As a highly educated black woman in her mid forties, this interview surprisingly & deeply resonated w me. I've never done drugs in my life, but I struggle w a food issue. I'm obese & have an unhealthy relationship w food--overeating, not eating, binge eating. It's a vicious cycle & I hate it. I have a hard time reconciling that my desire, but lack of action, to change comes from fear as he & so many other say. My brain just can't understand that logic; but I know it's true. I'm aware of my issues, as is Tyler, & I'm going to come back to this video to take notes. As he said, I'm going to try to "tear down the roof overhead & build a bright outlook for myself" on life. Thanks for sharing, Tyler. May God bless you & you find your way.
September 8 , 2022 , made 3 years in recovery for me from illicit street substances, alcohol and nicotine. I don’t subscribe to any particular recovery group , I don’t attend meetings, I don’t see a therapist, however SWU has been like therapy to me, my AA/NA meetings if you will. Some of the vids remind me where I came from and to remain in gratitude for what I have and how far I have come. Thank you Mark and thank you to all those who participate in these videos.
Your comment crossed the eithers 20 minutes ago. An empath? i dunno, i haven't had a chance to watch the video. but would be kinda surprised if an intermediate soul had empathy.
So true... Really. Maybe I could send my kids out to to live with him and his fiancee (who he lies to so she will not leave him) so the children can learn how to feel and live a good life. What? He would be a great dad. You don't know! When this interview is over we are all going to get an apartment together.
This young man has one of the greatest minds you’ve interviewed. This should show everyone how powerful the hold of drugs has on a person. He can completely deconstruct every emotion, reason/rationale for using with such an amazing self awareness. This is an example of getting outta your own way and out your own head. This man has addictive personality too, so if he went all in on sobriety and his architecture he’d be a name we’d all hear about! Mark I know you do follow ups but I really feel for this kid you should take a little more special interest, keep him coming back, keep him talking, reflecting and pushing him to go to his true full potential. I see it in his eyes, it’s always in the eyes. He needs a male dominant role model to tell him your good enough and you can do anything you set your mind too. This man is the 10% I think can make it out! Would love to help in anyway I can!
Don't give him $! He may be intelligent and sweet, but he's still an overgrown child who has no motivation to change at this time. Drug addicts are excellent liars, especially to themselves.
@@KatJ3st I understand your take and I do agree with you on most of your points. And I agree I will never directly give money but this is more so if they ever needed someone to talk to or maybe them just seeing positive reinforcement could help stir something up inside them. Even if it’s only one person and for one moment, it’s progress. Not saying this is going to fix or solve anything, just want those out there struggling to know, I see you, see your pain and I don’t want people to feel like they’re alone.
I used to say that, too: "I didn't get the book of how to do life right." He reminds me of my youngest son, good looking, intelligent, musically and artistically talented, hyper sensitive and empathetic, but really hard on himself, not a macho man, a magnet to females and a target for jealous males. He discovered an escape with alcohol and drugs and is constantly battling these addictions...
Hey I appreciate your input. How did you manage to stop telling yourself that you used to not get life right? Or are you still finding life challenging? Would love to hear back
A rarity he is. I honestly think the way he navigates his thoughts and emotions is incredibly fascinating. His self awareness is admirable. I just said the other day about how I’m always trying to reinvent the wheel and my jaw hit the floor when he said that. Please keep us updated on Tyler, this interview hit home… 💞
I can relate to this dude. My father growing up was a GREAT financial provider, he just retired being a Captain/Pilot for a very well known international commercial airline since 1984. My mother was the emotionally available one, until my early teens when her alcoholism took over. She died in 2011. I’m 33 now with an 8 year old, who my father has STILL not met or even spoken to once on the phone. I tried being the bigger man and reaching out for the sake of my daughter.....but he never takes the offer. You can’t change a narcissist.
@@Mint-kj9kw hahaha actually yes he did get remarried to another flight attendant. My mother was a flight attendant up until the time she got pregnant with me. Yes you are right too pilots cheat like crazy.
@@carltonthepug Everyone starts off good, no matter what they then go thru, with the exception of this man, most of them are ruined by childhood abuse, so don't do that plz 💯💯
I lost my wife and a lot of friends when I was young. We were all addicts. Heroin, crack, alcohol, benzos, anything we could find. I was fortunate, I decided that I really only had 1 choice. Quit! I do not use any drugs, something switched in my brain after I lost my wife and friends. I knew I had 1 choice keep doing what I was doing and die, or give up all of the things that I thought were keeping me alive. I’m still standing it has been 17 years. I am not perfect, but I will not give up. Tyler it is 100% honest to believe you can change your life! I did it, you can too. You are a positive individual your mind is bright! Listen to yourself. It is possible, it ain’t easy, but it is possible. Thanks for your story! It reminds me a lot of my past.
Mark, I’ve been following your channel for about 2 years . I love your non judgmental style of interviewing . You really allow people to shine and tell their stories
I'm a 55 year old woman and his words resonated so strongly with my own experiences...even still. One of these days I'll feel like a grown up. Until then, I continue to search.
You could see it in his eyes a couple of times. Something clicked… a realization. Hope he follows up on that. We really need people like him in this life… non addicted of course.
a few clicks sure. he will have to sort himself out. we don't need him now. maybe in 2 thousand years. about 30-40 lifetimes from now. Ironic that in the final lifetimes, those that can help the most...are often the most broken.
guy super reminds me of someone i knew pretty well once upon a time who's been coming to mind a lot lately.. intelligent, insightful, talented, driven, and yet ill-equipped and traumatized and paralyzed by some of the most difficult things in life. it's not a hurdle anyone wants to clear but i feel like he can and when he does he'll be great at returning that gift to the world.. you will get there friend ❤️.
8:10 him saying that he missed the "manual" on growing up because his father was absent from his life is soo powerful. He is so aware of his circumstances. I, too, missed out on the manual of how to become a man in society.
Reminds me a lot of my family. Two successful parents. Father emotionally unavailable. Except my mother was volatile. My brother has been lost his whole life not having an active father and my father passed before any of us could establish an emotional connection. Money is not everything not even close.
I'm so sorry about that. Your comment really hit me in a deep place, it also let's me know you're a beautiful soul ❤ take care. I agree money brings no happiness, only Love does.
Sounds like my family, except my emotionally unavailable father is still alive and my alcoholic mother died in 2011. I’m 33 married with an 8 year old. My father has STILL NOT met or even spoken to his granddaughter.......ever. Since she was born I reached out multiple times trying to be the bigger man and think of my daughter having a grandpa. My father was diagnosed by a marriage counselor as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He just retired being a Captain for a well known commercial airline. Like this dude, a great low-mid six figure provider yet he was never home. You can’t change a narcissist. They don’t have feelings like us.
@Hel M I have been homeless and poor as well. I raised two children on my own on minimum wage. No help from family. I'd rather be poor and happy anyday.
