Excellent advice. Clearly laid out and easy to follow. In my last relationship he told me upfront that he only wanted to " find friends ". After I told him I wanted a long term exclusive relationship, he said he wanted one too: and just had to find the right woman. Turned out he was a habitual liar and manipulator. I could have avoided being hurt if I'd only accepted what he said in the beginning.
@@BernMendez Thank you for your care. Sincerely. I'm thankful for the experience. I believe I needed to go through this to become more fully aware of my approach to dating, learning to step into my truth. After that experience I put myself first, following my dream of moving to the country. I bought my first house and got a dog. Women, like myself, are learning so much from you.
I just recently had something like this happen as well. When I first saw the guy, he was on a dating site and said he was looking for a gf. Then we met, and he said he wasn't ready to date. Then we hung out more, and he said he wanted me to be his gf and marry me and was in love with me.... but then he'd make excuses to not see me. It was a really weird relationship. I started looking elsewhere, and qualified a new guy quite a bit better.... and we are MUCH more compatible. Don't stay with the guy whose actions doesn't match his words, or the guy that seems confused about what he wants. It's a dead end and waste of time. I learned that from Bern! LOL Thank you!
Funny thing is, you can ask all the right questions in the beginning to see if the future is compatible. When you get lies and hidden true intentions, it sometimes takes months to discover.
This is why you always run a background check on them, so that you find these things out up front and not allow anyone to waste your time. Avoid anyone moving too "fast", talks excessively about sex, and wants to know about your finances. RUN!!
Delay sex till both sure you are each others ONE......... Deep screenings know his issues, lifestyle. Meet friends and family coworkers Ask about his history the truth is hidden there. Childhood issues, exes, marriages Observe his behavior for character and values. Good descions patterns addictions. Do all exes love or hate him. How does he treat you? No love bombers.
Someone said it here... I agree... this should be taught in college, or at least some types of colleges! For those who have certain values and do want to get married, knowing these and implementing these could be the difference between finding a life partner and wasting so much time that you will never get back.
Exactly. Know what you want, state your intent and ask for his. Listen closely to what he says and take it slow. Don’t be afraid to lose him if your intentions don’t match and don’t invest if he’s wishy washy.
I'm a matchmaker in Ireland and advise 100% what you're saying. Don't be does ladies. Respect yourself by standing by your values. Dopamine is released when you've sex with him and you do go dopy. Take your time as advised above. ♡♡
Usually trust what they say. However I am finding a lot of guys who are messed up. Just go by their actions and ask lots of questions right off the bat.
excellent video!!! Women be clear right from the beginning!! 2nd or 3rd date ask him what he is looking for in a woman and how he's seeing him self in 2 years from know!
Yep...just dumped by the liar who said he sooo wanted a family and he knew since he was a kid that he wanted to be a great dad to ....MY kids. He was the PERFECT partner... After 500 days of summer...he said he didnt want a wifey gf 😶...i guess that meant he was someone childless and wild...maybe on drugs or drinks maybe slutty whatever ...and what about the kids? he was heartbroken for breaking the kids heart but that was ul to me coz i introduced him to them. These pos have no integrity
We have to pay attention to their actions and take our time. No sex early on - that will eliminate most who are just looking for a good time. For the rest, watch and listen. Do his actions match his words? Does he continue to invest in you a little more and a little more all the time? Is he respecting your boundaries or is he constantly pushing for more from you? Let him talk more and listen to what he says - ask questions that require him to give more details and not just “yes or no” type answers.
Yes but you will drive away more people who aren’t right for you, which allows room for finding the right person. If you get lied to, keep looking. You didn’t die!
Just do it because if he is not willing to commit that's an issue. Being married is way different than being a girlfriend and it's not your fault he was married before.
I had to do this and as hard as it was, not nearly as impossible to accept no marriage. Now I'm celibate for a year 😂 and damn it's empowering when you do it intentionally.
@@LunarFrequenciesHD Congratulations. Divorced men always come with a lot of issues. If you've never been married and don't have kids don't go with a man who has been married with kids. Careful with long distance relationships even if it's just the neighbor town. Men who are "ok" with long distance are doing their business or looking for someone else while you are away. A man who's really interested would make the effort to close the distance gap as soon as possible.
