one thou. I also attract narcissistic soci*paths and a need for attention, love of debating, a lot of self-confidence and manipulative....yeah those red flags make me not go there. I want harmony and a non toxic environment...anyone remotely toxic or anyone not looking for a long term thing need not apply.
I understand your logic in that it isn’t necessary to find your complimentary type but I wouldn’t say it’s only for people that are more mature. I actually think that’s a sign of immaturity seeking someone the same as oneself ... that’s making it too easy. But to each his own and I am sure people can find satisfying relationships with many different types of people ... depends on what you are looking for. By the way I am an INFJ.
About the flirting, 100% on the money. I've found that work is the best place too, because it offers a more casual atmosphere for flirting than say a bar or club would, letting me (us ENTPs) play off our abilities with mental sparring and joking in a longer term setting, which is my preferred way to flirt, very casual and laid back.
My boyfriendo is an ENTP and he doesn't want to admit that he's sooooooo charming in some way, he loves to flirting and do it all the time, but he doesn't believe me. I'm an ENFP and we have a great relationship even when all te MBTI community says that it's not really a good idea...
Mariana Yanes don't comform too much of what the majority of what people say about mbti couples. everyone is different! and if you are happy together, who is to dictate whether your relationship could work or not? only you two! i am glad that you are happy with him (i am an entp and i do get your boyfriend's opinion on this. we just don't think we're flirting when people think we're 'being charming'. it's why kids in my school always tease me whenever i interact with other people that i would be normally seen as 'flirting' but i'm in fact not)
I am an entp and I dislike flirting. But everyone assume that my jokes are flirting. I make most of girls who likes the guy jealous. It's annoying, since that's just how I interact with people.
When it comes to flirting, I'm a smooth sailor. I've also been labeled as a player, even though I'm not. I get bored with relationships easily. I try fix or tweak them. The manipulative aspect is on point, although sometimes unaware. Have any other of you ENTP types found yourself in a toxic relationship but also intellectually stimulated? Maybe i'm just crazy.
ENTP here, I completely agree with the flirting thing but I hate when I accidentally give people the wrong idea. Sometimes I come off as flirtatious when not trying to be and it makes things super awkward. However, flirting with anyone is almost always an entertaining and great tool to reach a sort of middle ground with people I am interested in as its not to deep so as to off put the other person but its not so surface level as to bore me to death.
I mistrust women, so I just test them and their boundaries. I do this because I am also a little ugly so I don't promote myself to much out of self-conscious. I then just "flirt" (even though I come off really charming when I do this, I am more of like zany) to see where to get out. Honestly, I just investigate my surroundings, proceed to make a judging on the social hierarchy of the situation, extrapolate the data, and then have a better synopsies on the social environment and person of interest. Is pretty good. or I am just a nerdy, edgy, lousy gamer xD.
My Entp pick up artist experience here: we talk to much ( smart and underappreciated as we are) ,I love to talk ,but girls go crazy for me when I go silent haha.
i can agree on that, in my case if i approved their intelligence, i‘ll try to impress them by showing off my intelligence to them, but if i feel like i‘m seriously catching feelings, i get extremely anxious bc it‘s hard for me to hide when i‘m nervous and bc i‘m usually the one initiating convos etc if i suddenly become silent snd stuff they‘ll notice it i guess.... besides that idk complementary types seem interesting sometimes bc they‘re different.
I disagree on his analysis of complementary and similar personality types. Calling the former immature. Networking is the key to success in our world. As an INTJ I struggle with large social gathers, although I can be great with one on one conversations. To have a relationship with an ENTP would pick up my slack. Be able to get to flirt with people, get to know details about them quickly, and manipulate them is an excellent pairing to my strengths. INTJ are better at forming conclusions based off of small bits of data that our ENTP counter part could effortlessly gather. This pairing is a power couple. That all being said that is my own personal take and it applies to me. It may not apply to others as much, maybe it applies more to others. The maturity aspect does not play a role. We can mature in different ways. Focusing on certain strengths (and our weaknesses) but finding someone who can take on that social butterfly role for an INTJ is a very mature move. His interpretation is very arrogant.Great to know you are not mature enough to get to know a complementary type well. It sounds weak.
+casey timmins Its not weak....It's more efficient. I never said you couldn't mature in other ways. I just said don't get wrapped up in the idea that you have to find a complementary type in order to grow.
9:30 You're saying that you're trying to figure out whether or not she has a solid identity and integrity to her beliefs; that she knows how to spar. A person who knows how to defend their beliefs will be prepared, but with a mild temper and respect for the individual. There would be no need to be dogmatic, nor think that they know it all. If they know that there is an answer, but can't say it properly, they'll lead you to the source, or bring it to you. And they'll know whether or not the challenge is worth answering. Intelligence is an inside job.
(I Too Am An ENTP) Flirting Is One Of The Most Common Things I Do With Nearly Every Person I Find Interesting, It's Always A Great Way To See How People Respond, And It Does Help Me Find Lots Of Things On The Girl I'm After.
lol I'm an ENTP but my experience is a bit rather difference. Maybe it's depended on the characteristics of the girl I like at the time. I'm not really flirtatious, I'm actually don't like committing so I think a lot before flirting with someone I really like but for someone I know I'm not serious with, I'll find it comfortable to flirt hahaha (what da jerk). A lot of the time, the girl I like doesn't even know that I like her, or even some knows they will be wonder of why I don't make a move. As typical ENTP I'm easily bored even in relationship. So even when I'm interested at someone, I'm more likely to one day stop them half way and leave then awkward. Maybe that's the reason why I'm reluctant to flirt with someone I think I really. Any body else like me please let me know, so I'm not feeling like an alien in this world
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I can say this is exactly my case. This once I went with a couple of not-so-close friends to some local Math Olympiads and I met this girl, defintely ISTJ, which really interested me. Well, apparently, she didn't have any social intelligenca, because I later told her (via WhatsApp) that I was interested in her and her reaction was something along the lines of "What? How is that even possible?" When I told my roommates (Probably ESTP and INTJ) I's kinda into her, they were like "DUDE, IT'S SO OBVIOUS" and all that, so yeah, even they realized.
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As a married female ENTP I find that people aways think I'm flirting, but I'm not. I have absolutely no romantic interest in whoever I'm talking to, i just am intellectually curious in who people are. I really like engaging with people. I actually get surprised when people get the wrong idea. I'm just here to talk and discover. It took a long time for me to realize people are not like that.
Same here, same here. Can't tell you (but you'd understand) how much trouble I've been in because I have attracted attention when I haven't intended to. Just through being interested in people. I am 49 now and the penny only dropped, 10 years ago maybe hahahah.
Yes i agree im the same, iv had female friends who said to there other female friends that they will get inloved in me because im so charmy, and i am like lol wtf are u saying? and there like no way i dont fall for anyone and when they meet me they just melt, but thats what i heard my female friend say to her friend, anyway the reason we are like that is because we are curious and want to analyse people and the more "open we are" the more open they will become so that is a trick we use to make them "reveal" them self
yes, for some reasons people believe we are always flirting...
malina1love agree
are you me?
