@@chumadoshi6987 the 22k people who liked this video disagree. Not to mention a lot of people don’t use the like feature but still enjoy the video. It was very entertaining.
There’s really not enough grace offered to folks who’ve seen the fucking worst and still manage to laugh. I respect the hell out of them even if I don’t always agree or like their sense of humor.
I respect soldiers with this sense of humor, the best of them is WW2 vets, WW2 paratroopers, they went out on the craziest and most dangerous missions so the future operation could be easier, and still have a great sense of humor
@abcd efg are you stupid? You think having a weird sense of humour is a negative way of coping. That has to be the dumbest shit I’ve heard in a while. Drugs and alcohol are bad ways to cope. Self harm and attempted suicide are bad ways to cope. Turning trauma into humour is quite a good way to cope.
If anyone EVER disrespects good healthcare workers in front of me again, I want to show them this. The fucking strength and heart you have is incredible. As someone who has lost 6 loved ones, thank you.
They are not all saints and some of them need to look into another career choice. I am sure the major majority of them are great at their job but like in any profession there are some bad apples in the bunch. I delt with one while my dad was sick, she told us if he woke up from his coma he would be a vegetable and we should just pull the plug and let him go. I told her he just needed this liquid medication and with him in a coma there wasn't a way for me to make him drink it. I pleaded with her to give it to him somehow and she refused because it wasn't ordered by their Dr on call in their hospital. When she left i asked the nurse if she would get me a funnel with a long tube and she said yes as long as my name is never mentioned. I said ok no problem, i got the tube she helped me put it down his throat and i poured the bottle of medicine down to his stomach. I said to her in about 4 hours he is going to start pooping and you guys need to be ready because there is going to be a ton of it. Sure enough about 3 hours later i could hear is stomach rumbling and then not long after here it came like an explosive mud slide off the bed onto the floor. He woke up and the first thing he said was "i got to take a shit" i told him to just go it would be ok. I walked down to the nurses station where the Dr was and i said he is awake and he has a surprise for you. The Dr came in and seen that bottle of laxative setting on his table and asked who gave that to him and i said "i did why does it matter you were going to just let him die" my dad had liver failure and kidney failure so they could not filter out the toxins in his system and the only way to get rid of them was to pass them by pooping them out. His toxic levels would get really high and once he went into a coma i couldn't give him his laxative orally so i would take him to the hospital and they would do it with an IV. Well this Dr wouldn't do it and after she seen how high his levels were she said that no one could live with a toxic level that high they would be brain dead. After 6 more hours of pooping everywhere he was totally normal and we went home 2 days later. We went through this every couple of months for nealy 10 years and last year he passed away due to covid.
@@tstryker03 I am do sorry about your dad and I hope you are safe and feeling safe. And may God bless you 🙏 (or if you don't believe in God, I hope you are in a good state of mind 👊)
I'm 63, been a nurse for 30 years, most in the ER. Semi retired. Had a patient come in with half her head gone from a car accident. She back ended a truck, never stopped, probably had a medical issue. The EMTs should have just pronounced her at the scene. The lady looked like everyones grandma. Felt bad for them. We worked on her for awhile and that's what the doc said. " any ideas?". Sad. It stayed with me for 20 years. Bless her soul. Since then, I have been spit on, cussed at, hit, ect. I still think of her. I hope she's at peace.
@moasrira1023 Usually due to fear, mental illness or just straight up assholery. Source: I also used to work in a hospital, though in Housekeeping. I'm so glad that I got out before Covid, ngl. People working that sort of environment under those conditions... that's a full NOPE from me! People like OP are heroes.
My father hasn’t lost many patients in his life. There is only one time I can truly recall. He made it through the rest of his work day, got home, and broke down the moment he entered the safety of our home.
When I lost my baby boy last year, those nurses showed me nothing but compassion and love. This one nurse held my hand and cried with me. When all was said and done, she told me this part is never easy.. she gathered herself and went into the next room to check on her other patient that had her baby the day before.. I couldn't do it ! Nurses are so strong.
That nurse also has a horrific dark sense of humor just like this guy. When you work around death you have to compartmentalize or you will not survive.
I worked in trauma ICU before going out on long term disability (hoping to go back soon since diagnosis and treatment). We had an accident of a pregnant woman who was bleeding out from her uterus. They had to remove the baby who did not survive, and we're fighting to save her womb and life. The neonatal team from the woman's hospital came to take care of the baby. We fought all night doing CPR and pumping blood into mom as fast as we could. It was bloody and gruesome. In the room next door they removed the bed and brought in the bassinet. That neonatal team bathed her, brushed her hair, dressed her, cuddled and loved on that deceased baby as if she were their own. I looked at them in a moment when I was out of the room so another team could take over CPR, and said, "I don't know how you can do this. It's so overwhelming." They replied, "I don't know how YOU can do what you are doing next door". Both of us were overwhelmed at the other person's work and yet both of us were in our moment doing what we knew. The family was given time to say goodbye. Staff came in and held her. I didn't because if it were me I would not have wanted strangers holding my baby before I did. But everyone took a moment for her life and everyone found their hiding place that we all have in critical care to cry a few moments. Mom did survive, but was not concious before the burial and my heart still aches when I think of her. I'm usually good at leaving work at work and home and home. Every now and then a patient comes home in my mind and she was one of those.
@@susanboyd6592 Words don't compare. You are strong not because you don't break but because you heal and keep going. Maybe not in that order, but you do and you are. Thank you for your service. Be safe, happy and calm. 💙
When my dad was rushed to the ER after having a massive heart attack and flatlining several times at home, I knew the longer it took for someone to see us meant he was gone and doctors and support staff were trying to work miracles to bring him back. They worked on him for a good 25 minutes. That was six years ago. I remember it like it just happened. I can’t imagine being a healthcare worker that experiences this on a daily basis. You have to be a special kind of person to do that job.
And that's why I clean off my neighbor's car during snow storms because she's a nurse. It a small gesture but you never know when she's needed in the hospital to help save lives. Thank you to all the doctors, nurses, and the all other hospital staff!
My condolences for your grandpa, that must've been a very difficult loss for you and I'm sure it still is since it's only been a few months. Unfortunately, doctors have to decide when enough is enough and when it's no longer possible to bring someone back, your grandpa just happened to be one of those very unfortunate cases where it wasn't possible.
That's actually crazy to think about. You have to go right on to the next patient, pretending everything is fine and good, as if you didn't just lose a life right infront of you. Massive respect to all you healthcare workers, no matter your specialty! Love you all and thanks a ton for everything you do!
It's this part of their job that makes me try my damndest to be a good patient (despite the pain etc). They deal with enough without us being wankers. 💜
As a doctor, thank you for that. I put great effort into all my patients but the ones with a more positive disposition always make my day better. We understand you don’t feel good, that’s why you’re seeing us. But it’s exhausting when patients take their anger and frustration out on the very person trying to help them. ✌🏼
@@elise.young15 as great as that is, please refrain from putting private info such as your parents' full names online, especially in a place like YT full of people you don't know. It's for your safety :)
Same! I had to be induced and after my doctor broke my water, I had to use a bedpan because they didn’t want me getting up. I had to pee every hour for most of the night and I started crying for bothering the nurse so much 😂 Also cried when I got my epidural because my nurse had to help me move my legs so I could roll over. I felt like such a pain I apologized every time they had to come in my room lol.
Yep, I like to joke and make light not because what I'm going through is easy but because they have it harder imo. I do my best to make their jobs easier and make coming into my room a happy little break if I can. I'm there a lot, it's the least I can do
@@nonyabidnazz7487 What? They obviously do GAF, it's obvious from his face and behaviour, and how he didn't make a single joke in this video about this despite having so many chances to. It does leave them traumatized, they just have to hide it because it's part of the job. You can't live with a job like that if you get broken down for weeks about every single death.
@@K4NDI_K3ND0 ? I said about the topic. He didn't make a single joke about this topic in the entire video, because he knows it's an incredibly serious topic.
