SuhbanAllah! 💜السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته I think everyone needs to support/trust one another in a marriage, in polygamy or not. It's gonna be hard at times. Everyone is different in their own way, however, listen to one another and respect others opinions/values. "Communication is Key" Things will be so much better for all involved. May الله give us all the ability to live in peace/harmony for HIS sake. We all want jannatul firdaus, let's strive hard to get there by HIS mercy 🧕👳♂️🧕اللهم امين
I think it depends on which family structure you and your husband want. Polygamy seems like a more communal way when it comes to say raising large numbers of kids. Monogamy on the other hand is a far more individualistic approach, where one person has the duty of educating them, and thus that person will be reflected more when the child grows up. Polygamy by contrast would favor the communal values of the greater culture more, as it is larger numbers of people all around rather than a sole influence. I don't think I could speak for which is right for any particular person, it's something they have to figure out themselves.
Really? How about monogamy? We don't blame marriage types, that's foolish in our eyes. Ask Jeff Bezos or Bill Gates or Michael Jordan or X celebrity how monogamy has impacted them... some may say it ruined their lives or damaged it quite a bit. Do we blame monogamy? No, because that'd be foolish, see how that works?
@outstandingpersonalrelationshi Such "rich" wisdom in this response! While (perhaps) a slight comment, the depth of "character" your family holds is moreso evident by (still) sharing a perspective in light of "clapping back!" Although, casting pearls before swine may be an actuality (here); the "care" for your faith principles is shown/seen and shines through in solid witness! (Peace)🙏🏾
@outstandingpersonalrelationshi Polygany is fround upon the woman in my community and nation. It is a taboo topic, and I have noticed many fellow men attempted it but failed miserably by their own family or initial wife. Some guys have lost their family support and restricted from meeting their kids and lost their jobs and years of accumulated wealth. Wife or even own mothers or aunties will join forces to prevent this from happening. They can do wonders or drama and play multiple characters to add barriers and eliminate polygyny out of the system.
I think you mean frowned upon. Yes, this behavior is not unique to your community, it is prevalent everywhere including places like Saudi Arabia. One of the reasons we educate about polygyny is because people think it's too taboo to discuss which enables and emboldens women who are immature, jealous, possess low self-esteem, and who harm children by distancing them from their fathers to continue with this behavior! Just because some people act a fool doesn't mean it's okay and we let the fox run the hen house! There are weak men and there are strong men. Polygyny is for strong exceptional men who can lead and for those who can learn to do so. Polygyny is about FAMILY which is the foundation of any healthy society and family is worth fighting for. There are many successful polygynous families and most are quiet because it's considered taboo, however, the facts are marriages are failing and it's time to develop outstanding personal relationships!
Sorry to remind , but us Homo Sapiens produce 105 boys per each 100 born girls. Thus , polyandry is the most natural , normal & logic way to arrange your family life.
No need to apologize; let's stick to logic and reality. Your argument not only overlooks critical biological and sociological factors, but it also grossly misinterprets human nature and the complexities of relationships. Let me explain why your conclusion is flawed. First, while it’s true that more boys are born than girls, male mortality rates are consistently higher at every stage of life-infancy, adolescence, and adulthood. By the time we reach reproductive age, the ratio evens out or tilts slightly in favor of females in many regions. Your argument crumbles at this first basic fact. Second, your assumption that polyandry is "natural, normal, and logical" ignores the foundational principles of human behavior. Men and women do not pair off solely because of numerical parity. If there are 50 men and 50 women on your street, that doesn't mean they will pair off neatly. People choose partners based on much more than availability, including compatibility, values, culture, and personal preferences. Polyandry also runs counter to human nature and the dynamics that have driven population growth and societal structures. Men, by design, are territorial and biologically driven to reproduce as much as possible to ensure the survival of their lineage. Polyandry not only limits population growth but also disregards this fundamental biological imperative. The biggest hole in your argument, however, lies in the misguided reliance on global statistics. Human beings do not operate as one homogeneous pool of potential partners. Cultural, linguistic, and ethnic boundaries shape who we choose as partners. For example, as a Black American, I’m not likely to be considering someone from a remote village in Cambodia or a community in rural Venezuela. Most people marry within their cultural or ethnic circles. This makes global statistics irrelevant to real-world relationship dynamics. Let’s bring this closer to home. In the U.S., when considering Black Americans alone, there are millions of unmarried women, even if every man married one woman. Add factors like homosexuality, incarceration, individual preferences, and personal compatibility, and the disparity grows. This is why polygyny is not only logical but natural for exceptional men who are capable of managing it responsibly. It’s not for everyone-and certainly not for the masses. Polygyny thrives in the realm of high-performing, capable men who bring leadership, resources, and vision to the table. Your argument oversimplifies human relationships to the point of absurdity, and it ignores the broader realities of human nature, culture, and biology. A little more thoughtfulness and less sensationalism would go a long way.
@outstandingpersonalrelationshi with all your arguments you somehow ignore millions of unmarried MEN ,who live not only in the US , but in other parts of the world. Like China e.g. has ~700 million "extra" men ,who simply cannot find a woman ,because of the lack of those. Even considering polygamy means stealing the opportunity from other men & pushing them away from their right to search for a partner. Men are still in majority on this planet , let me remind you. And ,no polyandry does NOT prevent population growth.It provides children of a certain woman with more resources & opportunities to survive.Good biological pattern , by the way.It is used by many species , as well ,as the insemination by multiple males gives more genetic diversity and thus , stronger descendency in future generations.
I love you guys are organized and follow respectful ways to handle problems.
