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For 15 Years Muslim Counsellor Couldn't Find a Muslim to Marry These Women!
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- Опубликовано: 9 сен 2023
- What unique challenges does Islam place on Muslim women that impedes their ability to find a new husband? This is why they stay in bad marriages
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It's ironic how many Muslims talk about divorce rates in the West when Muslim marriage is in crisis. It reminds me of a Joha story. I hope you don't mind me sharing it:
Joha was sitting with friends in a tea shop when one asked: "Why have you never got married?"
Joha replied, “In my youth I very much wanted to do so and I went in search of the PERFECT WIFE. I travelled first to Damascus. There I met a beautiful woman who was gracious, kind, and deeply spiritual, but she was too old. I travelled further and went to Cairo. There I met a woman who was young, spiritual and beautiful, but she was too worldly. Then I travelled to the Maghrib and found a girl who was innocent and beautiful, but she was too dark. Finally I went to Isfahan and there after much searching I found her. She was fair, innocent, beautiful, spiritual and unworldly. I had found the PERFECT WIFE!”
His friend questioned him further, “Then why did you not marry her, Joha?”
“Unfortunately she was searching for the PERFECT HUSBAND!”
Love you Hassan!
@@chip9649 but will you marry me 🤣
@@HassanRadwan133 ofc! Hope your dowry is cheap!
@@chip9649 At my age it's bargain basement 😜
@@HassanRadwan133 ill go for it!
Apologist: “Islam gave women many rights they didn’t have before.”
Skeptic: “Wasn’t Muhammad’s first wife a wealthy trader and land-owner?”
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hahaha
Also, check out this interesting sahih hadith:
'Aishah, the wife of the Prophet told him that there were four types of marriage during Pre-Islamic period of Ignorance.... [1st two are similar to modern, I'll skip them - long hadith!]... Another type of marriage was that a group of less than ten men would assemble and enter upon a woman, and all of them would have sexual relation with her. If she became pregnant and delivered a child and some days had passed after delivery, she would sent for all of them and none of them would refuse to come, and when they all gathered before her, she would say to them, "You (all) know waht you have done, and now I have given birth to a child. So, it is your child so-and-so!" naming whoever she liked, and her child would follow him and he could not refuse to take him. The fourth type of marriage was that many people would enter upon a lady and she would never refuse anyone who came to her. Those were the prostitutes who used to fix flags at their doors as sign, and he who would wished, could have sexual intercourse with them. If anyone of them got pregnant and delivered a child, then all those men would be gathered for her and they would call the Qa'if (persons skilled in recognizing the likeness of a child to his father) to them and would let the child follow the man (whom they recognized as his father) and she would let him adhere to him and be called his son. The man would not refuse all that. But when Muhammad was sent with the Truth, he abolished all the types of marriages observed in pre-Islamic period of Ignorance except the type of marriage the people recognize today. - Sahih al-Bukhari 5127
Don't you know she was wealthy before Mohamed married her. And don't you know she is the one who made Mohamed a prophet?
@@bedoharon1576 Yes and yes. Muhammad and her family used her wealth to finance his military campaigns.
My Pakistani Muslim father married my mother who was a divorced woman and who had a child. Her poor child had to go live with his grandparents because my father wanted to pretend that she was a virgin. People were told that her son was her nephew when he was allowed to visit. I am glad I am an ex-Muslim divorced woman with an ex-Muslim partner in the US. The patriarchy in Islam creates this situation for women.
Woah
@@FriendlyExmuslim fortunately, my half brother was able to make a good life for himself even though he had little support and is a super good human being.
Do you talk to your brother at al now?
@@diabloakland Yes we are very close and stay in touch all the time. He lives in the US too and is doing well. He was there for my mom always until she died and at her Janaza. We always felt a great love for him even though i didn’t know he was my brother until age 10. My dad does not want to interact with him after my mother died because it reminds him that my mother was married before to someone else. Strange!
Keep hearing these dawah guys mentioning that islam allows men to have up to 4 wives at once to help widows, but almost all of the marriages are with much younger women(likely virgin) and never divorced women. Also they are encouraged to take 2nd & 3rd wives whom are non-muslim to bring them into the faith. The hypocrisy is just too much
As the son of a divorcee Muslim woman I can confirm.
6:10 you are a buffon that loves to completely strip the context and show your complete lack of knowledge. Jabir was around 17 when he got married so the prophet recommended he marry someone around his age and they could both be young and laugh and play because obviously an older woman is going to be more serious about life than a younger man and when Jabir gave his reason of why he married an older woman then the prophet pbuh agreed with him that that was the right choice (ofc you left that out) which was that his father had died and the rest of his siblings where young girls that needed more care and attention so it benefited him and was better for is a situation to marry an older woman who would be like a mother to them. My god, you're a buffon and anyone who eats up your words is as well.
Soo sad
In the US and Europe, they don’t consider the person’s past so much. However, my husband and his culture in KSA, demand virgins. I was discussing it with someone today. That person told me I don’t know anything because I’m white. 🤷🏻♀️(yeah skin color makes your brain fall out! That person was racist and ignorant) Sorry for your personal issues.