I will always remember my first patient that died on me. I literally watched her take her last breath it was unexpected and I was in shock I was bonded with her and after her death I left hospice care. I'm still in healthcare I just couldn't do hospice after loosing her.
Hi steveio my brother just got into an accident and had to be hospitalized a couple days… you totally prepped me!! Down to the IV in the arm, that metal toilet, and even hospital beds!! That little knowledge help me understand and be calm there while seeing him at his worse. Thank you!!
@@tagwanted1840 thank you! He is now. He had a Skateboard accident.. and fractured his skull.. almost lost my little brother. I’m so blessed to have him.
Here's another thought, anytime you go to the hospital, remember that someone has most likely died in the bed that you are in. That really makes it sink in...
@@rebeccahetrick6576 I retired from 20 years working in hospitals and always said that if I'm a patient I don't want to be the next one in a bed where someone just died
The psychological impact of getting to the point where you’ve exhausted yourself and your knowledge of medicine to the point that you know there’s nothing else to do and you have to finally make that call must be immense. healthcare workers are a different breed
@@rayyanshaikh5591 I'm positive that you need to interact with other human beings(unless you live in a non English speaking country then it's just a lingual difference), "Different breed" is one of the most common compliments you might hear people using
I admire the hard work you put in.. I had to go to ER... I remember the nurse calling me a DOA but they never stopped fighting for me!! You guys are the real miracles!
@@namelol1033 I didn't find the video on suicide prevention offensive but your comment is just trashy, you don't know what people could be going through and you shouldn't say those things on the internet. Would you say that to a friend that is struggling?
@@hoseokismyhope3351 I was suicidal and had been to the ER twice for it. What he said was completely accurate and was not offensive . Those precautions have to be made . It wasn’t rude . I almost died and I’m saying it wasn’t offensive , so stop being a sensitive snowflake .
I feel like healthcare workers jn general dont get the anount of respect they deserve. My aunt used to he a paramedic and firefighter, and is permanently scarred from seeing many tragedies and how it affected their families. She still kept a straight face and did her job and has saved many lives due to her ability to keep going. If any health care workers are seeing this, please know that i am aware that you uave a difficult job and i appreciate everything you do, and you have my full respect.
how do they Not get the amount of respect they deserve? Nobody really bad mouths them and they are paid well. Teachers on the other hand has less respect and less pay yet they work their ass off with brat students and demanding parents and admin.
@@jaydel3 maybe its just in my area then idk but ive heard a lot of people talking about how their doctor was being "rude" when really they were just probably annoyed to ha e to deal with that patient. And i completely agree with the teachers thing, they should ger paid way more for what they do.
@@jaydel3 does a teacher see someone die in front of her after trying her best? Does a teacher work 24 hour+ shifts in some school days? Fun fact: in lots of countries including first world countries like Britain, doctors make low-mid income compared to other professions their ages due to a doctor requiring way more time to graduate, also you probably don't know that more than 100,000 people died in few years due to lack of resources do you? That adds a great guilt feeling for someone to die in front of you because you didn't have a stitch
@@jaydel3 I respect teachers and all, but don't go comparing them to people who fight death everyday and take on traumatic experiences a normal person can't take in a month every day with a smile on their faces, don't tell me a normal person can see someone die in front of him and even stand still with a straight face
@@playerx7625 That isn’t the point. Medical workers are respected and paid well. Teachers are not. Think about how as a society you pay an elevator mechanic more than a teacher, even an electrician. Also, a pediatric nurse with an AA degree gets paid more. Human resource gets paid more, etc. Teachers shape minds to be leaders and to think critically. A lot of the times you have to deal with behavioral issues, disrespectful kids, demanding parents. You have to teach someone with special needs, kids who can’t speak English, and advanced learners all at the same time. You spend your own money to buy supplies. You take home your work. I’m a teacher and sometimes I sleep at 3-4am and go to school by 7:30am. The grading takes hours and then you have to lesson plan strategically or get reprimanded by admin. For example, you can’t just go to class and say open your books and start reading. You have to read in advance, think of critical thinking questions, think of an activity, plan intervention with kids who don’t understand, then assess. Per subject in elementary. Also- to be a teacher in CA take the CBEST, take 3 CSET Tests, Take the RICA Test, take two dept of ed evaluations, then do an induction program, while also getting your master’s.
One of the things I remember about my mom's death In the ICU that my memory flashes back to all the time- A line of nurses and doctors stretching their limbs covered in sweat while waiting for their next turn to do chest compressions, some were silently crying since they knew her. I remember how hard they tried to keep her alive, all of my family does it's the only thing that made us smile that night and I think my mom would be honored to know that they did everything possible to keep her with us.
Thank you for everything. I’ve lost 6 loved ones, I promise your efforts and grief do not go unnoticed. I still keep in contact with the nurse who helped my friend after he shot himself. I hope you experience strong peace and joy in this life, because you absolutely deserve it. Sending love.
@@ILovHelloKitty13 thank you sweetheart 💞! You never forget the first time , I had to call time of death as well since I was the only one present , it’s crazy seeing someone transitioning into another realm . I saw it as a gift afterwards, as much as it sucked I learned a lot from it , even though you do get traumatized to an extent, there’s also good that comes from it . I also lost my favorite cousin to suicide , it’s not easy I hope you’re holding up well 💖! We go through what we have to go through for a reason , nothing is ever an accident, remember that 💞!
Dnr? Do not resuscitate? Why would you not want to be rescued? Edit: I googled it and see that it's an order given by the doctor and not the patient lol. Why would such an order be given? Out of curiosity
@@calebstuder448 The patient could be struggling with a terminal disease and they’re tired. DNR is more common than you think. It’s the patients decision not the doctors.
"Push the memory of that healthy experience to the back of our heads for another day, no time to think, gotta put on a fresh smile and say hi to the patient next door... because emergencies don't stop, and neither do we.... " ❤ 100%
It is for sure. I'm a healthcare worker in a hospital and taste only a small bit of what they do in the ER, and it still messes with me. Complications with one patient, let the adrenaline come down a little and move to the next case, "why are your hands shaking?" "Nevermind that, let's focus on you"
@@Mike-we3rb biggest thing is to not be attached to these patients. It’s ok to feel bad for someone dying (you should feel bad I hope lol), but you don’t know them. A lot of times, most of them die because of the condition that they were in. Everybody did their jobs, but their wasn’t anything else that could be done. Keeping that in mind, you can focus more of your attention on the patients that still have a chance to make it out of that bed and gown and back to their homes rather than being bogged down by the death of someone that didn’t have much of a chance
@@Cardiaccat98 true that. Gotta look at the positives in everything. I’m a depressive person tho and over thinker hahaha. And I care too much about people
I'm sure they get satisfaction out of saving the lives they are able to though. And that's what probably helps them get by every day. They are heros after all.
I feel like child deaths hit the hardest for the doctors. Like goddamn, imagine watching a 7 year old pass away, and then having to announce that shit to the parents
All children emergencies hit different. I am working in EMS and if there's a children emergency is always a bad shift. Especially when your colleague has a child in this age
I've had multiple dead kids as a paramedic. It is fucking devastating. Parents screaming is a sound you don't stop hearing- even when you close your eyes and ears. But, gotta restock the rig and go to the next call.
Fellow paramedic here and child deaths are always awful - parents screaming, traumatised siblings, often a lot of self-blame, sometimes pets getting in the way of all the commotion. Every case is different of course but in my experience accidental drownings and suicides are always the worst.
This is why I respect Medical professionals, military, and emergency workers. It's knowing these are the people among us who risk everything including sanity, so the rest of us can continue doing whatever we decide to do. Many people in recent years seem to have lost that understanding but from those of us who get it, thank all of you for everything you do.