Omg!! Y’all are incredibly powerful. Just got sent this vid by a friend the other day.. I won’t watch, but I did read what you individually took time to express. 👌 lots of positive momentum right now. Let’s talk (all those who inquired) !!
as an addict i can relate to sooooo much of this. the self awareness knowing what youre doing is killing you and your spirit, potential and relationships being squandered to a feeling of absolute helplessness. ive been sober just over a year. thank you for sharing your story this helped me a lot. all the best to you in your journey.
When he was speaking about love and how it wouldn’t be found in a crack pipe it seemed like it just clicked for a second. I see so much great in him. So much lighting energy. I hope he is able to overcome this addiction & heal from his traumas
Adhd brains lack dopamine and our executive functions are diminished. The lack of dopamine enable these pleasure seeking behaviors. It really gives out this restless feeling, impulse control is affected by it. It’s incredibly hard to settle down, you can get hyper focused on different things and it’s hard to stop. Another huge struggle is emotional regulation, your brain can be flooded with of one emotion and it can feel Ike the end of the world on situations that aren’t that serious. After so many years of dealing with these challenges, often adults with adhd get into a deeply self destructive path for the lack of coping mechanisms to deal with the same set struggles over and over again. It’s exhausting.
I don’t want to make myself a victim but it’s annoying whenever I try to tell my parents or friends about my adhd and they just laugh and act like it’s no big deal and it’s just being unable to sit still or control your thoughts
@@Poopymattyt I soo get it, having a different brain but looking regular to everyone is exhausting. No matter how much you try to explain if they don’t believe/educate themselves it’s very hard to even grasp what struggles we go through on a daily basis.
Tyler is a switched-on, intelligent, self-aware guy. It would be an enormous waste for him to give up on a sober life, he has so much to offer. I hope he wins the self-hate battle and overcomes his destructive tendencies. God bless Tyler; don't give up on life; play tennis, help others - find your jam.
Another example of a super intelligent person in such turmoil. I hope he manages to find a way out of the cycle. I'd love to see a followup or 2 on this dude. I wish you all the luck sir. x
Towards the end of the interview he’s asked his biggest regret and he says treating his parents like a checkbook and giving them countless sleepless nights. I think he knows I think he was just saying how he felt
@hyperbolic- I totally agree. Unfortunately, it often leads to parents becoming the worst enablers as well. The amount of love and hope is endless, making it very difficult to say no; however, you can and will love an addict to death.
*What a brilliant mind & beautiful outlook on life & experience. Hopefully Tyler gets to the point where self sabotage no longer is a constant in his life*
U know what I love..how truly focused you are Mark when you interview ..as if there’s nothing in the world more important than the person speaking . You never interrupt and NEVER pass judgment irregardless of what they say …and that Mark is a very hard characteristic to find in people ..Genuine would be an understatement 🙌🏻
Man, I had pretty bad heath problems when I was younger. In my teens I decided that I got it in my head that I wasn't going to live to my 30th birthday. Then when I got closer to 30 and it looked like I was going to make it in great health, I realized I was more afraid of living and putting the work in to build a future than I was of dying. I didn't learn how to be uncomfortable until my 30s. Until then I just lived to make myself comfortable and at ease in the moment, no thought of the future. Man it has been hard. With love, I say living with that kind of pessimism ("I'm gonna die soon") does you no favors. In fact it is poison. I'd rather assume my future is bright and be wrong (die suddenly tomorrow) than I would live like I'm going to die in one year, and then be wrong.
I see the most wise, intuitive ppl on this channel. They usually talk about others as understanding where that person was in their own life, not outright blaming them. They recognize where they've went wrong. They're usually great at explaining things too. There's more genuine ppl on this channel than I know in real life. However I know when they leave they have to step back in their role but I pray they find the healing and happiness they chase.
"Playing hide and go seek by myself.." Related so much to that off my meds... Thank you for being brave enough to bare your soul..hard to do that.. kinda like me coming out of a therapist session saying "I got an A today in therapy.." Sometimes I think i know more about her than she knows about me..guess its time to Try a different therapist. Hard enough just to do it in the first place.💙😑
Good Morning Mark and SWU Family 🤗 Tyler I just know that soon you're going to get through this and I'm soo looking forward to seeing another interview with you and an update of what your doing next I have a feeling there's GREAT THINGS you'll be doing!!! GBY ALL 💜🙏🏼🙏🏼
Oh my.... You're so insightful and well spoken. You have so much privilege and opportunity. Why??? Why are you wasting your beautiful mind? The ADHD plays a role. If you focused this amazing energy on how to manage that part of yourself... Instead of seeking pleasure and dopamine through this damaging lifestyle... Your contributions to our society in positive ways ...would be amazing. You're more than this. The medications available now can help with that chemical imbalance. It takes trials. And dedication. To Yourself. It takes a multimodal approach. Don't ignore that piece. Don't self medicate. Hyperfocus on it. There's so many ways to manage your ADHD. You're brilliant. You need to harness that energy. Its not too late. You're a giver....Serve others.... And yourself. You're not alone with this struggle. I wish you peace and happiness. Fight the flames. FAMILY DYSFUNCTION ROLLS DOWN FROM GENERATION TO GENERATION, LIKE A FIRE IN THE WOODS, TAKING DOWN EVERYTHING IN ITS PATH UNTIL ONE PERSON IN ONE GENERATION HAS THE COURAGE TO TURN AND FACE THE FLAMES. THAT PERSON BRINGS PEACE TO THEIR ANCESTORS AND SPARES THE CHILDREN THAT FOLLOW. - T REAL 🔥
Yes! And I feel much of that ancestry change is occurring right now in this era, because people are finally more aware of what family issues can do. Beautiful to see but so very difficult to live through.
Hey, Wow, you said the wisest thing I've ever heard someone say on an interview like this. You said I use the same mind to try to get out of this that got me in.... Yes!!!! Our minds like to keep us on the same bad trip. Don't hold on anymore, try letting go....so someone who has been there is sending love and warmth to you, ♥ and a sick sense that says you will live, and you will help others one day. 🙂💞💨 You are so much more then this trip
I hope all the best for you Tyler! Seems like you're on the path to becoming clean. I was in the madness for 11 years and finally surrendered myself. I've been clean for 7 years now and it's been the best. Take care and GOD BLESS 🙏!
I’m 32 and female but I’ve never met another person on this channel who resonates with me more. Our thinking is so similar - this interview sounds word for word like a conversation I’ve had with my recovery counselor/therapist. Tyler, you can beat this. And I know you know you can. I wish I could say the last half of that advice-wise. Is it that we know we can but we don’t want to? I don’t know. I’m still learning. I really hope we will be around to see our stories be something other than this. ❤ sending you love and light my friend.
This is exactly how i feel and think about my 14 year plus addiction to opiates, benzos and alcohol.. Alot of similarities He hits the nail on the head!
"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid." John 14:27
Tyler feels SO FAMILIAR to me. Either I've met him before, it's a spiritual thing, or he just reminds me of someone. But I really like his energy. I hope the light shines on him long enough for him to become more optimistic. I feel love for him.