How to tell if an entp likes you: you'll know
Exactly, however, my intj boyfriend didn't get the hints (more like bombs) until I asked him out.
@@elliotspangler3152 😆 I messaged my INTJ boyfriend and was immediately like "omg you're soooo cool, literally everything about you is 😍". They're pretty slow on the draw and I'm hella impatient.
@@safiaelbiaze7258 You know, there's a meme that says ENTPs' worst fear is to fall in love with an INFP hahahha. I guess that's true. I have an ENTP friend who's been casually complimenting me this days but I'm not sure if it's flirting or being simply charming as usual. Today my ENFP friend said to him: "lately you are dressing well!" Aaand I thought that's because he maybe likes me... But I don't want to assume things. And I don't want to date him because we go at the same college. Also I'm REALLY good in my eternal single state...
Btw, how is it going with your ENTP?
"I respect the importance of laughter...." - a True ENTP
still you prob laugh at your own pain or others laugh in awkwardness to something you said
Agreed
Omg I thought it said «slaughter» ✋😭
@@noraherlyng dumb
Lol it's impossible to have a "short term fling" with an infj. If that's what you're after, infjs will never let the relationship start in the first place :P but this was interesting insight to entp.
+LLawlietXD challenge accepted.
CommitmENTPhobe omg you are funny
How did it go? ;)
I am ENTP and i dont look for a short term fling ... i hate that ... i think that ESTPs are like that...
@@commitmentphobe3045 You will lose. Probably already have. Wah, wah, wah.
As for making people laugh, that's totally true for me. I like to make people laugh, and if I can't, then I won't be able to get along with the person. Seriously. Nothing is worse than shooting a bunch of jokes and them completely missing every time. Not to mention, I have a pretty dry and sometimes dark sense of humor, so naturally my jokes are either total miss or huge hit depending on the person. That's usually the first thing I test the waters with.
that is the most relatable statement i have read here
I second that. Dark and dry XD EXACTLY right. And yeah, everything you say is true to my experience. In fact I'm sure I must be a reincarnation of an old Vaudeville comedian - "leave 'em laughin!"
remember though- with humor a l;ot of times its just timing. Ive had It really depends on the persons mood etc- if someone is sort of mulling over some relationship breakup, life problem etc with friends and someone comes over and makes a dirty joke, it can really um, fall flat and put the person off. It's happened to me. First, try to read the room. Humor and joking has a lot to do with context. An objectively funny joke can still not have its intended consequences to someone you tell it to if they are distracted, in a poor mood, etc
I thought I was odd that I have such a darker sense of humour than others. Usually don’t share cus I know others wouldn’t find it funny 😂 my parents would absolutely hate my really sense of humour as they barely like hearing swears
This comment sums up my retarded brain
ENTP: Devil's lawyer
INFJ: Justice Lawyer
i view flirting almost like a game. quick, whitty, clever banter back and forth with cute humor
Yes. Best flirting. Maybe with some teasing here and there.
You're right on the dot with the flirting. As an ENTP I always find myself fliritng and its not even always just flirting but also being somewhat charming. I believe ENTPs not only flirt to have fun and build comfort but also to test and learn a lot about the girl.
+colin moras Yes! Flirting is often a way of attaining information for us. It's like a big experiment.
Entp girl here, 100% agree on the pushing people to their limits thing, it's the most fun I can have
could it also be that we're narcissistic? I love the BS that comes out of my mouth that fits ever so perfectly as a response to whatever the other person has said.
It's so fun to see how they respond to certain things I say, whether it'd be a compliment or a judgement.
You probably are just a narcissist, yourself. I am not a narcissist. You are lacking Ti principle. Although I relate to you with the liking to hear myself talk. It's a beautiful thing being so glib.
§öphişt I think she's actually got a point. Though the reason especially in a flirting context is different. First of all we enjoy interacting with a new idea. when you speak the idea actually becomes something that exists in the real world and not just your mind. The other major reason is it gives us a marker. Depending on the reaction we can make a gague of the ability of whoever we're talking to to both understand information and the creative capacity that they have to give us new information of their own. figured it was interesting.
colin moras I can totally agree with you on that, I'm ENTP by myself
I'm an ENFP girl and I always crush hard on ENTP guys. What I particularly like about you is that you never take things personally, you're the opposite of butthurt. We can debate about anything for hours and with total freedom of speech, and disagreements often end up as a competition of (dumb) puns. You're the most intellectually stimulating people I know!
soif_pls hitt me up gurl
Lol jk
Hahaha...Don't lie, you know you were testing out the waters with that comment.
@@brandytoupard1682 haha, yeah. But, i agree nonetheless. 😁
ENFPs crush hard on every type.
i'm an infj and i notice i gravitate more towards flirty people because honestly, it's really hard to get to know me and i think it kind of breaks the ice and makes you feel nice
i think that's why entps + infjs people rave about not because we perhaps need to lean on each other but i think we just hit it off easier
infjs also hate small talk and will pretty much immediately dismiss anyone who does it (at least i do) and a lot of times we need someone ballsy enough to approach us and make the first move because we rarely do
so being extroverted paired with being flirty and hating small talk/seeking intelligence will make infjs warm up to entps easier because other personalities are either too shy or too shallow when you first meet and we're picky with who we give our attention to so if you can't make that first impression you're likely out
i do agree that you don't NEED a certain relationship/mbti type but i think the compatibility is there just telling us some types have an easier time and i do think that's true
but as always, easier doesn't mean better
Gain some confidence, then you don't have to hide from everyone. Courage girl.
@@Chillipep uP
wdym infj really enjoys small talk duh..?
I absolutely agree with you on the flirting part. I am an ENTP and if I find a guy attractive I will confidently walk up to him and flirt by making him laugh, being sarcastic, teasing him or just entertaining him in general. It gives us magnetism and grabs their attention.
Farah, I guess It's easier said that done.
Like if you're an ENTP who clicked on this to see if you have feelings for someone
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I agree, MBTI isn’t everything, for sure! ☺️
Personally, as an INFJ, I find an intelligent sense of humor/flirty banter INCREDIBLY attractive. I’ve only been able to find that in ENFPs or ENTPs and I love them for this reason. That and our conversations can go on for days about practically anything non-surface level. In my experience, we educate each other and that’s SO fun.
Flirting really is so easy... Even when I don't like the guy. It's like being polite for me. A lot of what you said resonated with me, yeah.
Yeah, same. Sometimes that ends up biting me in the ass though because I’m not even interested in the person I’m flirting with.
Yes i'm an ENTP and I agree that flirting is really fun, but i like to consider it just being playfully nice or I like what someone else said "charming", cuz I would do it to anyone regardless of their gender or my interest in them, though I will tone it down if I want them to know I'm not interested. If I'm not interested I'm just kinda low-key rude and passive.
THANK YOU someone who gets it! As an ENTP dude I know exactly what you mean and so many people mistake it. Also yeah giving rude vibes to people you don't like is a GREAT way to get them to leave ya alone
Woow me tooo!!!
Lol I thought this the moment I heard it. I “flirt” with everyone I meet. I want them to be intrigued with me.