@@BQ900white skin is well liked by Asian, Africans and Middle Eastern it’s not racist but a very strong attraction. There are somethings we can’t help in nature why do you think Michael Jackson use whitening chemicals and nose jobs etc to make himself look 👀 white and facial features even changed. It’s not a shame by society but by personal choice. 😂. I know I love white girls myself ( sorry not racist it’s my personal preference )
Greetings this day
Sept 11th
Do you know when and where the original Sept 11took place ?
Gates of Vienna Austria vowing to islamized all of Europe
The Turks got defeated by end of world war one 1918 the caliphate got chopped up
28 Arab states and one Jewish
Here's a movie scene with a brief explanation
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Leaving Islam right after my divorce was definitely a godsend. I can't imagine trying to remarry another Muslim. Even the garbage Muslim men, and there are quite a few, think they're above marrying a divorcée.
Sorry but most of them are garbage
In Christianity if you’re divorced and your spouse is still alive you’re not supposed to remarry, u are to reconcile or stay single. That goes for both men and women though.
@@notyourtypicalcomment2399. No, you can remarry. Christian culture is compassionate. In any case Gospel scripture is that a man should not divorce his wife unless she has been unfaithful and committed adultery also states if he divorces her for no good reason then he pushes her into finding a new partner and that means not only he is an adulterer but she is pushed into adultery too! However, our God Yahweh is compassionate and does not order that adulterers are murdered for committing adultery. The worse sins are spiritual sins. Spiritual sins are aimed at God. God doesn’t get irked by petty human errors such as girl lost virginity before marriage, or child born out of wedlock, but God doesn’t advocate these practices because they hurt the girl or the girl and her child, but they do not hurt God. There is morality but we can see what humans think of as moral can be very immoral. It is immoral to deny a woman an education and a career or job, and to tell her that she must marry if she wants to eat and have a roof over her head, and that’s her only career choice. A women may not wish to marry knowing what it involves, sex and childbirth and a husband who thinks he’s the superior. A woman may not get offers of marriage if she’s ugly and 30% of people are ugly. An ugly man through having money and income through work may find a desperado of a women but an ugly girl won’t get offered marriage, however she still needs food and accommodation. Is an ugly woman or a divorced woman who men don’t desire allowed to work to provide for herself? It seems not ! This is immoral for a culture to endorse such practices! Old women, divorced or spinsters, still need food and accommodation so it is important that women are educated and free to work for an income.
@@notyourtypicalcomment2399that’s stupid when Moses says give them a letter of divorce
@Mysotris1... unless for adultery - of her husband. I interprete it: don't ask for divorce, but if your partner wants to live with somebody else, let him go. And Jesus said, divorce was allowed for hartened hearts. Which I understand that the prohibition of divorce does not mean to let yourself being beaten up or otherwise being abused. However - a christian woman always has the right to work or to be cared for by the society, if she can't. That's why many christian countries have a good social welfare system. With the other countries, at least the churches might care for those who are neglected by society.
Btw. in traditional christian societies, wife beaters are estimated a shame. Adulterers are estimated a shame. Who does not help his family, is a shame. Islam: A woman who is not a virgin, she's a shame. A bad character: no problem. Immorality with a man: no problem. But women have to be eternal virgins. Responsibility for each other: zero.
From my experience, Muslim women are expected to stay single. My friend would always tell me that her mother will not remarry (after her husband left her with three kids, not speaking the language of the country and without a job to be with a younger woman who does not wear a hijab). She said because her children are not grown up yet, no non-mahram to them can be in their house. This has a lot to do with the mahram bs and covering up... A woman who will not marry again and suffer loneliness all her life is seen as a good woman. It is really sick...
Im so glad you broke down the inheritance shares. I feel frustrated with the argument that men get a larger share because they are obliged to look after women. Women are perpetual children in islam.
I'm a divorced woman (though my ex never "gave" me his divorce) and I eventually could not be asked anymore about being oppressed and held back from finding freedom and happiness. When I left Islam I eventually found love again and married a non-Muslim.
The issue is being an atheist after Islam. If you accept Eastern Orthodox Christianity you will find real peace
I remember a Muslim merchant in a rural area (who's been married for 20+ years) I recall him telling me that he wants to have a 2nd wife who's a doctor. I asked him : but what about the mother of your children? He said : I don't care, she's expried !! Then I asked him : why a doctor? He said : for prestige, but she can't work anymore, I want her homebound all the time.
He went on, destroyed his marriage, and made his loyal sons turn against him.
I also encountered that kind person. A self sabotaging person.
A Doctor would be "expired" too seeing that these males think any female past age fetus is expired.
Divorce is easy, the important thing is to maintain it. If the spouses saw the good sides of each other and maintained their ties with love, care and cooperation, there would be no divorces. Our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) advised to get married, but not to divorce unless there is a great reason.
@@Liberalllbty Stop spewing that trash. You know damn well it doesnt work that way. Muslim males will always have the upper hand. Divorce happens. It is a fact of life. You speak without knowing anything. When divorce happens, it is women who suffer. Why do you think so many Muslim fathers are wary of their daughters marrying these Muslim males?
