Sadly, not always true. There's an agenda online of men who think it's all about being rich and good looking, and it's not the case. Does someone have to find you physically attractive? Yes. Do you have to be the best looking person in the world? No. Paying attention to your grooming, clothing, attitude and even working on your confidence are all ways you can do to become a more rounded person and have a better dating (and dating-app experience!) + improvement in life. Take responsibility for yourself! James
I don’t want to steal the spot light from anyone’s comments but I would just like to share what happened to me maybe less than 30mins ago. I matched with a girl on hinge-we exchange a few text and she asked me to call her. We speak for about 10mins. Solid convo flowing evenly between the two of us. till she asked me if I got vaccinated. I said no but not for the reasons alot of ppl might not. I ask her back if she did she says yes and adds that she wasn’t a fan of it, okay I didn’t think much of it after a few more sentences of us talking she says “ I can’t date someone that didn’t get two shots booster or even one shot”. I was taken back by this and replied saying why should the relationship solely only be on the vaccine. She couldn’t answer the question and The convo was dead after that. Am I wrong in this story?
Okay so Hinge literally only shows me obese women. Im not exaggerating when I say thats all it shows me. Im not even talking chubby girls, Im talking full blown morbidly obese women, like the kind of obese that would be considered a disability. Its really odd.
I don't know the details of how their algorithm works, but here's what I did. I set my preferences to a reasonable age range and started at 1 mile radius. Swipe through the first batch which is for some reason presented as least appealing to you. Eventually you will hit the profiles you want, then increase the radius like 1 to 2 miles. Rinse and repeat lol. I know it sounds like a shitty thing to say, but they definitely categorize people in attractiveness with the low presented first.
I've heard that you can help hinge know what types girls you like. If you click the three dots on their profile and click "I'm not interested in the person" it might help the algorithm. Also when you get a match that you like, swipe right on the chat a d click "we met"
My chances are way better IRL too. I've noticed though that my standards are higher on dating apps, and I think that most girls are experiencing the same thing. Gotta remember that we're genetically wired to find partners IRL, so there are probably all kinds of subconscious, mental mechanisms working IRL that help us but that don't work when presenting yourself on an app.
I think I need to just try and meet people IRL. People are so cold on the apps but it’s ENTIRELY different in real life. Only problem is..how to meet them
I’ve been on Hinge for nearly a year and I’ve had less than ten women ‘like’ any of my profile first. Never got a date or anything near a conversation of such subject. I sometimes think that my profile isn’t visible or I’ve been shadow band for something. Hinge has opened my eyes to the amount of strange looking women there are out there. What the heck is with women saying “I want someone who can make me laugh”, oh, have I got to be a stand up comedian now? Something that also gets on my nerves, is that I specify that I’m straight and only interested in women, but I occasionally gets a load of transgender or gay mens profiles in my feed, seriously WTF?! I also can’t max out the ten likes per day, there’re simply not enough women I find attractive. I X women who look delusional, fish face pouting lips, materialistic or high maintenance. Is this really what todays modern women are like?
I hate getting the trans and gays in my feed! So annoying when I specifically signed up for women. On another note, it sounds like you might be a good MGTOW candidate.
Hey I’m a girl and came across this video - I thought I’d add what works for me. 1) yes good photo’s count. 2) I don’t know if this is just for me, but showing some sort of humour pulls me straight away. 3) putting photo’s of you and another woman is a turn-off. 4) people who are vague on their profiles, I scroll past as I don’t put any trust into that person as they seem closed off. 5) I love a random and unique or quirky/funny prompt answer and also a voice note prompt really helps, as we women love a good voice. 6) most importantly don’t be boring conversation wise when you do match with someone. As in - don’t just stop at hey, you ok? Good, how are you? Try take the conversation to a deeper/funnier place. 7) try and secure a date after you feel a vibe with the person.
The thing is, you say stay away from boring conversations, whereas the only thing that majority of girls/women write is ‘hello how are you’ or something just as banal.