I am watching this because I dont want to be to obvious LOOOOL
Totally relatable
all of us ENTP’s know this shit is too true
so entp
LMAO🤣
Literally me
I disagree with your opinion of complimentary types being only for the immature. Those who are immature would actually dislike the complimentary types due to their insecurity. Their insecurity will not allow them to appreciate the strength of the compliment because it brings to light of their weakness.
I feel that only when one matures will one actually appreciate a person of a compliment. One would feel secure in oneself enough to understand one's weaknesses & find someone who can make up for what they lack. That's how a couple can be a power couple! They both teach each other how to strengthen each other's weaknesses as well as.
Jenni V agree
Thanks dude. What you said it all makes sense. We ENTP gets very bored with people who don't display intellectual charisma. MBTI community should start researching geographic location where we can move and find our compatible partner. And I can definitely say if you are an ENTP living in ireland then it is going to be difficult for you.
Ramim m How come? Just curious as I live here.
ENTP’s like to flirt as a social experiment. To learn about the subject and themselves. Also to gain gratification through any success in it.
Mmmmm ask me deep questions daddy
whenever I do, girls usually block me lol
@@wirsehenuns8780 that's a good thing then. It's like a filler. Whoever wanted to stay would've stayed.
that's what I used to believe, too, but maybe it was just that I asked something inappropiate
YUP! I'm an INTP and that's exactly what I was thinking!
@@wirsehenuns8780 yeah. Welcome to ENTP lives. We COULD lie to women like all other types and create successful, long term relationships that are perfect. BUT we cant, cuz wed rather die than say anything dishonest for even a second
Entps are awesome!!! Very insightful video. I hate small talk it's the worst. That being said your ability to skip through the small talk to engage in real ,deep and complex conversations is really cool and I find myself so taken aback by how exhilarating you entps are. There's only one problem that I do have with you guys and it's not really an entp problem but an infj (that would be me) problem. As an Infj I am heavily guarded about sharing my inner world so to avoid small talk I probably wouldn't speak to someone as willingly as the next person. So when an entp comes along with their intoxicating ability to knock down my walls causing me to be more open , in my mind I'm like what am I doing!!! . I easily open up to entps (well open up more then usual ,not completely) this makes it hard when you guys leave because I find that I've probably shared apart of myself to someone who probably just wanted stimulating conversation in that moment rather then a longer lasting connection (be it friendship or romantically) . To whoever read this infj ramble, thanks I guess.
Omg same. I'm an infj. And I feel really empty when entp left me . Because I shared apart of myself with that person
Yeah they can have narcissistic traits and can knowingly (or unknowing) eat up years of your life if you let them and if they really find you to be fascinating.
Sis I’m crying cause same
That's a real INFJ there!! I appreciate a lot lot lot your honesty, do know that please! ENTP female here. I just totally love you, you are so rare, you sure soo authentic, we ENTPs greatly admire that! And if it was a valuable part of your inner world you are sharing I would know how to treasure it by keep coming back and wanting you to be a steady part of my life because you are just so awesomely only by the way you opened yourself to us here too!
I'm really sorry to hear this has happened to you. I'm an ENTP and my INTJ ex did the exact same thing to me too. But we need to move on and find someone who's there to stay for us. And there is definitely that someone, be fully aware of this.
Im an INFP married to an ENTP. We have had our share of communication errors. I had to learn that he is not as cold as he seems, and he had to learn my emotions and inner world often influence my choices. We had to find balance and clarity. I ask him when I need a more intellectual and broad opinion on matters and I often can explain things he does not understand about emotions. Its crazy...I hate debate and arguing yet I marry the Great Debator!. Lolol. I like to believe we balance one another.
I never flirt. I just joke around. Looking at their reaction makes me laugh. And everyone knows that I'm joking. But I don't know why everyone is shipping me with everyone.
I'd definitely have to agree with you on the complementary type point. as an ENTP myself I've found that it's better to keep complementary types as friends. because they ultimately allow you to engage yourself without any added expectations. Having someone with a similar personality type allows for confusion in general to be stripped away because it allows for less time to be spent on explaining how you achieve a conclusion due to the similarities in thought process.
I actually need to add something. the Meyers Brigs community has been terrible about the concept of personality types that are complimentary and their play into relationships. however even with this oversight as you eloquently pointed out they are incredibly good at making an accurate determination of types that should under no circumstance be in a relationship. mostly because the amount of internal conflict of beliefs and ways of acquiring a conclusion are not only contradictory but antithetical. but that's just my experience with the issue
Hay man it's nice to hear you. You reminde me very much of myself, that digging for the exact idea (I'm an ENTP if this is not obvious). Two points about what you have said:
1. Flirting is fun, but for me the most important question when I'm talking to a girl is if she able to have DEEP conversation. If she won't challenge me intellectually with deep philosophical ideas, and if she won't surprise me with creative thoughts i have no interest in her. So after some flirting usually i am trying to start a deeper conversation and see if she likes it. Of not I'm usually giving up at that point.
2. I think personality types is nice and interesting, but i also think that it could be wrong to rely on it too much. Especially when it's about finding a life partner. In the end this is just a way ro categories people but it's not like the wrold is actually deviated to 16 personality typea. Its just a way to look at people. What I'm trying to say is that everybody is an individual, and has his own traits. And looking at people as ENTP, INFJ, ENFP and whatever might make you see people as bunch of letters and not as unique individuals. So I'm hoping i made myself clear. Anyway thanks for the video.
Yeah, MBTI is mainly cognition as explanations for behavior. That being said, it’s only one branch of psychology.
I met an entp. He's my friend now. We seem to enjoy talking and he asks me deep questions. When I try to say i need to sleep now he'll suddenly ask me a question and I'll be talking for hours. 😂 He also told me he drops his guard down with me. And he's always grateful that i listen to him. He also listens to me. He's very smart and i love that he's helpful to people. Anyway, i don't really know if he's thinking of me romantically or just being happy that i am nice to him. 😅 I gotta admit i enjoy talking to him a lot and my day is incomplete when we don't talk 🥵 -infp
I can relate w the last part and i am so confused how they feel about me but they give mixed signs so i can not decide bc once he is very active in conversations and looking for me all the time, but then he ignores me for a week and being mean💀
Can anyone give me an advice?:)
@@katatoth3596 Just don't care. Let him live the way he wants and don't take what he does personally.
This may not be a good advice since I'm a INFJ. 😂
But still hope it helps.
I completely agree with finding a similar type as a mature relationship . INTP here married to an ENTP. We are so similar on so many levels and have the same interests. It is easy to understand one another and we have just the right amount amount of difference to compliment one another.