Women in islam cannot divorce only men can. women can only request a khula@@Liberalllbty
It’s great to be a Muslim man but the women have it pretty bad. 😢The video creator is correct. In KSA if the father is a Saudi citizen, you cannot remove the child without the fathers express consent. It was also previous law the wife or ex wife could not do anything or leave without the man’s permit. There is supposed to be a new law allowing a foreign citizen wife to leave for home if she wishes but she cannot remove the children.
Omg...😮
@@ancadan9935 yes the laws are easing but if your father is a Saudi then you have citizenship then subject to the laws of the king. Of course since the king is elderly right now, the crown Prince MBS is mostly in charge of the country. He’s a great visionary and reformer.
@@BQ900 Let's hope he will equally serve his people, regardless gender.
@@ancadan9935 Currently saudi only provides citizenship to muslims and all other religions are banned. Most people do not know this , as they think of saudi as some kind of wealthy progressive state with tall buildings and expensive cars. They still perform public beheadings in deera square, jeddah on apostates which is hardly reported in western media due to saudi petrodollar influence to silence any negative news coming out of the country
@@BQ900mbs is doing good things he's awesome
Hilarious his cognitive dissonance and how he is trying to blame the humans only while totally ignoring the root of the issue which is his religion and his pdf file prophet
”Pdf file” 😂☠️
@@mmnde12This is for RUclips algorithm that blocks people on the words they use
Yep, the purity culture that dehumanizes women who are not virgin is rampant in Islam also they consider it a dishoner for muslim men to raise another man’s child as their own.
@@mmnde12peter file?
@@ChristianUtamaPETA Phial.
Time for someone like you to start an Ex-Muslims dating and matrimonial site which caters to Ex-Muslims who are searching for life partners.
everyone know the reality of islam these days because of you samir and other ex-muslims. thanks samir for your effort to save innocent people from this arabian barbaric idiology
Abdullah, in my view, the source of the problem is Islam ban on adoption. See, Westerners when they remarry (men or women) they know that in the process of loving and living with their partners, they become parents of their children. And they lovingly do that part of their love to their partner. Islam forbids that role, the role of adopting that child as yours. That is the source of the problem. So, the immediate rejection of widows and single mothers, come from the fact they feel it will NEVER be a real family. And why do they think this way? The Quran and Islam made them think this way.
That Islamic ban on adoption did not exist until Mohammed lusted after his adopted son's wife.
I can imagine that reality can have a ‘depressing’ effect on you after you have lived an isolated life cosseted by lies, fairy tales and faux Islamic history! Welcome to the REAL world 🙏
15:46 you should make an example with a man leaving 2 daughters and how in that case his brothers will take a good part of the money even more than the wife.
I remember when a man I know died because of a traffic accident and he had only one daughter, few days after that his siblings came to the widow and told her that she has to sell the house to give them their share of inheritance otherwise they would take her to court.
I know many Muslim women who have never been married or ever had a relationship because they are considered old over 30 or they are too educated or there family isn’t good enough or they like someone but there families won’t approve. Since they are not married they are treated as less than by there community. I am not saying the same thing doesn’t happen in the West if you are single but Muslim women can’t date and even if they are in there 40s and older most can’t do what they want
Which country did you see this?
The Muslim Skeptic openly said that Islam is a patriarchal religion and promotes that it is the best for humanity. I think dismantling this argument is important. Also, we have to show that there is a middle ground between extreme feminism and patriarchy.
Lmao "extreme feminism". What do you purport to be "extreme feminism"? 99% when people whine about that it's some centrist pseudo intellectual that doesn't realize they're talking about the actions and ideas of Terfs, not feminists.
That's only one interpretation. For god himself both genders are equally valuable, but the society islam made a start, which is 7th century arab culture, was patriarchic. That this culture, which has nothing to do with a metaphysical side of islam, should be exported to the world, is orthodox hadith islam, but no one has a monopoly on the right interpretations. There are also other ones with good arguments. There is not the islam, it's a very heterogenic bunch of people
@@sumatra_7174Allah fadl men more than women. He made women with crooked heads from a crooked rib. Muslim women are the majority of hell and the minority of Jannah.
Extreme feminism is the ONLY reason Muslim women's problems even see the light of day.
@@sumatra_7174why did your god not give a progressive religion. What was done was progressive in the 7 century. It therefore has to undergo reforms for it to stay current
My muslim exhusband married me, a single mom, for US papers. Then after I escaped DV with my children he married another US single mother and when he was still deported...he dragged her to an islamic country with her children. Only reason he was willing to marry single mothers was because they were vulnerable and had US citizenship... Don't do this either!
I love when you give references. It helps many non Muslims like me to come to terms with Islam
It's best to learn Islam from ex-Muslims as they know Islam and tell you the whole ugly truth with legit references.
I recommend reading the chapter related to marriage in Sharia books like Reliance of the Traveller (easy to find pdf online).
@@Ruby-GIt’s best NOT to learn Islam from an ex-Muslim. Would you say the same applies for an ex-Christian?
@@She_iswise um, yes, it's best to learn from someone who's out of it because they have no reason to defend it.
@@Vhlathanosh I’m an ex-Christian and now Muslim. You just want to hear what you think is right.
I just looked at the latest US Census data - about (probably over, since not everyone answers it) 4 million men live/are married to a woman who has children from another biological father. That's 4,000,000 ladies (and their kids) who potentially can have a wonderful family life.