I find this out from men early n hv left when they say yes probably in 5 years. I was never married n I cannot give up my dreams bc he already experience it n won't give me what I want.
I just wanted to say I love you Bern. Thank you for sharing your inner radiance, wisdom and love with the universe! The good vibes ripple out endlessly and keep expanding!
I was lied to and strung along by my late husband for 17 years. Meanwhile he was having multiple relationships on the side. Even two women at a time besides our relationship. Also Found out after he passed he even cheated on his ex like that. He only told me she cheated, which she did after he did to her first. SMH Some people are just liars and good ones at that.
Hi Christy,I’m sorry about you marriage, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Edward, it would be nice getting to know you,if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Hi Bernardo, I came upon your video, and this is one of the best videos that I've seen in a long time. I subscribe to certain coaches' channels, but this video was so comprehensive and mindful. You laid out a blue print. Thank You so much ❤❤
💯 🎯 Everything you have said is on point. I invested years in a dead-end relationship. He was a kind, caring person, but he just wanted an eternal girlfriend.
Sadly some people don’t value their family or friends and everyone meets them probably to fool women into thinking they like the women. You can no longer hang your hat on anything they can buy you a house car have your name tattooed on their neck will be homeless jobless etc if they don’t maintain their family it does not matter. I think most men are on drugs these days or at the least that women will never leave them.
Hi Bernado best video I've seen with great step by step advice thank you. For myself after 3 years with him I'm wanting the commitment of an engagement or commitment ring but without the marriage ( I've been married twice and really don't want marriage ) so a ring to show the world that we're more than bf and gf is ideal. He's in agreement but no idea of time he says it's not for me to push now and to leave it up to him. Do I just set my own time limit.. say 6 months and if not walk away what do you think?
It’s a good, happy, loving, committed relationship? If so, think twice before walking away if it’s literally just about a ring on your finger. It’s hard finding quality relationships these days. To each their own, but you might lose more than you realize if the focus is on that 1 material item. I say this kindly. Good luck! 💕
Thank you fir your amazing advice. Where're were you 56 years ago? You are an absolute blessing thank you again God bless you snd your work snd family l9ve from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia
Hi Wendy, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Edward, it would be nice getting to know you,if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends?? Lovely smile you got there on your profile picture😊.
What if the man you fell for said he wanted a long term relationship but then all of the sudden he says hedoednt love you but admitted he self sabotaging cuz of 2 failed marriages
I don't want to date another guy, but I understand that it is because we have a connection and plans. We have spent about two weeks with each other over four months.
I am too self efficient, OCD in ever aspect of my life. I have come to realise there's none one out there to meet my standards. Real Dilema Pls Pls help.
The solution is perhaps to create more sustainable standards while figuring out what's causing you to act the way you do. What are some specific problems you face with men?
Most guys don't know which end is up, let alone what he wants. They take it for a ride wherever it goes n wherever he wants to land when he's done. That's a boy, not a man.
I and my father of my child live together and have a child together he is always not at home because of his job when he comes home he away spends 1-week then went back to work I just have a baby so I stay home taking care of the child. I always feel alone because of his work yes we talk on the phone the everyday send money for the bill I work at home We talk about marriage before the move in with him. After the child, he told me he was not happy with me he is not into marrying anymore and also doesn't want to compromise with me to move far from him we argued every day because of this and he said I'm being desperate and today he told me we don't live together because he only there one week to spend time with baby and when he comes for Thanksgiving please he doesn't want to argue with me let him rest his mind I'm so confused he told me I don't want his baby to grow up with him 6 years together 3 years living together cook and clean making laundry for him make sure when he comes home to live with clean clothes 3 years dating so sad can not believe it will just end like this
@Tyler Lee chemistry is how you feel attracted to someone else. I am a female, I consciously dated men and had a few requirements before a man would earn a second date. One of those requirements was that I felt chemistry, or a certain level of attraction to them. I personally want to feel "chemistry" with the person I get married to.