I liked how, whilst keeping the discussion around death a bit lighthearted, he kept it rather respectful and didn’t make a joke out of it. (And educational as always). I appreciated that 👍🏻
I will never forget the time I was being wheeled into an er room blue and unable to breathe from an allergic reaction seeing the team working on the patient next door using a robot thing that was doing compressions while they did everything they could. Then the doctor walked into my room while my heart rate was dropping drastically. Last thing I remember was him saying “someone get the crash cart” while they we’re putting pads on me and everything went white. Thankfully meds did the trick but that poor doc and team of nurses who literally walked out of one code and walked next door to me who almost became another. I don’t know how they do it
I hate that machine. On tiny patients it can break every rib and vertebrae. It's hard to position properly. But it does keep the staff from needing CPR themselves.
I work in a vet ER. The most codes I’ve seen run at once is 3. With a staff of like, 2 docs, 3 techs, 2 students and 2 assistants. It was rough. We had to use a wet table (sink) because we didn’t have enough table space, and we only have one crash cart.
We do it because of you! Those moments we can save that patient and they get to leave our care and enjoy their life is worth the heartache of those who couldn’t be saved. It’s not easy and most of us have cried at LEAST once a year over a patient, but the gratitude and watching families gathered around their loved one who we were able to help can strengthen us in our weakest moments.
This guy's vids have made me put more faith into the ER workers helping to get me better. It's easy to lose track when you're in a lot of pain and can't think of anything else, but all the doctors and nurses are there to try and help and save as many people as they can.
This reminds me so much of working in a nursing home. I’d be alone with 20-25 patients as a 17 year old CNA who rarely had a nurse, and sometimes a patient would be actively dying or pass away on my shift. There wasn’t time to sit with them while they passed or mourn when they died, so I’d just have to cry for the 30 seconds it took to take soiled linens and trash to the soiled utility room then pull myself together before helping another patient get ready for bed. Your options are to read a lot of Camus and develop a dark and weird sense of humor, taking comfort in the absurdity of it all, or you can fall into a pit of despair.
In nursing school I discovered a patient I wasn't assigned to actively dying. I reported it and was asked to sit with her so she wouldn't be alone. If students weren't there I know it would not have happened. I had to get permission from my instructor and had to rework all my paperwork, but those last moments were precious. The staff came to me after she passed thanking me for being there so she wasn't alone. She was one of those loved residents and everyone dreaded knowing they would be too busy to stay with her.
I'm so sorry you went through that, especially at such a young age! Dark sense of humor is totally a thing that helped me cope with difficult times, too. It's an under-rated coping strategy for sure!
I currently work in the dementia unit of a retirement community as a dietary aide. About a month ago, the nurses and CNAs had to attend to an emergency call and I was left to watch the residents and make sure they are not wandering or in need of help. The room where the emergency call was not very far from where all the other residents and myself were. Even better, the door was open and I could hear what was going on. After hearing that this person was DNR I realized what was happening. I heard them trying to see if the resident would come to on their own but they did not. One of the nurses who I work with and who is one of my favorite nurses walked out of the room and asked me what time it was. I had just checked my phone for that exact information out of curiosity and so I told him. Later that evening I heard him telling someone else about the resident that had passed away around the time that I gave him. That was when I realized that I had essentially given my first time of death. I’m only 18.
My wife worked in long term care for many years! I spent a lot of time listening to her to help her deal with the loss of a resident! It definitely isn't an easy task !!
Thank you for this episode. Makes me feel better about my mom passing last year, even though she had a DNR. God bless you all for all your heroic efforts.😢❤
It's always crazy to think about this. But doctors are probably the strongest people mentally. They literally do everything they can go save a patient, and when they can't. They have to move on to the next one. No time to think about or process it.
@@ssmith6963 it's sad. They put themselves through years of medical school and the hard work. The nights with out sleep, the mental hardships. They deserve to be treated extremely well for all They do
Doctors, er, military, police, mortitioners, firefighters, all emergency services and many others. Electric and Gas is also honerable mentions (every house has both so both respond to fires and car crashes often). All of these people have some of the strongest mental states during the job.
I love the way you tell a story. Full respect to our ER staff who have so much trauma on a constant basis and keep giving their best everyday. It is not a job for which I have the working skills, nor the coping abilities.
We call this "incongruent affect," when someone smiles while talking about painful things. It's a very common phenomenon for trauma survivors. I have PTSD and did this for a long time, myself. I also regularly work with trauma patients as a therapist and see this on the reg. It's a pretty effective coping skill, short-term, because it makes people like you and tricks your brain into thinking you're more okay than you are. Long-term its not so great, though.
Even though this video tries to keep an upbeat tone, it’s still hard to think that they have to watch patients die and then completely ignore it and change their attitude to see another patient. When he said slap a smile on our face and push that memory back for another time, it made me think about how many people have to sit with the thought all day that someone had died in front of them, and they have to just keep going so that others are okay. They don’t get the luxury of getting a break and processing it, because they can’t afford it. Like he said, emergencies don’t stop, so they just have to keep going, and that has to be hard. Thank you for all that you and so many others sacrifice, so that we can be home with our families. It means a lot to everyone
The emotional strain, the mask to hide the pain, the guilt. The feeling of being powerless as someone dies. I cant imagine it. God bless healthcare workers. The true heroes.
I can't explain how much I admire the frank way that he educates. You understand difficult things as a lay person. And hopefully more people can garner respect for medical professionals from watching these
Frank, be the parent (I’m that parent) of the individual he just described then tell me what you think. I’m in healthcare, I have done CPR, seen people die, had to keep working to take care of others after the fact. But I would never make light of it, because it’s not okay.
I watch your videos because I too have a dark sense of humor. However, when covering serious topics, you skirt that line between "dark humor for self preservation" and..... And..... Well- seeing a glimpse of exactly why you do what you do. You care. Thank you for this, and thank YOU, truly, for all that you do.
My aunt is a paramedic and I have heard some truly horrific stories. You all are so strong for putting up with and going through all of that. Remember to give yourselves breaks okay loves
It is. My first CPR call as a doctor, I was heavily involved, then after it was called and I left, it was the most jarring thing in the world to step out of that room and be stopped by a patient asking me suddenly about something minor. It seriously took me a second to just "reset" my brain and take my mind off what had just happened and to smile and deal with the next patient.
@@oon-huing1729 it sure is something isn't it? The next person has no clue the scene you just came from. As a nurse, my worst was a new admit in pediatrics. Chronic patient but new to us. Unexpectedly coded a few hours after admit to the floor & no family at bedside so it was a WTF for the nurse when she found the child. This DOES NOT HAPPEN in pediatrics. After it was called and I was going back to the PICU where I worked, a mom one or two doors down caught me in the hall & went off bitching about needing a blanket. My brain was still replaying the situation trying to figure out what the heck happened resulting in the code (unable to contact family for deeper history & it was was UNwitnessed. The nurse had been in the room 40minutes prior). After being bitched at (because of needing a blanket), I remember looking at her & asked her if she realised why her call light hadn't been answered. (There was NO WAY she didn't know what was happening). Her answer "I don't care. We NEED a blanket". So yeah, there's no time to decompress sometimes cuz the next patient probably doesnt know & probably doesnt care where you just came from. All they know & give a crap about is that they/family member is sick & you are the nurse/doctor. I learned that lesson early in my career. (My 3rd yr as an RN). 27 yrs later, I still remember how stunned I was when she said I DON'T CARE. That affected me as much that night as the code did. People have no clue what we do,see, hear, smell, nor do they even care.
Wow, thank you for what you do, hearing it from you, just how intense these moments are for you, and to just have to soldier on... Wow, I could NEVER do it. So thank you, thank you for committing your young life to learning how to be a hero! ❤️
And thats why i thank you Steve and other health care workers for working so hard and going thru so much trauma to help people you guys are very much appreciated
You have total respect from me for your ongoing selfless acts. I think you guys are amazing..... especially you as I absolutely fancy the pants off you lol 😂 x
From on nurse to another, your hard work and care are appreciated! I know that the job is really tough, and at times, its enough to make you want to quit, but thank you so much for all that you do!