Unless you are an extremely good looking guy on an app, good luck getting a decent looking girl. Most girls on the apps are looking for validation and won't respond. Also, I like how we enter a height but we can't have weight requirements.
I’m just struggling with being ghosted a few a few lines back and forth. Even if I ask for a date or move it in that direction. Then you’re left with a graveyard of messages that just makes you feel so utterly worthless to look at.
Hey do I have to pay for hinge as a man? Also I see you can only like a girls picture on hinge compared to bumble. Is it worth paying for or I should just stick to the free version? I’m looking for a Christian woman
I hate it when guys says they don’t use the app much, it’s a lie and so lame. If you want my phone number just ask for it, but don’t like like you can’t open an app on your phone everyday.
How would I set up a photo or a picture that would not be a selfie that wouldn't look manufactured or like posing. What I would be thinking of would be possibly like a candid picture that someone else would take of you while you were in the moment. What's a guy to do who doesn't hang out with people who constantly have their phone out snapping pictures for Instagram and Facebook?
Ha! Being a heterosexual male, this video is mostly aimed at those in a similar position. Maybe I should create more videos designed for gay men dating?
Hey mate, I was just banned for no apparent reason. I treat everyone with utmost courtesy. My suspicion is someone I met years ago reported me 3 days ago but I have no recourse. Wondering if you might have any connections in hinge that you could vouch for me. Happy to hop on a call with you
@@Mistyfire That sucks. I signed up with zoosk or some dating app I was literally 2 mins into setting up my account and I got banned. Nothing naughty, just normal words and pictures. They just said I been banned and that was it. I was just like WTF.
plenty of fish is now shit heres why i want free apps so i went back on after years of being off aand never ever getting a date on it so i message 1 person well thats all you can do 1 person per day used to be 25 then 50 then 100 that site has litterally fucked over people forced you to pay 10 matches is a joke also
Hey, Adam. Whilst how you look is a large factor, I help people improve their experiences. It's not me vs you, it's you vs you. So if you have 5 matches a week, these tips will help you get 10. If you had 1 date a month, this will help you get 2, etc etc. (not actual numbers, but you get the idea) James
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Let me give real advice
1.Be good looking
2.Be good looking
3. Be good looking
4.Be good looking
5.Be really rich if you arent good looking
6.Have to be jacked or have tats
7.Skinny and bigger guys get ignored
Confidence is a big one no matter how you look
Sadly, not always true. There's an agenda online of men who think it's all about being rich and good looking, and it's not the case.
Does someone have to find you physically attractive? Yes.
Do you have to be the best looking person in the world? No.
Paying attention to your grooming, clothing, attitude and even working on your confidence are all ways you can do to become a more rounded person and have a better dating (and dating-app experience!) + improvement in life.
Take responsibility for yourself!
James
@@daterhelp There are lots of women who don't care about looks. As long as you are clean and decent looking.
@@tammyb8304 agree!
I don’t want to steal the spot light from anyone’s comments but I would just like to share what happened to me maybe less than 30mins ago. I matched with a girl on hinge-we exchange a few text and she asked me to call her. We speak for about 10mins. Solid convo flowing evenly between the two of us. till she asked me if I got vaccinated. I said no but not for the reasons alot of ppl might not. I ask her back if she did she says yes and adds that she wasn’t a fan of it, okay I didn’t think much of it after a few more sentences of us talking she says “ I can’t date someone that didn’t get two shots booster or even one shot”. I was taken back by this and replied saying why should the relationship solely only be on the vaccine. She couldn’t answer the question and The convo was dead after that. Am I wrong in this story?
Okay so Hinge literally only shows me obese women. Im not exaggerating when I say thats all it shows me. Im not even talking chubby girls, Im talking full blown morbidly obese women, like the kind of obese that would be considered a disability. Its really odd.
