Hello! I’m Lani, I’m 19, and I live in Orange County. I’ve seen a couple of your videos and think we’d get along pretty well. If you want to talk more in a chat/private setting to get to know each other better, let me know! I also wanted to thank you for being so vulnerable and brave by sharing these types of videos. They really help people like me see that we’re not alone.
I have been alone my entire life except a few relationships. I understand you. Your loneliness is your massive anxiety. You need to meet someone to make you confident and not stressed, and a person that is also not too overwhelming. Surrounding yourself with people that make you better is the trick. Also procrastination will make you have anxiety because your mind will always think of the things you never got done. GL!
I wish you well on this goal, just be very cautious! It sucks to be lonely, I hope you find a best friend or friends to go thru life with. I met the best people in martial arts. I don't know if you're interested in that at all, but you kill two birds with one stone, in a way, you learn to defend yourself and you meet the best, pragmatic people. At least that's been my experience.
Yes you're wise to be cautious when choosing friends online. Do some background on them and when you meet them, if you meet them take your boyfriend or someone else with you. It's not easy making friends even if you don't have social anxiety. Good luck best wishes.
Be careful. Keep your wits about you. Don't force the friendship, it'll happen when it happens. If you work, use that. Start small conversations, get to know people at work. All the best
I feel like you'd be a great friend to anyone!!!! It's interesting that you're looking for people similar to you. I guess there is comfort in that. I find when you become close with someone who have very different strengths and weakness that you that you can kind of compliment each other, and even learn from each other given that you are good at different aspects of life. Of course some common ground is pretty essential.
I have to agree making "new" friends in person is difficult. Most of my friends are long term from my past. Recently started a friendship with a co-worker and so far it's going well, but it does feel like a delicate dance when it comes to...hanging out, or asking to do something, and trying not to come across as needy or demanding. It's like you're both trying to be cool, figuring out the gauges, in some ways it feels unnatural and forced because you don't know what the other person wants from you. And you have these thoughts in your head, are they crazy? are they just being nice because they want something from me? can I trust this person? I think it's worse for girls because we are naturally cautious. We are your friends, sadly we live all over the world....I know that I could probably be good friend in real life, but I don't live in California.
For me as a fellow introvert, most of my friends are the opposite of me as what I've noticed is 2 introverts don't always work because neither are making the effort to become friends. I think the best thing you can do is, live out your life and "get a job", join a club, and you will start meeting people.
I love to listen to your videos because it really helps me face myself and my lover, who have been going through similar paths, and improve my English listening skills (your English sounds so clear to me ^^). I have a desire to rant about my life and am also learning how to verbalize it from you. Thank you.
You are in this situation because you need to learn how to be independent because you are being depending on someone for your happiness. If they go you feel sad When you learn to be happy by yourself enjoying art, nature and what you do that's when you find right people Even if you find a friend now, they may betray you Now it's important to learn independency
Social anxiety is hell..🤮🤮. I experience it at times. It locked one of my best friends away in house for ten years, he still struggles to this day. I wish I could meet someone like you near me in Cornwall England.. you seen such a easy person to chill with.
As an introvert i understand the anxiety of meeting new people, how make the first approach, try making one friend at a time, you look chill and nice so I'm sure you'll find good people there, I'd like to be a friend but I'm not from the US. Good luck :)
Im all yhe way in Indiana but you need to find Someone who Loves Jesus Christ because i GUARANTEE if there HIS friend u cant go wrong. Im not Knocking anyone who is not a follower of Christ but i can promise you someone who is will be a great friend. God Bless you Sis ✝️👑🙏
I'd be your friend, but I live in Texas so thats a ways a way. Always been more introverted and have wondered if I have autism, but I have a wide variety of interests and know alot about various subjects. I wish you the best in your search for new friends, be careful with all the creeps out there though.
Hey keep your head up 💪 sometimes new places and new feelings can make negative thinking. Just think about the positive! Their are a lot of people that like doing the same thing as you, just got to get adjusted and settled. You seem like a nice women and be careful meeting random people always get to know them first👍 stay blessed I know you'll find people to hangout with it! Feel free to chat through dropping a comment.
From Norcal here, i have family that live in southern cal.... yea its hard to make friends or committing to it, especially when your'e an adult or really shy/introverted.....