At least you took off the rose covered glasses of family life long enough to say 'potential'.
I don't think I have a future anymore and I'm just 14, my family is muslim and all. Honestly I don't see why I'm still trying...
* Can't work in what i want to work in
* Can't live where i want to live
* Can't love who i want to love
* Can't dress the way i want to dress
* Have to get up early in the morning and night, just to pray
* Can't draw or do any of the things i enjoy
* Will forever have to shut up and pretend to agree with Mohammed and his actions
Living in the west makes this so painful since I see what I could have lived every single day...
And I can't just move away when i grow up...
You have time after 18 years old in west you can be independent
4 years more
One day you will realize how lucky you are to be in the west instead of islamic country.
Start saving if yiu can. Do yiu have any savings? You can leave ina few years but you will need money and a job.
Do you have a strong support network of friends that you could move in with?
Look at your options.
Get a degree and a high paying job and then look at leaving
It won't be easy however.
Good luck with everything
There are helplines to contact for support and advice.
I do know some Lebanese Muslim women who remarried and have more children with a Muslim second husband here in Sydney. I didn’t realise that was an outlier. What a shame.
I actually think it is more of a cultural issue than a religious one. The prophet encouraged Muslim men to marry divorcee's and widows
This is so sad. I have met and been friends with several Muslim ladies, they are great people. The love of my life was Muslim lady, but she would not have me because I would not accept Islam. I would have no issue marrying someone who was divorced or widowed.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It happened to me as well.
I am extremely glad that you did not convert to Islam. You were brave for not converting to Islam to marry her. I love ❤️ your sincerity. I hope you find another wonderful woman that will be amazing to you.
I had a colleague, who’s 1st love was an Indian Muslim girl, but they broke up, because she gave him the ultimatum- convert or break up.
I was never going to convert. At the time I was starting to read academic books about Islam, variants in the Quran, manuscripts, and was interested in how the Quran came to be (as I studied early Christianity/Bible before). She probably thought that I might be willing to convert because I was reading about Islam, but I was already an atheist who left one superstition behind and saw all religions as equally man-made. She was working on a PhD in biophysics - it's strange that even highly educated people can believe in the nonsense found in Islamic text.
Thanks for the kind words... :) @@bigfan2452
these "Females" are no ladies.
In Iran, you can also lose custody of your children. There is a documentary about it on RUclips
Note
The documentary is about divorce in Iran. But the consequence can be that the woman loses custody of the children
Wow, I’ll check that out. That is not natural at all to remove children from their mother (unless theirs abuse). Shows how unnatural these extremely patriarchal societies are.
Most muslim apologist will say iran is not true islam due to them being shia, but the root cause is still the same
For some reason, I love your voice and intonation. You're speaking about such a hard subject. Yet, so calmly. The way you present the subject in itself is comforting. Thank you.
thank you so so much for addressing that !! i’ve been thinking about this for a long time
Dr. Zakir Naik - Quranic Scholar
"A man is still considered pure when he releases his lust with a sheep or a goat. If there is no woman, then there is no true lust or sexual sin! Then the animal becomes tainted, and must die! So says the Prophet Mohammad!
That is disgusting, Mr Naik.
😂😂😂😂
What is the reference for this? Just curious 😮
@@tonymason8606Pagan lies.
@@keksi6844 black stone kissers are pagan.
@@MushisOPP21 Is not a book, this dumb muslim said it on a TV program.
He is probably burning in hell right now.
Another excellent video demonstrating the intricate problems Islam creates
Farahid wealth distribution is the most silly and stupid law designed by alloh. Yet muslim women still want to follow this cult. 😢
Women defending Islam is like chicken defending KFC
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@@MushisOPP21 they do not know surah Madinah...easy prey by surah makkah as that is what been shared by dakwah gang
@@MushisOPP21 LOL.. what do do..
Muslim imam will hide those kind of teaching from women 😅😅
I have never felt the pain of women under Sharia quite as viscerally as hearing Nuriyah Khan‘s story, or that of Bethany AliHaider. It is one thing to say yes the rules are wrong. It is another to hear individual stories. I recommend everybody, Muslim or exMuslim, to hear these stories, and to not look away.
Better, stsy away from Islam!!
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Great video. Thank you for making this.
I'm also a son of a divorcee and... in my experience there is not a single Muslim guy I found not trying to get money or something out of marring a divorcee/widow...etc 🤦🏽♂️.
Your experience. I am married with such a man. For years. He works, and i do whatever i want to be honest. My money is mine. He pays the bills. Hmmm🤔 Nope, cant find a reason he earns money out of me...
My ex non Muslim man however, a whoooole other story. Does not even pay for our child, nothing.
And i know of lots of non Muslim man that do this well...
Mistakes are human. Whatever your believe is, we all make mistakes
Thank you so much for this video. I feel so sad for my ex-fiance, who is divorced, with kids and Muslim. She is a wonderful human being with so much to give, and the thought of her facing this is hugely unfair and not right.
@@MushisOPP21she's a Muslim
@@MushisOPP21 maybe she or her parents/family wanted him to convert
Let me also say here, there are tons of videos of caucasian women who are complaining about not being able to date because they have kids. There are tons of videos with titles "why not to date single moms" from the U.S. Just go search for them. I've watched many of them. This preference is everywhere, not just with Muslims. Look at the economy in western society. Also in the U.S. if you marry someone, you still have to pay for child support even if those kids aren't his. They explain this in these videos.