Ouch it seems that INTJ should run from ENTP. Flirting with everyone part scares me
I'm not agree with that. I'm an INTJ female and i enjoy talking and hanging up with ENTPs, they know how to keep the conversation and always makes me laugh. But i understand that maybe the part of being too "flirty" is a little issue for us if we're looking for a serious relationship. Eventhough, i feel that we're very compatible :) never get bored with ENTPs (the only bad thing that i see in them is that they always want to be right and well... to be honest, they're not always right and sometimes they just want to annoy you because for them is just fun, i've been there hahahaha)
Natasha I wouldn’t consider it flirting. We are just very intimate people who are very aware of the range of the human emotion, we know that there is a way/a grey area to interact with people(especially of the opposite sex) without seeming malicious or indifferent. ‘Flirting’ is a pretty shallow game, it’s all about personal developments for ENTPs. Social behavior for ENTPs(personally speaking) is not about the process, it’s about the result and if an ENTP has no interest in the first place, then the result would be that a romantic relationship would not even initiate with the person we are ‘flirting’ with.
Flirting does not mean we're cheaters... I've never cheated on anyone in my life, my integrity is rock solid and I'll never let anything compromise that. It is a major point of pride for me. My INTJ boyfriend and I are rock solid and loyal to the end, never had a relationship with such solid integrity in my life.
ENFP here and i don't flirt with most people but they think i am which sucks so bad mostly i'm just being nice which to me nice = attention to make other people feel like i'm focusing on them it isn't that i like them and i send mixed signals often accidentally but if i like someone its similar to the entp's but if someone is flirting with me i can be so oblivious to it because again nice = attention so if your paying me lots of attention i just think your trying to be kind and not that your flirting with me. If i really like some one normally i'll say, " hey I like you you wanna hang out sometime 😉"
@@seal6565 indifferent
Yes yes, pretty much everything you said rings true to me as an entp. I did marry, unknowingly, an infj. We have been friends for over 15 years and together for over 6 years of that time. If you spend enough time with anyone, you will understand how they work, even if they aren't the same type. You know, I really don't think I learned and grew too terribly much from him though, so perhaps you have a point there! I grew and matured by observing how my own behaviors affected my life and the people around me, which was painful at times lol!! And I'm sure there will be plenty more as I continue to grow. I will say, there are some perks of having a complimentary type for the lomg term though. One of the bigest ones I can think of is our roles as parents. Uugh if there were two of me raising our kids it would be insanity! I think as a family unit, there is a huge benifit to us being complimentary. It just makes for an easy home life, which I wanted this, so its benificial to my/our situation. I have dated another enpt...yes, I did find one once! It was a very, very fun relationship and I still look back on it fondly. It was just too much work though and ended up being a mental drain eventually. A very fun and exciting start the the relationship, I felt like I had found my sole mate! But after awhile, it just got exhausting. It was perfect for my life at the time, early 20s, but we eventually became too much for each other. I still absolutely adore this person, but I'm glad I went with a complimentary -even if it was unintended. We compliment each other in ways that make real life go smoothly, I think saying that we grow off each other is stretching it though!! Support in day to day activities would be much more accurate imo, I love how well greased 'the machine' is around here. It really is the perfect environment for me, personally, to do all my weird entp things that I enjoy doing. -maybe some would consider that growing from each other, I see more an enabling myself.
I think a potential problem with a same type relationship could be that you might always be aware of their negative qualities, because those are the qualities that you see in yourself at your worst. When people say "have the potential to grow" it doesn't imply you can't grow on your own, but there is no denying other people are stronger in other areas than you. When in a relationship, that can be particularly beneficial, but also challenging. Just my opinion.
I agree
HAHAHAHA I can totally relate to the part where you start thinking how to formulate a statement that sounds well thought but you can't find the right words.
(ENTP) I agree with most all your points. I don't out rightly approach girls without vetting them for certain traits: appearance, intelligence, like interests, etc. (This isn't always the case, as I will approach strangers at a bar as it's likely my only opportunity) Once I engage them, I come off as upbeat and attentive. I can't help myself but engaging in witty banter and jokes. There are few questions as suffocating as "Come here often?" or "Damn, you're really cute." I'm always attempting to "change the game," or say something that would set me apart from the rest and show interest as well as a brainy bend. Once I get the number, it's all about getting to know more about the girl, checking her interests and opinions, then setting up the date if I find her interesting enough. This is one of the most destructive and limiting factors to my approach. I can become bored easily with certain types of girls and can't justify pursuing them further if they don't meet a preset criteria. As limiting as it is, there is also wisdom in it. I don't seem to get in many relationships that blow over quickly. We know what we want, and we won't settle for less.
I also agree with your point on not limiting your dating to certain types. Firstly, because it makes you seem superstitious to girls that don't subscribe to MBTI. Some may consider you a weirdo, so don't necessarily go asking types. Also, I've met many INFJs that I absolutely couldn't see myself lasting long with. I'm always able to crack them up, but sometimes they have hard, feeling oriented opinions on things that can't hold up to logic which can be extremely frustrating. Also, we can step on their toes (bigtime) without even noticing. It's a better idea to get to know a girl and see how well you vibe, regardless of their type, and decide whether or not there's something there in that way.
+Foyo Pleasure I couldn't agree more. Thanks for the comment!
Not every INFJ and ENTP will be a good match of course, but it sounds like these girls you speak of may not be INFJ. These "feeling oriented opinions" sound characteristic of introverted feeling (Fi) types, such as INFP. FJ and TP types actually share the same extroverted feeling/ introverted feeling axis, and are more logic oriented. Everything is in the functions, so look those up. INFJ's and ENTP's are actually way more similar than you think once you analyze the functional breakdown.
yeah, I (entp) agree with that but how I suppose to find somebody on Tinder then?
I hate Tinder because I can only judge people (mostly) on the outside. I am not really good interacting with guys in real life.
@@christypiper it's an interesting pattern I've observed with INFJs online, where INFJs automatically attribute any and all faults associated with their type to mistyped INFPs. They don't even seem to consider the perspective of the other side and automatically try to deflect any constructive feedback and attribute their shortcomings onto INFPs. I think you guys need to take a step back and look at the other side of the coin and also investigate your own shortcomings more honestly before dismissing them and shifting the critique onto other types.
I'm an INFP guy and an ENTP girl that I like is definitely observing me and judging my behaviour and intelligence. She also tried to test my confidence several times. But she's extremely extroverted so maybe she just does it with everyone, I can't be really sure. And sometimes she seems to be more emotional than me which is curious. I have to invite her out to make it clear
Intelligence is key to all of the Analyzing types.
I’m an INTJ and currently like someone who is an ENTP. Complimentary types, it wasn’t that I was looking out for that(didn’t even know about MBTI months later). But because we both match 90% of the descriptions we learnt so much more about eachother in an instant.
If it won’t be more, we will surely stay friends for a long time.
I am an ENTP 19 year old male. I only started dating when I turned 18. My first Girlfriend I believe was ESTP and I never saw a long term relationship with but I wanted to understand what a relationship was like. She was way to physical and controlling. I dated her for 4 months. I dated an ENFP long distance for 5.5 months. We dated long distance from the beginning and I truly saw a future with her. ENFPs tend to be my favorite type to have as a friend. I have about 10 great ENFP friends. She broke up with me because she couldnt handle my ti and argumentative nature despite me being extremely kind to her every other time. Im currently trying to find the best girl for me for long term marriage.
I'm an ENTP. I totally agree with the small talk part. I can't do it. Lol it hurts my soul. Also, genuine thoughts and opinions are valued.