I don't ever wanna go to that hospital again cause not only did I lose my dad there but they are a terrible hospital who judges you for your past and if you don't have a good past they don't care
I was sitting in the hallway with mum and a group of nurses that knew us (small town) .. when the code blue was called .. we knew it was for my dad, as it was only a 4-bed ICU .. he passed, on my birthday .. I miss him terribly .. sobbing
I admire your honesty, and thank you for choosing a profession that’s so physically and mentally exhausting. Please remember to practice self care, and take a moment to process everything that happens.
The things these people have to try to forget🥺🥺🥺….. Seriously God bless all of you great nurses doctors emt’s and all other first responders…. Thank you 🙏🏾
Literally don’t know why it’s escaped my realm of thought that doctors go through HORRIBLE amounts of trauma with situations like these and pretty much everything else. Thank you for all you do!
I remember being in kindergarten and people saying "I want to be a doctor when I grow up so I can help people," and thinking to myself "yeah... but there is people you can't help?"... and imagine that I grew up to be super neurotic.
As someone who wants to help people. I want to take that risk. Save people's life as much as I can and idc If people tell me otherwise! I just hope I'm smart enough 😅
I kinda had that train of thought on various things. But people want to look at the positives of life. I figured that this is just how life works, people just want to look at the positive of their work, situation, etc. At the end of the day, guess that it is bc this is how we move forward in life and as a society bc if we focused on the negatives, that could put a stop at our advances by depressing us. So, i don't blame people for wanting to think about the positive, to each their own, i guess.
Thats what hospice is for. You can always help people, even if in death, and it is still an amazingly rewarding aspect of healthcare, even when you aren't trying to save them. We all have our time here, and our time to leave this place, but you can always help. And when the patient is gone, you help the family.
@@jennh2096 my hospice experience was not good with my mom. I walked away thinking wth was the point of them? After a yr I fig their not all like that.
While still entertaining, this one was deep.
100 % Agree !!!!!!
Not at all entertaining
@@chumadoshi6987 the 22k people who liked this video disagree. Not to mention a lot of people don’t use the like feature but still enjoy the video. It was very entertaining.
I was thinking the same thing…like wth even made me click on this 🤦🏽♀️
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"Because emergencies don't stop, and neither do we"
Is it just me, or is that a really badass line
It is because they are badass
Sounded like a robotic brain washed mind to me but yea I get the spirit
@@savagecomments9195 your channel sucks
Because they're bad ass. Especially ont Thursday 😏.
“Badass” os one of my favorite words
Full respect to all the healthcare workers who can carry a happy smile...
Especially after they just lost a patient minutes before....
Wow this brings new thoughts to my head I never had. Much much respect to all healthcare and emt and fire fighters. Y’all the real hero’s.
Not sure how my parents do/did it. Especially after the last 2 years.
@@DanaOrtiz The police too
It's just part of the job.
I would like a video on just how “Naked Thursday” works in a hospital lmao
Me too 😂
it's because Bars have a thirsty Thursday drink specials... leading to drunks stripping in the ED
@@judiumstead5484 oh really
. That makes sense now
I'm pretty sure it's a Friends reference.
@@rythmicjea r/woooosh
“Gotta put on a smile for the patient next door” May God continue to bless our healthcare workers
Indeed, they never stop
And when they save someone is it God who should be thanked?
@@andlever2004 Yes
when i next walk into the emergency room im absolutely sure im gonna think “damn sumbody just died” when i look at the smiling whoever
@@andlever2004 No i’m not stupid
There's a reason healthcare workers and soldiers have a similarly dark sense of humor. They're both facing death and the worst of humanity daily.
THIS
There’s really not enough grace offered to folks who’ve seen the fucking worst and still manage to laugh. I respect the hell out of them even if I don’t always agree or like their sense of humor.
I respect soldiers with this sense of humor, the best of them is WW2 vets, WW2 paratroopers, they went out on the craziest and most dangerous missions so the future operation could be easier, and still have a great sense of humor
I use to work a hospital that was part military part NHS. O my gosh If outsider had ever heard the break room.
@abcd efg are you stupid? You think having a weird sense of humour is a negative way of coping. That has to be the dumbest shit I’ve heard in a while. Drugs and alcohol are bad ways to cope. Self harm and attempted suicide are bad ways to cope. Turning trauma into humour is quite a good way to cope.
If anyone EVER disrespects good healthcare workers in front of me again, I want to show them this. The fucking strength and heart you have is incredible. As someone who has lost 6 loved ones, thank you.
They are not all saints and some of them need to look into another career choice. I am sure the major majority of them are great at their job but like in any profession there are some bad apples in the bunch. I delt with one while my dad was sick, she told us if he woke up from his coma he would be a vegetable and we should just pull the plug and let him go. I told her he just needed this liquid medication and with him in a coma there wasn't a way for me to make him drink it. I pleaded with her to give it to him somehow and she refused because it wasn't ordered by their Dr on call in their hospital. When she left i asked the nurse if she would get me a funnel with a long tube and she said yes as long as my name is never mentioned. I said ok no problem, i got the tube she helped me put it down his throat and i poured the bottle of medicine down to his stomach. I said to her in about 4 hours he is going to start pooping and you guys need to be ready because there is going to be a ton of it. Sure enough about 3 hours later i could hear is stomach rumbling and then not long after here it came like an explosive mud slide off the bed onto the floor. He woke up and the first thing he said was "i got to take a shit" i told him to just go it would be ok. I walked down to the nurses station where the Dr was and i said he is awake and he has a surprise for you. The Dr came in and seen that bottle of laxative setting on his table and asked who gave that to him and i said "i did why does it matter you were going to just let him die" my dad had liver failure and kidney failure so they could not filter out the toxins in his system and the only way to get rid of them was to pass them by pooping them out. His toxic levels would get really high and once he went into a coma i couldn't give him his laxative orally so i would take him to the hospital and they would do it with an IV. Well this Dr wouldn't do it and after she seen how high his levels were she said that no one could live with a toxic level that high they would be brain dead. After 6 more hours of pooping everywhere he was totally normal and we went home 2 days later. We went through this every couple of months for nealy 10 years and last year he passed away due to covid.
@@tstryker03 yo stfu
@@tstryker03 that’s one (1) doctor out of the tons and tons that are in the field. i’m sorry for your loss, though.
May God bless you 🙏(or of you don't believe in God, I hope you are safe out in the world👍)
@@tstryker03 I am do sorry about your dad and I hope you are safe and feeling safe. And may God bless you 🙏 (or if you don't believe in God, I hope you are in a good state of mind 👊)
I'm 63, been a nurse for 30 years, most in the ER. Semi retired. Had a patient come in with half her head gone from a car accident. She back ended a truck, never stopped, probably had a medical issue. The EMTs should have just pronounced her at the scene. The lady looked like everyones grandma. Felt bad for them. We worked on her for awhile and that's what the doc said. " any ideas?". Sad. It stayed with me for 20 years. Bless her soul. Since then, I have been spit on, cussed at, hit, ect. I still think of her. I hope she's at peace.
Why the heck do people spit on you
@@moasrira1023yeah i wouldn’t let that slide 😭
@moasrira1023 Usually due to fear, mental illness or just straight up assholery.
Source: I also used to work in a hospital, though in Housekeeping. I'm so glad that I got out before Covid, ngl. People working that sort of environment under those conditions... that's a full NOPE from me! People like OP are heroes.
@@moasrira1023I was bitten more than once placing a catheter.
@@dea9273 are you a vet?
One of the reasons I never became a doctor. I couldn't deal with that
I love this guy he tells it like it is in hospitals
Same
I have 2 reason why i cant be a doctor. Cuz im too lazy and broke.
Then don’t be an ER doc…..
If you just become a physician you wouldn’t have to witness death (99% of the time)
My father hasn’t lost many patients in his life. There is only one time I can truly recall. He made it through the rest of his work day, got home, and broke down the moment he entered the safety of our home.