This is a large concern
I don't know the details of how their algorithm works, but here's what I did. I set my preferences to a reasonable age range and started at 1 mile radius. Swipe through the first batch which is for some reason presented as least appealing to you. Eventually you will hit the profiles you want, then increase the radius like 1 to 2 miles. Rinse and repeat lol. I know it sounds like a shitty thing to say, but they definitely categorize people in attractiveness with the low presented first.
I've heard that you can help hinge know what types girls you like. If you click the three dots on their profile and click "I'm not interested in the person" it might help the algorithm. Also when you get a match that you like, swipe right on the chat a d click "we met"
Lmaoooo
@@daterhelp this was on purpose right?😂😂😂😂
I get girls in person but on the app I get zero girls
My chances are way better IRL too. I've noticed though that my standards are higher on dating apps, and I think that most girls are experiencing the same thing.
Gotta remember that we're genetically wired to find partners IRL, so there are probably all kinds of subconscious, mental mechanisms working IRL that help us but that don't work when presenting yourself on an app.
I think I need to just try and meet people IRL. People are so cold on the apps but it’s ENTIRELY different in real life. Only problem is..how to meet them
It’s a lot easier in person lol.
@@DeShaunZachary That’s what I’m thinking. But how??
I’ve been on Hinge for nearly a year and I’ve had less than ten women ‘like’ any of my profile first. Never got a date or anything near a conversation of such subject. I sometimes think that my profile isn’t visible or I’ve been shadow band for something.
Hinge has opened my eyes to the amount of strange looking women there are out there.
What the heck is with women saying “I want someone who can make me laugh”, oh, have I got to be a stand up comedian now?
Something that also gets on my nerves, is that I specify that I’m straight and only interested in women, but I occasionally gets a load of transgender or gay mens profiles in my feed, seriously WTF?!
I also can’t max out the ten likes per day, there’re simply not enough women I find attractive. I X women who look delusional, fish face pouting lips, materialistic or high maintenance. Is this really what todays modern women are like?
Welcome to the Red pill buddy
I hate getting the trans and gays in my feed! So annoying when I specifically signed up for women. On another note, it sounds like you might be a good MGTOW candidate.
I literally came here to find out if it was just me 😂🤣
😂😂😂
I think they're single for a reason. Most more normal ones ar eprobably already taken.
Hey I’m a girl and came across this video -
I thought I’d add what works for me.
1) yes good photo’s count.
2) I don’t know if this is just for me, but showing some sort of humour pulls me straight away.
3) putting photo’s of you and another woman is a turn-off.
4) people who are vague on their profiles, I scroll past as I don’t put any trust into that person as they seem closed off.
5) I love a random and unique or quirky/funny prompt answer and also a voice note prompt really helps, as we women love a good voice.
6) most importantly don’t be boring conversation wise when you do match with someone. As in - don’t just stop at hey, you ok? Good, how are you? Try take the conversation to a deeper/funnier place.
7) try and secure a date after you feel a vibe with the person.
The thing is, you say stay away from boring conversations, whereas the only thing that majority of girls/women write is ‘hello how are you’ or something just as banal.
For the guys…. a fish will not teach the fisher how to go fish
Unless you are an extremely good looking guy on an app, good luck getting a decent looking girl.
Most girls on the apps are looking for validation and won't respond.
Also, I like how we enter a height but we can't have weight requirements.
BMI requirement would make much more sense, 145lbs is different on a 5’0” person as compared to a 6’0” person.
not always true, try hinge for people looking to date. J
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Weight requirements would be lovely fr
that last line got me, pls tell us your story 🤣
I’m just struggling with being ghosted a few a few lines back and forth. Even if I ask for a date or move it in that direction. Then you’re left with a graveyard of messages that just makes you feel so utterly worthless to look at.
you are possibly the only non-scumbag I've found giving advice on online dating haha, thanks mate
Ha, you're welcome!
An “engaged user.” We don’t decide how engaged we get to be. The women. Choosing us do.