I was going to say "I flirt in joke form" but you eventually wrapped around to that. I think I do it because serious intimate emotions are not my forte... I can be a very serious person at times, but when it comes to actually "liking" someone and forming that initial bond, I don't want it to be too serious.
Emotions suck
I am totally addicted to my ENTP bestie. He has the sexiest brain ever and I love how we can go for hours and hours discussing and debating every topic under the sun. He is an introverted extrovert and told me this is the first time he has connected with anyone so deeply. I feel so very honoured and blessed :) ENTJ female here!
ENTP or not, the science of flirting is supposed to be a very laid back game where you challenge and also show relaxed confidence, and most importantly having fun! That is how you flirt, you show relaxed genuine confidence, have fun and charm people, I think this applies to whatever personality type you are and necessary universal tools to have to reach your top flirt game.
About the complimentary type, this is not just a recommendation in this community, but for people in general, the universal saying says: "Opposites attract", and it doesn't necessarily have to do with "growing", but just that there is always something new to learn, new angles analyze and some mystery to interact with and understand, this makes the dynamics very interesting, so I can understand the whole "complimentary" logic. I would personally be kind of bored if I had a partner that work and think exactly like me, because I would understand EVERYTHING so there would be no mystery, no challenge and everything would get too predictable very fast.
Now about the growing part, I agree, growing should be a part of you no matter if you have a relationship or not, but take in mind, that growing never stops, if you ever think that you are finished growing, that just means that you have a lot more to learn. Most adults are not grown in themselves, in matter of fact most "mature" adults are quite insecure about themselves. Most people never reach their full potential in life, even if they can display some maturity. So having someone to challenge you and your ways of thinking might be a good thing in life, because life is too short already.
But hey, I'm an ENTP and I actually just try to find some counter backs just for fun haha. Maybe I'm not even right in my arguments, just doing these for fun. Liked the video! :)
You hit pretty much everything right on the nose bruh. I flirt with everyone women, gay men it doesn't really matter. I do it because its fun, its good practice, and most importantly, people have developed this awful idea that compliments and making other people feel good is something to be hoarded. They even do this in relationships and it makes absolutely no sense to me. I can't stand it. So as long as I am not in a bad mood or really don't like you, I'm gonna flirt or give compliments to spread positivity and good feelings.
Its also interesting that you focus on personality over looks. You classify it as different types of intelligence but I find personality is a much better way to classify people primarily because of how many different types of intelligence there is. You can be book smart but have no street smarts. You can have both of those intelligence traits but lack the common sense that arguably should go hand in hand with intelligence. Most importantly, so many people define intelligence in so many ways when often the things that we care about the most are the things we can engage in deep discussions and thoughts about. A body builder focused on how creatine affects the body and pinpointing the minutest metabolism needs necessary for optimum performance that doesn't know the capital of south korea. A scientist focused on breakthroughs that doesn't understand the importance of showing the people in their life they care about them. The bottom line is you tend to know a lot about what you really care about and people often just don't care about the stuff us entp folk think are important. Every girl I ever fell for was stunning from a personality standpoint and they could relate with what I had to say instead of listening without input.
I got into this stuff with 16 personalities instead of mbti but I think the forer effect may explain why you have a knee jerk reaction to being told a certain type is right for you. It doesn't make a lot of sense to me for entp's to follow anyone's rationale if it wants us to walk only one path. After all the only end to a single path is stagnation. I just want to say how amazing it is to find so many people who have a somewhat similar thought process to me even though a lot of us follow that thought process in a million different directions like missles fired in Macross. Thank you for your observations, I enjoyed this discourse.
Also fuck grammar, rules, indentations and having a problem with misspellings.
As a female ENTP i have noticed that i somehow almost always end up making the first step when it comes to flirting. Maybe that’s because i tend to go for shy ppl or maybe that’s just due to me flirting in almost 90% of conversations. 🤷🏼♀️
As a female entp, I agree with you about how to know an entp likes you. In the past, like you, I did not believe in we should find an infj Or intj. Until recently, I am in a love with an infj, which even scares me because I never expect myself to love a man so much.
I never flirt.
As a male, with flirting I think it initially depends on what you look like, or moreover: what you seem like. I tend to give an impression that isnt especially attractive, untill I get to know a person. I also tend to chase girls that are "out of my league" looks wise. For those reasons it is detrimental for me to just go and make obvious flirtation, it would probably be scary for them haha. Instead I will wait for opportunistic moments to arrive, where I can make conversation. After doing that a couple of times I may take another opportunity to have a small conversation. At all times being the first person to leave/stop talking. Even then I wont flirt in an obvious way, I will just take opportunities to test body contact, like a touch on the shoulder, and see if it is received well or not. I'll see how they react to the idea of doing something together. And then one day I'll just ask them to go get a coffee. At this point it will be obvious to them that I'm interested, but I will never have done anything overtly flirty. It will be almost... old fashioned I suppose, but not in the lame way that sounds haha.
I personally hate being an ENTP. I hate being able to adapt to anyone, I hate not having a stance on things for a good reason, just whatever’s optimal. I’m both proud and ashamed of what I am. Not that it’s a generalization of all of us but it’s effected me a great deal personally. When I reflect on myself I don’t know if I’m adapting myself to me when I do it. I don’t know if I’m wearing a “mask” with myself without any real reason to just so I feel a sense of identity.
Fi PoLR sounds hard
I'm a 41 year old ENTP. I've put a ton of HONEST self work on myself the past few years discovering that with enough data and running ALL scenarios so no matter what there won't be any surprises. With this I know now I have a amazing talent of allowing a woman (people in general) I have interest in becoming extremely comfortable with me in a very short timeframe. I've also believe being truly honest with all in my life myself included has given me a freedom to live without fear. I have a saying Cut the cancer... Why take the chance of suffering for years with chemo just to die invisible death when he can just chop the leg off work through it and live apply that to everything in life.
I'm good at flirting but I don't have the initiative or discipline to start a convo with a girl i might really be attracted to
Im ENTP and I tend to be narcissistic. Sometimes I find Im so perfect that I have to remind myself of my flaws. I think ENTPs in general are the most complete of MBTI, we function well in the social world but were still insightful and Deep. And we know a fuck ton of shit.
helloMRdj1 Honestly, I think I'm the second coming of Jesus Christ.
😂😭👏🏽 That''s legitimately the best reply I've ever gotten. Holy fucking shit. Leave it to a fucking ENTP, man. Boy are we a wild ride
Your comment is also de funniest ive ever Heard man, I literally almost get a heart attack from the laughter when I read your comment. You must be for sure a profesional commedian.
Eww
I am convinced I am objectively perfect and it makes no sense that I am single at almost 30 lollll 😅😅😅 I think it might be because most guys are pussies who can't argue for shit 🤷♀️
Yyaaaassssss this has been a thorn in my side all my life. And watching this and reading all the comments here, it's so awesome to think "I am not alone!!!" I am honestly shocked when engaging with someone (and day to day I engage with a lot of someones my workplace is big) leads to them thinking I am pursuing them in some way or romantically interested. I've had some all but run away from me when they see me approach because they think I'm "after" them. It has made me really unhappy in the past, thinking there is something wrong with me to get people to react that way. But now I understand - it's because my ENTP is shining bright, and they can suck it ;D ;D ;D
ENTP is very fascinating.