@Tyler Lee I believe in dating intentionally. To know what you want, exactly what you are looking for, exactly what your boundaries are, and to warmly communicate that with men around me. I want to have kids someday and it is important that the men I date are aware of my desires! I think it is best to be upfront and honest, otherwise you risk wasting time on someone incompatible.
Cathy, you should never be a year in a relationship for a year without knowing where it is going. Women of value would never let that happen. They express what they want early and often and keep it agnostic to the man. You want the relationship and if a man can’t give it to you, you move on and he knows it. Please have a conversation quickly, if that ends the relationship, he was never going to stay anyhow. The fact he never discusses it is a red flag, but please give him an opportunity to step up
Stop providing him with sex. He would never change a thing if everything is great for him. If he gets a free rental car, why he would get to pay for it. Or you? If you drove a car for free and after an year the dealership would ask you to pay for it. Even if you love your car, you probably would say "good bye!" to it.
Hi Cathy, I think now is a great time to explore in conversation what he feels excited about in the relationship and if he could have it his way, how would things move forward over the next months or year. There are many factors that impact if he's willing to commit including his age, life stage and what you both have established as a goal in exploring this relationship.
Hi Cathy! I would start the conversation with him, as 1year is more than generous a time frame for one to decide whether they want you in their life for good. Most people simply get comfortable or even lazy to change what appears to be working well WTF him. Share your thoughts OK? Good luck!
I understand, Michelle. Sometimes, however, moving past your comfort zone is the only way to grow. If you date more than one man but don't have sex with them and wait longer for physical connection you'll feel less guilty. Also, be upfront about it, no need to hide it.
This is where it gets confusing. I am 51 and just learned what a narcissist was, after being with him for 10 years. It was hard to escape. I got lucky. He died while trying to chock me. The rabbit hole is much deeper.
Hi please do a video on the guy you like have other girls and , all of a sudden we both are talking and he puts a girl on the phone ,one of those girls talk to you about polygamy, and you not sure if it a game or if he is pretending, then when you talk to this guy and ask him , who was she and why she asked about polygamy, and he laughs and say it not important what do you do and should you not talk or contact the guy anymore?
If a guy put me in this situation, I will get another guy and move on. Just to be clear, my love life is not a joke. Find a better man, Honey. You don't wanna waste your younger years for a scumbag.
He is a user. He wants to recruit you into a polyamorous relationship. If you believe in monogamy, don't walk down that road hunny. Find yourself a man who believed in the things you believe in.
@@tinygirl That guy is out of my life , yesterday he called me and said it over that he has someone else , then he said , I’m sorry if I hurt you , then I hung up the phone 😕😏
This video would be a very good one if he had admitted this known fact about many men and went into explaining how a woman can become psychic….because she is going to need it…or not want that capability if she gained it.
No point having any form of romantic relationship either. It is soooooo draining. I mean look at middle aged married women vs their unmarried counterparts. They (the married) look sooo old and weathered. 😖
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Excellent advice. Clearly laid out and easy to follow. In my last relationship he told me upfront that he only wanted to " find friends ". After I told him I wanted a long term exclusive relationship, he said he wanted one too: and just had to find the right woman. Turned out he was a habitual liar and manipulator. I could have avoided being hurt if I'd only accepted what he said in the beginning.
Debbie, I'm sorry you experienced that, the good thing is now you are open to looking for someone who is clear on what he wants from the get go : )
@@BernMendez Thank you for your care. Sincerely. I'm thankful for the experience. I believe I needed to go through this to become more fully aware of my approach to dating, learning to step into my truth. After that experience I put myself first, following my dream of moving to the country. I bought my first house and got a dog. Women, like myself, are learning so much from you.
I just recently had something like this happen as well. When I first saw the guy, he was on a dating site and said he was looking for a gf. Then we met, and he said he wasn't ready to date. Then we hung out more, and he said he wanted me to be his gf and marry me and was in love with me.... but then he'd make excuses to not see me. It was a really weird relationship. I started looking elsewhere, and qualified a new guy quite a bit better.... and we are MUCH more compatible. Don't stay with the guy whose actions doesn't match his words, or the guy that seems confused about what he wants. It's a dead end and waste of time. I learned that from Bern! LOL Thank you!