Please take care of yourself my sweet friend, this can be a dangerous thing to request on the Inernet. It just takes the one wrong person to respond. Always be smart, tell people who you're talking too, never meet someone alone. I know you know all this, but people do care about you, and people worry about you. We are here for you.
If i were you, Id enjoy the place u live and be more there, than on the internet! :D but yeah! Sure we can be friends! ^^ but, sadly, we live so ar away! And I hope you keep painting :D Good luck! all the best! ^^
Ah yes, that paralyzing fear of rejection. I can relate. In fact, I can relate to pretty much everything you talked about. Isn't small talk just unbearable? I'd rather have a deep, meaningful conversation on a substantial topic with somebody I just met than engage in the bamboo under the fingernails torture that is small talk. I would actually suggest that you avoid small talk and try to steer the conversation to philosophy, religion, your mental health struggles, or some other intellectually deep topic. Now, you'd have to use this strategy with your eyes wide open that an overwhelming majority of people will be uncomfortable with such topics and may reject you on that basis. However, when you find someone else who is averse to small talk and engages you, then you have not just found a friend, you have found a kindred spirit. The next time I'm in SoCal, I'd gladly buy you a beer. Don't worry if you're a cheap drunk: so am I. Who knows, maybe if you're feeling very brave, I'll let you drive my car...before the beer, of course. After we go for a drive, you'll not only be able to say that you drove a car, but that you drove a manual! 😁
This is great. I live in southern Cali and Keep these videos going because you inspired me to make a channel of my own recently. Thank you. I’ll be your friend.
I share most aspects that you describe for yourself, playing minecraft included lol. Meeting people to hang out and be actual friends with is a pretty good idea but gotta be careful, never know what kind of people could be here. Your videos to me seem so authentic than any other creator Im watching or following. I wish nothing but a wonderful time for you in anything you wish to do or already do, youre a kind soul! Have an incredible time living, wish I was anywhere near the USA to hangout. Hope you find the people youre looking for!
Should try Discord and finding communities that fit your interests just to explore and interact with people (it's tough but once you feel that possible connection, its a bit motivating to pursue a strong friendship,) another alternative is seeking local communities and support groups for your situation, I actually recommend looking at local groups or outreaches before trying online, the white whales with the holy grails that you seek could be much more closer and local than God knows where
painting sounds good. I would love to see your paintings. maybe you can join a class as other people have suggested. when considering talking to strangers, you can test the water a little bit by making 'small talk' if it seems ok to do. just a simple 'hello' is sometimes enough to spark up a conversation. if it feels awkward and you feel like your pushing on people's boundaries then take a step back. if your not sure, it's probably better to not say anything. learn gradually. conversation can sometimes come from little things. if you find an art class or something like that then you might be able to use it as a safe place to practice how to interact with people. you can keep practicing this as the years go by and eventually grow into a confident person. it helps to have skills or a profession. in the long term that will help you to have confidence as it will give your time value and worth.
you might be able to find people that become friends by going to the same places regularly. either through hobbies or work. it sounds like you need a good friend to help you, take you places and teach you various things about life and people relationships. someone that can take you under their wing so to speak. someone who is generous, caring and kind, and happy to look after you in some way. perhaps consider some kind of voluntary work. if you have an interest in make up and fashion then consider if there's any avenues to follow through connections with clothes, fashion or beauty shops.
I don't have any friends either. I've been betrayed, used, sidewinded and played. After I gave every ounce of love, loyalty and integrity. I give my best but I always get the worst. I've never understood that. But as it turns out, i can also offer those qualities to myself and be my own best friend. It's lonely. But secure. I guess. I'm sending you the greatest energy, light and love that is left within me. Not in a "shooting my shot" kinda way. But sincerely. You're a beautiful lady who speaks with purity and decisive intent. You deserve to be surrounded by love, loyalty and respect. I hope you find it. I'd like to be friends, but as usual, you'll probably be drawn to someone else with more window dressing and less conviction. Which you will discover soon enough. I don't mean to sound bitter. That's just the plate I've been served full of sour meat. My intentions stand the same. I wish for you the very best quality of friend you could imagine. Your perfect soul mate. It would make me happy to see that for you. Even if I don't know you, I can still send you love. ❤
My honest tip about meeting and making friends is to join a club like where you can do activities together. I have had great experience with training martial arts, met many great people there (they are not violent as most people think, most of them are very nice, normal, educated people who just want to improve themselves).. i have also had great experience with hiking.. met many great people there as well.. So yeah.. try to combine a sport activity and meeting people.. it will help you in many ways. If you want to train martial arts, i strongly suggest that you as a woman learn Krav Maga (just make sure its a reputable school). As far as hiking.. even if you dont join a club.. try it out yourself..