"So much love she didn't know what to do with it, so it came out in controlling and manipulative ways". I love his description of his mom, never heard it put that way before. Deep. And fits with a lot of parents I knew in my past, including my mom I must say. Sorry mom, Rip but it's the truth lol 😆❤❣❣
@@jacobus57 No, it Is deep, I can relate to what he's talking about. I know addicts make plenty excuses, I used to work with them for several years, but his statement here is true. Don't come in just to argue your opinion, which is different, add to it instead of stating who is wrong in YOUR opinion 🙃
I also am a poly addict doesn't mean we do plastic it means my buzz my norm is only reached when I have three drugs togather heroin weed booze but now am clean 10 year if 54
What an amazing interview. He’s so deep and intelligent. He’s almost to smart for his own good. I justify my own actions a million different ways. I hurt the people that love me most but the people who don’t matter I bend over backwards for. I have so much potential but for some reason I was always afraid to succeed. I feel everything he says very deeply.
Insightful, creative, intelligent and those are all aspects of his character that will serve him well combating his disease as long as he addresses his self pity
I hope his parents watch this and hear his sincere regret. I forsee Tyler coming out of the darkness and staying in the light with his sobriety, his fiancee and a new relationship with his parents.
He seems so kind and the world needs more kindness. I hope he breaks through his addiction so the world can experience more of his compassion and caring for others also so he can repair his relationship with his parents before they transition because as he knows by experience people don't live forever. Good Luck on your path Sir
Intelligent and articulate definitely has a lot to give. Hope Tyler finds a way out of addiction and a more stable life. Hopefully he will watch this back and find something positive to run with. All the best
I so relate to your story, Tyler! The absent father, the controlling mother. The never fitting in. The battle between the Angel and the Devil. Always choosing the easiest way. I can't handle discomfort in the now so I do what I need to to fix the discomfort even though it'll be hundred times worse down the line. But I don't think about that. I never ever thought I'd live to see 30. I always knew I was going to die early, like at 23. For some very strange reason that didn't happen and I'm still alive. Obviously I'm thankful but on the other hand the ADD, anxiety, depression and last but not least the OCD don't actually makes life very pleasant. It's worst than prison. But it's probably my way of thinking that makes the biggest issues for me. If I just tackled these issues the right way, life probably would get easier. It's just so damn tiring. I feel like I've fought against the system to get help for the last two decades. And that's exhausting! Also, when no one else cares about me, why should I. I know that's a childish point of view but it hurts and when I get hurt I get angry and I go into even deeper self destruction. The one thing I wish is that I was stupid so I didn't see my situation this clear. Because then I wouldn't understand what was going on. Being aware of the situation and still being unable to do something about it is extremely difficult. It's frustrating and so, so shameful. Doctors and therapist have said over and over that I'm very intelligent and have a great insight into my own mental health issues. They probably meant well. But to me it feels like they see it as because I'm intelligent I'm supposed to fix my own problems. I feel that myself too, even though I know it isn't possible for me to do so. If it was, I'd done it already. If people just could quit drugs, most people would! If I could wake up tomorrow and no longer have my OCD, I'd be as happy as if I'd won the lottery! But I can't stop with the OCD on my own. The OCD controls me, not the other way around. It's hours and hours on end several times a day and it's so devastating and I'm totally exhausted. I have some of the thoughts that you have about suicide. I'd rather not do it myself because of some strange beliefs. But if something suddenly happened it'd feel good to rest. But at the same time I've had so many great experiences through life, like festivals and concerts and I wish from the bottom of my heart that I'll experience things like that again. It's just that it's been like twelve years now with me sitting here in this overfilled apartment without contact with other people. I haven't been on a bus, a train or been anywhere for over a decade. Sorry, I lied. I was at one concert in Oslo some four years ago. I even slept at a hotel. That was the first time I spent away from home for eight years. If I'd had some great friends here and we met often, and did lots of fun things, it'd be totally fine. I'd be more than happy with that. I don't need to travel to be happy. But I need to experience things and have relationships with other people. This went on to be my life story, I'm sorry about that. This was ment to be about you. You probably won't read this. But if you do, I'm so incredible sorry for you losing your fiancé . I sort of know how horrible that is, but I won't go into that now. I really feel for you because you never get over something like that. Being 24 and totally unprepared and then probably not seeing the help you should have but didn't know at the time. It's just this hamster wheel that you can't get out of. It keeps running and it's to fast for you to jump. I hope that something happens in your life that makes you see the light and get the push you need to seek help and get clean. If you did 3 years before, you know you can. It sounds like your fiancé is clean and she probably loves you more than you can understand. She deserves you at your best. You deserve you at your best! You'll find other ways that'll give you the adrenaline rush you're constantly seeking. There's loads of sport. But I'll stop taking now. I wish you all the best, love from Norway.
Hi. Kind of the same as you, shut down intentionally in my apartment, not entirely but closely. Because of fear of rejection, self sabotage and other mechanisms. Please reach out
stop shilling for your premium channel. Already up to 215 thumbs up and 395 thumbs down. No one is looking for it, that's why you turned off comments on the vid.
He talks about the circle. The circle is addiction and addiction is insanity where you do the same thing over and over expecting different results. The only thing that will fix things is to get into dual diagnosis treatment and deal with his addictions and trauma.
Wow one of my favorite interviews. What an intelligent speaking young man. He could be such an inspiration to so many if only he could see the worth and good in himself. I hope he sees these comments and feels that he can win if only he puts his brilliant mind to it. Drugs are a beast for sure, but you should never let it define who you truly are! I really believe that Taylor has so much to live for, and I pray that his intuition is wrong, and that he can break the cycle and live in a peaceful mind, and spread the awareness that you can change and beat the beast and be the inspiration he was meant to be💯❤️
I dig your energy Tyler. You are very self aware…..much more so than most. Try not to overthink the feelings. I hope you find your way out of the chaos. You are a dope soul and the world needs you here and clear. Peace.
Tyler you nailed it as much of my prior drug use stemmed from “Fear” as you stated. Looking back in hindsight with 20 / 20 vision all of my prior opiate / benzo use spanning the better part of seventeen years came down to my inability to TRULY conquer FEAR! I desperately needed a father growing up as opposed to a physically and abusive man who’s home I was ultimately removed from via CPS at age thirteen after it became known that I was being both physically and verbally abused.
So many individuals are stuck in the same situation as Tyler. He is so well articulated and has been blessed with so many talents and relationships that life circumstances and events have led him down this dark path. However, there IS hope. So much optimism in this 28 minute feature if he leans into the Positive side (Angel) that he feels. Looking forward to a second video update of Tyler succeeding and giving others the encouragement to do the same. Great interview!
The self-destructive behavior and fear of success, self-defeating behavior causes me to wonder if he is trying to punish the "powers -that-be". It can be very hard for some peeps to accept life on life's terms. It can be such a hard lesson, and I relate.