@@craftychick48 thank you for sharing your experience.
@@dellyvlogs1284 You're welcome.
Funny thing is, you can ask all the right questions in the beginning to see if the future is compatible. When you get lies and hidden true intentions, it sometimes takes months to discover.
This is why you always run a background check on them, so that you find these things out up front and not allow anyone to waste your time. Avoid anyone moving too "fast", talks excessively about sex, and wants to know about your finances. RUN!!
Exactly!!
Exactly!!
@@roses4me451 great answer!! I screenshot it 🤓🙌😅💞
Delay sex till both sure you are each others ONE.........
Deep screenings know his issues, lifestyle.
Meet friends and family coworkers
Ask about his history the truth is hidden there. Childhood issues, exes, marriages
Observe his behavior for character and values. Good descions patterns addictions.
Do all exes love or hate him.
How does he treat you? No love bombers.
Someone said it here... I agree... this should be taught in college, or at least some types of colleges! For those who have certain values and do want to get married, knowing these and implementing these could be the difference between finding a life partner and wasting so much time that you will never get back.
Exactly. Know what you want, state your intent and ask for his. Listen closely to what he says and take it slow. Don’t be afraid to lose him if your intentions don’t match and don’t invest if he’s wishy washy.
This❤
I'm a matchmaker in Ireland and advise 100% what you're saying.
Don't be does ladies. Respect yourself by standing by your values. Dopamine is released when you've sex with him and you do go dopy. Take your time as advised above. ♡♡
Best comment ever! 👏👏👏👏
The attachment hormone is actually serotonin.
Oxytocin?
Hello Sharon.
do you only serve people in Ireland ?
i wish this was taught in colleges.....this is gold...thanx for sharing
Junior high. Not everyone goes to college, but everyone goes thru j.h. And , get them while they're young and their hormones are starting to heat up.
Usually trust what they say. However I am finding a lot of guys who are messed up. Just go by their actions and ask lots of questions right off the bat.
excellent video!!! Women be clear right from the beginning!! 2nd or 3rd date ask him what he is looking for in a woman and how he's seeing him self in 2 years from know!
Nowadays you tell them what you want and they could lie and say me too. Later down the line you see they were just stringing you along. Good video!
Yep...just dumped by the liar who said he sooo wanted a family and he knew since he was a kid that he wanted to be a great dad to ....MY kids. He was the PERFECT partner... After 500 days of summer...he said he didnt want a wifey gf 😶...i guess that meant he was someone childless and wild...maybe on drugs or drinks maybe slutty whatever
...and what about the kids? he was heartbroken for breaking the kids heart but that was ul to me coz i introduced him to them. These pos have no integrity
Because we tend to talk to much. We have to let them talk first and collect more information than we give.
We have to pay attention to their actions and take our time. No sex early on - that will eliminate most who are just looking for a good time. For the rest, watch and listen. Do his actions match his words? Does he continue to invest in you a little more and a little more all the time? Is he respecting your boundaries or is he constantly pushing for more from you? Let him talk more and listen to what he says - ask questions that require him to give more details and not just “yes or no” type answers.
Yes but you will drive away more people who aren’t right for you, which allows room for finding the right person. If you get lied to, keep looking. You didn’t die!
Best video I have ever watched! What amazing meaningful advice, so happy I have the opportunity at this stage of my life to apply it
Lyndee, I'm grateful you found this so helpful. Thank you for watching and your kind words.
My boyfriend just wants long term relationship but never want to get married again so we have to break up!
Just do it because if he is not willing to commit that's an issue. Being married is way different than being a girlfriend and it's not your fault he was married before.
I had to do this and as hard as it was, not nearly as impossible to accept no marriage. Now I'm celibate for a year 😂 and damn it's empowering when you do it intentionally.
@@LunarFrequenciesHD Congratulations. Divorced men always come with a lot of issues.
If you've never been married and don't have kids don't go with a man who has been married with kids.