I am the same as you and it has made me very good at writing. Have met quite a few people online because of writing for a long time. Most of it was fun and not too dangerous. Met my wife on craigslist and it's ten years later now. The whole world behaves like social anxiety and introverts now, it's kinda funny.
You're so beautiful and intelligent and you don't even realise it! you need to be kinder to yourself and realise you're an amazing human and any other humans should be lucky to count themselves as your friend.
Would love if you shared some art on here - gl on the friend search - were I to live near you we would laugh like two orientals in an opium den. Anywho, it'll be fun. Let us know
I live near Southern California. Way down south. In the city of Tijuana, Mexico. I could be a friend to talk to, if not I hope you find friends. Greetings.
Isn‘t it expensive in Southern California? I would have time. (42, early retiree) But no budget for California. But you could visit Europe. (Miskolc, Hungary) 🤝 🇨🇭
I'll be your friend, I live in Florida though. As far as meeting people, have you considered taking classes @ the library? Maybe audit some classes @ a local college? Perhaps volunteering @ a charity OR maybe an animal shelter? Also, maybe a part time job; 10-20 hours would be good for you.. Actually good for anyone just to get out of the house. Anyway, just some ideas. Take care of yourself, keep up the good work!
I think maybe is a bad idea to make friends through youtube. Maybe going out more often for walks or going shopping on your own, even if its unconfortable, would help. If you have any bad experience don't take it seriously.
Heya, I hope you make some great friends, I'm sure you will. You have good instincts about being careful. I would recommend going to some small art galleries or clubs for people with similar interests, maybe take like art workshops or something? there's almost certainly an art community you can get into. Just be sure when meeting people that you trust your gut, meet in a public place where there are people, zoom first, let someone know where you're going, all that jazz, Just look into how to stay safe - saying that - I do believe most people you come across are nice normal folks, but as you said - advertising to meet people can attract the wrong sort. Just make sure you're being sensible and don't ever be pressured into going somewhere with someone if you're not sure. Good people will always understand you being cautious, only people with bad intentions pressure or guilt or try to convince too hard. Good luck, you'll do great.
Good to be careful I’ve been following you for years I’m a good RUclips friend lol I live in Southern California welcome to the area . I remember many years ago I’d bug you about trying to guess your first name I still wonder ? 😅
Im an old guy ( 69 ), and your title ' I exist ' was what initially got me interested in your case. We all just exist.It should not be hard to make friends when you are young. Are yoy still with your fiance? ( should not be lonely ) Anyhow, good luck trying to break out of your shell.We all have shells that need to be shed, if not entirely, than partially.The sun doesn't always shine. I am married and have a son. You are , I dunno, a kind of step grand daughter..my intentions are honorable.I care about you from a distance and will always look in on you dear. Never give up on your life
Maybe you could find a club there that does activities you are interested in? Finding people you have stuff in common with is the best way to make friends.
Thanks for being vulnerable, and honest. it’s challenging because most people are hard to understand. Most seem really fake. don’t forget to protect your heart. I appreciate you!!❤❤❤ hugs
Humans are social animals, we need connections with other people - all of us do. Other people would like you to go up to them and break the silence. It's easier to "meet people" online because you have time to think about your responses, but, irl, you don't have time, you just have to open up and be yourself, and take the consequences. Sounds risky. But, the results are much better connections with people. We've been doing this for thousands of years, and it's part of your genetic make up - it's one of the things you're made to do. Yes, people want you to come up to them and say "hi". All the things you said, and all the reasons these commenters have given you, to be nervous are true, and valid. But, they're not the overriding truths of meeting people. Again, people want, NEED, friends, and other social interactions. Don't make fear your decision maker, make your goals the decision makers. Ok, enough ranting. Go out there and meet people.