Tyler recognizing that he didn’t really have a guide or a coach teach him how to be a “Man” in High School was 💯% relatable! It quite literally follows many of us around our entire life no matter how much we workout trying to give off a very superficial appearance of strength via our physical stature… it is what it is. As he stated he never really got the “Manual” on how to become a man…so many of us can undoubtedly relate.
I feel this guy has a lot of potential with the right backing and encouragement . I hope the best for him. The statement made about childhood it does mean the world to have a parent show up to your games ect. Mark we have something in common , my dad showed up to one of my little league games , I hit my only home run a 3 run homer , no better feeling to have my dad witness it .
Tyler, you are a kick ass human! I have been clean and sober for 20 years. 07-20-02. Never ever did I or others think that this was ever a possibility. Your voice is soothing and I loved just listening to you💖. Sending good vibes and well wishes.
His voice is soothing to me. Something about him, his story... specifically his experience with death, trauma and grief's whirlwind derailing and how it has affected how he lives life ("not well") ALL makes a tremendous amount of sense to me personally. I often say to myself and wholeheartedly believe and feel that I don't, or haven't, do life well. I believe Tyler has an impactful purpose in his life, and many others. He doesn't glorify the life, he is obviously intelligent and super insightful and self aware. I understand in my Ren way how it feels impossible to trust/get close to or involved with others unless it's drug fueled or in some sort of self sabotaging nature. I hate feeling as hard as I do. The absolute thought of being close to anyone again leaves me living every moment in a sort of stage of crippling fear. That fear isn't the sort of fear that scares me, it's actually the fear that I'll get attached to someone and they will leave, be taken from me, or die and I'm convinced it can't get any worse somedays and then someone I care about is no longer a part of my life and, world and I no longer trust anything anymore. Depression is a fucker. Suicidal thoughts and obsession mixed with alcohol and drugs is scary. I have felt that fear. I wish you feel happy and worthy tyler. Landscape architecture should be so lucky.
I hope he can find an outlet.. maybe a blog or some sort of social media where he can share his mind with others and realize so many of us would love to hear from him!
As a addict for 13 years spent more of my life strung out than not at this point I’ve met addicts driving bentleys and other pushing shopping carts addiction has no Prejudice
Tyler, you remind me of me at your age, quick to believe the world's definition of me and so very accepting of the guilt and shame that arrived with that falsehood. Now, so many years later, I am amazed at who I am, nothing special to the world, yet content, peaceful and joyful inside. I have an amazing history that's mine, all mine. That the world would consider I'm anything but fantabulous doesn't concern me. I truly know who I am and why I'm on this planet and I can assure you that that realization has zippo to do with what I manifest either through work or relationships. People go their whole entire lives without ever even asking the question, who am I? You don't strike me as one of them. 💕
this guy is my roommate right now in sober living. he is doing really good! so selfless & respectful. Really is a great guy.
Really?
@@ScratchMySeikoitch yes. hes a great friend of mine already & it’s only been about a month
I'm so glad he is in a sober living house. All the best to him
What's his name? I would love to hear more of him.
update: he’s gone missing from our sober living. not sure what is wrong with him or how he is doing but please pray for him.
As a highly educated black woman in her mid forties, this interview surprisingly & deeply resonated w me. I've never done drugs in my life, but I struggle w a food issue. I'm obese & have an unhealthy relationship w food--overeating, not eating, binge eating. It's a vicious cycle & I hate it.
I have a hard time reconciling that my desire, but lack of action, to change comes from fear as he & so many other say. My brain just can't understand that logic; but I know it's true.
I'm aware of my issues, as is Tyler, & I'm going to come back to this video to take notes. As he said, I'm going to try to "tear down the roof overhead & build a bright outlook for myself" on life. Thanks for sharing, Tyler. May God bless you & you find your way.
Hey, good luck to you in your issues. Have a great weekend!😁💜✌🤞🤟🙌
@@wesleyAlan9179 Thanks so much, Wesley! That really means a lot. It's a lot easier share w strangers sometimes. You have a great weekend too! 💖
@@lovelyconundrum4221 God bless you to you are loved
Really appreciate & relate to what you shared.
@@suziex4190 💖💖💖
September 8 , 2022 , made 3 years in recovery for me from illicit street substances, alcohol and nicotine. I don’t subscribe to any particular recovery group , I don’t attend meetings, I don’t see a therapist, however SWU has been like therapy to me, my AA/NA meetings if you will. Some of the vids remind me where I came from and to remain in gratitude for what I have and how far I have come. Thank you Mark and thank you to all those who participate in these videos.
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🙏🏼🧡💗 amazing. We are all so appreciative of this channel and mark and the really cool people this gives us a chance to hear.
Congratulations on your anniversary!👍👏👏👏❤️ So happy to hear these interviews are helping you.😊❤️❤️
What a beautiful story. I wish you continued success. You are so worth it.
An Empath trying to navigate and understand a world not designed for empathy ❤️
So true!
Well said ❣❣🔥🔥🔥
Your comment crossed the eithers 20 minutes ago. An empath? i dunno, i haven't had a chance to watch the video. but would be kinda surprised if an intermediate soul had empathy.
So true... Really. Maybe I could send my kids out to to live with him and his fiancee (who he lies to so she will not leave him) so the children can learn how to feel and live a good life. What? He would be a great dad. You don't know! When this interview is over we are all going to get an apartment together.
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So well said.
"Pain isn't punishment and pleasure is not a reward" I really like Tyler! Wishing him all the best in finding himself in this big world...
I hope this interview changes his life for the best and he gets the help he needs!! You got this Tyler!
Hear! Hear!
This young man has one of the greatest minds you’ve interviewed. This should show everyone how powerful the hold of drugs has on a person. He can completely deconstruct every emotion, reason/rationale for using with such an amazing self awareness. This is an example of getting outta your own way and out your own head. This man has addictive personality too, so if he went all in on sobriety and his architecture he’d be a name we’d all hear about!
Mark I know you do follow ups but I really feel for this kid you should take a little more special interest, keep him coming back, keep him talking, reflecting and pushing him to go to his true full potential. I see it in his eyes, it’s always in the eyes. He needs a male dominant role model to tell him your good enough and you can do anything you set your mind too. This man is the 10% I think can make it out!
Would love to help in anyway I can!
This man...he got me
That comment alone made me cry... i am exactly like this guy and i am 26 years old struggling with drug addiction
@@joaoamaral1253 if you ever need someone to talk to when your ready. I’m here ❤️
Don't give him $! He may be intelligent and sweet, but he's still an overgrown child who has no motivation to change at this time. Drug addicts are excellent liars, especially to themselves.
@@KatJ3st I understand your take and I do agree with you on most of your points. And I agree I will never directly give money but this is more so if they ever needed someone to talk to or maybe them just seeing positive reinforcement could help stir something up inside them. Even if it’s only one person and for one moment, it’s progress. Not saying this is going to fix or solve anything, just want those out there struggling to know, I see you, see your pain and I don’t want people to feel like they’re alone.