The combination of extroversion and being so analytical is interesting to me.
The way he said he wants to make people laugh because it is scientifically advantageous. Lol.
Yes, I'm an ENTP and I often find myself flirting both consciously and unconsciously and I've also been called a tease as a result. Also agree that primary interest (once you get passed looks) is intelligence. Looks are important, in terms of what I'm personally attracted to, but lack of mental vitality is a deal breaker.
9:40 You nailed it! Intelligence is 🔑! I can't stand a female that can't think for herself or tells everybody she's "Smart" but then asks you to proofread her 📝 and it's absolute garbage. Then they backtrack and say "Well I'm just not good at writing.. But algebra is my THING." You catch my drift. I think personally I love to be intellectually stimulated and need the women I'm interested in to be able to allow constructive criticism and not be offended if I give advice. She also needs to be able to hold a conversation with me and ALWAYS keep an open mind. Drive.. that's another trait I find attractive! When a woman is self motivated and driven towards small/large goals and has the other traits I mentioned, she could be a 6-10 and still find me interested.
Thx for the video man! I found out my personality type last week and have been fascinated by it! I could not stop reading "The visionary " packet because it nailed me! I took the test 3 times to be 100% I am ENTP. Have a great day everyone!
Interesting video, not only content wise but also seeing how your thought process works. I find ENTPs fascinating and am always happy to learn about your type.
I believe that any type can work together regardless. It doesn't matter about similarities it just matters if you care enough and try enough, most people can work together very well regardless of differences
(INFP here) Can't stand small talk. Throw it out the window. Give me a mentally stimulating conversation any day.
There goes my train of thought... Oh there I was... Typical! :P
Does anybody else constantly bite the skin off their fingers or their fingernails?
+Paul Nolan no...but I keep mine trimmed at all times. Does that count?
I do
Paul Nolan I do....trying to stay ways from biting my nails
Mine are a complete disaster all the time, yes. Picking, biting...I do it when I'm desperately bored but forcing myself to participate, out of some social compliance reason >.> Some things you can't squirm out of. I do it less if I'm allowed to move around freely/constantly.
i bite the skin off of my inner bottom lip if that counts
ENTP female engineer from the U.K. here, can confirm I love flirting it gives me a buzz and if their not intellectual...I’m not interested.
Nah, if they can beat me in an argument that's pretty much the best foreplay ever. Fucking rare treat 😆
I really enjoyed this video :) thank you for sharing your perspective and some insight into the mind of an ENTP!
I could instantly tell you are an ENTP by how fast your thoughts were moving and the rants you went on. ;)
I did want to debate one point..I understand where you are coming from in terms of the complementary types..but I have a different perspective to argue your statement on being emotionally mature, and dating the same type. I believe we will never reach a point where we fully mature or know ourselves if we stop growing then we are basically dying. There is always more to learn always more to grow from..If we attempt to be in a relationship with someone of our same MBTI type there will be no contrast to continue growing on this journey! And how boring that would get after so long...so when we have a complementary type how exciting it makes life! Almost as if seeing it through a different lens..
Speaking as a mature INFJ currently in a relationship with a very mature ENTP. We complement each other so well to the point where everything that has been said about complementary types just makes sense!
That's not to say it should be the only standard to search for our complementary type, love can grow anywhere.
But it is interesting seeing how well it does work when you actually enter that situation..
Well said, fellow INFJ :)
ENTP here and i flirt with literally anyone and everyone(men,women,your grandma,uncle joe,the girl at MacDonalds...). I flirt for fun, to lighten the mood,to get things i want, because I like someone,etc. Ill flirt for pretty much any reason. Its classy flirting though. Flirting with people's minds. Never dirty or uncomfortable. You are a very normal ENTP in that way I think.
Love flirting too as an ENTP. You hit the head in the nail. Not a deep conversation but more than small talk. And yes, it’s a game I guess... never really thought of it that way. I have no intent or end game in my flirting.
Anyhow, all you said it true of me. ENTP girl who loves to make ppl laugh.
Thanks for addressing the issues with the relationship typing stuff!! I don't really find people who are supposedly my complimentary types to be attractive that way and prefer people who think more similarly to me and understand me well more than people with the complete opposite functions as i do!!!
Yaaasss :)
Mature type of an ENTP here, on one way I’m very charming, sophisticated, have social and other intelligence; very fun and entertaining, but in the same time I’m entrepreneur (I have 2 companies, 1 that mostly use skills, and another is with designing/creativity). And I have ideas and capacity for more!
I am very independent but can be caring. Well rounded individual... in the same time strong but sophisticated and I exactly know when to push which button, not to mention how much I pick up clues about other people. I can be like ,,devil’s advocate” as needed.
I like verbal and mental stimulation a lot, it’s like a game of words, intelligence and wit, and when people think I’m slightly arguing, I’m actually just having fun and want to feel mentally connected and to explore endless possibilities in verbal and other ways of expressions. 😉
I think I mostly like INTP men. Open for other types as well as I’m currently single). I have noticed that I don’t like overly ENTJs and INFJs. I see them as slightly closed minded or stubborn.
if you need a complementary relationship to mature/develop, you should probably keep it at friendship level.
I didn't realize how much I flirt until someone told me. I just can't stop, it just comes out in the presence of women. Being cheeky, teasing, entertaining, telling stories, it just excites me.
Agreed, especially flirting with girls I find cute but have no intention of asking out. It's a challenge and we're wierd that way.
We love testing and experimenting with people. Gotta make sure we aren't jerks and accidentally manipulating people.
There's a guy in my class who I like, and I cold-read him as ENTP, and I think he likes me back. He always smiles and laughs at things and he really listens when I talk and remembers things I say. Plus, I'm an ENTJ, and I have the traits ENTPs seem to be attracted to, so the puzzle fits!!! Bam!
Since I got tested entp you have completely explained to me everything about myself. Thanks mate!
Yeah, I can agree, flirting is EASY, conversations are easy, I observe too first, interested in what's upstairs more than everything else. We all age, looks deteriorate, personality remains. I enjoy a good flirtatious banter, though it's hard to find any one very good at it anymore. As time goes on, other things take priority. But if I find someone that peaks my interest, I am usually game to see if they are a good fit and a good flirt.
I'm flirtatious but I really try to control it. I tend to ⓕ lirt without trying to.....
Must simply give props to the sheer cleverness of your channel name. 👏🏼👏🏼
my entp crush were bullying me all the time then i figured out he was trying to flirt with me lol i was infp at that time(now i’m infj) and we were always playing mind games i was enjoying it but it was affecting my mental health in a very bad way. i didn’t fully realize at that time he actually didn’t mean to hurt me but it was too late i guess. one day i started crying after he said something and he was so sorry and tried to relieve me and hugged me like i know he didn’t realize that i was hurting till that point. we were close friends and never confessed each other because sooo many crazy shit happened, it was wrong time but right person i guess. i miss arguing and challenging with him tho.