Lots of people saying it's a bad idea as you don't know who you'll meet. I get what they are saying but what's the chances of actually meeting someone like that? Get to know them first by mail and keep an eye out for red flags i guess. I'm in the same boat and have been for 2 decades but i also have other reasons why i don't seek out friends. Not many people are interested in geopolitics or want to understand how the world works, i deep dive everything. Good luck to you.
Weird that so many people are saying be careful. i get that, but obviously if you meet up with someone in a public place, the odds of something weird happening are almost zero haha.
good luck and hope you make many friends in time, i wouldnt look for them online though but rather go to local places and areas you trust. I have no friends myself (just animal friends which is enough for me), i do find human beings very difficult to be with as they can be very cruel thus i prefer the company of dogs, animals and nature myself. Real true friendship is very rare, so good luck and i hope you find good folk around you..
I don't live close to you but shout out from Texas. I don't have any friends either because I work too much. If you ever want to talk I would love to get to know you better.
Have you thought of doing MeetUps in the area? That's a safe way to meet new people of similar interests. I can recommend some if you're interested, as I'm also in Southern California.
I live in orange county! Your email isn't on your channel tho. Cant really share information in a comment section. All you have to do is meet someone in public and it isn't really dangerous, like go to a concert, comedy show at the irvine improv, etc. You just hang out in public. The nervousness is coming from anxiety (which i have a ton of also). Even meet up at a beach! There are plenty of people around and its a safe place to meet someone. Ive only met like 1 people before from craigslist to make music and we are still good friends after a few years, she is on my channel and she sings.
Hello, I think I never see you in reality, because I am Russian. I hope you will have a lot of friends. not all people are the same and we must be able to accept our differences and shortcomings. Being a useful friend, being able to understand each other and our pain is the main thing in the art of friendship. It is easy to be a friend when everything is good. Try to open your soul to someone else's pain.
I'd be happy to, but unfortunately I'm a little outside your area, up in central Washington. 🙁 That said with 25k subscribers you've gotta' have a good number of folks that could attend a meetup and from there for sure you'll hit it off with someone. Good luck!
Hey I’m Ryan, 22, I live in South Bay and I’m in the same situation as you are with social anxiety and lack of friends/community. I love nature/beaches/hikes and gaming a little. I’d be pretty nervous meeting one on one too, but perhaps we could coordinate with a meetup group for hiking or something first? If not, online friends is also something I’m open to. (Edit: I have discord) Meeting people on youtube can always be a risky game but I commend you either way for reaching out and trying; it’s really hard to make friends these days
Your willingness to express your vulnerability speaks volumes. You seem so sweet and I hope you find some great friends.
Please be careful when meeting new people. Sending love and hope from Canada!
Justin Trudeau sucks! 😉
Good luck! I've been feeling like this since I've moved into the mountains on the other side of the country. It gets tough.
Hello! I’m Lani, I’m 19, and I live in Orange County. I’ve seen a couple of your videos and think we’d get along pretty well. If you want to talk more in a chat/private setting to get to know each other better, let me know! I also wanted to thank you for being so vulnerable and brave by sharing these types of videos. They really help people like me see that we’re not alone.
I have been alone my entire life except a few relationships. I understand you. Your loneliness is your massive anxiety. You need to meet someone to make you confident and not stressed, and a person that is also not too overwhelming. Surrounding yourself with people that make you better is the trick. Also procrastination will make you have anxiety because your mind will always think of the things you never got done. GL!
I wish you well on this goal, just be very cautious! It sucks to be lonely, I hope you find a best friend or friends to go thru life with. I met the best people in martial arts. I don't know if you're interested in that at all, but you kill two birds with one stone, in a way, you learn to defend yourself and you meet the best, pragmatic people. At least that's been my experience.
Yes you're wise to be cautious when choosing friends online. Do some background on them and when you meet them, if you meet them take your boyfriend or someone else with you. It's not easy making friends even if you don't have social anxiety. Good luck best wishes.
Be careful. Keep your wits about you. Don't force the friendship, it'll happen when it happens. If you work, use that. Start small conversations, get to know people at work. All the best
I feel like you'd be a great friend to anyone!!!! It's interesting that you're looking for people similar to you. I guess there is comfort in that. I find when you become close with someone who have very different strengths and weakness that you that you can kind of compliment each other, and even learn from each other given that you are good at different aspects of life. Of course some common ground is pretty essential.