I used to say that, too: "I didn't get the book of how to do life right." He reminds me of my youngest son, good looking, intelligent, musically and artistically talented, hyper sensitive and empathetic, but really hard on himself, not a macho man, a magnet to females and a target for jealous males. He discovered an escape with alcohol and drugs and is constantly battling these addictions...
I'm sorry. I imagine your pain is deep.💔💔💔
I echo your sentiments completely. I wish him well. ✨️💗✨️
Hey I appreciate your input. How did you manage to stop telling yourself that you used to not get life right? Or are you still finding life challenging? Would love to hear back
A rarity he is. I honestly think the way he navigates his thoughts and emotions is incredibly fascinating. His self awareness is admirable. I just said the other day about how I’m always trying to reinvent the wheel and my jaw hit the floor when he said that. Please keep us updated on Tyler, this interview hit home… 💞
What an intelligent guy. I see a future for him & I hope he let's his mind & heart clear so he can see it, too.
I can relate to this dude. My father growing up was a GREAT financial provider, he just retired being a Captain/Pilot for a very well known international commercial airline since 1984. My mother was the emotionally available one, until my early teens when her alcoholism took over. She died in 2011. I’m 33 now with an 8 year old, who my father has STILL not met or even spoken to once on the phone. I tried being the bigger man and reaching out for the sake of my daughter.....but he never takes the offer. You can’t change a narcissist.
Wow. I hope he never got remarried or had a girlfriend. I wonder if your dad cheated on your mom (so many pilots do and never get caught).
@@Mint-kj9kw hahaha actually yes he did get remarried to another flight attendant. My mother was a flight attendant up until the time she got pregnant with me. Yes you are right too pilots cheat like crazy.
Im glad you realize that he is the problem
99% of these interviews are with people who genuinely seem like good people. So sad to see so many people struggle. Ive been there. God bless man
Define ‘good’ people here
@@carltonthepug Everyone starts off good, no matter what they then go thru, with the exception of this man, most of them are ruined by childhood abuse, so don't do that plz 💯💯
Yes I totally agree 💯💯🔥
@@pambeforethestorm9784 you didn’t answer the question lol
@@carltonthepug you’re not in the 99%. You’re exempt. Move along
I lost my wife and a lot of friends when I was young. We were all addicts. Heroin, crack, alcohol, benzos, anything we could find. I was fortunate, I decided that I really only had 1 choice. Quit! I do not use any drugs, something switched in my brain after I lost my wife and friends. I knew I had 1 choice keep doing what I was doing and die, or give up all of the things that I thought were keeping me alive. I’m still standing it has been 17 years. I am not perfect, but I will not give up. Tyler it is 100% honest to believe you can change your life! I did it, you can too. You are a positive individual your mind is bright! Listen to yourself. It is possible, it ain’t easy, but it is possible. Thanks for your story! It reminds me a lot of my past.
Mark, I’ve been following your channel for about 2 years . I love your non judgmental style of interviewing . You really allow people to shine and tell their stories
He’s so likable. I pray he receives the healing he deserves, and he will live and not die.
I'm a 55 year old woman and his words resonated so strongly with my own experiences...even still. One of these days I'll feel like a grown up. Until then, I continue to search.
You could see it in his eyes a couple of times. Something clicked… a realization. Hope he follows up on that. We really need people like him in this life… non addicted of course.
a few clicks sure. he will have to sort himself out. we don't need him now. maybe in 2 thousand years. about 30-40 lifetimes from now. Ironic that in the final lifetimes, those that can help the most...are often the most broken.
guy super reminds me of someone i knew pretty well once upon a time who's been coming to mind a lot lately.. intelligent, insightful, talented, driven, and yet ill-equipped and traumatized and paralyzed by some of the most difficult things in life. it's not a hurdle anyone wants to clear but i feel like he can and when he does he'll be great at returning that gift to the world.. you will get there friend ❤️.
@John Shiner was that comment intended for me or accidentally posted as a reply to mine?..
Well said, I totally agree. I truly wish him well, and believe he will get there also ❤.
Beautiful. Love to hear that.
8:10 him saying that he missed the "manual" on growing up because his father was absent from his life is soo powerful. He is so aware of his circumstances. I, too, missed out on the manual of how to become a man in society.
The depth this kind man has is beyond beautiful. He is fiercely emotionally intelligent and I can see him making it so far in life
Addiction is a beast. He’s a very introspective creative. Tyler I wish you recovery and healing.
Amen
Maybe when he's lost everything. He's still lying to himself. He's in fantasy land.
I’m really rooting for this dude. He is smart, articulate, and if he can ever break the hold those substances have on him, the sky is the limit.
I chose to do the same drugs for over 13 years, and when he said “once I do the drug, I feel awful” is the most accurate statement Iv heard.
Reminds me a lot of my family. Two successful parents. Father emotionally unavailable. Except my mother was volatile. My brother has been lost his whole life not having an active father and my father passed before any of us could establish an emotional connection. Money is not everything not even close.
I'm so sorry about that. Your comment really hit me in a deep place, it also let's me know you're a beautiful soul ❤ take care. I agree money brings no happiness, only Love does.
Sounds like my family, except my emotionally unavailable father is still alive and my alcoholic mother died in 2011. I’m 33 married with an 8 year old. My father has STILL NOT met or even spoken to his granddaughter.......ever. Since she was born I reached out multiple times trying to be the bigger man and think of my daughter having a grandpa. My father was diagnosed by a marriage counselor as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He just retired being a Captain for a well known commercial airline. Like this dude, a great low-mid six figure provider yet he was never home. You can’t change a narcissist. They don’t have feelings like us.
@Hel M I have been homeless and poor as well. I raised two children on my own on minimum wage. No help from family. I'd rather be poor and happy anyday.
Omg!! Y’all are incredibly powerful. Just got sent this vid by a friend the other day.. I won’t watch, but I did read what you individually took time to express.
👌 lots of positive momentum right now. Let’s talk (all those who inquired) !!
I just watched your interview. I’m realllllly hoping for a positive update on you! 🙏🏼
Where are you now Tyler?
as an addict i can relate to sooooo much of this. the self awareness knowing what youre doing is killing you and your spirit, potential and relationships being squandered to a feeling of absolute helplessness. ive been sober just over a year. thank you for sharing your story this helped me a lot. all the best to you in your journey.
When he was speaking about love and how it wouldn’t be found in a crack pipe it seemed like it just clicked for a second. I see so much great in him. So much lighting energy. I hope he is able to overcome this addiction & heal from his traumas
Adhd brains lack dopamine and our executive functions are diminished. The lack of dopamine enable these pleasure seeking behaviors. It really gives out this restless feeling, impulse control is affected by it. It’s incredibly hard to settle down, you can get hyper focused on different things and it’s hard to stop. Another huge struggle is emotional regulation, your brain can be flooded with of one emotion and it can feel Ike the end of the world on situations that aren’t that serious. After so many years of dealing with these challenges, often adults with adhd get into a deeply self destructive path for the lack of coping mechanisms to deal with the same set struggles over and over again. It’s exhausting.