Mus Lim community doesn't HAVE a problem. It IS THE problem.
This is such an important video. Thank you for making it. ❤️
Love you Jimmy
love you too buddy, keep up the great work. xxx@@FriendlyExmuslim
12:26 coming from the black american salafi community, there were many discussions about how men didnt want to take care of step children because it isnt ordained anywhere in islam. According to the deen, the children should only go to the bio father when a mother remarried
You can definitely see the breakdown of the black family when you look at black salafis. Undesirable black men seem to be highly attracted to it. I knew one black Salafi Muslim who gleefully told me he doesn't have to acknowledge his illegitimate children because Islam says so.
@@Fumi007 I kid you not, I just got into with another salafi dude a few weeks back who said he would rather give up his parental rights so he doesn't have to pay child support since it wasn't in the quran and sunnah!!!!!!
@DaPopoloinParadise it's an absolute shame. This, The takferi bickering, and feeling like a robot pushed me out of salaafiyyah.
I challenge you prove women have rights in Islam with references from the Quran and the Hadiths. Also challenge you prove there is humanity in Islam. I challenge you to prove Prophet Muhammad was a moral man.
@@Sindhi001 hmmmm think you're under the wrong comment. I'm an ex muslim my guy.
Well said , pratise gentleness & empthay ,compassion and we will all rise to greatness . The opposite only leads to poverty, ruin ,violence. Women are equal to men not their servant's
it makes no sense to starve the mother while stocking up things for the future inheritance. mothers use up most of their resources towards the well being of kids, for their sake, it should be higher for her.
polygamy is no solution, why expect a man to take care of so many women and their kids, not just financially, but emotionally. how many kids can a father be genuinely connected to?
Because the dating culture doesn't exist in Islam. So '2nd hand' women are not considered.
Apologies for the term above, this is only expressing the viewpoint of Muslim men's thoughts.
Except if she's a blonde(European)
@@bruceomondi4906 🤣😂🤣
In India Muslim men are eager to marry Non Muslim divirced women sunce they get direct entry to Jannat but neglect divorced Muslim women.
Hypocrisy - 100%.
They just wanna convert them.
Great video, keep up the good work
Thanks!
Your videos are great, but please make the titles clearer or more commercial.
I'm sure you would get many more views. This is amazing ! Thank you
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Your courage is incredible. Be well.
Two points : This video explains why halala marriage is still existing,
and at the same time arises the question: if old and rich men marry 4 virgins, because they can afford them - what about young single men? To each second, third and fourth wife, there is a single man not being able to marry. And taking the huge divorce rates in account - what about all those single men? Until now, nobody would answer to me, not even in Maldives. Ok, they have much more rights, but still they won't be able to marry because of some s...ually obsessed guys who need four wives.
Allah wasn't very educated in demographics back then
@@Sick_Pencil😂 lol common sense?
What about his brain
@Emmaraducanulove Mohammed didn't have a brain.
Is it really a good idea to record yourself while driving your vehicle you know what sometimes may end happening
I was thinking the same thing. Very irresponsible.
To be fair his car looks parked. Edit never mind i was wrong lol. I only saw one part of it while i was doing laundry i was listening
I know right? I can't even drive and chew gum.
@@HassanRadwan133tell that to the millions of people around the world
in my prespective as a women, i would say "im proud to be a kuffar" in the eyes of islam 😂😂😂.
Awesome
How come there’s so many refuges for muslim ladies and children especially from the uk what’s going on with muslim men
They are following their best example, momo( get as many women as you want and point at the West's problems).
Keep men week , equals no revolution
Arabs should go to Antarctica.
@@magnuscritikaleak5045we dont want em.
18:56 never heard about that hadith before, thanks!
I have worked with many Muslim sisters in UK.
I am afraid they are extremely stressed, angry and culturally confused
I respect my UK Muslim sisters. BUT I would never marry them its just not worth the risk
It's a pity. They will be single for life
Any solutions please
They should become ex Muslim
They are prisoners in their home . They should go out learn different skills from medicine to plumbing make friends travel but the community will never let them do it
But Muslims say they have the most liberal religion. They have all the rights like to wear Burkha, Meher during marriage etc. Their prophet married a widow and a child during his lifetime
My brother n law said his daughter cannot marry a Christian man who loves her unless he changes his religion. She was married before to an Arab man who almost killed her. As a Christian woman I said shame on you...But your son married a Christian divorced women with a child that he loves. .
Gabriel is calling out the Muslims for not being man enough to marry sisters who need to be supported and loved.
Many Muslim women are also realising that it is better to stay single than be in polygamy some focus on career
@@rowenaravenclaw3483 and end up with a pet dog or cat as offspring. If the sisters wouldn't make it so difficult to marry ,with their high expectations of marrying a 6 figure man with a 20k manhr.... I make 6 figures but I won't pay that much... just saying... astaghfirullah
@Raf-xd4ut Maybe happy with their pet and career. Not all women want to remarry although Gabriel and Abdullah make good points.