Hinge is easily the most disappointing dating app- which is unusual since it’s the most user friendly.
Hey do I have to pay for hinge as a man? Also I see you can only like a girls picture on hinge compared to bumble. Is it worth paying for or I should just stick to the free version? I’m looking for a Christian woman
Hey, stick with the free version. Have you tried any Christian specific dating-apps? James
Hello im from the philippines.
How are you im a christian catholic
1:18 proves they're funny and girls always say they want someone who makes them laugh.
The word you wanted was “provocative”, not “controversial”
What is your favorite dating app for a long term relationship? Awesome tips by the way.
Just don't do Tinder or Bumble.
Hinge!
@@daterhelp How about something like EHarmony or Facebook dating?
@Unstable Brother what's Facebook dating
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I hate it when guys says they don’t use the app much, it’s a lie and so lame. If you want my phone number just ask for it, but don’t like like you can’t open an app on your phone everyday.
Hello
Hi Anna, thanks for your opinion on this! James
Yer that is true.
Wow I am deleting this app as it doesn't sound introvert friendly 😭
No, stay on them! there's lots of people who are introverted who go on them :)
Left single after 21 years and this sounds awful.
Dying alone it is.
Sorry to hear!
dating app tips for men in 2023 .. Number one: Delete you’re account … Number two : Delete the app
Mate all of them are not active
How would I set up a photo or a picture that would not be a selfie that wouldn't look manufactured or like posing. What I would be thinking of would be possibly like a candid picture that someone else would take of you while you were in the moment. What's a guy to do who doesn't hang out with people who constantly have their phone out snapping pictures for Instagram and Facebook?
Ask a family or friend to take photos of you, and ask them to take 50+ :)
Story of my life
Great advice
Thanks!
“Keep your shirts on.” These words.. my gay brain does not compute.
As A woman...the man w/o a shirt to me is a big turn off. I got it!
Ha! Being a heterosexual male, this video is mostly aimed at those in a similar position. Maybe I should create more videos designed for gay men dating?
@@daterhelpYeah you didn’t specify in the video or title
Hey mate, I was just banned for no apparent reason. I treat everyone with utmost courtesy. My suspicion is someone I met years ago reported me 3 days ago but I have no recourse. Wondering if you might have any connections in hinge that you could vouch for me. Happy to hop on a call with you
Same here SMH
Hi Neil, sadly I do not have any Hinge connections! Sucks that this happened to you... James
Create a new account
@@moshibudisarah2248 I can't. Everything is linked to Apple store account.
@@Mistyfire That sucks. I signed up with zoosk or some dating app I was literally 2 mins into setting up my account and I got banned. Nothing naughty, just normal words and pictures. They just said I been banned and that was it. I was just like WTF.
plenty of fish is now shit heres why i want free apps so i went back on after years of being off aand never ever getting a date on it so i message 1 person well thats all you can do 1 person per day used to be 25 then 50 then 100 that site has litterally fucked over people forced you to pay 10 matches is a joke also
Plenty of fish has been crap for years
Would you say this advice would be effective for a girl looking for guys?
Hey there!
Yes, a fantastic profile is key to unlocking greater experiences from the app! :)
James
Hey James a lot of the advice your giving will not work on guys that are not as genetically as lucky as you are
Hey, Adam.
Whilst how you look is a large factor, I help people improve their experiences. It's not me vs you, it's you vs you.
So if you have 5 matches a week, these tips will help you get 10. If you had 1 date a month, this will help you get 2, etc etc.
(not actual numbers, but you get the idea)
James
@@daterhelp You can work hard on your profile and still end up with only 2 or 3 matches
(Insert meme) You guys get matches?!
Hinge is garbage. I get more matches on other apps
Bumble is pretty good.
It’s showing me women who are literally across the country or even in Canada 😔
Meeting people in new cities is also cool!
@@daterhelp no its not
@@tatsuhirosatou5513 🤣