True
Yes of course 💜 take care my friend
I have to agree making "new" friends in person is difficult. Most of my friends are long term from my past. Recently started a friendship with a co-worker and so far it's going well, but it does feel like a delicate dance when it comes to...hanging out, or asking to do something, and trying not to come across as needy or demanding.
It's like you're both trying to be cool, figuring out the gauges, in some ways it feels unnatural and forced because you don't know what the other person wants from you.
And you have these thoughts in your head, are they crazy? are they just being nice because they want something from me? can I trust this person? I think it's worse for girls because we are naturally cautious.
We are your friends, sadly we live all over the world....I know that I could probably be good friend in real life, but I don't live in California.
For me as a fellow introvert, most of my friends are the opposite of me as what I've noticed is 2 introverts don't always work because neither are making the effort to become friends.
I think the best thing you can do is, live out your life and "get a job", join a club, and you will start meeting people.
Best wishes for your life in the near future as well as beyond.
I love to listen to your videos because it really helps me face myself and my lover, who have been going through similar paths, and improve my English listening skills (your English sounds so clear to me ^^). I have a desire to rant about my life and am also learning how to verbalize it from you. Thank you.
Cmon girl! That wont work.... meet people in the internet is very dangerous. Don't do that!
You are in this situation because you need to learn how to be independent because you are being depending on someone for your happiness.
If they go you feel sad
When you learn to be happy by yourself enjoying art, nature and what you do that's when you find right people
Even if you find a friend now, they may betray you
Now it's important to learn independency
true and good advice
Social anxiety is hell..🤮🤮. I experience it at times. It locked one of my best friends away in house for ten years, he still struggles to this day.
I wish I could meet someone like you near me in Cornwall England.. you seen such a easy person to chill with.
As an introvert i understand the anxiety of meeting new people, how make the first approach, try making one friend at a time, you look chill and nice so I'm sure you'll find good people there, I'd like to be a friend but I'm not from the US. Good luck :)
Im all yhe way in Indiana but you need to find Someone who Loves Jesus Christ because i GUARANTEE if there HIS friend u cant go wrong. Im not Knocking anyone who is not a follower of Christ but i can promise you someone who is will be a great friend. God Bless you Sis ✝️👑🙏
we all deserve to be loved. wishing you the best of luck 🖤
I'd be your friend, but I live in Texas so thats a ways a way. Always been more introverted and have wondered if I have autism, but I have a wide variety of interests and know alot about various subjects. I wish you the best in your search for new friends, be careful with all the creeps out there though.
Hey keep your head up 💪 sometimes new places and new feelings can make negative thinking. Just think about the positive! Their are a lot of people that like doing the same thing as you, just got to get adjusted and settled. You seem like a nice women and be careful meeting random people always get to know them first👍 stay blessed I know you'll find people to hangout with it! Feel free to chat through dropping a comment.
From Norcal here, i have family that live in southern cal.... yea its hard to make friends or committing to it, especially when your'e an adult or really shy/introverted.....
Please take care of yourself my sweet friend, this can be a dangerous thing to request on the Inernet. It just takes the one wrong person to respond. Always be smart, tell people who you're talking too, never meet someone alone. I know you know all this, but people do care about you, and people worry about you. We are here for you.
I'm not near socal... but I'd definitely be your friend. trying to get back into art as well.
If i were you, Id enjoy the place u live and be more there, than on the internet! :D but yeah! Sure we can be friends! ^^ but, sadly, we live so ar away!
And I hope you keep painting :D
Good luck! all the best! ^^
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I am your friend. Hugs from Brazil.
Hugs from BC Canada
Ah yes, that paralyzing fear of rejection. I can relate. In fact, I can relate to pretty much everything you talked about. Isn't small talk just unbearable? I'd rather have a deep, meaningful conversation on a substantial topic with somebody I just met than engage in the bamboo under the fingernails torture that is small talk. I would actually suggest that you avoid small talk and try to steer the conversation to philosophy, religion, your mental health struggles, or some other intellectually deep topic. Now, you'd have to use this strategy with your eyes wide open that an overwhelming majority of people will be uncomfortable with such topics and may reject you on that basis. However, when you find someone else who is averse to small talk and engages you, then you have not just found a friend, you have found a kindred spirit.