Careful with long distance relationships even if it's just the neighbor town. Men who are "ok" with long distance are doing their business or looking for someone else while you are away.
A man who's really interested would make the effort to close the distance gap as soon as possible.
I find this out from men early n hv left when they say yes probably in 5 years. I was never married n I cannot give up my dreams bc he already experience it n won't give me what I want.
Haha same here 😂 he always said that he can't live without me, he's afraid to lose me but still something is missing 😂🤣 for me
I just wanted to say I love you Bern. Thank you for sharing your inner radiance, wisdom and love with the universe! The good vibes ripple out endlessly and keep expanding!
Thank you so much for your kindness and for watching. Glad to know my work is helping you in some way : )
I was lied to and strung along by my late husband for 17 years. Meanwhile he was having multiple relationships on the side. Even two women at a time besides our relationship. Also Found out after he passed he even cheated on his ex like that. He only told me she cheated, which she did after he did to her first. SMH Some people are just liars and good ones at that.
Hi Christy,I’m sorry about you marriage, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Edward, it would be nice getting to know you,if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Hi Bernardo, I came upon your video, and this is one of the best videos that I've seen in a long time. I subscribe to certain coaches' channels, but this video was so comprehensive and mindful. You laid out a blue print. Thank You so much ❤❤
💯 🎯 Everything you have said is on point. I invested years in a dead-end relationship. He was a kind, caring person, but he just wanted an eternal girlfriend.
What do you mean by external girlfriend... please expound
@@meggykarimi9982 By eternal girlfriend, I meant that he was content to have a girlfriend forever, not a wife.
@@De_Los_Her ohh okay.....no way
.we need men who can commit to marriage...no need to waste time.
Marriage is the purest, purest and purest of all
Thank you so much for clearing this up! The dating world can feel like such a shot in the dark so this clarity makes it so much less scary
Glad you found this helpful! : )
This video saves my life. Very needed exactly just right now in my dating life. Going to follow this 100% from now on!
I agree with the friends and family part. Maybe not family right away but if he likes you - he will bring you around his friends.
Sadly some people don’t value their family or friends and everyone meets them probably to fool women into thinking they like the women. You can no longer hang your hat on anything they can buy you a house car have your name tattooed on their neck will be homeless jobless etc if they don’t maintain their family it does not matter. I think most men are on drugs these days or at the least that women will never leave them.
That is what I wanted to hear, thank you so much! I'm hurting from my mistake 💔
Thank you for this amazing, yet realistic advice.. talk about perfect timing 😊
@@kufreutenge7489 I don’t want to recover, I’m actually ready to start over..
Glad it was useful, Melissa.
This video came at just the right time! Thank you for your wise words 🙌
You're so welcome, LIsa!
@@kufreutenge7489 I’m in a great relationship now thank you though
Wish I had seen these videos before now but its never too late to redirect my life and choice
You're right : )
Your voice is very soothing 🙏🙏
Thank you 🙏
Thisis such a sensible reasoning and I am greatful for your direct and clear approach
This is so clear..I feel like I m listening to u with new ears ..great information. . makes perfect sense..thank you..
You’re welcome 🙏
Dating is like a Sales funnel. 😁
Great advice!❤
Excellent advice ❤️
Vera, Glad it was helpful.
Thank's, u like a brother to me who teach all the things abt a man and relationship with man... Again thanks 🙂🙏
You're so personable in your delivery
Thank you : )
Hi Bern, thank you for the advice! This is one of your best videos! :)
The best video! I ask questions ASAP. Thank you.
So glad it was helpful, Jennifer.
Immense gratitude for the high quality content, systematic insights. 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you, Patricia.
Very helpful. Thank you so much
WOW! THIS IS SO POWERFUL INFORMATION!!!! Thank you Bern!!!
So glad it was helpful, Margarita.
Hi Bernado best video I've seen with great step by step advice thank you. For myself after 3 years with him I'm wanting the commitment of an engagement or commitment ring but without the marriage ( I've been married twice and really don't want marriage ) so a ring to show the world that we're more than bf and gf is ideal. He's in agreement but no idea of time he says it's not for me to push now and to leave it up to him. Do I just set my own time limit.. say 6 months and if not walk away what do you think?