Thank you to your father for what he does !
Some deaths hit us harder than others. I’ve had a few that broke my heart. The ones you save helps.
I am sorry 😢
exactly the same story here
Just imagine all the deaths these workers are seeing everyday because of covid and people still refuse to get the vaccine or wear a mask.
When I lost my baby boy last year, those nurses showed me nothing but compassion and love. This one nurse held my hand and cried with me. When all was said and done, she told me this part is never easy.. she gathered herself and went into the next room to check on her other patient that had her baby the day before.. I couldn't do it ! Nurses are so strong.
That nurse also has a horrific dark sense of humor just like this guy. When you work around death you have to compartmentalize or you will not survive.
I worked in trauma ICU before going out on long term disability (hoping to go back soon since diagnosis and treatment). We had an accident of a pregnant woman who was bleeding out from her uterus. They had to remove the baby who did not survive, and we're fighting to save her womb and life.
The neonatal team from the woman's hospital came to take care of the baby.
We fought all night doing CPR and pumping blood into mom as fast as we could. It was bloody and gruesome.
In the room next door they removed the bed and brought in the bassinet. That neonatal team bathed her, brushed her hair, dressed her, cuddled and loved on that deceased baby as if she were their own.
I looked at them in a moment when I was out of the room so another team could take over CPR, and said, "I don't know how you can do this. It's so overwhelming."
They replied, "I don't know how YOU can do what you are doing next door".
Both of us were overwhelmed at the other person's work and yet both of us were in our moment doing what we knew.
The family was given time to say goodbye. Staff came in and held her. I didn't because if it were me I would not have wanted strangers holding my baby before I did. But everyone took a moment for her life and everyone found their hiding place that we all have in critical care to cry a few moments.
Mom did survive, but was not concious before the burial and my heart still aches when I think of her.
I'm usually good at leaving work at work and home and home. Every now and then a patient comes home in my mind and she was one of those.
♥️
I am crying for you. ❤
@@susanboyd6592 Words don't compare. You are strong not because you don't break but because you heal and keep going. Maybe not in that order, but you do and you are. Thank you for your service. Be safe, happy and calm. 💙
When my dad was rushed to the ER after having a massive heart attack and flatlining several times at home, I knew the longer it took for someone to see us meant he was gone and doctors and support staff were trying to work miracles to bring him back. They worked on him for a good 25 minutes. That was six years ago. I remember it like it just happened. I can’t imagine being a healthcare worker that experiences this on a daily basis. You have to be a special kind of person to do that job.
And that's why I clean off my neighbor's car during snow storms because she's a nurse. It a small gesture but you never know when she's needed in the hospital to help save lives. Thank you to all the doctors, nurses, and the all other hospital staff!
So kind of u
that’s amazing, you’re a wonderful person!
That is so awesome. You are a rare gem to be found nowadays.
Thank you
That's so thoughtful and wonderful of you. TYSM for the mad respect 🥰🥰🥰
"Because emergencies don't stop, and neither do we"
Marvel be crying rn because they didn't think of that line sooner 😂
even if they used it it wouldn’t be as badass because marvel is fiction unlike this dude
@@SlaveToLogic maybe in this reality it isn’t real
they punchin the fuckin air rn 😭🐽😭
Lol Fury said trouble doesn’t stop to Romanoff
I can hear captain America saying that
"I just had to give up on someone's life, anyways how's your leg, is it still hurting"
🕳️
very dark, very deep indeed. I wanna write about it...
Yes it is.
"...no, you good?"
There's only so much they can do.
My grandpa went through with this. I got so angry because I thought the doctors gave up. Now I saw this video and thank you for clearing things up.
My condolences for your grandpa, that must've been a very difficult loss for you and I'm sure it still is since it's only been a few months. Unfortunately, doctors have to decide when enough is enough and when it's no longer possible to bring someone back, your grandpa just happened to be one of those very unfortunate cases where it wasn't possible.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry for your loss.
I’m really sorry for your loss.
That's actually crazy to think about. You have to go right on to the next patient, pretending everything is fine and good, as if you didn't just lose a life right infront of you.
Massive respect to all you healthcare workers, no matter your specialty! Love you all and thanks a ton for everything you do!
It's this part of their job that makes me try my damndest to be a good patient (despite the pain etc). They deal with enough without us being wankers. 💜
As a doctor, thank you for that. I put great effort into all my patients but the ones with a more positive disposition always make my day better. We understand you don’t feel good, that’s why you’re seeing us. But it’s exhausting when patients take their anger and frustration out on the very person trying to help them. ✌🏼
@@elise.young15 as great as that is, please refrain from putting private info such as your parents' full names online, especially in a place like YT full of people you don't know. It's for your safety :)
Same! I had to be induced and after my doctor broke my water, I had to use a bedpan because they didn’t want me getting up. I had to pee every hour for most of the night and I started crying for bothering the nurse so much 😂 Also cried when I got my epidural because my nurse had to help me move my legs so I could roll over. I felt like such a pain I apologized every time they had to come in my room lol.
Yep, I like to joke and make light not because what I'm going through is easy but because they have it harder imo. I do my best to make their jobs easier and make coming into my room a happy little break if I can. I'm there a lot, it's the least I can do
Suddenly, his attitude on camera makes much more sense, and I have a new found respect for him.
his attitude is horrid.. I hope to never go to the ER.. dude shows how its just a job and they simply don't GAF
@@nonyabidnazz7487 What? They obviously do GAF, it's obvious from his face and behaviour, and how he didn't make a single joke in this video about this despite having so many chances to. It does leave them traumatized, they just have to hide it because it's part of the job. You can't live with a job like that if you get broken down for weeks about every single death.
@@nonyabidnazz7487 huh ??
@@heather2701 he literally made a joke in the beginning but ok
@@K4NDI_K3ND0 ? I said about the topic. He didn't make a single joke about this topic in the entire video, because he knows it's an incredibly serious topic.
I will always remember my first patient that died on me. I literally watched her take her last breath it was unexpected and I was in shock I was bonded with her and after her death I left hospice care. I'm still in healthcare I just couldn't do hospice after loosing her.
My very first dead pt I saw/held was a 3wk old baby.😢 He looked perfect. He died from leukaemia. He was birnw it. So incredibly sad. Devastated me!
Hi steveio my brother just got into an accident and had to be hospitalized a couple days… you totally prepped me!!
Down to the IV in the arm, that metal toilet, and even hospital beds!! That little knowledge help me understand and be calm there while seeing him at his worse. Thank you!!
i hope hes doing alright!
@@tagwanted1840 thank you! He is now. He had a Skateboard accident.. and fractured his skull.. almost lost my little brother. I’m so blessed to have him.
@@nc7072 i’m glad he’s doing better and i hope he made/makes a full recovery :)
@@nc7072 ouch! im glad that he seems to he recovering well! cheers :)
I hope hes ok! :)
This is a terrifying glimpse into what your day to day life is like. I never really thought about this, but I respect you all the more for it.
Here's another thought, anytime you go to the hospital, remember that someone has most likely died in the bed that you are in. That really makes it sink in...
@@rebeccahetrick6576 bro …
@@rebeccahetrick6576 I retired from 20 years working in hospitals and always said that if I'm a patient I don't want to be the next one in a bed where someone just died
Suddenly his blunt delivery and gallows’s humor makes sense
He's not even a Dr or a nurse!!!
He's an ER Technician so he should not be giving medical advice AT ALL!!!!
The psychological impact of getting to the point where you’ve exhausted yourself and your knowledge of medicine to the point that you know there’s nothing else to do and you have to finally make that call must be immense. healthcare workers are a different breed
No healthcare workers are also human 🙄🙄 you think doctors just dropped out of Mars
(For all the humor-impaired redditors out there: ITS A JOKE)
@@rayyanshaikh5591 Bruh, 'different breed' is a compliment, it means tough, extraordinary!😁Of course they're human, it's just an expression, chill.