Great comment…very well said!💯👊
I don’t want to make myself a victim but it’s annoying whenever I try to tell my parents or friends about my adhd and they just laugh and act like it’s no big deal and it’s just being unable to sit still or control your thoughts
@@Poopymattyt I soo get it, having a different brain but looking regular to everyone is exhausting. No matter how much you try to explain if they don’t believe/educate themselves it’s very hard to even grasp what struggles we go through on a daily basis.
Needed to hear that.
God bless
Tyler is a switched-on, intelligent, self-aware guy. It would be an enormous waste for him to give up on a sober life, he has so much to offer. I hope he wins the self-hate battle and overcomes his destructive tendencies. God bless Tyler; don't give up on life; play tennis, help others - find your jam.
He reminded me of myself before I had children. I look back 25 years ago and think, damn..
Get ya life together while you can,man..it's worth it💜🙏
Always makes me smile when I think of how much you love your family.😊🤗❤️
@@marylougeorge9890
I would lay down my life for anyone in my fam.
That's for sure👍❤
@@wesleyAlan9179 I'm not surprised. You definitely seem like that kind of man. Makes me so happy you turned your life around.👍👏👏👏❤️
Another example of a super intelligent person in such turmoil. I hope he manages to find a way out of the cycle. I'd love to see a followup or 2 on this dude. I wish you all the luck sir. x
What an articulate young man. I hope he heals before the drugs take him out 🙏
I feel like he still doesn't appreciate how good he really has it with his family. Yes no one is perfect but really it sounds like they love you alot.
It’s not about being loved. It’s about FEELING loved.
@@Carol-S that's really true. They're probably all emotionally constipated
The worst drug addicts have some of the most supportive families, it's that unconditional love that can foster some of the worst behavior.
Towards the end of the interview he’s asked his biggest regret and he says treating his parents like a checkbook and giving them countless sleepless nights. I think he knows I think he was just saying how he felt
@hyperbolic- I totally agree. Unfortunately, it often leads to parents becoming the worst enablers as well. The amount of love and hope is endless, making it very difficult to say no; however, you can and will love an addict to death.
So bright and interesting. I truly appreciated how candid and open he is. I wish him healing and recovery. I think he’s capable of so much.
*What a brilliant mind & beautiful outlook on life & experience. Hopefully Tyler gets to the point where self sabotage no longer is a constant in his life*
Sending hope, and prayers that you Win this solo marathon . from Vancouver Canada 🇨🇦 🙏 🙏
U know what I love..how truly focused you are Mark when you interview ..as if there’s nothing in the world more important than the person speaking . You never interrupt and NEVER pass judgment irregardless of what they say …and that Mark is a very hard characteristic to find in people ..Genuine would be an understatement 🙌🏻
Man, I had pretty bad heath problems when I was younger. In my teens I decided that I got it in my head that I wasn't going to live to my 30th birthday. Then when I got closer to 30 and it looked like I was going to make it in great health, I realized I was more afraid of living and putting the work in to build a future than I was of dying. I didn't learn how to be uncomfortable until my 30s. Until then I just lived to make myself comfortable and at ease in the moment, no thought of the future. Man it has been hard.
With love, I say living with that kind of pessimism ("I'm gonna die soon") does you no favors. In fact it is poison. I'd rather assume my future is bright and be wrong (die suddenly tomorrow) than I would live like I'm going to die in one year, and then be wrong.
Yep....so many people are more afraid of living than dying.
I see the most wise, intuitive ppl on this channel. They usually talk about others as understanding where that person was in their own life, not outright blaming them. They recognize where they've went wrong. They're usually great at explaining things too. There's more genuine ppl on this channel than I know in real life. However I know when they leave they have to step back in their role but I pray they find the healing and happiness they chase.
Mark, you’re so good at what you do. I love listening to the people you interview look at the positive parts of their lives.
Pain is not a punishment and pleasure is not a reward. Well said.
"Not everyone who helps you is your friend, not everyone who fights you is your enemy"
-Mike Tyson
"Playing hide and go seek by myself.."
Related so much to that off my meds...
Thank you for being brave enough to bare your soul..hard to do that.. kinda like me coming out of a therapist session saying "I got an A today in therapy.."
Sometimes I think i know more about her than she knows about me..guess its time to Try a different therapist. Hard enough just to do it in the first place.💙😑
Good Morning Mark and SWU Family 🤗 Tyler I just know that soon you're going to get through this and I'm soo looking forward to seeing another interview with you and an update of what your doing next I have a feeling there's GREAT THINGS you'll be doing!!! GBY ALL 💜🙏🏼🙏🏼
You'll understand your father better when you have kids of your own.
and lets hope that dosent happen...
Oh my.... You're so insightful and well spoken. You have so much privilege and opportunity.
Why???
Why are you wasting your beautiful mind? The ADHD plays a role. If you focused this amazing energy on how to manage that part of yourself... Instead of seeking pleasure and dopamine through this damaging lifestyle... Your contributions to our society in positive ways ...would be amazing. You're more than this.
The medications available now can help with that chemical imbalance. It takes trials. And dedication. To Yourself.
It takes a multimodal approach. Don't ignore that piece. Don't self medicate. Hyperfocus on it.
There's so many ways to manage your ADHD. You're brilliant. You need to harness that energy. Its not too late.
You're a giver....Serve others.... And yourself.
You're not alone with this struggle. I wish you peace and happiness.
Fight the flames.
FAMILY DYSFUNCTION ROLLS DOWN FROM GENERATION TO GENERATION, LIKE A FIRE IN THE WOODS, TAKING DOWN EVERYTHING IN ITS PATH UNTIL ONE PERSON IN ONE GENERATION HAS THE COURAGE TO TURN AND FACE THE FLAMES. THAT PERSON BRINGS PEACE TO THEIR ANCESTORS AND SPARES THE CHILDREN THAT FOLLOW. - T REAL 🔥
So true!
Wow is all I can say. Well said!! 💯❣❣🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Yes! And I feel much of that ancestry change is occurring right now in this era, because people are finally more aware of what family issues can do. Beautiful to see but so very difficult to live through.
Hey, Wow, you said the wisest thing I've ever heard someone say on an interview like this. You said I use the same mind to try to get out of this that got me in.... Yes!!!! Our minds like to keep us on the same bad trip. Don't hold on anymore, try letting go....so someone who has been there is sending love and warmth to you, ♥ and a sick sense that says you will live, and you will help others one day. 🙂💞💨 You are so much more then this trip
I hope all the best for you Tyler! Seems like you're on the path to becoming clean. I was in the madness for 11 years and finally surrendered myself. I've been clean for 7 years now and it's been the best. Take care and GOD BLESS 🙏!
I’m 32 and female but I’ve never met another person on this channel who resonates with me more. Our thinking is so similar - this interview sounds word for word like a conversation I’ve had with my recovery counselor/therapist. Tyler, you can beat this. And I know you know you can. I wish I could say the last half of that advice-wise. Is it that we know we can but we don’t want to? I don’t know. I’m still learning. I really hope we will be around to see our stories be something other than this. ❤ sending you love and light my friend.