Have heard if I remember correctly and have not misinterpreted? . That women in Iran can get money in divorce if it is somehow considered to be the man's fault? . But even there the woman can lose her children And she also gets a smaller share of the inheritance if the man dies. but there is also corruption where it means that, for example, your brother can sell your property even though he does not own the property
A survey that was conducted in Sweden showed, among other things, that there were more men than women who were Post Muslims, ie ex Muslims. Could it be the same here that the pressure on women is perhaps higher? or that women may not dare to say it as it is when an opinion company or university contacts them
Sorry Sweden has so many Muslims that moved there. I heard Sweden now is not safe like it was and crime has gotten so bad there bc of it
It’s more harder for women to leave Islam. They are not encouraged to get an education, and if they are, they aren’t really encouraged to find a career to look after themselves (like many women around the world). This leaves them to heavily rely on their family. They are also pushed the whole “better than non-Muslim/western woman” to pit them against other women and side with the men, who rely on this narrative to get them to stay. This is how most patriarchal societies run. Keep the women reliant on other males so it makes it harder for them to leave, and in return, they get more male followers which is a valuable asset. This system is not natural. Majority of female animals do not rely on males to take care of them or their offspring. In fact, males (apes) can be territorial and harm females and infants. Their is no ape species that keep the father around and some human cultures back before colonization didn’t really see the father as that important.
Women are submissive by nature. Sometimes women are the biggest collaborators of patriarchal systems like Islam. Not all women can stand up to Islam's authoritarianism. In Sweden, even feminist women are bending over for Islam, while men are the one protesting against it.
@@user-rs4ci3fn2d wherever Muslims go crime rates skyrocket. Allah knows best.
@@user-rs4ci3fn2dyeah sex crimes are way up
Women stop their sons from marrying divorced , or widows as their first wife , now they are in those positions they disliked their sons from doing
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I live in the UK and work in a Muslim majority school. The kids ask about fostering... I found this surprising, esp. the boys... but then they said I heard uou get PAID BY THE GOV for doing it. So, as a stay at home job theyre thinking.
Well, to make things easy, we all have to throw our hands up and scream, "God says so!!!"
I can confirm that this is true. My mother never let me marry the love of my life who was divorced.
Wow. That's awful
Imagine your loved one going to another person's bed
That's how their wives feel.... imagine your partner having sex with someone else
Can you explain what will happen to women who never had a relationship or got married, no children... just so I know
Harsh social isoloatiom and treating her as sick. ( not in Turkey/central asia/ indonesia/ malaysia but in other muslim countries )
Fantastic analysis!
Thank you kindly!
There's no blame on a man if he chooses to marry who he wants too....
Of course. But then there should be no stigma against Muslim women marrying who they want to, even if that is outside of Islam.
The system is rotten to the core. The founder of the system is even worse. A liar, thief and murderer.
If this is your model of life, unfortunately, you can not expect respect from anyone. That is why this rotten system can not be reformed.
Really bad stuff. My thoughts go out to all victims of Islam ❤️🧡💛💚🩵🩷
They prefer 6 yrs old child 😂😂😂
I would point out 2 things that you may have mad a mistake on Abdullah, which is that the motber does not have to remain single forever to keep the custody of her children, once the child reaches the age of 7, he or she will choose the parent that will have custody over her. It is not as bad as what the Hadith portrays.
The other thing is that the maintenance for the children is still due on the father in the case of divorce should the lineage be confirmed until (depending on opinion) sons reach puberty and are healthy and daughters become married, which could be a problem for the woman if she is not financially secure.
Regarding inheritance and divorce hoewver, I fully agree with you. The woman is especially fucked if she has no children but no economic power, if her husband decides to be a stubborn man or if her husband, after divorce and the children haven't yet reached 7, falls into hardship and is not able to provide for her or if the father engages in some economic leverage or influence to induce her children to choose him.
In the case of men not wanting to marry women with children, I think it mainly has to do with lodging and the prospects of dealing with the children of others whilst desiring children of their own.
Yeah I read that age 7 thing but it's honestly very confusing and so many different opinions. One opinion is as you said, they get to choose. Which again makes no sense to let a 7 year old choose!
@@FriendlyExmuslim Personally speaking, I would prefer to focus on the economic bandage that women is kept in in a Nikah and the extreme unbalance in Marital rights and obligations between husband and wife, along with the unequal rights to divorce, as my main topics of critique of islamic family law.
Regarding custody and maintenance after divorce, I would myself not really speak of it for it IMO resembles secular law aside from the bullshit 7 years old and the mother losing custody if she remarries. There isn't really much contrast to speak of.
I am not sure about this, but I believe that the rule is the child stays with the mother until age 7 and then the father takes them, regardless of what the mother wants or the child wants.
This is crazy... even in 16-19 century usually if the husband dies was they only way women to gain independence and until she choose to marrie again she kept her fortune so many choose to stay unmarried in their widowhood because they had that possibillity....
15:40 is among the main reason why I disbelieved in the Quran. I just made a video about it too😊
I know this video is old now. But i was on tinder under the pandemic (like most of us who was bored) And i noticed an increased numbers of muslim women, and they did match me and start conversation. Im from scandinavia and "christian". The problem was that, they did not know or undestand the Scandinavian dating proces. And ofc i did not undestand theres. If that barrier is fixed it would be a lot more easy. And another thing most of these divorced muslim women, looked like they have stayed home for 10 years with any kind of fitness (overweight) or health care. So even finding a non muslim man is allmost imposible, bc most scandinavien women with kids are actully goin to the Gym or run often and keep healthy and in shape. So muslim diverced women have a hard time compete.