I'm an ENTP female and you are spot on about everything. You've really piqued my interest.
I have 5 sisters and they always accused me of flirting. Also I have a science degree so this stuff interests me. I like pretty women and they like me too, until they ask others, especially gossip geeks. Agree with you on the Soto intelligent people. Agree with your MBTI community issue, I think there is a long way to go in society about relationships. ... complemental type is evil :) !
I’m also very flirtatious but I find it hard to flirt with girls that don’t know me very well or that I find attractive. I tend to flirt with either girls that like me or that I’m good friends with and less my own personal love interests.
i do agree with most of your points except for 2 things: 1) i've seen a lot of entp guys who are in the immature category and i found a lot of entp girls to be in the rather mature category. maybe try not to say 'girls especially' because you haven't met with all entps and that comment is, i have to be blunt, borderline sexist. (not saying you are sexist, but it does insinuate such).
2) i don't know if this is actually what you are trying to say, but i do find that it is no matter that the signs are complementary or not to you, as long as you are happy with the relationship, then go with it regardless of what people of any level of MBTI understanding will think.
ENTP female here, and funnilly enough, I love me some ESTJs, perhaps because I've never worked under one, lol. They're great friends. Exacting, detailed, particular, all the things that usually annoy me, but paired with their unflappable rationale, good humor, and drama free predictability makes them a breath of fresh air. I've never been with a male one, but I'm so ready for him, lol.
My NF friends, however, are basket cases. My INFP one's a moody bastard, my ENFP one is unyielding chirpy optimism AT ALL TIMES, my ENFJ one is an emotionally manipulative bitch often, and my INFJ one is my bestie, but a fragile, sensitive, foreign creature often enough to fuck with my Fe for days afterward. (How anyone could match me to that last one is insane.) Pretty sure I'm not meant to be with an idealist. Or a feeler, period. Even ESFJs and ISFJs are iffy.
Other rationals are so hard to come by IRL (INTPs live online or in a desert cave making a robot from a box of scraps, ENTP males want to see if they can provoke me to react emotionally, ENTJs would rather make fun of my life choices than date me, and I'm pretty sure INTJs don't actually exist outside of Jason Bateman). But ESTJs are everywhere! And normal!
Only roadblock I have with this type is how set they can be in their ways. Some things, regardless of logic, will never, ever change, and change is my middle name, and arguing for it comes to me like breathing, but they simply refuse to engage, and I contest that in itself, and round the vicious circle it goes until I break and give up (the ESTJ will is stronger than mine, lol). I think it's the "traditionalism" kicking in.
Very insightful to read your thoughts on all these types!
I completely understand what he's saying at the end about finding his complimentary mbti type, I see it from his propective, and respect it. However, I did want to point out that he's ignoring at least in this video that the reason why they pair people up in that manner isn't because they would valence each other out but because there are more things in common in these types that meets the eye. For example entp and infj sounds like they wouldn't get along at all on paper right? Nothing in common except the letter n. But if you look at the function stack, entp: extraverted intuition, interverted thinking, extraverted feeling followed by introverted sensing. Then infj stack: introverted intuition, extraverted feeling, introverted thinking, extraverted sensing. Then it's a lot more clear of why they would get along. I can see he's pulling from the prospectives he's had in real life and in all honesty infjs and intjs are quite rare so it does not surprise me whatsoever that he believes that. He vary well may not have ever a ligit infj or INTJ. But I did want to throw out that caviate from an infj propective. But agian, I humbly respect his propective, I have met a few entps but nether worked not because we weren't compatible, but because of where they were in incompatible stages in life. So he's definitely has some truth to his point.
My ENTP husband of 24 years is the kindest, smartest, and most talented person I've ever met. I just discovered MBTI this year so it's very surprising to me that our marriage is so easy. I'm an ESFJ. We have completely opposite skills so we tease that we are one complete person between the two of us. It works well as he creates while I pick up his socks.
I have been consistently told I am Charming so that’s what I would get for flirting. It’s always been there since forever and any new person I meet always picks up on it.
ENTP girl - 21 yrs old: I dont consider myself very social, but on most of the parties I can interract with people pretty smoothly. When I become drunk, and I lose my self-restrain, I cab play on people like instruments. I dont know why, but Entps have this natural mischievous charm, which others find very interesting. They find it very weird, how the child-like honest attitude gets mixed with the cold, rationalist core.
I only recently found out I am an infj....well that explains a lot. 🙄 Like getting the owners manual of a appliance that has been giving you grieve for years. "Oh is that what that button is for ....fascinating. Oh is that why it makes that noice...my bad". And looking back I am a entp magnet...yeah cliche I know.😜 They somehow always find me no matter how low key I am. 🤷♀️Just some things scream entp to me now;
* I normally dress to go to work to not stand out...I dress what people wanna see...BUT I keep a little thing thats authentically me (like happy socks or something). Its an infj thing...you would think people see through it but they don't...it makes life easier if people see what they wanna see and don't question it. I am just out there playing the little chameleon.....but who am I really?😈 No one knows...no one sees. Only my friends and family get behind my layers. 😏
But I met an entp that was looking back clearly observing me (which explains the starring)...I must have been like a little rubics cube for him to crack. He complimented me on the 1 authentically me thing I was wearing. 😳 The fact that he spotted it...Well thats impressive. 😀 To an infj thats like wearing your invisibility cloak but all of a sudden Dumbledore walks by going "hi there harry". WTF!😱 The fact that he not only realised it is an invisibility cloak to begin with. And he spotted "me" behind it. And had the balls to let me know he spotted me. The fact that he knew what I was doing and called me out on it. 🤯
* yeah funny intellectual banter trying to get my attention. Yeah I like guys that try to outtalk me....they won't but I like to watch them try. I can do the verbal pingpong match and they don't see it coming. 😜😂 No matter how fast you serve your funny flirty comment...I can put you in your place in a heartbeat. But again I like a brain that can think fast and outside of the box or twist something ordinary to make it funny in seconds...I love black humor as well.....bring it and I will serve it back to you. Thats what I appreciate about the entp...they can actually keep up with me and like the pingpong match as much as I do. Not many guys can do that and it makes me feel like I have to d*mb myself down to function at their speed. Its nice to find another person who takes the speed limit off and just goes racing. Its freeing. That and the type of humor thats....as an infj I see hidden meanings...to find someone that cracks a joke but the rest doesn't realise it is a joke cause it goes over their heads..inside jokes just cause your brain thinks the same way...but the rest have no clue. Thats funny.
* A guy thats not complimenting my appearance but an actual personality treat not valued/seen by most. 👍😀 Someone complimented me on my social intelligence and self-control. When dealing with a screaming A-hole on the phone he could tell the guy p!ssed me off...he would p!ss anyone off. But my voice didn't change...no effect on my behavior what so ever. Like thats gonna scare me.🙄😂🤣 I stay calm cause I know when I loose control of my emotions I loose control of the conversation...not happening. Let the guy go mental, it means he lost control and I can steer the conversation easier. I have them right where I want them and I can control the screaming A-hole and do so with a smile. They think they dominate me with their screaming but in fact....yeah you are my b!tch. 😈 I was gonna me empathic and play the shrink and gently advice you. But now I steer you instead like a dog on a leash. I may look soft and shy but I can handle the biggest badest A-hole...not a problem. And for someone to notice that cause he understands what I was doing....impressive and actually a better compliment than saying I look good.