What a beautiful human being. He conveyed himself so well in a way that is incredibly relatable! Much love to you, Tyler. I’m right there with you
Shut up
This is exactly how i feel and think about my 14 year plus addiction to opiates, benzos and alcohol..
Alot of similarities
He hits the nail on the head!
"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid."
John 14:27
Tyler thank you. Mark thank you. I'm glad we are alive at the same time. I appreciate this more than I can express.
I wish Tyler the best, hopefully on the road to recovery . Great interview ✌️❤️
Tyler feels SO FAMILIAR to me. Either I've met him before, it's a spiritual thing, or he just reminds me of someone. But I really like his energy. I hope the light shines on him long enough for him to become more optimistic. I feel love for him.
"So much love she didn't know what to do with it, so it came out in controlling and manipulative ways". I love his description of his mom, never heard it put that way before. Deep. And fits with a lot of parents I knew in my past, including my mom I must say. Sorry mom, Rip but it's the truth lol 😆❤❣❣
@Ron 1st off, are you responding to me or the other lady?? Before I respond
@@jacobus57 No, it Is deep, I can relate to what he's talking about. I know addicts make plenty excuses, I used to work with them for several years, but his statement here is true. Don't come in just to argue your opinion, which is different, add to it instead of stating who is wrong in YOUR opinion 🙃
I also am a poly addict doesn't mean we do plastic it means my buzz my norm is only reached when I have three drugs togather heroin weed booze but now am clean 10 year if 54
What an amazing interview. He’s so deep and intelligent. He’s almost to smart for his own good. I justify my own actions a million different ways. I hurt the people that love me most but the people who don’t matter I bend over backwards for. I have so much potential but for some reason I was always afraid to succeed. I feel everything he says very deeply.
It's sad when people know they are heading for death and it doesn't terrify them.
Everyone's headed for death no matter though.
..but I understand what you mean.
@@wesleyAlan9179 Doing fentanyl and xanax is akin to running for the door (being my point) .
Because they r suicidal
Very self aware and insightful. It's always easier to talk about fixing problems than it is to do it.
Insightful, creative, intelligent and those are all aspects of his character that will serve him well combating his disease as long as he addresses his self pity
A natural poet. Incredibly articulate and intelligent. Minds like this are hard to hold in a world like ours. Stay you and best of luck Tyler!
I hope his parents watch this and hear his sincere regret. I forsee Tyler coming out of the darkness and staying in the light with his sobriety, his fiancee and a new relationship with his parents.
He seems so kind and the world needs more kindness. I hope he breaks through his addiction so the world can experience more of his compassion and caring for others also so he can repair his relationship with his parents before they transition because as he knows by experience people don't live forever. Good Luck on your path Sir
What a great guy...thank you for introducing us to him. He has a beautiful soul and I wish him much love and happiness.
Intelligent and articulate definitely has a lot to give. Hope Tyler finds a way out of addiction and a more stable life. Hopefully he will watch this back and find something positive to run with. All the best
Tyler seems incredibly smart. I truly hope he finds peace within himself
I so relate to your story, Tyler!
The absent father, the controlling mother. The never fitting in.
The battle between the Angel and the Devil. Always choosing the easiest way.
I can't handle discomfort in the now so I do what I need to to fix the discomfort even though it'll be hundred times worse down the line. But I don't think about that.
I never ever thought I'd live to see 30.
I always knew I was going to die early, like at 23.
For some very strange reason that didn't happen and I'm still alive.
Obviously I'm thankful but on the other hand the ADD, anxiety, depression and last but not least the OCD don't actually makes life very pleasant. It's worst than prison.
But it's probably my way of thinking that makes the biggest issues for me. If I just tackled these issues the right way, life probably would get easier. It's just so damn tiring.
I feel like I've fought against the system to get help for the last two decades. And that's exhausting! Also, when no one else cares about me, why should I. I know that's a childish point of view but it hurts and when I get hurt I get angry and I go into even deeper self destruction.
The one thing I wish is that I was stupid so I didn't see my situation this clear. Because then I wouldn't understand what was going on.
Being aware of the situation and still being unable to do something about it is extremely difficult. It's frustrating and so, so shameful.
Doctors and therapist have said over and over that I'm very intelligent and have a great insight into my own mental health issues. They probably meant well. But to me it feels like they see it as because I'm intelligent I'm supposed to fix my own problems. I feel that myself too, even though I know it isn't possible for me to do so.
If it was, I'd done it already.
If people just could quit drugs, most people would!
If I could wake up tomorrow and no longer have my OCD, I'd be as happy as if I'd won the lottery!
But I can't stop with the OCD on my own. The OCD controls me, not the other way around.
It's hours and hours on end several times a day and it's so devastating and I'm totally exhausted.
I have some of the thoughts that you have about suicide. I'd rather not do it myself because of some strange beliefs. But if something suddenly happened it'd feel good to rest.
But at the same time I've had so many great experiences through life, like festivals and concerts and I wish from the bottom of my heart that I'll experience things like that again. It's just that it's been like twelve years now with me sitting here in this overfilled apartment without contact with other people. I haven't been on a bus, a train or been anywhere for over a decade.
Sorry, I lied.
I was at one concert in Oslo some four years ago. I even slept at a hotel. That was the first time I spent away from home for eight years.
If I'd had some great friends here and we met often, and did lots of fun things, it'd be totally fine. I'd be more than happy with that. I don't need to travel to be happy. But I need to experience things and have relationships with other people.
This went on to be my life story, I'm sorry about that. This was ment to be about you.
You probably won't read this.
But if you do, I'm so incredible sorry for you losing your fiancé . I sort of know how horrible that is, but I won't go into that now. I really feel for you because you never get over something like that. Being 24 and totally unprepared and then probably not seeing the help you should have but didn't know at the time. It's just this hamster wheel that you can't get out of. It keeps running and it's to fast for you to jump.
I hope that something happens in your life that makes you see the light and get the push you need to seek help and get clean. If you did 3 years before, you know you can.
It sounds like your fiancé is clean and she probably loves you more than you can understand. She deserves you at your best. You deserve you at your best!
You'll find other ways that'll give you the adrenaline rush you're constantly seeking. There's loads of sport.
But I'll stop taking now.
I wish you all the best, love from Norway.
Hi. Kind of the same as you, shut down intentionally in my apartment, not entirely but closely. Because of fear of rejection, self sabotage and other mechanisms. Please reach out
@marinescuhoria Hi!
I'm so sorry to hear that.
It breaks my heart to hear about people who are alone in the world.
Did you mean for me to reach out?
stop shilling for your premium channel. Already up to 215 thumbs up and 395 thumbs down. No one is looking for it, that's why you turned off comments on the vid.