Let me tell you this straight on. I left a horrible marriage married to a back home freshy who sees himself as muslim. I decided never again to marry that type. I wasn’t religious so that helped me. My now husband has two kids and so do I. Before I married second hubby I dated I even lived a bit and finally found my perfect guy from same back round but he was educated and same as me hated the religion and culture moral of the story is I got a second chance of happiness. His rich educated and very loving. I got to know what was out there and what to avoid. These girls don’t want to date or do haram stuff then let them stay single and be poor. Don’t even feel sorry for them. They are still single because they want to marry the exact kind of guy that they left or left them so stupid. If you want happiness marry a intelligent educated one not religious one.
Well if you don't date or do haram stuff what makes you think you're single
@@raghavnamasivayam8706 First of all arrange marriages are shit specially ones for a passport. These women are single because they want to marry idiots like the last one. They should ditch the hijab, put some make up let their hair down and start dating to find a real man. They marry freshys or complete strangers or idiots they never fell in love with then cry later. And then again they marry same shit or end up alone because they don’t want to date or have relationships. They stay single pray all day. Most Muslim men make rubbish husbands.
islam is crumbling by the day. In my country so many have left or trying to leave and renouncing it. If something is based on lies and fiction in todays age people see the truth
Which country are you in? I am glad for that
@@fatemad4012 Malaysia. But almost all of them are closet Christians or atheist because of the laws of the country. The fortunate ones leave the country
@@eddiejazzman100 good to see that it will grow
@@fatemad4012 Thank you sister
He is sooo close yet sooo far LOL.
Great video, thank you, note to self(nts) watched all of it 25:01
Is this what Mohammed teaches to mankind to virgin and why about sex and Mohammed no one is following the Sunna of Mohammed big ?
Most men actually do not naturally prefer women with “experience” when it comes to marriage, although these Islamic beliefs, which are clearly reinforced by Muhammad creates a culture that is completely incompatible with Western values. Great video!
His saws first wife was a woman with experience. All of his women but 1 😂
Highly recommend to marry a widow or divorced woman. The exact same reason why my husband wanted to marry me a divorced woman as well. My marriage with a non Muslim man was like hell and still have to live with it. Also there is a difference between culture and religion.
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Well Khadijah was only 3 years older than Muhammad according to reports from Abdullah and Ibn Abbas, and was a wealthy business woman according to Ibn Hanbal, Musnad vol. 6 pp. 117-118.
If you know anything about Islam, theres no separation of religion and state, whereas culture between different Islamic countries only slightly varies. Islam has its own culture based on the depraved life of Muhammad. Either way, i’m glad that you’re happy with your Islamic life and i assume you would be completely happy living the rest of your life in an Islamic country and have absolutely no need to come to a Western country.
@@kiko8u3 years older? Khadijah was 40 while muhammad 25
@@user-vz3pd3nh4t Al-Tabari lists Khadija's age as twenty-eight, while Ibn Kathir includes a report stating that Khadija could have been thirty-five or even twenty-five.
There are differing reports
@@user-vz3pd3nh4thow she had 5 kids with mohammad if she were 40? Average life expectancy of women back then may have been was not high .
Is it really right to empower "spiritual counseling" instead of secular psychotherapy?
And also, how would a man know a woman is a "virgin"? Because she says so? Let's not even talk about the hymen
They replace that with surgery before marriage.
Your doing great 👍 job in Canada 🍁
True of the oppressive handling towards women, yes many women convert to Muslim, and thinking it's a free,good religion for them.😅
Can you made a video about Muslim vs ex muslim in jublee
That counselor wants to teach the values of Christianity to the Muslims..
Brother I have read that Hadith very bad educated by Prophet Muhammad? Is it called such a kind that the Prophet gives an idea?
firstly nobody should be criticized for their marriage choice, so if people don't want to marry single mother or divorcee then its their choice, what people need to do is to not consider marriage to divorcee as sin or something, otherwise I don't see any issue with this.
The sheer number of white women converts though 😊
No maybe old ugly 40 years old just for being the second wife
Conversion by insemination.
@@amuthi1still, they do convert and many stick to it.
@@PeaceOnEarthandMercyMildyes but there is no benefit for ugly weak and old women who joins Islam 😂
0.3 percent of converts is low as fuck. And what percentage of those are women? Sorry Abdul but your fantasy is just that.
8:38 there damn sure is a problem because a lot of them would have no qualms about marrying an actual child. Many would have no problem marrying someone young enough to be their child or even grandchild
True!
Well as long as there is a constant supply of 9 yr olds , who needs divorced 15 year olds.
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Divorce is easy, the important thing is to maintain it. If the spouses saw the good sides of each other and maintained their ties with love, care and cooperation, there would be no divorces. Our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) advised to get married, but not to divorce unless there is a great reason.