Looking back on my life I seem to attract the entp...never dated one thou. I also attract narcissistic soci*paths and a need for attention, love of debating, a lot of self-confidence and manipulative....yeah those red flags make me not go there. I want harmony and a non toxic environment...anyone remotely toxic or anyone not looking for a long term thing need not apply.
I understand your logic in that it isn’t necessary to find your complimentary type but I wouldn’t say it’s only for people that are more mature. I actually think that’s a sign of immaturity seeking someone the same as oneself ... that’s making it too easy. But to each his own and I am sure people can find satisfying relationships with many different types of people ... depends on what you are looking for. By the way I am an INFJ.
About the flirting, 100% on the money. I've found that work is the best place too, because it offers a more casual atmosphere for flirting than say a bar or club would, letting me (us ENTPs) play off our abilities with mental sparring and joking in a longer term setting, which is my preferred way to flirt, very casual and laid back.
My boyfriendo is an ENTP and he doesn't want to admit that he's sooooooo charming in some way, he loves to flirting and do it all the time, but he doesn't believe me. I'm an ENFP and we have a great relationship even when all te MBTI community says that it's not really a good idea...
Mariana Yanes don't comform too much of what the majority of what people say about mbti couples. everyone is different! and if you are happy together, who is to dictate whether your relationship could work or not? only you two! i am glad that you are happy with him (i am an entp and i do get your boyfriend's opinion on this. we just don't think we're flirting when people think we're 'being charming'. it's why kids in my school always tease me whenever i interact with other people that i would be normally seen as 'flirting' but i'm in fact not)
I am an entp and I dislike flirting. But everyone assume that my jokes are flirting. I make most of girls who likes the guy jealous. It's annoying, since that's just how I interact with people.
And I agree with the fact that similarities work better than ten million differences.
I am extremely flirtatious and I absolutely love it, and I’m very good at it. You have a nail on the head with that one. I’m an ENTJ/P
When it comes to flirting, I'm a smooth sailor. I've also been labeled as a player, even though I'm not. I get bored with relationships easily. I try fix or tweak them. The manipulative aspect is on point, although sometimes unaware. Have any other of you ENTP types found yourself in a toxic relationship but also intellectually stimulated? Maybe i'm just crazy.
ENTP Guilty As Charged! Flirting With Humor Is The Best Vibe I Can Give Off.
ENTP here, I completely agree with the flirting thing but I hate when I accidentally give people the wrong idea. Sometimes I come off as flirtatious when not trying to be and it makes things super awkward. However, flirting with anyone is almost always an entertaining and great tool to reach a sort of middle ground with people I am interested in as its not to deep so as to off put the other person but its not so surface level as to bore me to death.
I mistrust women, so I just test them and their boundaries. I do this because I am also a little ugly so I don't promote myself to much out of self-conscious. I then just "flirt" (even though I come off really charming when I do this, I am more of like zany) to see where to get out. Honestly, I just investigate my surroundings, proceed to make a judging on the social hierarchy of the situation, extrapolate the data, and then have a better synopsies on the social environment and person of interest. Is pretty good.
or I am just a nerdy, edgy, lousy gamer xD.
My Entp pick up artist experience here: we talk to much ( smart and underappreciated as we are) ,I love to talk ,but girls go crazy for me when I go silent haha.
I'm ENTP and my husband is ENTJ, for him I am a good challenge, and he gives me the determination I lack in finishing my ideas.
i can agree on that, in my case if i approved their intelligence, i‘ll try to impress them by showing off my intelligence to them, but if i feel like i‘m seriously catching feelings, i get extremely anxious bc it‘s hard for me to hide when i‘m nervous and bc i‘m usually the one initiating convos etc if i suddenly become silent snd stuff they‘ll notice it i guess....
besides that idk complementary types seem interesting sometimes bc they‘re different.
I disagree on his analysis of complementary and similar personality types. Calling the former immature. Networking is the key to success in our world. As an INTJ I struggle with large social gathers, although I can be great with one on one conversations. To have a relationship with an ENTP would pick up my slack. Be able to get to flirt with people, get to know details about them quickly, and manipulate them is an excellent pairing to my strengths. INTJ are better at forming conclusions based off of small bits of data that our ENTP counter part could effortlessly gather. This pairing is a power couple.
That all being said that is my own personal take and it applies to me. It may not apply to others as much, maybe it applies more to others. The maturity aspect does not play a role. We can mature in different ways. Focusing on certain strengths (and our weaknesses) but finding someone who can take on that social butterfly role for an INTJ is a very mature move.
His interpretation is very arrogant.Great to know you are not mature enough to get to know a complementary type well. It sounds weak.
+casey timmins Its not weak....It's more efficient. I never said you couldn't mature in other ways. I just said don't get wrapped up in the idea that you have to find a complementary type in order to grow.
This is exactly how intj would speak to an entp. But, for some reasons, these types are actually a good pair.
9:30 You're saying that you're trying to figure out whether or not she has a solid identity and integrity to her beliefs; that she knows how to spar.
A person who knows how to defend their beliefs will be prepared, but with a mild temper and respect for the individual. There would be no need to be dogmatic, nor think that they know it all. If they know that there is an answer, but can't say it properly, they'll lead you to the source, or bring it to you. And they'll know whether or not the challenge is worth answering.
Intelligence is an inside job.
We enjoy being valued by someone interesting, authenticity is attractive
(I Too Am An ENTP) Flirting Is One Of The Most Common Things I Do With Nearly Every Person I Find Interesting, It's Always A Great Way To See How People Respond, And It Does Help Me Find Lots Of Things On The Girl I'm After.
This Is a great video! I like and agree with the points made here! As an ENTP I'd say you hit it on the head!
lol I'm an ENTP but my experience is a bit rather difference. Maybe it's depended on the characteristics of the girl I like at the time. I'm not really flirtatious, I'm actually don't like committing so I think a lot before flirting with someone I really like but for someone I know I'm not serious with, I'll find it comfortable to flirt hahaha (what da jerk). A lot of the time, the girl I like doesn't even know that I like her, or even some knows they will be wonder of why I don't make a move. As typical ENTP I'm easily bored even in relationship. So even when I'm interested at someone, I'm more likely to one day stop them half way and leave then awkward. Maybe that's the reason why I'm reluctant to flirt with someone I think I really. Any body else like me please let me know, so I'm not feeling like an alien in this world
I can say this is exactly my case.
This once I went with a couple of not-so-close friends to some local Math Olympiads and I met this girl, defintely ISTJ, which really interested me. Well, apparently, she didn't have any social intelligenca, because I later told her (via WhatsApp) that I was interested in her and her reaction was something along the lines of "What? How is that even possible?" When I told my roommates (Probably ESTP and INTJ) I's kinda into her, they were like "DUDE, IT'S SO OBVIOUS" and all that, so yeah, even they realized.