He talks about the circle. The circle is addiction and addiction is insanity where you do the same thing over and over expecting different results. The only thing that will fix things is to get into dual diagnosis treatment and deal with his addictions and trauma.
Tyler was very interesting to listen to. I hope he finds his way out of the drugs. He seems so smart, well spoken and thoughtful!
I don't know,
If anybody realizes that the war on Drugs has ended and Drugs Won!
Well said
He's so smart, articulate and so self aware. I hope he gets it together and lives clean and sober
Wow one of my favorite interviews. What an intelligent speaking young man. He could be such an inspiration to so many if only he could see the worth and good in himself. I hope he sees these comments and feels that he can win if only he puts his brilliant mind to it. Drugs are a beast for sure, but you should never let it define who you truly are! I really believe that Taylor has so much to live for, and I pray that his intuition is wrong, and that he can break the cycle and live in a peaceful mind, and spread the awareness that you can change and beat the beast and be the inspiration he was meant to be💯❤️
This kid is very intelligent and articulate and I hope he finds the truly badass life that he deserves.
I dig your energy Tyler. You are very self aware…..much more so than most. Try not to overthink the feelings. I hope you find your way out of the chaos. You are a dope soul and the world needs you here and clear. Peace.
Tyler, are you an INFJ? Do you feel like you have to be more than what you are? You don’t, your perfect just the way you are - absolutely beautiful.
Tyler can self-reflect all he wants, but he is basically tells people his ending, and isn’t sunny.
Good Morning SWU fam.☀ Its just after 3:00 a.m. here in Northern California.🏖 Good Vibes & Mad Love sent Your way!! 💐❤🔥
GM, Roc! Have a great day sweetheart!
@Rochelle T Hey Rochelle, Good Morning to ya. Peace and Love from NYC.
Good Morning Rochelle ❤️ Gram❤️ My Eyes❤️ Kim❤️
Wud'upppp!❤🤟
@@Gram72534 GM Gram! Thank you. I hope yours is too
Tyler you nailed it as much of my prior drug use stemmed from “Fear” as you stated. Looking back in hindsight with 20 / 20 vision all of my prior opiate / benzo use spanning the better part of seventeen years came down to my inability to TRULY conquer FEAR! I desperately needed a father growing up as opposed to a physically and abusive man who’s home I was ultimately removed from via CPS at age thirteen after it became known that I was being both physically and verbally abused.
Tyler, for whatever it’s worth you’re not alone in how you feel. I see you, I hear you, I understand.
He boarded that area of his heart up and lives in fear it will be breached. I hope time will open it up again.
So many individuals are stuck in the same situation as Tyler. He is so well articulated and has been blessed with so many talents and relationships that life circumstances and events have led him down this dark path.
However, there IS hope. So much optimism in this 28 minute feature if he leans into the Positive side (Angel) that he feels.
Looking forward to a second video update of Tyler succeeding and giving others the encouragement to do the same. Great interview!
I would really like to see more of Tyler. He was compelling and I got a lot out of listening to him.
The self-destructive behavior and fear of success, self-defeating behavior causes me to wonder if he is trying to punish the "powers -that-be". It can be very hard for some peeps to accept life on life's terms. It can be such a hard lesson, and I relate.
Tyler recognizing that he didn’t really have a guide or a coach teach him how to be a “Man” in High School was 💯% relatable! It quite literally follows many of us around our entire life no matter how much we workout trying to give off a very superficial appearance of strength via our physical stature… it is what it is. As he stated he never really got the “Manual” on how to become a man…so many of us can undoubtedly relate.
I feel this guy has a lot of potential with the right backing and encouragement . I hope the best for him. The statement made about childhood it does mean the world to have a parent show up to your games ect. Mark we have something in common , my dad showed up to one of my little league games , I hit my only home run a 3 run homer , no better feeling to have my dad witness it .
What an awesome memory.😊❤️
Tyler had a stable home but was a brat should get it together and stop making excuses
Dude is clearly incredibly intelligent. Which makes complete sense, because lunacy is incredibly close to brilliance
Just tell him that life’s gravities continue to grow , so one must always work on those self awareness muscles to maintain the load.
Tyler, you are a kick ass human! I have been clean and sober for 20 years. 07-20-02. Never ever did I or others think that this was ever a possibility. Your voice is soothing and I loved just listening to you💖. Sending good vibes and well wishes.
I feel for him, but reading over the comments, absolutely no one is commenting on what his partner is going through. He is all about himself!
This might have been his way of coming correct with her. Being honest and open is a start at least
Such a sweet guy. He has his whole life ahead of him. Hope he plays the piano again and finds joy and sobriety. Greetings from Miami.
His voice is soothing to me. Something about him, his story... specifically his experience with death, trauma and grief's whirlwind derailing and how it has affected how he lives life ("not well") ALL makes a tremendous amount of sense to me personally. I often say to myself and wholeheartedly believe and feel that I don't, or haven't, do life well. I believe Tyler has an impactful purpose in his life, and many others. He doesn't glorify the life, he is obviously intelligent and super insightful and self aware. I understand in my Ren way how it feels impossible to trust/get close to or involved with others unless it's drug fueled or in some sort of self sabotaging nature. I hate feeling as hard as I do. The absolute thought of being close to anyone again leaves me living every moment in a sort of stage of crippling fear. That fear isn't the sort of fear that scares me, it's actually the fear that I'll get attached to someone and they will leave, be taken from me, or die and I'm convinced it can't get any worse somedays and then someone I care about is no longer a part of my life and, world and I no longer trust anything anymore. Depression is a fucker. Suicidal thoughts and obsession mixed with alcohol and drugs is scary. I have felt that fear. I wish you feel happy and worthy tyler. Landscape architecture should be so lucky.
This man is brilliant. I hope he finds his sober self and realizes he has so much purpose!
I hope he can find an outlet.. maybe a blog or some sort of social media where he can share his mind with others and realize so many of us would love to hear from him!
the fact that he mentioned his parents only had Aquarius children is funny 😭 i love that observation!!
Very self aware and well spoken. I hope he finds sobriety and maintains it. 🙏❤️
As a addict for 13 years spent more of my life strung out than not at this point I’ve met addicts driving bentleys and other pushing shopping carts addiction has no Prejudice
"from a sober state of mind and body I always make the choice to come up and do the gritty things that I like to do" - Tyler
Tyler, you remind me of me at your age, quick to believe the world's definition of me and so very accepting of the guilt and shame that arrived with that falsehood. Now, so many years later, I am amazed at who I am, nothing special to the world, yet content, peaceful and joyful inside. I have an amazing history that's mine, all mine. That the world would consider I'm anything but fantabulous doesn't concern me. I truly know who I am and why I'm on this planet and I can assure you that that realization has zippo to do with what I manifest either through work or relationships. People go their whole entire lives without ever even asking the question, who am I? You don't strike me as one of them. 💕
11:46 My fiancé has no idea where I am right now. I’m not where I’m suppose to be. Probably not the best way to start out together.
My biggest fear is losing a significant other in death. I can’t imagine surviving it.