It’s a good, happy, loving, committed relationship? If so, think twice before walking away if it’s literally just about a ring on your finger. It’s hard finding quality relationships these days. To each their own, but you might lose more than you realize if the focus is on that 1 material item. I say this kindly. Good luck! 💕
Thank you fir your amazing advice. Where're were you 56 years ago? You are an absolute blessing thank you again God bless you snd your work snd family l9ve from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia
You are so welcome, Wendy. Happy to be able to help.
Hi Wendy, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Edward, it would be nice getting to know you,if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Lovely smile you got there on your profile picture😊.
Thank you so much for explaining everything.
Great Advice, thank you so much
Thank you so much!
I done that with new guy I meet I told him what I want and he said aswell don’t want waisting my time
What a good video thanks , I needed this badly .
Thank you Bernardo!!! This is super helpful!
You're very welcome, Vivien.
emphasis on “..get married to an AMAZING MAN.” 🤞🏾
You are the best advise
Thank you, Gisela.
Your videos are excellent and unique
Love is everything😇
What if the man you fell for said he wanted a long term relationship but then all of the sudden he says hedoednt love you but admitted he self sabotaging cuz of 2 failed marriages
Then leave
You move on and let him figure out his life. Don't become his therapist : )
He told you he doesn't love you that's it! Say goodbye to him because you do love yourself and will find what you want
I don't want to date another guy, but I understand that it is because we have a connection and plans. We have spent about two weeks with each other over four months.
Thx Great Advise 💔
Maggie, so glad it was helpful!
How about when we're in long relationship, what can ido to win his heart
Nothing.
Very valuable information 🌼💙💙💙
Glad you think so, thanks for watching.
I am too self efficient, OCD in ever aspect of my life. I have come to realise there's none one out there to meet my standards.
Real Dilema Pls Pls help.
The solution is perhaps to create more sustainable standards while figuring out what's causing you to act the way you do. What are some specific problems you face with men?
Most guys don't know which end is up, let alone what he wants. They take it for a ride wherever it goes n wherever he wants to land when he's done. That's a boy, not a man.
Your job then is to qualify early so you only invest your time in men who are clear about what they're looking for.
@@BernMendez they lie
I need a time machine..
: )
@@BernMendez I am serious
I agree with you man
I and my father of my child live together and have a child together he is always not at home because of his job when he comes home he away spends 1-week then went back to work I just have a baby so I stay home taking care of the child. I always feel alone because of his work yes we talk on the phone the everyday send money for the bill I work at home We talk about marriage before the move in with him. After the child, he told me he was not happy with me he is not into marrying anymore and also doesn't want to compromise with me to move far from him we argued every day because of this and he said I'm being desperate and today he told me we don't live together because he only there one week to spend time with baby and when he comes for Thanksgiving please he doesn't want to argue with me let him rest his mind I'm so confused he told me I don't want his baby to grow up with him 6 years together 3 years living together cook and clean making laundry for him make sure when he comes home to live with clean clothes 3 years dating so sad can not believe it will just end like this
If you tell a guy what you want so soon won't that chance him away?
you are a sweet, good man, may G-d bless you
You are so kind, thank you Anat.
GOLD
Can you tell me if you already have a relationship and you feel like he’s cheating, can I ask him to show me he’s phone or is private?
I believe a 4th requirement for exclusivity could be natural chemistry
@Tyler Lee chemistry is how you feel attracted to someone else. I am a female, I consciously dated men and had a few requirements before a man would earn a second date. One of those requirements was that I felt chemistry, or a certain level of attraction to them. I personally want to feel "chemistry" with the person I get married to.
@Tyler Lee I believe in dating intentionally. To know what you want, exactly what you are looking for, exactly what your boundaries are, and to warmly communicate that with men around me. I want to have kids someday and it is important that the men I date are aware of my desires! I think it is best to be upfront and honest, otherwise you risk wasting time on someone incompatible.