No, he didn't as that's your own narrative. Muhammad condoned the triple talaq by practicing it and allowed his followers to do it too:
Abu al-Sahba' said to Ibn 'Abbas: Enlighten us with your information whether the three divorces (pronounced at one and the same time) were not treated as one during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) and Abu Bakr. He said: It was in fact so, but when during the caliphate of 'Umar (Allah be pleased with him) people began to pronounce divorce frequently, he allowed them to do so (to treat pronouncements of three divorces in a single breath as one). (Sahih Muslim 9:3493)
Muhammad divorced several women for unbeneficial reasons, even divorced a woman named Fatima al-Aliya bint Zabyan al-Dahhak because she supposedly peeked at men in the mosque courtyard and she had to work as a dug collector for the rest of her life. Muhammad only did things to benefit himself.
F islam
What I think is true for a lot of men is that you could care for and treat as family the child of another man, but you couldn't love them like your own. I think this is the origin of the evil step-mom or step-dad stereotype.
I know men who married single mothers who love the children like their own.
@@Sindhi001 I can't speak for everyone but some see a difference. They would also not adopt.
Honestly what ive actually noticed in america is that the guys will treat the children how they feel about the women. So if he doesnt like his ex wife he wont like the children. Thats why ive seen step dads come and be great cuz they like the women theyre with. Even statistics back it up that when a divorced father meets another women he stops visiting his other kids
It’s like how you can learn to love a spouse, even though they are not biologically related to them. Because love is not based on being related.
@Mysotris1adoption is forbidden in Islam. Mohamed abolished adoption when he married his step son's wife zaynab.
I could be the perfect person for a Muslim woman and vice versa, but she’ll have to go marry and procreate with someone who doesn’t offer what I do, doesn’t have the same feelings, bond, commitment, nothing - but it’ll be celebrated and seen as the best thing simply because he is also Muslim and at the end of the day that’s the make-or-break. Even when it ends in flames. Which it frequently does. There’s so often such scant thought put into such a huge commitment. Yet I am supposed to believe that this is the holy and sacred relationship or all relationships, that this is indeed prescribed by Allah Himself. And people still just willingly choose not to take a look at the craziness of how it works. I don’t mean to shame people. I have met a few divorced Muslim women. Not here in the West, I mean in an Islamic country. It’s terribly embarrassing. And it should be, but often it’s for the wrong reasons. The family does their best and will support her still, if she’s fortunate.
I don't have problem to marry non-Muslim men even though because I am ex Muslim but I have to keep my Muslim tags for appearance
Very hard to watch. 😢
F inheritance laws.
All my assets are in both our names, so if I kick off, she can access it anytime without the goverment or anybody else getting in the way.
Of course your wife must be 100% trustworthy to make this work...
You are right . But imagine as an Muslim you have a loyal wife you have only daughters no sons . After you die your brothers and nephew come and take away their inheritance and your wife and daughters become poor becasue the leftover inheritance is very little according to shariah . Your family is left begging their relatives for help . This situations happens daily in Pakistan Afghanistan Bangladesh india
@@rowenaravenclaw3483 The problem started with "as a Muslim".
They got way bigger problems to address than inheritance laws.
Can't they get themselves an updated holy book like The Book of Mormon?
You know, anything that doesn't condone slavery, wife beating, rape, and genocide of the people whose beliefs it claims to confirm yet it contradicts.
Get Dianetics even...
@@rowenaravenclaw3483 The problem started with "as a Muslim".
They got way bigger problems to address than inheritance laws.
Can't they get themselves an updated holy book like The Book of Mormon?
You know, anything that doesn't condone slavery, wife veating, rape, and genocide of the peopke whose beliefs it claims to confirm yet it contradicts.
Get Dianetics even...
@@rowenaravenclaw3483 The problem started with "as a Muslim".
They got way bigger problems to address than inheritance laws.
Can't they get themselves an updated holy book like The Book of Mormon?
“And they were saying that the ‘prophet’ had appeared, coming with the Saracens, and that he was proclaiming the advent of the anointed one, the Christ who was to come. I, having arrived at Sykamina, stopped by a certain old man known to be well-versed in scriptures, and I said to him: "What can you tell me about the ‘prophet’ who has appeared with the Saracens?" He replied, groaning deeply: "He is false, for prophets do not come armed with a sword. Truly they are works of anarchy being committed today and I fear that the first Christ to come, whom the Christians worship, was the one sent by God and we instead are preparing to receive the ANTICHRIST. Indeed, Isaiah said that the Jews would retain a perverted and hardened heart until all the earth should be devastated. But you go, master Abraham, and find out about the ‘prophet’ who has appeared." So I, Abraham, inquired and heard from those who had met him that there was no truth to be found in the so-called ‘prophet’, only the shedding of men's blood. He says also that he has the keys of paradise, which is incredible (i.e. ‘unbelievable’)”
The Doctrina Jacobi (written between 634 and 640 CE). PLEASE FACT CHECK THIS INFORMATION 🙏
Muslima Pride culture more than the real....
Bravo for Gabriel Alromaani tell it like it is. He gets a lot push back a d hate from leaders of the community and people for telling the truth. May God bless him.
the muslim prophet was polygamous?
Yep, and not he didn’t have a single kid.
8 of them
And with such problems that he handled in person he is still muslim? 😢😢😢