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Nice talk MashAllah duas
SuhbanAllah! 💜السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته I think everyone needs to support/trust one another in a marriage, in polygamy or not. It's gonna be hard at times. Everyone is different in their own way, however, listen to one another and respect others opinions/values. "Communication is Key" Things will be so much better for all involved. May الله give us all the ability to live in peace/harmony for HIS sake. We all want jannatul firdaus, let's strive hard to get there by HIS mercy 🧕👳♂️🧕اللهم امين
SubhanAllah**
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I think it depends on which family structure you and your husband want. Polygamy seems like a more communal way when it comes to say raising large numbers of kids. Monogamy on the other hand is a far more individualistic approach, where one person has the duty of educating them, and thus that person will be reflected more when the child grows up. Polygamy by contrast would favor the communal values of the greater culture more, as it is larger numbers of people all around rather than a sole influence.
I don't think I could speak for which is right for any particular person, it's something they have to figure out themselves.
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Polygany ruined many man's lives.
Please be mindful abt this
Really? How about monogamy? We don't blame marriage types, that's foolish in our eyes.
Ask Jeff Bezos or Bill Gates or Michael Jordan or X celebrity how monogamy has impacted them... some may say it ruined their lives or damaged it quite a bit.
Do we blame monogamy? No, because that'd be foolish, see how that works?
@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi well put!
@outstandingpersonalrelationshi Such "rich" wisdom in this response! While (perhaps) a slight comment, the depth of "character" your family holds is moreso evident by (still) sharing a perspective in light of "clapping back!" Although, casting pearls before swine may be an actuality (here); the "care" for your faith principles is shown/seen and shines through in solid witness! (Peace)🙏🏾
@outstandingpersonalrelationshi Polygany is fround upon the woman in my community and nation. It is a taboo topic, and I have noticed many fellow men attempted it but failed miserably by their own family or initial wife.
Some guys have lost their family support and restricted from meeting their kids and lost their jobs and years of accumulated wealth.
Wife or even own mothers or aunties will join forces to prevent this from happening. They can do wonders or drama and play multiple characters to add barriers and eliminate polygyny out of the system.
I think you mean frowned upon.
Yes, this behavior is not unique to your community, it is prevalent everywhere including places like Saudi Arabia. One of the reasons we educate about polygyny is because people think it's too taboo to discuss which enables and emboldens women who are immature, jealous, possess low self-esteem, and who harm children by distancing them from their fathers to continue with this behavior!
Just because some people act a fool doesn't mean it's okay and we let the fox run the hen house!
There are weak men and there are strong men. Polygyny is for strong exceptional men who can lead and for those who can learn to do so. Polygyny is about FAMILY which is the foundation of any healthy society and family is worth fighting for.
There are many successful polygynous families and most are quiet because it's considered taboo, however, the facts are marriages are failing and it's time to develop outstanding personal relationships!
Only man gets benefits Polygamy marriage
Sorry to remind , but us Homo Sapiens produce 105 boys per each 100 born girls.
Thus , polyandry is the most natural , normal & logic way to arrange your family life.
No need to apologize; let's stick to logic and reality. Your argument not only overlooks critical biological and sociological factors, but it also grossly misinterprets human nature and the complexities of relationships. Let me explain why your conclusion is flawed.
First, while it’s true that more boys are born than girls, male mortality rates are consistently higher at every stage of life-infancy, adolescence, and adulthood. By the time we reach reproductive age, the ratio evens out or tilts slightly in favor of females in many regions. Your argument crumbles at this first basic fact.
Second, your assumption that polyandry is "natural, normal, and logical" ignores the foundational principles of human behavior. Men and women do not pair off solely because of numerical parity. If there are 50 men and 50 women on your street, that doesn't mean they will pair off neatly. People choose partners based on much more than availability, including compatibility, values, culture, and personal preferences.
Polyandry also runs counter to human nature and the dynamics that have driven population growth and societal structures. Men, by design, are territorial and biologically driven to reproduce as much as possible to ensure the survival of their lineage. Polyandry not only limits population growth but also disregards this fundamental biological imperative.
The biggest hole in your argument, however, lies in the misguided reliance on global statistics. Human beings do not operate as one homogeneous pool of potential partners. Cultural, linguistic, and ethnic boundaries shape who we choose as partners. For example, as a Black American, I’m not likely to be considering someone from a remote village in Cambodia or a community in rural Venezuela. Most people marry within their cultural or ethnic circles. This makes global statistics irrelevant to real-world relationship dynamics.
Let’s bring this closer to home. In the U.S., when considering Black Americans alone, there are millions of unmarried women, even if every man married one woman. Add factors like homosexuality, incarceration, individual preferences, and personal compatibility, and the disparity grows. This is why polygyny is not only logical but natural for exceptional men who are capable of managing it responsibly. It’s not for everyone-and certainly not for the masses. Polygyny thrives in the realm of high-performing, capable men who bring leadership, resources, and vision to the table.
Your argument oversimplifies human relationships to the point of absurdity, and it ignores the broader realities of human nature, culture, and biology. A little more thoughtfulness and less sensationalism would go a long way.
@outstandingpersonalrelationshi with all your arguments you somehow ignore millions of unmarried MEN ,who live not only in the US , but in other parts of the world.
Like China e.g. has ~700 million "extra" men ,who simply cannot find a woman ,because of the lack of those.
Even considering polygamy means stealing the opportunity from other men & pushing them away from their right to search for a partner.
Men are still in majority on this planet , let me remind you.
And ,no polyandry does NOT prevent population growth.It provides children of a certain woman with more resources & opportunities to survive.Good biological pattern , by the way.It is used by many species , as well ,as the insemination by multiple males gives more genetic diversity and thus , stronger descendency in future generations.
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