@@rayyanshaikh5591 I'm positive that you need to interact with other human beings(unless you live in a non English speaking country then it's just a lingual difference), "Different breed" is one of the most common compliments you might hear people using
@@playerx7625 I'm positive that YOU need to interact with other human beings. I was joking, I knee what you meant lol.
@@rayyanshaikh5591 you didn’t make your sarcasm very clear in your first comment lol.
I admire the hard work you put in.. I had to go to ER... I remember the nurse calling me a DOA but they never stopped fighting for me!! You guys are the real miracles!
Instead of saying “thats one dead motherfricker” or smth he knows when to be serious and shows that he really cares about what he does
lmao no did you see his video on suicide prevention? this guy is a jerk
@@hoseokismyhope3351 i mean if you’re thinking abt committing suicide then you’re just a weak mf who can’t deal with life lol
@@namelol1033 okay, wow. just, don't.
@@namelol1033 I didn't find the video on suicide prevention offensive but your comment is just trashy, you don't know what people could be going through and you shouldn't say those things on the internet. Would you say that to a friend that is struggling?
@@hoseokismyhope3351 I was suicidal and had been to the ER twice for it. What he said was completely accurate and was not offensive . Those precautions have to be made . It wasn’t rude . I almost died and I’m saying it wasn’t offensive , so stop being a sensitive snowflake .
I feel like healthcare workers jn general dont get the anount of respect they deserve. My aunt used to he a paramedic and firefighter, and is permanently scarred from seeing many tragedies and how it affected their families. She still kept a straight face and did her job and has saved many lives due to her ability to keep going. If any health care workers are seeing this, please know that i am aware that you uave a difficult job and i appreciate everything you do, and you have my full respect.
how do they Not get the amount of respect they deserve? Nobody really bad mouths them and they are paid well.
Teachers on the other hand has less respect and less pay yet they work their ass off with brat students and demanding parents and admin.
@@jaydel3 maybe its just in my area then idk but ive heard a lot of people talking about how their doctor was being "rude" when really they were just probably annoyed to ha e to deal with that patient. And i completely agree with the teachers thing, they should ger paid way more for what they do.
@@jaydel3 does a teacher see someone die in front of her after trying her best?
Does a teacher work 24 hour+ shifts in some school days?
Fun fact: in lots of countries including first world countries like Britain, doctors make low-mid income compared to other professions their ages due to a doctor requiring way more time to graduate, also you probably don't know that more than 100,000 people died in few years due to lack of resources do you? That adds a great guilt feeling for someone to die in front of you because you didn't have a stitch
@@jaydel3 I respect teachers and all, but don't go comparing them to people who fight death everyday and take on traumatic experiences a normal person can't take in a month every day with a smile on their faces, don't tell me a normal person can see someone die in front of him and even stand still with a straight face
@@playerx7625 That isn’t the point. Medical workers are respected and paid well. Teachers are not.
Think about how as a society you pay an elevator mechanic more than a teacher, even an electrician. Also, a pediatric nurse with an AA degree gets paid more. Human resource gets paid more, etc. Teachers shape minds to be leaders and to think critically. A lot of the times you have to deal with behavioral issues, disrespectful kids, demanding parents. You have to teach someone with special needs, kids who can’t speak English, and advanced learners all at the same time. You spend your own money to buy supplies. You take home your work. I’m a teacher and sometimes I sleep at 3-4am and go to school by 7:30am. The grading takes hours and then you have to lesson plan strategically or get reprimanded by admin. For example, you can’t just go to class and say open your books and start reading. You have to read in advance, think of critical thinking questions, think of an activity, plan intervention with kids who don’t understand, then assess. Per subject in elementary.
Also- to be a teacher in CA
take the CBEST, take 3 CSET Tests, Take the RICA Test, take two dept of ed evaluations, then do an induction program, while also getting your master’s.
The way he kept that smile on during this video is amazing
It wasn't really a smile. Hugs to him. It's a coping mechanism.
"We'll take off the bloody gloves, wash our hands, cover the body..."
*very reassuring* 😳
Sounds like a Murder
Me on season 5 on Grey's anatomy*:
I KNOW EVERYTHINGGGG
Sheesh who wouldn't want a bit of dead body on their freshly washed hands
"Emergencies don't stop, neither do we"
So true
One of the things I remember about my mom's death In the ICU that my memory flashes back to all the time- A line of nurses and doctors stretching their limbs covered in sweat while waiting for their next turn to do chest compressions, some were silently crying since they knew her. I remember how hard they tried to keep her alive, all of my family does it's the only thing that made us smile that night and I think my mom would be honored to know that they did everything possible to keep her with us.
I'm really sorry for your loss. 😔
@@VieraXXII thank you ❤️
@y m: touching memorial story - very touching.
she seems like she was a wonderful woman 🥰
@@Nari_Trovi she was ❤️
My heart was lucky to start up again after they had already started paperwork, now i use my once ToD as my pincode
When was this?
@fonzie2098 after an OD, 2018
I’ll never forget the first time I lost a patient , I wanted to save her but she had a DNR . Shit is traumatizing.
Thank you for everything. I’ve lost 6 loved ones, I promise your efforts and grief do not go unnoticed. I still keep in contact with the nurse who helped my friend after he shot himself. I hope you experience strong peace and joy in this life, because you absolutely deserve it. Sending love.
@@ILovHelloKitty13 thank you sweetheart 💞! You never forget the first time , I had to call time of death as well since I was the only one present , it’s crazy seeing someone transitioning into another realm . I saw it as a gift afterwards, as much as it sucked I learned a lot from it , even though you do get traumatized to an extent, there’s also good that comes from it . I also lost my favorite cousin to suicide , it’s not easy I hope you’re holding up well 💖! We go through what we have to go through for a reason , nothing is ever an accident, remember that 💞!
Dnr? Do not resuscitate? Why would you not want to be rescued?
Edit: I googled it and see that it's an order given by the doctor and not the patient lol. Why would such an order be given? Out of curiosity
@@calebstuder448 The patient could be struggling with a terminal disease and they’re tired. DNR is more common than you think. It’s the patients decision not the doctors.
@@emileemeghan6217 I skimmed the answer google gave me, commented, and then watched his video on dnr and I think I understand now. Thanks!
"Push the memory of that healthy experience to the back of our heads for another day, no time to think, gotta put on a fresh smile and say hi to the patient next door... because emergencies don't stop, and neither do we.... "
❤ 100%
imagine u playing this on repeat just to type this
I'm an EMT. I know exactly how that feels.
“Gotta put on a smile for the new patient” that’s hardcore I couldn’t do that my whole life
It is for sure. I'm a healthcare worker in a hospital and taste only a small bit of what they do in the ER, and it still messes with me. Complications with one patient, let the adrenaline come down a little and move to the next case, "why are your hands shaking?" "Nevermind that, let's focus on you"
@@joe1071 I can’t thumbs up that. Awkward. Can’t thumbs down it. Rude. But yeah that’s gotta suck.
@@Mike-we3rb biggest thing is to not be attached to these patients. It’s ok to feel bad for someone dying (you should feel bad I hope lol), but you don’t know them.
A lot of times, most of them die because of the condition that they were in. Everybody did their jobs, but their wasn’t anything else that could be done. Keeping that in mind, you can focus more of your attention on the patients that still have a chance to make it out of that bed and gown and back to their homes rather than being bogged down by the death of someone that didn’t have much of a chance
@@Cardiaccat98 true that. Gotta look at the positives in everything. I’m a depressive person tho and over thinker hahaha. And I care too much about people
I'm sure they get satisfaction out of saving the lives they are able to though. And that's what probably helps them get by every day. They are heros after all.
My friend’s grandma had a stroke and had to go to the hospital. A doctor came in and said “stay with us we just lost one in the other room” 😢😢
I feel like child deaths hit the hardest for the doctors. Like goddamn, imagine watching a 7 year old pass away, and then having to announce that shit to the parents
Fucking heartbreaking
All children emergencies hit different. I am working in EMS and if there's a children emergency is always a bad shift. Especially when your colleague has a child in this age
And that's the first reason of why i didn't finish medical school.