The next time I'm in SoCal, I'd gladly buy you a beer. Don't worry if you're a cheap drunk: so am I. Who knows, maybe if you're feeling very brave, I'll let you drive my car...before the beer, of course. After we go for a drive, you'll not only be able to say that you drove a car, but that you drove a manual! 😁
This must be a larp… great acting I will say.
Love from Canada 🇨🇦 be careful vulnerable person not lonely here
Ever think about getting a motorcycle? Super fast way to make friends and a cool new hobby.
This is great. I live in southern Cali and Keep these videos going because you inspired me to make a channel of my own recently.
Thank you. I’ll be your friend.
I share most aspects that you describe for yourself, playing minecraft included lol. Meeting people to hang out and be actual friends with is a pretty good idea but gotta be careful, never know what kind of people could be here. Your videos to me seem so authentic than any other creator Im watching or following. I wish nothing but a wonderful time for you in anything you wish to do or already do, youre a kind soul! Have an incredible time living, wish I was anywhere near the USA to hangout. Hope you find the people youre looking for!
I'm Pennsylvania too
Should try Discord and finding communities that fit your interests just to explore and interact with people (it's tough but once you feel that possible connection, its a bit motivating to pursue a strong friendship,) another alternative is seeking local communities and support groups for your situation, I actually recommend looking at local groups or outreaches before trying online, the white whales with the holy grails that you seek could be much more closer and local than God knows where
its possible, just need to be sharing with someone who wants to share day to day events and talk about stuff
True it is hard to make new friends 💯
Be careful online. It is a minefield of scammers.
painting sounds good. I would love to see your paintings. maybe you can join a class as other people have suggested. when considering talking to strangers, you can test the water a little bit by making 'small talk' if it seems ok to do. just a simple 'hello' is sometimes enough to spark up a conversation. if it feels awkward and you feel like your pushing on people's boundaries then take a step back. if your not sure, it's probably better to not say anything. learn gradually. conversation can sometimes come from little things. if you find an art class or something like that then you might be able to use it as a safe place to practice how to interact with people. you can keep practicing this as the years go by and eventually grow into a confident person. it helps to have skills or a profession. in the long term that will help you to have confidence as it will give your time value and worth.
The old adage is "to have a friend, you must first be a friend". I hope that helps. Good luck!
you might be able to find people that become friends by going to the same places regularly. either through hobbies or work. it sounds like you need a good friend to help you, take you places and teach you various things about life and people relationships. someone that can take you under their wing so to speak. someone who is generous, caring and kind, and happy to look after you in some way. perhaps consider some kind of voluntary work. if you have an interest in make up and fashion then consider if there's any avenues to follow through connections with clothes, fashion or beauty shops.
I don't have any friends either. I've been betrayed, used, sidewinded and played. After I gave every ounce of love, loyalty and integrity. I give my best but I always get the worst. I've never understood that. But as it turns out, i can also offer those qualities to myself and be my own best friend. It's lonely. But secure. I guess. I'm sending you the greatest energy, light and love that is left within me. Not in a "shooting my shot" kinda way. But sincerely. You're a beautiful lady who speaks with purity and decisive intent. You deserve to be surrounded by love, loyalty and respect. I hope you find it. I'd like to be friends, but as usual, you'll probably be drawn to someone else with more window dressing and less conviction. Which you will discover soon enough. I don't mean to sound bitter. That's just the plate I've been served full of sour meat. My intentions stand the same. I wish for you the very best quality of friend you could imagine. Your perfect soul mate. It would make me happy to see that for you. Even if I don't know you, I can still send you love. ❤
My honest tip about meeting and making friends is to join a club like where you can do activities together.
I have had great experience with training martial arts, met many great people there (they are not violent as most people think, most of them are very nice, normal, educated people who just want to improve themselves)..
i have also had great experience with hiking.. met many great people there as well..
So yeah.. try to combine a sport activity and meeting people..
it will help you in many ways.
If you want to train martial arts, i strongly suggest that you as a woman learn Krav Maga (just make sure its a reputable school).
As far as hiking.. even if you dont join a club.. try it out yourself..