We have been dating for more then one year now, and he loves me so much and I love him too but he doesn't talk about settling down what should I do
Just ask him, ask him what does he see your future and are there any plans in the immediate future to take things forward
Cathy, you should never be a year in a relationship for a year without knowing where it is going. Women of value would never let that happen. They express what they want early and often and keep it agnostic to the man. You want the relationship and if a man can’t give it to you, you move on and he knows it. Please have a conversation quickly, if that ends the relationship, he was never going to stay anyhow. The fact he never discusses it is a red flag, but please give him an opportunity to step up
Stop providing him with sex. He would never change a thing if everything is great for him.
If he gets a free rental car, why he would get to pay for it.
Or you? If you drove a car for free and after an year the dealership would ask you to pay for it. Even if you love your car, you probably would say "good bye!" to it.
Hi Cathy, I think now is a great time to explore in conversation what he feels excited about in the relationship and if he could have it his way, how would things move forward over the next months or year.
There are many factors that impact if he's willing to commit including his age, life stage and what you both have established as a goal in exploring this relationship.
Hi Cathy! I would start the conversation with him, as 1year is more than generous a time frame for one to decide whether they want you in their life for good. Most people simply get comfortable or even lazy to change what appears to be working well WTF him. Share your thoughts OK? Good luck!
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Thank you.
Thank you so much
You're most welcome
Amazinnnng
Thank you!
Represent guys.
Facts 💯
Glad you enjoyed this, Janet : )
Watched video
very inciteful
Thank you.
Deal breaker narcissism
Don’t really care about getting married so there we go ;)
If he says he "needs space". Give it to him, by leaving.
@@emilyknowlton8602 and if I need space? I believe I was the one that said that ;)
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If I date more than one man at a time, I don’t feel right.
Don't sleep with him then and tell him your not exclusive
@@SharonKenny a HUGE mistake, I have made too many times. The sleep part. Uggh!
I understand, Michelle. Sometimes, however, moving past your comfort zone is the only way to grow. If you date more than one man but don't have sex with them and wait longer for physical connection you'll feel less guilty. Also, be upfront about it, no need to hide it.
Tell that to your fertile years that goes away each time a guy wastes your time. Gurl wakeup 🙄
This is where it gets confusing. I am 51 and just learned what a narcissist was, after being with him for 10 years. It was hard to escape. I got lucky. He died while trying to chock me. The rabbit hole is much deeper.
Very good, for both sexes..thanks.
You're so welcome, John. Glad this helped.
Hi please do a video on the guy you like have other girls and , all of a sudden we both are talking and he puts a girl on the phone ,one of those girls talk to you about polygamy, and you not sure if it a game or if he is pretending, then when you talk to this guy and ask him , who was she and why she asked about polygamy, and he laughs and say it not important what do you do and should you not talk or contact the guy anymore?
If a guy put me in this situation, I will get another guy and move on. Just to be clear, my love life is not a joke. Find a better man, Honey. You don't wanna waste your younger years for a scumbag.
@@empress_enchantress Thanks for your kind advice 🙂
If you were paying for my meals I’d want you in my life too. He’s Using you sweetie.
He is a user. He wants to recruit you into a polyamorous relationship. If you believe in monogamy, don't walk down that road hunny. Find yourself a man who believed in the things you believe in.
@@tinygirl That guy is out of my life , yesterday he called me and said it over that he has someone else , then he said , I’m sorry if I hurt you , then I hung up the phone 😕😏
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Thank you for watching!
But they lie!!
This video would be a very good one if he had admitted this known fact about many men and went into explaining how a woman can become psychic….because she is going to need it…or not want that capability if she gained it.
No point to get married now days.. Simply way too risky. You will loose everything you've accomplished in life.
Lol
No point having any form of romantic relationship either. It is soooooo draining. I mean look at middle aged married women vs their unmarried counterparts. They (the married) look sooo old and weathered. 😖
Haha this like saying not worth to be alive , you gonna die anyway 😂🙌
I hope not. Not all women want marriage. Too much work & trouble. Nope. Keep walking
Thank you so much for explaining everything.