I've had multiple dead kids as a paramedic. It is fucking devastating. Parents screaming is a sound you don't stop hearing- even when you close your eyes and ears. But, gotta restock the rig and go to the next call.
Fellow paramedic here and child deaths are always awful - parents screaming, traumatised siblings, often a lot of self-blame, sometimes pets getting in the way of all the commotion. Every case is different of course but in my experience accidental drownings and suicides are always the worst.
The amount of mental strength to be able to face this over and over again and still remain humane and compassionate is amazing and worth appreciating.
This is why I respect Medical professionals, military, and emergency workers. It's knowing these are the people among us who risk everything including sanity, so the rest of us can continue doing whatever we decide to do. Many people in recent years seem to have lost that understanding but from those of us who get it, thank all of you for everything you do.
I love your comment but you said “among us” and now I must point it out and laugh at it
You said among us and I die
Amogus
AMOOGUS
Lol this was such a great and heart felt comment and the replies are just :AMOGUS SUSSY BAKA 🤣🤣
Watching this after my aunt passed away at the hospital feels different. Just a lot of pain and sadness.
“Emergencies don’t stop, and neither do we.”
Rock ON 🤘🏾
They're very good at compartmentalizing.
I liked how, whilst keeping the discussion around death a bit lighthearted, he kept it rather respectful and didn’t make a joke out of it. (And educational as always).
I appreciated that 👍🏻
If only he did that with his suicide video
I will never forget the time I was being wheeled into an er room blue and unable to breathe from an allergic reaction seeing the team working on the patient next door using a robot thing that was doing compressions while they did everything they could. Then the doctor walked into my room while my heart rate was dropping drastically. Last thing I remember was him saying “someone get the crash cart” while they we’re putting pads on me and everything went white. Thankfully meds did the trick but that poor doc and team of nurses who literally walked out of one code and walked next door to me who almost became another. I don’t know how they do it
I hate that machine. On tiny patients it can break every rib and vertebrae. It's hard to position properly. But it does keep the staff from needing CPR themselves.
I'm glad you're still here.
Holy S*it,was all I could think to say and I'm an EMT
I work in a vet ER. The most codes I’ve seen run at once is 3. With a staff of like, 2 docs, 3 techs, 2 students and 2 assistants. It was rough. We had to use a wet table (sink) because we didn’t have enough table space, and we only have one crash cart.
We do it because of you! Those moments we can save that patient and they get to leave our care and enjoy their life is worth the heartache of those who couldn’t be saved. It’s not easy and most of us have cried at LEAST once a year over a patient, but the gratitude and watching families gathered around their loved one who we were able to help can strengthen us in our weakest moments.
And don't you ever stop, please! Y'all (healthcare workers) are my heroes without capes!!
"emergencies don't stop and neither do we" gave me chills. So so much respect for you and your coworkers!♡♡♡
This guy's vids have made me put more faith into the ER workers helping to get me better. It's easy to lose track when you're in a lot of pain and can't think of anything else, but all the doctors and nurses are there to try and help and save as many people as they can.
This reminds me so much of working in a nursing home. I’d be alone with 20-25 patients as a 17 year old CNA who rarely had a nurse, and sometimes a patient would be actively dying or pass away on my shift. There wasn’t time to sit with them while they passed or mourn when they died, so I’d just have to cry for the 30 seconds it took to take soiled linens and trash to the soiled utility room then pull myself together before helping another patient get ready for bed. Your options are to read a lot of Camus and develop a dark and weird sense of humor, taking comfort in the absurdity of it all, or you can fall into a pit of despair.
In nursing school I discovered a patient I wasn't assigned to actively dying. I reported it and was asked to sit with her so she wouldn't be alone. If students weren't there I know it would not have happened.
I had to get permission from my instructor and had to rework all my paperwork, but those last moments were precious. The staff came to me after she passed thanking me for being there so she wasn't alone. She was one of those loved residents and everyone dreaded knowing they would be too busy to stay with her.
I'm so sorry you went through that, especially at such a young age! Dark sense of humor is totally a thing that helped me cope with difficult times, too. It's an under-rated coping strategy for sure!
I currently work in the dementia unit of a retirement community as a dietary aide. About a month ago, the nurses and CNAs had to attend to an emergency call and I was left to watch the residents and make sure they are not wandering or in need of help. The room where the emergency call was not very far from where all the other residents and myself were. Even better, the door was open and I could hear what was going on. After hearing that this person was DNR I realized what was happening. I heard them trying to see if the resident would come to on their own but they did not. One of the nurses who I work with and who is one of my favorite nurses walked out of the room and asked me what time it was. I had just checked my phone for that exact information out of curiosity and so I told him. Later that evening I heard him telling someone else about the resident that had passed away around the time that I gave him. That was when I realized that I had essentially given my first time of death. I’m only 18.
"actively dying"… deep
My wife worked in long term care for many years! I spent a lot of time listening to her to help her deal with the loss of a resident! It definitely isn't an easy task !!
Thank you for this episode.
Makes me feel better about my mom passing last year, even though she had a DNR.
God bless you all for all your heroic efforts.😢❤
You have my respect for that🙏
@@Urban_Goose it is reasonable
@@hi-lk4up hmm
Maybe
"Why do doctors make so much money?"
Here you go buddy.
It's always crazy to think about this. But doctors are probably the strongest people mentally. They literally do everything they can go save a patient, and when they can't. They have to move on to the next one. No time to think about or process it.
@@ssmith6963 it's sad. They put themselves through years of medical school and the hard work. The nights with out sleep, the mental hardships. They deserve to be treated extremely well for all They do
Doctors, er, military, police, mortitioners, firefighters, all emergency services and many others. Electric and Gas is also honerable mentions (every house has both so both respond to fires and car crashes often). All of these people have some of the strongest mental states during the job.
Nothing but respect for everyone who works in the ER. I have the caring heart but not the strength to not cry everyday.
It really hits hard when you come out to find a little kid waiting outside for their parent to come out
Man 😭 I cannot even begin to imagine how terrible that must be
Damn u just made me think how short life is and even if u are pissed with yr love 1 forgive EM before its too late
Excuse me, NAKED THURSDAYS???
You- you are everywhere what the heck
friends' reference xD
I know you be in the comment sections in this video lol 😂
Everyday is a naked day in the hospital! There's always one patient that just can't seem to keep their clothes on. We've seen it all!
Well that sounds like fun :)))
the emojis add on so much to the story
I love the way you tell a story. Full respect to our ER staff who have so much trauma on a constant basis and keep giving their best everyday. It is not a job for which I have the working skills, nor the coping abilities.
I just realized how dark the implication of his resting smile face is
we all have masks to fit every occasion with some left on more than others...
Yep. There's definitely some pain there.
And when I say "some", I mean "oceans".
We call this "incongruent affect," when someone smiles while talking about painful things. It's a very common phenomenon for trauma survivors. I have PTSD and did this for a long time, myself. I also regularly work with trauma patients as a therapist and see this on the reg. It's a pretty effective coping skill, short-term, because it makes people like you and tricks your brain into thinking you're more okay than you are. Long-term its not so great, though.
Even though this video tries to keep an upbeat tone, it’s still hard to think that they have to watch patients die and then completely ignore it and change their attitude to see another patient. When he said slap a smile on our face and push that memory back for another time, it made me think about how many people have to sit with the thought all day that someone had died in front of them, and they have to just keep going so that others are okay. They don’t get the luxury of getting a break and processing it, because they can’t afford it. Like he said, emergencies don’t stop, so they just have to keep going, and that has to be hard. Thank you for all that you and so many others sacrifice, so that we can be home with our families. It means a lot to everyone
Don’t forget the great experience of giving the news to the loved ones…
I love how this guys explains the most emotionally traumatic events with the biggest smile and most joyful attitude.