Maybe a church group... something fun and non threatening.
I moved from HB about 8 months ago. I’ll be your friend tho. I enjoyed the pier in HB.
I am the same as you and it has made me very good at writing. Have met quite a few people online because of writing for a long time. Most of it was fun and not too dangerous. Met my wife on craigslist and it's ten years later now. The whole world behaves like social anxiety and introverts now, it's kinda funny.
You're so beautiful and intelligent and you don't even realise it! you need to be kinder to yourself and realise you're an amazing human and any other humans should be lucky to count themselves as your friend.
lol
Sis first thing first. You gotta get out of Cali quick! Ok?
Would love if you shared some art on here - gl on the friend search - were I to live near you we would laugh like two orientals in an opium den. Anywho, it'll be fun. Let us know
I live near Southern California. Way down south. In the city of Tijuana, Mexico. I could be a friend to talk to, if not I hope you find friends. Greetings.
I feel so nervous for you & hoping the best for what you want.... I wish for you peace in spirit & calm soul..
Who wouldnt wanna be your friend but its still dangerous this way
Isn‘t it expensive in Southern California? I would have time. (42, early retiree) But no budget for California. But you could visit Europe. (Miskolc, Hungary) 🤝 🇨🇭
you've got a friend. - james taylor (1971)
If there’s a nursing home around you, you’d be surprised at how welcoming they are. Just ask to volunteer in their activities department.
I'll be your friend, I live in Florida though. As far as meeting people, have you considered taking classes @ the library? Maybe audit some classes @ a local college? Perhaps volunteering @ a charity OR maybe an animal shelter? Also, maybe a part time job; 10-20 hours would be good for you.. Actually good for anyone just to get out of the house. Anyway, just some ideas. Take care of yourself, keep up the good work!
I think maybe is a bad idea to make friends through youtube. Maybe going out more often for walks or going shopping on your own, even if its unconfortable, would help. If you have any bad experience don't take it seriously.
Heya, I hope you make some great friends, I'm sure you will. You have good instincts about being careful. I would recommend going to some small art galleries or clubs for people with similar interests, maybe take like art workshops or something? there's almost certainly an art community you can get into. Just be sure when meeting people that you trust your gut, meet in a public place where there are people, zoom first, let someone know where you're going, all that jazz, Just look into how to stay safe - saying that - I do believe most people you come across are nice normal folks, but as you said - advertising to meet people can attract the wrong sort. Just make sure you're being sensible and don't ever be pressured into going somewhere with someone if you're not sure. Good people will always understand you being cautious, only people with bad intentions pressure or guilt or try to convince too hard. Good luck, you'll do great.
I wish I were near to make friends! I agree, it is definitely difficult to make friends in real life vs. online.
Maybe you can get your own TV show like Baylen Dupree.
Good to be careful I’ve been following you for years I’m a good RUclips friend lol I live in Southern California welcome to the area . I remember many years ago I’d bug you about trying to guess your first name I still wonder ? 😅
I would be your best friend
Im an old guy ( 69 ), and your title ' I exist ' was what initially got me interested in your case. We all just exist.It should not be hard to make friends when you are young. Are yoy still with your fiance? ( should not be lonely )
Anyhow, good luck trying to break out of your shell.We all have shells that need to be shed, if not entirely, than partially.The sun doesn't always shine.
I am married and have a son. You are , I dunno, a kind of step grand daughter..my intentions are honorable.I care about you from a distance and will always look in on you dear. Never give up on your life
Yes forever ❤
Maybe you could find a club there that does activities you are interested in? Finding people you have stuff in common with is the best way to make friends.
Hello Ill be your friend ❤❤❤
I love your voice, it’s so asmr🥰
Friends are overrated, I've learned to enjoy being alone. Human interaction isn't what it's cracked up to be.
I definitely would be your homegirl
Thanks for being vulnerable, and honest. it’s challenging because most people are hard to understand. Most seem really fake. don’t forget to protect your heart. I appreciate you!!❤❤❤ hugs
If iSee one more "vulnerable" comment.... 🙄
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Good luck. Remember to tell the internet how it went. Hopefully well!
we would love to be your friend.
Hi I'm Roberto. Can I be your friend? 💯 %.. I like doway you think. Is cool. And también hablo español 2.