And as a therapist, I’ll be here to listen when that thought has to come back to the front 💕
The emotional strain, the mask to hide the pain, the guilt. The feeling of being powerless as someone dies. I cant imagine it. God bless healthcare workers. The true heroes.
“i wear a mask with a smile-“ 🗿
@@coldvictim1884 “Thats what the mask is” The first time I heard this song was from a group dressed as the smp members singing this out loud
@@coldvictim1884 😂
That smile is one that has seen much pain and suffering
Mad respect for you and everyone who works in the hospitals.
Thank you to all the emergency care providers for being there when we need you most. Unsung hero's! ❤
That’s just an example of how amazing er workers are ❤️🤝
Being active duty... yall deserve the "thanks" more than we do. Good bless
Each are essential to preserving our communities. Do not underestimate your worth.
@Rittenhouse Rules there are no small roles. Only small actors is how they put it in theater. I think the saying works here too.
I really appreciate what you do Steve! Being a healer is just as hard as being a warrior for the same reason. Loosing people.
“The people of ER” is the best book at describing how it is to be an ER doctor.
Remind me to not get injured on Thursdays, thank you :)
Remind me to get injured on Thursday
I can't explain how much I admire the frank way that he educates. You understand difficult things as a lay person. And hopefully more people can garner respect for medical professionals from watching these
Frank, be the parent (I’m that parent) of the individual he just described then tell me what you think. I’m in healthcare, I have done CPR, seen people die, had to keep working to take care of others after the fact. But I would never make light of it, because it’s not okay.
You guys are my heroes....the only difference is you guys wear scrubs,not capes!!❤
I watch your videos because I too have a dark sense of humor. However, when covering serious topics, you skirt that line between "dark humor for self preservation" and..... And..... Well- seeing a glimpse of exactly why you do what you do. You care. Thank you for this, and thank YOU, truly, for all that you do.
The same applies to veterinary staff. We literally make jokes about death so we do not go home and kill ourselves.
My aunt is a paramedic and I have heard some truly horrific stories. You all are so strong for putting up with and going through all of that. Remember to give yourselves breaks okay loves
"Emergencies don't stop, and neither do we."
-A true doctor
I appreciate the candor about end of existence.
Most never have to ever see, you guys do daily, stout people.
Honest.
Mvtoooooooooo!
That must be so tough mentally.
I bet they feel dead inside 😕
Don't miss the part where he said "no time to think"....they are dead inside. Just comes with the territory
It is. My first CPR call as a doctor, I was heavily involved, then after it was called and I left, it was the most jarring thing in the world to step out of that room and be stopped by a patient asking me suddenly about something minor. It seriously took me a second to just "reset" my brain and take my mind off what had just happened and to smile and deal with the next patient.
@@oon-huing1729 it sure is something isn't it? The next person has no clue the scene you just came from. As a nurse, my worst was a new admit in pediatrics. Chronic patient but new to us. Unexpectedly coded a few hours after admit to the floor & no family at bedside so it was a WTF for the nurse when she found the child. This DOES NOT HAPPEN in pediatrics. After it was called and I was going back to the PICU where I worked, a mom one or two doors down caught me in the hall & went off bitching about needing a blanket. My brain was still replaying the situation trying to figure out what the heck happened resulting in the code (unable to contact family for deeper history & it was was UNwitnessed. The nurse had been in the room 40minutes prior). After being bitched at (because of needing a blanket), I remember looking at her & asked her if she realised why her call light hadn't been answered. (There was NO WAY she didn't know what was happening). Her answer "I don't care. We NEED a blanket". So yeah, there's no time to decompress sometimes cuz the next patient probably doesnt know & probably doesnt care where you just came from. All they know & give a crap about is that they/family member is sick & you are the nurse/doctor. I learned that lesson early in my career. (My 3rd yr as an RN). 27 yrs later, I still remember how stunned I was when she said I DON'T CARE. That affected me as much that night as the code did. People have no clue what we do,see, hear, smell, nor do they even care.
❤️❤️ much respect. I’ve caught glimpses of these events as an xray tech. Takes a strong person to be a member of an ED
Tough gig. Harder with kids I imagine. My son was a st. Jude patient for 4 yrs... survived! Absolutely amazing staff!
You deal with this every day and still function, that alone is enough to qualify as a hero in my eyes.
Thanks for the reminder
Surprisingly moving, especially the end bit about the smile
Thank you for that! I think we all need a reminder of what health care workers go through too, from time to time❣️👏🏻👍🏻
Wow, thank you for what you do, hearing it from you, just how intense these moments are for you, and to just have to soldier on... Wow, I could NEVER do it. So thank you, thank you for committing your young life to learning how to be a hero! ❤️
And thats why i thank you Steve and other health care workers for working so hard and going thru so much trauma to help people you guys are very much appreciated
That was more depressing than I thought-
@Rach yeah I always laugh with his videos, I've watched nearly all of them
Nurses deserve more recognition, they do so much for us and are always there with a smile!❤️
Yes, we have to keep going, life in ER as a RN! I am 20 years in and I still love it!
I appreciate the way of talking like a reporter while explaining difficult things.
You have total respect from me for your ongoing selfless acts. I think you guys are amazing..... especially you as I absolutely fancy the pants off you lol 😂 x
From on nurse to another, your hard work and care are appreciated! I know that the job is really tough, and at times, its enough to make you want to quit, but thank you so much for all that you do!
When they came to that little room in the ER to tell me my dad was dead…. I never want to see that little room again.
I remember being taken to the little room in the er. when a doctor and chaplain walked in, I knew my brother was gone
I don't ever wanna go to that hospital again cause not only did I lose my dad there but they are a terrible hospital who judges you for your past and if you don't have a good past they don't care
I was sitting in the hallway with mum and a group of nurses that knew us (small town) .. when the code blue was called .. we knew it was for my dad, as it was only a 4-bed ICU .. he passed, on my birthday .. I miss him terribly .. sobbing
@@SundaysChild1966: 💔🙏💕
Hugs. Me nether. I told the nurse to thank everyone who worked on my dad even though they couldn't save him.
You're a fantastic comedian and in all sincerity: thank you and all healthcare workers for what you do! ❤
I admire your honesty, and thank you for choosing a profession that’s so physically and mentally exhausting. Please remember to practice self care, and take a moment to process everything that happens.
I just wanna say that you're a really good person bro
i do appreciate and understand how he kinda kept his jokes to a minimum on this one.
The fact that you can keep a smile after seeing a person die is astounding…thank you for all that you do
“Tips from the ER.”
Now that is something we won’t get tired of.
The things these people have to try to forget🥺🥺🥺….. Seriously God bless all of you great nurses doctors emt’s and all other first responders…. Thank you 🙏🏾
God bless all of your doctors, nurses, technicians, etc. 🙏🙏🙌💖
Literally don’t know why it’s escaped my realm of thought that doctors go through HORRIBLE amounts of trauma with situations like these and pretty much everything else. Thank you for all you do!
I remember being in kindergarten and people saying "I want to be a doctor when I grow up so I can help people," and thinking to myself "yeah... but there is people you can't help?"... and imagine that I grew up to be super neurotic.
As someone who wants to help people.
I want to take that risk.
Save people's life as much as I can and idc If people tell me otherwise!
I just hope I'm smart enough 😅
I kinda had that train of thought on various things. But people want to look at the positives of life. I figured that this is just how life works, people just want to look at the positive of their work, situation, etc. At the end of the day, guess that it is bc this is how we move forward in life and as a society bc if we focused on the negatives, that could put a stop at our advances by depressing us. So, i don't blame people for wanting to think about the positive, to each their own, i guess.
Thats what hospice is for. You can always help people, even if in death, and it is still an amazingly rewarding aspect of healthcare, even when you aren't trying to save them. We all have our time here, and our time to leave this place, but you can always help. And when the patient is gone, you help the family.
@@jennh2096 my hospice experience was not good with my mom. I walked away thinking wth was the point of them? After a yr I fig their not all like that.