Yes, I totally would :) but I don't live anywhere around there
Humans are social animals, we need connections with other people - all of us do. Other people would like you to go up to them and break the silence. It's easier to "meet people" online because you have time to think about your responses, but, irl, you don't have time, you just have to open up and be yourself, and take the consequences. Sounds risky. But, the results are much better connections with people. We've been doing this for thousands of years, and it's part of your genetic make up - it's one of the things you're made to do.
Yes, people want you to come up to them and say "hi". All the things you said, and all the reasons these commenters have given you, to be nervous are true, and valid. But, they're not the overriding truths of meeting people. Again, people want, NEED, friends, and other social interactions. Don't make fear your decision maker, make your goals the decision makers.
Ok, enough ranting. Go out there and meet people.
I would love to be your friend!
Lets meet on Catalina Island.
I'm a great tour guide.
Lots of people saying it's a bad idea as you don't know who you'll meet. I get what they are saying but what's the chances of actually meeting someone like that? Get to know them first by mail and keep an eye out for red flags i guess. I'm in the same boat and have been for 2 decades but i also have other reasons why i don't seek out friends. Not many people are interested in geopolitics or want to understand how the world works, i deep dive everything. Good luck to you.
Weird that so many people are saying be careful. i get that, but obviously if you meet up with someone in a public place, the odds of something weird happening are almost zero haha.
Yea, please be safe!
P.S. It takes a lot of courage to do what you did. I would never have dared. I hope it yields a lot of opportunities.
just be you rejection is redirect dont assume or have insistence on outcomes 99% of fear is just thought forms carry peace within
Yes, absolutely.
good luck and hope you make many friends in time, i wouldnt look for them online though but rather go to local places and areas you trust. I have no friends myself (just animal friends which is enough for me), i do find human beings very difficult to be with as they can be very cruel thus i prefer the company of dogs, animals and nature myself. Real true friendship is very rare, so good luck and i hope you find good folk around you..
I don't live close to you but shout out from Texas. I don't have any friends either because I work too much. If you ever want to talk I would love to get to know you better.
Have you thought of doing MeetUps in the area? That's a safe way to meet new people of similar interests. I can recommend some if you're interested, as I'm also in Southern California.
Youre awesome!
I live in orange county! Your email isn't on your channel tho. Cant really share information in a comment section. All you have to do is meet someone in public and it isn't really dangerous, like go to a concert, comedy show at the irvine improv, etc. You just hang out in public. The nervousness is coming from anxiety (which i have a ton of also). Even meet up at a beach! There are plenty of people around and its a safe place to meet someone. Ive only met like 1 people before from craigslist to make music and we are still good friends after a few years, she is on my channel and she sings.
Be careful when meeting new people. Lot of crazy people nowadays. All the best for you, be safe.
Hello, I think I never see you in reality, because I am Russian.
I hope you will have a lot of friends.
not all people are the same and we must be able to accept our differences and shortcomings.
Being a useful friend, being able to understand each other and our pain is the main thing in the art of friendship. It is easy to be a friend when everything is good. Try to open your soul to someone else's pain.
I too grew up very lonely n for me friends only exist at school and no where else but I want more friends outside of that
great video! I have no idea how I got here
I want to be your friend
It's hard in socal, I lived in Ventura for a while but it was hard to make friends. I feel for you. I wish I had a friend. I like playing Othello.
You can have me as a friend if you want, but it's up to you. I too like going for walks, and I would talk to you if you wanted.
I'd be happy to, but unfortunately I'm a little outside your area, up in central Washington. 🙁
That said with 25k subscribers you've gotta' have a good number of folks that could attend a meetup and from there for sure you'll hit it off with someone. Good luck!
I'm just glad u finally dump that guy u was with. I knew that wasn't gon work out!
Hey I’m Ryan, 22, I live in South Bay and I’m in the same situation as you are with social anxiety and lack of friends/community. I love nature/beaches/hikes and gaming a little.
I’d be pretty nervous meeting one on one too, but perhaps we could coordinate with a meetup group for hiking or something first? If not, online friends is also something I’m open to. (Edit: I have discord)
Meeting people on youtube can always be a risky game but I commend you either way for reaching out and trying; it’s really hard to make friends these days
i would be your friend but I'm in Nebraska